This is for me:(Thx Courtney btw) Tips on messaging girls: #1: Be more creative than just saying hey. #2: Try to find things in common. #3: Ask some questions ( have some interest in getting to know her) #4: Get her number and set up for meeting or a date.
I know this is a bit off topic, but I feel like I owe you so much. You've helped me boost my self esteem, I was in a very dark place, got into drugs, thought about taking my own life several times. It was a struggle even at a young age, dealing with ADHD, feeling disrespected and down all the time, fights with family, getting mentally and physically abused by classmates. I can't even describe how thankful I am, your advice and help means so much and I wish I could meet you and say this in person, but everything still stands. I am much better now, it got to a point where I can finally sleep at night, without having thoughts, without any stress. Depression is in the past and it makes me proud saying I managed to overcome that phase, but I couldn't have done it without you. You deserve the best, keep grinding, this is just the beginning, I expect and wish much more in the near future. Once again, thank you so much, and I'm forever grateful for giving me the strength I didn't know I needed. I'm literally crying right now, appreciate you to the fullest and the world needs more people like you 🙂
🥲🥺 this is so special to me. Thank you for sharing. I’m so glad to hear this and what you’ve been able to overcome. I hope my channel always feels like a positive and uplifting place for you to keep being the best you that you can be! I am rooting for you and so happy you’re here! ❤️❤️❤️ hugs!!
@@CourtneyRyan Thank you for replying to him Courtney. That is sweet of you, and he feels special that you replied. Have a good weekend and Valentines Day! :)
@@sinjon Thank you so much, I keep repeating myself but it means everything to me. Glad to be able to share this story and maybe even inspire people to do something great. Stay blessed and have a nice day as well
Messaging girls is always a challenge, mostly miss than hits. So thanks for sending us good tips and guidance to use this technique wisely. It definitely helps when there is something in common like enjoying similar things, since that’s a great way to start up a conversation and getting to know one another. Keep up the good work! 👍
Really appreciate the comment about us being able to be picky, we can so often put girls on a pedestal and forget that not every girl is going to be right for us. Thanks Courtney as usual for the great vid ❤️🇦🇺
*Mastering the balance between being playful and respectful in texts really keeps the conversation dynamic. Keeping it fun while avoiding neediness is a great strategy to build attraction naturally!*
It's amazing how hard it is to keep a girl interested! Women don't care about men's struggles, they just hang at the finish line and pick the winner. Keep it up gentlemen and focus on yourselves and women will naturally come around.
Another tip would be to text her as though you already know her (not in a creepy way). Much of that will come from tips 2 & 3. You're doing awesomely @Courtney Ryan. Big fan of your channel. Bless you!
I’m not on dating apps lol I was speaking from experience from when I was on them a couple years ago but even now guys will message me on instagram and just say “hey” haha
I’ve been on Hinge for the last two weeks and have worked hard to craft each message to each individual woman I message, and still I haven’t gotten one single “like” since the first day I joined. Really want to believe that online dating is not all just garbage, but personal experience is leading me to that conclusion pretty fast.
It's not about the girls. It's all about you, become the best version of yourself (fitness, health, finances, emotional IQ, communication skills, hygiene, dressing, confidence); then they will be messaging you.
@@CourtneyRyan That’s very true, it depends on who I’m talking to as well. Becomes much easier when the other person is putting in effort as well! Yay, looking forward to it :)
A lot of women feel like they don’t need to put in effort. They probably still get responses even though all they say is hey - online dating is much easier for women unfortunately. As much as that sucks, it’s 100% true!
Courtney rocks. Thank you lady for all of your sage advice. I will say though, anytime I get a first message from a girl, it’s 99% always “hey” or “hey there”
Courtney should do a video where she creates a non-supermodel male profile and messages girls using these techniques. I would love to see her reaction to the response rate she will get even with all of these rules followed
The most frustrating part about all this is the W who hit you up because they’re interested but CANNOT have a conversation and respond with Short responses and then when you take it as them not being attracted and you leave them alone then they hit you up wondering what happened. 🤦🏽♂️
Fellas, for getting her off the app, here's a message that's worked for me a couple of times: "Can we move this conversation to texts? Every time I open this app, it immediately shows me another girl's profile, and I would rather not have that happen when I'm just wanting to talk to you."
What I don't really understand, is when a woman shows her interest first and write you a message, but after your reply, do not answer anymore. I had such situations several times. It cannot be true that I did something wrong. My communicational skills are not so bad based on my experience with other women. What is wrong with these ones?
Besides the comments here and there generalizing females this is such a mature comment section and so wholesome if only everyone communicated like this. Props to Courtney for helping everyone become a better version of themselves and not fall into toxic games.
1. dont just say hey 2. find the commonality 3. ask a question (if you just say hey you are hot, what'd she reply? nothing) 4. be direct, get her off the app, she's constantly getting msg, she is more likely to talk to you if you waive. get her phone number to ask for a date or set an appointment. Claim the first date
Yeah, this is good basic advice. Dating apps have definitely created a problem in that we've developed the mentality that there's always someone better because you end up matching with so many people. It was easier when we set up dates with those in closest proximity.
I would say the videos you make and the videos The Attractive man makes is probably the most practical and useful content for guys that are looking for that one special someone, without having to play mind games all the way or putting on a personality that doesn’t add up to who you truly are.
Really good video! Its really rare to actually get good advice from a woman on how to succesfully approach other woman. You find the right words to describe this kinda balanced way on how to show enough and honest interest without looking too needy.
