I just have to say I'm 15 and have been watching for a while about 2 years and I have learned so much from you and you and select couple others of you tubers haven given alot of valuable information. Alot with my generation is technology driven but I thank technology and information from youtubers like you to teach me so much. Thankyou
I don’t always agree with you politically, but I agree with you 100% here. It is our responsibility as partners to always lift each other up. Great statement. God bless!
Amen! My husband and I made an agreement before our marriage to NEVER speak against each other. It has made such a difference between our relationship and of those couples around us. We have been married for over 37 years. "All things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them."
I did too with mine, we talked.. but he did not and ruined everything. Criticism and disrespect. Lied, head games. I believed him when we talked about not lying and trust. Glad to know some have a good long relationship. I wanted one, but now alone in my 50s.
My step-sister belittled her husband (a dear, sweet man) in FRONT of others! She did it one too many times in front of me, and I (as a strong, Southern woman) put a stop to her flapping tongue! It woke our family up as they all had been too afraid to stand up to her and call her out for what she was doing and why it was wrong! I was a military wife. My husband and I worked as a team and loved as lovers until the day he passed two years ago! 48 years we had together! He was my hero!
You’re a good man. I’m the same way. My wife is a gift and I cherish her. We are one and if I were to talk about her negatively, I am speaking negatively on myself. Much respect for you! God bless and may more men rise up and be godly men and husbands.
Any words of wisdom to a younger man who, out of frustration of witnessed denial/willful ignorance/fear from my better half, have committed treason, largely in parenting, education and money issues? Love her with all my heart, and our kids, and wrestle with issues like love vs. sentiment, capitulation over issues that I truly believe are important, versus “just have fun and make memories”. Some things aren’t so “black and white” in marriage and life.
@@dang5203 I will give you a little of my experience. I’ve been married 18 years and what I found out early on was I needed to turn my expectations into desires. Expectations always led me to a success or failure point. Desires led me to a place where I could see improvement or effort on my wife’s part. When myself and my wife expressed our desires and tried to meet those verses expectations, it was monumental in our success. With parenting and everything you listed. We made poor financial choices, mostly me, because I was trying to meet expectations, which brought on excessive credit card use and things like that. There is a book called (i marriage) and it helped show us the change we needed. Putting God first, each other next, then our children, we have had a great 18 years and counting. I truly see nothing that can separate us. God bless!
Ya'll also need to be aware that there are plenty of truly rotten women out there who actually enjoy creating problems for you, and no amount of patience or diligence will change that. All you can do is learn to spot them and avoid. It can be very hard to tell the difference between an immature women and an evil woman, but there are differences they reveal.
Thank you Cody. As a struggling single 30 year old, you’ve been a great inspiration in so many ways. Wether it’s work ethic, relationships with friends family or just simple tips and tricks; I’ve learned a lot.
clamum I have had this same username since ‘99. Loved the band and also huge fan of the Films and Bam, but that said.. I wish I was spending those valuable years idolizing a man like Cody over them. I’d be in a better spot!
@@masocckyhist132 I like them but don't really care for them since Deron left. He was a key ingredient of their sound. I don't listen to music like I used to but their first 3 albums were awesome. Cheers brotha
I am young, I want to grow up just like him. He is so respectful and a true gentleman. My dad left when I was 11 and I never had a REAL father figure and I am learning from him and I want to be him. Great guy! Bless him and bless you all.
I am extraordinarily grateful for your wisdom! What you just spoke in this video is almost exactly where my wife and I are at this moment and to say the timing is impeccable would be an understatement. Thank you!
@@casualpreparedness2347 It’s the thing that troubles me the most about Donald Trump. How many times has he ripped members of his own team? The list is endless: Jeff Sessions, Gen. Kelly, Rex Tillerson, Mike Pompeo, Bill Barr....
Worse yet, folks *worship* said politicians. So many are fooled and tricked into believing that the sly foxes in most of our government are *not* it for the money, even while they're blatantly selling their votes to the highest bidder. It's inexcusable, and it must stop soon one way or another.
This is exactly how a marriage should work. I'm quite lucky to have a wife who must be very similar his. A united front with your wife/husband is unbelievably important. If you dont have this, you're not with the right person.
So true. My wife and I never make "spouse jokes". It's important to always be supportive of one another. "Watch your thoughts, for they become your words; Watch your words, for they become your actions; Watch your actions, for they become your habits; Watch your habits, for they become your character; Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny" -Lao Tzu
Little foxes that can destroy a relationship. "Jest" is a sharp barb which snags. I hope what you have brought up in this video will help many men and women.
Many times I watch your videos and you remind me of the man that I'm suppose to be. I just want to say thank you. My wife and I got a divorce 4 and a half years ago . Since then we have been working at repairing the broken-ness between us and have never fallen out of love. However, watching this video reminded me of so many times when I could have been more uplifting, encouraging, etc. Thank you so much
Great word...Growing up you would hear "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words may never hurt me." With a spouse there is nothing further from the truth. Proverbs states "death and life is found in the power of the toung...." Each spouse has the power to build up or tear down we need to choose wisely. The rest of it states "....you will eat the fruit from it." Tearing your spouse down with words is not a fruit I want to eat. This goes both ways. Us as husbands need to uplift our wives. Thank you for standing strong for what a Biblical man should be. Thank you for speaking truth....we need more men like you in the world.
