CNA | Don't Call Us Poor | E02: Trouble at Home

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  • Опубликовано: 5 май 2019
  • FROM THE ARCHIVE: This series first aired on TV in 2015.
    In the second episode of Don’t Call Us Poor, Hong Chuan Chuan is 7 months pregnant with a husband whose temper cannot be controlled. The impact of the violence at home is evident in her two daughters, and with a new baby on the way, the stakes are even higher.
    About the show: Don’t Call Us Poor is a ground-breaking series on low-income families in Singapore. Over four months, five families in Bukit Merah invited cameras into their lives, allowing fly-on-the-wall access as they navigate the ups and downs of life on social assistance. What emerges is a vivid portrait of a little-known and little-understood world.
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Комментарии • 1,4 тыс.

  • @AsterOoi
    @AsterOoi 5 лет назад +2362

    Chuan chuan should really consider leaving her abusive husband together with her children...

    • @lcy3877
      @lcy3877 5 лет назад +84

      Ya!!! I don't know what's the point of staying with the husband not like he will ever change.

    • @eraestrera5180
      @eraestrera5180 5 лет назад +105

      I don't think that guy will ever change. Once an abuser, always an abuser.

    • @brandonchan4537
      @brandonchan4537 5 лет назад +13

      @@eraestrera5180 no. people can change if they put efort into it

    • @5Grace111
      @5Grace111 5 лет назад +75

      Don't know why I feel angry seeing her husband treating her like that. Chuan Chuan made so much sacrifice for the family and How dare he treat her in such way?! Chuan Chuan should know what is Geniune Love. This kind of relationship is tormenting.

    • @krollpeter
      @krollpeter 5 лет назад +24

      There is not anything to add. Mrs. Ho should have advised her accordingly.
      Sometimes people get fines and punishments for every little flyshit. This guy messes up his own family and creates problems to his neighbours, his wife and his children, and even worse: for their future ... yet there are barely any consequences.
      No father is better than this father.

  • @AlwaysThinkBefore
    @AlwaysThinkBefore 5 лет назад +1661

    Sky disgusts me. What kind of man takes allowance from his in-laws and refuses to commit to a full-time job to improve his family's life?

    • @pettang3805
      @pettang3805 5 лет назад +101

      This guy needs to be triggered his way into jail. Theyll fix all his issues. Worthless excuse of a human.

    • @jarrodyuki7081
      @jarrodyuki7081 5 лет назад +15

      youre right sky is an idiot.

    • @fatimabuhari7251
      @fatimabuhari7251 4 года назад +17

      He is basically repulsive in every way

    • @edits_yikes7225
      @edits_yikes7225 3 года назад +16

      Yes l agree that sky is awful...but right in the first ep, he said that he got hypertension and that why he can't commit a full-time job

    • @yukilynx3526
      @yukilynx3526 3 года назад +92

      @@edits_yikes7225 bullshit. my dad has hypertension too and he also holds a full time job.

  • @aidiladnan01
    @aidiladnan01 5 лет назад +1185

    The way he said it proudly. Disgusting. It's like there is nothing wrong for beating his wife.

    • @jtynctyl
      @jtynctyl 5 лет назад +12

      Aidil Adnan rIGHT ohmygosh im honestly so terrified that there are people like that

    • @kennethmajorSG
      @kennethmajorSG 5 лет назад +11

      @@jtynctyl i currently work at a hospital as an intern and i raised my concerns many times to my teachers that i want out because i'm going to lose my cool very soon and i'm afraid the situations might escalate but they insisted me on preserving. Trust me, i'm a very patient and calm person but working in this industry, i meet the worst people that are beyond my understanding and pure unreasonable. I get exposed to this situations and it changed me as a person just under the course of 2 months, I can't take it anymore and sometimes i feel kinda suicidal because if i were to ever lose my cool, i will get terminated.

    • @jeromexjj
      @jeromexjj 5 лет назад +7

      Kenneth Major stay strong brother, intern will finish real soon and when you graduate you will definitely be able to find a healthier working environment. For now, seek comfort in friends and family, and face work w a positive attitude :”) 💪🏼💛

    • @eugene2096
      @eugene2096 5 лет назад +1

      @@jtynctyl man should not ever hit a woman

    • @officericantbreathe3302
      @officericantbreathe3302 4 года назад

      ofc its right

  • @oooguotang892
    @oooguotang892 5 лет назад +870

    I’m frowning the entire time I’m watching sky’s behavior.

    • @xinyeegoh3190
      @xinyeegoh3190 5 лет назад +1

      oOoGUO Tang same goes to me

    • @beezlebub9
      @beezlebub9 5 лет назад +6

      It looks like he has issues from his own parenting to be honest.

    • @Mariah-mt8fg
      @Mariah-mt8fg 5 лет назад +2

      Same too.

    • @jasoncheung9666
      @jasoncheung9666 5 лет назад +4

      I’m absolutely disgusted

    • @jameslim3850
      @jameslim3850 10 месяцев назад +1

      There are so many good responsible guys out there but she chose the "bad boy" like Sky. This is why there is a saying Girls chase the bad boys but ignore or "friendzone" the good ones. So whose fault is it?

  • @applepie1319
    @applepie1319 5 лет назад +753

    Chuan Chuan seems like quite an eloquent smart lady it’s sad that her husband has made her lose confidence in herself :(

    • @slaiyfershin
      @slaiyfershin 5 лет назад +18

      Please look up the meaning of eloquent.

    • @noonekun2581
      @noonekun2581 5 лет назад +19

      as her kid i wish i could have done something to help my mom

    • @TheAwesomism
      @TheAwesomism 5 лет назад +127

      ​@@slaiyfershin Chuan Chuan's Mandarin is way better than most Singaporeans of this generation

    • @simplyk8zin808
      @simplyk8zin808 5 лет назад +13

      I agree with you. I wish she could have the guts to leave, and try to have a better future with her children

    • @noonekun2581
      @noonekun2581 5 лет назад +5

      @@simplyk8zin808 she already did

  • @Linuxfy
    @Linuxfy 5 лет назад +1146

    Stop having children before you financial secure

    • @democracycat2513
      @democracycat2513 5 лет назад +112

      You gotta understand not everyone has the same IQ

    • @theapplespammer2930
      @theapplespammer2930 5 лет назад +10

      Tom Dawn woah woah woah hold up

    • @CatCat-zy6xd
      @CatCat-zy6xd 5 лет назад +21

      because of the baby bonus $10000

    • @joshuaking5119
      @joshuaking5119 5 лет назад +12

      Exactly what I was thinking the whole time

    • @StayAhgase
      @StayAhgase 5 лет назад +28

      @@max-sl5yc so let the children suffer?

