Hey guys you like my biceps? Was flexing all video to impress you all. Btw everything in this video applies to men and making friends too but I know y'all are monkeys and only click for girls lol
It's a scietentific fact that ur dick size is half the size of ur bicep perimeter. So Denmo has 16 inch biceps, meaning he has an 8 inch dick. Moral? Do bicep curls for dick gains.
This is great stuff man. It's great to see this stuff just in normal language that focuses on self-improvement instead of some weird red pill lingo that obsessively focuses on treating women (and people) like they're dogs that need to be house-trained.
Too many guys spend too much time thinking about interacting with women. What to say, what to do etc. Go talk to the women and enjoy the process. The longer you take thinking about it, the harder you're making it for yourself. Stay confident and self assured man✅
As an overthinker I agree, I do a lot better when I don't think about what to say and just say it whatever is on my mind, worst case she will ignore me or laugh at me
@@helloworld2054 yeah bro, even today I approached a girl and asked her whats up and she started getting loud and trying to cause a scene saying its weird. I let her off the hook because she aint know any better. Kept it moving and talked to a new girl a few minutes later and we had a blast. Remain in confidence 🥂
I really like that point. I go to running clubs almost every day of the week and I often find myself going in a bad mood and feeling down on myself and not wanting to talk and lately I’ve been getting good at just switching that off. Like just pretending I’m in a good mood and initiating conversations because no one is gonna cater to me or care if I’m feeling down. And it’s weird how quick it works. I start a conversation faking a good mood and the good mood becomes real because the bad mood was only built up in my head in a time of weakness and loneliness. Real human interactions are so crucial and I can’t waste the one hour per day I get. And the exercise always helps, but we always socialize a little before and after the run so it’s that before period where I may struggle to socialize. After the run or during the run, I’m way more likely to open up and socialize.
But also don’t try to force a good mood, if you’re anxious you can say it like “At the moment I’m feeling anxious because I think you’re so cool and enjoy talking to you, you ever get like that when talking to others you like?” Saying “I’m so anxious right now,” is just going to make people try to cheer you up.
I'm 35, my trauma was being raised by a snap show / neglectful narcissistic father, being bullied in school, being rejected chronically by women, and being fired numerous times from jobs despite putting my genuine best effort in as well as never being promoted beyond grunt worker. That said, I am dedicated to working on myself, to evolving beyond these limiting experiences and becoming the best version of myself, so that when I'm an old man I'm not bitter, regretful, and miserable, but can be proud of the life I've lived. I may not be well off economically now, but I will finish my schooling, get to work, invest, and I will become something. I make this promise to myself.
Jack, I just turned 34 and I'm trying to implement your teachings. I'm in Korea visiting and a few days ago I was smiling at people as I walk past and a cute Chinese girl approached me to ask for directions on the subway platform. I ended up getting her number. I'm not saying I can do anything with her before I leave, but these small steps I'm taking really make a difference and it's so cool. Thanks for these teachings Jack, I will keep trying to implement what you preach. Cheers. (when I get back I will be going to the gym again every morning and joking around with gym bros and saying hi to everyone there) 💪 looking fit Jack.
Working a lot on my social skills lately by leaving my comfort zone. I've been meeting new people at the gym as much as I can, starting with meeting other dudes I can hang out and lift weights with. Slowly starting to casually talk to women there now and just expanding on that. The goal was to kill my anxiety over ice breaking with other people and I'm almost entirely comfortable with cold approaching anybody for a conversation now. There are still a few girls I'd like to talk to but in the 3 months I've been working on my confidence and socialising its turned out really well so far. Most people i meet say hi to me, and thats men and women included. Almost there!
All you need to remember is that they never had to learn how to talk to guys or how to find a boyfriend. The moment you internalize this is the moment you'll stop respecting them and putting them on a pedestal.
That only applies if you have already put in that effort yourself. When you've already made yourself into a better version, when you already became what you wanted to be.
@@jdelacruz14791You Don't learn how to talk to women you autist, either you click with someone or you simply do not. There's no magic, except looking the part
All those little 'real-talk' tongue-in-cheek burns makes you a riot to watch man, i'm hooked. I remember so many pick-up artist "influencers" from the early 2000's-2010's, spitting nothing but bullshit has got me real jaded that anyone out there has any real gems to share. You're the one, this is real, and if you do the work, it WILL work. Cheers, bro.
I'm 36. Basically i had a very long relationship, which was also my first serious relationship. Because of this i basically has no experience in dating. Its a really difficult position to be in, but i need to overcome it somehow if i dont want to be alone for the rest of my life. I'm not ashamed to get advice from someone a lot younger than me, so hopefully i wont be ashamed to handle the fact that i still suck at dating at this age. Your content is really valuable man, good vibes and stuff.
You directly answered my question - I should focus on moving to a city I love and don’t hate every single day I’m living there instead of approaching women
I am from India, and this video helps me to Become a Socializer. But due to cultural differences I have to remove or turn down sexuality at first as it'll creep anyone out especially here.
