"You’re not something to be fixed you’re someone to be loved. The absence of love is what broke you and the presence of love will be what will heal you." This saying helped me a lot with accepting love and getting into my first healthy relationship, even if I always thought that I was not worthy and needed to heal first. We all deserve love, no matter what we've been through. I hope that it may help some people in this comment section too :) Great Audio Kat!!
I've been in an abusive relationship for years, and I didn't realize it was abusive until somewhat recently because it was my only experience, and some lovely people came into my life and have helped me realize and deal with it, and ive finally decided to cut my abuser out of my life, and im terrified. Listening to your audios, including this one, is so unbelievably helpful for dealing with that fear. I know it likely doesn't mean much, but you are playing a serious role in improving my life, and I appreciate it endlessly.
Having gone through a marriage and several relationships like the abusive one described here, I just want to say thank you. This is the first time someone has articulated my feelings in a way that I can now share with others.
This doesn't relate to a relationship but my life overall. When I was young I was picked on about always getting in trouble. I adapted to mean words and blame. I grew to dislike thank you's and praise in general. Whenever I do something good it feels like something that has to be done. I've stopped being grateful for a lot of things because I see there is a logical reason to not care.
Everytime my boss told me i did a good job its just meant they will never pays me for that spesific job. And i only did it because there was no one else around to do it. Its kinda makes me realise i never actually did any great job.
@@uNdAdrAIt I can so relate. And although I know it and my environment is different today, I'm really bad at accepting compliments. I have learnt now to just say thank you and not respond something out loud that waives the compliment. But in my head I still reject whatever nice was said to me.
"The more I care about you the angrier you get" I understand that all too well it's like why didn't I have this sooner what was punishing me before now
A relationship can be romantic or even just casual friendship. Abuse doesnt have to be physical or something verbally explicit, it can also be things like neglect. But in the end its so easy to blame yourself for it and change your minds inner workings to paint yourself as the evil one, and it becomes frustrating when people treat you any other way than how you tell yourself that you deserve. I really appreciate this video for just giving me food for thought for whats going on with myself and why i struggle with my relationships.
Beautiful as always Kat. I’ve never had an abusive relationship, or any relationship at all and maybe never will. But these are still nice to listen to. Hope anyone who has been through abusive crap will feel better listening to this and I hope your doing well. Btw love the thumbnail, love the autumn turning into winter, so beautiful, you always pick the best thumbnails for these ASMRs. ❤
This is something I deal with a lot after I finally got away. But I'm getting better every day, one day at a time. Thank you so much for this one, Kat.
Aren't ya glad they're gone, everybody? That person who made you feel so crazy for doubting your initial perception and hurt you in ways you never thought possible... You never have to deal with that ever again ❤️
Amazing Coverage of an Incredible Topic Your Stori Near Perfectly Represented The Concepts I Love The Coomf and The Soothing Dialogue So Cute and Natural
@@zeeba3999 here's my feedback. Anger from past abuse is certainly real. What's unrealistic is that I, as the listener, understand that and wouldn't project on others. Not to say I haven't, but certainly not in that way. The script implies someone seriously unhealthy and I feel it struggles to write (or rather, imply) a relatable character. This roleplay doesn't do it for me because I wouldn't want to put someone through something negative I myself have endured.
@@Synthetic94 I can see your perspective. However, speaking as someone with anger from past abuse who actively worked towards and is still working on not lashing out at others due to it, its entirely possible. You can absolutely be in a relationship with these problems, and work on them so you do not mistreat others. Being perfect at it? Yeah, thats unrealistic. But, assuming the speaker is going from a smaller timeframe, it's entirely viable in my opinion.
Then it isn't for you *specifically.* Not everyone has the same experience or reaction. Also no where does it say the listener WANTS to put anyone through anything, anger is a feeling and it can be confusing just like any other feeling in certain situations. That was no excuse to insult the video and call it "lame" because it didn't cater to your experience specifically. Plus, you're basically calling other people's experiences "lame". If everything had to be catered to one type of experience, many people would be left out and alone.
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"You’re not something to be fixed you’re someone to be loved. The absence of love is what broke you and the presence of love will be what will heal you."
This saying helped me a lot with accepting love and getting into my first healthy relationship, even if I always thought that I was not worthy and needed to heal first. We all deserve love, no matter what we've been through.
I hope that it may help some people in this comment section too :)
Great Audio Kat!!
That is a beautiful saying, I love it!
I've been in an abusive relationship for years, and I didn't realize it was abusive until somewhat recently because it was my only experience, and some lovely people came into my life and have helped me realize and deal with it, and ive finally decided to cut my abuser out of my life, and im terrified. Listening to your audios, including this one, is so unbelievably helpful for dealing with that fear. I know it likely doesn't mean much, but you are playing a serious role in improving my life, and I appreciate it endlessly.
Take my like. It's not much, but you deserve it.
@@Dystopian_k1ng thank you. It's stupid how happy that makes me
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That sounds very difficult, I’m sorry you went through that. I’m so glad you have people in your life you can be there to help you heal!
