@@shawnaa02593 Maybe by realizing overthinking actually makes you lose control on the situation? I'm an overthinking machine too so I know how it feels. But, like Mel said, the "What if's" loops actually makes you feel worse, will thinking "What if it all works out?" actually allows you to breathe and find solutions for everything. And if what you're constantly thinking about is not something you can control anyway, then you can think to yourself, "What's the problem about? What can I do to overcome it and where do I start?" and your brain will calm down because it knows where to start. It knows it can do something, in other words, it knows it's in control. This is the opposite of anxiety!
I am so guilty for watching tons of YT videos and reading tons of self help books. Yet I rarely make a change, until someone like Mel start speaking directly to me and holding me accountable.
Mel I wanted to share my story with you.5 years ago back in Iran,I was sitting on my bed feeling hopeless and frustrated.As a woman I felt I was stuck in that country.I wanted to do something for my life but I didn’t have the courage to take action.Then I found you on RUclips and started watching your videos multiple times.Your insights changed my mode of thinking dramatically and the funny thing is that they were super profound but easy to apply at the same time.Because of your insights,I got out of Iran and made it to Turkey and after 2 years I got the admission for a PhD program here in the US.Now I live a life I was dreaming about.I have freedom as a woman.I have confidence as a human being and I have the power to support my family.Not only Am I surviving but also thriving.Thank you Mal,I appreciate you from the very bottom of my heart. Your biggest Fan,Maryam❤
"Paralysis by analysis" is REAL, and I do sometimes "get in my head" but what has helped me was taking action even a small one. For me, small action proceeds motivation and not the other way around. Thank you Mel.
I'm a nervous wreck from not having a job (tight financial situation). A thought of getting a job that rips me out of my comfort zone, my bubble, my home, from my beloved hobbies... gives me just as bad, if not worse, anxiety. I overthink everything, I'm so afraid of messing something up because I don't understand it... I should change things in my life... but I just couldn't be arsed to do it. I may start, but give up in a few days.
This is probably the 5-6th video I am watching with Robin. I like her simplicity, the depth of her messages and her non sophisticated , no high maintenance image. Pretty authentic IMO unlike other speakers on here.
I use the 5 second rule to get out of bed, thanks to Mel's story in another video. It works, as soon as I start counting down I feel compelled to get up no matter how cosy I am. It does really cut through thinking so you've no choice but to take action, I really need to do this in other areas of my life too.
This woman is divine. Such an inspiration. So real and raw. I love her so much. She cares. Wants us to be better versions of ourselves. Provides the tools, guidance, nudges we need to make the changes in our lives we so desperately desire. There is hope. Thank you Mel
Mel dear I need a life rewrite at 52. Watching videos and reading is some comfort that I am not alone, however,... My body and my ADHD brain primary attention stops me dead in my tracks. I have so much in me! I've tried the 5,4,3,2,1 and high five and still can't get this brain to click. I'm not going to stop trying. I'm not happy. I want my inside shine to light up as many as possible. Thank you for being you! Genuine authentic and human.
If you can’t get the point out in 5 to 10 minutes I’m no longer listening. That’s my adhd. Makes life tough. Your RUclipss mostly are quick and to the point. Very helpful.
I agree with this idea of the pain of not doing something is more than pain of doing it!! Start taking action atleast 1% towards achieving your goal every single day believing in yourself will do wonders!!
Mel- it’s your friend Chrissy! I just found you a few weeks ago. I’m soooo grateful that I did! I feel like you are talking to me. Thank you! 54321 rule has changed my life. So so grateful
This hit the nail on the head! I get so overwhelmed by the barrage of information coming at me about self-help, and then feel depressed because I haven’t taken the steps necessary to pull myself out of my pit. I think baby steps are the only option for me. Thanks for this, love you Mel, God Bless! ❤️
2.22 followers. It’s an angel sign that I clicked on this video when overthinking because 222 is “ trust the universe” 🙏🙏🙏 but also do the work to help yourself
The thing that helped me the most move through the subconscious programming that led to being a procrastinator was adding heart-brain coherence to my daily spiritual routines. Learning how to vibrate at the elevated frequency of gratitude and appreciation connects you with the universe as science is now proving; the quantum field has the same frequency as the human heart in elevated emotions which is why we feel grateful when we receive...the universe GIVES everything so the E-motion we experience matches that universal field and when that frequncy match happens everything changes. the subconscious then goes about creating your dreams into reality..and part of that is your inspiration (inspire = in Spirit) soars and you do the right actions, you stop procratinating or whatever you subconscious block is....and you show up in the world differently more conducive to manifesting your dreams..etc....so the question is CAN YOU BE GRATEFUL FOR A REALITY THAT HASN'T YET HAPPENED? That is the secret. Happy holidays everyone.
Thank you for this comment - I really resonate. You beautifully articulated this and it is so true. Joe Dispenza aligns with this and he is one of my favorite mentors 🙏 Happy Holidays!
