Saving a DESTROYED Home for FREE (Episode 4 - Final)
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Depression isn’t about sadness, it’s about numbness and mental paralysis. It’s about looking around you and the list of things you see around you that needs done and your brain shutting down the computer. Your explanations and utter empathy is such an aggressive breath of fresh air, spin-kicked straight to the lungs.
Your first sentence is depression in a nutshell. I've never heard it put that way, but as someone who has spent most of her life in that state, I can say that you hit the nail on the head!
Yes! Thank you
That's exactly what it feels. Your brain shuts down and it gets stuck in rebooting itself, just like a computer.
People like to say depression is when your mind is stuck thinking about the past. But that's an over-simplification.
Amen!
“You can’t transplant your past onto someone else’s present.” I love this.
This was so profound! I had to pause the video on my tv when I heard it, and grab my phone to come comment how him saying this really explains how people should treat each other! Huge respect always to MMC!
Yes, I’m writing it down! That was epic!!!!
“If a cleaning channel makes you mad, you need a hobby.” Truer words have never been spoken. Kudos.
"You can't transplant your past onto another person's present." Everything you say about depression, ADHD, poverty, etc. is spot on and so compassionate and worded so clearly and succinctly. Your words are as important as the cleaning you do! The stigma and blame are so entrenched, and do NOT match the FACT of what people are dealing with. Thanks for all you do, including educating people about compassion.
exactly what I was thinking. he's spot on.
was watching a financial channel and there was a guy on the channel who was getting a financial audit who was a text book case of more severe ADHD. The amount of comments calling him lazy, unwilling to listen, undisciplined ... you name it he was called it. The auditor mentioned a lot of NT things the ADHD person could try and he just sat there saying "I tried that, didn't work. And I tried that, didn't work as well". Ppl think ADHD people are lazy because of these kinds of comments without realizing that they literally did try all these things and they didn't work for them.
its just disgusting the lack of empathy in this world.
I totally agree, the way he puts things into words is amazing. You can tell he cares and that he truly understands.
You shouldn't have to explain why it is they need to care about others. They missed humanity 101. You guys do good work for the right reasons.
People can change. Maybe 1 in a million. You never know when a wake up call comes or what will sink into another’s brain. Shaming is a thing people do because others do it. Like bullies. Some do mature. Some don’t. Mack can be himself and explain what he wants to; he never knows who he reaches. Telling Mack what to do or not do is “advice” but also can be shaming. I am very tired of people offering unsolicited advice. Just listen. Ask.
If you cant say nuffin nice then say nuffin !!! As my gran used to say xxx
Let me give my 2 cents. I am/was a teacher. A student who threatened me daily finally brought a gun to school.
The ptsd from that, and other life traumas finally brought me to my knees.
It’s 3 years later.
After much therapy and a lot of hard work, I’m just now starting to get back to normal.
I have a beautiful little house and hubby helped me keep it tidy but the seasonal deep cleaning that I have always done along with any needed changes (painting , wall touch ups, decorating, carpet cleaning, baseboards, etc) were not touched.
So, I stand with you: people who have never had any mental health issues and want to sling trash at others can, as you say, SUCK IT!
❤️❤️❤️
well said joanne
Thank you for teaching empathy. Depression is so difficult. I can remember beating myself up about bringing depressed. The haters have nothing on what we tell ourselves about our inadequacies.
"If a cleaning channel makes you mad, you need a hobby." And sadly while they disrespect others, their hobby is making fun of others. They need a NEW hobby. Thanks Mac.
Yes. It was hilarious yet profound when Mac said that. There is a choice to watch what you are watching. Why would you choose to watch what angers you? But you see, they are lying. They are just being nasty and smug. They have a problem themselves as well. It has just manifested in a different way. Try compassion.
@@gloriastroedecke2717 Very well said. I feel compassion for people with no empathy, but I'm glad they don't get to be jerks in the comments.
Unfortunately, they make themselves feel better at the expense of others. Ans that is sick!
Thank you for banning people who say things like that. My husband struggles with depression and it's very severe right now. Thank you for your compassion and generosity.
No problem
I never understood depression until I lost my husband to cancer. Depression sucks the energy right out of you, both mentally and physically. I struggle to do the household chores, keep up with the laundry, maintain the property and go to work everyday. I actually come here and watch videos to give me the motivation to get things done. Watching your videos is actually therapeutic for me. Thank you for making these videos!
"You can have depression without ever feeling sad" just hit me like a ton of bricks. Thank you.
Precisely.
Yeah I’m gonna need some time to really let that sink in.
It's 100% true. I've had Major Depressive Disorder for 30 years, and I'm a cheerful person by nature.
