"When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years." - Mark Twain.
When I read the first part "When I was a boy of 14" I said to myself, who the heck is this, Mark Twain? I had no idea that it was actually a Mark Twain quote, until I finished reading it. That....was weird.
As a 17 year old it is so nice to see that there are still people who still want to live in a more traditional and productive society. That's the kind of place that I want to grow up in, work in, get married and have kids in, and retire in. I have an immense amount of respect for you Cody and the thing you do with your time and family. Keep up the good work and good example. It seems like there isn't much of either for and in my generation.
Words of wisdom Cody !!! I spent over 20 years as a certified shooting instructor for the BSA and the group of fellow instructors I became a part of had an agreement that none of us would instruct our own sons on the ranges. Those men became one of the most important ingredients in my sons life to this day. I see it in his love for animals,his compassion for needy people,and his dedication to bettering his own life. I am truly blessed at 74 to sit back and watch his continuing growth. God Bless and stay safe.
I am reminded of the group of folks my kids and I pheasant hunt with each fall. The first day I went, I decided I wanted those men to influence my children, so I took them the following day. My son and my youngest daughter and I have been going for six years now and many of their fondest memories involve conversations and experiences in God's country with those amazing men and their wonderful dogs.
As an Eagle Scout and a man of 35 years old, the Scouts was the best experience of my life. It’s a shame that such a great organization has a tarnished name right now. The men that lead me on camping trips and supervised me while working at scout camp taught me so many things in life. Thanks for volunteering your time at the range, no doubt many young men learned from you more than just shooting skills, but a lesson for life.
No better advice has ever been given. Today, more than ever, it is important to know who your true friends are. Dark times are ahead and fake friends are of no use to you. Purge them and trust only those who have earned your trust.
“We make men without chests and expect from them virtue and enterprise. We laugh at honor and are shocked to find traitors in our midst.” ― C.S. Lewis, The Abolition of Man
Powerful Stuff Brother…my father died when I was 15 and that's a bad time for that kind of experience….and now I'm nearly 70 and am a former career Navy Hospital Corpsman who served with the Marines and with Naval Special Warfare (NSW) as a Combatant Craft Crewman and I also did a stint as a Survival Instructor in Maine for 3 years. I understand exactly what you said and you are dead on the money…hit the nail on the head! Most of my Navy time I was either being mentored or doing the mentoring (which was actually about ¾ of my career). There is something very special…and truly sacred about mentorship! I retired in '97 and I still have folks that I took under wing and taught not only the good stuff but a little of the other stuff as well.(and I still hear from these folks regularly and am amazed at how they remember all I taught them and how they are using much of the same stuff to pass on to them mentees). You see, Cody, I only taught those "other" things because large systems like the military get too big for their britches sometimes and in order to get the job done, you have to "learn to cheat a little from time to time" - and - teaching concepts like, "It's easier to beg forgiveness than it is to ask permission" sometimes. A few other things I always taught and still do every chance I get is: (1) A quote I got sidetracked by when I was stationed in Alaska…something from the epic poet and prose author Robert Service, and that is, "A promise made is a debt unpaid…" When I first ran across that, all I could think about were all the promises I'd ever made and had to cope with the fact that I failed to keep those promises probably about 98% of the time. It gave me a whole new perspective on the role of character and integrity in our lives as well as our world. I picked that quote up in 1979 and I'm still in amazement at how many folks are just totally clueless, when I mention it to them. Then there is: (2) the concept I picked up while working with SEALs in NSW and that's their motto: "The Only Easy Day Was Yesterday". I sorta meditate on that little "mantra" maybe 4-5 days a week, at one time or another. It means a lot of things to a lot of different folks. Here's my take on it and how I mentor using this…we (not just military but every one of us) have to face hardships and challenges, each and every day. Most folks just get depressed by those and pretty much allow themselves to be defeated in short time. I look at it and teach that it is incumbent upon those of us who don't want to lay down and die, to take up our yoke (so to speak). Every challenge that we meet head on and defeat makes us stronger and better prepared to meet tomorrow's hardship's and challenges being better prepared to do battle with them. It's really as easy as that. We just have to push through the pain and if we fall down from utter exhaustion, we need to make sure that our feet are still trying to shuffle onward, instead of quitting. Every day we get stronger and stronger and eventually we can rise above anything…much like the older Ranger gentleman you referred to. He may know it using different words, but he "KNOWS" it, through and through. Another example of this mental and spiritual toughness can be found by watching (or rewatching) the movie, LONE SURVIVOR. it is an absolutely incredible real life story and when you see how these men who were compromised...were shot over and over again, as well as being "fragged" by grenades and RPG rounds and falling down cliffs and rocky crags over and over and yet they just kept going until there was nothing left to propel them onward, leaving only one survivor. You can bet money that in real life, those men were repeating over and over, "Easy Day", "Easy Day", "The Only Easy Day Was Yesterday"… I didn't mean to go so long on this but I wanted you to know that all of this stuff, mentorship and leadership, etc are important…the rest of our world, the dishonest and corrupt world doesn't want to know that we think such things…it threatens their security and power trip…they stick their fingers in their ears and go into the "la-la-la-la-la-la" mode to drown our words and concepts from their thoughts. Anyway Brother, I'll get out of your hair…I pray that our Lord keeps close watch over you and your family and close friends. My wife and I are thankful that you and Mrs W and the kids, pray for us and so many others. Our God Is Good! BTW, regarding that whole "Promise" thing…the only real promise I really remember making since those Alaska days, was when I married my wife in 1982…I promised to love her and her children, whom I raised as if they were my own…and I promised that I would always be faithful to her and I have…February 6, marks 39 years for to be together with this woman that God himself touched me on the shoulder and told me that this is the woman that he had selected for me to spend my life together with… "What God has put together, let no man put asunder!" (…and God's people said, AMEN!!) ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ "Ol' Scooter" from down here in East Texas, signing off the cyber waves...
Your talks have always filled a void in my life as my father never spent time with me or had much interest. After 12 years in the army its weird to see how much of a child i still am. Thank you for helping me grow up through these years.
With regards to your channel, I have found BS opinionated “facts” ..................are no where to be found. Which is why I will likely continue to seek out your’s and WranglerStar’s videos. Even if, or should I say after, your RUclips channels are blocked.
I’m 31 and know how badly I need to get my two children and wife out of illionis. I’ve been a working man since 13 years old as a cabinet maker. I love working hard and need to teach my children what my dad taught me.
I have boy-girl twins who are now in their 30's with families of their own. I'm very proud of both of them. Years ago, our pastor gave a sermon on this very topic. He shared how his parents really didn't know very much when he was a teenager. At times his dad was just really dumb about some things. Then, about the time he turned 21 his parents, especially his dad got to be really smart and knowledgeable about all kinds of things. Latter that afternoon my son and I were having a "discussion" about something, I don't remember what exactly. As things escalated, I asked if he thought he knew more about whatever it was than I did. He lifted his head and straightened up and asked, in all seriousness, "Didn't you hear the sermon this morning"? "Ok", I said. How about you come back and ask me when your 21." We both broke out laughing. Scripture says that iron sharpens iron. Two metals of equal hardness tend to gall when rubbing against each other. Much the same as father and son interact when there is friction. Metals of differing hardness, less so. The harder will sharpen the softer. As we both, father and son interact with other men, the Lord directs our steps, and we both experience growth in ways that just my son and I alone could not. There are times when a word, either admonishment or encouragement, seems to carry more weight when coming from someone outside the situation. It's one thing when your dad says "you shouldn't do that" and when the special forces guy says "hey, that's not a good idea!" Iron sharpens Iron applies to both father and son But they don't always sharpen each other. You don't have just one sharpening stone in your tool box do you? Neither does the good Lord.
Mark Twain put it best, “When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven years.”
I don’t have a son , but my wife and I are raising our daughters to be strong and capable in the hopes that they won’t settle for a soft or weak man but instead marry a strong, faithful, and protective man raised by a man like yourself.
Somewhere out there is a young man who NEEDS to find a woman who will help to make him a more complete man. Someone needs to raise up that woman from childhood to become that life partner. Hats off to you for doing your part in the cycle. Men and women are a puzzle and sometimes they fit together almost perfectly. I'm not talking about physically, but socially, spiritually, all the other aspects of life.
As a 14 year old child whose father is mentally ill and all the way across the country I would like to thank you for taking advantage of fatherhood by not only teaching your child but learning from him, you are a huge inspiration to me and a big part of why I'm realizing my faults and becoming a better man for everyone around me and myself.
@@Nusma Because women are not his peers, that being said of the group of men are the kind to act foolishly then guess what the kid who wants their respect is going to do...
@@Nusma it is true, IF the male figures are shunned and there are no males for the young man to look up to.... It also depends on the women and their willingness to allow a feminization of the young man....
@@Nusma Because they’re different. Don’t let liberals tell you different. Just as women have different feelings, skills and earn different respects than men do, but contribute just as much of not more to society.