I’m 19 and I love what I do I drive my 1999 Harley sportster 1200 custom that I dreamed of since i was 8 I drive around with my guitar on my back and I play and sing well I walk down hiking trails or out public at restaurants I also play ukulele and piano and people love this cause that don’t see any body else doing and I have awesome conversations with people I don’t talk about myself to them I ask about them and they love it!
That right there is pretty cool. People want to be liked, and love talking about themselves. We all do, those who take an interest in others and talk about them are the most liked. You stand out, and when people approach you, you get them talking about themselves. That is awesome.
@@CB003last week my sleep was all wack so on two of the gym days I arrived on one hour of sleep each time and each time by the end of the session I was full of energy, was chatting people up more than normal and joking around in a good mood. Ironically, the reason for lack of sleep was not being able to stop thinking about how to approach women and talk to them, thinking about what to say.
Really good advice this, one of the best videos I've seen on it. Instead of worrying about being amazing at socialising just focus on small steps, eventually the small wins will accumulate and you'll be in a better place than when you started.
The thing about warming up is very true. I am a musician and you never see the hours that go into it it's all about prep which leads to confidence and it seems effortless. In terms of dating one thing I used to do back in the day was you can download apps (there's a bunch) of just random chatrooms full of people, then before a date/approach/meeting w a girl, you can be chatting and getting warmed up in the car etc and then when you talk to someone it's not you first time speaking that day it's seamless from another conversation.
I've had trauma, following my first heartbreak and that one was obvious. However the biggest trauma i had was during and after the pandemic, that i just realized about. I was essentially locked inside with my family for 3 straight years with no interaction to other people and it fucked up my brain to the point i was ashamed and had anxiety to talk to my friends. Started doing some changes 2 weeks ago and it's better.
Well, man, it was quite easy for me to start hanging out with girls again after 14 years break (due to marriage and now due to divorce). I was destroyed and my self-esteem was dropped to the core of Earth. After some basic things like starting boxing/hitting the gym/new haircut/fresh look I realized it's just about PRACTICE. You can grind this, force yourself to communicate with girls more and more, go to some girl-oriented events, etc. After getting some amount of practice it would be no problem to deal with them like with your buddies and after that you can pick the one who match you better.
Hey, man, I'm 23, and I've been going in circles mentally for the past 2 years, wondering what I can do to fix my problems when they are pretty clear it's just easier to focus on women thinking it'll solve all your problems, we lie to ourselves to avoid doing the real inner work I appreciate the way to built it up too really drove the point home.
I’m loving your videos man I recently subbed I’m at the stage of my life (23 yr old) trying to improve my self and find the love of my life Im 1 year into a career I can make great money in but need guidance on social skills,self confidence, and approaching women.
I love, and also kinda hate, how you use gen z/gen a language when explaining something lmao 🤣 Absolutely love your videos Denmo, have been loving them for a long time.
Ive been abused as a child which resulted to low self esteem which then resulted into being bullied at school. I finally see the necessity of going to therapy but the waiting list is like half a year. Really curious what its going to do for me. Meanwhile im focussing on settiing up a business and becoming profitable with daytrading whilst watching over my addicted brother. Tough times but it will get better. For sure going to implement what you said in this video.
Unless this is a job with a high turnover rate or a job that’s not in the career field you want, I wouldn’t recommend doing that. But if it is one of those types of jobs, then fk it, go for it. If HR burns you because she gets the “ick” or if it actually does go well but one of you breaks it off later, then you can just get a new job elsewhere and disappear. You should also probably ask yourself if you actually like her or if you just want to bone her because she’s pretty. You’re gonna be shxting where you eat if you date a girl that you work with. So maybe get to know her a bit first and then think to yourself that if she were ugly, would you still want to take her out
When interacting with women, I notice they respond to three energy 1. Let hangout not let go on date- You’re saying the same thing but let hang out feel less stressful 2.Teasing.-Women love drama and to agrue 3.Being a boy- Being happy in your masculinity
love this content but make sure folks ! learn to implement action dont just learn to learn thats poitnless might as well go play games at that point lmao . LEARN AND IMPLEMENT ACTION!
Yes indeed I watched dating content for probably 7 years straight before I approached a girl. I now can say after actually implementing and being consistent I finally landed a relationship with an amazing woman that makes me very happy!!
Denmo is right about a good portion of his content but there’s more to it. He is smooth enough that he could screw up some of his own rules and he would still be fine with girls. If you look at Denmo’s clip at 17:09, the girl actually steps backwards, away from him twice. But he goes from having a "threatening" posture to saying something sort of funny (because it’s ridiculous) so she becomes more comfortable with him at that point. In the clip that follows he actually takes a step backwards away from the girl, and she steps forward towards him to exchange info. If a girl steps towards you, she's not feeling threatened. If you are doing these cold approaches, not seeming weird or threatening is important to a lot of women. Also, If you’re coming through the door, so thirsty that you are practically humping the door handle on your way in, most techniques won’t save you. One of the best things you can do is to not seem thirsty. If you can learn to naturally interact with women without expecting something in return, that will go a long way.
