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MY FIRST TIME
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Your channel is the reason why I recently was able to come out to my friends and family. I can't thank you guys enough
Congratulations 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
Congrats 🎉🎉👏👏💥🥳🥳
Other people are truly an inspiration! A TV show character helped me accept myself and come out 😅
Zach, you're a brave guy! I hope you'll continue to create more videos about Alastair and you as time goes by. Whatever you share is genuinely appreciated by everyone who watches, I'm sure! My partner and I were together for 40 years until he died in 2015---
Go Zach, Go. Your public speaking has improved with every post!
TRUST, UNDERSTANDING and COMMUNICATION!!!
The basis of long and supportive relationships.
I hope you both recover without any lasting complications, many will not.
Um can we just take a moment and appreciate the deep voice?
Thanks Zach! Great video! Your transparency is heartwarming and amazing!!! Thank you! How did you both catch the Rona?
Zach you're a true LEGEND brother! You're the BEST!!!!
Love you guys… ❤️❤️❤️
I’m a 27 year old virgin and that damn Catholic guilt is still kicking my ass. Went to a catholic boarding school all my life and just can’t shake it. When I went to college I tried to shake it off but I’d always fall back to it.
Same but I denounced the religion.
Hi from sunny Cape Town, South Africa. Enjoy your videos. You are a great positive example to gay people.
Straight forward to the point. Love your smile and chuckle.
Good point about connecting childhood sexual experiences (good or bad) to adult sexual experiences. They are related. Sometimes they need to be resolved, sometimes they need to be built on. Unfortunately, in my personal experience, the unresolved ones can harm the success of a sex life well lived in the present.
I wonder why they even have a government, when the government refused to do the work they are supposed to do.
Stay safe!
You guys are the best and helping young gay men get it
When I'm not mistaken you said Alastair has Corona virus. I hope everything is going well 👍 All the best for you both 🤗 And your video was awesome 👏
You have a great understanding partner there in Alistair. 👨❤️👨❤️
You were missed. This is excellent.
*You can instantly see a big difference between a girl and guy LOL*
Zach, my friend, you do not give yourself enough credit. Your courage in sharing such an intimate and emotionally painful milestone from your past as a cautionary tale for some and an assurance to others that they are not alone in their experience has done more good than you will ever know. Those big brown eyes do not lie when they say, "The sweetest soul lives in here." After a week if freezing Texas darkness, you brought us all a warm heart and the light of a truly kind spirit. Hope you and your man recover fully. You two have been sorely missed.
Any see the title and just automatically grab the popcorn or is it just me....
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Me too. Quickly finished what I had to do, got comfortable, and tapped go.👍
"... grab the popcorn"? Yes, it's just you. What? Wait, don't kill me! ;-P
No popcorn is bad for your teeth
I saw his video online...before Allister...big 🍆 and hairy...no popcorn needed though...lol
Imagine how much better off we'd all be if these types of open conversations happened in the education system 👀
Or even comfortably in the home. My folks never spoke to me about this stuff haha
@@AdventuresofZachandB same here, unfortunately!
I taught for 29 years and wish we could have been that open. He did a great job!
@@tylerandtodd School isn't about teaching sex ed. That's for your parents to do. Lots of predators in schools
@@timcamp2030 Of course its for schools to teach sex ed. A lot of parents simply aren’t gonna do it, and we can’t leave those children vulnerable to predators just because they’re unlucky enough to have those parents.
I know that Zach was trying to convey an important message in this vid... But that flexing hunky upper body of his... What were we talking about again?
Texas getting hit with a snowstorm. The type of snowstorm that the rest of the 70 percent of the U.S. gets without any issues other than roads being cleared. Especially in cities of the midwest, northeast, and Denver.
@@fromthehaven94 LOL seriously. It was a joke
@@maulok8441 So what if it was a joke? I'm not allowed to give a fact-based answer?
@@maulok8441 And I tried to make light of it by singling out Denver, which just got a massive amount of snow.
