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Jessica do you think some men like me has the fault for not being better enough with women? For example these are the things I do as a man: I wear clothes that makes me comfortable NOT what pleases women. I workout at the Gym because I'm thinking about my health NOT in my physical body for women. I make money because I'm thinking about my career and the things I want to do on life, NOT for women. Are those habits or activities I do.... makes women very picky or undesirable for men? cuz I've just watched a podcast by Jordan Peterson and I still can't understand about... what is exactly the problem with us men? I almost don't complain much about getting rejection cuz I personally don't give a fuck what everyone thinks about me... but still cannot understand if is modern women ruining dating? or does is me the way I view "the modern women" that kills my motivation to seek women? I'm male, 25 years old, college student living with my parents. Please I would like to hear a response from you, if there is an advice you can give me in order to understand your perspective as a woman.
@Dr. John Fallout4Nut - Learn what "simping" is😂. Maybe you were referring to sycophantic behaviour? Still, there's absolutely nothing wrong with complementing others' efforts.
The "I am not ready" woman is more dangerous than men think ... usually (not always) this is the person who wants all the benefits of a relationship (fancy dates, your support, your care, love, etc.) on a "friendship pass". In short she wants the perks of a relationship without committing to one/giving anything.
If a woman truly loves a man, she NEVER gives another man any opportunity to get close to her; she avoids any form of closeness, wether by call, chat, date etc. Anyone that does contrary is an insatiable flirt craving for something else.
Thank you for this video. I am just struggling to place women who are unyielding or rarely show remorse especially when they are wrong in the aforementioned categories. These women would rather first fixate on how "it's also partly your fault". When the apology finally comes, it sounds patronizing and meaningless. After that is "I already apologized, what more do you want?" But then again perhaps this would fall under the narcissist?
Thanks so much Jessica.. you really helped me a lot, i have been heartbroken soooo soooo many times to the point were i have actually given up on relationships.. You video really helped me. You are a Star.
I'm here to find out why I was always left behind. I found out that no.6 is my problem, not the kind who doesn't allow to have girl friends or hanging out with friends though. I'm insecure everything about me, I can't trust them fully and always feel they'll find someone better.
OMG I promise you I love you you are so inspiring and very experienced in helping man pick the right woman I wish that there was women here like you Great content Queen thanks for all you do I will always continuously to watch ❤️❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
Avoid 1)nagging women 2)self absorbed 3)who are not kind or respectful to your parents, siblings and friends 4) who only believe in taking, not giving 5)who are untidy, indisciplined and unorganised 6) who has no manners 7) with severe lack of general knowledge 8) is only interested in eating and partying 9) doesn't like reading, music and traveling 10) All in all a shallow woman. Good luck and all the best!
Number 5... If just dating, obviously your stuff is separate! Once married, the majority of women give up their career to look after the children and house, thus missing out on their earnings and pension contributions for YEARS even after they return to work. It makes sense for her to retain assets that can help keep her financially independent of things go wrong, and to compensate for that loss of earnings.
Well dang! this video got me thinking about three exes from my past. one was very self-absorbed, very materialistic, and truly a miserable woman who made me miserable. The second ex was the woman who drug her feet on everything, except when it came to me spending money on her. Now on the other hand getting her to reciprocate was like brushing a lion's teeth (pun well intended here) The last one took the cake. She got mad at the drop of a hat, refused to talk to me for days, and when she finally did her excuse was something or one in her past that made her react to XYZ situation in that way. The point of all of this being is before seeing this I thought I was the problem, After the fact not so much. Now that isn't to say I am perfect because I am not and never will be, however, I know now that looking back I was enabling these women to be who they were by catering to their egocentric attitudes and total disregard for anyone's feelings, needs and wants but their own. Thanks, Jessica, I truly appreciate your insight in pulling back the veil of mystery and revealing the truth. Keep up the amazing videos.
Finally a real woman. The revelation is here lol. As a woman im so happy to see this besides all these crazy sexist woman roaming around just WAITING to ruin mens lives. I love seeing woman actually being equal to one another & to real men. I HOPE OTHER WOMAN SEE THIS TO.
I agree with you and I can see from afar now!! I don’t understand what and why relationships aren’t worth a damn and narcissistic is not curable you better off moving on! There’s many of them around both sexes
You damn right and i shall be back with some questions on a lady i recently dated very difficult to understand, it will be a long write up but just a few, points now.Problem is she never accepts her fault when wrong, if you point out her mistake she would also respond vehemently though she is contradicting herself.She says one thing today and tomorrow she denies she said that.this was just the starting of our relationship. She accused me of blocking her number though she called me and i responded and met her to ride with her in her car to work,suddenly she acted like she did not know i ever proposed to her earlier and now suddenly wants me to redefine our relationship, i sensed she thought she had led me on too much and wanted to look like a ''hard to get lady'',meanwhile i loved her so much without any reservation though she is not my spec when it comes to external beauty but strangely i just fell deeply in love with her and still do ,but i felt insulted with her insistence when i declined to speak.The reason i refused to speak was because we had spoken about this already, this got her very angry,she talked down at me .In any case i did that on purpose because i suspected her of narcissism so i pretended to withdraw a little and thats what got her very angry and all that drama which followed.So i asked her not to pick me up again.
I really loved this video. I am a trans woman in a relationship with another trans woman and yes she does help me when she can but if she cannot help me then I do not get mad at her about it in any money she gives me it put toward food and other necessities when I absolutely need it I do not take her money and spend it on frivolous things. Secondly I've stuck to my guns and me and my girlfriend are Poly so with that being said I absolutely refuse did a woman who would shame me because I live in poverty. I am fully disabled not good at many things I just really have a disdain for this whole I don't want no scrub trend. I grew up in the 90s and the values I grew up with were no matter how poor you were no matter how little money you had no matter your social status no matter where you shop if someone was interested in you they were interested in you for your personality and the way you treated them it's not like it was before.
