Lesson I learnt from my 20s that transformed my life!
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- Опубликовано: 13 сен 2024
- When you’re tired of your own bullsh*t and lying to yourself or blaming others, it’s time to take accountability and reinvent yourself but does it happen overnight? Does it happen in a day? A week? Or a year? We all know what needs to be done but we never follow through our own plans, however this one trick of rewiring your decision making can really transform your life!
The video was a little delayed but I’d love to know if the previous ones have been impactful enough!
Looking forward to your feedback and suggestions as always.
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Timestamps:
04:20 What pushed me to change?
08:07 Mindset change
11:22 Why YOLO doesn't work.
I hope you guys enjoyed this video and found it valuable, looking forward to your feedback!
On a side note would you like to stay connected with me and be updated with the current learning, books and ideas, like being a part of my journal every week personally? Let me know!
Sure simmy di.. you guide us like our elder sister.
Yes
You’re work Is amazing
Jo therapy nai ja sakte wo bs aapki video deke k heal hote hai. Depression se bhar aane k try karte hai ..
Love you ❤
Ysss
@@simmygoraya6060 yeah simm we would love to stay connected on every note of ur such life aspects
What I have realised is that from a very small age I was like that only focused on the outcome. It kills you from inside, everytime looking for each and every decision of you life questioning every inch. At last what matters is that, life is what it is... neither any side is great. But should always be aware that before taking any decision asking the question "should I regret in the future for this ?" this minimizes lot of thoughts.
That is called balance .. that Is adulting you decide where to let yourself be free and when to be hard on yourself😅
Choosing the outcome and then working towards something is what I have also realised with time because I have done a very huge mistake without thinking about the outcome and the consequences and how it will affect me and my life I have really seen my life getting destroyed because of it but bit by bit I built it again and improved my mistakes actually I should call them blunders of life but I am happy that now before doing something wrong I think about the consequences first and how it will affect so I am able to take better decisions now!❤
Glad to hear that :)
Will you please share what decisions you regret
@@rishitajain1751 sorry I can't those are some personal things
First of all thank you!!
The way you speak is just beautiful, it makes me want to actually listen, think and try to inculcate in my life. It just feels relatable.
I am going through a tough phase, it has made me realize that I must think before taking any action. I always knew I should but couldn't implement it. I still am unable to do that. It's going to be a long way. But I do promise to try and make CONSCIOUS decisions.
And yes, would love to be a part of your journal every week.
Thank you for these videos, as everyone in comments are saying you really feel like an elder sister! Thank you!!
This video just shook me from top to bottom. To caption the outcome of this vlog as a 'reality check' would be an understatement though It was fairly close to it and showed me how wrong I was and how casual my approach has been till now. I have been religiously following all of your vlogs and trust me this is one of the best. Extremely relatable and has the potential to change people's perceptions and clear misconceptions. Quite an evident reason to bring a change after all. Thank you and as always, looking forward to more such vlogs. Godspeed to you 💯💯
thank you :)
I am going to change I am goin to choose the outcome and consequences seriously I have a bigger path to step on to make difference to bring changes and I will start taking actions towards it based on choices that I make. I can’t continue to be this casual that phase of impulse and dopamine rush is done. Thank you❤️ you hav no idea how helpful this is cuz some of the choices that I make casually I now realise will break down on me bad I won’t be able to tolerate it so this really helped !!long way to go buds let’s take CONSIOUS control✊SO SIMMY DI OFC LOOKING FORWARD TO WEEKLY VIDS🥰🥰
Hey Simmy, today only, I found out your video. The more I listen to you, the more I resonate with you, as I love deep work, doing internal enginering, and also figuring out life as we all do, but in my own way, I also sit myself and decide what I should believe and what I should not, like I created my own manual of life after getting a heartbreak, which I never expected to, but my comment is not about me but about you. I found you honest, like brutally honest, and after seeing many people giving advice that's got filters, I found your very authentic and real. Yes, you can come up with many ideas, as the human mind and behaviors are very deep, and I love deep talk on those topics, so, yeah, I wish you all the very best.
