Adrienne’s mom’s story is so sad. They told her she was “unclean” for losing her virginity to a man & not marrying him, that’s disgusting. Society is always trying to find ways to control women & shame us for everything we do.
@@k.alvarado6237 do you own women's vaginas? Do they need your permission to acquire "milage" on it? What people do with their body parts is none of anybody's business. Value and respect the woman as a whole not just her vagina.
People need to respect the sanctity of marriage, PERIOD. if you wanna marry get divorced, marry get divorced don’t get married in Churches or before God. I see there was no applaud for Tamera’s point on people not knowing how to make wise choices... people have to take responsibility for their choices... marriage is the biggest choice you’ll make in your life, it’s not a joke.
@@ingenueblue8914 but marriage comes with govt. benefits, so if the limit is 3 or 4 it would help people be more selective. I have a few jamaican friends and they marry people when they become citizens then just divorce a couple years after the other person becomes a citizen.
It's a control tactic the same way religion is a way to control people. Spirituality is one thing, religion is designed to keep a level of order. Waiting on Communism to arrive under the Trump administration.
@@Marina-xd7gp thank u for answering. Also u don't always have to get married. We r programmed to believe we need to get married for our relationship to be real and official.
@@G33KN3rd Matthew 19:1And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the region of Judea beyond Jordan; 2And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there. 3The Pharisees also came unto him, testing him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 4And he answered and said unto them, Have you not read, that he who made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they two shall be one flesh? 6Therefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder. 7They said unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? 8He said unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts allowed you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. 9And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, commits adultery: and whoever marries her who is put away does commit adultery.
Getting married more than 3 times is childish and foolish. Itvis a sign that you are not taking the time to think about your choices. An adult should not be so ignorant! I agree Tamera.
@@gaila.9852 I need to correct my statement. I thought my post specified the number of times. Thank you for your critique. I will revise my statement to reflect what I meant to say.
I got married at 22 and I’m still married to my wonderful husband 30 years later. If you Both want a good, and healthy marriage, you both have to work hard at not taking your love or your marriage for granted.
I feel like people get married for the wrong reasons. I’ve seen people get married cos they been together for 2 years+ and their both over 30, and obviously it didn’t end up working, i believe marriage is insanely spiritual and your union needs to be ordained by God
Am just out from a break up coz a guy would not wait until marriage. I want my marriage to be from God...but it hurts when you keep meeting the frogs...your statement just made me want to keep on waiting on God
Sadly, marriage is just not taken as serious anymore. I don’t get why people want to rush into marriage, only to get a divorce shortly after. When you marry someone, you should be thinking forever with that person, not thinking abt divorce if things don’t work out! Mayb if divorce wasn’t such an easy option then people wouldn’t rush to get married
A lot of people my age only get married as a financial set up. I’m not gonna hate on women who marry for security, but it’s another thing to marry and plan to have a divorce.
I completely agree with you. I think a lot of times people get divorced too quickly because they give up too easily. Over time we change and our relationships will have to change as well. Things in life will happen and in all vows we promise to stay through the good and bad times, however many people don't really try when it comes to the hard times. They want out before even really trying.
I mean a lot of people today just get married because they want to get married and not necessarily because its the right thing to do. There are a lot of men and women who just like the status of being someone spouse because thats how they measure their selfworth. Also a lot of people who just want a fancy ceremony lmao
Agreed. Take away the "he has to spend two months salary on an engagement ring," the big "look at me and talk about how pretty I look" walk down the aisle, the registering of gifts, etc. and let's get a better fix on who wants to live the dream of being a life partner instead of just living the dream of having a wedding.
Matthew 19:1And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the region of Judea beyond Jordan; 2And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there. 3The Pharisees also came unto him, testing him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 4And he answered and said unto them, Have you not read, that he who made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they two shall be one flesh? 6Therefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder. 7They said unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? 8He said unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts allowed you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. 9And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, commits adultery: and whoever marries her who is put away does commit adultery.
I think women need to learn to decline proposals. I have a god mother who turned down 6 marriage proposals before her now husband (they've been married over 30 years).You don't have to accept every marriage proposal that comes your way.
Andre 3000 said: "If nothing lasts forever, then what makes - then what makes - then what makes - then what makes, then what makes (huh) love the exception?" And I felt that
The genuine and loving way Adrienne always talks about her step-dad, I'm not surprised to see the loving relationship her step-daughter has with her. It's really true that you get whatever you throw out into the universe. Life is a boomerang indeed.
I wouldn't be surprised if that's actually what happened. I was soo upset when Tam and Loni said "well you know, ppl die, things happen.... Etc etc" Like y'all ain't serious 😑 Amanda was dead on when she said "Or maybe he was shady... Why on God's green earth does anyone need to marry 29 times in this life. Wouldnt be surprised at all if he actually was doing that for insurance money. Those things are more common then ppl think.. right. Things happen, and there are hundreds of factors why ppl marry twice, 3 times or are even on there fourth...but I feel after 5+ you (male or female) need to take a step back and do some soul searching and figure out what the hell is wrong with you..
@@ashleyb6621 Matthew 19:1And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the region of Judea beyond Jordan; 2And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there. 3The Pharisees also came unto him, testing him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 4And he answered and said unto them, Have you not read, that he who made them at the beginning made them male and female, 5And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they two shall be one flesh? 6Therefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder. 7They said unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? 8He said unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts allowed you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so. 9And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, commits adultery: and whoever marries her who is put away does commit adultery.