Is nobody else gonna talk about how Jack outrigjt said hes diabetic in the video? That tells me that Jack doesnt make up all this advice. He truly doesnt care what people think. Outrigjt legend!
i am also diabetic and don't care. The problem is not that i care too much but that i do not connect to people, i don't laugh at their jokes, but i can laugh at some memes on the internet, because their jokes are simple and obvious.
@@Denmosocial I don't mean it that way. What I mean is you say anything that comes to your mind with no regret and it's an awesome quality for a guy to have
The point you made in the beginning about having a purpose really hit me. I've been lost for a long time, but you made me think a bit. I'm not 100% sure of what my purpose is but after some time thinking I made some progress and now i have a clue of what mi purpose is. I'll need a lot more meditation and thinking but now I've taken the fist step. Thanks. Now I have a question. I should continue approaching even if I don't know my purpose completely to gain experience and improve my social skills or I should completely focus my energy in finding my purpose and pursue my goals?
Yeah well, I have been through a break up😢. I honestly never experienced such a backstab from her.. but I guess it is time to move on, I am tired of living in the past. Just like predator i want to be able to look into now. Thanks a lot for video.
My trauma is that I had this belief of everyone I meet in life could potentially kill me and that's why it doesn't make sense to meet new people. Sounds ridiculous, right? That's what I think now, too, but 10 years ago it was a whole attitude that brought me to a point where I felt like I wanted to kill myself. (btw I'm currently 25 years old) A lot of things have changed for the better by now, I got past the trauma by focusing on everything that turns me into the fucking best version of myself Thanks for the video Denmo, I love your work. Keep it up!
My trauma is this... I'm 34 . I was with my wife for 12 years, married for 7. She was my best friend and we were inseparable. Then some guy at the gym that her and I went to started to pursue her. Love bombing her. He knew who I was and that I was married to her. He said to my wife "I look at you and you're so beautiful, and then look at him and think 'what are you doing?!". After 90 days she left me for him. They lasted 5 months. I am still so traumatized though that someone who was my best friend and loved for over a decade did that to me.
I've got some serious insights on trauma if any men here needs support. Been through various therapies and modalities that also includes plant medicine. It's healed my childhood trauma with my mom. Didn't know I had been carrying stuff from that since third grade. It's been so normal and ingrained into me that it became my Blindspot. Affected all my romantic relationships. Been free from this for a few years while I integrate and date heart beautiful women. Namaste, brothers.
While some of this advice might be good, I feel like it is more tailored to North American lifestyle. In „colder” parts of Europe (Eastern and Northern) people won't be so keen to strike up a conversation with a stranger.
I don't agree. They can be surprised, but they will welcome the conversation (especially when they'll find out that you are not offering anything or asking for money). Czech guy here.
i come from scandinavia, nobody talks to anybody here. That makes it 10 times better, because girls are not getting approached. You get the number every single time. I have never NOT gotten a number when asking a girl, and im not that attractive...
That's not how life works, you do what you do because of your capabilities and aspirations. Not everyone can go 6 figures in debt have the IQ to attend law school and end up as a top lawyer or doctor, understand it
Lately I’ve contemplated the possibility that romantic relationships may not be for me. I cannot get out of my own way to save my life man. I feel confident thinking about pursuing girls but when it comes time to act I completely freeze up and my nerves put me in a paralyzed state.
I wish i had a strike-out counter to see how many times I've talked to a girl and I got shot down. Just to understand my ratio. Because memory is unreliable, and my memory of most approaches that didn't go well all went fine. Like nobody got maced or spat on or yelled at. I remember being super cringe a fair bit, I remember those close calls where you in hindsight go "oh why didn't i just do xyz, it was going well", but having an actual bumber of times I've struck out would be fun.
no limiting beliefs high self esteem hunter eyes Use Good mood its rare open body just say me and my buddy your type boys your type girls - to have fun with, you have any? warm up no outcome dependence care about input dont care it makes people love you treat her normal
I’m able to approach girls in a social group, or in an event. As long as the location has a theme, because is no stress for me to start up a conversation by using the location theme as an opening. But this situation requires opportunity, this gonna waste a lot of time. I wanna approach freely while I could just randomly spot an attractive girl inside a mall
Mr Denmo. Can you make a video on how to land the second date? Most often the girl ghosts me instead of coming on the second date, even though it was a fantastic first date. Look at my recent video, where I’m on an instant date with a girl. Went very good but same problem. No second date. Thanks man!
Bro you guys just worked out and barely talked to each other. You need to build intimacy by building trust and you build trust through communication. A gym date is a perfect chance to guide her during her workout and give her tips instead of just working out next to each other without talking much. Communication, communication, communication. Once you've built that trust and she's confident that you're a great guy then you'll get the 2nd date.
what if we chance the outcome dependence to be the outcome of something totally in our control? like, instead of wanting the girl to like way, just expect to be able to approach even if nervous/anxious. Even if she likes you or not, you'll have a win because you achieved the desired outcome.
