Mark's series proves 1 thing I've been saying for decades. The root thing wrong with society is the lack of real friends. Mark has shown him what it's like to have a real friend / support.
Mark changed this guy's life without all the toxic nonsense men hear about how they aren't being man enough or that they need to man up. Men need to know that other people care about them and that they need to find a way to love themselves. The solutions are simple, it seems, but some men just don't know what to do to change their lives for the better. Mark Manson, you're an amazing human being. Will, you're amazing too.
Unf*ck Your Life Checklist 1. Join a Gym... and Go. 2. Meal Prep Healthy Options 3. Read More Books 4. Try Something New 5. Learn a New Skill 6. Cold Plunge 7. Go Out and Be Social 8. Show Appreciation 9. Apologize to Someone 10. Forgive Yourself
@@minnowx7099 yeah, turns out I was undiagnosed autistic and ADHD in severe burnout with complex ptsd. No money and unable to find a job that won't cause my health to deteriorate again, not that I've fully recovered from my last burnout. Just debating ways to off myself while looking for a miracle 🤷 being optimistic and hopeful was my greatest strength but it always got used against me. I don't have spoons anymore to keep trying different jobs or industries trying to find a fit.
My mum was never supportive of anything I ever did . She might be ok that is cool and good for you . Always rather heartless . She thinks I'm super good at art and wants me to paint and draw lol . She's like you could making 1000s . I don't even care .
The letter Will wrote to himself … it hit HARD! So vulnerable, beautiful but also full of… commitment to go forward. Will is an amazing dude and I hope all the good things in life will now follow! ❤ Mark - chapeau, for the incredible work you are doing! This made my day!
"Behind every strong person, is a story that gave them no choice. Never let anything stand in your way". Your letter to yourself was SO powerful. Hell YEAH Will. Proud of you brother.
this is why i consider Mark’s channel one of my best subscriptions, he’s just so down to earth and he’s making you feel the true sense of being a human. Love it
@@willcolip7975hey Will. (First off, love the gaming set up) secondly, congratulations on your progress. I relate to pretty much all of your struggles, and it’s inspiring to know that I can make the progress you made
Man, I had to hold back tears! Great work you guys. And, Mark, I apologize for criticizing your decision to go into video content. I realize now that I’m the one who wasn’t chasing my own dreams and projecting that inner failure upon you. You’re killing it and I’m proud of your new work.
One of the most beautiful videos I have ever seen on this platform. Also reminds me of this quote. I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, get enough sleep, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren’t giving yourself a fighting chance.” - Jim Carrey
And Jim Carrey's words are so very true. I'd fallen ill during my last years in school, and the result was a depression. My husband also suffered a depression at the end of his school days. But, though we didn't know each other, we both had the sense to keep active and outdoors, whether in our choice of hobbies or in my case, my career. I changed my diet significantly. I would read, paint, write, embroider, and went hiking in my spare time, while my husband was motorcycle building, racing, scrambling and doing stunts. Anything to break the mould. However, our grown up son 'wallows' in idle anxiety. He's snappy, reclusive, doesn't exercise, and spends too much time online conversing with odd people with weird ideas. He won't come out of his room except for meals and to go to work (his work is sat down in front of a computer all day designing websites). It is like living with a ghost. Of course, as concerned parents, we try to do our best, to give advice, to invite him to do various things, to get him out of that tiny, stuffy room and away from that damn screen. But he is the stubbornest of mules. He shuns our advice as if we are stupid, don't understand, or not worth listening to. I don't know what it is. We have never done anything to warrant this lack of trust. This morning he goes to the psychologist, and it worries us sick that all these people ever do is 'talk,' until the day they finally put him on medication. That's all they do - talk. There has been no change in his behaviour whatsoever; no one telling him to get outside, get exercise, stop drinking the coffee, stop drinking so many energy drinks, stop sitting in front of the computer the minute he gets home (until 3:20am the other morning). He doesn't socialise with us at all - except Christmas Day, and then it's a day we all spend on tenterhooks, us parents worried that the wrong word will send him flying back to his room. If we want him to help us with anything, it's, 'I'm busy,' or 'Wait 10 minutes,' - and some hours later, he 'might' appear. He often just doesn't bother coming out of his room at all, hoping that if he just stays quiet, we'll just go away and cope with the issue ourselves. I have joint problems and his dad is much older than me - so we would appreciate the help and not this constant dismissal... In fact, I change my mind about comparing him to a ghost, because I'm sure that if our house 'was' haunted, we'd interact with a ghost more than with him. Obsession with the internet is a global problem; I'd call it a disease. I wish now we'd never had it installed here. It would have been far better if all he had available was an hour of internet booked at the local library (10 miles away), and I guess I might have reverted to that option if so many companies hadn't started making it so impossible to deal with them any other way.
@lewis7870Wow - do you have a teenage son with this problem (now 21) ? I do! All the “help” we have offered and everything we have tried has not helped so far and has not worked. We tried a psychologist but they actually ran out of things to talk about after a few sessions and said there was “nothing” wrong - well staying in your room and being up until 3-4am every night and only interacting online unless you are at work - having virtually no interactions with live people, no exercise etc, etc, is ok then what? We can’t “stop” him, we don’t want to abandon him or throw him out - what else can we do? He wanted to go to Japan so we said if he saved a percentage we would also put some money towards it - he went for 5 weeks with a friend - came back and still nothing has changed. We really hoped that a change from his “normal” environment would help…. He works a minimum wage job and we charge him $100 a week rent - mostly to help him learn to be responsible and accountable - nothing works
@@debbiehenri345 I'm so moved by your message and totally agree about the internet. My son has a disability and so for different reasons I worry about him and can relate to your anxiety. What I'd like to see if men all over the world making a solid commitment to friendship with other men, and doing all that that entails. Friendship done right is demanding, and it's worth it. In the meantime all the best to you and your family. I have faith it will turn around.
