Awesome. My child came out to me about a year and a half ago. Sometimes I thinks young adults are surprised when we aren't surprised. I believe in God and I believe that he doesn't make mistakes. So to me being gay or straight are both normal. The most beautiful thing in this world is love. The more of it there is the better we all will be.
That's exactly what my Mom says. If God wouldn't want me to be gay, I wouldn't be. If God wouldn't want me to be with a woman, he wouldn't have given me my wonderful fiancée.
I actually wished that Zach was in the video asking the questions since we all knew it was him asking the questions anyway. They have done q & a together before. Perhaps they wanted to create a different look with this video.
Alastair is more of an introvert than Zach, and this is the most I have ever heard him say before! He looks so relaxed and comfortable here, and I think he's found the perfect partner in Zach. They fill in the blanks for one another, and that is great. Hello, too, to B - the world's cutest dog.
So impressive. The more I see of Alastair the more I can see why Zach loves him (and vice versa). Zach, you do take such good videos. Low-key and professional. I was transfixed.
Wow! I have watched videos with Alistair from the beginning and from the first one I watched to this one, it is amazing how comfortable and well spoken he's become in front of the camera. That's one of the best coming out stories I've heard and I've watched too many to count. I'm a gay dad and have a transgendered son and I just want you guys to know that I'm very proud of you both and the messages you two put out to the world. Keep your videos coming.
Alastair, thank you for that heartfelt and well-thought-out response. I'm struggling with the whole coming out process and I'm way older than you. I have so many questions and comments, but mostly I'd like to say of all the videos like this that I've watched recently, yours is by far the best and most hopeful. Thanks
Todd it is a difficult thing, I am 55 and still coming out. It is to late for my mum she has dementia but I came out to my dad only 4-5 weeks ago (doh) as he asked my sister if I had a family in Thailand which broke my heart as I had found out a month earlier that my Thai partner of 8 yrs (engaged 4 yrs) had a Thai bf for the last year and a half which hurt me enough and then the feeling of guilt I felt with not telling dad of not only my sexuality but my relationship I had for so long, but he was cool as and said he had never had a problem with homosexuality and he loved me and was proud of me. I am now out to all my family bar 1 brother who outed me 2 Christmases ago to family friends of which I have yet to talk with him about outing me when I wasn't out to him. In regards to coming out to the community as a whole don''t care to its nobodies business though if Im asked Í will see where i am at with that. As for my family they have been excepting and loving as always and have told me that I have grown and come out of my shell so to speak since telling them. The big regret is I have missed out on so much over a long time basically living a lie but thats life and we do what we do, so just do whats best for yourself....
I think you have a certain level of 'gravitas' that comes across well and clearly regardless of your reluctance to be ... so public. That carries a lot of weight for you as a person and for your message. You are simply a very likeable fellow with a lot going for you that is easy for many folks to identify with from their own perspectives and positions. That is CURRENCY--weight--impact--influence ... for you to use constructively, as you see fit, imho. I just encourage you to continue being 'brutally' honest with yourself and your viewers. Perhaps most importantly, I encourage you both to continue to emphasize the highest priorities of being loving, empathetic, patient, humble, routinely putting the other one more or less first; and fun with one another as extremely high values and ways of being in the world and in your relationship.
What a supportive, balanced and grounded video; well done guys! I had a really tough time during my coming-out process, many years ago. I think you're absolutely right when you say that coming-out means first coming-out to yourself. I also had a strong Christian religious upbringing and initially immersed myself in my faith to try and 'cure' my feelings. In the end I suffered depression and began to hate myself. I learnt a very sobering lesson from this - You can't love God and hate yourself at the same time, it doesn't work that way. I'm still a Christian, I love my faith very much, it's pretty central to my life, but now I can also say that I love the man I've been with for 18 years and feel very blessed about it too. It's sometimes, but unfortunately all too often the case, that gay Christians feel rejected by their spiritual community. This has the effect of pushing us away from God, and away from a nurturing spiritual community, which we may also need access to; personally I think this is tragic. There is most definitely a place for God in gay relationships, and I always encourage those who may be feeling a little disheartened and who are searching, not to give up on God's infinite unconditional love for all of us.
I'm so proud of u guys. You boys have come a long way! So happy you found each other. I'm a 64 year old gay man who came out BEFORE Stonewall. It was 1966! I was 13. Coming out can be just as stressful today. You've handled the whole thing beautifully. All the best to you my brothers! Love GG
Zach, that is one brave, amazing dude you married there. I’m sure this was more than a little outside of Alastair’s comfort zone, but him doing it anyway to share with us and help others is not only moving, but really an example to all of us. Thanks for the video guys! I actually have someone important to share this with.
I literally NEVER have commented on a RUclips video before, but I just want to say a quick comment. Your videos are simply wonderful. They're thoughtful, genuine, and helpful. From what I can see, you two are amazing people. I wish you nothing but the best. :)
Alastair, first of all I love that name...now, I’ve commented on so many of Zach’s videos and I truely care about you two and your relationship. You two have been such an inspiration for me to come out and be myself. Thank you so much for that. I had forgotten what Happy felt like, but now I’m just me. Seriously thank you
Alastair, you are one brave man to bare your soul on video for all to see. I, for one, appreciate how heartfelt and somewhat uncomfortable this was for you. You have my gratitude for being so uniquely brave. Also, thank you for your service to our country and may you enjoy those butter bars on your collar!
