Definitely cuz no one does it these days especially on campus. I even try to make eye contact with women but some of them just roll their eyes when I do it
I guess, its not sexy or aytractive when a guy complains about his life all the time, so internally with high motivation for social contacts, but girls, oh boy) cannot be honest with my feelings when near them. So I decided to work on myself...it could be for ages if I am not stubborn enough
Approached two women last week with the direct "I think you're extremely good-looking, that's all I wanted to say, take care" and walking away. The first girl was super nice about it and thanked me, unfortunately the second girl was extremely off put and yelled at me for a good minute, called me a loser, etc. Luckily there was nobody else around to join her. My biggest take away here is that I got arguably the worst possible reaction and it wasn't the end of the world. That's major progress to getting over approach anxiety.
One of the core principles some coaches teach is letting go of the outcome, where you become indifferent to what happens. Make it all a fun process, talking to girls. Don’t let a toxic girl drag you into her frame. Truth is, you did nothing wrong by giving her a compliment. But, something in your delivery or mindset is off most likely. No big deal. Just keep practicing. Perhaps don’t say “extremely good looking” and just say she looks nice. Or better yet, watch denmo approach and use a more indirect approach like he does. Not like the London guys where they use a canned compliment line each time.
Bro I legit made plans to go to a mall and approach chicks, got haircut and all but the moment it was time to leave I got too nervous and never left. Day's over now but I feel super nervous I haven't spoken to girls outside my gym in over a year, and I don't have any friends so my social anxiety kicked in even before I start
I've been escorted out by mall security for approaching and shooting my shot with girls at the mall before. After a fat old guy berates you for harrasing people at "HIS MALL" it should be a clear sign that you're doing something wrong.
Making friends/ social competency is the NUMBER ONE most important thing. If you can't do that, working out, self-improvement, income, everything else is useless. Being autistic/aespergers/neuroatypical/having a personality disorder is a death sentence that self-improvement content creators neglect which is a shame considering a large number of people who consume this content probably fall into that camp.
Absolutely. This is the problem that no one is addressing. Men who have no social network or who have Asperger's syndrome always wind up incels even if they're attractive. I happen to be one of those guys.
50 years old, no friends, no job, no social circle but I do have Asperger's so yay. Hermit-life for me. I can barely buy groceries. Haven't been more than a half mile form my house in a year. I'm pretty easy on the eye too but I may as well be 10 stone over weight and covered in acne.
true, I think I might have aespergers. All my life was thinking that every one are weird when they acted on and took emotions into count when making decision. Don't understand how people make conversation about topics that they don't care about, didn't make any sense to me. Turned out, that I'm the weird one😂. It is hard to talk to strangers, because I don't care about what they have to say. We have noting common. It take me about year to make a friend, don't really get how I even got mine😅I don't even contact them, same with my family members. I might call closest ones in 2-3 months if I haven't seen them. Now when I know about aespergers, I try to make more initiative to meet them.
Develop your social skills by interacting with more women. Always look back on your interactions and figure out what you're doing wrong, and where u can improve on.
There are cultural differences to consider as well. US/Canada culture is quite extroverted, but for example Northern Europe (Finland, Sweden etc.) is extremely introverted. People literally never talk to strangers, approaching girls is considered extremely creepy. The men there almost never approach women. However, there is a flip side to that, some girls do like getting approached (because they never do get approached so you really do stick out) and then it is usually foreign guys who snatch up many women because they have a different mindset. Literally all Finnish and Swedish women I personally know have a foreign boyfriend/husband.
This right here! I live in Iceland and girls absolutely do not want to be cold approached. Warm approach or Tinder only. I don't think Denmo realizes that Americans are exceptionally extroverted compared to many European cultures. Which is why I like to strike up conversations with American tourists that come here. They're mostly always up for quick chat while Germans tourists I've met for example are closed books, avoidant and answer in single words to questions.
okey ı'm coming finland ahahahah. bro you have really sweet girls in finland/sweden. ı'm in turkey and me and my friends just approaching girls for fun and they're not even good looking but we still approach to them. because we really sick off the waiting for repond on dm or tinder ect. you have to make it normal to approaching girls on street or coffe shops. believe me if you and your friends start to doing that it's gonna become more normal thing in 1 or 2 years and people are gonna used to it. I think ı don't have to say you should work on your career,apperance,social skills and lifestyle after this video
@@grettirgrattmards2348 in Brazil cold approach is rule! I think that north americans, latin-americans and southern europeans are more extrovert than other cultures (At least that’s what I experienced)
The downward spiral after rejection is real. I had about 3 or 4 attractive women approach me when I was 21 but as I got older and got rejected more you start to just get creepier and creepier. I mean being less attractive is also considered creepier it's unfortunate but true, but my behavior has also changed into a self fulfilling prophecy. This further compounds the issue. Your body might even start expressing uglier characteristics from your mind thinking that all the time.
The trick to socializing is unlearning and letting go. Every rejection spikes fear, fear creates tension, tension is unnerving. It’s all a mental game. Let go of it all, let your body and voice relax. Don’t try to look cool, don’t assume you look weird. Just be real.
"your body might even start expressing uglier characteristics from your mind thinking that all the time" SO TRUE! Self fulfilling prophecies are real. We have to be careful about what we think.
@@wolfgangmozart888 Got caught up in a few of the self fulfilling prophecies in my early 20's and now I'm trying to recover mentally. Hopefully I can fix this before 30 and accomplish something.
>see hot girl at gym >she is about to to abs crunch >i go to the machine next to her ask if theres room to workout next to her >she says nothing, doesnt look at me, finishes her set and leaves this is what having autism is like
To be fair bro the gym can be the worst place to approach. I know for myself personally when I’m at the gym I’m all business, in and out. I’m not there to make new friends or pick up chicks now if that naturally occurs then fine but it’s not the reason most people are there. Trying to force something like that in that environment will usually end badly but don’t let that stop you from talking to girls other places. Most women are on guard at the gym anyways trying to catch and accuse dudes of staring 😂
So glad I followed you bro. Really put a more positive light into these topics compared to most these dating coaches. Brings the right energy and message.
6:40 I have, no joke, seen clips of women freaking out cuz a guy tried to talk to them. It’s rare, but it does happen. That said, the message to take away is that you shouldn’t worry about being perceived as creepy if you’re confident in yourself that what you’re doing is not creepy. Think logically. Should a reasonable person feel unsafe because you tried to talk to them while waiting for the bus (as an example)? Don’t psych yourself out because there are rare mentally unwell women out there. If you ever encounter it, just leave. It’s that easy. If you leave or back off the moment she rejects, you’re not being a creep. And if she’s a dick about you acting like a normal well adjusted social person, it’s her that’s being anti-social, and you shouldn’t care what she thinks, just move on.
it’s getting worse as a teen because the confidence thing ofc doesn’t work with all girls online because nowadays if ur 16,17,18 all girls are on snap and insta and all that and they get constant validation from everywhere. it’s easy to stand out and ofc not everyone is going to like u. it can be draining trying to do all the internet bs. i prefer talking irl which is why i try to set up a time to meet up and understandably most of them think that’s weird. this will not work for my generation, things will change for the worst unfortunately.
