Thank you SO much for having me Tyla. This has been such a special experience, and this was my first collaborative video. Wishing for your continued success and healing :) 🩵
Yo just outta curiosity, are you from the American South? You don't have to be specific as to where, I'm just wondering if you grew up in an environment where most of the people around you spoke with some sort of Southern accent as I did. Like myself, you don't seem to have a particular "southern-flare" to your voice and sound like your standard "this is what people from outside America think American accents usually sound like" kind of voice. Also, I have to literally stay away from "current events" in both Gaza and Ukraine despite being a history buff. I understand the desire, both on an intellectual and empathetic level, to stay current on this topic, but please tread lightly and realize that your brain is wired to experience empathy on a completely different level. Sometimes it can be a beautiful thing and other times it can be a shutdown/meltdown thing. Also keep in mind that there is a pyschological phenomenon that has been capitalized on all sides since at least the Vietnam war. When we are constantly exposed to certain stimuli, even if we consciously understand it's a repeat or a different angle of the same event, it still can convince our brains that the phenomenon is far more widespread than it might be in reality. This is a human thing, not really an autistic thing. A good example of this is when the "BLM riots" practically "tore down American cities" in mid-2020, when the reality is that it was just a few city blocks in a few locations where MASSIVE amounts of media presence flooded the news with as much footage as they could, giving off the impression to some Americans that entire cities were burning to the ground and that 'ANTIF-er' was out to get 'em. Also, the horror movie thing makes sense, especially when you consider the two exemptions you made (both of which depict events that *could* happen in extreme areas of human behavior). The horror you do indulge in seems to have enough of a slight disconnect from reality that you aren't completely horrified unlike by deciptions of scenes with high degrees of verisimilitude (never thought I'd get to use that in a sentence). Do you like the Hellraiser series? That, imo, is the most "well-researched" horror aesthetic out there (at least hte Clive Barker OG films) and really gets at the heart of why we find horror so entertaining: It's a form of fiction where we can *fictionally* explore dark behaviors in the safest/coziest of places. As an autistic trying to get into the "mental health professional" area for autistic adults: Ask your current therapist if they have any knowledge about DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy). If you have a therapist you like, STICK WITH THEM regardless of their methodology; but there is a lot of promise in DBT for autistics who experienced trauma--which segues into the second area you should, and are, focusing on--c-PTSD. You are three times more likely to experience an episode of PTSD in your lifetime if you are an autistic woman than when compared to US Veterans who have seen combat. Props on advocating for speaking autistics learning any form of AAC, as not only will that help bridge the unnecessary internal schism in the community, but could actually literally personally save an autistic individual's life--regardless of 'diagnosis level'. Don't take this verbose comment too personally, I only watched twenty minutes in and I tend to go on and on in any of my comments. But yeah, not that you *need* my stamp of approval or anything, but just add my name to the list of rando's on the internet who can plainly recognize your autism--and I say that in the best way I could possibly mean it. Glad to have you apart of the team. You've probably figured out by now that there are no yearly bonuses or even benefits from being a team member, but it's nice to see you here regardless. Have a nice day and I'm going to go ADHD my attention towards something more self-productive--although I very much do appreciate Tyla making these conversations available to the public. Maybe one day I'll finish it.
Just to comment regarding forcing ourselves to consume devastating world news because it's a privilege not to... Unless you're one of those people who needs to see it to do all you can to help, it's not necessary to do that to yourself. Us over here, safe and sound, feeling terrible for the people who are suffering doesn't change anything for them. Our very sensitive nervous systems can be harmed to the point where it is debilitating, and that's not helping anyone because then we can do even less for others. Instead, take care of yourself, stay informed in a way that you can handle while continuing to function at your own baseline level, and find ways to help. Personally, the only way I can help, as a single mom of two who is extremely sleep deprived and struggling to keep my family afloat, is to keep working on my situation, make as much money as possible, and donate to organizations that can do some good. My anguished thoughts do nothing but keep me from being able to do even that small amount to help. Yes, it's a privilege to make this choice, but it's one that allows me to at least do something.