Not that the depression never makes me sad, but I'm "upbeat" often enough that when people find out I have it and/or hear about the battles I have just managing day-to-day life, they're floored.
I usually then explain to them that I'm cheerful by nature, always have been, and unless I'm in the throes of a severe depressive episode, my nature remains the same.
@@sarahnaomiwagner my reply above was meant for you. Somehow I didn't click the right thing though, lol 😊
That comment blew me away. WOW! Thx Mac
"I don't have time or the mental capacity to teach full grown adults things that they should be teaching their own 9 YO, which is just basic empathy.." .And this here, sir, is why we follow and like and comment and support your channel in any way we can ! Hope your wife has a fast recovery, best from EU :)
Mack, you are awesome! Banning shamers, painting dogs, cleaning mooses, educating 1000s morality and decorum….and working 100 hrs/week!! I applaud you and Jason for the impact you have, and I look forward to every video!!!
Me too & he's certainly a breath of fresh air ...
Nice comment 😊
As a mental health therapist and someone who has battled depression in the past, I appreciate your explanation of depression not just being about sadness emotionally. It is all consuming. Ignorance by adults about how to be kind cannot be tolerated in these videos- keep up the good work!!!
Working on this house reminds me of when our son with 4 small kids went thru a terrible divorce. His 100 yr. old 3500 sq ft barn of a house was destroyed. Dad and I spent our grocery $$ going to flea markets, garage sales, last day estate sales to furnish 5 bedrooms, a completely set up kitchen, painted, cleaned ourselves to death and bought groceries and litterly spent every penny we had til the next SS check came in. And the 5 of them spent months living in our basement , 6-8 months. You do what you have to do, don't judge, complain, just mind your own business and PRAY! So many prayers........Bless you Mac, most of your viewers have compassion, they get it! Hugs!
Blessing to you and your husband! Great comment
That is definitely what we do as parents. And I love the part, don't say anything, just pray
God bless you! We never quit being parents. Sometimes we have to go the extra miles.
Wow!! What a blessing you are to your kids. My dad was raised poor, only went to 8th grade, but like you, he broke his back for us four kids. He's gone now, I miss him everyday--he was my hero!❤️
Bless your sweet hearts. This is what me and my family do for each other.
We do whatever it takes to care for one another. ❤❤❤
I can’t stand those people that say happiness is a choice. It is not a choice when you have a chemical imbalance in your brain that causes depression. That is like saying it is a choice whether or not you can walk if you are a quadriplegic.
If happiness is a choice then you’re very lucky!
It's a real battle. Best thing I work on is letting go of my deeply seated shame about depression/etc. It might be there my whole life, and I'm making peace with it.
@@jmfs3497 I found the more I tried to hide my depression the more anxiety I got.
I would never tell anyone that happiness is a choice. Mainly because for me, when I had to "choose to be happy," I did it by dissociating for years on end.
Agree - I only found out about chemical imbalance (low dopamine) due to sleep disorder ("Periodic Limb Movement Disorder"). I can choose many things to help myself, I can even smile without feeling it, but it's not a simple on/off switch.
You guys are like that Extreme Home Makeover show from the 2000s without the tax bracket fuckover and toxic positivity. What you're doing for these people is transformational. I grew up in poverty with a mentally ill hoarder mother and an emotionally oblivious overworked dad who was in over his head, both deeply in denial, and I'm in my 40s still coming to grips with that trauma. It's healing watching this. Thank you for what you do for these people, and letting us come along for the ride. Also best wishes to your wife on her recovery.
“Toxic positivity” is a great phrase.
I think I am most impressed by your kindness with the fact that you go to the trouble to clean the moose before removing them. Not everybody takes that extra step.
Every household needs a clean moose and a painted dog!
Yeah, I bet the moose went off with a spring in their step.
Or is that just deer 🎉
And wolves properly restrained in their cabinets
Would he ever consider painting cats?
“If a cleaning channel makes you mad, you need a hobby!” LOL fabulous! Your generosity and empathy are wonderful, but it’s your commentary that makes your channel special!
God do I appreciate how you don’t mince words in condemnation of people who come here to be cruel. They act like you can just muster up the wherewithal to not be depressed - you can’t, but funny enough you can do that with being empathetic and kind, or at least silent. Thanks for just not letting it slide, and for all you do with this channel! Your selflessness is inspiring!
Hi there Mack! Remi Clog mentioned you in a decluttering video in January. She told she loves to watch your video's. As do I!
