I lived in a one room flat rental fr 11 yrs after my divorce. Not too bad. I worked hard and raised my Daughter. Wasn’t easy but with some family support I made it. I cite this. A job and family that helped me. I now own my own flat , my Daughter finished university and is married. Don’t give up and don’t stop working.
@@ameliaaa9436 thank you. i dont take credit at all. my family was my support. My father was my rock. he taught me to be patient and helped me alot. without my family , my parents and siblings who loved my daughter , i am sure things would be different today. Just dont give up.
@@RonLarhz in a way its true . priorities, your children do come first . and ifyou put them first you will know that 1 or 2 at most in your difficult position is enough. take precautions. But lucky for some ethnic groups here in singapore they get so much support and assistance from self help , even govt groups.I remember reading in the papers of a woman with a baby son who was getting $800 from their self help group and paid her utilities. If I had 800 at that time I would be in heaven! My time , as a minority race here I didnt get anything.. nothing even when i asked...I was so pissed off...
At 12:42 when the boy said Alhamdulillah, hugging his mother and showing pure gratitude for the $800 really pulled my heart strings. That is the gratitude that most singaporeans are lagging. All they do is open their big mouths and complain.
@@leylamamat215 some rich people work hard ON THEIR OWN from scratch to be successful then why shld these pple give... Alot of successful pple also used to live in rental flats but they manage to be successful
@@crystal8537 what make you think they will not be succesful in the future? Who are you to judge other people? N what make you think your life will be succesful in the future? Geez..if you are having a goodlife, u should be grateful.
12:47 *sigh happily then said alhamdullilahhhhh* her son was so innocent and happy for that money. It breaks my heart seeing how hard her mom struggle for her childrens 😭😭😭
@@TheDoughnut85 Semoga Allah ya Kareem memberi mereka pertolongan dan keselamatan kepada keluarganya dan juga kepada keluarga2 yang susah di luar sana yang kita tidak ketahui atas kesyukuran kakak itu, Alhamdulilah..
This is a timely project . I taught in Singapore in 2000 and there were frequent noticeable absences with the really poor kids who couldn't afford bus fares to school. I also saw a lot of a desperately sad old woman collecting cardboard boxes and unwanted trash who complained to me her daughter kept pushing her out of her flat. We should see more about the people who can't get by and open up discussions on ways to alleviate poverty in Singapore where most people are often mainly just materialistic.
Do the kids live faraway from school? Because usually parents will choose a primary school near their house so that it's easier for them to commute to and fro school... What about getting help from community organisations like CDAC, Mendeki etc?
L CY I’m actually seeing it happen with one of the kids in my son’s class now. I could not figure out why the kid would not come to school but it may be true that he may not have the bus fare. He does have the card for recess though. He keeps falling behind the lessons as the pace is fast even in Primary 1.
@@beezlebub9 hmm is he under moe fas? I am 21 and I used to be under MOE FAS in school in 2016 they gave us free transport concession.... Free books, free transport... Free whatever
Bukit Merah has one of the most expensive private estates, while also having one of the most poorest families living in 1 room flats. the income gap in that area is scary.
Don’t blame income gap when they can literally choose to have zero kids. Don’t breed if you can’t feed! They are already struggling financially yet have so many kids and still keep getting pregnant. SMH. Your life is already hard enough, why bring more kids and force them to suffer! I heard of social worker telling me of ppl having 8 kids squeezing in one rental flat! What quality of life are they giving their kids? They only want to satisfy their own selfish urge to procreate without thinking of consequences. I will never wanna be a social worker cos most of these ppl bring the predicament upon themselves. There’s never a day where I think “Having a kid will improve my financial situation.”
The lady who's pregnant, wears glasses, she deserves a caring and loving husband.Feel so sorry for the lady who lost her son. This is absolutely heartbreaking
@@magnus1001 Dont always blame the wife, she must be very surprised more than anyone else. The husband should do vasectomy to avoid pregnancy. Also, he must work harder. He's just lazy old man.
Muhammad Muzzammil CNA is trying to make you feel sorry for lazy idiots. Don’t feel sorry for them, encourage them to have some pride and not be so lazy and think of the consequences of their decisions:
@@snappersnapper3304 Don't think you should generalise. Was the lady whose son passed at a young age lazy, when she was too depressed to get out of her rut?
@@nictheguitarist I may agree.. depression can really make you paralyzed mentally in a way that it's hard to focus to get out of the mess that you're in for... experienced that for two and half years.. finally decided and realized that i've had enough
Me and my family lived in a 2 room flat in Woodlands. Family of 7. It was very tough, food was scarce, rushing for toilet as there was only 1, sleeping all over the place, fighting for place to study, no privacy all this. Fast forward, after all of us, the children, became adult we all had tertiary education, I worked in a pharmaceutical company took part time degree and got a good job. Finally was able to buy 5room flat for my family. To all those struggling, do everything in your capacity to improve, upgrade yourself so that you can have a better life than before.
@@RonLarhz there are some who support the child even they are starving some who doesn't. But is not for us to judge. Correct is waste of tax payer money. But think on the sentiment side of welfare how on earth is the parents is going to support their child in dire straits if they are truthfully supporting their best to the children?.
Exactly, I see immense sadness in poor families with multiple kids. The number of kids correlates with poverty, more kids equals a poorer quality of life. The current responsible trend is to stay single as it comes with eternal freedoms, blissful life without the worries of marriage problems and financial difficulties of raising kids in the most expensive country in the world.
Leyla Mamat it’s predictable when you don’t think logically and do nothing improvement bout ur life and put those children born to the world, aren’t you wise enough to know that’s the reason to not bred some more. FYI, this is not judging yet instead a logical thinking only.
@@nelsoncharlesif yeah..today you have agood job..tomorrow you got vss? Lost job? Got terminated. I guess life is so.predictable to you guys. Good luck.
@@dotmerah6713 when chinese came to singapore, are they filthy rich? They damn poor. N yes..they breed. Y? Bcoz they know the importance of future.generation. not.like you, damn selfish.
Family planning should be made a compulsory course in Sec schools... Alot of hypertensive patients are working hard full time and exercising regularly so that they don't fall sick so easily and to maintain their health, I cannot begin to describe how lazy can a person get...
I feel like adopting all the children in the video. Let them have lunch at my place, study here and go home peacefully every night after dinner and homework done. That's all. It's heartbreaking enough for the moms.
This made me realised one thing. Family planning is very important. Man, kids are expensive to raise and if you’re not financial stable and couldn’t give the ones you have a good quality of life then you shouldn’t go and get somemore.
@belltowndaisy4214Children should also not be deprived of food, clothing and a roof over their heads. Parents need to be responsible, specially in very expensive countries like Singapore. The government could help the children directly by offering them free breakfast at school or bear school, free luches, free clothes and free school materials so that the children at least do not have to suffer the poverty of the parents and sometimes the bad decisions of the parents.
@Belltown Daisy yes but if u can't afford basic needs and is already struggling then Parents have the responsibility of not having more kids than they already had. Lets say u have 2 kids, and is already suffering why bring another in to make it suffer and also affect your life as well on the aspects of money.
When Adik Irman said "Alhamdulillah" at 12:46, I immediately teared up. I pray that you and your siblings grow up to be anak-anak yang soleh and taat Allah, taat Rasul, taat ibu dan dapat balas jasa ibu yang bertungkus lumus melahirkan dan membesarkan awak adik-beradik🤍
Condoms should be free for everybody . Kids pay with suffering bcs adults are not capable to control their reproducing system. Actually all countries should support and privilege families with kids in order to make sure the next generations grow up healthy and sane for everybody's benefit. But if it does not happen ,why should they be put through hardship since day one ?
I grew up in America on welfare. My dad worked so hard to get us out of the ghetto. It was so hard but really showed me to plan and prepare for my own future. As much as I would love a bigger family, we choose to only have 2 so we can give them everything. It's not about having more kids but what I want to be able to provide them with. Plan ahead.
At least they have a home to sleep, and not homeless living on street. But i agreed with most comment here. If u barely can feed yourself, don't have big family. Just have one child and raised him/her the best possible by giving the best education. Having too many kids means you could not afford to raise them poperly and most possible will be wasted and neglected sooner than later.
The Chuan Chuan woman should leave her husband.... Its not good to place the lil girls in such an environment and she has diploma!! She met the wrong guy and ruined her life sigh
Should leave this type of husband. Keep giving excuses not to work full time. And stupid excuses not change lifestyle and eating habits. In time to come if the husband falls ill which is quite likely based on his health issue, she will even have to take care of him!
High blood pressure is not a good excuse to not take a full-time job... It can be managed with the right medication, which he could afford with that $2k/month salary... He's just plain lazy. It's pretty obvious. Chuan Chuan is probably with him because she thinks she can't take care of 3 children alone. My mom is a single mom with 4 kids... That husband is probably the source of their financial burden. Another alternative could be that the husband should just stay at home and take care of the children so the wife could get a job with good pay. She is clearly qualified. But too bad that "Sky" (like what kind of name is that?) is such a crappy and useless "man". And he'll be an even greater burden as they get older.
