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  • Опубликовано: 13 авг 2024
  • Want to date younger men? Curious about what being in relationship with then is like? This video will share four things about connecting with them that you might not expect...
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  • @26kcarias9
    @26kcarias9 2 года назад +445

    I’m 40 he’s 30, it’s been 2 years and I’m almost due with his first child. Never a dull moment, his energy keeps me going ♥️ He’s the love I never knew I needed.

    • @lovereachable
      @lovereachable 2 года назад +17

      Wow. Wonderful.

    • @Rishonable
      @Rishonable 2 года назад +28

      This comment made me feel so happy for you.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 года назад +26

      AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! Congratulations! And thank you

    • @tracyparker129
      @tracyparker129 Год назад +8

      Congratulations

    • @Mari-lv1rd
      @Mari-lv1rd 9 месяцев назад +3

      Lovely. Best wishes for you all.

  • @historicallyspeakingwithgi9737
    @historicallyspeakingwithgi9737 2 года назад +365

    My husband is 27 and I’m 54. We’ve been together for four years. We have a great relationship and the age difference really isn’t an issue.

    • @mojok7070
      @mojok7070 2 года назад +61

      The age gap shouldn't be a problem. My wife is 44 and I'm 33 and we been together since 2015 and between us there's never been a issue but people seemed to have a issue with it.

    • @tinadraper9143
      @tinadraper9143 2 года назад +56

      Wow, I'm 48 getting asked out by a 30 year old, I was thinking 18 years was too much of a difference, glad to see it's not.

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 года назад +4

      @@tinadraper9143 I m really tired with my single. Helll Tina

    • @Aksafos
      @Aksafos 2 года назад +12

      Just wait ten years later when he wants to have children and your body starts to age.

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 года назад +3

      @@Aksafos heyy How are you

  • @laurensauvageot1196
    @laurensauvageot1196 2 года назад +219

    I encourage older women to be open to dating younger men. It truly can be a wonderful relationship.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 года назад +8

      Amazing! love hearing that!

    • @kondwanimbuzi5431
      @kondwanimbuzi5431 11 месяцев назад +3

      I agree. I prefer women older than me, but can also date those younger

    • @kondwanimbuzi5431
      @kondwanimbuzi5431 11 месяцев назад +1

      I agree. I prefer women older than me, but can also date those younger

    • @barbarafox437
      @barbarafox437 11 месяцев назад +1

      Yes it can.

    • @Naked_Sports200
      @Naked_Sports200 3 месяца назад

      Feel cringy however your encouragement will hopefully work

  • @cathyperdue2729
    @cathyperdue2729 2 года назад +273

    My #2 husband is 17 yrs younger then me. I was 40 & thought he was around 30 after a few months I found out he was only 24. Everyone thought it was just a booty call & have us 6 mo's. Here we r 20 yrs later with an 18 yr old son. He considers my kids & grandkids & I know he loves them. Best man I've ever met & don't regret 1 minute of the last 20 yrs.

  • @libellenflugpoetry6800
    @libellenflugpoetry6800 Год назад +114

    Wow! So many women are in a relationship with a much younger man ... I needed this. Thank you for this video!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад +3

      Glad it was helpful! ❤️

    • @libellenflugpoetry6800
      @libellenflugpoetry6800 Год назад +4

      I am dating a guy 20 years younger than me and have been facing since then tons of prejudices - MY prejudices, not his... He instead is very openminded and uncomplicated.

    • @tayandkayworld9095
      @tayandkayworld9095 2 месяца назад +1

      Yes I have recently started dating a man whom is 22 and he is such a breath test f fresh air it’s almost scary but I like it and I’m 32 and we are having a pretty good relationship and I pray it goes even better with time 💜😊

  • @user-ho2vu6ki8g
    @user-ho2vu6ki8g 3 месяца назад +23

    I'm 59 and he's 26 he's a amazing guy I love him soooo much best thing ever happened to me .

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 месяца назад +1

      That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!

    • @audreyrose1975
      @audreyrose1975 Месяц назад +1

      Mine is just 27 and i just turned 49. We are inlove but I'm scared if we last or i might get hurt

    • @lea-andromeda-sol2333
      @lea-andromeda-sol2333 Месяц назад

      ​@@audreyrose1975Let go the fear...❤❤❤.

    • @SkyePhoenix
      @SkyePhoenix Месяц назад

      Congratulations ❤️

    • @stoneandspa
      @stoneandspa 2 дня назад

      I’m also 59 and my bo 25- I wish it were more excepted in general. People immediately assume there is something wrong with him or me… Beat chemistry I’ve ever experienced.

  • @sandrajones4591
    @sandrajones4591 11 месяцев назад +28

    I am 42yrs old and my husband just turned 30. We have been together for 9 yrs(3 yrs married)

  • @angeloftheland4210
    @angeloftheland4210 5 месяцев назад +11

    My age is but a number, inside I’m still wide eyed and excited about life in general

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 месяцев назад

      Thanks so much for your feedback!

  • @thepigeon6233
    @thepigeon6233 3 года назад +168

    It's funny how men have dated women young enough to be their grandkid since forever but when women date even 10 years younger there was a weird stigma around it until only the last 5 or so years where people realizing age doesn't matter as long as you're adults

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад +6

      Thanks so much for your feedback! :)

    • @raytracer5726
      @raytracer5726 Год назад +6

      Let's not pretend like there is no stigma attached to older men dating younger women.

    • @Gurlbyetalli
      @Gurlbyetalli 6 месяцев назад +3

      feel the same and we are called that tasty cougar name

    • @karadiberlino
      @karadiberlino 4 месяца назад

      @@raytracer5726There really isn‘t, unless they are ugly and unattractive. Then you start doubting the woman‘s self-worth…

  • @starlasuzannerutan7624
    @starlasuzannerutan7624 2 года назад +87

    Sold!! 💓 I so agree with you, the 25 year younger man that I am seeing, has taught me to be free again, and reconnect with myself. I say go for it! Life is too short not to enjoy it!

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 года назад +1

      HELLO beautiful Queen How are you single man no kids looking for one Seriously. 24 years old but age is not important for a good relationship with a woman

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 года назад

      Starla you look so charming :) May I just ask if you are single at the moment?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад +2

      Wonderful!