I get into those "moments" where I'm so grateful I start crying in tears. My heart would just fill with so much appreciation. All this while, I to, am everyday, gearing to be happier, earn my own wealth and not somebody's thinking of how much I'm worth, etc. 🙏🏽
I’ve spent the last five years in an industry talking about starting a business in the same industry. I have learned it inside out upside down and backwards. But I’ve always been so scared of failure I stopped myself for one BS reason or the other. Today I am in business. I took that step. And then taking that step amazingly my fears seem to be wiped away. Taking action unlock something in you. The world is your oyster. So excited! Bring on the challenges.
That’s why I like bullet points - when I listen to a lesson like this - I like to write down one or even 2 points that I can use, apply and remember- those become the steps on my staircase to move to higher ground
She is absolutely correct. Fear of moving on something is paralyzing. I didn't have this until habit until my husband passed away suddenly from a brain aneurysm and the grief from that loss and feeling that the rug was totally pulled out from me has contributed to me being frozen. She gets it!!!
Susan - I rarely comment but your words describe me exactly. After the sudden loss of my husband, I underestimated the effect his death would have on me. I went from being a confidence, action person to overthinking and decision paralysis….these are common effects of major losses in life and grief. We didn’t get time to think or prepare at the time, stay strong, be kind to yourself, sending you good wishes for your future 🙏
OH WOW!!!! On 2-2-22 (I didn't even realize that was the day number wise that I changed a huge part of my life!) I received blood work results and 99% of everything I wanted to change was so much better.....all except for one. My sugers were bad, really bad and my wonderful P.A. told me if I didn't cut out a ton of sugar I was going to end up with diabetes and this was 2-1-22. On 2-2-22 I gave up sugar and I did just that one thing. In 3 months I had lost 30lbs and like 4 sizes in cloths. Just choosing that one thing helped my Fibromialga pain so very much I am shocked. Just changing one thing changed so many more things for my life and I love it!!!
thank you so so much for your wisdom, Mel. you always make life's biggest challenges seem manageable. right after watching this video, I went to high 5 myself in the mirror and tell myself that I will love myself no matter what. I am allowed to make mistakes, and I will always be here to love and forgive. i'm literally crying rn writing this. Thank you doesn't begin to cover the depth of gratitude I have for you and what you offer to the world.
Wow, Mel's hitting straight to the point. I do know what to do and have in my mind and plans, what to do venture out on my own (earn my own wealth) and get out of unhappiness and hating a "job" after several attempts before. That nervousness in the pit of my stomach, that fear of "what if" still gets to me. Always powerful inspiration from these videos. 🤗🤗🤗
I wake up to your videos playing on RUclips last night, as I often have. I must say that your demeanor is so loving, so kind and without judgment. No pressure to do, to be, or to think or say anything. Yes, there are actions to take, but there is no pressure coming from you at all, just an understanding acceptance of the human condition. I am amazed by what you know… and I am just scratching the surface. Your humility is healing and reassuring.🥺Thank you @donaandbear❤️
1:40 two types of people - I use to be the first person mentioned that jumps onto opportunity when it arrives then mental illness hit from becoming a mother with changed hormones. Now that my hormones are finally settling down with my kids more independent, I am getting back to that person that goes as soon as that light turns green. It's hard when others depend on you in various areas (emotional, mental, financial, physical and so on).
Your experience is so similar to mine.I used to take almost every oportunity before becoming a mother.Motherhood changed me a lot and now I struggle with depression and anxiety.So hard to break the shell.
@@ionelascheul4984 🤗 I hope it gets better. Remember, we are eternal souls having a human experience. Once I really grasped who I am beyond space and time, changed everything for me. I no longer give a crap about what others think of me. I know who I am and my relationship to Yeshua HaMashiach - and that is all that matters. The Spirit has many times placed a shield of love and positivity around me when a family member tried to bring me down. There is an unseen evil in this world that will use our friends and family to get at us because that unseen evil can't stand those who belong to Christ. Since my husband and kids deny Christ - the enemy tries to get at me through them. I won't have any of it anymore. I just love on my family all the more - confusing the hell literally out of them to the point - the evil no longer influence my family. Love truly wins out. When I chose to radiating unconditional love and the light of Christ - my family started to change for the better. I stopped judging my family and instead - banishing the enemy from even getting my family. Truly the enemy is unseen not human. Don't let your family fall prey to the enemy. Free them from it by radiating love and light. This war is almost over. People are waking up. Soon the veil will be lifted and this invisible war will become visible. Our loved ones will see the enemy in the flesh - Revelation 9 and 11
"idk if it's the adhd or dislexia but if you give me 11 things to do I won't do any of them" Holy crap that's me! I have ADHD and I can't remember crap! This is absolutely helpful... Mel you're changing my life!
Yes Mel, I am one of those very smart people who is very miserable and I also spend time watching tons of RUclips videos. Your videos speak directly to my mind. Thank you Mel, your type is rare in this world.
