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Nope, I realize that trying to help the world is pointless as there are far too many problems and far more bad ppl who will always keep causing problems so I dont care if my work contributes to this broken n useless society, the money is what matters, money is a means to an end and the more I build it up the more ends I have, ends like buying guns and bullets to protect myself from stupid ppl, ppl who call unvaxed ppl extremists n wanna put us in camps or jail, ends like havin a healthy diet n exercise gear, ends like bein able to go to the hospital if necessary and enjoy life more, idgaf if my work helps ppl because at the end of the day I cant do sht to help this world, but I can use my money to build my own personal fort knox and guard my little slice of heaven with the wrath of weapons that won wars, I'll stay tf away from this broken species in the woods while the world burns down like a genie in a bottle
My plan is to get a regular 9-5 n slowly build up my learning abilities and my memory as well as my memory recall so I can at some point buy a good n fast PC n start an online job so I can work from my future tiny house and simultaneously avoid ppl at the same time, I'm red pilled not to mention I'm 6'4 and an infj (no flex I swear to god) and I really don't need toxic chicks comin after me, gettin rejected and then becoming so salty n bitter they start lyin about me because it just takes one bullet in the head deserving toxic chick to lay down the false snuggle struggle claim n my life takes a critical hit and I'm Not letting that happen, I plan to avoid the world n stay in the woods in my cave away from the monsters n demons of humanity while makin a nice comfort and "safe" life for myself n my future ai wife
I guess you can take that as a sort of back-handed tribute. INFJs are too honest to steal someone's content. What could be going on with that? I'm glad you got your stuff back. It's good. Worth stealing!
And. I will be 53 on this 25th. First year im very good with it being a christmas child. A child of woe. Born on a wednesday. So yea Merry Christmas everyone
As a young male INFJ I always stood up for myself. It is true that INFJs not only hate bullies, we can not allow abusive behavior towards others, we protect the underdogs too.
INFJs have a hard learning to fit in, find love and self individualization. I’ve found that, INFJ males have a lot more feminine characteristics. Its not necessarily a bad thing, however it can make it difficult to create our own identities, especially one that’s masculine.
Agreed. Even nearing 6'5" and 230 lbs as an avid gym rat, i still have to dig deep to harness that masculinity/testerone in my DNA. Intangible things that are generally considered more feminine have come to me more naturally. So i guess I'd have come off fairly androgynous before I got myself in shape.
Hi, greetings from Ireland, I'm 61 today, recently found out about personality types. It's been enlightening to say the least. I'm not that insane at all. This, i needed today, thank you.
Hi, welcome and thanks for commenting. I'm so glad the video had some value for you. Beautiful to hear you are on that path of self-discovery. Stay safe my friend.
It make me happy this info is available for the younger people. Had it been here 40 years ago, we would have understood a lot more about ourselves and made changes sooner. Especially in a career instead of a job. Better late than never though !
It really makes me happy when someone says how much it helps them to finally understand who and what they are due to this kind of outreach from other INFJs These Channels are making a real difference for those of us who need this affirmative information. I can still remember how I felt when I discovered my type by reading the results of my MBTI. The feeling was electric! Just unbelievably good news. I feel a real sense of community with other INFJs all over the world. Somehow, Martin Cummins from Ireland is now fixed in my mind as a person of interest who has trod a similar path as I have done. Glad to hear from you Martin. You surely are not all that insane; in fact, it is the opposite of insane. I hope the next 61 years are rewarding for you.
As an INFJ gay man, I had an incredibly hard time with my family. They blamed my behaviour on my sexualising, when it was really INFJ. This video...I get it. I'm a counsellor by the way.
Hey, thanks for sharing. Phew, that must have been rough to have your family judging you like that. That can be deeply painful. I'm glad to hear you express who you are in the world regardless and have found a noble career path on top of that! Inspiring!
I have sifted through dozens of INFJ related RUclips channels and yours has to be right at the top. I love how your academic training is combining with your intuitive truths and I can tell that you have finally achieved the mastery of your skills to now be able to guide the rest of us. It is truly remarkable how much your work resonates with me and I'm sure many others as your channel gets the recognition it deserves. I'm sure you were deliberate in your desire to be this source of insight for us and I send you my heart felt gratitude.
Phew, I need a moment to process this beautifully written positive message. Thank you so much, really.. I try to combine different types of "truths" indeed (objective and subjective), that was a spot on observation of yours. It's so fulfilling to hear you found some value in it. I just want to get stuff out there and it is for everyone to decide if it's something for them or not and explore it through honest discussion. Nice of you to say that I might guide people, but I wish to just stimulate independent thinking so that people can guide themselves and temporarily others in which ever positive form that suits them. Really felt your message, thank you so much for taking the time and energy to write it.
@@INFJMalePsychology It was truly my pleasure to attempt to give you the credit you deserve for doing this. I feel many of us are in a constant struggle to fight the inner dialogue rather than befriend it and harness its full potential. I am very much looking forward to more of your content!