  • @Tyrannosaurus_Wrexx
    @Tyrannosaurus_Wrexx 4 года назад +365

    As a 41 year old, I had a wonderful sexual relationship with a 25 year old, this year. Now, I’m with a more marriage minded man who just turned 27. This year has been the BEST I’ve had in a long time. Both have taught me just as much as I’ve taught them. It’s an incredible feeling to be playful and let go, allowing them to give me their masculine energy.
    Happy Loving, Ladies!

  • @isabelspiegel9342
    @isabelspiegel9342 4 года назад +192

    I love your videos. I’m 61 and he’s 44. We started with the intent of being casual three months ago. He has definitely taught me to be more vulnerable and open. I think I’m showing him that it IS possible to spend time with a woman who will support that he’s going to go sailing for a month or whatever makes him happy. He can be present because he wants to be and not because he feels he has to. He has been contacting me more often. He’s started sharing things he’s doing, showing me pictures. It has been an intense sexual experience from the start and we are now wanting to actually talk and get to know each other. Seems backwards, but what started out as hot sex is now evolving in a real interest in each other. The more freedom he has, without feeling guilty, the closer he has become. I’m learning a lot. Thank you, Matt. ❤️

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +12

      Beautiful share thank you my dear!! So happy for your wonderful connection with him ❤️❤️

    • @marah3298
      @marah3298 4 года назад +20

      I love this! The more freedom he has, the closer he has become.

    • @chrissyw.7500
      @chrissyw.7500 4 года назад +15

      I feel like younger men tend to lead with sex, that is, their libidos are sorta in control...but this becomes a terrific asset when we can get to know the beautiful man that is emerging in front of our eyes. As older women it is our responsibility to lead by example and I feel like my man (im 50 and hes 26) is eager to learn. I am always fascinated by him and his utter passion for life that hasn't yet developed into cynicism, and hopefully if we say together for a while, he will learn to set back and flow with it like I do. Im so happy to read stories like yours because I know I have a wonderful supportive community to turn to if I ever feel shaky or uncertain. Thank you again to Mat for facilitating the public that may not normally have a good network of support from friends and family.

    • @bossgrammyify
      @bossgrammyify 4 года назад +13

      I'm 74 and he is 40. We have been average once a week and I'm married to a PTSD alcoholic. No excuse, just love and sex. 9mos., now.

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 года назад

      @@chrissyw.7500 HELLO beautiful Queen How are you .Single man looking for one Seriously

  • @hazeldenny6304
    @hazeldenny6304 11 месяцев назад +16

    Ive just started a relationship with a man i met 20 years ago and he is 48 and I'm 66. It has been great so far. He is amazing

  • @hijabimuslimah8100
    @hijabimuslimah8100 4 года назад +143

    My fiancé is 21 years younger than me and he is great and wonderful person

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +6

      that's awesome!!!

    • @crose55082
      @crose55082 4 года назад +13

      I keep getting asked out by younger men.

    • @marisdalen8263
      @marisdalen8263 4 года назад +5

      Awe same situation❤

    • @beannie4050
      @beannie4050 4 года назад +2

      Sana all

    • @vivaeuropa
      @vivaeuropa 3 года назад

      @@marisdalen8263 How old are you and your man?

  • @lashaydodd1608
    @lashaydodd1608 3 года назад +113

    I'm 49, he's 34. The best relationship I ever had!

    • @thatjamericankidd6637
      @thatjamericankidd6637 3 года назад

      What makes it so good

    • @iotu6745
      @iotu6745 3 года назад

      What about Kids? Do you like to have children together?

    • @lashaydodd1608
      @lashaydodd1608 3 года назад +2

      @@iotu6745 We both have three of our own, 1 girl and 2 boys.

    • @iotu6745
      @iotu6745 3 года назад

      @@lashaydodd1608 thanks for answering

    • @louisaatje
      @louisaatje 2 года назад

      Yesss!!!🌟🙌💚

  • @wendyh.9363
    @wendyh.9363 Год назад +34

    Men around my age (50) are damaged & I've not had good luck. Now dating a man 12 years younger & an exceptional communicator. I'm totally falling for him & so happy we found each other in this crazy world. 🤪

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад +1

      I’m so happy for you my dear! 😊

  • @Teaselpoppy
    @Teaselpoppy 4 года назад +129

    I needed this. I'm 42 and started a relationship with a 28 year old. I have anxieties about the age gap. The things you mentioned put me at ease. Thank you.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +5

      You are so welcome Lazydaisy! 🙏

    • @borboletalila
      @borboletalila 2 года назад +9

      I’m 43 and my bf is 31.
      … so far it’s working despite things like
      He wants to have a lot of kids and thought at the beginining that I couldn’t 😱 of course I can

    • @lovereachable
      @lovereachable 2 года назад

      Good good : )

    • @istarhabeen
      @istarhabeen 4 дня назад

      ​@@borboletaliladid you have any kids for him?

    • @borboletalila
      @borboletalila 4 дня назад

      @@istarhabeen he's still out of the country so it hasn't happened yet.

  • @lottiecaldwell8627
    @lottiecaldwell8627 2 года назад +58

    My partner is 25 years younger. It was only meant to be a summer fling but here we are 8 years later and planning to marry next year. We are crazy about each other, lovers, best friends and partners in crime. I didn't have much when we met as I'd been a single mum for years, so he definitely wasn't after my money! He has never wanted kids so that made it easier. I do sometimes worry about the future but he just says that no couple knows what the future looks like and whatever challenges come along we'll face them together. We rarely think about the age gap and our friends and family are so used to us being a couple they forget about it too. Don't know why there's so much hate online about AG relationships.

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 года назад

      Lottie are you still dating him?

    • @lottiecaldwell8627
      @lottiecaldwell8627 2 года назад +7

      @@marincuculic1020 Yes, getting married in September and happier than ever!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад +5

      AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! Congratulations! ❤️❤️

    • @lottiecaldwell8627
      @lottiecaldwell8627 Год назад +10

      @@Mat_Shaffer And he's now my husband 😊

    • @mese4584
      @mese4584 Месяц назад

      @@lottiecaldwell8627thanks you so much for sharing your story ! 🎉❤

  • @SublimeLullaby
    @SublimeLullaby 4 года назад +427

    I’ve always attracted younger dudes... they make me laugh 😆

  • @chrissyw.7500
    @chrissyw.7500 4 года назад +86

    Hi Mat! You have become my favorite relationship coach by FAR! I just wanted to say that I have recently started dating a man 24 years younger than me and at 1st I was a little bit terrified, but he is SO proud of me, has already told his mother and all his friends about me. I have never felt so ADORED by a man and I cant help but surrender to the wonderful way I feel when I'm with him...almost like my first high school crush! I going for it, Im all in and wherever it goes, I'm going to have FUN the whole way!! I deserve it!!!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +5

      You absolutely do!! So happy for you!

