My sister married a new Christian but truly converted guy. Even when he was less mature than her, God blessed their relationship and actually used it to help him grow incredibly fast in the knowledge of the Bible and his maturity. Now he shows his love for God and is testimony to his family and study and teaches them the gospel. They have been married for more than 1 year and has been a blessing for our family.
Stumbled upon this and it reminded me of married couple friends. She once thought her then boyfriend (now husband) was less spiritually mature than her since he joined church to pursue her.... Years later, due to her work, she had anxiety attacks. That was when her boyfriend started reminding her of God's grace in her life and really took the lead. It amazed her. When they got married, he confessed how he had been praying to God to tell her he was the one.. he was sure of it... He had waited and prayed for her to be ready for marriage for more than a decade... Now they have two kids and we're amazed how he is leading their family.
My friend's mom was raised in the church. She was always a Christian. At the age of 20, she met a 17 year old illiterate, thug, high school dropout. She was assigned to teach him to read so that he could earn his GED. She ended up teaching him how to read and she taught him the Bible. 30+ years later, they are still married with 7 children, 1 granddaughter, and 1 grandchild on the way. He is now very involved the church and is assisted leadership the church they attend.
I dated a man less spiritual than me and I was patient for 1.5 years but the doubt kept reoccurring and never truly left me. Then one day he ended it and it was like the storm suddenly calmed.
I think the most important thing is that they are truly saved. Unfortunately, it takes time to see if there is real fruit in someone's life. Anyone can walk an aisle and claim they are saved, fake righteousness, but their convictions (Fruit) are the real indication. So new Christians are tricky to date, they might be saved or they might be pretending to get your attention. They could be unsaved and deceived by Satan into thinking they are saved. If someone is less educated on the bible, but you know they are saved by their convictions and their lifestyle, you should feel fine to date them. You might have a better intellectual understanding of the bible, but the other person might be better at living the Christian life than you are. Also, every Christian is gifted with spiritual gifts, it might take a certain situation to see that spiritual gift revealed in their life. Also, there is the personality and the fact you have much in common with them. If they are truly saved, the Lord will grow them spiritually and the person you know now, won't be the same person a year or two down the road.
Exactly! I’ve given up so much just to be a better person and honor God. I still struggle in other areas though. I have my eye set on God, marriage, kids, and hopefully going to the church im waiting for that’s not opening until January so that I can start serving.
😬 If anything, this video has taught me that it’s ME who needs to grow in spiritual maturity. I seem to keep falling into the same trap over and over again, and I don’t know how to change it exactly, except for going into His word.
Point 3: Application of God's word in real life is where most of us fail in our Christian journey. It's not easy, but it's so worth it Praying for guidance from & surrendering all to the Lord helps, in my opinion. A little patience & tolerance never hurts. Great video, Mark.
kiwibrown Well, I can only speak for myself as I'm like you, a beautiful work in progress. Following our natural inclinations, doing whatever we want when & how we want would, in my opinion, create a brutish life for everyone. E.g., Cain killing Abel, King David getting rid of Uriah - they followed what pleased them but it only brought more sorrow into their lives. I used to think as you do some years ago because I didn't know God's word & plan for my life. It took about 10 years of daily Bible study (alone) to get to where I am & what I know right now: GOD REALLY LOVES YOU AS HIS CHILD. HE HAS A PLAN FOR YOU THAT'S BEST FOR YOU. YOUR PEACE & JOY ARE TIED TO & COME FROM GOD. It's not easy, & the journey might be tough, but when you surrender your free will to the Lord & let Him lead you, your life will change for the best. That's what I know. I hope this helps. Stay blessed!
kiwibrown p.s. ALWAYS BE KIND TO YOURSELF. You are doing the best you can. God understands & will help you get to where you need to be if you rely on Him. God bless!
I was meeting a guy who did have some Biblical knowledge. I was born and raised in a Christian home, but it was only 2 years ago that I decided to have an intimate relationship with God. The guy wanted to prove to me that he was a devouted Christian by attending church and talking about Scripture. Some time later, I found out he was faking it all just to get to know me more. The point is that I think spiritual maturity has to do with what is your focus on life. Is your heart sincerely searching God, or do you have other intentions? Spiritual age is not the true indicator of your spiritual maturity.
Yazmin M. I guess they are acquitance then. Same thing for me but I guess it was a bit different and confusing. Afterwards I was pretty upset and heartbroken for what he Said, but I guess God did it. Actually these kind of people can easily take you out of your good path if there is no support.
Cari yess. One piece of advice I can give you is to pay attention to your heart. Whenever the guy talked, I felt a tension in my heart. It is as if God was telling me something isn't right. It was very frustrating for me because I thought I saw a godly man, but I felt very deep inside the opposite. I prayed a lot, and God opened my eyes just in time.
Yazmin M. Maybe you are right. You know. I was also very disappointed in some way I guess my ego or I was just immature at the same time too, but I had a dream. In that dream, I got a voice telling me to be patient. Now I don’t see that guy anymore and he doesn’t talks to me but I also go back and realized it was best for me. I honestly wouldn’t have liked him right now. I think is not my time yet.
@@jerrylisby5376 best to ensure the person is truly saved first- the unequal yoke 🥺 I’m saying this to you as someone who likes a guy who isn’t a Christian yet either 😳😳😳😳😳
@@Chewy725 haha yes piano girl. Funny but I hope God gives me a piano girl. I love to sing hymns and such. Hopefully one that loves the bible too. I'm no longer thinking of dating an unsaved woman. I need one mature already. I will however continue to try to win folks to the Lord Jesus whether they be man or woman. 😃
Excellent video. I especially agreed with you concerning the last part concerning patience with someone less mature than you. That displays one of the nine fruits and also displays what God wants us to have , and that is grace.
Woman should submit to their man, encourage them, comfort them, and support them. Guide them to Gods will, listen to them. It talks about all of this in the book “A Woman’s Influence” by Tony Gaskins and Sheri Gaskins. That book changed my life.
Thankyou for starting this youtube channel been waiting for something like this for years.....so refreshing compared to the secular ones! Keep up the good work..the body of Christ is blessed to have you as a leader in this ministry....praise God!