Great words. I went through the exact same with my son. He turns 21 in one month. It is a heavy lift to surround yourself with folks that can come alongside you but it is possible. It's not easy and I think that is why we are where we are in this country now. My daughter is 14 and my wife and I are trying hard to work on her transition to being a woman. We have had the unique opportunity of living on the MN side of the MN-ND border during this pandemic and the differences in leadership are striking. Lockdowns in MN and freedom in ND.
The power struggle between myself and my father was real . I just didn't listen when I should have . Everyone said you're just like your dad Neil , I couldn't for the life of me see it back then . I do now , boy do I . Sadly my dad's no longer with us and I miss him dearly , there isn't a day goes by I don't think about him . To me he was just dad , but to see how many friends he had , take the time to attend his funeral brought it home to me - what a good man he was outside of just being 'my dad' .
I an Italian and I live up in the north close to the Alps and I have been lucky to have a dad like you. He would take me in the wilderness and he thought me many things about flora and fauna. I just wish more kids, here in Europe as well, had proper parents and not just helicopter moms and dads that take them out of trouble with no effort whatsoever. I have been a sub. for a long time and it makes me feel good knowing that there is somebody else in the world that still brings up kids the right way. Good job!
I have an 18 year old son and this is something I really worked on. The transition into manhood. I'm happy to say hes a well adjusted young man who now works for me in my construction company as a carpenter appreciate. We spend a fair amount of time together even when not at work. There is not a toxic masculinity problem there is a lack of masculinity in our youg peoples lives.
@@awhitecouple I would not be so quick to jump into the arms of pro "white". It is after all "white" culture that has stripped your father from you. Whatever "white" even means.
As a mother, I get it. My sons are 38 and 40. During that transition time, my sons loved baseball. They were around a variety of men that shared courage, wisdom, and advice and helped bring them along in that time of crossing. It is true.... it takes a village to raise children. Your video was very touching! Much WV Love and Many Prayers! 💙💛🙏 PS, one of my very dearest friends lives in ID.
40 years ago my Dad and I were not in a good place. My Dad asked another man to have a chat with me. Thank goodness he did. Made a huge impression on me. He explained that high school is a season of life. In all probability my current friends would not be in my life after high school, and basically my friends and I knew very little about life. He challenged me to do my best and accept things I struggled with, because soon it would be behind me. His words rang true.
Cody, after watching this, I almost feel I need to watch it a second time before commenting. You covered a lot here. I have to say that I usually agree with 99% of what you say. That’s probably the biggest compliment I have to offer. Jack is becoming a terrific young man, thanks to you. I’ve never seen you be mean to him or inappropriate in any way, stern occasionally, but we all need that at times. We’re all going through rough times now. You’re a great man, husband, and father and it shows. My friend, God bless you and yours and stay safe!
True words...Dad should have instilled and exampled to the son most of the morals, work ethics, faith based values, and some of the basic skills of what to do and how to treat others. Then Dad should encourage and put his son around other men he wants his son to learn from. Positive reinforcement all the way around of what he should become.
My 34 year old son sent me a link to one of your videos, so I watched it plus a couple more, then added you to my favorites. I was talking to him yesterday and he told me that you kind of remind him of me. After watching this one I understand exactly what he meant. I think you and I would get on nicely.
Well done my dude. This reminds me so much of the volunteer group I was leading at my church. I had a guy who was volunteering with me to just clean the church. His name was Tom McCabe. Anyway i confronted him after several weeks of him listening to my instructions and giving feedback for how to do things. I asked "Tom, Why do you do this? I'm just a 30 year old janitor?" His response wasn't life changing at the moment but he said "Well, you're the one who started this group of volunteers and this place means a lot to me." The fact that Tom was willing to build me as a leader meant the world to me. He taught me lessons and built my confidence to a level I can't pay back. He passed before this lockdown stuff happened but I feel like he made me a better husband, dad, and leader. I can totally relate to the experience that you had. I feel like I'm speaking from Jack's perspective although I'm closer to your age I'm guessing haha! Those people that influence and teach life lessons are often times overlooked way too much. Thanks so much for sharing! Blessings.
Cody, I appreciate what you are going through with Jack. My father and I are like oil and water, I have made the comment to a lot of my friends and in many men’s classes at my church. “My father did not teach me anything, but he let me learn anything I wanted to.” He knew with our personality differences, he just needed to let me learn through my own mistakes. I will never forget when learning how to run a backhoe, which he was very proficient at, I asked him how, his answer was, “Run the bucket through the ground just like you would a shovel.” And that is the only advice the man ever gave me on running a backhoe, and understand I was 12 years old. The advice he gave me with a dozer was, “Push the dirt over there”. My father is a strong man and he knew his son! You are a good father Cody, but understand, I have raised 3 young men who are now in their 30’s and at 17 all three lost their minds, just as I did, it’s all about independence.
Boy scouts was an important organisation in teaching young boys to be young men for over s hundred years, transgressions aside millions of boys learned the value of God, country, independence and hard work! The org has now been desecrated by leftists, the same leftists that diddled the children, and no longer exists! It's the ultimate expression of where our society is headed!
@@nukembear2345 agreed. I would never send my child to boy-scouts today. I grew up around 30+ men at the deer camp every weekend. I also had to overcome many childhood fears while learning to be a man at the deer camp. Many of the other men stepped in when my father wasnt at the camp well into my mid to late 20s setting me straight if i wasnt falling in line. And the had my dads full authority to do so.
I remember the same things with my Dad. He got to the same place you did and switched to "How can I support you doing what you want to do?" He let me go out and fall down among men so I would learn to get back up on my own. I've watched your interactions thru the years and felt the same way as Jack has. At the same time I saw my Dad in you doing it all out of love. He passed in 2016 around the same time I found your channel. I miss him so much, and have a deep appreciation for what you are doing. Hang in there, it gets scary and better. Blessings, Amigo.
I never really gave it much thought, but I see now that I was very fortunate that this is what happened to me and my son. Being a long time volunteer firefighter and a career law enforcement officer, my son joined the fire company when he became 16. I can see now that coming into contact with the other men in the company, as well as seeing how I interacted with them outside of the family setting, had a pronounced effect on him. I am so proud of him as he is currently a smoke jumper in Alaska and living my dream lifestyle . We certainly had our issues during his teen years, but I truly believe that the interaction of good men changed his life for the better well beyond what I could do myself.
True words...first time another man in your Church calls your dad and asks if you can come help out with a project...brings a sense of pride that at that moment other people outside your family see your value.
I was very blessed, my dad was a firm but fair disciplinarian. If he was angry or I got punished I knew why and I knew it was because I had done wrong. He loved us and enjoyed spending time with us. I had close school friends but even in my teens I spent most of my time with my parents and siblings. We never really butted heads and thankfully I was able to recognise his wisdom from the beginning. It's only now that I'm the age he was when I was born, having just had my first child, that I realise how blessed I am and how rare that father/son relationship is for a lot of people. In many ways he made me the man I am and I know I will be a better parent than I would have otherwise been because of how well he parented me.
I'm a New Yorker looking to flee this God forsaken state. I will say when I leave I won't bring the failed New York ideas with me to my next adventure.
I left Eastern Long Island, NY for Alaska in 2017 and never looked back. Since being here American individualism and independence reigns supreme. Yourr not judged for how you live as long as it doesn't affect anyone else. As laid back as Alaska is I can't shake the hustle bustle mentality but I'm trying. As for the cold, it can reach -60, and have 8 months of winter so its a trade off for having less people.
Being a good father is so much harder than society says it is. It truly is the most thankless job out there. My father and I fought like cats and dogs until I left. Once I was gone for a year (basic and AIT) I realized quickly that he had WAY more knowledge than I could ever absorb. I remember the first morning home, sitting on the back patio with my dad, drinking coffee. He looked over at me and said he was proud of the man I was becoming, and wished he could have done more for me. It shook me to my core because I knew he meant it, and I was the only thing stopping him. Young men, listen to your elders. You may not like how the message is delivered, but learning how to find the signal in the noise is part of becoming a man. Ignore the BS and look for the lesson. It's there... Thank you for talking about this. This made me pickup the phone and call my dad. Thank you!
Yes, boys must be around good strong men. My dad and I actually came to blows once, guess who lost. It wasn't until I joined the marines that I had the transition you are talking about. Of course now I love and miss my dad more than I would ever believe back then.
As a Police Officer in a metropolitan city, I see the effects of young and older men who did not have father figures raising them to be "men" multiple times a day. Instead they are raised by the streets and the cycle keeps repeating itself, so sad
This is exactly what conservatives have been saying for years,lefties think it’s nonsense,government programs can fill the gaps and solve the problems created by fatherless homes
This is our country that most of our family members fought for. As good people, we should not have to be afraid to live, visit or travel through each and every state! God bless you and The United States of America. On to better days!!
@@soonstrgzr No clue, never watched that. I read many things and am interested in philosophy so maybe just picked it up. But I state it that way because I answered a question on the subject that way, as well as it being true in my opinion.
