Be respectful in the comment section this is likely a subject that will upset many. What is your biggest takeaway from this video? Please comment below.
The biggest takeaway from tonight's video is that women still believe that Wap is the most important thing. They want to have their fun and do everything their way and once there's no value left they want someone to come in and save them . Then they fall into the category of date for a little while but don't marry because your track record shows that you're not stable as soon as hard times come along you'll run for the Hills
@@ItsWhittlove any high-value man that smart would stay away from you I don't know which caller you were but all of them sound disagreeable the good news is there's always a sucker born every minute good luck to you in finding one
Judge Dre why are you still @ing my name? Lol I’m not checking for you or speaking with you. No other race of men puts their women down like black men do. Go find a man or something.
funkspinna women and men? It takes two right ? Just as many women are out here that have these children all of them had a father that irresponsibly put them there.
@@demimiller8437 Yes, deadbeat dads should hold some accountability as well. But let's not forget - women ultimately allow and choose to get pregnant to fulfill their selfish desire for a baby.
My biggest takeaway from this video is that its very, very important to protect your womb. Once you give that gift away to someone who's not your husband there is no coming back from that. No children is the new virginity lol
J.B. Jesus should come first.. sex before marriage is a sin and you create soul ties with other people because that person never felt true love before..
Men want to marry women in their early twenties in her good fertile years .. but women in their early twenties are too immature and unfit for marriage! .. Soo sad😔
@@bigjizzleful That's true .. but these single "baby mamas" are not "Narriage Minded" or Married .. They're not raising their fatherless children properly .. so every generation is more dysfunctional than the previous one!
Women love to say "My children come first." Why would any man accept that another man's child comes before him yet he's expected to cover the debt load of everyone. That is a loser, pure and simple. These men need to put some respect on their manhood, and I mean that figuratively and literally.
@@T90909 He can choose whomever he wishes to choose, why would I get mad about that? I just think it's wrong to prejudge a woman simply because she has a child.
@Angie Angee And that is why single moms are poor dating choices. A woman can put in zero effort and still get unconditional love from a child, yet that same lousy effort isn’t enough to keep or marry the father. LAZY.
Kevin, as a Muslim I can confirm that you were 100% correct in regards to marriage in Islamic Law. You told her exactly what any Muslim Scholar would have told her. Thank you for speaking the truth Kevin. Best.
@Cedrick Carson I don’t. People can date who they like. Why play with single moms feelings when all you want is sex. Go get a freakin prostitute instead of treating single moms like one. If you don’t want to be in a relationship with women with children don’t, not 1 man speaks for all. Just like 1 woman doesn’t speak for all women. There are plenty of men who would date that lady, she just hasn’t met him yet but she will.
Those men already got the prostitute, they just screwed up or didn't care and got her pregnant. Many baby momma's had sex with men and thought that they were going to be compensated with something of value. What is the definition of that???
Agreed! And build with him, earn his trust and respect. But most women want shit ready made and a successful man without putting in the work 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
The woman with 2 kids 10 years apart by the same man: Ma'am, that IS your family. The nerve of you calling the show inquiring as to how you can navigate AROUND that is shameful.
Ladies, y’all need to listen; y’all talk, argue, interrupt and contradict too much. You will not win these arguments, and this is why most men won’t wife you up.
And they’re argumentative. No one wants to hear an argument every single day. Period. The man will simply move on to another person that won’t give him crap everyday.
I so agree with you. They literally can't be quiet for 1 minute. They even get on my nerves listening to them. Damn i can't imagine what a man goes through.
@@ericalevene3125 And you see why some of us date women of other races? and keep in mind that all races are basically the same but, white, asian, and latina do no talk like that about their men in public for the world to hear. . I see it in my family and female friends. I hate to say this but as a black man I love black women first, but I sometimes can't really stand them -especially their tone of voice. BW speak to white men in a softer tone. . I knick named them headaches and it really sucks cause I don't want to feel that way. BM have a lot of work to do as well and bear responsibility for our part in these relationship issues as well. Im older so I saw when this all started and Kevin is right-it started in 1990s and early 2000s with the Color Purple and Whats Love Got to do with it movies that demonized black men. Both movies were directed and written by white men. And the color purple was about lesbianism-yet bw bought into it. Do you really think lesbian women like or support straight relationships?. Lesbian agenda took over the early feminist movement and did serious damage to bl and the black family with all that silly independent woman i dont' need a man nonsense. Its no wonder bw are having a hard time getting married because they didn't have the female family support system of grandmothers, mothers, aunts and others to guide and mentor them about dealing with men and how to be a wife. Feminists told bw that family was not important. You have lesbians saying I want a child, I'll go to the sperm bank and get pregnant alone. Then think they (lesbian) can raise a son alone. Then the son grows up and ask: where is my dad. THIS IS CRAZY! I never heard my mom or grandmothers generation put down black men or require that that make a certain amount of money or job status. BM and BW where a team back then. We need to get back on track.
I’m so glad I came across this channel and this content. I was raised by a single mother and for years I thought my life had to mirror that of mother’s. As I got older I realized that her life was her choice and my life is my choice. I’m nearly 30 (danger zone I know 🤦🏽♀️) but more than ever I’m glad I didn’t allow myself to become someone’s baby mama.
@@adriannawalmsley6289 I tried being a step dad, I earn a high salary and all she did was spend big when she had access to my account, so I booted her ass out of my house, she spent as much as her house cost to buy CASH in 1 year, and few years later I got a message from her asking for advice as she refinanced and increased her mortgage 150% more than original loan amount and now panicked, she had continued spending like a fool, and now SHE WAS RESPONSIBLE financially! ,,,,WOOHOO,,,,JUSTICE,,,,,I told her she wouldn't listen to me back then she won't listen now,,,,,she works 45-50hrs a day just to struggle to afford her huge mortgage from her irresponsible borrowing, it's poetic!
@Adrianna Walmsley It's refreshing to read a woman with common sense, cause that's all it takes. You don't have to be a rocket scientist just have common sense, but as I always say, "Evidently common sense isn't all that common".
Truth!!! My husband proposed after 3 months, we were married 6 months later, and we've been married 35 awesome years. AND... we did not sleep together before we were married (we're still very passionate.) 😉 I was 24, he was 26, and we were both dating with marriage in mind. So, ladies, if they want you, you'll know right away.
Thanks, you're sweet. No kids, but we have 2 now. I don't think you should give up if you have kids. Just try to show men how you can be a help meet. Be responsible. It's going to be a lot harder being a single mom, you're a single mom, so get a support network to help you. Child care, family friends. Get a job and work hard. Take some time for yourself. Demonstrate that you can be organized, keep a clean house, keep you and your kids looking nice, learn great parenting skills. He has to feel confident that you can manage the household while he's out there earning. Tap into your God-given feminity, kindness, get help with relationship skills, especially listening. And be pretty: wear makeup and nice clothes-not just for him, but for you. You'll feel better about yourself. Let him feel like he's valuable, thank him and sincerely praise him. He should be doing the same for you. Make your home a heaven on earth, so he can see you can create a place where he would want to come home to from the rat race.
I dated a single mother once and I was a single father at the time so it makes sense right? Well at the time her two kids caught the bus to school, ate free lunch, went to public school. Meanwhile, I had a private teacher that homeschooled my child. My child had a college fund, and I had more plans for my child. That woman wanted me to do the same for her children as well but on her own efforts and the efforts of the father of her children, the bus, public school, and free lunch was acceptable. Well I could not afford to do the same for her children. Since I couldn’t she demanded that I did less than my best for my child to make it FAIR for her children that were not mine. If I can’t do it for all of them then I shouldn’t do it for any of them were her words. I don’t think women understand what they are doing when they bring another man’s children into a relationship with expectations that a man treats them like his own. That might work for low value men that accept public school, busses, and free lunch, but it doesn’t work for high value fathers that do their best for the children they brought into this world.
No matter how beautiful, I will never date a single mother again because it’s just not practical. Her kids are not my responsibility and it’s an unnecessary burden that I never wanted.
@@Larry11181 You know, I agree with you. Despite what Kevin says about a women with kids needing to be drop dead gorgeous to land a High Value Man, I personally feel, like Mr. Wright said, no matter how beautiful she looks, a baby momma or a single mother should NEVER be an option. Think about it; you're a HVM, why would a single mother or baby momma EVER cross your mind? That shouldn't even be in the back of your mind. Just my two cents.
@@Larry11181 At this point in my life, it makes me sick knowing that there are women out there with that kind of mentality. It amuses me how they really don't think about the long term.
Hope you enroll your child to social clubs otherwise you're stunting their social skills. I've met homeschooled kids and they were extremely awkward and introverted.
This is why you men as dads are so crucial! Our girls aren't being taught the true value of their youth and not having children outside of marriage. You literally are destroying your life before 20.
I fought for my daughter in court to get joint custody the mother made so much bs allegations saying I physically abused,verbally abused and was stocking her good luck to the next guy going out with my x because they need it I'm proud of having my daughter back to me without the mom harassing me.
Kevin isn't lying ladies, I knew my wife for ten days before we got married ( no I didn't knock her up before either) and here we are 13 years later still happily married!
Dating a woman with a child makes you feel like a loser. As a man, you dont really feel like "this is my family" ya know..it feels fake. Also, in your heart, you feel like you've failed because you're providing for another man's failure. Maybe another man out there can put it more eloquently but I think you get what I mean.
Wow, I never saw it that way. I was married and gave him a daughter but ended up leaving because it was unhealthy. I'm in a relationship and this makes so much sense, you open my eyes
I view it from this perspective. Taking care of the result of the pleasure of another man... 🤦🤦 . Never .. and probably the guy never did anything and she is putting hurdles and standards for you.....
Dont make a baby with a man you dont want to follow . If you make a baby with him that means you wanted to go his way but then got upset you could not run things thats why you are a single mother . most men dont want to leave there kids they want to leave the women who got out of hand
Facts My current situation..... son's mother can't separate me being active and communicating on our son's behalf, mistaking me being cordial with her for a chance at the relationship again!!
Many of these women have never had a real man tell them the truth: The man you want, is going to judge you on the type of men who you give your WAP to, and that scrutiny will increase further by the type of man you have children with. For those reading this with no children, the kind of man you entertain will have to be explained to your dream guy....choose wisely 💯
I do agree overall that you shouldn't have a baby out of wedlock and it definitely makes things harder, but is the message to single mothers to just not look for high earners? Or if a high earners pursues them push them away ?