  • @dheaismaxx
    @dheaismaxx 4 года назад +368

    When it comes to choosing a life partner, always remember: “your children cannot choose their father/mother. But you can choose who gets to raise a child with you.”

    • @hawkenfox
      @hawkenfox 2 года назад +6

      But also remember not everyone is born with the faculty to choose well because they aren't taught how or they are just born simpler and unwise. It's easier to blame others and not lend a helping hand. Help, don't blame them.

    • @TheRivalbotak
      @TheRivalbotak Год назад +1

      If ur hideous , choose who also don’t want u la

    • @jameslim3850
      @jameslim3850 10 месяцев назад

      There are so many good responsible guys out there but she chose the "bad boy" like Sky. This is why there is a saying Girls chase the bad boys but ignore or "friendzone" the good ones. So whose fault is it?

  • @laydieehannah
    @laydieehannah 5 лет назад +1045

    The wife could sell off Mr Sky as roast meat at the wet market. With all those fats he could fetch a good price and at least feed the family 🤭😆

    • @billy5119
      @billy5119 5 лет назад +20

      黄秋生,人肉叉烧包

    • @mas8844
      @mas8844 5 лет назад +8

      😂😂

    • @suziek888
      @suziek888 5 лет назад +5

      Lols

    • @xynderella
      @xynderella 5 лет назад +8

      @@billy5119 makes me not wna eat 叉烧包 anymore

    • @billy5119
      @billy5119 5 лет назад +2

      @@xynderella not my fault, is 黄秋生。。hahaha

  • @BernadetteBelle
    @BernadetteBelle 5 лет назад +375

    Wait, the children have confided that they're being strangled ... STRANGLED and physically abused by their father; while the wife got beaten up BY A ROD... and social services / child protection services does.... nothing?! Is there a petition to help the family aginst their abuser? CNA, what's the current update on the family? D:
    This is so distressing

    • @pr7ish
      @pr7ish 2 года назад +11

      yea i confused, what more proof does social workers need?

    • @munk3064
      @munk3064 2 года назад +10

      Really late, it's probably from lack of evidence.

    • @jameslim3850
      @jameslim3850 10 месяцев назад

      There are so many good responsible guys out there but she chose the "bad boy" like Sky. This is why there is a saying Girls chase the bad boys but ignore or "friendzone" the good ones. So whose fault is it?

    • @vee.3029
      @vee.3029 7 месяцев назад +5

      ​@@jameslim3850Equating picking the wrong partner to being okay to be abused is NOT the same. She may have not known about his tendencies and even so if she did that doesn't give him the right to BEAT HER UP. You're sick in the head

    • @jameslim3850
      @jameslim3850 7 месяцев назад +1

      You are the one who is sick in the head & butt if you can assume women need NOT be responsible for her actions be it rejecting a good responsible guy for a useless ,lazy and abusive Chad Tyron@@vee.3029

  • @beetledune9264
    @beetledune9264 5 лет назад +428

    Their daughter also will become like their dad..just see how she treated her friends & spoke about bullies like it was nothing.she will be in trouble when she grow up if she didn't change her attitude.

    • @hxcq5883
      @hxcq5883 3 года назад +10

      Influence by his dad. Should blame his dad first. Childhood do affect a person by alot

  • @changbinsbean1505
    @changbinsbean1505 3 года назад +208

    the fact that he sounds so proud that he hits is wife is honestly so wrong.

  • @SHOWisLOVE
    @SHOWisLOVE 5 лет назад +85

    Chuan Chuan, if you’re reading this, please know that your children can still have a complete family even without a dad. A complete family does not mean 1 Mother, 1 Father, and their children. A complete family encompasses a good environment where everyone in the family is safe, peaceful, and has the strength to overcome any challenges. If in the future, you find your daughter in the same situation as you, what would you tell her? You’re a strong woman, and I believe you know what’s the right thing to do for you and your children. No matter what your decision is, I wish you all the best, and don’t ever, ever give up. I’ve been in an abusive relationship before, and I understand how it feels to face him when he’s angry. He wants to feel that he has power over you. It will all stop if you stop giving him that power. Any time you are ready to walk away, just know that we will support you 200%. Do not be afraid.

  • @tankokhwa9498
    @tankokhwa9498 5 лет назад +458

    That sky is only violent towards the wife and childrens. If he dare the uncle he also whack but he hold back means he can control just want to bully his family. Useless guy . angry watching this video .

    • @marlinabasir
      @marlinabasir 5 лет назад +12

      He no balls one la.this kind of man act tough only to those he can bully. once a man likethis was beaten up and dragged the same way he did to a woman.then he begged for mercy the way the lady begged.

    • @knyxx.kjm72
      @knyxx.kjm72 3 года назад +5

      What concerns me the most is that the children are actually thinking that this is right and nothing is wrong about using violence(especially when they are "super angry")

  • @Kimtesfaye
    @Kimtesfaye 5 лет назад +374

    The sky dude is a kid, remind me of my brother. Deluded and think he’s entitled to his anger all the time.

    • @kageyamareijikun
      @kageyamareijikun 4 года назад

      mamamia mimimoi there is a saying in Chinese: women dont like men who are not bad guys. They like dem bad

    • @ai00436
      @ai00436 4 года назад

      Mr sky. is the perfect example of growing old but not growing up.

    • @vythai7136
      @vythai7136 4 года назад +1

      Maybe he has some mental problem.

    • @mohammedalhelal2956
      @mohammedalhelal2956 2 года назад +1

      he need a healthy dose of whoopasss

    • @jameslim3850
      @jameslim3850 10 месяцев назад

      There are so many good responsible guys out there but she chose the "bad boy" like Sky. This is why there is a saying Girls chase the bad boys but ignore or "friendzone" the good ones. So whose fault is it?