I can testify to the truth in what you say. I've been married to the same woman for nearly 41 years; my high school sweet heart. Once again Cody you have hit the nail on the head. GOD has blessed you with wisdom. Being married to a Proverbs 31 woman is such a tremendous blessing!
My father bought me a gift once that was meant for young children (I was in my mid 20s). When he learned that it wasn't what he thought it was he offered to take it back and get me something else. I told him he didn't have to. When he asked why I replied that I was just happy that he thought enough of me to buy me a gift in the first place, what it was didn't really matter that much to me.
@@MisterBoy316 Graciously accepting a compliment is a social skill. It behooves one to learn how to accept compliments. Oh wow! That's a weird word - "behooves" - , isn't it? It sounds like it should mean "too put hooves upon (something)...
Excellent words for all. I have always understood this naturally. I had a poor example of this principle growing up, but have strived for all my life, but may be guilty of to some degree and in need of repenting. Thank you!
This was the theme of our wedding 16 years ago, “A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:12 NLT Me, my wife, and the Almighty-we form a triple braided cord, not easily broken 😁
This is one of the best messagaes I have heard "online" in years. Thank you Cody for bringing this important truth to your audience, and walking in truth is more important now than any other time! God bless you and your family!
My marriage counselor told us before we married "There are no halves in a marriage. You become one and are one. Each of you should give 100% to your marriage. If it were 50/50 and one of you slipped up or both of you slipped up it's impossible to have 100." Marriage is hard, but even more rewarding.
Jeff I don't mean any harm in this comment... I'm 39 and never have been married, nor do I intend to be. However is it common to have a "marriage counselor" before you get married?!? If this is common, it gives me yet one more reason NOT to be married.
@@neb4x4 - a councilor or paster/priest meeting before marriage, can help clarify ea others expectations and common goals, or how committed ea other is to the relationship. Hopefully ea of them listen to what the other is revealing.
@@johnenright4969 premarital counseling is what it was. We did that through our pastor. He doesn't marry you without it. It helps build a foundation for great marriage and communication. It was a good experience
These are wise words, spoken in a spirit of trying to help men and women understand the gift they have been given in marriage. The thing that makes marriage difficult sometimes for each one of us is that it exposes our shortcoming and inabilities, but the beautiful part is that when the man and woman pull together, those shortcomings and inabilities are not only overcome, but we are stronger because of them. I would also like to add that we should have the same attitude toward our children. That trust in a family environment between a parent and child should never be belittle or betrayed. Remember the home is where a child should truly learn what trust is. May God help us all to be the people we need to be for those that love us and depend on us.
I agree with family treason 100% Its so awful to see a wife or a husband openly mock or ridicule their spouse in front of other people. Total lack of respect
I would be less than nothing without my sweet Jenny! We have been married for over 20 years and I am incredibly thankful and blessed 20 times over! Thank you for posting this!!!
This was one of my main problems with past relationships. And something I made sure my wife was ok with and understood was of utmost importance to me. Nobody knows more about our relationship than me and my wife. She doesn’t complain to anyone else and neither do I. Good video
So much wisdom in this video! My wife and I have never had an argument and we plan on keeping it that way! Thank you @Wranglerstar for being a great example the way God intended marriage!
The hardest lesson I ever learned, I was not nice, respectful, caring to my wife. She left 2 years ago for her coworker... who was. Take it from me this stuff matters.
Thank you so much Cody. I am recently engaged and this is so helpful, it’s something that’s so easily looked over but so important. I am so thankful to be marrying my best friend and I am going to talk to my fiancé about this topic! God bless and I’m so excited every time I see a new video from you.
Your wise words make me well up with emotion. You and Mrs W have a one in a million relationship. She is a wonderful woman and the love between you is very evident. Her smile lights up your set, and talking of sets, that lighting is dramatic!
Thank you for sharing this wisdom publicly. It is a truth that people and families need, not in these days, but always. True wisdom is always true regardless of the outside world.
Thank you for voicing this, ... I would never want to be judged for my worst day, and unfortunately, I’ve made the mistake you are speaking about. This is the truth, and there is a great opportunity for all of us to choose to live a better day starting today. This is great shared wisdom.
well said Cody! That is the best advice I haver heard for husbands and wives in a long time. It sows a seed in your heart that if left unchecked can fester into resentment. God bless you and your family brother.
You cannot reason with the communist, but yes, all of We The People who are working to maintain the republic and our freedoms need to be pulling in the same direction, not going off on our own tangents.
This is solid life advice. I think there's a steep learning curve to relationships, and a lot of people don't really know how to do this effectively. Thanks for sharing. I sincerely appreciate watching your channel.
