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Why do women dress elogently and men will choose to dress down Women dress well to show off there beauty and to give an heir of refinement A well dressed man has to have accomplishments to make his attire meaningful, when a man is not accomplished he does not want to dress for a part he does not have because people will think "he looks good, what does he do, who is he" whereas for a woman the thought will generally end at "she looks good" with the possibility of "I wonder who shes with".
When rent costs 120% of your monthly salary, you do not have much of a choice. Hang out with nornal people not just your millionare/billionare friends.
@@jasonu3741 that's a bit unfair on your part. I think the main reason is that women attract the attention of both men and other women, while men are basically invisible to both.
I started wearing suits or sport coats every time I went to my kids' performances, school band, chorus, drama etc. The first time I did it, some of my friends asked me why, and "Who died?" and so on. I said that these kids work hard, and I decided to dress up to show them I appreciated their hard work and was willing to make their performances special. We'll, the next performance, there were 3 of us in coats or suits, then 10, then about 25% and it kept growing. Soon, the women were upping their game as well. Before long, these performances started to become date night type events for the parents and we all started to really enjoy them more. Just put yourself out there. You'll start a trend.
@All_the_arcs That means you can convince the bookstore people that you are the professor, and therefore can buy the "teacher's edition" of textbooks, which has all the answers to the textbook problems 😎
I drive a truck in a dirty industry. I dress up for work. Everyone thinks I own the company or at least supervisor. I get crazy respect from regular Joe's to Top Dogs. People take a second look at company name on side of truck as they're impressed. I thought coworkers would dislike me. They actually like me more. They light up when they see me coming and these are hardcore dudes. Such a simple thing to take you, your company or the company you work for places. Not gonna mention the ladies I encounter everyday. (grin) I was inspired by this channel a few years ago. Side effect: I act more professional at work when dressed because I feel professional. Road rage, selfish driving and not getting along with coworkers has left the chat. Life changing.
@@GiveThanksAndPraise This is awesome! What clothing are you wearing, a pristine suit, something more casual but better than the other guys? How are you taking care of the dirt? I work in the trades so I can imagine it would be pretty hard to keep a suit clean. Thanks.
I attended my high school senior class 50 year reunion in 2022. I didn't want to make the mistake I made at our 20 year reunion by showing up in a pair of khakis and a striped polo shirt while ALL the other men wore a suit . I was a subscriber (still am) to your channel and too to heart your advice. I walked into a men's clothing store, walked up to a salesman and simply said "help". He chuckled and asked how he could help and I explained about my upcoming class reunion. Smartest move I could have made! Not only did he measure me for the jacket but the trousers, white shirt and vest as well. We topped this all off with a nice pair of black leather dress shoes. What really surprised me was how absolutely comfortable the suit was! One of the contributing factors was the white shirt. It was 100% cotton but with a special weave that breathed and I barely knew I was wearing it! Anyway, at the reunion I was one of the few men wearing a suit but I felt quite at ease and received compliments from both men and women despite being about 40 pounds over weight- a byproduct of 3 heart attacks due to a blood clot from a shoulder surgery and 2 more due to physically overdoing it. So, gents you don't have to be uncomfortable wearing a suit. Get it tailored to you. Thanks for the great advice and keep up the good work!
@@pozytronowyedek1958 It can make you feel damn good. The point of a reunion is that they're not strangers - they live in your head and were a part of your life. If you have no affinity with that, why would you even be there?
I haven't worn anything tailored in years, often my dress clothes are thrift shop. I do wear it in the dressing room, though, to make sure it feels right. Number 1 problem of neckwear is men don't understand neck size and getting a shirt that fits. I have a thick neck and own button extenders so I can properly wear ties and bowties properly.
The biggest epiphany I’ve had in terms of how I dress in my late 30’s and now 40, is that the purpose of wearing nice clothes is NOT to show off, or to impress others. But to influence their first impression of me. I want my appearance to INVITE someone to get to know me.
Great point and policy. I guess I follow the same bc I have a great collection of clothes. I still haven’t worn 70% of what I own. Maybe I’m buying too much and need to slow down n the buying?! Haha!
Oh, so with my clothes, it’s for myself first on what I like and not to impress others. Of course being appreciated for being nicely dressed is appreciated, but not why I dress up.
Yes you ARE wearing nice clothes to impress others. You want to make a good first IMPRESSion don't you? That's what you said. To press upon an idea to someone. You just can't admit it, can you?