My dad worked two jobs, even when he was on dialysis. He had high blood pressure, diabetes, heart issues. The man never complained. I realize anew every day how lucky I was to have the father I did.
she elects to work in a fast food place instead of a high paying job because of her kids; she needs to stop having too many kids, and get rid of her bum husband.
The husband made me laugh the most. Sure, he could get a job, and he could change his health and lifestyle, but he is too busy enjoying the fat of roast meat.
@@leylamamat215 Saying that poor people have the right to breed is just like saying criminals have a right to freedom, they don't. Criminals commit a crime and are excluded from society not only to protect society but to protect themselves as well (ie, rehabilitation in prison). Poor people who breed should also be excluded from this "right to breed" because they are not only a burden to society but themselves as well. Want to breed? Make sure you can afford the repercussions before doing so, or don't do it all.
i was once the same as them living in gov rental house , living on the government since the age of 8 but once i reach the age of 16 when i finished my secondary school i didn't enter ITE i work so hard to work out of this place and exit this place by all means , i did it on the age of 21 i purchase BTO with my mum and my younger brother forever saying goodbye to this place. now it's all depending on the children to make it out of this place i would say this place gave me a very good lesson in life.
Watching this.... I'm speechless of how poor some people could be in the so called developed country Singapore. I feel extremely blessed and grateful with what i have now... No water to survive? I would've been in major depression if im in her shoes.
im so grateful to be malaysian after seeing these unfortunate families dealing with all the unpaid medical fees😢...in malaysian u will need to pay RM 1 minimum (0.3 SGD) to see the doctors at gov hosp...medical fees are highly subsidised by gov...stay strong dear fellow singaporean...i wish the best for you guys
I am also thankful, I am Thai, every one who are Thai citizen can go to public hospital with cheap medical expenses. Some poor can get free service if get subsidised by the public hospital. Our prime minister Prayuth has already launched the emergency service with 48 hrs which all patient with unconscious can admit the nearby hospital including private one with no cost, this is supporting by government who will compensate to the hospital. If you have no place to sleep nor food, just get help from those temple and municipality. Now we have aging fund to every elderly people starting 60yrs onwards on monthly basis, cash to poor per month etc. Free education upto high school in public schools. If I have seen this clip, I always thought that Singaporean has good life.
My deepest condolences to the lady who’s son died. Poverty is a big cycle, I do feel for some families on a single income. Though hubby and I earning quite well, yet I do a strict budget. We make sure two kids are enough, we have taken all precautions.
I have traveled few countries and I always visit the markets to check the foods most people consume, the countryside to view the culture and the locals and it's always the poor ones and get chance to live with them as much as possible. Having to experience it and knowing that its only a borrowed experience makes me thankful of what I have and respect these people who have lived this life and still surviving with chins up.
It is culture that has to be understood first. As westerners that have so much support, we cannot begin to relate. When you experience Asian culture, see the death rates, and get it that children look after their elders, it is nothing more than sadness that you can feel.
I can feel her pain...I'm a single mum supporting my 2 boys...alhamdulillah both my son has grown up 28, 30 ....even though my pay is only 1000 per month ..I managed to endure the struggle ...have faith n believes in urself
"no matter what they have done in the past, children should take care of their parents..." Ms. Koh, while this is true in general for most normal and functional parent-child relationships, perhaps you ought to also put yourself in the shoes of some of those grownup children who refused to support their parents and understand their reasons - some scars simply cannot and will not heal. I have personally looked after two teens under child protection whose mother was a compulsive gambler and was extremely aggressive and volatile, often threatening to chain the house gate and burn the whole family to death together or thrashing the entire flat and destroying the furniture whenever she fails to get money from her husband (the kids' father) to feed her gambling addiction or pay her debts. And she had on more than one occasion nearly stabbed or slashed the two kids during her tantrums when she would grab knives and choppers from the kitchen. There was even one ludicrous occasion when she dismantled the flat's main gate and door and left the parts on the ground before she happily went off on another gambling spree. Harassment from creditors was also a regular occurrence and she even stole the husband's IC to borrow money (don't ask me how the moneylenders would accept someone else's ID). Ironically, it was fortunate that the creditors behaved in a relatively far more civil manner in comparison to this woman and did not cause any physical hurt to them. The father's substantial retirement savings, which could have allowed the family to live quite comfortably, were wiped out completely to pay for her never-ending gambling losses and loan shark debts, but she finds it perfectly justifiable that her husband should be the one bearing the duty to settle the debts she herself incurred for her own enjoyment. Best part was, the father refused to take any action to safeguard the kids' well-being, including options such as obtaining a DEO and PPO, or to apply to ban her from the casinos despite urging from domestic violence counsellors simply because he was afraid she would divorce him! If the police and MSF had not intervened, the family would sooner or later have become part of the local murder-suicide statistics. Being filial is a reciprocating behaviour to repay the love and care that parents provided for children when they were young. When parents fail woefully in their duty as caregivers and protectors through their very own fault and selfish choices, they should not expect their children to play the same provider role to them in their old age.
When I saw Sky's interview I understood why his family is in this state. Its because of him and his thinking. Both my wife and I are blind. We have three healthy kids. I am the only one working to support the family. My wife is not working and we are not on welfare from SSO. I have high blood but I stay away from the nice food which he said is nice because I know if I am down my whole family will go down with me. You can eat those nice food once in awhiile but not everyday. He said he can easily get a high paid job earning more so he should be a man and take up the responsibility get his health back start eating healthy and start exercising. 2k a month is not alot don't overthink. You cannot have the best of everything. Start doing something.
I cried watching this story, I have no idea Singapore have so many people with economy issue. This is a serious issue, I wish I can do something to help.
Some of them need help. But they at the same time help themselves and know they cant rely so much on government. While others want people to take pity of them and expect people to help them.
@@peterchew4018 ?? U do realise that the many subsidies given to them are from taxpayers $?? And the higher income u are the more u pay... If u vote those rich people out who will provide these funds for the poor??
I used to live here.. blk 61 from 1994-1999.. made many friends and many great memories we made while we were young..we are really close till now.. there was a couple named Mickey chiang and Auntie Meiling.. they really took care of us, send us to tuitions, got us schools to study,and thanks to them.. all of us now are not rich but able to live and buy our own houses, alhamdulillah.. i thank god for all these good souls... and May our beloved late Uncle Mickey rest in peace and may Allah grant him paradise.. Thanks for all these good people in our lives..
Very insightful video! Here is an inspirational saying by Japanese writer and philosopher Josei Toda: "Even though you may be poor (physically or financially), you mustn't be poor at heart." ♥
Try not to have so many children if can't afford cos need to feed n give them proper education n life.. Quality is better than quantity..many said children are a blessing but if we can't afford to feed them what is this call? Family planning is very important..everything is so expensive this Gen. .
Inilah dia hidup diduniA .aku pun pernah Ada disituasi seperti ini .tidak punyA Wang Satu sen pun terpaksa tebalkan muka dapatkan bantuan $$$ dari sosial welfare.sekitar 2-3tahun lamanya.namun sekarang alhamdulillah itu semua sudah berlalu Dan kini aku sudah tk punyA masaalah $$$$lagi.hidup seadanya.aman.sekiranya aku berkemampuan,aku Akan Bantu mereka mereka yg memerlukan.
When I was still young I didn’t understand why my mummy asked me to eat my breakfast everyday before I goes to school, until I see this video then I realised that I was fortunate enough to have pocket money and enough food to eat Everyday.
Singapore is a very fortunate country. If you ask me as a foreign worker here. You've never seen what "poor" is back in my country. Hope they can better their lives. It saddens me also seeing the children suffering
To the ladies in the series if you are reading this I want you to know that you guys are amazing, strong and brave to share your story with us. Life is never easy but your guys are surrounded with love from your kids. There's no such thing as a smooth journey, people will judge you, tell you not to have to many kids but I'm sure if they were in your shoes I don't think they can last a day, they most probably kill themselves and let their kids to rot alone.
That's nice of you.I come from a family of 4 siblings.It was a struggle with hunger and many other issues.But now we are all successful in our own rights.i wish people would be kinder with their words.no one wants to live this kind of life.
Exactly, I see immense sadness in poor families with multiple kids. The number of kids correlates with poverty, more kids equals a poorer quality of life. The current responsible trend is to stay single as it comes with eternal freedoms, blissful life without the worries of marriage problems and financial difficulties of raising kids in the most expensive country in the world.
@@contrarian2496 but ofc the children themselves shld also work hard to give themselves a better future (saying this as a child from low income) and dont 100% blame their circumstances... Bc some children from poor fam manage to be successful
@22:14 - Just because he has hypertension, he works part time; that was a lame excuse. He is indeed a lazy fellow. One can control hypertension by medication and type of food consumption.