Thank You Alastair for your well said and openness to share your coming out story with us all, and I am proud and honored to say having you being apart of our military team, with your views and thought process, people, our country/ world and how you let us see the world thru your eyes deeply thank you.
Zach's voice off screen sounds like, some celebrity guy, Sylvester Stallion.... it's deep and southern like it! Moving relatable story.. love the three of you (Zach, Ali and B) 😻😻
Thanks for sharing, Alastair, and love your calm demeanor and easy laughter! Hope you do a Q&A soon. Your perspective as a gay West Point grad could really help a lot of young gays considering service. Take care, sir!
I was in the USAF from the 70's to the 90's and it is really strange to hear you say "Westpoint gay community", in my day it was you are gay you are out with an other than honorable discharge. I am so glad you have this opportunity and things have changed for the better. You are amazing Alastair.
Thank you so much Alastair and Zach. Alastair this was such an honest, heartfelt (yet humorous at times) coming out story. Guys this is very helpful for anyone struggling with coming out, especially in Australia at present as we are in the middle of a very dangerous stupid vote on whether same sex couples should get married. This is making a lot of gay people struggle with thoughts self hatred, and worse. Your closing statements were right on the point. Thanks for taking the time and sharing this.
Absolutely one of the best, intelligently reliving of a coming out story. I've never been more impressed with you, more than I am today! Thank you for this, for being confident and for not bashing Christ in the process (pray the gay away). Awesome job.. honestly!
Congratulations for being yourself. Me, I'm a retired army officer and I hid my true identity for years and lied on the application when asked about homosexuality otherwise back then I would've never been allowed in the military. I suppressed everything and now I'm an old guy and getting into a relationship at this point in my life isn't going to happen. I grew up Christian too and tried to pray the gay away but it never happened and I never woke up in the early morning as a lusting heterosexual. It's a very lonely life. I need to clarify something here, I'm not a man wanting to be a woman, I don't know why ignorant heterosexuals think that about us. I love being a man because that's what I am first. Being gay is just a minute part of who I am. BTW I love women but I don't feel sexual towards them. Close friends of mine know and my sister, however those that don't know don't need to know
Who you are is no other person's business, and no one is obliged to explain himself/herself. You both are exceptionally nice and decent persons. Love, in it's purest form, will affirm and see you through.❤️
I’m a new (ish, about 3 weeks) subscriber and i appreciate ya’lls vlog. Thank you for sharing your life with all of us. I have been with my husband for 16 years ( we were 26) and we moved pretty quick too. I will tell you, the 1st year of sharing of lives together was the hardest for me bc of it moving so darn fast. All I can tell you is that communication is key. And just like a any relationship there will be ups and downs but trust and communication is key. Thanks again for sharing your lives with all of us.
You guys are very lucky to have found each other. I can see from this video what you saw in this man Alastair. Honesty, integrity, a real man. love each other always!
Very nicely done. I love your advice at the end. Zach has definitely been a big influence in getting that "shyness of the camera" out of you. You only have one life, live it to your fullest. much love to you two!!
Alastair, thanks so much for sharing your story with us! It's very inspiring to everyone, with a message of being yourself, being proud of and loving yourself! 👍🏻💕😍😁
More like an interrogation than a story 😂 but grateful for Alastair for sharing his experience with us. Each video just goes to show how down to earth you both are. Stay safe, greeting from Ireland!
I've been waiting on this video since I first subscribed! Loved hearing Alastair's story and how he feels about homosexuality. What a great guy. Thanks for sharing with us Alastair and for interviewing him Zach. Love you both.
Alastair Patton haha well it was well worth the wait! I always appreciate you and your husband's words of wisdom. It's helped me with my own coming out. Thank you both :)
USMC here. Hey Alastair, thank you for sharing a very personal part of your life with us. You truly are making a positive impression on LGBTQ youth and adults watching your story. Great job, keep it up!!! To quote Shakespeare: "To thine own self be true". All the best to you, Zach and B.
Alastair! You are the greatest! One of the most sincere, funny, and no drama coming out stories that I have ever heard in RUclips. The story about the letter to your mother, with the Q&A section, should be on a manual of how to come out for dummies; the comments about the email to your grandfather were just the cherry on top. If I could give you starts (and not just a single "like"), I would give you 5 (i.e., all of them). Very proud of having you representing the gay community on line.
Nicely done. Glad to know more brothers in arms who are not only able to come to terms with who they are, but also share their stories and make an impact on others lives.
That was inspiring and awesome, Alastair. Really well done. Nice work on the filming and editing side, Zach.......making an assumption. You did that part. You are a great team . Thanks for sharing. Also, I will never forget the trouble you two went to, to get my B and Co brand item shipped to my hotel in Texas! Nick
Lucky you man. I went to the Philippine Military Academy, and in my second year when I was a 3rd class cadet I spent 3 months in West Point in an exchange program along with other foreign cadets. I wish I was able to know you and even had a chat with you about this thing. Coz in truth, coming out in our academy, qnd as future leaders of our armed forces was definitely not choice here in the Philippines. I never knew anyone in the academy who was the same as I, so knowing you ang sharing this would've given me air to breath a little amidst all the turmoil inside.
"You need to be okay with yourself before taking criticism of others" Thank you Alastair for yours words. You may be way younger than I am but you sure are wiser as it took me a hell lot of more than 24 years to figure this out (if only, it would've saved me a lot of stress, pain and sorrow). It sure does take strength and courage to come out and you have done it perfectly and with dignity. I wish you all the best to you and Zach.