Really practical video Courtney! Question: From what you’ve heard, how do girls view someone who doesn’t have a social media account? Does it make a guy seem strange, creepy, or secretive? Asking for a friend 😅
@@CourtneyRyan Well, I am that guy that does not have social media accounts To be honest, I would say that girls that think a guy is weird for not having social media accounts are too superficial, I am not saying it because I don’t have social media and I am trying to defend myself 😂 But if you think about it, from a logical point of view, it does not make any sense I believe they think that the guy is hiding something or the guy is insecure and does not have confidence, but at least on my case, I do not consider myself like that If a had a partner and she has social media I would respect it, so I would expect the same from her
I actually hugely disagree. On dating apps, you can basically say nothing (as long as you’re super attractive) when you match and she will then try her best to start something. I know that from personal experience, I had really mediocre photos that only showed casual everyday stuff. Then, I put photos that showcased my body, status and whatnot, and matches went 20x and girls were the ones messaging me first (usually saying the dumbest shit). I also realised that attractive girls have no game of their own when THEY are pursuing you, which is funny but not so attractive. Good work Courtney, but this video could’ve clarified that a bit. Rant over
bingo! you can text all you want, if she isnt into you, nothing you can do. and i can confirm them having 0 game. some send a wave emoji, some ask stupid shit. None of that would fly if it was a guy. This video is useful if she is into you to begin with so guys dont fuck up with silly shit.
@@wowomah6194 it’s simple dog. Females never had to do anything to get male attention besides beauty. It is what is. We get baffled at how much work we do, and how bad they are when they try to initiate like a male 😂
@@mastermindwick7356 True, but then there are those women who are real go-getters who know how to initiate and it blows my mind when I meet them from time to time. They're very rare and when you meet them...of course they already have like 50 men who think they like them because they're such big flirts
You’re the best at giving fans the content they ask for. I, probably along with many others, asked for this type of video a couple weeks ago. I get matches on Tinder fairly often but a lot of them never reply to my messages. Hopefully your advice pays off!
Coffee and a a new video from Courtney, the perfect combination for chilling for 10mins. Also, would you make a video of clothes that you think that might be on trend on 2021? I've seen a lot of changes on the fit (more related to jeans) so it would be amazing. Keep going!
Thank you, Courtney for your statements. The combination of what you are saying and how you say it, gives me a good trigger to focus on the high quality woman, and avoid the LSE (low self esteem) woman.
Hello Courtney, I have watched several clips and just noticed I haven’t subscribed so I just did. I do enjoy listening to you. You give great advice. Your voice is intoxicating.
Commonly given advice but nice to hear it reaffirmed by you. Before I took a break from online dating, the toughest women to message were ones with no meaningful text in their profile and no pictures with any activity beyond posing for a picture. I'd still manage to come up with a general question to ask if the profile gave me nothing but I can see a lot of guys just giving up and saying "Hey."
Thank you Courtney for this vid. It is honestly my favorite rn. & helped me out with a new girl I just met. Especially the open ended question key. Appreciate you!
Whenever a woman has nothing written in her profile and just a selfie, then all she gets is hey. Because what else can you say? Otherwise, I normally acknowledge something she wrote, try to relate to it, ask questions, etc. Making witty remarks is also very helpful, if you can think of something clever enough. I sent a witty remark to a girl and that started a relationship.
@@Sagefrakrobatik you get a lot of fakes on POF if you ever go on there. Be wary of that site. Women (or some jack off in some other country) will try to scam you for money.
@@aaronharlow2137 I used it a few times, I agree. It doesnt even matter for me, I decide to go on hiatus from online dating to workout and get back in shape
Excellent pointers, thanks for sharing! I do think there is a counter-point to "#4-Get Her Off The App ASAP" though. I see what you mean by getting the girl's communication with you to something exclusive that's away from the other-dudes-hitting-on-her echo chamber. I would normally agree that is true...ASSUMING she is operating in good faith. Meaning: she's a real person with an honest profile who is there to find someone for dating and not really a schemer, scammer, catfish, chatbot, fake profile, deceiver, liar, betrayer, or some other villain with nefarious purpose. What I'm getting at is EVERYONE that signs up, pays money, and clicks "I Agree" is bound to the Terms of Service of that site. This means there are specific things you are and not allowed to say & do while using the site. Being bound to the TOS also protects YOU from other members saying & doing those specific things against you while using the site too. Someone can be all sunshine & rainbows when messaging you on the app, but if you rush off too soon you might find them pull a complete 180...and now you're stuck and completely on your own in dealing with them. Plus, some stranger now has some personal information of yours, even if it is just an email or cell number. My version of this tip would be: Protect yourself first. Take the time you need to build up trust with someone before giving out your personal info. The right person for you will feel the same way.
It doesn't matter what opening line I use. I have tried writing a paragraph asking about things in their profile or just saying "hello how are you?" 99.99% never respond. So, why should I put in the effort when as far as I see it they are just looking for validation. Many are probably still in a relationship and looking for something better than what they have now. Go watch some videos by Better Bachelor or Entrepreneur In Cars. They both have great insight on the predictable woman. Thanks for your time
these definitely are very helpful and can be effective, but don't expect a response back, and if she does don't keep your hopes high. I've tried texting many girls with a message that isn't generic but most of them never opened it. the ones that responded ended up ghosting me even when I tried escalating the conversation. anyways... good luck everyone.
Ok i have a few questions pertaining to messaging a girl on Instagram. When send a question do i just find some thing in bio or can you look throw pictures to find something to ask? Also when you message a girl on Instagram do you be direct and try to organize a date right away or do you get to know each other a bit? Does it matter if its long distance?