Love the way you lay out all the basic principles and pitfalls to avoid. Personally late to the dating game due to some bad personal circumstances, but your advice and demonstrations are giving me lots of valuable info for avoiding problems down the line. Thanks for your work.
What helped me: stop being worried about being creepy. Just normal reaction. The more you are in those uncomfortable situations talking to girls you like the more you feel relaxed
I embrace being creepy. Some women actually like that and those are the women I go for because they are freaks in bed. There are two kinds of creepy the weak, timid, scared type and the serial killer type and many women have a thing for the latter. It's worked for me when I stare and give them a smile the joker would be proud of. If you're confident about being creepy it could actually work.
It’s all about letting go. Don’t try to look cool, don’t be afraid of being creepy, don’t assume you’re being weird. Just be real. Be the real you, let go of all that tension and worry. That is literally the only wall in your way. It’s not about confidence, the perfect thing to says to say. It’s just letting go and speaking. When your mind is elsewhere it’s hard to find things to say. Just focus on the conversation. Bring yourself to it. Not a facade, because those are hard to maintain.
@@wolfgangmozart888 they are usually super hot bisexual goth chicks that dress in black and like to watch horror movies with me. It's perfect. Even serial killers in prison get love letters and marriage proposals from women because that dangerous type of creepy attracts some fucked up girls. They are the best lays ever. I'm also a musician so that also helps.
The issue I have is that I hear many of my female co-workers who complain about all the guys who hit on them. I also see women on the internet writing about how they don’t want to be approached in public and make an effort to make themselves look unapproachable so strange men don’t talk to them. Just seeing this makes me not want to try at all, because I don’t want to be that “weird guy” approaching them. I guess the only way that it is acceptable to meet women is in social situations where you both happen to be at the same gathering, through mutual friends, or online.
Facts. Girls today want to be in full control of how and when men approach them. There's a time and a place for everything. Loads of videos on RUclips already with street interviews where a guy asks random girls how and when they'd like to be approached. Most common thing you hear is "at the bar or club when im out" but most will rather answer where NOT to approach them and that list is so fucking long I couldn't fit half of it in a RUclips comment. Here are some examples where to NOT approach girls: *In the gym *at the grocery store *when she's walking her dog *when she's working *when she has headphones in *when she's with friends *when she's with her parents *when she's on campus walking to class *when she's shopping *when she's browsing for books *when she's doing errands *when she's not in full makeup *when she's not dressed up *when she's waiting in a waiting room (at the DMV for example) I could go on. Some of these I can see their point of view, others are kinda silly.
I appreciate the positive vibes, coming from a guy that also approaches real women in the real world very often, generally speaking women aren't attracted to guys who ain't getting none, they tend to go after guys who are already smashing, they have a sixth sense for it and it is a death sentence if they are ever convinced no ones checking for u, here's the thing, u don't actually have to have a woman but u make d&&m sure she doesn't know that, its like poker. Other thing is u cant worry about being creepy, if ur not their kind of hot ur automatically gonna get judged harsher, some of them will be gentle but most have huge ego's just how it is. Some will crucify you and think nothing of it, if I could give advice to a random guy, I'd say have a friend whose good w/women who goes with you at first so u can get feedback that'll keep u leveled out during the process so u dont chicken out or get jaded, going lone wolf style is hard cause you will feel quite low at times, sometimes u will feel like you're on top of the world and u wont be able to contain your joy. There's nothing like that green light u get from a chick that is 100% down.
Yeah my mindset is that, and I will forever hate and resent how reality has to be, is that guy's or men are the only gender or the only sex that have to mess up or screw up or embarrass themselves, when it comes to getting better at or learning how to talk to and successfully interacting with the opposite sex. And that means unfortunately easily risky or sadly even accidentally making the woman or making women feel uncomfortable or creeping them out, which can easily make guys or men feel like a social retard, feel very stupid and dumb. And unfortunately a lot of guys can easily have interactions go horribly wrong or horribly bad in which they do get labeled creepy or weird, like I mentioned above, which can forever leave a permanent mental emotional scar on the guys psyche, even if a guy does manage to become better with women and he does improve his dating life, he does get his dream woman, ends up sleeping with a lot of attractive women, or ends up becoming up hardcore Casanova or womanizer. The scars or wounds from those horrible or awkward interactions gone horribly negatively wrong will forever permanently be in the guys mind and memory forever, the pain from those negative experiences will never go away. Yeah the way I look at nature and reality now is that the world or nature doesn't care if a guy never gets laid or never find love, but nature and reality is the opposite like that for women.
@Denmo, I just got done watching this video. You have encouraged me to change my mind. Things haven’t been easy for me this year, yes I feel I am a very social person. It’s just very limited down for me being only 19 years old, like I would be more than happy to go try to talk to a few women at the bar even those who have boyfriends just for the hell of it. But unfortunately I can’t because of the age, I would go out and try to join a club of hobbies I am interested in but I have a very busy life with me being in Trade and work outside of that. I also think the weather makes a significant difference like if it’s cold and shitty outside, that also makes my mood like that because I noticed when it was beautiful outside. I talked to 3 beautiful girls in one day without a single care in the world, most likely Seasonal Effect Disorder. I have a gym membership and workout at least 2-3 times a week, I work at my local grocery store. But will get a different job as a Welder with me being in Trade School. In the meantime, there is a place for people my age to hang out and meet people so sometime I am going to go down there and put myself out there. I will say I have very bad habits of reading and watching all those videos and articles, of why men don’t approach women anymore or why they don’t talk to them at work anymore. I will say that is a very awful and degrading habit that I have and it’s very hard to break, but I am doing the best I can. Sometimes things haven’t been easy for me, but I am really trying my best. I did actually manage to get one girl to actually go on a date with me this year, but she liked me for a week and that being my first time. That really hit me like a Train I don't think that helped either. It just made me feel really shitty for a long time that I managed a woman to like me for a week then wanted nothing to do with me, so that kind of fueled the fire for me. But I finally got back up like a week ago. Anyways, in regard to this I will try to keep my hopes up and keep trying. Thank you and have a nice day.
I approach women a lot. I have a..."You've got nothing to lose" mentally. It's not creepy. They feel very comfortable around me... For a while... Until they realize that I'm a pretty talkative and laid back person. They get turned off pretty fast when I give them too much attention and stuff. Most of the times when I'm around women in a room especially if it's super quiet... I feel very weirded out and uncomfortable, so I'll start conversations to be comfortable. So in my case it's not being creepy... It's being too laid back and talkative. I have a girlfriend already so I don't come across being thirsty and stuff so that's why sometimes although I talk a lot, they get engaged in the Convo. Literally... my girlfriend said that before we got together, she didn't talk to me for a bit because I talked too much 😂 well we know how that went. She gave into it, found me hilarious and great to be around and now we're together 3yrs now. So maybe it's not such a bad thing.