It is so strange and inspiring to hear of a positive coming out story that involves West Point. The love of my life passed away a decade ago -- he was at West Point while I was at Duke. Captain of West Point's basketball team, I actually saw him play my sophomore year, a year before I actually met him - Coach K is a West Point graduate. His experience was nothing like yours. I remember hiding is his closet - LITERALLY hiding for hours in his apartment closet at Fort Bragg - when his buddies would stop by unexpectedly. I am proud for you, and for the path he inadvertently paved as he slowly came out during the height of 'don't ask, don't tell'. Jason was an amazing person, and I'm fortunate to have truly known him. Thanks for reminding me...
Alastair, thank you so much for sharing your story ❤️ And what a story! I didn't know you hadn't yet come out to your family when you met Zach; and now you guys are married! Much love and respect to you. Would you consider doing a Q&A? The part where you differentiate between "jealousy" and "attraction"; I'd never heard it phrased like that before, and I'd love to hear more of your thoughts and feelings on the coming out process
thanks for being real. i have just started the process and sometimes have no clue what i am doing. i do know it's what i need to do live completely and i am beyond grateful y'all have given me the courage to be real
I love you two. Keep yourselves happy. I came out in Texas in the late '60s and faced death threats, humiliations and bashings as well as loving support. I refused to go back in the closet, and at 19 met a 21 yr old Army guy who was serving in Vietnam. His love & kindness blew me away. He returned to duty but he was killed by 'friendly fire'. Don't ever give up. Love is the way. Lastly, do know we are so proud of you both and your families. Love always, Joseph Roehl
Dude Alastair! Your such an inspiration. I'm going through the same thing with dealing with balancing my gay life with my faith. Thanks for the hope you gave me in this video. You and Zach are so awesome.
Well said Alastair. Thank you for sharing your story and reactions. As always, congratulations on finding each other! It sure is grand when you find the right one!!
Great video Alastair and Zach! Alastair you're so confident that your testimony will certainly be helpful for people still in the closet. Thanks for them.👍
Alastair - I am a 68 year old gay man. I joined the US Air Force in 1967. Didn’t go to Viet Nam that is one of my few regrets in my lifetime. During those years in the AF one had to volunteer. I came out while I was in the military in 1969. I didn’t hide the fact that I was gay and have always done what I could in the fight for gay rights. I got out of the Air Force in 1971 and went on to use my GI Bill to get a Masters of Social Work. I give you this background because I feel I have contributed something to you being an out soldier. You give me a great sense of pride. We both know there are and have been many closeted men and women in the military who felt they could not be out. You will hopefully give them the courage to come out. I know you will still experience prejudice and I admire you for being willing to stand up to this prejudice. You honor yourself and your family. You are a roll model for men and women who will come behind you. Our LGBT communities desperately need roll models. I am happy that I have lived long enough to know of a young out gay man who was graduated from West Point. I am really proud of you and I know Zack is too. I hope he realizes how important his job is to support you. It is not an easy thing for a man to put his ego aside for the greater good. You may one day lead men into life and death situations. Thank you Zack for your sacrifice. Respectively yours, Kenneth Brock brockkenneth@gmail.com
Zach and Alastair: You both are a huge asset to the gay community on YT and everywhere really. You guys are sincere, open and honest. This type of content is needed and helps so much during critical times when not much else can provide any reassurance.
Wow!!! Best content from your channel so far Zach!! 👍🏻👏🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 This is so powerful and just amazing! Gonna admit... I think Im more in love 😍 with Alastair now... lol (still love you Zach 😉) Love the way he talked, shared his thoughts and feelings. This really showcased how beautiful and smart a man he is! 😍🔥❤️🤤😋 Ur a VERY lucky man Zach! Wishing you guys all the best and love ❤️😘😘
Fine job Alastair, got a laugh when you talked about telling people you have a husband not a wife. My husband and I are 57 years old and we still have to tell people we are husband's and not brothers. I guess after 18 years we must look alike. 😱 Love you guys. Blessings and peace to you both.
You have such an incredibly important message. We have come so far, but the way things are today - I fear we could creep backwards as a society. You men are exactly the example we need! Huge kudos to you both.
Great story Alastair!! I'm sure kids that are struggling with coming out would appreciate this story. It was very courageous of you not to just come out but share it with everyone. Thank you for the share.
You did a great job, AJ. Thanks for sharing. I have mad love for you both and wish you two nothing but the very best. And, I want to thank you for your service.
"Director" Zach in the background is so funny especially asking the questions and hearing in his voice that maybe he really doesn't want to hear the answers because it deals with his husbands sexual history. And his nervous laughter is funny. And just watching the blood rush to Alistar's neck and face brought back such memories of my own history of coming out. Thanks for giving something to the next generation that is so positive and educational. Always one of my favourite couples.
Great story. Love that he shared it. As a former Army Infantry Soldier whose military career was indirectly ended because of my orientation I love the fact that Alastair is able to be open both at West Point and to his platoon (making an assumption on that one since he did not directly indicate that but he did say he was living life as an openly gay man). That would have been unthinkable in my day in the Army (late 80's early 90's, before Don't Ask, Don't Tell). Would love to hear him talk about how his soldiers reacted, how his chain of command reacted, etc.
