What stage of ego are you in?
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The ego lives in the tension between what you are and what you want to be
SO very true.
Could you elaborate? I'd like to know what it means but simply dont understand :/
More like what u r and what bad can happen
Some who has PTSD brain , and also ego is the false self , soul is the truth consciousness is u , ego lies and is limitation, why u wanna be is actually who u r , fear and doubt is ego
Could it be that you cannot be anything what you already are?
At least give Osho credit for this quote loll
I needed to hear the fluctuation part! I'm not regressing, I'm fluctuating! Thank you.
Not regressing, I'm fluctuating!
A bit like the universe really, fluctuating and moving,
Ikr 😢 sometimes it just feels to me that I didn't improve and it's frustrating when your emotions and worries still can take over :(
this makes perfect sense to me. i see these types of patterns everywhere, of rhythmic contractions and expansions. almost like breath. when we work with it, it provides immense learning and growth opportunities. when we fight it with judgment we lose out on growth opportunities. so I guess judging fluctuation would almost be like us judging our need to exhale...as if it were some ideal to inhale continuously forever!
@@ayoungethan omg thank u so much, this really helps!
I thought that going backwards meant I wasn't doing the work or working hard enough, but perhaps I'm just fluctuating which is normal. Thank you!!
You're doing the work, Gini!
@@TheHolisticPsychologist I'm constantly reminded that I need to be compassionate with myself, this is one of my biggest struggles. I love your videos and look forward to them every Sunday!!
I feel the very same thing Gini! Thanks for sharing your experience, I do connect to it :)
I don't think there is such a thing as having to work hard/harder at this. Being aware and observing your self should be somewhat effortless, if you desire or try too hard you may find that you get the opposite of you are seeking.
@@carrotstickz7290 that is a great perspective and I'd like to see an ease in the work I'm doing but for the moment it continues to be hard work for me
Yes, I definitely fluctuate between 2 and 3. I'm always proud of my 3 moments and try to be compassionate towards my 2s
Fluctuating between 2 and 3 is where I'm currently holding. Thanks for this video.
So happy you mentioned the fluctuation! I was discouraged when I do react but more often then not, I am starting to observe and respond in a more peaceful way. Thanks for all the great information!
Hey Brittany, I'm going to create a youtube video around fluctation. Thank you!
This lecture is elementary Buddhist practices and wisdoms ~ 2600 years-old. You can find an elementary or beginners. book on Buddhism and learn. It is very easy to read and understand...not always so easy to practice when Ego shows up, but each time you recognize / become aware of the Egoic mind operating within you, its a victory. Peace, in Hope, Dr. Freshwater .
Dr. Shawna Freshwater thank you!
Dr. Nicole, I truly thank God for you. I decided to leave my five year relationship after stumbling upon your ig page, learning about my past traumas (thru your work) and understanding how those traumas showed up in my relationship. Because of your work, deep seeded healing began and liberated me from those narrations. Although I am still learning and witnessing, I am making the choices to think and behave differently. I am closer to peace than I was even 1 month ago. Thank you a thousand times over💕
Same here, God bless your path.
I do believe I am closer to 3 but fluctuate between 2 and 3 like you said when in triggering situations. I am able to feel proud of myself now because of how I react now compared to how I used to react. I am able to validate myself more compared to needing anothers validation. Your videos and Instagram came into my life at an amazing time, thank you 🙌
I thought the ego was the enemy for the longest time. Now I realize it's a teacher
I’m starting a phase in my life where I am in responsive stage 🙏
This is healing, Fatima
Same here ❣️allah with u
I used to feel like I was going to be in reactionary mode forever. Once I started practicing Love and Compassion for Self then I began observing conscious responsiveness. During a recent conversation that would normally elicit a reaction, I found myself in, as Nicole says, Witness Mode. It is incredibly powerful to find a new system based in loving oneself overriding old and and now unnecessary defensive mechanisms. This is a huge step for me in taking my power back. Blessings to all of you Self Healers out there. 💜
Brilliant ! I’m definitely fluctuating between 2 and 3 . But I did manage to change a reaction the other day . So proud of me .
