For more on Dr Jacobs' online CBT-I program, please visit www.cbtforinsomnia.com. You'll find my free Self-Help for Insomnia Course at www.selfhelptoons.com/insomnia. And if you'd like to you'd like to support my channel ⬇⬇ ❤ Join my channel with the JOIN button next to SUBSCRIBE 🙏 Become A Patron www.patreon.com/SelfHelpToons ☕ Buy Me A Coffee www.buymeacoffee.com/selfhelptoons Related Videos: ▶ Habits to Sleep Better & Treat Insomnia ruclips.net/video/q7amXedTasQ/видео.html ▶ Guided Meditation for Sleep ruclips.net/video/8jEIiLXMdBU/видео.html ▶ Cognitive Restructuring: ruclips.net/video/58RytIerkmc/видео.html ▶ Worry/Thinking Period: ruclips.net/video/a-H14NioY6I/видео.html ▶ Letting Go Of Thoughts: ruclips.net/video/Em_MblRfylo/видео.html ▶ Cognitive Fusion and Defusion: ruclips.net/video/CpdVMs818AE/видео.html
Your examples of negative sleep thoughts are very relatable. I think most people with chronic insomnia would hear those examples and shake their heads in frustration and disgust in all the ways we self sabotage ourselves on a nightly basis.
My problem is a genetic condition that floods my bodies with neurotoxins (Acute Intermittent Porphyria). I think it's destroyed my brain's sleep "module".
I find that if I have a really busy day and have a good exercise that I sleep better at night ... I am working towards this in my everyday life... I wish this for us all... So be it, so it is...
@@SelfHelpToons that's ok. A lot of people in the comments section are saying the same thing. I know it sounds corny but it's like you were destined for the field of psychotherapeutic work. And just another thing, there's a video audio book here on YT called Six Pillars of Self-esteem - I'm not suggesting you're even emulating him AT ALL but it is uncanny how your vocal style and pacing is so similar to his vice versa. And don't change, it's so good as it is as you are sir!✊🙏
Thank you for the point about the sleep underestimation/overestimation. Was really worried about 'how much i might sleep', on resteless nights it feels like i get no sleep at all. But there's definitely blocks of time I can't tell, and this seems like it's light sleep - which can explain why i have some function even on poor nights. Definitely does make me feel a bit better, but I think going through a comprehensive CBT plan is ideal for me. Thanks
I Had chronic Insomnia for 8 yrs getting 5 to 15 min. of sleep for 8 months because what the doctors gave me for it was everything they had in every combination , after the 8 months I quit doctors, and started smoking 35% thc indica ,and that got me sleeping for about 4 to 6hrs. I told the docs this and they frowned at me !!! So some time back I quit all industrialized hygiene products and a week later the chronic Insomnia just went away !!!!!!!! It don’t stop there ,I Had celiac disease, fibromyalgia and peripheral neuropathy also, this is Crippling Nerve Pain, and now I don’t have any Nerve pain like I never had any of these so called diseases in the first place……. Those three diseases are an allergic reaction from the Chemical Glyphosate for me anyway everyone’s a little different …… your welcome in Advance ! Tim.
Man, I'm sending so much love and good wishes your way right now. Thanks for this wonderful video. For anyone who is having poor sleep, know that you are not alone. I know sometimes it seems like you're about to lose your mind, but I can assure you that it does get better if we get to have more positive feelings about life and about ourselves. ❤️
Someone tried to convince me it was really important to put music on my short form content and I thought about it for a while but I just couldn't bring myself to do it. I hate background music too
How's this for brain noise? I have tinnitus (ringing of the ears equivalent to about 50+db of real noise), have some stupid song stuck in my head and at least 2 different thoughts going all at the same time. It's like walking thru WalMart TV shop with all the TV's on different channels and you can't turn 'em off. When I do sleep, never more than 3 hours, always waking up about 3AM and that's usually the last real sleep for the night. Going to bed earlier only makes more time to lay there.
