If Someone Is Not Spiritually Ready to Date, God Will Show You . . .
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- Опубликовано: 9 фев 2025
- How will you know when God is showing you someone is not ready to date? What signs will there be when God is telling you not to date someone because they are not spiritually mature enough as a Christian? When should a Christian start dating? Here are 5 things God will often show you when he is telling you someone is not spiritually mature enough to date.
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I'd rather be disappointed than deceived.
@Timothy Sterling In a way, yes. If you were deceived by a counterfeit relationship then you wasted your time. However, if you realized the relationship you wanted wasn't the right one before then, you'd face rejection and just deal with the disappointment. That's why it's better to be disappointed than deceived.
We should never rush into dating.Whoever is reading this know that God is still with you even in these evil days. Jesus is the same yesterday, today and forever. He is not a man that He should lie. Trust in God
God bless!
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AMEN 🙏🏼🙏🏻🙏🏽🙏🏾🙏🙏🏿
Grace Morgan speaks RUclips Channel ...Thanks for sharing...🙏🏿 I really needed to hear that
Even if you date someone who’s a Christian you can still be unequally yoked
Luxury Massage that is nothing but truth!
In the biblical sense this term is referring to both being saved. But certainly two true Christians can have a bad relationship together
Amen!!!
Yup, I've seen it many times...
Absolutely!
If you ever feel the need to review specific points like I usually do, here it goes:
1 - 0:10 if they accept your Christian beliefs only because they feel it is right to accept all religious beliefs
2 - 1:42 if they are just a "Sunday morning christian"
3 - 3:17 if they put you on hold untill God gives them a supernatural sign to date you
4 - 7:08 I'd they need you to agree with them about all of their beliefs
5 - 9:23 if they want you to be "their saviour " rather than depend on Jesus with you
Thank you
Thanks!
Yeah I used this video to test my own spiritual immaturity.... and wow this was an eye opener
Griffin Kauffman same I was watching to see about other people and it’s me lol 😂
same
This video was really helpful and it's cool that you were willing to use this to evaluate who you are and where you're at in your walk!
Wow, I have some growing to do!
When you watch a video with someone else in mind... and then the Lord is just like, "Hey, this is what you look like."
lol hahaha yes , same here
Wow! Ill be praying for you😯😄
@@huckella2131 Thank you, I will be praying for you, what's your name?
Thanks! Its Michal. Have a good weekend😄
I actually did the opposite. I thought that my last "situationship" didn't work out because I wasn't spiritually mature enough. However, this video has shown me that the guy stealth-dated me but refused to commit to an actual date due to his spiritual immaturity. Thinking back on our conversations, he seems to want confirmation that a girl thinks exactly like he does on every little issue before he will even commit to getting coffee with a girl.
I feel like this video is also great to reflect upon your own thought patterns... I can see how I was immature in some areas. Like getting to a point where I had to explain to someone I was not ready for a relationship. That clearly means I had done something wrong to get myself in that situation to begin with...
Initially I wasn’t too sure about #3, but by the time you explained it - it made perfect sense. I used to say I would seek confirmation from God if a man expressed interest in me because my focus was on God & his ministry/career for me. I didn’t want to get distracted nor waste time with a man God didn’t have for me. This was in my early years after getting saved. I now understand that this was because I knew in my heart that God didn’t have me to date at that time. Whereas God opened my heart to dating a few months ago, I’ve felt that if a particular individual that I have been getting to know was to ask me out - I wouldn’t seek confirmation because I’m spiritually aware that now is my time.
#3 is a big one for most of us. I've been reluctant to talk to someone because I feel like eventually If I told them I was just focusing on God then that would make things smoother, because I want to be ready (which obviously would mean I'm not, and they could possibly not be the one)I think it's bad because I'm playing out scenarios on top of that. I'ma just keep it to myself and become more mature
I was immature when I stopped things with my 2nd gf. When I did, I said that I needed time to focus on God because I really did feel that in my heart. When I did I realized I put things above God and it was hard to even read the Bible when not going to church on Sundays and when I wasn't with her. Now, I don't know if God wants me to try to date again or not but it's now easier to read a chapter of the Bible everyday when I'm at home and alone.
"Passionate love is like a flame that burns very hot, but that cannot burn for very long. It is based on fear and hope and fantasy. It is imbued with desire, and it reinforces personal insecurity and personal neediness.
This is the love experience that so many people are pursuing in life at great expense, but it is not an experience that can lead to a really successful relationship in most cases.