I'm happy for you and I wish you lots of continued progress and wellness. 😊
I fluctuate between all 4 💗🙏🏼 but then again I have been doing this by myself, and can’t wait till we don’t have to anymore.
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I am a little emotional right now because I was having the hardest time understanding the concept of not being my ego. Nothing I ever read or listened to made me understand it in practical terms. But the notion that we are the “witnessers” of our egos and that we are consciousness watching the stories the ego runs out of old hurts has made me understand it in a way I never have.
I guess this is why there are so many teachers out there (in addition to trying to raise the vibration of the planet more rapidly), because where one teacher fails to resonate with you, another one eventually will. Thank you very much.
i still don’t get it but it could be bc i have a huge ego that has evolved with me as an empath. my ego has been my protector for so long it’s hard not to listen to it honestly when you’re sensitive and want to protect that part of you
@@robbienewell1116how it is going with the ego currently?
I've been talking a lot with my partner about responding from a place of ego, which we both do. This video was super timely!
I find when I let go of suppressed pain and anger, the ego turns to confidence. I can't stress enough, (even always reminding myself) the importance of letting it all out and "getting things off your chest". Weather with a person u feel safe with or writing a journal.
I realize I'm saying some things you've already touched on, but in different words... But I appreciate the work you do and it helps (me) a whole lot, so thank you so much❤
I have seriously vicious violent fantasies about seeking retribution upon those that put me down. Glad I found this channel.
It is so wonderful that you are presenting the 2600-year-old Buddhist Eastern wisdoms.
One is not looking at awareness one is awareness
Best video yet! I don't have to feel like I am doing wrong going back and forth through stages. Thankyou. 🙂
The witness is really the ego doing witnessing
This was one of the most useful videos I have read. It's helped me forgive some of my emotional reactivity, but it also helps me see that I am often in pain when I am in stages 1 or 2. I'm still working on being more responsive when certain wounds are triggered. Phew, it's a journey.
Ego mean Self Awareness or sense of Self Respect. Thank you Dr. Nicole
Yes! I found this video really helpful! I feel like now I’m at the ego awareness stage.....kinda getting into the witness.
Last year I had a lack of ego awareness! I remember being so reactive and defensive for everything someone said that didn’t go with what I believed or felt.
Dr. Nicole- your videos help a lot! The inner life/Journey is the real one.
( You make me proud to be from Philly. You GO GIRL!)
I have found as I float in and out and around these "stages" I thus learn more and more about this Consciousness and the shift that has and is still taking place, it's like some sort of cosmic inner dance 🙏🏽 thank you ✨
Its the essence of nothingness. Everything manifests from this space. I think we misunderstand what nothingness really means
@@dreamsaresharedhere_ yes, nothingness is "not a thing" but the pure unlimitted creative potential where everything emerges out of.
In a dream I had once there was a threatening figure with swords who spoke the words, "I am in possession of the witness." Your video helped me understand that better.
Its definitely freeing to be responsive instead of" re active.." 😼👏👏🎉🎉😊🥰
I’ve watched so many of your videos and this had eluded me- but I needed it today! So thankful for you and your self healing work!💛
Really happy you made the distinction that we won't be at one stage all the time. We go back and forth and that's normal. Thank you for the work you do
I can't get enough of your content! I follow you on instagram but didn't realize you have a youtube channel as well! Thanks for being here and being such a great teacher!!
I am so glad that you state that is normal to fluctuate between steps 2 and 3 because I constantly catch myself in certain conversation being able to take a moment and think before reacting while in others of course the ones that trigger me the most are the ones I just react right away and latter think back like ugh I should have waited and thought this through!
This video is amazing, just what I needed to hear to help me! Glad to see this channel is growing.
Love the simplicity in this SO important teaching
thank you, I really needed to be validated in my fluctuation. especially during the pandemic when I feel so much less productive and confident compared to usual.
VERY intereresting! Love that you focus on the ego, most thinkers focus on the 'negation' of ego. You, describe it exactly the way I experince this. Really good job
Really like your content, boiling it down to the main points without waffling on for an hour is so refreshing for these topics :)
Nicole, thank you so so much for what you do!
Thank you so much for putting all of this into perspective! It helps so much to understand more about what’s going on inside myself. I know that I’ve had the awakening because I have become more aware of many stories I tell myself but I thought I had been doing worse by “fluctuating.” Now I know that it’s all just part of the process.