Hello luv thank you for the great advice you give it helps so so so much and give heads up about the real real because I have been going into a relationship learning the woman and enjoying their company and not even having standards because 8 want to know who she is and then go from their and the categories are enormous regardless of if they live in America where I'm from or Africa with the women I have dated before I can tell you this African women are so great to date and be friends with but now my life has steered to marriage now and 9m so Pocky and I know that I'll get the best woman who checks my boxes
I don't know where you live and who you let feed you these takes, but it is not true. I have been with quite a lot of women and majority of my friend group are women - they hate when men are the only one spending money, they never spend men's money (why tf would they do it), they save money and buy only when necessary, they want to contribute, they want compromise. If anything, older generations act as described in the videos, but 20-26 yo women don't
@@onebottleofwater9487 Not only in the US . I only met 1 good woman in my life and i made a huge mistake by not marrying her . I was young and stupid . Now i am old and still stupid .
@@elenawalker517 notice how your first instinct was to think about what the men should be doing for women on a video about how to avoid self centered women. This is exactly the issue men are facing.
8 Types: 1. The Spendthrift 2. The Liar 3. The Chronic Flirt 4. The Materialistic Woman 5. The “What’s mine, is mine” type of woman 6. The Insecure Woman 7. The Beauty Only OR The Narcissist 8. The “I’m not ready” woman
Actually here to learn how to be a better woman. :3 In the world of city girls and city boys we have to choose better for ourselves. You get the energy you push out into the world back.
@@arnoldwayne6775 Yeah there are dysfunctionally functional people as a couple but they compatible. But over the years I just realized I cannot blame my partners for my bad relationships anymore. I (can) be the problem too. That's what I want to change.
@@dianakistaubaeva9321 Yeah only a narcissist constantly blames their mate, and refuses to accept personal responsibility and accountability for their own actions. Constantly check yourself in the mirror to peel away the bad qualities about yourself, so you can offer the best version of yourself to hopefully the next lucky person. Good luck on your quest.
@OJD PUBLISHING her God given wisdom and deep knowledge on human behaviour or relationships has nothing to do with her being married she is just God's chosen
That's a great list. Thank you. But there is more.... More types of women to avoid: 1. The chronically argumentative woman=> will wear you out and make you age faster 2. The promiscuous woman => for too many reasons: future unfaithfulness, diseases, future divorce, tendency to revert to her former lifestyle, etc 3. The party girl => she puts herself in situations where she can do bad things; can be easily bored with a simple/stable lifestyle bc she need regular excitements 4. The lazy woman =>'nuff said. No jobs, no education, no achievements, no life goals, nothing that she looks up to everyday. Run! 5. The unhygienic woman => your house will be dirty and disorganized; she will repulse you 6. The addict => whether to alcohol, cigarette, drugs or other harmful substances. You can't save her.
@@Arvidje how do insecurities come from men? your probably thinking of a specific example in your head. however we are talking about women who are ALREADY insecure coming into a relationship. This constant insecurity will have you mentally drained because you have to keep reassuring at every single step and turn. This insecurity can also eventually with time rob off onto the man. anyways don't generalize and don't use personal examples of past relationships thanks
@@daffi.mp3 insecure is driven on fear. Fear to lose , fear to risk. Woman sense fear right away. It’s a turn off. A woman want to feel comfort and protected. Generalizing : The goals , values and behavior may differ for each perso. but not the attraction. it’s a biological thing , same thing feeling hungery, everybody has that same feeling. Learn and read the proper fundamentals of attraction and u will have less drama and more happiness. Thanks
@@Cynsham insecurity is driven on fear. Fear to lose , fear to risk. Woman sense fear right away. It’s a turn off. A woman want to feel comfort and protected. Generalizing : The goals , values and behavior may differ for each perso. but not the attraction. it’s a biological thing , same thing feeling hungery, everybody has that same feeling. Learn and read the proper fundamentals of attraction and u will have less drama and more happiness.
@@keenahizuagie3306 that could not be more wrong. If you are dependent on someone other than yourself for a fun filled life, you're going to have a bad time eventually.
@@keenahizuagie3306 You must be a very dull individual. The type who stay in a relationship with someone they don't even like 🤣 which is like putting a 1000 tonne load on yourself, something unimaginable to me. For those who wonder how we single people manage, it actually very simple. I love knowledge and eat every book i come across. Everything around us in INTERESTING; from trees,to ants, to animals, to the grass, to abstract mathematics. I always want to know more and can read about ants as if am going to do an exam, when I am tired of reading I can watch a documentary.
I was once emotionally manipulated into a relationship by an insecure person. Everything you said about an insecure woman is true. Guys, never ever date an insecure person. Instead, be their friend and help them heal. If you are not careful, you may be emotionally manipulated into the relationship. And that may turn out to be the worse experience of your life. At best, you may start becoming insecure about yourself. And at worst, she may use you to heal, blame it all on you, and dump you for someone else.
Yes big dog. You are telling the truth. I had to get out of that situation eventually a year after our son was born and now I'm stuck trying to gain all my power back as a man
@@Aunit1984 things will never work out with a partner unless God put you together in marriage, unbeliever can't be equally yoked with believers things will never workout.
@@angelamurphy3705 we're both believers and we found out she was pregnant around the time I proposed to her.. but after we had him was when the problems we already had heightened even more to where we just stopped seeing eye to eye and I felt like this was truly who she was the whole time but because I didn't take more time in knowing who she really was and certain personal issues that I had on my end, we just fell apart and even me getting counseling and doing my best to turn things around she still does not take any ownership to her mistakes and blames everything on me which isn't right..