There is a little bad in us all. Don't ever think you aren't partly good, because you obviously are. Yin and Yang. You can't be a good man without being capable of bad things.
As a 23 years old boy who's going through hard times (as everyone does, I think), watching this video and getting to know that I'm already doing a lot of items from the list really made me feel a little happier. I suffered from abuse, and too much agression when I was just a child. I didn't know that it could destroy my self-esteem and fuck with my brain. But I'm getting better everyday, and being strong. I'm learning my third language, and started learning computer science again because soon I'll be applying for a job in German. I have no doubt that I'll ascend from a poor Brazilian guy to a strong man that'll provide value for society, help others and form a beautiful family. God bless you, Mark! 🙌
I'm twice your age and am inspired by your grit and determination. Keep it up. I'd love to keep in touch and hear more about your journey. I need to learn some new skills myself! I was a process engineer with a chemical engineering degree, but now have been unemployed for nearly eight years.
Amen brother....all power to you...btw i am trying to learn german as well for my masters degree....maybe we could help each other out a bit if that's okay with you? Let me know if we can connect and then i will share my insta id here .. Stay Strong and may god give you everything you need to excel🚀🚀🍾🍾⚡⚡⚡⚡
That scene with Will reading his forgiveness letter made me cry. I've always like Mark's "no BS approach" to unf*ck your life and been a long-term reader of his newsletter but seeing all the success stories on this channel is even more motivating. He truly cares about helping people. What an amazing accomplishment, Will. Keep up the good work! 👍
Tears, tears rolling. In college rn, sitting alone at my canteen table and couldn't stop myself from bursting out. Feels great. The letter to yourself was POWERFULL. Thank you Thank you so much.
I literally cried when he read that letter to himself at the end of the video. I want to say a big thank you, Mark. I will forgive myself as well today. Thank you for this video!
Gosh the comment from the mom re the ice bath was adorable. She didnt care about the ice bath but she just wanted to connect with her son more deeply. What a gorgeous comment from a caring mom.
True story: I find myself at yet another of life’s um transitions. I bought your book when it first came out for my two adult daughters. Landed on your you tube channel years ago, surprised at your sound/wholesome content. Love this new format as you embrace a powerful mission. I’m 77 and soon moving into an assisted living home. Been feeling all the feels. Guess what. Just watching this beautiful video I’m feeling a bit more confident and a bit less like giving up. Thanks m’dear.
I hope your time there is marked by peace and joy rather than restlessness. Congratulations on entering this new stage in life with grace and self-control.❤
This literally made me cry a little because these steps are easy for me to follow to help others I know in similar situations. I am so happy I saw this. Thank you for changing Will's life and showing him how to make things better.
Mark, thank you so much for this ❤ My son is going thru a similar situation and is stuck there. As a mom, I try to be supportive and just love him without blasting into parent mode. I shared this video with him hoping he will watch it. I have been thru divorce, cancer, being kicked out of a crazy cult and none of that compares to the overwhelming weight of seeing your child suffer and being helpless to make change happen for him.
You not only helped him but also brought joy to his mom and his friends who were missing out a good person who was beneath under anxiety and depression.
Glad you caught that quote. It’s one of my favorites. I followed it up with something my father always told my brother and I, “Never let anything stand in your way.”
Amazing video. It had me in tears by the end. I recently went through my own journey of mental health, forgiveness of myself and my past mistakes, and learning to be able to actually look in the eyes of the reflection in the mirror. Taking me back was painful but humbling. I hope this man is able to continue on the right path. I absolutely recommend doing more videos like this!
I thought this was just going to be another video i will watch and forget about, but when it was time for him to forgive himself i broke down in tears. I felt that.....
This is just such a great example of simply showing up in life for another, yet Mark moved the needle a tad higher by showing up for what I assume is a stranger. Will showed up and pushed his edges and I hope you are still kicking ass! We all have skills to help others and we all have areas where others can help lift us higher. Hell yeah brother! Thanks to both of you for this lesson!
Dude you are a beast! I love what you said. "Behind every strong person is a story that gave them no choice." When you hit rock bottom you have no where to go but up. Keep going dude!
Dear Mark, Your videos humble me. I remember your advice even when I'm not trying to. When I see you practice what you preach, it has a huge, and I mean huge, impact on me. I feel lucky to have known you
man, I cried the hell out of myself with his "forgive myself" note, I felt that, I was there months ago and now I feel the best I've been in my whole life, all things must pass, remember that, we love you
You've probably heard this from five billion people but your book is pretty f****n' lit. I read it (okay… listened to it, but I read it later) five years ago after having taken care of my mom passing from cancer for about 4 months, after having bought a right hand steering Mitsubishi Delica to tour the USA and try to become one with the world or some shit. Your book arrived just at the right time, so I thank you for that. To this day I still read it, and listen to the audiobook to remind myself of certain principles. Either way, I'm wodering if you're still helping people out like you did with Will it's super inspiring. I don't want to bore you with my life story, but I was in a wicked ass car accident , I almost died. in fact to this day doctors are still stunned at how I was able to survive. My entire life I've been very sad and I wasn't able to notice that I was very sad because I didn't know what it was to not be sad, or some people might consider this depression which eventually became anxiety and eventually it turns out all this crap that happened to me in my childhood led to me developing complex post-traumatic stress disorder. and unfortunately due to not knowing what it is to not be depressed, I didn't know what it felt like to not be depressed. to me this was normal, this was life. life is hard life is difficult life is impossible, we're here to just suffer and I wasn't able to see all the doors that were available to me, be it through meeting new people helping out asking for help. for some reason in my mind I had it ingrained that I couldn't ask for help, that nobody wanted to help because why would they want to? Like some real emo sh*t, ya know? I was a gothpunk rock emo kid, so. Any who, I'd like to write a book one day too, and share my experiences. And how you said I have to be a contrarian on a certain degree, I got that covered (for success) I think, either