Oh come on, seriously?? we're in 2023 and still there are such dudes who's spreading this ultradebunked shit? Men, listen to me: Love is for the beautiful. All the other take compromise, yeah, you get a GF bua a what cost? What tipe of girl she is? How much do you put effort in getting and keeping her? What does she put on the plate? Is she's still flirting with chads? I don't know, I really thought we got rid of such shit nowdays.
@@chriswanderer138 Yeah I agree I like Hamza but it's such bad advice to tell men to avoid women because then you end up successful with no bitches because you have no game and no experience. You can be the biggest Chad ever with high status but women are not just gonna approach you. You have to make a move regardless of your status in life. Unless you're like a celebrity or billionaire or something.
In India, all men are treated like shit. Which is why most of the men don't even work on self-improving themselves. Also in India dating is dead, i don't think it even existed. Which is why you cant even approach a women and try to become friends with them. Even making friendship with women is considered creepy.
Indian girls are on another level of hypergamous feministic high horse from my observations. From what I've seen most think dating an Indian guy is beneath them and want a tall white guy for vanity and status.
@@Military.FutureUrbanCamo Yeah but in different cultures there's different ways to go about it. In India it's a lot easier to meet women in college, working, or through family members. Also the possibility of arranged marriage means pretty much anyone can find someone. In the rich parts of India, you can probabyly go to bars and clubs and talk to women you don't know. Taking to randos in India isn't recommended because people think you're either trying to scam them or stall them enough to pickpocket them. The culture is just different and not conducive to cold approaching.
@Prmatst well, it varies on the person who we can be attractive to, there's more to attraction than looks, you can be a really good looking attractive guy but if you act like a creep no girl is going to want to stay around you for long.
"creepiness" is a female construct (that admittedly is happily augmented by unhappy / envious men..), so men talking to other men about what constitutes "creepiness" is utterly pointless and completely useless in practice. Essentially the only thing that constitutes acceptance of the opposite sex for most modern women is either romantic attraction or completely safe friendship (ie there is a totally clear understanding and acceptance on both sides that that is the case - push that boundary and see how well it goes for you). The only complexity comes when apparent friendship based on either or both you having partners can clearly be jeapordised by infidelity (ie it wasn't strictly platonic, probably to begin with). Women have created this environment due to insecurities, societal norms, biological selection and bad parenting (largely). From a male POV (and this is specifically directed at very ordinary men that have experienced a lot of rejection - that is your empirical foundation) the best course of action is basic realism: there will be lots of rejection; finding a great girlfriend or wife will be akin to winning the lottery; compromising on looks will massively increase your chances (but won't guarantee anything); things only get harder and less likely with age; you may just find a greater sense of happiness being single. And there's absolutely no shame in that. Bottom line: don't lose sleep about a construct designed by and for women. Live in your own construct, primarily. Learn how to be alone. Remember most relationships are 15% happiness at best - relationships are a constant test, they constantly ask questions of you, they are more limiting than you might ever imagine and most of the apparently "great" by-products fizzle away after a year or so (sometimes even less time than that). A single life can get closer to 50% happiness.
Your videos are great man! My confidence is growing and my ability to talk to strangers and have good conversations is getting better because you’ve helped my mindset. I’m glad I found your channel, keep up the good work
Girls like it when you do it right, most guys are scared to talk to girls these days, and when they do, they do it wrong lol. Even half of these famous youtube PUA's suck. Don't try to open with a reason to talk to her like "Excuse me, where's McDonalds, thanks... oh by the way you're cute" and also don't do it like "Excuse me, I wanted to say your cute, handshake" - that seems ok and could work sometimes, but it makes it feel like it puts the girl into Protection Mode, with a "oh thanks, i have a bf" auto-response lol. I been doing it like Jack and it's better, talk to them like you already know them. Instead of "excuse me, sorry to bother you but your cute" which puts them on the spot. I think that opens it into a "professional courtesy" type of talk, which keeps you at that level. Just say "Yo, red shirt, come here I gotta tell you something.. your cute, sup :P.. ". I think that way you're undercutting the generic formal "niceties" that might feel not genuine. This direct way they feel they're seeing your true self, which is making a direct connection from the start. - In my experience, all it takes is a strong Jack style approach, and they help you keep the interaction going. Example - Last week seen a very cute girl at a club, instead of a formal approach, I just stood next to her and pointed at some trippy lightshow visuals, looked at her and strongly said "Damn, this shit would be awesome on mushrooms huh! :P" She laughed and said totally, boom, she hung out with me for 30 minutes and followed me when i left her group. I wouldn't even call that an "approach", it wasn't a thing I thought about and planned, just looked at her and said what i was thinking lol. Be social and kinda treat the girls like friends that you "MIGHT" be interested in, it'll make her wonder and the interested ones will chase you. Makes it much easier IMHO
I approach a girl yesterday for the first time after watching your videos and I was so Confidence and I succeed🤣🤣🤣🔥, I'm on a role now to approach girls everytime to be more Confident, thanks man
I saw this comment from another video: ''A man of today has to work 10 x as hard as grandad had to for a women 20 x less than grandmom!'' The problem is women always have a better option, no matter how hard you work! You become a king and when you fall of your throne she most likely will find a new king! That is the definition of Hypergamy!
Around 4 minutes, IDK what you are talking about... you either lost me or lost your own train of thought. What does being a weird guy have to do with women being capable of handling creepy people? I don't know man you are becoming very controversial
Something that I once read or heard on some pick up artist video or subreddit or something is that you can and should practice talking to anyone. Not just cute girls. Chat up the cashier, the old lady at the bus stop, whoever. Have fun with it. You go over something along these lines in your vid “How to never run out of things to say to girls”, that you need to stop the dopamine drip so that you find enjoyment in simply living. And I want to add to that that the dopamine drip *kills* curiosity. And having conversations with people is easy when you’re genuinely curious, and see the people around you going through their lives as well.
I drew my Snapchat code on my receipt for the waitress and left my number just in case it didn’t work. It worked, she texted me the next day but I failed spectacularly 😅😂. But it worked!
@@Billy23562 you gotta be direct because eventually if u don’t you’ll be that guy friend she can fall back to for psychological support like ur her therapist lol 😂 fuck that man
I'm sure a lot of Melvins are gonna have a hard time accepting what you're saying here, but there's a lot of truth to it. Some tend to think that girls finding unattractive guys creepy is a double standard, but if something is off-putting, then people want to avoid it. I don't blame women for wanting to avoid men who they find odd, and if you clearly lack inner confidence, why should *they* feel confident about you? Great stuff as always, Jack.
The moral of the story is, this summer, get rid of your dopamine addiction. Me included. I promised myself and made a list of activities I'll be doing this spring/summer. By the time next winter rolls in, I won't be on these areas.
What if I’m a huskier gentleman with an Amazon driver job that makes somewhat decent salary and has a small friend group, should I still work on approaching women while simultaneously improving my circumstances, but just not expect anything to escalate further until I have? I mean I have had successful interactions with women in the past couple days
I like that point you made about how people go to the internet for their dopamine fix when you got to think that it started and was created in the real world. So many people are distracted by social media, video games and stuff for some dopamine hits when they need to get out or start lifting weights or something.
