Dated a high maintenance, narcissistic and emotionally unstable…I got out fast.. girl had expensive taste with no money, I paid for everything…she lived with her parents but claimed she had her own home, was constantly begging for money, talking about herself while belittling me and downplaying my accomplishments.
Dang sound like we dated the same woman 😅. Mine paid for nothing then called me cheap. But I stayed for a yrs. Not time wasted because the timing would have been off that allowed me to meet my wonderful wife.
Well said brother, most men don't think about that because we're visual, blinded by her looks. A woman may seem attractive that is until you find out the way she thinks, then suddenly she doesn't seem so attractive anymore. This will definitely help a lot of men who are in relationships and those actively pursuing one. Good lookin' out.👍
@@jamaalhorton2343 I’m sorry you had bad experiences in your relationships I pray you find someone that can heal your heart & mind cus you sound butt hurt
@@youvegotmel2844 making assumptions is another sign of narcissism!! I don’t need no woman!! I have me and that’s all I need! So thank you for your well wishes but I’m good!
@@jamaalhorton2343 I’m just tryna understand why you @ me saying 99 percent women are narcissist where did that come from? Again you sound butt hurt you need healing is what it is
I will add one. Damaged women. A lot of women suffer from childhood trauma that they have not healed or gotten treatment for. This can be stressful and frustrating for most men. How long are you willing to wait to be happy.
And who "traumatized" these women? MEN. Fathers who were never there, who abused the mothers of these women, and therefore the women chose men who abused them because that's what they learned growing up.
Man... I came across this channel by accident and I'm glad I did. I was in a relationship with a woman who is emotionally unstable. I didn't realize that until after I fell for her. Everything was fine, so I thought, and one day, she flipped the script and turned into someone I didn't know. It was a shock to me. Needless to say, whatever was bothering her, is still bothering her, and she asked me not to contact her anymore. I have NO clue what happened, and how we got there. It's frustrating to be in this position and not know why she made the decision she made. Definitely, some red flags there that I overlooked. Thank you again for taking the time out to educate. Be blessed!!
My wife is emotionally unstable ever since she had sex with another man. We now have 2 kids and it is the most painful thing I ever experienced. The only time I feel peace is when im not around her.
I total her today that im moving on and she seems to understand, i gently explained the situation and why i cant live with an unfaithful woman and that it’s destroying me spiritually. I don’t wanna conflict any pain on her and Im separated from here on out. I have had nothing but a peaceful mind since i made this decision and am finally freed from this prison. Im currently fixing my one house i own once it’s completed i will be moving out. From the beginning i preserved my body for only her and she didn’t, and to be blameless at the end of my life i will continue to live under that commitment only to please the one and only true God.
Very well Said Advice. It's A Reminder of Having A Discerning attitude; not Looking For Faults; because no one is Perfect; But Being Patient for a Well Balance Life Partner. The Wisdom From this Video is Sound. Thank you My Brother; Looking Forward To More Great Content Like This ; So it Can Turn on the light bulb in our Heads To Be Wisely Aware of these Things. Pastor Jeff Watson.Nu-Dominion Ministreiz Cleveland ohio.
Also healthy real relationships are NOT messy. Yeah she may get out of line and need to be corrected or checked sometime but being messy is borderline toxic
The problem with entitlement is that it's a one way street, knowing only what they want from you and not what they bring to the table. Accountability is a woman's kryptonite for in her mind she is always going to be right.
I came across this video and what hurts me the most is that I was the opposite of this.. I was too meek, I gave all of me always compromising.. and still he hurt me and cheated.. he said I was desperate.. and I was not desperate it have other guys that like me but I just dont like them.. i loved him and he broke every part of my soul.. so now im broken but not damaged I learnt a lot about setting my boundaries..