Cody, thank you very much for this message. While I’m not sure this has been an issue for me yet, it is something I will keep in mind from now on. Thank you for standing firm in the faith and for sharing the wisdom God has given you with us younger men.
The best example I got from my grandfather who is a retired pastor was that, man was created outside of the garden, and woman was created inside the garden. Giving the reason for their engrained view of the world and what is out there. Man knows there is more to the world around him, and that it is theirs to conquer. Woman sees what man has provided through his efforts and feels comfort with security in those things.
Thank you. The more of your videos I watch the more I agree with your knowledge... Hit 51 myself this year and actually lost my dad around my 50th birthday. It's hard to lose a loved one, even harder when you look up to them so much. Hearing these things you say reminds me of things he would say and I really must thank you. Keep doing what you do and pass on what you know and the world will be just a little bit brighter. God Bless you and yours and stay safe.
YES! That means NO " Girls Nights Out"! No "secret boyfriends"! No shaming! No NAGGING! No SARCASM EVER! No "eye rolls" EVER. Always mutual respect! This is the OPPOSITE of "feminism". Sarcasm is like torture with a thousand knives! I agree! The NUMBER ONE factor involved in 99% of all divorces is SARCASM. Lying cheating and NO LOYALTY in a family is TREASON. How does it make anyone a better person by attacking the other? .
Thx for the words Cody, you are spot on once again. I consider your videos such as this one a continuing discipleship for my own personal walk with god. I need to be better at this subject.
Amen! I have never heard it said like that but I have tried many times to explain that to my wife. A man + woman = image of God. She is definitely half of me. The better half most times over the past 30 years of marriage. I truly am nothing without her. Together we can move mountains. Without her I can barely move a rock. Thanks Cody for the great reminder to tell her once again today how much I appreciate and love her.
This is VERY important!! I can’t think of a time that I have been more hurt then when my wife disrespected me in public that way. My wife and I were going into a store, and she slapped me rather hard out of frustration with me In front of several people, and the pain and rage I felt at her for something she didn’t think would hurt me was a stark realization to us that we need to unconditionally respect each other. It only happened a few times early in our marriage. And we finally made this deal that we will never disrespect each other in anyway to anyone. It’s made a huge difference in our marriage. You really hit the nail on the head with this one Cody 👍
Amén Cody *100%* It's so nice to hear the truth from somebody with such a wide audience. My wife of 40 years is an immigrant, and when she came here she brought rock-solid family values with her. Strong in love, and feisty. Taught me a lot about how to be. God bless and protect her always. You guys too, Cody. 🙏☮️💪🌞🇺🇸
I'm turning 40 next month and totally agree that without my wife I would not have the success I currently enjoy. We do council with members of our church about problems we have had in our relationship and that has proven valuable to me and her. Looking forward to more success with her at my side!
I don't care about it too much, necessarily, but good lighting makes a video appear MUCH better than one with poor lighting. He'll get and retain more subscribers if his quality is on point so I don't blame him.
One of your best videos yet. Well said and I couldn't agree more. I know exactly what you mean and I am very thankful for my wife. Thanks for the great video and words to keep me thankful.
Decades of sitcoms, where the wife jokes about her husband's failings, are largely responsible, for this negative behavior. Humans are "monkey see, monkey do" to a certain extent, so wives, who may not have run down her husband, runs him down, because she thinks, that's what she's supposed to do. Of course, it works both ways, but there's likely a different mechanism or mechanisms at play, which causes a man to run down his wife.
Good stuff Cody! Thanks. 15 year bachelor, many bad choices. 5 years married now, never been happier. Love is a choice. Everyday. Choose wisely friends....
Two things foretell a coming divorce. 1) Eye rolling at their partner, and 2) openly bad mouthing their partner to others. Game over, there is zero respect left in the relationship, the clock counting down to the end is ticking.
I have a skill set, (hvac/sheetmetal), and I do feel incomplete...Two children, competitive intelligent wife who is a second grade school teacher. This pandemic has brought us closer together and pulled us apart... Good stuff Cody, thanks, and I , at 51 rotations around the sun, aspire to be a better man. Thanks.
Such good points. This year will be our 5th anniversary. We got married at 18 and I can honestly say that I (we) are 10 times farther ahead in life than we would be if we had stayed single. Having a family gives you a new sense of purpose and drive that you don’t have as a single young guy. Thanks Cody, I always enjoy your insightful life talks.
Thanks Cody, much appreciated. I think inside I knew all this but having you articulate it in this way made it gel in my mind much better. Makes me grateful for my companion.
Man and women were created to be companions for eachother. Without eachother we are incomplete. Alone a man can be good, but with a good woman, a man is capable of becoming great.
Well said Cody I truly believe that the lord is speaking through you to help his children. And that you are a true man of God seeking to do his will and looking out for the well fair of others. God bless from Australia.
I never thought of it that way, but you're absolutely right. And that's because love is not just a strong feeling of attraction, (that would be called infatuation), rather, love is caring enough about someone to put their best interests ahead of your own. The feeling we call "love" is a result of true love, not the definition of it.