Awesome job again on this house, so high five to you and Jason. Thanx for being around and making the world a better place ❤❤
Yes she did, and I believe her words were "I love watching Midwest, he makes me cry 😂" and I couldn't agree more. Love the dry humour ❤
Being depressed is the worst. You are so right. Being poor can really aggravate depression because they don’t have access to healthcare. As someone who suffers from depression I understand. God bless them and you.
Absolutely.... I'm not "poor," but I'm retired, have a decent income and still really can't afford mental healthcare. I don't blame therapists or psychiatrists ... they have to make a living ... but really good therapy is quite expensive and isn't usually covered by most insurance ... surely not Medicare!
more than just healthcare, i'm so poor I can't even afford a stick of gum, and so I can't afford to buy shelves, can't afford curtains, etc. all the things 'i can't do, can't afford' just stack up and make me so close to suicidal, that some days i have a lump in my throat the entire day (or more). People just don't get it, it's like 'oh i need x, i just go get it.' well for depressed you CAN'T just 'go get' or 'go do', and when in poverty, even if you FELT like it, you literally can't!!!!!!!!! I have to get paper towels from family for christ sake!
In 2001, when I was 21 and a broke mom to a 1-year-old, I inherited my dad’s house. This house reminds me so much of that house - mostly good bones, just in desperate need of some TLC. I would’ve been so appreciative of someone like you coming in to help like you’ve helped this family. I can imagine that they feel like they’ve hit the jackpot with the cosmetic changes you guys have made. Thanks for sharing what you do for these deserving families!!
What a blessing you received of a home!! Nice to see people sharing the amazing gifts theyve gotten in life and having appreciation for them. ❤
4:30 - 8:10 best lecture for those who need it. I would put some of those statements on a t-shirt. It reminds me of another problem and I experienced it firsthand. When people help you and then can't just leave you alone. They can't help and go. They expect, demand, and/or feel entitled to either you be in their lives to the extent that makes you uncomfortable or them in your lives to the extent that makes them intruders. I can't accept help from certain people in my family without them reminding me of it or forcing themselves into my adult (and also autistic) life. What you do, you come to people who need help, you help, and then you give them that mental and physical private space they need, and you go to the next home to help. That's gold. I guess it's called unconditional help.
There's an episode of Mr. Bean where he wraps his items in newspaper that he doesn't want painted, then puts a can of white paint in the middle of the room full of firecrackers. When it goes off, everything is instantly painted! Lol he did end up having a shadow of a man reaching for his hat, but, it still worked! 😂
I am 35 years old and i am still just amazed at how much change a coat of paint offers to a space.
I suffer from depression and probably a fair chunk of ptsd from childhood trauma and i can absolutely understand the cycle of depression and how it affects every single aspect of your life. my house used to feel like an insurmountable summit until i had my first child and somehow it changed how my brain was wired and now it just doesnt feel like the impossible task as it used to. dont ask me how that works.
having someone come in and tackle those impossible tasks can be a lifechanger, I can understand just how freeing what you do for these people is even if it may feel like their soul is getting torn out as you throw the dangerous pieces of their hoard away, in some part of their brain it must feel like a weight has been lifted.
I hope for your wife's safe recovery. and much love to her, you and that piece of filth you call a son.
The change could have been an adjustment to your hormones during pregnancy. 😁
A friend of mine had straight hair her whole life until she got pregnant, and the hair on the back of her head suddenly became curly. Like, tight corkscrew curls. It stayed that way too. Body chemistry and pregnancy is bizarre.
I absolutely always love how much a coat of paint can make such a huge difference
I appreciate you not standing for rude comments about your clients. I notice when other cleaning channels get similar comments on their videos and never say anything about it. It makes the comments section unusable, and really effects my opinion of the channel. ❤
When I see rude comments, I report them as I feel that negativity breeds more negativity and this world just doesn’t need it. The content creators cannot be all over thousands of comments, so we, as viewers and members of their community, need to be vigilant and uphold the respect that their pages are trying to create. IMO anyway ❤
Edit was correcting errors in spelling. ❤
Yeah a certain big cleaning channels comment section is incredibly rude currently. The nature of said RUclipsr is rather mild (it might also be part of a language barrier), so she doesn't outright put them in their place and I'm sure the comment section is too big to curate it that well. I think a stern talking in one of her videos would help though. But I know she's just too kind for that and doesn't wanna scold.
My favorite reply to everything rude, "so suck it!"
That's one of the reasons Mack is my favorite cleaning channel. His work is top notch, he has taught me so much about cleaning and so much more. And the fact that he doesn't put up with a lot of crap against some of the folks he cleans for. His level of understanding and his ability to explain it to his viewers has increased my awareness of things I really knew little about. He's just a super guy and I have so much respect for him and what he does 😊❤
“Don’t compare someone else’s season of harvest to your season of sowing.” One looks full and abundant, the other is quiet and hidden. Both have value.