Calling me out when you described staring at girls when they’re not looking and then looking away. I always hesitate just long enough that I feel like I’m already creepy and now I can’t approach them.
When I was in high school, I used to be self-assured. I have become more of a shy person now. I'm unemployed and just want to end my life because many people find me to be strange and creepy at work.
Hey man, it’s going to be okay. I’m sure you’re just in your own head. Anxiety often leads to false delusions. The best thing about being at the bottom is that there is no other place to go than up! Much love my man, you got this
I am spending time mostly outside(alone) but I feel irritated if someone talks to me when I am in park, in nature and etc. But not freaking out, I understand that humans are social creatures. Man, idk why I watch these videos.
They want you to think it's creepy so that everyone only does online dating, they can keep raking in cash and women can continue to only pick the top 1% on the apps (and why wouldn't they if given then option). Crazy
Depends how you approach them. It is if you're a stranger randomly showing up to 'put moves' on them. First, because you don't know anything about them, and they know nothing about you. Second, they hear compliments from thirsty guys a million times a day. Better to actually get to know them by involving yourself in hobbies/work situations where you do have something to talk about, and through familiarity flirt through banter. In other words, treat them like a human and actually get to know them.
I'm 6'3" 225 in shape and good looking. I've always been successful with women overall, but just recently started cold approaching. All of the women so far have been receptive and I got a few numbers. Getting defeated tho because even though I got the numbers and we've have texted a few times, I'm getting ghosted. I'm beginning to think that these women weren't single when I got their numbers.
So what do I do if I stutter for real like I have it. It’s hard to heard that stuttering is bad when flirting or talking to someone when you have it without being anxious or nervous
I wouldn't say I'm creepy but I say my biggest problem is eye contact. I'm trying to catch myself and be more aware because I tend to look off or look at people's faces in general instead of directly in their eyes
In the past I would rarely go out, only to the gym where I never talked to anyone or once every two months with friends where I never talked to anyone but them. Changing that now and gonna start being social alone and hopefully can talk to a nice girl but if not that's cool too 💪💪
Agreed 💪. the one caviot as one dating coach to another, people complaining online or worrying online. Reality is a lot different if you actually interact with it. Makes it a lot easier to have a strong frame of reality. Men get bunched up into a bunch of tribes with no real world experience with women let alone people because the idea of rejection is terrifying. Creating false realities getting reinforced by the group dynamic. The blind leading the blind.
the best thing i found out for me is when you just feel comfortable in your own skin. like leaning back in your own living room and enjoying the moment. in the real world it can be anywhere. be it in a café, in a bar or in the queue in the middle of a supermarket. if you respect yourself, love yourself, pay attention to your clothes, what does your figure and generally things that put a smile on your face, you develop in the same breath in a natural way and white an attraction that the ladies world out there and usually makes you appear attractive in their eyes. so it's all about your own well-being.
Bro! When you mentioned "difference in value" - this really hit me hard because I see it all the time. Can you expand on this a bit more, how do you shift that value perception besides the usual body language, confidence, physical shape etc?
Do you feel creepy when you approach girls?
No if I do it regularly. I need to stop being online.
@@kku6857 well said
Definitely cuz no one does it these days especially on campus. I even try to make eye contact with women but some of them just roll their eyes when I do it
I guess, its not sexy or aytractive when a guy complains about his life all the time, so internally with high motivation for social contacts, but girls, oh boy) cannot be honest with my feelings when near them. So I decided to work on myself...it could be for ages if I am not stubborn enough
No it's the natural way
Approached two women last week with the direct "I think you're extremely good-looking, that's all I wanted to say, take care" and walking away. The first girl was super nice about it and thanked me, unfortunately the second girl was extremely off put and yelled at me for a good minute, called me a loser, etc. Luckily there was nobody else around to join her. My biggest take away here is that I got arguably the worst possible reaction and it wasn't the end of the world. That's major progress to getting over approach anxiety.
“The worst she can say is no”
Props yo you, man. I'm still trying yo do It. I get nervous, so i started by complimenting men in a non sexual way, of course. We are gonna make it
Sounds like she had self esteem issues. The second one.
second chick has major issues
One of the core principles some coaches teach is letting go of the outcome, where you become indifferent to what happens. Make it all a fun process, talking to girls. Don’t let a toxic girl drag you into her frame.
Truth is, you did nothing wrong by giving her a compliment. But, something in your delivery or mindset is off most likely. No big deal. Just keep practicing.
Perhaps don’t say “extremely good looking” and just say she looks nice. Or better yet, watch denmo approach and use a more indirect approach like he does. Not like the London guys where they use a canned compliment line each time.
You’re the best Denma
10:03 I do this a lot, as I am on the autism spectrum and have a lot of trouble holding eye contact
I always think of that scene in Donnie Darko with Seth Rogan. Truly creeepy
The fucking doom music ☠️🤣🤣
Bro I legit made plans to go to a mall and approach chicks, got haircut and all but the moment it was time to leave I got too nervous and never left. Day's over now but I feel super nervous I haven't spoken to girls outside my gym in over a year, and I don't have any friends so my social anxiety kicked in even before I start
bro you in the discord? Our balls will fire you up. We got dudes posting W's everywhere lol
I've been escorted out by mall security for approaching and shooting my shot with girls at the mall before.
After a fat old guy berates you for harrasing people at "HIS MALL" it should be a clear sign that you're doing something wrong.
@@grettirgrattmards2348 wtf
Try again and redeem yourself ,you got this bro
Step 1: make friends
Step 2: gain charisma
Step 3: approach women.
You can get friends anywhere especially with something that involves a hobby
Making friends/ social competency is the NUMBER ONE most important thing. If you can't do that, working out, self-improvement, income, everything else is useless. Being autistic/aespergers/neuroatypical/having a personality disorder is a death sentence that self-improvement content creators neglect which is a shame considering a large number of people who consume this content probably fall into that camp.
Absolutely. This is the problem that no one is addressing. Men who have no social network or who have Asperger's syndrome always wind up incels even if they're attractive. I happen to be one of those guys.
50 years old, no friends, no job, no social circle but I do have Asperger's so yay. Hermit-life for me. I can barely buy groceries. Haven't been more than a half mile form my house in a year. I'm pretty easy on the eye too but I may as well be 10 stone over weight and covered in acne.
true, I think I might have aespergers. All my life was thinking that every one are weird when they acted on and took emotions into count when making decision. Don't understand how people make conversation about topics that they don't care about, didn't make any sense to me. Turned out, that I'm the weird one😂. It is hard to talk to strangers, because I don't care about what they have to say. We have noting common. It take me about year to make a friend, don't really get how I even got mine😅I don't even contact them, same with my family members. I might call closest ones in 2-3 months if I haven't seen them. Now when I know about aespergers, I try to make more initiative to meet them.