Very interesting, and also very beautiful. I think I have an INFJ man in my life who is struggling a lot right now. I just want to be there for him and help him to try and see again. There has been a lot of addiction and depression and trauma. He often talks about toxic masculinity and when he feels bad and is drunk/high he talks down on women and himself (after having boosted his ego first and noticed that doesn't work). I see his pain. I feel it too. I am scared for him. Recently he has tried to open up more and more and it seems like the masculinity aspect is a huge issue. Just because his body froze up and he couldn't defend himself when he was a teenager, doesn't mean that he isn't still a man. He often seeks out fights nowadays (where he is the one that gets hurt), and that is something I connected after he told me about his freeze response. He is confused, but such a beautiful and caring soul. Very empathetic and kind. Always stands up for the underdog.
Thanks for commenting. I'm saddened to hear your friend is going through a rough patch right now. Do you mean toxic masculinity or toxic shame? So there's a lot of pain around not being able to defend himself as a man and he had some emasculating experiences? That can really cut deep, especially as an INFJ man we risk emasculating ourselves already, because of our self-judgements. Hopefully, he gets some professional help for those emotional wounds. Take good care of yourself too.
I can relate to the feelings of your friend which you have described here. I hope he and you are in a better place now, seven months later. It is so easy, and terrible, for an INFJ to get lost in despair.
At now 41, most of that I have overcome with time. Except for the career. I’ve had radical job changes from journalist to scuba diving instructor to specialized translator. But I still haven’t found that fulfilling work. Between my deep rooted need to learn constantly and need for a meaningful work ; I’m now a bit lost about what line of work to seek.
Thanks for commenting. It sucks to hear that it remains an ongoing challenge to find that meaningful career. Have you tried starting your own thing perhaps, so that you can significantly create the work you want to do?
@@INFJMalePsychology I was in the process of founding my own diving school and guest house in South East Asia when Covid struck. So I’m stalled in that project… As for my perpetual curiosity, I hope my project will leave me enough time on the side to read (I devour books like others eat Pringles) and to write. But if it were to reveal itself impossible, I’d be utterly stuck…
@@thomasalegredelasoujeole9998 Great to hear you were already trying out different things as a business. I really hope you can continue with this project. Perpetual curiosity is a very nice way of putting it. This insatiable hunger for knowledge and piecing things together. Haha, and you don't get fat from devouring books! Well, your brain does, but that's a good thing! ;) Good luck with your endeavours. Keep us posted on the progress.
I did a MBTI test in early twenties and was identified with INTJ. It made sense but knew over time something was still missing. Retaking the test now when I have grown some more (28 now) it showed me the INFJ. I am reading as much as my brain can take for learning what I can. And this just makes more sense. I have always been the "calming Aura" or have the ability to get people to open up. And more recently noticing that I loved the isolations of Melbourne lockdowns. It does give me more strength in my direction of medical field for sure as the traits INFJ has will be amazingly helpful. It will be amazing to be helpful more consciously now that I can know more about myself. More to think about and feel it out more too!
Austen INTJ is master mind of the outer material focused world Architect and surgery Infj is mastermind of the inward focused world of emotions and the abstract Intj melancholy dominant and phlegmatic secondary The phlegmatic has the outward material focus Infj is also melancholy dominant but sanguine secondary ,a non material inwardly focused extrovert sanguine. Infj is your general diagnostic family doctor and psychiatrist Intj is your surgeon and sometimes dentist as well as your pharmacist An intelligent Infj or Intj can have similar strengths
At 65 y/o I've finally learned not to care what others think. I'm an very introverted INFJ male. This video points to me in ALL aspects, and I'm ok with that. I call myself semi retired. Have a small job which I like and the rest I do as I please. Tried various work and nothing quite fits. Mainly just to pay the bills. Now that I have some additional unrestricted time, I am able to work on my dreams.
I took the Myers-Briggs test for the first time when I was in college. I came out INFJ, and throughout the other times I have taken Myers-Briggs tests, I have consistently come out INFJ. In this video, I really identify with the part about trying to act tougher than you really feel. As a kid and teenager, I often felt as though I needed to toughen up. That's probably why I studied martial arts as a teenager.
@@INFJMalePsychology In hindsight, I think I was. I often tried to pretend that things didn't bother me. I can remember trying my hardest to pretend not to be bothered by how kids interacted with each other during middle school and the early years of high school. For example, at that age, guys will often push and pummel each other. I tried to go along with that, but I really didn't enjoy it.
Thanks for commenting! Welcome! Too bad about the ADHD part, I hope you can find a way to manage it. Dr. Gabor Mate, has a good book about ADHD could Scattered Minds, perhaps that will help. Peace
Thanks for commenting, check out Pete Walker's book Complex PTSD, From Surviving to Thriving. Where there's Toxic Shame, most likely there's CPTSD and the dysfunctional relationships we get ourselves in. I'm reading it now!
It's strange. I have never met another infj male. I have met a few infj females but have never formed any long lasting bonds with any of them. Within my group of friends and family i am considered somewhat unique because i tend to view things from a more stoic or altruistic view point. A lot of these solutions i do tend to do naturally. Some of the problems do show up in some forms but i don't seem trapped in them. Except when it comes to romance. I tend to end up single at the end of the day and can't seem to break this cycle.