One thing which gave me self belief like no other was when I was leaving college, I texted my dad "you still at work? drink?" he texted me back, with a location. He was at a work friend's leaving do. I was speaking with his boss's boss... Like, he was easily making six+ figures.. We were talking, he was happy to speak with his work colleague's son to start with is great. I know many wouldn't. But about 3 days later my dad's boss's boss said something like "you've got a great son, give him my number if he needs work when he graduates". It's one of the proudest moment's i've seen my dad. Like, that was the demonstrable moment, he's no longer a kid. He's an adult. Talking with adults and holding his own in with in-depth conversation.
@@brazeification2 It’s not because they’re not born there, it’s because they often bring (and vote for) the very ideologies from which they are fleeing their last state. If it doesn’t work well, stop voting for it.
For decades the Boy Scouts have helped to mold boys into young men. I was involved in Scouting for about 15 years while my two sons were Scouting age. It's such a shame that the Scouting Movement has been taken over by Progressive Philosophy. I wouldn't be in Scouting today.
The only good thing is a lot of the troops themselves are still traditional or at least teach everything traditional. Now better split off is Trail Life USA but its hard for me to go to them just because boy scouts has the camps that I know and love and at the moment I just can't part from them! I grew up in those camps so they have a lot of sentimental value to me.
Took my grandson to work weekend at our hunting cabin. He was eleven. I could see exactly what you are talking about. He rose up to the occasion. He didn’t act like a kid, he was helpful to the other men and tried to learn everything we were doing. Proud moments and we need more of them. Thanks fro another Great video.
I almost cried listening to this, well done. The advice I gave both my son and my daughter as they left home for college is this. The single most important decision you will make, one that will influence your life forever, is the quality of the friends you make. Pick good friends, avoid bad ones. Blessings to you and your family.
I think we need to look in the mirror and ask ourselves "who gave them the trophies?" You can't blame a kid for how they are raised. Just my two cents.
You are truly blessed W.S. My dad and brothers had times like that and I have some of the fondest memories, I look back on often and miss it and him greatly every day. We lost him back in 1988 at the ripe old age of 57, as a deputy sheriff in Jackson Hole Wyoming he left us too soon and I still talk and listen to him to this day I can still hear him say make every moment count for you never know when it's your time. I know he is breaking the trail for us up ahead. God Bless you and yours. Russ.
@@deesestrees I also have the set of books and I have probally read all of them 10 times. These books have saved my life many times. I swear George was writing about my childhood. I also had a troll.
I grew up with my dad reading me Patrick McManus stories as a bed time story!!! RUclips his name... there are a bunch of videos of him....they are great!!!!
I appreciate my dad, grandfathers, uncles and older cousins for showing me what and what not to do as a man, but surprisingly a single brief conversation with a guy I only met once put all of that together. Paraphrasing, he told me that I may know everything and your dad may not, but he's managed to bring you along with what little he does. Do you think you could do the same as him with all of your knowledge? I mean you're still living at home. Changing tires, chopping wood, weeding a garden, even starting a fire, it clicked that I didn't know any of it until one of the men in my family showed me. Definitely helped me when I headed off to the Marines. I learned what I could and imparted what I could because I didn't and don't know everything.
Most relatable video you've ever made. Loved it. Sounds like we are walking through the same season with our sons. Good luck and God bless you and your family.
You really hit a nerve for me. I used to work with my Dad when I was on Summer Holidays and off School. At the time I used to question everything he asked me to do. When he passed away due to a Motorbike accident, I worked with his Brother for a little while. I couldn't believe the respect he had for my Dad and his ability to do anything. That's when it hit me, that my Dad was a great guy, he just couldn't teach me what he wanted to because I was so close to him. Watching you with Jack makes me think back and smile at those times. The sad thing was I never realised the skills I'd picked up, until it was too late to thank him. Keep doing what you're doing mate, it's awesome and Jack appreciates it, you can tell!
You made perfect sense. You always do. I’ve been a subscriber for a long time. Don’t miss a single video. It’s nice when you speak about running into some situational epiphanies. Being an average Christian who doesn’t go to church, listening to you makes so much sense to me. Makes me a better man and father. You’ve inspired me to pick up the good book and revisit taking a different approach. You describe readings in the Bible better than any church I’ve ever attended. Thank you.
Thank you Cody for this reminder. Our pride does get in the way when it comes to raising kids. Like you said, we feel like we can do it all. “It takes a tribe to raise a child” didn’t become a cliche’ for no reason!
I'm right there with ya.. while this lockdown has been happening, I've been to 27 states and driven 90k miles. I've done whatever I wanted to do when I wanted to do it. I haven't worn a mask, and I haven't stepped up my hand washing game anymore than I would on a regular day in regular times, I don't keep gallons of sanitizer in stock ...And ya know what.. I still haven't contracted COVID, And neither has anyone I know personally. But I am like you, I despise people I don't respect on any level telling me anything about how I should handle my affairs. God bless you all, I know he's blessed me.
I feel like im a kid still sometimes at 32. But seeing Jacks manerisms and attitude, I think if my son acted like him at 15 id be proud. Even with the difference in our view points you raised him well.
This video touched me on so many levels. The story of Father & son, the conflict & tension, the necessity of being with other men, of growing up, of being an individual, of talking to your family and deciding things together, of not wanting to be told what you can and can't do by government.......I could go on & on about so many points you made in this video. I appreciate what you are doing, the authenticity in which you are doing it as well as your humility Cody. I appreciate you. If you get the cabin thing happening at your homestead I'd love to come visit. It's a dream of mine to travel this country and meet and spend time with people like you and your family. Blessings and praying for you & the family. Way to Go Jack!!!
My close friend was over yesterday with his 8 year old son and instead of sitting around the house his father and I defied him to take my ax and fall a tree in the woods out back. It was amazing to watch him keep going even though you knew he was exhausted cause someone other than his father was egging him on. His reward was when I handed his dad the big ax and pointed at a bigger tree and said “now we get to see what your dad can do.” It’s amazing how the audience of another man pushed him a little more. My son is only 3 right now but I won’t forget these lessons
That’s why when it came to gun training, I took my sons to FrontSight Firearms training in Pahrump Nevada. They could train them far better and without the emotion than I could and we could enjoy the stories together after our daily events; a great father and son time!
My dad started a cabinet shop when I was really young and for the early years it was really tough and we butted heads often but I learned a ton. It wasnt until later on that I realized what a talent my dad was and I improved on his talent as time went on. It, unfortunately, wasn't until his death in 2017 did I realize how much more of a relationship we could have had if only I could have been spiritual enough to ask God to help me deal with one of satan's biggest tools....PRIDE. Swallow that pride. Between that and Christian guilt in spiritual warfare is a battle all of its own. You're spot on!
It was very ballsy of Jack to jump on the bike and be pulled back, I've been on more than one sled both pulling and being pulled and it isn't the easiest thing to do. Good on you for letting him do that and giving him the win.
You said it 100% right. 20 years ago as a scout leader, i couldnt find a proper troop leader for the boys, after sacking 6. So i buckled up, and took over, finding the best male instructors i could for the budget and situation to cover up, depending the activity, my own limitations. Also made a speach🤣. "Meanwhile we find a proper male scout leader, i will be on charge. As a woman, i cant show you what a man can, but i sure can tell you what a strong woman want to see in you...". It worked out amazing. The boys of my group where so different, that everybody could spot them out from a mile! And i was very proud of them to. So lack of proper strong men, has been an issue for a while.🙄
We all think our dad's are stupid until we're on our own paying the bills. Then, we realize just how smart they were. Now, turn that light off, you're costing me .002$. LOL
As a son, I remember the look of pride on my father’s face when I completed my engineering apprenticeship and was offered a full-time job. Got the same look again from him when I brought my future wife home to meet him and my mother.
The problem is "infantilism" where boys are encouraged NOT to grow up. The "rugged individualism" is a reaction to that. Oh and you are wrong,,woman have a place they help stop strength and toughness from becoming harsh and hard. As long as they except that their "baby" has grown up!
@@canesrock82 Hate to tell you bub..but I got two big ones and I am no woman! I have successfully raised sons. I don't disagree with his basic premise just that women have a role too. If you want to know how a man will treat your daughter? Look at how he treats his mother!
@@lauriestlyon8773 my apologies. I havent seen a male go by the first name Laurie. Cody's point is on the male guidance as a teenager and growing into a young man. Again, he isnt saying the mother has no role, but the emphasis is on the father/son relationship.
@@canesrock82 Then we have a broad consensus! I get the name issue. Laurie is traditionally a male Scots name. In my case it's the shortened version of Laurence. Apology accepted....of course you do do things a bit different in "the colonies"! 😆😆😆😆🤩
Spot on! Just had a conversation with a friend yesterday about raising teenage boys to be responsible and well rounded. I’ve been building a log cabin in the NH mountains with my twin 18 yo boys for the past year and am proud of how they’re turning out and they’re work ethic. You definitely don’t see it much these days. ( especially on the East Coast! )
Cody, you and Mrs. W should be proud of your son Jack, he is a fine young man, you have done very well. The whole " trouble learning from your dad" is why we have apprenticeships. Iron sharpens iron, thus it makes perfect sense that a boy is raised up to be a young man and eventually a man by men. Cheers from Tokyo! Stu
Raising my son I tried to do everything my dad didn't do... Have patience, be firm, be kind, and most importantly, be honest. He turns 20 in March and just graduated from Military Police training in the Army National Guard. He seems to be on the right track and I couldn't be prouder. Tough love isn't easy and it should never be mean, but if kids never learn to deal with failure, they wind up soft and fragile. Keep up the awesome work with your channel bro, good to see good guys are still around.