    • @lioydwilliams1850
      @lioydwilliams1850 3 года назад +1

      Chrissy Weihrauch,hope he treats you well

    • @andrealouisabasile8529
      @andrealouisabasile8529 3 года назад +7

      I will be 52 next month and just had my first date with a 27-year-old… We will be going out again… So happy for you!

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 года назад +2

      HELLO beautiful Queen How are you single man no kids looking for one Seriously. 24 years old. For me age is a number

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 года назад +1

      Hi Chrissy :) Are you still dating him?

  • @sonyacurti
    @sonyacurti Год назад +38

    I'm 56 and he's 27 and it freaks me out because I'm attracted to him and we work together. This feels insane to me but yet wildly intriguing lol!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад +2

      I appreciate your opinion on this!

    • @jasminebarnes5650
      @jasminebarnes5650 Год назад +2

      And you just can’t get enough girl I’m there with u

    • @dezz238
      @dezz238 6 месяцев назад +2

      Yes 🙌

  • @sm.441
    @sm.441 2 года назад +37

    My girlfriend is 25 I'm 21, we've bonded like no one I've ever met before. I am planning to marry her someday.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 года назад

      AMAZING! Love blossoms at all ages!

    • @ReliancePraiseSquare
      @ReliancePraiseSquare 3 месяца назад +3

      its bn two years, are you married to her? please keep us updated

    • @JKNat9004
      @JKNat9004 3 месяца назад +2

      4 years isn't a big age difference. Even 10 years isn't a big age difference if you're both over 30. However an age difference where the one person is of the same generation as the other's parents, that's where it gets cringe worthy.

    • @DeliaHerz
      @DeliaHerz 3 месяца назад

      At that age it feels like a pretty big difference ​@@JKNat9004

  • @TigerLilyNo13
    @TigerLilyNo13 2 года назад +19

    I’m dating someone 22 years longer and he’s the love of my life. It’s beautiful and special. Live your life and let go of what other people think!

    • @TigerLilyNo13
      @TigerLilyNo13 2 года назад +3

      Haha update: found out he was playing me. BE CAREFUL LADIES!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 года назад

      good catch my dear!

    • @lesliestewart6239
      @lesliestewart6239 6 месяцев назад

      how was he playing you @@TigerLilyNo13

  • @heathertaylor4979
    @heathertaylor4979 2 года назад +22

    Agree with everything you just said. My live in caregiver for my husband of 2 years passed and he remained in my home as a renter. He approached me with his feelings for me and I thought he was nuts! He is 39 and I am 71! A month ago I realized we have developed a strong friendship and compassion so took the step romantically. All I can say as he has taught me more then I have about being happy again.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 года назад +2

      so sweet thanks for sharing! its a great connection :)

    • @oak1day
      @oak1day Год назад +4

      Just turned 68 and he won't be 40 til September, over here! In fact, he said 40 at first because he knew that'd give him a fighting chance. Am I ever glad I did! The Universe has reminded me how it feels when two people are head over heels and too, that every man hasn't fallen for all society's messaging.🎉❤ I feel so seen and loved.

    • @ASMRyouVEGANyet
      @ASMRyouVEGANyet 11 месяцев назад +2

      Be careful that he's not looking at the widower inheritance money. It happens a lot.

  • @dawnandrews8255
    @dawnandrews8255 3 года назад +105

    I'm 47 and my sweetie is 24... the sex and laughter are sooo refreshing after 2yrs with a emotionally unavailable 48yr old man

    • @sarahmk2966
      @sarahmk2966 2 года назад +1

      Do you look 20s though?

    • @louisaatje
      @louisaatje 2 года назад +2

      Yessssss💚🙌🌟 love it!!!

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 года назад +1

      Are you still together?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 месяцев назад

      It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

    • @Gurlbyetalli
      @Gurlbyetalli 6 месяцев назад

      yep u said it !

  • @Meli91972
    @Meli91972 4 года назад +106

    I'm shocked by the comments! Reading about women dating men 20 years younger than they are... When I spent 2 years wondering about if I should give a chance to a guy 6 years younger than me. Anyway, interesting video :) Thanks

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +2

      You are so welcome Sweet Mélanie! 🙏

    • @raye2920
      @raye2920 4 года назад +2

      Me I turned 23rd yesterday then for him, he's turning 21st in November

    • @halimaalidrissi568
      @halimaalidrissi568 2 года назад

      sameeee hahahahaha

    • @keikei1943
      @keikei1943 2 года назад +2

      Tbh 6 years is not bad, it's like you guys maturity level is the same👌🏾

    • @courtneyjames8223
      @courtneyjames8223 2 года назад

      Lmfao me two 😂

  • @joy_villa
    @joy_villa 4 года назад +86

    I just got divorced (amicable) form a man 21 years older...and now I'm dating a man 10 years younger! (it's brand new) I'm so into these beautiful, sweet, fresh younger men. I have a few I'm seeing, they ARE men, ladies, just younger. Many of them are serious and capable, don't write them off!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +4

      very wise words!!

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 года назад

      HELLO beautiful Queen How are you single man no kids looking for one Seriously.

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 года назад

      HELLO beautiful Queen How are you. Singel man no kids looking for one Seriously

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 года назад

      Joy you look so charming :) Are you single?

  • @maryjanewesterlund9958
    @maryjanewesterlund9958 Год назад +22

    Thank you.
    The biggest problem is dealing with perceptions of friends and family.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад

      You're welcome.

    • @boomersD9CAT
      @boomersD9CAT Год назад +2

      I divorced at 30 years old, and around a year later I met a lovely woman who was 42 years old. We both caught a lot of grief from family members who disapproved of our relationship. She had 2 grandchildren, and I had a 5 year old son. Her daughters stopped talking to her, and I had family members giving me a hard time. The pressure from both sides took a toll on the relationship , and we both agreed to part ways after a year together.

    • @maryjanewesterlund9958
      @maryjanewesterlund9958 Год назад +1

      @@boomersD9CAT THAT is sad! I’m so sorry.

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 Год назад +1

      Mary Jane, are you single?

    • @kahalacromwell9741
      @kahalacromwell9741 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@boomersD9CAT so sad to hear this.