I might be just a stranger on the Internet but i hope you're okay ❤️❤️ sending you hugs 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂
Having gone through a marriage and several relationships like the abusive one described here, I just want to say thank you. This is the first time someone has articulated my feelings in a way that I can now share with others.
This doesn't relate to a relationship but my life overall. When I was young I was picked on about always getting in trouble. I adapted to mean words and blame. I grew to dislike thank you's and praise in general. Whenever I do something good it feels like something that has to be done. I've stopped being grateful for a lot of things because I see there is a logical reason to not care.
Me too, that's how I've felt ever since I was little.
I can also relate to this a bit; not liking compliments because it may have been from pity and such.
Everytime my boss told me i did a good job its just meant they will never pays me for that spesific job. And i only did it because there was no one else around to do it.
Its kinda makes me realise i never actually did any great job.
@@uNdAdrAIt I can so relate. And although I know it and my environment is different today, I'm really bad at accepting compliments.
I have learnt now to just say thank you and not respond something out loud that waives the compliment. But in my head I still reject whatever nice was said to me.
"The more I care about you the angrier you get" I understand that all too well it's like why didn't I have this sooner what was punishing me before now
That was so beautiful and in the most healing way, thank you for creating such audios! 💛
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A relationship can be romantic or even just casual friendship. Abuse doesnt have to be physical or something verbally explicit, it can also be things like neglect. But in the end its so easy to blame yourself for it and change your minds inner workings to paint yourself as the evil one, and it becomes frustrating when people treat you any other way than how you tell yourself that you deserve. I really appreciate this video for just giving me food for thought for whats going on with myself and why i struggle with my relationships.
Beautiful as always Kat. I’ve never had an abusive relationship, or any relationship at all and maybe never will. But these are still nice to listen to. Hope anyone who has been through abusive crap will feel better listening to this and I hope your doing well. Btw love the thumbnail, love the autumn turning into winter, so beautiful, you always pick the best thumbnails for these ASMRs. ❤
A relationship will find you, to some it just happens sooner than others. Always keep a positive mindset, other people can sense that!
“There’s nothing wrong with you, there’s a lot wrong with the world you live in.”
-Chris Colfer
This is something I deal with a lot after I finally got away. But I'm getting better every day, one day at a time.
Thank you so much for this one, Kat.
Sorting out your emotions after abuse is such a roller coaster x.x
God this woman is talented she can practically single handedly fix complicated emotions and fold laundry at the same time
Aren't ya glad they're gone, everybody?
That person who made you feel so crazy for doubting your initial perception and hurt you in ways you never thought possible...
You never have to deal with that ever again ❤️
Thank you I had a previous relationship that was just like that and that I’m still not really over. Hearing your audio really helped
Its Audios like this that keep me coming kat knows how to upload I love them ❤️✨
If I had a girlfriend and she told me "meeting you is like finding gold."
I'd say " you mean gold from a dumpster fire." 😆
on my birthday two years ago, thanks for this.
"we can throw ice"
Me:- I've already got 9 bags let's go
(STAY HYDRATED AND YOU'RE LOVED ❤️👍😍😻)
Amazing Coverage of an Incredible Topic
Your Stori Near Perfectly Represented The Concepts
I Love The Coomf and The Soothing Dialogue
So Cute and Natural
This audio can get frustrating m serious talk to silly goose on the flip of a dime, and I love it
lovely and wholesome
This script turned into quite the therapy session eh
This is amazing 🥰
I need healing for not having a relationship ☠☠☠
Same omg💀💀
Thank you. This helped me
Wonderful as always Kat 🙌
Fantastic video i hope you are having a great day 😺
Relatable
Hi there!
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Are you actually a therapists or how do you know all these things haha 🫶
I..I think I just realized I was mistreated in the past thanks to this video.😳
Comment for algorithm bc I don't know what to say... Hi :D
Welcome to the algorithm party
Comment for the algorithm
Will do
King Dedede is a better character. Reject the titty, embrace the penguin.
Noice
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First! Take care!
Generic script of angry boi. Lame.
Generic hate comment without any actual constructive feedback. Lame.
@@zeeba3999 here's my feedback. Anger from past abuse is certainly real. What's unrealistic is that I, as the listener, understand that and wouldn't project on others.
Not to say I haven't, but certainly not in that way. The script implies someone seriously unhealthy and I feel it struggles to write (or rather, imply) a relatable character. This roleplay doesn't do it for me because I wouldn't want to put someone through something negative I myself have endured.
@@Synthetic94 I can see your perspective. However, speaking as someone with anger from past abuse who actively worked towards and is still working on not lashing out at others due to it, its entirely possible. You can absolutely be in a relationship with these problems, and work on them so you do not mistreat others.
Being perfect at it? Yeah, thats unrealistic. But, assuming the speaker is going from a smaller timeframe, it's entirely viable in my opinion.
Both of you cringe
Then it isn't for you *specifically.* Not everyone has the same experience or reaction. Also no where does it say the listener WANTS to put anyone through anything, anger is a feeling and it can be confusing just like any other feeling in certain situations.
That was no excuse to insult the video and call it "lame" because it didn't cater to your experience specifically. Plus, you're basically calling other people's experiences "lame". If everything had to be catered to one type of experience, many people would be left out and alone.
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