John Kaiser yes it's sad and idk why it's a thing ? For so many women and men to be okay with this. If people are going to have sex before marriage birth control is a must. I think I also recently learned the black women have many abortions. So birth control needs to be taken more seriously.
Joe new yep that's what I am learning, and I was talking about kevins RUclips channel to some of my friends who have chosen to do down the struggle love path, and it's mainly because they do not want to level up to find a good partner and it's sad. To me. They don't want to lose weight, or even try harder in life to get better dating opportunities. So it's really a African American culture I believe that very few people make it out of, if they were born into it. I had parents from another country with a very high education level and a very moral family. so I would assume that's why my outcome was different.
Some of theses women have babies under 1yrs old and their ready to just find a new man instead of focusing on their child wow. can’t help but feel sorry for the woman who was crying. But Kevin was right and told the harsh reality especially in today society.
It was not always this way, I never knew my brother was my half brother because they gave him my father's last name and his father was out of the picture. My brother got his ass whipped just let me. Single Mothers is a bad deal today because we lost respect for fatherhood. Today you cant whipped step kids and women are talking about not taking their husband last names. To make a man accept a step child changing the last name of step child to your husband is important to the mindset of the husband.
Captain Sisko I do believe being a single mother is a bad deal also. Fathers are especially needed when you have boys. I don’t believe in whipping step kids because their not yours. Anything could happen after they could call the police and it can quickly escalate. When you get married your suppose to take his last name if not why even get married? Theres me thinking my standards are too high, I want to be married before I have kids I’m so glad I found the god fathers channel. I use to think I was asking for too much. I don’t want to be a baby mama or a single this is why I don’t have kids and I’m in my mid 20’s. I didn’t know that a step child changing there last name to the step dads name is important thanx for informing me.
@@123pb that is one of the problems of taking on single mothers, Now my mother dis owned my brothers father i dont know if he die or alive. This is the only way for a high value man to accept a child from another man and the child must be under 6 years for it to accept the step father as his or her father .
Being a step father myself! Something I would never do again and a Role I would tell my son’s to avoid with all cost.. and a single mother wouldn’t want their son’s to marry a single mom!
Can I ask what made it a bad experience? Was it the children themselves or the mom? Or was it having to deal with the father of the children? I’m not trying to be argumentative I’m just curious.
@@miekaash6831 what makes it a bad experience is everything you have named. I went through this with a woman I was with that has four children. It's just too much to deal with especially with trying to discipline them and having to explain to their father what the issues are and why their children are being disciplined for in our home. It started out with all of the fireworks and I did not meet the children for about 2 weeks and three years later, it became too much to handle because I am just one man and NOT the father of the children.
This is the real world harm of listening to people like Derrick Jackson and Steve Harvey for years. The sheer amount of delusion on display is frightening.
Even men with a little sense of logic is backing away from this disaster. 3 years ago I saw myself being a dad by my late 20s, entering my late 20s now, I changed my mind.
These women think with a childlike understanding of the world and are so arrogant and so entitled they think we owe them something. Never LOL so hard in my life.
Not even a joke..I think steve harvey did more damage than any other man alive. All feemail talk shows diluted the minds of women everywhere. Girl oprah was just making money off you
@@Georgia-Red-Mud he did!! Steve harvey is a sold out Illuminati member and he pushed the feminist market bc he was told to it's all to weaken the strong male it's a shame. Men are men and women are women. They are great and do alot of good things but they gotta stop with this feminist bull shit!!!
Most women are going to be working in most marriages even after children get it through your heads... If you want the 6 figure man you are requesting then put in the work listen and educate yourself to get him. Even in 2020 the term survival of the fittest still exists. You want something you do what it takes to get it. Fit Feminine and Friendly... No high value man cares about ur PhD its nice but are you cooperative? Are you able to check that mouth and attitude at the door?? Will you submit to your husband and let him lead??? Men are easy but we know what we want and what we are looking for. You can't force a man to invest in something he doesn't want....
I'm a woman who made a similar comment on another thread and the men came for me hard saying that there's no difference between chase and pursue. Got me defining terminology and stuff lol
@@CeeceeH1819 there is a big difference in terms of the outcome you are seeking. men who do not have much to offer chase. Men who have higher value do not need to chase, they made their decision and do what it takes to secure it.
We live in a society where women think there's nothing wrong with having 3 kids from 3 different men, divorced, overweight, broke and with a bad attitude but yet still think they're high value and also deserve a rich, handsome, muscular, tall man with no kid's who must own a Benz/mansion 😂🚮
Came across Mr. Samuels a week ago and have been binging his videos daily. Sad to not have followed him during his life but thankful for the opportunity to learn from him. R. I. P.
@KnightsofGbs That's what it seems like. I see/hear women all the time refusing to date baby daddies. And other women give them props for not doing so.
@Kevin Lee women have been given false entitlement by the media, tv shows, movies, and also have been convinced by other women that having a baby is no big deal.
Whew you hit the nail on the head with the explanation of being a wife BEFORE marriage and had the Bible to back it UP. You go from one covering to another!
The difference between pursuing and chasing would be a great topic. I think a lot of women are used to being chased by thirsty, weak men, and are confusing that with being pursued by someone who is genuinely interested.
I must say, I am a single mother of one child. And a LOT of this information did hit some nerves. HOWEVER i must say that with that being said i can very much appreciate the brutal honesty that he provides women. We as women often time do not get this reality check because other women, whether naive themselves or just trying to be accommodating to our fragile ego, and other men who do not wish to hurt our feelings DO NOT give us the non watered down truth of how the world views us. Let this be a message to women who yet do not have any children so as to keep them on a straight path. This is a GREAT video with great valued content.
"because other women, whether naive themselves or just trying to be accommodating to our fragile ego, and other men who do not wish to hurt our feelings DO NOT give us the non watered down truth of how the world views us." very true!
As a man who used to provide those uncomfortable truths to my female friends I stopped when they would get an attitude with me. Some even got an attitude after asking for my input. Kudos to you for being able to accept honesty!
When it comes to a dating a single mother, a woman without kids can do everything a single mother can without the liability of another man's kids. And given the amount of contraceptives available to women, it's a sign shes either lazy or makes bad decisions
The part about contraceptives is so true and not talked about often enough. As a pharmacist, there are so many options for birth control. Not to mention plan b, which you can use for up to 5 days after unprotected sex. Any single mother, you have to question her character
Correct. In most cases, a single mother doesn't just bring about the issue of dealing with someone else's kids-it's a window into her priorities and decision-making abilities.
@Bolu Oladini yeah that’s wild. I didn’t know that a woman had up to at least 5 days to take a plan b. Besides all of the other types of birth control that women have access to. They even have female condoms. A woman who really doesn’t wanna get pregnant is gonna be on birth control and make the man wear the conform and make sure she’s using 2 forms of contraception, just in case 1 fails. Most of the women on these podcasts seem to be lying. It’s especially a bad look to talk down on your child’s mother or child’s father because sex is a choice. And besides sex being a choice, it’s a choice to impregnate someone or allow him to get you pregnant. It’s sad to see because the kids are the ones who suffer. And if these kids are not told the truth, they often grow up to repeat the cycle
Preach!! I purposely did not date...because I divorced when my child was 3 y/o. I owned a real estate company and noticed there was a rush to marry from men who had NOTHING to contribute. High value men...especially black and hispanic...do not want to raise a child by another. Now that I am much older...high value men that are single want trophies, the younger woman in her 20's or early 30's. Ladies stop sabotaging yourself. If you teach your daughters her worth and how to increase or maximize her value...we won't have babies having babies.
I agree, I was a stepfather and I would absolutely never want to put myself in that situation again. I don’t care how hot the woman is, it doesn’t matter.
I don't know if Kevin touched on this point either, but if a child sees a rotation of different men playing the role of a father/male guardian, it can make the position of a father seem interchangeable and/or easily replicable. Meanwhile, the mother role/position is permanent, regardless of any scenario. This subconsciously can make the father role seem less important and less respectable than the mother role. Just a thought.
@Jonny Vegas exactly. What’s understood doesn’t need to be explained. Having a baby is a big deal. It’s not like spilling a glass of water and being able to clean it up afterwards. Your child’s father is permanent and vice versa. You cannot treat that person like an ex because they’ll always be in the picture. It’s no longer about you. It’s about the child, even if you don’t feel like dealing with the other parent. But that’s one of the outcomes of making a permanent decision. You can’t just cut the other parent out of the picture when you don’t feel like being bothered with co parenting. 🤷🏾♀️
Just wow @ some of these female callers... I feel really sorry for those young kids/babies who are being raised by these delusional, unrealistic, entitled, and immature mothers. :(
@@sabaande the laughter I find very disturbing as well. It's like they're not living with the law of cause and effect in mind. And they have children who need to be brought up the have emotional maturity and self sufficiency.
This is 80 percent of black people walking around. Can't be anything but an underclass with women like these. Brothers have to chalk up this loss to ws and adapt appropriately.
I want to give a warm welcome and a loud Thank you to KS for another entertaining show last night. You are changing lives, keep doing all that you do for us. I appreciate you, and you are truly the GodFather of YT ! Shout out to all of the wonderful team players in the chat room and the wonderful callers who give us our endless "Ammunition" in the chat room. I also want to thank all of the commenters in the comment section as well..myself included. Good, bad or indifferent.. KS is the man.
I was explaining this to my mother the other day how at 35 I'm just learning this and she saw how she didn't show me good examples of what a relationship looks like. I guess she assumed I would just figure it out. Thank you for the info. While I'm not the target audience I have been able to take these lessons and change how I behave and think in the place I am now.
At least you are aware of it now that's what matters💯 there are good books out there that help with understanding and getting prepared for dating and marriage better like "breaking generational curses by Marylin Hickey", "things I wish I'd known before we got married by Gary Chapman", "the language of love by Gary Chapman", "secret of an irresistible woman by Michelle Mckiney Hammond" and doing spiritual healing with the holy spirit really help if we ask God to reveal unresolved hurt or to give us wisdom to prepare for marriage he will help us👍
The "IT" girl never answered a question, she only made statements and PLEASE tell me why no woman understands the LOW value impact that the phrase "I've had my fun" registers in a man's mind.. UNF&$#@ING BELIEVABLE.
It's not that single mothers CAN'T get high value men, it's just not probable. Anything is possible, but not everything is probable. For example, it is possible to get shot in the head and live but the odds are not on your side. In asking this question, we have to also point out that it depends on the woman's class status as well.