  • @DeirdreMFox
    @DeirdreMFox Год назад +9

    Im 61 and he's 29 going on 4 yrs together. Love him so much , everything you said here is spot on. Mine although young has had a lot of trauma but he rises above.

  • @ciggytwiggy
    @ciggytwiggy 4 года назад +20

    I'm 32 this year and connecting with a 28..meeting him soon. I've been going out with men older than me but so far he's the only one who can really communicate clearly. Interesting.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  7 месяцев назад

      Thanks for sharing!

    • @borboletalila
      @borboletalila 4 дня назад

      haha I dont even think 4 years less qualifies as younger men anymore, for real

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      @rosamarks5359 4 года назад

      Thank You

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      @nishatluna2602 4 года назад

      I am not able to connect with you through zoom apps. It is confusing me. Is there any shortcut way to connect with you Shafer? I am eager to know please help me to reach you directly.

    • @sharonjohns1686
      @sharonjohns1686 4 года назад

      Matt I applied many times and even emailed you after you suggested I email. No response! Not sure why

    • @rosamarks5359
      @rosamarks5359 4 года назад

      HAPPY NEW YEAR
      MATT

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +1

      you will be a part of the course!

  • @dawnstonerock4253
    @dawnstonerock4253 4 месяца назад +2

    I’m glad I found this. I’m crazy about a younger man. Everyone says no he’ll just break your heart. ♥️ Last guy I dated was the oldest and the least mature! He looked great on paper but he was so mean spirited.
    I’m willing to take it slow and see where this new one goes. The chemistry is fabulous.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 месяца назад

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @michaelfreydberg4619
    @michaelfreydberg4619 4 месяца назад +3

    💯 what you said in beginning. I’m a man who never wanted kids, and I like women who are older than myself, who never had kids.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 месяца назад +1

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @ccjones813
    @ccjones813 3 года назад +20

    I needed this today!! I’m head over heals about this guy that’s 33 & I’m 53,, no one understands!! My heart is so full of love for him! It’s not just a thing it’s been 8 months an my feeling haven’t changed at all! We’ve been together twice an it was beautiful! Trouble is I believe he’s fighting his feelings for me! I could be wrong but that’s what I feel with all my soul! I adore him and then I think rationally,,, what’s our future really?? Where could this actually go from here? My heart broken

    • @MonicaSancio
      @MonicaSancio 2 года назад

      You've been together twice in 8 months? Anyway, enjoy & go with Matt's teachings!

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 года назад

      CC Jones you are so charming :) Are you single at the moment?

    • @HunterJohnson77
      @HunterJohnson77 Год назад +6

      My wife is 20 years older than me, best woman I've ever been with.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  11 месяцев назад +1

      Thanks for sharing

    • @merilyngeographia9212
      @merilyngeographia9212 8 месяцев назад +1

      Enjoy reading the comments here nd listening as well to you Mr. Matt.This is such a relaxing topic. Thanks for this.🙂🙂🙂

  • @kikitaube-hansen
    @kikitaube-hansen 3 месяца назад +2

    Number 4 is absolutly right. We give each other knowledge on everything. I´´
    ll miss him some day because the gap is high. but it´´ll be one of the best times in my life.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 месяца назад

      Amazing! love hearing that!

  • @morningstar-go3jf
    @morningstar-go3jf 3 месяца назад +2

    i'm glad i stumbled over this video and read the comments. me and my boyfriend started as friends. it's been 5 years (i'm 30 now, he's 25) and he's talking about marriage and kids. i needed some advice from people who have been there ( i'm expecting backlash from both our families). and i realise now how lucky i am to find love and friendship in the same person.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 месяца назад

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @spotsandme1968
    @spotsandme1968 2 года назад +32

    I needed to see this! I've just met this wonderful young man in his 30's (I'm 53) and he's fun, upbeat and very positive! So refreshing. There's a mutual attraction and we enjoy similar things, (like playing online MMORPG games, like Sci Fi, Anime, etc. (we're both geeks!) I'm looking for someone to do fun things with, and enjoy the good things in life. He makes me feel great! He's youthful, full of energy and ambitious. It's wonderful to meet someone not burdened from the harder experiences of life. I've been pretty much on my own for 12 years after the passing of my husband and he's the first fellow I've met that I can be completely myself. :) That question about whether he'd want to have a family (kids) in the future did go through my mind, but if this connection gets more serious, I will ask him about it. But for now, I just want to enjoy his company. :)

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 года назад +1

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @genevalivingstone1929
    @genevalivingstone1929 4 года назад +23

    So true Dr.Love!!!....
    Love my younger guy to bits and I have learned sooooooo much from him. We do have a huge strength...he's a man man and I get to just lean back. We definitely have that dance down pat.
    I think what he looooovvvveeeesssss the most about me I just let him be him. I recognize the particular stage of life he's in so he has AMPLE room to grow and stretch....which makes it very interesting because I just let him come to me when he can.
    This may seen like a terrible thing to do but autonomy is something no one seems to remember about and since he gets that freedom with me I see not only the strength of his best self but I also see the other sides of his prism..
    It makes me love him more and also I found it creates a stronger connection...

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +2

      YESS beautiful share :) haha doctor love, LOVE IT ;)

    • @MonicaSancio
      @MonicaSancio 2 года назад

      Very interesting indeed about letting him come to you when he can... Similar to how I think... Yet do you keep your options open?

    • @genevalivingstone1929
      @genevalivingstone1929 2 года назад

      @@MonicaSancio nope...I enjoyed our relationship and stayed dedicated to him because that's what I wanted...
      If you find yourself needing to have options open then just date till you find what you want...💙💙💙

  • @labroussic
    @labroussic 3 года назад +22

    I couldn't agree more with you, Mat....more particularly about point 4, I had a relationship with a man 28 years younger than me and I learned so much from him! He had an impressive knowledge and culture, it was a pleasure discovering things I didn't know in arts, science, tourism etc. I often told him how much I admired him for that (and it made him very proud, of course 😊).

    • @labroussic
      @labroussic 2 года назад

      @Marin Cuculic thank you 😊 No, right now, no....Are you interested ? 😁😎

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 года назад

      @@labroussic Hi :) I thought you are still dating him. :) How are you? I hope we can have a chat :)

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 месяцев назад +1

      I’m glad to hear everything worked out well.