You forgot the last type of woman you shouldn't date : The chronically negative one. They'll drain you emotionally and turn you against the world believing everyone else is bad and they are the only saints. They keep feeding you with negative stories their friends say about men and relationships. No matter how hard you try to prove yourself it will never be enough. In the end you'll lose your sanity if you don't set yourself free. Avoid them at all cost. I just completed the list 😅
My latest ex was a narcissist, I tried being her friend (even after everything she’s done) she would lie to get her way and turn into the victim when she was the one who hurt me. When I flat out told her who she was in my eyes and offered to help her work through her selfishness she told me to go fuck myself and never spoke to me again, best feeling ever. Stay strong kings!
If only I knew most of these I would've saved myself from the hustle and bustle of so many toxic relationships. Jess..thanks for throwing more light on these . Everytime I tune to your channel, I learn my faults vis -a-vis women and little by little I'm becoming better version of myself. Thanks a million 🥰👍🏽
I filled for divorce three years ago after about 18 years, I tried another relationship a year after and the new one fell in multiple categories in this list. After that I decided I'm done with dating, pretty much every woman these days fall into one or more of these categories, so I see no point in wasting my time; not worth sacrificing my sanity and peace of mind.
First time here and I love Jess already. I agree whole heartedly. And it is very refreshing to have someone like Jess speak up on behalf on what men should learn to avoid. There are so many videos about all the men we should avoid. Very seldom do you find videos that support men, all men. I'm a mother and I have two sons. It is so important for men to have this kind of support. Thanks Jess.
The narcissistic woman, hit home for me so hard. I married and dealt with a woman such as this and it was pure hell!! I was so thankful God took me out of that situation!!
When you date someone Whether it’s a female dating a guy Whether it’s a male dating a girl Make sure to observe 💯 & seek any red flags 🚩, also ask open ended important questions, not interesting questions. Make sure their family are not conflicting. Make sure their family never Interfere with their relationship. Make sure you talk about income improves & much more about living situations & rising new opportunities before seeking to raise a family.
Mine was the insecure woman...the whole relationship was a torture. She complains and nags a lot about every litttle thing. it was crazy. I had to run for my life. She's got trust issue too
Yeah but what I'm saying is sometimes we as men can get over infatuated with someone and we tend to slip. I've been there. That's why I'm saying it's good to be reminded. To keep your guard up. I really appreciate these videos.DONT GET ME WRONG.
I broke up with the insecure woman and bumped into the narcissist one so you just gave me clarity on why things went the way it went. I appreciate the advice and would love to hear more from you in this department. The insecure woman has drain me so much until I'm still dealing with the depressions and lack of energy from it. To be fair, I didn't handle her insecurities well and decided to run without being honest with her and furthered her insecurities even more. I've been banging myself upside the head for that but there's no way to make amends for that and the guilt of it has been beating me up. She's in constant hate of me and we're not even together. I am so drained from it that I feel like I'm drowning and I'm not even in the relationship anymore. It's really crazy to go through this.
I completely understand how you feel. I went through something similar but reverse from narcissistic to insecure. That insecure was pure hell. To think I never even wanted a relationship with her but the way I got manipulated into it is something I still can't explain. But you'll heal. Eventhough I don't think I've completely healed, I feel way better than I did in that relationship. You'll need to start by forgiving yourself for everything. Then constantly reassure yourself that you'll heal. Whenever any memory pop up, be conscious and don't think about it, just recite this to yourself "I forgive you for everything and you'll heal." After a while, your brain will automatically start doing this without you saying it or being conscious.
I was getting to know someone who was a potential partner. We both committed to it being just us. but she continued to flirt online with others and said it was social media as in it didn’t matter and she would also post herself being provocative in self sexualised videos. It all matters whether it’s done online or in person. Never let them manipulate you into thinking this behaviour is acceptable when you’re getting with them. How is this behaviour even supposed to attract a potential partner when she’s doing it for everyone else’s eyes and this is someone who claims to have feelings for you. This person is letting you know what to expect when you do eventually get into a full on relationship that they’ll always flirt and do such degrading things.
Jess....yes, she sacrificed me and the love, I thought we had...! Your vids are glaringly educative, intuitive, I must say ...I can't say, thank you, enough...
Hey Jes I had to end it with a Narcissistic woman, Damn!!! It was really exhausting. Nothing i ever did was enough, always giving mixed signals. Act hot today and cold tomorrow 😏😏. I literally had to suspend my life to try and make it work, till I gave up. My highlights of 2021 was finding your channel. Thank you Jessica!
Fasho I agree. It’s crazy tho You would think love and respect would go hand-n-hand. If I say I love you, respect it given to you through actions too. But I think we have experienced a Woman that says she loves you but her actions don’t be respectful.
My mom always advises my brother against women that overspend....point number 1👌🔥 Where the guys at? 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳 Amazing points laid down Jessica 👏❤️❤️❤️ Great video 👏👍
I burned myself with the last point 😢 she said she wasn't ready, but a stupid dream I had made me invest more emotion and time and trust and love and everything just to make her love me more😭. I dreamt it was her wedding (cuz she was/and is older than me), and when I told her that I loved her and being with her made me feel stable and safe, she said ("you should have tried harder to let me know"). She left, and I almost ended myself because of how painful it was....... I (h.a.t.e.) myself for trying so hard and loving her so much.... I dont think I'll ever try again because the last time drove me to almost take my .... If I do try when im older, i'll avoid placing my trust in the whole thing... Thank you for this video tho : )
The one trait ive found with women , above all else , over the years is total hypocrisy. Its actually beyond me why they just be honest and say or do what they want in a partner . I'm going to end my latest relationship on the strength of Jessica's pointers . I cant be bothered anymore , it's too much like hard work . Good luck to you all , im done 🖐️
Sadly true about "Insecured Women" .... I married one and did everything to make her feel secured (not outing, not having friends in a city that is not mine, not drinking etc,) .... but failed woefully! Now, the marriage is over after 16yrs trying! She actually begged our neighbour not to take me away from her! Oh! BTW, she was the one who filed for divorce!!..... smfh!!