I think something overlooked on why men don't dress like before is the cost of decent nice looking clothes. Plus if you are working in construction for example why bother buying something you won't wear much? You go to work without it, you stay home and sleep without it. The only time to use it really is when you go out and that is also on the decline and I'm not spending half an hour getting ready to go grocery shopping I'm just going.
My dad worked in construction. He wore dark wash denim jeans (well faded, typically), redwing work boots, a thin cotton undershirt, and a button up shirt every day. When it was cold he wore an oxford button down, and when it was hot he wore a Cuban. Always with the breast pocket which frequently housed a pack of cigarettes, his reading glasses, his pencil, and approximately 53 cents in spare change. He always kept a mid gray sport coat in the truck. It wasn’t a very formal coat. Patch pockets, big tan buttons, a rougher material, though not as rough as tweed. He didn’t look like he was ready to go to cocktail hour at the plaza, but he was certainly very sharply dressed when he’d toss the gray jacket on for lunch with my mom or to go to a rotary meeting after work.
@@edgelessuser5 going from t shirt and sweat pants to, a tucked in button down shirt, jeans with a belt is not much of a cost or time difference. Dress like a farmer in the 1930's is a step up.
@@tylerbrown4483 that is an oddly specific amount of change in his pocket. But you can dress however you want (within workplace regulations) it's just most people I've seen in construction are in pretty standard work clothes
@@josephhutton7574 I know it doesn't necessarily have to be expensive but it is pretty hard to get something that looks good and fits you right without spending a pretty penny. Although it would also depend on the style you are going for I suppose
I love to see a well dressed man. I complimented a well dressed guy in the supermarket and he was so happy. Dressing well invites conversation. It's a good thing. ❤😊
@@aprilthompson5154 I work for a warehouse where there is no dress code, but I do have a business type attire I wear from time to time on the weekends. Yes, people look at you differently. But I don't care for it. Dress how you want.
Yeah men love getting compliments, may it be from a man or a woman. We hardly get any and when we do we remember it forever. I still remember all the compliments Ive ever gotten from strangers.
I remember one time I thought I looked disheveled. I just threw on a suit I had worn the night previously as I had attended a funeral to take my grandma to the airport. Apparently I still looked good as a woman complimented me for wearing cufflinks.
Years ago I started wearing my grandfathers wool coat. It looks sharp and its awesome. I was 32 and I had old adults stopping to open the door for me. They would stop and talk to me like I was "someone" I knew that moment the way you dress changes everything. My father always told me that but I had never experienced it till that moment.
@cellularrepublic1 do u think, "How I carry myself" is a product of how you feel about what you're wearing? I'm reminded of a family wedding where my 14 are old nephew was in a bit of a funk. I asked him what was up. He said he hated the peak lapel suit his mom bought for him. It was different from what all the other guys were wearing. I asked him if he had ever seen the show "Suits?" I told him that Harvey, The Boss; always wears peak lapel. I told him he looked like "The Boss" well, that was a turning point for him, and he had a new confidence. I even saw him dancing with the Bride's pretty younger cousin. The kid found a whole new level of confidence when he changed how he felt about himself in what he was wearing.
I used to feel self-conscious when I dressed well. I'm so glad I got over it. I love wearing a jacket and it's a good feeling to get compliments and see the respect in people's eyes. I work from home but find when I dress like I'm going into an office, I feel better and work better. Great video!
I do see so many people out now in their pajamas or pants falling down. I’m 53 and I appreciate all the advice I get here and I’ve made changes to my wardrobe. I feel a lot better when I’m looking my best.
It's crazy. I go to my kids school and half of the kids are wearing what we call lounge pants or basically pajama pants. When I went to school you didn't just wear jeans you wore Levis. Or another brand name jean. You got made fun of if you wore something like Sears tough skins corduroys. If you wanted to fit in you had to wear certain clothes. And have a certain look
Agree. There are 'yardwork clothes' and 'going out' clothes. Never mistake the two. I think the best thing we could do as 'adult men' is toss 90% of the t-shirts we wear. I'm horribly terrible at this. A plain pastel button up shirt or polo works in most casual outtings (IMO).
@@andrewcarlson2178 Yeah, I remember that era, too... and y'know what? It sucked. And people who obsessed about wearing the "right" brands were full of shit. (I'm not trying to dunk on you, personally. But there were a lot of things wrong with the mentality of that era.) Anyway, that's just my two-cents'-worth. All the best, my friend.