This is very true and relates to me tremendously. I just want to know like if the message to women who are single mothers, is do not expect to get a HVM or don't try too? Or is this more for women who do not have children as a warning ?
@@demimiller8437 Here's the problem with black women. For some odd reason, a regular Joe type of guy isn't good enough...even if she's a low value woman. They don't want the middle class guy who's capable of providing. Nah, she wants what she sees on TV and in the movies. I really don't get this sense of hate that black women have for regular Joe middle class black men, except the indoctrination from the media. Heck, the amount of people within any ethnic group who earns 100k it better is really small. Pursuing only guys who are in the upper echolon of income earners is as silly and a low probability task as a man seeking a virgin.
The Best Investment wow well I am new to listening to these types of shows. I didn't know that there are a large group of women out there not wanting the average guy. I read a study idk if it's true but it says black women are earning a lot more now because so many are getting college degrees which allow them to get high paying jobs, so then they want someone making more.
@@demimiller8437 I've seen those studies and what they leave out is the amount of student loan debt that those women are in for those degrees. Meanwhile, you have a guy who's making $60-70k a year with no debt except a mortgage. I'm not here to tell women what they should or shouldn't do. I'm just pointing out what's most probable. If they care more about status than doing what works, that's on them.
The Best Investment I wonder what that is about. Right neither am I, I am just observing and learning more about the problems in the black community and wondering what will make it better and why so many make certain decisions. Well thanks for responding so nicely.
30 minutes in and I have already learnt that it's very important for me to push for marriage before I push a baby out of my 🐈. I am so glad I found this channel because my ears are wide open especially because I am not a mum yet. Standards are very important, I understand 💐
Even when you get married there still could be a chance he could leave you and you can be a single mother Married or not . Basically I’m saying marriage is not a guarantee but yes be married first .
@@Naturaljass012 Nothing in life is guaranteed, but at least you've tried to give your kids the best start with a stable loving home. Intention matters.
Nobuhle Coco, sis wam, in Msanzi we're also watching this channel. Yes Kevin might speak from an American standpoint but as a young single guy from South Africa, we're taking note...
Kevin, You are doing a real service to the young black community. If no other epidode you previously aired showed that, I'm confident that this episode sure did. That young mom who broke down in tears represents a large majority. Keep up the good job. Truly The God Father.
This is an awesome topic! My mother always told me “don’t put your hat where your hand can’t reach! I say a lot of women feel entitled to the lifestyle because they feel it’s what they deserve for the pains they’ve been through! Life’s not fair! The majority of single men will not feel comfortable raising another mans child and rightly so! Ladies need to grasp that concept and deal with the harsh realities of life! Is it to say you won’t find a man, of course not! Just not what you’re looking for! School of hard knocks!
@@naomimitchell8858 just curious, did your mom tell you to stay away from Black Americans? Are Caribbean families like that? I know African families are.
@FalaqX no not at all! We have a lot of American relatives! I have family in Florida, New York, Washington D.C. My dad is Nigerian and he’s never warned me or my sisters of that!
This girl said "its almost like youre tied to your childs father" like it is new information 🥴🥴🥴 girl. Thats why he is supposed to be your HUSBAND 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
😂😂😂😂😂 i read the comment before i got to that part of the video, i just heard her say that, LMAOO. NEWS FLASH, you have to deal with your childs father forever!
It is remarkable that this man is providing women with extremely valuable guidance and information and they just won't see the picture of reality that he is painting for them.
Actually love, she's 49 with a 5 year old and the child's father died. I'm 42 with 3 grown children and 1 granddaughter....I can hardly imagine having a child so small by myself close to 50. I don't hardly want to look at babies at my age. Lol. I'm having fun reading, working, traveling and meeting interesting Individuals.
If you find my comment she actually got on here and responded. Her responses really show how poor her thinking skills are. I couldn’t imagine being almost 50 picking a kid up in kindergarten.
@Ron Hitson I never said they were married...that's on her anyway. I'm done with having children, I was just simply stating that she's 49 and has no help from the father because he's dead supposedly. I don't know her personally, so I can't clarify anything she said one way or the other love.
@@moblack5883 Why don't you add in the fact that my child is a miracle baby. I had no idea I could even get pregnant. If you're gonna tell something, tell it right and tell it in the right context. You're worse than a gossiping woman.
@@earthreign Yes, he died when our son was a year old. Had I known I could get pregnant, I never would've had a baby at that age because of the dangers. But what was I supposed to do? Kill it? No way. I don't care what anyone has to say about it, my son is a miracle and his father is in heaven. And I'm doing just fine raising him alone. Thank you.
Shawty really said “it’s almost like I’m tied to my child’s father forever” You really can’t make this sh*t up 😂😂😂 Men don’t want a woman with a child that has another man’s face
That 24 year old caller who has a 10 year old probably told her son "he's the man of the house" like SOME single mother do. What smart man wants to complete against a boy child who is man of the house especially when he's expected to bring the table and all the fixings!! NO THANKS!!
That’s always sad to see, a child being told he needs to act as a surrogate father and husband in terms of responsibility. Kids should be able to just be kids.
Asa Harvey he just wants to see a picture so he can talk about their looks. Kevin’s content is great, even if we can’t see the caller we can still hear what they are saying which is the point.
blame Russel Wilson....all these single mothers think theyre gonna get their own Russ..but none of yall is Ciara...and honestly Russ is a cut better than most men, most of us dont have it in us to love another mans child the way he does his step child.
You also have to pay attention that Ciara got pregnant by Future, he has money to take care of his that child, and Ciara is beautiful, feminine, and she makes good money too.
@@yuranbeltonbanzebanze8080 but Ciara isbitter she tried to sue future for 50 million at one point, she knew he had other kids and you still sleep with him make it make sense ?
I had to learn that you are a wife before you are dating. I did not understand it at first, now I do. Pastor RC Blakes said the same thing. Yes Mr. Samuels you are indeed right about this one. I still have a lot to learn and a lot of work myself. Good video.
@LyricalXilence how can a woman say that she wants a man, and refuses to listen to a man? These women want to continue to listen to their homegirls, aunties, sisters, female cousins, grandmama’s, etc.
Even though society encourages dating single mothers as the new norm, thank you for letting the men know that its not wrong for us not wanting to enter that situation.
I can attest to this fact. Swiping past online dating profiles, there are men who are working, middle, and even upper middle class stating their preference for women without kids.
Tiffany Pearsall yea sis those step daddy hopes are gone. I hope you are not a baby mama or a single mama. Like women really don’t understand how much of a death sentence having a child without marriage is. Hell I would never seriously date a women with kids when I was broke and I have a child. Like the god father say it’s a 💩y deal. No man with means wants to justify why you with a women with kids.
@D Favors Ok, again, just say that the issue is the baggage that may or may not come along with someone elses child. My problem is judging the woman as low value, especially when everything about her character is of high value. There is a difference between a man not wanting to be a step-dad versus not wanting to be with a low value woman. I mean, you got a lot of low value women who don't even have children just as there are high value women with children. Its all in what you decide isn't right for you.
High value men do not want damaged goods. It's no different then a package of meat being opened at a supermarket. Whereas one customer might say, I will take it If I can get it for half the price. A customer who doesn't see money as a challenge will say, sir my meat is open, can you send someone to get me another package. Not to mention the women who do not know how to take care of their skin while pregnant, and receive multiple stretch marks; even if you are still in shape. A man with options wants to start fresh..
@@alphapimp0073 facts!!! Average white, Asian and Spanish men aren’t expected to accept a woman who has kids. But somehow black men are supposed to be “ok” with that.
After watching this man for the last two days, I’m just sad. Luckily for my daughters, there’s still hope. 😭 Me? Well, that’s up in the air. I failed. I didn’t know I failed until now. 😩
I've seen a lot of women say this is revealing info. I'm shocked are we really not teaching our young women and men that you should be married before having children?
Wow! Unreal when I hear this young woman so clueless about the impact of having a child. Being a parent is the most challenging (and rewarding) thing I have ever done. Having a child in the home, especially a teenager, is beyond challenging. It taxes every fiber of your being to be patient, loving, attentive. There were days I didn't think I could do it, and my husband and I did it together. If the child were not mine, no. I wouldn't choose that.
I really appreciate men like this. He has told women the truth something pastors want tell women especially black women. He tells women the raw honest truth most pastors sells women false hope to keep a seat filled & get the 1st lady a trip to Jamaica & a new Benz. I will NEVER be a stepdad. I don’t want a blended family “.
I recently had a little baby girl and my girlfriend left me before she was born and basically cut me off. Didn't even tell me she went into labor, so I missed my first child's birth. Now theres so much more to the story but as far as I can tell her family gave her a lot of influence that she can get a man that she DESERVES to take care of her and our child better than me. Me and the ex (I'm black and shes latina btw) have been together on 13 years and known each other for 15. She has gained weight, had a minor stroke during birth which caused a slight slope on her face with slurred speech, and caused some of her hair to fall out and to me that's beautiful to have these scares from pushing out my child but on the flip side she doesn't realize other men wont see it like that at least of higher value than myself. I'm not saying I'm a 6 figure guy but I'm 5'10'' been in the military for 14 years, in very good shape, got 80k in the bank, and just bought my first house and her, she had to move in with her mother and step father. she makes mask and cups for people online, no schooling, no savings, and really not a whole lot to offer and now has a new born child. At this point I'm just waiting for her bitterness to destroy herself because I've been that guy who goes for single mothers and I knew 100% from the get to I would never marry them.
It sounds like she is already bitter because of what happened having the child. She might blame you for it and race may be a factor. I hope you will be very, very active in your child's life to pay attention to how she will be treated. It also sounds like you're hoping she will come back to you after she realizes no one will want her in her state.
Was she also a single mother when you got with her? And you earning 80k meant want that you paid all the bills and mortgage did she not have to work whilst being with you?
@@sarinakarim2513 She was not a single mother, we had our first child together and although we didn't live together I let it know to her that she didn't have to work. She didn't want to work once she had a baby anyway and I was fine with that.
I been married 15 years, when I was in the Miltary I saw alot of this play out and it's scary how I made the decisions I made without a father teaching me. I saw the same issues in women in my family and I understand them now, but Kevin is on it point telling yall what HENRY want. Black men that polish themselves are not going for the same compromise of the past. Young brothers look at the trades choose one that can put you in the 10%. Build your credit, choose a women that was raised by mother and father. Dont raise another man's kids start your own family.