  • @Balou16
    @Balou16 8 месяцев назад +6

    I am 46 he is 32 and our relationship is great. The best I've ever had. And despite the age difference, we are very similar and want the same thing. Remember that no relationship is perfect, everyone struggles with theirs, so age shouldn't matter. Thanks for your video, I'm a fan ❤️

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 месяцев назад +1

      Thanks for sharing! 🥰

  • @joleenfelio-pettit2813
    @joleenfelio-pettit2813 4 года назад +94

    OK Mat... this is actually rather funny. All the things you listed off as to what a younger man can teach you, is EXACTLY why i prefer a younger man. To me i have a better connection to them then i do older men or men my age. Their energy level, their playfulness, the way they view things...i just find that i can feel free to be me without worrying about being told I'm too old to be acting that way or too old to enjoy my life and the spontaneous things that cross my mind that i do. If I decided to have a water gun fight with my guy then he's down for it... an older guy not so much. I get met with a grumpy fest over it. I may be 45 but my mindset still likes to play in my early 20s. 🤷🏻 lol ❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +7

      YESS love hearing this! so glad this landed with you adn appreciate the share - its a great dynamic! :)

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 года назад

      M. Jolean,you are absolutely gorgeous ❤💓❤🌹and I will be glad to know you

    • @tee4303
      @tee4303 3 года назад +2

      I love this😌🙌🥰 yassss!! Hehe

    • @user-nr9yu3zj4x
      @user-nr9yu3zj4x 2 года назад

      What you think about a 34 years old guy?

    • @jamesjones2530
      @jamesjones2530 2 года назад

      Hello

  • @Mat_Shaffer
    @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +4

    QUESTION OF THE DAY - what is the biggest thing YOU have learned in dating younger men? Or that you're curious about?

    • @MsDesiree39
      @MsDesiree39 4 года назад +2

      Great video at a great time! I've learned to be more playful again. I've finally gotten over my hesitancy about dating or even showing interest in dating younger men and learned to see the individual for the man that he is and to be open to the live he wants to give and the relationship we may form. My mother thinks I should focus on age appropriate men but I am rather young looking for my age thx to her...lol. So I'll just see where things go

    • @lisaquinlan1292
      @lisaquinlan1292 4 года назад +2

      Mat Shaffer Feeling frustrated. Moby Dick was easier for Ahab to find than for me to find a nice younger man! I prefer a younger man... Guys my age and older aren’t as spontaneous, fun, stuck in their ways. So where are they?

    • @tinadavis7742
      @tinadavis7742 4 года назад +3

      No matter how much younger guys like older women.they always have a young woman on the side. They fall in love with older woman they are in lust with younger women.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +2

      love it ladies thank you for these shares!

  • @cherylledbetter5909
    @cherylledbetter5909 4 года назад +25

    I’ve had a young man pursuing me for a couple of years. I keep pushing him away. I’ve decided to not push him away again and just see what happens.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +6

      good luck let us know hw it goes!

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 года назад

      Cheryl Ledbetter, you're absolutely gorgeous ❤💓❤and I will be glad to know you

    • @WanderingExistence
      @WanderingExistence 3 года назад +2

      @Marin Cuculic Look at this thirst... go grab some water, buddy, your chances of meeting someone off youtube are slim, and more than likely; none.

    • @WanderingExistence
      @WanderingExistence 3 года назад +1

      @Marin Cuculic Yeah, cuz I'm not trying to chat up vague YT profiles, I like the lady I am currently seeing. Good luck with your recycled "charming" line, I guess.

    • @WanderingExistence
      @WanderingExistence 3 года назад +1

      @Marin Cuculic She's older than me... So that why I watched this vid. I commented because I think your "charming" line is cheesey when its so shallow.... Just seems so thirsty. But hey, do you, bud.

  • @78beckyboo
    @78beckyboo 3 года назад +18

    He's 35 and I'm turning 43 it's just been casual but the goal for me is to go out on dates and see if there is compatibility that can develop... I don't want it to continue where I develop feelings and then he's found someone else to be in a relationship with. Been down that path way too many times

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 года назад +2

      Are you still dating him? :)

    • @trinityp8575
      @trinityp8575 11 месяцев назад +1

      I am 40 and he is 32 and the longer it went the more feelings we got for each other. It’s been almost 2 years now. But… I worry for later in years… because I would be much more comfortable if it was on reverse 🤣

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 месяцев назад +1

      I promise there are good guys out there my dear!

    • @gr122
      @gr122 3 месяца назад

      @@trinityp8575 you should worry, because sooner or later he will be checking out the younger ones

  • @kelly51757
    @kelly51757 4 года назад +50

    I’m happily married to a younger man 8 yrs younger than me but before him during my single yrs mostly my suitors were younger men😄 . I never dated a divorced man with kids specially older than me because i don’t want to have competition and usually they look much older than me 😂😂

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +3

      beautiful share love it!!

    • @trinityp8575
      @trinityp8575 11 месяцев назад

      Do you look older than him? I have the same age difference with my bf & although it’s doesn’t look it right now I worry for the future …

  • @basilbazo9775
    @basilbazo9775 Год назад +13

    Thanks Matt. I really feel more comfortable around older ladies. i've tried dating younger girls but it just doesn't work for me. I really feel relieved after watching a couple of your videos.

  • @iamsdaughter
    @iamsdaughter 4 года назад +31

    I met a younger man.. He's 27 I'm 47..wow..he is amazing.. Thankyou.. This is so encouraging

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +3

      amazing congrats!!! whats your fav part of dating a younger guy?

    • @iamsdaughter
      @iamsdaughter 4 года назад +10

      @@Mat_Shaffer well this younger guy is very mature in his thinking.. And he doesn't have baggage from past.. He's understanding.. He listens he likes to spend consistent time with me, he doesn't want children but wants to travel the same as me.. He's a man that knows what he wants.. He has good goals and he is a man that makes me feel safe.. I know that older men can be like this too... But I've not found any.

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 4 года назад +1

      @@iamsdaughter you're so beautiful ❤💓❤❤🌹and I will be glad to know you

    • @iamsdaughter
      @iamsdaughter 4 года назад +3

      @Marin Cuculić you say this to lots of women.. I seen on your channel 🙄😁

    • @MonicaSancio
      @MonicaSancio 2 года назад

      @@iamsdaughter Congrats, I love what you say, and I love that he spends consistent time with you!

  • @juliacherny7560
    @juliacherny7560 3 года назад +17

    Your voice so warm and full of love it moved me into tears

  • @rondamcdowell9228
    @rondamcdowell9228 4 года назад +18

    I Really needed this talk : I adore and have a very exciting physical relationship with a younger man. But want to not get hopes up for long term yet open to & enjoy each moment with.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +3

      YES be present and see what happens!