  • @andreatan4442
    @andreatan4442 3 года назад +31

    I feel that chuan chuan has come to the last stage, that she no longer loves him but she stay on bcos of the children. She is very so strong. She didn’t even cry or tear when she tells the stories. I would like to know how is she now.

    • @xuanyidu3259
      @xuanyidu3259 2 года назад +5

      Sky and Chuan Chuan have divorced. Children stay with their mom.

  • @ew0211
    @ew0211 5 лет назад +239

    This type of bloody Husband only know how to sing karaoke and show his temper to Wife. The social service should help her before she or kids r killed by the Husband . This is one most important thing the social service should put as priority

  • @yibinjh3952
    @yibinjh3952 5 лет назад +63

    So many lessons to learn from this episode. Ladies, don't be afraid to say no and leave if the current situation is not doing well. U may think staying w an abusive husband for the sake of giving ur kids a complete family,.but what they need more is an environment to grow up in. Hope the children grow up to be useful members of society

  • @MrJ522
    @MrJ522 5 лет назад +330

    A guy who hits his Wife should be kept in jail for eternity. Not to mention he’s a bum. 🤦🏻‍♂️

    • @lynxtynx6477
      @lynxtynx6477 5 лет назад

      Dude it's normal to beat your wife. Like me, everytime I get a word wrong from Chinese spelling I would get beaten or scolded very badly.

    • @cheahjunjie5878
      @cheahjunjie5878 5 лет назад +13

      Lynx Tynx no it’s not normal to beat your SO at all.. idk what type of family you are brought up in but it is totally NOT ok to beat your SO, in ANY circumstance.

    • @rickchen5708
      @rickchen5708 4 года назад

      Lynx do u know what Lionel is talking about ??

    • @m1xxified
      @m1xxified 2 года назад +1

      @@cheahjunjie5878 so if he doesnt beat his SO, but his children instead, then its fine? Or how about beat his neighbour instead?
      It's not ok to beat ANYONE.

    • @jameslim3850
      @jameslim3850 10 месяцев назад

      There are so many good responsible guys out there but she chose the "bad boy" like Sky. This is why there is a saying Girls chase the bad boys but ignore or "friendzone" the good ones. So whose fault is it?

  • @tonymoly8739
    @tonymoly8739 5 лет назад +335

    Chuan Chuan is a sensible and long suffering woman. She seems resigned to her fate having married an immature, irresponsible, abusive, violent, mentally and emotionally unstable man who has issues with anger management. He even harms his children in his anger. Clearly her husband needs help and Counselling. He lives in his own trap and is affecting his loved ones. Chuan Chuan forges through her hardships for the sake of her 3 children and is doing all she can to keep the family together. At the same time she also wants to help her messed-up husband. The key now lies in her husband to make a radical change by getting treatment and Counselling on anger management so he can start living like a true man who can provide and look after his wife and children properly.

    • @luvhonest463
      @luvhonest463 5 лет назад +8

      Such guy is beyond hope! Even counselling may not help. Best is put him in jail

    • @hilmir
      @hilmir 4 года назад +13

      she also has issues of her own, in that she allows someone else to dictate her happiness. there are also deeper issues why one would choose someone like sky as a life partner. she has to work on herself too, not just sky.

    • @D-me-dream-smp
      @D-me-dream-smp 3 года назад +4

      I actually think she would be better off without him. Her children will be damaged being exposed to this at home. Sad she is pregnant otherwise it would be better for her as a single mother. Sky uses the kids to hang onto Chaun Chaun. Choose your husband/father of your children carefully or a lifetime of unhappiness.

    • @jameslim3850
      @jameslim3850 10 месяцев назад

      There are so many good responsible guys out there but she chose the "bad boy" like Sky. This is why there is a saying Girls chase the bad boys but ignore or "friendzone" the good ones. So whose fault is it?

    • @LoveMusic-pd5iz
      @LoveMusic-pd5iz Месяц назад

      She is doing her children more harm than good.

  • @bethguen2894
    @bethguen2894 3 года назад +127

    I like how the girls' teachers didn't immediately blame them for their attitude but assessed their family situation first.

  • @TheGshock2000
    @TheGshock2000 5 лет назад +341

    One thing I can NEVER understand is why they bother having so many kids if they very well know they cannot afford to provide them with a good growing environment and education needs. Without these children, these people can most probably save up and even travel after working for a while...

    • @lcy3877
      @lcy3877 5 лет назад +13

      Ikr!! Ignorance probably And funny thing is some of them r born in the 80's probably so millennials.....

    • @quiks4nd
      @quiks4nd 5 лет назад +30

      Some of them never think of consequences when baby is born , they should know their income well if they can afford to feed them .

    • @liwonl1847
      @liwonl1847 5 лет назад +2

      Probably cause contraceptives are expensive

    • @lcy3877
      @lcy3877 5 лет назад +14

      @@liwonl1847 it's not! It's still cheaper than raising children so what u mean... Anyways they can just not have sex lol....

    • @lcy3877
      @lcy3877 5 лет назад +4

      @@quiks4nd lack of proper planning at its best

  • @TheSingapuraCat
    @TheSingapuraCat 5 лет назад +319

    Now I know whats wrong with this couple. The Sky is not always blue, my friend.

    • @Daisy-ym1ql
      @Daisy-ym1ql 5 лет назад +2

      Hahaa

    • @Daisy-ym1ql
      @Daisy-ym1ql 5 лет назад +1

      Bad n ugly sky

    • @jameslim3850
      @jameslim3850 10 месяцев назад

      There are so many good responsible guys out there but she chose the "bad boy" like Sky. This is why there is a saying Girls chase the bad boys but ignore or "friendzone" the good ones. So whose fault is it?

  • @xuanyidu3259
    @xuanyidu3259 2 года назад +26

    Government should look into the part where Chuan Chuan mentioned “both parties require consent for her protection order”. Why need the consent of the abuser ?

  • @Annualzxc
    @Annualzxc 5 лет назад +49

    From the way we see how Chuan Chuan responded to these questions with intelligent inputs, it appears to be that the family will be much better off without the husband. He is like an anchor to the family and must be cut loose.