@Alastair Patton, I really liked how you said that "you have to be honest with yourself before you can be honest with others". It was difficult for me in the 1970's when I couldn't be true to myself and ended up marrying a woman because that's what society was expecting me to do. It was after two failed marriages and I was at the age of 36 when i decided to be totally honest with myself about who and what I am. That's when I became truly happy within my own skin. I want to thank you and Zach for all the videos you do. You guys are awesome. Keep it up.
This was a great video and I am so glad to hear about Alastair's coming out. Please continue to share his experiences, stories and advice. You guys are inspirational!
Great video Allister and Zack. I have been watching Zack since he started and watching your relationship grow here. now, seeing your coming out story, we can see more of you both as you grow. Always looking forward to Zack 's big smile and your shy smile on each video that comes out. Keep them coming guys and hey to B also.
Alistair, I am not your father, but i couldn't be more proud to call you an acquaintance, You and husband enjoy your life, you deserve it, great video, thanks, Douglas ,Toledo, Oregon, USA
I want to thank you both for being so inspirational to me. I live in a very traditional environment in England and I was forbidden thirty years ago by my army officer parents to ‘come out’ as it was, and still is to them, totally unacceptable to do so. I’m in my fifties now and have led a very lonely and loveless life but your wonderful story brings me joy and I am so very happy for you both. God bless you and keep you always.
Well done Alastair! So articulate and honest, the detailed Q & A to your Mom was such a caring & considerate approach to me. I'm so proud of both you and Zach and so happy that you found each other.. Blessings to you both (and B too!) ♥ Fan & friend for life...
Thank you for your story Sir. Everyday is a struggle being an openly Gay Infantrymen but life is getting better. I never meet an openly gay male officer and I am overjoyed to have seen witnessed your journey. Mad respect Sir!
The more I watch things like this and see how the younger generation deals with their sexuality, the more proud I am to be part of this community. I never thought we'd get here in my lifetime. Glad to see I was wrong.
It is great to hear Alastair tell his story in his own words. For someone who well remembers when it was impossible to be openly gay in the military, much less married to another man, it is heartening to see the great strides we have made in this country, and I hope we can continue to go forward rather than backward.
I wondered how long it would be before this story/video was made. IMO it really shows how far your relationship has come and truly become one. Alastair thank you so much for making this video. You guys are both amazing.
Wow. That was a very sweet and thoughtful video. As a guy in my 40s who grew up at a time pre-Internet in a rural area, we didn't have any way to explore what being gay meant. We only had the negative stereotypes as seen on TV. It's great that you guys are making these videos about just living your lives. Thank God there is the Internet where young LGBTQ kids can go and find videos like this. Perhaps your videos have helped to save some young kid's life somewhere who sees no hope for a better future. Having grown up in the country myself (Go Vols!), It's really refreshing to see a couple of guys being themselves away from the heart of the gayborhoods and out in middle America. (You're braver than I.)
"Part of coming out is coming out to yourself."
Well said!
You did great Alastair, thanks for sharing your story! Have a great weekend guys!
Awesome. My child came out to me about a year and a half ago. Sometimes I thinks young adults are surprised when we aren't surprised. I believe in God and I believe that he doesn't make mistakes. So to me being gay or straight are both normal. The most beautiful thing in this world is love. The more of it there is the better we all will be.
Jason Tiver that's a really good viewpoint. It's always hard to accept who you really are and come to terms with what will make you happy
That's exactly what my Mom says. If God wouldn't want me to be gay, I wouldn't be. If God wouldn't want me to be with a woman, he wouldn't have given me my wonderful fiancée.
You're amazing!
Jason Tiver watch Matt and Blue. They have an amazing son named Crow! 😊
Congratulations on your coming out story Alastair. Meanwhile, Zach's back there laughing adorably.
I actually wished that Zach was in the video asking the questions since we all knew it was him asking the questions anyway. They have done q & a together before. Perhaps they wanted to create a different look with this video.
The part about not differentiating between jealousy and attraction... wow. That was literally me.
I am now trying to work out if I feel jealous tbh
Same
Alastair is more of an introvert than Zach, and this is the most I have ever heard him say before! He looks so relaxed and comfortable here, and I think he's found the perfect partner in Zach. They fill in the blanks for one another, and that is great. Hello, too, to B - the world's cutest dog.
So impressive. The more I see of Alastair the more I can see why Zach loves him (and vice versa). Zach, you do take such good videos. Low-key and professional. I was transfixed.
Wow! I have watched videos with Alistair from the beginning and from the first one I watched to this one, it is amazing how comfortable and well spoken he's become in front of the camera. That's one of the best coming out stories I've heard and I've watched too many to count. I'm a gay dad and have a transgendered son and I just want you guys to know that I'm very proud of you both and the messages you two put out to the world. Keep your videos coming.
Sounds like you have a good few stories yourself. I appreciate it, man
Such a warm-hearted, level-headed young man. My best to both.
Alastair just gained a lot of fans from this video I think. I'm glad he did it.
