Don't date these types of women, they'll make you miserable

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  • Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2024

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  • @JessicaOS
    @JessicaOS  2 года назад +442

    A little support goes a long way! If you'd like to support my channel in any shape or form, join my growing Patreon community! thanks in advance. Join here: www.patreon.com/jessicaos

    • @antoniomitchell1883
      @antoniomitchell1883 2 года назад +3

      No thanks

    • @robbinsleshira2329
      @robbinsleshira2329 2 года назад +6

      Soo true soo refreshing to have a chic givin dudes tips.... Its rare

    • @hyberkonawa272
      @hyberkonawa272 2 года назад +1

      Jessica do you think some men like me has the fault for not being better enough with women?
      For example these are the things I do as a man:
      I wear clothes that makes me comfortable NOT what pleases women.
      I workout at the Gym because I'm thinking about my health NOT in my physical body for women.
      I make money because I'm thinking about my career and the things I want to do on life, NOT for women.
      Are those habits or activities I do.... makes women very picky or undesirable for men? cuz I've just watched a podcast by Jordan Peterson and I still can't understand about... what is exactly the problem with us men?
      I almost don't complain much about getting rejection cuz I personally don't give a fuck what everyone thinks about me... but still cannot understand if is modern women ruining dating? or does is me the way I view "the modern women" that kills my motivation to seek women?
      I'm male, 25 years old, college student living with my parents.
      Please I would like to hear a response from you, if there is an advice you can give me in order to understand your perspective as a woman.

    • @buckeyes71077
      @buckeyes71077 2 года назад +2

      Thank you so much @Jessica_Os

    • @buckeyes71077
      @buckeyes71077 2 года назад +2

      Jessica I love that Yankees shirt

  • @dewaynebowers1193
    @dewaynebowers1193 3 года назад +1438

    So refreshing to have a woman who is helping men improve in these areas instead of male bashing… Keep up the good work Queen … You are appreciated.

    • @gazasqreech
      @gazasqreech 2 года назад +5

      Facts

    • @JediJide2
      @JediJide2 2 года назад +9

      @Dr. John Fallout4Nut - Learn what "simping" is😂. Maybe you were referring to sycophantic behaviour? Still, there's absolutely nothing wrong with complementing others' efforts.

    • @LaleyWeyRey47
      @LaleyWeyRey47 2 года назад

      Oh yea!!! Same here greatly love her body language😉

    • @Extinguish_
      @Extinguish_ 2 года назад +10

      @Dr. John Fallout4Nut simp word be making me so mad cuz it be weirdos calling everyone a simp

    • @grindmind4281
      @grindmind4281 2 года назад +10

      The word queen is rapidly being abused

  • @fredpotts3126
    @fredpotts3126 2 года назад +350

    She just defined like 85% of modern women to a Tea This is exactly why most guys are walking away from dating nowadays

    • @DjKryx
      @DjKryx 2 года назад

      I don't know where you live and who you let feed you these takes, but it is not true. I have been with quite a lot of women and majority of my friend group are women - they hate when men are the only one spending money, they never spend men's money (why tf would they do it), they save money and buy only when necessary, they want to contribute, they want compromise. If anything, older generations act as described in the videos, but 20-26 yo women don't

    • @onebottleofwater9487
      @onebottleofwater9487 2 года назад +21

      Yeah, and no wonder why marriage chart in the US is looking like a waterfall.

    • @Mrcerilio
      @Mrcerilio 2 года назад +29

      @@onebottleofwater9487 Not only in the US . I only met 1 good woman in my life and i made a huge mistake by not marrying her . I was young and stupid . Now i am old and still stupid .

    • @elenawalker517
      @elenawalker517 2 года назад +3

      Interesting all these points made not a one bm will date not a single BW anyways esp not with the point of making her life better 🙄🙄

    • @kuunami
      @kuunami 2 года назад +32

      @@elenawalker517 notice how your first instinct was to think about what the men should be doing for women on a video about how to avoid self centered women. This is exactly the issue men are facing.

  • @kayodejosiaholad1433
    @kayodejosiaholad1433 3 года назад +320

    This lady knows how to select her words. This is one thing I like about her.❤

    • @gghhh6210
      @gghhh6210 2 года назад +2

      @OJD PUBLISHING her God given wisdom and deep knowledge on human behaviour or relationships has nothing to do with her being married she is just God's chosen

  • @briannalmoore
    @briannalmoore 2 года назад +221

    8 Types:
    1. The Spendthrift
    2. The Liar
    3. The Chronic Flirt
    4. The Materialistic Woman
    5. The “What’s mine, is mine” type of woman
    6. The Insecure Woman
    7. The Beauty Only OR The Narcissist
    8. The “I’m not ready” woman

    • @qjtvaddict
      @qjtvaddict 2 года назад

      Liars spread STDs

    • @cashless1980
      @cashless1980 2 года назад +20

      so basically all women??!!

    • @JeremiahDaniel1995
      @JeremiahDaniel1995 Год назад

      Don’t date these types of women???
      Scratch that a real motherf*cker like me don’t date lmf@o!

    • @imnoemit
      @imnoemit Год назад +1

      @@cashless1980 🤣

    • @rp7r54
      @rp7r54 6 месяцев назад +1

      The list is too short

  • @superbchannel3167
    @superbchannel3167 2 года назад +81

    That's a great list. Thank you. But there is more....
    More types of women to avoid:
    1. The chronically argumentative woman=> will wear you out and make you age faster
    2. The promiscuous woman => for too many reasons: future unfaithfulness, diseases, future divorce, tendency to revert to her former lifestyle, etc
    3. The party girl => she puts herself in situations where she can do bad things; can be easily bored with a simple/stable lifestyle bc she need regular excitements
    4. The lazy woman =>'nuff said. No jobs, no education, no achievements, no life goals, nothing that she looks up to everyday. Run!
    5. The unhygienic woman => your house will be dirty and disorganized; she will repulse you
    6. The addict => whether to alcohol, cigarette, drugs or other harmful substances. You can't save her.

