Watch Me Heal My Fear Of Rejection & Abandonment (*trigger warning*)
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- Опубликовано: 20 июн 2021
- I invite you to witness how I face, feel, and heal my fear of rejection and abandonment. Trigger Warning - The intensity of my emotion might trigger intense fear or pain for you. Please use your discretion as to whether you can handle it.
If you want help facing, feeling, and healing your fears, I invite you learn more about my online sessions here: noahelkrief.com/sessions 
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Your father here.
Whahhh!!! That was intense.I am speechless of how courageous you are.
Wonderful lesson of how to let myself experience those intense feelings and know
I will be ok..it hurt me lot watching you going through that ,but so happy to see you
going past them.
Great teaching for all of us not to be scared to feel
Thank you Noah for this great service .
I heard you and I am with you,and
I love you
:) I can imagine it wasn't enjoyable to watch, but I'm so happy that you're open to seeing me, receiving me, and supporting me anyhow. Thank you and you're welcome :)
Choke up tears cry. Love this for you and your Dad
what a beautiful relationship you have. I really aspire to be this loving and understanding with any child/spouse I take care of in the future
And... now I'm crying. That was so beautiful. ❤🙏
wow amazing youre both awesome! love you guys!
I totally fear being seen as "weak" in public. Thank you and Respect for having the balls to share this
Agree.
I have very bad anxiety as long as I can remember, OCD, panic attack... Meltdowns from ASD (autism),
I'm so afraid of feeling in public, I guess I just only want to be & look "normal" to others...
I spend a lot of time alone, cuz I worry a lot about everything, & also I need time alone especially after being around ppl cuz I get emotionally drained...
I really hope alot of ppl will watch Noah's RUclips videos & hopefully they will help lots of ppl.
I just found out about this channel ❤️
Peace, Love, Hugz 🫂
★ 𝓔𝓵𝓲𝔃𝓪𝓫𝓮𝓽𝓱 ★
Being vulnerable in public is brave.
If i had not started my shadow work i would had thought you are making it up but really i feel you because that is exactly what i am going through
Bro, you’re so in sync with your emotional self. I want that for myself.
Hey Noah, that was really brave
I'd just like to share something with you.
When I was a teenager locked in a psychiatric ward, I was genuinely struggling to find the willpower to live. In the reception area of the ward we were allowed to use our phones. I remember feeling so helpless, hopeless and done until I searched "How to deal with lonliness." I found one of your videos and you taught me that it's the story we tell ourselves that creates our suffering. Your advice has helped me more than any therapist ever has. I'd just like to say Thank you so much. You turned my world around
I know there is going to be someone again who finds your wisdom and strength through your work
Thank You so much, for everything.
Thank you, thank you, thank you for beeing so brave! ❤❤
Finally someone who actually shows what working through a trigger looks like! Not just explain it.
I needed this so bad. ❤
Everyone talks about overcoming your fears and leaving them behind, but no one tells you how to do it. Now I know what I have to do. Thank you!❤️
I have to say, I also have a lot of anger that sits in my stomach. Crying is a big release. Anger is also awful to feel
This is literally my life right now, fear of abandonment and just general fear of loving people. Honestly I am so scared of peoples opinions of me I am frightened of making RUclips videos. Thank you for this xx
You're welcome. I hear you Amy. I get it.
i am with you , same here
Thank you for being so vulnerable! Some parts of the video scared me and made me remember that I fear other people’s anger because other people’s anger was unsafe for me as a child. I’ve realized that I repress my own anger and it can sometimes come out in uncontrolled ways because of that. It was amazing to see how deep you could go with the stories that these emotions came from. You’re profoundly helping so many people with your videos. I am so grateful for this content. 💕
Thanks Noah! 🙏🏼… amazing real time awareness and acute ability to reflect that loop of emotion - thought- emotion etc. I found this so helpful and as you say it normalises what all of us go through, usually subconsciously. Absolutely Wonderful! 🌟Feel blessed for teachers like you and deeply grateful for your courage and authenticity to share and be openly vulnerable.
:) yay. So glad it was helpful for you Fofo
This is the first video of yours that I watched. It drew me in because most of my life I’ve had a fear of rejection. How intense and brave of you to share this! Thank you. :)
Thanks Noah! What I recieved from it was breaking the stigma that let's say "teachers" or "healers" are complete in their journey and reached a stage that there are no more emotions or triggers. This feels calming because it takes a way some sort of urgency to get to the finishline. But also disappointing too 😅🙏
haha yes, and I hear you
This actually is my experience now, everyone did abandone me. Since my mother past away a year ago ( we,ve been so close for 54 years) my siblings never contacted me, my husbad left me after 23 years because of my illness i got from constant being a caregiver, being burned out depressed etc. It feels awfull. Nobody hears me, nobody sees me. My dog passed away also. Walking in the forest every day and feeling that same intense emotions you share. Very painfull, how to go on.....