I needed this video lol. I dont go on dating sites nor social media do to the fact that im an in person type of personality as my charisma naturaly shines in person plus i can get a better read from the other person , however i can use these tips when texting with a lady . Thanks Courtney
Hoenslty I don’t like taking tips from girls and women because they genuinely don’t even know what they want themselves however I do wanna say that I like ur videos because u seem genuine, and I like ur voice because is relaxing, not to mention that u seem quite mature, most girls taht are young just want the bad boy and then cry when the bad boy leave them, I am glad I found ur channel
I think the major problem with the apps is their cultured expectations for romance / sex "Find your flame". Dating is really about meeting new people you otherwise would not. So it's fun talking to people and sharing life stories. I've made great friends, but I've talked to lots of scared people afraid to be vulnerable for fear of feeling exploited again. My only gripe is with the economics of the app game. Males footing the bill. Prices being rather gouging and exploiting FOMO psychology.
Finally a guy in the comment section who gets it. Most of the men here turn into simps the minute they see Courtney. But taking dating advice from women in this day and age is like taking driving lessons from a blind man
@@oliverford5367 You wait it out. All you are doing is inflating their egos my man and wasting time. Try to level up yourself till the state you live in opens back up.
Courtney has a good sense of humour!, it is smooth but hits correctly on our the brain cells correctly and sparks the mind up!😆 Ithink she persuade it from her father!🙏
Thanks Courtney, really liking the Perfect Sunday morning question. It’s quite original, not pushy and suggest one has enough IQ to hold an intelligent conversation should a first date get arranged. :)
imo, it is way more better when we (man) asks for their number not giving them, since the anticipation needs to build on their side. i used to gave them my number, and it tooks 2-3 weeks to get them to shot a messages/call
Great job again Courtney. My biggest problem with Tinder is I seem like a dime a dozen when I like girls that I think a Bunch of other dudes already like, so there’s a very small chance of matching, and the likes I actually do get, I have yet to end up liking one yet. 😂
I don't have time to craft messages to each girl when half of them don't reply anyway, no matter if I just say hi or I come up with something the response rate is about the same, if she sends hi back then I craft something, much more efficent IMO
I find dating apps easy cause its short term messaging and not too hard. Texting over a week or throughout your day is much more stressful haha. Can you do a video about texting?
I've done every single one of these and sent THOUSANDS (I'm not exaggerating at all when I say this) of messages. I NEVER say just hi or hey because it was noticeable early on that many girls actually stated that on their profile anyway. I've always used things on her profile and things in common but unfortunately the fundamental fact of physical attraction is always higher up the list than anything else. If I consider myself average or worse than average looking then even if a girl has a sea of "hey" and "hi" messages to wade through she'll still overlook me to either continue waiting for a better looking guy or instead reply to a seriously good looking guy who ironically used a one word message!
I reply with "hey" all the time. 90% of the time I'll get a reply. after that, real conversation follows. honestly. I know I'm not a 10 in hotness. but I feel looks definitely get me into the door faster. and I'm very direct and quick with a meet up. I find it's easier to get straight to the point of meeting up fast. and it usually works for me
Hey @Courtney Ryan, could you give some tips on getting someone's number without coming off as needy or desperate, any contact for that matter not just number🤗
What do you do if she doesn't respond when you ask her out? I was messaging someone and thought the conversation was going well so asked her to lunch. Nothing back. After 5 days I said if she'd rather talk on the phone or text that's fine too. If I don't message her again in the next week the match expires. In general how should you decide to ask her to move from just texting?
Theorically I agree. Other youtubers gave similar advise and I tried, at the best I can, but a lot of times simply doesnt work! Most of girls use Tinder etc just to get attention or sponsorize their Instagram.
Hey Courtney you made an odd comment about London on your post. Not as scenic as Southern Europe but did you enjoy the history of it? Did you ever see Ireland? Beautiful country at least in the summer.
I have a hard time with not knowing if it's real or a catfish. My friends catfished me for a year and a half and im skeptical on any woman messaging me from social media platforms. I think I missed some real ones thinking they werent really real so I don't know how to feel since im not ungaurding myself. Im observant in person and don't pursue unless i think she likes me back. But I gotta know for sure she's not just being nice
I send personal messages after I go through a profile, I thoughtfully ask a question and then link in inti about myself that may not be on my profile. I get low feedback or after talking for a 2-4 days I open up for a meetup then the conversation goes blank.
Hi Courtney so you was on a dating site when you made this video, is that where you met teddy? Btw teddy put a Rolex AD video up 6 hours ago and this video thumbnail was right beside his. What's the odds? Thanks for your videos and help.
Best way to think about this is to find the kind of person you want to be a part of your life. Just be genuinely and unapologetically yourself around other people and the right people will come into yourself. Also get off the dating apps as soon as possible. They're great if you want to meet lots of people fast, but you're very unlikely to have the kind of conversation that will actually make you feel connected to somebody else on a dating app.
@@lifemocker85 That's true, but the majority of men aren't really putting effort into marketing themselves, either. Dating apps are an extremely superficial social competition and it's easy for a man who is putting minimal effort in to get overlooked by one who is in shape with a charismatic profile and professional photos. Especially when women are absolutely the more scarce sex on dating apps and have literal hundreds of options in their matches. I say that with a lot of empathy for those kinds of burnt out men, too. Whether they'll admit it or not, I know a lot of men who are tired of social competition and just want to feel like somebody outside of their immediate family cares about the fact they exist. Chasing sex is an easy but futile escape for people with a lack of a social life. It is really hard to muster up the effort to keep trying when you're the person who is always excluded from the group, but you have to if you want to make a change.
