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FUCK. My father checked out all of these. Well, at least I can trust my role models and myself more now, which will increase the probability of my success. Thank you Alux.
I'm 43, and it's been my experience that many people who have kids simply shouldn't because they have no idea how to be parents and people who would be great parents are single (like me). No such thing as "perfect parents", but I've certainly met enough parents to know the good from the bad.
'spanking didn't work' Well in my family it works. Parent with 7 children, me got beaten with belt and my Lil bro with garden hose. But then all 7 has degree, 2 of them got Masters, 1 Doctor, 1 architect and 1 engineer (me). Things works for western people might not be the same for eastern like us. That being said, I don't think I'll beat up my children when I have them.
If that was the case, than people would just spank thier kids and they would be billionaires. It doesn't work, they might a show of loving you on the outside, but inside they will always have that lava waiting to explode.
It worked for me as well. I agree as well it all depends on the child as well as the environment that you are raising the child in. I do feel that you should never get your kids out of anger, their punishment should already be well-established way before they commit the mistake.
Sorry but I was spanked as a kid and it helped me greatly. I’m also not a violent person lol! I think the main trouble with spanking is when you don’t do it in love but rather in anger.
Several decades ago we read one of the best books written by the late John Bradshaw, on the family. He mentioned that one of the most destructive ways to destroy a child's self-esteem is shaming. Dysfunctional families tend to shame their kids and practice extreme discipline measures: irrational approaches or too much freedom or a lack of structure. Great advice on these issues.
While the new voice over person has a great voice as well, these last two videos suddenly seem like any other videos on RUclips. It's like the magic is gone and it's hard for me to focus on the new videos without the Alux Lady. The new voiceover person has a perfectly lovely voice, it's just that we've all grown accustomed to a certain kinda vibe on the Alux channel.
Hi, I think parents should fight in front of their kids, but fight smarter. Meaning, the kids should also see the getting back together of their parents, where every part recognises his/hers mistake, what they've learned and what they will be doing better next time. Why am I writting this? Because I knew somebody who's parents never fighted in front of them, and when they had their first fight in the couple life, it felt like the end of the world, depressed and took it as a tragedy. Aletha Solter wrote beautiful parenting books, and I took this idea from her. As a result, my son is looking for peaceful solutions in a fight with other kids or between other kids and he is also looking to preserve a relationship, and he is only 9 years old.
Parenting is a touchy subject, and probably the toughest job anyone will ever do. If you have 3 children, you will probably need to parent them each in a different way, to be the most effective. It's like managing a team. And their genetics, along with the environment you provide them are probably the biggest factor in how they turn out. Some kids need to get spanked to improve. Some kids need to get shamed to improve. Some kids just need leadership. Parents need to run a lot of tests, on each child, to see what works best.
Anything in life can be hard it doesn't mean you make excuses. If you decided to have 3 children then raise them and stop making excuses if not then why did you have them for?
How many kids do you have? Spanking is not teaching them anything except fear. They will not respect you because you spanked them. As a parent, you have to get to the root of the problem.
@@seatruth5737 You should read more of the comments because a lot of people who was spanked as a child disagree with you. I know a boy from a two parent household who snuck out of his house at 2 am in the morning 14 year old and slept with a girl and took photos of it what do you think is the root issue of it? I asked him he said he wanted to impress his friends. Let me guess how you would handle it speak in a soft monotone voice and tell him you were disappointed , take away his cellphone , show him love and understanding and he goes out to do it again
Hmm? I'm curious, are these things scientifically proven, or mostly opinions? That's a very matter of fact tone she's taking. I can't say I believe there's a perfect way to raise children. For instance I've never popped my child, she's just generally well behaved. I'm now 100% against it either. I know kids raised with all the love in the world who are devils now anyway. Also, kids that got popped, but wouldn't bust a grape in a fruit fight as the saying goes. Do what you feel is best for your particular child. No one can say you're stupid for the choices you make. They're not dealing with them directly. I'm not saying beat your kids into the Jackson 5 btw 😂🤣
Thank you some one who gets it. People who speak in this way all kids need is love to correct there behavior, I am in my twenties when I was younger I somewhat believed that all children just needed stern talking to but seeing my nephews changed my mind. You can provide kids with a loving home two parents , show them love , take away there phones lol. With my nephews parents it got to a point where they were tired of talking them , showing understanding, taking away things. Some one I know in a two parent household a fourteen year old snuck out at 2 am , sleep with a girl and took photos of it, If they can afford it I think every young boy by the time off twelve should go to boot camp training. I know how I was at times parents showing love and taking things away was laughable for also my peers as well. Growing up I have seen kids grow up in the suburbs in loving home but because they felt like they were too privileged they wanted to fit in with there peers
List could be longer - not encouraging reading & acquiring knowledge in kids, not supporting them to familiarise key skills needed in life like communication & how to act in social settings, not teaching them how to eat right, instead of stuffing them with sugar & justifying that you’ve loved sweets for generations. And much more… Things those kids learn on their own, in 20s, 30s or even much later.