  • @FrenzyAfro
    @FrenzyAfro 5 лет назад +204

    I'm very sure she is scared of leaving him. She should. That guy is just putting a burden to the family.

  • @tanalan9851
    @tanalan9851 5 лет назад +695

    Sky is not poor but lazy.

    • @Emsyaz
      @Emsyaz 5 лет назад +14

      Laziness can lead to poverty

    • @c1em3ntchua
      @c1em3ntchua 5 лет назад +6

      Poor in attitude.

    • @syp8090
      @syp8090 5 лет назад +2

      Rely too much on 老婆 and the worst is he simply doesn't care

    • @sev9642
      @sev9642 4 года назад +1

      c1em3ntchua both lmao he’s DISGUSTING

    • @karamelpuddingmakaroni2991
      @karamelpuddingmakaroni2991 3 года назад +5

      His poor in mind and heart

  • @ricoteo4209
    @ricoteo4209 5 лет назад +281

    Sky looks like turtle without a shell.

    • @jingyun4323
      @jingyun4323 5 лет назад +7

      I was thinking Komodo dragon. Ugly AF

    • @78volka
      @78volka 5 лет назад +2

      Turtle better than him

    • @fion3943
      @fion3943 5 лет назад

      The similarity is striking

    • @sjysjysjysjy
      @sjysjysjysjy 5 лет назад +4

      Omg please dont 侮辱 turtle. Turtle is so cute... haha

    • @ThePaulz80
      @ThePaulz80 4 года назад

      Sky looks like turtle ready to dive into hot pot soup

  • @suvin_5799
    @suvin_5799 4 года назад +64

    “But what if the harm is not physical, but psychological?” This really hits home because my father is just like Sky and would abuse my brother and I but I was scared emotionally. Now I only live with my mother but sometimes my dad threatens me and tries to get me to live with him again

  • @jjcheok1369
    @jjcheok1369 5 лет назад +43

    Honestly speaking, this guy shouldn't even have a family. He is sick and no women should ever suffer at the hands of men. I am speaking as a child who lived through this nightmare as a kid and believe me when i say i was glad my mum brought us (3 kids) and left my dad for good. Through all the struggles, without our dad in the picture we became stronger and better people with all the help from the community. Now me and my sister are in Uni and my brother is in Poly and its no part thanks to my dad.

  • @rampagx9096
    @rampagx9096 5 лет назад +476

    Sky is honestly just a burden

    • @noonekun2581
      @noonekun2581 5 лет назад +23

      He is and he is my dad i just wish i could at aleast hit him once i hate him he when to jail so many time and sent my mom to Hospital a couple of times and even sent my younger sister and me to the hospital too and plus 1 time he force my mom to swollow a hole bowl of chill when she is still pregnant end up senting her to the hospital

    • @saupin002
      @saupin002 5 лет назад +7

      Sky should pick someone his own size. Beating his own wife?? Thats just cowardice!!!

    • @rampagx9096
      @rampagx9096 5 лет назад +2

      Fin Wolf so sorry to hear that

    • @noonekun2581
      @noonekun2581 5 лет назад +2

      @@rampagx9096 its fine

    • @krollpeter
      @krollpeter 5 лет назад +10

      @@noonekun2581
      For everything that someone does in life there will be an invoice some day. But do never beat him, then you are not better than him.
      The man who calls himself your father will be very very lonely when he is older. He will suffer from nobody wanting him, not even say good morning. He will pay his bill.

  • @charliroxas
    @charliroxas 3 года назад +29

    I’m so disgusted with the kind of father and husband Sky is. I hope Chuan Chuan finds courage soon to leave Sky for he seemed to be more of a burden than help to the family. It’s 2020 and I know she’ll get through it.

  • @PapayaYaya888
    @PapayaYaya888 4 года назад +36

    If he threatens or beat her on camera imagine what he does off camera

  • @Mariah-mt8fg
    @Mariah-mt8fg 5 лет назад +50

    "Honestly - Yes" (and he smiled) wow. Okay, hitting your wife is NOT sweet at all. Sick.

  • @kaiqinAKAme
    @kaiqinAKAme 5 лет назад +97

    21:54 the daughter is getting her Father’s mannerisms, my heart hurts :(

    • @bell2353
      @bell2353 5 лет назад +1

      Ya sad ya. Now we understand children behave like their. When kids are naughty is the parents who need CHANGE!!!

    • @gunmetabunny6283
      @gunmetabunny6283 4 года назад

      army teaches the same thing though.....

    • @alex-vd4vm
      @alex-vd4vm 3 года назад

      ya i got my anger from my mother lol

    • @jameslim3850
      @jameslim3850 10 месяцев назад

      There are so many good responsible guys out there but she chose the "bad boy" like Sky. This is why there is a saying Girls chase the bad boys but ignore or "friendzone" the good ones. So whose fault is it?

  • @Mariah-mt8fg
    @Mariah-mt8fg 5 лет назад +55

    Ms Chuan Chuan is a strong lady. I see strength, courage and patience in this video May God help you all 😔💚

  • @evangelinegrace3722
    @evangelinegrace3722 5 лет назад +13

    My parents used to be like that I two used to live in bukit merah but my Mother got a divorce and now I live with my mom in a new place with a better financial situation

  • @nisahkhairol1432
    @nisahkhairol1432 5 лет назад +97

    Thank you for this documentary. I thought live is easy in Singapore but boy was I wrong. This made my heart ache, seeing the struggles they have to go through. Major respect to Chuan Chuan and I pray that she will have a better future ahead and her kids as well, and I hope she'll leave her husband (period). Mad respect to all hard-working Singaporeans !! I pray may Allah SWT bless you all with an abundant of sustenance and make everything easy for you!! Love from Brunei xo

    • @tankman20064
      @tankman20064 Год назад

      Too fat. Too lazy. Have many kids. No money to feed. Love sex. Make babies. Sure poverty. Same like animals

    • @tankman20064
      @tankman20064 Год назад

      Brunei ? Got oil. Currency tied with SGD. Of course ok. If many population. You be the same as ringgit.

    • @jameslim3850
      @jameslim3850 10 месяцев назад

      There are so many good responsible guys out there but she chose the "bad boy" like Sky. This is why there is a saying Girls chase the bad boys but ignore or "friendzone" the good ones. So whose fault is it?