way. It would be f**king awesome to like have an orange soda and a pizza, or a redbull and a reeses (well not really I'd ra ther just have a drink or a coffee) and maybe if you could help me. I think I'm finally getting out thanks to PROZAC, here go to this website for a coupon... Lol just kidding, this isn't a paid advertisement. But either way man, I imagine you're super busy and sh*t, but I want to also help people too, like you have. That's what I want to give a f**k about, granted yes the reason I want to is because it gets my nipples hard (quoting you from your book) and that's an interesting thing, we could go down that philosophical route about how love is selfish or ultimately alla Thomas Paine I think, who said that all humans are inherently evil. Either way I'm not really organizing my thoughts as well as I'd hoped to make it seem like I'm cool and worth one of your f**ks cuz I know they're super limited, but, yeah uhh... In summary I'm looking to see if you can help me like you did Will to a degree and maybe help me share my story and I'm dying to travel. I'm not ignorant of travel, I have more story about how I lived in New York, but because of my moms death, I sort of abandoned my career and all that hokey pokey bullsh*t, butI don't want to drown you in my woes (unless you want to be drowned, because you're into that ;3) but yeah man. that's it. I was gonna stick all this crap in chatgpt and have it prepare a letter, (Yes I pay for premium, and f*ck you if you judge me). Hell I'll even paste the prompt I was gonna use: "I'm trying to write a fun letter to Mark Manson, I see he went to help somone out so I'm also applying for something similar and this is what I'm trying to do, could to turn this into a fun letter format, very casual and fun and use vulgar language like f*ck, and make my ideas coherent:” But I feel just vomiting all this into a letter would be more authentic, and you'd appreciate it better Big hug, and may your f*cks be given to worthwhile things. P.S. yes I copy pasted this and sent it to you through every possible channel I could find so you'd see it. Am I desperate? Maybe, but there's a fine line between desperation and perseverance P.P.S. each one of these I send you are slightly different.
I wacth this video 3 times . Mark, you really change my life the very first book I read was models, nearly 8 year ago . Really change me alot I owe you much more than I can express. You are really like my big brother. I really what you are doing on RUclips now. It's really entertaining and provide values . Thanks man please make more videos like this ! ❤ Love you bro
Will has a great personality, and his mom is precious. I wish them all the best in this journey. I was so excited to see Will two months later. He looks amazing! I can see his sunshine radiating from his face. Way to go, Will!
I appreciate Marks message in this video. I would also like to point out that this somewhat puts unrealistic expectations on people. In real life you won’t have a “savior” come to help you unf*ck your life. You will have to do that yourself because there won’t be anyone coming to save you. With that said, once we realize that, starting with small steps is the way out.
I remember a few months ago hearing you say you had a plan to transform this space using your RUclips channel. Wow. This is brilliant mark. Such good and accessible advice. You will help millions. Mark you are a hero. Will you are a hero. So Inspiring.
Man, i have never been a cryer but boy that letter to himself has shocked me, can relate so much to that. Thanks Mark and Will for this beautiful message of hope. Stay Hard and know that someone is always out there for you and ending it is never the solution.
Mark, I appreciate you and this beautiful way to help others. I read your book when I was 17, fantastic! Now 24 and I love your realistic grounding content, keep going the good work! And Will, I celebrate you choosing yourself and being open enough to go through this process and inspire others by having it shared online. All the best for you both, much love ✨🌻
This might be the most encouraging and positive videos I've ever seen. Every man should go through this, learn and repeat these steps. Thank you for doing this. It's extremely precious.
"Behind every strong person is a story that gave them no choice. Never let anything stand in your way. I love you, stop worrying so much, I forgive you." This video touched my heart. Thank you both for sharing.
Holy crap. Just seeing his face after the 2 months, before he even said anything about working out I was like.... damn. he lost a lot of weight. Looking good man!
I’ve been looking for tons of videos for the past 2 months about those subjects, like discipline, motivation, and how to get out of a rut. This, thankfully, was the last video I needed to see, this was enough to make me wanna see things by another perspective. The time you said “it’s just about doing the same simple boring things will make you feel better day by day”.. Awesome, that’s all that I needed. Thank you so much Mark. Stay strong Will. I’m 25 and from now on I’ll be getting my life together again. I really appreciate.❤️
Well here’s some advice from the source. Something that’s not mentioned in the video is that I’ve been seeing the same therapist for 5 years. Learning to love yourself and then staying dedicated to self improvement are key. Yes I have a ton of support, but I also have a ton of love for myself and the will to push forward even when I’m uncomfortable. You got this brother!!!
What you just said about him, he never saw in him that. Same goes for you. When you unfuck your life, others will find what they don't have and you have.
@@willcolip7975 I don't got it. All the therapy and confidence, and dedication, I was there for many years, it was unsustainable and exhausting without results. Success and happiness just aren't in the cards for me. I don't make it anyone else's problem, I'm not angry about it, but it is just something I have to accept.
Just seen this video now. I´ve discovered your channel couple of days ago and I am simply amazed on how talented you are. You are an inspiration. This video is amazing. Thank you for doing what you do, thank you for being there for those in need, thank you for being yourself. God bless you! 🌟 Greetings from Berlin, Germany
Mark, you're the BEST! What a touching story and how generous you were to go and help Will in person. I'm rooting for Will! He's doing great after the fact. What a wonderful thing. Bless your hearts
Thank you Mark for such an amazing video. All of us go through phases in life where we feel like our life is falling apart but its important to remember how these little basic every day tasks can make a huge difference if done the right way. A lot of our life is in our control, little acts of positivity help in our journey to fix our lives.
This was so great! Getting to know Will and what a cool guy he is was such an eye-opener. The kind of guy anyone would value as a friend fell into a bit of a trap. I was amazed that he didn't think more of himself because I liked him right from the get-go. Didn't offer up much resistance, just jumped in with both feet with a joke and a grin. You have to wonder how many really good people are in "the basements of their lives." They don't know how to get out, and they don't know how awesome they are. Thanks for sharing this experience. Amazing video!