@@lifemocker85 All that being said, you're going to have a tough time meeting people these days if you don't use some kind of electronic medium (it's a sad truth of modern times), but that doesn't mean you have to keep playing the online dating game. Play to your strengths, figure out a way to meet people online, get them in an offline real interaction with you after the introduction, and see where things go from there. If somebody isn't interested in playing by those rules, move on from them.
@@lifemocker85 That's certainly a perspective and is it also definitely a fact that the majority of people you meet won't care about you. It's also true that a subset of people who do care about you will have to be convinced first. It isn't fair, but it is reality. The way I look at it is that you're going to have to wade through a whole lot of wrong before you find right. This is an experience literally every human being goes through. You have three ways you can look at it: 1. You can burn yourself out from trying to convert wrong into right (which is generally futile). 2. You can give up trying and isolate yourself because nobody else cares about you. 3. You can acknowledge that every person who socially rejects you probably wasn't right for your life at that time and use it as motivation to keep looking for your crowd who will want you around them and create an environment where you all build yourselves up. Those people are out there for everyone, they're just harder to find for some people versus others. Every human being has innate needs for control, acceptance, and consistence. People inside of stable social settings naturally have these needs balanced and often market themselves without even trying. People who do not have stable social settings often have imbalances in these areas. Marketing your genuine self isn't even a requirement to find the right people for you, but it will drastically speed up the process. What I will say though is that if you are using dating to make up for a lack of anything in your life, you will always self-sabotage or fail. You have to address the root of what is making you feel imbalanced first or you will naturally push the people who are right for you away from you.
I really appreciate this Courtney I was lagging this and thanks to ima use this tips your like a big sister to all of us helping us out with girls you know what’s up 💯
Stupid question - if Im talking to a girl on a dating app and we transition to speaking on insta, should I follow her as well, or just DM without following?
So I was messaging this woman I matched with on tinder the conversation was seemingly going well, talking about some of our interests and favourite artists, foods, movies etc but suddenly she hasn’t messaged back since Tuesday night. Any particular reason why when the conversation was going well?
Until superficiality and physical attraction is removed as primary instinctual requirement, all the words in a text or email means crud for most (like you said your advice applies to "some" not most).
Wow that was really good! You also stuck to your word, I give you a lot of credit. Because you mentioned to me that you might do a future broadcast, on messaging women online
Your right even from the flip side of receiving a text that only says hello, I get hundreds of friend requests from woman a day, & oddly there mostly very beautiful ladies but I really don't know how to reply to them
This is for me:(Thx Courtney btw)
Tips on messaging girls:
#1: Be more creative than just saying hey.
#2: Try to find things in common.
#3: Ask some questions ( have some interest in getting to know her)
#4: Get her number and set up for meeting or a date.
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Better if you do not text random girls. Just meet them in real life.
*Never use dating apps*
*NEVER!*
Appreciate it. Saved me some blah blah time
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First rule: She must be physically attracted to you, if not, next rules will not apply because she Will see you just like a friend.
For some girls that’s true!
*physically
lol I thought he meant "fiscally" at first , as in she's into you because you're well off.
@@johngonzalez4298 corrected
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I know this is a bit off topic, but I feel like I owe you so much. You've helped me boost my self esteem, I was in a very dark place, got into drugs, thought about taking my own life several times. It was a struggle even at a young age, dealing with ADHD, feeling disrespected and down all the time, fights with family, getting mentally and physically abused by classmates. I can't even describe how thankful I am, your advice and help means so much and I wish I could meet you and say this in person, but everything still stands. I am much better now, it got to a point where I can finally sleep at night, without having thoughts, without any stress. Depression is in the past and it makes me proud saying I managed to overcome that phase, but I couldn't have done it without you. You deserve the best, keep grinding, this is just the beginning, I expect and wish much more in the near future. Once again, thank you so much, and I'm forever grateful for giving me the strength I didn't know I needed. I'm literally crying right now, appreciate you to the fullest and the world needs more people like you 🙂
🥲🥺 this is so special to me. Thank you for sharing. I’m so glad to hear this and what you’ve been able to overcome. I hope my channel always feels like a positive and uplifting place for you to keep being the best you that you can be! I am rooting for you and so happy you’re here! ❤️❤️❤️ hugs!!
This is the absolute best comment. Glad you are feeling better about yourself, Addy. Have a nice day
Just know I'm rooting for u addy! I know dark places Bro
@@CourtneyRyan Thank you for replying to him Courtney. That is sweet of you, and he feels special that you replied. Have a good weekend and Valentines Day! :)
@@sinjon Thank you so much, I keep repeating myself but it means everything to me. Glad to be able to share this story and maybe even inspire people to do something great. Stay blessed and have a nice day as well
Man courtney helping us out is much appreciated. Keep it up Courtney.
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Messaging girls is always a challenge, mostly miss than hits. So thanks for sending us good tips and guidance to use this technique wisely. It definitely helps when there is something in common like enjoying similar things, since that’s a great way to start up a conversation and getting to know one another.
Keep up the good work! 👍
Really appreciate the comment about us being able to be picky, we can so often put girls on a pedestal and forget that not every girl is going to be right for us. Thanks Courtney as usual for the great vid ❤️🇦🇺
*Mastering the balance between being playful and respectful in texts really keeps the conversation dynamic. Keeping it fun while avoiding neediness is a great strategy to build attraction naturally!*
Women should take this advice also. From my experience majority of the time women message with "hey".
almost every single time
Or you get their number, have some amazing dates yet they ditch you cause their still swiping right.
@@jerrystirpe yup
@Jerry stripe my thoughts exactly this video should be a two way street ironically women suck at dating apps as much as guys do!