Yes Alux always provides great educational content, however everyone must make a mistake once in a while, calling anyone stupid weather deserving or not show a lack of EQ. Yet still we don't miss out on a chance to educate ourselves over prioritizing taking offense.
That new narrator tho… I’m probably behind the times here but what happened to the former gal? Loved her attitude. 🤣 I’m sure this one will grow on me.
I don't agree with number 4 . It is the world's view of discipline. the Bible is always right. Thank God for my kids. I get compliments on them wherever we go. They are strong ,talented, and very perceptive.💖
My Dad: Go to college and be successful. Me about to take a great job far from home after college. My Dad: I'm getting old, you can't move away and I refuse to move. Me: doing the right thing and passing up the job to help him. It's what he wanted. My Dad: You are a failure and disappointment for not having a good job.
I wish some parents were more supportive of their children. Most successful people had someone to look up to, and most of them were their parents. If parents were much more supportive, we will have more productive people in our society today.
I have tried to adjust my device..... but where is the Alux lady. I am not saying this voice is not good, but the original Alux voice came with another vibe that sends me into introspection. Bring back the original voice come Sunday pls.
A few of the points are good…. But in general this video sounds like it was made by a person that has either never raised kids , or their children Grew up be poorly functioning adults I take (some) Finanical advice from ALUX, not my parenting advice
@@danielpickett8560 it's not an excuse it's the truth. I turned out great! But there is still a lot of trauma and 'bagages' I'm constantly trying to work through. So maybe! Just maybe of they did the energy I'm constantly using to fix this could have been used somewhere else.
@@Samzymira Well said...I was raised like a wild animal...White kid in Detroit,son to a Detroit Cop with serious anger issues,I was bounced back and forth between parents. Mom in San Diego
I can tell whomever made up some of these guidelines has not had to deal with kids day to day. Even Pr. Diana smacked her kids, you just don't go overboard.
spanking? man I used to be beaten till was a purple smudge of bruises and blood for pretty much anything humilliated when tried to express emotions and had destroyed any sense of value and self worth, and as my mother would say it's like I needed more I'm a total failure in life had never committed a crime but never done anything right and unable to do anything now :/ I believe some people as I are born with no value and some parents see this on their children so as birds who let the weaker die they put their best on the ones that are worth something, my sister was raised with love compassion patience no hard words no physical correction a lot of time resources and dedication to whatever she may wanted to try she turned out to be a respectable professional. I don't blame my mother for the way she raised me I believe was my fault but also I can't ignore the fact she has a serious misandry unattended issue.
Yes in the term "spanking" can lead the parent to be very violent. You didn't get spanked...you gone through abuse. Which spanking does lead to abuse and that's why it should never exist because some parents do not know how to control their anger and communicate with children.
00:00 - Intro 00:36 - They Don't Listen 01:29 - They Use Shame As a Tactic 02:17 - They Allow Their Kids Do Inappropriate Things 03:02 - They Spank Children 03:43 - They Are Hyper-Critical 04:33 - They Keep Their Kids Busy All The Time 05:38 - They Are Inconsistent 06:19 - They Have Unrealistic Expectations 07:08 - They Are Always Interfering 07:44 - They Don't Respect Their Children 08:20 - They Yell At Their Kids 08:55 - They Always Say Yes 09:43 - Stupid Parents Undermine Their Partner 10:29 - They Project Onto Their Kids 11:11 - They Compare Their Kids To Other Kids 12:46 - Question
Every child is different so, a set of general rules won’t work for all. There are levels of discipline and the consequences of the world( for misbehaving) are not given with love.