My best friend for 30 years was an infj to the max he's been gone for five and I haven't seen not 1% of him out in this world such a rare breed rest in peace Zachary haunt the jam room anytime
@@johnnycorn7225 we tend to have few friends, but those we do connect with we share lifelong bonds with. It's a blessing and a curse. If your friend chose you you must be something special. These connections don't come around as often as we wish they would.
Dominic very strange indeed as most actors on your TV screen are infj who can play other types One of the rarest types is Floyd the barber on the Andy Griffith Show I think Floyd likely an infp would be alot rarer than infj Let us make a distinctive observation The ordinary infj is very common It is the gifted infj that is considerably rarer Infj was borrowed from Hippocrates and I think of them or me as, melancholy dominant and Sanguine secondary This is the two that make up Infj. The variety of infj or Mel San comes from the influence of the third and fourth temperament as everyone on earth has all four base temperament entities The infja for example is always Mel dominant and San secondary. The a factor results when the third temperament is the tough physical choleric and the meek weak phlegmatic as fourth The infjt would always be melancholy dominant and Sanguine secondary but the meek weak phlegmatic is third in dominance and choleric as fourth or least The phlegmatic and choleric have an outward material focus The melancholy and Sanguine have an inward focus on emotions and the abstract
Absolutely awesome. Spot on wisdom spot on insight. If you are reading this please if you will leave a like. This is great video and awesome channel. Thanks for the well informed content. Kashton
@@INFJMalePsychology I do a few things, I try to capture the thought that’s creating my feelings. The second thing I try to do is let my body feel when I start naming emotions in my head, than I try to comfort and understand what’s triggering it.
@@twisted_seraph Those are amazing ways to do this. You see a lot of spiritual teachings covering these methods in their works. Glad to hear they are working for you!
@@INFJMalePsychology It will be interesting to watch what you have to share. Seems you creative types are starting a movement, keep up the good work. Shall we find out?
@@yoyman8023 Thanks for your comment and yes stay tuned! Who knows what we creatives are going to do. ;) It's at least a good time to be somewhat creative.
If you looked at my resume.... it looks like I can't stay put. I'm currently over two years into a job that I love! The place is chaos incarnate and I argue all the time with people... but I have a great crew that I would fight dragons for and they know it.
Thanks for commenting, wow I'm glad to read you've found a job you love after a long record of switching jobs. Keep it up, you are proof we can get out of this career crisis!
Funny thing is that I'm not technically a man yet (I'm only in high school) but I am watching this video as a guide for myself. It's a double-sided sword as bieng as unique and confusing as I am.
Its great thing to inlight urself from early age about self awarness ,cuz we as an infj men really need to know how powerfull we r to face such sociaty that judge u by behavoir ,appearance ,materiales .
Well, the fact that you are already trying to figure yourself out at that age is pretty mature to me! Thanks for commenting. Are there any things in particular you find challenging as an INFJ male in high school?
@@INFJMalePsychology I suppose the first thing was to get myself to "accept yourself for who you are without society stigmatizing your values and who you are as a person". Been there, done that. There are also preconceived gender notions of what gender should do what, behave in what way, wear what clothes, et. al. Those are annoying to me, and I try to ignore them because they're just stereotypes in society which is in itself made of stereotypes...
@@matthewyang7893 Well said, otherwise it is as if listening to people for how be you, who might not even know who they are themselves and definetly don't have a clue about who you are. I'm very glad to see you are looking at this at that young age. It is what I wish for all the INFJs, because it could spare us a lot of pain.
I don't know if I'm a infj or sigma male... But I'm the favorite weirdo... Some times I can just sleep in my car to be alone... I'm still god fearing and are coming to grips with the world has more predators that hunt on certain people than I thought would look like predators... Maybe to much credit they're more parasitic... Parasites are predators 🤔... So most of my relationships seem to be people that are learning from me how to be me so they can hide there manipulative way better, Almost like what would I do... Its almost like a duality how we meet and thrive off of each other... Admiring each others behavior... Not a very good deal like teaching some one to fight that wants to hurt people... I've learned they love the gray area as I don't or we don't... They learn your insights almost tap in to your frequency to run back to the gray area to dominate... Meaning I am an extremist and they are far from that... Pretty much white and black and that is where laws reside... The area manipulation has no purpose... They are opportunist, I had a person tell me that he was as only loyal as his options... This same person once told me I'm scared of you I don't know if you will kill me or not... That brought tears to my eyes but the lesson I took from this entity was survival and survival is an animal instinct... I don't want to survive... I want all wrongs to be right... There ways are effective but selfish... They are the winners in the game... Don't hate the players don't hate the game we are many... The purpose is to be the best version of our self and admit love and if we don't conquer our spirit animal that we let take control to survive than we will forever be wild... We are being hunted you can not hide... They are our friends and family... They are the people that give you no look day to day... They are outstanding and many... You can believe in God no God many gods you are God but the moral compass always points back to you... Before I go there is a story that the mighty creatures do not show there selves to man because if man was to stick together they possess the power to destroy all... Mind hunter is on Netflix
@@INFJMalePsychology I am Dutch as well so thats why I noticed! hahah :) But I really like your voice and accent, very soothing and I wouldn't change it for a bit! And love the video also! :))) Thanks for sharing it :)
I agree with all, but there is another problem... I also have ADD, which is even more rarer to male infj to have ADD/ADHD... so for example at solution 2, working only 1 hour at the thing you want, i cant. Im perfectionist + plus the concentration problem with ADD, i wont have the results i expect and i want, so i will be dissaponted so i will quit at no time. Also, i tried to do that but the 9-5 i had was so hard that i didnt had neither the mental, nor the physical strenght to do. i tried some days but because i had to do with (stupid) people, especiallyt boomers who dont listen (digital merkating) so my patience, just run off really quickly...