(I am so glad I found your channel)....I know exactly where you are with this issue.. on several levels.. Personally I didn't listen to what my Dad said until AFTER I grew up.. it hit me like a ton of bricks..I went through some very serious life events of my own doing and yet.. he was always there for me.. I am a recovering alcoholic (20 years sober next month) and one day while in rehab all those years ago.. he came to visit.. I had no idea he even knew I was there.. but he did..We talked about some things and just before he left he told me this and it has stuck with me ever since: " All a father can do is try and show his son(s) the right path to walk, he can only tell them what he has learned in life and hope that it sticks in the minds of his children. so later in life it makes sense" .. then he said this , and now that I have my own son and grand children it is SO true.. "Parenting had no instruction manual.. you just do the best you can with what you have and hope you did it right" .. my Dad passed away 4 years ago and the last thing I was able to tell him was "you did it right" ... I just hope with all this insanity going on right now that we can teach not only our kids,,, but our grandchildren the right way in life and pray it works..we are in for some very crazy times ahead and more then ever those of us that get it.. need to find each other and stay the course...stay strong and prayers to you and yours..
Number 1 Dad that’s for sure . All my Dad Taught me was to get high , what a pos he was and still is . Haven’t talked or seen him for so long , makes me wonder how different my life could be if I was in jacks shoes . Makes me happy to see good Dads are out there
Your comment suggests that despite that you see the negativity of his example. I would encourage you to look at good examples (such as Cody) try and find one in your local community and learn from them. Your picture suggests you still young and in truth you really ARE never too old to learn!
A friend of mine visited Idaho for three weeks in 1998. We are both from the east coast. My friend said the people in Idaho were friendly, genuine, polite and wellcoming. Things have changed a lot in 22 years. I believe you when you say Idahoans are hostile.
I am so impressed and proud of you as a father to realize what it takes for your son to grow as a young man. Being able to put egos aside and see what your son needs even when you aren't the one to provide it. You have knowledge on many things and you have tried to impart those things on him. But seeing that another man can influence him and not be threatened is really awesome. You are doing right by Jack. You will always be his father and he will remember all the lessons you have taught him. You are an amazing father to realize that for him to grow, sometimes you need to relinquish control and allow him to learn. Good job, you are raising an amazing young man. I can tell you are proud. You are doing it right and he will be better because of you. God bless.
Sounds like you and Jack had a life-changing weekend. You’re never too old to reap the benefits Of newfound knowledge. Great job to both of you. You have a right to be a proud papa.
My good sir, I would offer for your consideration, Idaho County. A couple years ago my family came to the realization that we where no longer welcome in our hometown and the state we had farmed, homesteader and carved out of the wilderness for several generations was no longer. We did our research and our prayers and eventually settled in Idaho county. Now this place is yet far from perfect but never before have we been blessed to be so surrounded by a community of like minded people who share our values and beliefs and wish to support each other how they can. We started anew with a bare land and have been building and developing as much as we can to suit our needs. Truly an amazing place to not just take refuge but also to thrive
Mark Hutchins' comment below is superb. My favorite saying as my (8) kids reached adulthood remains this: "You don't even know what you don't know, so you don't even know what to ask." Striking the balance is the hard part: waiting for them to ask/learn versus authoritatively offering them oft-needed but little-heeded counsel.
Let me start by saying I am 62 grandma 1 son, 2 daughters born to me. 6 grandsons 1 grand daughter born to my children. I have raised and fostered togethern 11 children. Most of them males. 1 dad died. One dad ran off drunk. I taught my children while being mom and dad which things dad would be doing if we had one. Chores such as plowing the gardens, cutting our own firewoodn chainsaw safetyn and how to file oujr own chains. How to drive, how to box, how to buildn how to pray. II must say since there are so many single mothers with sons, you kind of hurt my feelings. I felt like you were trying to talk down to me. I think you would be suprised at how some of us girls can ...Man up... I could out run, out arm wrestle, out box and out smart most of the men I knew. I do have to say, my father did not single me out of the shop or fishing trips. He taught me the same as my big brother. If he heard what you said, he would correct you right now. He was a man well respected. Tough, strict, good teacher and a loving father. I am telling you right nown you better not ignore your daughter in training or one day some ...man... might not treat her well and she will have to learn these skills on her own. My dad taught me to shoot at 7. Ive been driving the boats from the same age. I saw your smart little girl. Shes pretty too. You better teach her to survive and thrive while she is young. She can build on it as I have her whole life. My dad died when I was 20. I love him today as I did when I was a child. He made me feel he loved me. He fed me as a baby, taught me how to read a tapemeasure and do simple fractions when I was 8. He is the reason I am who I am. I have tried to do the same for my children. All in all, it takes the whole village to raise 1 brave, male or female.
you:re right. I married an okinawa woman in 69 and tried to teach her to drive, it didn"t end well. I went to Virtnam and came back and she had a drivers license, she had gone to driving school while I was in SOG and I was very proud of her. My son is now a full Colonel in SF. We went through the same transitions.
Lost one of my closest friends in a logging accident this past spring . He left 12 children behind , some grown some young boys. I was talking with a friend of ours yesterday on way him and I can take these young boys and do what you are talking of . There Dad was a physical freak of nature and could cut and skid more than a semi truck load of pulp wood a day by hand . They need to understand what they Dad is and what it means to be a man . I log with horses for a living and will be taking them to work with me and my boy , we have other things planed as well. Raising boy and teaching them to be men is the most important job we have . God bless and a great video . The synchronicity is off the charts with this and what we talked about yesterday .
I know my dad and as worried about me until I finally graduated and found a descent job. Then I could tell he was proud of me but he would never tell me but every once in a while I heard him talking on the phone about me. He ended up being my best friend. Lord bless his soul! Badass man!
You hit the nail on the head, Code. Our culture has lost that "rite of passage" for young men, and now it's like so many of them never actually get to manhood
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"When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years." - Mark Twain.
That's pretty funny!
God bless you!
Wow. what a quote. Felt so similar growing up-- glad it wasn't just me being a bad son. I appreciate the hell out of his wisdom now as a young adult.
How true is that!
When I read the first part "When I was a boy of 14" I said to myself, who the heck is this, Mark Twain? I had no idea that it was actually a Mark Twain quote, until I finished reading it. That....was weird.
I thought of this, too, but you beat me to it!
As a 17 year old it is so nice to see that there are still people who still want to live in a more traditional and productive society. That's the kind of place that I want to grow up in, work in, get married and have kids in, and retire in. I have an immense amount of respect for you Cody and the thing you do with your time and family. Keep up the good work and good example. It seems like there isn't much of either for and in my generation.
Words of wisdom Cody !!! I spent over 20 years as a certified shooting instructor for the BSA and the group of fellow instructors I became a part of had an agreement that none of us would instruct our own sons on the ranges. Those men became one of the most important ingredients in my sons life to this day. I see it in his love for animals,his compassion for needy people,and his dedication to bettering his own life. I am truly blessed at 74 to sit back and watch his continuing growth. God Bless and stay safe.
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I am reminded of the group of folks my kids and I pheasant hunt with each fall. The first day I went, I decided I wanted those men to influence my children, so I took them the following day. My son and my youngest daughter and I have been going for six years now and many of their fondest memories involve conversations and experiences in God's country with those amazing men and their wonderful dogs.
As an Eagle Scout and a man of 35 years old, the Scouts was the best experience of my life. It’s a shame that such a great organization has a tarnished name right now. The men that lead me on camping trips and supervised me while working at scout camp taught me so many things in life. Thanks for volunteering your time at the range, no doubt many young men learned from you more than just shooting skills, but a lesson for life.
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@@tooltimewithtierney3690 and that is why [they] wanted to destroy the Scouts
By the time I was old enough to realise my father was right, I had a son telling me I was wrong.
When I had teens, I marveled at my parents not having thrown me in a dumpster when I was 15.
Oh man that made me chuckle , ain't it the truth
Speaking the truth for real, in the same situation as this.
Surrounding yourself with the right people is important, now more than ever.
The best decisions I've made have had to do with the people I have chosen to be around and listen too! I wish everyone made the same choices!
No better advice has ever been given. Today, more than ever, it is important to know who your true friends are. Dark times are ahead and fake friends are of no use to you. Purge them and trust only those who have earned your trust.