I was disciplined by my parents and teachers as a child, spanking, belting, grounding etc all done moderately and in love. I was made to see why my ill actions had to be punished. It taught me that my choices have consequences. This improved my life dramatically. I was always considered a well-mannered and a disciplined person wherever I went. I was always chosen for leadership roles, because of that instilled disciplined, done the right way. I believe that children are inherently given to some forms of mischief, which need firm correction. It should be the duty of the parents to discover what works on their kids. Spanking worked for me more than grounding, but my younger siblings were rarely ever spanked. Grounding seemed to work better for them with spanking only done on extreme misdemeanors such as pilfering. We all turned out okay.
"Young people metabolize alcohol faster than adults, so it does more harm to their bodies." I don't think you understand how physiology works. It's literally the opposite.
Well growing up I was very(extremely) troublesome child. I don't know about other but spanking definitely worked for me.I would never ever listen to my parents. I would have surely be dead by now or in some gang had it not been for my parents spanking.
Same I was rebellious and my mom warn me many times until she spank me, after that the cycle keeps going and she stop when I reach 4th grade because its time for me to be responsible. Now I'm a very cautious person, I think before I do something.
The parent's are considered stupid because they know better and refuse to do better. That's!!! What's makes those types of parents Stupid. (I too grew up w/ one)
Hello, the original voice still not coming back? Used to like the videos even before listening to them. Hope she's back soon. I don't want to unsubscribe.
"stupid" is defined as "a lack of intelligence". Both of my parents were straight A students but..... both were alcoholics and one was mentally ill ( 2 suicide attempts). Something a kid doesn't understand until years later. Many of the attributes defined here I dealt with. A keen observation noted was the fact that the home is actually the first school. Attitudes and perceptions are molded here. Since i believe that I "chose" my parents my workload was substantial from the beginning. But.... I persevered and am happy with the end result. There are also some really good parents who are dealing with mentally disturbed children. I offer no clear cut solution but a greater awareness towards mental/emotional health would be a positive step. Required teaching of it in school could help children identify unhealthy behaviors and offer ways to deal with it.
I liked how alux realised changing the voice without explanation would be fine, I can't wait for their masterclass on communication... Heres a fun poll: how many employees at alux are now saying 'i fucking told you'
Fighting(arguing) in front of your kids can be beneficial. When parents argue, this is an opportunity to argue constructively and educate your kids what common issues can arise between two people in the same household, also if the parents resolve issues, that is even more beneficial for the child's education.
I wish the judge mental people would mind their own business and take care of their own kids. Kids are not all the same and they have very different needs. As a parent of a child on the autism spectrum who also has ADHD I can’t tell you how sick I am appearing parenting advice from people who don’t have any idea what I have to deal with.
Let me add to #4 that when you beat your kids you make it really easy for them to be preyed upon by other adults. You break their spirit and their self confidence, thus making them a target and you cause them to view you as an aggressor making it unlikely that they will come to you for comfort and support after a situation with an adult that they're struggling to make sense of.
#1 Quite the proportion of adults don’t listen to other adults either (in the U.S., dunno other places) to such a point that if you do, people are relieved and open up over all sorts of things as though happening upon a diamond. This be in personal life or in Business, some legit paying someone to listen to you in psychotherapy or to become a better listener via seminars/coaching. (Jordan B. Peterson, Simon Sinek or Chris do from the futur) One of those things where we know better but refrain from doing it, be it out of neglect, frustration, taking listening for granted or what have you.
how british narrator didn't say that watching 15 videos daily in alux channel and that too in england will turn parents and their children smart from stupid?
Someone has to break the chain of their beliefs and patterns that they parent put in them when they where kids! So don act like your parent acted with you…
Good Parenting :- Listen Don't use shame as a Tactic Less or no physical punishment Give them time to be social Never project your anger and frustration towards your kids Consistent Realistic Expectations Interfere only when there is no other option Respect your children Yelling is not a solution Don't say Yes All the time Value your Partner Do not compare with others Never fight or argue infront of children
When spanking is done the Biblical way, it is done the right way. Its purpose is to correct inappropriate action just like how you should yank an extremely uncontrollable dog sometimes to teach discipline. It’s to teach that in life, we’d experience hardships when we did something wrong, we should also learn that there are consequences to wrong doing at a very young age. But spank only when: 1. You have set rules beforehand that they have naturally foolishly as kids disobeyed. 2. You have explained to your child and assessed what the consequence is for. 3. Done at a right time AND at the right body part (fleshy part aka the buttom) with a rod. 4. Be calm. We do not teach violence but discipline with love. 5. Spank only in your designated room or anywhere private. "Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will notdepart from it." Proverbs 22:6
Some good and some I would take a different angle. Here is another one! They use exercise as punishment! When you use exercise as punishment the parent is saying exercise is something you do when you do something wrong. Exercise is a celebration not a punishment.