Thanks to a lot of great books and your future self Journal I am awakening and find myself more and more in a aware or conscious state. It feels so good to heal!!!! Thank you so much for all your work 🧡
Yes!! I found that video SO helpful!! I'm so grateful to have found you and your teachings! I'm grateful to be in a space where I can be receptive to all your information ~ Thank you!
I am genuinely grateful for finding these videos. It’s in alignment with where I want to be and spirit led. Thank you!
This video has value. It summarizes the “path of the mind”. You still will need to walk the “path of the heart/body”.
Love your work. The ego, a case of mistaken identity! Like the way you break it down to be able to see this. Yes we are that consciousness awakening to itself. Enjoy your presentation...simple yet profound!
I've never clicked on a video so fast!!! 🤣 I really need to know where I stand because I oftentimes get very frustrated with my ego.
I'm 2 and 3.
The frustration is Ego itself. Your awareness of the frustration is not ego
@@DrShawnaFreshwater this lost me a bit. I'm going to have to reread it for it go sink.
@@Abundance26 The egoic mind is the conditioned mind pattern-thought stream and emotional reactivity, selective perception, distorted interpretation, complete identification with thought and emotion, and perceiving everything as personal.
When you hate what you are doing, if your internal mind-stream is filled with “should” “should not”, criticizing, blaming, accusing, that is Ego.
Egoic mind is possessed by the primary identification with thought forms, physical forms, and emotional forms. For example, “me and my story”. That is, the identification with the incessant stream of thoughts going to the past or to the future, obsessive thinking, most of it repetitive, and the emotions attached to the thoughts negative.
Mentally-Emotionally Healthy Tribe practice awareness of the ego every day in oneself. When you detect the egoic mind in yourself. Smile : ) When you are aware that Awareness is not part of ego, it is a different dimension of consciousness.
The greater part of mentally-emotionally unhealthy peoples’ thinking is the Egoic mind ~ involuntary, automatic, and repetitive. It is like mental static. Strictly speaking, mentally-emotionally unhealthy people do not think: thinking happens to them.
Mentally-emotionally unhealthy people are identified with the voice in the head…the incessant involuntary compulsory thought stream and the accompanying negative emotions. We Mentally-Emotionally Healthy Tribe are not possessed by the egoic mind nor possessed by emotions. If you are completely unaware of this egoic mind pattern, then you take the thinker to be who you are~this is false identification.
Mentally-emotionally unhealthy people are highly reactive when things don’t go exactly their way, when obstacles or difficulties arise. For example, at work, when things don’t go according to expectation, when other people or circumstances are not helpful or cooperative, instead of being the FLOW, unhealthy people feel personally offended, resentful, stressed out, angry, et cetera. Mentally-emotionally unhealthy people create “anti-energy” creating new obstacles and new oppositions.
Negative states, such as, anger, resentment, hatred, envy, et cetera are egoic-created activities that have reached epidemic proportions. A person in the grip of negative states do not recognize that they are in the grip of egoic mind pattern. They will only perceive their negative state as an appropriate justified response to a situation or person. Negative states are the internal equivalent to toxicity and pollution. So, the only thing you have to do is become the Watcher watching. That is, Awareness of the egoic mind.
Peace, in Hope, Dr. Freshwater
@@DrShawnaFreshwater thank you ! 😊
You’re absolutely amazing. About time for humanity to slowly (but surely!) shift into a new awareness/paradigm.
I love listening to this man. I also do see people for who they are, and try to except that even though sometimes it’s very hard.
Thank you! This really jives with what I strive towards. Especially the responsiveness over reaction.
I will be forever grateful to you and your partner because your stories and your work have done so much for me. This work has ended a 2.5 year separation between my husband and I and we are both evolving rapidly💜 thank you so much
Can I ask how it's going currently?
I as a whole (ego + consciousness) am so proud to actually KNOW what you mean and to relate to that and it gives me warmth in my heart to know that I'm not "doing it wrong" (see I'm flactuating) and that I'm not alone in this! It's so cool to know we're not alone (even though my ego sometimes wants me to be all there is), I'm glad I'm witnessing and understanding myself better! ALL THANKS TO YOU DR. NICOLE
Oh god, you have no idea how much this video provided me with so much guidance. Thank you so much!