What you are looking for is an experience of recognition-a deep, quiet, powerful experience. It is not highly emotional. It is not fraught with fear and anxiety and uncertainty. It is coming from a deeper place within you. It is Knowledge recognizing another.
This is very different from the experience of falling in love, which is really entering a kind of pathetic, unknowing state-filled with desire, fear and uncertainty.
If this is your experience with another, then you must proceed very slowly and cautiously, for you are prone to make serious mistakes in this state of mind.
Do not commit yourself. Do not give your life away. Be observant, and listen carefully within yourself as you proceed."
A quote from Love and Relationships, a teaching you can read or listen to at *NewMessage ORG*
Thanks for sharing
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Thanks for giving the me the space to do so
Great insight! Thanks for sharing.
Absolutely false teaching - New Message is blasphemous. Galatians 1:8 But even if we or an angel from heaven should preach to you a gospel contrary to the one we preached to you, let him be accursed.
There is no NEW WAY TO GOD, only Jesus.
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger please take a moment to discern this.
Shoot I wasn’t mature myself 😭🤦🏽♀️
Ijanea Riggs SAME 💀
Same
I hear that sis, samee😭
Same, big surprise T_T
😭bro sameeeee
Mark this information is spot on.My last relationship was with a man that I thought truly loved me because he treated me right but unfortunately he displayed 2 of these qualities,I was the one who seemed interested in following a biblical life it hurt to let him go but I found out he had other motives luckily, God revealed his true intentions before I was fully immersed in the relationship another red flag was how fast he wanted to settle down it didn't sit right with me.
Amen, thankfully you saw what the Lord was showing you :)
Same thing is currently happening to me, this guy will ask me not to talk to him for days saying he s praying and asking God to confirm our relationship, thanx Mark for the video 🙏
@@keneilwemodiegi8762 hi beloved I pray for God to show you what to do ...be blessed.
God was protecting you!!
This video came at JUST the right time. God is working on my heart (and mind). Our God is GOOD (and has unfathomable timing 🤯)! Hugs and blessings 💙💙
God bless!
The last person I dated was after being saved for about a year. He wanted a godly woman… in his words. In his actions? He wanted someone that would apparently pray and then live in complete sin
I'm sorry, but at 5:22 when the man was moonwalking on the water while you were doing your voiceover, i LOLOLDD xDD
Stay single focused on God and Jesus 🙏I being Patient and wait
Every time I hear these teachings I'm like..where was this at my church?
I feel like it's so easy to overcomplicate things in the guise of being spiritual. Its hard to not look back and think..wow if I knew these things then I could have saved myself alot of confusion.
This practical,down to earth biblical advice is so needed!
God bless and keep up the good work!:)
I'm so glad you find this valuable! God bless you too!
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Third point. Amen!! Nothing but the raw truth! I love this. Literally everything on my mind. Confirmation!
So glad this was relevant for you!
The issue of datng is so clear! Thanks!!!!
God bless Helen!
Thank you Mark. God Bless you friend.
Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.
John 14:6
Amen! Jesus is the only way!
Im too spiritually immature 😭 God have mercy on me.
This guard my heart of going back to my ex 😂😂 thank you God for telling me through this video
ha! ha! This is not for someone else but for me! Thanks for the video!
Number 3 hits home
Amen
Oop! I am #3. I’m always waiting for a sign from God smh🤦🏾♀️ But that’s obviously it how He works all the time 😩
We are allow growing in the Lord :)
Me too 🤦🏽♀️. I thought I was doing the right thing,
Me too, I thought that waiting for the Lord to speak through scripture was okay !
With the #3
I had the same experience and said no to dating beacause I felt spiritually and emotionally immature and Also i felt like I needed preparation from God in all areas, and I needed to focus on Him.
I did like the guy tho... But the thing is it's easy to like a guy and to forget him when there's a lot of distance... I not settling for dating but for marriage. I'm not looking for a boyfriend but a husband.. So i had to think, 'Am i wife worth having? Am I Christ like? Can I be a proverbe 31 woman ? Can I train my children in the way of the Lord? Can I my husband's crown? '
Some of these was a huge no. Cause I was a Christian struggling to even read my Bible at that time. I had a lot of characteristics that could turn my marriage sour. So no, I wasn't wife material.
So, I said' no' to focus on Christ. I needed God to train me in my time of singleness to become a better person so that in marriage I'd be a gem to my husband and all those around me. So I could learn to trust and depend on only God.