Really like the videos. Very informative, especially about the core sleep of 5.5 hours (REM + Deep Sleep.) However, I have a FitBit and my sleep app says I get about 6-7 hours of sleep a night, but over 50% is light sleep. My total REM + Deep sleep (core sleep) is less than 3 hours, and I'm exhausted every day. So what can someone do to improve deep sleep and REM sleep?
Hello, I have found this video very helpful. I'm planning to get a 8 to 9 hours sleep regularly but I'm failing again and again to achieve this lifestyle, Does quality matter ?Or does quantity matter? I;m also learning english as it's not my first language.
I am wondering how OCD can impact cognitive therapy, where we replace current rituals which may be keeping us awake, with cognitive rituals that become Obsessive?
Replacing rituals with cognitive strategies could inadvertently lead to cognitive rituals, so it is important to be mindful of the difference between disputing unhelpful thoughts vs engaging in obsessive cognitive rituals to neutralize anxiety or prevent bad things from happening. But cognitive therapy is often part of CBT for OCD, so it can be an effective tool in managing both insomnia and OCD, and not something that necessarily feeds into OCD.
I‘m always waking up between 4.00 and 4.30 when i need to go to work or when i set the alarm clock. But if theres no alarm clock for the next day and no work i always get better sleep. Does somebody know what this problem is caused by? 😢
This is very common. There's a bit of anxiety or pressure to sleep because you know you have to be up at a certain time, so this makes it harder to sleep.
When we have an alarm set we can sort of prepare ourselves to have to wake up, which makes it harder to stay asleep. Instead of having thoughts like "I know I won't get back to sleep because this always happens to me when I have an alarm" (or whatever goes through your mind) you need to find a way to tell yourself it doesn't matter and to not care that the alarm is going to go off in a couple or few hours. This can even happen if we always wake up at 7:00 a.m. without an alarm even when we don't have to be up then, but if we set an alarm for 7:00, we wake up at 4:30 and can't get back to sleep because we know we have to be up in a couple of hours. It's not about sleep so much as about our thoughts about our sleep.
I feel fine most of the time just often tired from not enough sleep. I just don't fall asleep quickly takes about 30mins-60 mins and wake up about 4 hrs later, stay awake for maybe 2 hours fall asleep again for a couple of hrs then wake up again and try to then start my day. I'm not a depressed or particularly anxious person, I just don't fall asleep easily and when I do sleep I don't stay asleep for long.😮
What if you have a great life ( no depression or financial problems) wake up every two hours fighting (various and many) CPAP masks while taking one medication after another ???? :(
wonder what sleep promoting thoughts you can have if you can't sleep at all. I wish I'd get my core sleep... I only sleep every second day and I CANNOT function on these days.
I don't even get 5.5 hours of sleep. Even if I fall asleep, I wake up exactly after 3 hours and then start stressing and can't fall asleep again. My situation is probably much worse...
@@ATAXIA424 Meditation helps me a bit, the realization that our thoughts are not really who we are, just letting the thoughts move because it doesn't mean I have to get into them. There is no thought that I can think of and give a solution to in the middle of the night, it doesn't really help, there is no point in getting into it. The more I fight and think about sleep the worse my situation is, sometimes it helps me to accept my messed up situation and live with it, paradoxically the more I accept my messed up situation the better I sleep. I still find myself having sleepless nights, but a little less lately. If I still have nights that I don't sleep, I try as much as I can not to get too upset about it, I try to be effective during this time and read a book or meditate.
Is not worst at all I sleep 1 hours if possible if not I don't sleep at all. I will do the opposite of what my thoughts tell me and not dwell if I can't sleep or not I found out that we create this phobia called phobia of wakefulness just thinking so much that night will come and we won't be able to sleep. So i just do things you would usually do before you developed insomnia or don't give two cents if you sleep or not.
I am in the same boat. Hard to go to sleep, then wake up and can't go back to sleep. Have tried every natural remedy out there. The only thing that has helped is CBT for a different issue I had besides poor sleep. I learned how to balance my thoughts. I used to panic and have terrible anxiety over not getting enough sleep, which made things worse. After CBT therapy, I don't sleep any better, but I don't panic or get anxious as much about it, which helps me to deal with things the next day. I'm exhausted most days but am able to keep some balance to things. Good luck!