@@waynekarst7315 I agree. Honestly I get a "hey" I sometimes respond. But if their second message is just as pathetic their deleted.
It's amazing how hard it is to keep a girl interested! Women don't care about men's struggles, they just hang at the finish line and pick the winner. Keep it up gentlemen and focus on yourselves and women will naturally come around.
That's right.
Rich coopers words 😂
Absolutely they all run away after saying your problems but when they say theirs your willing to help
Another tip would be to text her as though you already know her (not in a creepy way).
Much of that will come from tips 2 & 3.
You're doing awesomely @Courtney Ryan.
Big fan of your channel. Bless you!
It warms my heart to hear that you are getting messages from dating apps.Teddy must be delighted.
I’m not on dating apps lol I was speaking from experience from when I was on them a couple years ago but even now guys will message me on instagram and just say “hey” haha
@@CourtneyRyan Hi!
Courtney is such a pro! She should be with the top relationship coaches bouncing ideas and perfecting the dating world.
I’ve been on Hinge for the last two weeks and have worked hard to craft each message to each individual woman I message, and still I haven’t gotten one single “like” since the first day I joined. Really want to believe that online dating is not all just garbage, but personal experience is leading me to that conclusion pretty fast.
I've been on pretty much every app there is and I have never had a match.
Do everything opposite of what she said
It's not about the girls. It's all about you, become the best version of yourself (fitness, health, finances, emotional IQ, communication skills, hygiene, dressing, confidence); then they will be messaging you.
There are two rules of online dating: "be hot", and "don't be ugly"
I just sent a message to a girl through a dating app and here comes Courtney with a new informative video. Always coming on clutch 🙌🏻
what did she say?
I’m looking forward to seeing this, I feel like I struggle a lot more over texts/messages to showcase my personality than in person
It can be really difficult. Especially when girls are getting so many messages. I’m going to do more videos like this in the future too!
@@CourtneyRyan That’s very true, it depends on who I’m talking to as well. Becomes much easier when the other person is putting in effort as well! Yay, looking forward to it :)
@@CourtneyRyan Looking forward to it!
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The funny part about "hey" is thats all I get from women... and they want us to be creative ??!!
Great point. Thoughts Courtney?
@@DannyB-t6k women definitely have the upper hand in online dating
@@nicke2307 dating in general I would say
A lot of women feel like they don’t need to put in effort. They probably still get responses even though all they say is hey - online dating is much easier for women unfortunately. As much as that sucks, it’s 100% true!
@@CourtneyRyan so if we shouldn’t just say hey, what should we say? You didn’t give any tips on that
Courtney rocks. Thank you lady for all of your sage advice. I will say though, anytime I get a first message from a girl, it’s 99% always “hey” or “hey there”
Kourtney's calm and composed voice is soo relaxing and Untra Alpha at the same time, Love all the help you provide
Thank You
Courtney should do a video where she creates a non-supermodel male profile and messages girls using these techniques. I would love to see her reaction to the response rate she will get even with all of these rules followed
About 1 to 2 percent response rate.
Holy shit that would be amazing
Non-supermodel profiles don't get matches tho.
The most frustrating part about all this is the W who hit you up because they’re interested but CANNOT have a conversation and respond with Short responses and then when you take it as them not being attracted and you leave them alone then they hit you up wondering what happened. 🤦🏽♂️
I haven't been on a dating app in a while. Thank you for being honest and giving us guys tips on not wasting anyone's time. Might try again after this
Fellas, for getting her off the app, here's a message that's worked for me a couple of times:
"Can we move this conversation to texts? Every time I open this app, it immediately shows me another girl's profile, and I would rather not have that happen when I'm just wanting to talk to you."
Thanks, I'll use that. Sounds like it'll make her feel special!
Best point you are making here, is you can choose who to pursue and figure out who is genuine and is plastic, and plan your dates, thanks for posting!
What I don't really understand, is when a woman shows her interest first and write you a message, but after your reply, do not answer anymore. I had such situations several times. It cannot be true that I did something wrong. My communicational skills are not so bad based on my experience with other women. What is wrong with these ones?
Besides the comments here and there generalizing females this is such a mature comment section and so wholesome if only everyone communicated like this. Props to Courtney for helping everyone become a better version of themselves and not fall into toxic games.
1. dont just say hey
2. find the commonality
3. ask a question (if you just say hey you are hot, what'd she reply? nothing)
4. be direct, get her off the app, she's constantly getting msg, she is more likely to talk to you if you waive. get her phone number to ask for a date or set an appointment. Claim the first date
Yeah, this is good basic advice.
Dating apps have definitely created a problem in that we've developed the mentality that there's always someone better because you end up matching with so many people. It was easier when we set up dates with those in closest proximity.
I would say the videos you make and the videos The Attractive man makes is probably the most practical and useful content for guys that are looking for that one special someone, without having to play mind games all the way or putting on a personality that doesn’t add up to who you truly are.
Really good video! Its really rare to actually get good advice from a woman on how to succesfully approach other woman. You find the right words to describe this kinda balanced way on how to show enough and honest interest without looking too needy.
I’m all the way from Trinidad and Tobago. I wish there was more girls like you in Trinidad yes gyal 🤦🏼♂️☝🏻
❤️❤️🥰
Don't disrespect those queens in T&T
@@SkidCudi how is that disrespect? I’m just saying that I think Courtney is great an it’ll get good to have more like her.
@@mehulmaharaj5015 Alright I gotcha my bad.
Really practical video Courtney!