Right now, it's a process. I'm still learning a lot. The Bible refines me everyday. I'm continually moving from a girl with lazinnes, arrogance, little faith etc, to a woman with humility , hardworkiness, prudence and new faith everyday, by God's grace ofcourse. I still work to find my identity and purpose in Him. It's not easy at all, but the Lord corrects those he loves. The Word of the Lord is useful for teaching, rebuking error, correcting faults and giving instructions for the right living.
Advice for you:
Trust in the Lord and lean not on your own understanding;In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your path straight ❤️
When you have the Lord you have everything.
So, don't worry about anything, #1 Pet5:7.
The Lord surely has a plan for you and everyone else.
Up until now, 1 year, I still don't feel ready to date, because I still have a lot of refining to do, I still need self control, so I can't call myself spiritually matured yet. But I work to walk in The Lord's path everyday with the grace and strenght he gives me. I'm still receiving training from my parents, I'm still young . By the time, I'm ready, I'd be a sight to behold.
You also. Trust in the Lord and everything will work out👌.
God bless you. Amen
Remember, Jesus is the only way to the Truth and to God. If you question this, turn to your Bible pronto and soak yourself in it. Bless you.
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I’m still learning that one one is not perfect but at least bear the fruit of spirit bring me close to God and not rushing to date take time to enjoy the process that the goal.
Amen, we are all growing in the Lord as Christians :)
Thanks to this viedo I've realized I'm not mature enough to date someone, but accepting the truth leads you to learn and grow, thank you Mark!
Wow I’m actually number 3. Very eye opening
Do a separate more in depth video on the 3 tiers
Yep, totally spot on.
Preaaaaach! This is so true! ❤️ Thank you Jesus for setting me free from an immature relationship! ❤️
Thank you also Mark for this quality content as always.
Yes! Thank you for this.
Amen. Some of them say they are Christian and we only find out later that they don't believe in staying pure until marriage.
AMEN! Thanks for sharing. God bless you. I just finished watching this video. For some reason I thought it said you just posted this a few minutes ago. Not 5 months ago. Either way it spoke to my situation then and now. God is good like that. Lord bless those to receive this word that you intended to receive it in Jesus name. Amen.
I think this is for me.I am not ready to date right now.I have to learn more before.🙂
Love your vids , Pastor Mark!
Just realize i was the problem..This is good!
Amen, we are always on the road of growth with the Lord (1 John 1:8-10)
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger I like that. May God continue to bless your soul🙏🙏
🤚🏼I am guilty of number 3. I’m afraid of hurting someone or being hurt again.
Keep pressing in with the Lord, he will guide you forward
We should never rush coz in Genesis it God who said it is not good for a man to be alone. Adam was bizzy naming animals to the point where God Qualify Adam. In God kingdom you have to Qualify for what you pray for.
Amen brother 🙏🏾✝️
God bless!
Where was this video three years ago when I needed it?😁 I would've been saved from much confusion and heartbreak. On the upside, I've learned about how integral spiritual maturity is to a godly relationship. Thank you Mark for sharing this important truth. 🙏
I come to realize God presents to you the right person not a good person & you have to water it with love and,,,, Example God will give you the right job but he will never give you friends or make people like. So you have to cultivate friendship for your self even if it means to go extra miles.
Well your right God cant make people like you, but he can bring you real friends! All I did was pray a simple prayer, "God I want a friend". A week later I meet my first Christian friend, and it was her who first said hello to me. And initiated the conversation. I'm very very shy. She was the perfect friend. She was everything I always dreamed a friend would be and much, much more. I give thanks to God for her all the time. She is an example of Christ and shes also very very loud and funny. XD God can give you anything, if you just remember to ask him.
Thanks for this, brother!
After #3 I’m confused... I think I put myself in a predicament and I don’t know how to get out of it. I go to college and have this group of friends mixed with guys and girls and one of the guys started developing feelings for me over a series of months. I’m in a place in my life right now where I don’t want a relationship but this guy asked me out and I told him that I wasn’t ready for a relationship and that I wanted to focus on god and myself. Now I know I must’ve given him signs or seemed like I was flirting for him to ask me out. After I told him I wasn’t ready, I was confused about how I felt of him, but then I started to realize I wasn’t guarding my heart properly and have some feelings too. As it’s seems like it’s talked about in #3, I wasn’t purposely trying to find someone to date or flirting, feelings just happened overtime with my friend. I have a laughing & joking type personality that can probably make it seem like I’m flirting too... but now I don’t know how to interact with this person when we get back to college, as I’m going to be around them. It’s hard for me to find a balance of being myself with my personality and not seeming like I’m flirting with my guy friend. Cause I like this person too now, I guess I kinda been flirting even tho I’m not ready but I want to stop that. Also, it’s hard to take emotions back once they developed. Can someone pray for me for guidance? Or have advice? Right now I just feel guilt from not guarding my heart properly from these feelings that developed overtime. I also feel bad for my guy friend cause I don’t want to lead him on without intentions of dating/ marriage. Thanks if you read through all of this 😂 and God bless.