    • @charataru1805
      @charataru1805 2 года назад +1

      3rd one is Tokyo from money heist

    • @meme-zv7kw
      @meme-zv7kw 7 месяцев назад

      Thanks for sharing

  • @TENBALZ
    @TENBALZ 3 года назад +374

    half the time its our fault when we get heart broken because we choose to ignore these signals and force things.

  • @jcnlaw
    @jcnlaw 2 года назад +382

    Seasoned divorce lawyer here. Love this video. Keep up the great work. You will put me out of business. Subscribed.

  • @dianakistaubaeva9321
    @dianakistaubaeva9321 3 года назад +625

    Actually here to learn how to be a better woman. :3
    In the world of city girls and city boys we have to choose better for ourselves. You get the energy you push out into the world back.

    • @moo1654
      @moo1654 3 года назад +17

      Your gonna be a wonderful G.F.💯👏🏾👏🏾

    • @arnoldwayne6775
      @arnoldwayne6775 3 года назад +13

      That's a myth. It's not about energy it's about compatibility.

    • @dianakistaubaeva9321
      @dianakistaubaeva9321 3 года назад +36

      @@arnoldwayne6775 Yeah there are dysfunctionally functional people as a couple but they compatible. But over the years I just realized I cannot blame my partners for my bad relationships anymore. I (can) be the problem too. That's what I want to change.

    • @dianakistaubaeva9321
      @dianakistaubaeva9321 3 года назад +5

      @John Johnson HAHA

    • @sal9092
      @sal9092 3 года назад +20

      @@dianakistaubaeva9321 Yeah only a narcissist constantly blames their mate, and refuses to accept personal responsibility and accountability for their own actions. Constantly check yourself in the mirror to peel away the bad qualities about yourself, so you can offer the best version of yourself to hopefully the next lucky person. Good luck on your quest.

  • @Salazar824
    @Salazar824 2 года назад +13

    Girl! You have restored my faith in humanity with this video. Thank you for lending us men a helping hand. God bless.

  • @davidionashku2500
    @davidionashku2500 2 года назад +88

    I dated a VERY insecure one, and when you said it’ll drain you, you’re freaking right lol thanks for the video

    • @Arvidje
      @Arvidje 2 года назад +1

      Insecurities come from men who don’t communicate that well or can’t read the attraction sign and act accordingly

    • @daffi.mp3
      @daffi.mp3 2 года назад +5

      @@Arvidje how do insecurities come from men? your probably thinking of a specific example in your head. however we are talking about women who are ALREADY insecure coming into a relationship. This constant insecurity will have you mentally drained because you have to keep reassuring at every single step and turn. This insecurity can also eventually with time rob off onto the man. anyways don't generalize and don't use personal examples of past relationships thanks

    • @Cynsham
      @Cynsham 2 года назад +1

      @@Arvidje If you blame your own insecurities on other people then you're already missing the issue

    • @Arvidje
      @Arvidje 2 года назад +1

      @@daffi.mp3 insecure is driven on fear. Fear to lose , fear to risk. Woman sense fear right away. It’s a turn off. A woman want to feel comfort and protected. Generalizing : The goals , values and behavior may differ for each perso. but not the attraction. it’s a biological thing , same thing feeling hungery, everybody has that same feeling. Learn and read the proper fundamentals of attraction and u will have less drama and more happiness. Thanks

    • @Arvidje
      @Arvidje 2 года назад

      @@Cynsham insecurity is driven on fear. Fear to lose , fear to risk. Woman sense fear right away. It’s a turn off. A woman want to feel comfort and protected. Generalizing : The goals , values and behavior may differ for each perso. but not the attraction. it’s a biological thing , same thing feeling hungery, everybody has that same feeling. Learn and read the proper fundamentals of attraction and u will have less drama and more happiness.

  • @drmacsika
    @drmacsika 2 года назад +411

    I was once emotionally manipulated into a relationship by an insecure person. Everything you said about an insecure woman is true. Guys, never ever date an insecure person. Instead, be their friend and help them heal. If you are not careful, you may be emotionally manipulated into the relationship. And that may turn out to be the worse experience of your life. At best, you may start becoming insecure about yourself. And at worst, she may use you to heal, blame it all on you, and dump you for someone else.

    • @billionaire33
      @billionaire33 2 года назад +24

      I’m living it.

    • @bryonwatkins1432
      @bryonwatkins1432 2 года назад +3

      BINGO!!!!

    • @Aunit1984
      @Aunit1984 2 года назад +14

      Yes big dog. You are telling the truth. I had to get out of that situation eventually a year after our son was born and now I'm stuck trying to gain all my power back as a man

    • @angelamurphy3705
      @angelamurphy3705 2 года назад +18

      @@Aunit1984 things will never work out with a partner unless God put you together in marriage, unbeliever can't be equally yoked with believers things will never workout.

    • @Aunit1984
      @Aunit1984 2 года назад +12

      @@angelamurphy3705 we're both believers and we found out she was pregnant around the time I proposed to her.. but after we had him was when the problems we already had heightened even more to where we just stopped seeing eye to eye and I felt like this was truly who she was the whole time but because I didn't take more time in knowing who she really was and certain personal issues that I had on my end, we just fell apart and even me getting counseling and doing my best to turn things around she still does not take any ownership to her mistakes and blames everything on me which isn't right..