Mate, love your content, but I literally need content for fckin dwarfs. I'm 5'6 and I'm tremendously insecure about this stuff. I know you're tall, but you probably have some ppl who are short and have experience in this stuff. It's 1000% harder to approach women when you're that short so I would appreciate such content
Watch Casey Zander but take his advice with a grain of salt. In some of his videos he talked about having soul and projecting confidence. You'll know you're doing better when other dudes start respecting you
@@prostohodim There is, unless you're dealing with idiots. You need to develop a reputation, learn to be a good listener and other men will love you as a brother or even their dad if you're older. If some dude complains about something, you hate that thing too. His wife left him? F that bitch, must have been a 304 Got fired? His boss is a piece of sht and you hope his tires get slashed. Contrary to the popular, men are just as emotional especially when in distress and validating someone's feelings is an insanely fast way to make friends. Being assertive is also much easier when you're talking to someone you're already familiar with and if there's no issues.
Yeah I second buying lifts up to 5'9" if you need this. I'm a natty 5'9" and wear flat shoes and I can sense the female gaze pretty well and when im glowing in their eyes cause they like my steez I can usually get some sparks going. Also go to the club wearing a costume that goes a little above my head making me taller seems to work. Might foe you too
25, just went through my first really bad heartbreak. I’ve dated in the past but never really felt a strong connection to S/O until this latest girl and we honestly just drifted apart for no reason after about a year and I guess weren’t what each other needed. Haven’t been able to move on and she moved on to another person recently and it’s been eating away at me. I know it shouldn’t but it just sucks seeing someone you loved forget about you. I think i’m still in that trauma phase but really want to get it over with and start living my life again. What would you suggest for helping to move on quicker outside of just sleeping around?
33. You talk a lot about starting a business. I love that idea. I don’t know where to start. I don’t know how to join a community of like-minded people (I think that would be helpful). I like the idea of becoming a RUclipsr. I have a lot of interest but wouldn’t know how to choose a neiche.
Hey guys you like my biceps? Was flexing all video to impress you all. Btw everything in this video applies to men and making friends too but I know y'all are monkeys and only click for girls lol
I noticed that when you said "look at that arm pump I got going right now" 😂
It's a scietentific fact that ur dick size is half the size of ur bicep perimeter. So Denmo has 16 inch biceps, meaning he has an 8 inch dick. Moral? Do bicep curls for dick gains.
Always flexing them perfect teef 😂
Yes I like your biceps
This is great stuff man. It's great to see this stuff just in normal language that focuses on self-improvement instead of some weird red pill lingo that obsessively focuses on treating women (and people) like they're dogs that need to be house-trained.
If more people knew about the book Social Secrets Mastery, they'd realize how easy it can be to attract the girl they want.
Too many guys spend too much time thinking about interacting with women. What to say, what to do etc. Go talk to the women and enjoy the process. The longer you take thinking about it, the harder you're making it for yourself. Stay confident and self assured man✅
As an overthinker I agree, I do a lot better when I don't think about what to say and just say it whatever is on my mind, worst case she will ignore me or laugh at me
@@helloworld2054 yeah bro, even today I approached a girl and asked her whats up and she started getting loud and trying to cause a scene saying its weird. I let her off the hook because she aint know any better. Kept it moving and talked to a new girl a few minutes later and we had a blast. Remain in confidence 🥂
Very wise words
Absolutely this right here 💯
1. Talk to women
2. Enjoy process
Pick one.
A really big thing for me was sleep. Get 8 hours of sleep every night. Even one or two hours will affect how you feel during the day.
absolutely brother
The part about exercise and being in the right mood to start a conversation with someone is GROSSLY underrated advice. Seriously changed my life
I really like that point. I go to running clubs almost every day of the week and I often find myself going in a bad mood and feeling down on myself and not wanting to talk and lately I’ve been getting good at just switching that off. Like just pretending I’m in a good mood and initiating conversations because no one is gonna cater to me or care if I’m feeling down. And it’s weird how quick it works. I start a conversation faking a good mood and the good mood becomes real because the bad mood was only built up in my head in a time of weakness and loneliness. Real human interactions are so crucial and I can’t waste the one hour per day I get. And the exercise always helps, but we always socialize a little before and after the run so it’s that before period where I may struggle to socialize. After the run or during the run, I’m way more likely to open up and socialize.
But also don’t try to force a good mood, if you’re anxious you can say it like “At the moment I’m feeling anxious because I think you’re so cool and enjoy talking to you, you ever get like that when talking to others you like?” Saying “I’m so anxious right now,” is just going to make people try to cheer you up.
I'm 35 and listening to this while welding in an entry-level factory job. Starting over again after losing everything.
hell yeah brother same thing applies to coworkers and friends, power to ya
nothing wrong with that bro. Shit happens to the best of us. As long as you learn from it. What does not kill you makes you stronger. Never give up.
You can do it we believe in you
@@Chud-mb7glOffice jobs are pussy shit
lmao
Bless you my friend spreading the good word! Hope you have a great day!
I'm 35, my trauma was being raised by a snap show / neglectful narcissistic father, being bullied in school, being rejected chronically by women, and being fired numerous times from jobs despite putting my genuine best effort in as well as never being promoted beyond grunt worker.