Hello alux You’ve been my mum and dad ever since I found you and you existing wads good thing. You’ve been there for me and my mom and dad never helped me find a job or help build my confidence up. Im still learning my mistakes and helping myself build my skills and confidence so I can help others on their journey. I’m doing well and will continue to do so in 10 years. Thank you.
Nice video but the title stupid parents or calling a parent stupid in general is a little excessive parenting way to hard to call someone stupid at it. Clearly if we watching your videos we’re trying to be smarter people ourselves. It’s just a strong term for a job that has no blueprint. Thanks 🙏🏿
Whoever is reading this, I pray that whatever you’re growing through gets better and whatever you’re battling with makes your situation better as you’re continuing to be a better person each day. I have faith that you’ll turn out great as your circumstances will change. Have a fantastic day! You got this! 🤗💪🏼❤
Hello Aluxers! Have you got some stories surrounding stupid parenting?
Have you downloaded the Alux App yet?
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Don't like this voice
Where is the Original lady from Alux??? 😶
this is basically every asian parent ...
FUCK. My father checked out all of these. Well, at least I can trust my role models and myself more now, which will increase the probability of my success.
Thank you Alux.
This voice is different, the lady behind the video is different.
Who else notice this?
Where is the OLD VOICE of Alux ??
we need her
Ok one time , two time but now 3 times with out ALUX lady !!? Where is she !?
Probably a vaca
Me wondering as well...
I want to know too!!
@@barbaramariakimpfler5588 I'm with Barbara 👆
@@abbyacolorado she's again on air...if you have time watch todays Alux video 🤗
where is the original Alux Voice ??
I'm 43, and it's been my experience that many people who have kids simply shouldn't because they have no idea how to be parents and people who would be great parents are single (like me).
No such thing as "perfect parents", but I've certainly met enough parents to know the good from the bad.
Truth.
'spanking didn't work'
Well in my family it works. Parent with 7 children, me got beaten with belt and my Lil bro with garden hose. But then all 7 has degree, 2 of them got Masters, 1 Doctor, 1 architect and 1 engineer (me). Things works for western people might not be the same for eastern like us.
That being said, I don't think I'll beat up my children when I have them.
If that was the case, than people would just spank thier kids and they would be billionaires. It doesn't work, they might a show of loving you on the outside, but inside they will always have that lava waiting to explode.
It depends each child personality is different some need spanking and others you can talk to
Spanking definitely works! It did with me at least
It worked for me as well. I agree as well it all depends on the child as well as the environment that you are raising the child in. I do feel that you should never get your kids out of anger, their punishment should already be well-established way before they commit the mistake.
@@nomeman5278 🎯
I love the label 'Stupid Parents'. Does so much Justice. 😂👍
So much Justice
Sorry but I was spanked as a kid and it helped me greatly. I’m also not a violent person lol! I think the main trouble with spanking is when you don’t do it in love but rather in anger.
Great content as always, but I noticed they’re not addressing what happened with Alux lady who normally does the voice over
Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it .KJV
Several decades ago we read one of the best books written by the late John Bradshaw, on the family. He mentioned that one of the most destructive ways to destroy a child's self-esteem is shaming. Dysfunctional families tend to shame their kids and practice extreme discipline measures: irrational approaches or too much freedom or a lack of structure. Great advice on these issues.
Thanks for your advices 👍🏽
Where is the alux narrator Lady ??
She is dead bro..due to covid
While the new voice over person has a great voice as well, these last two videos suddenly seem like any other videos on RUclips. It's like the magic is gone and it's hard for me to focus on the new videos without the Alux Lady. The new voiceover person has a perfectly lovely voice, it's just that we've all grown accustomed to a certain kinda vibe on the Alux channel.
Agreed 💔
not me thinking that this video just attacked the majority of desi parents 😂
well the ones from past generations, I mean.
Most parents
@@sdtimeless dang really?