I love you, Robin! 😀 Thank You for showing me the tools! This talk reminded me of what Jim Kwik said, that knowledge by itself is not power. It becomes power when you apply it. ❤️
Thank you Mel!💖🙏🏻🇸🇪 You are the one that helped me finding My way to change MY life.💖🙏🏻 I will for ever be grateful for that day when I, by coincidence, found you, and signed up for the "Power of You-course" in April -May 2018. Soon it will be five years that have gone since then. I followed through the whole course, on time, and that even if I today have the knowledge about me having an inattentive ADD diagnose, with a high level of anxiety and procrastination.... I am also So happy that I faced my fears and flew all the way from Sweden🇸🇪 to Las Vegas during the course, to meat You, Chris, the crew and many of the other course members, in person... Many of them I still count as very close and loving friends today.. Being one of your alumnis I can't say thank you enough times that cover my gratefulness.. And today I do what I can to "pay it forward" by letting others get to know about the great work you do and how you with all the tools you have been researching about, can make people transform their lives... THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart! 🙏🏻💖💖🙏🏻
I have attempted to meditate many times in my life and prior to this CD the only success I've experienced is with live guided meditation. ruclips.net/user/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq This is the first CD I've used that cuts through my unmedicated ADHD and enables me to truly relax and experience a quiet and energizing interval. The instructors voice is very soothing and pleasant to listen to. I am easily able to sit successfully through the entire CD, and for quite some time after. I cannot adequately express how tremendously helpful this CD has been on my spiritual journey!! Two thumbs up and 10 stars!
I have a significant differential between my intelligence/ knowledge about relationships and my ability to express myself adequately with regard to my marriage. 35-years later it remains a regular challenge, I hope that this information helps.
Don't compare your 2. chapter to someone elses 20. You might think your story is not good enough but it is not over yet. *Keep dreaming and putting in the work. I believe in you...*
Contrary to what people think, pushing the mind too much and too fast only creates a habit of rushing and striving. Rushing is another form of going nowhere. Books like the Tao Te Ching, and workbooks on amz like 30 Days to Reduce Anxiety by Harper Daniels are nice resources for slowing down the monkey mind.
We absolutely need to engage in critical thinking when making big decisions. I realize that this may be geared toward people who are super lazy and over analytical, but just to jump at every opportunity that comes along can be reckless and land you in a bad place. Thinking has its place.
Mel can help anyone change if they act on her advice. Bottom line, Mel Rocks! She keeps it simple, the High Five life? Awesome! 54321? Awesome. If you just know AND APPLY these two tools you can change your life
Philippians 4:6 ESV / 75 helpful votes Helpful Not Helpful Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. Give your heart to Jesus Christ and he will give you the perfect peace that you need.
Hey, stop overthinking! 🤔 It's like making problems that don't even exist. Just chill and don't stress about things that aren't real. Take a deep breath and focus on what's happening right now. You've got this! 💪
I watch these videos because I’m trying feed my mind posted things! I’m surrounded by very negative people that suck the life out of me 😫 I have to recharge myself and this helps!
@@bluecatjay5229 I hope you can change job place soon, or maybe find additional ways to co-op with that situation. I feel with you. I have been in a similar situation and some colleagues /employers can seem so great at the application interview and then with time change or turne out to be negative /unreliable (my former boss was lying so much)/ draining. It is not healthy to stay and keep on working there, buuut it can also be really hard to find, apply & get a new job. I find video like this one and other positive input helpful for me too. Just to balance things. And guided meditation (YT or any app) even a 5 or 10 minutes one at the lunch break or om my comute (🚌) also helps me some days. Don't give up! Hope you find a more positive work eventually. I wish you good luck! :)
@@madeleine7471 thank you 🙏🏻 just I feel very stuck at the moment! I’m scared stiff to go anywhere else because I’m terrified I run into say bullshit or even worse 😖
@@bluecatjay5229 Oh wow I totally understand that fear. I thought I could never really trust an employer again, especially since in my field it's almost always small businesses and never an HR /union or something similar to look out for the employees... And frankly I did change but I'm not happy where I am now either, but at least it is a change I try to see it as a step to something better. Meanwhile I'm searching for a better work place.
If you are stuck. I really advise you to watch Bob Proctor's material. Read his books. Watch his trainings. He teaches Paradigms. It's your Paradigm which is keeping you stuck. Changing that is a life long process.
I don't care about complicated. I care about: how much uncertainty I can tolerate? And when that amount has become almost zero, no amount of simplicity makes a difference. I just falter. Immediately. And everything gets destroyed before my eyes and I can only think about getting out of this perpetual hell of failure, shame and guilt by dying. And I don't even have the courage to do that. So far. I don't deserve to live anymore. And no blind disagreeing, making me wrong, making sure I know that you have no clue about me or my brain or my nature will change that. Only consistent action will change that.