This was so beautiful to watch. It was having the support of a coach, who is literally walking along side you, participating in the activities and being your friend and advocate. Thank you!
What a great story and what a great video! I love Mark's no-bullshit approach, these are all useful, simple steps we should all take in order to become the best version of ourselves, for our own sake and for the sake of people who love us. I'm really happy to see that stories like this truly exist.
He is basically me but I couldn't imagine managing to be that social for a week without becoming nauseous, pale and irritable from social anxiety/anxiety... But this was inspiring. I hope I can turn things around. 10 years single this month, will be 40 in November 28.. Living with my mother, kinda taking care of her and ... at the same time making sure I have a reason to be here and that I at least talk to someone. Was gonna move on my own after my father died from cancer and had been home taking care of him but now mom has had 2 strokes... oh and ended up living there when a woman I lived with, engaged to, told me on the phone when I was visiting my parents that she has found someone else and I could only visit our home to get my stuff. Was just about to get a job there in a game store... then its been nothing but depression and anxiety since and every time I start getting better there's a funeral or a global virus that halts all therapy and I regress again.... gahh I hate how this anxiety has robbed me of the youth I still had. I feel so behind I have seemingly given up by a big margin.
This video is not particularly helpful or realistic - who needs some RUclips guy spending a week pretending to be a friend and doing random activities and then leaving the person to the actual hard part of changing their whole life. I'm sure it already occurred to Will that going to the gym would be good for his health and self-esteem, but it completely ignores the fact that going to the gym consistently is time-consuming, painful, awkward and monotonous and sitting at home playing video games and eating pizza is easy and fun and instantly rewarding.
Hope everyone is doing well and can learn something from my experience. Stay hard everyone!!! Hell yeah brother!!! 🤠
You're the GOAT Will
You´re amazing, I know that in some years you'll see this video and will see how many changes you have done, keep it hard, we believe in you.
I'm so inspired and I really needed that! All the best to you!
Hell yeah brother keep going, you became an inspiration for a lot people here.
Nice work bro!
This is what men really need, just another man who will just talk to him , give him some company ,and cheer him on the way .
All men could do with that
I've heard of the mythological "Friend" you are describing.
Women, too, want a man like that ❤(to help with losing weight and so on…)
Honestly, this is the kind of thing Fred Rogers was talking about.
@@polyglotmonaOr another woman
Mark's series proves 1 thing I've been saying for decades. The root thing wrong with society is the lack of real friends. Mark has shown him what it's like to have a real friend / support.
You have a brilliant mind.
100 per cent agreed :-)
So true 💯💯
❤ Facts
We can be friends. If you are willing to be real one. Let's make world a better place by showing true brotherhood.
Mark changed this guy's life without all the toxic nonsense men hear about how they aren't being man enough or that they need to man up. Men need to know that other people care about them and that they need to find a way to love themselves. The solutions are simple, it seems, but some men just don't know what to do to change their lives for the better. Mark Manson, you're an amazing human being. Will, you're amazing too.
Well basically he told him to man up in a loving way. And that's what men need.
THIS!!
Beautifully said
This! Exactly my thoughts.
Yessss!!
Unf*ck Your Life
Checklist
1. Join a Gym... and Go.
2. Meal Prep Healthy Options
3. Read More Books
4. Try Something New
5. Learn a New Skill
6. Cold Plunge
7. Go Out and Be Social
8. Show Appreciation
9. Apologize to Someone
10. Forgive Yourself
11. Star in a riveting RUclips video.
Thank you, saved me from wasting time with listing it out, none of those have worked for me.
@@Onthe9thlife3730Did you REALLY try them all without thinking you would fail before you started?
@@Onthe9thlife3730Man, that is the wrong attitude to have. There isn't any ONE thing.
@@minnowx7099 yeah, turns out I was undiagnosed autistic and ADHD in severe burnout with complex ptsd. No money and unable to find a job that won't cause my health to deteriorate again, not that I've fully recovered from my last burnout. Just debating ways to off myself while looking for a miracle 🤷 being optimistic and hopeful was my greatest strength but it always got used against me. I don't have spoons anymore to keep trying different jobs or industries trying to find a fit.
His Mum is amazing, everyone needs somebody who supports you like that
I agree, such a wholesome moment
My mum was never supportive of anything I ever did . She might be ok that is cool and good for you . Always rather heartless . She thinks I'm super good at art and wants me to paint and draw lol . She's like you could making 1000s . I don't even care .
That's right but she also has to let her son have his own life, his own experiences apart from being with her
Everyone needs a Mark in his/her life.
Learn to be your own Mark.
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@@Glenn705 no...we need to promote social connection and forming a community, not enabling this hyper individualistic crap we have going on.
WE need to be like Mark in someones life.
He is with his Books
Incredible video ❤❤
Love your content too i am productive than ever cuz of you
What i really like about this video is that you don't judge him, you are just with him and it's beautiful.
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The letter Will wrote to himself … it hit HARD! So vulnerable, beautiful but also full of… commitment to go forward. Will is an amazing dude and I hope all the good things in life will now follow! ❤ Mark - chapeau, for the incredible work you are doing! This made my day!
i cried lol
"Behind every strong person, is a story that gave them no choice. Never let anything stand in your way".
Your letter to yourself was SO powerful.
Hell YEAH Will.
Proud of you brother.
That letter, that quote, was amazing.
The phone conversation with his friend made me teary-eyed and gave me goosebumps. Beautiful.
I wish the best for this dude..he seems so genuine and suchhh a buddy. HELL YEAH BRUTHER!!
Hell yeah sister!!!
this is why i consider Mark’s channel one of my best subscriptions, he’s just so down to earth and he’s making you feel the true sense of being a human. Love it
You spoke my mind ❤
Will is amazing for being WILLING to change, letting you guide him, and sharing that journey ❤
Thanks partner! Change starts from within. Gotta be willing to make the change before any kind of progress can be made.