  • @bertrandfossung1216
    @bertrandfossung1216 3 года назад +153

    If only I knew most of these I would've saved myself from the hustle and bustle of so many toxic relationships. Jess..thanks for throwing more light on these . Everytime I tune to your channel, I learn my faults vis -a-vis women and little by little I'm becoming better version of myself. Thanks a million 🥰👍🏽

  • @alanstevens75
    @alanstevens75 2 года назад +180

    You forgot the last type of woman you shouldn't date : The chronically negative one. They'll drain you emotionally and turn you against the world believing everyone else is bad and they are the only saints. They keep feeding you with negative stories their friends say about men and relationships. No matter how hard you try to prove yourself it will never be enough. In the end you'll lose your sanity if you don't set yourself free. Avoid them at all cost.
    I just completed the list 😅

    • @tonyebiere551
      @tonyebiere551 2 года назад +13

      I think the Narcissist covers that

    • @ricocheteraw90sthebestdecade
      @ricocheteraw90sthebestdecade 2 года назад +10

      The ones who have father issues are the worst

    • @JoseRuiz-hc2vy
      @JoseRuiz-hc2vy 2 года назад +8

      Then they’ll tell you at the end of it that you’re the negative one, and they have grown past that and can’t grow with you anymore

    • @louiseelizabeth9613
      @louiseelizabeth9613 2 года назад +1

      Most of these characteristics all come under the same personality type - narcissist

    • @mikkairuryu7580
      @mikkairuryu7580 2 года назад +2

      @@JoseRuiz-hc2vy damn literally my case, and I also turned out to be an "abuser". It was so easy for her to end everything through text.

  • @Mahli711
    @Mahli711 2 года назад +21

    My latest ex was a narcissist, I tried being her friend (even after everything she’s done) she would lie to get her way and turn into the victim when she was the one who hurt me. When I flat out told her who she was in my eyes and offered to help her work through her selfishness she told me to go fuck myself and never spoke to me again, best feeling ever.
    Stay strong kings!

    • @synqFPS
      @synqFPS 2 года назад +3

      You cannot help these people

  • @pierramunuku
    @pierramunuku 2 года назад +16

    The "I am not ready" woman is more dangerous than men think ... usually (not always) this is the person who wants all the benefits of a relationship (fancy dates, your support, your care, love, etc.) on a "friendship pass". In short she wants the perks of a relationship without committing to one/giving anything.

  • @stephenezekiel416
    @stephenezekiel416 2 года назад +24

    Hey Jes
    I had to end it with a Narcissistic woman, Damn!!! It was really exhausting. Nothing i ever did was enough, always giving mixed signals. Act hot today and cold tomorrow 😏😏. I literally had to suspend my life to try and make it work, till I gave up. My highlights of 2021 was finding your channel. Thank you Jessica!

  • @1070Cook
    @1070Cook 2 года назад +24

    Proper education for our young men. Thanks Jessica.

  • @tbates860
    @tbates860 3 года назад +90

    Jessica you are so right. Newly divorced after 17 years and single and I’m terrified of the women out here WOW. I’m taking my time !!!!!!

    • @engrchris8149
      @engrchris8149 3 года назад +4

      That's great bates. We have to be careful with women.

    • @WdnUlik2no
      @WdnUlik2no 2 года назад +14

      I filled for divorce three years ago after about 18 years, I tried another relationship a year after and the new one fell in multiple categories in this list.
      After that I decided I'm done with dating, pretty much every woman these days fall into one or more of these categories, so I see no point in wasting my time; not worth sacrificing my sanity and peace of mind.

    • @contentcmunjeri7007
      @contentcmunjeri7007 2 года назад +1

      After God fear women 😂

    • @claradelay2084
      @claradelay2084 2 года назад +1

      Terrance, you are very wise to be afraid! The women in my family warn our males to be wary!
      Go realllll slow!

  • @Programsean
    @Programsean 2 года назад +20

    When you date someone
    Whether it’s a female dating a guy
    Whether it’s a male dating a girl
    Make sure to observe 💯 & seek any red flags 🚩, also ask open ended important questions, not interesting questions.
    Make sure their family are not conflicting.
    Make sure their family never Interfere with their relationship.
    Make sure you talk about income improves & much more about living situations & rising new opportunities before seeking to raise a family.

  • @bekezelasibanda9077
    @bekezelasibanda9077 2 года назад +1

    Zimbabwean man listening 🎧 from Capetown. Like your facts my sister

  • @silentvoiceinthedark9399
    @silentvoiceinthedark9399 2 года назад +36

    I broke up with the insecure woman and bumped into the narcissist one so you just gave me clarity on why things went the way it went. I appreciate the advice and would love to hear more from you in this department. The insecure woman has drain me so much until I'm still dealing with the depressions and lack of energy from it. To be fair, I didn't handle her insecurities well and decided to run without being honest with her and furthered her insecurities even more. I've been banging myself upside the head for that but there's no way to make amends for that and the guilt of it has been beating me up. She's in constant hate of me and we're not even together. I am so drained from it that I feel like I'm drowning and I'm not even in the relationship anymore. It's really crazy to go through this.

    • @drmacsika
      @drmacsika 2 года назад +6

      I completely understand how you feel. I went through something similar but reverse from narcissistic to insecure. That insecure was pure hell. To think I never even wanted a relationship with her but the way I got manipulated into it is something I still can't explain. But you'll heal. Eventhough I don't think I've completely healed, I feel way better than I did in that relationship. You'll need to start by forgiving yourself for everything. Then constantly reassure yourself that you'll heal. Whenever any memory pop up, be conscious and don't think about it, just recite this to yourself "I forgive you for everything and you'll heal." After a while, your brain will automatically start doing this without you saying it or being conscious.

  • @roshandawalton8
    @roshandawalton8 2 года назад +107

    First time here and I love Jess already. I agree whole heartedly. And it is very refreshing to have someone like Jess speak up on behalf on what men should learn to avoid. There are so many videos about all the men we should avoid. Very seldom do you find videos that support men, all men. I'm a mother and I have two sons. It is so important for men to have this kind of support. Thanks Jess.

    • @JessicaOS
      @JessicaOS  2 года назад +6

      You’re welcome

    • @outofthisworld4437
      @outofthisworld4437 2 года назад +2

      @@JessicaOS Could you do an episode where you invite guys to communicate with women ?a sort of dating.