Alastair, thank you for that heartfelt and well-thought-out response. I'm struggling with the whole coming out process and I'm way older than you. I have so many questions and comments, but mostly I'd like to say of all the videos like this that I've watched recently, yours is by far the best and most hopeful. Thanks
Todd it is a difficult thing, I am 55 and still coming out. It is to late for my mum she has dementia but I came out to my dad only 4-5 weeks ago (doh) as he asked my sister if I had a family in Thailand which broke my heart as I had found out a month earlier that my Thai partner of 8 yrs (engaged 4 yrs) had a Thai bf for the last year and a half which hurt me enough and then the feeling of guilt I felt with not telling dad of not only my sexuality but my relationship I had for so long, but he was cool as and said he had never had a problem with homosexuality and he loved me and was proud of me. I am now out to all my family bar 1 brother who outed me 2 Christmases ago to family friends of which I have yet to talk with him about outing me when I wasn't out to him. In regards to coming out to the community as a whole don''t care to its nobodies business though if Im asked Í will see where i am at with that. As for my family they have been excepting and loving as always and have told me that I have grown and come out of my shell so to speak since telling them. The big regret is I have missed out on so much over a long time basically living a lie but thats life and we do what we do, so just do whats best for yourself....
Notification fam! I have to say that Alastair has come a long way w/ the shyness since the 1st video. Appreciate his story.
R Quig I'm not the most comfortable on camera haha
I think you have a certain level of 'gravitas' that comes across well and clearly regardless of your reluctance to be ... so public. That carries a lot of weight for you as a person and for your message.
You are simply a very likeable fellow with a lot going for you that is easy for many folks to identify with from their own perspectives and positions. That is CURRENCY--weight--impact--influence ... for you to use constructively, as you see fit, imho.
I just encourage you to continue being 'brutally' honest with yourself and your viewers.
Perhaps most importantly, I encourage you both to continue to emphasize the highest priorities of being loving, empathetic, patient, humble, routinely putting the other one more or less first; and fun with one another as extremely high values and ways of being in the world and in your relationship.
R Quig YOU SHOULD CHECK OUT MATT AND BLUE AND YOU WILL NEVER WANT TO COME BACK IF YOU WATCH WHEN THEY ADOPT THEIR SON FROM THE BEGINNING (;
Now we need a video of Alastair speaking Spanish!!😛💖💖
YES PLEASE!!!
What a supportive, balanced and grounded video; well done guys! I had a really tough time during my coming-out process, many years ago. I think you're absolutely right when you say that coming-out means first coming-out to yourself. I also had a strong Christian religious upbringing and initially immersed myself in my faith to try and 'cure' my feelings. In the end I suffered depression and began to hate myself. I learnt a very sobering lesson from this - You can't love God and hate yourself at the same time, it doesn't work that way. I'm still a Christian, I love my faith very much, it's pretty central to my life, but now I can also say that I love the man I've been with for 18 years and feel very blessed about it too. It's sometimes, but unfortunately all too often the case, that gay Christians feel rejected by their spiritual community. This has the effect of pushing us away from God, and away from a nurturing spiritual community, which we may also need access to; personally I think this is tragic. There is most definitely a place for God in gay relationships, and I always encourage those who may be feeling a little disheartened and who are searching, not to give up on God's infinite unconditional love for all of us.
I like the way Alastair is really thoughtful (wise) and sincere.... and a keeper.
I'm so proud of u guys. You boys have come a long way! So happy you found each other. I'm a 64 year old gay man who came out BEFORE Stonewall. It was 1966! I was 13. Coming out can be just as stressful today. You've handled the whole thing beautifully. All the best to you my brothers! Love GG
Garrett Glaser I really appreciate your comment. It's crazy how times have changed
Garrett Glaser I’ve seen this comment a bunch of times o diferentes videos is this spam or you just copied and paste all the time ??
"part of coming out is coming out to yourself" very well said, thanks for another great video
Great video Alastair. I'm amazed you've only been out a year, yet was brave enough to hold Zach's hand at West Point. Big props my man.
He's so handsome
I needed this! Thanks Alastair for sharing and Zach for recording it. I was surprised that you hadn't come out to your family prior to meeting Zach.
Zach, that is one brave, amazing dude you married there. I’m sure this was more than a little outside of Alastair’s comfort zone, but him doing it anyway to share with us and help others is not only moving, but really an example to all of us. Thanks for the video guys! I actually have someone important to share this with.
I literally NEVER have commented on a RUclips video before, but I just want to say a quick comment. Your videos are simply wonderful. They're thoughtful, genuine, and helpful. From what I can see, you two are amazing people. I wish you nothing but the best. :)
Alastair, first of all I love that name...now, I’ve commented on so many of Zach’s videos and I truely care about you two and your relationship. You two have been such an inspiration for me to come out and be myself. Thank you so much for that. I had forgotten what Happy felt like, but now I’m just me. Seriously thank you
Alastair, you are one brave man to bare your soul on video for all to see. I, for one, appreciate how heartfelt and somewhat uncomfortable this was for you. You have my gratitude for being so uniquely brave. Also, thank you for your service to our country and may you enjoy those butter bars on your collar!
Thank You Alastair for your well said and openness to share your coming out story with us all, and I am proud and honored to say having you being apart of our military team, with your views and thought process, people, our country/ world and how you let us see the world thru your eyes deeply thank you.
Zach's voice off screen sounds like, some celebrity guy, Sylvester Stallion.... it's deep and southern like it!
Moving relatable story.. love the three of you (Zach, Ali and B) 😻😻
Zach cracking up in the background is hilarious.
Thanks for sharing, Alastair, and love your calm demeanor and easy laughter! Hope you do a Q&A soon. Your perspective as a gay West Point grad could really help a lot of young gays considering service. Take care, sir!
You said exactly what I was thinking as well. Very soothing demeanor. Alastair, you would make a great mentor.