Thanks for commenting, that sucks and ADD can be a huge challenge indeed! So the life at your day job was kinda sucked out of you leaving little energy for you to work with in your free time? Also you have high expectations for your results when you do work on some personal projects. Are the weekends better for you perhaps, where you can work on whatever you want for longer stretches of time to kick start something, and during the week you can use that hour a day or so to keep it at least in motion untill the weekend comes again where you can go full steam? Just thinking out loud!
Yeah, imagine that i was kicked out of the work (to be exact, they didnt renew my contract) because i was refusing to do the work as the said it should be done (working at a warehouse). I even told my boss, there is no way im gonna do this for the reasons i will explain. I told him twice, not once😂. The reason is that it was all wrong, many mistakes were happing cause of that plus that half of the staff was benefiting from this way and the other half was like, o god, why this to me. So i was like, ok i may be on the first half now, but tomorrow i might be on the other half so, dont do it wrong, do it as it must be done! Yes i have very high expectations, from all the things around me, but i am also the chameleon on the video (as all infjs) thats why 90+% of my personal relationships are gone... The solutions you proposed could work if there are not any outside obstacles to stop me and frustrate me, which is hard cause i leave in Greece 😂😂😂. But anyway, thank you for you loud thought, they made me think some stuff! P.S: the hardest thing i find about being a truly infj, is that you understand, if not all, most of the people around you, but almost noone you... After 20 years and maaaaany hours of conversation, my mother yesterday realized that "the things you say and how you say, it's like you arent and not made from and for this world" and i was like, ok, thats something, thank you for finally realizing this😅
@@jimthiveos8106 Wow, that hits the core right there: you understand many people, but few seem to understand you as an INFJ. Perhaps, that just goes with the INFJ territory, because if you're gifted with having the patience and curiosity to learn about someone, than it's hard to find others who have that same gift leaving you most of the time to be the one who's perhaps best at understanding others so you'll won't necissarily feel that in return. Thanks for sharing, thought provoking comments!
You just describe me better than I could have described myself it never stops happening does it we step on poor little sensitive toes everywhere we go no matter how hard we try not to don't we. Everybody wants to live and they're comfortable little world of lies and here comes the infj that's always ruining it for everybody and they wonder why we'd rather be alone. Make no mistake about it the infj can rub anyone wrong the second they open their mouths with the best of intentions.
Welcome! Just for your information, about 3 months ago, some channel uploaded a video that contained stolen content from my article 5 Common INFJ Male Problems (see links to my original blog posts in the description). That fraudulent video has been taken down due to copyright infringement. If you've seen it, but are now confused seeing this video, please know that I wrote the original content that was being narrated in that video. They literally read everything word for word of my original article. That said, I hope you enjoy this video!
How wonderful to know you are of the highest 2% of men. I knew it from "Hello."
Nope, I realize that trying to help the world is pointless as there are far too many problems and far more bad ppl who will always keep causing problems so I dont care if my work contributes to this broken n useless society, the money is what matters, money is a means to an end and the more I build it up the more ends I have, ends like buying guns and bullets to protect myself from stupid ppl, ppl who call unvaxed ppl extremists n wanna put us in camps or jail, ends like havin a healthy diet n exercise gear, ends like bein able to go to the hospital if necessary and enjoy life more, idgaf if my work helps ppl because at the end of the day I cant do sht to help this world, but I can use my money to build my own personal fort knox and guard my little slice of heaven with the wrath of weapons that won wars, I'll stay tf away from this broken species in the woods while the world burns down like a genie in a bottle
My plan is to get a regular 9-5 n slowly build up my learning abilities and my memory as well as my memory recall so I can at some point buy a good n fast PC n start an online job so I can work from my future tiny house and simultaneously avoid ppl at the same time, I'm red pilled not to mention I'm 6'4 and an infj (no flex I swear to god) and I really don't need toxic chicks comin after me, gettin rejected and then becoming so salty n bitter they start lyin about me because it just takes one bullet in the head deserving toxic chick to lay down the false snuggle struggle claim n my life takes a critical hit and I'm Not letting that happen, I plan to avoid the world n stay in the woods in my cave away from the monsters n demons of humanity while makin a nice comfort and "safe" life for myself n my future ai wife
@@infj-tguy6275 sounds like a whole plan! Are you still in school now or?