I feel like I understand myself better from watching your videos. As autistic people we're told that we don't have empathy, but in reality we can be more empathetic than anyone else and this is how we show it. Thoughts and prayers are great but nothing helps more than elbow grease.
If I got a dollar for everytime someone said that the depression is an excuse for laziness, I'd be a depressed billioner. Whoever hasn't dealt with the depression will never understand how much strength it takes just to get up in the morning, let alone function normally. I just don't pay attention to what people say anymore. Good job guys! Keep going!
Depression and poverty are no jokes. God Bless all of you for what you do selflessly ❤❤
I did raise 8 boys and I did have a spotless house, for the most part. On the flip side, I am now in a house with just my husband and my house is a wreck. Depression and anxiety suck and it hits everyone differently. Not only are there some things I can't do since I got hurt, but the actual motivation isn't there. I just don't feel like doing much other than go back to bed. People need to stop judging, or at least try not to judge.
I really appreciate that you have no tolerance for the negative comments and your explanation as to why.
The work you and Jason do is phenomenal. Your work is changing peoples lives and is better than any HGTV restoration show any day!
One of the biggest thing that can happen in Depression that I think doesn't get talked about a lot, is dissociation and the loss of time. When I had really severe Major Depression, I could come home, and sit down to take my shoes off, and then literally blink and 4 and a half hours had gone by. And I mean, literally blink, as if I had just skipped forward in time and lost that time entirely. That entire time, I had just been sitting and staring into space. Sometimes I didn't even finish getting my shoes off. It's like my brain literally left my body for huge chunks of time. So yeah... I literally didn't have time to clean in spite of being under-employed at the time, because I was losing hours at a time to Depression.
That sounds like it would have been very frightening. I've had similar but nowhere near as intense with my ADHD. Your perspective is really helpful - thank you for sharing it.
That is interesting you shared that, I have depression issues at times due to a head injury, mine are more like 15 to 20 minutes. I will see an email pop up and will respond... and it's not like my response is a book or anything but when I send I will notice it took 20 minutes, which has been really confusing... but that makes sense. Thanks for sharing.
This is so true, thanks for mentioning this. I hope things are going better for you now
This is so true I also have adhd and aspergers and possible ptsd (not officially diagnossed and I dont belive in self ID I just have syptoms) which all three can cause dissociation on their own but with all three I can lose a whole day and it makes me feel crazy
Is that what it’s called? I would describe it later as, I was so depressed I didn’t want to move, hours would go by without me knowing.
I made the mistake once of asking people online to make suggestions on how to arrange my existing living room furniture to look more living-roomy. I don't recommend doing that. Not only did they not give me any advice at all about how to physically arrange my current furniture, they collectively honed in on the fact that I had oak paneled wainscoting all around the room. I got literally hundreds of messages telling me to get rid of it or paint it white. I nearly cried because we had just bought the house (a double wide), and I'd specifically picked the wallpaper color and wainscoting because I liked the look. I grew up in a 1970s trailer with dark wood paneling, and while I wouldn't want that in my house anymore, I just feel a little nostalgic about it. So yeah, don't go to the Internet for advice. 😂
Oww, I love wood panelling, especially dark!
Something I do to help find a furniture arrangement I like is to use grid paper to map out my space, and also little cut outs of my furniture (coloring them helps, too), and I use that to try layouts before I actually move my furniture. It also helps me better visualize living in the space.
You are a good father. You are teaching your son TWO important lessons. The first is basic repair skills that he can use in his own home, but the second and more important is generosity and service to others. I don't know if you are a man of faith, but you are definitely reflecting the example of Christ.
"I learned that from everyone's dad" was a gem of a sentence!
Depression and poverty can be all-encompassing and affect so many facets of peoples’ lives. The old saying, “Money can’t buy happiness”seems to often times be quoted by people who have no issues with a lack of money! Money can buy clothes and food, functional vehicles, school supplies, gas, pay taxes, maintain their properties…a never-ending list that rich people take for granted. What you are doing and how you are doing it is just phenomenal. Sending healing thoughts for your wife and so grateful Filth is willing to jump in, learn, and do such a great job! This is one of my very favorite channels!!!
Money can’t buy happiness, but it can buy food and clothing and heat and electricity.
Agree
It helps money but doesn't define a good human soul.
It can buy relief. It can buy calm because you aren’t as stressed about how to meet the needs of the household. It’s absolutely not more money, more happiness.