@@donnyramay2635same lol it’s borderline pointless
@@donnyramay2635yea and I’m also Latino brown idk i feel that has added to some of my rejections idk how to fix that
Please never change these Melvin Vs Chad intros.
lmao you like those eh
Nah these intros r shit older was better the reason I stopped watching other ytber is coz of these type of intros
@@Denmosocialdo change em . Too much dopamine.
dude memes are gold, i dare you to skip a meme scene in the future
@@Denmosocialthey’re hilarious 😂😂😂
STOP APPROACHING. YALL DESTROYING THE MARKET.
Develop your social skills by interacting with more women. Always look back on your interactions and figure out what you're doing wrong, and where u can improve on.
There are cultural differences to consider as well. US/Canada culture is quite extroverted, but for example Northern Europe (Finland, Sweden etc.) is extremely introverted. People literally never talk to strangers, approaching girls is considered extremely creepy. The men there almost never approach women. However, there is a flip side to that, some girls do like getting approached (because they never do get approached so you really do stick out) and then it is usually foreign guys who snatch up many women because they have a different mindset. Literally all Finnish and Swedish women I personally know have a foreign boyfriend/husband.
This right here! I live in Iceland and girls absolutely do not want to be cold approached. Warm approach or Tinder only.
I don't think Denmo realizes that Americans are exceptionally extroverted compared to many European cultures.
Which is why I like to strike up conversations with American tourists that come here. They're mostly always up for quick chat while Germans tourists I've met for example are closed books, avoidant and answer in single words to questions.
Yes, daygame would be odd even in Western EU - Germany, Austria etc. But bars and nightclubs are a possibility
okey ı'm coming finland ahahahah. bro you have really sweet girls in finland/sweden. ı'm in turkey and me and my friends just approaching girls for fun and they're not even good looking but we still approach to them. because we really sick off the waiting for repond on dm or tinder ect. you have to make it normal to approaching girls on street or coffe shops. believe me if you and your friends start to doing that it's gonna become more normal thing in 1 or 2 years and people are gonna used to it. I think ı don't have to say you should work on your career,apperance,social skills and lifestyle after this video
@@grettirgrattmards2348 in Brazil cold approach is rule! I think that north americans, latin-americans and southern europeans are more extrovert than other cultures (At least that’s what I experienced)
I’ve was thinking what social life is like in scandinavia, I think my expectations were right.
The downward spiral after rejection is real. I had about 3 or 4 attractive women approach me when I was 21 but as I got older and got rejected more you start to just get creepier and creepier. I mean being less attractive is also considered creepier it's unfortunate but true, but my behavior has also changed into a self fulfilling prophecy. This further compounds the issue. Your body might even start expressing uglier characteristics from your mind thinking that all the time.
The trick to socializing is unlearning and letting go. Every rejection spikes fear, fear creates tension, tension is unnerving.
It’s all a mental game. Let go of it all, let your body and voice relax. Don’t try to look cool, don’t assume you look weird. Just be real.
"your body might even start expressing uglier characteristics from your mind thinking that all the time" SO TRUE! Self fulfilling prophecies are real. We have to be careful about what we think.
@@ren1643awesome advice!
@@wolfgangmozart888 Got caught up in a few of the self fulfilling prophecies in my early 20's and now I'm trying to recover mentally. Hopefully I can fix this before 30 and accomplish something.
@@thealiminop7571 facts
>see hot girl at gym
>she is about to to abs crunch
>i go to the machine next to her ask if theres room to workout next to her
>she says nothing, doesnt look at me, finishes her set and leaves
this is what having autism is like
To be fair bro the gym can be the worst place to approach. I know for myself personally when I’m at the gym I’m all business, in and out. I’m not there to make new friends or pick up chicks now if that naturally occurs then fine but it’s not the reason most people are there. Trying to force something like that in that environment will usually end badly but don’t let that stop you from talking to girls other places. Most women are on guard at the gym anyways trying to catch and accuse dudes of staring 😂
So glad I followed you bro. Really put a more positive light into these topics compared to most these dating coaches. Brings the right energy and message.
appreciate that bro. If it helps you then share it with your mates
I'm 6"4 and good looking but petrified of approaching women.
I'm going to join the discord and solve this issue.
dawg just go do it. The noyl way to lose that fear and get better at it is by simply approaching more women often
lots of dudes like this. incels hate the idea this exists
If you've got the added bonus of being high statis, rich and ripped, you're pretty much a Chad and can do whatever you want.
Try ultimate man project you need good outter game
@@Denmosocialkinda of he already has the foot-on-the-door but refuses to enters it.
Looks like the algorithm didn't like this one video
this video isnt out yet bro ;)
Oh ok, I see
How tf did he comment
lmfao how did u get the link?
how tf he get the link
6:40 I have, no joke, seen clips of women freaking out cuz a guy tried to talk to them. It’s rare, but it does happen.
That said, the message to take away is that you shouldn’t worry about being perceived as creepy if you’re confident in yourself that what you’re doing is not creepy. Think logically. Should a reasonable person feel unsafe because you tried to talk to them while waiting for the bus (as an example)? Don’t psych yourself out because there are rare mentally unwell women out there. If you ever encounter it, just leave. It’s that easy. If you leave or back off the moment she rejects, you’re not being a creep. And if she’s a dick about you acting like a normal well adjusted social person, it’s her that’s being anti-social, and you shouldn’t care what she thinks, just move on.
id rather be a creep than a loner. Change my mind
facts
fair enough
- sigma rule
I'd rather be a loner.
@@danjenkins21 Me too.
"Like a FUCKING Melvin"
After working with a piece of shit who's name is Melvin, this is perfect
hahahaha
it’s getting worse as a teen because the confidence thing ofc doesn’t work with all girls online because nowadays if ur 16,17,18 all girls are on snap and insta and all that and they get constant validation from everywhere. it’s easy to stand out and ofc not everyone is going to like u. it can be draining trying to do all the internet bs. i prefer talking irl which is why i try to set up a time to meet up and understandably most of them think that’s weird. this will not work for my generation, things will change for the worst unfortunately.
women prefer older guys
My uncle is 5’3” and is the coolest cat. I should pick his brain and publish that shit before we completely lose his generation
This guys animations are fucking hilarious
if you like this share it with your mates lmao
Love the way you lay out all the basic principles and pitfalls to avoid. Personally late to the dating game due to some bad personal circumstances, but your advice and demonstrations are giving me lots of valuable info for avoiding problems down the line. Thanks for your work.
no worries bro. See you in the discord!
approaching girls isn't creepy it's how you approach them.
Girls just say its creepy to keep the betas at bay. Shit test.
You see lads the only way to get a girl is too… approach her at some point
The higher up a man puts a female on a pedestal, the farther down she has to look to see the man.
“Morph into a cockroach” I love it😂
lmao dont you hate when that happens
I'm cockroach niiiick!
Maybe idk
What helped me: stop being worried about being creepy. Just normal reaction. The more you are in those uncomfortable situations talking to girls you like the more you feel relaxed
I embrace being creepy. Some women actually like that and those are the women I go for because they are freaks in bed. There are two kinds of creepy the weak, timid, scared type and the serial killer type and many women have a thing for the latter. It's worked for me when I stare and give them a smile the joker would be proud of. If you're confident about being creepy it could actually work.