As a senior gay man myself, I must tell you that you are a very wise, kind and special young man. Wish there were more like you in presenting to the world the fine example of what so many gay people are. In other words, the positive imagine that you represent for us is very much appreciated. Thank you.
Like Rainbow Dreamer I'm a senior gay man. They only thing I would add is that when I was your age I never dreamed or even imagined that I would ever see a young man do what you have just done. It just was not possible for so very many years.
@@garystone2863 yes this is how a platform should be used for, helping others and I seen other RUclipsrs do this and I can't help but to comment and be happy and grateful for them because not many people will spent money and help others...
Well said I agree 100%.
@@garystone2863 Things have definitely changed a lot in the last 50 years or so. However, THIS young man would be a true rarity at anytime that has ever been. Maybe in another 50 or 100 years, the average gay man MIGHT have half the wisdom of Zack. We need guys like this.
Totally agree!
I was raised Southern Baptist & I felt guilty as well. However, I noticed that when i fooled around with a guy that I had feelings for there was no guilt. I was raised to believe sex outside of marriage was wrong period. I guess that bothered most. I was able to reconcile my religious beliefs with being gay. I'm now a Presbyterian, proud to be gay and wouldn't change it if i could. I still regret the pointless "hookups." I'm just glad there were only a few. I'm a commitment type of guy. This is an excellent video. I have many straight friends and was surpised to learn how often they had sex in rooms filled with people when they were young.
Hey Mike, I was raised in Arkansas as a Presbyterian! And I can’t relate more, it took so long, painful, and depressing struggle for me to realize that I had no guilt when I realized I was bisexual. I finally suddenly realized that the God I know would never hate or reject me for who I am no matter what. And I refuse to believe otherwise. I’m kind of non denominational now but I’m still absolutely a Christian! I believe He made me exactly how he wanted
Coming from the part of your audience that is straight women, so much of this applied to me. Thank you for sharing! Sex with my husband is magical...sex with my ex was used as abuse and my husband has taught me to how to love that side of life! 💚
We’re so grateful having such great allies like yourself
All of this yes! Finding the trust to be intimate with someoone is a huge step to make and sadly many people don't have the level of knowledge to make an educated decision. I'm in the UK, where our sexual education is not brilliant but seems to be miles better than in other parts of the world and especially from what I've heard from friends in America.
I actually came out to my parents as gay they were really accepting and understanding and they said they already knew before I even knew
Aww that's great😄
This is cool. I hope I can do it like you, but I cannot speak out about my homosexuality because they will kill me.
@@reyke1573 same. I'll do it in my 30s
some moms know that from the moment the baby is born...
@@SethHanLee @rey ke Trust me, one day you will just feel the urge and need to YELL at the top of your voice and tell everyone what type of love you prefer. Love is love. I hope that you will come out when YOU are ready, not when others tell you to come out or when TikTok tells you to come out. Yes it is important to come out and it would be great to have an accepting family, but it can be beneficial to come out when you feel most comfortable. You got this, I know some may say that "Omg my parents are so accepting, you should just come out!" but in reality, that isn't always the case. If you don't believe your parents are accepting and would put restrictions/restrict your life in any way, it may be better to wait until you are 100% ready. (I don't know how old you are, you may be 10,11,15,16,18, 20, 25,28, but I just gave the best I could).
Love is Love,
Nate :)
Zach there is a reason why majority of your audience are gay men is because including me you have saved our lives not just me but every other LGBTQ person in your audience you have changed our lives for the better
I’m just here to look at him.
Saved our lives? 😆 ,,,,
@@garysimmons1485 maybe look at the suicide rate of lgbtq people RUclipsrs usually help a lot
@@garysimmons1485suicide is a huge problem in the lgbt community
I get that , but like he doesn't have to get all the credit for the work of others. They are plenty of LGBT+ youtuber with tons of subscriber who do exactly like him and more. I'm not saying that he's doing bs thing , I'm just saying that making him the ''REASON'' why majority of people do that or that is kind of exaggerated.@@toddsmith1969
I clicked so fast
Gracias!