I am 22 years old and will be 23 soon. I had always felt nervous about aging. I completed my graduation this year failing in one subject. All I did was blame my life and destiny though I knew that this was my fault. Things came crashing, why? Because during my graduation phase, I was EXPLORING, YOLO, WILL SEE. Now, aging ki tension to aaj bhi hai uper se, teen saal barbad kardiye wo alag. I dont have regrets (samjh nahi aaraha hai ki karna bhhi hai ya nahi), but video se i got an insight of how baselessly and senselessly I make decisions.
Age is just a number sad reality is you can't control aging but how you live your life😢😢😢😢
It’s alright, we all have our journey, that phase wasn’t a “bad” phase either and that exploring was prolly needed but now the next phase requires us to level up and we do that :) no regrets just leveling up
Atleast you just have completed your graduation.. Maine toh 2022 me hi complete kiya hai graduation uske baad sare dost kisine PG join kar liya toh kisine business ya something or other. I made my mind ki mujhe Pg nahi karna so i took coaching for competitive exams pehle toh socha ki acche se padhungi mehnat karungi fir jaise time gaya 3 months aise dheere dheere classes me students kam ane lage and mujhe bhi man nahi karta tha toh after going for like 4 months maine chor diya.. Then i got someone in my life who left after 5 months So again my 5 months was wasted after that heartbreak again some more months it took to overcome from it then i got back into studies for some exam I dedicated my full days on it for some months. Fast forward to 2023 sep my exams was over then again i became hopeless in my life. I couldn't clear it of course due to my own thing that is lack of giving my best. Although i gave my full day to it but deep down I know i haven't given my best.. And during my graduation days i was in city. After graduating in 2022 it didn't hit me hard you know I used to have fun with friends, go new places and all that.. But as soon as 2023 came and after my exam was over finally I realised that I couldn't live like these anymore So I decided to come back home and study seriously for competitive exams. On Oct Last I came back home and some health issues were going on in my home which lead to stress everyone. I thought I will study now aise karte karte stress me tension me time kaise beet gaya pata hi nahi chalaa And now see its 2024 ab tak mere se kuch nahi hua hai I'm hopeless mujhe kuch raaste dikhai nahi de rahe na padhne ka man karta hai na kuch aur karne ka man karta hai bas thak gaye sab chizo se.. Jab mein city chodke wapas ghar ayi toh yehi sochke ayi ki ab ghar jaake acche se padhai karungi but mere ghar k halat itne sahi nahi hai kuch salo se bhaiya ki mental health thik nahi hai toh us wajese bohot bohot pareshaaniya ka samna karna padta hai hume.. Aise karte karte graduation k bhi 2 saal beet gaye. .Mere Dosto ne Masters khatam kar liya koi alag kuch kar raha hai toh koii job.. Dekhke regret hota hai ki kyu pehle shuru nahi kiya aur kehte hai ki "Its never late to start" but what about kuch karne ka man nahi pata nahi kaha jaa rahe hai kya kar rahe hai bas hopeless horahe hai
@@insights900 Best wishes hopefully you will achieve your dreams never lose hope in life👍👍👍
@@insights900 i am not sujjesting anything to you but start something start with little goals and stick to it and slightly graping our your work and always taking hope with your self ki ye live ka sbse worst phase h syad aab iiss bura kuch bhi nhi hoga age sb acha hoga mujhe aaab isi halat me nhi rehna uthna hoga and ill fix first thing that is in my hand and dont blamming yourself just flow me and umar ki nasmjhi me galatiya ho jati h this is not in your hand dear and
I amm giving you soo muchhhhhhhhhhhhhhh of love and strength and i trust in you that you bring your self from your current situation and strengthen yourselves with this condition and you will take you goal in mind and with little step your actions altimetly aling with you goal and i know you dooo best love you soooo muchhh ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤✨✨✨✨✨💥💥💥💥💥💥💥
oh my goddddd.... I am soo proud of the person you are becoming because I know we all want to become that. and no matter how we feel, I know it was difficult. A lot of experiences, heart breaks, learnings goes into becoming this person. Please keep going ahead with this series. Lots of love to you!