As a woman, I strongly feel a man should be spiritually mature in some aspects before considering marriage. He can't lead if he lacks the maturity (not spiritual age). I would feel more comfortable if my future spouse was as spiritually mature as me (maybe he's more sound in Biblical knowledge and I'm more sound in other areas, we come together, and grow) or he is more spiritually mature than me (I can trust his leadership). I've been down the road of dating less spiritually mature men, and honestly, it ALWAYS has led to disaster because they were not qualified to lead since they were not aligned with God. If I met a man that was less spiritually mature than me, then I'd keep him as a friend, and assess if he grows or not with God. Of course, I'd be a supportive friend. Then, when he is ready, he obtains God's favor, then it could become something more.
I do think it’s important for people to know the Bible and to be equal in that. But only equal that when they’re marrying the person but not necessarily in the dating phase. The dating phase is the time where you can grow both intellectually and spiritually. But being equal in leaning in on each other is what’s important in that kind of regard.
This is a great topic but a very tricky. I agree that no one needs to shame anyone for their Christian immaturity. Christian maturity and dating is a tough topic. Ultimately dating an immature Christian is not a good idea but may depend on a few factors that can help in making a decision to date one. I believe main thing to check for is if the person has a strong desire to know and live for Christ? With this they must have at least the basic knowledge and understand of why they want to and what it all requires to take on a life in Christ. In many cases I have learned that many say that want to live it but don't want give up anything or deny self to get closer to Christ. This would be an instant conflict. Trust when I say their world view would be different in a lot of areas. Biblical maturity and understanding plays big into how we view the world,handle situations,conduct our behavior,our speech,things we listen to and watch etc...Most importantly helps us understand sin. Often times when people lack this maturity they tend to be all over the place in their beliefs,convictions,morality, and fail to know what sin is. It would be a struggle to date someone like this unless they as I previously mentioned have a strong desire to know Jesus and want live for him. I believe that kind of desire can lead to much praying,studying the bible on their own,seeking wise counsel, ultimately establishing a good foundation to pursue Jesus.
This is so true! I am dating someone who says he believes in Christ but our world views are so different. I try to explain where I get my understanding (the Word) but he is so caught up in the world events and chaos. It’s frustrating. Yet, he is such a good guy with a serving heart and exhibits the fruits. However, he knows the Lord not!
@@taniam2606 That's a huge sign of his spiritual immaturity. If you are not in to deep already you have to let him go. I would be easier to do it now before things crash and burn more. Don't try to lead him to Christ while you are dating him. It's a conflict already. Shalom!
@@opinionatorX Thank you i have the same thing. I can over look spiritual imiturity because noone is perfect but i cant over look desire and hunger for the Lord. Because ultimately hes carnally minded and it rubs me up the wrong way. Im nowhere near where i want to be but joining with someone like this could lead to backsliding or diminish what spiritual life i have.
@@Only1abiola Welcome! You are absolutely right! That is my exact point. Often times it will lead to backsliding or diminishing of your spirit life. It can cause great compromise. I have been there. Stay the course. It will pay off.
Great message, perfectly timed! My bf and i just had a discussion around this subject last weekend. I feel much better, like this was confirmation to continue moving forward despite our levels of maturity 😊. Thank you Mark!
For those of us that are more stubborn when it comes to agreeing with God in some aspects of life where we are a bit prouder than we ought to be: The fact that men need to lead is not old fashioned at all. Most of the time women are quicker on the uptake and even smarter. But this is also where the pitfall lies... I find it in myself that I can make a different decision on the same thing today than I did yesterday based solely on how I might feel. Beside that we are not wired and built for carrying the weight of making life decisions, it's simply biology. And lastly I think it really comes down to being able to respect that man as a woman, which suffers great loss if he's doing something only because he's told to and not out of his inner character. I agree with some of the comments, Mark, You are such a blessing! 😊
I'm coming to this video from the one you uploaded today! I needed to hear this. It has clarified a LOOOOOT for me. I need to be more spiritually mature myself. 🤣 Thank you for these teachings: they are very helpful. Patience is a word GOD spoke to me this WORD ages ago. I'm learning.
I was unequally yoked to a man who claimed he was Christian but when push came to shove, he didn't understand why Jesus Christ is the heart of the church. He also talked about becoming Buddhist. Sadly, I had to divorce him.
THANK YOU! This is exactly the video I was looking for. I was using the wrong term thinking that I was unequally yoked with a guy who I was talking with to get to know him for dating instead of " more spiritually mature". To be honest, I'm still not completely sure if he is a believer even though he says he is as I haven't seen much evidence. It frustrates me when we talk about Bible doctrine and he will try to argue a point with me but he is not familiar with scripture. I know it didn't happen overnight for me to grow in spiritual maturity and I shouldn't expect for it to be different for anyone else. However, I am looking at the actions as well. I don't want to judge or condemn, and I don't expect perfection, but a few things that I look for too is a man who is part of a church home/under sound doctrine and in the word. I don't use profanity anymore (or try not to) but he is okay with certain profanities in his everyday vocabulary.) I really try to apply the Scriptures, with him it doesn't really seem that is the case. Am I asking for too much?
Interesting question to consider, also I’m starting to notice a reoccurring theme on multiple Biblical videos I’m watching that keep bringing up the fruit of the Spirit 🤔 Guess it’s about time to see what kind of spiritual fruit I’m producing 🤔😅
I think you need a lot of discernment regarding this issue. It could be the case that too many Christians are looking for perfection, when they ought to instead, be looking at the direction someone is going. If you've got a lot of filters or requirements or boxes that need to be ticked that's fine, but make sure you're consistently living up to those standards yourself and stick to those people who you believe are as far along the Christian walk as you believe that you are.
Bummer, I really wished you would have covered one of the other very major issues of a long time Christian dating a brand new believer. My question is should a long time believer date a brand new Christian that is so on fire for Christ right now, but she used to be a stripper, or a drug addict, or lived 30 years in a very wild perspicuous lifestyle. I would love to hear your take on this. You only touched on head knowledge here and who knows more in the word assuming they are both compatible with everything else, bummer.