    • @playingcasual2024
      @playingcasual2024 5 месяцев назад

      What? Got rejected so being salty about it?

  • @vivienlee1671
    @vivienlee1671 3 года назад +24

    this episode really makes me cry. Sky learned his violence from his family and then passed it down to his daughters... We have to break the circle.

  • @suziek888
    @suziek888 5 лет назад +84

    The poor counsellor must be so overwhelmed with these people and their problems lol😂

  • @imeldasiburat81
    @imeldasiburat81 5 лет назад +84

    He should be put behind bars for hitting his pregnant wife bearing his own child. Why would u think ur wife is challenging u when u get into an argument? Do u need to prove u r stronger by hitting women? U r weak and stoop low. “Dont make me angry” sounds like a threat! Definitely has personality issue and need psy assessment

    • @lcy3877
      @lcy3877 5 лет назад

      Patriarchal guy tsk

  • @myas-3995
    @myas-3995 5 лет назад +22

    I feel so bad for poor Chuan Chuan and her beautiful daughters. Stay strong lady sending prayers to her and all the families that are going through such tough times

  • @cyndiyp
    @cyndiyp 5 лет назад +18

    Everyone talking about how they should not have kids and she should leave sky, but what I'm getting out of this video is how the laws didn't make any sense and couldn't protect her too. Why would someone whose being abused have to get consent from the abuser for protection???!!?!?!

  • @darrenfoo8269
    @darrenfoo8269 5 лет назад +58

    Chuan Chuan's speaks Mandarin very fluently. The level of vocabulary used are above average.

    • @crystal8537
      @crystal8537 5 лет назад +4

      Really? I think its just normal (i am in early 20s btw)

    • @darrenfoo8269
      @darrenfoo8269 5 лет назад +20

      @@crystal8537 ​ Just listen to how typical youngsters nowadays tend to include "like, then, but, so etc." into their sentences, for her she barely uses it.
      13:12 "殘缺不堪" when was the last time in Singapore, people used this idiom to describe something full of flaws? I'm also in my early 20s and barely anyone around me had used it.
      個人覺得近年來,我國的中文水準降了不少。

    • @crystal8537
      @crystal8537 5 лет назад +8

      @@darrenfoo8269 i can tell chuan chuan is from a chinese educated family, like me so we tend to use proper chinese..... Those kids who use alot but, then they speak broken chinese or mixed languages at home thus all their language skills is 半桶水... Also chuan chuan is born in the 80s.... Most of their parents ll be chinese educated... 自己本身来自于华语家庭,父母不会听或讲英语,我上小学时因英语基础不好,学英语学的很辛苦! 而且英语是国际语言,在新加波尤其重要。so i kinda feel sad that i have to learn english in such a difficult manner i would rather be super proficient in my english and alright in chinese... Cos to me bilingualism is important but ya cos some familities the parents themslves are bad in chinese.... Its like a cycle lol

    • @aiideeww
      @aiideeww 5 лет назад +5

      I'm not Chinese but listening to her with not a single English spoken out, her Mandarin is impressive. But I hope the lady made better choices after this saga. Poor lady ☹️

    • @jameslim3850
      @jameslim3850 10 месяцев назад

      There are so many good responsible guys out there but she chose the "bad boy" like Sky. This is why there is a saying Girls chase the bad boys but ignore or "friendzone" the good ones. So whose fault is it?

  • @superfoxxy1718
    @superfoxxy1718 5 лет назад +138

    the husband really useless and some of the families should really stop having children. like 'cant u see u cannot afford, stop!"

  • @danceoffAsh
    @danceoffAsh 4 года назад +39

    People like Esther are some of the people I've met in many in my life, who have been kind, compassionate and calm in hearing me out and my problems, like a big sister, brother to me. Thank you, Esther and many others who work to improve the lives of many of our citizens here in Singapore

  • @jefflim7020
    @jefflim7020 5 лет назад +292

    @CNA Have u guys considered making a series on how these families are faring now in 2019, how much things have changed? Are their family circumstances better or worse now?

    • @cherryblossoms3961
      @cherryblossoms3961 5 лет назад +3

      jeff lim this was published 3 days ago...

    • @kretek2209
      @kretek2209 5 лет назад +97

      @KOTheWorld In the first episode uploaded in RUclips, the daughter actually commented here and said that the family are doing well without their father, so yeah, eventually Chuan Chuan filed for a divorce and they are living with Chuan Chuan parents and very much happy now.

    • @___softluvs
      @___softluvs 5 лет назад +17

      @@kretek2209 I'm glad she made the right decision

    • @jefflim7020
      @jefflim7020 5 лет назад +9

      @@kretek2209 Yes I think Chuan chuan made the right decision. Glad to hear that they are leading happier lives now...

    • @noraq1971
      @noraq1971 5 лет назад +46

      So far so good. My parents are coping well and even better. Its 5 years already. Im the twins sister.

  • @0.1.feb.
    @0.1.feb. 5 лет назад +64

    Sky no money still want to act gangster. The meaning of impotence is the inability to raise your family. Sky is impotent. Chuan Chuan ought to leave that boy if she has any self-respect!

  • @khdoodies
    @khdoodies 5 лет назад +12

    Husbands are usually the more hardworking ones but Sky is really something else

  • @lettertojuliet
    @lettertojuliet 5 лет назад +137

    Sky Quek is total toxic, living depend on the wife n mother in law. Yet no gratitude n blame his every behaviour, attitude to high blood pressure n whatever so called excuses that he claim unable to control. The wife make a choice by thinking he is her only choice n nobody else would wan her... So rather stick v him instead of being independent herself. Its sad to have unhappy and abusive relationship which lead to divorce BUT REMEMBER DIVORCE isn't such a tragedy what worst is teaching ur children the wrong thing about love. Nobody ever died of a divorce. Pls stay strong n have faith in urself!

    • @D-me-dream-smp
      @D-me-dream-smp 3 года назад +1

      She would be much better off without him for sure. He is dragging her down.

    • @jameslim3850
      @jameslim3850 10 месяцев назад

      There are so many good responsible guys out there but she chose the "bad boy" like Sky. This is why there is a saying Girls chase the bad boys but ignore or "friendzone" the good ones. So whose fault is it?