I’m always impressed by how better I feel when I allow myself to break down for a few minutes. Thank you for allowing yourself to be vulnerable with us.
You are NOT alone
Thank you so much Noah. I needed this more than you know. I love you.
Thank you so much for your honesty, vulnerability and sharing your processing with us. This was very helpful. I am Sorry you have had such awful experiences and that you were so scared. You deserved so much better. Lots of love and light to you. ❤️
Thank you for helping to "normalize" our abilities to heal ourselves on such deep levels. So honored to have witnessed your process (and you).
You're welcome Kelly
You have inspired me with your videos ever since I first came across you several years ago, but this open sharing of your emotional healing and vulnerability in doing so have inspired me beyond words. THANK YOU for this display of how we can work through emotional layers with a consciousness of curiosity and openess to receive the messages the wounded parts of us have. This feels like a major jigsaw puzzle falling into place and guide me in my own healing journey further. Bless you, and thank you again
Amazing :) Yay! You're welcome!
Thank you Noah, it's beautiful to see you process your emotions in such an honest, mindful, openhearted way. I'm sure I bury a lot of my emotions so this content gives me ideas of how I can begin to work with them. Your suggestion about relating your difficult emotions to past physical unsafety (from this or another life) was a great tip. I can use this perspective to remind me I am safe even when my emotions suggest I'm "unsafe"
You're welcome Gulab.
Just beautiful Noah. Sooo timely. I was dancing the other day and was really going all out and feeling so fantastic and free in every cell in my body and all of a sudden I began to cry very hard. And the images coming to my mind I could only interpret as ancestors (or passed lives) who have been repressed for eons and somehow the dancing allowed me to tap into that..the dancing as a representation of freedom of the body. Centuries of the body being not free, of being enslaved, came through me that day. It was so beautiful. Thank you for your work..for showing us that it is ok to heal ourselves and the collective we are all tapped into, in this raw way. ❤️
Beautiful. Thanks for sharing. So lovely. And you're welcome :)
Wow Noah, that was powerful in so many ways. Thank you for sharing your beautiful soul, your vulnerability and your process of working with pain, anger and forgiveness, etc. Truly beautiful 🙏🏻
You are so welcome. Thank you for seeing me and being open :)
It takes great courage and also letting go of what other people think to have a youtube channel. My hat is off to you. You've helped me in the past so thank you!
100%!!
wow thank you so much for this video. I have a lot of triggers from my fear of abandonment and it nice to be able to relate to someone i know that i am not alone.
That was so brave! I'm so sorry for all the pain anyone has ever caused you.
1st: This is one of the most authentic videos I have ever witnessed! Thank you for really putting yourself out there and showing others what it looks like to release this type of emotion from your body, as it is the root cause of most major illness (my belief anyway)... You are one of the bravest people I have ever seen because no one wants to be viewed as emotionally unstable or vulnerable, but you have modeled very healthy behavior by observing your state of mind and "from a healing perspective," you can easily direct the process, you just have to be willing to feel everything, especially the really angry cursing parts. it is the same for Meridian Tapping which I have been doing since 97, acknowledge what is seeking a voice and send it love and compassion to bring about closure...All aspects of us need to be validated, which is why folks like us seem drawn to this work, we can relate and want to share with others how freeing it is to release this old energy...Thank you again, you are greatly appreciated for sharing your truth...
You're so welcome Laurie. Thanks for sharing your experience with me :)
“Anger wasn’t allowed” and “my anger was always abandoned.” Wow. This made me cry because it resonated with me so much. This video was a mirror to the childhood traumas I didn’t even realize I had. Thank you and wishing you an amazing healing journey!
Thank you for sharing and thank you for making this a safe space to open up💪💪
You're such a beautiful person! This was very inspiring!
Thank you do much for having the courage to show how emotional release is done. We should learn this early. Your videos are very very helpful. Blessings to you.
You're welcome Bianca
It's amazing how much you can learn about yourself by watching someone else, who "simply" openly shares his own feelings without any inhibition. It's really inspiring seeing you being able to instantly switch from your right brain expressions (all those emotional outbursts) to your left brain expressions (consciously describing what exactly you feel, painting those emotions with logic).
Thank you for having allowed us to be a part of that. I too feel love and I hope it somehow shines back at you, too, dear Noah. It's a nice and heart-warming feeling seeing you grow and reaching out for peace and harmony, when I remember the first time I came across your channel back in 2015.