@@willcolip7975hey Will. (First off, love the gaming set up) secondly, congratulations on your progress. I relate to pretty much all of your struggles, and it’s inspiring to know that I can make the progress you made
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Man, I had to hold back tears! Great work you guys. And, Mark, I apologize for criticizing your decision to go into video content. I realize now that I’m the one who wasn’t chasing my own dreams and projecting that inner failure upon you. You’re killing it and I’m proud of your new work.
One of the most beautiful videos I have ever seen on this platform. Also reminds me of this quote.
I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don’t exercise, eat nutritious food, get sunlight, get enough sleep, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren’t giving yourself a fighting chance.”
- Jim Carrey
And Jim Carrey's words are so very true.
I'd fallen ill during my last years in school, and the result was a depression. My husband also suffered a depression at the end of his school days.
But, though we didn't know each other, we both had the sense to keep active and outdoors, whether in our choice of hobbies or in my case, my career.
I changed my diet significantly. I would read, paint, write, embroider, and went hiking in my spare time, while my husband was motorcycle building, racing, scrambling and doing stunts.
Anything to break the mould.
However, our grown up son 'wallows' in idle anxiety.
He's snappy, reclusive, doesn't exercise, and spends too much time online conversing with odd people with weird ideas. He won't come out of his room except for meals and to go to work (his work is sat down in front of a computer all day designing websites).
It is like living with a ghost.
Of course, as concerned parents, we try to do our best, to give advice, to invite him to do various things, to get him out of that tiny, stuffy room and away from that damn screen.
But he is the stubbornest of mules. He shuns our advice as if we are stupid, don't understand, or not worth listening to. I don't know what it is. We have never done anything to warrant this lack of trust.
This morning he goes to the psychologist, and it worries us sick that all these people ever do is 'talk,' until the day they finally put him on medication.
That's all they do - talk.
There has been no change in his behaviour whatsoever; no one telling him to get outside, get exercise, stop drinking the coffee, stop drinking so many energy drinks, stop sitting in front of the computer the minute he gets home (until 3:20am the other morning).
He doesn't socialise with us at all - except Christmas Day, and then it's a day we all spend on tenterhooks, us parents worried that the wrong word will send him flying back to his room.
If we want him to help us with anything, it's, 'I'm busy,' or 'Wait 10 minutes,' - and some hours later, he 'might' appear. He often just doesn't bother coming out of his room at all, hoping that if he just stays quiet, we'll just go away and cope with the issue ourselves. I have joint problems and his dad is much older than me - so we would appreciate the help and not this constant dismissal...
In fact, I change my mind about comparing him to a ghost, because I'm sure that if our house 'was' haunted, we'd interact with a ghost more than with him.
Obsession with the internet is a global problem; I'd call it a disease. I wish now we'd never had it installed here.
It would have been far better if all he had available was an hour of internet booked at the local library (10 miles away), and I guess I might have reverted to that option if so many companies hadn't started making it so impossible to deal with them any other way.
@lewis7870Wow - do you have a teenage son with this problem (now 21) ? I do! All the “help” we have offered and everything we have tried has not helped so far and has not worked. We tried a psychologist but they actually ran out of things to talk about after a few sessions and said there was “nothing” wrong - well staying in your room and being up until 3-4am every night and only interacting online unless you are at work - having virtually no interactions with live people, no exercise etc, etc, is ok then what? We can’t “stop” him, we don’t want to abandon him or throw him out - what else can we do? He wanted to go to Japan so we said if he saved a percentage we would also put some money towards it - he went for 5 weeks with a friend - came back and still nothing has changed. We really hoped that a change from his “normal” environment would help…. He works a minimum wage job and we charge him $100 a week rent - mostly to help him learn to be responsible and accountable - nothing works
@@debbiehenri345It sounds like he needs to watch these videos. He certainly needs a Mark Manson in his life.
@@debbiehenri345 I'm so moved by your message and totally agree about the internet. My son has a disability and so for different reasons I worry about him and can relate to your anxiety. What I'd like to see if men all over the world making a solid commitment to friendship with other men, and doing all that that entails. Friendship done right is demanding, and it's worth it. In the meantime all the best to you and your family. I have faith it will turn around.
I am not a good person but this made me cry. All the best to you two, Will and Mark. This video gives hope.
same
You have empathy; that's a fundamental part of being a good person.
You are a good person. Bad people don't doubt themselves. You might not be all good, but you have good in you.
There are good and bad in everyone, let’s try to help the good part grow stronger than the bas
There is a little bad in us all. Don't ever think you aren't partly good, because you obviously are. Yin and Yang. You can't be a good man without being capable of bad things.
As a 23 years old boy who's going through hard times (as everyone does, I think), watching this video and getting to know that I'm already doing a lot of items from the list really made me feel a little happier. I suffered from abuse, and too much agression when I was just a child. I didn't know that it could destroy my self-esteem and fuck with my brain. But I'm getting better everyday, and being strong. I'm learning my third language, and started learning computer science again because soon I'll be applying for a job in German. I have no doubt that I'll ascend from a poor Brazilian guy to a strong man that'll provide value for society, help others and form a beautiful family. God bless you, Mark! 🙌
I'm twice your age and am inspired by your grit and determination. Keep it up. I'd love to keep in touch and hear more about your journey. I need to learn some new skills myself! I was a process engineer with a chemical engineering degree, but now have been unemployed for nearly eight years.
Let's connect bro, I'm German e eu estou estudando o suo idioma🇧🇷
Amen brother....all power to you...btw i am trying to learn german as well for my masters degree....maybe we could help each other out a bit if that's okay with you?
Let me know if we can connect and then i will share my insta id here ..
Stay Strong and may god give you everything you need to excel🚀🚀🍾🍾⚡⚡⚡⚡
Good luck Marcos!
E aí Marcos! Tu é o bixão memo rapaz, tu consegue tudo!! Muita força e foco nessa tua jornada, tamo junto !!