Ooh good one! I think the best advice I’d give to the more spiritually mature Christian is to test the person spirit and fruits overtime. Other words, take it slow. Use discernment. If she’s hot for God now, and you see this in her overtime, then you’re okay. If you noticed she’s hot one day and the cold (old behaviors), you may need to pump the brakes a bit. They may need more time to overcome their issues. You also need to see if this person is helping lift you with God or pulling you away with their behaviors. Good luck! :)
Hello, so in the case where I’m already in a dating relationship with someone who’s less mature than me, how can I help them grow without “shaming” them. Thanks 🙂
I think that as a person that is mature in christ.You have the patience to deal with a new comer in christ. Now I understand that if the person is just started to learn about God. There might be a chance that the person might not stay to learning about God or they might just stay. Maybe you have to try a few times before they stay in the path of God. It depends how far you want to go with this person in your life or just simply win them for the lord.Remember that beside you wanting to be with this person. You would be brother and sister in christ. Wich is a bounded friendship with the same believe. Sometimes when people don't understand that. And the person decides to leave. The other person gets mad at God or Sometimes even back slides or gets bitter with God as well. Sometimes they even loses some faith. We have to remember that no matter what relationship we have with a person. You both have to but your part and God is going to put his. This is the only time that three is not a crowded. This was a great message given.God bless you.👍👍👍
I was talking to a gentleman Just talkin we are both somewhat learning stages at least I thought but when we were faced with a test on cheating in order to make more money I passed and he failed and he continues he continues to cheat needless to say we don't speak anymore.
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Thank you so much for your videos. Can you do a video on biblical submission between a husband and wife? I’m unsure about feminism in 2018 and what it means from a biblical perspective. Thank you!
I thought that i will find proof that my current boyfriend is immature cause i was feeling so doubtful about our relations but instead this video made me realize that i was the really immature there
My co-worker just became a Christian (I think, but only time will tell if it’s genuine) and I originally wanted nothing to do with him because I thought he was faking it for attention. Now the more I talk to him the more I feel more compassion and love for his soul, I don’t know what to do.
What if he's a good man but doesnt have the desire to read the bible or pray but procrastinates alot. I wouldn't mind being patient but hes not really interested.
Well i have been talking with a guy who has less maturity.but i love him so much.but he has soo much health issue some time he feel depress and anxity .i want to draw his heart towards to JESUS.becz i want to grow with him in christ.
neel ghale I’m Currently Dealing With This. I Let Him Know All The Time How Important God Is And How He Can Give Him Strength To Go Through All Things. He Put Me On A Pedestal Saying I’m Too Perfect For Him But I’m Not. I Told Him That Im No Greater Than He Is You Know To Encourage Him But I Feel Like It’s Going Through One Ear And Out The Other. It’s Frustrating Because I Feel Like I’m Trying So Hard To Help Him But I Feel Kinda Defeated.
What about if your prayer lives look different even though the person does bare the fruit of the spirit? For instance, the man does not have a prayer life that is as robust as the woman (he does a few minutes per day (2-3), but the woman does way more like 30 mins per day.
Hi all! I don't know if anyone still comes across these videos from I figured I should put a comment down. I am currently in a relationship with a man as of 1.5 years. He is a follower of Jesus (no doubt in my mind with this) and 7 years my elder. I struggle with OCD, namely relationship OCD so it has been difficult to discern what is anxiety or true doubt but there are a couple things I can confidently assume are more questions versus anxieties. My main concern relates to the video in some way. We both moved to our state at relatively the same time and began going to church together on Sundays, when we were in town (I travel for work). I volunteer at the kids ministry and he has expressed his desire to volunteer but has not yet moved on it. Further, when I'm out of town, he doesn't go to church without me. He has watched sermons online since before meeting me though. Additionally, he has expressed that he isn't in the Word consistently. Now, being in the Word has been my biggest struggle as a Christian. I do a devotional everyday but it is rare that I literally open my bible and read it. So I struggle at the same time. However, with both of these, I have anxiety about it. But my refute is that I am not to the place I want to be with either of these things either. I want to read the Word more consistently and I'd like to find more community in my church. The biggest issue I find (because of what I read on the internet regarding Christian couples) is that he is not instigating this or acting on it swiftly. Is this something anyone else has struggled with? I also worry I am making a bigger deal than it is and I am going to miss out on a wonderful, Godly man because I decided to misinterpret what I've read or misjudge him. Looking for any insight! Thanks
Hey. I still look at these. I would say if he has internet in GROWING in his faith then that’s a bad sign. You want someone you can grow in faith TOGTHER with. If he shows no interest in devoting time and energy to the Lord than he is not a Godly man. Even if you bring this up to him and he decided he does, watch him closely and pray a lot about it. Maybe even take a break but stay friends to discern whether he does this because he actually wants to progress in relationship with God, or if he just said he wants to because it impresses you. Hope that helps. Text back if you need anything.
Btw, I have the same issue. I have anxiety, and compulsive thoughts and intrusive thoughts. So I know what it’s like to overthink something, or worry that if your overthinking, you’ll lose something good.
It’s so hard to remember a lot of the Bible but I’m really trying to study it so that I can work for a company that goes out and leads Bible studies for homeless woman. If anyone knows of any study apps I’d appreciate it.
Hi I need Godly advice. so I’m 16 I started talking to this guy I want to date. He’s one of the sweetest man I’ve ever met, we like all the same things. I feel like he exemplifies all the fruits and we have similar morals..but I’m sure about our relationship. When we first met he said he and his family are catholic and he’s been confirmed, but stoped going to church recently due to drama involving his family in the congregation. I didn’t really think much of it. In a later conversation I being eager to learn about his religious views drilled him(which was probably not the best idea because he’s a shy guy and I think I confused him) and I asked him all amount of specific questions. He said he’s not really sure about what he believes and said he was open to other religious things like reincarnation but said he has no reason not to believe Christianity since that’s all he’s been taught. He has also since in passing called himself religious. I don’t know if I’m over thinking or not, if he’s just less spiritually mature, or if he doesn’t believe and is just goin along with everything because it’s what he’s been taught. I don’t know what to do, should I expect him to mature as he gets older or break up?
Hows it going? I would have taken a step back theres a lot of red flags. Catholic church, reincarnation. I think he needs to find Christ for his self apart from you and you being in the middle would only confuse the situation more for both you and him. Stay friends and give encouragement only.
If that guy doesn’t believe in Jesus’s atoning work on the cross alone for his salvation, then he’s not saved and he’s not a Christian, which means he doesn’t have the Holy Spirit. He may be sweet but he would still be a non-believer, so you would not want to pursue a relationship with him since you would be unequally yoked.
I have been speaking to this woman who is younger than me for about 8 months and she has a lot of good qualities, work ethic, personality and she says she is a Christian but I think she only says that for me, her fruits aren't always good she uses bad language and has bad anger and she can be really mean. She also can be selfish at times and doesn't treat me nice but won't explain to me what is wrong but she ignores me... idk what to do bc I was once like that but God conflicted me of it and I want to be patient. She is also 12 years younger and had a real rough childhood and is only 22. My heart says to be patient sometimes but other times it tells me to run lol. I've been praying about it and have been the best God loving gentleman I can be even before her when I was single.