Yeah they basically saying that's what poor parents do.
This video definitely describes majority of Indian parents. haha.
Hi,
I think parents should fight in front of their kids, but fight smarter.
Meaning, the kids should also see the getting back together of their parents, where every part recognises his/hers mistake, what they've learned and what they will be doing better next time.
Why am I writting this? Because I knew somebody who's parents never fighted in front of them, and when they had their first fight in the couple life, it felt like the end of the world, depressed and took it as a tragedy.
Aletha Solter wrote beautiful parenting books, and I took this idea from her.
As a result, my son is looking for peaceful solutions in a fight with other kids or between other kids and he is also looking to preserve a relationship, and he is only 9 years old.
That’s smart comment 😊
Parenting is a touchy subject, and probably the toughest job anyone will ever do.
If you have 3 children, you will probably need to parent them each in a different way, to be the most effective. It's like managing a team. And their genetics, along with the environment you provide them are probably the biggest factor in how they turn out. Some kids need to get spanked to improve. Some kids need to get shamed to improve. Some kids just need leadership. Parents need to run a lot of tests, on each child, to see what works best.
Anything in life can be hard it doesn't mean you make excuses. If you decided to have 3 children then raise them and stop making excuses if not then why did you have them for?
@@g718ny I can tell his comment went over your head.
How many kids do you have? Spanking is not teaching them anything except fear. They will not respect you because you spanked them. As a parent, you have to get to the root of the problem.
@@seatruth5737 You should read more of the comments because a lot of people who was spanked as a child disagree with you. I know a boy from a two parent household who snuck out of his house at 2 am in the morning 14 year old and slept with a girl and took photos of it what do you think is the root issue of it? I asked him he said he wanted to impress his friends. Let me guess how you would handle it speak in a soft monotone voice and tell him you were disappointed , take away his cellphone , show him love and understanding and he goes out to do it again
@@seatruth5737 Thanks for the ignorance.
Where is our Alux lady ?
Hmm? I'm curious, are these things scientifically proven, or mostly opinions?
That's a very matter of fact tone she's taking. I can't say I believe there's a perfect way to raise children. For instance I've never popped my child, she's just generally well behaved. I'm now 100% against it either.
I know kids raised with all the love in the world who are devils now anyway. Also, kids that got popped, but wouldn't bust a grape in a fruit fight as the saying goes.
Do what you feel is best for your particular child. No one can say you're stupid for the choices you make. They're not dealing with them directly.
I'm not saying beat your kids into the Jackson 5 btw 😂🤣
The video talks about spanking, as if it is the only form of disciplining when it is used. They set up a false premise and then reject it as stupid.
Thank you some one who gets it. People who speak in this way all kids need is love to correct there behavior, I am in my twenties when I was younger I somewhat believed that all children just needed stern talking to but seeing my nephews changed my mind. You can provide kids with a loving home two parents , show them love , take away there phones lol. With my nephews parents it got to a point where they were tired of talking them , showing understanding, taking away things. Some one I know in a two parent household a fourteen year old snuck out at 2 am , sleep with a girl and took photos of it, If they can afford it I think every young boy by the time off twelve should go to boot camp training. I know how I was at times parents showing love and taking things away was laughable for also my peers as well. Growing up I have seen kids grow up in the suburbs in loving home but because they felt like they were too privileged they wanted to fit in with there peers
@ymarrero23 Read the comments on the video from people that were spanked
List could be longer - not encouraging reading & acquiring knowledge in kids, not supporting them to familiarise key skills needed in life like communication & how to act in social settings, not teaching them how to eat right, instead of stuffing them with sugar & justifying that you’ve loved sweets for generations. And much more… Things those kids learn on their own, in 20s, 30s or even much later.
Because of all of those things she said....that explains why I have childhood trauma..except for saying yes all the time
Where is the alux lady!!!!?
I really appreciate the way you changed the caption "stupid" to "bad", some people are just not informed, they never wish to be stupid.
Yes Alux always provides great educational content, however everyone must make a mistake once in a while, calling anyone stupid weather deserving or not show a lack of EQ. Yet still we don't miss out on a chance to educate ourselves over prioritizing taking offense.
That new narrator tho… I’m probably behind the times here but what happened to the former gal? Loved her attitude. 🤣 I’m sure this one will grow on me.
The new narrator’s voice sounds like an advanced A.I.