OMFG! You're human. But you're a freaking GREAT person. You understand your impact and even though this is a topic that is SO VERY uncomfortable for you - you try very hard to put that horrid past behind you to speak about a topic that is not easy to discuss so your viewers can be better people and to help those who need it also get thru some uncomfortable and scary things. I'm VERY happy you and Allistair found each other. Y'all fit together like a puzzle. It's wonderful to see. Ty VM for putting your fears, trauma, and past behind you to help others. I hope in some way it also was therapeutic and helpful to you to push thru it. ❤️❤️
I’m writing this down. Real men discuss consent, being gentle, comfort, communication and submission with sincerity and positivity. Got it.
such a resounding figure head and voice for the gay community, i look up to u :)
What’s great about this channel is Zach is so honest and genuine and self-deprecating. He speaks for a lot of us. And that laugh is the icing on the cake. Great guy.
In general, you both are one of my favorite gay male You Tube channels, because you present your full selves, not just a story or a "story book" version of your lives. I relate to you both and I'm grateful to your online presence. Be well guys!
I couldn't ever do it with a girl... that's just not natural! 🤢
Haha
@@AdventuresofZachandB Like you, I could do it at 17 but can't and won't do it anymore.
I have never been with a female, plenty of opportunities and awkward moments. I was 18 and knew what I wanted. I went to a gay beach met this hunky daddy made arrangements for my HS graduation night. I graduate and he takes me out celebrating and we spent the night together...liberated. No girl situations ever again.
I love this kind content when you just talk to us! Also love you and your strength! Stay safe down there ❤️
I missed you guys
Zach, Glad you fellas are ok. Everyone has their time and whether we want to remember, it happens. Mine was forcefully rape too young. I survived to tell others that life can come back to be better. I have had other times that were great and not so great. That is life. I am just looking to find a life partner to settle down with and spend the rest of my life sharing, loving, caring and just being together. This world is crazy. I am working to take care of my mom, work a fulltime job and deal with the drama. Time for the drama to go bye bye. 2021 IS going to be better. You stated you have been absent but you did a fine job on this video. You haven't lost your touch. See you on the next ones.
As for those out there suffering due to the weather. Hang tough and remember who your friends are. We have your backs when those that don't help you are in your face wanting your help. Stand strong. 2021 is time to make those changes. You know you are loved here!
Omg religious ocd! That is such a good term! I was definitely like that for a good part of my life
I’m a little confused, Zach... people were literally watching you when you lost your virginity?
That sounds awful.
Yeah that does suck it sounds like a bad frat house
where did he say that?
@@jojohns9670 Go to about 3 minutes into the video.
Thanks Zach for sharing your story and for being a decent, caring individual. You are a credit to the LGBTQ community, both you and Alastair.
My favorite gay couple! You guys rock!!!
Loving these Zach, your method of presenting, especially this topic is so on-point and clear. Communication - such a important skill that is very difficult for many. Thx!
This is one of THE most raw and open videos I think I’ve ever seen you do. I can really hear the emotion and uncomfortable feelings in your voice. Love your openness my friend and appreciate you sharing so much of you with us. You got a beautiful soul brother. 😊
mmm raw
U look like u did years ago when u first started yt baby face 👀
Lots of bright light will do that haha
@@AdventuresofZachandB nah don't be like that u look good own that shit
I know. It's been so long since I've seen Zach without his cap, hat, or something on his head.
Ikr
It’s true though. Looks like a years ago vid! Maybe COVID dropped a few lbs. Glad you both on other side of that.....which to me was the big informational piece of vid! But you look about 19yo here again, bud😎
Love the sheer honesty and the sensitive, thoughtful way you deliver it. You’re a good man. ❤️
The thing I love the most about you is that you're open, you don't push stuff on people, you are just about people being comfortable and happy.
It's scary how parallel our stories are and it's basically the exact same. You're super brave and kind to share this with us, and I hope this helps people know they aren't alone. :'D
Zack, I absolutely adore you. Thank you for being willing to be vulnerable with your audience about topics like this what so many people relate to yet is so rarely talked about openly. You are such an amazing man and just a shining example of strength, compassion, and unconditional support to the world around you.