    • @fodose2640
      @fodose2640 Год назад

      Brilliant sister! all facts!!!

  • @olufemioluseyi9623
    @olufemioluseyi9623 2 года назад +9

    Jessica...please write a book on relationship. You are born to do this. Thank you for these nuggets. You are saving lives

  • @ThurmanStantonII-mh9qd
    @ThurmanStantonII-mh9qd Год назад +1

    What a big sister to me. Jessica! Thank you for helping us Kings and Alphas to heal when women want to play with the wrong kind of men. I desire love and to be loved but not at the cost of my peace, family and success. This woman I really wanted but found out I could not have her due to tremendous insecurities and selfishness. It’s always going to be her word against mine. Always argumentative. Always wanting to not see her flaws but heightened mine.
    The disposition of her equated to me losing a lot. I lost so much being with her to the point I had enough of the narcissistic traits and the blame. She destroyed me and broke my heart in the end. This equates to never able to please her. I tried to rekindle a flame. We both did throughout the years but this last one I literally had to walk away and disappear then she changed quickly about wanting me to come back. Was very insecure but wanted me to come back after I went quiet, didn’t respond and removed myself. Talked about marriage and moving to a different state. Had to leave that on the table.
    Well. Jessica you have helped me start the healing process and I hope to be better and healed in the couple of years. The dating market is trash right now. Not saying Kings can’t find anyone just saying that a lot of women are hurt and masculine and desire to control men who don’t and won’t be controlled. Too bad these women won’t be here for the glow up for some of these men. When their friends are coupled up they will be lonely. The tide will turn.

  • @JMiltonLIVE_Concert_Videos
    @JMiltonLIVE_Concert_Videos 2 года назад +2

    Good information for those younger love birds, who spirits hasn't been tarnished yet, but for my school, I've gotten beyond it! Thanks for sharing/posting @Jessica Os Watched 01/28/2022.

  • @sylvesterese466
    @sylvesterese466 3 года назад +30

    Jess....yes, she sacrificed me and the love, I thought we had...! Your vids are glaringly educative, intuitive, I must say ...I can't say, thank you, enough...

  • @davidjohnson557
    @davidjohnson557 2 года назад +57

    She's telling us what we already know. But there's nothing like good reminders. Love your vids.

    • @mike11800
      @mike11800 2 года назад +8

      A lot of men don't know this is why she made this video!!!!

    • @davidjohnson557
      @davidjohnson557 2 года назад +4

      Yeah but what I'm saying is sometimes we as men can get over infatuated with someone and we tend to slip. I've been there. That's why I'm saying it's good to be reminded. To keep your guard up. I really appreciate these videos.DONT GET ME WRONG.

    • @healthbar8439
      @healthbar8439 2 года назад

      Facts. U know we need reminders 🙂

  • @tonyejamabo2229
    @tonyejamabo2229 3 года назад +21

    Forget it. I WILL NOT ARGUE WITH YOU. You're right. I've actually grown into a better person and actualized my self worth listening to you, and also been able to put it out (interprete it) to everyone who wishes to know/listen. These things are common sense... very simple. I'm gentle but firm. That's all that matters.

  • @geordieryle1237
    @geordieryle1237 2 года назад +6

    I’ve been played so many times with the “I am not ready yet” yeah all the signs were there but only wanted me as an emotional tampon.

  • @Original_jataro
    @Original_jataro 2 года назад +13

    I appreciate your feedback as always Jessica, especially the game on avoiding chronic flirts and insecure women. That’s a major 🔑 . Much ❤️ from 🇺🇸

  • @bryanlinville8999
    @bryanlinville8999 3 года назад +11

    Jess,I totally agree with you. And I think everyone has been down that road in one form or another. So,take care and stay safe Jess

  • @M_Tshita
    @M_Tshita 3 года назад +11

    The insecurity and materialistic type couldn’t agree more 👌🏾

  • @joelnicholsonjr1471
    @joelnicholsonjr1471 2 года назад +3

    Thank you!!!! You're very intelligent and spoke the truth. Especially when talking about the self centered women that they think men love so much. Some guys been trying to tell them but they don't listen, what they fail to realize is that, if someone is doing everything in a relationship by themselves, they might as well just be by themselves. I can't stand the "what's mine is mine, what's your's is also mine" mindset that most chicks have these days. They'll say "The man is supposed to be a provider" okay and what is a woman supposed to be?? What's your role besides always being on the recieving end? Not only do I not need you but why would I want you besides your good looks? They don't get this....These same chicks have the audacity to demand to be chased and called the prize, when really they should be called OUT for overvaluing their roles which is doing nothing but sitting there demanding that men swim across an ocean for them, meanwhile they wouldn't step over a puddle of water for said man, what exactly is there to chase? Lol especially since they think and were raised to believe that relationships are all about them. They're not looking for mutual love, romance, etc, they're looking for sponsors. I feel like those women shouldn't be looking for other men to date or marry anyways, mainly because they'll be cheating on their true and only love, which is... Themselves lol.

  • @marthaeileen8468
    @marthaeileen8468 2 года назад +2

    You're a genius. Well done Sis Jessica. You have really hammered the nail on the head. Let those who want to be Happy take your word seriously. You didn't leave out a grain. Keep it up.💪🏾

  • @lugardomoruyi7949
    @lugardomoruyi7949 3 года назад +18

    You’re absolutely correct, thank you so much.

  • @bjorn1900
    @bjorn1900 3 года назад +12

    I burned myself with the last point 😢 she said she wasn't ready, but a stupid dream I had made me invest more emotion and time and trust and love and everything just to make her love me more😭. I dreamt it was her wedding (cuz she was/and is older than me), and when I told her that I loved her and being with her made me feel stable and safe, she said ("you should have tried harder to let me know"). She left, and I almost ended myself because of how painful it was....... I (h.a.t.e.) myself for trying so hard and loving her so much.... I dont think I'll ever try again because the last time drove me to almost take my .... If I do try when im older, i'll avoid placing my trust in the whole thing... Thank you for this video tho : )

  • @marleekbutler5010
    @marleekbutler5010 3 года назад +64

    Relationships are overrated. If you're single like me, this is NO DEBATE!!!