Right! No bueno, I miss the realness
I don't agree with number 4 . It is the world's view of discipline. the Bible is always right.
Thank God for my kids.
I get compliments on them wherever we go.
They are strong ,talented, and very perceptive.💖
I totally agree with you because the Bible tells us so.
My Dad: Go to college and be successful.
Me about to take a great job far from home after college.
My Dad: I'm getting old, you can't move away and I refuse to move.
Me: doing the right thing and passing up the job to help him. It's what he wanted.
My Dad: You are a failure and disappointment for not having a good job.
Mixed messages
He finds you a disappointment for choosing him over your future success?
He should let that sink in.
He should be grateful that you were one of the ones who came back.
I wish some parents were more supportive of their children. Most successful people had someone to look up to, and most of them were their parents. If parents were much more supportive, we will have more productive people in our society today.
Most of the parents aren't supportive because their parents weren't supportive and this cycle goes on and on until someone breaks it.
@@lol6434 the cycle must stop, it's like a curse
Hello, y’all.
Who else notices the change of voice (accent) from the narrator?
Parents fighting in front of kids and attacking them.... After that they forget about it.
Where is the the alux lady. She is my favorite no hard feeling to this one. I just like her voice more.
I have tried to adjust my device..... but where is the Alux lady. I am not saying this voice is not good, but the original Alux voice came with another vibe that sends me into introspection.
Bring back the original voice come Sunday pls.
A few of the points are good…. But in general this video sounds like it was made by a person that has either never raised kids , or their children Grew up be poorly functioning adults
I take (some) Finanical advice from ALUX, not my parenting advice
I love this video by alux !
Where is the Alux lady gone
I like the title with the word "stupid" before they change it into "bad"
Where is the Original ALUX lady??? 🤔
We need Amanda aka the one who started ALUX
Not digging this newer voice..I liked the other lady voice..not this accented voice
This is NOT the right voice I became accustomed too.
Maybe if the adults who raised me had watched this, I would have turned out a lot better than I did lol..
Maybe? Now you're an adult... You've acknowledged the problem...No more excuses!🤔👍
@@danielpickett8560 it's not an excuse it's the truth. I turned out great! But there is still a lot of trauma and 'bagages' I'm constantly trying to work through. So maybe! Just maybe of they did the energy I'm constantly using to fix this could have been used somewhere else.
Hope you find peace and happiness in the future. Just forgive and move on. Wish you all the best.
@@Samzymira Well said...I was raised like a wild animal...White kid in Detroit,son to a Detroit Cop with serious anger issues,I was bounced back and forth between parents. Mom in San Diego
@Samira - I agree, me too.
Where is the other lady ? Love her voice :)
I can tell whomever made up some of these guidelines has not had to deal with kids day to day.
Even Pr. Diana smacked her kids, you just don't go overboard.
Where is Alux Lady we love her and you too by the way
I need the alux lady back lol. The new voice over is not the same. Still great content as always though!
spanking? man I used to be beaten till was a purple smudge of bruises and blood for pretty much anything humilliated when tried to express emotions and had destroyed any sense of value and self worth, and as my mother would say it's like I needed more I'm a total failure in life had never committed a crime but never done anything right and unable to do anything now :/ I believe some people as I are born with no value and some parents see this on their children so as birds who let the weaker die they put their best on the ones that are worth something, my sister was raised with love compassion patience no hard words no physical correction a lot of time resources and dedication to whatever she may wanted to try she turned out to be a respectable professional. I don't blame my mother for the way she raised me I believe was my fault but also I can't ignore the fact she has a serious misandry unattended issue.
Yes in the term "spanking" can lead the parent to be very violent. You didn't get spanked...you gone through abuse. Which spanking does lead to abuse and that's why it should never exist because some parents do not know how to control their anger and communicate with children.
Who else noticed the new voice? 🤔
I have experienced lot of them and I know how it feels.
00:00 - Intro
00:36 - They Don't Listen
01:29 - They Use Shame As a Tactic
02:17 - They Allow Their Kids Do Inappropriate Things
03:02 - They Spank Children
03:43 - They Are Hyper-Critical
04:33 - They Keep Their Kids Busy All The Time
05:38 - They Are Inconsistent
06:19 - They Have Unrealistic Expectations
07:08 - They Are Always Interfering
07:44 - They Don't Respect Their Children
08:20 - They Yell At Their Kids
08:55 - They Always Say Yes
09:43 - Stupid Parents Undermine Their Partner
10:29 - They Project Onto Their Kids
11:11 - They Compare Their Kids To Other Kids
12:46 - Question
Thank you 😊
Every child is different so, a set of general rules won’t work for all. There are levels of discipline and the consequences of the world( for misbehaving) are not given with love.