Michael Contreras watch Matt and Blue. They have an amazing son named Crow! 😊 THANK U
I was in the USAF from the 70's to the 90's and it is really strange to hear you say "Westpoint gay community", in my day it was you are gay you are out with an other than honorable discharge. I am so glad you have this opportunity and things have changed for the better. You are amazing Alastair.
Awesome video! Thanks for sharing your story!
Carson And Nate thank you guys for your stories!
Carson And Nate you too are same....both of you are a good partner
Appreciate it
What a disgusting comment. People should pray for you
Carson And Nate morning coffee home chilling ralexing 🌞🐕 😋 iove you too 🐕
Thank you so much Alastair and Zach. Alastair this was such an honest, heartfelt (yet humorous at times) coming out story. Guys this is very helpful for anyone struggling with coming out, especially in Australia at present as we are in the middle of a very dangerous stupid vote on whether same sex couples should get married. This is making a lot of gay people struggle with thoughts self hatred, and worse. Your closing statements were right on the point. Thanks for taking the time and sharing this.
Absolutely one of the best, intelligently reliving of a coming out story. I've never been more impressed with you, more than I am today! Thank you for this, for being confident and for not bashing Christ in the process (pray the gay away). Awesome job.. honestly!
Congratulations for being yourself. Me, I'm a retired army officer and I hid my true identity for years and lied on the application when asked about homosexuality otherwise back then I would've never been allowed in the military. I suppressed everything and now I'm an old guy and getting into a relationship at this point in my life isn't going to happen. I grew up Christian too and tried to pray the gay away but it never happened and I never woke up in the early morning as a lusting heterosexual. It's a very lonely life. I need to clarify something here, I'm not a man wanting to be a woman, I don't know why ignorant heterosexuals think that about us. I love being a man because that's what I am first. Being gay is just a minute part of who I am. BTW I love women but I don't feel sexual towards them. Close friends of mine know and my sister, however those that don't know don't need to know
Who you are is no other person's business, and no one is obliged to explain himself/herself. You both are exceptionally nice and decent persons. Love, in it's purest form, will affirm and see you through.❤️
Beautifully said. Thank you for your honesty and transparency. It was both refreshing and encouraging.
I’m a new (ish, about 3 weeks) subscriber and i appreciate ya’lls vlog. Thank you for sharing your life with all of us. I have been with my husband for 16 years ( we were 26) and we moved pretty quick too. I will tell you, the 1st year of sharing of lives together was the hardest for me bc of it moving so darn fast. All I can tell you is that communication is key. And just like a any relationship there will be ups and downs but trust and communication is key.
Thanks again for sharing your lives with all of us.
It was really nice hearing Alastair's story. Thank you for sharing that with us!
You guys are very lucky to have found each other. I can see from this video what you saw in this man Alastair. Honesty, integrity, a real man. love each other always!
Very nicely done. I love your advice at the end. Zach has definitely been a big influence in getting that "shyness of the camera" out of you. You only have one life, live it to your fullest. much love to you two!!
Alastair, thanks so much for sharing your story with us! It's very inspiring to everyone, with a message of being yourself, being proud of and loving yourself! 👍🏻💕😍😁
More like an interrogation than a story 😂 but grateful for Alastair for sharing his experience with us. Each video just goes to show how down to earth you both are. Stay safe, greeting from Ireland!
I think "Alastair's Coming Out Interrogation" has a nice ring to it
I've been waiting on this video since I first subscribed! Loved hearing Alastair's story and how he feels about homosexuality. What a great guy. Thanks for sharing with us Alastair and for interviewing him Zach. Love you both.
Blake M it's been a long time in the making haha
Blake M CHECK OUT MATT AND BLUE AND YOU WILL NEVER WANT TO COME BACK WATCH WHEN THEY ADOPT THEIR SON FROM THE BEGINNING (;
Alastair Patton haha well it was well worth the wait! I always appreciate you and your husband's words of wisdom. It's helped me with my own coming out. Thank you both :)
Blake M I think your feet stink !
USMC here. Hey Alastair, thank you for sharing a very personal part of your life with us. You truly are making a positive impression on LGBTQ youth and adults watching your story. Great job, keep it up!!! To quote Shakespeare: "To thine own self be true". All the best to you, Zach and B.
Alastair! You are the greatest! One of the most sincere, funny, and no drama coming out stories that I have ever heard in RUclips. The story about the letter to your mother, with the Q&A section, should be on a manual of how to come out for dummies; the comments about the email to your grandfather were just the cherry on top. If I could give you starts (and not just a single "like"), I would give you 5 (i.e., all of them). Very proud of having you representing the gay community on line.
You are a hero to young people and I'm so honored to have the privilege of hearing your story.
what a beautiful message Alastair!! thank you for sharing your story ☺
❤💛💚💙💜
A beautiful man ☺
Tom McElligott I
he is brave inside & out, he is a true soldier
Nicely done. Glad to know more brothers in arms who are not only able to come to terms with who they are, but also share their stories and make an impact on others lives.
"Is there a gay agenda? I haven't received the booklet yet." 😂😂😂 I gotta use that on my mom when I come out.
That was inspiring and awesome, Alastair. Really well done. Nice work on the filming and editing side, Zach.......making an assumption. You did that part. You are a great team . Thanks for sharing.
Also, I will never forget the trouble you two went to, to get my B and Co brand item shipped to my hotel in Texas!
