Been there 1,5 years ago. Thought I will never be happy again, couldn’t eat or sleep anymore and could feel any sort of happiness in me for months and months…trust me on this guys: IT WILL GET BETTER and I promise you that! I started studying and changed my life, my mindset, met new friends and I’m the happiest I have ever been in my life now. I never believed it just like you… but the pain will fade eventually. Take care of yourself, do everything good FOR YOU only. You all can and will make it out if this pain and you will be even happier than ever. Trust me.
I absolutelly agree with you👍 it took me about 6 months tho to stop crying when I heard some songs or someone playing a bass, to think less, to start socialising, small steps. It's year this week of no contact. I know everybody is different and everybody's breakup, reason for was different but if someone did you dirty, devalued etc. you will need more time and that's ok and NEVER EVER contact that individual for any reason. You will get through it but you need to keep healing🤗 I recommend videos with positive affirmations and self-love healing music.
We were together 8 years then apart for 3! We kept in touch during the breakup and stayed civil, but never spoke about our personal lives. Then finally she messaged about seeing me and we started up again. Everything seemed different in a good way. She was more open and relaxed, it felt like we moved on from so many of our past problems. Then about a year in, the old "her" started creeping back in. About another 6 months go by, and she dumps me again thru a Facebook message. She could never do the hard stuff face to face. And now she is with someone new already. I doubt she will ever come back again, but if she does I have to be ready to say absolutely not. I love her but don't want to go thru losing her ever again. This is awful
We were together for 7 years. I loved her so much. Long story short she left me and kicked me out of her life from one day to another to “find herself”. I felt like dying, I was crying for months, I lost a ton of weight. It was either stay that way or be a man and find myself too. Fast forward a few years and I am doing better then I ever have. I am extremely in shape now, I have a good job, I look much better, I feel much better, I can even say that I’m happy with life. Life is what you make it
Thank you for your videos) Some time ago I managed to get 'to the other side' due to your videos. Now I have to get through this journey again. It hurts so much, but I'm holding onto your podcasts for now)
I've had breakups before, mostly amicable and healthy. They hurt for a little while, but nothing I couldn't think through or work around. My most recent breakup has been the worst pain I have ever experienced. I didn't even think it was possible to feel like this without dying. It sounds dramatic, but it's true. It's been six weeks and I'm only just now starting to go more than a few hours without crying, while he's off with another woman, living his best life (or pretending to). It does get better, guys. Appreciate your small victories. There isn't a timeline for healing, so don't beat yourself up if you're not feeling okay after a few weeks. You will when it's time and, by that point, you may not even notice how much better you're doing because you won't even be thinking about it as much. It'll just be a realization you come to one day while you're doing the dishes or brushing your hair or whatever. Keep your heads up!
He helped me as well. After some time you will be better and a new path will open for you. Then one day, if you did your best and won the inner battle, you will see why it was worth it. This is only helping you for better. Unless you have kids with then it’s complicated..
Totally agree, a breakup is dreadful pain, I have lost loved ones that passed but nothing like the pain of my marriage break up. Its like someone cutting across your heart with broken glass and that person is still alive, you are grieving a live person :( its dreadful
I haven’t heard from her in 2 weeks literally feels like I’m dying I can’t explain it I go to the gym and lie there in tears under the bar!! Wtf is going on with me why am I reacting so badly? How can the other person just crack on with life
I’m sorry to hear that. That sounds awful. “How can someone crack on with their life” is the wrong question to ask because it means you’re more focused on your ex than yourself. You’re both on very different journeys at this point in time. Focus on your path and give her the gift of your silence. It’s going to be okay.