Some people just get married just because they don't want to be alone. If your not comfortable being by yourself something going on. I get it you want that companionship but date a little longer. You have to work on You first and let your breakup or divorce educate you on what you want and need.
There's nothing wrong with that, we humans are social beings. When you feel lonely, that's actually *physically damaging* your body. Loneliness is the emotional version of starving. When you're starving, your body is physically damaging itself to keep you alive and it's the same with Loneliness.
Yes Jeannie! Im 23 and doing couples counseling right now with my boyfriend because we figured that before we decide to spend out lives together we should build a healthy foundation now!
There are ministers and then there are true followers of Jesus. Anyone can be religious, but religion does not equal knowing Jesus. There are many ministers that will end up in Everlasting darkness...... "Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?’ And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!’ Matthew 7:22-23 NKJV bible.com/bible/114/mat.7.22-23.NKJV
@@saltlight1243 agree 100% not everyone that that say's they are a prophet is sent by God he tells us in 1 john 4v1 to test the spirit to see if they are from him truly. I hate when the world thinks the corrupt people are from God then think badly of God. He is a GOOD and just God🙌🏾
@@vanessamorris5140 👏🏾👏🏾 speak on it. And some are just not genuine men of God. Some are and do their best some are just 👀 shady boots lying on the bible and other things
Before people get engaged they need to discuss their future goals, kids, if they wanna travel, religion, EVERYTHING because too many people get divorced later on finding out they had different hopes for the future
Before women have ABORTIONS, they need to discuss their future goals, kids, if they even like the person they got knocked up by, religion, EVERYTHING. Keep that same energy they have with marriage. Point is, you can't tell people what to do with their lives. Many wars including the civil war was fought over people trying to tell others what to do.
O W we’ll ofc it seems to only affects us women. We have been under the impression (based on how you men act) that men really don’t care and take what they want. This comment shows your disgusting mindset. Please do better
I feel like Tamera, in this conversation, wasn’t really understanding the “why” of how people end up being married multiple times...and I disagree with when she said “I don’t think religious people are the ones doing that”...just because someone is a Christian does NOT mean that they are perfect or that they are follow a blueprint “picture perfect Christian” lifestyle. She really needed some perspective in this discussion, just because her and Adam have been as she says happily married with two kids doesn’t mean that’s the reality for everyone.
I agree with Loni, you have the right to get it right. And if I’m keeping it real, I actually respect people that get divorced & keep looking for love. It just means that they refuse to stay in a miserable marriage
I'm 28, and wise enough to not say 'never' to something. One doesn't know what will happen in life. I can't say, "I'll never get divorced!!" But I can definitely say "I really hope I only have one marriage in my lifetime"❤. Still haven't found the right person to settle down with after my last relationship, but I am open to growth, and open to love, and open to working on myself which to me is basically the recipe for a future healthy relationship (marriage or not). We'll see what the future holds. Hopefully I find my right person, and I can come back here and give a beautiful life update 🍀🌸🙏
I come from a very traditional culture and family. So I’ll probably have some sort of arranged marriage. But people who are completely free about marriage should be careful. Don’t rush. It’s your life, but if you’re married more than 10 times there’s a problem. And it’s probably you or the people you’re choosing.
First of all, once I get married my husband is STUCK with me. Find someone who you can tolerate fighting with for the rest of your life. Find someone who you can hang out and laugh with for the rest of your life. If you’re not sure you can last that long then it’s not worth it. I understand people change and things happen but consider every thing that would happen in 50 years and if you know you both can work on the relationship together then it’s marriage material. Obviously cheating and abuse is out of the question and will be the only deal breaker for me.
This is a tough one. As Christians, perhaps putting in balance the biblically prescribed covenant of marriage between a husband and wife (until adultery or death) and the principle of leaving judgement of those who have not adhered to this to The Most High is what is important.
first last and...? Perhaps you ought to elaborate as your point is extremely unclear. It appears to have nothing at all to do with the initial question, the responses from the real and my comment...
Thank god for Amanda for keeping it real! Tam annoyed me here making excuses for a minister who got married twenty something times. All these priests that are raping boys. Just because you claim to be religious doesn’t make you a saint.
There is a thing called polygamy where ppl marry multiple marry at the same time. This happens in alot of cultures and religions too especially back in the day.
We Somalis have this proverb" silic ku noolaato, sodon guursataa dhaanta". Which means"marrying thirty times is better than being in miserable marriage". So, there should be limitations when it comes marriage but at least you have to try to make your marriage works before taking the decision to end it i 12 days which ks crazy.
I agree with Adrienne. I think there should be a cap at 3-5. I liked Adriennes story about her mom and although it's 3 marriages, I consider it kind of 2. Also how old is Adriennes mom to have been married for 46 years? She looks so youthful.
@ Ok. Thats fair. In my own opinion it's more than that bc that "paper" sometimes makes people who value marriage to fight a little bit harder than no "paper" commitment. If someone's my boyfriend, bye, but when you're my husband, we are working through this together.
Those women who married a lot of times means that these women don't take no stuff out of their men when the other women who been married 1time take a lot of stuff and put up with stuff normal relationship will not . We have a close eye and I say we because I been married for 30 years. And this was not all peaches and cream I tell you... Lol
People are grown so there shouldn't be an actual limit but how many times can you get something wrong before you finally understand how to do it right? You either make really bad decisions or you're the person that sucks and that's a problem either way.