Hi, friend...
Think about the reasons why you said no...
I had the same experience and I did this beacause I felt spiritually and emotionally immature and Also i felt like I needed preparation from God in all areas, and I needed to focus on Him.
I did like the guy tho... But the thing is I it's easy to like a guy and to forget him when there's a lot of distance... I not settling for dating but for marriage. I'm not looking for a boyfriend but a husband.. So i had to think, 'Am i wife worth having? Am I Christ like? Can I be a proverbe 31 woman ? Can I train my children in the way of the Lord? Can I my husband's crown? '
Some of these was a huge no. Cause I was a Christian struggling to even read my Bible at that time. I had a lot of characteristics that could turn my marriage sour. So no, I wasn't wife material.
So, I said' no' to focus on Christ. I needed God to train me in my time of singleness to become a better person so that in marriage I'd be a gem to my husband and all those around me. So I could learn to trust and depend on only God.
Right now, it's a process. I'm still learning a lot. The Bible refines me everyday. I'm continually moving from a girl with lazinnes, arrogance, little faith etc, to a woman with humility , hardworkiness, prudence and new faith everyday, by God's grace ofcourse. I still work to find my identity and purpose in Him. It's not easy at all, but the Lord corrects those he loves. The Word of the Lord is useful for teaching, rebuking error, correcting faults and giving instructions for the right living.
Advice for you:
Trust in the Lord and lean not on your own understanding;In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your path straight ❤️
When you have the Lord you have everything.
So, don't worry about anything, #1 Pet5:7.
The Lord surely has a plan for you and everyone else.
Up until now, 1 year, I still don't feel ready to date, because I still have a lot of refining to do, I still need self control, so I can't call myself spiritually matured yet. But I work to walk in The Lord's path everyday with the grace and strenght he gives me. I'm still receiving training from my parents, I'm 21. By the time, I'm ready, I'd be a sight to behold.
You also. Trust in the Lord and everything will work out👌.
God bless you and help you
A sign is wrong if you're putting off dating them and putting them on hold and they are aware of it. In that situation it would be best to simply not let them know how interested you might be, because if you are waiting for a sign from the Lord, be it from a vision He gave you or like the servant asking God to show him a sign so he could bring back a wife for his master, wait for the sign without them knowing. If you feel led to share afterwards, that's between you and God to discern. Hope that makes sense.
Also, there can be differences, but equal yoke or as close as possible is important.
So Mark I want to ask u, there is a guy we both like each other, share the same vision, and I know he's the one I prayed for , I am the one he's been waiting for and also talk about being in a relationship, but aren't beginning it because waiting for Holy Spirit to lead...referring to your 3 rd point is it considered lack of faith?
7:45 I heard of those as Primary, Secondary, Tertiary and non-issues.
Should we not look for confirmation to proceed or start dating someone?? & at what point do we do so? I’m not talking about dating in general, I’m talking about with a specific person
To my understanding, if you're mature enough you won't have to question whether or not it's from God because it'll flow the way God wants it to.
Found Boy Interesting...
Ask God a question and however He decides to respond, believe Him. When He wants us to believe something and we have weak faith, He sends signs and confirmations to build up our faith. But if He has already sent many signs and confirmations and we still don't believe what He's saying, then it's a chronic immature-faith problem. 👇
Jesus asked, “Will you never believe in me unless you see miraculous signs and wonders?”
(John 4:48 NLT)
bible.com/bible/116/jhn.4.48.NLT
Depends what u mean by confirmation, because some ask for signs yet do not even take heed when they come and/or want bigger ones..
Acharich Speaks I mean wouldn’t confirmation look different to everyone? God speaks to us differently. & yes it’s easy to misconstrue and say something is God when its something you really want. A lot of ppl who say things are God ain’t it. They take one little thing and run w/ it. That is definitely spiritual immaturity, to not be able to decipher the two.
Good video.
Glad you enjoyed it!
This whole topic is a reference for prayer points ...