Where is the Alux original voice pls.
Bring back the American voice for us Aluxers!
I was disciplined by my parents and teachers as a child, spanking, belting, grounding etc all done moderately and in love. I was made to see why my ill actions had to be punished. It taught me that my choices have consequences. This improved my life dramatically. I was always considered a well-mannered and a disciplined person wherever I went. I was always chosen for leadership roles, because of that instilled disciplined, done the right way. I believe that children are inherently given to some forms of mischief, which need firm correction. It should be the duty of the parents to discover what works on their kids. Spanking worked for me more than grounding, but my younger siblings were rarely ever spanked. Grounding seemed to work better for them with spanking only done on extreme misdemeanors such as pilfering. We all turned out okay.
"Young people metabolize alcohol faster than adults, so it does more harm to their bodies." I don't think you understand how physiology works. It's literally the opposite.
I don't like the new voice Alux. You need the old voice back
ALUX LADY used to said " where future billionaires come and get inspired " this narrator doesn't say that.
Where is our beautifull voice
I need the old voice back
Well growing up I was very(extremely) troublesome child. I don't know about other but spanking definitely worked for me.I would never ever listen to my parents. I would have surely be dead by now or in some gang had it not been for my parents spanking.
Same I was rebellious and my mom warn me many times until she spank me, after that the cycle keeps going and she stop when I reach 4th grade because its time for me to be responsible. Now I'm a very cautious person, I think before I do something.
Hold on where is the original Alux voiceover lady
The parent's are considered stupid because they know better and refuse to do better. That's!!! What's makes those types of parents Stupid. (I too grew up w/ one)
ALux, you are explaining severe family dysfunction which a lot of us know all too well.
Im part of a dysfuntional family life
@@PastelAfroMetalhead It sounds familiar doesn't it?
@@bumblebee_ms Gives me childhood trauma 🤣
@@PastelAfroMetalhead I completely understand.
Is the Alux lady having a Cold
Why have you changed her😳
Spanking really did work for me that’s probably the only thing I did not agree with
This is mot my gorl! Where is Alix Regan?
You correct misbehaving with tough love. Not spanking your kids = no consequences for actions
Future s&m issues
What happened to the original voice??
Hey, new voice?
Where is the old one? We want the original one!!!!
Hello, the original voice still not coming back? Used to like the videos even before listening to them. Hope she's back soon. I don't want to unsubscribe.
Parents, how many mistakes do you make? I am willing to admit I made a few and want to be a better parent.
I Love the old voice.....
God make human humble enough so tht it spread our in next generation
"stupid" is defined as "a lack of intelligence". Both of my parents were straight A students but..... both were alcoholics and one was mentally ill ( 2 suicide attempts). Something a kid doesn't understand until years later. Many of the attributes defined here I dealt with. A keen observation noted was the fact that the home is actually the first school. Attitudes and perceptions are molded here. Since i believe that I "chose" my parents my workload was substantial from the beginning. But.... I persevered and am happy with the end result. There are also some really good parents who are dealing with mentally disturbed children. I offer no clear cut solution but a greater awareness towards mental/emotional health would be a positive step. Required teaching of it in school could help children identify unhealthy behaviors and offer ways to deal with it.
Schools don't teach personal finance or relationship skills. I don't think that's an accident.
Bring back the American voice. Thanks
The 'Alux Lady', is actually *Canadian.* ;-)
@@pmb6667 I love her attitude much more.
I liked how alux realised changing the voice without explanation would be fine, I can't wait for their masterclass on communication... Heres a fun poll: how many employees at alux are now saying 'i fucking told you'
Alux Lady???
Fighting(arguing) in front of your kids can be beneficial. When parents argue, this is an opportunity to argue constructively and educate your kids what common issues can arise between two people in the same household, also if the parents resolve issues, that is even more beneficial for the child's education.
where are the usual person voice for alux videos or is it just me
Draga Emil unde e Doamna Alux?🙂
Great one.