“We make men without chests and expect from them virtue and enterprise. We laugh at honor and are shocked to find traitors in our midst.” ― C.S. Lewis, The Abolition of Man
Powerful Stuff Brother…my father died when I was 15 and that's a bad time for that kind of experience….and now I'm nearly 70 and am a former career Navy Hospital Corpsman who served with the Marines and with Naval Special Warfare (NSW) as a Combatant Craft Crewman and I also did a stint as a Survival Instructor in Maine for 3 years. I understand exactly what you said and you are dead on the money…hit the nail on the head! Most of my Navy time I was either being mentored or doing the mentoring (which was actually about ¾ of my career). There is something very special…and truly sacred about mentorship! I retired in '97 and I still have folks that I took under wing and taught not only the good stuff but a little of the other stuff as well.(and I still hear from these folks regularly and am amazed at how they remember all I taught them and how they are using much of the same stuff to pass on to them mentees). You see, Cody, I only taught those "other" things because large systems like the military get too big for their britches sometimes and in order to get the job done, you have to "learn to cheat a little from time to time" - and - teaching concepts like, "It's easier to beg forgiveness than it is to ask permission" sometimes. A few other things I always taught and still do every chance I get is:
(1) A quote I got sidetracked by when I was stationed in Alaska…something from the epic poet and prose author Robert Service, and that is, "A promise made is a debt unpaid…" When I first ran across that, all I could think about were all the promises I'd ever made and had to cope with the fact that I failed to keep those promises probably about 98% of the time. It gave me a whole new perspective on the role of character and integrity in our lives as well as our world. I picked that quote up in 1979 and I'm still in amazement at how many folks are just totally clueless, when I mention it to them. Then there is:
(2) the concept I picked up while working with SEALs in NSW and that's their motto: "The Only Easy Day Was Yesterday". I sorta meditate on that little "mantra" maybe 4-5 days a week, at one time or another. It means a lot of things to a lot of different folks. Here's my take on it and how I mentor using this…we (not just military but every one of us) have to face hardships and challenges, each and every day. Most folks just get depressed by those and pretty much allow themselves to be defeated in short time. I look at it and teach that it is incumbent upon those of us who don't want to lay down and die, to take up our yoke (so to speak). Every challenge that we meet head on and defeat makes us stronger and better prepared to meet tomorrow's hardship's and challenges being better prepared to do battle with them. It's really as easy as that. We just have to push through the pain and if we fall down from utter exhaustion, we need to make sure that our feet are still trying to shuffle onward, instead of quitting. Every day we get stronger and stronger and eventually we can rise above anything…much like the older Ranger gentleman you referred to. He may know it using different words, but he "KNOWS" it, through and through. Another example of this mental and spiritual toughness can be found by watching (or rewatching) the movie, LONE SURVIVOR. it is an absolutely incredible real life story and when you see how these men who were compromised...were shot over and over again, as well as being "fragged" by grenades and RPG rounds and falling down cliffs and rocky crags over and over and yet they just kept going until there was nothing left to propel them onward, leaving only one survivor. You can bet money that in real life, those men were repeating over and over, "Easy Day", "Easy Day", "The Only Easy Day Was Yesterday"…
I didn't mean to go so long on this but I wanted you to know that all of this stuff, mentorship and leadership, etc are important…the rest of our world, the dishonest and corrupt world doesn't want to know that we think such things…it threatens their security and power trip…they stick their fingers in their ears and go into the "la-la-la-la-la-la" mode to drown our words and concepts from their thoughts.
Anyway Brother, I'll get out of your hair…I pray that our Lord keeps close watch over you and your family and close friends. My wife and I are thankful that you and Mrs W and the kids, pray for us and so many others. Our God Is Good!
BTW, regarding that whole "Promise" thing…the only real promise I really remember making since those Alaska days, was when I married my wife in 1982…I promised to love her and her children, whom I raised as if they were my own…and I promised that I would always be faithful to her and I have…February 6, marks 39 years for to be together with this woman that God himself touched me on the shoulder and told me that this is the woman that he had selected for me to spend my life together with… "What God has put together, let no man put asunder!" (…and God's people said, AMEN!!) ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ "Ol' Scooter" from down here in East Texas, signing off the cyber waves...
Your talks have always filled a void in my life as my father never spent time with me or had much interest. After 12 years in the army its weird to see how much of a child i still am. Thank you for helping me grow up through these years.
Often it’s too late before we realize the wisdom of our fathers
With regards to your channel, I have found BS opinionated “facts” ..................are no where to be found. Which is why I will likely continue to seek out your’s and WranglerStar’s videos. Even if, or should I say after, your RUclips channels are blocked.
Yes, it is. Glad you are all over and very observant. Thanks for all you do and sharing your wisdom and experience with all of us.👍🏼
Cross subscriber comments are the best. Just came here from your last video Mr. G&G. Keep doin’ what you do!
I’m 31 and know how badly I need to get my two children and wife out of illionis. I’ve been a working man since 13 years old as a cabinet maker. I love working hard and need to teach my children what my dad taught me.
Too often.
I have boy-girl twins who are now in their 30's with families of their own. I'm very proud of both of them. Years ago, our pastor gave a sermon on this very topic. He shared how his parents really didn't know very much when he was a teenager. At times his dad was just really dumb about some things. Then, about the time he turned 21 his parents, especially his dad got to be really smart and knowledgeable about all kinds of things. Latter that afternoon my son and I were having a "discussion" about something, I don't remember what exactly. As things escalated, I asked if he thought he knew more about whatever it was than I did. He lifted his head and straightened up and asked, in all seriousness, "Didn't you hear the sermon this morning"? "Ok", I said. How about you come back and ask me when your 21." We both broke out laughing. Scripture says that iron sharpens iron. Two metals of equal hardness tend to gall when rubbing against each other. Much the same as father and son interact when there is friction. Metals of differing hardness, less so. The harder will sharpen the softer. As we both, father and son interact with other men, the Lord directs our steps, and we both experience growth in ways that just my son and I alone could not. There are times when a word, either admonishment or encouragement, seems to carry more weight when coming from someone outside the situation. It's one thing when your dad says "you shouldn't do that" and when the special forces guy says "hey, that's not a good idea!" Iron sharpens Iron applies to both father and son But they don't always sharpen each other. You don't have just one sharpening stone in your tool box do you? Neither does the good Lord.
I must say the level of quality content and being honest has been skyrocketed in the last few videos. Love you all!
Mark Twain put it best, “When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much he had learned in seven years.”
I don’t have a son , but my wife and I are raising our daughters to be strong and capable in the hopes that they won’t settle for a soft or weak man but instead marry a strong, faithful, and protective man raised by a man like yourself.
Fortunately for me, girls are not into those kinda guys anymore. They want drugs, face tattoos, and to call me Daddy. 😂
@Ordinary Pete yeah ok. Lol
@Ordinary Pete Exactly.
God forbid your daughters would want to live a solo single life.
Somewhere out there is a young man who NEEDS to find a woman who will help to make him a more complete man. Someone needs to raise up that woman from childhood to become that life partner. Hats off to you for doing your part in the cycle. Men and women are a puzzle and sometimes they fit together almost perfectly. I'm not talking about physically, but socially, spiritually, all the other aspects of life.
As a 14 year old child whose father is mentally ill and all the way across the country I would like to thank you for taking advantage of fatherhood by not only teaching your child but learning from him, you are a huge inspiration to me and a big part of why I'm realizing my faults and becoming a better man for everyone around me and myself.
In a group of men it’s harder for a young man to act foolishly. His main goal is to earn their respect and keep it. 👍🏼
Why wouldn't the same be true for beeing around women though? Doesn't he want to be respected there as well?
@@Nusma Because women are not his peers, that being said of the group of men are the kind to act foolishly then guess what the kid who wants their respect is going to do...
@@Nusma it is true, IF the male figures are shunned and there are no males for the young man to look up to....
It also depends on the women and their willingness to allow a feminization of the young man....
@@Nusma Because they’re different. Don’t let liberals tell you different. Just as women have different feelings, skills and earn different respects than men do, but contribute just as much of not more to society.
Most men act foolishly, ONLY in groups.
Everyone here has an opinion, yeah?
Well, you're all right and wrong.
Great words. I went through the exact same with my son. He turns 21 in one month. It is a heavy lift to surround yourself with folks that can come alongside you but it is possible. It's not easy and I think that is why we are where we are in this country now. My daughter is 14 and my wife and I are trying hard to work on her transition to being a woman. We have had the unique opportunity of living on the MN side of the MN-ND border during this pandemic and the differences in leadership are striking. Lockdowns in MN and freedom in ND.
Cody is the dad some of us never had.... Respect to you Cody
I wish I had a dad like Cody
The power struggle between myself and my father was real . I just didn't listen when I should have . Everyone said you're just like your dad Neil , I couldn't for the life of me see it back then . I do now , boy do I . Sadly my dad's no longer with us and I miss him dearly , there isn't a day goes by I don't think about him . To me he was just dad , but to see how many friends he had , take the time to attend his funeral brought it home to me - what a good man he was outside of just being 'my dad' .
I know the feeling bud
I an Italian and I live up in the north close to the Alps and I have been lucky to have a dad like you. He would take me in the wilderness and he thought me many things about flora and fauna. I just wish more kids, here in Europe as well, had proper parents and not just helicopter moms and dads that take them out of trouble with no effort whatsoever. I have been a sub. for a long time and it makes me feel good knowing that there is somebody else in the world that still brings up kids the right way. Good job!