You should go through a long term hypertension to understand how the medication affects you and your memory even. Only recently they removed a drug from prescription because after more than 20 years it was realised that it caused damage to the kidneys. Stop condemning people who are sick. Hypertension is usually in the genetics, just like heart problems. Exercise helps a bit. Counseling sessions always advise the family members not to blame the person with hypertension, it is already depressing to suffer it. For some it affects them to the point of depression. Spare some thought, have a heart. If you can't help, best be quiet.
@@nickash5 - I have hypertension since 41 and diabetes since 46. By medication the doctor controlled my hypertension to 140/90. I worked till the age of 67 with very few medical leave. It was how one managed it with his responsibilities to his family's need especially when he had school going children and wife having a bare minimum salary job. With government helping out, some didn't want to put their best effort. You're entitled to your view and I'm entitled to mine based on my own experience. So, sorry I cannot keep quiet.
@@minmaungmaung8129 you are free to speak for yourself. Other people have lives you do not live and psychology different from yours. We can't classify them as useless or lazy. Only the people related to them have to make a personal decision on the situation. If the family can help them and most will still do. It's true that in these situations, living apart might ease tensions. But to teach the other family members to despise or look down on the person is never right even though that person has character flaws. I speak from experience by trying to help all kinds of people. Most don't change. Or change very slowly. Give them their space and privacy. Let them learn to live in a positive way. The same people I try to help hit back at me in anger at times. The other people just condemn them and leave these people to their problematic ways. If the young people online start thinking they should treat these people badly, that will be the decline of society.
@@caedanteng5417 Why didn't you do anything to defend the sick man. You accept the condemnation of that man. It is the indifference to such comments from the people who choose to condemn unfairly, especially the poor, sick or weak, no one to help them, this indifference is the sign of regression in your society. Should I tolerate it? I think I do. You are telling me to ignore these comments. Some people commenting are just ignorant or bored but whatever they put up influence the weak mind. Can be sure you people are rallying for the wrong political reasons. Actors, actors, comment, comment. The day you see actors going out to help these underprivileged, then they become real people. Should anyone tolerate malice towards the poor? Calling them useless? Unbelievable trash, to describe them as such. 🙄
Here I am...drawing about 4k and thinking I am "poor". Because compared to my friends, I am very very behind. I thought I was "poor" because I couldn't buy many things I want (not a need). Sometimes I get upset that I couldn't travel much, not enough money to buy my own hdb, no money to buy car, etc etc. Now that I see this...really change my perspective. Maybe...I'm just like the usual Singaporeans who likes to complain
@@happyleaf9635 This kind of salary is enough to save for hdb n go on holiday at least once a year lor. Priorities n budgeting u dunno meh? To even have such salary u gotta have some smarts what. I barely ur half then is real gg uh. Aft transport n food n phone bill, at most only save 1k 10years only 100k not even enough to buy 2rm bto. U can easily save 2k min per mth. By 35(singles can only buy @35yr old)u can buy 3rm + reno alr lor. Plus if u gt marry can combine n get 4 or 5rm liao lor. U dunno how lucky u r to be above avg income.
Whatever it is..thats ur money my friend..people can only say things or advise the better things..but its up to u..ur life, u decide & its ur call..and may god bless u my friend..
I'm in my late 20s and I earn less than $2.5k. And you earn $4k and it's not enough? Priorities, my friend. Reno can pay by instalment. I'm sure you can manage. Or go DIY.
Who am i to pass judgement on those that are not as fortunate. I can only whisper a soft prayer that their lives will get better and their children will have a brighter future.
1) If we really have the feeling that we’re not going to make it in this world, try our very best as not to have kids unless we were once doing good but somehow something unlucky befall us. However the poor of the world everywhere are with lots of kids, I cannot figure this out. I might be highly naive of this although highly educated and well read, I admit it. But that’s my on the spot thinking on the matter and what I would do if I know I’m up against incoming current in my life. My apology for the thoughts. 2) No matter how poor we are, never never let our mother and father be hungry or just leave them. Share even our small piece of fish slice three way with mother and father and make sure they are happy with the little we have. Hunger will not be felt if we take good care of our parents. This, I have experienced. 3) Awwww come on governments of the world. You can do better than this.
With regards to point 1, this is also extremely prominent in other developing countries. If you take a look at the extreme poor in countries like the Philippines, they tend to have more than 4 kids. To many of us, myself included, it seems silly to have more kids when you can barely afford to take care of 1. I think one reason the poor tend to have more kids is because they see their kids as a way to break out of the poverty cycle. Having more kids = higher chance of 1 one of them making it in life = a chance to bring the family out of the poverty cycle. It's essentially a slippery slope fallacy/mindset. When they are poor, they literally have nothing else to lose and they tend to have a very desperate mindset. Having kids to them is like buying the lottery. They know that it is costing them money, but with their desperation mentality, the 'what ifs' start to surface. "What if one of my kids is very smart, can get a scholarship, study well and earn big bucks". I mean, they are already SO poor. They have no capability to further their education, nor find a better paying job, and they are growing older and weaker each day. At that point in time, having a child is like altering their fate, and having a new chance at a better life - so they take their chances. They are aware that it will cost them even more to finance additional kids, but to them it's buying hope albeit uncertain. It is not a rational solution, but rationality don't operate in desperate minds.
@@Melcor2304 That's exactly it. If you have nothing left to lose, you can't lose any more than the little that you already have. That's how many of the extreme poor think. Yes they are barely surviving and they probably could 'save' more with fewer kids. But at that kind of poverty level, they rather take their chances at having more kids even if they cannot afford if it means a chance at a better life, than to take a chance at increasing their standard of living - an ideal that they feel they can never reach. It's quite ironic, but it's how it is. Ever lost a game and just gave up the whole game in totality? It's the same kind of mindset.
@Sid: I also question the logic of having more kids than you can feed. Makes no logical sense. Agree ss well on the parents thing, a son/daughter is not obligated to feed their parents but it is their honor to do so. Responsible parents won't treat their kids as retirement funds. Responsible parents prepare their for their own retirement. Partial agree on government. They should have medical subsidies and emergency food stubs or similar BUT each individual adult should work to try and fix his/her own situation as well. Government didn't put a gun on your head and tell you to make more babies. So as long as adults are responsible, any unforeseen issues...sickness and such... govt there to help. But if the adult is stupid and makes kids while not earning enough for his/her family....that's not the government's fault.
I've been to Singapore at least 100x since I was a baby to this day. Never have I known poverty on this level happens in Singapore. Please people, DO NOT HAVE MULTIPLE KIDS WHEN YOU LIVE BELOW POVERTY LINE! It's really not fair to give this quality of life to those innocent children
That ending bit where the husband was using his belt to threaten someone off screen really upset me. Hope the production team was able to step in or a police. :(
@bruce don't be ashamed, you are lucky to be a Singaporean. I am forever grateful to have Singapore as my first foreign trip. Singapore also helped my cousin financially while working as a nanny. We Filipinos has strong Family Ties that I don't see in Singapore, just help each other but don't spoon feed. Good luck and I wish you success.
Kalau Malaysian pergi Singapore, sesetengah penduduk Singapore pandang rendah kt Malaysian unless kau pakai barang berjenama mahal. Padahal ni reality kehidupan kt Singapore ada yg kaya, ada yg memerlukan. So be kind lah to one another. Taraf kita sama je
Betul. Sesama rumpun Melayu tak kisah spore, malay or indo. Semua sama sahaja. Best tengok USA mereka always kind and tak pandang kaya miskin. Salam from Indonesia
I can't stand Chuan Chuan's husband. Lazy af. If he truly cares for the family he will do his best to be healthy so that he can provide for them a better environment. 打女人？你不是男人!
Looking around at other poor and impoverished groups of people in the world. The common denominator seems to be the lack of birth control leading to over stretching a family's limited resources. I was born in Singapore and my father had eight children and we were impoverished. So poor that I had to leave school after Year 10, unable to continue to HSC because I had to find work to support my father and family. Fast forward fifty years. I learnt from that lesson and have only two children. Now I live very comfortably in another country (not that it matters) and at 72, I still work in the IT industry. I got here by working , educating myself, living a clean and healthy lifestyle and creating good Karma. When you help others worst off than yourself, things seem to fall into place when you least expected it. It is not luck but good Karma. Few people will agree with me, but good Karma also means not bringing another child into this world at a time when you cannot afford to provide. Especially if you live in a society where family planning is available. No, I will not say you are poor. What I went through in my early years is nothing compared to being poor in some countries where daily life is rummaging through a rubbish tip filled with used syringes and bandages, to look for scraps. What I had was apples and fruits left on some street corners with joss sticks that people used to leave as prayer offerings.
Chuan Chuan, get your hubby to be more involved in parenting I.e fetching your kids etc so you can commit to a full time job? There are many ftwm who rushes to pick up their kids while juggling work too. I’m sure you can do it with some determination and self confidence!
I do understand their point of view, been there before...BUT one thing that really stops them from moving foward is the complaining and excuses (I'm talking about the uncle).... From the uncle's lesson, what could he have done to prevent such things from happening while he's in the past, I bet there's plenty of opportunities for him to improve his financial standing or his financial education to live a financially secure life....