@Jarrod White same. I’m a young woman who has just started watching some of these dudes on RUclips and looking at advice from the perspective of men, especially now that I’m of age and entering into the open dating market. When he describes some of these women on the show, it sounds like he’s describing some of my female family members. It seems like there’s no accountability. I’ve even heard some women say “It’s not like he’s my husband. He’s just my child’s father.” As if that’s not a BIG DEAL?!!! That’s a permanent decision that you can’t reverse! If you don’t like your child’s father, that’s too bad because it’s not about you. It’s about the child. You cannot deal with him like an ex and continue on with your life because he’s the CHILD’S FATHER. It’s dysfunctional. These women’s are putting 100% of the blame on the child’s father and that’s insane. I grew up with my mom and dad. And even though I’ve heard them get into some bad arguments, I’ve never heard my mom say “I’m just gonna pick you up at the school because I don’t wanna deal with your dad” How is it realistic to expect a child to never see their parents in the same room? To never see their parents communicate? All because you don’t wanna “deal with the other parent?!” It’s incredibly selfish and unrealistic. Kids suffer.
when a woman has a child by a man , at that point she needs to submit to him and let him be a leader. too many woman have children and then try to be the boss. then man leaves her . she would have a better life if she just sit down and be humble. even if they not getting along. by leaving her childs father , her value significantly decrease. go back to your childs father please ladies
I agree that for single women with kids, the best thing they can do is just do whatever they have to do to remain with the father. If the father is absent, and they want help with their children, they should seek help from their family. First the parents take care of the child, if both are busy for whatever reason, next in line is family. Not step dad LOL
@jungle jones most women put 100% of the blame on their child’s father. Most of the time, it probably has nothing to do with the child, he just might not wanna deal with her. (Unless he already told her that he didn’t wanna be a father). But most of these women won’t even take accountability for creating a permanent situation. And then they want a clean up man.
I totally agree. When u give up your womb without a ring, say goodbye to a high value man. There’s too many women out here without kids and baby daddy baggage to choose from. And they never want the man they had the baby with. Like make it make sense!
Because the relationship was built on lust to begin with and not real Love Now a days there is a lot of microwave relationships and superficial people. After listening to this show and reading through these comments it’s frightening we are definitely in the New World Order !
My biggest takeaway is that young people should see this show in their mid to late teens, hopefully before they make regrettable, permanent decisions with their bodies.
I was in a relationship with a divorced single mum with 3 teenage kids..she broke up with me after 5 years saying I don't appreciate her enough lol..she was bringing 3 kids and an ex husband into the relationship I was bringing myself..she's now in a relationship with a 24year old she is now 40
Women who were married and then divorced their spouses after children are borne get no pass from me. Many are no better than the unwed single women in society today. I have seen far too many women divorcing good men thinking the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. They not only destroys their former spouse life, they also destroys the life of children borne into the marriage. The only exception for me would be for a widow.
Thank you for waking the world up! The "date scene "needs conversations like these. This is how we restore life awareness to life decisions and grow in the future.
Why would a single Mother expect to get a high value man? Why cant a single Mother just expect to get the same thing she is offering? If she’s offering high value she gets high value, if she’s offering low value, that’s what she gets. 🤷🏾♂️
I like this!!!! If I’m a High Value Single Mom I’d love a High Value Single dad. You should be with someone you can build with not bring you down💯 a level playing field, be safe out there fellas❣️
He reminds me of judge Judy lol. This man is tell it like it is and is straight forward. It’s really different hearing things from man perspective.👍🏾👍🏾
Be respectful in the comment section this is likely a subject that will upset many.
What is your biggest takeaway from this video? Please comment below.
The biggest takeaway from tonight's video is that women still believe that Wap is the most important thing. They want to have their fun and do everything their way and once there's no value left they want someone to come in and save them . Then they fall into the category of date for a little while but don't marry because your track record shows that you're not stable as soon as hard times come along you'll run for the Hills
@@ItsWhittlove any high-value man that smart would stay away from you I don't know which caller you were but all of them sound disagreeable the good news is there's always a sucker born every minute good luck to you in finding one
@@ItsWhittlove which caller were you I bet you were the one who had the child at 14
Different Strokes Dreams
Judge Dre why are you still @ing my name? Lol I’m not checking for you or speaking with you. No other race of men puts their women down like black men do. Go find a man or something.
The young, single-baby-mama epidemic is ruining the community.
@Rugga dipset The high rate of out-of-wedlock births is a disgrace. Women need to stop being so selfish. Children are not pets.
I think the community is already ruined?
There is no community no more that ship been sailed
funkspinna women and men? It takes two right ? Just as many women are out here that have these children all of them had a father that irresponsibly put them there.
@@demimiller8437 Yes, deadbeat dads should hold some accountability as well. But let's not forget - women ultimately allow and choose to get pregnant to fulfill their selfish desire for a baby.
My biggest takeaway from this video is that its very, very important to protect your womb. Once you give that gift away to someone who's not your husband there is no coming back from that. No children is the new virginity lol
All your words are true.
J.B. Jesus should come first.. sex before marriage is a sin and you create soul ties with other people because that person never felt true love before..
Greg B thank you
Or marry people of higher value. Plenty of divorced women with kids out there.
Heavy on the “No children is the new virginity”!
"You have to be a wife before you start dating." He hit it right on the head.
Men want to marry women in their early twenties in her good fertile years .. but women in their early twenties are too immature and unfit for marriage! .. Soo sad😔
@@MisTracy39TheVeganLady not if they’re marriage minded and raised correctly.
@@bigjizzleful That's true .. but these single "baby mamas" are not "Narriage Minded" or Married .. They're not raising their fatherless children properly .. so every generation is more dysfunctional than the previous one!
lol that’s not how it works in the west.
Being a Step Dad is the dumbest thing I ever did!
Omg jefff 🤣🤣
for me as well your damn right👍
Same here never again
@Ismaël GACEM
She thinks it's funny because it's not a black man who said it.🤷♂️🤷♂️
🤣🤣🤣🤣 this is hilarious
Women love to say "My children come first." Why would any man accept that another man's child comes before him yet he's expected to cover the debt load of everyone. That is a loser, pure and simple. These men need to put some respect on their manhood, and I mean that figuratively and literally.
If he loves the woman, he will understand and will respect that. A woman's child will always be hers. A man will not.
@@angieangee2603 so dont get upset when a man with options dont choose the single mom
@Ismaël GACEM exactly men are not being shamed into this shit anymore
@@T90909 He can choose whomever he wishes to choose, why would I get mad about that? I just think it's wrong to prejudge a woman simply because she has a child.
@Angie Angee
And that is why single moms are poor dating choices. A woman can put in zero effort and still get unconditional love from a child, yet that same lousy effort isn’t enough to keep or marry the father. LAZY.
Kevin, as a Muslim I can confirm that you were 100% correct in regards to marriage in Islamic Law. You told her exactly what any Muslim Scholar would have told her. Thank you for speaking the truth Kevin. Best.
How are you too young to get married but not too young to have a baby🤷🏿♂️
I will never get that
Easy. Too stupid to realise the value of responsibility but young enough to wanna have some risky fun.
Lol black female logic
They dont realize that having a baby is basically as serious as getting married
Birth control works on young girls too.
women always say they not gonna settle and it praised...but when a man says he not gonna settle for a single mother they feel offended 🤔
Double standard at its finest. Lol
No. Don’t date single moms.
@Cedrick Carson I don’t. People can date who they like. Why play with single moms feelings when all you want is sex. Go get a freakin prostitute instead of treating single moms like one. If you don’t want to be in a relationship with women with children don’t, not 1 man speaks for all. Just like 1 woman doesn’t speak for all women. There are plenty of men who would date that lady, she just hasn’t met him yet but she will.
The same one who rejected them
Those men already got the prostitute, they just screwed up or didn't care and got her pregnant.
Many baby momma's had sex with men and thought that they were going to be compensated with something of value. What is the definition of that???
A woman with a child should be grateful to date any average man with a job who has no kids.
Seriously, the nerve.
Agreed! And build with him, earn his trust and respect. But most women want shit ready made and a successful man without putting in the work 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Let me fix your sentence. A woman with a child should be grateful to date any average man with a job.
@@garysimpson7326 facts thank u lol
Women wait at the finish line for the winner. There’s just 3 winners and 3,000,000 women looking for them.
The woman with 2 kids 10 years apart by the same man: Ma'am, that IS your family. The nerve of you calling the show inquiring as to how you can navigate AROUND that is shameful.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Female biology and their mating and dating strategy are not congruent with the moral compass of our society.
😂😂😂😂
@@illwitness preach
The d was so good i guess but you had ten years to see the pro and con of kids with that man
Ladies, y’all need to listen; y’all talk, argue, interrupt and contradict too much.
You will not win these arguments, and this is why most men won’t wife you up.
And they’re argumentative. No one wants to hear an argument every single day. Period.
The man will simply move on to another person that won’t give him crap everyday.
Black women just ain't used to someone else doing the talking.
I so agree with you. They literally can't be quiet for 1 minute. They even get on my nerves listening to them. Damn i can't imagine what a man goes through.
@@ericalevene3125 And you see why some of us date women of other races? and keep in mind that all races are basically the same but, white, asian, and latina do no talk like that about their men in public for the world to hear. . I see it in my family and female friends. I hate to say this but as a black man I love black women first, but I sometimes can't really stand them -especially their tone of voice. BW speak to white men in a softer tone. . I knick named them headaches and it really sucks cause
I don't want to feel that way. BM have a lot of work to do as well and bear responsibility for our part in these relationship issues as well.
Im older so I saw when this all started and Kevin is right-it started in 1990s and early 2000s with the Color Purple and Whats Love Got to do with it movies that demonized black men. Both movies were directed and written by white men. And the color purple was about lesbianism-yet bw bought into it. Do you really think lesbian women like or support straight relationships?. Lesbian agenda took over the early feminist movement and did serious damage to bl and the black family with all that silly independent woman i dont' need a man nonsense.
Its no wonder bw are having a hard time getting married because they didn't have the female family support system of grandmothers, mothers, aunts and others to guide and mentor them about dealing with men and how to be a wife. Feminists told bw that family was not important. You have lesbians saying I want a child, I'll go to the sperm bank and get pregnant alone. Then think they (lesbian) can raise a son alone. Then the son grows up and ask: where is my dad. THIS IS CRAZY!