Some couples like pulling each other down, especially in front of others. It's horrible but they do it nonetheless. Very hard to lead them to the better way- example is the best.
I have been watching you for a long time. Cody you are good man I practice to live the ways of good men people that wake in the morning smell the air feel there lungs . Such a good smell thank you
I couldn't agree more. Outside of God, your spouse, partner, significant other, should be a shelter in this storm called life. We should contemplate what our words will do to that person before we say them, because once they have been spoken, they can never, ever be taken back. Lift that person up and be the support that they need to help them through the good and bad times. God bless Mr. & Mrs. W.
Wow. This comment made me stop in my tracks. I was there too at one time. All you can do is learn and go forward. Forgive yourself and vow to do better next time.
Since the day i met my wife, I knew i met my equal. We have been together 30yrs had our ups and downs cried, worked , played supported , fought together to have each other and our family. With the grace of god we will be together to the end, may it be many years yet.
Great words. I knew very little about being unequally yoked when we were married, but God knew. We have supported each other always, even while not agreeing on everything. I am a better man because of my loving wife.
As a seven time convicted felon I can tell you with out my wife that could look past my many addictions and show me a better way and bring me to the Lord to raise my own children and others that need a place to call home that you are right . with out my wife and the young women who number 4 and only 2 are mine I would not be half the man I am proud to be today God bless to you and yours always looking forward and upward
A wise man once said!........ Thank you Cody. Granted Ive been watching your channel since its beginning but I can say "l never thought id respect and take the words of a man I will probably never get to meet so seriously". Some days your insight to a topic will shape my whole day or week or even influence the way I live my life. God bless you my friend....and THANK YOU!
Speaking of treason,Anyone hear the latest news on Barak Obummer and Clinton and Biden having to do with them being 100% responsible for the fate of seal team 6? We haven't seen anything yet folks,get prepared.
Cody, your insight and home life are very important and can be two of the biggest things that keep a marriage together. Having a wonderful spouse next to you is an experience like no other.
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I just have to say I'm 15 and have been watching for a while about 2 years and I have learned so much from you and you and select couple others of you tubers haven given alot of valuable information. Alot with my generation is technology driven but I thank technology and information from youtubers like you to teach me so much. Thankyou
i am also 15 and ive been watching for about 3 years i agree with everything you said :)
You are profoundly lucky to have found this content and role model.
Well done, guys. Wish I'd had Cody as a virtual role model at 15, I'd be a much better man now of I had.
When this comment has 12k "likes", please don't return to edit it. That said, I suspect you won't need to thank people for clicking a group of pixels.
Yep Im also 15 Not many people my age interested in this kind of channel
I don’t always agree with you politically, but I agree with you 100% here. It is our responsibility as partners to always lift each other up. Great statement. God bless!
Amen! My husband and I made an agreement before our marriage to NEVER speak against each other. It has made such a difference between our relationship and of those couples around us. We have been married for over 37 years. "All things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them."
Lcwp- just agreeing to treat ea other with respect is a good sign, you’re Both made a good choice of partners for life.
I did too with mine, we talked.. but he did not and ruined everything. Criticism and disrespect. Lied, head games. I believed him when we talked about not lying and trust. Glad to know some have a good long relationship. I wanted one, but now alone in my 50s.
My step-sister belittled her husband (a dear, sweet man) in FRONT of others! She did it one too many times in front of me, and I (as a strong, Southern woman) put a stop to her flapping tongue! It woke our family up as they all had been too afraid to stand up to her and call her out for what she was doing and why it was wrong! I was a military wife. My husband and I worked as a team and loved as lovers until the day he passed two years ago! 48 years we had together! He was my hero!
You’re a good man. I’m the same way. My wife is a gift and I cherish her. We are one and if I were to talk about her negatively, I am speaking negatively on myself. Much respect for you! God bless and may more men rise up and be godly men and husbands.
Right on
Any words of wisdom to a younger man who, out of frustration of witnessed denial/willful ignorance/fear from my better half, have committed treason, largely in parenting, education and money issues?
Love her with all my heart, and our kids, and wrestle with issues like love vs. sentiment, capitulation over issues that I truly believe are important, versus “just have fun and make memories”.
Some things aren’t so “black and white” in marriage and life.
@@dang5203 I will give you a little of my experience. I’ve been married 18 years and what I found out early on was I needed to turn my expectations into desires. Expectations always led me to a success or failure point. Desires led me to a place where I could see improvement or effort on my wife’s part. When myself and my wife expressed our desires and tried to meet those verses expectations, it was monumental in our success. With parenting and everything you listed. We made poor financial choices, mostly me, because I was trying to meet expectations, which brought on excessive credit card use and things like that. There is a book called (i marriage) and it helped show us the change we needed. Putting God first, each other next, then our children, we have had a great 18 years and counting. I truly see nothing that can separate us. God bless!
Ya'll also need to be aware that there are plenty of truly rotten women out there who actually enjoy creating problems for you, and no amount of patience or diligence will change that. All you can do is learn to spot them and avoid. It can be very hard to tell the difference between an immature women and an evil woman, but there are differences they reveal.