Exactly you do not need to disrespect marriage that involves church and legal matters! If you want to sleep with anyone as much as you can do not abuse and misuse the name of marriage!
All these marriages and not having a foundation and relationship with God Yet the covenant of God's law regarding marriages are being defiled and made a mok of The sanctity of a faithful, fruitful, honest, honored marriage is to be respected
I think it kinda depends on why the marriage ended. If your spouse died or was abusive, then nobody will mock you to find new love again. However if you treat marriage like having a casual fling, then there is something seriously wrong with you.
That's why it's good to get to know someone beyond "Do you fart at night?" or "What's your favorite color?" because you will find yourself standing in front of someone and exchanging vows then, finally figuring out the marriage is not going to work out due to a few questions you did not answer during the dating/relationship stage. It takes 1 question, to know whether you want to move forward with that person or not. If the partner is deceased or another serious issue then I completely understand but, exchanging vows with every single person you think is the one is pure carelessness. Pump the brakes, and slow downnn.
I’m just going to throw this out there. I honestly think that this conversation came up because she’s a woman 🤷🏽♀️. I don’t think there should be a rule on how many times you get married. HOWEVER, at that 2nd wedding I’m not about to get you another gift lol.
I don't really care to be honest I don't like people having kids like it's no big deal. THAT annoys me. U affect another life. Having 19 marriages? Who cares. It's between them two.
@@Aya.82 I understand what you mean, but I feel like sometimes people need to hear these stories especially coming from celebrities. So they know about these kinds of situations. I think so many people can relate. Just because things that happened to older women back in the day relating to relationships were often "banned" to talk about. I'm basically reffering to my mother's generation. Idk if you understand what I'm trying to say.
Twice isn't 4-11 times darling lol. I was engaged twice. Both were good men from good families as is mine. Things just don't always work out and it's fine. Other blessings will come as long as we remain good ppl.
Marriage is a serious commitment It's best to get pre marriage counseling Bc there are times you just don't feel like you're "on the same page" or you feel you can't accept your partners differences So best to really know your partner and their lifestyle before saying "I do" And being both christians you know you can talk to our Heavenly Father...
but i dont understand y yall encourage sex before marriage. like when tamera is being good and not drinking before he correct age yall make fun of her. yall encourage bad things
@@emanualcarr7408 no its not a just topic for fun this is actually serious young girls r looking up to them and they need to set an example PERIDt end up discussion
@@icylyn442 Young girls should be looking up to their parents, not social media, or celebrity for guidance. That's part of the issue today. When you put these individuals before reality and people in real life, you will go astray, because their opinions or lifestyles don't reflect the day to day person. They have the celebrity to speak broadly and slippery slopely so to speak. They mostly appeal to Generation X and some Gen Y that is younger than them. But they are working in several "different spaces" (Amanda). I would never allow my child to be raised by the internet or celebrity status individuals. Keep that same energy on the home front, or keep your legs closed and keep your whip in your pants, period!!
The only way it impacts the law is when people try to marry multiple people. Know a guy who was married in another country and then got married here. Wife here took him to court and got CS and alimony. He was really going to tell the judge he was already married so he wouldnt have to pay alimony. That was until we told him.if he didn't he could end up in jail or even deported.
I think people take marriage too seriously. For me marriage is a promise to the other person, that promise can be broken though and that’s when you get divorced. You should be able to make that promise as many times as you want, however don’t get mad when you get the side eye if you’ve done it 5+ times and each marriage hasn’t lasted not even 5 years yet. I think that shows a reflection on your own self esteem and emotional issues. However setting a sanction on it??? Yeah that’s a nah for me, abortion is a choice, marriage is a choice, love is a choice it shouldn’t be controlled
i feel like after 3 times then you're devaluing marriage. You date for a reason u can date ppl get to know then and if it doesnt work out then breakup marriage shouldnt be a thing u just jump in and out of. But there shouldnt be a law just because things do happen spouses die, people get married for religious reasons etc.
I was married twice by the age of 25, still married but i think is ok to be married multiple times if the marriages lasted couple of years, but 2 weeks married and you already in a divorce, nahh you a joke! Get to know people before you get married, people change i know but married is about thick and thin trying to work it out.
Yes there should be a limit bc then ppl would take it more seriously. Of course being widowed and forced marriages shouldn't count. And there needs to be AT LEAST 6 months of therapy once a week for a marriage license to be granted. Our manager has a long time friend that's been married 7 times! LAWD!😫
There is not a single thing another person or couple can do to devalue or mock my marriage. The only two people who hold the power to do that are me and my partner. Each relationship is their own.
Think they need to create a couples course for marriage, there is a degree in every other thing 🤷🏽♀️... A healthy Marriage is an important foundation that can make or break communities and generations.
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If you’re married for the 4th times and it still doesn’t work, then you need to do some serious soul searching.... maybe marriage is not for you?
Or you need therapy. Which should be mandatory.
Akittycat44 exactly
Akittycat44 u better not say that to JLO lol 😂
Marriage isn’t for everyone and the more people accept that the easier it will be! After the fourth marriage.. boy it’s not you it’s me
Akittycat44 na after the 2nd time give it up cause it just pointless and unnecessary 🤦🏾♀️
Get married as much as you want but don’t invite me to every wedding 😭
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
LMAO!! ...agreed. Just go through a civil ceremony at the court house and tell me the news later :))))
I still go bc bc of the cake 😍 ppl put a lot in their wedding and the food 😂.