You are 💯correct! HUMAN COMPASSION is most definitely LACKING!!!! I am a Nurse and I see it every day! I am from Minnesota! HUGS TO THE BOTH OF YOU!!!❤️🙏♥️💯If I can be of any help, PLEASE let me know! Sincerely, Joey😊
I hope you and Alastair get over CoVID soon. I'm glad to hear both of you are doing well in the Texas winter storm. Please stay warm and safe.
Nice job Zach. Awkward subject but you handled it with a sensitive touch. Bravo!
Great video Zach! It's been a while since you've done a "sit and talk" vid. Nice to see that it still works. Stay safe, stay warm. We have one more night of freeze here in Houston.
Wait wait am I the only one who heard you say that wasn't the first time you bottomed!? Can we hear that story please lol 😆
I know! I was like, "wait, what?" I rewound the video to make sure I heard him right. lol
I greatly admire your compassion and honesty. I am still way behind with being honest with myself, let alone my family. Your videos give me hope and encouragement. Thank you. Bless you.
I have to praise you for this message, because it’s so important! I too had some very awful things happen to me growing up, and I wish not only were the internet around then, but that there was a platform like RUclips around then. Because of those things that happened to me, I feel uncomfortable with sex. I’ve gotten better over the years but that feeling is still there. Giving consent and accepting consent is the most important thing, because if someone is ok to begin with and then they change their mind it’s important to accept that and not force something to happen when the other person doesn’t want it. It’s also important to know that if someone says no they mean exactly that, no. It’s not up for debate, no means no! I think you’ve come a long way Zach since those things because I can see it. It takes time, strength, courage, and nerve to persevere! Thank you again for sharing this!
A few times during foreplay I've had to say no I'm uncomfortable w this right now and every time but one they stopped. The guy that didnt stop had me shackled and cuffed to the top n bottom of the bed frame. I still have scars from that on my body. He was big and no lube no condom and he hurt me bad. I later found out he had HIV too. When I found out I did also and it came from him, I tried hiring a lawyer but I couldn't find anyone to take my case. Yes consent is everything!
@@ryanblack844 I’m sorry this happened to you! I hope that you were able to get counseling because i didn’t until it was almost too late, i attempted suicide many times as well as using illegal drugs that i had overdosed on numerous times, let’s just that for the amount of years i was using, the countless overdoses im thankful and blessed to be alive! As I was growing up I was psychologically, physically and sexually abused by a family member from the age of 8 and continued for 7 years. This person was also a deputy sheriff so I felt I had no one to report it to that would believe me over them. They also at times would force me at gun point! No one helped me at all even when the truth was out in the open. I had an eerily similar situation happen to me that you did. This was my 3rd male sexual partner were not really dating per se more like FWB type of situation. He too had HIV and didn’t tell me, he always up until that final time was gentle and would wear a condom but for some reason took it off mid way and he was already inside me before I realized it was off! He was also not gentle that time and he hurt me really bad and wouldn’t stop when I told him too. Basically because of my history I froze and became numb it was more or less like I was having an out-of-body experience. I didn’t find out until 10years later that I was HIV positive, I knew it was him because I hadn’t had any sexual partners since him. Honey when I say I was f’g pissed...!! Long story short, I tried to call him, he must’ve changed his number or something, I too tried to file a complaint but no one would do anything becase the statute of limitations had expired. Something needs to change in our legal system so that the statute of limitations for sexual assault cases does not expire!
Thank you for all your words Zach. I’m honestly a complicated person talking about sex, and for me is not so natural and enjoyable to have sex. Reinforce the message of not doing what you don’t really want to do is a great advice we all should remember.
Does anybody on here think that this guy looks a lot like Fred Savage on The Wonder Years? Or is it just me?
I like your tank. Looks good on you.
This was the Zach I love so much. You have the courage I want so badly. So many of my friends would be shocked by that statement cause they say I'm so outspoken, but that is rarely the case when it comes to my private life. One note: Bottoming is often considered submissive, but you can make it a dominant act. Don't look at it as someone doing something to you, but that you are allowing someone to be that intimate with you.