Happy Holidays Mel! Thanks so much for sharing the tools that i can reach for amidst the chaos of this modern life and find the sweet spot of activation. May you have joy, relaxation and love in abundance.🖐🙏💚
Sometimes it’s information overload (especially since the Internet and social media became so dominant in our lives) that causes people to freeze rather than act. Hard to sort through all the advice and options to know what’s actually best to do.
@Mel Robbins: If you should ever visit Vienna (Austria), I want to invite you to dinner. You are such a charismatic and interesting person! Thank you for your videos!
Informative video. Be careful what you feed your mind. To feel better reduce negative thoughts and overthinking. Avoid comparing, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed, avoid moving too much and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath sensations before sleep, when reading, in the kitchen, when taking a walk etc -----anytime-anywhere. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.
Really mindless comments here, what in the world? I love Mel especially in this video (which distills her philosophy) as she’s a tell-it-like-it-is teacher. I’ve tried the 5-4-3-2-1! Didn’t do anything, possibly not understanding it correctly 🤷🏿♀️ I’ve gotten little done in my life that I set out to do as a child; now, I’m 57. Wanted to direct films, be a professional dancer, write. I grew up with torture and still am living through a nightmare. I sleep and eat to fill the darkness and numb out. I’m a vegan, animal activist now so talk about feeling alone and seeing the worst in humans. I teach Yoga and didn’t finish my undergrad degree in theater education so I could teach theater to juvenile delinquents. I’ve been hated and abused by every man I’ve been with except my dead ex-husband who also was tortured and abandoned like me. Biggest mistakes were divorcing him and not being an animal activist sooner. Our four children all of whom have children of their own now (not one of them even let me know they married or had children and I heard one of my grandchildren died, no one let me know) were turned against me years ago in large part by my mother. They do nothing for me. I am very giving and do everything I can for everyone and don’t connect to anyone. I’ll be moving back to Maine soon to save animals and be away from humans. They’re such a destructive, bizarre species. 😞💔🙏🧘🏿♀️
I love you my sister,i'm 58 and gone through harsh times but no like yours.I feel very sorry such things have happened to you. I pray you take charge of your life,love yourself and follow your heart. Contentment is a state of the mind.
Break that habit when you are scared, overwhelmed ect. .. don't repeat what you already did, fighting old habits of justifying my anxiety today. This to shall pass. I already set a deadline for myself for action so feeling anxiety, a habit, has kicked into overdrive. At least I see it today.
I love you idea about 5 second rule.may i try 5second in study time.you have lot of experience in your life about fear and many other tricks to control in your mind thankful to you for best idea to control the mind thank, thanks a lot
*The pain of discipline is always less than the pain of regret.*
Amen.
Agreed😀
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A great watch on how humanity is defined ruclips.net/video/S5f5zKsN1DE/видео.html,
Alas! Before most of us realize this, it’s too late, sometimes!
The less we overthink the better our mental clarity is
But how do I not overthink ? It’s hard
@@shawnaa02593 Maybe by realizing overthinking actually makes you lose control on the situation? I'm an overthinking machine too so I know how it feels. But, like Mel said, the "What if's" loops actually makes you feel worse, will thinking "What if it all works out?" actually allows you to breathe and find solutions for everything. And if what you're constantly thinking about is not something you can control anyway, then you can think to yourself, "What's the problem about? What can I do to overcome it and where do I start?" and your brain will calm down because it knows where to start. It knows it can do something, in other words, it knows it's in control. This is the opposite of anxiety!
when people say, stop overthinking and things, thats not how our mind works. as soon as you say that, you ganna start overthinking even more.
I am so guilty for watching tons of YT videos and reading tons of self help books. Yet I rarely make a change, until someone like Mel start speaking directly to me and holding me accountable.
@Dani B I think we’re the same person! Kinda a relief to know I’m not the only one like this..
That’s me too! 😆
Me too
hey I am also a victim of watching tons to yt self-help video
Mel didn't and doesn't hold you accountable.
You do :)
This is very true. Just DO and the flow comes naturally.
Mel I wanted to share my story with you.5 years ago back in Iran,I was sitting on my bed feeling hopeless and frustrated.As a woman I felt I was stuck in that country.I wanted to do something for my life but I didn’t have the courage to take action.Then I found you on RUclips and started watching your videos multiple times.Your insights changed my mode of thinking dramatically and the funny thing is that they were super profound but easy to apply at the same time.Because of your insights,I got out of Iran and made it to Turkey and after 2 years I got the admission for a PhD program here in the US.Now I live a life I was dreaming about.I have freedom as a woman.I have confidence as a human being and I have the power to support my family.Not only Am I surviving but also thriving.Thank you Mal,I appreciate you from the very bottom of my heart.
Your biggest Fan,Maryam❤
"Paralysis by analysis" is REAL, and I do sometimes "get in my head" but what has helped me was taking action even a small one. For me, small action proceeds motivation and not the other way around. Thank you Mel.