Is it possible to be unequally yoked to everyone? Scripture says I can't date nonbelievers, but I don't think I can date believers either because of lack of maturity, thereby leaving me in a limbo all by myself.
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My boyfriend is much more spiritually ahead of me. He knows more theology, has read more books, and has a deeper understanding of the faith. I have also been a Christian for many years but I’m not as spiritually mature for a few reasons. Having seen a lot of church politics when I was growing up has caused my spiritual walk to be stagnant for many years. After being in this relationship, it has helped me grow spiritually in many ways and I’m seeing some breakthroughs in my life. However, due to differences in our maturity levels, we’ve also had many conflicts. We are working through them slowly and things are gradually getting better but sometimes I can’t help but feel like I’m undeserving of this relationship. And that I will always be lagging behind. I’m not sure how to approach this issue and what I can do to “make it better”.
No cupples get along on everything but as long as Christ is still the centre of your relationship and your continuing to grow both separately and together in spiritual things then i think you're doing ok. Also remember you're dating, its not marriage so choose wisely because once you decide to take those vows you should honour to keep them. P.s. Dont ever say your dont deserve, you are deserving of a loving relationship, Christ died for you so how much more worthy and precious are you to Him. To God be all the glory ❤
Are they a messianic jew? Because jews don’t believe the messiah has come yet. I would say if you don’t agree with another person that Jesus is Lord and Savior. Then no.
I'm not charismatic and I believe in the power of the spirit. It's power is not manifested in tongues or physical miracles. It is having the power to win the lost. It is having the fruit of the spirit. Power to suffer for Jesus Christ. Power in prayer etc. Can two walk together, except they be agreed? Amos 3:3
I think Christians who are married or going to be, should be in the same denomination. Because if they are not in the same denomination, they'll have certain doctrines that are not the same. & most times that can cause issues & frustration. Not that you'll agree on every little thing if you are in the same denomination, but your disagreements of the Bible will be minor compared to your over all agreements of the Bible & God.
So particularly, for a charismatic Christian & a Baptist, I don't think that would be a good idea. If they do not believe in speaking in tongues today, then I think that would be a major disagreement. Cuz they're not in the same level as you. That's my opinion, & that's why I prefer to find someone who's within the same denomination as I am.
Is it bad that I’m an orthodox Christian, have been my whole life, but now I’m thinking of changing my religion to catholic because I want to change church communities and hope that the catholic is better? What kind of Christians are you, guys? What do you think about the different schools?
I'd suggest giving a try to a non-denominational Protestant church. Avoid the Catholic Church as it's full of heresy and unbiblical teachings and practices. Make sure to read your Bible for yourself, I suggest NKJV or ESV and pray to God to show you the way to go! He will lead you! God bless you and all the best.
You would be going from one legalistic church to another legalistic church. Seek Him in the Word and He will lead you to a community where YOU will grow and Know Him
I grew up Southern Baptist (and still am/always will be). A catholic I once knew said that out of all the protestant sects, southern Baptist was his favorite because "they have their feet on the ground". Look for a place that teaches and preaches from the Bible. Biblical based practices and not man-made ones. But also just keep in mind that no place is going to be perfect. There will be issues everywhere because churches are made up of people and people are fallible. Pray to God that he leads you to a place where you can feel like you can truly be part of that local church family.
I'm still confused about it all. Does it matter if someone knows more than you in the bible to be honest? I kind of thought it would be because one of them thought they are not good enough and the other says they are more than enough. Also where are you from?
one more thing to add ☝, if you married with a high spiritual mature guy and later he start to backsliding (disobey God, don't pray like he use to? ) he's not the roof anymore, as a women u must keep obeying him but not before the word (God) and your soul!
It's more of a feeling. The way you say things can be judgmental. So if someone says something like, "What, you didn't know that!?" Or if you critique the way they pray or if you get embarrassed bc they don't act a certain way around your more mature Christian friends....these are examples of shaming someone. I hope that helps some :)
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My sister married a new Christian but truly converted guy. Even when he was less mature than her, God blessed their relationship and actually used it to help him grow incredibly fast in the knowledge of the Bible and his maturity. Now he shows his love for God and is testimony to his family and study and teaches them the gospel. They have been married for more than 1 year and has been a blessing for our family.
Stumbled upon this and it reminded me of married couple friends. She once thought her then boyfriend (now husband) was less spiritually mature than her since he joined church to pursue her.... Years later, due to her work, she had anxiety attacks. That was when her boyfriend started reminding her of God's grace in her life and really took the lead. It amazed her. When they got married, he confessed how he had been praying to God to tell her he was the one.. he was sure of it... He had waited and prayed for her to be ready for marriage for more than a decade... Now they have two kids and we're amazed how he is leading their family.
My friend's mom was raised in the church. She was always a Christian. At the age of 20, she met a 17 year old illiterate, thug, high school dropout. She was assigned to teach him to read so that he could earn his GED. She ended up teaching him how to read and she taught him the Bible. 30+ years later, they are still married with 7 children, 1 granddaughter, and 1 grandchild on the way. He is now very involved the church and is assisted leadership the church they attend.
I dated a man less spiritual than me and I was patient for 1.5 years but the doubt kept reoccurring and never truly left me. Then one day he ended it and it was like the storm suddenly calmed.
Why didn’t you break it off sooner or first?
Tania M good question, I second guessed my doubts and got confused - ‘is it God warning me or the enemy trying to bring division between us?’
@@GroBom78 I can sooo relate. Same thing happened to me! Thanks for sharing.
The same thing happened to me. Glad you're free as well.
@@GroBom78 I’m currently in this situation and don’t know what to do. How did your situation work out?
I think the most important thing is that they are truly saved. Unfortunately, it takes time to see if there is real fruit in someone's life. Anyone can walk an aisle and claim they are saved, fake righteousness, but their convictions (Fruit) are the real indication. So new Christians are tricky to date, they might be saved or they might be pretending to get your attention. They could be unsaved and deceived by Satan into thinking they are saved. If someone is less educated on the bible, but you know they are saved by their convictions and their lifestyle, you should feel fine to date them. You might have a better intellectual understanding of the bible, but the other person might be better at living the Christian life than you are. Also, every Christian is gifted with spiritual gifts, it might take a certain situation to see that spiritual gift revealed in their life. Also, there is the personality and the fact you have much in common with them. If they are truly saved, the Lord will grow them spiritually and the person you know now, won't be the same person a year or two down the road.