Angelique Canty Oouu yes I’d go to the reception lol
Angelique Canty lol it’s not even worth the food at that point, I gotta pay for hair, makeup, spa treatments and so much more. I can’t 😂😂😂
Married 29 times? There’s something wrong with that.... whether you’re a minister or not.
Yep lol
I think a lot of it was for publicity.
Him being a minister makes his actions even more questionable
Yea not judging but if you’ve gotten married more than 4 or 5 times I just assume you don’t look at marriage as that important.
Agree!! Like minister what????!!!! Dude. That is one freaky cult he is in. Aint normal minister
Adrienne’s mom’s story is so sad. They told her she was “unclean” for losing her virginity to a man & not marrying him, that’s disgusting. Society is always trying to find ways to control women & shame us for everything we do.
@@k.alvarado6237 do you own women's vaginas? Do they need your permission to acquire "milage" on it? What people do with their body parts is none of anybody's business. Value and respect the woman as a whole not just her vagina.
TheVampireQueen but it’s a sin to do that society didn’t say it God said it.
@ respect women enough to leave them alone.
@ Lol a woman that has sex outside of marriage doesn't respect herself? You're misguided babe.
@ oh dear, you don't understand much do you? I'm going to sleep, good bye!
People need to respect the sanctity of marriage, PERIOD. if you wanna marry get divorced, marry get divorced don’t get married in Churches or before God. I see there was no applaud for Tamera’s point on people not knowing how to make wise choices... people have to take responsibility for their choices... marriage is the biggest choice you’ll make in your life, it’s not a joke.
Breeny Lee Seeing your comment here made me so happy. I listen to your video occasionally to manifest self-love. Thank You 🙏
Thank you someone with some morals.
Exactly totally agree.
Marriage means something different for every person
@@vandy5206 That’s a silly excuse.
Well if there was a limit on marriage, maybe people would be more selective of who they choose to marry🤔
Maybe. But no one has the right to try and control another. Worry about your own marriage/life.
@@ingenueblue8914 but marriage comes with govt. benefits, so if the limit is 3 or 4 it would help people be more selective. I have a few jamaican friends and they marry people when they become citizens then just divorce a couple years after the other person becomes a citizen.
@@shayslay3416 it really isn't your or anyones business what another does with their life.
THIS
If there was a limit on abortions, maybe people would be selective on who they let run up in them raw. 🤔
Same energy, CONTROL VS CHOICE
Why r people so hell bent on getting married. Just date first for long time. Kissing lot of frogs doesn't mean u take them home.
Because marriage is good for you...
@@G33KN3rd marriage with the right person not in general
It's a control tactic the same way religion is a way to control people. Spirituality is one thing, religion is designed to keep a
level of order. Waiting on Communism to arrive under the Trump administration.
@@Marina-xd7gp thank u for answering. Also u don't always have to get married. We r programmed to believe we need to get married for our relationship to be real and official.
@@G33KN3rd Matthew 19:1And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the region of Judea beyond Jordan;
2And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there.
3The Pharisees also came unto him, testing him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
4And he answered and said unto them, Have you not read, that he who made them at the beginning made them male and female,
5And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they two shall be one flesh?
6Therefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder.
7They said unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8He said unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts allowed you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, commits adultery: and whoever marries her who is put away does commit adultery.
Hate it when Loni goes.. "Oh Lord, here we go!" comes off as extremely condescending 😶
When in actuality, they should be saying that every time she opens her mouth🤣
@@jenny-ht4df exactly!
When does she say that?
Right, sometimes it’s jokey but other times it is very dismissive!
@@hasibrahim when Jeannie spoke
Getting married more than 3 times is childish and foolish. Itvis a sign that you are not taking the time to think about your choices. An adult should not be so ignorant! I agree Tamera.
Sajdah Sabree That’s a huge generalization. Every situation is different. Did you not listen to Adrienne’s story about her mom?
B.S. MBA I stand by Adrienne’s mom.
@@gaila.9852 I need to correct my statement. I thought my post specified the number of times. Thank you for your critique. I will revise my statement to reflect what I meant to say.
Sajdah Sabree Thank you for your honesty.
@B.S. MBA "Adrienne's mom was FOOLISH!"
Hope you get what's coming to you and then you get treated like that. Because Karma's a thing.
My grandma got married at 17 & they're still together 50 years later
Aww💓💞♥️💗💖
Love isn’t what it used to be.
I got married at 22 and I’m still married to my wonderful husband 30 years later. If you Both want a good, and healthy marriage, you both have to work hard at not taking your love or your marriage for granted.
It sounds like she didn’t have much else going for her....
That's so awesome. Unfortunately it's not that common😭
I feel like people get married for the wrong reasons. I’ve seen people get married cos they been together for 2 years+ and their both over 30, and obviously it didn’t end up working, i believe marriage is insanely spiritual and your union needs to be ordained by God
Just-sit&watch Pimp Amen to that!
Am just out from a break up coz a guy would not wait until marriage. I want my marriage to be from God...but it hurts when you keep meeting the frogs...your statement just made me want to keep on waiting on God
Just-sit&watch Pimp this is a fact ‼️
Amen!!!!🙏🙏🙏🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏🙌🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏🙏
We got married in 1 year, and still married. So no. It depends on both people, their values and how committal they are.
I think it should be harder to get married. It's a serious commitment.
i agree
That might discourage people from getting married to the point where they might bypass it altogether.
Good idea
@@underwaterseas maybe they should
Mike Carter you clearly don’t like marriage 🤣.