1. Having too many kids but cannot afford the living. 2. Having so many kids that none even cant take care you when you're old. I succeed overcoming both above..\o/.. thank god for giving me strength for me to work my ass off to provide a living for my families and taking care of my parents.
my heart is heavy for the children when parents bring them into the world to suffer...the nes who do work and earn barely enough to provide for themselves...the dog who is so thin....but i am upset for parents who keeps having kids irresponsibly....
14:24 it breaks my heart whenever i see a mother or a father who doesnt have financial support coming from the childrens. They didnt even think that if not because of them they will not enjoy the life that they achieving right now. I am very fortunate and proud to say that i came from the culture that we taking care our parents in return for their sacrifices 🇵🇭 🙂☺️🙂
20:28 I really don’t think he is in a position to say that... 😖 I mean look around you! This last family is just 🤨... Not getting a higher paying job coz of flexibility and convenience issues?? I mean really...?? The only consideration I see here is just to make more money ASAP. The mom needs to force the dad to get up and do some work. Nothing will change if they won’t change themselves.
Trueee. She could get 1000$ job, her husband could get 2000$ job. Her husband's just lazy and a pig. And want to make babies a lot. Isn't that like child abuse?
@@kagome2420 some people (esp working mothers) work full time then when they go back home they take care of their kids , all without a maid or grandparents....
I really appreciate that CNA has made videos touching on the experiences of those who are struggling in Singapore. However, it just troubles me that the children's *names* and faces are put up online for everyone to see (that too - for a life experience they may want for to be private in the future). I'd recommend that such personal information be censored for those who cannot consent to its release.
Thank you for this video. It is important to understand what others are going through and to help other people if we can. That’s how I feel. The children did not choose their circumstances. My heart breaks for the mother who lost her son. I’m sorry for her pain. 💔
I live in Indonesia, my family is in middle economic class, neither poor nor rich. In here life is more comfortable and relaxed, naturally, we were given a very fertile place to live, our country's territory is very wide. We are very familiar with neighbors especially with friends. I am not discrediting Singapore, Singapore is our proud neighbor. I just want to invite you to think a little about life. I don't know whether being a highly developed and highly competitive country is better or not. My country is under development, my country's economic development is very strong. But I'm worried that being a developed country will change our lifestyle, all we can think about is money and work. Compete against friends to make the conglomerate happy.
I honestly felt the same way. I feel sorry for the children. Issue on helping families like this is the fact that it will only encourage the "Father" to be even lazier ... MCYS has their hand really filled and having to reject families with children are always the hardest.
whoever watched or watching this video... the life in this country is as simple as this... THE RICH GETS RICHER AND THE POOR GETS POORER... sums it all
Wow. I am curious about this area. Bukit merah in Singapore. I see only merlion when I come for holiday in Singapore 🙏🙏 Someday when I am going to Singapore again. I will try to find this area and want to know about they're life. I am sad to see them life. 🙏🙏 Singapore is expensive for living if we have not enough salary to living in Singapore.
Just a word of caution, not trying to be nasty here. But I have relatives who lived in rental flats at Bedok, they said themselves that people living in rental flats are very "complicated" and would not advised anyone to just walk in to those flats for no reason... Can be dangerous especially if you're not familiar with the surroundings... Be careful!!
I lived in a one room flat rental fr 11 yrs after my divorce. Not too bad. I worked hard and raised my Daughter. Wasn’t easy but with some family support I made it. I cite this. A job and family that helped me. I now own my own flat , my Daughter finished university and is married. Don’t give up and don’t stop working.
Well done! So happy for you
im so happy for you! im glad that things have worked out for you.
@@ameliaaa9436 thank you. i dont take credit at all. my family was my support. My father was my rock. he taught me to be patient and helped me alot. without my family , my parents and siblings who loved my daughter , i am sure things would be different today. Just dont give up.
@@simplyk8zin808 thank you. it was my familys support and my job that kept me sane
@@RonLarhz in a way its true . priorities, your children do come first . and ifyou put them first you will know that 1 or 2 at most in your difficult position is enough. take precautions. But lucky for some ethnic groups here in singapore they get so much support and assistance from self help , even govt groups.I remember reading in the papers of a woman with a baby son who was getting $800 from their self help group and paid her utilities. If I had 800 at that time I would be in heaven! My time , as a minority race here I didnt get anything.. nothing even when i asked...I was so pissed off...
At 12:42 when the boy said Alhamdulillah, hugging his mother and showing pure gratitude for the $800 really pulled my heart strings. That is the gratitude that most singaporeans are lagging. All they do is open their big mouths and complain.
Agreed my friend
Thats my tax payer money!
@@DeRizzlo yes..n if you are rich..u should play more roles
@@leylamamat215 some rich people work hard ON THEIR OWN from scratch to be successful then why shld these pple give... Alot of successful pple also used to live in rental flats but they manage to be successful
@@crystal8537 what make you think they will not be succesful in the future? Who are you to judge other people? N what make you think your life will be succesful in the future? Geez..if you are having a goodlife, u should be grateful.
12:47 *sigh happily then said alhamdullilahhhhh* her son was so innocent and happy for that money. It breaks my heart seeing how hard her mom struggle for her childrens 😭😭😭
Ikr right. I cried a lil when he said Alhamdulillah. So grateful.
The poison of Islam
@@masterthonny3202 whats your problem seriously?
@@TheDoughnut85 he's an idiot, idiot like him with improper upbringing like to type these of negative comments.
@@TheDoughnut85 Semoga Allah ya Kareem memberi mereka pertolongan dan keselamatan kepada keluarganya dan juga kepada keluarga2 yang susah di luar sana yang kita tidak ketahui atas kesyukuran kakak itu, Alhamdulilah..
"This is Singapore if you dont work you dont eat. "Truth by the pioneer generation.
Unless you build assets.
Jeremy Wong Hard work not luck
@Kevin Lee Wendell Crumb Don't waste your youth. Save up and invest. Once you pass a certain age, you are already at a severe disadvantage.
Yes sir
Unless you have a rich family
This is a timely project . I taught in Singapore in 2000 and there were frequent noticeable absences with the really poor kids who couldn't afford bus fares to school. I also saw a lot of a desperately sad old woman collecting cardboard boxes and unwanted trash who complained to me her daughter kept pushing her out of her flat. We should see more about the people who can't get by and open up discussions on ways to alleviate poverty in Singapore where most people are often mainly just materialistic.
Do the kids live faraway from school? Because usually parents will choose a primary school near their house so that it's easier for them to commute to and fro school... What about getting help from community organisations like CDAC, Mendeki etc?
L CY I’m actually seeing it happen with one of the kids in my son’s class now. I could not figure out why the kid would not come to school but it may be true that he may not have the bus fare. He does have the card for recess though. He keeps falling behind the lessons as the pace is fast even in Primary 1.
@@beezlebub9 hmm is he under moe fas? I am 21 and I used to be under MOE FAS in school in 2016 they gave us free transport concession.... Free books, free transport... Free whatever
L CY not too sure. All I know is that he gets support to buy food at recess so you are saying that he probably gets free transport too?
@@beezlebub9 yes. If he is under MOE FAS. Idk if transport fee is given to pri sch but for sec and jc yes
Bukit Merah has one of the most expensive private estates, while also having one of the most poorest families living in 1 room flats. the income gap in that area is scary.
the income gap in sg in its entirety is scary.
Don’t blame income gap when they can literally choose to have zero kids. Don’t breed if you can’t feed! They are already struggling financially yet have so many kids and still keep getting pregnant. SMH. Your life is already hard enough, why bring more kids and force them to suffer! I heard of social worker telling me of ppl having 8 kids squeezing in one rental flat!
What quality of life are they giving their kids? They only want to satisfy their own selfish urge to procreate without thinking of consequences. I will never wanna be a social worker cos most of these ppl bring the predicament upon themselves. There’s never a day where I think “Having a kid will improve my financial situation.”
The lady who's pregnant, wears glasses, she deserves a caring and loving husband.Feel so sorry for the lady who lost her son. This is absolutely heartbreaking
She needs to learn how to properly take birth control pills. Her 2 little girls are already suffering from lack of proper food.
with a husband like that... sigh pity her
@@magnus1001 Dont always blame the wife, she must be very surprised more than anyone else. The husband should do vasectomy to avoid pregnancy. Also, he must work harder. He's just lazy old man.
@@yolandayuda
Nah, both of them are at fault.
@@yolandayuda yes the husband is a lazy fu* but lets face it a rsponible woman would close her legs or take medication...
Thanks CNA to make me realise that small things that I take for granted means a lot to others.
Muhammad Muzzammil CNA is trying to make you feel sorry for lazy idiots. Don’t feel sorry for them, encourage them to have some pride and not be so lazy and think of the consequences of their decisions:
@@snappersnapper3304 Don't think you should generalise. Was the lady whose son passed at a young age lazy, when she was too depressed to get out of her rut?