That said, I am dedicated to working on myself, to evolving beyond these limiting experiences and becoming the best version of myself, so that when I'm an old man I'm not bitter, regretful, and miserable, but can be proud of the life I've lived.
I may not be well off economically now, but I will finish my schooling, get to work, invest, and I will become something. I make this promise to myself.
Jack, I just turned 34 and I'm trying to implement your teachings. I'm in Korea visiting and a few days ago I was smiling at people as I walk past and a cute Chinese girl approached me to ask for directions on the subway platform. I ended up getting her number. I'm not saying I can do anything with her before I leave, but these small steps I'm taking really make a difference and it's so cool. Thanks for these teachings Jack, I will keep trying to implement what you preach. Cheers. (when I get back I will be going to the gym again every morning and joking around with gym bros and saying hi to everyone there) 💪 looking fit Jack.
Working a lot on my social skills lately by leaving my comfort zone. I've been meeting new people at the gym as much as I can, starting with meeting other dudes I can hang out and lift weights with. Slowly starting to casually talk to women there now and just expanding on that. The goal was to kill my anxiety over ice breaking with other people and I'm almost entirely comfortable with cold approaching anybody for a conversation now. There are still a few girls I'd like to talk to but in the 3 months I've been working on my confidence and socialising its turned out really well so far. Most people i meet say hi to me, and thats men and women included. Almost there!
Awesome man!! Great work!!
Well done buddy👊😉
I like that your not sugar coating it but that your calling everyone out🙏🏽🙏🏽
All you need to remember is that they never had to learn how to talk to guys or how to find a boyfriend.
The moment you internalize this is the moment you'll stop respecting them and putting them on a pedestal.
That only applies if you have already put in that effort yourself. When you've already made yourself into a better version, when you already became what you wanted to be.
@@jdelacruz14791You Don't learn how to talk to women you autist, either you click with someone or you simply do not. There's no magic, except looking the part
Jack you are the voice of reason. Insane level quality video. You the man
hope it helped. cheers
Agreed. I love your positive attitude, Jack. Thanks for sharing this.
*The examples you shared really helped illustrate how to strike that balance between being chill and showing genuine interest.*
Brother, this is the only dating advice channel I’ve ever come across that’s throughly normal, down to earth, and not a scam racket.
All those little 'real-talk' tongue-in-cheek burns makes you a riot to watch man, i'm hooked. I remember so many pick-up artist "influencers" from the early 2000's-2010's, spitting nothing but bullshit has got me real jaded that anyone out there has any real gems to share. You're the one, this is real, and if you do the work, it WILL work. Cheers, bro.
I'm 36. Basically i had a very long relationship, which was also my first serious relationship. Because of this i basically has no experience in dating. Its a really difficult position to be in, but i need to overcome it somehow if i dont want to be alone for the rest of my life. I'm not ashamed to get advice from someone a lot younger than me, so hopefully i wont be ashamed to handle the fact that i still suck at dating at this age. Your content is really valuable man, good vibes and stuff.
You directly answered my question - I should focus on moving to a city I love and don’t hate every single day I’m living there instead of approaching women
I am from India, and this video helps me to Become a Socializer. But due to cultural differences I have to remove or turn down sexuality at first as it'll creep anyone out especially here.
I’m 19 and I love what I do I drive my 1999 Harley sportster 1200 custom that I dreamed of since i was 8 I drive around with my guitar on my back and I play and sing well I walk down hiking trails or out public at restaurants I also play ukulele and piano and people love this cause that don’t see any body else doing and I have awesome conversations with people I don’t talk about myself to them I ask about them and they love it!
That right there is pretty cool. People want to be liked, and love talking about themselves. We all do, those who take an interest in others and talk about them are the most liked. You stand out, and when people approach you, you get them talking about themselves. That is awesome.
24:00 Underrated advice. It's crazy how much more social I feel after calling my friends and family
I agree
I went on 3 dates after doing workout and all went well 🙌🏼
Feels like you become extrovert for 30-50 mins after gym
Working out gives you energy that’s why they say do it man
@@CB003last week my sleep was all wack so on two of the gym days I arrived on one hour of sleep each time and each time by the end of the session I was full of energy, was chatting people up more than normal and joking around in a good mood. Ironically, the reason for lack of sleep was not being able to stop thinking about how to approach women and talk to them, thinking about what to say.
Really good advice this, one of the best videos I've seen on it. Instead of worrying about being amazing at socialising just focus on small steps, eventually the small wins will accumulate and you'll be in a better place than when you started.
CURRENTLY WATCHING at the gym; Walking on the treadmill for a few miles.
atta boy only acceptable time to consume content
This really helped me prioritize my life. I have hangups about financial insecurity because of my upbringing. Time to focus on my career
The thing about warming up is very true. I am a musician and you never see the hours that go into it it's all about prep which leads to confidence and it seems effortless. In terms of dating one thing I used to do back in the day was you can download apps (there's a bunch) of just random chatrooms full of people, then before a date/approach/meeting w a girl, you can be chatting and getting warmed up in the car etc and then when you talk to someone it's not you first time speaking that day it's seamless from another conversation.