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Considering this video, I felt ill-at-ease and a lot of shame, especially when you expressed your anger and sadness so openly. Because in my head there were voices popping up, yelling at me to surpress all of those urges. Basically, I know about those sleeping monsters in my head and their whereabouts, but it's always interesting to see how "hungry" (for love in the form of acceptance) they still are. 😅
Amazing, loved watching you going through that, a practical demonstration so I know how to move through my feelings. Thank you 🙏
Noah you're so brave, daring to be open and vulnerable like this.
Thank you for sharing all your videos, they've really helped me through some difficult years.
A joyous summer solstice to you and lots of love from Copenhagen x
You're welcome Inger. I'm so glad to hear they've helped you!
The worst is when fear is real! Fear that if I leave my job i have nowhere to go! Literally no one to count on for support, not financially! It's like you have PTSD but the war ain't even close to being over yet.
Noah, thank you for your courage and vulnerability in sharing your process ... I will be sharing this with my emotional expansion students because it demonstrates the unfolding of what it feels and even looks like when bringing buried emotions to the top in order to release them. In our society this is so foreign to us because we're taught not to show our emotions - and in fact, everything about our society intimates that we should keep them buried. But, of course, when we push them down rather than letting them surface, we become slaves to them as they will simply express when we are triggered. You are a spectacular role model in emotional healing!
You're welcome Becca! Thank you so much for sharing with me. It's nice to hear from you. I know you do this too :)
I wanted to add, it was really illuminating to hear that basically all traumas/repressed emotions are the result of direct, literal danger to our lives that we experienced in some life. That things like self worth issues and similar are because they're so closely associated with a direct risk of death (if I'm interpreting that correctly). It makes things feel a little more clearer.
Yeah, from my experience, all fear is logical in that it all stems from physical danger. It just gets triggered in situations that remind us of when we were in danger.
We're afraid to release emotions since they weren't accepted as a child by parents or guardians and we learn to bury them deep in our subconscious mind. The problem is that as adults we're faced with situations that trigger our amygdala to release stress responses that can completely shut down our prefrontal cortex or the thinking brain that controls emotions. Without this we either get more anxious about showing the outside world including ourselves our true buried emotions and the panic escalates since we fear the death of our ego. If someone allowed us to have these releases and experience them without critical judgement then they aren't feared as adults but most of us push them down deeper and only drugs and alcohol allow them to present themselves without fear of rejection. The problem is that we're inebriated and not truly accepting them as part of who we are and the false self is perpetuated ad infinitum until we have a complete breakdown or we can witness them and accept them without judgment.
That was full of grace and courage Noah. Thank you.
You're welcome Phil
Powerful video Noah!!! Shows we're not alone in our feelings. Great to know it's a normal response. I went through this recently. I'm like what the hell's wrong with me. But it's normal. Thank you. 🙏❤
This video definitely came out at a perfect time Noah! Thank You! 🤗❤️ Very very powerful too! I experience a lot of emotions all the time.
You're welcome Travis
Thank you Noah. Thank you for sharing how we all humans feel but afraid and conditioned to repress it. You are so loveable. I wish I could give you a hug 🌞
You're welcome Helen
Thank you so much for sharing and being brave enough to show us your process. I’d hear people vaguely say “you need to feel your emotions to heal.” I never really understood that or understood what intentionally and actively feeling emotions looked like so I end up just doing my own thing randomly. This is such a helpful demonstration in that it tells me that feeling your emotions can look or sound like anything it needs to. Thank you again. :)
You're welcome! Yes, everyone expresses their emotion differently. It doesn't have to look like me or like anyone else.
I loved this! Thanks.
I noticed judgements in me as well towards you. That is the same thing that judges myself for having similar feelings and desire to express
This was amazing. Thank you Noah, you allowed me to feel and release and reframe and comfort by younger self. 💖
Brilliant. Thank you so much, Noah.
I loved your video. About an hour ago I was feeling a little sad, and didn't really know why I felt that way. As I began listening to you, I realized that I also had feelings of rejection. While I was watching you expressing your emotions I felt relieved of mine. Thank you for being brave for us in front of your camera. I hope other people can heal their emotions by witnessing your work. It sure worked for me and my intention is to watch this video again, if my feelings of rejection show up again.
So glad it served your Lorna.
Thank you for this Noah. Filming voulnability like that requires courage. Before watching I was a little afraid it would trigger something for me, but it turned out to actually help me confirm what humanity can look like. Like it is okay to feel and try to experience where the reactions are comming from. But it is also clear, to me at least, that you are trained and skilled in this. I experience a lot of people not being able to even begin to put a single word on their emotions. I can imagine this process being very diffucult for them.