I hope you're not blaming anyone but yourself as to why that relationship failed. Buried in your comment is the answer as to why it was bound to fail. 😊
Y’all throw the word “ love” around too loosely. You’re not supposed to love that many people, but you can care for them to an extent. Dating is like a sports team. Sometimes you win the championship, and other times you lose, which makes you think about how to improve everything surrounding you, along with yourself. Your soul shouldn’t be broken, it should be reinforcing itself to make you a stronger woman.
There are no guarantees. This video is about limiting exposure to certain negatives. That doesn't mean its 100% guaranteed the relationship will if you avoid all the negatives.
First off, 💯 on the ten types. I will add this type, although she may fall within one of the ten: the female who has no issue with not resolving an argument prior to bedtime. I’ve seen what this does to a female the morning after an unresolved argument with her man, but her man had a heart attack in his sleep and died. I have seen a female absolutely fall to pieces realizing that her man is dead, and the last interaction they had was her being a verbally abusive asshole to him. It destroyed her. Great content, just discovering you, will subscribe and like, ty!!
I am glad you didn’t say single moms. They can be single for 3 reasons: 1) their man wasn’t good/ready; 2) they were not good/ready; 3) both were not good/ready. A single mom who gets their stuff together for their child/children may grow in to what they need to be.
When it comes to dating and marriage, I feel that the African American Community is doomed to fail! Our expectations are totally unrealistic. Everybody is trying to date outside of their lane. Maybe we would be better off letting Candace Owens and Steve Harvey choose our mates for us.
This sounds like some extremely good advice. You make me want to ignore a particular x girlfriend. Thank god I never married her. In fact I already won’t get married. That just gives them the key to destroy me. It’s better to love and lost than never loved at all, but it’s also good to never let women mess your life up in the meantime. I just stay single due to I don’t even connect with women. There’s attraction usually, but other than that everything’s just off. They always find some other sucker easier than me to manipulate and that’s ok.😂
Yes I totally agree I was in a long term relationship, And I felt like I was dying inside, There was know affection like simple hugging are a slight kiss because I had to avoid the constant mood swings, And if I said anything about the situation, Even in a soft understanding tone in my voice she would still be triggered so I would avoid physical affection 😢😢😢
@@StevenSmith-zs4mv Damn Steven, this is tough. Hope things have gotten better for you. Is there some super power you wished you had before deciding to commit to a woman?
I'm a attractive visually impaired man smells nice and dresses nice I don't get compliments, eye contact from pretty or average women I always get negative looks and body language, that s why I d don't approach or try to make eye contact,let alone attempt to start a conversation
Narcissist wasting your damn time, relationships are messy you need to compromise but a lot of women meet this criteria that you have discussed fully in this video.
The sad TRUTH is that these "toxic" women you are describing have been damaged by TOXIC MEN, going all the way back to their fathers. Men need to take responsibility for THEIR healing.
I’m sorry but you can’t hold the men you date accountable for what your father did to you. We didn’t create the issue. You need to go get therapy before dealing with men. Until then don’t date.
@@darwynnmcpherson Ran into her at a workplace, academically brilliant, can be charming, beautiful and well proportioned, then started dating turns out what a horrible mistake; ran for my dear life.
@@darwynnmcpherson 5 years had no peace work myself to death no appreciation no respect I stuck around for a long time because of my son who is autistic and is gonna be 3 in nov she had a strong family dependency and no motivation living off of tik Tok and the ideas of how I should be from it tho tho I worked and always provided butt the vibe of my house was constant war so I got used to always being in a war till I tuned out sex was like a transaction and I had to do something for it my wife was extremely pretty for my looks damn I was a doormat I had my fair share of frustration and yelling back but I was the only one who ever took accountability on anything I'm alone now in a city far from anyone I know but that's okay I have peace and I have a purpose now I'm not allowed to see my son out of spite but Dada will be back soon lol
Ill be your brother from afar... Anytime you need to talk just shoot me an email or Dm. Keep grinding bro, your son is counting on you to overcome this.