My father always told me “ There are friends and then there the people you can count on “
I have an 18 year old son and this is something I really worked on. The transition into manhood. I'm happy to say hes a well adjusted young man who now works for me in my construction company as a carpenter appreciate. We spend a fair amount of time together even when not at work.
There is not a toxic masculinity problem there is a lack of masculinity in our youg peoples lives.
A father and son bond. Brought to you by loctite..
I see what you did there.
Something I never knew and never will.
@@awhitecouple I would not be so quick to jump into the arms of pro "white". It is after all "white" culture that has stripped your father from you. Whatever "white" even means.
As a mother, I get it. My sons are 38 and 40. During that transition time, my sons loved baseball. They were around a variety of men that shared courage, wisdom, and advice and helped bring them along in that time of crossing. It is true.... it takes a village to raise children. Your video was very touching! Much WV Love and Many Prayers! 💙💛🙏 PS, one of my very dearest friends lives in ID.
40 years ago my Dad and I were not in a good place. My Dad asked another man to have a chat with me. Thank goodness he did. Made a huge impression on me. He explained that high school is a season of life. In all probability my current friends would not be in my life after high school, and basically my friends and I knew very little about life. He challenged me to do my best and accept things I struggled with, because soon it would be behind me. His words rang true.
Cody, after watching this, I almost feel I need to watch it a second time before commenting. You covered a lot here. I have to say that I usually agree with 99% of what you say. That’s probably the biggest compliment I have to offer. Jack is becoming a terrific young man, thanks to you. I’ve never seen you be mean to him or inappropriate in any way, stern occasionally, but we all need that at times. We’re all going through rough times now. You’re a great man, husband, and father and it shows. My friend, God bless you and yours and stay safe!
Those of us with sons who were lucky enough to have fathers and are like minded hear you.
When your son is ready to start making a name for himself, he learns best from other men. Hopefully Dad has done his job by then.
True words...Dad should have instilled and exampled to the son most of the morals, work ethics, faith based values, and some of the basic skills of what to do and how to treat others. Then Dad should encourage and put his son around other men he wants his son to learn from. Positive reinforcement all the way around of what he should become.
Boy, you are so correct. We are reaping what we've sown......😔
My 34 year old son sent me a link to one of your videos, so I watched it plus a couple more, then added you to my favorites. I was talking to him yesterday and he told me that you kind of remind him of me. After watching this one I understand exactly what he meant. I think you and I would get on nicely.
Nothing makes a man more proud than seeing his son become a man!
Well done my dude. This reminds me so much of the volunteer group I was leading at my church. I had a guy who was volunteering with me to just clean the church. His name was Tom McCabe. Anyway i confronted him after several weeks of him listening to my instructions and giving feedback for how to do things. I asked "Tom, Why do you do this? I'm just a 30 year old janitor?" His response wasn't life changing at the moment but he said "Well, you're the one who started this group of volunteers and this place means a lot to me." The fact that Tom was willing to build me as a leader meant the world to me. He taught me lessons and built my confidence to a level I can't pay back. He passed before this lockdown stuff happened but I feel like he made me a better husband, dad, and leader. I can totally relate to the experience that you had. I feel like I'm speaking from Jack's perspective although I'm closer to your age I'm guessing haha! Those people that influence and teach life lessons are often times overlooked way too much. Thanks so much for sharing!
Blessings.
Cody, I appreciate what you are going through with Jack. My father and I are like oil and water, I have made the comment to a lot of my friends and in many men’s classes at my church. “My father did not teach me anything, but he let me learn anything I wanted to.” He knew with our personality differences, he just needed to let me learn through my own mistakes. I will never forget when learning how to run a backhoe, which he was very proficient at, I asked him how, his answer was, “Run the bucket through the ground just like you would a shovel.” And that is the only advice the man ever gave me on running a backhoe, and understand I was 12 years old. The advice he gave me with a dozer was, “Push the dirt over there”. My father is a strong man and he knew his son! You are a good father Cody, but understand, I have raised 3 young men who are now in their 30’s and at 17 all three lost their minds, just as I did, it’s all about independence.
My dad passed when I was 18, I feel like he did his best to prepare me for the world.
This is why the Boy Scout was so important, not anymore
@Scott Lawson Touched? That's a mild word.
We need a new group for boys thats liberal proof
I was in the boy scouts in the 80s and it had a huge impact on my life and still to this day.
Boy scouts was an important organisation in teaching young boys to be young men for over s hundred years, transgressions aside millions of boys learned the value of God, country, independence and hard work! The org has now been desecrated by leftists, the same leftists that diddled the children, and no longer exists! It's the ultimate expression of where our society is headed!
@@nukembear2345 agreed. I would never send my child to boy-scouts today. I grew up around 30+ men at the deer camp every weekend. I also had to overcome many childhood fears while learning to be a man at the deer camp. Many of the other men stepped in when my father wasnt at the camp well into my mid to late 20s setting me straight if i wasnt falling in line. And the had my dads full authority to do so.
I remember the same things with my Dad. He got to the same place you did and switched to "How can I support you doing what you want to do?" He let me go out and fall down among men so I would learn to get back up on my own. I've watched your interactions thru the years and felt the same way as Jack has. At the same time I saw my Dad in you doing it all out of love. He passed in 2016 around the same time I found your channel. I miss him so much, and have a deep appreciation for what you are doing. Hang in there, it gets scary and better. Blessings, Amigo.
I have teenage sons and struggle with this myself. This was a perfectly timed video. Thanks for sharing this. And great job, Jack.
I never really gave it much thought, but I see now that I was very fortunate that this is what happened to me and my son. Being a long time volunteer firefighter and a career law enforcement officer, my son joined the fire company when he became 16. I can see now that coming into contact with the other men in the company, as well as seeing how I interacted with them outside of the family setting, had a pronounced effect on him. I am so proud of him as he is currently a smoke jumper in Alaska and living my dream lifestyle . We certainly had our issues during his teen years, but I truly believe that the interaction of good men changed his life for the better well beyond what I could do myself.
Old guys have a wealth of experience to learn from
this make me tear up and I wasn't even there. What a wonderful moment.
I once heard: you've become a man when the men around you look at you differently with a newfound respect. A young man knows when this happens
True words...first time another man in your Church calls your dad and asks if you can come help out with a project...brings a sense of pride that at that moment other people outside your family see your value.
I was very blessed, my dad was a firm but fair disciplinarian. If he was angry or I got punished I knew why and I knew it was because I had done wrong. He loved us and enjoyed spending time with us. I had close school friends but even in my teens I spent most of my time with my parents and siblings. We never really butted heads and thankfully I was able to recognise his wisdom from the beginning. It's only now that I'm the age he was when I was born, having just had my first child, that I realise how blessed I am and how rare that father/son relationship is for a lot of people. In many ways he made me the man I am and I know I will be a better parent than I would have otherwise been because of how well he parented me.
I'm a New Yorker looking to flee this God forsaken state. I will say when I leave I won't bring the failed New York ideas with me to my next adventure.
Fair enough but make sure you leave the ones you like from new york as well
I left Eastern Long Island, NY for Alaska in 2017 and never looked back. Since being here American individualism and independence reigns supreme. Yourr not judged for how you live as long as it doesn't affect anyone else. As laid back as Alaska is I can't shake the hustle bustle mentality but I'm trying. As for the cold, it can reach -60, and have 8 months of winter so its a trade off for having less people.
Being a good father is so much harder than society says it is. It truly is the most thankless job out there. My father and I fought like cats and dogs until I left. Once I was gone for a year (basic and AIT) I realized quickly that he had WAY more knowledge than I could ever absorb. I remember the first morning home, sitting on the back patio with my dad, drinking coffee. He looked over at me and said he was proud of the man I was becoming, and wished he could have done more for me. It shook me to my core because I knew he meant it, and I was the only thing stopping him. Young men, listen to your elders. You may not like how the message is delivered, but learning how to find the signal in the noise is part of becoming a man. Ignore the BS and look for the lesson. It's there... Thank you for talking about this. This made me pickup the phone and call my dad. Thank you!
Yes, boys must be around good strong men. My dad and I actually came to blows once, guess who lost. It wasn't until I joined the marines that I had the transition you are talking about. Of course now I love and miss my dad more than I would ever believe back then.
As a Police Officer in a metropolitan city, I see the effects of young and older men who did not have father figures raising them to be "men" multiple times a day. Instead they are raised by the streets and the cycle keeps repeating itself, so sad
actually they are raised by "single" mothers thanks to the police
Their "father" figure... they get it from the TV... Kind of pathetic really.
This is exactly what conservatives have been saying for years,lefties think it’s nonsense,government programs can fill the gaps and solve the problems created by fatherless homes
Outlaw single motherhood, or fix the family courts. Almost all drug addicts and prisoners were raised by single moms.
This is our country that most of our family members fought for. As good people, we should not have to be afraid to live, visit or travel through each and every state! God bless you and The United States of America. On to better days!!
Being afraid is a personal choice. Being deterred by fear is a personal choice.