@@karlyxbosikoro5448 yep what a woman says she wants and what she wants are two different things best way to deal with them is to not care about them that’s why guys who are dicks get girls easy
As for number 6, i think a married person should steer clear of having friends of the opposite sex. Yes, there could be work mates, clients and school mates. But boundaries are the most important. Thanks for this great advice. Its helpful indeed
This is incredibly sexist and controlling. People can have friends of the opposite sex and not feel attracted to them! How insecure that you can't let you partner just have his/her friends
@@louiseelizabeth9613 I think friends of opposite sex are a natural thing and is ok to a certain degree . If you have to text this person daily or y’all hang out often then that could pose a problem. I know this from first hand experience. If my lady makes a big deal about having her male friend in her life then there may be more to that friendship then she is telling me .
@@willthiswork8 personally, I think both are entitled to friendships and neither should be restricting those, that's controlling behaviour period. If there is something more, then why isn't she with him. People can have best friends of the opposite sex. I think too many people believe when they're in a relationship that gives them permission to control what the other person does.
@@louiseelizabeth9613 I just said limit the interaction. If you have to text your guy friend daily or you guys meet up for dinner and drinks once a week then that’s a bit much . You mine as well date him if you require that much of his time . Besides I’m sure his girlfriend wouldn’t appreciate her guy spending a valid amount of time with another woman to begin either . And why do you keep saying it’s controlling?? Seems like you have a power struggle going on in your head . Respectfully!
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Soo true soo refreshing to have a chic givin dudes tips.... Its rare
Jessica do you think some men like me has the fault for not being better enough with women?
For example these are the things I do as a man:
I wear clothes that makes me comfortable NOT what pleases women.
I workout at the Gym because I'm thinking about my health NOT in my physical body for women.
I make money because I'm thinking about my career and the things I want to do on life, NOT for women.
Are those habits or activities I do.... makes women very picky or undesirable for men? cuz I've just watched a podcast by Jordan Peterson and I still can't understand about... what is exactly the problem with us men?
I almost don't complain much about getting rejection cuz I personally don't give a fuck what everyone thinks about me... but still cannot understand if is modern women ruining dating? or does is me the way I view "the modern women" that kills my motivation to seek women?
I'm male, 25 years old, college student living with my parents.
Please I would like to hear a response from you, if there is an advice you can give me in order to understand your perspective as a woman.
Thank you so much @Jessica_Os
Jessica I love that Yankees shirt
So refreshing to have a woman who is helping men improve in these areas instead of male bashing… Keep up the good work Queen … You are appreciated.
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@Dr. John Fallout4Nut - Learn what "simping" is😂. Maybe you were referring to sycophantic behaviour? Still, there's absolutely nothing wrong with complementing others' efforts.
Oh yea!!! Same here greatly love her body language😉
@Dr. John Fallout4Nut simp word be making me so mad cuz it be weirdos calling everyone a simp
The word queen is rapidly being abused
The "I am not ready" woman is more dangerous than men think ... usually (not always) this is the person who wants all the benefits of a relationship (fancy dates, your support, your care, love, etc.) on a "friendship pass". In short she wants the perks of a relationship without committing to one/giving anything.
Proper education for our young men. Thanks Jessica.
If a woman truly loves a man, she NEVER gives another man any opportunity to get close to her; she avoids any form of closeness, wether by call, chat, date etc. Anyone that does contrary is an insatiable flirt craving for something else.
The insecurity and materialistic type couldn’t agree more 👌🏾
Thank you for this video. I am just struggling to place women who are unyielding or rarely show remorse especially when they are wrong in the aforementioned categories. These women would rather first fixate on how "it's also partly your fault". When the apology finally comes, it sounds patronizing and meaningless. After that is "I already apologized, what more do you want?" But then again perhaps this would fall under the narcissist?
"The Beauty Only" 🤦🏽♂️omg!! They're stressful‼ lol but you are ON POINT with everything you said 🎯💯
She's giving us the inside scoop! This woman is gold!
I’ve dealt with a couple of women like this about 20 years ago. I haven’t attracted women like this since!! Informative video.
Powerful message from a woman. Keep up. Such an inspiration ☺️
Number 3 just got me, I wish I had these information earlier. I could've avoided the heartaches
Public comment. Wonderful message to humanity..I am happy and proud of you Ms. Thank you so much..God bless you.
Thanks so much Jessica.. you really helped me a lot, i have been heartbroken soooo soooo many times to the point were i have actually given up on relationships.. You video really helped me. You are a Star.
Realistically everyone embodies these characteristics at some point in their lives.
Thanks for the enlightenment. I've learnt alot. Now I have peace of mind.
I'm here to find out why I was always left behind. I found out that no.6 is my problem, not the kind who doesn't allow to have girl friends or hanging out with friends though. I'm insecure everything about me, I can't trust them fully and always feel they'll find someone better.
They are the one who make women to be insecure.....Thanks alot we learn alot .. Be blessed.
Thanks Jess.