Great points. It is very tough to know someone's true motives. Even after years and years together.!
Well said realistic!
Exactly! I’ve given up so much just to be a better person and honor God. I still struggle in other areas though. I have my eye set on God, marriage, kids, and hopefully going to the church im waiting for that’s not opening until January so that I can start serving.
😬 If anything, this video has taught me that it’s ME who needs to grow in spiritual maturity. I seem to keep falling into the same trap over and over again, and I don’t know how to change it exactly, except for going into His word.
Yep me to.
You wanna show your maturity by patience and grace for their immaturity. Don’t date and shame them.
Point 3: Application of God's word in real life is where most of us fail in our Christian journey. It's not easy, but it's so worth it Praying for guidance from & surrendering all to the Lord helps, in my opinion. A little patience & tolerance never hurts.
Great video, Mark.
L. Patrick amen, I definitely know more than I live out. Thank God for grace and the growth he keeps bringing us :)
kiwibrown Well, I can only speak for myself as I'm like you, a beautiful work in progress. Following our natural inclinations, doing whatever we want when & how we want would, in my opinion, create a brutish life for everyone. E.g., Cain killing Abel, King David getting rid of Uriah - they followed what pleased them but it only brought more sorrow into their lives. I used to think as you do some years ago because I didn't know God's word & plan for my life. It took about 10 years of daily Bible study (alone) to get to where I am & what I know right now: GOD REALLY LOVES YOU AS HIS CHILD. HE HAS A PLAN FOR YOU THAT'S BEST FOR YOU. YOUR PEACE & JOY ARE TIED TO & COME FROM GOD.
It's not easy, & the journey might be tough, but when you surrender your free will to the Lord & let Him lead you, your life will change for the best. That's what I know. I hope this helps. Stay blessed!
kiwibrown p.s. ALWAYS BE KIND TO YOURSELF. You are doing the best you can. God understands & will help you get to where you need to be if you rely on Him. God bless!
L. Patrick remember Lots wife
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I was meeting a guy who did have some Biblical knowledge. I was born and raised in a Christian home, but it was only 2 years ago that I decided to have an intimate relationship with God. The guy wanted to prove to me that he was a devouted Christian by attending church and talking about Scripture. Some time later, I found out he was faking it all just to get to know me more. The point is that I think spiritual maturity has to do with what is your focus on life. Is your heart sincerely searching God, or do you have other intentions? Spiritual age is not the true indicator of your spiritual maturity.
Yazmin M. Who broke up? You or him?
Cari We were only getting to know each other. I decided to stop talking to him.
Yazmin M. I guess they are acquitance then. Same thing for me but I guess it was a bit different and confusing. Afterwards I was pretty upset and heartbroken for what he Said, but I guess God did it. Actually these kind of people can easily take you out of your good path if there is no support.
Cari yess. One piece of advice I can give you is to pay attention to your heart. Whenever the guy talked, I felt a tension in my heart. It is as if God was telling me something isn't right. It was very frustrating for me because I thought I saw a godly man, but I felt very deep inside the opposite. I prayed a lot, and God opened my eyes just in time.
Yazmin M. Maybe you are right. You know. I was also very disappointed in some way I guess my ego or I was just immature at the same time too, but I had a dream. In that dream, I got a voice telling me to be patient. Now I don’t see that guy anymore and he doesn’t talks to me but I also go back and realized it was best for me. I honestly wouldn’t have liked him right now. I think is not my time yet.
You do a very nice job using biblical basis and common sense in breaking this down for people ! Thank you
Thanks Lauraç Baier, God bless!
@@jerrylisby5376 best to ensure the person is truly saved first- the unequal yoke 🥺 I’m saying this to you as someone who likes a guy who isn’t a Christian yet either 😳😳😳😳😳
@@Chewy725 haha yes piano girl. Funny but I hope God gives me a piano girl. I love to sing hymns and such. Hopefully one that loves the bible too. I'm no longer thinking of dating an unsaved woman. I need one mature already. I will however continue to try to win folks to the Lord Jesus whether they be man or woman. 😃
Excellent video. I especially agreed with you concerning the last part concerning patience with someone less mature than you. That displays one of the nine fruits and also displays what God wants us to have , and that is grace.
Women should take note of this stuff, there always trying too 'change' a man into something they think is the perfect man.
Woman should submit to their man, encourage them, comfort them, and support them. Guide them to Gods will, listen to them. It talks about all of this in the book “A Woman’s Influence” by Tony Gaskins and Sheri Gaskins. That book changed my life.
Being saved ISN'T ENOUGH!!! mature spirituality is so important!!! Otherwise will just fighting fighting fighting with the simple things
Thankyou for starting this youtube channel been waiting for something like this for years.....so refreshing compared to the secular ones! Keep up the good work..the body of Christ is blessed to have you as a leader in this ministry....praise God!
As a woman, I strongly feel a man should be spiritually mature in some aspects before considering marriage. He can't lead if he lacks the maturity (not spiritual age). I would feel more comfortable if my future spouse was as spiritually mature as me (maybe he's more sound in Biblical knowledge and I'm more sound in other areas, we come together, and grow) or he is more spiritually mature than me (I can trust his leadership). I've been down the road of dating less spiritually mature men, and honestly, it ALWAYS has led to disaster because they were not qualified to lead since they were not aligned with God. If I met a man that was less spiritually mature than me, then I'd keep him as a friend, and assess if he grows or not with God. Of course, I'd be a supportive friend. Then, when he is ready, he obtains God's favor, then it could become something more.
A man who isn't mature in his walk with Jesus and rooted in the Bible will definitely MISlead a woman. She'd be a fool to follow him.
Amen
I do think it’s important for people to know the Bible and to be equal in that. But only equal that when they’re marrying the person but not necessarily in the dating phase. The dating phase is the time where you can grow both intellectually and spiritually. But being equal in leaning in on each other is what’s important in that kind of regard.
Great question, I talk about that here applygodsword.com/theological-differences-in-marriage-dating-and-how-to-handle-both/
4:08 is so key!!! Thank you for reminding us of this! This is exactly my concern.