Nick
Lucky you man. I went to the Philippine Military Academy, and in my second year when I was a 3rd class cadet I spent 3 months in West Point in an exchange program along with other foreign cadets. I wish I was able to know you and even had a chat with you about this thing. Coz in truth, coming out in our academy, qnd as future leaders of our armed forces was definitely not choice here in the Philippines. I never knew anyone in the academy who was the same as I, so knowing you ang sharing this would've given me air to breath a little amidst all the turmoil inside.
Very sweet video. Alastair, your honesty and openness is wonderful. I love Zach laughing in the background. So fun! Hugs to both of you!
"You need to be okay with yourself before taking criticism of others"
Thank you Alastair for yours words. You may be way younger than I am but you sure are wiser as it took me a hell lot of more than 24 years to figure this out (if only, it would've saved me a lot of stress, pain and sorrow).
It sure does take strength and courage to come out and you have done it perfectly and with dignity.
I wish you all the best to you and Zach.
I hope that many people who are struggling with their "coming outs" watch this vid... Thank you Alistair for sharing this... Amazing!
Thanks Alastair for sharing your story. I'm sure it will help others and happy that you and Zach are a wonderful path together!
It is so strange and inspiring to hear of a positive coming out story that involves West Point. The love of my life passed away a decade ago -- he was at West Point while I was at Duke. Captain of West Point's basketball team, I actually saw him play my sophomore year, a year before I actually met him - Coach K is a West Point graduate. His experience was nothing like yours. I remember hiding is his closet - LITERALLY hiding for hours in his apartment closet at Fort Bragg - when his buddies would stop by unexpectedly. I am proud for you, and for the path he inadvertently paved as he slowly came out during the height of 'don't ask, don't tell'. Jason was an amazing person, and I'm fortunate to have truly known him. Thanks for reminding me...
Excellent video gentlemen....very proud of you both, and Alastair...Thank You for your service !!
Alastair, thank you so much for sharing your story ❤️ And what a story! I didn't know you hadn't yet come out to your family when you met Zach; and now you guys are married! Much love and respect to you. Would you consider doing a Q&A? The part where you differentiate between "jealousy" and "attraction"; I'd never heard it phrased like that before, and I'd love to hear more of your thoughts and feelings on the coming out process
Thank you for sharing this personal journey. I hope many young men considering coming out will feel strong and empowered by your experience, Alistair.
Good job Alastair and Zach! This is great! Love you guys!
thanks for being real. i have just started the process and sometimes have no clue what i am doing. i do know it's what i need to do live completely and i am beyond grateful y'all have given me the courage to be real
01:40 "The only way I was actually going to be happy, would be to be myself "
Thanks for sharing Alastair. It's hard for all of us at first but it does get better. All my love to you guys. Take care!
That last line is so powerful! Thank you for sharing.
Okay, well...that was awesome. Really liked the interview format and how professionally you answered his questions. Great job!
I love you two. Keep yourselves happy. I came out in Texas in the late '60s and faced death threats, humiliations and bashings as well as loving support. I refused to go back in the closet, and at 19 met a 21 yr old Army guy who was serving in Vietnam. His love & kindness blew me away. He returned to duty but he was killed by 'friendly fire'. Don't ever give up. Love is the way. Lastly, do know we are so proud of you both and your families. Love always, Joseph Roehl
Hiya Alistair,i tried praying all my life.I am still alone.So glad you decided to be so brave.It was different in the 70 s.Glad to see some progress
Dude Alastair! Your such an inspiration. I'm going through the same thing with dealing with balancing my gay life with my faith. Thanks for the hope you gave me in this video. You and Zach are so awesome.
Well said Alastair. Thank you for sharing your story and reactions. As always, congratulations on finding each other! It sure is grand when you find the right one!!
Such a level headed guy. Wise beyond you age!
You are such a sweet heart please don't change that about yourself. Zach is so lucky to have you😊😊😊😊
Great video Alastair and Zach! Alastair you're so confident that your testimony will certainly be helpful for people still in the closet. Thanks for them.👍
Alastair -
I am a 68 year old gay man. I joined the US Air Force in 1967. Didn’t go to Viet Nam that is one of my few regrets in my lifetime. During those years in the AF one had to volunteer. I came out while I was in the military in 1969. I didn’t hide the fact that I was gay and have always done what I could in the fight for gay rights. I got out of the Air Force in 1971 and went on to use my GI Bill to get a Masters of Social Work.
I give you this background because I feel I have contributed something to you being an out soldier. You give me a great sense of pride. We both know there are and have been many closeted men and women in the military who felt they could not be out. You will hopefully give them the courage to come out. I know you will still experience prejudice and I admire you for being willing to stand up to this prejudice.
You honor yourself and your family. You are a roll model for men and women who will come behind you. Our LGBT communities desperately need roll models. I am happy that I have lived long enough to know of a young out gay man who was graduated from West Point.
I am really proud of you and I know Zack is too. I hope he realizes how important his job is to support you. It is not an easy thing for a man to put his ego aside for the greater good. You may one day lead men into life and death situations. Thank you Zack for your sacrifice.
Respectively yours, Kenneth Brock
brockkenneth@gmail.com
Zach and Alastair: You both are a huge asset to the gay community on YT and everywhere really. You guys are sincere, open and honest. This type of content is needed and helps so much during critical times when not much else can provide any reassurance.