@@vacayooper4728 Sounds like a quote from a movie, "After Earth" ?
@@soonstrgzr No clue, never watched that. I read many things and am interested in philosophy so maybe just picked it up. But I state it that way because I answered a question on the subject that way, as well as it being true in my opinion.
One thing which gave me self belief like no other was when I was leaving college, I texted my dad "you still at work? drink?" he texted me back, with a location. He was at a work friend's leaving do.
I was speaking with his boss's boss... Like, he was easily making six+ figures.. We were talking, he was happy to speak with his work colleague's son to start with is great. I know many wouldn't.
But about 3 days later my dad's boss's boss said something like "you've got a great son, give him my number if he needs work when he graduates".
It's one of the proudest moment's i've seen my dad. Like, that was the demonstrable moment, he's no longer a kid. He's an adult. Talking with adults and holding his own in with in-depth conversation.
When Jack called you “old man” caught my ear and made me smile.
I dont think you’re the kind of people they’re trying to keep out.
I don't think they're checking, too many people are coming in. They're knee-jerk reacting.
Absolutely. We’d welcome Him with open arms lol
@@5-minutewitness197 Can’t believe people can’t just move to a new state without being nagged at about not being born there lmao.
The Fish Keepers “land of the free”
@@brazeification2 It’s not because they’re not born there, it’s because they often bring (and vote for) the very ideologies from which they are fleeing their last state. If it doesn’t work well, stop voting for it.
For decades the Boy Scouts have helped to mold boys into young men. I was involved in Scouting for about 15 years while my two sons were Scouting age. It's such a shame that the Scouting Movement has been taken over by Progressive Philosophy. I wouldn't be in Scouting today.
The only good thing is a lot of the troops themselves are still traditional or at least teach everything traditional. Now better split off is Trail Life USA but its hard for me to go to them just because boy scouts has the camps that I know and love and at the moment I just can't part from them! I grew up in those camps so they have a lot of sentimental value to me.
That and the whole pedophilia thing that went on for decades that was covered up like it was the Catholic church...
Took my grandson to work weekend at our hunting cabin. He was eleven. I could see exactly what you are talking about. He rose up to the occasion. He didn’t act like a kid, he was helpful to the other men and tried to learn everything we were doing. Proud moments and we need more of them. Thanks fro another Great video.
Jack, you are a fine young man for what you did. Feel proud for helping that man.
I almost cried listening to this, well done. The advice I gave both my son and my daughter as they left home for college is this. The single most important decision you will make, one that will influence your life forever, is the quality of the friends you make. Pick good friends, avoid bad ones. Blessings to you and your family.
As always you make a great Point. Look at the pickle we're in now because of a generation of participation trophies. Thank you
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I think we need to look in the mirror and ask ourselves "who gave them the trophies?" You can't blame a kid for how they are raised. Just my two cents.
I wasn't blaming the kids I was blaming the concept of the trophy and the price we're paying for it now
@@jeffwallace957 ah. I see. Thank you for the clarification. :)
You are truly blessed W.S. My dad and brothers had times like that and I have some of the fondest memories, I look back on often and miss it and him greatly every day. We lost him back in 1988 at the ripe old age of 57, as a deputy sheriff in Jackson Hole Wyoming he left us too soon and I still talk and listen to him to this day I can still hear him say make every moment count for you never know when it's your time. I know he is breaking the trail for us up ahead. God Bless you and yours. Russ.
My Idaho pedigree is that I read every Patrick F McManus story. 😁
I have them and read them to my kids.
The night the bear ate Goomba is such a great one.
I practice my Modified Stationary Panic at least twice before every hunting season, just to be prepared!
He was just as funny in person lol.
@@deesestrees I also have the set of books and I have probally read all of them 10 times. These books have saved my life many times. I swear George was writing about my childhood. I also had a troll.
I grew up with my dad reading me Patrick McManus stories as a bed time story!!! RUclips his name... there are a bunch of videos of him....they are great!!!!
I appreciate my dad, grandfathers, uncles and older cousins for showing me what and what not to do as a man, but surprisingly a single brief conversation with a guy I only met once put all of that together. Paraphrasing, he told me that I may know everything and your dad may not, but he's managed to bring you along with what little he does. Do you think you could do the same as him with all of your knowledge? I mean you're still living at home. Changing tires, chopping wood, weeding a garden, even starting a fire, it clicked that I didn't know any of it until one of the men in my family showed me. Definitely helped me when I headed off to the Marines. I learned what I could and imparted what I could because I didn't and don't know everything.
Most relatable video you've ever made. Loved it. Sounds like we are walking through the same season with our sons. Good luck and God bless you and your family.
Outstanding. As the father of a soon to be 9 year old, this is a very inspiring story. Thanks for sharing.
Someday you will look back on all of your videos and relive and cherish the memories you've created with Jack and your family!
You really hit a nerve for me.
I used to work with my Dad when I was on Summer Holidays and off School.
At the time I used to question everything he asked me to do.
When he passed away due to a Motorbike accident, I worked with his Brother for a little while.
I couldn't believe the respect he had for my Dad and his ability to do anything.
That's when it hit me, that my Dad was a great guy, he just couldn't teach me what he wanted to because I was so close to him.
Watching you with Jack makes me think back and smile at those times.
The sad thing was I never realised the skills I'd picked up, until it was too late to thank him.
Keep doing what you're doing mate, it's awesome and Jack appreciates it, you can tell!
Patience runs thin when you try to teach things a family member. You are so right !
You made perfect sense. You always do. I’ve been a subscriber for a long time. Don’t miss a single video. It’s nice when you speak about running into some situational epiphanies. Being an average Christian who doesn’t go to church, listening to you makes so much sense to me. Makes me a better man and father. You’ve inspired me to pick up the good book and revisit taking a different approach. You describe readings in the Bible better than any church I’ve ever attended. Thank you.
Thank you Cody for this reminder. Our pride does get in the way when it comes to raising kids. Like you said, we feel like we can do it all. “It takes a tribe to raise a child” didn’t become a cliche’ for no reason!
I'm right there with ya.. while this lockdown has been happening, I've been to 27 states and driven 90k miles. I've done whatever I wanted to do when I wanted to do it. I haven't worn a mask, and I haven't stepped up my hand washing game anymore than I would on a regular day in regular times, I don't keep gallons of sanitizer in stock ...And ya know what.. I still haven't contracted COVID, And neither has anyone I know personally. But I am like you, I despise people I don't respect on any level telling me anything about how I should handle my affairs. God bless you all, I know he's blessed me.
I feel like im a kid still sometimes at 32. But seeing Jacks manerisms and attitude, I think if my son acted like him at 15 id be proud. Even with the difference in our view points you raised him well.
This video touched me on so many levels. The story of Father & son, the conflict & tension, the necessity of being with other men, of growing up, of being an individual, of talking to your family and deciding things together, of not wanting to be told what you can and can't do by government.......I could go on & on about so many points you made in this video. I appreciate what you are doing, the authenticity in which you are doing it as well as your humility Cody. I appreciate you. If you get the cabin thing happening at your homestead I'd love to come visit. It's a dream of mine to travel this country and meet and spend time with people like you and your family. Blessings and praying for you & the family. Way to Go Jack!!!
I’m 44 and just now realizing my dad was right, 😂
My close friend was over yesterday with his 8 year old son and instead of sitting around the house his father and I defied him to take my ax and fall a tree in the woods out back. It was amazing to watch him keep going even though you knew he was exhausted cause someone other than his father was egging him on. His reward was when I handed his dad the big ax and pointed at a bigger tree and said “now we get to see what your dad can do.” It’s amazing how the audience of another man pushed him a little more. My son is only 3 right now but I won’t forget these lessons
That’s why when it came to gun training, I took my sons to FrontSight Firearms training in Pahrump Nevada. They could train them far better and without the emotion than I could and we could enjoy the stories together after our daily events; a great father and son time!
My dad started a cabinet shop when I was really young and for the early years it was really tough and we butted heads often but I learned a ton. It wasnt until later on that I realized what a talent my dad was and I improved on his talent as time went on. It, unfortunately, wasn't until his death in 2017 did I realize how much more of a relationship we could have had if only I could have been spiritual enough to ask God to help me deal with one of satan's biggest tools....PRIDE. Swallow that pride. Between that and Christian guilt in spiritual warfare is a battle all of its own. You're spot on!
It was very ballsy of Jack to jump on the bike and be pulled back, I've been on more than one sled both pulling and being pulled and it isn't the easiest thing to do. Good on you for letting him do that and giving him the win.
You said it 100% right. 20 years ago as a scout leader, i couldnt find a proper troop leader for the boys, after sacking 6. So i buckled up, and took over, finding the best male instructors i could for the budget and situation to cover up, depending the activity, my own limitations. Also made a speach🤣. "Meanwhile we find a proper male scout leader, i will be on charge. As a woman, i cant show you what a man can, but i sure can tell you what a strong woman want to see in you...". It worked out amazing. The boys of my group where so different, that everybody could spot them out from a mile! And i was very proud of them to.