Amazing, Denmo. You've added a lot of value with that video. Hope you get a lot of students and adsense.
we love u jack!! thank u for all of this! there's no other denmo!!
I’m on this earth to teach music lessons. Life is absurd but I find so much joy in what I do.
I've had trauma, following my first heartbreak and that one was obvious. However the biggest trauma i had was during and after the pandemic, that i just realized about. I was essentially locked inside with my family for 3 straight years with no interaction to other people and it fucked up my brain to the point i was ashamed and had anxiety to talk to my friends. Started doing some changes 2 weeks ago and it's better.
Well, man, it was quite easy for me to start hanging out with girls again after 14 years break (due to marriage and now due to divorce). I was destroyed and my self-esteem was dropped to the core of Earth. After some basic things like starting boxing/hitting the gym/new haircut/fresh look I realized it's just about PRACTICE. You can grind this, force yourself to communicate with girls more and more, go to some girl-oriented events, etc.
After getting some amount of practice it would be no problem to deal with them like with your buddies and after that you can pick the one who match you better.
Hey, man, I'm 23, and I've been going in circles mentally for the past 2 years, wondering what I can do to fix my problems when they are pretty clear it's just easier to focus on women thinking it'll solve all your problems, we lie to ourselves to avoid doing the real inner work I appreciate the way to built it up too really drove the point home.
I’m loving your videos man I recently subbed I’m at the stage of my life (23 yr old) trying to improve my self and find the love of my life Im 1 year into a career I can make great money in but need guidance on social skills,self confidence, and approaching women.
This is pure accuracy .the trauma thing is true if you not deals with that nothing going to work.
I know exactly what you mean by purpose making your life better in every way, having a mission and vision for yourself.
15 years old and watching this, would love a especially made episode for people in 10 grade or something like that🙏🏻 In Portugal right now 20:00
I got my purpose several months ago and it really made a change in how I see things, as well as my motivation for improvement
I love, and also kinda hate, how you use gen z/gen a language when explaining something lmao 🤣
Absolutely love your videos Denmo, have been loving them for a long time.
Ive been abused as a child which resulted to low self esteem which then resulted into being bullied at school. I finally see the necessity of going to therapy but the waiting list is like half a year. Really curious what its going to do for me. Meanwhile im focussing on settiing up a business and becoming profitable with daytrading whilst watching over my addicted brother. Tough times but it will get better. For sure going to implement what you said in this video.
BRO I LOVE THESE VIDS THANKS
I really think this is your best video
glad it helped brother
These videos are awesome even for guys who have a girlfriend. Very helpful!!
I’m listening to this at work. I have a lot of downtime and walking around scared to try to rizz up my coworker who I think is really cute
I believe in you buddy! Have faith in yourself!
rizz her rizz her!
Don’t shxt where you eat bro there can be consequences
Agreed, this could be a bad idea if you see them everyday. Plenty other cute girls
Unless this is a job with a high turnover rate or a job that’s not in the career field you want, I wouldn’t recommend doing that. But if it is one of those types of jobs, then fk it, go for it. If HR burns you because she gets the “ick” or if it actually does go well but one of you breaks it off later, then you can just get a new job elsewhere and disappear.
You should also probably ask yourself if you actually like her or if you just want to bone her because she’s pretty. You’re gonna be shxting where you eat if you date a girl that you work with. So maybe get to know her a bit first and then think to yourself that if she were ugly, would you still want to take her out
I seem to attract girls without even trying. But when im attracted to someone, My charisma goes out the window when in conversation.
When interacting with women, I notice they respond to three energy
1. Let hangout not let go on date- You’re saying the same thing but let hang out feel less stressful
2.Teasing.-Women love drama and to agrue
3.Being a boy- Being happy in your masculinity
They also like to make fun of dumb things like cliches in media, like talking and exaggerating how someone does something stupid in movies
love this content but make sure folks ! learn to implement action dont just learn to learn thats poitnless might as well go play games at that point lmao . LEARN AND IMPLEMENT ACTION!
“Self improvement is masturbation”
Yes indeed I watched dating content for probably 7 years straight before I approached a girl. I now can say after actually implementing and being consistent I finally landed a relationship with an amazing woman that makes me very happy!!
facts my man
@@isaiahharris7046hey man how many girls did you roughly approach before you started seeing results?
Denmo is right about a good portion of his content but there’s more to it. He is smooth enough that he could screw up some of his own rules and he would still be fine with girls. If you look at Denmo’s clip at 17:09, the girl actually steps backwards, away from him twice. But he goes from having a "threatening" posture to saying something sort of funny (because it’s ridiculous) so she becomes more comfortable with him at that point. In the clip that follows he actually takes a step backwards away from the girl, and she steps forward towards him to exchange info. If a girl steps towards you, she's not feeling threatened. If you are doing these cold approaches, not seeming weird or threatening is important to a lot of women. Also, If you’re coming through the door, so thirsty that you are practically humping the door handle on your way in, most techniques won’t save you. One of the best things you can do is to not seem thirsty. If you can learn to naturally interact with women without expecting something in return, that will go a long way.