Bro, I've been living off an average of 2hrs sleep night for 5 yrs. Plus there are days back to back where I get absolutely no sleep. Count ur blessings
I sleep 1 hour if possible if not I don't sleep at all. Even with sleeping meds. I will do the opposite of what my thoughts tell me and not dwell if I can't sleep or not I found out that we create this phobia called phobia of wakefulness just thinking so much that night will come, and we won't be able to sleep. So let's just do things we would usually do before you developed insomnia or/and don't give two cents if you sleep or not
@@lv4313 I try this method but every time feel fatigue or have some symptom of not sleeping I get reminded of not being able to sleep throughout the day
@@theresiasinta7730 and that's exactly what's keeping You from sleeping. The fear of what is gonna happen if You don't sleep or this and that and that now i said fuck it and whatever happens happens i Will JUST try Will try to función and not fear not sleeping. And it's been 5 months and now i sleep 6-9 hours. I usted to only sleep one hour a day For months if we call that sleep. How many hours do You sleep?
The fact that you are telling yourself that you are using cbti to treat insomnia already kissed that opportunity goodbye. Every time your try, buy, or do something for the intent of helping insomnia, whether subconsciously or consciously, you will make your insomnia worse and will not help. That is why it can't treat insomnia because you can't use any technique to help it.
You can control all the aspects around insomnia despite not being able to force sleep. Meaning if you pressure your sleep system, you will eventually sleep. CBTi works but it's brutal.
Grounding/earthing (search in YT) is good at prevent and help fight almost all health problem especially insomnia, it's easy to DIY a grounding mat, sheet or pillow to use at home, NO need to buy.👣🌏
Hello, I have found this video very helpful. I'm planning to get a 8 to 9 hours sleep regularly but I'm failing again and again to achieve this lifestyle, Does quality matter ?Or does quantity matter? I;m also learning english as it's not my first language.
Both sleep quality and quantity are important. Our bodies need to reach deep sleep, which is stage 3 sleep and REM sleep. And we also need sufficient quantity of this type of sleep. The quantity of sleep we need varies from person to person and is dependent on a number of factors.
For more on Dr Jacobs' online CBT-I program, please visit www.cbtforinsomnia.com. You'll find my free Self-Help for Insomnia Course at www.selfhelptoons.com/insomnia. And if you'd like to you'd like to support my channel ⬇⬇
❤ Join my channel with the JOIN button next to SUBSCRIBE
🙏 Become A Patron www.patreon.com/SelfHelpToons
☕ Buy Me A Coffee www.buymeacoffee.com/selfhelptoons
Related Videos:
▶ Habits to Sleep Better & Treat Insomnia ruclips.net/video/q7amXedTasQ/видео.html
▶ Guided Meditation for Sleep ruclips.net/video/8jEIiLXMdBU/видео.html
▶ Cognitive Restructuring: ruclips.net/video/58RytIerkmc/видео.html
▶ Worry/Thinking Period: ruclips.net/video/a-H14NioY6I/видео.html
▶ Letting Go Of Thoughts: ruclips.net/video/Em_MblRfylo/видео.html
▶ Cognitive Fusion and Defusion: ruclips.net/video/CpdVMs818AE/видео.html
People who sleep well at night do not even know how lucky they are.
Amen
It’s like they have super power I wish I had
@@jessicabev god yes....
Yasssssss
Hell yeah.
Your examples of negative sleep thoughts are very relatable. I think most people with chronic insomnia would hear those examples and shake their heads in frustration and disgust in all the ways we self sabotage ourselves on a nightly basis.
I’ve been needing to hear this! Chronic insomniac here because of the negative sleep behaviors. No more! Goodbye insomnia, hello sleep 💤
I’m also glad I watched this video.
I really appreciate the realistic, relatable statements made throughout this video.
For some people it's not about the thoughts - their body just doesn't turn off.
YES!!!! That is me!! It's not the thoughts, but the energy that keeps running.