Mark watch your video later tonight 🙏
This was very helpful as I am stepping out in dating again and I’ve always questioned where should someone be spiritually. You hit so many good things on the head with this. I’ll be holding on to the article version of this.
What if you are the one not spiritually ready, many times we are quick to look at the other person flop, imperfections but not ours.
Just saying ...
Exactly
It’s funny. I thought if I found the One, that I would be redeemed from by brother’s shadow from when a different girl caused a disaster that led me on so that she could be with him. I thought finding my spouse would mean that I would be healed from the pain I endured in high school and at home. I was wrong. My trust was not in God that He could heal me and redeem me. Once I made that step to trust Jesus, I no longer believed I needed someone else to be my savior. Thanks Mark. You really helped me with pointing out what immaturity means in myself so that I could grow in my relationship with God.
A few of these i expected were on me but they were also found on other people from my past that i remember. So i guess this is a nationwide issue.
God bless
Awesome
Thanks for this, Mark! I didn't realize until watching this that I have some of the problems you mentioned here. Please pray that God would keep helping me to conquer them.
What does it mean if someone told a girl that God told him and his family that he and the girl should be together? Yet, the girl got on her knees and asked God and He said to break up? (the guy says he is a Christian but the girl didn't feel a connection and he didn't feel guilty over a particular sin which he know according to the Bible it was a sin. And there were other things too that didn't add up with him being a christian). And then his sister came to the girl and said that he and she ruined God's plan and that He had a great plan for them. The girl is confused 😕
1. God is not the god of confusion. God brings peace so that is an indication that something may be off. 2. The Bible says “test every spirit by the spirit” so is what you are being told in alignment with the word of God? 3. Some situations require persistent prayer.
@@Jessica-hx1he
I really doubted he was saved. I mean, aren't Christians feeling bad after commiting a sin? Big one even (I know sin is sin, it was just something that the Bible Cleary says it was a sin).
And don't all Christians feel God's love? Like His Presence and things like that?
Yeah no confusion sister. When it’s God peace follows. If you feel uneasy or get this gut feeling, I can now say after many years, it’s not God... AT ALL. Never trust man more then God. Especially if the guy is sinning, he is Not is a position to be a godly friend or even greater a godly husband. Ask yourself do you really want a sinner being the head of your house?🤷🏽♀️
@@keturah1980
We are all sinners. But the difference is that Christians hate sin.
And you are right. When I left the relationship I felt free and relieved
Ameeen. So true
Wow, thanks for the content! God bless you 🙏🏿🙏
My pleasure!
Thank you this is good know
Is it bad if we dated before I got closer to God to tell him it’s not you it’s God
Pastor Mark. I need your advice, I have been friend with guy for over a year. He is Muslim and I really talk to him about Jesus. But he has a strong opinion about the Bible been corrupted. I kind of got close to him. But months ago I decided to put boundaries between him and I. And I spent less time talking to him.
I also want to break any spiritual tie with men. And praise God. God has set me free. Now I don’t want to open door to any spiritual husband. So I stop talking to all of these guys friends who are not Christians.
What is your advice,? Do I still communicate with my friend or just ignore all his text messages
"If someone wants to form you in their own image instead of helping you grow into the image of Christ (...)".
Wow, this video is filled with pure wisdom.
So much this. God has opened my eyes and helped me realize that a guy I was fixated on is not the man for me. When God tells you "no", it's for a good reason.
How do you know God wants you to date, do you have a video on that Mark?
I wanted to comment and agree with another viewer and strongly suggest that this particular person doing these videos do some other issues besides relationships. While these videos may help some people, others are struggling with other issues that affect us as well. But the person who is doing these videos seems to think that relationships are all that matters as far as being a Christian. This is just a suggestion and again I am in agreement with another viewer who is making the same statement. If relationships is the only thing you can talk about as far as god is concerned, then you probably need to re-examine yourself and what you are really trying to do for Christ.
Perhaps a little discernment on your part would be in order, this ministry focuses on marriage minded singles.
Indeed, God has equipped His church with every tool a chrsriatna needs to live fully in Christ..applyGodsword is helping Christian in their decision on marriage. I miraculously found these videos when I had decided as a Christian now to look for a wife. So this ministry is helping me in this journey. The objectives of these videos is to equip Christian singles with the right mindset as they are entering the season of dating and marriage. Remember: God has called us to different ministries.
This is Mark's particular focus. Let me propose a scenario: Say you needed to know how to change a flat tire. Would you look up a cooking channel and then complain when you didn't find the information that you are looking for? I bet you wouldn't. Why? Because that is not what that channel is about. Same with this channel. There are a lot of other RUclips channels that focus on other aspects of Christianity. Seek one of those out.