It’s all about letting go. Don’t try to look cool, don’t be afraid of being creepy, don’t assume you’re being weird. Just be real.
Be the real you, let go of all that tension and worry. That is literally the only wall in your way. It’s not about confidence, the perfect thing to says to say. It’s just letting go and speaking.
When your mind is elsewhere it’s hard to find things to say. Just focus on the conversation. Bring yourself to it. Not a facade, because those are hard to maintain.
@@joshuaortiz2031lol that's curious. How do these women look like?
@@wolfgangmozart888 they are usually super hot bisexual goth chicks that dress in black and like to watch horror movies with me. It's perfect. Even serial killers in prison get love letters and marriage proposals from women because that dangerous type of creepy attracts some fucked up girls. They are the best lays ever. I'm also a musician so that also helps.
The issue I have is that I hear many of my female co-workers who complain about all the guys who hit on them. I also see women on the internet writing about how they don’t want to be approached in public and make an effort to make themselves look unapproachable so strange men don’t talk to them. Just seeing this makes me not want to try at all, because I don’t want to be that “weird guy” approaching them. I guess the only way that it is acceptable to meet women is in social situations where you both happen to be at the same gathering, through mutual friends, or online.
Facts. Girls today want to be in full control of how and when men approach them.
There's a time and a place for everything.
Loads of videos on RUclips already with street interviews where a guy asks random girls how and when they'd like to be approached.
Most common thing you hear is "at the bar or club when im out" but most will rather answer where NOT to approach them and that list is so fucking long I couldn't fit half of it in a RUclips comment.
Here are some examples where to NOT approach girls:
*In the gym
*at the grocery store
*when she's walking her dog
*when she's working
*when she has headphones in
*when she's with friends
*when she's with her parents
*when she's on campus walking to class
*when she's shopping
*when she's browsing for books
*when she's doing errands
*when she's not in full makeup
*when she's not dressed up
*when she's waiting in a waiting room (at the DMV for example)
I could go on. Some of these I can see their point of view, others are kinda silly.
@Nicholas Clay no matter how you sugat coat it they already know what you want its not worth approaching strangers
Same
Yea true but a house party is different than the gym or gas station so it’s considered more creepy in some settings & not creepy in other settings
@@bengalboypaco3140if you just want to meet a nice women thats not a bad thing
I appreciate the positive vibes, coming from a guy that also approaches real women in the real world very often, generally speaking women aren't attracted to guys who ain't getting none, they tend to go after guys who are already smashing, they have a sixth sense for it and it is a death sentence if they are ever convinced no ones checking for u, here's the thing, u don't actually have to have a woman but u make d&&m sure she doesn't know that, its like poker. Other thing is u cant worry about being creepy, if ur not their kind of hot ur automatically gonna get judged harsher, some of them will be gentle but most have huge ego's just how it is.
Some will crucify you and think nothing of it, if I could give advice to a random guy, I'd say have a friend whose good w/women who goes with you at first so u can get feedback that'll keep u leveled out during the process so u dont chicken out or get jaded, going lone wolf style is hard cause you will feel quite low at times, sometimes u will feel like you're on top of the world and u wont be able to contain your joy. There's nothing like that green light u get from a chick that is 100% down.
Yeah my mindset is that, and I will forever hate and resent how reality has to be, is that guy's or men are the only gender or the only sex that have to mess up or screw up or embarrass themselves, when it comes to getting better at or learning how to talk to and successfully interacting with the opposite sex.
And that means unfortunately easily risky or sadly even accidentally making the woman or making women feel uncomfortable or creeping them out, which can easily make guys or men feel like a social retard, feel very stupid and dumb.
And unfortunately a lot of guys can easily have interactions go horribly wrong or horribly bad in which they do get labeled creepy or weird, like I mentioned above, which can forever leave a permanent mental emotional scar on the guys psyche, even if a guy does manage to become better with women and he does improve his dating life, he does get his dream woman, ends up sleeping with a lot of attractive women, or ends up becoming up hardcore Casanova or womanizer.
The scars or wounds from those horrible or awkward interactions gone horribly negatively wrong will forever permanently be in the guys mind and memory forever, the pain from those negative experiences will never go away.
Yeah the way I look at nature and reality now is that the world or nature doesn't care if a guy never gets laid or never find love, but nature and reality is the opposite like that for women.
@Denmo, I just got done watching this video. You have encouraged me to change my mind. Things haven’t been easy for me this year, yes I feel I am a very social person. It’s just very limited down for me being only 19 years old, like I would be more than happy to go try to talk to a few women at the bar even those who have boyfriends just for the hell of it. But unfortunately I can’t because of the age, I would go out and try to join a club of hobbies I am interested in but I have a very busy life with me being in Trade and work outside of that. I also think the weather makes a significant difference like if it’s cold and shitty outside, that also makes my mood like that because I noticed when it was beautiful outside. I talked to 3 beautiful girls in one day without a single care in the world, most likely Seasonal Effect Disorder.
I have a gym membership and workout at least 2-3 times a week, I work at my local grocery store. But will get a different job as a Welder with me being in Trade School.
In the meantime, there is a place for people my age to hang out and meet people so sometime I am going to go down there and put myself out there. I will say I have very bad habits of reading and watching all those videos and articles, of why men don’t approach women anymore or why they don’t talk to them at work anymore. I will say that is a very awful and degrading habit that I have and it’s very hard to break, but I am doing the best I can. Sometimes things haven’t been easy for me, but I am really trying my best.
I did actually manage to get one girl to actually go on a date with me this year, but she liked me for a week and that being my first time. That really hit me like a Train I don't think that helped either. It just made me feel really shitty for a long time that I managed a woman to like me for a week then wanted nothing to do with me, so that kind of fueled the fire for me. But I finally got back up like a week ago.
Anyways, in regard to this I will try to keep my hopes up and keep trying. Thank you and have a nice day.
I approach women a lot. I have a..."You've got nothing to lose" mentally. It's not creepy. They feel very comfortable around me... For a while... Until they realize that I'm a pretty talkative and laid back person. They get turned off pretty fast when I give them too much attention and stuff. Most of the times when I'm around women in a room especially if it's super quiet... I feel very weirded out and uncomfortable, so I'll start conversations to be comfortable. So in my case it's not being creepy... It's being too laid back and talkative. I have a girlfriend already so I don't come across being thirsty and stuff so that's why sometimes although I talk a lot, they get engaged in the Convo. Literally... my girlfriend said that before we got together, she didn't talk to me for a bit because I talked too much 😂 well we know how that went. She gave into it, found me hilarious and great to be around and now we're together 3yrs now. So maybe it's not such a bad thing.