Literally yesa lag raha khudki gut feelings mujhe chilla chilla ke khud ki life ka ek big mirror dikha di..😊thanks for these series simmy di 🫂
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@@simmygoraya6060 🤗🫂
Much needed this right now!!! Thank you for such insighful video 🤩 and yes would love to be part of ur journal every week.
Such an eye opening and deep message 🤌🤩 Loving and learning alot from this series❤Thank you so much Simmy!! Sending you lots of love and blessings 💕
your mostly videos come out a day before my life's imp events. and after watching your video I get relief and the answer which I tried to find at that point of time, comes naturally to me. so, thank you for making such kind of video. :)
You know,I found your journal series and I found it so relatable, each and every thing.. and I was going through very bad situations... and your talks helped me so much..., Tum views ke liye nhi bolti ho... na likes ke liye...,
you showed your real side... and that's a huge thing... which other youtubers don't do..., thank god I found your videos at the right time...
You are amazing ❤🎉 thank you for this series ❤❤
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Thank you 🤗❤️
If anyone interested to talk me in english . then most welcome❤
Thank you so much Simmy didi, for this video. I really want to thank you for making this video. I am 22 and i ruined my teenage time and i was wasting my 20s also. But this video make me work harder for my life.
Please make this type of video ❤. This is best video ☺..
Simmi Dii … I came across your videos 2 days back and I found all my answers which I was looking for . I was caught into that same loop of happening things repeating same pattern . But watching you everytime , I get all the Questions I assess myself and then open myself to change be that strict teacher and then lovingly parent for my ownself ✨
The besttttt motivational video I have ever come across in life..... & That says alot ❤️ Thanks Gurl ✨Loads of Love & positivity to you✨
This is jst flawless...do continue the series...!!!
You know what? You are giving us a life lesson and girl I can relate so much... please make more such videos... I feel good listening you..
You are the best, Simmy. So much of wisdom. Feels like I am listening to a 70 year old. Great stuff
I realised that planning something to do and failing in it on regular basis leads to frustration
I am talking about Daily targets
Thank you so much you have been an inspiration for many of us. I don't know you will read it or not but I just want to say thank you. Because you have been someone which we can relate to and listening to you over over again has become an habit now.
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I am speechless hearing this...
And some part of it I have myself realized...
Cuz the people who have never realized any of it can never feel the deepness of this..
All of it will sound very normal... But it has a deep meaning...
Thank you so much❤
thank you so much from my bottom of my hearts, i watch all of your video & literally all videos are really really helpful for me
Loved watching this video. Simple yet so impactful. You are wonderful Simmy. I m also working on myself for the past 2 years ❤
I'm a boy but still get a life lesson from you and get to know that each gender is facing similar things
Glad I could help❤
hi simmy this video felt personally attacking and self awaring at the same time, sometimes it is not always good to learn from your mistakes and be blind to what's happening around, it ruins you, so better let's learn earlier than it's too late.
Really dii apka channel avi tk best channel hai....u r amazing in expressing everything
I have got clarity. Thanks simmy ❤
Hey, Simmy as I see you are doing so well right now. As you said in this video we all need to think about our small actions, and decisions and not blame the situation or any person for what we are facing or for where we are. I completely agree and I feel very happy that you are aware or I can say awakened person. Lastly, thanks for contributing in making of well-being of society.
best video i've came across in a while. well said
Thank you so much for your incredible videos sister ❤️ I've been struggling with self-doubt lately, but your content has been a lifeline for me. Your work has truly made a difference in my life.