  • @denswafrance8666
    @denswafrance8666 3 года назад +23

    I needed to hear this.. Thank you what a relief. I was so worried about 2 year difference

    • @MsParisiandoll
      @MsParisiandoll 2 года назад +2

      So did I ! I feel way better ! Especially since he also looks older than me

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 месяцев назад +1

      Be careful with your beliefs! They create your reality.

  • @maylapsley6188
    @maylapsley6188 4 года назад +54

    Wow you picked every fear of mine ha I seem to attract a lot of younger men and have always distanced myself. Thanks Mat.

  • @wrightleila21
    @wrightleila21 2 дня назад

    He just described my current relationship with my younger man. I feel so much better. Countless thanks!

  • @jesssm2289
    @jesssm2289 4 года назад +61

    Thank you so much. My boyfriend is 22 Iam 31 and we love each other so much.it started like friendship now we are so so happy. And people say we are the same age 😄

    • @vivaeuropa
      @vivaeuropa 3 года назад +6

      How'd you guys meet and do you want kids?

    • @wisdomphiko7525
      @wisdomphiko7525 2 года назад +2

      OMG am even afraid his 22 am 27 already trying to stop it cause in African culture I'll be seen as a devil but he loves me I don't know whether to stick to it or

    • @allanacumberbatch9476
      @allanacumberbatch9476 Год назад

      @@wisdomphiko7525 how did it work out?

    • @wisdomphiko7525
      @wisdomphiko7525 Год назад

      @@allanacumberbatch9476 unfortunately we broke up

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 месяцев назад

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @shannoncoffman8854
    @shannoncoffman8854 2 года назад +14

    I am in a relationship with a man 12 years younger. The perspective of this video is very true in my experience. Going over 1 year. Not sure how long it will last, but who cares. I let go and we just have a good time loving and caring for one another one day at a time!

  • @WeLoveMeals
    @WeLoveMeals 5 месяцев назад +2

    My partner is 9-years younger and we are crazy about each other 😊❤ Hands down the BEST relationship I’ve ever had.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 месяцев назад

      That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @kahalacromwell9741
    @kahalacromwell9741 5 месяцев назад +1

    Grateful to read the comments here. I have been seeing a younger man who is 22 Yrs younger than I am off and on for 3 years….i was concerned about the age gap but after reading the comments here, I feel a lot better. We just have this attraction to each other and have learned to accept that age, height, status doesn’t matter. Life is short, been married 2x’s had my heartbroken, and admit friends have criticized me for only being with younger men. The youngest guy I was ever with was 38 Yrs yet I wasn’t looking for a long term relationship with him. After being treated badly by the ex hubbies I had, I am happy that the guy I now see said “age is just a number & I am attracted to you” that I gave him a chance. No relationship is perfect but I encourage everyone to be open to guys who are younger, because age is just a number. Bless all of you here.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 месяцев назад

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @meganwildhood3893
    @meganwildhood3893 4 года назад +29

    Is it common for younger men to want older women, though? How would you feel about doing a video about why it might be good for men to date older women - not necessarily for men, but to encourage older women?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +9

      great suggestion my dear! I am definitely encouraging older women to connect with younger men with these kind of videos... directly and indirectly :)

    • @williamhendricks3935
      @williamhendricks3935 4 года назад +11

      But I'm attracted to older women

    • @meganwildhood3893
      @meganwildhood3893 4 года назад +4

      @@williamhendricks3935 you're a rare bird from what I know! :)

    • @williamhendricks3935
      @williamhendricks3935 4 года назад +15

      @@meganwildhood3893 no there are many guys who loves older women

    • @williamhendricks3935
      @williamhendricks3935 4 года назад +7

      @@meganwildhood3893 I'm looking for an older women as my life partner

  • @julietafernandes6549
    @julietafernandes6549 6 месяцев назад +4

    Wow.. Didn't know i would fall in love wirh your content and change my perspective in this aspect so instantly as this ia the first video in watching of yours and ive already hit thw subscribe button too😄 thank you so much dear. This is the video i really needed... ❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 месяцев назад

      thanks for that beautiful feedback Julieta! Welcome to the community :)

  • @chrissledge3740
    @chrissledge3740 4 месяца назад +1

    Im 73 and he is 62 and we are very physical and he teaches me too

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 месяца назад

      I’m glad to hear everything worked out well.

  • @daleduncan5080
    @daleduncan5080 7 месяцев назад +2

    I’m 59 and have been dating a 47 year old for 1.5 yrs. It’s going great!
    My second husband was 7 yrs younger than me as well.

  • @sissel5369
    @sissel5369 Год назад +4

    I love the energy of younger men, the openness, they are curious about a lot of things and they truly WANT to know how things work, how I work, what I feel and like and they have this willingness. Guys around my age (35+) is, in comparison and generally speaking, lazy and they just fall into old habits of doing things. Since dating younger men I find it really hard to even be attracted to men around my own age, they do not excite me even the slightest most of the time🤭
    And most of my insecurities about how I am or how my body looks, after having two kids, is just what the younger men love so I’m learning to a appreciate and owning my body just as it is and I’m truly grateful for it💛

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад

      That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @leilajoang
    @leilajoang 2 года назад +10

    I'm in a relationship with a man who's 29 and I'm 48 it's refreshing in a lot of ways

    • @tinadraper9143
      @tinadraper9143 2 года назад

      For how long? I'm being asked out by a 30 year old and I'm 48 wondering why he wants to go out with me so bad and could it even work?

    • @leilajoang
      @leilajoang 2 года назад +1

      @@tinadraper9143 why wouldn't he? People can't tell ages anymore. We broke up after a year and a half but my ex before was 24 and I was 42. We lived together for 2 years, he wanted to get engaged I didn't.
      Stop doubting yourself

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 года назад

      Leila you are so charming :) Are you still dating?

    • @leilajoang
      @leilajoang 2 года назад

      @@marincuculic1020 no. Ive been single since dec. Thamk you!

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 года назад

      @@leilajoang Oh well I just wanted to say you look very charming in your photo. :) I am Marin and I'm 28. Really hope we could maybe chat. :)

  • @2ndChanceAtLife
    @2ndChanceAtLife Год назад +2

    This gives me hope.
    My 62, his 40. Quite a span, and both of us have baggage, just different types.
    His kids (one disabled) demand all of his time right now. Praying that after we are able to live in closer proximity, things will naturally fall into place.