Sadly, marriage is just not taken as serious anymore. I don’t get why people want to rush into marriage, only to get a divorce shortly after. When you marry someone, you should be thinking forever with that person, not thinking abt divorce if things don’t work out! Mayb if divorce wasn’t such an easy option then people wouldn’t rush to get married
All the examples were older people though soo??
A lot of people my age only get married as a financial set up. I’m not gonna hate on women who marry for security, but it’s another thing to marry and plan to have a divorce.
I completely agree with you. I think a lot of times people get divorced too quickly because they give up too easily. Over time we change and our relationships will have to change as well. Things in life will happen and in all vows we promise to stay through the good and bad times, however many people don't really try when it comes to the hard times. They want out before even really trying.
kat mu I totally agree
That famous ppl for you they are the ones who be putting a show for us poor ppl I believe it's starting with Kim k now this lady.
when Amanda said “or he was shady” had me crying 😂
Lol because 29x is excessive. No way minister or not.
I like how Tamera was like “religious people wouldn’t do that” lol like ya sure about? 😂I’ve seen on many occasions lol
Mike Carter why do you call her Tamanga? 😭😭😂😂
Mike Carter relax The woman hasn’t done anything to you.
Well, people can call themselves religious. Doesn't mean they are (applied to a bunch of politicians include Donald, Mitch, and Lindsey Graham.)
I think she mean like die hard religious people. It’s a lot like that. They will stay married no matter what
@@mkelly2585 very true and unhappy too
I mean a lot of people today just get married because they want to get married and not necessarily because its the right thing to do. There are a lot of men and women who just like the status of being someone spouse because thats how they measure their selfworth. Also a lot of people who just want a fancy ceremony lmao
Exactly
Exactly. They want the white dress and celebration and emotions but what is the marriage itself actually about?!
Agreed. Take away the "he has to spend two months salary on an engagement ring," the big "look at me and talk about how pretty I look" walk down the aisle, the registering of gifts, etc. and let's get a better fix on who wants to live the dream of being a life partner instead of just living the dream of having a wedding.
Matthew 19:1And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the region of Judea beyond Jordan;
2And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there.
3The Pharisees also came unto him, testing him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
4And he answered and said unto them, Have you not read, that he who made them at the beginning made them male and female,
5And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they two shall be one flesh?
6Therefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder.
7They said unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8He said unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts allowed you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, commits adultery: and whoever marries her who is put away does commit adultery.
I think women need to learn to decline proposals. I have a god mother who turned down 6 marriage proposals before her now husband (they've been married over 30 years).You don't have to accept every marriage proposal that comes your way.
Amanda was keepin it real about that minister! “SHADY”
But only when the man does it, right? Nobody’s talking about Elizabeth Taylor being shady
Andre 3000 said: "If nothing lasts forever, then what makes - then what makes - then what makes - then what makes, then what makes (huh) love the exception?" And I felt that
I mad you really typed it out 💀💀💀
Lol I literally read it all 😭😭😂😂
Lmao
Andre 3000 is an infidel ✅
😂😂😂😂😂 I'm cracking the hell up lol
The genuine and loving way Adrienne always talks about her step-dad, I'm not surprised to see the loving relationship her step-daughter has with her. It's really true that you get whatever you throw out into the universe. Life is a boomerang indeed.
Unpopular opinion: the minister who was married 29 times kept killing off those wives for life insurance money.
I wouldn't be surprised if that's actually what happened. I was soo upset when Tam and Loni said "well you know, ppl die, things happen.... Etc etc"
Like y'all ain't serious 😑
Amanda was dead on when she said "Or maybe he was shady... Why on God's green earth does anyone need to marry 29 times in this life. Wouldnt be surprised at all if he actually was doing that for insurance money. Those things are more common then ppl think..
right. Things happen, and there are hundreds of factors why ppl marry twice, 3 times or are even on there fourth...but I feel after 5+ you (male or female) need to take a step back and do some soul searching and figure out what the hell is wrong with you..
LMAO....Would make a good movie!!!!
😡 That minister was a wolf in sheep's clothing ✅
@@ashleyb6621 Matthew 19:1And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the region of Judea beyond Jordan;
2And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there.
3The Pharisees also came unto him, testing him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
4And he answered and said unto them, Have you not read, that he who made them at the beginning made them male and female,
5And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they two shall be one flesh?
6Therefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder.
7They said unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8He said unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts allowed you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, commits adultery: and whoever marries her who is put away does commit adultery.
Sophia Rodriguez very common in those days for men to do that and they would get away with it since women were 2nd class citizens
Some people just get married just because they don't want to be alone. If your not comfortable being by yourself something going on. I get it you want that companionship but date a little longer. You have to work on You first and let your breakup or divorce educate you on what you want and need.
There's nothing wrong with that, we humans are social beings. When you feel lonely, that's actually *physically damaging* your body. Loneliness is the emotional version of starving. When you're starving, your body is physically damaging itself to keep you alive and it's the same with Loneliness.
Amen❗
True and they think marriage will make them have to stay
@ 5:07 tamara : things happen, someone may pass away, someone may cheat Amanda : or he was just shady'' lol
Yes Jeannie! Im 23 and doing couples counseling right now with my boyfriend because we figured that before we decide to spend out lives together we should build a healthy foundation now!
So many celebs back in the day had 10+ marriages so this ain't weird now😃
My mom is on her 5th marriage and the happiest I've ever seen her.. her and my stepdad have been together for 15 yrs, married 7yrs.