I agree with you so long as you are educated enough on the subject to be on the "right side of history," so to speak. And when it comes to the particular conflict she was mentioning, that seems to be the case. But by all means, please do keep focusing on your children--particularly if either (or both) are autistic themselves. That is absolutely the best thing you could be doing and if you happen to have a little extra money on the side you feel can donate to vetted organizations who are helping the right people (not just the 'right side') then that is definitely more than what most of us Americans are doing about it.
Agreed. Besides, one could also argue that it's actually the other way around. That it's a privilege to stay informed about the state of one's country and the world at large. Mindless doomscrolling or just skipping through various news channels doesn't provide an actual insight. It takes time and mental energy and also critical thinking skills to really engage with this overload of information and sources. I wish I had the mental energy and clarity to do that, but I already struggle with the basics of my day to day life. So I just focus on what's in my immediate surroundings, like you. Just showing kindness to the people one interacts with during the course of the day already goes a long way. What use is it if one forces oneself to dig through the latest news but then being mean or rude to the cashier at the supermarket because one is constantly overwhelmed?
Thank you for not using the relative inability to take in the actual footage as an excuse to do nothing and carry on faking normalcy. I'm the same, I don't need to see the carnage myself to be against a blatant g3n0c!de, and even being broke, mid-burnout, usually homeless, barely surviving for the last several years, I still do whatever I can, counteracting suprema cysts in comment sections, educating online, and donating to mutual aid (infinitely more effective than charities, non-profits, and traditional orgs, where admin usually eats most of the donations) whenever I can spare it. We can all do something.
OMG, the stuff about drinking in uni; so relatable. With the benefit of hindsight, I was pretty much an alcoholic during that period and for and for a few years after. Being the Autistic dork trying to reinvent themselves in uni, not drinking didn't even seem like an option. Ditto for marijuana.
What?! My two favorite black autistics doing a collab? Instant like!!
I’d told yous to let me know who you chat with and here we are haha
I LOVED every moment ❤
Thank you SO much for having me Tyla. This has been such a special experience, and this was my first collaborative video. Wishing for your continued success and healing :) 🩵
Yo just outta curiosity, are you from the American South? You don't have to be specific as to where, I'm just wondering if you grew up in an environment where most of the people around you spoke with some sort of Southern accent as I did. Like myself, you don't seem to have a particular "southern-flare" to your voice and sound like your standard "this is what people from outside America think American accents usually sound like" kind of voice.
Also, I have to literally stay away from "current events" in both Gaza and Ukraine despite being a history buff. I understand the desire, both on an intellectual and empathetic level, to stay current on this topic, but please tread lightly and realize that your brain is wired to experience empathy on a completely different level. Sometimes it can be a beautiful thing and other times it can be a shutdown/meltdown thing.
Also keep in mind that there is a pyschological phenomenon that has been capitalized on all sides since at least the Vietnam war. When we are constantly exposed to certain stimuli, even if we consciously understand it's a repeat or a different angle of the same event, it still can convince our brains that the phenomenon is far more widespread than it might be in reality. This is a human thing, not really an autistic thing. A good example of this is when the "BLM riots" practically "tore down American cities" in mid-2020, when the reality is that it was just a few city blocks in a few locations where MASSIVE amounts of media presence flooded the news with as much footage as they could, giving off the impression to some Americans that entire cities were burning to the ground and that 'ANTIF-er' was out to get 'em.
Also, the horror movie thing makes sense, especially when you consider the two exemptions you made (both of which depict events that *could* happen in extreme areas of human behavior). The horror you do indulge in seems to have enough of a slight disconnect from reality that you aren't completely horrified unlike by deciptions of scenes with high degrees of verisimilitude (never thought I'd get to use that in a sentence).
Do you like the Hellraiser series? That, imo, is the most "well-researched" horror aesthetic out there (at least hte Clive Barker OG films) and really gets at the heart of why we find horror so entertaining: It's a form of fiction where we can *fictionally* explore dark behaviors in the safest/coziest of places.