Is nobody else gonna talk about how Jack outrigjt said hes diabetic in the video? That tells me that Jack doesnt make up all this advice. He truly doesnt care what people think. Outrigjt legend!
i am also diabetic and don't care. The problem is not that i care too much but that i do not connect to people, i don't laugh at their jokes, but i can laugh at some memes on the internet, because their jokes are simple and obvious.
nothing wrong with being diabetic man.. dont know why you would be afraid of people to know that
@@Denmosocial I don't mean it that way. What I mean is you say anything that comes to your mind with no regret and it's an awesome quality for a guy to have
23:00 - 23:04 Jack got possessed by the Hodgetwins for a moment lol
the tricep pump was too powerful
The point you made in the beginning about having a purpose really hit me. I've been lost for a long time, but you made me think a bit. I'm not 100% sure of what my purpose is but after some time thinking I made some progress and now i have a clue of what mi purpose is. I'll need a lot more meditation and thinking but now I've taken the fist step. Thanks. Now I have a question. I should continue approaching even if I don't know my purpose completely to gain experience and improve my social skills or I should completely focus my energy in finding my purpose and pursue my goals?
I love how he adapted it to brain rot terms for us
Yeah well, I have been through a break up😢. I honestly never experienced such a backstab from her.. but I guess it is time to move on, I am tired of living in the past. Just like predator i want to be able to look into now. Thanks a lot for video.
My trauma is that I had this belief of everyone I meet in life could potentially kill me and that's why it doesn't make sense to meet new people. Sounds ridiculous, right? That's what I think now, too, but 10 years ago it was a whole attitude that brought me to a point where I felt like I wanted to kill myself. (btw I'm currently 25 years old) A lot of things have changed for the better by now, I got past the trauma by focusing on everything that turns me into the fucking best version of myself
Thanks for the video Denmo, I love your work. Keep it up!
I love your smooth haircut dude
07:52 Bro I was listing to this in the background and I swear I thought you said herpes.
Wasn’t just me then
My trauma is this... I'm 34 . I was with my wife for 12 years, married for 7. She was my best friend and we were inseparable.
Then some guy at the gym that her and I went to started to pursue her. Love bombing her. He knew who I was and that I was married to her. He said to my wife "I look at you and you're so beautiful, and then look at him and think 'what are you doing?!".
After 90 days she left me for him. They lasted 5 months.
I am still so traumatized though that someone who was my best friend and loved for over a decade did that to me.
Thats women. She was never yours. It was just youre turn
Did she get half your stuff though?
@@caralho5237 No. We split half of our joint savings. 17k each. Split the profit of the house. 50k each. I kept my 120k in retirement. She had none.
Don’t feel sorry for yourself man, It happens to all of us. Focus on levelling up.
Dude that's so wild. I'm sorry man
Denmo you are right.
Denmo is the GOAT
20:02 That is a genius observation.
I've got some serious insights on trauma if any men here needs support. Been through various therapies and modalities that also includes plant medicine. It's healed my childhood trauma with my mom. Didn't know I had been carrying stuff from that since third grade. It's been so normal and ingrained into me that it became my Blindspot. Affected all my romantic relationships. Been free from this for a few years while I integrate and date heart beautiful women. Namaste, brothers.
While some of this advice might be good, I feel like it is more tailored to North American lifestyle.
In „colder” parts of Europe (Eastern and Northern) people won't be so keen to strike up a conversation with a stranger.
I don't agree. They can be surprised, but they will welcome the conversation (especially when they'll find out that you are not offering anything or asking for money). Czech guy here.
i come from scandinavia, nobody talks to anybody here. That makes it 10 times better, because girls are not getting approached. You get the number every single time. I have never NOT gotten a number when asking a girl, and im not that attractive...
@green303yup3 might be time for a Scandinavian tour, maybe I'll find a reason to hang wit yall
My cool friend is Alex and he's cool because he doesn't seem to care what people think he's just always laughing and joking around
Working a job that I don’t like but don’t hate, gotta find a purpose.
That's not how life works, you do what you do because of your capabilities and aspirations. Not everyone can go 6 figures in debt have the IQ to attend law school and end up as a top lawyer or doctor, understand it
Lately I’ve contemplated the possibility that romantic relationships may not be for me. I cannot get out of my own way to save my life man. I feel confident thinking about pursuing girls but when it comes time to act I completely freeze up and my nerves put me in a paralyzed state.
"first you gotta talk to an old man".
i fucking died at that part hahahahhaha
Watching from work
Greeting from Romania. I want to inform you that our women went to Spain, Italy and UK.🤣
I wish i had a strike-out counter to see how many times I've talked to a girl and I got shot down.
Just to understand my ratio.
Because memory is unreliable, and my memory of most approaches that didn't go well all went fine. Like nobody got maced or spat on or yelled at.
I remember being super cringe a fair bit, I remember those close calls where you in hindsight go "oh why didn't i just do xyz, it was going well", but having an actual bumber of times I've struck out would be fun.
spot on bro, excellent
And most importantly, consent is key buddy.