@@darwynnmcpherson yes brother we was supposed to get married but she didn’t she would find ways not to get married so she was older than me 5yrs she has 2 kinds both have autism 2 baby daddies I’m 30yrs old she playing games with me put me in jail painted like I’m a monster but all I’ve done with her tried to make a family with her but everybody said she’s crazy I was settling that’s too much I’m 30yrs old I got the rest of my life to live so I’m glad I’m away from that
@@darwynnmcpherson Man you right but I didn’t wanna give up or turn my back on her & the boys she gotta deal with that for the rest of her life while I can do whatever I want but if I’m such a monster why were with me all that time but man I’m glad I got away
@@hakeemmahdee2927 She came in to the deal accepting and acknowledging that her past decisions was her burden alone. Her and her boys is her burden so you didn't give up on her. It was nothing to hold on to in the beginning, no marriage and conditional loyalty from the kids that aren't yours. You are not a monster you were blessed to have seen her uncooperative nature and some force or some energy has pushed you out from being a statistic. May not have been what you wanted so i have to say that the Lord was protecting you.
Talking to other guys behind the guy back being sneaky being younger than the other guy age Pass history using in the present 🤢🤢 Stay silent let her go
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Dated a high maintenance, narcissistic and emotionally unstable…I got out fast.. girl had expensive taste with no money, I paid for everything…she lived with her parents but claimed she had her own home, was constantly begging for money, talking about herself while belittling me and downplaying my accomplishments.
Dang sound like we dated the same woman 😅. Mine paid for nothing then called me cheap. But I stayed for a yrs. Not time wasted because the timing would have been off that allowed me to meet my wonderful wife.
Yikes
That is so unfair, I am lost for words. It cannot be described how unfair that is.
Dang what’s huh name I think ik her😂
The lack of accountability is an across the board phenomenon.
A pandemic
Ya that blame-shifting tool they pull out is always ready
Well said brother, most men don't think about that because we're visual, blinded by her looks. A woman may seem attractive that is until you find out the way she thinks, then suddenly she doesn't seem so attractive anymore. This will definitely help a lot of men who are in relationships and those actively pursuing one. Good lookin' out.👍
1. Entitled women
2. Lack accountability
3. Women refuses to compromise
4. Manipulative behavior
5. Narcissistic tendencies
6. Unrealistic expectations
7. High Maintenance Women
8. Gold Diggers
9. Immature, irresponsible no goals
10. Emotionally Instability
@@youvegotmel2844 basically narcissistic women which is 99 percent
@@jamaalhorton2343 I’m sorry you had bad experiences in your relationships I pray you find someone that can heal your heart & mind cus you sound butt hurt
@@youvegotmel2844 making assumptions is another sign of narcissism!! I don’t need no woman!! I have me and that’s all I need! So thank you for your well wishes but I’m good!
@@jamaalhorton2343 I’m just tryna understand why you @ me saying 99 percent women are narcissist where did that come from? Again you sound butt hurt you need healing is what it is
@@jamaalhorton2343 men definitely don’t take any accountability ever either plus yall highly selfish
You just eliminated 98% of all western women. 😅😂
That is what we need to do to find the right woman
Facts
"Don't walk, run" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣👍
I will add one. Damaged women. A lot of women suffer from childhood trauma that they have not healed or gotten treatment for. This can be stressful and frustrating for most men. How long are you willing to wait to be happy.
And who "traumatized" these women? MEN. Fathers who were never there, who abused the mothers of these women, and therefore the women chose men who abused them because that's what they learned growing up.
@@janetvansky3621 Looks like Janet got triggered. A mother can damage her daughter too - but then that doesn't fit your one-sided narrative does it.
She Checked Off Every Box Per Topic
AND the worst place to try to meet a woman is the mall , because they are all taken or spoken for
Man... I came across this channel by accident and I'm glad I did. I was in a relationship with a woman who is emotionally unstable. I didn't realize that until after I fell for her. Everything was fine, so I thought, and one day, she flipped the script and turned into someone I didn't know. It was a shock to me. Needless to say, whatever was bothering her, is still bothering her, and she asked me not to contact her anymore. I have NO clue what happened, and how we got there. It's frustrating to be in this position and not know why she made the decision she made. Definitely, some red flags there that I overlooked. Thank you again for taking the time out to educate. Be blessed!!