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Thank for sharing some of your experience. May God continue to bless you and your marriage and family!
Congratulations on 18 years sir!
Thank you Cody. As a struggling single 30 year old, you’ve been a great inspiration in so many ways. Wether it’s work ethic, relationships with friends family or just simple tips and tricks; I’ve learned a lot.
I noticed your username; do you happen to like the band CKY?
clamum I have had this same username since ‘99. Loved the band and also huge fan of the Films and Bam, but that said.. I wish I was spending those valuable years idolizing a man like Cody over them. I’d be in a better spot!
@@masocckyhist132 I like them but don't really care for them since Deron left. He was a key ingredient of their sound. I don't listen to music like I used to but their first 3 albums were awesome. Cheers brotha
As a young man, 19 yrs old, this gave me something to really think about. Always appreciate these kind of lessons from this channel.
I am 13 years old and I have watched almost every video. I wait every day for a new video. You have taught me so much. Thank you.
I am young, I want to grow up just like him. He is so respectful and a true gentleman. My dad left when I was 11 and I never had a REAL father figure and I am learning from him and I want to be him. Great guy! Bless him and bless you all.
Fantastic! You are making a great choice.
Your Dad missed out on a GREAT DEAL !! Love Ya !
Sounds to me like that with the sort or role models you like to look up to you will grow up to be a fine man indeed.
Your best video ever! Very deep and true. Treason in the family with gossip as a tool. Amen.
As a 34 year old ex-know-it-all, I am humbled by and truly appreciate your wisdom. This was an awesome video. You guys are a wonderful example.
I am extraordinarily grateful for your wisdom!
What you just spoke in this video is almost exactly where my wife and I are at this moment and to say the timing is impeccable would be an understatement.
Thank you!
Ha, they don't punish treason anymore, otherwise most politicians would be no more...
Those in government who are guilty of Treason should still be. 45 Court Martialed Or Hung By The Neck Until Death, Publicly. 💯👍👍😎🇺🇸
They do punish it. The problem is, our government is occupied, and what they think of as treason is not what you think of as treason.
@@casualpreparedness2347 It’s the thing that troubles me the most about Donald Trump. How many times has he ripped members of his own team? The list is endless: Jeff Sessions, Gen. Kelly, Rex Tillerson, Mike Pompeo, Bill Barr....
Worse yet, folks *worship* said politicians. So many are fooled and tricked into believing that the sly foxes in most of our government are *not* it for the money, even while they're blatantly selling their votes to the highest bidder. It's inexcusable, and it must stop soon one way or another.
This is exactly how a marriage should work.
I'm quite lucky to have a wife who must be very similar his. A united front with your wife/husband is unbelievably important.
If you dont have this, you're not with the right person.
So true. My wife and I never make "spouse jokes". It's important to always be supportive of one another. "Watch your thoughts, for they become your words; Watch your words, for they become your actions; Watch your actions, for they become your habits; Watch your habits, for they become your character; Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny" -Lao Tzu
True!
Little foxes that can destroy a relationship. "Jest" is a sharp barb which snags. I hope what you have brought up in this video will help many men and women.
Well he expressed his opinions now lets hear the truth.
Many times I watch your videos and you remind me of the man that I'm suppose to be. I just want to say thank you. My wife and I got a divorce 4 and a half years ago . Since then we have been working at repairing the broken-ness between us and have never fallen out of love. However, watching this video reminded me of so many times when I could have been more uplifting, encouraging, etc. Thank you so much
Wow...thank you for talking about this. It's a message you don't even hear in 'church' these days. So true. Thank you.
What has happened to the church? He/she/it pastors in yoga pants?
This is one of the first things our pastor told us when we got married. After 14 years we still follow this important advice.
True. Never speak negatively even in jest about your spouse in any circumstance. Yes, it is treason.
This is gold. Thank you. Will be shared widely across all platforms. This one message observed widely would change the world overnight.
Good job Cody. Pulling in unison as one. Creates a harmony prized by others.
Great word...Growing up you would hear "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words may never hurt me." With a spouse there is nothing further from the truth. Proverbs states "death and life is found in the power of the toung...." Each spouse has the power to build up or tear down we need to choose wisely. The rest of it states "....you will eat the fruit from it." Tearing your spouse down with words is not a fruit I want to eat. This goes both ways. Us as husbands need to uplift our wives. Thank you for standing strong for what a Biblical man should be. Thank you for speaking truth....we need more men like you in the world.
I fully agree Codi. Have told many a person "If it wasn't for my wife, I'd been dead years ago."
I can testify to the truth in what you say. I've been married to the same woman for nearly 41 years; my high school sweet heart. Once again Cody you have hit the nail on the head. GOD has blessed you with wisdom. Being married to a Proverbs 31 woman is such a tremendous blessing!
People who can't accept a gift - made or bought- graciously, ESPECIALLY from someone you're suppose to love, that's a special type of awful.
My father bought me a gift once that was meant for young children (I was in my mid 20s). When he learned that it wasn't what he thought it was he offered to take it back and get me something else. I told him he didn't have to. When he asked why I replied that I was just happy that he thought enough of me to buy me a gift in the first place, what it was didn't really matter that much to me.