Thank you.
X ana X ...
I flirt in a relaxed way with the bride at her wedding and introduce myself to the husband on the side. 🤣🙈
You’re right dude. I gotta at least get out of the house and have a career before I can go out. My names also Jonny lmao
you got this jonny
no limiting beliefs
high self esteem
hunter eyes
Use Good mood its rare
open body
just say me and my buddy
your type boys
your type girls - to have fun with, you have any?
warm up
no outcome dependence
care about input
dont care it makes people love you
treat her normal
putting water in be calm as fuck
His sense of humor kill me
I’m able to approach girls in a social group, or in an event. As long as the location has a theme, because is no stress for me to start up a conversation by using the location theme as an opening. But this situation requires opportunity, this gonna waste a lot of time. I wanna approach freely while I could just randomly spot an attractive girl inside a mall
6:46 i felt that😢
Watching from my collage room next to 3 other :D
Mr Denmo. Can you make a video on how to land the second date?
Most often the girl ghosts me instead of coming on the second date, even though it was a fantastic first date.
Look at my recent video, where I’m on an instant date with a girl. Went very good but same problem. No second date.
Thanks man!
me too i don't understand why it happens so much
happens all the time
Great idea. Getting a first date is one thing, but getting the girl to want to see you again is another beast
I fw your grind but maybe having a camera in her face scared her off
Bro you guys just worked out and barely talked to each other. You need to build intimacy by building trust and you build trust through communication. A gym date is a perfect chance to guide her during her workout and give her tips instead of just working out next to each other without talking much. Communication, communication, communication. Once you've built that trust and she's confident that you're a great guy then you'll get the 2nd date.
I love these white board videos, it reminds me of Charlie from its always sunny in phili, y’all know the scene
Girls do care if a guy has friends for sure
what if we chance the outcome dependence to be the outcome of something totally in our control? like, instead of wanting the girl to like way, just expect to be able to approach even if nervous/anxious. Even if she likes you or not, you'll have a win because you achieved the desired outcome.
Thank you very much!
This is a catalog for his course
Mate, love your content, but I literally need content for fckin dwarfs. I'm 5'6 and I'm tremendously insecure about this stuff. I know you're tall, but you probably have some ppl who are short and have experience in this stuff. It's 1000% harder to approach women when you're that short so I would appreciate such content
Watch Casey Zander but take his advice with a grain of salt. In some of his videos he talked about having soul and projecting confidence.
You'll know you're doing better when other dudes start respecting you
@@Chud-mb7gl that's the point, there's nothing with others dudes respect, unfortunately. But thank you very much for the advice
@@prostohodim There is, unless you're dealing with idiots. You need to develop a reputation, learn to be a good listener and other men will love you as a brother or even their dad if you're older.
If some dude complains about something, you hate that thing too.
His wife left him? F that bitch, must have been a 304
Got fired? His boss is a piece of sht and you hope his tires get slashed.
Contrary to the popular, men are just as emotional especially when in distress and validating someone's feelings is an insanely fast way to make friends.
Being assertive is also much easier when you're talking to someone you're already familiar with and if there's no issues.
Wear lifts to 5'9
Yeah I second buying lifts up to 5'9" if you need this. I'm a natty 5'9" and wear flat shoes and I can sense the female gaze pretty well and when im glowing in their eyes cause they like my steez I can usually get some sparks going. Also go to the club wearing a costume that goes a little above my head making me taller seems to work. Might foe you too
Watching this at the gym
good man
Kamusta denmo, What path do you think should I choose?
You've been attending classes now it's time for practicals
Ok but i am having problems making friends and i am 30
Not gonna lie, I thought that Pu under good mood was going to be something else.
25, just went through my first really bad heartbreak. I’ve dated in the past but never really felt a strong connection to S/O until this latest girl and we honestly just drifted apart for no reason after about a year and I guess weren’t what each other needed. Haven’t been able to move on and she moved on to another person recently and it’s been eating away at me. I know it shouldn’t but it just sucks seeing someone you loved forget about you. I think i’m still in that trauma phase but really want to get it over with and start living my life again.
What would you suggest for helping to move on quicker outside of just sleeping around?
All jobs suck, just find the one that sucks the least for your individual situation.
at the gym right now. But never talk to girls at the gym for some reason
33. You talk a lot about starting a business. I love that idea. I don’t know where to start. I don’t know how to join a community of like-minded people (I think that would be helpful). I like the idea of becoming a RUclipsr. I have a lot of interest but wouldn’t know how to choose a neiche.
Yea, i need to unpack all the shit from my first 18 years of life
all good baby
How to find our purpose ? I wanted to be soccer player all my life but ım 22 and ım not so it is too late.The problem is ı cannot find my purpose now
>Go back to your videogame
lol, okay, whatever)
I had like a couple of good approach opportunities this week but didn’t take any of them 😢
been seeking self love and romance lately…
I joined the free socializer group but I still haven't been accepted.
34, autism, live at home, i'm not ready😵