That scene with Will reading his forgiveness letter made me cry. I've always like Mark's "no BS approach" to unf*ck your life and been a long-term reader of his newsletter but seeing all the success stories on this channel is even more motivating. He truly cares about helping people. What an amazing accomplishment, Will. Keep up the good work! 👍
😭😭😭 What a beautiful gift you gave him - but also, how beautifully eloquent he was in his letter to himself. Super inspiring, thank you for sharing.
Tears, tears rolling. In college rn, sitting alone at my canteen table and couldn't stop myself from bursting out. Feels great. The letter to yourself was POWERFULL. Thank you Thank you so much.
Sending a virtual hug, good luck with everything!
Dude's got a sense of humour, wouldn't mind sharing a pint with him!
Good stuff Mark!
No, say no to alcohol.
Absolutely unreal that you are taking the time to help others.
I love this.
Can’t wait for another case story, let’s go bro!!!
2:51 I love how I noticed him buying The Creative Act: A Way of Being because I fucking love that book!!!!
I literally cried when he read that letter to himself at the end of the video. I want to say a big thank you, Mark. I will forgive myself as well today. Thank you for this video!
Wow... bringing a positive change in someone's life is a blessing.... hats off to you Mark for being such a good inspiration
Gosh the comment from the mom re the ice bath was adorable. She didnt care about the ice bath but she just wanted to connect with her son more deeply.
What a gorgeous comment from a caring mom.
True story: I find myself at yet another of life’s um transitions. I bought your book when it first came out for my two adult daughters. Landed on your you tube channel years ago, surprised at your sound/wholesome content. Love this new format as you embrace a powerful mission. I’m 77 and soon moving into an assisted living home. Been feeling all the feels. Guess what. Just watching this beautiful video I’m feeling a bit more confident and a bit less like giving up. Thanks m’dear.
I hope your time there is marked by peace and joy rather than restlessness. Congratulations on entering this new stage in life with grace and self-control.❤
@@Oldladies_o7 Thank you for your lovely comment. May you be well.❤️
Hugs hugs hugs
@@foxque2149 😉🌟🙏
This literally made me cry a little because these steps are easy for me to follow to help others I know in similar situations. I am so happy I saw this. Thank you for changing Will's life and showing him how to make things better.
Mark, thank you so much for this ❤ My son is going thru a similar situation and is stuck there. As a mom, I try to be supportive and just love him without blasting into parent mode. I shared this video with him hoping he will watch it. I have been thru divorce, cancer, being kicked out of a crazy cult and none of that compares to the overwhelming weight of seeing your child suffer and being helpless to make change happen for him.
I feel you my 23 yr old has been back home since covid messed up his college. He goes online and is isolated himself.
I'm 41 and completely hopeless.@@donnagranier6375
You not only helped him but also brought joy to his mom and his friends who were missing out a good person who was beneath under anxiety and depression.
Hell yeah, brother.
"Behind every strong person is a story that gave them no choice." -Paulo Coehlo.
Glad you caught that quote. It’s one of my favorites. I followed it up with something my father always told my brother and I, “Never let anything stand in your way.”
I like the attitude he had. No whining, even though it was a hard thing, a really hard thing. He took it with a laugh and did what he had to.
Amazing video. It had me in tears by the end. I recently went through my own journey of mental health, forgiveness of myself and my past mistakes, and learning to be able to actually look in the eyes of the reflection in the mirror. Taking me back was painful but humbling. I hope this man is able to continue on the right path. I absolutely recommend doing more videos like this!
I thought this was just going to be another video i will watch and forget about, but when it was time for him to forgive himself i broke down in tears. I felt that.....
2:48 ... Imagine going to a bookstore with the favorite author whose book is on top of the shelves there... what an experience...
This is just such a great example of simply showing up in life for another, yet Mark moved the needle a tad higher by showing up for what I assume is a stranger. Will showed up and pushed his edges and I hope you are still kicking ass! We all have skills to help others and we all have areas where others can help lift us higher. Hell yeah brother! Thanks to both of you for this lesson!
Saying "I forgive myself" is such a powerful statement.
Great video as always.
Dude you are a beast! I love what you said. "Behind every strong person is a story that gave them no choice." When you hit rock bottom you have no where to go but up. Keep going dude!
Dear Mark,
Your videos humble me. I remember your advice even when I'm not trying to. When I see you practice what you preach, it has a huge, and I mean huge, impact on me. I feel lucky to have known you
It hurts seeing such a beautiful soul feel so lost. Amazing work turning it round Will you are an inspiration!!
This was absolutely beautiful Mark. This video is an eye opener for me. Very impactful 🎉
man, I cried the hell out of myself with his "forgive myself" note, I felt that, I was there months ago and now I feel the best I've been in my whole life, all things must pass, remember that, we love you
Man this guy gave so much willpower. He was not playing. Really impressed with the cold bath part with his mom. They did a great job 👏
Thanks partner!!🤠
@@willcolip7975WILL! Stay strong brother.
I thought this was going to be kind of cheesy, but I'm deeply moved. This is like a wakeup call from a caring friend.
Thank you both for sharing this amazing journey with us❤
I believe in Will 😊
Mark, you are the best for supporting him.
You made my day/week.
Thank you!!! Hell yeah sister!!🤠
You've probably heard this from five billion people but your book is pretty f****n' lit. I read it (okay… listened to it, but I read it later) five years ago after having taken care of my mom passing from cancer for about 4 months, after having bought a right hand steering Mitsubishi Delica to tour the USA and try to become one with the world or some shit. Your book arrived just at the right time, so I thank you for that. To this day I still read it, and listen to the audiobook to remind myself of certain principles.