WOW!!!
So meaningful, so on point and so "elegant" in a mathematical way (clear, concise and short) 🤩
And this is the first time someone explained the awakening everybody always goes on about (and me 🤔?) so that I finally understand it! Thank you!
I just want to tell one thing to you . Thank You. For helping people throughout the world.
Omg I just love you so much! Thank you for all that you do, and how you share without any sponsors or subscribe and all that bs. Thank you for giving us the gift we all deserve❤️🙏🙌🌟
Thank you for the helpful video. I hope everyone who reads this is having a day filled with peace, love, happiness, and joy. My love extends to you all.
LOVE your videos and Instagram posts! You explain things brilliantly.
Love the videos on ego! Very practical, and would love to see more videos like these :)
I love you Nicole thank you for your service !! All your videos are so helpful 🙏
I am learning so much. Thank you for your amazing videos. They are life changing. Thank you. I’ve learnt so much more here then I have in 5 years of therapy. And you’re giving me tools to use.
I'm glad to learn that I'm fluctuating between 2 & 3. Phew! It's bloody hard! But now I know where I am and its "normal" I can now relax...x Thank you...x 🌸
Got to love the importance of consciousness. This simply tought me a lesson not to ne fully immersed in my emotions and learn how better I can be to responsiveness.
As a person in recovery I find this so helpful,it's very true I'm not that person in the stories I've told,I'm just finding out who I am after 37 years and I'm 53.
And I have been watching your videos and about the inner child goes hand and hand with the ego
Thanks
You’re the best! I hope you do more ego stuff. It’s the crux of all suffering and attachment. ❤
Oh my god ! She managed to describe ego in few words !
A very complex thing was so simply explained. Thank you!
Just as I realised that fluctuations are normal, and mind like the sea .. sometimes stormy, sometimes calm .. this video affirms it . Guess it was a glimpse of witnessing.
Amazing as always beautiful soul thank you!
I am well aware of my ego and have been for quite some time. I've experienced something interesting though, bad for me, but interesting these past couple of years.
At work, I was always the humble one. I never played politics, worked hard, not a backstabber. After 8 years in one place, I changed jobs, went to work in a new company started by some of my ex-colleagues from the first place. Immediately, there were power struggles as I wanted to be more independent in my work and some of the ex-colleagues wanted to be in power and they had a very different idea about the company culture. I had a particular problem with one female ex-colleague and one male new colleague who was aligned with her. I basically started to get bullied by them on a fairly basis, in part I believe because I was humble, cool with most people, pretty popular, collected. I rarely got provoked, if at all, I kept my cool, as I considered that to be more professional.
Where does the ego come on? The bullying kept escalating, to the point of flat out abuse, because their ego didn't want to admit to itself they're acting wrong. So the ego tried to push through. They failed and after one major scene, they instinctively understood they crossed the line. I had the upper hand. But they did something cowards do IMO - once they started losing, they immediately attempted to become my friends. Probably to level the playing field and stop me from getting ahead. And I of course should've kept my distance, but because I was angry at myself over something personal at the time, I didn't have the ego to judge anyone else and I accepted their "friendship" for a tiny, little while. Literally one eager handshake after a holiday.
What followed was the weirdest display of an "ego" war. Both sides kept pretending we're super friendly, although we weren't and each kept waiting for the tiniest show of "hostility" - me, to prove my point they were bullies for years and not friends, they to "prove" I'm "fake". This went on for almost two years and whenever I tried to get ahead, they caused a major scene for something to get attention to them and undermined me in some way. Because the management protected them, they got away with it. It eroded the entire company culture, completely. Like the entire company as a team fell apart on the inside because of this as people were forced to pick sides and so on.
