This has been an issue in my marriage. We have a very unique situation. My wife is on staff at our church and our son has autism and cannot go to church. Which means I have to stay home on Sundays to watch him but my wife has to attend church because thats her job. About 2 years ago my wife started staying after church to talk to people longer than usual. Instead of staying after an hour she was staying after for 2,3 and even one time 4 hours to talk to people. She had just made friends with three single brothers that are all around her age and I found out she was staying after to talk to them each Sunday. She says it was also with a group of people including her girl friends but I then found out that these three single brothers were texting her every night. Literally 7 days a week. I confronted her in a very loving way and told her there needed to be some boundaries. Thankfully she responded well. The boundaries we set were that she would come home from church every Sunday 1 hour after service ended. The other boundary was that she had to limit texting to twice a week with these siblings and that it had to be a group text not one on one. She agreed to these boundaries. But recently when I asked her if she was limiting the text messaging to twice a week like we had agreed, she responded by saying "I don't know because I don't count how many times I text people each week." I trust my wife but I still have some concerns. She is the children pastor at our church and recently these same three single brothers started volunteering with her in children ministry. They also give her gifts occasionally (CD's, toys for our son and even cash.). Seems a bit inappropriate to me.
@rl1890... Definitely inappropriate. She's not really hearing you (evident in her comment about "the count") and, having already spoken with her, I would suggest going to the pastor. (I would if you were my husband in this situation.) Most importantly: 🔹Pray 🔹Ask the Holy Spirit to guide you 🔹Find a strong (male) believer or two to walk with you 🔹Be willing to go to counseling (if necessary) God keep you. Truly. Secrets kill all relationships.
@Mulerider4Life... "No idea women thought this way." Niether did I but I also don't believe her. This is the stuff that young, married (sometimes) Christian women say. 🙄 I had to tell a sister at church that although her husband was a nice guy, no woman (I knew) would want him. Note! I was the SECOND (mature) believer to tell her this! 😄 All that to say, while there may be women like this I suspect it has more to do with your group/crowd than anything else. I appreciate men who work hard, take their wives on dates, and love their families but have never, ever wanted the husband of ANY wife! (Yuck!)
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This has been an issue in my marriage. We have a very unique situation. My wife is on staff at our church and our son has autism and cannot go to church. Which means I have to stay home on Sundays to watch him but my wife has to attend church because thats her job. About 2 years ago my wife started staying after church to talk to people longer than usual. Instead of staying after an hour she was staying after for 2,3 and even one time 4 hours to talk to people. She had just made friends with three single brothers that are all around her age and I found out she was staying after to talk to them each Sunday. She says it was also with a group of people including her girl friends but I then found out that these three single brothers were texting her every night. Literally 7 days a week. I confronted her in a very loving way and told her there needed to be some boundaries. Thankfully she responded well. The boundaries we set were that she would come home from church every Sunday 1 hour after service ended. The other boundary was that she had to limit texting to twice a week with these siblings and that it had to be a group text not one on one. She agreed to these boundaries. But recently when I asked her if she was limiting the text messaging to twice a week like we had agreed, she responded by saying "I don't know because I don't count how many times I text people each week." I trust my wife but I still have some concerns. She is the children pastor at our church and recently these same three single brothers started volunteering with her in children ministry. They also give her gifts occasionally (CD's, toys for our son and even cash.). Seems a bit inappropriate to me.
How did it turn out? Has there been improvement?
@rl1890... Definitely inappropriate.
She's not really hearing you (evident in her comment about "the count") and, having already spoken with her, I would suggest going to the pastor. (I would if you were my husband in this situation.)
Most importantly:
🔹Pray
🔹Ask the Holy Spirit to guide you
🔹Find a strong (male) believer or two to walk with you
🔹Be willing to go to counseling (if necessary)
God keep you.
Truly.
Secrets kill all relationships.
No idea women thought this way.
@Mulerider4Life... "No idea women thought this way."
Niether did I but I also don't believe her.
This is the stuff that young, married (sometimes) Christian women say. 🙄
I had to tell a sister at church that although her husband was a nice guy, no woman (I knew) would want him.
Note!
I was the SECOND (mature) believer to tell her this! 😄
All that to say, while there may be women like this I suspect it has more to do with your group/crowd than anything else.
I appreciate men who work hard, take their wives on dates, and love their families but have never, ever wanted the husband of ANY wife! (Yuck!)
If you're in a relationship/married never meet up with the opposite sex alone!