Thanks Alix....the voice of nee lady is also great
Where is alux lady
I wish the judge mental people would mind their own business and take care of their own kids. Kids are not all the same and they have very different needs. As a parent of a child on the autism spectrum who also has ADHD I can’t tell you how sick I am appearing parenting advice from people who don’t have any idea what I have to deal with.
Alux has no idea about parenting.
They idolize Dan Bilzerian, says it all really.
What happened to your voice Alux?
Let me add to #4 that when you beat your kids you make it really easy for them to be preyed upon by other adults. You break their spirit and their self confidence, thus making them a target and you cause them to view you as an aggressor making it unlikely that they will come to you for comfort and support after a situation with an adult that they're struggling to make sense of.
Do a video of High value employees next.
This video is so under-rated.......
u guys r legend
GOD BLESS U ALL
Have you fired previous lady??? cuz she is sounding different...
Video inspired by Alux.com: ruclips.net/user/shorts6n4w-Ckeb0c?feature=share
#1 Quite the proportion of adults don’t listen to other adults either (in the U.S., dunno other places) to such a point that if you do, people are relieved and open up over all sorts of things as though happening upon a diamond.
This be in personal life or in Business, some legit paying someone to listen to you in psychotherapy or to become a better listener via seminars/coaching. (Jordan B. Peterson, Simon Sinek or Chris do from the futur)
One of those things where we know better but refrain from doing it, be it out of neglect, frustration, taking listening for granted or what have you.
I need the Alux lady !
1) Don't listen - Indian Middle class parents 101
how british narrator didn't say that watching 15 videos daily in alux channel and that too in england will turn parents and their children smart from stupid?
Someone has to break the chain of their beliefs and patterns that they parent put in them when they where kids! So don act like your parent acted with you…
Good Parenting :-
Listen
Don't use shame as a Tactic
Less or no physical punishment
Give them time to be social
Never project your anger and frustration towards your kids
Consistent
Realistic Expectations
Interfere only when there is no other option
Respect your children
Yelling is not a solution
Don't say Yes All the time
Value your Partner
Do not compare with others
Never fight or argue infront of children
My parents would fight and argue in front my brother, sister and myself and blame us for the argument because they had no accountability.
When spanking is done the Biblical way, it is done the right way. Its purpose is to correct inappropriate action just like how you should yank an extremely uncontrollable dog sometimes to teach discipline. It’s to teach that in life, we’d experience hardships when we did something wrong, we should also learn that there are consequences to wrong doing at a very young age. But spank only when:
1. You have set rules beforehand that they have naturally foolishly as kids disobeyed.
2. You have explained to your child and assessed what the consequence is for.
3. Done at a right time AND at the right body part (fleshy part aka the buttom) with a rod.
4. Be calm. We do not teach violence but discipline with love.
5. Spank only in your designated room or anywhere private.
"Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will notdepart from it." Proverbs 22:6
Some good and some I would take a different angle. Here is another one! They use exercise as punishment! When you use exercise as punishment the parent is saying exercise is something you do when you do something wrong. Exercise is a celebration not a punishment.
I say put them in boot camp. Look at California and there crime rate lol yes criminals and bad behavior should be treated with love
Hello alux
You’ve been my mum and dad ever since I found you and you existing wads good thing.
You’ve been there for me and my mom and dad never helped me find a job or help build my confidence up.
Im still learning my mistakes and helping myself build my skills and confidence so I can help others on their journey. I’m doing well and will continue to do so in 10 years.
Thank you.
I’m 29 and I don’t have any desire to have kids
Nice video but the title stupid parents or calling a parent stupid in general is a little excessive parenting way to hard to call someone stupid at it. Clearly if we watching your videos we’re trying to be smarter people ourselves. It’s just a strong term for a job that has no blueprint. Thanks 🙏🏿
Why is it okay to physically hurt a child but calling an adult stupid is so offensive
@@glamrock7870 listen how you parent is your prerogative i never said anything about what you’re talking about
We must arrange a farewell.
#1 should be alot of people just shouldn't have kids!
Right if they are not responsible enough
Whoever is reading this, I pray that whatever you’re growing through gets better and whatever you’re battling with makes your situation better as you’re continuing to be a better person each day. I have faith that you’ll turn out great as your circumstances will change. Have a fantastic day! You got this! 🤗💪🏼❤
You forgot one: parentification.