As an autistic trying to get into the "mental health professional" area for autistic adults: Ask your current therapist if they have any knowledge about DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy). If you have a therapist you like, STICK WITH THEM regardless of their methodology; but there is a lot of promise in DBT for autistics who experienced trauma--which segues into the second area you should, and are, focusing on--c-PTSD. You are three times more likely to experience an episode of PTSD in your lifetime if you are an autistic woman than when compared to US Veterans who have seen combat.
Props on advocating for speaking autistics learning any form of AAC, as not only will that help bridge the unnecessary internal schism in the community, but could actually literally personally save an autistic individual's life--regardless of 'diagnosis level'.
Don't take this verbose comment too personally, I only watched twenty minutes in and I tend to go on and on in any of my comments.
But yeah, not that you *need* my stamp of approval or anything, but just add my name to the list of rando's on the internet who can plainly recognize your autism--and I say that in the best way I could possibly mean it.
Glad to have you apart of the team. You've probably figured out by now that there are no yearly bonuses or even benefits from being a team member, but it's nice to see you here regardless.
Have a nice day and I'm going to go ADHD my attention towards something more self-productive--although I very much do appreciate Tyla making these conversations available to the public. Maybe one day I'll finish it.
@@cda6590So what are you doing for the people of G4za?
Yay!!! This was great, I watched and listened to this. It's definitely nice seeing more Autistic POC, we are an underrepresented group forsure!
Glad you enjoyed! Thanks for watching ✨
Just to comment regarding forcing ourselves to consume devastating world news because it's a privilege not to... Unless you're one of those people who needs to see it to do all you can to help, it's not necessary to do that to yourself. Us over here, safe and sound, feeling terrible for the people who are suffering doesn't change anything for them. Our very sensitive nervous systems can be harmed to the point where it is debilitating, and that's not helping anyone because then we can do even less for others. Instead, take care of yourself, stay informed in a way that you can handle while continuing to function at your own baseline level, and find ways to help. Personally, the only way I can help, as a single mom of two who is extremely sleep deprived and struggling to keep my family afloat, is to keep working on my situation, make as much money as possible, and donate to organizations that can do some good. My anguished thoughts do nothing but keep me from being able to do even that small amount to help. Yes, it's a privilege to make this choice, but it's one that allows me to at least do something.
I agree with you so long as you are educated enough on the subject to be on the "right side of history," so to speak. And when it comes to the particular conflict she was mentioning, that seems to be the case.
But by all means, please do keep focusing on your children--particularly if either (or both) are autistic themselves. That is absolutely the best thing you could be doing and if you happen to have a little extra money on the side you feel can donate to vetted organizations who are helping the right people (not just the 'right side') then that is definitely more than what most of us Americans are doing about it.
Agreed. Besides, one could also argue that it's actually the other way around. That it's a privilege to stay informed about the state of one's country and the world at large.
Mindless doomscrolling or just skipping through various news channels doesn't provide an actual insight. It takes time and mental energy and also critical thinking skills to really engage with this overload of information and sources.
I wish I had the mental energy and clarity to do that, but I already struggle with the basics of my day to day life.
So I just focus on what's in my immediate surroundings, like you. Just showing kindness to the people one interacts with during the course of the day already goes a long way.
What use is it if one forces oneself to dig through the latest news but then being mean or rude to the cashier at the supermarket because one is constantly overwhelmed?
Thank you for not using the relative inability to take in the actual footage as an excuse to do nothing and carry on faking normalcy. I'm the same, I don't need to see the carnage myself to be against a blatant g3n0c!de, and even being broke, mid-burnout, usually homeless, barely surviving for the last several years, I still do whatever I can, counteracting suprema cysts in comment sections, educating online, and donating to mutual aid (infinitely more effective than charities, non-profits, and traditional orgs, where admin usually eats most of the donations) whenever I can spare it. We can all do something.
Tyla, you should combine your love of spreadsheets with the meal planning 😄
just you wait haha
OMG, the stuff about drinking in uni; so relatable. With the benefit of hindsight, I was pretty much an alcoholic during that period and for and for a few years after. Being the Autistic dork trying to reinvent themselves in uni, not drinking didn't even seem like an option. Ditto for marijuana.
Amazing~!
💜💕✨love this!
Glad you enjoyed! 💖