I agree with you
Excellent, words of wisdom.... I salute
OMG I promise you I love you you are so inspiring and very experienced in helping man pick the right woman I wish that there was women here like you Great content Queen thanks for all you do I will always continuously to watch ❤️❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
Thank you for that great information on the different types of women again thank you my beautiful black queen
I can't believe I got this advice for free
Can't stop thanking you ♥️
Shalom $!$+@ thanx 4 the headz up! Thanx for the free game
Thanks Jessica, I'm relieved.
U are so super gamed up and your articulation is so on-point, wow, hebrew, that was immmmpresssive!👏👏👏
All my three ex wives all had these traits! That’s why they have become ex’s as I spotted all the traits before they ruined my life completely!
You had me at the intro 🥴😂🙌🏽
We all need a Jessica
Jess ........ The last one was my biggest mistake , now i am in a state of regret
Don’t be. Just heal and learn from it. I wish you all the best.
You’re way better than those annoying male podcasts. You’re so well spoken.
Thank you Jessica I listen to you all the time I like all your videos have a good day
Avoid
1)nagging women
2)self absorbed
3)who are not kind or respectful to your parents, siblings and friends
4) who only believe in taking, not giving
5)who are untidy, indisciplined and unorganised
6) who has no manners
7) with severe lack of general knowledge
8) is only interested in eating and partying
9) doesn't like reading, music and traveling
10) All in all a shallow woman.
Good luck and all the best!
List too short
There's only one thing worse than dating an insecure woman...I don't know what it is...but there's got to be something, right?
Number 5... If just dating, obviously your stuff is separate! Once married, the majority of women give up their career to look after the children and house, thus missing out on their earnings and pension contributions for YEARS even after they return to work. It makes sense for her to retain assets that can help keep her financially independent of things go wrong, and to compensate for that loss of earnings.
My friend's warnings were not as vivid now I live a miserable life.
Wow this was a great video! Great power points made an well delivered!
Thank you for this great video!
Well dang! this video got me thinking about three exes from my past. one was very self-absorbed, very materialistic, and truly a miserable woman who made me miserable. The second ex was the woman who drug her feet on everything, except when it came to me spending money on her. Now on the other hand getting her to reciprocate was like brushing a lion's teeth (pun well intended here)
The last one took the cake. She got mad at the drop of a hat, refused to talk to me for days, and when she finally did her excuse was something or one in her past that made her react to XYZ situation in that way. The point of all of this being is before seeing this I thought I was the problem, After the fact not so much. Now that isn't to say I am perfect because I am not and never will be, however, I know now that looking back I was enabling these women to be who they were by catering to their egocentric attitudes and total disregard for anyone's feelings, needs and wants but their own.
Thanks, Jessica, I truly appreciate your insight in pulling back the veil of mystery and revealing the truth. Keep up the amazing videos.
Finally a real woman. The revelation is here lol. As a woman im so happy to see this besides all these crazy sexist woman roaming around just WAITING to ruin mens lives. I love seeing woman actually being equal to one another & to real men. I HOPE OTHER WOMAN SEE THIS TO.
Hello Queen Jessica you are very true,i like your channel so much keep it up,Am Bonny from Uganda.
You are doing amazing job keeping up great work the things you doing so great I like them
stuck on type 6...so miserable...
wow! this is soo concise and brief, i love you ma'am, tnx for this
I vouch for you Jess. You the best
Thanks Jess, love you
I want to thank you soon much .you don't Kwon what you have done to me,you just save .my life.thank you so much.God bless you
I agree with you and I can see from afar now!! I don’t understand what and why relationships aren’t worth a damn and narcissistic is not curable you better off moving on! There’s many of them around both sexes
You are so true eventing you say is true thank you for that tip
You damn right and i shall be back with some questions on a lady i recently dated very difficult to understand, it will be a long write up but just a few, points now.Problem is she never accepts her fault when wrong, if you point out her mistake she would also respond vehemently though she is contradicting herself.She says one thing today and tomorrow she denies she said that.this was just the starting of our relationship. She accused me of blocking her number though she called me and i responded and met her to ride with her in her car to work,suddenly she acted like she did not know i ever proposed to her earlier and now suddenly wants me to redefine our relationship, i sensed she thought she had led me on too much and wanted to look like a ''hard to get lady'',meanwhile i loved her so much without any reservation though she is not my spec when it comes to external beauty but strangely i just fell deeply in love with her and still do ,but i felt insulted with her insistence when i declined to speak.The reason i refused to speak was because we had spoken about this already, this got her very angry,she talked down at me .In any case i did that on purpose because i suspected her of narcissism so i pretended to withdraw a little and thats what got her very angry and all that drama which followed.So i asked her not to pick me up again.
I really loved this video. I am a trans woman in a relationship with another trans woman and yes she does help me when she can but if she cannot help me then I do not get mad at her about it in any money she gives me it put toward food and other necessities when I absolutely need it I do not take her money and spend it on frivolous things. Secondly I've stuck to my guns and me and my girlfriend are Poly so with that being said I absolutely refuse did a woman who would shame me because I live in poverty. I am fully disabled not good at many things I just really have a disdain for this whole I don't want no scrub trend. I grew up in the 90s and the values I grew up with were no matter how poor you were no matter how little money you had no matter your social status no matter where you shop if someone was interested in you they were interested in you for your personality and the way you treated them it's not like it was before.
Hello luv thank you for the great advice you give it helps so so so much and give heads up about the real real because I have been going into a relationship learning the woman and enjoying their company and not even having standards because 8 want to know who she is and then go from their and the categories are enormous regardless of if they live in America where I'm from or Africa with the women I have dated before I can tell you this African women are so great to date and be friends with but now my life has steered to marriage now and 9m so Pocky and I know that I'll get the best woman who checks my boxes
this woman is already my wife and I'm really exhausted. what should I do???!!!