I've been really depressed the last month or so basically all of 2024. I've had to force myself to take a shower at least once a week and do the bare minimum to keep the house ok. I have so much sympathy and admiration for people who are going through hard shit and still manage to live life.
Stay strong, you can do this. We might not be where we want to be, but we’re not where we were either. Take Care of You😊
you are amazing and i believe in you! you are doing the best you can and that is more than enough. i hope this year starts looking up for you soon.
I also had a January of just managing bare minimum. I feel I have shifted a bit in the last few days, I've done more and felt more. Feels like a kind of fog, that makes the forest quiet, you lose connection and you're nowhere, feeling nothing. I hope you will feel better too. Be loving and gentle with your self, and also your own best friend.
I also remember when taking a shower made me proud because literally everything was hard. Getting out of bed was the worst. I feel for you.
Seasonal affective disorder is a real thing…..and it sucks. Every Fall it begins, last through the winter and I do t feel “normal” or myself again until spring.
Everything is a struggle. I think every aspect of my life is affected.
And SAD impacts my thinking and decision making .
ADHD-er here and I want to thank you for helping these people. No matter the circumstance. We all need a little help. I’ve been the one receiving help and the one helping others with their homes.
One of my favorite RUclips channels in the U.K. Is “Flawless Cleaning Services”. Ben and his dad Paul do landscaping and pressure washing for free on Fridays. When he removed all of the overgrown ivy,trees,bushes,etc. for an older gentleman named Norman, he discovered that the windows were rotted and the walls were crumbling. He was able to arrange for some other contractors to do their thing on the house and of course highlight their business names on their trucks. ( there was also a “Go fund me” account for the materials). Do you think that you could ever do this if it was a house in your area,maybe spread some of the work load) That was his largest project to my knowledge,he usually does a one or two part “blessing” job. Just an idea.
I watch Flawless. Great channel.
Thank you for all you and your family do. We know so many people that need that extra help and then some in various situations. Their tax payer dollars go to programs that they do not qualify for that others can get but they must pick up a third job to just make ends meet for those extra repairs like plumbing, tires, used refrigerators ect. Wish there was a channel for those who need a roof or roof patch, a roof will keep your home safe to live in even if the rest goes other than the foundation. Bless you and others that help people. It makes a difference what ever anyone can help with these days. Just fixing these holes in walls and knowing how to put weather striping around the doors and fixing toilet flappers are a huge help let alone improving their lives to paint.
I think maybe 'Who Cares What HGTV Thinks' needs to be on a shirt.
Depression in itself is bad enough but when you look at your house and what needs done its sooo overwhelming.
I'm a fan of cleaning channels but Midwest is the only one where I have to get set up with a coffee and snack before settling to watch it. I can only imagine the heart lift the owners get when they see their transformed home. You do an amazing job for people who need it.
I have been watching you for a while now and I wanted to share something. I am a stay at home mother of 3. My husband works for the Portsmouth Naval Shipyard in Kittery Maine. He works anywhere from 40 to 80 hours a week. I was raised by a mother that had us cleaning from a young age. I kept my homes spotless until 2016 when my brother died. I lost him and a year later have birth to my 3rd daughter who was very sick. A year later gave birth to our son. I lost myself and everything started to get more cluttered and every Christmas made more toys we had in the home. I just spent a month in our local BHU's. I was released too early and ended up back after an hour and a half. I am better now but the house is making me depressed. I am so glad I watched this video when I did. You explain things so nicely and are to the point. We are not lazy and we don't want to live like this. My kids are great kids because that is where I put what energy I had. I wish I had help to clean out home but I am at least able to watch your videos and they give me hope. I can do this one day at a time. Thank you for being here helping the people you do. Much Love ❤
What I love about your channel:
It's real stuff. Real people. Not perfect ones. Not people showing off their instagram places with no personality but lots of money in it.
It's about people who cannot afford new flooring or new kitchens or new silly trends. They survive and maybe with your help they can manage a little bit better.
Thanks so much to you and Jason, but also thanks to the people who are willing to show their places.
I wish them all the best.
when you said "paint their neighbors dogs" I immediately imagined the doges being used as paint brushes
Just the tails…dip and wag, lol.