Either way, I'm wodering if you're still helping people out like you did with Will it's super inspiring. I don't want to bore you with my life story, but I was in a wicked ass car accident , I almost died. in fact to this day doctors are still stunned at how I was able to survive. My entire life I've been very sad and I wasn't able to notice that I was very sad because I didn't know what it was to not be sad, or some people might consider this depression which eventually became anxiety and eventually it turns out all this crap that happened to me in my childhood led to me developing complex post-traumatic stress disorder. and unfortunately due to not knowing what it is to not be depressed, I didn't know what it felt like to not be depressed. to me this was normal, this was life. life is hard life is difficult life is impossible, we're here to just suffer and I wasn't able to see all the doors that were available to me, be it through meeting new people helping out asking for help. for some reason in my mind I had it ingrained that I couldn't ask for help, that nobody wanted to help because why would they want to? Like some real emo sh*t, ya know? I was a gothpunk rock emo kid, so. Any who, I'd like to write a book one day too, and share my experiences. And how you said I have to be a contrarian on a certain degree, I got that covered (for success) I think, either way. It would be f**king awesome to like have an orange soda and a pizza, or a redbull and a reeses (well not really I'd ra ther just have a drink or a coffee) and maybe if you could help me. I think I'm finally getting out thanks to PROZAC, here go to this website for a coupon... Lol just kidding, this isn't a paid advertisement. But either way man, I imagine you're super busy and sh*t, but I want to also help people too, like you have. That's what I want to give a f**k about, granted yes the reason I want to is because it gets my nipples hard (quoting you from your book) and that's an interesting thing, we could go down that philosophical route about how love is selfish or ultimately alla Thomas Paine I think, who said that all humans are inherently evil. Either way I'm not really organizing my thoughts as well as I'd hoped to make it seem like I'm cool and worth one of your f**ks cuz I know they're super limited, but, yeah uhh... In summary I'm looking to see if you can help me like you did Will to a degree and maybe help me share my story and I'm dying to travel. I'm not ignorant of travel, I have more story about how I lived in New York, but because of my moms death, I sort of abandoned my career and all that hokey pokey bullsh*t, butI don't want to drown you in my woes (unless you want to be drowned, because you're into that ;3) but yeah man. that's it. I was gonna stick all this crap in chatgpt and have it prepare a letter, (Yes I pay for premium, and f*ck you if you judge me). Hell I'll even paste the prompt I was gonna use:
"I'm trying to write a fun letter to Mark Manson, I see he went to help somone out so I'm also applying for something similar and this is what I'm trying to do, could to turn this into a fun letter format, very casual and fun and use vulgar language like f*ck, and make my ideas coherent:”
But I feel just vomiting all this into a letter would be more authentic, and you'd appreciate it better
Big hug, and may your f*cks be given to worthwhile things.
P.S. yes I copy pasted this and sent it to you through every possible channel I could find so you'd see it. Am I desperate? Maybe, but there's a fine line between desperation and perseverance
P.P.S. each one of these I send you are slightly different.
Mark you the GOAT, look forward to working with you one day
Nice to see ya here. Hoping for that Collab.
Hello denmo
Watching this series MADE me get off the couch to workout and be better with family.
Fabulous Mark. Please do more. There are many people in the world who need to see this and explore their life to the max. God bless you
Honestly, that was so touching. I am glad to see a space on the internet where men are helping men in a positive and productive way. Aweseome!
I wacth this video 3 times . Mark, you really change my life the very first book I read was models, nearly 8 year ago .
Really change me alot
I owe you much more than I can express.
You are really like my big brother.
I really what you are doing on RUclips now.
It's really entertaining and provide values .
Thanks man please make more videos like this ! ❤
Love you bro
Hoping RUclips put this content in the place it deserves. This can help a lot of people. Thank you for this content, Mark.
Hell yeah Will. Keep at it man, it's great to see and definitely going to inspire others. Thanks for your work too Mark.
I am superfan of Will, I love people want to improve their life and start doing something, big hug from Italy Will
The world needs more like you Mark.
Thank you 😊
Tears! From the letter you wrote. Thanks for being vulnerable.
Will has a great personality, and his mom is precious. I wish them all the best in this journey. I was so excited to see Will two months later. He looks amazing! I can see his sunshine radiating from his face. Way to go, Will!
I appreciate Marks message in this video. I would also like to point out that this somewhat puts unrealistic expectations on people. In real life you won’t have a “savior” come to help you unf*ck your life. You will have to do that yourself because there won’t be anyone coming to save you. With that said, once we realize that, starting with small steps is the way out.
These dudes got some serious sneaker drip, Frfr. Love seeing all these transformation and seeing Mark going out and helping people, this is DOPE!
This is the best video I've seen in a long time. All the best to you, Will, you're a good guy!
Will has so much natural charisma and such a good sense of humour! Awesome to see the progress he made. Stay hard brother 💪
RUclips needs a LOVE button. Hell yeah brother!
Damn I actually cried to this bro 😭 great job mark
I remember a few months ago hearing you say you had a plan to transform this space using your RUclips channel. Wow. This is brilliant mark. Such good and accessible advice. You will help millions. Mark you are a hero. Will you are a hero. So Inspiring.
Thank you Mark for all the love and support
I just stumbled across your channel. Wow, I'm blown away. Honest, loving, kind, an unbeatable combination. I can't wait to dig in deeper! ❤😊😊❤❤❤❤❤
I teared up when he read his letter. Thank you Mark Manson🤟
Man, i have never been a cryer but boy that letter to himself has shocked me, can relate so much to that.
Thanks Mark and Will for this beautiful message of hope.
Stay Hard and know that someone is always out there for you and ending it is never the solution.
Mark, I appreciate you and this beautiful way to help others. I read your book when I was 17, fantastic! Now 24 and I love your realistic grounding content, keep going the good work! And Will, I celebrate you choosing yourself and being open enough to go through this process and inspire others by having it shared online. All the best for you both, much love ✨🌻
Thank you for the kind words!!!
This might be the most encouraging and positive videos I've ever seen. Every man should go through this, learn and repeat these steps. Thank you for doing this. It's extremely precious.
You're the goat Marky mark. You've help millions and you're just getting started. Congrats Will! The people want to see you succeed!