I guess you can take that as a sort of back-handed tribute. INFJs are too honest to steal someone's content. What could be going on with that? I'm glad you got your stuff back. It's good. Worth stealing!
To the younger INFJ men from older INFJ i see you. I pray you find you and your way.
Thanks for your encouraging words my friend!
@@INFJMalePsychology and above all. Dont let them take your inner peace.
And. I will be 53 on this 25th. First year im very good with it being a christmas child. A child of woe. Born on a wednesday. So yea
Merry Christmas everyone
@@christopherj5780 Happy Holidays!
As a young male INFJ I always stood up for myself. It is true that INFJs not only hate bullies, we can not allow abusive behavior towards others, we protect the underdogs too.
Thanks for your comment, that's great to hear, that is as it should be. Good stuff on your end for doing that.
I found on internet quite INFJs male misogynist and victimist, as are narcissist. No one who protect underdogs like you said
INFJs have a hard learning to fit in, find love and self individualization. I’ve found that, INFJ males have a lot more feminine characteristics. Its not necessarily a bad thing, however it can make it difficult to create our own identities, especially one that’s masculine.
Thanks for commenting. That's true, it can be challenging. My guess is we need to find a way to balance the two.
Why ur comment so accurate
I'm one.....it sucks
Agreed. Even nearing 6'5" and 230 lbs as an avid gym rat, i still have to dig deep to harness that masculinity/testerone in my DNA. Intangible things that are generally considered more feminine have come to me more naturally. So i guess I'd have come off fairly androgynous before I got myself in shape.
Speak for yourself. I find "Fe" makes friends very easily, if I want.
Hi, greetings from Ireland, I'm 61 today, recently found out about personality types. It's been enlightening to say the least. I'm not that insane at all. This, i needed today, thank you.
Hi, welcome and thanks for commenting. I'm so glad the video had some value for you. Beautiful to hear you are on that path of self-discovery. Stay safe my friend.
It make me happy this info is available for the younger people. Had it been here 40 years ago, we would have understood a lot more about ourselves and made changes sooner. Especially in a career instead of a job. Better late than never though !
It really makes me happy when someone says how much it helps them to finally understand who and what they are due to this kind of outreach from other INFJs These Channels are making a real difference for those of us who need this affirmative information. I can still remember how I felt when I discovered my type by reading the results of my MBTI. The feeling was electric! Just unbelievably good news. I feel a real sense of community with other INFJs all over the world. Somehow, Martin Cummins from Ireland is now fixed in my mind as a person of interest who has trod a similar path as I have done. Glad to hear from you Martin. You surely are not all that insane; in fact, it is the opposite of insane. I hope the next 61 years are rewarding for you.
As an INFJ gay man, I had an incredibly hard time with my family. They blamed my behaviour on my sexualising, when it was really INFJ. This video...I get it. I'm a counsellor by the way.
Hey, thanks for sharing. Phew, that must have been rough to have your family judging you like that. That can be deeply painful. I'm glad to hear you express who you are in the world regardless and have found a noble career path on top of that! Inspiring!
I have sifted through dozens of INFJ related RUclips channels and yours has to be right at the top. I love how your academic training is combining with your intuitive truths and I can tell that you have finally achieved the mastery of your skills to now be able to guide the rest of us. It is truly remarkable how much your work resonates with me and I'm sure many others as your channel gets the recognition it deserves. I'm sure you were deliberate in your desire to be this source of insight for us and I send you my heart felt gratitude.
Phew, I need a moment to process this beautifully written positive message. Thank you so much, really.. I try to combine different types of "truths" indeed (objective and subjective), that was a spot on observation of yours. It's so fulfilling to hear you found some value in it. I just want to get stuff out there and it is for everyone to decide if it's something for them or not and explore it through honest discussion. Nice of you to say that I might guide people, but I wish to just stimulate independent thinking so that people can guide themselves and temporarily others in which ever positive form that suits them. Really felt your message, thank you so much for taking the time and energy to write it.
@@INFJMalePsychology It was truly my pleasure to attempt to give you the credit you deserve for doing this. I feel many of us are in a constant struggle to fight the inner dialogue rather than befriend it and harness its full potential. I am very much looking forward to more of your content!
@@optimistprime8304 wow and I felt it for sure my friend! Thanks for being here and stay tuned!
Very interesting, and also very beautiful. I think I have an INFJ man in my life who is struggling a lot right now. I just want to be there for him and help him to try and see again. There has been a lot of addiction and depression and trauma. He often talks about toxic masculinity and when he feels bad and is drunk/high he talks down on women and himself (after having boosted his ego first and noticed that doesn't work). I see his pain. I feel it too. I am scared for him.
Recently he has tried to open up more and more and it seems like the masculinity aspect is a huge issue. Just because his body froze up and he couldn't defend himself when he was a teenager, doesn't mean that he isn't still a man. He often seeks out fights nowadays (where he is the one that gets hurt), and that is something I connected after he told me about his freeze response. He is confused, but such a beautiful and caring soul. Very empathetic and kind. Always stands up for the underdog.