I imagined blue dogs- I am sure painted nieghbors dogs are always blue😊
@melindaoa8668 omg, I had a dog that sat down with his tail in the paint tray, then stood up and wag-painted all over the floor! 😅
I love that statement "Dont push your past onto someone elses present". Such true words. Some people genuinely have no idea what someone else is going through. They just assume we all live the same path, so we should be living and cleaning like everyone else. My daughter has autism, ADHD and GDD. I absolutely love this channel. You and Jason are a credit to society for what you do for people and their families. This was an amazing transformation. Welldone! 👍🏻
I'm thrilled that this little child will have a "cool" room. It is so important for a child to have his own cozy place to play and sleep in.❤
As a retired cleaner/painter of multi unit apts, I am so glad you and your son's super fast painting ability wasn't on show when I worked. I would be belittled for taking a day to patch, prime and paint four rooms in one day. If my employer ever watches your video he will probably claim I was overcharging hours again. True story btw but just in case anyone thinks I don't realize the fastforward on these I will be shipping unwashed Canadian moose to you via UPS.
I sending your wife prayers 🙏 for a complete recovery. I had 2 parathyroid removed. One in 2009 & the other in 2018. During the surgery in 2018 I also had half of my thyroid removed because I had a cancerous nodule on it. It's a rough life when you live with HyperPARAthyriodism.
I loved this series of this place and also that you people are so kind to the animals in the house - I assume that the pets are stressed out because their world is being disrupted, and sweet Jason! OMG he is so kind to them and that little black cat loves him too. Empathy is also extended to the animals and that additionally shows what kind people you are.
Regarding the commentary up until around the 8 minute mark, i love you. I just, love you. Your insight, understanding, and empathy are extraordinary and are appreciated more than you know.
And thank you so so much for keeping your comment section an abuse-free zone. It truly is a breath of fresh air to come to a safe comment section.
Also, this transformation was absolutely fantastic. The bedroom looks so amazing and inviting. Incredible work you guys 💕
Impressed that you can paint trim without a drop on the carpet! I’m a dripper.
Coming from personal experience, depression is a dark, frightening, place that sucks your joy and energy. Thankful that I got help, and prayers that others suffering will also. Love your comments about emotional maturity and empathy. Thank you for caring for others. Prayers for your wife’s healing! 🙏🏼
And that he doesn't need a ladder or painter's tape. :)
Those cool prints that change as you move around the room are called lenticular. It's a fun word to say. Say it out loud right now. See? Isn't it a fun word to say? Say it often. Insert it into conversations at innapropriate times. You'll be the life of the party/workplace/home. Lenticular.
😂
It is a fun word! There are also lenticular clouds, which is also a fun thing to say. 😃
Thanks! Just a little something to help the next person 😊
Thank you, Michelle! I'll put it to good use! ❤️❤️❤️
You always do ❤️
Mac, you seriously have such a succinct and elegant way of dismantling the arguments of those immature and hateful people when it comes to content like yours.
I feel like more and more, the phrase, "I don't know how to explain to you that you should care about other people" comes up in my interactions, particularly online. It'd be upsetting no matter what, but as someone who also grew up in a household dominated by hoarding disorder, mental illness and poverty, it really sucks.
THANK YOU for telling people that depression is not always about sadness. I don't feel sad when I'm in depression, I just feel trapped inside my own body and can't DO simple things like basic housekeeping or grocery shopping. I don't get sad, but I also can't just "snap out of it." Oh, and my floofy floof, Itty-Bitty, told me to tell y'all, "Meow," which is cat for scratch my butt. The house looks amazing! I love what y'all have done for this sweet family.
when my depression is at the worst, getting out of bed is a win!! when I feel better I can get my house cleaned, cook, laundry etc. It is a real battle that jacks with your life.
It always amazes me how much cleaner and brighter a room can look just from a fresh coat (or 3) of paint. You guys do amazing work and are a true asset to the community. Living in a house with dull, drab walls can exacerbate depression, so painting and cleaning really does make a world of difference and actually improve a person's mood and mental health.
A fresh coat of paint can do wonders for your room and make a real difference to someone's mental health. Looks good Mac. I hope the people living in the house finish off the bits like the ceiling, with the stuff you left for them. It would give them a sense of achievement and satisfaction and anything that can increase their wellbeing is always good. 70 miles a day of time well spent. Love the blue and red curtains. 🙂
I have an older sister , I bought her home for her years ago, it wasn't brand new but a good but older mobil home. She has not been able to take care of her home and keep up with necessary maintainance (sp?) but her problems go farther than emotional, there are physical problems. And she has her adult son living with her and he has ADHD. I wished there was someone like you in the North Texas area. I love to watch all that you do. God blesses you.
Covid , business lockdowns for over a year and my husbands 5 stents mid-covid affected us financially so badly that depression was a real danger. But staying at home brought us all closer. We cooked, cleaned and rearranged furniture a lot. Now, slowly getting our lives back. Thank the Lord. You are amazing to help people who are overwhelmed with one thing or the other. Bless you ❤
You do a thousand percent more and better than any government program spends their funds! It helps us all see how much more efficient we can be without numerous counselors and program managers taking up the limited funds before it goes out to those in need.