Yeah, the thought and the effort made to realize that thought didn't count for anything at all.
It's called unhappy relationship and just whine about that type of stuff to others is a backstabbing
Or accept a compliment, either. After all, a compliment is a kind of gift.
@@MisterBoy316 Graciously accepting a compliment is a social skill. It behooves one to learn how to accept compliments.
Oh wow! That's a weird word - "behooves" - , isn't it? It sounds like it should mean "too put hooves upon (something)...
Excellent words for all.
I have always understood this naturally.
I had a poor example of this principle growing up, but have strived for all my life, but may be guilty of to some degree and in need of repenting.
Thank you!
This was the theme of our wedding 16 years ago, “A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.” Ecclesiastes 4:12 NLT
Me, my wife, and the Almighty-we form a triple braided cord, not easily broken 😁
@@bradtyson you are disgusting... i hope you are happy with yourself..
This is one of the best messagaes I have heard "online" in years. Thank you Cody for bringing this important truth to your audience, and walking in truth is more important now than any other time! God bless you and your family!
My marriage counselor told us before we married "There are no halves in a marriage. You become one and are one. Each of you should give 100% to your marriage. If it were 50/50 and one of you slipped up or both of you slipped up it's impossible to have 100." Marriage is hard, but even more rewarding.
Jeff I don't mean any harm in this comment... I'm 39 and never have been married, nor do I intend to be. However is it common to have a "marriage counselor" before you get married?!? If this is common, it gives me yet one more reason NOT to be married.
@@neb4x4 - a councilor or paster/priest meeting before marriage, can help clarify ea others expectations and common goals, or how committed ea other is to the relationship. Hopefully ea of them listen to what the other is revealing.
most people today are pretty low quality and immature, so yeah, I could see a counselor being sought.
@@johnenright4969 premarital counseling is what it was. We did that through our pastor. He doesn't marry you without it. It helps build a foundation for great marriage and communication. It was a good experience
@@johnenright4969 I'd bet those 40 years have been pretty tough. Best of luck to you as well my friend
These are wise words, spoken in a spirit of trying to help men and women understand the gift they have been given in marriage. The thing that makes marriage difficult sometimes for each one of us is that it exposes our shortcoming and inabilities, but the beautiful part is that when the man and woman pull together, those shortcomings and inabilities are not only overcome, but we are stronger because of them. I would also like to add that we should have the same attitude toward our children. That trust in a family environment between a parent and child should never be belittle or betrayed. Remember the home is where a child should truly learn what trust is. May God help us all to be the people we need to be for those that love us and depend on us.
I agree with family treason 100% Its so awful to see a wife or a husband openly mock or ridicule their spouse in front of other people. Total lack of respect
Every time I see that, "My husband is so stupid" or "My wife is so stupid" I think 'Well you married them, so who is stupid now?'
We only deride ourselves, when deriding those around us. A good wakeup call.
Parents do it too. And obviously, siblings.
Or to have someone repeat what was said about you behind your back.
I would be less than nothing without my sweet Jenny! We have been married for over 20 years and I am incredibly thankful and blessed 20 times over! Thank you for posting this!!!
This was one of my main problems with past relationships. And something I made sure my wife was ok with and understood was of utmost importance to me. Nobody knows more about our relationship than me and my wife. She doesn’t complain to anyone else and neither do I. Good video
So much wisdom in this video! My wife and I have never had an argument and we plan on keeping it that way! Thank you @Wranglerstar for being a great example the way God intended marriage!
The hardest lesson I ever learned, I was not nice, respectful, caring to my wife. She left 2 years ago for her coworker... who was. Take it from me this stuff matters.
Nice guys finish last. I doubt it was the niceness she was after.
This is great advice. I pray that generations growing up now will hear this and adhere to this important insight.
Amen brother. I judge other men by how they speak of their wives...
Exactly.
We’ve been married 29 years & I’m turning 51 this year. Thank you for this video.
That has got to be hands-down the absolute best tribute I’ve ever heard a man give to his wife
Thank you so much Cody. I am recently engaged and this is so helpful, it’s something that’s so easily looked over but so important. I am so thankful to be marrying my best friend and I am going to talk to my fiancé about this topic! God bless and I’m so excited every time I see a new video from you.
Your wise words make me well up with emotion. You and Mrs W have a one in a million relationship. She is a wonderful woman and the love between you is very evident. Her smile lights up your set, and talking of sets, that lighting is dramatic!
Yeah I noticed it too, looking great Cody! I'm guessing he's been studying lighting techniques for video, or at least he has in the past. It shows.
Thank you for sharing this wisdom publicly.
It is a truth that people and families need, not in these days, but always. True wisdom is always true regardless of the outside world.
The lighting is awesome! Reminds me of a fireside chat.
Thank you for voicing this, ... I would never want to be judged for my worst day, and unfortunately, I’ve made the mistake you are speaking about. This is the truth, and there is a great opportunity for all of us to choose to live a better day starting today. This is great shared wisdom.