@ stfu.
@@BizzzyBee why would you put that out in the open that's not anything to be proud of
I really don't think everyone needed to know that.
Oh no😱😵
Let's not lie and think 'ministers' are perfect and everything they do is okay
There are ministers and then there are true followers of Jesus. Anyone can be religious, but religion does not equal knowing Jesus. There are many ministers that will end up in Everlasting darkness......
"Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?’ And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!’
Matthew 7:22-23 NKJV
bible.com/bible/114/mat.7.22-23.NKJV
@@saltlight1243 agree 100% not everyone that that say's they are a prophet is sent by God he tells us in 1 john 4v1 to test the spirit to see if they are from him truly. I hate when the world thinks the corrupt people are from God then think badly of God. He is a GOOD and just God🙌🏾
@@saltlight1243 Praise Elohim and Yeshua!!
Dat gurl iz hea I’m sorry but ministers are imperfect humans
@@vanessamorris5140 👏🏾👏🏾 speak on it. And some are just not genuine men of God. Some are and do their best some are just 👀 shady boots lying on the bible and other things
Before people get engaged they need to discuss their future goals, kids, if they wanna travel, religion, EVERYTHING because too many people get divorced later on finding out they had different hopes for the future
Before women have ABORTIONS, they need to discuss their future goals, kids, if they even like the person they got knocked up by, religion, EVERYTHING. Keep that same energy they have with marriage. Point is, you can't tell people what to do with their lives. Many wars including the civil war was fought over people trying to tell others what to do.
That chewps was definitely Amanda LOL Keep representing ! 😆😆😆
Look up soul ties...that’s all I got to say 🐸☕️
Jaylin Ruiz preachhhhh
AMEN
Jaylin Ruiz Men made that up to control you females and u always fall for it esp religion😂 notice how “souls ties” only effects women’s souls 😂
O W we’ll ofc it seems to only affects us women. We have been under the impression (based on how you men act) that men really don’t care and take what they want. This comment shows your disgusting mindset. Please do better
Girrrrrrl!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I feel like Tamera, in this conversation, wasn’t really understanding the “why” of how people end up being married multiple times...and I disagree with when she said “I don’t think religious people are the ones doing that”...just because someone is a Christian does NOT mean that they are perfect or that they are follow a blueprint “picture perfect Christian” lifestyle. She really needed some perspective in this discussion, just because her and Adam have been as she says happily married with two kids doesn’t mean that’s the reality for everyone.
I agree with Loni, you have the right to get it right. And if I’m keeping it real, I actually respect people that get divorced & keep looking for love. It just means that they refuse to stay in a miserable marriage
Or he was just shady... yes Amanda😂😂😂😂
"What's your body count" I love Adrienne. She's adorable besides gorgeous
Darkness, Tears and sighs Erm she’s a whole pick me chick 🙄
i legit never see yal talk abt tamera or loni like that did i miss something 🤔🧐
Adrienne said exactly what I was going to say 😂❤️
I'm 28, and wise enough to not say 'never' to something. One doesn't know what will happen in life. I can't say, "I'll never get divorced!!" But I can definitely say "I really hope I only have one marriage in my lifetime"❤. Still haven't found the right person to settle down with after my last relationship, but I am open to growth, and open to love, and open to working on myself which to me is basically the recipe for a future healthy relationship (marriage or not). We'll see what the future holds. Hopefully I find my right person, and I can come back here and give a beautiful life update 🍀🌸🙏
Not gonna lie. At 5:19 when Amanda was like "Or he was just shady!" I screamed. 😂
I come from a very traditional culture and family. So I’ll probably have some sort of arranged marriage. But people who are completely free about marriage should be careful. Don’t rush. It’s your life, but if you’re married more than 10 times there’s a problem. And it’s probably you or the people you’re choosing.
First of all, once I get married my husband is STUCK with me. Find someone who you can tolerate fighting with for the rest of your life. Find someone who you can hang out and laugh with for the rest of your life. If you’re not sure you can last that long then it’s not worth it. I understand people change and things happen but consider every thing that would happen in 50 years and if you know you both can work on the relationship together then it’s marriage material. Obviously cheating and abuse is out of the question and will be the only deal breaker for me.
Love how Tam speaks, calm instead of SCREAMING!
In Texas you can only get married 8 times. I knew a girl who’s mom did this.
Lol damn tam couldn’t get a clap after her statement - it made it awkward
Her statement was arkward
bsbgirl85 yo, I see you everywhere. What’s your problem with Tamera. You sound like some jealous witch, who enjoys tearing down other women.
Which statement?
😂😂😂
At least she wasn't looking at the audience waiting for acknowledgement like Adrienne does 😂
I feel like celebrities get married so often because they're bored. lol
This is a tough one. As Christians, perhaps putting in balance the biblically prescribed covenant of marriage between a husband and wife (until adultery or death) and the principle of leaving judgement of those who have not adhered to this to The Most High is what is important.
first last and...? Perhaps you ought to elaborate as your point is extremely unclear. It appears to have nothing at all to do with the initial question, the responses from the real and my comment...
I agree with Adrienne why marry all of them lol? And I agree with Loni too things happen and everybody’s path is different.
Thank god for Amanda for keeping it real! Tam annoyed me here making excuses for a minister who got married twenty something times. All these priests that are raping boys. Just because you claim to be religious doesn’t make you a saint.