We can figure it out together brotha
My wife is emotionally unstable ever since she had sex with another man.
We now have 2 kids and it is the most painful thing I ever experienced. The only time I feel peace is when im not around her.
I’ll pray for you. Anytime you need to talk about it or want change I have a link you can schedule to meet on my profile
@@darwynnmcpherson thank you for understanding.
@@Andrewszm You're welcome brotha
I total her today that im moving on and she seems to understand, i gently explained the situation and why i cant live with an unfaithful woman and that it’s destroying me spiritually. I don’t wanna conflict any pain on her and Im separated from here on out. I have had nothing but a peaceful mind since i made this decision and am finally freed from this prison. Im currently fixing my one house i own once it’s completed i will be moving out. From the beginning i preserved my body for only her and she didn’t, and to be blameless at the end of my life i will continue to live under that commitment only to please the one and only true God.
I understand and hope you stay strong
Men remember, Drizzle Drizzle.
Some of these groups of Women are the same. The "gold digger" and " high maintenance" , the "manipulator" and "narcissistic".
Narcissistic is it. Social media has birthed a lot of those.
Very well Said Advice. It's A Reminder of Having A Discerning attitude; not Looking For Faults; because no one is Perfect; But Being Patient for a Well Balance Life Partner. The Wisdom From this Video is Sound. Thank you My Brother; Looking Forward To More Great Content Like This ; So it Can Turn on the light bulb in our Heads To Be Wisely Aware of these Things. Pastor Jeff Watson.Nu-Dominion Ministreiz Cleveland ohio.
Amen and thanks. I from 106th and Harvard Ave. BELIEVELAND
Dam... the real horror story is all these different traits wrapped up in one woman.
Without Saying It We All Know What The Vast Majority And Race Of Women Fits Your Description ...
So true
The race of women men like you left more than 2,000 years ago and it looks like God has left men like you.
These 10 Types Fit 99% of Women Out Here..Think over This..
FACTS!
Also healthy real relationships are NOT messy. Yeah she may get out of line and need to be corrected or checked sometime but being messy is borderline toxic
Great video👍
Glad you enjoyed
Don’t walk, run!
Thank you Brother, Great info!
Any time!
Great info brother
Thanks for watching
Always
Here for it!!!
The problem with entitlement is that it's a one way street, knowing only what they want from you and not what they bring to the table. Accountability is a woman's kryptonite for in her mind she is always going to be right.
Thank you,great video.
Glad you liked it!
Thank you for this videos! Said a lot of true things, that one can learn from....
Glad it was helpful!
Thanks. Excellent video. I will spread the video to every man I can.
Thanks Stacy!!!🫱🏾🫲🏽
Brah....Darker suite would more than likely due you well.
Good luck
I needed that one.
Glad i could help
I came across this video and what hurts me the most is that I was the opposite of this.. I was too meek, I gave all of me always compromising.. and still he hurt me and cheated.. he said I was desperate.. and I was not desperate it have other guys that like me but I just dont like them.. i loved him and he broke every part of my soul.. so now im broken but not damaged I learnt a lot about setting my boundaries..
Me too bro
I hope you're not blaming anyone but yourself as to why that relationship failed. Buried in your comment is the answer as to why it was bound to fail. 😊
Y’all throw the word “ love” around too loosely. You’re not supposed to love that many people, but you can care for them to an extent. Dating is like a sports team. Sometimes you win the championship, and other times you lose, which makes you think about how to improve everything surrounding you, along with yourself. Your soul shouldn’t be broken, it should be reinforcing itself to make you a stronger woman.
You chased the wrong characteristics. Lots of infatuation, and no real life compatability
There are no guarantees. This video is about limiting exposure to certain negatives. That doesn't mean its 100% guaranteed the relationship will if you avoid all the negatives.