Agreed. When I mention being submissive, I don’t tie it to bottoming, just being submissive. Should have been more clear there
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Zach, as an older gay man I knew exactly what you meant and applaud you for believing in yourself & being honest about it, it's sad that we as humans can't be accepted for the people we are due to many many stances, I know this is an older video but I hope things are going great for you guys, much love to you both from Arkansas!
Beautifully spoken and very tasteful on every level.
I enjoy watching your videos. I love to listen to you talk, with that deep voice, and Texas accent. I've admired the relationship that you and Alistair have. I'm 58, and just came out to my family 3 weeks ago. Everyone has been supportive, and said for me to do what makes me happy. I hope to someday have what ya'll have. I've waited this long. A little longer want hurt me.
Zac, as one of your more mature followers (old enough to be your father) I applaud your youthful insight. So much of what you talked about I could so relate to: cultural, religious, etc. I do enjoy watching you and Allister and only wish you a continued happy, fruitful relationship. Thanks for reminding me of what was, and what can be.
I really admire the way open and honest about your life. Love your channel man!
Wow. What a brave video to share. Communication is key and developing positive body imaging that allows you the confidence to say no to an uncomfortable situation.
Thanks for sharing your story. Especially, the mental health aspect and consent. How it’s affected things and how to healthily approach those things.
also Can't wait for this storytime
I know, right! 🤯😁
The candor you offer in your videos is admirable. I think most of us aspire to be that way, but fall short for one reason or another. Clearly it is a quality that makes you so endearing to so many people. I can't help but wonder how much of it comes easily to you, versus how much of it requires heavy lifting behind the scenes on your part to be so. Either way, the end-result is awesome.
🌈❤️Hope your staying safe and warm!!!
Appreciate it bud. How're you?
@@AdventuresofZachandB doing good, Colorado hasn’t gotten any more snow than we’re used to this time of year but the temp has been a lot colder. Just can’t wait for warmer weather so I can get back to hiking and biking.
As an older guy I just wanted to say that it's so cool to see a young guy such as yourself with a great head on his beautiful shoulders. I think you're a very talented videographer and feel like you might be headed towards filmmaking as a serious career. Thanks for being woke & intelligent & empathetic. Your qualities are rare in this world of ours- whether straight gay or otherwise! I'm also really happy for you and Alister being successful in your relationship. Stay focused & stay serious about what you want to do & where you're going in life. It goes by faster than you can imagine! LMAO.
This accent, sweet-Jesus!
You've gotta commend this kind of vulnerability. We're all better for it when someone has the courage to be open about their experiences.
I wish I could have had a conversation like this 30 years ago, but it was a different time back then. Thank you Zach for sharing. So eloquently spoken and articulate.
This was actually a great video with excellent advice. We've all been in different but relatable moments. It's great being able to speak about them and be honest because it can actually impact and help lots of people out there.
We miss your videos so much.. your voice is so soothing♥️.. Team Kenya🇰🇪🇰🇪♥️♥️
For a min, I thought this was the coming out video you did a long time ago with the haircut and background here. You have not aged at all, so unfair lol 😂. Great video content anyway. Please stay safe and sound with Alastair.
Nice video 😍😍❤️ your words and your other videos shown were beautiful, greetings from Tampico Tamaulipas Mexico 😘🇲🇽🌹💐💐💐💐
Zach you are a true inspiration to not just gay men but to all people. I'm proud of who you are and all of your accomplishments. I really enjoy your videos and am happy you have a wonderful husband in Alastair. I love your accent, you are attractive but most important you have a great personality and are a lot of fun to watch. Enjoy watching you from the great state of OREGON.
Go Ducks!
Before I found out my sexuality, I was dating a girl in my Junior year of high school and there was a moment were something was gonna happen. I was close on doing it but I had a thought and said "I don't know if I can do this" and after that we broke up, I kinda had a hit that she just wanted to have sex instead of getting to know eachother. 6 months later was my First time ever and it was with a guy, he was a foreign exchange student from Italy. I had an emotion journey before that happened cause I didn't know why I wasn't attracted to girls during that time, but I can say that I'm grateful that I found out young and happy in today's standards.