2 issues: 1) What would the limit be? 2) What if there are extenuating circumstances (death, cheating, abuse, etc.)?
I love Amanda's "tchiip" 😂😂😎🙌🏾
There is a thing called polygamy where ppl marry multiple marry at the same time. This happens in alot of cultures and religions too especially back in the day.
We Somalis have this proverb" silic ku noolaato, sodon guursataa dhaanta". Which means"marrying thirty times is better than being in miserable marriage".
So, there should be limitations when it comes marriage but at least you have to try to make your marriage works before taking the decision to end it i 12 days which ks crazy.
When I get married I want that to be my ONLY marriage if I can help it
I feel like if you think "well if this doesnt work I can always divorce" you should not get married.
I agree with Loni circumstances can be weird so making it a law would make bigger issues but multiple marriages are making a mockery of marriage 🤷🏿♀️
I agree with Adrienne. I think there should be a cap at 3-5. I liked Adriennes story about her mom and although it's 3 marriages, I consider it kind of 2.
Also how old is Adriennes mom to have been married for 46 years? She looks so youthful.
Mike Carter sounds like you have some serious issues. Wanna talk about it?
@ But why is that only for females? Males get married multiple times too. David Foster, Geraldo, Larry King to name a few.
@ What if the marriage was because their former husband died?
@ it's not a piece of paper tho. It's a declaration of love and long-term commitment!
@ Ok. Thats fair. In my own opinion it's more than that bc that "paper" sometimes makes people who value marriage to fight a little bit harder than no "paper" commitment. If someone's my boyfriend, bye, but when you're my husband, we are working through this together.
The rush is health insurance 😂
04:02 that was a big black girl moment right there... Listen how Amanda tchiiipppppps. EPIC!
um no it was a caribbean thing
icy lyn African do it too ☺️
@@icylyn442 Africans have always done that
@@womensentent yasssss
@@CO-ig3yw and caribbean ppl i meant to put african ppl too but i forgot sowwy hun bt in yall do it to
Marriage is a serious commitment. If you're not ready don't do it. Get counseling ahead of time and be HONEST !! Don't settle !!
“or he’s just shady”😂😂😂
Those women who married a lot of times means that these women don't take no stuff out of their men when the other women who been married 1time take a lot of stuff and put up with stuff normal relationship will not . We have a close eye and I say we because I been married for 30 years. And this was not all peaches and cream I tell you... Lol
Facts
That is a good point I didn't think of.
I just feel like if you're not the type of woman to compromise, you shouldn't get married in the first place.
@@nozukagirls some people do not show their true colors until after marriage.
@@ingenueblue8914 there are ALWAYS red flags, most people just ignore them
Dawg when Amanda buss dat hard stupez 😂
Yes Jeanie!!!! Marriage counseling
People are grown so there shouldn't be an actual limit but how many times can you get something wrong before you finally understand how to do it right? You either make really bad decisions or you're the person that sucks and that's a problem either way.
No....but there should be a mental health exam after the first one. Why would anyone willingly go through that again?!?
Amanda looks beautiful. Love the hair and the dress🥰🥰
Exactly you do not need to disrespect marriage that involves church and legal matters! If you want to sleep with anyone as much as you can do not abuse and misuse the name of marriage!
All these marriages and not having a foundation and relationship with God
Yet the covenant of God's law regarding marriages are being defiled and made a mok of
The sanctity of a faithful, fruitful, honest, honored marriage is to be respected
I think it kinda depends on why the marriage ended. If your spouse died or was abusive, then nobody will mock you to find new love again. However if you treat marriage like having a casual fling, then there is something seriously wrong with you.
I am LIVING for Amanda kissing her teeth lmao we did it at the same time 😂
That's why it's good to get to know someone beyond "Do you fart at night?" or "What's your favorite color?" because you will find yourself standing in front of someone and exchanging vows then, finally figuring out the marriage is not going to work out due to a few questions you did not answer during the dating/relationship stage. It takes 1 question, to know whether you want to move forward with that person or not. If the partner is deceased or another serious issue then I completely understand but, exchanging vows with every single person you think is the one is pure carelessness. Pump the brakes, and slow downnn.
I’m just going to throw this out there. I honestly think that this conversation came up because she’s a woman 🤷🏽♀️. I don’t think there should be a rule on how many times you get married. HOWEVER, at that 2nd wedding I’m not about to get you another gift lol.
Personally, I think it should be a three strike law on marriages. If you DIVORCE 3 times, the law should not recognize any further marriages.
I don't really care to be honest
I don't like people having kids like it's no big deal. THAT annoys me. U affect another life.
Having 19 marriages? Who cares. It's between them two.
Just dont invite me to the weddings lol
Also I love what Adrienne had to say during this discussion, she GAVE great perspective...
A's mother 1st marriage was not her story to tell on a national t.v😏
It is her mother, so her story. Plus her mother goes on the show so her mom is in the public eye. It is not like she told her siblings story.
We don't know their relationship so let's not judge. Let her be
@@Traveler-rf8ye far from it i just thought this was a bet personal🤔
@@KS-cl8br famous people have the right to privacy...they don't owe anyone anything in my opinion🧐
@@Aya.82 I understand what you mean, but I feel like sometimes people need to hear these stories especially coming from celebrities. So they know about these kinds of situations. I think so many people can relate. Just because things that happened to older women back in the day relating to relationships were often "banned" to talk about. I'm basically reffering to my mother's generation. Idk if you understand what I'm trying to say.