  • @sagittariustersakiti6694
    @sagittariustersakiti6694 5 лет назад +13

    dear chuan2, pls leave ur husband you have better opportunities out there.
    Sincerely,
    Mak Cik Bawang Bersatu

  • @Crosszeriax
    @Crosszeriax 4 года назад +7

    I was also a kid who lived in similar condition as chuan chuan's family situation except was neglected alot and in the end was taken out by the police because neighbor complain and put in salvation army for 10 years. Thankfully im out and even those years at the children's home was a nightmare. For those asking why kids don't look after their elderly parents, this is why. Because years of torture makes you confuse whether you should care for abusive parents or not

  • @haziqnoorazmi673
    @haziqnoorazmi673 5 лет назад +212

    SKY looks like Kim Jong Un had a son

  • @austintan6569
    @austintan6569 5 лет назад +12

    I was passing by Spooner Rd, got curious about the remaining flats sitting beside the railway. Then my news feed pops up with this. I feel more for all the children featured here.

  • @eanhamid3774
    @eanhamid3774 5 лет назад +19

    Girl, you need to protect yourself and your family. Leave that scrub.

  • @alextangster
    @alextangster 5 лет назад +53

    Dear Sky, men laying hands on women are pathetic. It shows weakness of mind and heart, and it is shameful to use your "power" to abuse the only 3 person in this world who are willing to love you.
    Stand on your feet and be a real man, bear whatever pain that comes with providing and loving your family. You are their pillar and be their shelter from harm OUTSIDE.
    Be humbled by the grace of your in-laws supporting the family YOU are responsible for, despite the pain of knowing their daughter / granddaughter being beaten & abused.
    Your family can live with dignity when you learn to provide and protect.
    PS. Kudos to all the men/women helping people in various social assistance programs. Respect.

  • @garaldtao1801
    @garaldtao1801 3 года назад +16

    I have watched this series twice and both times it is unbelievably heartbreaking because there are children involved. I hate how these people are unable and unwilling to break out of this cycle of abuse and poverty. I have been in poverty my entire life yet we live in a 5000sqft home and I some how was able to put my kids through piano lessons, take them on ski trips and put them through medical school although earning top academic scholarships really helped. I am disabled because of childhood abuse but I have not laid a single finger on my children and today they are both doctors, both concert pianists and are the most kindest, most gentle and most intelligent people I know. My son's girlfriend is shocked that they never fight which demonstrates that there is something wrong with society if people are expected to be hostile to one another where there is a disagreement. All children deserves a chance including these who are in this series but the adults are a different story.

    • @linzixuan29
      @linzixuan29 Год назад

      In sg ? That’s rich . That’s 5 times bigger than a 4 room hub flat

    • @pearpo
      @pearpo 10 месяцев назад

      It sounds like you have been through a lot!! Despite being disabled from trauma which sounds stressful, perhaps you are lucky 🍀 in other ways.

  • @sev9642
    @sev9642 4 года назад +64

    Sky is the equivalent of a human tumor

  • @hairulnizat6765
    @hairulnizat6765 5 лет назад +48

    Husband,really cannot make it,leave him would be better option🙏🏽

  • @EbonyLeeYu
    @EbonyLeeYu 5 лет назад +28

    So he hits her for small issues. I wonder what he would do if it escalated and became a big issue. What a jerk.

  • @LIYIXUANALICIAStudent
    @LIYIXUANALICIAStudent Год назад +6

    I really hope that Sky's wife calls the police and gets immediate help to take care of her and her children . Sky himself should be thrown into jail for life with caning .

  • @dng625
    @dng625 5 лет назад +43

    I am so worried for their kids...

  • @oraclewarrior1525
    @oraclewarrior1525 Год назад +3

    Hoarding is one sign of mental dissorder and one of sources negative energy for prosperity. May Chuan chuan and her kids are able to ve better & happier life in the future.❤

  • @scottlam4171
    @scottlam4171 5 лет назад +111

    Being born poor is not your fault, dying poor is your problem

    • @whitebonsai
      @whitebonsai 5 лет назад

      Very Very True

    • @unknown0042
      @unknown0042 5 лет назад +20

      No?? Some countries don't have opportunities to get a "better life", they try to survive and that's it

    • @MsDil21
      @MsDil21 5 лет назад +19

      That's an ignorant comment. They don't get the same opportunities and advantages that people who are more well off have.

    • @lynxtynx6477
      @lynxtynx6477 5 лет назад

      Very true.If you die and you're poor. When are you gonna get funeral ready

    • @armistice2358
      @armistice2358 4 года назад

      @@MsDil21 Well you can't say so.
      My father too was born poor, like really poor(no food, constant abuse, prob like 60h+ of labour per week). But now he is a double digit millionaire.
      Furthermore, the government too aids the needy and gives them benefits for being born poor, unlike in the past.

  • @casseng8712
    @casseng8712 5 лет назад +26

    I really want to know what goes through his mind when he is beating his wife (plus she’s pregnant) I feel that sometimes I’m so disappointed in Singapore‘s law system. As what the chuanchuan said “what if it’s psychological Trauma?” I know ppo is a sensitive thing but, I’m truly at a lost of words at how our law has once again failed to protect those that fall through the crack

  • @D-me-dream-smp
    @D-me-dream-smp 3 года назад +8

    I bet Sky “forced” Chaun Chaun to have another baby because his narcissistic ego wanted a son. He is so horrible and she deserves much better. I hope she escapes this situation soon for her and her children’s lives.

  • @daisydove3336
    @daisydove3336 5 лет назад +5

    Chuan chuan needs help to recover from this abusive rship, people around her need to support and encourage her.

  • @aeummy6320
    @aeummy6320 5 лет назад +8

    I feel so sorry for these two young ladies... Srl they been bullied, and becoming bullies.. It’s just so sad..

  • @firewaterbydesign
    @firewaterbydesign 4 года назад +9

    Until her husband starts accepting responsibility for his own behavior and stops blaming others, NOTHING will ever change in that situation. He has been allowed to blame others for his bad behavior, ultimately making it everyone's fault but his! This is why he cannot keep a job or have a loving relationship with another human being.