Snapper Snapper so easy for you to say. learn to see things in different perspectives. have empathy.
Muhammad , you are obviously a beautiful soul. Stay the same.
@@nictheguitarist I may agree.. depression can really make you paralyzed mentally in a way that it's hard to focus to get out of the mess that you're in for... experienced that for two and half years.. finally decided and realized that i've had enough
Me and my family lived in a 2 room flat in Woodlands. Family of 7. It was very tough, food was scarce, rushing for toilet as there was only 1, sleeping all over the place, fighting for place to study, no privacy all this. Fast forward, after all of us, the children, became adult we all had tertiary education, I worked in a pharmaceutical company took part time degree and got a good job. Finally was able to buy 5room flat for my family. To all those struggling, do everything in your capacity to improve, upgrade yourself so that you can have a better life than before.
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It breaks my heart to see children suffer because of irresponsible parents!
Yet certain religious group kept pushing for such irresponsibility.
Why blame the parents. At least they are providing the best for their children right ?.
Who are you to judge ?.
@@caedanteng5417
U must be brain dead to not see the root of the problem.
Caedan Teng taxpayer to judge, else you think the money come from minister donations?
@@RonLarhz there are some who support the child even they are starving some who doesn't.
But is not for us to judge. Correct is waste of tax payer money.
But think on the sentiment side of welfare how on earth is the parents is going to support their child in dire straits if they are truthfully supporting their best to the children?.
I rather don't have baby when your not financially ready.
Yes that's only responsible
Well said
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Exactly, I see immense sadness in poor families with multiple kids. The number of kids correlates with poverty, more kids equals a poorer quality of life. The current responsible trend is to stay single as it comes with eternal freedoms, blissful life without the worries of marriage problems and financial difficulties of raising kids in the most expensive country in the world.
right now you dont have. but think for your future generations n save stupid dumplings
90% of the comments being about them not having more children. And know what?
You guys are right.
If you are married, don judge. Its their right to hv children. Financial difficulty is unpredictable...today you are ok. Tomorrow, only god knows..
Leyla Mamat it’s predictable when you don’t think logically and do nothing improvement bout ur life and put those children born to the world, aren’t you wise enough to know that’s the reason to not bred some more. FYI, this is not judging yet instead a logical thinking only.
@@nelsoncharlesif yeah..today you have agood job..tomorrow you got vss? Lost job? Got terminated. I guess life is so.predictable to you guys. Good luck.
@@dotmerah6713 sure....u can say anything..if you are.looking at one perspective ONLY!
@@dotmerah6713 when chinese came to singapore, are they filthy rich? They damn poor. N yes..they breed. Y? Bcoz they know the importance of future.generation. not.like you, damn selfish.
Honestly, if you don't have money, you shouldn't have children either.. If you do so anyway, you're ruining your life and the children's life..
DrSweets Graal true
Ikr...
Unfortunately the ones without money tend to have more children who end up becoming a menace to society
@@H3adl3sschick3n dont say like that..who knows their children will be one of the great leader.
Sedap nya bercakap
I love Chuan Chuan's spirit. She definitely deserves a better husband. I really wish the best for her :(
Family planning should be made a compulsory course in Sec schools... Alot of hypertensive patients are working hard full time and exercising regularly so that they don't fall sick so easily and to maintain their health, I cannot begin to describe how lazy can a person get...
Dennis Tan used to be till it became overly successful
Family Planning is compulsary in Seconday School now, included as part of Sexual Education
I feel like adopting all the children in the video. Let them have lunch at my place, study here and go home peacefully every night after dinner and homework done. That's all. It's heartbreaking enough for the moms.
Wow what a great heart!!
This made me realised one thing. Family planning is very important. Man, kids are expensive to raise and if you’re not financial stable and couldn’t give the ones you have a good quality of life then you shouldn’t go and get somemore.
Underrated comment
@belltowndaisy4214Children should also not be deprived of food, clothing and a roof over their heads. Parents need to be responsible, specially in very expensive countries like Singapore. The government could help the children directly by offering them free breakfast at school or bear school, free luches, free clothes and free school materials so that the children at least do not have to suffer the poverty of the parents and sometimes the bad decisions of the parents.
@Belltown Daisy yes but if u can't afford basic needs and is already struggling then Parents have the responsibility
of not having more kids than they already had. Lets say u have 2 kids, and is already suffering why bring another in to make it suffer and also affect your life as well on the aspects of money.
@Belltown Daisy maybe have one or two then stop. If you know you cannot afford then why hv alot
When Adik Irman said "Alhamdulillah" at 12:46, I immediately teared up. I pray that you and your siblings grow up to be anak-anak yang soleh and taat Allah, taat Rasul, taat ibu dan dapat balas jasa ibu yang bertungkus lumus melahirkan dan membesarkan awak adik-beradik🤍
Condoms should be free for everybody . Kids pay with suffering bcs adults are not capable to control their reproducing system.
Actually all countries should support and privilege families with kids in order to make sure the next generations grow up healthy and sane for everybody's benefit.
But if it does not happen ,why should they be put through hardship since day one ?
I grew up in America on welfare. My dad worked so hard to get us out of the ghetto. It was so hard but really showed me to plan and prepare for my own future. As much as I would love a bigger family, we choose to only have 2 so we can give them everything. It's not about having more kids but what I want to be able to provide them with. Plan ahead.
At least they have a home to sleep, and not homeless living on street. But i agreed with most comment here. If u barely can feed yourself, don't have big family. Just have one child and raised him/her the best possible by giving the best education.
Having too many kids means you could not afford to raise them poperly and most possible will be wasted and neglected sooner than later.
My family only got one child (me) still low income... Nowadays people earning $6K combined only have one or max two kids so
The Chuan Chuan woman should leave her husband.... Its not good to place the lil girls in such an environment and she has diploma!! She met the wrong guy and ruined her life sigh
女人就怕嫁错郎。
Should leave this type of husband. Keep giving excuses not to work full time. And stupid excuses not change lifestyle and eating habits. In time to come if the husband falls ill which is quite likely based on his health issue, she will even have to take care of him!
@@tricialau3875 嫁错也要懂得底线，该离开就离开
Love is blind..😎😂
High blood pressure is not a good excuse to not take a full-time job... It can be managed with the right medication, which he could afford with that $2k/month salary... He's just plain lazy. It's pretty obvious. Chuan Chuan is probably with him because she thinks she can't take care of 3 children alone. My mom is a single mom with 4 kids... That husband is probably the source of their financial burden. Another alternative could be that the husband should just stay at home and take care of the children so the wife could get a job with good pay. She is clearly qualified. But too bad that "Sky" (like what kind of name is that?) is such a crappy and useless "man". And he'll be an even greater burden as they get older.
My dad worked two jobs, even when he was on dialysis. He had high blood pressure, diabetes, heart issues. The man never complained. I realize anew every day how lucky I was to have the father I did.
she elects to work in a fast food place instead of a high paying job because of her kids; she needs to stop having too many kids, and get rid of her bum husband.
She is 31 and her oldest daughter is 9... So she is about 22 when she first got pregnant? Lack of sex education at its best
steven chhu She doesn't seem to be the sharpest tool in the shed.
The husband made me laugh the most. Sure, he could get a job, and he could change his health and lifestyle, but he is too busy enjoying the fat of roast meat.
Dude chill she is my mom and i was the 9 year old kid
@@noonekun2581 is she actually your mom if so how are you doing does your father still have anger issues?
The other side of crazy rich Asian in Singapore😐
I hope they are more responsible and don't breed as they do
@@kmh9817 its their right to breed. Just bcoz u are not in their shoes..u are not suppose to say that. Dont judge
Even in the movie. Most of places is not located in Singapore but Malaysia.
@@mycodenameisejatt geez..i tot poor ppl is in philipines.
@@leylamamat215 Saying that poor people have the right to breed is just like saying criminals have a right to freedom, they don't. Criminals commit a crime and are excluded from society not only to protect society but to protect themselves as well (ie, rehabilitation in prison). Poor people who breed should also be excluded from this "right to breed" because they are not only a burden to society but themselves as well. Want to breed? Make sure you can afford the repercussions before doing so, or don't do it all.
i was once the same as them living in gov rental house , living on the government since the age of 8 but once i reach the age of 16 when i finished my secondary school i didn't enter ITE i work so hard to work out of this place and exit this place by all means , i did it on the age of 21 i purchase BTO with my mum and my younger brother forever saying goodbye to this place. now it's all depending on the children to make it out of this place i would say this place gave me a very good lesson in life.
Share more lei
Work what to get out this place?
Watching this.... I'm speechless of how poor some people could be in the so called developed country Singapore. I feel extremely blessed and grateful with what i have now... No water to survive? I would've been in major depression if im in her shoes.
Ms Esther Ho is the real hero in this! Keep it up. We need more people like her in this world.