    • @keenahizuagie3306
      @keenahizuagie3306 2 года назад +8

      LMAO Please stop shouting . single is boring

    • @Wahinies
      @Wahinies 2 года назад +5

      @@keenahizuagie3306 that could not be more wrong. If you are dependent on someone other than yourself for a fun filled life, you're going to have a bad time eventually.

    • @fullblastrecognize8480
      @fullblastrecognize8480 2 года назад +1

      @@keenahizuagie3306 You must be a very dull individual. The type who stay in a relationship with someone they don't even like 🤣 which is like putting a 1000 tonne load on yourself, something unimaginable to me.
      For those who wonder how we single people manage, it actually very simple. I love knowledge and eat every book i come across. Everything around us in INTERESTING; from trees,to ants, to animals, to the grass, to abstract mathematics. I always want to know more and can read about ants as if am going to do an exam, when I am tired of reading I can watch a documentary.

    • @blackicex1622
      @blackicex1622 2 года назад +2

      To me, relationships are nothing but work. It’s just not worth it anymore. Hell, watching this video is wearing me out.

    • @StrallyMan
      @StrallyMan 2 года назад

      Big facts. Single life is the way forward

  • @MrShoman1212
    @MrShoman1212 2 года назад +1

    Number 3 just got me, I wish I had these information earlier. I could've avoided the heartaches

  • @ChubbyCox13
    @ChubbyCox13 2 года назад +3

    I'm "dating" number 8 and I'm going to take your advice and stand down. Thank you.

  • @optimummedia_recaps6763
    @optimummedia_recaps6763 3 года назад +6

    I agree with you Jessi especially the "I'm not ready" type... good explanation 👍🏽

  • @RaysOfLoveChannel
    @RaysOfLoveChannel 3 года назад +22

    As a relationship channel called Rays of love channel, we agree with you 💯 and 1000%

    • @desirekwameglagow5639
      @desirekwameglagow5639 2 года назад

      Please Jessica what do you say about a lady who is telling you that me calling her everyday is too much, and I only do that to check on her and also just make sure we communicate well...And please it is a 2yrs relationship....please what do you think?

    • @labambou
      @labambou 2 года назад +1

      @@desirekwameglagow5639 Why don't you want to listen to her when she says it's too much ? Just stop calling her and wait for her to call you. If you talk to someone and the person is not listening then stop talking and let that person make the talk instead, while listening you might discover the person is not that interesting after all.

  • @tamzsha4776
    @tamzsha4776 3 года назад +59

    I was getting to know someone who was a potential partner. We both committed to it being just us. but she continued to flirt online with others and said it was social media as in it didn’t matter and she would also post herself being provocative in self sexualised videos. It all matters whether it’s done online or in person. Never let them manipulate you into thinking this behaviour is acceptable when you’re getting with them. How is this behaviour even supposed to attract a potential partner when she’s doing it for everyone else’s eyes and this is someone who claims to have feelings for you. This person is letting you know what to expect when you do eventually get into a full on relationship that they’ll always flirt and do such degrading things.

  • @peterndlovu6540
    @peterndlovu6540 Год назад +1

    Thanks a lot Jessica. Wrong relationship always give us unnecessary pressure caused we trying to make them happy.

  • @bensan2592
    @bensan2592 2 года назад +3

    And this is why i have been enjoying being single, no worried about any of these things

  • @tomasgrigley8844
    @tomasgrigley8844 2 года назад +5

    She is absolutely right! I've met women in their 40s that showed some of those type of signs. I'm glad I got out quick before things got worse. I'm what they call a runner. I run from any signs of drama or conflict with women. And my phone has an arguing block on it.
    IT HANGS UP EVERY TIME SHE GETS LOUD! 😂

    • @MRSLICKQ
      @MRSLICKQ 2 года назад +2

      😂😂😂😂

  • @gentsuthern8827
    @gentsuthern8827 3 года назад +187

    The narcissistic woman, hit home for me so hard. I married and dealt with a woman such as this and it was pure hell!! I was so thankful God took me out of that situation!!

    • @iffysd9864
      @iffysd9864 2 года назад +4

      Any signs show in the early stages?

    • @reginalddixon144
      @reginalddixon144 2 года назад +27

      They think there kitty makes them valuable

    • @Aunit1984
      @Aunit1984 2 года назад +1

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @donzein5213
      @donzein5213 2 года назад +16

      They play victim and want you to keep falling back to their traps.worst relationship ever.

    • @contentcmunjeri7007
      @contentcmunjeri7007 2 года назад +1

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @hadarsyaakov
    @hadarsyaakov 2 года назад +11

    Wow! Thank you, Jessica. Iv been in a relationship with the same woman for 3.5 months now and I must accept these things about her. 1. Liar, 2. Chronic Flirt (although she vehemently denies flirting, while I watch her hug other guys and play around with them; verbally) 3. The Beauty only woman and last but not least she told me that she is not ready and she entered the relationship too soon. Wow! Thank you so very much. Shalam

  • @kevinsonlibama9409
    @kevinsonlibama9409 2 года назад +2

    Agreed with you 150%. Thanks a lot, Jess.

  • @mijumbidennis5131
    @mijumbidennis5131 2 года назад +4

    Thanks Jessica, its 3 years now that I've been manipulated in an insecure relationship. All you said was true, you hit the nail on the head.

  • @olaniyiadeosun9438
    @olaniyiadeosun9438 3 года назад +24

    You are super phenomenal, all I did while listening to you, is smile. These have been my practices for years with women. There are just very subtle ways they become manipulative to drive these their narratives, only an experienced dude can fish them out.
    Indeed these are what works. You nailed them.