Beautiful! The moose are free and this family has a beautifully polished up place to live.
Words cannot describe how much I enjoy watching this channel. Sarcastic wit and dad jokes aside, your channel keeps it real about how generations of poverty, mental illness, and un/misdiagnosed neurodivergence can negatively affect one's home and well being. That's something you don't generally see on "Hoarders". Having spent almost half my life exposed to such things, I can relate to this channel a lot more than I can other cleaning channels/shows.
Poverty and depression are cruel. They feed off of each other and set off a downward spiral that can be very difficult to break. Bless you for taking the time, money, and energy to help this family take the steps they need to break their spiral.
Take care of yourself, Emily, and the family (both furry and human)!
This world needs more people like you and your family more than ever who are determined to break cycles, restore dignity & educate. Best wishes to Emily on a full recovery ❤️🩹 A Yahoo from Alberta 🇨🇦
I hope Emily is feeling better! The room looks a thousand times better and I know that the little boy is absolutely thrilled with his bed and the awesome Spider Man art. This is one lucky family and I wish them much happiness for the future. Thank you for giving them a “hand up”. Sending you and your family big hugs and much love from Tennessee.
I liked the fact that you said that you don't have time to educate adults the things they should be teaching their 9 year old.
I know what you mean about shaming the paint roller. My father used to do the same sort of thing. Every year, he'd cuss out the Christmas tree when he had to set it up in it's stand. That used to crack me up, but he didn't see the humor. 😊 🎄 Anyway, I hope Mrs. Itty Bitty Fluffalo is feeling much better. 🙂
Man, I sure wish some of my family members could here you explain the things we go through is NOT something we want. We are so misunderstood! Gosh, I just want you to know, Mack, you mean so much to me and others for having our back. Mental awareness is a huge thing! People need to educate themselves! Thanks Mack. Hope you’re doing good, Emily..
Yet another great result, Mr. Fluffalo. I did what you asked (“So suck it.”) and now I have the urge to volunteer my time to help people who need it. Dang.
I love his voice, I could listen his powerful, slightly monotone voice all day 😀
I am absolutely loving this series. Please never stop!
Also, I loved your previous comments about who cares what other people think about your paint colors. It's a good reminder to decorate based on my preference and nobody else's and it doesn't need to be HGTV ready.
I have severe depression and several health issues. My home does not have some of the severe structural repair problems of the homes that you clean, but it is easy for me to see how it could easily get that way. Your channel helps me so much. Watching you clean, repair, and paint motivates me to keep moving, cleaning, and getting better. I consider watching your videos to be like therapy. Thank you for what you do.
Thank you for doing this.
I know people who live like this bc of poverty, and no fault of their own.
My goodness, your description of depression was ME.
I couldn't even move. I was catatonic.
My house went to heck.
Catatonic is an excellent description for me. Thanks for helping me put a word to it, my friend. I could barely handle the necessities, if at all, and everything was insurmountable. Doing so much better now. It sounds like you are, too. ❤
@@katwoman6523 Just saw this. Glad you are doing better!
@@rdred8693 Thank you!
As usual, a boatload of encouraging kindness in an on demand format. That’s important, I don’t need encouraging kindness on Mondays at noon only! I need it when I need it. That’s right, on demand and you never fail to deliver. RUclips should award you a Platinum and right now!
Thank you for always showing compassion and treating people with dignity. It's nice to watch an upbeat channel.
Thank you for pointing out that you don't tolerate rudeness but instead your channel is about kindness.
The house turned out absolutely beautiful. I am positive that the home owner Is extremely Grateful & Proud of her house.
My eyes are tearing up listening to you talk in such a kind, empathetic and respectful way about the people you've been helping. I grew up in a chaotic household that was always a mess (and in some form of disrepair- which got worse over the years) and even though I was a child, I recognized the difference between what I thought was a normal household and mine. I was already ashamed as a very small child and it led to me feeling worthless- because I always felt like I was being judged and I believed that I deserved to be. My adult life is very different, but that feeling will always kind of be there...If my fence is sagging or a neighbor comes to tell me that a shingle fell off my roof- I'm instantly so ashamed. I keep my house tidy always, but if you show up and I have a piece of mail and cups on my coffee table- I'm instantly embarrassed (Which sounds silly to anyone else) I hate having people over because I have to have every inch of my home immaculate to do so, and if I see anything that's not perfect, I can't relax and will obsess over the drips down the side of my stove or cutlery drawer that had crumbs in it somehow.1 Inside, I'm still that kid with a house with fist sized holes in the walls, a filthy kitchen, and laundry piled to the ceiling in the basement. I never see mess in other peoples homes either. Even though their homes are normal, lived in spaces.