Can you advise on being with a woman who snaps at the slightest wrong doing then gives the evil or cold treatment for days.
Basically avoid dating women at together. Just go out with them with no intention of having a committed relationship.
I really agree with you thanks
Your videos are 10/10👍 for me
These are also related to men, every single aspect
Good advice
3:17 this is all I needed to hear 😕
Bold of you to assume I can get a date.
Impeccable video I’ve actually know a woman who has all the described qualities you’ve mentioned
I’m just glad I’m not any of these things. I am in love though.
Thanks love sucks
In type 6, she described one of my exes to the T lol.
All women on planet earth is in one of those 8 categories.
I agree with you
Nope. Don't date any of them.
i feel like this all i meet
She just defined like 85% of modern women to a Tea This is exactly why most guys are walking away from dating nowadays
I don't know where you live and who you let feed you these takes, but it is not true. I have been with quite a lot of women and majority of my friend group are women - they hate when men are the only one spending money, they never spend men's money (why tf would they do it), they save money and buy only when necessary, they want to contribute, they want compromise. If anything, older generations act as described in the videos, but 20-26 yo women don't
Yeah, and no wonder why marriage chart in the US is looking like a waterfall.
@@onebottleofwater9487 Not only in the US . I only met 1 good woman in my life and i made a huge mistake by not marrying her . I was young and stupid . Now i am old and still stupid .
Interesting all these points made not a one bm will date not a single BW anyways esp not with the point of making her life better 🙄🙄
@@elenawalker517 notice how your first instinct was to think about what the men should be doing for women on a video about how to avoid self centered women. This is exactly the issue men are facing.
half the time its our fault when we get heart broken because we choose to ignore these signals and force things.
Agreed
Yup
Facts
That is so true...more often than not we choose to ignore the warnings..
Facts, I have been there 🤦🏿♂️ but I learned.
8 Types:
1. The Spendthrift
2. The Liar
3. The Chronic Flirt
4. The Materialistic Woman
5. The “What’s mine, is mine” type of woman
6. The Insecure Woman
7. The Beauty Only OR The Narcissist
8. The “I’m not ready” woman
Liars spread STDs
so basically all women??!!
Don’t date these types of women???
Scratch that a real motherf*cker like me don’t date lmf@o!
@@cashless1980 🤣
The list is too short
Actually here to learn how to be a better woman. :3
In the world of city girls and city boys we have to choose better for ourselves. You get the energy you push out into the world back.
Your gonna be a wonderful G.F.💯👏🏾👏🏾
That's a myth. It's not about energy it's about compatibility.
@@arnoldwayne6775 Yeah there are dysfunctionally functional people as a couple but they compatible. But over the years I just realized I cannot blame my partners for my bad relationships anymore. I (can) be the problem too. That's what I want to change.
@John Johnson HAHA
@@dianakistaubaeva9321 Yeah only a narcissist constantly blames their mate, and refuses to accept personal responsibility and accountability for their own actions. Constantly check yourself in the mirror to peel away the bad qualities about yourself, so you can offer the best version of yourself to hopefully the next lucky person. Good luck on your quest.
This lady knows how to select her words. This is one thing I like about her.❤
@OJD PUBLISHING her God given wisdom and deep knowledge on human behaviour or relationships has nothing to do with her being married she is just God's chosen
That's a great list. Thank you. But there is more....
More types of women to avoid:
1. The chronically argumentative woman=> will wear you out and make you age faster
2. The promiscuous woman => for too many reasons: future unfaithfulness, diseases, future divorce, tendency to revert to her former lifestyle, etc
3. The party girl => she puts herself in situations where she can do bad things; can be easily bored with a simple/stable lifestyle bc she need regular excitements
4. The lazy woman =>'nuff said. No jobs, no education, no achievements, no life goals, nothing that she looks up to everyday. Run!
5. The unhygienic woman => your house will be dirty and disorganized; she will repulse you
6. The addict => whether to alcohol, cigarette, drugs or other harmful substances. You can't save her.
3rd one is Tokyo from money heist
Thanks for sharing
Seasoned divorce lawyer here. Love this video. Keep up the great work. You will put me out of business. Subscribed.
thank you
Lol.
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I dated a VERY insecure one, and when you said it’ll drain you, you’re freaking right lol thanks for the video
Insecurities come from men who don’t communicate that well or can’t read the attraction sign and act accordingly
@@Arvidje how do insecurities come from men? your probably thinking of a specific example in your head. however we are talking about women who are ALREADY insecure coming into a relationship. This constant insecurity will have you mentally drained because you have to keep reassuring at every single step and turn. This insecurity can also eventually with time rob off onto the man. anyways don't generalize and don't use personal examples of past relationships thanks
@@Arvidje If you blame your own insecurities on other people then you're already missing the issue
@@daffi.mp3 insecure is driven on fear. Fear to lose , fear to risk. Woman sense fear right away. It’s a turn off. A woman want to feel comfort and protected. Generalizing : The goals , values and behavior may differ for each perso. but not the attraction. it’s a biological thing , same thing feeling hungery, everybody has that same feeling. Learn and read the proper fundamentals of attraction and u will have less drama and more happiness. Thanks
@@Cynsham insecurity is driven on fear. Fear to lose , fear to risk. Woman sense fear right away. It’s a turn off. A woman want to feel comfort and protected. Generalizing : The goals , values and behavior may differ for each perso. but not the attraction. it’s a biological thing , same thing feeling hungery, everybody has that same feeling. Learn and read the proper fundamentals of attraction and u will have less drama and more happiness.
Relationships are overrated. If you're single like me, this is NO DEBATE!!!
LMAO Please stop shouting . single is boring
@@keenahizuagie3306 that could not be more wrong. If you are dependent on someone other than yourself for a fun filled life, you're going to have a bad time eventually.