@@karenpearman1899find routines to let out your energy, like working out and activity that you enjoyed
Yes me too, I just have controlled my thoughts, but still my body doesn't turn off
My problem is a genetic condition that floods my bodies with neurotoxins (Acute Intermittent Porphyria). I think it's destroyed my brain's sleep "module".
@@karenpearman1899how are you now?
I find that if I have a really busy day and have a good exercise that I sleep better at night ... I am working towards this in my everyday life... I wish this for us all... So be it, so it is...
So true
true but its hard to do that when you haven't slept the previous night
Stop thinking about things .. I never thought about that idea .. now I have something else to think about
😂
This is the best sleep video I’ve ever seen. Thank you!
Your videos are really well explained. And just as a side note, your voice is really soothing.
Thanks, that nice to hear!
@@SelfHelpToons that's ok. A lot of people in the comments section are saying the same thing. I know it sounds corny but it's like you were destined for the field of psychotherapeutic work.
And just another thing, there's a video audio book here on YT called Six Pillars of Self-esteem - I'm not suggesting you're even emulating him AT ALL but it is uncanny how your vocal style and pacing is so similar to his vice versa. And don't change, it's so good as it is as you are sir!✊🙏
I could listen to this guy’s voice all day
I don't worry or have racing thoughts, like someone else said, I'm just awake...
u might have a medical condition talk to a docter :)
I dont have a medical condition
@@liasteinsonhow are you now?
I totally understand. I not anxious or worried. Just can’t sleep
Very helpful, especially examples of reframing, thanks
Thank you for the point about the sleep underestimation/overestimation. Was really worried about 'how much i might sleep', on resteless nights it feels like i get no sleep at all. But there's definitely blocks of time I can't tell, and this seems like it's light sleep - which can explain why i have some function even on poor nights. Definitely does make me feel a bit better, but I think going through a comprehensive CBT plan is ideal for me. Thanks
Thank you very much for this.
I Had chronic Insomnia for 8 yrs getting 5 to 15 min. of sleep for 8 months because what the doctors gave me for it was everything they had in every combination , after the 8 months I quit doctors, and started smoking 35% thc indica ,and that got me sleeping for about 4 to 6hrs. I told the docs this and they frowned at me !!! So some time back I quit all industrialized hygiene products and a week later the chronic Insomnia just went away !!!!!!!! It don’t stop there ,I Had celiac disease, fibromyalgia and peripheral neuropathy also, this is Crippling Nerve Pain, and now I don’t have any Nerve pain like I never had any of these so called diseases in the first place……. Those three diseases are an allergic reaction from the Chemical Glyphosate for me anyway everyone’s a little different …… your welcome in Advance ! Tim.
What kind of hygiene products do you use now? I’ve been trying to quit industrial toxins
Man, I'm sending so much love and good wishes your way right now. Thanks for this wonderful video.
For anyone who is having poor sleep, know that you are not alone. I know sometimes it seems like you're about to lose your mind, but I can assure you that it does get better if we get to have more positive feelings about life and about ourselves. ❤️
My Sleep Promoting Thoughts happen around lunch.
The best thing in the video other than the great information is that there is no annoying background music 👍 i wich all videos are like that.
Someone tried to convince me it was really important to put music on my short form content and I thought about it for a while but I just couldn't bring myself to do it. I hate background music too
Why do i panic when just as i start to fall asleep? Is there something I can do?
Your subconscious is excited it can do it. Like "SEE! I CAN sleep." It's so fucking dumb and I have the same.
This video has been very helpful - Thanks!!
Glad it was helpful!
Nice video , thank you
Hi very nice video , pls post video for how to face benzodiazipen withdrawal
I’m interested in that as well
How's this for brain noise? I have tinnitus (ringing of the ears equivalent to about 50+db of real noise), have some stupid song stuck in my head and at least 2 different thoughts going all at the same time. It's like walking thru WalMart TV shop with all the TV's on different channels and you can't turn 'em off. When I do sleep, never more than 3 hours, always waking up about 3AM and that's usually the last real sleep for the night. Going to bed earlier only makes more time to lay there.
how are you now?
Brilliant video!