No! She is bread crumming you. They do this to see if they can still manipulate you & see how fast you will respond. Wait a week or 2 before responding to her. Pace yourself, she waited 2 weeks to reply to you. Mirror her actions towards you. Good luck. 👍
I just gave her a thumbs up and deleted the message even if it is a breadcrumb I’ve given her a pointless response. She didn’t blank me for two weeks I just told her to never contact me because she wants to be just friends basically she can’t commit due to family and societal pressures. Break up happened in February it’s been pretty much like this since we have met and had a good time she admitted having feelings but then runs away. Breadcrumbing me makes no sense after 7 months she’s either evil or confused
I'm 6 weeks into post break up, which happened because I said the most hurtful things imaginable and my ex would not come back to me after that as too much damage was done. No matter how much she tells me this, I still hoped and latched on to the idea that soon enough she would miss me and come back to me. Last week she would show signs of missing me and we actually started talking but I got my hopes up and she said the same thing...too much damage was done and now I feel like I have start all over again
Sorry to hear that, buddy. I suggest using this time to heal and maybe look at therapy to help you deal with this, and to understand why you said what you said. If you don’t address it, you’ll do the same in your next relationship.
I totally agree and often wish he’d have died instead of leaving me for someone else. Least then I wouldn’t have to question everything, it would be final and I could move on. No one would be trashing him and trying to rush me into a divorce and to change my name which has been my identity for the last 11 years. No one expects you to change you name after a death. I could go and talk to his grave and tell him all the things I used to tell him but instead I’m left with no one to tell other than a diary. Then there’s the mental image of him with his affair partner while I’m still in our home with all our memories and alone. I also have lots of friends who are all happily married and now treat me like cheating is contagious and they don’t want it happening to them. This is a very lonely place to be so yeah I really think death would have been better
She came back to me. She reached out a month and half ago which I ignored because I thought she was just trying to mess with me. Just last week I messaged her saying I'd been thinking about her recently to which she was shocked that I messaged her, yet happy, and said the same thing. 6 months in total it has been
Been there 1,5 years ago. Thought I will never be happy again, couldn’t eat or sleep anymore and could feel any sort of happiness in me for months and months…trust me on this guys: IT WILL GET BETTER and I promise you that! I started studying and changed my life, my mindset, met new friends and I’m the happiest I have ever been in my life now. I never believed it just like you… but the pain will fade eventually. Take care of yourself, do everything good FOR YOU only. You all can and will make it out if this pain and you will be even happier than ever. Trust me.
Well done! 😊😊👏👏.
Glad to hear you’re doing better.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Thanks. And by the way you and other channels were helping a lot along the way! Keep up the great work!
I absolutelly agree with you👍 it took me about 6 months tho to stop crying when I heard some songs or someone playing a bass, to think less, to start socialising, small steps. It's year this week of no contact. I know everybody is different and everybody's breakup, reason for was different but if someone did you dirty, devalued etc. you will need more time and that's ok and NEVER EVER contact that individual for any reason. You will get through it but you need to keep healing🤗 I recommend videos with positive affirmations and self-love healing music.
Thank you..much appreciated.
We were together 8 years then apart for 3! We kept in touch during the breakup and stayed civil, but never spoke about our personal lives. Then finally she messaged about seeing me and we started up again. Everything seemed different in a good way. She was more open and relaxed, it felt like we moved on from so many of our past problems. Then about a year in, the old "her" started creeping back in. About another 6 months go by, and she dumps me again thru a Facebook message. She could never do the hard stuff face to face. And now she is with someone new already. I doubt she will ever come back again, but if she does I have to be ready to say absolutely not. I love her but don't want to go thru losing her ever again. This is awful
How are you now?
We were together for 7 years. I loved her so much. Long story short she left me and kicked me out of her life from one day to another to “find herself”. I felt like dying, I was crying for months, I lost a ton of weight. It was either stay that way or be a man and find myself too. Fast forward a few years and I am doing better then I ever have. I am extremely in shape now, I have a good job, I look much better, I feel much better, I can even say that I’m happy with life. Life is what you make it
Congrats man!
Thank you for your videos)
Some time ago I managed to get 'to the other side' due to your videos. Now I have to get through this journey again. It hurts so much, but I'm holding onto your podcasts for now)
I’m sorry you’re going through it again. The channel, my facebook group and one to one services are here you should need them. 😊
Hey Nick Nick like I always say ,you're always on time with your videos, I apreciate it.