First off, 💯 on the ten types.
I will add this type, although she may fall within one of the ten: the female who has no issue with not resolving an argument prior to bedtime.
I’ve seen what this does to a female the morning after an unresolved argument with her man, but her man had a heart attack in his sleep and died. I have seen a female absolutely fall to pieces realizing that her man is dead, and the last interaction they had was her being a verbally abusive asshole to him. It destroyed her.
Great content, just discovering you, will subscribe and like, ty!!
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Great video bro i kn exactly what u are saying
Thanks
I am glad you didn’t say single moms. They can be single for 3 reasons: 1) their man wasn’t good/ready; 2) they were not good/ready; 3) both were not good/ready. A single mom who gets their stuff together for their child/children may grow in to what they need to be.
@@percynelson7726 he forgot to mention single mothers .... it's doesn't matter the circumstances, a single mom is a dish you do not want to order
@@percynelson7726 he didn't say Single moms because why mention an Archetype that's already been discussed Countless times before ...
Wow, I have some reevaluating to do.
When it comes to dating and marriage, I feel that the African American Community is doomed to fail! Our expectations are totally unrealistic. Everybody is trying to date outside of their lane. Maybe we would be better off letting Candace Owens and Steve Harvey choose our mates for us.
Used to look at the physical and thinking that the all I need! Need to smarten up and be patient and going for better !!
This is a common mistake. Now you know and you’re heading in the right direction.
This sounds like some extremely good advice. You make me want to ignore a particular x girlfriend. Thank god I never married her. In fact I already won’t get married. That just gives them the key to destroy me. It’s better to love and lost than never loved at all, but it’s also good to never let women mess your life up in the meantime. I just stay single due to I don’t even connect with women. There’s attraction usually, but other than that everything’s just off. They always find some other sucker easier than me to manipulate and that’s ok.😂
THANK YOU MY BROTHER 🙏
💯💯💯
Nice one
Thanks for watching
Talk about narcsissit you are the man .I went true thad and histronic personality you learn.
True
Yes I totally agree I was in a long term relationship, And I felt like I was dying inside, There was know affection like simple hugging are a slight kiss because I had to avoid the constant mood swings, And if I said anything about the situation, Even in a soft understanding tone in my voice she would still be triggered so I would avoid physical affection 😢😢😢
I did something outside of my character seeking attention 😢 Noughting sexual, It was online, The sad part about it is I felt nothing 😢
@@StevenSmith-zs4mv Damn Steven, this is tough. Hope things have gotten better for you. Is there some super power you wished you had before deciding to commit to a woman?
What does this mean? It means we're on to you Ladies. Govern yourselves accordingly. Superior Commentary.
I'm a attractive visually impaired man smells nice and dresses nice I don't get compliments, eye contact from pretty or average women I always get negative looks and body language, that s why I d don't approach or try to make eye contact,let alone attempt to start a conversation
Leon it’s all good brother we’ve been there. It’s a struggle. But don’t quit keep leveling up don’t worry about them they will come running
Narcissist wasting your damn time, relationships are messy you need to compromise but a lot of women meet this criteria that you have discussed fully in this video.
Many thanks.
You are welcome!
Women with children especially as a single man.
The sad TRUTH is that these "toxic" women you are describing have been damaged by TOXIC MEN, going all the way back to their fathers. Men need to take responsibility for THEIR healing.
I’m sorry but you can’t hold the men you date accountable for what your father did to you. We didn’t create the issue. You need to go get therapy before dealing with men. Until then don’t date.
Lmao 😂 Janet take accountability, Jesus
Bro thank you very much my x-wife fit into three or four categories you just mentioned thank you man thank you
No problem 👍
Don't walk run... 👍
Don’t walk run…..
No one, and, I mean no one owns their mistakes!
When she has a lot of male friends
Mentally unstable. RUN don't think twice
Fairs ❤
Lord..
I love to share in my story.make it possible
Share your story? Or share the video in your story?