Your content evolution is just ❤❤❤❤❤
I really needed this. Thank you simmi di, looking forward to more such.
Learning and growing!
So good message...helpful , practical and relateable
Hey di I feel that your talk is very relatable to me I am currently thinking how I start my day with positive think and action and your video is front of the me so thankyou for sharing such amazing ♥️
You don't know, how much I've waited for the next video of this series
Very valuable. Much needed at this point of time in life. ❤
u are helping the souls to grow.thankyousomuchhhh🥺❤
don't blame anyone for your mistakes
be accountable for your decisions and consequences but keep room for uncertainty and the things which are not in your control.
Learn to say like telling your the first thing to do in your morning and say no to all your resistance of your mind, your body, from outside.
don't take blind decision of what to do; think before using phone and wasting time :(
rewire your mind that you will take active participation in your daily life in smallest things from waking up at time to not using phone etc etc ....
these small decisions are the most important things which will decide your future!!
Things will keep happening if you didn't think about outcome and waiting for next temptation, you are acting on the thoughts that are coming.
and if you are not thinking of anything ahead then life will keep happening
a lot of things happened to me kaffii time se n something happened today also i think god really choosed me to watch this video ….soo much too know so much to do nd things will happen i know i have to choose n think about outcome thankyouu soo much simmii for this video 🥺🥺❤️❤️you really means alot
Nice🎉. Been watching your shorts and videos. You are a seeker, a good analyser, most important you are sincere. I can see young people watching and sharing their comments. We need idols like you who can be followed by more and more youth today.😊
Thankfull to have you ❤
thanks ji.. you are great coach.... very inspiring and motivating and full of clarity namaste ji
If you are not making your life decisions,someone else is making them for you. This was what I needed right now .thank you❤
I really needed this... thankyou ❤
It was an eye opening thought, so glad to have you heree
Hey Simmi im a 17-year-old 18 to be in a few days.. and i Eagerly wait for your videos because they are so much Meaningful, Worthy, And how interestingly you potray it.. Keep Going❤️
i love this video! youve explained it beautifully... currently on my journey towards healing, this reaffirms things and motivates me! Love from Pakistan
Missing your old podcasts 😢
Please start the podcast series
Thnk u pyari di.. i realised that i m doing so many wrong things just to look cool around people of my age. I hve become a lazy girl whogoes clubbing n shops a lot.. i need to rewire n restart or else i will soon be left wid nothing😔tysm di🎉🎉
Thank you for this. 🙏 Almost as if FINALLY someone else is thinking & talking about this & I am not alone or crazy !!!
Literally dii whenever i feel low i just go through your videos..your videos are awesome specially the thoughts you bring into your videos...❤
Very clear video basically explaining how u should be focused on ure daily small behaviors.. (That is ure habits..) That u do everyday.. Those habits are leading to certain outcomes in long run..
Rlly appreciate this video thx
Plus people should check out atomic habits by James clear to understand this in more detail ;)
I have seen many vdio about improvement of myself and regarding but ur series is completely another level...bcz its just not from any books and successfull people thoughts and all that its ur real experience...so I can connect with it... thnk you so much for this series and waiting for more...😊💕
I like the way you speak ✨
It was just wow!! I can relate with this very much...❤ Keep making such content...
Thank you for this video…. ❤
Yaar!!! You are a gem 💎
I wish everyone should find your tutorials ❤ you are such great guider for us who have thousands of uncleared thoughts 😢 you clear it out all of them 🎉❤thanks alots ❤
Its too much of being careful on living life! Certainly plan the bigger picture but enjoy the moment and be free at times!
I am. Also 30 years old can relate to your story age is just a number eventually we all die just live your life without regrets❤❤❤❤❤
Amazing video simmy. ❤ Loved it. ❤
Amazing video
Ohmygod.. thatsssss so trueeeee cuz i literally felt this..experienced this..