"Behind every strong person is a story that gave them no choice. Never let anything stand in your way. I love you, stop worrying so much, I forgive you." This video touched my heart. Thank you both for sharing.
So wholesome!!! 🥹🫰🏼So much respect to Mark 💓 Cheers to Will 🥳💪🏼
Honestly my favorite video I’ve seen in a long time. Raw, unfiltered, and Will actually willing and wanting to change.
NEW MARK MANSON UPLOAD YIPEEE!!!!
FINALLY A WORTHY PIECE OF CONTENT TO WATCH
Beautifully made. Man, holding back the tears, well done.
It really is, what YOU make of life..
Holy crap. Just seeing his face after the 2 months, before he even said anything about working out I was like.... damn. he lost a lot of weight. Looking good man!
I also noticed the weight loss immediately, Good for him!
I balled my eyes out listening to Will’s letter to himself. It’s so relatable and really hits home
Reached that point in life where I don’t even have to watch your whole video to give it a like.
I’ve been looking for tons of videos for the past 2 months about those subjects, like discipline, motivation, and how to get out of a rut. This, thankfully, was the last video I needed to see, this was enough to make me wanna see things by another perspective. The time you said “it’s just about doing the same simple boring things will make you feel better day by day”.. Awesome, that’s all that I needed. Thank you so much Mark. Stay strong Will. I’m 25 and from now on I’ll be getting my life together again. I really appreciate.❤️
I WISH I had Will's life. Similar problems except Will has a supportive family & friends, and a good face.
Well here’s some advice from the source. Something that’s not mentioned in the video is that I’ve been seeing the same therapist for 5 years. Learning to love yourself and then staying dedicated to self improvement are key. Yes I have a ton of support, but I also have a ton of love for myself and the will to push forward even when I’m uncomfortable. You got this brother!!!
@@willcolip7975I just want to wish you to keep up and having good luck. Everything will be great eventually!
What you just said about him, he never saw in him that. Same goes for you. When you unfuck your life, others will find what they don't have and you have.
@@willcolip7975 I don't got it. All the therapy and confidence, and dedication, I was there for many years, it was unsustainable and exhausting without results. Success and happiness just aren't in the cards for me. I don't make it anyone else's problem, I'm not angry about it, but it is just something I have to accept.
Just seen this video now. I´ve discovered your channel couple of days ago and I am simply amazed on how talented you are. You are an inspiration. This video is amazing.
Thank you for doing what you do, thank you for being there for those in need, thank you for being yourself. God bless you! 🌟
Greetings from Berlin, Germany
I love you (as a friend) and your work man, thanks a lot again, I appreciate your effort❤!
I love you not in a friend way, hell yeah brother ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Mark, you’re such a blessing! ❤
That’s seriously powerful ❤ Thanks for that, I really needed this, 2moro is Day 1 at the gym no matter what 👊 Wish me luck 🍀
Mark, you're the BEST! What a touching story and how generous you were to go and help Will in person. I'm rooting for Will! He's doing great after the fact. What a wonderful thing. Bless your hearts
Mark is a rockstar for me!!❤
Thank you Mark for such an amazing video. All of us go through phases in life where we feel like our life is falling apart but its important to remember how these little basic every day tasks can make a huge difference if done the right way. A lot of our life is in our control, little acts of positivity help in our journey to fix our lives.
1 join gym
2 healthy meal prep
3 read books
4 try something new
5 learn new skill
6 cold plunge
7 be social
8 show appreciation
89 apologize
10 forgive yourself
Get er Done Will! GOOD luck and Lots of LOVE 🐞
This was so great! Getting to know Will and what a cool guy he is was such an eye-opener. The kind of guy anyone would value as a friend fell into a bit of a trap. I was amazed that he didn't think more of himself because I liked him right from the get-go. Didn't offer up much resistance, just jumped in with both feet with a joke and a grin. You have to wonder how many really good people are in "the basements of their lives." They don't know how to get out, and they don't know how awesome they are. Thanks for sharing this experience. Amazing video!
This is one of the most genuine things I have seen @Mark🙌🏻
"trying not to puke" that's god tier words of a man doing his god given all!
This was so beautiful to watch. It was having the support of a coach, who is literally walking along side you, participating in the activities and being your friend and advocate. Thank you!
What he wrote to himself was so beautiful, I cried 😭 We gotta love ourselves especially when we're going through tough times ❤
What a great story and what a great video! I love Mark's no-bullshit approach, these are all useful, simple steps we should all take in order to become the best version of ourselves, for our own sake and for the sake of people who love us. I'm really happy to see that stories like this truly exist.
He is basically me but I couldn't imagine managing to be that social for a week without becoming nauseous, pale and irritable from social anxiety/anxiety... But this was inspiring. I hope I can turn things around. 10 years single this month, will be 40 in November 28.. Living with my mother, kinda taking care of her and ... at the same time making sure I have a reason to be here and that I at least talk to someone. Was gonna move on my own after my father died from cancer and had been home taking care of him but now mom has had 2 strokes... oh and ended up living there when a woman I lived with, engaged to, told me on the phone when I was visiting my parents that she has found someone else and I could only visit our home to get my stuff. Was just about to get a job there in a game store... then its been nothing but depression and anxiety since and every time I start getting better there's a funeral or a global virus that halts all therapy and I regress again.... gahh I hate how this anxiety has robbed me of the youth I still had. I feel so behind I have seemingly given up by a big margin.
Hang in there bro
I'm rooting for you!
This video is not particularly helpful or realistic - who needs some RUclips guy spending a week pretending to be a friend and doing random activities and then leaving the person to the actual hard part of changing their whole life. I'm sure it already occurred to Will that going to the gym would be good for his health and self-esteem, but it completely ignores the fact that going to the gym consistently is time-consuming, painful, awkward and monotonous and sitting at home playing video games and eating pizza is easy and fun and instantly rewarding.
Geez Mark this hit me right in the feels. I love this path for you, thank you so much for sharing. And to Will, you got this! Hell yeah brother! 👊