I spy on all of you! 😈😈🤣🤣
I've had breakups before, mostly amicable and healthy. They hurt for a little while, but nothing I couldn't think through or work around. My most recent breakup has been the worst pain I have ever experienced. I didn't even think it was possible to feel like this without dying. It sounds dramatic, but it's true. It's been six weeks and I'm only just now starting to go more than a few hours without crying, while he's off with another woman, living his best life (or pretending to). It does get better, guys. Appreciate your small victories. There isn't a timeline for healing, so don't beat yourself up if you're not feeling okay after a few weeks. You will when it's time and, by that point, you may not even notice how much better you're doing because you won't even be thinking about it as much. It'll just be a realization you come to one day while you're doing the dishes or brushing your hair or whatever. Keep your heads up!
Thanks Nick, this dropped just at the right time for me
He helped me as well. After some time you will be better and a new path will open for you. Then one day, if you did your best and won the inner battle, you will see why it was worth it. This is only helping you for better. Unless you have kids with then it’s complicated..
My pleasure, Lillian. I hope it helped.
Totally agree, a breakup is dreadful pain, I have lost loved ones that passed but nothing like the pain of my marriage break up. Its like someone cutting across your heart with broken glass and that person is still alive, you are grieving a live person :( its dreadful
I haven’t heard from her in 2 weeks literally feels like I’m dying I can’t explain it I go to the gym and lie there in tears under the bar!! Wtf is going on with me why am I reacting so badly? How can the other person just crack on with life
I’m sorry to hear that. That sounds awful.
“How can someone crack on with their life” is the wrong question to ask because it means you’re more focused on your ex than yourself.
You’re both on very different journeys at this point in time. Focus on your path and give her the gift of your silence.
It’s going to be okay.
Ok so just after I posted this after two weeks of f all she’s text me a link to some trainers asking if they are nice? I mean wtf should I respond?
No! She is bread crumming you. They do this to see if they can still manipulate you & see how fast you will respond. Wait a week or 2 before responding to her. Pace yourself, she waited 2 weeks to reply to you. Mirror her actions towards you. Good luck. 👍
Can you give a context of the breaup? What happened?
I just gave her a thumbs up and deleted the message even if it is a breadcrumb I’ve given her a pointless response. She didn’t blank me for two weeks I just told her to never contact me because she wants to be just friends basically she can’t commit due to family and societal pressures. Break up happened in February it’s been pretty much like this since we have met and had a good time she admitted having feelings but then runs away. Breadcrumbing me makes no sense after 7 months she’s either evil or confused
I needed this, now more than ever
I hope it helped 😊
great video man! really appreciate it. 14years relationship with a 4.5 year old kid just gone pooof fml :)
Not just gone buddy. You created memories. Cherish them, and use them to help write the next chapter of your story.
I'm 6 weeks into post break up, which happened because I said the most hurtful things imaginable and my ex would not come back to me after that as too much damage was done. No matter how much she tells me this, I still hoped and latched on to the idea that soon enough she would miss me and come back to me. Last week she would show signs of missing me and we actually started talking but I got my hopes up and she said the same thing...too much damage was done and now I feel like I have start all over again
Sorry to hear that, buddy. I suggest using this time to heal and maybe look at therapy to help you deal with this, and to understand why you said what you said. If you don’t address it, you’ll do the same in your next relationship.
I totally agree and often wish he’d have died instead of leaving me for someone else. Least then I wouldn’t have to question everything, it would be final and I could move on. No one would be trashing him and trying to rush me into a divorce and to change my name which has been my identity for the last 11 years. No one expects you to change you name after a death. I could go and talk to his grave and tell him all the things I used to tell him but instead I’m left with no one to tell other than a diary. Then there’s the mental image of him with his affair partner while I’m still in our home with all our memories and alone. I also have lots of friends who are all happily married and now treat me like cheating is contagious and they don’t want it happening to them. This is a very lonely place to be so yeah I really think death would have been better
Same thing happened to me a few weeks ago. How are you doing now buddy? I'm having a hard time forgiving myself
She came back to me. She reached out a month and half ago which I ignored because I thought she was just trying to mess with me. Just last week I messaged her saying I'd been thinking about her recently to which she was shocked that I messaged her, yet happy, and said the same thing. 6 months in total it has been
@@kickboomuk798 Thanks for the update. Wishing you the best
I just break up with my ex a month ago.. i feel numb .. not happy, not sad ..
One week
Me too
@@mariopensotti1015 be strong brother.