Anyways, I just want to thank you. I think what you do is so amazing & kind and you have the best way of talking about things. You're hilarious- but you're also really smart and well spoken. Wishing you and your family all good things for 2024- especially good health & happiness. ✌
Hello, my cleaning angel. First, I hope your wife is doing better. She's on my prayer list like your whole family is.
Helping this family was a wonderful thing to do. You and Jason did a fantastic job. You and your Family are awesome people. Anyone who encounters you is a lucky person. This world could sure use more people like you. ❤
Welcome back! I was just wondering today how Emily was doing since surgery.
Sorry you've been dealing with rude and disrespectful people. There are people who are just incapable of empathy and incapable of imagining another's situation. I grew up in a dirty home where I was never taught to clean, where nobody cleaned. As an adult I had to learn how to clean properly.
This was a very satisfying finale to this house. I love seeing the before and after transformation.
Thank you for banning rude people. You’re a wonderful human being! Love you guys! ❤️
Thank you for your videos. My sister's pet passed away tragically and your videos motivated me to help her clean her space so she could eventually move her pet's cage out of her bedroom so she could sleep on her own bed again. Thank you.
Bless your heart. Taking care of and being there for family is the most important thing we can do ❤
I have anxiety and low level depression, and the few times I mentioned it to my sisters or when I used to go to church, people would say I didn't seem depressed or feeling anxious. These are illnesses we can medicate, thank God I have doctor who understands this. These illnesses are mostly invisible, like all sorts of pain. We put up a shield, isolate, and try to stay available to our spouses, kids, grandkids in our homes. They are our reason for living, and I am so fortunate to be supported and loved. My husband is also bipolar and usually on the depressed side.We are a perfect match.We are in our 70's, and I can't help but hope that I die first. Selfish, but true. I watch all of your videos, you are a true hero to me.
Love,Love,Love I was poor growing up. And I Appreciate you Mack & Jason♥️♥️👊🏻
Basic empathy-like common sense-is often scarce. I have had depression off and on for over 50 years. Nothing anyone could fault me for compares to my self-castigating. Your understanding and compassion make me cry. Plus helps me get into gear a little myself. You and Jason are heroes. All the best to your wife. ❤
The 5 domains of social determinants of health: Economic Stability, Education Access and Quality, Health Care Access and Quality, Neighborhood and Built Environment, and Social and Community Context can be helpful in understanding yourself and others. Mac & family demonstrate an innate understanding of these concepts, high emotional intelligence and empathy. This is what the world needs more of, in how we treat ourselves, our partners and kids, our neighbours and everyone.
"Don't put your past on other people's present." 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Seriously.
I live for cleaning/reno content like this, but I definitely stay for the Humor!!
Severe depression is like being in the pit of hell and your mind keeps digging deeper. Anyone who throws you a lifeline to help is gladly accepted. For those who have never experienced it, I say count your blessings. No one goes there by choice.
Your first sentence is exactly how I felt two years ago. Now with meds and therapy, I feel I can live (but not like I did before the pit) but still feel like I'm just circling that black pit. I love when you said no one goes there by choice...how accurate that is. Thank you for sharing.
Hi, Mack! Really loved it when you said "you can't transplant your past onto another person's present"! Couldn't have said better!
Your explanation of the depression cycle is so helpful and so empathetic. You did such an amazing job for this family.
I think what you are doing in these videos is great and very kind. People like this you are helping are often forgotten about and left alone to muddle through.
I can only imagine how thrilled the homeowners must have felt. What a morale boost for them to have a clean, functional home! Good work!
I love your intro about why you boot negative comments and I'm glad you do.
I love how unwilling the 'never give up' sticker was to giving up.
The finished Spider-Man room makes me smile! 😁
I feel like spin-kicking people that are so insensitive.
Your information about these mental, emotional, and physical situations is so very good. You are helping us viewers as much as the people you are helping.
Thank you.
Shout out to Jason! Great job rolling! I am feelin it in the shoulders!
I really think Jason is an awesome young man and a great help to his dad. He takes pride in what he does and shows his respect too of the job.
Binged this series while working through a PTSD-induced panic attack at midnight.
Thought you should know two of my fifteen rescue cats and I greatly enjoyed this journey with you.
Also, you should totally consider reading books for audiobooks. You have a great voice and id totally listen to you reading something fun like sci-fi or dystopian fiction.