Please let the video be in a wayj
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All of what a narcissist is.
@Ghettobank69 loads of them about these days unfortunately.
you're a smart guy, wise beyond your years, do you coach males on an individual basis?
Yes I do and thanks!
Shoot me an Email
@@darwynnmcpherson please send me your email, I can't find it on the page, sorry....
Bruizzr@outlook.com
@@darwynnmcpherson thank you brother. I’m gonna send you an email at some point later today.
I know a girl with 9 of these qualities, it was a nightmare.
Oh wow!!! How do you know her?
@@darwynnmcpherson Ran into her at a workplace, academically brilliant, can be charming, beautiful and well proportioned, then started dating turns out what a horrible mistake; ran for my dear life.
Yikes 😳
Just got out of a marriage with a woman that hit every single mark I'm exhausted and destroyed
Wow how long ago was this?
@@darwynnmcpherson 5 years had no peace work myself to death no appreciation no respect I stuck around for a long time because of my son who is autistic and is gonna be 3 in nov she had a strong family dependency and no motivation living off of tik Tok and the ideas of how I should be from it tho tho I worked and always provided butt the vibe of my house was constant war so I got used to always being in a war till I tuned out sex was like a transaction and I had to do something for it my wife was extremely pretty for my looks damn I was a doormat I had my fair share of frustration and yelling back but I was the only one who ever took accountability on anything I'm alone now in a city far from anyone I know but that's okay I have peace and I have a purpose now I'm not allowed to see my son out of spite but Dada will be back soon lol
@@darwynnmcpherson like 3 months and the last month I have spent without my son from her spite
Ill be your brother from afar...
Anytime you need to talk just shoot me an email or Dm.
Keep grinding bro, your son is counting on you to overcome this.
The advice was good, except you said give if you want to, but don’t encourage men to be Stingy ! That’s definitely not a good trait.
Be generous because you want to. Not because your asked to.
Says the Golddigger...
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This video is basically about my Ex-fiance
OMG really?
@@darwynnmcpherson yes brother we was supposed to get married but she didn’t she would find ways not to get married so she was older than me 5yrs she has 2 kinds both have autism 2 baby daddies I’m 30yrs old she playing games with me put me in jail painted like I’m a monster but all I’ve done with her tried to make a family with her but everybody said she’s crazy I was settling that’s too much I’m 30yrs old I got the rest of my life to live so I’m glad I’m away from that
@hakeemmahdee2927 I’m glad you realized that was a bad deal for you. Uneven tradeoffs leads to incompatibility
@@darwynnmcpherson Man you right but I didn’t wanna give up or turn my back on her & the boys she gotta deal with that for the rest of her life while I can do whatever I want but if I’m such a monster why were with me all that time but man I’m glad I got away
@@hakeemmahdee2927 She came in to the deal accepting and acknowledging that her past decisions was her burden alone. Her and her boys is her burden so you didn't give up on her. It was nothing to hold on to in the beginning, no marriage and conditional loyalty from the kids that aren't yours. You are not a monster you were blessed to have seen her uncooperative nature and some force or some energy has pushed you out from being a statistic. May not have been what you wanted so i have to say that the Lord was protecting you.
There's not many women left if you avoid these types. 😅
You only need one to go with you
I'll date a woman who cant faster than me , so when the walk away turns into run....i'm safe.
RULES OUT 99.9 % of woman
The type I stay away from are blondes, brunettes, redheads. All of em
Need to say stay away from bipolar women
My ex just went 0-10 I was trping 😂
Soooo we are supposed 2 avoid all women then 😂 ? This list describes all women at different times of the month 😆💯
Moral of the story is avoid women🤣
Talking to other guys behind the guy back being sneaky being younger than the other guy age
Pass history using in the present 🤢🤢
Stay silent let her go
Disapear , some women are all ten.
It's the equivalent of dating a child😮
Fellas stay focused and self love is my best advice.
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All of what a narcissist is.
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