  • @user-hv7dy7jp5q
    @user-hv7dy7jp5q 4 месяца назад +1

    Thank you for informance on dating a younger man

  • @mariecait
    @mariecait 3 года назад +7

    i’m 10 years older than my current partner. he treats me better than any ex. i’m 32 he’s 22. i love him

    • @lifewiththedeans9493
      @lifewiththedeans9493 2 года назад +2

      I got company I was worried 🤣 I'm happy with him

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 года назад

      @@lifewiththedeans9493 single no kids looking for one Seriously . Hello beautiful How are you

    • @lifewiththedeans9493
      @lifewiththedeans9493 2 года назад

      @@pleasuretube2132 hey you will find someone at the right time 🤞🤞

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 года назад

      @@lifewiththedeans9493 are you single dear?

    • @pleasuretube2132
      @pleasuretube2132 2 года назад

      @@lifewiththedeans9493 I m ready for a good relationship

  • @victoriahsieh3896
    @victoriahsieh3896 4 года назад +9

    Great video, Mat. Thank you! I met a younger man 3 months ago for work. I felt like we hit it off from the first time we met. He is fun to be with. I do feel younger. But the fact that he is HR is unsettling. I typically keep HR at arm's length. And head hunters usually do not care to get to know me, but he seems to be interested in knowing what is going on in my life. I sense that he is a major flirt and he knows he is attractive. So I am taking it slow. I do not share much and I am friendly, but not coming on strong. I need to see if he is worth my affection or if he is just a fun work friend. It could get complicated mixing work with pleasure. I am not sure what to do.

    • @Sindi63084
      @Sindi63084 4 года назад +1

      If in doubt do nothing 😅

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +2

      sounds like a fun opportunity to practice flirting and being in your feminine! dont overthink it :)

    • @victoriahsieh3896
      @victoriahsieh3896 2 года назад

      @Marin Cuculic He is still in my life. We talk less often. I think he still wants to get to know me though. He knows that I welcome his honesty and he can be more himself with me.

    • @victoriahsieh3896
      @victoriahsieh3896 2 года назад

      @Marin Cuculic Sorry for not replying sooner, got busy. If you only want to chat because of my age, then I have to decline. I do not choose people solely based on age. It would feel too contrived or calculated for me. It is just as odd as someone being intimidated because of my age. Thank you, but no. I hope you find what you seek.

    • @victoriahsieh3896
      @victoriahsieh3896 2 года назад

      @Marin Cuculic I appreciate your honesty. My decision is still the same. I want to focus my energies and time on myself and my family, especially during this pandemic. I need to be more mindful of me. Please accept my apology. I want to be fully present for my family right now. I take my responsibilities seriously.

  • @meredithdelee7786
    @meredithdelee7786 22 дня назад

    I agree with absolutely everything in this video! I’m 48 and he’s 30. It started as primarily sex but now we’re in a serious committed relationship. He has even started talking about marriage. I think it’s been a great balance I think we learn from each other. I think it’s a very healthy relationship. ❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  20 дней назад

      You’re lighting up the comments section! Thanks for being awesome. 💖

  • @karenoyama8950
    @karenoyama8950 6 месяцев назад +1

    I love this subject. I started out in a casual relationship with a much younger man, and it is definitely blossoming into something much deeper.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 месяцев назад

      Amazing my dear so so happy for you!

  • @Akraven5235
    @Akraven5235 4 года назад +14

    Oh man! That’s beautiful! Learning to play again!

  • @Melly16yr10
    @Melly16yr10 3 года назад +23

    The thing with older guys is true. I went to a social group not dating one and all the older guys I spoke to had a lot of emotional baggage and story's on how they were played. Very uncomfortable to be honest also I was the youngest one there.

    • @user-nr9yu3zj4x
      @user-nr9yu3zj4x 2 года назад

      What you think about a 34 years old?

    • @Melly16yr10
      @Melly16yr10 2 года назад

      @@user-nr9yu3zj4x Can't really say I don't encounter them often. I live in an area with a lot of young family's and people who are retired.

    • @user-nr9yu3zj4x
      @user-nr9yu3zj4x 2 года назад

      @@Melly16yr10 well I was talking about whether you'd like to hang out with me

    • @user-nr9yu3zj4x
      @user-nr9yu3zj4x 2 года назад

      @@Melly16yr10 I'm 34 and I love older women

    • @marincuculic1020
      @marincuculic1020 2 года назад

      Hi Rose :) Are you single maybe?

  • @TheAngelChristine
    @TheAngelChristine 2 месяца назад +1

    this advice is so good! made me think

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 месяца назад +1

      I’m happy this resonated with you!

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  • @lt4568
    @lt4568 10 дней назад

    I started seeing a 34 year old (I just turned 63) 3 months ago- we talk/text daily and he comes over every 3-4 days- you are so RIGHT! He has taught me to be present, not so rigid and judgmental- he leads in the bedroom and I lay back in my feminine energy- Ladies, if you’re considering a lover or relationship- let go of your inhibitions- you won’t regret it

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  9 дней назад

      Thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts! So happy this hit the spot for you. 😉

  • @nubiandoll7
    @nubiandoll7 2 года назад +6

    I agree with everything said in the video. I met an older guy from dating app whos 28 he was he was still dealing with a recent break up with a ex of 5 years. He kept bragging about how difficult it is and how’s he emotionally unavailable.

  • @jilliann.5728
    @jilliann.5728 4 года назад +9

    Thank you for your insight, Mat, excellent and thought provoking as always!! Just one small quibble:
    "....sometimes casual connection can lead to something deeper." Sure, though the keyword there is "sometimes." Not to be a party pooper, but don't count on it. That's the exception, not the rule.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 года назад +2

      great point my dear :) definitely not something to count on, OR dismiss! we get to stay present to all possibilities and grounded in trusting ourselves and our discernment!

    • @heatherfoss5106
      @heatherfoss5106 2 года назад +1

      I agree with Jillian.

  • @krisztinabencze4726
    @krisztinabencze4726 28 дней назад

    I am dating with someone 12 years younger than me and everything works wonderfully between us, not only the chemistry, but also the balance of power between men and women.. we are balanced, we joke a lot, we have a lot of joint programs, he gets along well with my teen children!! I learn a lot from him, he is very open, he supports me in everything and what is wonderful is that he truly and honestly admires me and loves. I was afraid in the beginning..but already not.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  27 дней назад

      You’re fabulous! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and spreading the love. 💖

  • @bintaabubakar1796
    @bintaabubakar1796 5 месяцев назад +1

    Thank u so much for this video iI feel at ease being in relationship with a younger man .