So lack of proper strong men, has been an issue for a while.🙄
We all think our dad's are stupid until we're on our own paying the bills. Then, we realize just how smart they were. Now, turn that light off, you're costing me .002$. LOL
As a son, I remember the look of pride on my father’s face when I completed my engineering apprenticeship and was offered a full-time job. Got the same look again from him when I brought my future wife home to meet him and my mother.
The problem is "infantilism" where boys are encouraged NOT to grow up. The "rugged individualism" is a reaction to that. Oh and you are wrong,,woman have a place they help stop strength and toughness from becoming harsh and hard. As long as they except that their "baby" has grown up!
I’m glad you made this comment. Women have an important part then as well , it’s just not the same as the men’s roles.
I knew that comment would trigger some women. He is right BTW, and his comment doesn't diminish a womans role.
@@canesrock82 Hate to tell you bub..but I got two big ones and I am no woman! I have successfully raised sons. I don't disagree with his basic premise just that women have a role too. If you want to know how a man will treat your daughter? Look at how he treats his mother!
@@lauriestlyon8773 my apologies. I havent seen a male go by the first name Laurie. Cody's point is on the male guidance as a teenager and growing into a young man. Again, he isnt saying the mother has no role, but the emphasis is on the father/son relationship.
@@canesrock82 Then we have a broad consensus! I get the name issue. Laurie is traditionally a male Scots name. In my case it's the shortened version of Laurence. Apology accepted....of course you do do things a bit different in "the colonies"!
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Spot on! Just had a conversation with a friend yesterday about raising teenage boys to be responsible and well rounded. I’ve been building a log cabin in the NH mountains with my twin 18 yo boys for the past year and am proud of how they’re turning out and they’re work ethic. You definitely don’t see it much these days. ( especially on the East Coast! )
Cody, you and Mrs. W should be proud of your son Jack, he is a fine young man, you have done very well.
The whole " trouble learning from your dad" is why we have apprenticeships.
Iron sharpens iron, thus it makes perfect sense that a boy is raised up to be a young man and eventually a man by men.
Cheers from Tokyo!
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Raising my son I tried to do everything my dad didn't do... Have patience, be firm, be kind, and most importantly, be honest. He turns 20 in March and just graduated from Military Police training in the Army National Guard. He seems to be on the right track and I couldn't be prouder. Tough love isn't easy and it should never be mean, but if kids never learn to deal with failure, they wind up soft and fragile. Keep up the awesome work with your channel bro, good to see good guys are still around.
when you see a badass man as a young kid its inspiring .
Your video, your message is timed perfectly for this dad. God bless you and please continue to follow the Spirts leading✌️
I'm getting a serious "Homer Simpson taking Bart to a steel mill"-vibe from this video.
(I am so glad I found your channel)....I know exactly where you are with this issue.. on several levels.. Personally I didn't listen to what my Dad said until AFTER I grew up.. it hit me like a ton of bricks..I went through some very serious life events of my own doing and yet.. he was always there for me.. I am a recovering alcoholic (20 years sober next month) and one day while in rehab all those years ago.. he came to visit.. I had no idea he even knew I was there.. but he did..We talked about some things and just before he left he told me this and it has stuck with me ever since: " All a father can do is try and show his son(s) the right path to walk, he can only tell them what he has learned in life and hope that it sticks in the minds of his children. so later in life it makes sense" .. then he said this , and now that I have my own son and grand children it is SO true.. "Parenting had no instruction manual.. you just do the best you can with what you have and hope you did it right" .. my Dad passed away 4 years ago and the last thing I was able to tell him was "you did it right" ... I just hope with all this insanity going on right now that we can teach not only our kids,,, but our grandchildren the right way in life and pray it works..we are in for some very crazy times ahead and more then ever those of us that get it.. need to find each other and stay the course...stay strong and prayers to you and yours..
It’s nice to be a parent - but it’s also important to know when not to be.
Here I thought he was going to admit that he was wrong for supporting trump...
Number 1 Dad that’s for sure . All my Dad Taught me was to get high , what a pos he was and still is . Haven’t talked or seen him for so long , makes me wonder how different my life could be if I was in jacks shoes . Makes me happy to see good Dads are out there
Sorry to hear that. Hope if you have kids you can be the change you want to see and not perpetuate that stuff.
Your comment suggests that despite that you see the negativity of his example. I would encourage you to look at good examples (such as Cody) try and find one in your local community and learn from them. Your picture suggests you still young and in truth you really ARE never too old to learn!
A friend of mine visited Idaho for three weeks in 1998. We are both from the east coast. My friend said the people in Idaho were friendly, genuine, polite and wellcoming. Things have changed a lot in 22 years. I believe you when you say Idahoans are hostile.
I've only meet Jack once but watching him grow up through your videos, he's a cool kid and he'll be awesome as an adult.
I am so impressed and proud of you as a father to realize what it takes for your son to grow as a young man. Being able to put egos aside and see what your son needs even when you aren't the one to provide it. You have knowledge on many things and you have tried to impart those things on him. But seeing that another man can influence him and not be threatened is really awesome. You are doing right by Jack. You will always be his father and he will remember all the lessons you have taught him. You are an amazing father to realize that for him to grow, sometimes you need to relinquish control and allow him to learn. Good job, you are raising an amazing young man. I can tell you are proud. You are doing it right and he will be better because of you. God bless.
Sounds like you and Jack had a life-changing weekend. You’re never too old to reap the benefits Of newfound knowledge. Great job to both of you. You have a right to be a proud papa.
My good sir, I would offer for your consideration, Idaho County.
A couple years ago my family came to the realization that we where no longer welcome in our hometown and the state we had farmed, homesteader and carved out of the wilderness for several generations was no longer.
We did our research and our prayers and eventually settled in Idaho county. Now this place is yet far from perfect but never before have we been blessed to be so surrounded by a community of like minded people who share our values and beliefs and wish to support each other how they can.
We started anew with a bare land and have been building and developing as much as we can to suit our needs.
Truly an amazing place to not just take refuge but also to thrive
Oh no a bear ...oh wait just my dog lol I felt that one
Mark Hutchins' comment below is superb. My favorite saying as my (8) kids reached adulthood remains this: "You don't even know what you don't know, so you don't even know what to ask." Striking the balance is the hard part: waiting for them to ask/learn versus authoritatively offering them oft-needed but little-heeded counsel.
Let me start by saying I am 62 grandma 1 son, 2 daughters born to me. 6 grandsons 1 grand daughter born to my children. I have raised and fostered togethern 11 children. Most of them males. 1 dad died. One dad ran off drunk. I taught my children while being mom and dad which things dad would be doing if we had one. Chores such as plowing the gardens, cutting our own firewoodn chainsaw safetyn and how to file oujr own chains. How to drive, how to box, how to buildn how to pray. II must say since there are so many single mothers with sons, you kind of hurt my feelings. I felt like you were trying to talk down to me. I think you would be suprised at how some of us girls can ...Man up... I could out run, out arm wrestle, out box and out smart most of the men I knew. I do have to say, my father did not single me out of the shop or fishing trips. He taught me the same as my big brother. If he heard what you said, he would correct you right now. He was a man well respected. Tough, strict, good teacher and a loving father. I am telling you right nown you better not ignore your daughter in training or one day some ...man... might not treat her well and she will have to learn these skills on her own. My dad taught me to shoot at 7. Ive been driving the boats from the same age. I saw your smart little girl. Shes pretty too. You better teach her to survive and thrive while she is young. She can build on it as I have her whole life. My dad died when I was 20. I love him today as I did when I was a child. He made me feel he loved me. He fed me as a baby, taught me how to read a tapemeasure and do simple fractions when I was 8. He is the reason I am who I am. I have tried to do the same for my children. All in all, it takes the whole village to raise 1 brave, male or female.
My sentiments exactly! You tell him, sister! We are strong
you:re right. I married an okinawa woman in 69 and tried to teach her to drive, it didn"t end well. I went to Virtnam and came back and she had a drivers license, she had gone to driving school while I was in SOG and I was very proud of her. My son is now a full Colonel in SF. We went through the same transitions.
It's better than him being a 40 year old man beating a drum in the woods and yelling Daddy didn't care!
Lost one of my closest friends in a logging accident this past spring . He left 12 children behind , some grown some young boys. I was talking with a friend of ours yesterday on way him and I can take these young boys and do what you are talking of . There Dad was a physical freak of nature and could cut and skid more than a semi truck load of pulp wood a day by hand . They need to understand what they Dad is and what it means to be a man . I log with horses for a living and will be taking them to work with me and my boy , we have other things planed as well. Raising boy and teaching them to be men is the most important job we have . God bless and a great video . The synchronicity is off the charts with this and what we talked about yesterday .
I'm an A M E R I C A N ... I will live anywhere in these United States that I want. 👍🏾
I know my dad and as worried about me until I finally graduated and found a descent job. Then I could tell he was proud of me but he would never tell me but every once in a while I heard him talking on the phone about me. He ended up being my best friend. Lord bless his soul! Badass man!
You hit the nail on the head, Code. Our culture has lost that "rite of passage" for young men, and now it's like so many of them never actually get to manhood