I m really happy that I realised everything you said at my 18 ...! And in the beginning of my career I m applying that....! ❤😊
you're like my elder sister
love these journals
Thank you so much for this great video 👍🏻💯
Take a bow simmy dii❤❤
You think. Just like me.. i felt people r right somewhere that kya hojayega , itna nhi sochna chaiye…
But sochna chaiye!!
Nothing to add except a Thank you.🙂
All i wanna say is , can we get these sessions a little sooner ?? Btw listening to u feels so good 💫
Dear Simmy
You know what? Your videos are very calming & therapeutic in nature. You share your personal life learnings and experiences with us which is highly precious. I love your journaling series. Its so interesting and full of guidance. Sending you loads of love, happiness and blessings....❤❤
With Regards
Prateek kumar
Was waiting for the video from so longgg❤✨️✨️
Perfect advice ❤ thank you
I'm watching yur vdo...not bcoz I want guidance,or motivation or anything...bt the way u speak... is really good.❤✨
so relatable!!
Definitely , would love to see more such vdos, its eye opening
You can never control the outcome in a way you can choose the outcome that how would you like it happen but honestly that’s also not in your hands. Life happens to everyone whatever you have chosen for how your life would look like in 10 years from now and you even start your ass off while working to achieve that outcome it might or might not happen none can guarantee that and someone who hasn’t worked as hard you as might be able to achieve what you wanted to be your outcome! THATS LIFE and acknowledging this fact is the part of what your call growing up through peaks and valleys of life. NOT SAYING or being a naysayer that some might think or say then what’s the point of DOING the work even if there’s no guarantee that we will achieve it. Rather not do anything.
No then you’re forgetting the most beautiful and important aspect of life which is KARMA! Even doing nothing will add to your karma and will work accordingly to those of your actions. And according to that logic everyone (most of us) will die some day that’s certain that doesn’t stop your from living your life thinking ki ary yaar mar jana hai ek din to fir kyu jeena right 😂 instead that gives you more reasons to live your life to the fullest. So should you put your work required for the outcome and be aware of that it might happen or it might not happen.
Albeit its a matters a perspective most of us (HUMANS) live our lives reactively rather than consciously. Rather it should have been exactly opposite of it. Being conscious of the situations and then reacting to it then the way of seeing life and living it would’ve been a completely different experience. 🫶☮
One of the best video
Everytime I listen to your thoughts I learn something new and get a new perspective of living life thanks alot❤😊
Damn!!! ❤
So beautifully explained.
Thank you Simmy Di❤
Plzz make this videos longer i love to listen your videos..specially this video journal ❤❤❤
Vlogs pls though loving ur these series ❤❤❤
Thank you di for such a beautiful advise .
Therapy 🧡
Needed this 💗
thankyou for posting this :))
Finally
Di please upload frequently 😢
I think this video is made for me.. Thankyou ❤
I needed this video so bad.
Love you so much 💜✨️
Hello di❤ completely agreeing with you .first resistance mind deta then body then others i am in that zone bt i will take small steps and little by little changes ayenge ❤ pls continue this series ❤❤ àp sochne pr and like ek therav I feel ki ok stop and just take a pause and think ki subah workout krn hi haii . Thankyou di❤
Continue the Home inside us Series
Simmy is the next Sadhguru..
I know She is different and unique.. But I just had to say it❤
You don’t need to be sadhguru to know all this, you just need to have an inward approach with every crisis situation! I appreciate what you meant but I am not here to be sadhguru. I am simply sharing a journey we all share
We love you simmy❤
Thank you ❤
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Hii dii i am going to be a college student and have to take decision on this critical point of life and i choose what i want by taking the outcomes of it in my mind ..... you said more valuable words that make life better .... thanks for making the video
Could you pls make longer video and try to upload more videos they are really helpful 🫶🏼🫂🥺
Amazing ❤