  • @witmanlumwira2743
    @witmanlumwira2743 2 года назад +3

    Powerful message from a woman. Keep up. Such an inspiration ☺️

  • @olorunfemitayo9909
    @olorunfemitayo9909 2 года назад +7

    Great job Jess.
    In most cases, we have to learn from our mistakes. I am glad I had this education early in life and learned from a bitter, sweet experience in my first relationship.
    Now I am married to the best woman in the world.

  • @michaelkoii9672
    @michaelkoii9672 2 года назад +1

    I remarried 3 times and came across all these mentioned. Cheers to Jess.

  • @ticoarcos
    @ticoarcos 2 года назад

    Big fan, going through one of the worst times of my entire life. It is good to hear somebody giving men advise! Keep up the good work ma’am!

  • @nwanijr.8666
    @nwanijr.8666 2 года назад +92

    I have just ended a relationship after watching this. This is insightful. Love this

    • @dosuseun2972
      @dosuseun2972 2 года назад +14

      Oh my 🤣... Jessica! What have you done! 🤣. I am happy for you by the way bro. I hope you find someone great for you

    • @classicalretroback
      @classicalretroback 2 года назад +5

      Good for your sanity 👏🏼

    • @mackcasey5905
      @mackcasey5905 2 года назад +11

      Better now than later than to look like a fool in the end bruh. Facts.!

    • @markbrookes6915
      @markbrookes6915 2 года назад

      😂 in thinking of doing the same

    • @Cappers-11004thst
      @Cappers-11004thst 2 года назад

      I think I have a type 3 😑

  • @SUPREMEact
    @SUPREMEact 2 года назад +3

    Thank you for this video. I am just struggling to place women who are unyielding or rarely show remorse especially when they are wrong in the aforementioned categories. These women would rather first fixate on how "it's also partly your fault". When the apology finally comes, it sounds patronizing and meaningless. After that is "I already apologized, what more do you want?" But then again perhaps this would fall under the narcissist?

  • @wisesailor1896
    @wisesailor1896 3 года назад +51

    Mine was the insecure woman...the whole relationship was a torture. She complains and nags a lot about every litttle thing. it was crazy. I had to run for my life. She's got trust issue too

  • @KojokeyzDJ
    @KojokeyzDJ 2 года назад

    For some reason this video just popped up out of nowhere. It’s something I needed OH LORD. I needed to hear this. I’ll come watch this every day. God bless you

  • @intergalactic11
    @intergalactic11 2 года назад

    I am in thorough agreement, of course!
    Stay safe! God bless you!

  • @karlyxbosikoro5448
    @karlyxbosikoro5448 3 года назад +20

    Sadly true about "Insecured Women" .... I married one and did everything to make her feel secured (not outing, not having friends in a city that is not mine, not drinking etc,) .... but failed woefully! Now, the marriage is over after 16yrs trying! She actually begged our neighbour not to take me away from her! Oh! BTW, she was the one who filed for divorce!!..... smfh!!

    • @arnoldwayne6775
      @arnoldwayne6775 3 года назад

      You should have did the opposite of everything you just said you did to make her happy.

    • @karlyxbosikoro5448
      @karlyxbosikoro5448 3 года назад +1

      @@arnoldwayne6775 ikr Wayne! ... but I did not know how women tick then ... now I know... smh...

    • @itgamingke
      @itgamingke 2 года назад

      Broooo🤧😔😔😪stay strong bro

    • @CZ-57
      @CZ-57 2 года назад

      @@karlyxbosikoro5448 yep what a woman says she wants and what she wants are two different things best way to deal with them is to not care about them that’s why guys who are dicks get girls easy

    • @nukshiyoutube7802
      @nukshiyoutube7802 7 месяцев назад

      16 years is very long actually

  • @brianbrino4310
    @brianbrino4310 3 года назад +66

    Dear Jessica I think I’m gonna repeat myself this video as it has helped me so much to identify a thing that I could say might be a problem in my relationships with certain women. You are simply excellent as always and you are stuck with me probably for the rest of your days as I thoroughly enjoy your videos so much. All I can wish you always is a lot of success with your channel as well as to expect lots of blessings light life and love at least from me and I hope from everybody in this world. You are simply so good.
    🙏🙏🙏🍀🍀🍀🍀🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @AVM7cr
    @AVM7cr 3 года назад +12

    What o like the most about this channel is that Jessica is a woman talking about women and giving tips to Men. ❤️

  • @walwilliamsdegongich2510
    @walwilliamsdegongich2510 2 года назад

    Your calmness is incredible
    Thanks for this
    It's crucial to us the searchers

  • @antonioharris9012
    @antonioharris9012 2 года назад +2

    Simply the best outlook ever on what we need to know. Thank you

  • @anthonygreen2593
    @anthonygreen2593 2 года назад +26

    I respect and applaud this woman of color for the "charity" in helping people build a happy and healthy relationship 💯

    • @Rryllis
      @Rryllis 2 года назад

      What is the meaning of that? Woman of color? She's a woman. That's racist.

    • @xVNDL_
      @xVNDL_ 2 года назад +6

      What does her skin colour matter...

    • @Bumpsterr
      @Bumpsterr 2 года назад

      @@xVNDL_ na fr wdf 🤣🤣

    • @maingasimoonga
      @maingasimoonga Месяц назад

      Wtf? Why are you introducing race in the conversation?

    • @alexanderfaraj1532
      @alexanderfaraj1532 25 дней назад

      weird. why mention color that's off key man

  • @kondwanimbuzi5431
    @kondwanimbuzi5431 2 года назад +43

    As for number 6, i think a married person should steer clear of having friends of the opposite sex. Yes, there could be work mates, clients and school mates. But boundaries are the most important. Thanks for this great advice. Its helpful indeed

    • @louiseelizabeth9613
      @louiseelizabeth9613 2 года назад +6

      This is incredibly sexist and controlling. People can have friends of the opposite sex and not feel attracted to them! How insecure that you can't let you partner just have his/her friends

    • @willthiswork8
      @willthiswork8 2 года назад +17

      @@louiseelizabeth9613 I think friends of opposite sex are a natural thing and is ok to a certain degree . If you have to text this person daily or y’all hang out often then that could pose a problem. I know this from first hand experience. If my lady makes a big deal about having her male friend in her life then there may be more to that friendship then she is telling me .