Thanks for commenting. I'm saddened to hear your friend is going through a rough patch right now. Do you mean toxic masculinity or toxic shame?
So there's a lot of pain around not being able to defend himself as a man and he had some emasculating experiences? That can really cut deep, especially as an INFJ man we risk emasculating ourselves already, because of our self-judgements. Hopefully, he gets some professional help for those emotional wounds. Take good care of yourself too.
I can relate to the feelings of your friend which you have described here. I hope he and you are in a better place now, seven months later. It is so easy, and terrible, for an INFJ to get lost in despair.
At now 41, most of that I have overcome with time. Except for the career. I’ve had radical job changes from journalist to scuba diving instructor to specialized translator. But I still haven’t found that fulfilling work. Between my deep rooted need to learn constantly and need for a meaningful work ; I’m now a bit lost about what line of work to seek.
Thanks for commenting. It sucks to hear that it remains an ongoing challenge to find that meaningful career. Have you tried starting your own thing perhaps, so that you can significantly create the work you want to do?
@@INFJMalePsychology I was in the process of founding my own diving school and guest house in South East Asia when Covid struck. So I’m stalled in that project… As for my perpetual curiosity, I hope my project will leave me enough time on the side to read (I devour books like others eat Pringles) and to write. But if it were to reveal itself impossible, I’d be utterly stuck…
@@thomasalegredelasoujeole9998 Great to hear you were already trying out different things as a business. I really hope you can continue with this project. Perpetual curiosity is a very nice way of putting it. This insatiable hunger for knowledge and piecing things together. Haha, and you don't get fat from devouring books! Well, your brain does, but that's a good thing! ;) Good luck with your endeavours. Keep us posted on the progress.
@@INFJMalePsychology thanks :)
@J welcome and thanks for commenting. I'm also curious to the INFJ female side of things. Perhaps, we can talk in the future.
I did a MBTI test in early twenties and was identified with INTJ. It made sense but knew over time something was still missing.
Retaking the test now when I have grown some more (28 now) it showed me the INFJ.
I am reading as much as my brain can take for learning what I can. And this just makes more sense.
I have always been the "calming Aura" or have the ability to get people to open up. And more recently noticing that I loved the isolations of Melbourne lockdowns. It does give me more strength in my direction of medical field for sure as the traits INFJ has will be amazingly helpful.
It will be amazing to be helpful more consciously now that I can know more about myself. More to think about and feel it out more too!
Thanks for sharing, I'm glad to hear the INFJ revelation has gotten you hopeful and enthusiastic for the future in your noble endeavours!
Austen INTJ is master mind of the outer material focused world
Architect and surgery
Infj is mastermind of the inward focused world of emotions and the abstract
Intj melancholy dominant and phlegmatic secondary
The phlegmatic has the outward material focus
Infj is also melancholy dominant but sanguine secondary ,a non material inwardly focused extrovert sanguine. Infj is your general diagnostic family doctor and psychiatrist
Intj is your surgeon and sometimes dentist as well as your pharmacist
An intelligent Infj or Intj can have similar strengths
I'm glad to hear that you are well oriented toward a future of the INFJ unbound. Good luck!
Austen, this might sound strange but I need more INFJs in my life hahaha let's grab a gooood Melbourne coffee - from a fellow ENFP 😁✌️
At 65 y/o I've finally learned not to care what others think. I'm an very introverted INFJ male. This video points to me in ALL aspects, and I'm ok with that. I call myself semi retired. Have a small job which I like and the rest I do as I please. Tried various work and nothing quite fits. Mainly just to pay the bills. Now that I have some additional unrestricted time, I am able to work on my dreams.
Thanks for commenting, that sounds like a very smart adaptation! Great solution.
Good for you 🙂
I dont know any infj except famous people and i usually liked them before i knew.
I've been watching since yesterday and I already love this channel
Thank you! Welcome
I took the Myers-Briggs test for the first time when I was in college. I came out INFJ, and throughout the other times I have taken Myers-Briggs tests, I have consistently come out INFJ. In this video, I really identify with the part about trying to act tougher than you really feel. As a kid and teenager, I often felt as though I needed to toughen up. That's probably why I studied martial arts as a teenager.
Thanks for commenting! Were you trying to hide that more empathic, sensitive side from your peers back then too?
@@INFJMalePsychology In hindsight, I think I was. I often tried to pretend that things didn't bother me. I can remember trying my hardest to pretend not to be bothered by how kids interacted with each other during middle school and the early years of high school. For example, at that age, guys will often push and pummel each other. I tried to go along with that, but I really didn't enjoy it.
@@AdrianIsaacs I can imagine! There's just something about the obnoxious/unsophisticated way of interacting that is bothersome.
I believe I am this type , im also ADHD undiagnosed . Basically I’m fooked !
Thanks for commenting! Welcome! Too bad about the ADHD part, I hope you can find a way to manage it. Dr. Gabor Mate, has a good book about ADHD could Scattered Minds, perhaps that will help. Peace
In the back of my mind, I feel like a defective toy that still managed to get sold, but once the buyer sees the defects, I'm discarded accordingly.