Question: From what you’ve heard, how do girls view someone who doesn’t have a social media account? Does it make a guy seem strange, creepy, or secretive? Asking for a friend 😅
Hmmm it depends on the girl. A lot of girls actually love when their s/o don’t have social media 😂
@@CourtneyRyan Well, I am that guy that does not have social media accounts
To be honest, I would say that girls that think a guy is weird for not having social media accounts are too superficial, I am not saying it because I don’t have social media and I am trying to defend myself 😂
But if you think about it, from a logical point of view, it does not make any sense
I believe they think that the guy is hiding something or the guy is insecure and does not have confidence, but at least on my case, I do not consider myself like that
If a had a partner and she has social media I would respect it, so I would expect the same from her
I actually hugely disagree. On dating apps, you can basically say nothing (as long as you’re super attractive) when you match and she will then try her best to start something. I know that from personal experience, I had really mediocre photos that only showed casual everyday stuff. Then, I put photos that showcased my body, status and whatnot, and matches went 20x and girls were the ones messaging me first (usually saying the dumbest shit). I also realised that attractive girls have no game of their own when THEY are pursuing you, which is funny but not so attractive. Good work Courtney, but this video could’ve clarified that a bit. Rant over
bingo! you can text all you want, if she isnt into you, nothing you can do. and i can confirm them having 0 game. some send a wave emoji, some ask stupid shit. None of that would fly if it was a guy. This video is useful if she is into you to begin with so guys dont fuck up with silly shit.
@@mastermindwick7356 Most of the time if it isn't just the wave emoji it's just "hello." or "hey". I'm like JESUS really?!
@@wowomah6194 it’s simple dog. Females never had to do anything to get male attention besides beauty. It is what is. We get baffled at how much work we do, and how bad they are when they try to initiate like a male 😂
@@mastermindwick7356 True, but then there are those women who are real go-getters who know how to initiate and it blows my mind when I meet them from time to time. They're very rare and when you meet them...of course they already have like 50 men who think they like them because they're such big flirts
Girl 'game' is identical to creep game
Its pathetic and offputting
You’re the best at giving fans the content they ask for. I, probably along with many others, asked for this type of video a couple weeks ago. I get matches on Tinder fairly often but a lot of them never reply to my messages. Hopefully your advice pays off!
Coffee and a a new video from Courtney, the perfect combination for chilling for 10mins. Also, would you make a video of clothes that you think that might be on trend on 2021? I've seen a lot of changes on the fit (more related to jeans) so it would be amazing. Keep going!
Thank you, Courtney for your statements. The combination of what you are saying and how you say it, gives me a good trigger to focus on the high quality woman, and avoid the LSE (low self esteem) woman.
Courtney, how would you approach girls who want to keep talking on the app? Go with it?
Hello Courtney, I have watched several clips and just noticed I haven’t subscribed so I just did. I do enjoy listening to you. You give great advice. Your voice is intoxicating.
Teddy is so lucky to have u. Such a kind person!
great advice courtney, your content has helped my confidence and self worth soo much i love it :)
Commonly given advice but nice to hear it reaffirmed by you. Before I took a break from online dating, the toughest women to message were ones with no meaningful text in their profile and no pictures with any activity beyond posing for a picture. I'd still manage to come up with a general question to ask if the profile gave me nothing but I can see a lot of guys just giving up and saying "Hey."
"& If she hates crepes she's probably not good for you anyway" 👏🏻FACTS👏🏻🤣
Thank you Courtney for this vid. It is honestly my favorite rn. & helped me out with a new girl I just met.
Especially the open ended question key. Appreciate you!
But all the women that hit me up say 'hey'. Please comment on this?
That’s because “hey” does work for women in that they always get a reply back. It just doesn’t work for men.
you always look so presentable lol, much respect
Haha only on the days I film videos! Thank you 😂❤️
Whenever a woman has nothing written in her profile and just a selfie, then all she gets is hey. Because what else can you say? Otherwise, I normally acknowledge something she wrote, try to relate to it, ask questions, etc. Making witty remarks is also very helpful, if you can think of something clever enough. I sent a witty remark to a girl and that started a relationship.
It also can mean the profile is fake, especially if there is only one pic
@@Sagefrakrobatik you get a lot of fakes on POF if you ever go on there. Be wary of that site. Women (or some jack off in some other country) will try to scam you for money.
@@aaronharlow2137 I used it a few times, I agree. It doesnt even matter for me, I decide to go on hiatus from online dating to workout and get back in shape
Excellent pointers, thanks for sharing!
I do think there is a counter-point to "#4-Get Her Off The App ASAP" though. I see what you mean by getting the girl's communication with you to something exclusive that's away from the other-dudes-hitting-on-her echo chamber. I would normally agree that is true...ASSUMING she is operating in good faith. Meaning: she's a real person with an honest profile who is there to find someone for dating and not really a schemer, scammer, catfish, chatbot, fake profile, deceiver, liar, betrayer, or some other villain with nefarious purpose.
What I'm getting at is EVERYONE that signs up, pays money, and clicks "I Agree" is bound to the Terms of Service of that site. This means there are specific things you are and not allowed to say & do while using the site. Being bound to the TOS also protects YOU from other members saying & doing those specific things against you while using the site too.
Someone can be all sunshine & rainbows when messaging you on the app, but if you rush off too soon you might find them pull a complete 180...and now you're stuck and completely on your own in dealing with them. Plus, some stranger now has some personal information of yours, even if it is just an email or cell number.
My version of this tip would be: Protect yourself first. Take the time you need to build up trust with someone before giving out your personal info. The right person for you will feel the same way.