I never heard my mom or grandmothers generation put down black men or require that that make a certain amount of money or job status. BM and BW where a team back then. We need to get back on track.
@@ericalevene3125 true
I’m so glad I came across this channel and this content. I was raised by a single mother and for years I thought my life had to mirror that of mother’s. As I got older I realized that her life was her choice and my life is my choice. I’m nearly 30 (danger zone I know 🤦🏽♀️) but more than ever I’m glad I didn’t allow myself to become someone’s baby mama.
Don't become a baby mama
@RonYo wow thank you and blessings to you! 🙏🏽
@@adriannawalmsley6289 I tried being a step dad, I earn a high salary and all she did was spend big when she had access to my account, so I booted her ass out of my house, she spent as much as her house cost to buy CASH in 1 year, and few years later I got a message from her asking for advice as she refinanced and increased her mortgage 150% more than original loan amount and now panicked, she had continued spending like a fool, and now SHE WAS RESPONSIBLE financially! ,,,,WOOHOO,,,,JUSTICE,,,,,I told her she wouldn't listen to me back then she won't listen now,,,,,she works 45-50hrs a day just to struggle to afford her huge mortgage from her irresponsible borrowing, it's poetic!
@Adrianna Walmsley
It's refreshing to read a woman with common sense, cause that's all it takes. You don't have to be a rocket scientist just have common sense, but as I always say, "Evidently common sense isn't all that common".
@@Just2Intense I say that often myself and thank you!
I don’t think anyone should have to take on children that are not theirs.
Single, grown-up childless men and women should find each other, build a solid relationship and then plan their future together.
Rainy Day facts
thankyou
lol until it's Jesus dying on the cross for you huh?
Even animals don't do that. When a lion takes over he kills the previous leaders kids
Truth!!! My husband proposed after 3 months, we were married 6 months later, and we've been married 35 awesome years. AND... we did not sleep together before we were married (we're still very passionate.) 😉
I was 24, he was 26, and we were both dating with marriage in mind. So, ladies, if they want you, you'll know right away.
Thanks, you're sweet. No kids, but we have 2 now. I don't think you should give up if you have kids. Just try to show men how you can be a help meet. Be responsible. It's going to be a lot harder being a single mom, you're a single mom, so get a support network to help you. Child care, family friends. Get a job and work hard. Take some time for yourself. Demonstrate that you can be organized, keep a clean house, keep you and your kids looking nice, learn great parenting skills. He has to feel confident that you can manage the household while he's out there earning. Tap into your God-given feminity, kindness, get help with relationship skills, especially listening. And be pretty: wear makeup and nice clothes-not just for him, but for you. You'll feel better about yourself. Let him feel like he's valuable, thank him and sincerely praise him. He should be doing the same for you. Make your home a heaven on earth, so he can see you can create a place where he would want to come home to from the rat race.
@Debbie Mason Would never get married before a test drive....
This type of situation varies from person to person.
Respect.....we need to clone you two asap
@@chrisnamaste3572lol and there you go
I’m so glad I found this channel. Social media puts baby mommas on a pedestal and it’s so sad
Especially on mothers Day... Happy mothers day to moms Especially single mothers who work the hardest blah blah ...I'm like smh
💐 and you're on the right track of understanding... Thx u
Why are u so petty
Single mothers are TRASH, I am a high net worth guy and literally ignore single mothers, as soon as I find out she has kids BOOM, and a ghost!
social media is poison
I dated a single mother once and I was a single father at the time so it makes sense right? Well at the time her two kids caught the bus to school, ate free lunch, went to public school.
Meanwhile, I had a private teacher that homeschooled my child. My child had a college fund, and I had more plans for my child.
That woman wanted me to do the same for her children as well but on her own efforts and the efforts of the father of her children, the bus, public school, and free lunch was acceptable.
Well I could not afford to do the same for her children. Since I couldn’t she demanded that I did less than my best for my child to make it FAIR for her children that were not mine. If I can’t do it for all of them then I shouldn’t do it for any of them were her words.
I don’t think women understand what they are doing when they bring another man’s children into a relationship with expectations that a man treats them like his own. That might work for low value men that accept public school, busses, and free lunch, but it doesn’t work for high value fathers that do their best for the children they brought into this world.
No matter how beautiful, I will never date a single mother again because it’s just not practical. Her kids are not my responsibility and it’s an unnecessary burden that I never wanted.
@@Larry11181 You know, I agree with you. Despite what Kevin says about a women with kids needing to be drop dead gorgeous to land a High Value Man, I personally feel, like Mr. Wright said, no matter how beautiful she looks, a baby momma or a single mother should NEVER be an option. Think about it; you're a HVM, why would a single mother or baby momma EVER cross your mind? That shouldn't even be in the back of your mind. Just my two cents.
Titus Sassole too often, women think that having children is no big deal and men should just be ok with that.
@@Larry11181 At this point in my life, it makes me sick knowing that there are women out there with that kind of mentality. It amuses me how they really don't think about the long term.
Hope you enroll your child to social clubs otherwise you're stunting their social skills. I've met homeschooled kids and they were extremely awkward and introverted.
This is why you men as dads are so crucial! Our girls aren't being taught the true value of their youth and not having children outside of marriage. You literally are destroying your life before 20.
And the children's lives too
@Soul Flower absolutely agree!
I fought for my daughter in court to get joint custody the mother made so much bs allegations saying I physically abused,verbally abused and was stocking her good luck to the next guy going out with my x because they need it I'm proud of having my daughter back to me without the mom harassing me.
@@juansariles congratulations bro! Glad it wrkd out for you. It's literally a matter of life and death that you're there and present.
@@bennybronco76
I'm blessed 🙌 thank you 😊
Kevin isn't lying ladies, I knew my wife for ten days before we got married ( no I didn't knock her up before either) and here we are 13 years later still happily married!
Ten days! You both made a choice to commit to the marriage and you must still make that choice every day. Congratulations!
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Dating a woman with a child makes you feel like a loser. As a man, you dont really feel like "this is my family" ya know..it feels fake. Also, in your heart, you feel like you've failed because you're providing for another man's failure. Maybe another man out there can put it more eloquently but I think you get what I mean.
Interesting and sad at the same time. 😩😩
Wow, I never saw it that way. I was married and gave him a daughter but ended up leaving because it was unhealthy. I'm in a relationship and this makes so much sense, you open my eyes
I view it from this perspective. Taking care of the result of the pleasure of another man... 🤦🤦 . Never .. and probably the guy never did anything and she is putting hurdles and standards for you.....
So does the step children.
Well said...
Dont make a baby with a man you dont want to follow . If you make a baby with him that means you wanted to go his way but then got upset you could not run things thats why you are a single mother . most men dont want to leave there kids they want to leave the women who got out of hand
We will never have this convo
Facts on top of facts.
Basically 100% correct..
Tru
Facts My current situation..... son's mother can't separate me being active and communicating on our son's behalf, mistaking me being cordial with her for a chance at the relationship again!!
Gentlemen, never...NEVER EVER make a woman your number one priority when she can’t or won’t make you hers. Period.
Many of these women have never had a real man tell them the truth: The man you want, is going to judge you on the type of men who you give your WAP to, and that scrutiny will increase further by the type of man you have children with. For those reading this with no children, the kind of man you entertain will have to be explained to your dream guy....choose wisely 💯
I do agree overall that you shouldn't have a baby out of wedlock and it definitely makes things harder, but is the message to single mothers to just not look for high earners? Or if a high earners pursues them push them away ?
John Kaiser yes it's sad and idk why it's a thing ? For so many women and men to be okay with this. If people are going to have sex before marriage birth control is a must. I think I also recently learned the black women have many abortions. So birth control needs to be taken more seriously.
Exactly.....and don’t let any woman tell you differently especially black women.
@@demimiller8437 your situation is rare
Joe new yep that's what I am learning, and I was talking about kevins RUclips channel to some of my friends who have chosen to do down the struggle love path, and it's mainly because they do not want to level up to find a good partner and it's sad. To me. They don't want to lose weight, or even try harder in life to get better dating opportunities. So it's really a African American culture I believe that very few people make it out of, if they were born into it. I had parents from another country with a very high education level and a very moral family. so I would assume that's why my outcome was different.
Some of theses women have babies under 1yrs old and their ready to just find a new man instead of focusing on their child wow. can’t help but feel sorry for the woman who was crying. But Kevin was right and told the harsh reality especially in today society.
It was not always this way, I never knew my brother was my half brother because they gave him my father's last name and his father was out of the picture. My brother got his ass whipped just let me. Single Mothers is a bad deal today because we lost respect for fatherhood. Today you cant whipped step kids and women are talking about not taking their husband last names. To make a man accept a step child changing the last name of step child to your husband is important to the mindset of the husband.
Captain Sisko I do believe being a single mother is a bad deal also. Fathers are especially needed when you have boys. I don’t believe in whipping step kids because their not yours. Anything could happen after they could call the police and it can quickly escalate. When you get married your suppose to take his last name if not why even get married? Theres me thinking my standards are too high, I want to be married before I have kids I’m so glad I found the god fathers channel. I use to think I was asking for too much. I don’t want to be a baby mama or a single this is why I don’t have kids and I’m in my mid 20’s. I didn’t know that a step child changing there last name to the step dads name is important thanx for informing me.
Yes that’s so crazy to me
@@DutchessKay I disagree with changing the child's name. It has to be done through the family court with the permission of the biological father.
@@123pb that is one of the problems of taking on single mothers, Now my mother dis owned my brothers father i dont know if he die or alive. This is the only way for a high value man to accept a child from another man and the child must be under 6 years for it to accept the step father as his or her father .
Being a step father myself! Something I would never do again and a Role I would tell my son’s to avoid with all cost.. and a single mother wouldn’t want their son’s to marry a single mom!
Yes sir, I wouldn’t never ever do that again..
Same here it was a bad experience
Can I ask what made it a bad experience? Was it the children themselves or the mom? Or was it having to deal with the father of the children? I’m not trying to be argumentative I’m just curious.
@@miekaash6831 what makes it a bad experience is everything you have named. I went through this with a woman I was with that has four children. It's just too much to deal with especially with trying to discipline them and having to explain to their father what the issues are and why their children are being disciplined for in our home. It started out with all of the fireworks and I did not meet the children for about 2 weeks and three years later, it became too much to handle because I am just one man and NOT the father of the children.
@@TheGrahamFamily0524what was the problem bro?
This is the real world harm of listening to people like Derrick Jackson and Steve Harvey for years. The sheer amount of delusion on display is frightening.