Thanks for commenting, check out Pete Walker's book Complex PTSD, From Surviving to Thriving. Where there's Toxic Shame, most likely there's CPTSD and the dysfunctional relationships we get ourselves in. I'm reading it now!
@@INFJMalePsychology Thanks for the tip.
Random existential feverish dream mind haze
Good news u can change your personality
It's strange. I have never met another infj male. I have met a few infj females but have never formed any long lasting bonds with any of them.
Within my group of friends and family i am considered somewhat unique because i tend to view things from a more stoic or altruistic view point.
A lot of these solutions i do tend to do naturally. Some of the problems do show up in some forms but i don't seem trapped in them.
Except when it comes to romance. I tend to end up single at the end of the day and can't seem to break this cycle.
Thanks for sharing!
My best friend for 30 years was an infj to the max he's been gone for five and I haven't seen not 1% of him out in this world such a rare breed rest in peace Zachary haunt the jam room anytime
@@johnnycorn7225 Rest in Peace to your friend, I'm sorry for your loss..
@@johnnycorn7225 we tend to have few friends, but those we do connect with we share lifelong bonds with. It's a blessing and a curse.
If your friend chose you you must be something special. These connections don't come around as often as we wish they would.
Dominic very strange indeed as most actors on your TV screen are infj who can play other types
One of the rarest types is Floyd the barber on the Andy Griffith Show
I think Floyd likely an infp would be alot rarer than infj
Let us make a distinctive observation
The ordinary infj is very common
It is the gifted infj that is considerably rarer
Infj was borrowed from Hippocrates and I think of them or me as, melancholy dominant and Sanguine secondary
This is the two that make up Infj. The variety of infj or Mel San comes from the influence of the third and fourth temperament as everyone on earth has all four base temperament entities
The infja for example is always Mel dominant and San secondary.
The a factor results when the third temperament is the tough physical choleric and the meek weak phlegmatic as fourth
The infjt would always be melancholy dominant and Sanguine secondary but the meek weak phlegmatic is third in dominance and choleric as fourth or least
The phlegmatic and choleric have an outward material focus
The melancholy and Sanguine have an inward focus on emotions and the abstract
Absolutely awesome. Spot on wisdom spot on insight. If you are reading this please if you will leave a like. This is great video and awesome channel. Thanks for the well informed content.
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I appreciate this video very much. I do retreat too much and try to exercise Fi so I understand my next course of action. But it is a tug-a-war.
Thank you for commenting. How do you go about exercising Fi?
@@INFJMalePsychology I do a few things, I try to capture the thought that’s creating my feelings. The second thing I try to do is let my body feel when I start naming emotions in my head, than I try to comfort and understand what’s triggering it.
@@twisted_seraph Those are amazing ways to do this. You see a lot of spiritual teachings covering these methods in their works. Glad to hear they are working for you!
@@INFJMalePsychology it’s part of a book I am writing about reworking and figuring out yourself.
@@twisted_seraph Curious about your book. When it comes out let me know.
God, being an artist before you can rely on it is true hell.
Great.
You seem to understand yourself well enough. What would you like to see accomplished?
Be Well.
Thanks, I try. I would like to see other INFJs understand themselves better. What about you?
@@INFJMalePsychology It will be interesting to watch what you have to share. Seems you creative types are starting a movement, keep up the good work.
Shall we find out?
@@yoyman8023 Thanks for your comment and yes stay tuned! Who knows what we creatives are going to do. ;) It's at least a good time to be somewhat creative.
An example of INFJ is Halton Arp, the Galileo of modern times.
If you looked at my resume.... it looks like I can't stay put. I'm currently over two years into a job that I love! The place is chaos incarnate and I argue all the time with people... but I have a great crew that I would fight dragons for and they know it.
Thanks for commenting, wow I'm glad to read you've found a job you love after a long record of switching jobs. Keep it up, you are proof we can get out of this career crisis!
Funny thing is that I'm not technically a man yet (I'm only in high school) but I am watching this video as a guide for myself. It's a double-sided sword as bieng as unique and confusing as I am.
Its great thing to inlight urself from early age about self awarness ,cuz we as an infj men really need to know how powerfull we r to face such sociaty that judge u by behavoir ,appearance ,materiales .
Well, the fact that you are already trying to figure yourself out at that age is pretty mature to me! Thanks for commenting. Are there any things in particular you find challenging as an INFJ male in high school?
@@INFJMalePsychology I suppose the first thing was to get myself to "accept yourself for who you are without society stigmatizing your values and who you are as a person". Been there, done that.
There are also preconceived gender notions of what gender should do what, behave in what way, wear what clothes, et. al. Those are annoying to me, and I try to ignore them because they're just stereotypes in society which is in itself made of stereotypes...
@@matthewyang7893 Well said, otherwise it is as if listening to people for how be you, who might not even know who they are themselves and definetly don't have a clue about who you are. I'm very glad to see you are looking at this at that young age. It is what I wish for all the INFJs, because it could spare us a lot of pain.