I'm with Tamera if ur a person dating someone who has been married 4+ times you question weather this person actually able to do a commitment.
Here in Botswana you can only get married 3 times according to the law
That's still to much they need to make it 2
"HE GOT ON HER NERVES" AHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHHAHA I'M DEADDDDDDDDD
Yes! I've been married twice, I should be banned!🤣
Miss Pinky don’t be ashamed though... you know how to get that rock 💍🤣
Twice isn't 4-11 times darling lol. I was engaged twice. Both were good men from good families as is mine. Things just don't always work out and it's fine. Other blessings will come as long as we remain good ppl.
@@Denailacole I'm not honey!! It just ain't my thang! 😂😂 and I'm still married!!😂😂😂
Marriage is a serious commitment
It's best to get pre marriage counseling
Bc there are times you just don't feel like you're "on the same page" or you feel you can't accept your partners differences
So best to really know your partner and their lifestyle before saying "I do"
And being both christians you know you can talk to our Heavenly Father...
but i dont understand y yall encourage sex before marriage. like when tamera is being good and not drinking before he correct age yall make fun of her. yall encourage bad things
Just a topic for fun for them to discuss something. It's not for you to actually take to heart and live your own life by.
@@emanualcarr7408 no its not a just topic for fun this is actually serious young girls r looking up to them and they need to set an example PERIDt end up discussion
@@icylyn442 Young girls should be looking up to their parents, not social media, or celebrity for guidance. That's part of the issue today. When you put these individuals before reality and people in real life, you will go astray, because their opinions or lifestyles don't reflect the day to day person. They have the celebrity to speak broadly and slippery slopely so to speak.
They mostly appeal to Generation X and some Gen Y that is younger than them. But they are working in several "different spaces" (Amanda). I would never allow my child to be raised by the internet or celebrity status individuals. Keep that same energy on the home front, or keep your legs closed and keep your whip in your pants, period!!
Amanda's steups at 4:03 is everything! Hahaha
I’m only getting married once period.
That kiss teeth Amanda did. I stayed in Jamaica & heard her on set doing that & it resonated in my soul
We don’t need a law for everything. How is this impacting others enough to make this a law? This is just people being judgmental.
The only way it impacts the law is when people try to marry multiple people. Know a guy who was married in another country and then got married here. Wife here took him to court and got CS and alimony. He was really going to tell the judge he was already married so he wouldnt have to pay alimony. That was until we told him.if he didn't he could end up in jail or even deported.
Who else through Tamera was talking to you and looked right in your eyes????? ✋🏽✋🏽✋🏽
Loni said “oh lordt” when Jeannie is about to talk. I feel you Loni 🤦🏽♀️😂
convertedsherry very. I see why ppl bully her online
123 456 Savahnaah Reye convertedsherry I believe her points are beyond valuable. She’s just long winded, that’s all. I said nothing terrible. Breathe!
I think people take marriage too seriously. For me marriage is a promise to the other person, that promise can be broken though and that’s when you get divorced. You should be able to make that promise as many times as you want, however don’t get mad when you get the side eye if you’ve done it 5+ times and each marriage hasn’t lasted not even 5 years yet. I think that shows a reflection on your own self esteem and emotional issues. However setting a sanction on it??? Yeah that’s a nah for me, abortion is a choice, marriage is a choice, love is a choice it shouldn’t be controlled
People don't take marriage serious now days
sams weightloss journey Your absolutely right !!!
They don’t know the meaning of marriage
They think marriage is the white dress and the registry 🤦🏽♀️
i feel like after 3 times then you're devaluing marriage. You date for a reason u can date ppl get to know then and if it doesnt work out then breakup marriage shouldnt be a thing u just jump in and out of. But there shouldnt be a law just because things do happen spouses die, people get married for religious reasons etc.
Jeannie is so right.
THAT KISS TEET THO....LOOOOL. CARIBBEAN TING DAT ENO
I was married twice by the age of 25, still married but i think is ok to be married multiple times if the marriages lasted couple of years, but 2 weeks married and you already in a divorce, nahh you a joke! Get to know people before you get married, people change i know but married is about thick and thin trying to work it out.
Yes there should be a limit bc then ppl would take it more seriously. Of course being widowed and forced marriages shouldn't count. And there needs to be AT LEAST 6 months of therapy once a week for a marriage license to be granted.
Our manager has a long time friend that's been married 7 times! LAWD!😫
1 my count would be one and I’m married to him... 17 years
That's lame and sad lol
@B.S. MBA Lol why so mad? You must be sad and lame as well
@B.S. MBA You must be speaking about yourself. I'll comment whenever and wherever i want. Stay pressed loser
@B.S. MBA Your degree's are useless if you're still this dense you old fool. Internet braggart. Go find a hobby
There is not a single thing another person or couple can do to devalue or mock my marriage. The only two people who hold the power to do that are me and my partner. Each relationship is their own.
Tell this to JLo
When Amanda said, “or he just shady” 👀 with the side eye 🤣
This Adrienne pretends she is a woman of church and she wants women to sleep around?
Oho K bawdy count of Christ 🙏🏻
You said it right, "pretends".
Elle D don’t be naive for the sake of commenting 😂😂
Think they need to create a couples course for marriage, there is a degree in every other thing 🤷🏽♀️... A healthy Marriage is an important foundation that can make or break communities and generations.
Don't bring religion into this Loni. There should be a limit because people take it to far. Marriage isn't a phone contract. 😒
That minister REALLY needed a minister