Awww the kid when he said alhamdulillah. What a good boy!! Her mom's English is good too. Idk y but to feel that she is actually a smart person
His son is fruom Victoria. I saw the shirt.
Esther Ho have the toughest job in this world.. Salute to you Maam.. May you have more blessings cone to you..
Family planning and financial awareness is crucial and should be widely accessible to all families.
im so grateful to be malaysian after seeing these unfortunate families dealing with all the unpaid medical fees😢...in malaysian u will need to pay RM 1 minimum (0.3 SGD) to see the doctors at gov hosp...medical fees are highly subsidised by gov...stay strong dear fellow singaporean...i wish the best for you guys
Wow
1 RM ??? that's incredible
I heard in Malaysia, tooth extraction is RM1 each. I did tooth extraction 3 months ago and it cost me SGD150
Actually, they can get treatment for free if they applied for medifund
I am also thankful, I am Thai, every one who are Thai citizen can go to public hospital with cheap medical expenses. Some poor can get free service if get subsidised by the public hospital. Our prime minister Prayuth has already launched the emergency service with 48 hrs which all patient with unconscious can admit the nearby hospital including private one with no cost, this is supporting by government who will compensate to the hospital. If you have no place to sleep nor food, just get help from those temple and municipality. Now we have aging fund to every elderly people starting 60yrs onwards on monthly basis, cash to poor per month etc. Free education upto high school in public schools. If I have seen this clip, I always thought that Singaporean has good life.
My deepest condolences to the lady who’s son died. Poverty is a big cycle, I do feel for some families on a single income. Though hubby and I earning quite well, yet I do a strict budget. We make sure two kids are enough, we have taken all precautions.
If u dont have money....DONT BREED ...that SIMPLE ....
I have traveled few countries and I always visit the markets to check the foods most people consume, the countryside to view the culture and the locals and it's always the poor ones and get chance to live with them as much as possible. Having to experience it and knowing that its only a borrowed experience makes me thankful of what I have and respect these people who have lived this life and still surviving with chins up.
Why do they have so many kids when they're saying they dont have what all?
rajesh mohan because they have nothing to do..
@@chopkiller96 haha
like what happened to the kid, accidents happen
i know right, just stop over populating the earth
It is culture that has to be understood first. As westerners that have so much support, we cannot begin to relate. When you experience Asian culture, see the death rates, and get it that children look after their elders, it is nothing more than sadness that you can feel.
When her anak say “Alhamdulillah”. Tersentuh hati
when the kid say Alhamdulillah...i know she is a good mom....
I can feel her pain...I'm a single mum supporting my 2 boys...alhamdulillah both my son has grown up 28, 30 ....even though my pay is only 1000 per month ..I managed to endure the struggle ...have faith n believes in urself
"no matter what they have done in the past, children should take care of their parents..." Ms. Koh, while this is true in general for most normal and functional parent-child relationships, perhaps you ought to also put yourself in the shoes of some of those grownup children who refused to support their parents and understand their reasons - some scars simply cannot and will not heal.
I have personally looked after two teens under child protection whose mother was a compulsive gambler and was extremely aggressive and volatile, often threatening to chain the house gate and burn the whole family to death together or thrashing the entire flat and destroying the furniture whenever she fails to get money from her husband (the kids' father) to feed her gambling addiction or pay her debts. And she had on more than one occasion nearly stabbed or slashed the two kids during her tantrums when she would grab knives and choppers from the kitchen. There was even one ludicrous occasion when she dismantled the flat's main gate and door and left the parts on the ground before she happily went off on another gambling spree.
Harassment from creditors was also a regular occurrence and she even stole the husband's IC to borrow money (don't ask me how the moneylenders would accept someone else's ID). Ironically, it was fortunate that the creditors behaved in a relatively far more civil manner in comparison to this woman and did not cause any physical hurt to them. The father's substantial retirement savings, which could have allowed the family to live quite comfortably, were wiped out completely to pay for her never-ending gambling losses and loan shark debts, but she finds it perfectly justifiable that her husband should be the one bearing the duty to settle the debts she herself incurred for her own enjoyment.
Best part was, the father refused to take any action to safeguard the kids' well-being, including options such as obtaining a DEO and PPO, or to apply to ban her from the casinos despite urging from domestic violence counsellors simply because he was afraid she would divorce him! If the police and MSF had not intervened, the family would sooner or later have become part of the local murder-suicide statistics.
Being filial is a reciprocating behaviour to repay the love and care that parents provided for children when they were young. When parents fail woefully in their duty as caregivers and protectors through their very own fault and selfish choices, they should not expect their children to play the same provider role to them in their old age.
When I saw Sky's interview I understood why his family is in this state. Its because of him and his thinking.
Both my wife and I are blind. We have three healthy kids. I am the only one working to support the family. My wife is not working and we are not on welfare from SSO.
I have high blood but I stay away from the nice food which he said is nice because I know if I am down my whole family will go down with me. You can eat those nice food once in awhiile but not everyday.
He said he can easily get a high paid job earning more so he should be a man and take up the responsibility get his health back start eating healthy and start exercising. 2k a month is not alot don't overthink. You cannot have the best of everything. Start doing something.
I cried watching this story, I have no idea Singapore have so many people with economy issue. This is a serious issue, I wish I can do something to help.
Can vote the rich millionaires out... BUT
my poor heart ugh bruh... do u even watch the video?
Some of them need help. But they at the same time help themselves and know they cant rely so much on government. While others want people to take pity of them and expect people to help them.
@@peterchew4018 ?? U do realise that the many subsidies given to them are from taxpayers $?? And the higher income u are the more u pay... If u vote those rich people out who will provide these funds for the poor??
There's much much more poor and hungry and worst still homeless....what is our "leaders" doing ????
I used to live here.. blk 61 from 1994-1999.. made many friends and many great memories we made while we were young..we are really close till now.. there was a couple named Mickey chiang and Auntie Meiling.. they really took care of us, send us to tuitions, got us schools to study,and thanks to them.. all of us now are not rich but able to live and buy our own houses, alhamdulillah.. i thank god for all these good souls... and May our beloved late Uncle Mickey rest in peace and may Allah grant him paradise.. Thanks for all these good people in our lives..
Very insightful video! Here is an inspirational saying by Japanese writer and philosopher Josei Toda: "Even though you may be poor (physically or financially), you mustn't be poor at heart." ♥
Try not to have so many children if can't afford cos need to feed n give them proper education n life..
Quality is better than quantity..many said children are a blessing but if we can't afford to feed them what is this call? Family planning is very important..everything is so expensive this Gen. .
Inilah dia hidup diduniA .aku pun pernah Ada disituasi seperti ini .tidak punyA Wang Satu sen pun terpaksa tebalkan muka dapatkan bantuan $$$ dari sosial welfare.sekitar 2-3tahun lamanya.namun sekarang alhamdulillah itu semua sudah berlalu Dan kini aku sudah tk punyA masaalah $$$$lagi.hidup seadanya.aman.sekiranya aku berkemampuan,aku Akan Bantu mereka mereka yg memerlukan.
Alhamdulilah
Alhamdulilah..dlm rezeki kita ada rezeki org jgk
When I was still young I didn’t understand why my mummy asked me to eat my breakfast everyday before I goes to school, until I see this video then I realised that I was fortunate enough to have pocket money and enough food to eat Everyday.
12:48 when her kid said “alhamdulilah” upon knowing his mum is gonna receive financial support :’)))
What a burden to society
@@masterthonny3202 WOW
@@masterthonny3202 You're a burden to humanity.
@@D_Shade by being honest?
master Thonny Wow look, an edge lord.
Singapore is a very fortunate country. If you ask me as a foreign worker here. You've never seen what "poor" is back in my country. Hope they can better their lives. It saddens me also seeing the children suffering
Sad...but still better than Hong Kong's poor ! Public housing is better than Coffin rooms !
To the ladies in the series if you are reading this I want you to know that you guys are amazing, strong and brave to share your story with us. Life is never easy but your guys are surrounded with love from your kids. There's no such thing as a smooth journey, people will judge you, tell you not to have to many kids but I'm sure if they were in your shoes I don't think they can last a day, they most probably kill themselves and let their kids to rot alone.
That's nice of you.I come from a family of 4 siblings.It was a struggle with hunger and many other issues.But now we are all successful in our own rights.i wish people would be kinder with their words.no one wants to live this kind of life.
There will be no poor kids if you don't have them in the first place!
Michelle Topham Withdrawal idiot. It doesn't cost anything. These poor people are short on common sense.
@@MichelleTopham this is singapore! R u even local???
@@MichelleTopham read my other reply (another post)
Exactly, I see immense sadness in poor families with multiple kids. The number of kids correlates with poverty, more kids equals a poorer quality of life. The current responsible trend is to stay single as it comes with eternal freedoms, blissful life without the worries of marriage problems and financial difficulties of raising kids in the most expensive country in the world.
@@contrarian2496 but ofc the children themselves shld also work hard to give themselves a better future (saying this as a child from low income) and dont 100% blame their circumstances... Bc some children from poor fam manage to be successful
Esther Ho (MSF) you will be blessed, good Karma will come to you.