This is a great topic but a very tricky. I agree that no one needs to shame anyone for their Christian immaturity. Christian maturity and dating is a tough topic. Ultimately dating an immature Christian is not a good idea but may depend on a few factors that can help in making a decision to date one. I believe main thing to check for is if the person has a strong desire to know and live for Christ? With this they must have at least the basic knowledge and understand of why they want to and what it all requires to take on a life in Christ. In many cases I have learned that many say that want to live it but don't want give up anything or deny self to get closer to Christ. This would be an instant conflict. Trust when I say their world view would be different in a lot of areas. Biblical maturity and understanding plays big into how we view the world,handle situations,conduct our behavior,our speech,things we listen to and watch etc...Most importantly helps us understand sin. Often times when people lack this maturity they tend to be all over the place in their beliefs,convictions,morality, and fail to know what sin is. It would be a struggle to date someone like this unless they as I previously mentioned have a strong desire to know Jesus and want live for him. I believe that kind of desire can lead to much praying,studying the bible on their own,seeking wise counsel, ultimately establishing a good foundation to pursue Jesus.
This is so true! I am dating someone who says he believes in Christ but our world views are so different. I try to explain where I get my understanding (the Word) but he is so caught up in the world events and chaos. It’s frustrating. Yet, he is such a good guy with a serving heart and exhibits the fruits. However, he knows the Lord not!
@@taniam2606 That's a huge sign of his spiritual immaturity. If you are not in to deep already you have to let him go. I would be easier to do it now before things crash and burn more. Don't try to lead him to Christ while you are dating him. It's a conflict already. Shalom!
@@opinionatorX Thank you i have the same thing. I can over look spiritual imiturity because noone is perfect but i cant over look desire and hunger for the Lord. Because ultimately hes carnally minded and it rubs me up the wrong way. Im nowhere near where i want to be but joining with someone like this could lead to backsliding or diminish what spiritual life i have.
@@Only1abiola Welcome! You are absolutely right! That is my exact point. Often times it will lead to backsliding or diminishing of your spirit life. It can cause great compromise. I have been there. Stay the course. It will pay off.
Great message, perfectly timed! My bf and i just had a discussion around this subject last weekend. I feel much better, like this was confirmation to continue moving forward despite our levels of maturity 😊. Thank you Mark!
For those of us that are more stubborn when it comes to agreeing with God in some aspects of life where we are a bit prouder than we ought to be:
The fact that men need to lead is not old fashioned at all. Most of the time women are quicker on the uptake and even smarter. But this is also where the pitfall lies... I find it in myself that I can make a different decision on the same thing today than I did yesterday based solely on how I might feel.
Beside that we are not wired and built for carrying the weight of making life decisions, it's simply biology.
And lastly I think it really comes down to being able to respect that man as a woman, which suffers great loss if he's doing something only because he's told to and not out of his inner character.
I agree with some of the comments, Mark, You are such a blessing! 😊
A good tree bares good fruits! 👍
I am so thankful to God for your videos. I agree 100% and its just confirmation every time.
I'm coming to this video from the one you uploaded today! I needed to hear this. It has clarified a LOOOOOT for me. I need to be more spiritually mature myself. 🤣
Thank you for these teachings: they are very helpful. Patience is a word GOD spoke to me this WORD ages ago. I'm learning.
I was unequally yoked to a man who claimed he was Christian but when push came to shove, he didn't understand why Jesus Christ is the heart of the church. He also talked about becoming Buddhist. Sadly, I had to divorce him.
And none of these questions about faith were bought up before marrying each other?
@@Only1abiola Sure. He changed his opinions.
Thanks for the advice! 🙌 Man you got lots of books! Super unique! God bless you and your family! 😀
I just started RUclips about 6 months ago but ive been writing for the last decade or so :) thanks for the encouragement
This is exactly what I needed. Many thanks!
You are welcome!
THANK YOU! This is exactly the video I was looking for. I was using the wrong term thinking that I was unequally yoked with a guy who I was talking with to get to know him for dating instead of " more spiritually mature".
To be honest, I'm still not completely sure if he is a believer even though he says he is as I haven't seen much evidence.
It frustrates me when we talk about Bible doctrine and he will try to argue a point with me but he is not familiar with scripture.
I know it didn't happen overnight for me to grow in spiritual maturity and I shouldn't expect for it to be different for anyone else.
However, I am looking at the actions as well. I don't want to judge or condemn, and I don't expect perfection, but a few things that I look for too is a man who is part of a church home/under sound doctrine and in the word. I don't use profanity anymore (or try not to) but he is okay with certain profanities in his everyday vocabulary.) I really try to apply the Scriptures, with him it doesn't really seem that is the case.
Am I asking for too much?
Wow this video helped me tremendously, thank you very much. :)
Amen Spenser Rameo, so glad to hear this! God bless!
Boom💯👍 behavior definitely counts!
Amen!
Interesting question to consider, also I’m starting to notice a reoccurring theme on multiple Biblical videos I’m watching that keep bringing up the fruit of the Spirit 🤔
Guess it’s about time to see what kind of spiritual fruit I’m producing 🤔😅
Spirituality is the foundation of real relationship...will lead by Holy Spirit..there is no space for opposer...
I think you need a lot of discernment regarding this issue. It could be the case that too many Christians are looking for perfection, when they ought to instead, be looking at the direction someone is going. If you've got a lot of filters or requirements or boxes that need to be ticked that's fine, but make sure you're consistently living up to those standards yourself and stick to those people who you believe are as far along the Christian walk as you believe that you are.
Bummer, I really wished you would have covered one of the other very major issues of a long time Christian dating a brand new believer. My question is should a long time believer date a brand new Christian that is so on fire for Christ right now, but she used to be a stripper, or a drug addict, or lived 30 years in a very wild perspicuous lifestyle. I would love to hear your take on this. You only touched on head knowledge here and who knows more in the word assuming they are both compatible with everything else, bummer.
Ooh good one! I think the best advice I’d give to the more spiritually mature Christian is to test the person spirit and fruits overtime. Other words, take it slow. Use discernment. If she’s hot for God now, and you see this in her overtime, then you’re okay. If you noticed she’s hot one day and the cold (old behaviors), you may need to pump the brakes a bit. They may need more time to overcome their issues. You also need to see if this person is helping lift you with God or pulling you away with their behaviors. Good luck! :)
Thank you for letting God use you sir! This has really given me some great perspective!