This was so vulnerable and beautiful 😍. Thank you. Its helped me n ive been feeling very overwhelming energy today over feeling rejected. This is true seeing it for what it is takes away its power 💖🙏
Noah, you are an incredibly talented young man and I thank you for alllll these teaching videos!!
You're welcome C Reese!
This is one of the best videos I ever saw, the scenario you showed here, I go through this, intense high and low, I met a psychologist and she told me about borderline personality disorder.
That was a very freaky yet brave exercise noah. thanks for taking me thru this cycle and I hope to use some of this myself. thanks for sharing
Thank you so much for this video and show us your journey! 🙏
You're welcome Manuel
Man this was intense and had me breaking down as well. Thank you.
Oh our Noah - you're so appreciated... open, authentic, courageous. For me, this video fits with things you've recently explained about how a lot of it is about *old pain." To identify it, call it up and release it. Your videos are so welcomed here - very glad to see you.
peace & comfort
:) thank you
Such an interesting video. Part of me was so intrigued and part of me wanted to look away. I think for most of my life I have been fighting to keep my super intense emotions under control. On some level it feels like they would destroy. It is really cool to see you smiling and at peace at the end of the video:) thank you for sharing and being vulnerable!
Yeah, it can totally seem like the intensity of the emotion could destroy us. But, after feeling the intensity enough, it actually becomes super calm to feel intensity.
Beautiful thank you for sharing I related especially to the moment you cried that you wanted your mommy I feel that way exactly sometimes thank you for reducing shame for me
Loved it. Yes it helped. Love to see the work in action! Many people describe what to do (that can be helpful). But you actually **show** us What it looks like when you're doing it. Thanks for these types of videos, Noah. Very good for me.
You're welcome Stephanie :)
Wow, thank you for this
Thank you ❤️ It was helpful to see how a clearing and healing can express itself. I realize how numb i am and how much i have stuffed emotions away deep down. I wish i had your awareness to bring forth all the old emotions and programming from the deep.
You're welcome Anton
So beautiful 🥰
We need more ppl like you in this world.
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I love this video. I have this same feeling, oh yea - it was key for me when you said 'reduce the power of it. Thanks Noah
One of the best psychological content creators. You are wonderful , please keep going 🙏
Thank you for doing this video
A lot of emotions came up watching this, not as intense or clear in its origin but a lot came up. I seem to have been trying so hard to tell a story to myself and stick to one specific emotion in one specific part of my body. This video helped a lot
I'm glad it helped!
Well done. This is how we release emotional injuries, by fully experiencing them. It's like pulling a weed out by the root.
i didn't realize how bad I've wanted too cry these last few days. i had no idea until i really just allowed my emotions just like you did in this video.
:)
I adore you🥰 this was a blessing for me
Totally Noah God Bless you
I really admire you. Much respect💝
Thanks for sharing Noah, I found this surprisingly helpful! 😀
:)
I have felt all of those emotions. You just helped me to understand how to let go of them when I'm triggered. Thank you. That was really brave of you! 😶
You're welcome Lynette! Good luck with it!
Beautiful! So moving and theatrical. Thank you for sharing, it felt like watching art. Albeit art about your real vulnerable feelings.
You're welcome Anna! :)
powerful video! don't delete it. this will help people xo
Having this to reference when I’m triggered will be immensely helpful to be reminded that these emotions just want to move through and be released. 🙏
:) wonderful
Very brave and beautiful. Thank you for sharing, it's a true inspiration!
You're welcome Emilie
Beautiful Noah. So happy for your sharing. :)
:)
Much respect.
No matter what people believe there are forces at work in the unseen. I don’t like to give them names or put labels on them (be it religion or belief) they should be allowed to just be. We’ve been conditioned as a society to hide them and that it’s weird, but to be quite honest working through them and letting them be heard is so important! I think I understand now because you made this video! Thanks Noah!
Thanks Noah
I learn a lot with you. I don't usually allow my overwhelming emotions to express themselves in this manner, unless it's sadness. Maybe because I thought I wasn't supposed to let their expression to be this physical or something like that. But I feel like giving that a try later today. Thank you, Noah. You are welcome in my village any time.