    • @louiseelizabeth9613
      @louiseelizabeth9613 2 года назад +1

      @@willthiswork8 personally, I think both are entitled to friendships and neither should be restricting those, that's controlling behaviour period. If there is something more, then why isn't she with him. People can have best friends of the opposite sex. I think too many people believe when they're in a relationship that gives them permission to control what the other person does.

    • @willthiswork8
      @willthiswork8 2 года назад +9

      @@louiseelizabeth9613 I just said limit the interaction. If you have to text your guy friend daily or you guys meet up for dinner and drinks once a week then that’s a bit much . You mine as well date him if you require that much of his time . Besides I’m sure his girlfriend wouldn’t appreciate her guy spending a valid amount of time with another woman to begin either . And why do you keep saying it’s controlling?? Seems like you have a power struggle going on in your head . Respectfully!

    • @louiseelizabeth9613
      @louiseelizabeth9613 2 года назад +2

      @@willthiswork8 I just think too many people think that they have the right to control someone they're dating!

  • @RashansBoutTimeBoxing
    @RashansBoutTimeBoxing 2 года назад +4

    I love this woman. She’s on point.

  • @RashansBoutTimeBoxing
    @RashansBoutTimeBoxing 2 года назад +1

    This real woman is very on point💯💪🏿

  • @financialfreedomtips5447
    @financialfreedomtips5447 Год назад

    Jessy, all of your points are valid, I experienced one in recent time and you know, I fell out of communicating for about two weeks and she didn't bother to ask why or what was going on. That gave me full confidence to put an end to the relationship.
    Thank you for always sharing your knowledge

  • @moa_ke7236
    @moa_ke7236 2 года назад +31

    When you described the narcissistic woman, you described my father straight up (and yes it was really hard being around him since I refused to sing his praises and, he gave me hell when he realized that I'm way too headstrong than he is as well esp as far as my hobbies, interests and career choice is concerned). You also kinda described some of my older brothers. You couldn't have said it any better. Also when you mentioned the "what's mine is mine" woman, yeah you described some of my sisters. It's been a tough journey for me growing up. I looooooove your content.

    • @JohnsonIkemdiytc
      @JohnsonIkemdiytc 2 года назад +1

      chai!!!

    • @odufuwafotos8989
      @odufuwafotos8989 2 года назад

      You must have been through a lot !!!

    • @lawrencedevaux7196
      @lawrencedevaux7196 2 года назад

      Yeah brother because we grew up like that we learned to buffer behavior. The red flags we are supposed to see we sometimes overlook. We have to be on guard because of that. Be extra careful with your intuition. Listen to your gut always.

  • @humbledon9700
    @humbledon9700 2 года назад +8

    Nice content. My take is simple: Do not date. Keep your hard earned resources men. The juice is not worth the squeeze.

  • @-nigelidisi4568
    @-nigelidisi4568 2 года назад +9

    Well Done Jess, you have hit the nail right on its head again. I married one and in a divorce at the moment. The problem is Girls and Guys at courtship pretend so deeply, untill after a child is born and you are firmly locked then the real horror face of the spouce appears.

    • @balekejeanpaul2147
      @balekejeanpaul2147 2 года назад +1

      It will feels like Jessica is too smart in relationship business why can't you just marry me bcz you the best at relationship material. And she is beautiful so I'm young and you older than me but we can settle

  • @dhanrajmohan701
    @dhanrajmohan701 Год назад

    Public comment. Wonderful message to humanity..I am happy and proud of you Ms. Thank you so much..God bless you.

  • @tiusoro
    @tiusoro 2 года назад +2

    Clearly and articulated put together....Thank you Jessica. Keep it up.

  • @thagatdamchannel1642
    @thagatdamchannel1642 2 года назад +11

    I’ve dealt with a couple of women like this about 20 years ago. I haven’t attracted women like this since!! Informative video.

  • @Bwh-rm3py
    @Bwh-rm3py 2 года назад +6

    I agree with you 100%, which is why I'm leaving the US for my next relationship. My money and time will be spent on a woman who appreciates it.

    • @Arvidje
      @Arvidje 2 года назад

      Learn more how attraction works.. time is right but that money is suspicious

  • @johnbarber4963
    @johnbarber4963 2 года назад +25

    That Type 5 "what's mines is mines" personally spoke to my soul. That's exactly how my ex was and I still did everything I could to please her 😔 I wish I would have known this years ago, it'll def saved me from a bunch of heartache.

    • @chucky3333
      @chucky3333 2 года назад

      That's crazy I meant a girl that said those exact words she said what's mine is mine then now we barely talk lol. My friend also told me that about when she dates lol smh glad I've been single for 4 years.

  • @simola1241
    @simola1241 2 года назад

    20 years late but never too late to learn.. thanks for this wonderful Video

  • @123Sblade123
    @123Sblade123 2 года назад

    "The Beauty Only" 🤦🏽‍♂️omg!! They're stressful‼ lol but you are ON POINT with everything you said 🎯💯

  • @TheBrucedeep
    @TheBrucedeep 2 года назад +5

    Thanks so much Jessica.. you really helped me a lot, i have been heartbroken soooo soooo many times to the point were i have actually given up on relationships.. You video really helped me. You are a Star.

  • @chibuzoronu2316
    @chibuzoronu2316 2 года назад +46

    Thank you Jess. I have met all these women and I did just one thing---walked away.