I'm a nervous wreck from not having a job (tight financial situation). A thought of getting a job that rips me out of my comfort zone, my bubble, my home, from my beloved hobbies... gives me just as bad, if not worse, anxiety. I overthink everything, I'm so afraid of messing something up because I don't understand it... I should change things in my life... but I just couldn't be arsed to do it. I may start, but give up in a few days.
Keep listening to Mel and don’t give up the challenge
This is probably the 5-6th video I am watching with Robin. I like her simplicity, the depth of her messages and her non sophisticated , no high maintenance image. Pretty authentic IMO unlike other speakers on here.
I use the 5 second rule to get out of bed, thanks to Mel's story in another video. It works, as soon as I start counting down I feel compelled to get up no matter how cosy I am. It does really cut through thinking so you've no choice but to take action, I really need to do this in other areas of my life too.
"You can have the knowledge and not take action" true
This woman is divine. Such an inspiration. So real and raw. I love her so much. She cares. Wants us to be better versions of ourselves. Provides the tools, guidance, nudges we need to make the changes in our lives we so desperately desire. There is hope. Thank you Mel
Hey viewer. You are such an amazing person it’s okay to go for it! Start now. Small steps are okay. Just start today. 🌸
I’m watching this now that I feel anxiety and depression but I’m going to keep watching this even after I get over it
same, hope it got better for you
Mel dear I need a life rewrite at 52. Watching videos and reading is some comfort that I am not alone, however,... My body and my ADHD brain primary attention stops me dead in my tracks. I have so much in me! I've tried the 5,4,3,2,1 and high five and still can't get this brain to click. I'm not going to stop trying. I'm not happy. I want my inside shine to light up as many as possible. Thank you for being you! Genuine authentic and human.
“It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that things are difficult." -Seneca
The comment of learning but not doing something about it is definitely me!! I hate being uncomfortable and my fear of actually doing it holds me back
That's my issue too.
If you can’t get the point out in 5 to 10 minutes I’m no longer listening. That’s my adhd. Makes life tough. Your RUclipss mostly are quick and to the point. Very helpful.
I have a huge problem with overthinking to the point where I just analyze like the silliest of things. I need to take action. It’s just difficult.
I agree with this idea of the pain of not doing something is more than pain of doing it!!
Start taking action atleast 1% towards achieving your goal every single day believing in yourself will do wonders!!
Mel- it’s your friend Chrissy! I just found you a few weeks ago. I’m soooo grateful that I did! I feel like you are talking to me. Thank you! 54321 rule has changed my life. So so grateful
This hit the nail on the head! I get so overwhelmed by the barrage of information coming at me about self-help, and then feel depressed because I haven’t taken the steps necessary to pull myself out of my pit. I think baby steps are the only option for me. Thanks for this, love you Mel, God Bless! ❤️
Hello God bless you
2.22 followers. It’s an angel sign that I clicked on this video when overthinking because 222 is “ trust the universe” 🙏🙏🙏 but also do the work to help yourself
thank you Mel
The thing that helped me the most move through the subconscious programming that led to being a procrastinator was adding heart-brain coherence to my daily spiritual routines.
Learning how to vibrate at the elevated frequency of gratitude and appreciation connects you with the universe as science is now proving; the quantum field has the same frequency as the human heart in elevated emotions which is why we feel grateful when we receive...the universe GIVES everything so the E-motion we experience matches that universal field and when that frequncy match happens everything changes. the subconscious then goes about creating your dreams into reality..and part of that is your inspiration (inspire = in Spirit) soars and you do the right actions, you stop procratinating or whatever you subconscious block is....and you show up in the world differently more conducive to manifesting your dreams..etc....so the question is CAN YOU BE GRATEFUL FOR A REALITY THAT HASN'T YET HAPPENED? That is the secret. Happy holidays everyone.
Thank you for this comment - I really resonate. You beautifully articulated this and it is so true. Joe Dispenza aligns with this and he is one of my favorite mentors 🙏 Happy Holidays!
@@conniekeyse Yes, well of course I love Dr. JD. thank you and happy holidays
I get into those "moments" where I'm so grateful I start crying in tears. My heart would just fill with so much appreciation. All this while, I to, am everyday, gearing to be happier, earn my own wealth and not somebody's thinking of how much I'm worth, etc. 🙏🏽
@@conniekeyse he taught me about breathing
She’s SO real. Doesn’t hesitate to throw in some cussing to express her deepest feelings to help us! I have changed some habits in one week!!!
I’ve spent the last five years in an industry talking about starting a business in the same industry. I have learned it inside out upside down and backwards. But I’ve always been so scared of failure I stopped myself for one BS reason or the other. Today I am in business. I took that step. And then taking that step amazingly my fears seem to be wiped away. Taking action unlock something in you. The world is your oyster. So excited! Bring on the challenges.