I never thought about it that way. Thank You.
well said Cody! That is the best advice I haver heard for husbands and wives in a long time. It sows a seed in your heart that if left unchecked can fester into resentment. God bless you and your family brother.
oh so true! Our society in general need to lifting up others and not tearing down..so important these days.
You cannot reason with the communist, but yes, all of We The People who are working to maintain the republic and our freedoms need to be pulling in the same direction, not going off on our own tangents.
This is solid life advice. I think there's a steep learning curve to relationships, and a lot of people don't really know how to do this effectively.
Thanks for sharing. I sincerely appreciate watching your channel.
HELLO from Las Vegas Nevada, thank you for the video, GOD BLESS you and your FAMILY.
Thank you Cody for reminding Me of just how important it is to uplift my wife. She has certainly been Gods blessing to me. 👍👍👍
You speak of my ex, the hardest part is the bad lessons my son learned.
I've since found a partner, the difference is amazing.
Cody, thank you very much for this message. While I’m not sure this has been an issue for me yet, it is something I will keep in mind from now on. Thank you for standing firm in the faith and for sharing the wisdom God has given you with us younger men.
When I saw that comment I thought this is going to be a video!!! When I read the comment I thought the exact same thing! You handled it well.
The best example I got from my grandfather who is a retired pastor was that, man was created outside of the garden, and woman was created inside the garden. Giving the reason for their engrained view of the world and what is out there. Man knows there is more to the world around him, and that it is theirs to conquer. Woman sees what man has provided through his efforts and feels comfort with security in those things.
I saw this comment that you speak of, and I liked your response to it. I felt bad for her husband after reading it.
Thank you. The more of your videos I watch the more I agree with your knowledge... Hit 51 myself this year and actually lost my dad around my 50th birthday. It's hard to lose a loved one, even harder when you look up to them so much. Hearing these things you say reminds me of things he would say and I really must thank you. Keep doing what you do and pass on what you know and the world will be just a little bit brighter. God Bless you and yours and stay safe.
Thats an awsome marital tip in my book.
Wow Cody. That’s heavy duty solid advice. Thank you for sharing this with all of us.
YES! That means NO " Girls Nights Out"! No "secret boyfriends"! No shaming! No NAGGING! No SARCASM EVER! No "eye rolls" EVER. Always mutual respect! This is the OPPOSITE of "feminism". Sarcasm is like torture with a thousand knives! I agree! The NUMBER ONE factor involved in 99% of all divorces is SARCASM. Lying cheating and NO LOYALTY in a family is TREASON. How does it make anyone a better person by attacking the other?
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Thx for the words Cody, you are spot on once again. I consider your videos such as this one a continuing discipleship for my own personal walk with god. I need to be better at this subject.
I really needed to see/hear this. Thanks, bro.
Amen! I have never heard it said like that but I have tried many times to explain that to my wife. A man + woman = image of God. She is definitely half of me. The better half most times over the past 30 years of marriage. I truly am nothing without her. Together we can move mountains. Without her I can barely move a rock. Thanks Cody for the great reminder to tell her once again today how much I appreciate and love her.
Where do you get the idea that "A man + woman= image of God"?
This is VERY important!! I can’t think of a time that I have been more hurt then when my wife disrespected me in public that way. My wife and I were going into a store, and she slapped me rather hard out of frustration with me In front of several people, and the pain and rage I felt at her for something she didn’t think would hurt me was a stark realization to us that we need to unconditionally respect each other. It only happened a few times early in our marriage. And we finally made this deal that we will never disrespect each other in anyway to anyone. It’s made a huge difference in our marriage. You really hit the nail on the head with this one Cody 👍
Amén Cody *100%*
It's so nice to hear the truth from somebody with such a wide audience.
My wife of 40 years is an immigrant, and when she came here she brought rock-solid family values with her. Strong in love, and feisty. Taught me a lot about how to be. God bless and protect her always. You guys too, Cody. 🙏☮️💪🌞🇺🇸
I wish I could “like” this one twice
You only have one YT account? Just kidding...me too.
I'm turning 40 next month and totally agree that without my wife I would not have the success I currently enjoy. We do council with members of our church about problems we have had in our relationship and that has proven valuable to me and her. Looking forward to more success with her at my side!
In a world designed to keep us all separated in mind and body, it's about time we started to realize that it's our uniqueness, that unifies us.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate the honesty, openness, and wisdom.
How many seriusly care about perfect light/sound on this channel? I dont mind ”bad quality ” When the content is great!
I don't care about it too much, necessarily, but good lighting makes a video appear MUCH better than one with poor lighting. He'll get and retain more subscribers if his quality is on point so I don't blame him.
Only the ham radio and east coast guys care about such things. LOL
One of your best videos yet. Well said and I couldn't agree more. I know exactly what you mean and I am very thankful for my wife. Thanks for the great video and words to keep me thankful.