    • @andersonwestebimo8884
      @andersonwestebimo8884 2 года назад +3

      Lol bro I'm not surprised after seeing your name. Cus 99% of our girls in Nigeria or Africa are same

    • @Aunit1984
      @Aunit1984 2 года назад +1

      I wish I would've just walked away but now I'm stuck with a baby with this woman

    • @artvallejos1460
      @artvallejos1460 2 года назад +3

      Don't walk away. RUN.

    • @andypaulocelli109
      @andypaulocelli109 2 года назад +1

      Agreed my friend!

    • @contentcmunjeri7007
      @contentcmunjeri7007 2 года назад

      ,😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @thatweirdkidjoseph7996
    @thatweirdkidjoseph7996 2 года назад +11

    Thank you so much for this video. This is confirmation for everything I've witnessed and experienced. I've done a lot of self reflection as well. Thank you for making this video to educate us. I try to get my brother's to understand that we need to take time to heal and reflect. It's takes two to tango and there are plenty of phenomenal woman out here you just have to take it upon yourself to know the difference . Prayer always helps

  • @isingomap.fenehans3092
    @isingomap.fenehans3092 10 месяцев назад

    Thank you Honestly! Long live @JessicaOS

  • @defreshprince1453
    @defreshprince1453 2 года назад

    I’m not even used to subscribing to RUclips channels but I didn’t have a second thought before I subscribed to this channel. You’re making a good use of your God given talent.

  • @SMD965OFFICIAL
    @SMD965OFFICIAL 2 года назад +3

    I'm glad I'm actually ugly and unlucky so that way I don't have to end up wasting money any woman.

  • @nikkigee1348
    @nikkigee1348 2 года назад +4

    Man that insecure one is true. Dated a girl for 3 years and made me drop all my female friends and even my male friends cause she thought since were guys we going to catcall and flirt with every single girl we see. Any type of female interaction she would cut it off and curse me out and even give the girl an threatening look or even go as far as cursing them out too, even waitresses and people working at FASTFOOD places… got so bad to the point I would just look down to avoid talking to any other girls just to keep her happy. NOW literally ALL my social skills are gone. I broke up with her finally and it’s just so hard talking and communicating with people. Every conversation I just be like “yea… oh.. man.. yea” lol can’t even have a conversation anymore without being 1000% awkward. Those insecure ones are dangerous.

  • @sarahboakye7691
    @sarahboakye7691 3 года назад +37

    My mom always advises my brother against women that overspend....point number 1👌🔥
    Where the guys at? 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
    Amazing points laid down Jessica 👏❤️❤️❤️
    Great video 👏👍

  • @rickyalger8569
    @rickyalger8569 2 года назад

    I'm widowed after 27 years and new too dating again.. Great video. Bless you

  • @joedubois9665
    @joedubois9665 Год назад

    Thank you Jessica, you are spot on. I like the way you encourage mutuality and straightforwardness. Your instruction and suggestions are on point. Thank you for being transparent in your advisories. Blessed love

  • @MuveeGuy
    @MuveeGuy 3 года назад +31

    I find your videos very informative and helpful in my dating life. And this one is no exception. I only wish I'd seen (or known) this before I got married. I saw all the signs, but I hoped she would "grow out of them". Anyway, we're in the middle of a divorce (her choice)... It's all good. At least I know a lot better now. Thanks for putting this up.

  • @LadimaFX
    @LadimaFX 2 года назад +6

    @jessicaOs I'm happy i came across your page at this stage of my life and and this time of the year... been watching your videos for a month now, and all i can say is thank you for sharing these important information about relationships and all what you share. I guess on behalf of the Gents, i just wanna say "thank you and keep it up, your saving our lives and making our lives much more easier" Our eyes are wide open now. Thank you and God bless.

  • @jermaincummings2679
    @jermaincummings2679 2 года назад +4

    Hahah oh men I love it .it's good hearing from a woman's ,perspective. Unfortunately this what you're sharing is good ,but a lot of people only learn true personal painful experiences. I guess we're wired that way. Thanks for sharing this with us through.

  • @weluvmusick
    @weluvmusick 2 года назад +1

    I love your videos I lost my wife of 36 years almost 3 years ago I have no interest in dating but if I do decide to good information like this can be quite useful

  • @SoJesusChristMusic
    @SoJesusChristMusic Год назад

    You are on point! I shared this one in my community tab because we finally have a woman speaking truth about women doing men wrong. No women i know don't want to acknowledge and be honest when I mention these things.

  • @josephkwetey9472
    @josephkwetey9472 3 года назад +17

    Jess, thanks for making me grow and develop new life into the relationship. I have been through most of your talks and I think it great to stay outside now.

  • @daverose8028
    @daverose8028 3 года назад +4

    You are the best all you stated is so true , Dear God of Heaven you speak the truth I see these women daily ,a woman who don't add nothing to a relationship not going no where

  • @sergioaguiar329
    @sergioaguiar329 2 года назад +11

    The women I know are anything but heroic, and are all these things you said. An honest woman only functions under gun point. The trash culture we live in discourages people from being great personalities, and looking at others as an equal. I'm very happy this world is only going in one direction. EXTINCTION. Thank you Jessica Os.

    • @paulbogle8161
      @paulbogle8161 2 года назад +2

      Cheer up. There are good women. Just make sure you're a good man

    • @kingdon7795
      @kingdon7795 2 года назад +1

      @@paulbogle8161 good women don't exist anymore.

    • @paulbogle8161
      @paulbogle8161 2 года назад

      @@kingdon7795 lol u mean you can't find one

    • @kingdon7795
      @kingdon7795 2 года назад +1

      @@paulbogle8161 I missed the part where that's my problem.

  • @emilebroadfield7197
    @emilebroadfield7197 2 года назад

    I Love you Jessica. Tears just run down my cheeks. I did not know how to qualify a woman in to my life. You have really helped me. May God richly bless your efforts to heal many wounded hearts. Thanks so much.

  • @mcdollarsfreeway1549
    @mcdollarsfreeway1549 2 года назад

    So many facts and thoughts here, just isn’t easy to solve the puzzle.