Hello, so in the case where I’m already in a dating relationship with someone who’s less mature than me, how can I help them grow without “shaming” them. Thanks 🙂
Tosin Jones encourage them
Break up with them.
opinionatorX I wish I could give this 2 likes
I think that as a person that is mature in christ.You have the patience to deal with a new comer in christ. Now I understand that if the person is just started to learn about God. There might be a chance that the person might not stay to learning about God or they might just stay. Maybe you have to try a few times before they stay in the path of God. It depends how far you want to go with this person in your life or just simply win them for the lord.Remember that beside you wanting to be with this person. You would be brother and sister in christ. Wich is a bounded friendship with the same believe. Sometimes when people don't understand that. And the person decides to leave. The other person gets mad at God or Sometimes even back slides or gets bitter with God as well. Sometimes they even loses some faith. We have to remember that no matter what relationship we have with a person. You both have to but your part and God is going to put his. This is the only time that three is not a crowded. This was a great message given.God bless you.👍👍👍
I was talking to a gentleman Just talkin we are both somewhat learning stages at least I thought but when we were faced with a test on cheating in order to make more money I passed and he failed and he continues he continues to cheat needless to say we don't speak anymore.
Awesome 👏 video Pastor Mark!!!
Good advice! God bless!
Likewise Rose :)
I found this video very insightful and helpful. 😀
I’d like that book.
Shelondria NChrist, here's the link if you want more info Never Quit: A 5 Week Small Group Bible Study on the Power of Prayer www.amazon.com/dp/1979772673/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_03wOAb9X4NSBM
But isn’t a man suppose to lead the woman. I’m confused and I’m in the middle of making a decision right now 😢
Thank you so much for your videos. Can you do a video on biblical submission between a husband and wife? I’m unsure about feminism in 2018 and what it means from a biblical perspective. Thank you!
Thankyou it helped me alot..very understanding
Amen to this ✝💪💪💪❤ god bless
Very nice video🙌.god bles u
I thought that i will find proof that my current boyfriend is immature cause i was feeling so doubtful about our relations but instead this video made me realize that i was the really immature there
My co-worker just became a Christian (I think, but only time will tell if it’s genuine) and I originally wanted nothing to do with him because I thought he was faking it for attention. Now the more I talk to him the more I feel more compassion and love for his soul, I don’t know what to do.
Great video!
Nice video
Thanks!
What if he's a good man but doesnt have the desire to read the bible or pray but procrastinates alot. I wouldn't mind being patient but hes not really interested.
Wow this is so good!
Thank you very much. Blessings 🙏🏽
Thank you!
Well i have been talking with a guy who has less maturity.but i love him so much.but he has soo much health issue some time he feel depress and anxity .i want to draw his heart towards to JESUS.becz i want to grow with him in christ.
maybe it's you who has less maturity, women overestimate themselves alot
neel ghale I’m Currently Dealing With This. I Let Him Know All The Time How Important God Is And How He Can Give Him Strength To Go Through All Things. He Put Me On A Pedestal Saying I’m Too Perfect For Him But I’m Not. I Told Him That Im No Greater Than He Is You Know To Encourage Him But I Feel Like It’s Going Through One Ear And Out The Other. It’s Frustrating Because I Feel Like I’m Trying So Hard To Help Him But I Feel Kinda Defeated.
So good. Thank you
What about if your prayer lives look different even though the person does bare the fruit of the spirit? For instance, the man does not have a prayer life that is as robust as the woman (he does a few minutes per day (2-3), but the woman does way more like 30 mins per day.
I bet that is a good book.
Hi all!
I don't know if anyone still comes across these videos from I figured I should put a comment down. I am currently in a relationship with a man as of 1.5 years. He is a follower of Jesus (no doubt in my mind with this) and 7 years my elder. I struggle with OCD, namely relationship OCD so it has been difficult to discern what is anxiety or true doubt but there are a couple things I can confidently assume are more questions versus anxieties. My main concern relates to the video in some way. We both moved to our state at relatively the same time and began going to church together on Sundays, when we were in town (I travel for work). I volunteer at the kids ministry and he has expressed his desire to volunteer but has not yet moved on it. Further, when I'm out of town, he doesn't go to church without me. He has watched sermons online since before meeting me though. Additionally, he has expressed that he isn't in the Word consistently. Now, being in the Word has been my biggest struggle as a Christian. I do a devotional everyday but it is rare that I literally open my bible and read it. So I struggle at the same time. However, with both of these, I have anxiety about it. But my refute is that I am not to the place I want to be with either of these things either. I want to read the Word more consistently and I'd like to find more community in my church. The biggest issue I find (because of what I read on the internet regarding Christian couples) is that he is not instigating this or acting on it swiftly. Is this something anyone else has struggled with? I also worry I am making a bigger deal than it is and I am going to miss out on a wonderful, Godly man because I decided to misinterpret what I've read or misjudge him. Looking for any insight! Thanks
Hey. I still look at these. I would say if he has internet in GROWING in his faith then that’s a bad sign. You want someone you can grow in faith TOGTHER with. If he shows no interest in devoting time and energy to the Lord than he is not a Godly man. Even if you bring this up to him and he decided he does, watch him closely and pray a lot about it. Maybe even take a break but stay friends to discern whether he does this because he actually wants to progress in relationship with God, or if he just said he wants to because it impresses you. Hope that helps. Text back if you need anything.
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Btw, I have the same issue. I have anxiety, and compulsive thoughts and intrusive thoughts. So I know what it’s like to overthink something, or worry that if your overthinking, you’ll lose something good.
It’s so hard to remember a lot of the Bible but I’m really trying to study it so that I can work for a company that goes out and leads Bible studies for homeless woman. If anyone knows of any study apps I’d appreciate it.
Hi I need Godly advice. so I’m 16 I started talking to this guy I want to date. He’s one of the sweetest man I’ve ever met, we like all the same things. I feel like he exemplifies all the fruits and we have similar morals..but I’m sure about our relationship. When we first met he said he and his family are catholic and he’s been confirmed, but stoped going to church recently due to drama involving his family in the congregation. I didn’t really think much of it. In a later conversation I being eager to learn about his religious views drilled him(which was probably not the best idea because he’s a shy guy and I think I confused him) and I asked him all amount of specific questions. He said he’s not really sure about what he believes and said he was open to other religious things like reincarnation but said he has no reason not to believe Christianity since that’s all he’s been taught. He has also since in passing called himself religious. I don’t know if I’m over thinking or not, if he’s just less spiritually mature, or if he doesn’t believe and is just goin along with everything because it’s what he’s been taught. I don’t know what to do, should I expect him to mature as he gets older or break up?