Wow!!! Best content from your channel so far Zach!! 👍🏻👏🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 This is so powerful and just amazing! Gonna admit... I think Im more in love 😍 with Alastair now... lol (still love you Zach 😉)
Love the way he talked, shared his thoughts and feelings. This really showcased how beautiful and smart a man he is! 😍🔥❤️🤤😋 Ur a VERY lucky man Zach! Wishing you guys all the best and love ❤️😘😘
Refreshingly honest and direct. I'm more than twice your age, and that's exactly what I went through. Kudos to you for highlighting what it's like.
Fine job Alastair, got a laugh when you talked about telling people you have a husband not a wife. My husband and I are 57 years old and we still have to tell people we are husband's and not brothers. I guess after 18 years we must look alike. 😱 Love you guys. Blessings and peace to you both.
Congratulations!!
You have such an incredibly important message. We have come so far, but the way things are today - I fear we could creep backwards as a society. You men are exactly the example we need! Huge kudos to you both.
Great story Alastair!! I'm sure kids that are struggling with coming out would appreciate this story. It was very courageous of you not to just come out but share it with everyone. Thank you for the share.
Beautifully said Alastair Thanks for sharing and thanks to Zach for his coaching!!! XOXO!!!
Wonderful video, Alastair (and you too, Zach)! Thanks for having the integrity-- and the serenity-- to share this.
I came out years ago and I still struggle with myself. You've helped me so much to be myself..thank you both for your bravery
You did a great job, AJ. Thanks for sharing. I have mad love for you both and wish you two nothing but the very best. And, I want to thank you for your service.
"Director" Zach in the background is so funny especially asking the questions and hearing in his voice that maybe he really doesn't want to hear the answers because it deals with his husbands sexual history. And his nervous laughter is funny. And just watching the blood rush to Alistar's neck and face brought back such memories of my own history of coming out. Thanks for giving something to the next generation that is so positive and educational. Always one of my favourite couples.
Great story. Love that he shared it. As a former Army Infantry Soldier whose military career was indirectly ended because of my orientation I love the fact that Alastair is able to be open both at West Point and to his platoon (making an assumption on that one since he did not directly indicate that but he did say he was living life as an openly gay man). That would have been unthinkable in my day in the Army (late 80's early 90's, before Don't Ask, Don't Tell). Would love to hear him talk about how his soldiers reacted, how his chain of command reacted, etc.
@Alastair Patton, I really liked how you said that "you have to be honest with yourself before you can be honest with others". It was difficult for me in the 1970's when I couldn't be true to myself and ended up marrying a woman because that's what society was expecting me to do. It was after two failed marriages and I was at the age of 36 when i decided to be totally honest with myself about who and what I am. That's when I became truly happy within my own skin. I want to thank you and Zach for all the videos you do. You guys are awesome. Keep it up.
This was a great video and I am so glad to hear about Alastair's coming out. Please continue to share his experiences, stories and advice. You guys are inspirational!
Great video Allister and Zack. I have been watching Zack since he started and watching your relationship grow here. now, seeing your coming out story, we can see more of you both as you grow. Always looking forward to Zack 's big smile and your shy smile on each video that comes out. Keep them coming guys and hey to B also.
Love seeing more of Alastair's personality come through on camera! Thanks for sharing.
Alistair, I am not your father, but i couldn't be more proud to call you an acquaintance, You and husband enjoy your life, you deserve it, great video, thanks, Douglas ,Toledo, Oregon, USA
Zach and Alastair, you are so good for each other. Love, Love, love!
I want to thank you both for being so inspirational to me. I live in a very traditional environment in England and I was forbidden thirty years ago by my army officer parents to ‘come out’ as it was, and still is to them, totally unacceptable to do so. I’m in my fifties now and have led a very lonely and loveless life but your wonderful story brings me joy and I am so very happy for you both. God bless you and keep you always.
Well done Alastair! So articulate and honest, the detailed Q & A to your Mom was such a caring & considerate approach to me. I'm so proud of both you and Zach and so happy that you found each other.. Blessings to you both (and B too!) ♥ Fan & friend for life...
Thank you for your story Sir. Everyday is a struggle being an openly Gay Infantrymen but life is getting better. I never meet an openly gay male officer and I am overjoyed to have seen witnessed your journey. Mad respect Sir!
The more I watch things like this and see how the younger generation deals with their sexuality, the more proud I am to be part of this community. I never thought we'd get here in my lifetime. Glad to see I was wrong.
It is great to hear Alastair tell his story in his own words. For someone who well remembers when it was impossible to be openly gay in the military, much less married to another man, it is heartening to see the great strides we have made in this country, and I hope we can continue to go forward rather than backward.
Thanks for sharing Alastair.Love you and Zack.You guys rock.
Wow Alastair! You are wiser beyond your years. Great advice for folks who are struggling.
I wondered how long it would be before this story/video was made. IMO it really shows how far your relationship has come and truly become one. Alastair thank you so much for making this video. You guys are both amazing.
Wow. That was a very sweet and thoughtful video. As a guy in my 40s who grew up at a time pre-Internet in a rural area, we didn't have any way to explore what being gay meant. We only had the negative stereotypes as seen on TV. It's great that you guys are making these videos about just living your lives. Thank God there is the Internet where young LGBTQ kids can go and find videos like this. Perhaps your videos have helped to save some young kid's life somewhere who sees no hope for a better future. Having grown up in the country myself (Go Vols!), It's really refreshing to see a couple of guys being themselves away from the heart of the gayborhoods and out in middle America. (You're braver than I.)