And now, two years later, some people left because of this, some new people came in. The past year, the entire company on the inside was literally frozen, no promotions nothing, while the bullies kept gaining political points by fake displays of humility, friendship, etc. These bullies got promoted, so did a few other people who knew I was getting bullied but didn't help me and now the interesting ego part - now they act and behave as I did when I came in. Like they're cool, collected, professional, experienced, mature, which they refused to do in the first place when I was like that, because their ego wouldn't allow them to acknowledge me being better at something while I was ahead. But now, they pretty much stole my behavior and personality, or parts of it, of course after making sure I'm kicked down and broken. And my ego is destroyed, I got demoted to beginner status pretty much and I mentally feel like all the experience I had going in is gone and now I'm again the immature one, who needs to learn and grow. And I can't overcome this in the company, I can't just switch to how I was at the beginning, it just doesn't feel right mentally, or even possible. And that's all ego too.
Yes. I do this....however I often check myself now if Im judging someone or something and I explore why I have attracted this person or this experience to myself.
I thank it for the experience and let it go. Love and light xxx
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That was just beautifully explained! Thank you so much!
Really helpful! I've recently been trying to understand what the ego is.
At work I'm a solid 3 even though its stressful and constantly changing. Around dysfunctional family however I'm 2 and 3, working on it. Thank you for the videos👍
Thank you so much! You truly have taught me so much just from watching a few of your videos!
Thank you for this, I had no clue these exist. You have a beautiful handwriting Dr!
Thank you for this information about the ego and how to respond to life situations in life.
"Know" what's going on around You so We can be Aware enough to see/notice what's going on w/in Us. With this level of CONSCIOUSNESS AWARENESS, We can have Self Authority over the old Paradigm/autopilot Mind that's no longer wanted nor needed. This takes a while of Mental Discipline/Mental training for Our Subconscious Mind to obsorb, but the Acorn seed will become an Oak Tree. We will reap/achieve the season of Success, no doubt about it☆ Persistent patients is part of this Paradigm Subconscious Shift.
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I love all of your videos, thank you! :)
Interesting this ego work has been a practice of mine these past few years and I wasn’t aware of what it was called. Been determined to change long standing practices. It hasn’t been easy...and like you mentioned not in order but I’ve personally noticed the change and so have those around me both positive and negatively.
RUclips is my only form of social media is it possible that the content you release on Instagram be posted here. Thank you for these videos they are helping me understand...myself better at 45 yrs of age than never before!
Excellent video, well explained. Will use in my work and in my meditation group. Thank you!
Lack of ego is freedom from even freedom
This is a Majestic video !
Another excellent little gem from you. Thank you
Hey Nicole, Erik here, thanks for the vid ! , I am also coaching my clients this, coming out of the DNOTS myself. What you also often see, is the false positive side of the ego trying to gain control again, even in the state of fluctuation.. 😊, having judgemental ego thoughts like, oh why am I not in stage 4 yet ?, I want to be enlightened, why is it taken so long?... i will be in stage 4 in a couple of months ! etc etc. even then, and especially then you have to be the witness, be aware... tire the ego Lion out into acceptance on a deeper level.... and then we have integration 🙏💫.. let the mind become your friend as Mooji so nicely put it... but be aware of the life and death struggle of the ego. Just wanted to share that...in love and light Nicole... 🦋💖🙏🛐 Erik
Meditation seems like a good place to begin this process of understanding. Thank you, doctor for your deep insights.
I'm really greatful we have so many sources of information these days, especially internet. We really can improve ourselves🙏 knowledge is power Indeed
Right on time with this sis!
Much appreciated Nicole/Tiffany!
Extremely helpful. You have no idea . Thank you.
Thank you for this 🙏🏻💗
Super helpful and to the point. I really appreciate your videos.
This video changed my life.
This was very helpful, thank you!
So true. 🙌 Thank you.
really cool and very helpful, thank you Dr Nicole !
...and on the daily to do, just stand in awe of everything and take yourself out of the picture
Yes, very helpful. Peace to you Dr. Nicole
We talk a lot about this in my group therapy but we have never introduced these categories. This is pretty helpful and can perhaps also serve as a sort of reminder and anchor to keep myself from falling into unconscious reactive behavior which still sometimes occurs.
Thanks for your wisdom great conformation of inner prompts
WOW wonderful explanations! Thank you SO much!!!!!
Oh my ego is a very hurt wild animal 💔 very difficult to keep things in perspective when in survival mode all the time. Also makes me behave like an absolute jerk sometimes. I like the idea of naming it, like you said in your other video