That’s why I like bullet points - when I listen to a lesson like this - I like to write down one or even 2 points that I can use, apply and remember- those become the steps on my staircase to move to higher ground
She is absolutely correct. Fear of moving on something is paralyzing. I didn't have this until habit until my husband passed away suddenly from a brain aneurysm and the grief from that loss and feeling that the rug was totally pulled out from me has contributed to me being frozen. She gets it!!!
Hello God Bless you
Susan - I rarely comment but your words describe me exactly. After the sudden loss of my husband, I underestimated the effect his death would have on me. I went from being a confidence, action person to overthinking and decision paralysis….these are common effects of major losses in life and grief. We didn’t get time to think or prepare at the time, stay strong, be kind to yourself, sending you good wishes for your future 🙏
Mel Robbins is the best!
OH WOW!!!! On 2-2-22 (I didn't even realize that was the day number wise that I changed a huge part of my life!) I received blood work results and 99% of everything I wanted to change was so much better.....all except for one. My sugers were bad, really bad and my wonderful P.A. told me if I didn't cut out a ton of sugar I was going to end up with diabetes and this was 2-1-22. On 2-2-22 I gave up sugar and I did just that one thing. In 3 months I had lost 30lbs and like 4 sizes in cloths. Just choosing that one thing helped my Fibromialga pain so very much I am shocked.
Just changing one thing changed so many more things for my life and I love it!!!
thank you so so much for your wisdom, Mel. you always make life's biggest challenges seem manageable. right after watching this video, I went to high 5 myself in the mirror and tell myself that I will love myself no matter what. I am allowed to make mistakes, and I will always be here to love and forgive. i'm literally crying rn writing this. Thank you doesn't begin to cover the depth of gratitude I have for you and what you offer to the world.
You're so amazing!! ❤️
God I'm truly grateful that I have found this amazing Blessing AMEN 🙏
Wow, Mel's hitting straight to the point. I do know what to do and have in my mind and plans, what to do venture out on my own (earn my own wealth) and get out of unhappiness and hating a "job" after several attempts before. That nervousness in the pit of my stomach, that fear of "what if" still gets to me. Always powerful inspiration from these videos. 🤗🤗🤗
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I teared up at that last part, tho I credit Mel Robbins for her help, I never thanked myself for doing the work. 💗
I wake up to your videos playing on RUclips last night, as I often have. I must say that your demeanor is so loving, so kind and without judgment. No pressure to do, to be, or to think or say anything. Yes, there are actions to take, but there is no pressure coming from you at all, just an understanding acceptance of the human condition. I am amazed by what you know… and I am just scratching the surface. Your humility is healing and reassuring.🥺Thank you @donaandbear❤️
1:40 two types of people - I use to be the first person mentioned that jumps onto opportunity when it arrives then mental illness hit from becoming a mother with changed hormones. Now that my hormones are finally settling down with my kids more independent, I am getting back to that person that goes as soon as that light turns green. It's hard when others depend on you in various areas (emotional, mental, financial, physical and so on).
Your experience is so similar to mine.I used to take almost every oportunity before becoming a mother.Motherhood changed me a lot and now I struggle with depression and anxiety.So hard to break the shell.
@@ionelascheul4984 🤗 I hope it gets better. Remember, we are eternal souls having a human experience. Once I really grasped who I am beyond space and time, changed everything for me. I no longer give a crap about what others think of me. I know who I am and my relationship to Yeshua HaMashiach - and that is all that matters. The Spirit has many times placed a shield of love and positivity around me when a family member tried to bring me down. There is an unseen evil in this world that will use our friends and family to get at us because that unseen evil can't stand those who belong to Christ. Since my husband and kids deny Christ - the enemy tries to get at me through them. I won't have any of it anymore. I just love on my family all the more - confusing the hell literally out of them to the point - the evil no longer influence my family. Love truly wins out. When I chose to radiating unconditional love and the light of Christ - my family started to change for the better. I stopped judging my family and instead - banishing the enemy from even getting my family. Truly the enemy is unseen not human. Don't let your family fall prey to the enemy. Free them from it by radiating love and light. This war is almost over. People are waking up. Soon the veil will be lifted and this invisible war will become visible. Our loved ones will see the enemy in the flesh - Revelation 9 and 11
@@nichole_exposing_unseen_enemy unseen evil u will get more info in islamic religion how to protect u family try out there
"idk if it's the adhd or dislexia but if you give me 11 things to do I won't do any of them"
Holy crap that's me! I have ADHD and I can't remember crap! This is absolutely helpful... Mel you're changing my life!
I love you Mel Robbins you are honest❤❤
Thank you 🙏🙏 Mel
Yes Mel, I am one of those very smart people who is very miserable and I also spend time watching tons of RUclips videos. Your videos speak directly to my mind. Thank you Mel, your type is rare in this world.
Love Mel Robbins. Five Second Rule is the best.
Thank you Mel🥰
I love you, Robin! 😀 Thank You for showing me the tools! This talk reminded me of what Jim Kwik said, that knowledge by itself is not power. It becomes power when you apply it. ❤️
Thank you im listening to your videos daily and I feel so much better
I listened to the whole podcast yesterday and it was amazing. So much great discussion. Thank you!💖
Dear , what's the name of this programme . ?