  • @CringeLord123
    @CringeLord123 4 года назад +3

    I can see a deep regret and sorrow in Chuan chuan's eyes. It must be frustrating living with such a dead beat husband

  • @Poarq
    @Poarq 5 лет назад +28

    The world, by the poor:
    The human condition is somewhat pretentious to me. Being alive never extended past opening my eyes at dawn, walking down the road with my faded floral backpack and the churning in my gut. I remember the fascination I found in strangers wearing nice ironed shirts, with worried faces and hands clasped tight on their bags with clasps and shining buckles. Why were you worried? You were the ones with nice bags and glistening watches.
    .
    I didn’t know people ate meals in the morning. Breakfast, they call it. Not till I saw kids with their packed lunchboxes, coveted models with the latest cartoon prints in bold colours- filled with loaves of bread that smelt of jam and other expensive things. Maybe that’s why I’m not very tall. Maybe. I could blame many other things about myself on where I grew up.
    On the rain that fell against the windows on our cold and stuffy weekends, on the belts that fell with the smell of alcohol and tins of expired biscuit. On the world, that fell on our young eyes, heavy and cruel.
    .
    My sister never turned out much better than my them. She’d spend hours shouting in the office as the principal waited for my parents who’d never come. I’d spend hours waiting at the office, which reminded me of lavender air freshener and the nice lady who smiled at my mother with promises of money. Promises. Money. Answers to promises came by as often and money did where I came from.
    .
    You buy branded products. Buy things for the hype. Buy things to impress one another. Buy things to accentuate your individuality. You write cheap captions for laughs and likes in the hundreds. Where were the frames to capture my existence? Where were the numerous eyes and hands whose pocket money could have fed my parents and I? While you sat in planes traversing the world in all its vastness, my vision never stepped past the bus stop where we sold newspaper for pennies.
    .
    Realisation probably comes to you slowly as you turn your gaze from mine. I will reciprocate in kind, don’t worry.
    You could tell me about the human condition, yes. But we’d probably have very different conceptions of the concept. You could educate me on the human condition, yes. But education is merely a word, no more.
    .
    The world I live in is a different one. And I’m alright with that. But I’ll live for my small beauties: do not hope that I’m content with my lot, but hope that you’ll be content with yours.

    • @D-me-dream-smp
      @D-me-dream-smp 3 года назад +1

      Beautifully written- many find it difficult to understand how much it weighs on your heart and soul to have to struggle to survive each day, when the things people take for granted are a distant dream for you. It takes strength and bravery to face each day and not give up. Everyone deserves love, support and affection from their parents. I hope you find peace and contentment in life.

  • @esteeinsweden
    @esteeinsweden 5 лет назад +58

    Chuan chuan man is not a man, if I were Chuan Chuan I will divorce him immediately and ask for child support. He need to get 2 full time job and stand up be a man/husband.

    • @mohamadyusoff9091
      @mohamadyusoff9091 5 лет назад +2

      he will kill you before you can leave him

    • @esteeinsweden
      @esteeinsweden 5 лет назад +2

      Chuan Chuan has 2 options.
      1. Secretly film all the abused occasions. Make sure she keep the videos safe & send it to court.
      2. My option 2 is between me & Chuan Chuan, if she contact me..I will coach her how to make Sky respect & scared of her & can't wait to leave her immediately, (Of course in ledigt & legal way lar.)

    • @zmsd7405
      @zmsd7405 5 лет назад +1

      She did leave him, she and her kids are staying with her parents.

  • @annneo9293
    @annneo9293 5 лет назад +66

    Okay now CNA published this, and if Sky sees this, won't he be triggered? I hope CNA did something for Chuan Chuan prior to publishing this...

    • @SCL111
      @SCL111 5 лет назад +24

      ann neo The daughter commented saying they are doing much better living with their grandparents and Chuan Chuan filed for divorce. I think this was filmed a few years ago and only got put online now. The daughter said she’s 14 years old now.

    • @joshuakoh1291
      @joshuakoh1291 5 лет назад +4

      Sue Lyn Oh the daughter named finn wolf is the oldest daughter right?

  • @indeacia
    @indeacia 5 лет назад +46

    i dont understand why do they have so many children if cannot support financially... i myself have 4 other siblings but we dont have financial issues. selfish and whimsical parents. now the children will struggle hais

    • @leylamamat215
      @leylamamat215 5 лет назад +4

      May be singapored gov should neuter them...bcoz they are poor? Don judge la..its their right to hv baby. U are not in their shoes..u don understand

    • @StarxPlayz7
      @StarxPlayz7 5 лет назад

      Leyla Mamat neuter wakikikikikiki good one.

    • @chocolatemilk888
      @chocolatemilk888 5 лет назад

      @@leylamamat215 too bad we have a low birth rate

  • @jch0111
    @jch0111 5 лет назад +10

    Wishing all the best for Chuan chuan and her family

  • @xuanyidu3259
    @xuanyidu3259 2 года назад +5

    Children are the ones who got hurt the most. I can see that they have the intellectual potential to succeed in life. Hope with the assistance of Social workers the family could change their attitudes to provide a better environment to foster their children

  • @bintangcomet3704
    @bintangcomet3704 4 года назад +2

    Watching don't call us poor making me wanna go and work now. It made me realise that every day working outside is money. Money that I can save for my future and get a better life. Money can't find happiness but it's depending on situation to be honest.

  • @jonathanang82
    @jonathanang82 4 года назад +9

    12:43 this scene is sobering. I am a month away from my wedding, and it is a sobering discovery that the values we impart to the next generation begins with how we treat our spouses. With dignity? Or if it is with disdain, we can be certain our children will bear the cost.

  • @simplyeverything299
    @simplyeverything299 5 лет назад +6

    My heart is crying for the children. They will be the next generation and yet what seeded in their hearts and minds are hardships. What adults does is something they will carry on in life. They don’t need so much money to live, they need stable parents responsible enough to make them happy and content. I am praying that somehow it will not be too late.

  • @beautifuldurian
    @beautifuldurian 5 лет назад +11

    CNA always produce very good documentaries for so many years.