@@matthewyang7893 society is soo made of stereotypes and it drives me crazy how we haven’t evolved out of that
I don't know if I'm a infj or sigma male... But I'm the favorite weirdo... Some times I can just sleep in my car to be alone... I'm still god fearing and are coming to grips with the world has more predators that hunt on certain people than I thought would look like predators... Maybe to much credit they're more parasitic... Parasites are predators 🤔... So most of my relationships seem to be people that are learning from me how to be me so they can hide there manipulative way better, Almost like what would I do... Its almost like a duality how we meet and thrive off of each other... Admiring each others behavior... Not a very good deal like teaching some one to fight that wants to hurt people... I've learned they love the gray area as I don't or we don't... They learn your insights almost tap in to your frequency to run back to the gray area to dominate... Meaning I am an extremist and they are far from that... Pretty much white and black and that is where laws reside... The area manipulation has no purpose... They are opportunist, I had a person tell me that he was as only loyal as his options... This same person once told me I'm scared of you I don't know if you will kill me or not... That brought tears to my eyes but the lesson I took from this entity was survival and survival is an animal instinct... I don't want to survive... I want all wrongs to be right... There ways are effective but selfish... They are the winners in the game... Don't hate the players don't hate the game we are many... The purpose is to be the best version of our self and admit love and if we don't conquer our spirit animal that we let take control to survive than we will forever be wild... We are being hunted you can not hide... They are our friends and family... They are the people that give you no look day to day... They are outstanding and many... You can believe in God no God many gods you are God but the moral compass always points back to you... Before I go there is a story that the mighty creatures do not show there selves to man because if man was to stick together they possess the power to destroy all... Mind hunter is on Netflix
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This guy who is presenting is Dutch :P
Hahaha, damn and here I thought nobody would notice my Dutch accent! Working on it, it has been a tough ride!
@@INFJMalePsychology I am Dutch as well so thats why I noticed! hahah :) But I really like your voice and accent, very soothing and I wouldn't change it for a bit! And love the video also! :))) Thanks for sharing it :)
@@EqualityOnEarth Haha, yeah a fellow Dutch person! Wow, that's so nice to hear. Thanks a lot, I'm glad you like it. More to come! Stay tuned!
@@INFJMalePsychology Whoop whoop! Look forward!
I agree with all, but there is another problem... I also have ADD, which is even more rarer to male infj to have ADD/ADHD... so for example at solution 2, working only 1 hour at the thing you want, i cant. Im perfectionist + plus the concentration problem with ADD, i wont have the results i expect and i want, so i will be dissaponted so i will quit at no time. Also, i tried to do that but the 9-5 i had was so hard that i didnt had neither the mental, nor the physical strenght to do. i tried some days but because i had to do with (stupid) people, especiallyt boomers who dont listen (digital merkating) so my patience, just run off really quickly...
Thanks for commenting, that sucks and ADD can be a huge challenge indeed! So the life at your day job was kinda sucked out of you leaving little energy for you to work with in your free time? Also you have high expectations for your results when you do work on some personal projects. Are the weekends better for you perhaps, where you can work on whatever you want for longer stretches of time to kick start something, and during the week you can use that hour a day or so to keep it at least in motion untill the weekend comes again where you can go full steam? Just thinking out loud!
Yeah, imagine that i was kicked out of the work (to be exact, they didnt renew my contract) because i was refusing to do the work as the said it should be done (working at a warehouse).
I even told my boss, there is no way im gonna do this for the reasons i will explain. I told him twice, not once😂.
The reason is that it was all wrong, many mistakes were happing cause of that plus that half of the staff was benefiting from this way and the other half was like, o god, why this to me. So i was like, ok i may be on the first half now, but tomorrow i might be on the other half so, dont do it wrong, do it as it must be done!
Yes i have very high expectations, from all the things around me, but i am also the chameleon on the video (as all infjs) thats why 90+% of my personal relationships are gone...
The solutions you proposed could work if there are not any outside obstacles to stop me and frustrate me, which is hard cause i leave in Greece 😂😂😂.
But anyway, thank you for you loud thought, they made me think some stuff!
P.S: the hardest thing i find about being a truly infj, is that you understand, if not all, most of the people around you, but almost noone you... After 20 years and maaaaany hours of conversation, my mother yesterday realized that "the things you say and how you say, it's like you arent and not made from and for this world" and i was like, ok, thats something, thank you for finally realizing this😅
@@jimthiveos8106 Wow, that hits the core right there: you understand many people, but few seem to understand you as an INFJ. Perhaps, that just goes with the INFJ territory, because if you're gifted with having the patience and curiosity to learn about someone, than it's hard to find others who have that same gift leaving you most of the time to be the one who's perhaps best at understanding others so you'll won't necissarily feel that in return. Thanks for sharing, thought provoking comments!
You just describe me better than I could have described myself it never stops happening does it we step on poor little sensitive toes everywhere we go no matter how hard we try not to don't we. Everybody wants to live and they're comfortable little world of lies and here comes the infj that's always ruining it for everybody and they wonder why we'd rather be alone. Make no mistake about it the infj can rub anyone wrong the second they open their mouths with the best of intentions.