Decades of sitcoms, where the wife jokes about her husband's failings, are largely responsible, for this negative behavior. Humans are "monkey see, monkey do" to a certain extent, so wives, who may not have run down her husband, runs him down, because she thinks, that's what she's supposed to do.
Of course, it works both ways, but there's likely a different mechanism or mechanisms at play, which causes a man to run down his wife.
That is exactly why I stopped watching TV - the dumbing down of men.
@Sparky You hit the nail on the head.
Good stuff Cody! Thanks.
15 year bachelor, many bad choices.
5 years married now, never been happier.
Love is a choice. Everyday. Choose wisely friends....
Two things foretell a coming divorce. 1) Eye rolling at their partner, and 2) openly bad mouthing their partner to others. Game over, there is zero respect left in the relationship, the clock counting down to the end is ticking.
I have a skill set, (hvac/sheetmetal), and I do feel incomplete...Two children, competitive intelligent wife who is a second grade school teacher. This pandemic has brought us closer together and pulled us apart...
Good stuff Cody, thanks, and I , at 51 rotations around the sun, aspire to be a better man.
Thanks.
hello i just hanted to say hi and that hope you and your family stay safe and to keep up the good work.
Such good points. This year will be our 5th anniversary. We got married at 18 and I can honestly say that I (we) are 10 times farther ahead in life than we would be if we had stayed single. Having a family gives you a new sense of purpose and drive that you don’t have as a single young guy. Thanks
Cody, I always enjoy your insightful life talks.
I agree whole-heartedly with this.
Thanks Cody, much appreciated. I think inside I knew all this but having you articulate it in this way made it gel in my mind much better. Makes me grateful for my companion.
Man and women were created to be companions for eachother. Without eachother we are incomplete. Alone a man can be good, but with a good woman, a man is capable of becoming great.
bollocks
Absolutely not true.
Well said Cody I truly believe that the lord is speaking through you to help his children. And that you are a true man of God seeking to do his will and looking out for the well fair of others. God bless from Australia.
The opposite of love is not hate, it is contempt.
So true!
I never thought of it that way, but you're absolutely right. And that's because love is not just a strong feeling of attraction, (that would be called infatuation), rather, love is caring enough about someone to put their best interests ahead of your own. The feeling we call "love" is a result of true love, not the definition of it.
If nothing else, you opened my eyes just a little wider today. Thank You Sir!
Some couples like pulling each other down, especially in front of others. It's horrible but they do it nonetheless.
Very hard to lead them to the better way- example is the best.
I worked with a couple like that. It would have driven me crazy. They both said they like it that way. I will never understand.
Greatly appreciated, only man on RUclips who says stuff like this, thank you.
solid points
Thank you for teaching the important stuff in life. Learned so much from you over the years
Lord bring me a proverbs 31 woman
I have been watching you for a long time. Cody you are good man I practice to live the ways of good men people that wake in the morning smell the air feel there lungs . Such a good smell thank you
Well, far too many people don't understand that they are not increasing their own statue by decreasing the size of others.
I couldn't agree more. Outside of God, your spouse, partner, significant other, should be a shelter in this storm called life. We should contemplate what our words will do to that person before we say them, because once they have been spoken, they can never, ever be taken back. Lift that person up and be the support that they need to help them through the good and bad times. God bless Mr. & Mrs. W.
I wish I understood this before I lost everything 😔
Wow. This comment made me stop in my tracks. I was there too at one time. All you can do is learn and go forward. Forgive yourself and vow to do better next time.
Since the day i met my wife, I knew i met my equal. We have been together 30yrs had our ups and downs cried, worked , played supported , fought together to have each other and our family. With the grace of god we will be together to the end, may it be many years yet.
Father to his son that just got married: "you will know what true happiness is when you get married, but itll be too late"
That was my experience. Much better to be single than in a bad marriage. I'm happy again, but of course a good marriage would be even better.
@@DK-jd8bj That's the trick. But it doesn't happen by itself. It turns out that it becomes exactly what you make of it.
Great words. I knew very little about being unequally yoked when we were married, but God knew. We have supported each other always, even while not agreeing on everything. I am a better man because of my loving wife.
Appreciate the quality control haha
a true perfectionist
As a seven time convicted felon I can tell you with out my wife that could look past my many addictions and show me a better way and bring me to the Lord to raise my own children and others that need a place to call home that you are right . with out my wife and the young women who number 4 and only 2 are mine I would not be half the man I am proud to be today God bless to you and yours always looking forward and upward
Adam was one, split into two. Then combined with Eve was one again.
A wise man once said!........
Thank you Cody. Granted Ive been watching your channel since its beginning but I can say "l never thought id respect and take the words of a man I will probably never get to meet so seriously". Some days your insight to a topic will shape my whole day or week or even influence the way I live my life. God bless you my friend....and THANK YOU!
Speaking of treason,Anyone hear the latest news on Barak Obummer and Clinton and Biden having to do with them being 100% responsible for the fate of seal team 6? We haven't seen anything yet folks,get prepared.
Cody, your insight and home life are very important and can be two of the biggest things that keep a marriage together.
Having a wonderful spouse next to you is an experience like no other.