Thank you Mel!💖🙏🏻🇸🇪
You are the one that helped me finding My way to change MY life.💖🙏🏻
I will for ever be grateful for that day when I, by coincidence, found you, and signed up for the "Power of You-course" in April -May 2018. Soon it will be five years that have gone since then.
I followed through the whole course, on time, and that even if I today have the knowledge about me having an inattentive ADD diagnose, with a high level of anxiety and procrastination....
I am also So happy that I faced my fears and flew all the way from Sweden🇸🇪 to Las Vegas during the course, to meat You, Chris, the crew and many of the other course members, in person... Many of them I still count as very close and loving friends today..
Being one of your alumnis I can't say thank you enough times that cover my gratefulness.. And today I do what I can to "pay it forward" by letting others get to know about the great work you do and how you with all the tools you have been researching about, can make people transform their lives...
THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart! 🙏🏻💖💖🙏🏻
I have attempted to meditate many times in my life and prior to this CD the only success I've experienced is with live guided meditation. ruclips.net/user/postUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq This is the first CD I've used that cuts through my unmedicated ADHD and enables me to truly relax and experience a quiet and energizing interval. The instructors voice is very soothing and pleasant to listen to. I am easily able to sit successfully through the entire CD, and for quite some time after. I cannot adequately express how tremendously helpful this CD has been on my spiritual journey!! Two thumbs up and 10 stars!
I have a significant differential between my intelligence/ knowledge about relationships and my ability to express myself adequately with regard to my marriage. 35-years later it remains a regular challenge, I hope that this information helps.
Don't compare your 2. chapter to someone elses 20. You might think your story is not good enough but it is not over yet. *Keep dreaming and putting in the work. I believe in you...*
I’m glad I discovered Mel today!
Contrary to what people think, pushing the mind too much and too fast only creates a habit of rushing and striving. Rushing is another form of going nowhere. Books like the Tao Te Ching, and workbooks on amz like 30 Days to Reduce Anxiety by Harper Daniels are nice resources for slowing down the monkey mind.
You are so much appreciated. Thank you so much! The world needs discussions like this ❤️
I have learnt numerous things by watching your videos👍
We absolutely need to engage in critical thinking when making big decisions. I realize that this may be geared toward people who are super lazy and over analytical, but just to jump at every opportunity that comes along can be reckless and land you in a bad place. Thinking has its place.
Keep it clear and simple.
Mel can help anyone change if they act on her advice. Bottom line, Mel Rocks! She keeps it simple, the High Five life? Awesome! 54321? Awesome. If you just know AND APPLY these two tools you can change your life
Less knowledge, more action
Thank you so much for sharing! It' an axectly the thing I need to hear today 🙏❤
Philippians 4:6 ESV / 75 helpful votes Helpful Not Helpful
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. Give your heart to Jesus Christ and he will give you the perfect peace that you need.
Dead on !! Thank you very much !! stress and anxiety goes out the window with your content !!
Thank you Mel for this video very informative. I have a sister and a friend who are overthinkers.
High 5 Mel.🖐😅👍❤❤🌷🌷🌷
Mel love u sooooooooooooooooo much!!!!
Hey, stop overthinking! 🤔 It's like making problems that don't even exist. Just chill and don't stress about things that aren't real. Take a deep breath and focus on what's happening right now. You've got this! 💪
you are fantastic ...motivation plus
Thank you
Amen thank you Mel Robbins God bless you 🙏
You are such an inspiration, Mel.
Thank you, Mel! 🌸
Really inspirational..thank you for the tools.
I overthink WAY TOO MUCH🥺🥺🙏🏻🙏🏻
Wow this one is a huge perspective shift. Time for more action. 🙌🏼👋👏👐🏻👊🏼🤜🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🤩❤️🔥💚🧠🧠💎🧞♀️🚀🚀🚀
Thank You Mel.!! You are Awesome.!!!!!
Less Thinking Will Give You more TIME to Meditate 🙏👍🙏
Im one of those who sits and watches You Tube videos and reads the books but never takes any action. My mind just goes round and round and wont stop!
I watch these videos because I’m trying feed my mind posted things!
I’m surrounded by very negative people that suck the life out of me 😫
I have to recharge myself and this helps!
Something inside you attracts those negative people.
@@ionelascheul4984 no it’s work it’s very toxic
@@bluecatjay5229 I hope you can change job place soon, or maybe find additional ways to co-op with that situation.
I feel with you. I have been in a similar situation and some colleagues /employers can seem so great at the application interview and then with time change or turne out to be negative /unreliable (my former boss was lying so much)/ draining. It is not healthy to stay and keep on working there, buuut
it can also be really hard to find, apply & get a new job.
I find video like this one and other positive input helpful for me too. Just to balance things.