@22:14 - Just because he has hypertension, he works part time; that was a lame excuse. He is indeed a lazy fellow. One can control hypertension by medication and type of food consumption.
You should go through a long term hypertension to understand how the medication affects you and your memory even. Only recently they removed a drug from prescription because after more than 20 years it was realised that it caused damage to the kidneys. Stop condemning people who are sick. Hypertension is usually in the genetics, just like heart problems. Exercise helps a bit. Counseling sessions always advise the family members not to blame the person with hypertension, it is already depressing to suffer it. For some it affects them to the point of depression. Spare some thought, have a heart. If you can't help, best be quiet.
@@nickash5 - I have hypertension since 41 and diabetes since 46. By medication the doctor controlled my hypertension to 140/90. I worked till the age of 67 with very few medical leave. It was how one managed it with his responsibilities to his family's need especially when he had school going children and wife having a bare minimum salary job. With government helping out, some didn't want to put their best effort. You're entitled to your view and I'm entitled to mine based on my own experience. So, sorry I cannot keep quiet.
@@minmaungmaung8129 you are free to speak for yourself. Other people have lives you do not live and psychology different from yours. We can't classify them as useless or lazy. Only the people related to them have to make a personal decision on the situation. If the family can help them and most will still do. It's true that in these situations, living apart might ease tensions. But to teach the other family members to despise or look down on the person is never right even though that person has character flaws. I speak from experience by trying to help all kinds of people. Most don't change. Or change very slowly. Give them their space and privacy. Let them learn to live in a positive way. The same people I try to help hit back at me in anger at times. The other people just condemn them and leave these people to their problematic ways. If the young people online start thinking they should treat these people badly, that will be the decline of society.
Uncle everyone is different. Some are more tolerant others are not.
So why you should judge ?.
@@caedanteng5417 Why didn't you do anything to defend the sick man. You accept the condemnation of that man. It is the indifference to such comments from the people who choose to condemn unfairly, especially the poor, sick or weak, no one to help them, this indifference is the sign of regression in your society. Should I tolerate it? I think I do. You are telling me to ignore these comments. Some people commenting are just ignorant or bored but whatever they put up influence the weak mind. Can be sure you people are rallying for the wrong political reasons. Actors, actors, comment, comment. The day you see actors going out to help these underprivileged, then they become real people. Should anyone tolerate malice towards the poor? Calling them useless? Unbelievable trash, to describe them as such. 🙄
I loved most when the son says 💖Alhamdulillah💖 his very happy and thankful he understand life🙏Ya Allah,Blessed this kid Amiin😔
I praise God for blessing me with so much.
The other side of Singapore no one sees
I am a Singaporean they get fas for school 10 dollar for bus fare in ezlink card 4 dollar a day for school to eat each bla boa bla its not real
@@DarkwearGT wait what do you mean ?
@@DarkwearGT 4dollar a day is ok, my friend get 15 dollar a week
@stephen kroll
You will see 20 years again.
When poppulation singapore double, where will they live later ?
these series are so important. honestly the underrated lives in singapore that people don't know of. I really wish the best for these people. :/
I never knew how hard living in Singapore...for the poorest community in Singapore..May god ease you and bless them..
Love drom Malaysia..
Here I am...drawing about 4k and thinking I am "poor". Because compared to my friends, I am very very behind. I thought I was "poor" because I couldn't buy many things I want (not a need). Sometimes I get upset that I couldn't travel much, not enough money to buy my own hdb, no money to buy car, etc etc. Now that I see this...really change my perspective. Maybe...I'm just like the usual Singaporeans who likes to complain
Who u kidding.
4k cant buy hdb?! U have spending issue but kbkp.zzzz
@@RonLarhz Use cpf can buy la. But not enough to reno. I'm only in my mid 20s. But spend too much is also true... :(
@@happyleaf9635
This kind of salary is enough to save for hdb n go on holiday at least once a year lor. Priorities n budgeting u dunno meh? To even have such salary u gotta have some smarts what.
I barely ur half then is real gg uh. Aft transport n food n phone bill, at most only save 1k 10years only 100k not even enough to buy 2rm bto. U can easily save 2k min per mth.
By 35(singles can only buy @35yr old)u can buy 3rm + reno alr lor. Plus if u gt marry can combine n get 4 or 5rm liao lor. U dunno how lucky u r to be above avg income.
Whatever it is..thats ur money my friend..people can only say things or advise the better things..but its up to u..ur life, u decide & its ur call..and may god bless u my friend..
I'm in my late 20s and I earn less than $2.5k. And you earn $4k and it's not enough? Priorities, my friend. Reno can pay by instalment. I'm sure you can manage. Or go DIY.
Who am i to pass judgement on those that are not as fortunate. I can only whisper a soft prayer that their lives will get better and their children will have a brighter future.
12:40 when the kid said alhamdulillah, my tears started to pour 😭
1) If we really have the feeling that we’re not going to make it in this world, try our very best as not to have kids unless we were once doing good but somehow something unlucky befall us. However the poor of the world everywhere are with lots of kids, I cannot figure this out. I might be highly naive of this although highly educated and well read, I admit it. But that’s my on the spot thinking on the matter and what I would do if I know I’m up against incoming current in my life. My apology for the thoughts.
2) No matter how poor we are, never never let our mother and father be hungry or just leave them. Share even our small piece of fish slice three way with mother and father and make sure they are happy with the little we have. Hunger will not be felt if we take good care of our parents. This, I have experienced.
3) Awwww come on governments of the world. You can do better than this.
With regards to point 1, this is also extremely prominent in other developing countries. If you take a look at the extreme poor in countries like the Philippines, they tend to have more than 4 kids. To many of us, myself included, it seems silly to have more kids when you can barely afford to take care of 1.
I think one reason the poor tend to have more kids is because they see their kids as a way to break out of the poverty cycle. Having more kids = higher chance of 1 one of them making it in life = a chance to bring the family out of the poverty cycle. It's essentially a slippery slope fallacy/mindset.
When they are poor, they literally have nothing else to lose and they tend to have a very desperate mindset. Having kids to them is like buying the lottery. They know that it is costing them money, but with their desperation mentality, the 'what ifs' start to surface. "What if one of my kids is very smart, can get a scholarship, study well and earn big bucks". I mean, they are already SO poor. They have no capability to further their education, nor find a better paying job, and they are growing older and weaker each day. At that point in time, having a child is like altering their fate, and having a new chance at a better life - so they take their chances. They are aware that it will cost them even more to finance additional kids, but to them it's buying hope albeit uncertain. It is not a rational solution, but rationality don't operate in desperate minds.
Kylie E with your logic, you buy multiple tickets, you still can lose all.
@@Melcor2304 That's exactly it. If you have nothing left to lose, you can't lose any more than the little that you already have. That's how many of the extreme poor think. Yes they are barely surviving and they probably could 'save' more with fewer kids. But at that kind of poverty level, they rather take their chances at having more kids even if they cannot afford if it means a chance at a better life, than to take a chance at increasing their standard of living - an ideal that they feel they can never reach.
It's quite ironic, but it's how it is. Ever lost a game and just gave up the whole game in totality? It's the same kind of mindset.
@Sid:
I also question the logic of having more kids than you can feed. Makes no logical sense.
Agree ss well on the parents thing, a son/daughter is not obligated to feed their parents but it is their honor to do so. Responsible parents won't treat their kids as retirement funds. Responsible parents prepare their for their own retirement.
Partial agree on government. They should have medical subsidies and emergency food stubs or similar BUT each individual adult should work to try and fix his/her own situation as well. Government didn't put a gun on your head and tell you to make more babies. So as long as adults are responsible, any unforeseen issues...sickness and such... govt there to help. But if the adult is stupid and makes kids while not earning enough for his/her family....that's not the government's fault.
Esther Ho, you have a real good heart and full of understanding. God bless you my dear.
At 12:50..her kids spontaneously said Alhamdulillah... And I was.. MasyaAllah nakkk.. Allah bless you nak.. 🙂
Her husband is more like a chao Keng recruit..
Omg! really looked like those recruit haha
Choices in life
$20 to his father... his son really think he is a beggar? F son
@@dotmerah6713 and yet the women marry those uncles
Armygreen 30 recruits are at least very lean and fit...this one looks like a tub of melted ice cream
I've been to Singapore at least 100x since I was a baby to this day. Never have I known poverty on this level happens in Singapore. Please people, DO NOT HAVE MULTIPLE KIDS WHEN YOU LIVE BELOW POVERTY LINE! It's really not fair to give this quality of life to those innocent children
That ending bit where the husband was using his belt to threaten someone off screen really upset me. Hope the production team was able to step in or a police. :(
I'm ashamed to be called Singaporean when I read the comments section. If anything, we have failed as a community. I hope we can be better than this.