Good advice 🙏🙏
What about lime and lemon? Are there good sugars?
I used to share with someone I date about what I learnt during my cell group. The person is a Christian, but said either nothing or just commented something pragmatic. I feel like i can't discuss my Christian beliefs with them. Are they ' spiritually non mature'?
Means they are not on the same page as you, so is a deal breaker. Is not always about them being immature, more about, are they a real believer?, have they truly been born again?
Where do you get this info from... is it just your opinion honestly
What verse is about idolizing?
This is great content thank you for sharing this👌🏾💯🙏🏾☺️
You are so welcome!
It’s so difficult for me to understand this part of life right now. My ex and I broke up because he had to move states, my dad had dreams of him coming back and he’s very close to God especially through dreams. He asked God for a dream because he wanted to see if my ex would return. I feel he’s the one so strongly, it’s a feeling of hope/faith that won’t leave my body despite him being gone for 4 weeks. Neither that boy or I were believers but towards the end of our relationship before he went to the other state we prayed and went to Church. I truly think he had to leave for me to grow in God. I’m just hoping God work in his heart to eventually bring him back to me as the right one. I’ve been asking for signs of my own but I haven’t received any, it’s a struggle
yaddy I pray that it ends well 😇
Can you explain this? This scripture seems to be ignored or goes against what you've been sharing. I know of someone who was adamant about marrying a Christian woman. But he loved this woman, and after a year of knowing her and dating her, she became a Christian believer, and 6 months later was baptized in public at their church. And a couple weeks later, married her. They've been married now for 6 months. I have no idea how their marriage is, but I'm curious what your thoughts are. He was previously married for 22 years. Divorced a year when he became serious with this new woman. The new woman, who wasn't a Christian, had never been married. Both are in their 40's. But she was ready to marry. And he wanted a new wife... a Christian wife. She being baptized and a new Christian believer, do you think they'll last?
1 Corinthians 7:12-17 (KJV)
12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
15 But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
17 But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches.
I discuss that passage here: ruclips.net/video/jmfH5StJa9Y/видео.html
Also, this may help to what you talked about at first: even when someone is saved through missionary dating it was still a sin to be unequally yoked: ruclips.net/video/pRZS01pUyX0/видео.html
Thank you for those links. I listened to them, and they are helpful in understanding your perspective. I have another question to ask you. Do you consider an unbeliever the same as a non-Christian? Because there are Christians who are unbelieving Christians or become unbelievers. An unbeliever could be a non-practicing Christian. And do you see a difference between born-again Christians and Christians who aren't yet born again with the Holy Spirit? There are people who are active in a Church half their life, but didn't become born again until their 30's or 40's. And there are born-again Christians who were very involved with the Church and living God's Word half their life, but then stop living the Word in their 30's or 40's. This is what happened with my spouse. He's a born-again Christian, and "was" a strong believer before we married, but then stopped believing God's Word and stopped living the Word in his late 30's, and instead lives a worldly life, now in his mid 40's. He walked away, breaking his vows, after 21 years of marriage, and so I left him and we've been separated for almost 3 years, and waiting for our divorce to be final. However, now, he would prefer to come back to me, or rather I come back to him, but he still doesn't want anything to do with God, but is ok with my commitment to God. I am a very strong standing born-again Christian believer and very involved with my church. I believe we would be unequally yoked if we reconciled our marriage, and it would hinder my walk with God. He is a Christian who was once mature in the Word, but has turned away from God. I don't want that kind of marriage. What is your knowledge of the Word handling my situation?
@@christaclament just pray for him and keep ur distance you can still love him f ru on a far and let God handle that he might just want you to focus on you and your purpose consult the holyspirit and see what he says but don't love him romantically rn ik itschard but as a brother that has lost there way he is searching for something only God could fill not you it could he midlife crisis who knows but let God do that pray for him everyday for restoration,inner peace,love,maturation and when that time comes tell him to give you guys a fresh perspective and love for eachother to see eachother through his eyes with strength and love like no other and to cover him with his vf blood and give him wisdom and strength going forward and for him to submit to God if he cannot SUBMIT to christ he won't be able to PROPERLY love you.
@@janderson947 Thank you, whoever you are! Those were very nice words of love and encouragement.