I once said it and I'll say it again, Courtney Ryan is the girl bestfriend that every guy needs in his life
It doesn't matter what opening line I use. I have tried writing a paragraph asking about things in their profile or just saying "hello how are you?" 99.99% never respond. So, why should I put in the effort when as far as I see it they are just looking for validation. Many are probably still in a relationship and looking for something better than what they have now.
Go watch some videos by Better Bachelor or Entrepreneur In Cars. They both have great insight on the predictable woman.
Thanks for your time
I'm 51 and not really into dating anymore but you have a great relaxing voice and are very beautiful so I am liking and subscribing.
these definitely are very helpful and can be effective, but don't expect a response back, and if she does don't keep your hopes high. I've tried texting many girls with a message that isn't generic but most of them never opened it. the ones that responded ended up ghosting me even when I tried escalating the conversation. anyways... good luck everyone.
Ok i have a few questions pertaining to messaging a girl on Instagram. When send a question do i just find some thing in bio or can you look throw pictures to find something to ask? Also when you message a girl on Instagram do you be direct and try to organize a date right away or do you get to know each other a bit? Does it matter if its long distance?
I needed this video lol. I dont go on dating sites nor social media do to the fact that im an in person type of personality as my charisma naturaly shines in person plus i can get a better read from the other person , however i can use these tips when texting with a lady . Thanks Courtney
Thank you Courtney for this great advice and especially from a girls perspective!
Hoenslty I don’t like taking tips from girls and women because they genuinely don’t even know what they want themselves however I do wanna say that I like ur videos because u seem genuine, and I like ur voice because is relaxing, not to mention that u seem quite mature, most girls taht are young just want the bad boy and then cry when the bad boy leave them, I am glad I found ur channel
I got a better idea.
How about not being on dating apps.
Recycled goods fellas, and nothing more than an ego booster for women.
Exactly
Where do you meet girls then, particularly if you're under lockdown?
I think the major problem with the apps is their cultured expectations for romance / sex "Find your flame".
Dating is really about meeting new people you otherwise would not. So it's fun talking to people and sharing life stories.
I've made great friends, but I've talked to lots of scared people afraid to be vulnerable for fear of feeling exploited again.
My only gripe is with the economics of the app game. Males footing the bill. Prices being rather gouging and exploiting FOMO psychology.
Finally a guy in the comment section who gets it. Most of the men here turn into simps the minute they see Courtney. But taking dating advice from women in this day and age is like taking driving lessons from a blind man
@@oliverford5367 You wait it out.
All you are doing is inflating their egos my man and wasting time. Try to level up yourself till the state you live in opens back up.
I love you ♥️
Happy Valentine’s Day Courtney.💞
Courtney has a good sense of humour!, it is smooth but hits correctly on our the brain cells correctly and sparks the mind up!😆 Ithink she persuade it from her father!🙏
Thanks Courtney, really liking the Perfect Sunday morning question. It’s quite original, not pushy and suggest one has enough IQ to hold an intelligent conversation should a first date get arranged. :)
imo, it is way more better when we (man) asks for their number not giving them, since the anticipation needs to build on their side. i used to gave them my number, and it tooks 2-3 weeks to get them to shot a messages/call
Courtney you are a saint amongst men
Great job again Courtney. My biggest problem with Tinder is I seem like a dime a dozen when I like girls that I think a Bunch of other dudes already like, so there’s a very small chance of matching, and the likes I actually do get, I have yet to end up liking one yet. 😂
Hahaha I totally get it. It can be a big challenge for sure 😂 good luck!!!
@@CourtneyRyan thanks 😃 I’ll remember your tips if I ever get a good match
I don't have time to craft messages to each girl when half of them don't reply anyway, no matter if I just say hi or I come up with something the response rate is about the same, if she sends hi back then I craft something, much more efficent IMO
I find dating apps easy cause its short term messaging and not too hard. Texting over a week or throughout your day is much more stressful haha. Can you do a video about texting?
I've done every single one of these and sent THOUSANDS (I'm not exaggerating at all when I say this) of messages. I NEVER say just hi or hey because it was noticeable early on that many girls actually stated that on their profile anyway. I've always used things on her profile and things in common but unfortunately the fundamental fact of physical attraction is always higher up the list than anything else. If I consider myself average or worse than average looking then even if a girl has a sea of "hey" and "hi" messages to wade through she'll still overlook me to either continue waiting for a better looking guy or instead reply to a seriously good looking guy who ironically used a one word message!
I reply with "hey" all the time. 90% of the time I'll get a reply. after that, real conversation follows. honestly. I know I'm not a 10 in hotness. but I feel looks definitely get me into the door faster. and I'm very direct and quick with a meet up. I find it's easier to get straight to the point of meeting up fast. and it usually works for me
The most scariest thing about the online dating after being rejected several times, is when they accept to meet you in person.😂
Waaaw never been so early. I love your videos, they really help a lot of people !!
Yay! Thank you 😊
Love your content you‘re getting bigger and bigger in RUclips!
Very helpful advice and I really like your sweater Courtney!! It really suits you!!!
Hey @Courtney Ryan, could you give some tips on getting someone's number without coming off as needy or desperate, any contact for that matter not just number🤗
Quick tip:
The more effort it takes, the more valuable it is
What do you do if she doesn't respond when you ask her out? I was messaging someone and thought the conversation was going well so asked her to lunch. Nothing back. After 5 days I said if she'd rather talk on the phone or text that's fine too. If I don't message her again in the next week the match expires. In general how should you decide to ask her to move from just texting?
Thank you so much, this is actually incredibly helpful.
Courtney I needed this video! Thank you so much for this helps a lot! 🙂😉😊
Theorically I agree. Other youtubers gave similar advise and I tried, at the best I can, but a lot of times simply doesnt work! Most of girls use Tinder etc just to get attention or sponsorize their Instagram.