@@keenahizuagie3306 You must be a very dull individual. The type who stay in a relationship with someone they don't even like 🤣 which is like putting a 1000 tonne load on yourself, something unimaginable to me.
For those who wonder how we single people manage, it actually very simple. I love knowledge and eat every book i come across. Everything around us in INTERESTING; from trees,to ants, to animals, to the grass, to abstract mathematics. I always want to know more and can read about ants as if am going to do an exam, when I am tired of reading I can watch a documentary.
To me, relationships are nothing but work. It’s just not worth it anymore. Hell, watching this video is wearing me out.
Big facts. Single life is the way forward
I was once emotionally manipulated into a relationship by an insecure person. Everything you said about an insecure woman is true. Guys, never ever date an insecure person. Instead, be their friend and help them heal. If you are not careful, you may be emotionally manipulated into the relationship. And that may turn out to be the worse experience of your life. At best, you may start becoming insecure about yourself. And at worst, she may use you to heal, blame it all on you, and dump you for someone else.
I’m living it.
BINGO!!!!
Yes big dog. You are telling the truth. I had to get out of that situation eventually a year after our son was born and now I'm stuck trying to gain all my power back as a man
@@Aunit1984 things will never work out with a partner unless God put you together in marriage, unbeliever can't be equally yoked with believers things will never workout.
@@angelamurphy3705 we're both believers and we found out she was pregnant around the time I proposed to her.. but after we had him was when the problems we already had heightened even more to where we just stopped seeing eye to eye and I felt like this was truly who she was the whole time but because I didn't take more time in knowing who she really was and certain personal issues that I had on my end, we just fell apart and even me getting counseling and doing my best to turn things around she still does not take any ownership to her mistakes and blames everything on me which isn't right..
You forgot the last type of woman you shouldn't date : The chronically negative one. They'll drain you emotionally and turn you against the world believing everyone else is bad and they are the only saints. They keep feeding you with negative stories their friends say about men and relationships. No matter how hard you try to prove yourself it will never be enough. In the end you'll lose your sanity if you don't set yourself free. Avoid them at all cost.
I just completed the list 😅
I think the Narcissist covers that
The ones who have father issues are the worst
Then they’ll tell you at the end of it that you’re the negative one, and they have grown past that and can’t grow with you anymore
Most of these characteristics all come under the same personality type - narcissist
@@JoseRuiz-hc2vy damn literally my case, and I also turned out to be an "abuser". It was so easy for her to end everything through text.
My latest ex was a narcissist, I tried being her friend (even after everything she’s done) she would lie to get her way and turn into the victim when she was the one who hurt me. When I flat out told her who she was in my eyes and offered to help her work through her selfishness she told me to go fuck myself and never spoke to me again, best feeling ever.
Stay strong kings!
You cannot help these people
If only I knew most of these I would've saved myself from the hustle and bustle of so many toxic relationships. Jess..thanks for throwing more light on these . Everytime I tune to your channel, I learn my faults vis -a-vis women and little by little I'm becoming better version of myself. Thanks a million 🥰👍🏽
Lol
Same here bro. We live and we learn
Jessica you are so right. Newly divorced after 17 years and single and I’m terrified of the women out here WOW. I’m taking my time !!!!!!
That's great bates. We have to be careful with women.
I filled for divorce three years ago after about 18 years, I tried another relationship a year after and the new one fell in multiple categories in this list.
After that I decided I'm done with dating, pretty much every woman these days fall into one or more of these categories, so I see no point in wasting my time; not worth sacrificing my sanity and peace of mind.
After God fear women 😂
Terrance, you are very wise to be afraid! The women in my family warn our males to be wary!
Go realllll slow!
First time here and I love Jess already. I agree whole heartedly. And it is very refreshing to have someone like Jess speak up on behalf on what men should learn to avoid. There are so many videos about all the men we should avoid. Very seldom do you find videos that support men, all men. I'm a mother and I have two sons. It is so important for men to have this kind of support. Thanks Jess.
You’re welcome
@@JessicaOS Could you do an episode where you invite guys to communicate with women ?a sort of dating.
Brilliant sister! all facts!!!
The narcissistic woman, hit home for me so hard. I married and dealt with a woman such as this and it was pure hell!! I was so thankful God took me out of that situation!!
Any signs show in the early stages?
They think there kitty makes them valuable
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They play victim and want you to keep falling back to their traps.worst relationship ever.
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When you date someone
Whether it’s a female dating a guy
Whether it’s a male dating a girl
Make sure to observe 💯 & seek any red flags 🚩, also ask open ended important questions, not interesting questions.
Make sure their family are not conflicting.
Make sure their family never Interfere with their relationship.
Make sure you talk about income improves & much more about living situations & rising new opportunities before seeking to raise a family.
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Mine was the insecure woman...the whole relationship was a torture. She complains and nags a lot about every litttle thing. it was crazy. I had to run for my life. She's got trust issue too
It's not easy I was in one too
She's telling us what we already know. But there's nothing like good reminders. Love your vids.
A lot of men don't know this is why she made this video!!!!
Yeah but what I'm saying is sometimes we as men can get over infatuated with someone and we tend to slip. I've been there. That's why I'm saying it's good to be reminded. To keep your guard up. I really appreciate these videos.DONT GET ME WRONG.
Facts. U know we need reminders 🙂
I broke up with the insecure woman and bumped into the narcissist one so you just gave me clarity on why things went the way it went. I appreciate the advice and would love to hear more from you in this department. The insecure woman has drain me so much until I'm still dealing with the depressions and lack of energy from it. To be fair, I didn't handle her insecurities well and decided to run without being honest with her and furthered her insecurities even more. I've been banging myself upside the head for that but there's no way to make amends for that and the guilt of it has been beating me up. She's in constant hate of me and we're not even together. I am so drained from it that I feel like I'm drowning and I'm not even in the relationship anymore. It's really crazy to go through this.