Even men with a little sense of logic is backing away from this disaster. 3 years ago I saw myself being a dad by my late 20s, entering my late 20s now, I changed my mind.
These women think with a childlike understanding of the world and are so arrogant and so entitled they think we owe them something. Never LOL so hard in my life.
Not even a joke..I think steve harvey did more damage than any other man alive. All feemail talk shows diluted the minds of women everywhere. Girl oprah was just making money off you
Who would listen to Derrick Jackson anyway?
@@Georgia-Red-Mud he did!! Steve harvey is a sold out Illuminati member and he pushed the feminist market bc he was told to it's all to weaken the strong male it's a shame. Men are men and women are women. They are great and do alot of good things but they gotta stop with this feminist bull shit!!!
The delusion is unreal. The girl with two kids 10 years apart by the same guy is living in la la land
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Wrd she already married to dude so she may as well make it official
@@jeromethompson4391 facts
He's a hustler* but with cars.
"It's almost as if you're tied to the baby's father for getting pregnant."
This is the the world we live in.
Duuuhhhhh!!!!!🤦🏿♂️
Why is it that so many women want to be stay at home mothers when only 10 percent of men make 100k per year???
Most women are going to be working in most marriages even after children get it through your heads... If you want the 6 figure man you are requesting then put in the work listen and educate yourself to get him. Even in 2020 the term survival of the fittest still exists. You want something you do what it takes to get it. Fit Feminine and Friendly... No high value man cares about ur PhD its nice but are you cooperative? Are you able to check that mouth and attitude at the door?? Will you submit to your husband and let him lead??? Men are easy but we know what we want and what we are looking for. You can't force a man to invest in something he doesn't want....
They think it’s still the 1950s🤦🏾♂️ 🤷🏾♂️
James Jackson only when it comes to being a “homemaker.” They want all the benefits they can get with none of the effort.
That's just wishful thinking.
Because, they regretted what they did in the 1970s with femininsm crap.
It's natural a women's role but they did themselves there
A lot of women, not all, only want Middle to High-class Black men when they need a clean up man.
FACTS.
Sadly we accept that BS
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@True Blue There's a video on RUclips titled "Would you rather date a doctor or a drug dealer?" It's the sickest video I've ever seen in my life.
@@SplashWaveBeats The fact that's a question says Everything!!!
My biggest takaway from this video is that Kevin is frank, but merciful, concerning the delusion he is confronting. A solid dude.
“Low value men chase and high value men pursue” life lesson there
I'm a woman who made a similar comment on another thread and the men came for me hard saying that there's no difference between chase and pursue. Got me defining terminology and stuff lol
@@CeeceeH1819 there is a big difference in terms of the outcome you are seeking. men who do not have much to offer chase. Men who have higher value do not need to chase, they made their decision and do what it takes to secure it.
@@clmk28 I agree, you stated your point better than me
Cee Cee H - I feel like the difference is a thesaurus
@@clmk28 if they are only pursing him because of his $, he's no high value man.
We live in a society where women think there's nothing wrong with having 3 kids from 3 different men, divorced, overweight, broke and with a bad attitude but yet still think they're high value and also deserve a rich, handsome, muscular, tall man with no kid's who must own a Benz/mansion 😂🚮
@King Chambers 😂🚮
insane right lol
@@JUSTDON34 so insane that it makes me want to vomit for a whole week straight!😫😂
@@JUSTDON34 that's like a crack head with no money thinking he's entitled/deserves a super model chick with money
...and they have to audacity to call a man who wants a fit, healthy woman "shallow".
Came across Mr. Samuels a week ago and have been binging his videos daily. Sad to not have followed him during his life but thankful for the opportunity to learn from him. R. I. P.
“You are a wife before you start dating”
that was a good one and deep down we know its true but just stop believing it.
Many women want the benefits of marriage but don't want to be a wife
Facts
Absolutely True
I just wonder why is it OK for women to say that they don't want a man with kids. But if a man says he doesn't want a woman with kids its an issue?
@KnightsofGbs That's what it seems like. I see/hear women all the time refusing to date baby daddies. And other women give them props for not doing so.
It is
@Kevin Lee women have been given false entitlement by the media, tv shows, movies, and also have been convinced by other women that having a baby is no big deal.
A lot of woman feel entitled. Like they deserve everything without doing anything.
I think you misspelled "all"
@@kronk358 he didn’t say “All” he said feel there is no grammar misspelling into it
@@ms.camillewarrenempress31 you hella slow
They will learned the hard way
I’m still perplexed by the 24 year old single mother with a 10 year old son. Wow. 😳😳😳😳😳😳
When I was in college I dated a girl, we were both 19 and she had a 4/5yr old son.
Crazy.
1990's d boys was getting middle school girls pregnant while in they 20's
@@jizzyb1572 grown men with young teens?
I was so baffled when I recently started watching Pregant at 14 vlogs on RUclips the amount of young girls becoming single moms is real.
@@hughflucas7075 yup if u didn’t get a girl pregnant by 17 a 35 year old man would beat you to the punch 🥊 maybe at 15 90’s dope dealers move fast 💨
What I have noticed is most of these callers are listening to respond and fail to listen to understand. There is power in just listening.
I agree. They are so focused on their response instead of listening to the actual question being asked.
Diarrhea of the mouth, a very common problem in today’s women. They don’t know how to shut up.
@@disapphire haha, lol.
Exactly
It's funny how the females just laugh when confronted with personal accountability.
Well, a lot of people laugh nervously when dealing with things with which they are uncomfortable and unfamiliar...
Crazy that these women are full grown mothers.
Whew you hit the nail on the head with the explanation of being a wife BEFORE marriage and had the Bible to back it UP. You go from one covering to another!
Right , I’m glad he pointed that out! Puts a lot into perspective !
The difference between pursuing and chasing would be a great topic. I think a lot of women are used to being chased by thirsty, weak men, and are confusing that with being pursued by someone who is genuinely interested.
Most men are genuinely interested, in sex
Being pursued or being seduced ?, that’s the real question, men trying to sexual arose them & they think men pursuing them 😒
I must say, I am a single mother of one child. And a LOT of this information did hit some nerves. HOWEVER i must say that with that being said i can very much appreciate the brutal honesty that he provides women. We as women often time do not get this reality check because other women, whether naive themselves or just trying to be accommodating to our fragile ego, and other men who do not wish to hurt our feelings DO NOT give us the non watered down truth of how the world views us. Let this be a message to women who yet do not have any children so as to keep them on a straight path. This is a GREAT video with great valued content.
"because other women, whether naive themselves or just trying to be accommodating to our fragile ego, and other men who do not wish to hurt our feelings DO NOT give us the non watered down truth of how the world views us." very true!
As a man who used to provide those uncomfortable truths to my female friends I stopped when they would get an attitude with me. Some even got an attitude after asking for my input. Kudos to you for being able to accept honesty!
When it comes to a dating a single mother, a woman without kids can do everything a single mother can without the liability of another man's kids.
And given the amount of contraceptives available to women, it's a sign shes either lazy or makes bad decisions
The part about contraceptives is so true and not talked about often enough. As a pharmacist, there are so many options for birth control. Not to mention plan b, which you can use for up to 5 days after unprotected sex. Any single mother, you have to question her character
Correct. In most cases, a single mother doesn't just bring about the issue of dealing with someone else's kids-it's a window into her priorities and decision-making abilities.
@Bolu Oladini yeah that’s wild. I didn’t know that a woman had up to at least 5 days to take a plan b. Besides all of the other types of birth control that women have access to. They even have female condoms. A woman who really doesn’t wanna get pregnant is gonna be on birth control and make the man wear the conform and make sure she’s using 2 forms of contraception, just in case 1 fails. Most of the women on these podcasts seem to be lying. It’s especially a bad look to talk down on your child’s mother or child’s father because sex is a choice. And besides sex being a choice, it’s a choice to impregnate someone or allow him to get you pregnant. It’s sad to see because the kids are the ones who suffer. And if these kids are not told the truth, they often grow up to repeat the cycle
Preach!! I purposely did not date...because I divorced when my child was 3 y/o. I owned a real estate company and noticed there was a rush to marry from men who had NOTHING to contribute. High value men...especially black and hispanic...do not want to raise a child by another. Now that I am much older...high value men that are single want trophies, the younger woman in her 20's or early 30's. Ladies stop sabotaging yourself. If you teach your daughters her worth and how to increase or maximize her value...we won't have babies having babies.
How can a broke man call this woman out??? She is what we need in this world!!!!
@@globalsetdarkpool8276the world needs more single mothers? You’re on the wrong channel
I agree, I was a stepfather and I would absolutely never want to put myself in that situation again. I don’t care how hot the woman is, it doesn’t matter.
What are some of the drama you've experienced as a step father?
So true run away young man Run!!!
I don't know if Kevin touched on this point either, but if a child sees a rotation of different men playing the role of a father/male guardian, it can make the position of a father seem interchangeable and/or easily replicable. Meanwhile, the mother role/position is permanent, regardless of any scenario. This subconsciously can make the father role seem less important and less respectable than the mother role. Just a thought.
Facts. Basically it fucks up children’s minds.
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He don't need to touch on it bcuz if you can see it. Than the rest of us saw it too.
@Jonny Vegas exactly. What’s understood doesn’t need to be explained. Having a baby is a big deal. It’s not like spilling a glass of water and being able to clean it up afterwards. Your child’s father is permanent and vice versa. You cannot treat that person like an ex because they’ll always be in the picture. It’s no longer about you. It’s about the child, even if you don’t feel like dealing with the other parent. But that’s one of the outcomes of making a permanent decision. You can’t just cut the other parent out of the picture when you don’t feel like being bothered with co parenting. 🤷🏾♀️
So true!!!
Just wow @ some of these female callers... I feel really sorry for those young kids/babies who are being raised by these delusional, unrealistic, entitled, and immature mothers. :(
It is the never ending cycle that leaves women wondering why Pookie & RayRay exist. They create them.
@@1beatsbytdot And what makes it worse is that they laugh and act silly on the phone...as if life is all jokes and a game to them. SMH.
@@sabaande the laughter I find very disturbing as well. It's like they're not living with the law of cause and effect in mind. And they have children who need to be brought up the have emotional maturity and self sufficiency.
@@imandalton4227 Exactly!
This is 80 percent of black people walking around. Can't be anything but an underclass with women like these. Brothers have to chalk up this loss to ws and adapt appropriately.