@bruce don't be ashamed, you are lucky to be a Singaporean. I am forever grateful to have Singapore as my first foreign trip. Singapore also helped my cousin financially while working as a nanny. We Filipinos has strong Family Ties that I don't see in Singapore, just help each other but don't spoon feed. Good luck and I wish you success.
As a Singaporean. I feel you. Well... talk is easy mar. Give comments and feedback who dont know...
completely agree, so many ignorant, short-sighted bigots in the comments section i rly am embarrassed
@@ianendangan7462 um this is not about money. he's talking about how there are so many ignorant comments. that's shameful.
Stay pressed lol
I broke down when Salbiah's son said "alhamdulillah" after she said what they're getting from welfare :')
nobody:
Malaysian Chinese: Singapore is the best liaw, the gomen take so much care of the people....
12:47 his son said alhamdulillah 😢 allahu akbar
To those who are suffering due to unforeseen circumstances, I pray that you have better days ahead. Don’t lose hope 🙏🏽
There is a word called 'family planning'. Practice it
If they practice everything on the rule book they will not be poor. Most people made really bad decisions in life to become poor .
They Frick too much
They frick unsafely too much
Have more money abundance can produce more baby.
Kalau Malaysian pergi Singapore, sesetengah penduduk Singapore pandang rendah kt Malaysian unless kau pakai barang berjenama mahal. Padahal ni reality kehidupan kt Singapore ada yg kaya, ada yg memerlukan. So be kind lah to one another. Taraf kita sama je
Betul. Sesama rumpun Melayu tak kisah spore, malay or indo. Semua sama sahaja. Best tengok USA mereka always kind and tak pandang kaya miskin. Salam from Indonesia
Siapa yang pandang rendah tak pakai jenama mahal? Ramai yang tak pakai jenama mahal di singapore...
Sis tak da siapa pun yg pandang rendah pd Malaysians....justru Malaysians lah yg pandang rendah pd Singaporeans....
@@shhshh9631
Ya malaysian selalu pandang rendah negara lain.
Hanya british tuan mereka.
@@dore3faso6sido astagfirullah hal azim.
Kenapa anda menghina seteruk itu. Sukarno sudah lama meninggal. Kenapa anda masih mahu percaya fitnahnya
Stop producing so many kids if you can't feed them.
Simple as that..
Malay need Condon.😂
at 20:13 Sky Quek knows the solution to his HP problem, but he is not prepared to make the change to his life style.
I can't stand Chuan Chuan's husband. Lazy af. If he truly cares for the family he will do his best to be healthy so that he can provide for them a better environment. 打女人？你不是男人!
Sky La when he say 叉烧不肥哪里好吃
I vomit. Beh tahan
Disgusting guys
you same name as him, his name is also Sky haha
@@spadypoonpeepee I'm SkyLA... Not Sky and most importantly, I am a female and I will always say 只要是动手打人就不对。
How can a father of 3 behavior like this?
Well, some people just happen to want to ride on others' misery. ..
Looking around at other poor and impoverished groups of people in the world. The common denominator seems to be the lack of birth control leading to over stretching a family's limited resources. I was born in Singapore and my father had eight children and we were impoverished. So poor that I had to leave school after Year 10, unable to continue to HSC because I had to find work to support my father and family.
Fast forward fifty years. I learnt from that lesson and have only two children. Now I live very comfortably in another country (not that it matters) and at 72, I still work in the IT industry. I got here by working , educating myself, living a clean and healthy lifestyle and creating good Karma. When you help others worst off than yourself, things seem to fall into place when you least expected it. It is not luck but good Karma.
Few people will agree with me, but good Karma also means not bringing another child into this world at a time when you cannot afford to provide. Especially if you live in a society where family planning is available.
No, I will not say you are poor. What I went through in my early years is nothing compared to being poor in some countries where daily life is rummaging through a rubbish tip filled with used syringes and bandages, to look for scraps. What I had was apples and fruits left on some street corners with joss sticks that people used to leave as prayer offerings.
I really don't understand why do people have so many kids when they know they have financial issues
Electroblubluツ some people get away their chance to say no
Their only entertainment is sex
Chuan Chuan, get your hubby to be more involved in parenting I.e fetching your kids etc so you can commit to a full time job? There are many ftwm who rushes to pick up their kids while juggling work too. I’m sure you can do it with some determination and self confidence!
The 7yrs old son heard that they're getting $800 from the Social Service. His first word really break my heart. He said "Praise to God"
An utter waste of precious resources
Why the hell should the kids pay an allowance to a man that left them. This is a joke right?
I do understand their point of view, been there before...BUT one thing that really stops them from moving foward is the complaining and excuses (I'm talking about the uncle).... From the uncle's lesson, what could he have done to prevent such things from happening while he's in the past, I bet there's plenty of opportunities for him to improve his financial standing or his financial education to live a financially secure life....
1. Having too many kids but cannot afford the living.
2. Having so many kids that none even cant take care you when you're old.
I succeed overcoming both above..\o/.. thank god for giving me strength for me to work my ass off to provide a living for my families and taking care of my parents.
my heart is heavy for the children when parents bring them into the world to suffer...the nes who do work and earn barely enough to provide for themselves...the dog who is so thin....but i am upset for parents who keeps having kids irresponsibly....
7:30 Esther, you just showed how poor you are within. How can you empathize with such pride.
what's going on?
14:24 it breaks my heart whenever i see a mother or a father who doesnt have financial support coming from the childrens. They didnt even think that if not because of them they will not enjoy the life that they achieving right now. I am very fortunate and proud to say that i came from the culture that we taking care our parents in return for their sacrifices 🇵🇭 🙂☺️🙂
Children never ask to be born. It is not right to say that the children are responsible for the welfare of their parents.
20:28 I really don’t think he is in a position to say that... 😖 I mean look around you! This last family is just 🤨... Not getting a higher paying job coz of flexibility and convenience issues?? I mean really...?? The only consideration I see here is just to make more money ASAP. The mom needs to force the dad to get up and do some work. Nothing will change if they won’t change themselves.
Trueee. She could get 1000$ job, her husband could get 2000$ job. Her husband's just lazy and a pig. And want to make babies a lot. Isn't that like child abuse?
Only one person need to pick up kids and work part time! And still have kids. But both don’t want to work a proper job. Omg.
the mark of an irresponsible man. He loves himself more than his family.
@@kagome2420 some people (esp working mothers) work full time then when they go back home they take care of their kids , all without a maid or grandparents....
Malay Singapore be strong kept in remembrance to All Mighty.
I really appreciate that CNA has made videos touching on the experiences of those who are struggling in Singapore. However, it just troubles me that the children's *names* and faces are put up online for everyone to see (that too - for a life experience they may want for to be private in the future). I'd recommend that such personal information be censored for those who cannot consent to its release.
nabilakhan agree
Thank you for this video. It is important to understand what others are going through and to help other people if we can. That’s how I feel. The children did not choose their circumstances. My heart breaks for the mother who lost her son. I’m sorry for her pain. 💔
I live in Indonesia, my family is in middle economic class, neither poor nor rich. In here life is more comfortable and relaxed, naturally, we were given a very fertile place to live, our country's territory is very wide. We are very familiar with neighbors especially with friends. I am not discrediting Singapore, Singapore is our proud neighbor.
I just want to invite you to think a little about life. I don't know whether being a highly developed and highly competitive country is better or not. My country is under development, my country's economic development is very strong. But I'm worried that being a developed country will change our lifestyle, all we can think about is money and work. Compete against friends to make the conglomerate happy.
The mother who lost her son , she had me crying in the first few mins my god the pain is palpable
i don feel anything for last case, especially that husband bochap attitude, rather part time
Look at him giving blatant excuses as to why he dosent wanna work FT
I honestly felt the same way. I feel sorry for the children. Issue on helping families like this is the fact that it will only encourage the "Father" to be even lazier ... MCYS has their hand really filled and having to reject families with children are always the hardest.
How can the last case the Husband still so blatantly upright so arrogant about not being able to work FT...
@@kenpereira ye man respect to these social workers! Getting their hands dirty to reject families or even have to get cussed out by the families
chuan chuan is so well spoken, she can do so much better.
Irman's mom seems like she's doing her best. Glad there is some help for her... hope their life gets better.
whoever watched or watching this video... the life in this country is as simple as this... THE RICH GETS RICHER AND THE POOR GETS POORER... sums it all
These kind of content makes me grateful, I don't have any kid.
That's the mother's love, they'll do anything for their kids, it is still to see what the child can do for the mother in future when they grew up.
Wow. I am curious about this area. Bukit merah in Singapore. I see only merlion when I come for holiday in Singapore 🙏🙏
Someday when I am going to Singapore again. I will try to find this area and want to know about they're life. I am sad to see them life. 🙏🙏 Singapore is expensive for living if we have not enough salary to living in Singapore.
Just a word of caution, not trying to be nasty here. But I have relatives who lived in rental flats at Bedok, they said themselves that people living in rental flats are very "complicated" and would not advised anyone to just walk in to those flats for no reason... Can be dangerous especially if you're not familiar with the surroundings... Be careful!!