Hows it going? I would have taken a step back theres a lot of red flags. Catholic church, reincarnation. I think he needs to find Christ for his self apart from you and you being in the middle would only confuse the situation more for both you and him. Stay friends and give encouragement only.
If that guy doesn’t believe in Jesus’s atoning work on the cross alone for his salvation, then he’s not saved and he’s not a Christian, which means he doesn’t have the Holy Spirit. He may be sweet but he would still be a non-believer, so you would not want to pursue a relationship with him since you would be unequally yoked.
I have been speaking to this woman who is younger than me for about 8 months and she has a lot of good qualities, work ethic, personality and she says she is a Christian but I think she only says that for me, her fruits aren't always good she uses bad language and has bad anger and she can be really mean. She also can be selfish at times and doesn't treat me nice but won't explain to me what is wrong but she ignores me... idk what to do bc I was once like that but God conflicted me of it and I want to be patient. She is also 12 years younger and had a real rough childhood and is only 22. My heart says to be patient sometimes but other times it tells me to run lol. I've been praying about it and have been the best God loving gentleman I can be even before her when I was single.
I want to take class. I am struggling fighting living I love unbelievers boyfriend
Is it possible to be unequally yoked to everyone? Scripture says I can't date nonbelievers, but I don't think I can date believers either because of lack of maturity, thereby leaving me in a limbo all by myself.
Unequally yoked is in reference to believers vs non-believers. Not mature believers vs immature believers.
The Gospel of salvation of our souls:❤️💕💕❤️📖✝️🕎💡💡❤️❤️💕For what I received I passed on to you as of [first importance]: that Christ died for our sins according to the Scriptures, that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures, and that he appeared to Peter, and then to the Twelve. After that, he appeared to more than five hundred of the brothers and sisters at the same time,
My boyfriend is much more spiritually ahead of me. He knows more theology, has read more books, and has a deeper understanding of the faith.
I have also been a Christian for many years but I’m not as spiritually mature for a few reasons. Having seen a lot of church politics when I was growing up has caused my spiritual walk to be stagnant for many years. After being in this relationship, it has helped me grow spiritually in many ways and I’m seeing some breakthroughs in my life.
However, due to differences in our maturity levels, we’ve also had many conflicts. We are working through them slowly and things are gradually getting better but sometimes I can’t help but feel like I’m undeserving of this relationship. And that I will always be lagging behind. I’m not sure how to approach this issue and what I can do to “make it better”.
No cupples get along on everything but as long as Christ is still the centre of your relationship and your continuing to grow both separately and together in spiritual things then i think you're doing ok. Also remember you're dating, its not marriage so choose wisely because once you decide to take those vows you should honour to keep them. P.s. Dont ever say your dont deserve, you are deserving of a loving relationship, Christ died for you so how much more worthy and precious are you to Him. To God be all the glory ❤
Is it OK for someone who is Christian to date someone who is Jewish? Asking for a friend 😁
This video answers that ruclips.net/video/DWmmSPUMm8k/видео.html
Thank you!
Nancy Gray, my pleasure
Are they a messianic jew? Because jews don’t believe the messiah has come yet. I would say if you don’t agree with another person that Jesus is Lord and Savior. Then no.
What about different denominations....like a baptist with a charismatic christain who believes in power of holy spirit. .
hmm that's interesting, I'm not sure if Mark has done a video on denominations
Karise Ashley I’m curious about your story. If you would like to share/chat about this email me megharris2013@icloud.com
I'm not charismatic and I believe in the power of the spirit. It's power is not manifested in tongues or physical miracles. It is having the power to win the lost. It is having the fruit of the spirit. Power to suffer for Jesus Christ. Power in prayer etc. Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
Amos 3:3
I think Christians who are married or going to be, should be in the same denomination. Because if they are not in the same denomination, they'll have certain doctrines that are not the same. & most times that can cause issues & frustration. Not that you'll agree on every little thing if you are in the same denomination, but your disagreements of the Bible will be minor compared to your over all agreements of the Bible & God.
So particularly, for a charismatic Christian & a Baptist, I don't think that would be a good idea. If they do not believe in speaking in tongues today, then I think that would be a major disagreement. Cuz they're not in the same level as you.
That's my opinion, & that's why I prefer to find someone who's within the same denomination as I am.
Is it bad that I’m an orthodox Christian, have been my whole life, but now I’m thinking of changing my religion to catholic because I want to change church communities and hope that the catholic is better?
What kind of Christians are you, guys? What do you think about the different schools?
I'd suggest giving a try to a non-denominational Protestant church. Avoid the Catholic Church as it's full of heresy and unbiblical teachings and practices. Make sure to read your Bible for yourself, I suggest NKJV or ESV and pray to God to show you the way to go! He will lead you! God bless you and all the best.
You would be going from one legalistic church to another legalistic church. Seek Him in the Word and He will lead you to a community where YOU will grow and Know Him
I grew up Southern Baptist (and still am/always will be). A catholic I once knew said that out of all the protestant sects, southern Baptist was his favorite because "they have their feet on the ground". Look for a place that teaches and preaches from the Bible. Biblical based practices and not man-made ones. But also just keep in mind that no place is going to be perfect. There will be issues everywhere because churches are made up of people and people are fallible. Pray to God that he leads you to a place where you can feel like you can truly be part of that local church family.
I'm still confused about it all. Does it matter if someone knows more than you in the bible to be honest? I kind of thought it would be because one of them thought they are not good enough and the other says they are more than enough. Also where are you from?
one more thing to add ☝, if you married with a high spiritual mature guy and later he start to backsliding (disobey God, don't pray like he use to? ) he's not the roof anymore, as a women u must keep obeying him but not before the word (God) and your soul!
@ApplyGodsWord could you be more specific on the aspect of shaming someone within the relationship?Like
could you give an example?
It's more of a feeling. The way you say things can be judgmental. So if someone says something like, "What, you didn't know that!?" Or if you critique the way they pray or if you get embarrassed bc they don't act a certain way around your more mature Christian friends....these are examples of shaming someone. I hope that helps some :)
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger Wow, I did not know that. Man, you just shed some light on something. Thanks!
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger Could I bother you with an email about this?
No problem Alexander, I'm glad it was helpful! God bless :)
Sure markballenger@applygodsword.com
What about dating a "seeker" who is not born again? As in, they have interest in the faith, regularly attends church, maybe even grew up in it
Thanks so much 🙏🏻💕
You are so welcome!