Good luck! let me know how it goes
@@NoahElkrief I ended up doing it today. I put some ambient 800% slower Thomas Newman music very loud, which made me feel safe to make noises and in a safe space. As soon as I laid in my bed I felt usual the fear of death and loneliness. But this time not of my death. I tried to open myself to it and ask if it wanted to say anything (except I didn't really ask, it was more of an attitude in the form of this question), and I saw myself as a child fearing my parents death. I remembered when I realized I was going to lose them someday and it felt like I couldn't really feel it then and wasn't supported. So I started to cry a lot with some shaking here and there. I talked to my younger self too, told him "it's going to be ok. You can feel this as much as you like. I'm here with you". I then heard my younger self say "mom, dad, I don't want you to go". And then repeatedly "mom, dad, don't leave me here". I felt alone in the dark and as a baby, as if my parents didn't got to me fast when I was crying and turned into a trauma that snowballed to where it is today. I'm not sure if this is a memory because I don't really remember anything from baby times, but I said "memory or not you can express yourself here". And then I cried more. Towards the end I told my younger self "look inside your heart. Is there ever a moment when mom or dad aren't with you?" The answer was no, but I felt some conflict between they being alive in my heart and they being alive as people. I'll continue to explore this.
The whole thing took about 32 minutes. I only stopped because I have things I must do now. I'm not sure if I feel healed, though. I feel good and discharged, but I also feel like there's a lot more to allow expression on this subject. It's weird that both my parents are alive and I felt for decades their death. I'm not sure if I'm doing things "right" too, but I feel like doing this more soon, maybe even alter today. I hope this leads to freedom and some well beingness in life. Anyway, it felt somewhat similar to what you showed us in this video. Am I wrong in thinking that?
The thing that helped me most is when u said in another video about the fantasy world of thoughts
This is really impressive!
Thank you Noah. You're video helped me and invited me to let my emotions be, realized that i'm still suffering from old situations on this life and that some suffering is to big even to healed in this life, hope i'm wrong. Excuse me english, im from are Argentina. I heard you!
It helps me understand the work to heal rejection trauma. I am just beginning to gather information and think about these things. I will ask God for help
I noticed feeling like I wasn't connecting to my own experience along with this video. There is a feeling of shame, im not good enough, shutting down, around the thought that you're better than me for being able/having the courage/space to do this. Fear that I won't get there, or wherever I need to go. There is also a general feeling of shame/disgust around you sharing your experience of your emotions. That's what came up for me.
I hear you Louie. Thanks for sharing honestly with me.
excellent and powerful, this is a great message for our times. look around at how people destructively act out their emotions!
This is the peaceful way :)
It was helpful thx !
Glad to see u r like the rest of us but sorry for ur anxiety
Brave! Thanks
Noah Elkrief: this video is SOOO INTIMATE!
I always feel like this.
Thankyou
It seems you are the only one who can access such intense emotions. I've never seen such a reaction from anyone to their emotions, also the same with past lives - it seems you are one of the only ones who can access them.
It took a long time to be able to allow myself feel such intensity. Then, it took a while to be able to handle intensity so casually.
Well, I think a lot of people experience and access these emotions regularly! The difference is that some people do not have the training, command, and understanding of these emotions to process them as efficiently as Noah shares here. Ever seen someone in a fit of rage? Ever seen someone wailing tears?
Thank you so much for this video. it awoke so much in me. made me realize that pain is real. good to let it out. i also fear abandoment. i also
fear the anger and the pain that i feel. does this happen to all of us?
I really appreciated the comment about further normalizing your experience. Felt like, yeah, I can accept everything that comes up...frightful, angry, ugly, ok...good, Yeah, it's part of me, and that's ok. Thank you.
Hey Noah! You don't know me but I want to say: You are a beautiful and sensitive man. It takes a lot of courage to be emotionally transparent. (Probably I'll never reach your level in my life.) I wish you the best and that you're surrounded by good loving people. God is with you and He will never let you down. Men fail, God does not.
PS: I love your channel!
Not good enough? You are the best!
For me its pros that such valuable videos don't have much views. It's like a psichology boutique channel(not mainstream, but deeper topics). And most people comments can be seen by an auther 💙
Last night, I had a dream that you were helping me out from some "evil entities" 😅❤
Suraksha, dreams are metaphores,and evil entities are usually things we are struggling with subconsciously and fears we have suppressed.... So,yes. Noah definitely is helping with that. 🙏
@@LisaKinoti that's exactly what I thought after waking up.
It's amazing what our brain do to us when we identify with it... Thank you for making me laugh! I'm watching from Italy
Thank you
You're welcome Karen
Very interesting. Thank you for your vulnerability. I’m going to try this. But not on RUclips! 😆
Surprised you are afraid of fear and rejection ...you are a super handsome dude and very intelligent super surprised this is an issue for you. Stay strong. You are very much appreciated by all your followers on RUclips. ❤
Thanks Larry