Thanks bro ❤
Really like the videos. Very informative, especially about the core sleep of 5.5 hours (REM + Deep Sleep.) However, I have a FitBit and my sleep app says I get about 6-7 hours of sleep a night, but over 50% is light sleep. My total REM + Deep sleep (core sleep) is less than 3 hours, and I'm exhausted every day. So what can someone do to improve deep sleep and REM sleep?
4 hours deep sleep
Hello, I have found this video very helpful. I'm planning to get a 8 to 9 hours sleep regularly but I'm failing again and again to achieve this lifestyle, Does quality matter ?Or does quantity matter? I;m also learning english as it's not my first language.
Great stuff.
Thanks!
This is what I always feel and this is traumatic for me
I am wondering how OCD can impact cognitive therapy, where we replace current rituals which may be keeping us awake, with cognitive rituals that become Obsessive?
Replacing rituals with cognitive strategies could inadvertently lead to cognitive rituals, so it is important to be mindful of the difference between disputing unhelpful thoughts vs engaging in obsessive cognitive rituals to neutralize anxiety or prevent bad things from happening. But cognitive therapy is often part of CBT for OCD, so it can be an effective tool in managing both insomnia and OCD, and not something that necessarily feeds into OCD.
Where is the “pinned comment” you keep referring to in the video ?
Sorry, it looks like I forgot to pin it but it's pinned now at the top of the comments
Amazing, thank you so very much ❤
Thank you for this video 😊
I lost my job and my home but i could get to sleep because i had different thoughts than insomnia
I‘m always waking up between 4.00 and 4.30 when i need to go to work or when i set the alarm clock. But if theres no alarm clock for the next day and no work i always get better sleep. Does somebody know what this problem is caused by? 😢
This is very common. There's a bit of anxiety or pressure to sleep because you know you have to be up at a certain time, so this makes it harder to sleep.
@@SelfHelpToons Maybe do you know what i can do about it? I'm Thankful for every advice
When we have an alarm set we can sort of prepare ourselves to have to wake up, which makes it harder to stay asleep. Instead of having thoughts like "I know I won't get back to sleep because this always happens to me when I have an alarm" (or whatever goes through your mind) you need to find a way to tell yourself it doesn't matter and to not care that the alarm is going to go off in a couple or few hours.
This can even happen if we always wake up at 7:00 a.m. without an alarm even when we don't have to be up then, but if we set an alarm for 7:00, we wake up at 4:30 and can't get back to sleep because we know we have to be up in a couple of hours. It's not about sleep so much as about our thoughts about our sleep.
I feel fine most of the time just often tired from not enough sleep.
I just don't fall asleep quickly takes about 30mins-60 mins and wake up about 4 hrs later, stay awake for maybe 2 hours fall asleep again for a couple of hrs then wake up again and try to then start my day. I'm not a depressed or particularly anxious person, I just don't fall asleep easily and when I do sleep I don't stay asleep for long.😮
Amen to NO background music
What if you have a great life ( no depression or financial problems) wake up every two hours fighting (various and many) CPAP masks while taking one medication after another ???? :(
this video is very helpful.but the moment i stop caring if i sleep or not i slept easy as fuck
●😢● Covid gave me Ansonia..
Man insomnia sucks. sometimes i cant even sleep for one minute. Like right now and ive got exam in the morning
wonder what sleep promoting thoughts you can have if you can't sleep at all. I wish I'd get my core sleep... I only sleep every second day and I CANNOT function on these days.
how long is your average sleep?
@@theevildeaddy2352 how are you now?
I don't even get 5.5 hours of sleep. Even if I fall asleep, I wake up exactly after 3 hours and then start stressing and can't fall asleep again. My situation is probably much worse...
same, I always wake up after 3-4 hours of sleep.. uffff. Has anything helped you?
@@ATAXIA424 Meditation helps me a bit, the realization that our thoughts are not really who we are, just letting the thoughts move because it doesn't mean I have to get into them. There is no thought that I can think of and give a solution to in the middle of the night, it doesn't really help, there is no point in getting into it. The more I fight and think about sleep the worse my situation is, sometimes it helps me to accept my messed up situation and live with it, paradoxically the more I accept my messed up situation the better I sleep. I still find myself having sleepless nights, but a little less lately. If I still have nights that I don't sleep, I try as much as I can not to get too upset about it, I try to be effective during this time and read a book or meditate.