And guided meditation (YT or any app) even a 5 or 10 minutes one at the lunch break or om my comute (🚌) also helps me some days.
Don't give up! Hope you find a more positive work eventually. I wish you good luck! :)
@@madeleine7471 thank you 🙏🏻 just I feel very stuck at the moment! I’m scared stiff to go anywhere else because I’m terrified I run into say bullshit or even worse 😖
@@bluecatjay5229 Oh wow I totally understand that fear. I thought I could never really trust an employer again, especially since in my field it's almost always small businesses and never an HR /union or something similar to look out for the employees... And frankly I did change but I'm not happy where I am now either, but at least it is a change I try to see it as a step to something better. Meanwhile I'm searching for a better work place.
If you are stuck. I really advise you to watch Bob Proctor's material. Read his books. Watch his trainings. He teaches Paradigms. It's your Paradigm which is keeping you stuck. Changing that is a life long process.
So true...if it's too complicated I won't try it. Even with the knowledge to be happier etc. ❤️ to all.
Why do we do that?
I don't care about complicated. I care about: how much uncertainty I can tolerate? And when that amount has become almost zero, no amount of simplicity makes a difference. I just falter. Immediately. And everything gets destroyed before my eyes and I can only think about getting out of this perpetual hell of failure, shame and guilt by dying. And I don't even have the courage to do that. So far.
I don't deserve to live anymore. And no blind disagreeing, making me wrong, making sure I know that you have no clue about me or my brain or my nature will change that. Only consistent action will change that.
I've changed my life as well too Mel thank you. Love you. 🖐😂👍
thank you so much i love you
Mel, thanks for your work. I appreciate the tools and the knowledge.
Happy Holidays Mel! Thanks so much for sharing the tools that i can reach for amidst the chaos of this modern life and find the sweet spot of activation. May you have joy, relaxation and love in abundance.🖐🙏💚
Hello God Bless you
I cannot thank you enough Mel
Thanks Bill
Thank you so much for changing my life ❤❤
Sometimes it’s information overload (especially since the Internet and social media became so dominant in our lives) that causes people to freeze rather than act. Hard to sort through all the advice and options to know what’s actually best to do.
Thank you for sharing this 🙏
Information is only potential power…
@Mel Robbins: If you should ever visit Vienna (Austria), I want to invite you to dinner. You are such a charismatic and interesting person! Thank you for your videos!
Informative video. Be careful what you feed your mind. To feel better reduce negative thoughts and overthinking. Avoid comparing, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed, avoid moving too much and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath sensations before sleep, when reading, in the kitchen, when taking a walk etc -----anytime-anywhere. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.
thank u so much, rly needed this n helped me a lot :))
Really mindless comments here, what in the world?
I love Mel especially in this video (which distills her philosophy)
as she’s a tell-it-like-it-is teacher.
I’ve tried the 5-4-3-2-1! Didn’t do anything, possibly not understanding it correctly 🤷🏿♀️
I’ve gotten little done in my life that I set out to do as a child; now, I’m 57. Wanted to direct films, be a professional dancer, write.
I grew up with torture and still am living through a nightmare.
I sleep and eat to fill the darkness and numb out.
I’m a vegan, animal activist
now
so talk about feeling alone and seeing the worst in humans.
I teach Yoga and didn’t finish my undergrad degree in theater education so I could teach theater to juvenile delinquents.
I’ve been hated and abused by every man I’ve been with except
my dead ex-husband who also was tortured and abandoned like me.
Biggest mistakes were
divorcing him and not being an animal activist sooner.
Our four children all of whom have children of their own now (not one of them even let me know they married or had children and I heard one of my grandchildren died,
no one let me know)
were turned against me years ago in large part by my mother. They do nothing for me.
I am very giving and do everything I can for everyone
and don’t connect to
anyone.
I’ll be moving back to Maine soon to save animals and be away
from humans.
They’re such a destructive, bizarre species.
😞💔🙏🧘🏿♀️
I love you my sister,i'm 58 and gone through harsh times but no like yours.I feel very sorry such things have happened to you.
I pray you take charge of your life,love yourself and follow your heart.
Contentment is a state of the mind.
Try chanting Nam Myoho Renge Kyo, it’s on RUclips
Applied knowledge is power
Break that habit when you are scared, overwhelmed ect. .. don't repeat what you already did, fighting old habits of justifying my anxiety today. This to shall pass. I already set a deadline for myself for action so feeling anxiety, a habit, has kicked into overdrive. At least I see it today.
I love you idea about 5 second rule.may i try 5second in study time.you have lot of experience in your life about fear and many other tricks to control in your mind thankful to you for best idea to control the mind thank, thanks a lot
Mel, thank you for this message👍👍😊😊
I need you in my life!! I need a one of one 😩 Everything you talking about is hitting every area in my life 😑
Thank you mel💯🏁🇺🇸
I'm a very young girl starting my life, but is really painful that i didn't get you early, but i believe that is not too late me
Wow, does she nail it on the head! So well explained!