Girls are idiots for that give ‘em attention ur desperate ignore em they chase u lol 😂
Oh come on, seriously?? we're in 2023 and still there are such dudes who's spreading this ultradebunked shit? Men, listen to me: Love is for the beautiful. All the other take compromise, yeah, you get a GF bua a what cost? What tipe of girl she is? How much do you put effort in getting and keeping her? What does she put on the plate? Is she's still flirting with chads? I don't know, I really thought we got rid of such shit nowdays.
These are way funnier than Hamza's lmao
These are more useful than Hamza's videos. Hamza tells men not to focus on women.
Men can focus on women and success at the same time. Balance.
@@chriswanderer138 On the contrary, he tells men to use women as a core motivation for their self improvement
@@chriswanderer138 Yeah I agree I like Hamza but it's such bad advice to tell men to avoid women because then you end up successful with no bitches because you have no game and no experience. You can be the biggest Chad ever with high status but women are not just gonna approach you. You have to make a move regardless of your status in life. Unless you're like a celebrity or billionaire or something.
in india, if you approach a woman and try to talk to a female stranger, you will be considered a creep (90% of the time)
Yeah in India this might not be something you can do
In India, all men are treated like shit. Which is why most of the men don't even work on self-improving themselves. Also in India dating is dead, i don't think it even existed. Which is why you cant even approach a women and try to become friends with them. Even making friendship with women is considered creepy.
Indian girls are on another level of hypergamous feministic high horse from my observations. From what I've seen most think dating an Indian guy is beneath them and want a tall white guy for vanity and status.
@@Military.FutureUrbanCamo Yeah but in different cultures there's different ways to go about it. In India it's a lot easier to meet women in college, working, or through family members. Also the possibility of arranged marriage means pretty much anyone can find someone. In the rich parts of India, you can probabyly go to bars and clubs and talk to women you don't know. Taking to randos in India isn't recommended because people think you're either trying to scam them or stall them enough to pickpocket them. The culture is just different and not conducive to cold approaching.
@@grettirgrattmards2348 That's only in the US
Women: I don’t like it when men approach me because it’s creepy.
Also Women: The reason why I’m single is because men don’t approach me.
😂😂
Yes but it only works if ur attractive. They dont want to be approached by ugly men.
@Prmatst well, it varies on the person who we can be attractive to, there's more to attraction than looks, you can be a really good looking attractive guy but if you act like a creep no girl is going to want to stay around you for long.
I dont have a problem going up to women but dont have the motivation or care to approach them
Man I see you're getting shadow banned, but keep it up bro you're videos are great and very helpful, don't be discouraged.
all good we got this. do me a solid share em with your mates to help our movement
"creepiness" is a female construct (that admittedly is happily augmented by unhappy / envious men..), so men talking to other men about what constitutes "creepiness" is utterly pointless and completely useless in practice. Essentially the only thing that constitutes acceptance of the opposite sex for most modern women is either romantic attraction or completely safe friendship (ie there is a totally clear understanding and acceptance on both sides that that is the case - push that boundary and see how well it goes for you). The only complexity comes when apparent friendship based on either or both you having partners can clearly be jeapordised by infidelity (ie it wasn't strictly platonic, probably to begin with).
Women have created this environment due to insecurities, societal norms, biological selection and bad parenting (largely). From a male POV (and this is specifically directed at very ordinary men that have experienced a lot of rejection - that is your empirical foundation) the best course of action is basic realism: there will be lots of rejection; finding a great girlfriend or wife will be akin to winning the lottery; compromising on looks will massively increase your chances (but won't guarantee anything); things only get harder and less likely with age; you may just find a greater sense of happiness being single. And there's absolutely no shame in that.
Bottom line: don't lose sleep about a construct designed by and for women. Live in your own construct, primarily. Learn how to be alone. Remember most relationships are 15% happiness at best - relationships are a constant test, they constantly ask questions of you, they are more limiting than you might ever imagine and most of the apparently "great" by-products fizzle away after a year or so (sometimes even less time than that). A single life can get closer to 50% happiness.
Your videos are great man! My confidence is growing and my ability to talk to strangers and have good conversations is getting better because you’ve helped my mindset. I’m glad I found your channel, keep up the good work
Girls like it when you do it right, most guys are scared to talk to girls these days, and when they do, they do it wrong lol. Even half of these famous youtube PUA's suck. Don't try to open with a reason to talk to her like "Excuse me, where's McDonalds, thanks... oh by the way you're cute" and also don't do it like "Excuse me, I wanted to say your cute, handshake" - that seems ok and could work sometimes, but it makes it feel like it puts the girl into Protection Mode, with a "oh thanks, i have a bf" auto-response lol. I been doing it like Jack and it's better, talk to them like you already know them. Instead of "excuse me, sorry to bother you but your cute" which puts them on the spot. I think that opens it into a "professional courtesy" type of talk, which keeps you at that level. Just say "Yo, red shirt, come here I gotta tell you something.. your cute, sup :P.. ". I think that way you're undercutting the generic formal "niceties" that might feel not genuine. This direct way they feel they're seeing your true self, which is making a direct connection from the start. - In my experience, all it takes is a strong Jack style approach, and they help you keep the interaction going. Example - Last week seen a very cute girl at a club, instead of a formal approach, I just stood next to her and pointed at some trippy lightshow visuals, looked at her and strongly said "Damn, this shit would be awesome on mushrooms huh! :P" She laughed and said totally, boom, she hung out with me for 30 minutes and followed me when i left her group. I wouldn't even call that an "approach", it wasn't a thing I thought about and planned, just looked at her and said what i was thinking lol. Be social and kinda treat the girls like friends that you "MIGHT" be interested in, it'll make her wonder and the interested ones will chase you. Makes it much easier IMHO
Thanks
Yes ur right but eventually u gotta be direct otherwise you’ll be friend zoned my guy
I approach a girl yesterday for the first time after watching your videos and I was so Confidence and I succeed🤣🤣🤣🔥, I'm on a role now to approach girls everytime to be more Confident, thanks man
absolute legend. share your story in the discord bro!
I saw this comment from another video: ''A man of today has to work 10 x as hard as grandad had to for a women 20 x less than grandmom!''
The problem is women always have a better option, no matter how hard you work! You become a king and when you fall of your throne she most likely will find a new king! That is the definition of Hypergamy!
00:40 Although now, I'm a Proud *"Cockroach"* in the Skool community (free version) 😜
Great job on the program bro ! 😊
Around 4 minutes, IDK what you are talking about... you either lost me or lost your own train of thought. What does being a weird guy have to do with women being capable of handling creepy people? I don't know man you are becoming very controversial
I got bored too 😮.
It's not creepy to approach women, as long as you're Chad. If you're not, then yes, you're creepy. It's not what you do or say, it's who you are.
Something that I once read or heard on some pick up artist video or subreddit or something is that you can and should practice talking to anyone. Not just cute girls. Chat up the cashier, the old lady at the bus stop, whoever. Have fun with it. You go over something along these lines in your vid “How to never run out of things to say to girls”, that you need to stop the dopamine drip so that you find enjoyment in simply living. And I want to add to that that the dopamine drip *kills* curiosity. And having conversations with people is easy when you’re genuinely curious, and see the people around you going through their lives as well.