People with no kids and no baggage are for other people with no kids. Point blank period💅🏾
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Preach
I want to give a warm welcome and a loud Thank you to KS for another entertaining show last night. You are changing lives, keep doing all that you do for us. I appreciate you, and you are truly the GodFather of YT ! Shout out to all of the wonderful team players in the chat room and the wonderful callers who give us our endless "Ammunition" in the chat room. I also want to thank all of the commenters in the comment section as well..myself included. Good, bad or indifferent.. KS is the man.
"danger zone is so dangerous because you've seen so much you come into relationships trying to manipulate men" life lesson there.
I was explaining this to my mother the other day how at 35 I'm just learning this and she saw how she didn't show me good examples of what a relationship looks like. I guess she assumed I would just figure it out. Thank you for the info. While I'm not the target audience I have been able to take these lessons and change how I behave and think in the place I am now.
At least you are aware of it now that's what matters💯 there are good books out there that help with understanding and getting prepared for dating and marriage better like "breaking generational curses by Marylin Hickey", "things I wish I'd known before we got married by Gary Chapman", "the language of love by Gary Chapman", "secret of an irresistible woman by Michelle Mckiney Hammond" and doing spiritual healing with the holy spirit really help if we ask God to reveal unresolved hurt or to give us wisdom to prepare for marriage he will help us👍
The "IT" girl never answered a question, she only made statements and PLEASE tell me why no woman understands the LOW value impact that the phrase "I've had my fun" registers in a man's mind.. UNF&$#@ING BELIEVABLE.
It's not that single mothers CAN'T get high value men, it's just not probable. Anything is possible, but not everything is probable. For example, it is possible to get shot in the head and live but the odds are not on your side.
In asking this question, we have to also point out that it depends on the woman's class status as well.
This is very true and relates to me tremendously. I just want to know like if the message to women who are single mothers, is do not expect to get a HVM or don't try too? Or is this more for women who do not have children as a warning ?
@@demimiller8437 Here's the problem with black women. For some odd reason, a regular Joe type of guy isn't good enough...even if she's a low value woman. They don't want the middle class guy who's capable of providing. Nah, she wants what she sees on TV and in the movies. I really don't get this sense of hate that black women have for regular Joe middle class black men, except the indoctrination from the media. Heck, the amount of people within any ethnic group who earns 100k it better is really small. Pursuing only guys who are in the upper echolon of income earners is as silly and a low probability task as a man seeking a virgin.
The Best Investment wow well I am new to listening to these types of shows. I didn't know that there are a large group of women out there not wanting the average guy. I read a study idk if it's true but it says black women are earning a lot more now because so many are getting college degrees which allow them to get high paying jobs, so then they want someone making more.
@@demimiller8437 I've seen those studies and what they leave out is the amount of student loan debt that those women are in for those degrees. Meanwhile, you have a guy who's making $60-70k a year with no debt except a mortgage.
I'm not here to tell women what they should or shouldn't do. I'm just pointing out what's most probable. If they care more about status than doing what works, that's on them.
The Best Investment I wonder what that is about. Right neither am I, I am just observing and learning more about the problems in the black community and wondering what will make it better and why so many make certain decisions. Well thanks for responding so nicely.
30 minutes in and I have already learnt that it's very important for me to push for marriage before I push a baby out of my 🐈.
I am so glad I found this channel because my ears are wide open especially because I am not a mum yet. Standards are very important, I understand 💐
Don't give a man a baby who won't give you the title of wife.
Mele wenze kanjalo .
Even when you get married there still could be a chance he could leave you and you can be a single mother Married or not . Basically I’m saying marriage is not a guarantee but yes be married first .
@@Naturaljass012 Nothing in life is guaranteed, but at least you've tried to give your kids the best start with a stable loving home. Intention matters.
Nobuhle Coco, sis wam, in Msanzi we're also watching this channel. Yes Kevin might speak from an American standpoint but as a young single guy from South Africa, we're taking note...
Kevin,
You are doing a real service to the young black community. If no other epidode you previously aired showed that, I'm confident that this episode sure did. That young mom who broke down in tears represents a large majority. Keep up the good job.
Truly The God Father.
I'm not even a HVM and I don't want to deal with some other man's seed!!
That's called being a sucker. At that point it's not her settling for you it's you settling for her.
No ones lining up to pay another mans debts.
Same here!
When I met my wife, I knew within 3 months I wanted to marry her. I waited a bit just to make sure my financial situation was good before proposing.
This is an awesome topic! My mother always told me “don’t put your hat where your hand can’t reach! I say a lot of women feel entitled to the lifestyle because they feel it’s what they deserve for the pains they’ve been through! Life’s not fair! The majority of single men will not feel comfortable raising another mans child and rightly so! Ladies need to grasp that concept and deal with the harsh realities of life! Is it to say you won’t find a man, of course not! Just not what you’re looking for! School of hard knocks!
I've never heard that saying but im gonna use it
FalaqX my mother’s from Guyana 🇬🇾 and they have a whole lot of sayings like that! Basically meaning stay in your lane! 😂😂
@@naomimitchell8858 just curious, did your mom tell you to stay away from Black Americans? Are Caribbean families like that? I know African families are.
@FalaqX no not at all! We have a lot of American relatives! I have family in Florida, New York, Washington D.C. My dad is Nigerian and he’s never warned me or my sisters of that!
@@naomimitchell8858 We say that in Jamaica too...she is correct!
This girl said "its almost like youre tied to your childs father" like it is new information 🥴🥴🥴 girl. Thats why he is supposed to be your HUSBAND 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
I was dead when I heard that! I was like the nerve! Like you literally want a man to through his life away for nothing! That mind set beyond crazy!
@@vennyi I had to pause and rewind to laugh twice. Pathetic.
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😂😂😂😂😂 i read the comment before i got to that part of the video, i just heard her say that, LMAOO. NEWS FLASH, you have to deal with your childs father forever!
Funniest thing I've heard from a female in a while.
It is remarkable that this man is providing women with extremely valuable guidance and information and they just won't see the picture of reality that he is painting for them.
These women calling Kevin definitely need a man because that smoke detector is always beeping.
😂😂😂😂😂😂 the cats they giving that W. A. P. to not even changing the batteries for them.
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BT1000
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Ha ha ha!
How TF are you 47 with a 5 year old and you got no damn husband????!! 😐😐😐😐
Actually love, she's 49 with a 5 year old and the child's father died. I'm 42 with 3 grown children and 1 granddaughter....I can hardly imagine having a child so small by myself close to 50. I don't hardly want to look at babies at my age. Lol. I'm having fun reading, working, traveling and meeting interesting Individuals.
If you find my comment she actually got on here and responded. Her responses really show how poor her thinking skills are. I couldn’t imagine being almost 50 picking a kid up in kindergarten.
@Ron Hitson I never said they were married...that's on her anyway. I'm done with having children, I was just simply stating that she's 49 and has no help from the father because he's dead supposedly. I don't know her personally, so I can't clarify anything she said one way or the other love.
@@moblack5883 Why don't you add in the fact that my child is a miracle baby. I had no idea I could even get pregnant. If you're gonna tell something, tell it right and tell it in the right context. You're worse than a gossiping woman.
@@earthreign Yes, he died when our son was a year old. Had I known I could get pregnant, I never would've had a baby at that age because of the dangers. But what was I supposed to do? Kill it? No way. I don't care what anyone has to say about it, my son is a miracle and his father is in heaven. And I'm doing just fine raising him alone. Thank you.
Shawty really said “it’s almost like I’m tied to my child’s father forever”
You really can’t make this sh*t up 😂😂😂
Men don’t want a woman with a child that has another man’s face
That 24 year old caller who has a 10 year old probably told her son "he's the man of the house" like SOME single mother do. What smart man wants to complete against a boy child who is man of the house especially when he's expected to bring the table and all the fixings!! NO THANKS!!
That’s always sad to see, a child being told he needs to act as a surrogate father and husband in terms of responsibility. Kids should be able to just be kids.
Exactly. He would be the assistant man to her, sad times.
They are growing up together. He will be more like her lil bro when he is 20 and she is 34.
How he the man when a boy child can't bring home the beacon...that silly shxt!!!
Wow 😳 at 14?
This page would be a million times better if we could see the callers!!
Where’s your picture Jason Rays? Your comment would be so much better if we could see your picture.
Asa Harvey he just wants to see a picture so he can talk about their looks. Kevin’s content is great, even if we can’t see the caller we can still hear what they are saying which is the point.
@@tjandcj123 lol 😆
Every single one of them has heavy breathing and sound like they’re tired after just saying a few words. These women are obese.
The first chick sounds fine😈😈
blame Russel Wilson....all these single mothers think theyre gonna get their own Russ..but none of yall is Ciara...and honestly Russ is a cut better than most men, most of us dont have it in us to love another mans child the way he does his step child.
You also have to pay attention that Ciara got pregnant by Future, he has money to take care of his that child, and Ciara is beautiful, feminine, and she makes good money too.
@@yuranbeltonbanzebanze8080 but Ciara isbitter she tried to sue future for 50 million at one point, she knew he had other kids and you still sleep with him make it make sense ?
I love this 😂😂😂
I had to learn that you are a wife before you are dating. I did not understand it at first, now I do. Pastor RC Blakes said the same thing. Yes Mr. Samuels you are indeed right about this one. I still have a lot to learn and a lot of work myself. Good video.
Thanks.. I wish I learned this sooner
And they talk about men interrupting women. Majority of these women won't shut up and listen.
@LyricalXilence how can a woman say that she wants a man, and refuses to listen to a man? These women want to continue to listen to their homegirls, aunties, sisters, female cousins, grandmama’s, etc.
Even though society encourages dating single mothers as the new norm, thank you for letting the men know that its not wrong for us not wanting to enter that situation.
Hell 30k-50k brothers are not taking those kid deals.😂😂😂
They’re smart not too.
I can attest to this fact. Swiping past online dating profiles, there are men who are working, middle, and even upper middle class stating their preference for women without kids.
Tiffany Pearsall yea sis those step daddy hopes are gone. I hope you are not a baby mama or a single mama. Like women really don’t understand how much of a death sentence having a child without marriage is. Hell I would never seriously date a women with kids when I was broke and I have a child. Like the god father say it’s a 💩y deal. No man with means wants to justify why you with a women with kids.
I don't blame him. He's barely making enough to care for himself.