Your candor and willingness to disclose what you have here is so much to be admired. You are thoughtful and clearly sensitive to the emotions and vulnerabilities in sexual situations. What a wonderful man you are. Bravo, Zach!!!
This video was so amazing, stories around consent with men are still too few and this was a welcomed addition to the landscape. Sorry to hear you guys got COVID-19 but I do hope you are both fully recovered. Looking forward to all you share this year.
You are amazing to be so honest and open about these experiences. I love that you've really thought about each one and have taken the time to know yourself. I admire you.
It is sad to hear about the rest of Texas. I am living in El Paso and didn’t get impacted like the rest of Texas but my family down South Texas did. It sucked that I couldn’t do anything for them but give them advice on what they need to load up on and keep warm. They didn’t have any power or water for almost 3 days. I don’t like living so far away from family. Stay safe everyone stay warm.
Wish you would do videos more regularly. You guys were like nephews we see weekly.
The plan is to get into 2-3 times a month. I'm working on it haha
@@AdventuresofZachandB Thank you! We really look forward to it! It is nice seeing young gay men leading much more normal lives than we had the opportunity and in a way we live our gay youths through you!
Thank you for your openness and honesty. First time experiences are rough and it's great to know that you went through the same thing that many of us have also gone through. Thanks for your posts. I have been watching for a long time and look forward to every post.
Zach my first time is something that has always been on my mind for the reason that I wasn’t okay with it. Just like you, I felt like I needed to please the person. I was such a people pleaser even if it was hurting me mentally.
I’ve been in a situation where I was with a very older guy and he got mad when I wanted to stop. He told me that he didn’t want to leave my place and that “not everyone will be as nice.” It was an uncomfortable situation.
Just wanted to remind everyone: your all beutiful
Beautiful......lol
You're*
Dude, I hang on your hunky gorgeous voice...
Hope you and Alastsir and the dog's and all your families are doing well.
I thought would never figure out what is going on here if I do not watch the whole thread from four years ago, so, there I go watching by date from last one on forward but finally I realize IT DOES NOT MATTER. I can jump in between this four years of posting and the answers are in each video. Each one is a reflexión of your soul, very rear to find.
My Christianity really effected me alot, Im still religious but It gave me so much guilt growing up, My boyfriend and I are at the "married couple" stage and I feel so comfortable with him, and like you said; we have our wholes lives to ease into things. I hope that I can give my children an enviroment that when they are ready for such things they know they are safe, not judged by me and their father or the lord. I wish christianity focused more on love not sin :/
P.S
great video
Im a Virgin gay, i wanna wait till marriage.
@@SethHanLee that's cool :)
@@the-symbol-of-the-umbran-way (*ﾟ∀ﾟ*)
You are sweet 🥺
Thank you for existing and being you 💖
Best to you and your lovely husband
I think your story times are your best videos! Have a great weekend
What an amazing fella you are Zach. Such honestly and humanity.
Thank you for sharing! Glad to see you again, Zach!
It was such a treat to see your new vlog pop up. Don't worry about how often you produce content.....take your time and move at your own pace. The wait is always worth it.
I am a straight female and to me knowledge is power. So I am finding this vlog very interesting. I wish nothing but the best for you and your husband.
Lucky bf he's got. Dude is a pretty boy, butch and has a great body. His bf must be loving life. ;)
You’re a good man, Zach. Thanks for everything, bro!
I applaud for your honesty! Videos' like these help those who struggle with their sexuality. You are an asset to their LGBQT community.
I never get tired to say: I LOVE THIS CHANNEL!
Zach, so honest, genuine, and down to earth. Much appreciated.
Also @tedcruz should resign.
A lot of these politicians need to resign, that's for damn sure
@@AdventuresofZachandB Texas government has abandoned us. Come Texas elections I will not vote for a single incumbent. We need new blood