Is not worst at all I sleep 1 hours if possible if not I don't sleep at all. I will do the opposite of what my thoughts tell me and not dwell if I can't sleep or not I found out that we create this phobia called phobia of wakefulness just thinking so much that night will come and we won't be able to sleep. So i just do things you would usually do before you developed insomnia or don't give two cents if you sleep or not.
I am in the same boat. Hard to go to sleep, then wake up and can't go back to sleep. Have tried every natural remedy out there. The only thing that has helped is CBT for a different issue I had besides poor sleep. I learned how to balance my thoughts. I used to panic and have terrible anxiety over not getting enough sleep, which made things worse. After CBT therapy, I don't sleep any better, but I don't panic or get anxious as much about it, which helps me to deal with things the next day. I'm exhausted most days
but am able to keep some balance to things. Good luck!
Bro, I've been living off an average of 2hrs sleep night for 5 yrs. Plus there are days back to back where I get absolutely no sleep. Count ur blessings
I keep waking up at 2 am
Insomnia made me jobless
@@hollowinside1962 how are you now?
@@Limitlessluckyunique888 the same
@hollowinside1962 how is your insomnia going on?
It doesn't work
I cannot sleep without sleeping pills. If i go sleep not taking sleeping pill, I would not be able to sleep. not even 30 minutes
Same here
I sleep 1 hour if possible if not I don't sleep at all. Even with sleeping meds. I will do the opposite of what my thoughts tell me and not dwell if I can't sleep or not I found out that we create this phobia called phobia of wakefulness just thinking so much that night will come,
and we won't be able to sleep. So let's just do things we would usually do before you developed insomnia
or/and don't give two cents if you sleep or not
@@lv4313 I try this method but every time feel fatigue or have some symptom of not sleeping I get reminded of not being able to sleep throughout the day
@@lv4313 but what if I die bcs of chronic insomnia? What if I cannot function in next day? What if I passed out on street...
@@theresiasinta7730 and that's exactly what's keeping You from sleeping. The fear of what is gonna happen if You don't sleep or this and that and that now i said fuck it and whatever happens happens i Will JUST try Will try to función and not fear not sleeping. And it's been 5 months and now i sleep 6-9 hours. I usted to only sleep one hour a day For months if we call that sleep.
How many hours do You sleep?
I like you
i find this video wishy washy, oh yes no sleep wont affect me, what about the massive migraine? oh naïve one?
You are not a true insomniac.
oh you guys cant sleep?I cant wake up xDD
The fact that you are telling yourself that you are using cbti to treat insomnia already kissed that opportunity goodbye. Every time your try, buy, or do something for the intent of helping insomnia, whether subconsciously or consciously, you will make your insomnia worse and will not help. That is why it can't treat insomnia because you can't use any technique to help it.
Not true at all. Studies show that CBT does help with insomnia.
That’s not true, it’s the opposite. It’s the fear of insomnia that causes it, you have to face your fear or it gets worse
You can control all the aspects around insomnia despite not being able to force sleep. Meaning if you pressure your sleep system, you will eventually sleep. CBTi works but it's brutal.
Grounding/earthing (search in YT) is good at prevent and help fight almost all health problem especially insomnia, it's easy to DIY a grounding mat, sheet or pillow to use at home, NO need to buy.👣🌏
Did grounding cure your insomnia? I'm willing to try anything at this point. Have tried CBT for a few weeks but no real improvement to date. 😢
Hello, I have found this video very helpful. I'm planning to get a 8 to 9 hours sleep regularly but I'm failing again and again to achieve this lifestyle, Does quality matter ?Or does quantity matter? I;m also learning english as it's not my first language.
Both sleep quality and quantity are important. Our bodies need to reach deep sleep, which is stage 3 sleep and REM sleep. And we also need sufficient quantity of this type of sleep. The quantity of sleep we need varies from person to person and is dependent on a number of factors.