  • @othalashelton854
    @othalashelton854 4 года назад +3

    So glad they’re not together anymore. Been there, done that and the best thing you can do is walk away no matter what x

  • @patsonlim528
    @patsonlim528 Год назад +4

    Miss Esther Ho looks like she needs a rest 😊 she is one of the cutest social assistance officer I have ever seen super adorable nerdy looking lady .

  • @kailee3703
    @kailee3703 5 лет назад +18

    Watching this video makes me so scared for chuanchuan legit I'm so scared for her

  • @user-zk4qt3um4s
    @user-zk4qt3um4s 5 лет назад +8

    i wanna collect chuan chuan and her kids , give them everything i have now . chuan chuan doesn't deserve this at all . every word she said there , made all the sense . she proved the fact the government doesn't really care much about singaporeans , without even knowing it herself . the way she tried so hard to hold back her tears while being interviewed sensitive questions , are really something else . she puts her children , family ahead of her , sacrificing money for their safety and wellbeing , absolutely one of a kind . she loves her 'husband' as though they first met even after what he did before , she gave him chances time and again just to have a ppo rejected because the perpetrator refused .

  • @taeminutty
    @taeminutty 5 лет назад +72

    abusing your wife is not it.. the poor lady :(

    • @anythingthen9269
      @anythingthen9269 5 лет назад

      Hazel Sim she ask for it surpose to put full stop with her husband and not to get pregnant again....

    • @taeminutty
      @taeminutty 5 лет назад +1

      Chua Siew i don’t think she wanted to get pregnant.. considering how worried she is about her finances and everything. maybe the husband forced himself into her

    • @anythingthen9269
      @anythingthen9269 5 лет назад

      Hazel Sim force himself into her still baby arrr that why got law right so force n use la the law....until when want to receive the force into her until 10 babies.....

    • @jameslim3850
      @jameslim3850 10 месяцев назад

      There are so many good responsible guys out there but she chose the "bad boy" like Sky. This is why there is a saying Girls chase the bad boys but ignore or "friendzone" the good ones. So whose fault is it?

  • @adinadeen7761
    @adinadeen7761 5 лет назад +7

    There's no such thing as a complete house if you were been beaten. This gonna reflect on their childs behaviour. Bless her n the kids.

  • @BluuKiss
    @BluuKiss 3 года назад +4

    It's really saddening to see the two daughters behaving abusively and thinking they have no choice but to harm others when they're angered, just like Sky.......

  • @poppy89
    @poppy89 5 лет назад +9

    Leave him. You and your daughter deserve better

  • @ahcai8578
    @ahcai8578 Год назад +2

    Personally I think they should mosaic the face of the social assistance officer to protect her from unnecessary disturbances.

  • @Satorusan24
    @Satorusan24 5 лет назад +6

    Here in Indonesia, you can change your life and make a money with being an online motorbike transporter or ojek online or ojol we usually called it. Even here a ojol driver can buy a house, have a pilgrimage to mecca, etc. That's why our unemployemnt rate at the lowest point right now. Thanks to our startup company.

  • @evansim4626
    @evansim4626 5 лет назад +7

    i think chuan chuan deserves so much better. she socute, so hardworking and she cares for her children so much, but sky is abusing her so much i think everyone who looks at them must feel ver bad for them. she is even going through such tough times but sky keeps hitting and abusing her >:(

  • @NurulLim1
    @NurulLim1 4 года назад

    Chuan Chuan is such a strong woman. Salute!

  • @hannah27_99
    @hannah27_99 3 года назад +1

    I am crying for Chuan Chuan as I watch this video.

  • @izuu4381
    @izuu4381 4 года назад +15

    22:10 “to me, being violent is the way to protect myself”
    Also him: Beats his wife and strangled his daughter with his belt once

  • @afiatanang2970
    @afiatanang2970 3 года назад +3

    After all, poor is started with a mindset, and Mr. Sky is a perfect example of a poor mindset

  • @lilianteo3229
    @lilianteo3229 2 дня назад

    I hope Sky takes up counselling for an extended period. I feel him as the boy in a family similar to his 2 daughters today. To acknowledge that he shouldn't think he's proud over abuse would be good as a start. A prison for him to work as social worker with pay would do everyone good, I hope.

  • @danielzheng9895
    @danielzheng9895 5 лет назад +20

    Why do poor people have so many kids? My head hurts

    • @medditor3863
      @medditor3863 5 лет назад +3

      Cannot afford condom mah

    • @CatCat-zy6xd
      @CatCat-zy6xd 5 лет назад +3

      because our government give baby bonus $10000.

    • @kayden7527
      @kayden7527 5 лет назад +2

      Daniel Zheng Poor financial and family planning. The future that they can see only stops at the end of the month.

  • @tripmogames
    @tripmogames 5 лет назад +64

    Hey Mr Sky, why you dare to treat your wife like that. Feel strong against a lady? Meet someone that is equal. Meet me let's see how tough you are... Scumbag
    Ok I stopped 14min in. I cannot take it anymore.
    I hope for your sake Mr. sky you never meet me irl. I have anger issues as well. Against scumbags that hit ladies.... Grrr

    • @phoebecp
      @phoebecp 5 лет назад +1

      Ladies are equal too. I’m sure Chuan Chuan could have fought him back if she had it in her heart but she’s too nice

    • @henrietta9206
      @henrietta9206 5 лет назад +3

      Jeroen, thank you. My ex used to hit me too. We need friends like u to help.

    • @tripmogames
      @tripmogames 5 лет назад

      @@henrietta9206 guys shouldn't hit ladies.

  • @damsie64
    @damsie64 4 года назад +15

    I have a feeling that Sky is crazy and needs to be sent to the IMH.

  • @eraestrera5180
    @eraestrera5180 5 лет назад +6

    Chuan chuan don't deserve a guy like this. I am more concern for her children and newborn child. 😓 One day, this husband of hers will have his karma.

  • @aclp003
    @aclp003 Месяц назад

    Just watched this and i hope Chuan Chuan and her kids are doing better now. Chuan Chuan is such a lovely lady, very patient and eloquent! Her Chinese command is so good!!! I wish I have her Chinese lingo skills! Rooting and praying for you, Chuan Chuan! Hope Sky has learnt to control his anger better too.