@@christaclament no problem God is with u:)
I agree with items 1 and 2 but not necessarily 3. Regarding my own experience, I think it's okay to tell a person who is vigorously, pursuing you, who goes to church and is spiritually immature, (indicated by the things that they do and the choices they make) that the Lord has prompted you in your spirit not to have a relationship at this time.
Regarding item number 3: Are we talking about the same thing?
Maybe the purpose of the one person (the pursuee) telling the other person (the pursuer) that they "need a sign from God" is to let the other person (the pursuer) down easy (i.e. there's no interest there, or I have no interest in you romantically). Maybe the aforesaid scenario can be construed that way.
In essence, the one person (the pursuee) explaining to the other person (the pursuer who is in close proximity of the other person and only seen as an acquaintance or nothing more than a friend) that God hasn't prompted them (the pursuee) that the other person (the pursuer) is "the one" (especially if that person is overconfident in their own flesh e.g. appearances, sexual prowess or charisma).
Also, pardon me, but item 4 seems to contradict item 1. If you say a person is spiritually immature indicated by their acceptance of another person's religious beliefs (any belief) if that other person's beliefs are other than believing in the Lord Jesus Christ as the Savior and Messiah of all, and you know the aforesaid to be true via scripture -- than item 4 is a contradiction of item 1. Because if anyone disagrees with someone else about the aforesaid fact, that fact is an ALL OR NOTHING belief of faith. Therefore, if the other person (who is the pursuer) doesn't agree with the aforesaid universal truth, then the pursuee and the pursuer are obviously not compatible in thoughts nor principles. As to the other minor differences of opinion you describe, I would think that falls under the umbrella of the primary universal truth, If the person truly studies the word and has knowledge of the truth in the word of God and understands the simplicity of salvation.
However, I completely agree with item number 5 and have met many men like that. I usually run in the other direction when I meet guys like that. I always explain "I'm not your salvation. Seek God for yourself. Make God the focus of your life. Not me. I can't make you do right. I can't save you. " A person who thinks they can be put on the "straight and narrow" through someone else without taking responsibility for their own actions has deep psychological issues. Avoid this type of individual entirely. Because they will do crazy things and then blame you for their own choices and actions, as if they lack autonomy and personal self-control.
Important Forensic Psychological Note: Most people with the aforesaid personality trait and psychopathology are prone to ending unsuccessful relationships in murder-suicides. Why? Because they will blame you for the outcome of their life instead of taking responsibility for the trajectory of their own life and taking responsibility for their own actions.
Everyone is responsible for his or her own choices and actions. No one makes anyone do anything they already didn't want to do!
Good topic of discussion.
DIDUKNOW7777 I actually read your entire dissertation and it was well said!!! All very valid and true points. We do not have the ability to save anyone... it’s a hard lesson learned, but eventually you end up feeling like your banging your head on a brick wall. The wall isn’t breaking and your head is just hurting 🤕.
@@keturah1980 Are you in an abusive and/or unhealthy relationship? First: Do you believe Jesus can heal you from this? If you're in an unhealthy, abusive relationship I strongly advise you to free yourself from it. If you're fornicating. STOP! Cleanse your body and your soul. Fast and pray for clarity and see a Christian Therapist who actually believes in the Lord Jesus Christ's healing power. A Therapist who doesn't follow Eastern Mysticism.
Equally as important: See a Medical Doctor and get a complete physical exam and full STD Test Panel, blood work-up to make sure you have no infectious diseases (to give you peace of mind).
If you've been sexually intimate with the person of which you speak. Separate yourself from the toxicity and ask God for strength in His cleansing power of the innocent shed blood of Christ to break free from this spirit of confusion, break the chains of depression and anxiety, and clear your mind.
Put your focus on the saving grace of the Lord Jesus Christ who shed His innocent blood for the remission of your sins. If you haven't already: Get on your knees and ask the Father God for forgiveness for your sins. If you ask for forgiveness and confess your sins, He is faithful and just to forgive you for your sins. And then GO and sin no more!
Say this prayer: This is a prayer (and a mantra) God gave to me a few years back which helps. "Lord give me clarity of mind, establish my thoughts, and set my feet upon the right path. I ask in Jesus' name. Amen." That was my prayer God gave to me and now I'm sharing it with you. I pray that God sets you free from the confusion within your mind and that He sets your feet upon the right path.
I ask this in Jesus' name. Amen. Be healed! Give God the glory and praise! Thank Him for healing you and setting you free!
Now, take-up your cross and follow Him.