@D Favors Ok, again, just say that the issue is the baggage that may or may not come along with someone elses child. My problem is judging the woman as low value, especially when everything about her character is of high value. There is a difference between a man not wanting to be a step-dad versus not wanting to be with a low value woman. I mean, you got a lot of low value women who don't even have children just as there are high value women with children. Its all in what you decide isn't right for you.
High value men do not want damaged goods. It's no different then a package of meat being opened at a supermarket. Whereas one customer might say, I will take it If I can get it for half the price. A customer who doesn't see money as a challenge will say, sir my meat is open, can you send someone to get me another package. Not to mention the women who do not know how to take care of their skin while pregnant, and receive multiple stretch marks; even if you are still in shape. A man with options wants to start fresh..
Average men dont want a single mother either
@Cedrick Carson no, i wont pay forothermansbastards
Stretch marks? Don't you know that's a lioness earning her stripes?
Average man don’t either
@@alphapimp0073 facts!!! Average white, Asian and Spanish men aren’t expected to accept a woman who has kids. But somehow black men are supposed to be “ok” with that.
Always support Kevin. THE ONE WHO TALKS ABOUT THINGS NO ONE LIKES TO TALK ABOUT .
Honestly, I'm a CPA and work with plenty of high-value man I only know 1 out of 100s that married a single mom.
I’m a physician, and not one of my colleagues have married a single mother. They’ll rent, but never buy.
The mentality of these women is horrifying.
That is very scary...
After watching this man for the last two days, I’m just sad. Luckily for my daughters, there’s still hope. 😭 Me? Well, that’s up in the air. I failed. I didn’t know I failed until now. 😩
It’s Ight auntie u can date just don’t count on marriage but if it happens, then u won!! Just that simple
@@TJ-100 She can still marriage. Stop with the bull shit this man don’t know what the hell he talking about.
I've seen a lot of women say this is revealing info. I'm shocked are we really not teaching our young women and men that you should be married before having children?
@Raya You got some nerves 🤬
@Raya A National emergency ?
LEAN FORWARD A LITTLE BIT MORE!
Those slaps had me 😂😂😂😂😂
She needed the real ones
Wow! Unreal when I hear this young woman so clueless about the impact of having a child. Being a parent is the most challenging (and rewarding) thing I have ever done. Having a child in the home, especially a teenager, is beyond challenging. It taxes every fiber of your being to be patient, loving, attentive. There were days I didn't think I could do it, and my husband and I did it together. If the child were not mine, no. I wouldn't choose that.
I really appreciate men like this. He has told women the truth something pastors want tell women especially black women. He tells women the raw honest truth most pastors sells women false hope to keep a seat filled & get the 1st lady a trip to Jamaica & a new Benz. I will NEVER be a stepdad. I don’t want a blended family “.
"I was on birth control then I wasn't "...what?????
When trying to 'trap' a man goes horribly wrong.
Rainy Day 😂😂😂
I caught that too. I wondered why Kevin didn’t follow up on that. He let that one slip by.
Basically they were initially using birth control then after being together for a while, they stopped using it.
He was living in his big mommas 💀💀💀
I recently had a little baby girl and my girlfriend left me before she was born and basically cut me off. Didn't even tell me she went into labor, so I missed my first child's birth. Now theres so much more to the story but as far as I can tell her family gave her a lot of influence that she can get a man that she DESERVES to take care of her and our child better than me. Me and the ex (I'm black and shes latina btw) have been together on 13 years and known each other for 15. She has gained weight, had a minor stroke during birth which caused a slight slope on her face with slurred speech, and caused some of her hair to fall out and to me that's beautiful to have these scares from pushing out my child but on the flip side she doesn't realize other men wont see it like that at least of higher value than myself. I'm not saying I'm a 6 figure guy but I'm 5'10'' been in the military for 14 years, in very good shape, got 80k in the bank, and just bought my first house and her, she had to move in with her mother and step father. she makes mask and cups for people online, no schooling, no savings, and really not a whole lot to offer and now has a new born child. At this point I'm just waiting for her bitterness to destroy herself because I've been that guy who goes for single mothers and I knew 100% from the get to I would never marry them.
MrGrimm850 wow what a story and all you black guys want a Latina? They drop you in a heartbeat........
It sounds like she is already bitter because of what happened having the child. She might blame you for it and race may be a factor. I hope you will be very, very active in your child's life to pay attention to how she will be treated. It also sounds like you're hoping she will come back to you after she realizes no one will want her in her state.
Was she also a single mother when you got with her? And you earning 80k meant want that you paid all the bills and mortgage did she not have to work whilst being with you?
@@sarinakarim2513 She was not a single mother, we had our first child together and although we didn't live together I let it know to her that she didn't have to work. She didn't want to work once she had a baby anyway and I was fine with that.
@@MrGrimm550 Yeah so what was the issue why didn't you live with her? What made her leave exactly the internal racism?
I been married 15 years, when I was in the Miltary I saw alot of this play out and it's scary how I made the decisions I made without a father teaching me. I saw the same issues in women in my family and I understand them now, but Kevin is on it point telling yall what HENRY want. Black men that polish themselves are not going for the same compromise of the past.
Young brothers look at the trades choose one that can put you in the 10%. Build your credit, choose a women that was raised by mother and father. Dont raise another man's kids start your own family.
@Jarrod White same. I’m a young woman who has just started watching some of these dudes on RUclips and looking at advice from the perspective of men, especially now that I’m of age and entering into the open dating market. When he describes some of these women on the show, it sounds like he’s describing some of my female family members. It seems like there’s no accountability. I’ve even heard some women say “It’s not like he’s my husband. He’s just my child’s father.” As if that’s not a BIG DEAL?!!! That’s a permanent decision that you can’t reverse! If you don’t like your child’s father, that’s too bad because it’s not about you. It’s about the child. You cannot deal with him like an ex and continue on with your life because he’s the CHILD’S FATHER. It’s dysfunctional. These women’s are putting 100% of the blame on the child’s father and that’s insane. I grew up with my mom and dad. And even though I’ve heard them get into some bad arguments, I’ve never heard my mom say “I’m just gonna pick you up at the school because I don’t wanna deal with your dad” How is it realistic to expect a child to never see their parents in the same room? To never see their parents communicate? All because you don’t wanna “deal with the other parent?!” It’s incredibly selfish and unrealistic. Kids suffer.
As a woman. I will not date a single father. Too many young men who do not have kids are of high value.
You are a smart woman. Use your power wisely.
But problem is Young men will not date u. Lol 🤣😂😂
You got a social media Ms MAria ?
Omg where were you 3 years ago. Thank you for this show, I've taken away great points.
A lot of ladies call into this show just to confirm what successful men with NO kids have already told them.....Thanks, Kevin for this...
when a woman has a child by a man , at that point she needs to submit to him and let him be a leader. too many woman have children and then try to be the boss. then man leaves her . she would have a better life if she just sit down and be humble. even if they not getting along. by leaving her childs father , her value significantly decrease. go back to your childs father please ladies
I agree that for single women with kids, the best thing they can do is just do whatever they have to do to remain with the father. If the father is absent, and they want help with their children, they should seek help from their family. First the parents take care of the child, if both are busy for whatever reason, next in line is family. Not step dad LOL
@jungle jones most women put 100% of the blame on their child’s father. Most of the time, it probably has nothing to do with the child, he just might not wanna deal with her. (Unless he already told her that he didn’t wanna be a father). But most of these women won’t even take accountability for creating a permanent situation. And then they want a clean up man.
🔥 🔥 🔥 tonight!!! You kept it 💯 👏. Taught me that being entitled doesn't earn me anything!!
Yep
I totally agree. When u give up your womb without a ring, say goodbye to a high value man. There’s too many women out here without kids and baby daddy baggage to choose from.
And they never want the man they had the baby with. Like make it make sense!
It amazes me as soon as kids come into play the parents break up. There is no hope. Families will forever be broken.
Because the relationship was built on lust to begin with and not real Love Now a days there is a lot of microwave relationships and superficial people. After listening to this show and reading through these comments it’s frightening we are definitely in the New World Order !
@RonYo yep
Great show! Accountability is key in educating your audience. This is how the real value in relationships can be identified.
Keep pounding the lesson!
Claude Crowder this man is a gem
My heart goes out to the kids ❤️
Yes, brought into a difficult situation, nothing of their own choosing. Quite often these children are made to feel like a burden by the mother.
My biggest takeaway is that young people should see this show in their mid to late teens, hopefully before they make regrettable, permanent decisions with their bodies.
Sexual abstinence need to come back in style
I was in a relationship with a divorced single mum with 3 teenage kids..she broke up with me after 5 years saying I don't appreciate her enough lol..she was bringing 3 kids and an ex husband into the relationship I was bringing myself..she's now in a relationship with a 24year old she is now 40
Wow. Just woooooooooooooow
She must be stunning
@@veganvengeance9271 yeah she is
@@chrisaubrey1950 That makes sense, can't blame her brother, if you got it then might as well live it up
I was 25 dating a 40 year old, it wasn't the best experience, But i had to make that relationship work while the woman did nothing
@@alivegas1012 why? Was she paying and feeding you
Dating women with kids was the biggest waste of my time
I think it’s weird that these women with babies that are only months old are already trying to date again. Priorities a little messed up.
Women who were married and then divorced their spouses after children are borne get no pass from me. Many are no better than the unwed single women in society today. I have seen far too many women divorcing good men thinking the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. They not only destroys their former spouse life, they also destroys the life of children borne into the marriage. The only exception for me would be for a widow.
Thank you for waking the world up! The "date scene "needs conversations like these. This is how we restore life awareness to life decisions and grow in the future.
Why would a single Mother expect to get a high value man? Why cant a single Mother just expect to get the same thing she is offering? If she’s offering high value she gets high value, if she’s offering low value, that’s what she gets. 🤷🏾♂️
You can’t expect to get more than you are worth. Cmon people, wake up.
Jason Emile- she has nothing to offer. A real man (high/med/low) will not be a sucker in the majority of cases.
True
I like this!!!! If I’m a High Value Single Mom I’d love a High Value Single dad. You should be with someone you can build with not bring you down💯 a level playing field, be safe out there fellas❣️
He reminds me of judge Judy lol. This man is tell it like it is and is straight forward. It’s really different hearing things from man perspective.👍🏾👍🏾
Great observation i love judge judy
This is confirming my beliefs . Waiting until marriage .
Lol you were going to sign up before you saw this video
@@anthonyx6618 lol. Is she for real?
@Anthony X streets is finished 😂😂😂