Hey Courtney you made an odd comment about London on your post. Not as scenic as Southern Europe but did you enjoy the history of it? Did you ever see Ireland? Beautiful country at least in the summer.
Thanks for this video. I recently started contacting women and was wondering what to say to get her attention.
Open ended questions is always a good idea
Courtney can you do a video about what to talk about on a first date with a girl that you have known for a long time
I have a hard time with not knowing if it's real or a catfish. My friends catfished me for a year and a half and im skeptical on any woman messaging me from social media platforms. I think I missed some real ones thinking they werent really real so I don't know how to feel since im not ungaurding myself. Im observant in person and don't pursue unless i think she likes me back. But I gotta know for sure she's not just being nice
I send personal messages after I go through a profile, I thoughtfully ask a question and then link in inti about myself that may not be on my profile. I get low feedback or after talking for a 2-4 days I open up for a meetup then the conversation goes blank.
Hi Courtney so you was on a dating site when you made this video, is that where you met teddy? Btw teddy put a Rolex AD video up 6 hours ago and this video thumbnail was right beside his. What's the odds? Thanks for your videos and help.
Courtney, you're a genius
Thanks. I started using an app and I'm getting likes more than I thought and I have no idea what to say.
Love your videos. Great as always. Thanks for sharing Courtney! ❤️❤️
WoooW, so many nice videos in just one week, ¡Thanks, good as always Courtney!
Thank you for watching! ❤️
60k congratulations 🍾🎉🎈🎊
I often do use their profile when talking to girls but I don't see them often using mine. am I doing it wrong if I visit their profile often?
Hey Courtney , Thanks for the tips, I really appreciate you making this. Thanks
Best way to think about this is to find the kind of person you want to be a part of your life. Just be genuinely and unapologetically yourself around other people and the right people will come into yourself.
Also get off the dating apps as soon as possible. They're great if you want to meet lots of people fast, but you're very unlikely to have the kind of conversation that will actually make you feel connected to somebody else on a dating app.
Dating apps only work for women. Majority of men dont get matches
@@lifemocker85 That's true, but the majority of men aren't really putting effort into marketing themselves, either. Dating apps are an extremely superficial social competition and it's easy for a man who is putting minimal effort in to get overlooked by one who is in shape with a charismatic profile and professional photos. Especially when women are absolutely the more scarce sex on dating apps and have literal hundreds of options in their matches.
I say that with a lot of empathy for those kinds of burnt out men, too. Whether they'll admit it or not, I know a lot of men who are tired of social competition and just want to feel like somebody outside of their immediate family cares about the fact they exist. Chasing sex is an easy but futile escape for people with a lack of a social life. It is really hard to muster up the effort to keep trying when you're the person who is always excluded from the group, but you have to if you want to make a change.
@@lifemocker85 All that being said, you're going to have a tough time meeting people these days if you don't use some kind of electronic medium (it's a sad truth of modern times), but that doesn't mean you have to keep playing the online dating game. Play to your strengths, figure out a way to meet people online, get them in an offline real interaction with you after the introduction, and see where things go from there. If somebody isn't interested in playing by those rules, move on from them.
@@ryanbarker3978 why would anybody make an effort to market themselves when you know that they dont really care about You
@@lifemocker85 That's certainly a perspective and is it also definitely a fact that the majority of people you meet won't care about you. It's also true that a subset of people who do care about you will have to be convinced first. It isn't fair, but it is reality.
The way I look at it is that you're going to have to wade through a whole lot of wrong before you find right. This is an experience literally every human being goes through. You have three ways you can look at it:
1. You can burn yourself out from trying to convert wrong into right (which is generally futile).
2. You can give up trying and isolate yourself because nobody else cares about you.
3. You can acknowledge that every person who socially rejects you probably wasn't right for your life at that time and use it as motivation to keep looking for your crowd who will want you around them and create an environment where you all build yourselves up. Those people are out there for everyone, they're just harder to find for some people versus others.
Every human being has innate needs for control, acceptance, and consistence. People inside of stable social settings naturally have these needs balanced and often market themselves without even trying. People who do not have stable social settings often have imbalances in these areas.
Marketing your genuine self isn't even a requirement to find the right people for you, but it will drastically speed up the process. What I will say though is that if you are using dating to make up for a lack of anything in your life, you will always self-sabotage or fail. You have to address the root of what is making you feel imbalanced first or you will naturally push the people who are right for you away from you.
I would like to see a video on stores to shop at or brands to choose for men. Also, more outfits for timeless style.
I do it all. And you are right Courtney
I really appreciate this Courtney I was lagging this and thanks to ima use this tips your like a big sister to all of us helping us out with girls you know what’s up 💯
You’re so welcome ❤️
Stupid question - if Im talking to a girl on a dating app and we transition to speaking on insta, should I follow her as well, or just DM without following?
So I was messaging this woman I matched with on tinder the conversation was seemingly going well, talking about some of our interests and favourite artists, foods, movies etc but suddenly she hasn’t messaged back since Tuesday night. Any particular reason why when the conversation was going well?
Really appreciate your tips Courtney!
Loving this channel for its practical content!
Until superficiality and physical attraction is removed as primary instinctual requirement, all the words in a text or email means crud for most (like you said your advice applies to "some" not most).
Wow that was really good! You also stuck to your word, I give you a lot of credit. Because you mentioned to me that you might do a future broadcast, on messaging women online
Your right even from the flip side of receiving a text that only says hello, I get hundreds of friend requests from woman a day, & oddly there mostly very beautiful ladies but I really don't know how to reply to them