DIDUKNOW7777 whoa one question at a time!!! No I am not in any relationships. Secondly I was married to someone, who I am no longer with. Third God took away my desire to ever enter in another relationship. But thanks for another dissertation. Yes God allowed me to not have any residue of stains from that relationship. 🙌🏾 Glad to have peace.
@@keturah1980 I'm happy you have peace of mind and you're fine. However, my reply to you actually isn't just for you. It's for anyone who needs it. That's why I prefaced my reply with "Are you in an abusive and/or unhealthy relationship?" That could be anyone who reads this. I'm just happy for the discussion so that whoever needs this prayer will be healed, and set free.
DIDUKNOW7777 gotcha, no problem, I am sure someone really needs to hear your words. Be well!
Very ture brother mark thanks God Bless
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1. Is questionable to some degree. I only know that it is ideal to marry someone of the same faith to avoid a conflict in beliefs which could possibly cause arguments like it did with my parents. But otherwise it is NOT God's way to favor nor reject any of his childre. that seek him regardless of faith. That is the one flaw that religion has is that every faith seems to think God only favors their particular religion and way of practicing their faith. There is going to be a lot of people pleasantly surprised on judgement day to find that God will be accepting all his children who follow and seek him regardless of their religion.
And in the meantime, there are Christians who judge other Christians because they read Harry Potter or Narnia 😂
yes of course we should not look down on our brothers and sisters just because they make different choices than us but at the end of the day we should not mix up judgement and discernment (what waaaay too many christians are unable to do anymore nowadays because of our "judge not" culture). We are called to correct our brothers and sisters in Christ with patience and kindness (Galatians 6:1). English isn't my first language, this dude explains it way better than me ruclips.net/video/RKy6lzoMXVs/видео.html
However, you should ask yourself "as a follower of Christ, can I really enjoy something that my master despise ?". Harry Potter is far far away from the description from Philippians 4:8 and promote sorcery and occult to our youngest folks (Narnia idk never read or seen any movies). So yeah, pray to the Lord that he gives you the discernment to understand these things and take a look at this channel, even if their analysis aren't always spot-on, it still worth taking a look: ruclips.net/user/littlelightstudios
Narnia is cool but Harry Potter.. 🙊
I feel like I've met every type of girl you've just described through dating apps. The one girl I actually can see being a good partner is looking for more than I can give. Would be nice to find a balance somewhere.
2. No "pew potatoes" or lukewarm believers! The times now are such that only someone with a strong faith and purpose in their walk is attractive to me. As a woman who believes that the husband should be the spiritual leader in the relationship/home, anything less would not work. 😘🧔🙏💕
3. Run across this as well. Jesus himself said that "an adulterous generation looks for a sign"..
The enemy is a master of deception and masquerades as an "angel of light"..and can also give out false "signs". He also can twist scripture like he did when tempting our Savior in the desert. Pray for discernment from the Holy Spirit, and confirmation from the WORD.😁
#3. Is tough. I grew up in a conservative church environment. So I don't have much of any of a background in dating or how to. Dating options are limited. Online isn't the best option for someone like me because I can be super nervous. I've never dated. So I'm stuck. I've prayed for a long time. No answers from God. I'd like to date/get married one day in the future. But I'm not sure how to move forward.
Take away easy divorce and I’ll consider marriage.
First one, is what I'm going through.
God bless as you follow the Lord :)
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger thank you
The unedited version was fine 🤕
What if I married a man that believes but isn't living the Christian lifestyle? We did join our church then the virus helped to close down the church so Pastor can't see what I mean. My husband doesn't know the Bible or does the work like get to know the Bible he depends on me to explain everything!!!
I passed through this situation, exactly how it's explained. Not a nice place to be at. So draining. The tier 2 is now what I concentrate on when getting to know someone.
Amen
God bless!
Need to date now
follow the Lord and obey his word, he will guide you :)
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Christians be with Christians.
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And when you are not sexual active...(.....) And recognize the apple means two things.... Read your bible and the Holy Scripture will lead you....( .......be not deceived. Playing a game with the Holy ones tells me they are not ready..
Thank you. And too those who under stand
God says for you where once like these. ....Can you finish this ? With the word of God? What did he say to those who where no longer mature. P.] And no longer in the system..): Dr.Luke saves
If a woman has God in her heart and marries someone who is not of faith, God accepts them because of her belief in God. and vice versa. Love your Videos, I love the Biblical take on serious life decisions haha
False you shouldn't even think of dating a non believer let alone marry one!!!
Umm that is not true sister, I am not even sure what scripture you have contrived that thought from...
Eh..? Not if she willingly goes ahead, that's unbiblical..