  • @truelovealchemy
    @truelovealchemy 2 года назад +4

    Hi Matt, can you share or perhaps do a video on how to respond when a younger man asks you out and how or when to talk about the age difference please? I often have to repress laughing out loud because it catches me off guard. Your feedback would be so appreciated! 🙏🏻

  • @julietamoroso3175
    @julietamoroso3175 4 года назад +7

    Ur video really helps alot to boost my confidence...Now i feel more relax dating my young bf

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  7 месяцев назад

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @m.divine1770
    @m.divine1770 5 месяцев назад +1

    This message is so inspirational, thank you. Spirit is introducing me very soon to my younger Kingdom spouse and I confess I have a bit of concern about our significant age difference and will keep this information in mind.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 месяцев назад +1

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @smarternow
    @smarternow 10 месяцев назад +1

    Very nervous about dating a man in his 50’s and I am in my 60’s. I am in shape and ready to date. We have a lot in common.
    Flirting right now and my heart is racing. After back and forth I asked him to go for a walk on this beautiful trail or coffee as he doesn’t drink. No answer. So, I did my own thing for 3 months. I had to reconnect for a job and did so reluctantly. Sparks are flying but nothing as far as a date! Maybe he just likes flirting, smiling and joking…hard to read him. He said it is great to see you.

  • @christytuttle5590
    @christytuttle5590 Год назад +7

    I'll be 62, he will be 44. Our sexual-ship, high sex drive matches. Going on 15 months. Not dating, but that's what we agreed on in the beginning.
    So far, so good!
    Those limiting beliefs creep in at times, insecure thoughts and feelings.
    With being intimate, those feelings are real and an emotional connection has developed, even though he hides it. Not me...that's the part where he says, he doesn't want to hurt me. Well, I don't want to hurt him either.
    I take care of me and my home along with other things that go along with being a homeowner. Him too.
    So be it! And, so it is!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  Год назад

      Thank you for sharing! I appreciate it!

  • @SublimeLullaby
    @SublimeLullaby 4 года назад +19

    I’m into a guy 20 yr younger n he’s sweet 💜

  • @ParisTNT
    @ParisTNT 4 месяца назад +1

    Great video :)

  • @rosalotts
    @rosalotts 3 месяца назад

    I’ve just had a one year relationship with a man 23 years younger than me. It’s the best relationship I’ve ever had. I’ve never experienced so much affection and happiness. I’m the first long term relationship he’s had and I knew it couldn’t last. I’m struggling now with him not being around but I know I need to let go so he can go and live his life. I’m glad I had that amazing year with him.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  3 месяца назад +1

      It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new

  • @debrabryant6196
    @debrabryant6196 4 года назад +7

    Amen, brother! They're FUN & interesting... 😉

  • @ilsewenzel9046
    @ilsewenzel9046 3 года назад +5

    We're older. I am almost 75 and he will be 68 this year. One of the things he told me younger women only want sex or to use him. We have fallen in love, he wants to get married and I am hesitant and told him we'll know when the time is right. He is very independent and so am I

    • @MonicaSancio
      @MonicaSancio 2 года назад +1

      Very inspiring! Marry him!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 месяцев назад

      AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! Congratulations!

  • @rjpoetry3319
    @rjpoetry3319 19 дней назад

    That's like my fiance and me! I am 41 and he is almost 24! I thought that he was too young so ignored his reply at first. But now it's refreshing. ❤🎉❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  18 дней назад

      You’re fabulous! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and spreading the love. 💖

  • @Queenbelieveit
    @Queenbelieveit 5 месяцев назад +1

    I actually like this guy who is 5 yrs younger than me. I thought we were the same age. But connection is connected. I will still date until I get a set date from my future husband.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 месяцев назад

      Interesting perspective, thanks so much!

  • @antoinettefernandes8133
    @antoinettefernandes8133 4 года назад +32

    I always seem to attract younger men... this was really interesting Mat 🙂

  • @lovereachable
    @lovereachable 2 года назад +5

    That's so true. So many older men have a baggage. Everything you said is so accurate.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  2 года назад +1

      So glad my content supports you :)

  • @Autumn_Forest_
    @Autumn_Forest_ 5 месяцев назад +1

    SPOT ON!!! My bf is 12.5 years younger, and I’ve found all of these points to be true! I actually think he’s the easiest bf I’ve ever had.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 месяцев назад +1

      I’m so happy for you my dear!

  • @susanevans8480
    @susanevans8480 6 месяцев назад +1

    Love a younger man I never wanted this to happen getting sick can't help myself ashame too think about him every sec of the day

  • @melissadickson7819
    @melissadickson7819 4 месяца назад +3

    I just turned 43 years and my husband is turning 27 ,and we are trying to get pregnant with our first child together

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  4 месяца назад

      Amazing! love hearing that!

  • @homewithaheartlastchancere5789
    @homewithaheartlastchancere5789 3 года назад +6

    My partner is 20 i am 45 weve lived together for 2 years now quite happily.

  • @crystaldance5731
    @crystaldance5731 4 месяца назад +1

    Thankyou so much ❤️😘

  • @wendydana8642
    @wendydana8642 5 месяцев назад +1

    You have brought up some excellent points. Thank you for sharing this info!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 месяцев назад

      I’m so glad this helped you!

  • @rosamarks5359
    @rosamarks5359 4 года назад +15

    Great advice for the 35 and up woman

  • @ethelboh377
    @ethelboh377 3 года назад +7

    I've subscribed to online dating just recently out of curiosity. And I wonder why there's a lot of younger handsome men who want to chat with me when there's a lot of younger woman who's more sexy and attractive. Now I know and understand 😚 Thank you Mat Shaffer💖

  • @Sabinejulie21
    @Sabinejulie21 8 месяцев назад +1

    What revelation,i am 64 and going to start a relationship with a 36 year old man,i love him very much ,and he also loves me,we talk about the future,but it is always in the back of my mind that i am so much older,and he always says that age is just a number, so i will dive in because i don’t want to have any regrets to miss out on a great love,i’m going to enjoy him and our relationship.

  • @jillybeanz6204
    @jillybeanz6204 3 месяца назад +1

    I deeply appreciate this discussion. It has let me accept what I truly need. After all the frustrations I have had with dating and marrying older men, I believe I will open myself to dating more younger men. I get plenty of attention from them, I just haven't taken younger men seriously...Sorry about that younger men out there.