I completely understand how you feel. I went through something similar but reverse from narcissistic to insecure. That insecure was pure hell. To think I never even wanted a relationship with her but the way I got manipulated into it is something I still can't explain. But you'll heal. Eventhough I don't think I've completely healed, I feel way better than I did in that relationship. You'll need to start by forgiving yourself for everything. Then constantly reassure yourself that you'll heal. Whenever any memory pop up, be conscious and don't think about it, just recite this to yourself "I forgive you for everything and you'll heal." After a while, your brain will automatically start doing this without you saying it or being conscious.
I was getting to know someone who was a potential partner. We both committed to it being just us. but she continued to flirt online with others and said it was social media as in it didn’t matter and she would also post herself being provocative in self sexualised videos. It all matters whether it’s done online or in person. Never let them manipulate you into thinking this behaviour is acceptable when you’re getting with them. How is this behaviour even supposed to attract a potential partner when she’s doing it for everyone else’s eyes and this is someone who claims to have feelings for you. This person is letting you know what to expect when you do eventually get into a full on relationship that they’ll always flirt and do such degrading things.
Only fans ? By any chance
She was for the streets
Jess....yes, she sacrificed me and the love, I thought we had...! Your vids are glaringly educative, intuitive, I must say ...I can't say, thank you, enough...
Hey Jes
I had to end it with a Narcissistic woman, Damn!!! It was really exhausting. Nothing i ever did was enough, always giving mixed signals. Act hot today and cold tomorrow 😏😏. I literally had to suspend my life to try and make it work, till I gave up. My highlights of 2021 was finding your channel. Thank you Jessica!
Nice content. My take is simple: Do not date. Keep your hard earned resources men. The juice is not worth the squeeze.
Husband’s need to feel respect, wife’s need to feel loved
Right on.
Mmmm I’ve heard “Men want to feel loved, Women want to feel wanted”
Love for men is respect
@@kevinraymond3081 fasho
Fasho I agree. It’s crazy tho You would think love and respect would go hand-n-hand. If I say I love you, respect it given to you through actions too. But I think we have experienced a Woman that says she loves you but her actions don’t be respectful.
My mom always advises my brother against women that overspend....point number 1👌🔥
Where the guys at? 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
Amazing points laid down Jessica 👏❤️❤️❤️
Great video 👏👍
eiii Sarah mtn eiii here tooo😂😊👊👊
Never chase a woman. Let her chase YOU! 🤷🏽♂️😎
Why?
I burned myself with the last point 😢 she said she wasn't ready, but a stupid dream I had made me invest more emotion and time and trust and love and everything just to make her love me more😭. I dreamt it was her wedding (cuz she was/and is older than me), and when I told her that I loved her and being with her made me feel stable and safe, she said ("you should have tried harder to let me know"). She left, and I almost ended myself because of how painful it was....... I (h.a.t.e.) myself for trying so hard and loving her so much.... I dont think I'll ever try again because the last time drove me to almost take my .... If I do try when im older, i'll avoid placing my trust in the whole thing... Thank you for this video tho : )
The one trait ive found with women , above all else , over the years is total hypocrisy. Its actually beyond me why they just be honest and say or do what they want in a partner . I'm going to end my latest relationship on the strength of Jessica's pointers . I cant be bothered anymore , it's too much like hard work . Good luck to you all , im done 🖐️
We know
Sadly true about "Insecured Women" .... I married one and did everything to make her feel secured (not outing, not having friends in a city that is not mine, not drinking etc,) .... but failed woefully! Now, the marriage is over after 16yrs trying! She actually begged our neighbour not to take me away from her! Oh! BTW, she was the one who filed for divorce!!..... smfh!!
You should have did the opposite of everything you just said you did to make her happy.
@@arnoldwayne6775 ikr Wayne! ... but I did not know how women tick then ... now I know... smh...
Broooo🤧😔😔😪stay strong bro
@@karlyxbosikoro5448 yep what a woman says she wants and what she wants are two different things best way to deal with them is to not care about them that’s why guys who are dicks get girls easy
16 years is very long actually
As for number 6, i think a married person should steer clear of having friends of the opposite sex. Yes, there could be work mates, clients and school mates. But boundaries are the most important. Thanks for this great advice. Its helpful indeed
This is incredibly sexist and controlling. People can have friends of the opposite sex and not feel attracted to them! How insecure that you can't let you partner just have his/her friends
@@louiseelizabeth9613 I think friends of opposite sex are a natural thing and is ok to a certain degree . If you have to text this person daily or y’all hang out often then that could pose a problem. I know this from first hand experience. If my lady makes a big deal about having her male friend in her life then there may be more to that friendship then she is telling me .
@@willthiswork8 personally, I think both are entitled to friendships and neither should be restricting those, that's controlling behaviour period. If there is something more, then why isn't she with him. People can have best friends of the opposite sex. I think too many people believe when they're in a relationship that gives them permission to control what the other person does.
@@louiseelizabeth9613 I just said limit the interaction. If you have to text your guy friend daily or you guys meet up for dinner and drinks once a week then that’s a bit much . You mine as well date him if you require that much of his time . Besides I’m sure his girlfriend wouldn’t appreciate her guy spending a valid amount of time with another woman to begin either . And why do you keep saying it’s controlling?? Seems like you have a power struggle going on in your head . Respectfully!
@@willthiswork8 I just think too many people think that they have the right to control someone they're dating!