I drew my Snapchat code on my receipt for the waitress and left my number just in case it didn’t work. It worked, she texted me the next day but I failed spectacularly 😅😂. But it worked!
What did u do man
Good luck approaching an introvert
you are helping me for real for real
if these help you please send em to your friends my man
It can be creepy if you make it creepy
how does one make it creepy
@@Denmosocial coming on to strong
@@Billy23562 you gotta be direct because eventually if u don’t you’ll be that guy friend she can fall back to for psychological support like ur her therapist lol 😂 fuck that man
I'm sure a lot of Melvins are gonna have a hard time accepting what you're saying here, but there's a lot of truth to it. Some tend to think that girls finding unattractive guys creepy is a double standard, but if something is off-putting, then people want to avoid it. I don't blame women for wanting to avoid men who they find odd, and if you clearly lack inner confidence, why should *they* feel confident about you? Great stuff as always, Jack.
The moral of the story is, this summer, get rid of your dopamine addiction. Me included. I promised myself and made a list of activities I'll be doing this spring/summer. By the time next winter rolls in, I won't be on these areas.
So true!
What if I’m a huskier gentleman with an Amazon driver job that makes somewhat decent salary and has a small friend group, should I still work on approaching women while simultaneously improving my circumstances, but just not expect anything to escalate further until I have? I mean I have had successful interactions with women in the past couple days
I didn’t go five continuous seconds without laughing during that intro 😂😂😂 Well done 👏🏻
I like that point you made about how people go to the internet for their dopamine fix when you got to think that it started and was created in the real world. So many people are distracted by social media, video games and stuff for some dopamine hits when they need to get out or start lifting weights or something.
This intro is absolutely hilarious 😂😆😂
send it to your mates bro easiest way to get them to watch more is make em laugh
Calling me out when you described staring at girls when they’re not looking and then looking away. I always hesitate just long enough that I feel like I’m already creepy and now I can’t approach them.
Bro’s cat straight up look like a lion 👑
thing is vicious
When I was in high school, I used to be self-assured. I have become more of a shy person now. I'm unemployed and just want to end my life because many people find me to be strange and creepy at work.
Hey man, it’s going to be okay. I’m sure you’re just in your own head. Anxiety often leads to false delusions. The best thing about being at the bottom is that there is no other place to go than up! Much love my man, you got this
Are you unemployed or are you working, which is it ?
I am spending time mostly outside(alone) but I feel irritated if someone talks to me when I am in park, in nature and etc.
But not freaking out, I understand that humans are social creatures.
Man, idk why I watch these videos.
I'm a 5'2, mega handsome, almost charismatic 26 year old guy. Nothing that can't be improved for sure.
Can’t get rejected or be called creepy if you don’t approach at all
They want you to think it's creepy so that everyone only does online dating, they can keep raking in cash and women can continue to only pick the top 1% on the apps (and why wouldn't they if given then option). Crazy
Depends how you approach them. It is if you're a stranger randomly showing up to 'put moves' on them. First, because you don't know anything about them, and they know nothing about you. Second, they hear compliments from thirsty guys a million times a day.
Better to actually get to know them by involving yourself in hobbies/work situations where you do have something to talk about, and through familiarity flirt through banter. In other words, treat them like a human and actually get to know them.
Watches denmo to hear
Aauuuggghhhh , Ugggghhhhh,
💀 intros are funny as hell.
lmao dat moan
Bro it’s creepy if ur short or ugly not tall or attractive 😭
10:18 lol
Lol I don't have a problem starring I don't even mean too I just can't help it if I find them attractive
xdddd bro totally same and to be honest i dont care if they see me, i keep starring i couldnt care less, but i dont approach xddd
I'm 6'3" 225 in shape and good looking. I've always been successful with women overall, but just recently started cold approaching. All of the women so far have been receptive and I got a few numbers. Getting defeated tho because even though I got the numbers and we've have texted a few times, I'm getting ghosted. I'm beginning to think that these women weren't single when I got their numbers.
So what do I do if I stutter for real like I have it. It’s hard to heard that stuttering is bad when flirting or talking to someone when you have it without being anxious or nervous
I wouldn't say I'm creepy but I say my biggest problem is eye contact. I'm trying to catch myself and be more aware because I tend to look off or look at people's faces in general instead of directly in their eyes
eye contact is not easy homie. but ive beded women, many, so just shot ur shot my man....
That's actually fine.
Looking near the eyes feels like eye contact to the other person.
Similar to reading the autocue next to a TV camera
Black and white gang
ayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
They don’t want shit to do with you if you’re not attractive. Stop the copium.
There was a chat about this topic in the discord on a voice channel. And that's all I'm gonna say about that. Certainly interesting topic.
voice chat is goated
In the past I would rarely go out, only to the gym where I never talked to anyone or once every two months with friends where I never talked to anyone but them. Changing that now and gonna start being social alone and hopefully can talk to a nice girl but if not that's cool too 💪💪
You always mention about how to talk clearly without stuttering, but i have a lisp and stutter and don’t really know how to stop it.
If you have approach anxiety, do consider meditation. Game changer!
Agreed 💪. the one caviot as one dating coach to another, people complaining online or worrying online. Reality is a lot different if you actually interact with it. Makes it a lot easier to have a strong frame of reality. Men get bunched up into a bunch of tribes with no real world experience with women let alone people because the idea of rejection is terrifying. Creating false realities getting reinforced by the group dynamic. The blind leading the blind.
When you're funny and mysterious even the most engaged girl in the world might reconsider right away
the best thing i found out for me is when you just feel comfortable in your own skin. like leaning back in your own living room and enjoying the moment. in the real world it can be anywhere. be it in a café, in a bar or in the queue in the middle of a supermarket. if you respect yourself, love yourself, pay attention to your clothes, what does your figure and generally things that put a smile on your face, you develop in the same breath in a natural way and white an attraction that the ladies world out there and usually makes you appear attractive in their eyes. so it's all about your own well-being.
My man I wish you all the best with this new channel of yours dude
This is completely subjective like everything about dating
“AND NOW I HAVE A CAT!” Had to say it fr
I love that you said the internet is for lonely people. That makes so much sense. That helps my mentality with haters online 👌
ok. mission 1: get into the real world
so many thing for common guy to atract a girl? really? and what the girls have to do? screw it. the juice not worth the squeez
Biology my guy that’s how it is
You said exactly what my dad told me.
he was right
Jack is a cat guy?! I suddenly like him more
Bro! When you mentioned "difference in value" - this really hit me hard because I see it all the time. Can you expand on this a bit more, how do you shift that value perception besides the usual body language, confidence, physical shape etc?
Sensitive people " shows h3h3" 😂😂😂
Yooo the cockroach sounds are amazing
I've never had success with this, ever.
Haha jokes on you, I’ve never approached a girl 😎
why bro
Why do you want a social circle D
Denmo legendary vid 😂😂😂
Denmo the goat. I thought you were a chad back then but after I quit social media and just came back it seems your even more chadder now