After more than a decade in Europe I felt I was always ‘lower dressed’. Then retiring to the U.S. I got sick and tired of people walking up to me with their problems in a store because I looked like the store manager. When I’m just trying to shop myself.
You know, Antonio, I've been following you since the beginning. I always wondered how a RUclipsr like you could stay relevant after a certain time, because the facts start to get repetitive. What I've learned is the repetition simply drives down the importance of the facts. You've made these points before in numerous videos, and it's the repetition that caused me to make the change; not 5-10 videos that only stated these facts once or twice. You're doing a great job, and I'm glad you're still here!
Appreciate this - I do believe repetition gets a bad wrap, when sometime we don't need new ideas/hacks.....we just need to focus on the 20% that yields the 80% and get back to mastering the fundamentals. So again - thank you @NickRosaci !
@@RealMenRealStyle just like the way repetition improved my style, it improved your channel. My new significant other loves how I dress. We went to a Christmas party, her in a dress, I in grey trousers and blue sports jacket. Some people commented on how overdressed we were, and she whispered in my ear "don't care, you look amazing."
Not just repetition, but saying things slightly differently. Sometimes just different phrasing makes something more personal and sinks home. While we're touching on psychology, I like how he addressed the herd mentality and that we are products of our environment
I have started dressing better and it has helped majorly with my terrible social anxiety, and I have OCD which is a dreadful anxiety disorder, I use to absolutely hate any attention but now I actually like it and getting so many compliments feels wonderful. I have no regrets about it.
As a guy who’s a VP in a $200M/yr company; every employee that will ever be seen by a client get the same advisory from me; Never judge a book by its cover, and I mean don’t judge our clients - they pay our bills. And always know you will be judged the moment you are seen. Never, ever look more casual than our clients. The vast majority of our team understands how appearances matter. And this point was made clear in a summit meeting several of us attended where the best dressed and well,spoken were invited to an after meeting dinner with platinum tier clients. The rest of the attendees, got the consolation prize of the buffet dinner and a shuttle ride back to the hotel. Always, always, dress for the occasion and be the best dressed, and well spoken in the room. It commands respect.
I wonder what is the field of the companyyou work for, unfortunatelly less and less require formal clothing. I wish there was a way to search for work possitions where this is possible, even more to wear a suit and tie, but I think the only ones left out there are high rank managers or congressmen.
I guess it definitely depends on the field you're in. I did field work but at the end of the day i worked for giant tech companies. 😂 my company did provide 3 suits in around $6-8k range after some people had made a comment on what i was wearing but I never wore them and sadly don't fit anymore. When your job is to physically fix problems, whether IT work or swapping out giant mechanical pieces no one cares what you look like. I have a few pictures of me and some what famous wealthy men because they loved the fact that I showed up to a Chicago building in a tank top, swimming trunks and flip flops. When people get to extreme levels of wealth they honestly don't give a crap about anything other than the fact you know what you're doing. The only people who care about dress codes are middle management or people who think they're rich but still live paycheck to paycheck The only people I know who still wear the expensive monkey suits are lawyers and consultants because they NEED to look expensive
Sorry it's very early here, I may have rambled. Forget what I said, for 90% of all people what the man above me said is technically the best advice you can get
I appreciate the way you spoke in this video. It never felt like you were punching down or villainizing anyone. Rather, your tone and the way you crafted the dialog seemed to have the intent to motivate and uplift.
I work in an office. There's no dress code, the manager just doesn't like men wearing shorts and of course sandals. Initially I was going pretty casually dressed, t-shorts, jeans, sport shoes...but at some point I was there for a couple of years, I had to train new employees etc, I had money, I began dressing bette. Nothing fancy just a polo instead of t-shirts in the summer, an oxford shirt, still mostly jeans, some better leather sneakers, or boots in the winter...and I get jokes about me overdressing, like I'm behaving like a CEO. I mean, society wants us to not dress well. But I also get compliments from people that visit my office and get my help. I prefer it being dressed a bit better. I feel better, work better. Still nothing too formal. Btw, the change came when I started watching your videos, for what it matters.
I get that a lot as well. Thankfully, I stopped giving a shit what people felt like and started focussing on what made me feel good. Between going full bald and dressing up, My confidence levels are definitely doing better and I don't feel mediocre anymore. I was born into this world and I will do everything in my power to own it! I feel you, and I know you feel good! ❤
Coworkers will neg you because they feel insecure. They know that a client will walk in, pass 4-5 bums/janitors/interns, and then stop in your office and see someone that means business. They know there will be comparisons and it's easier for them to try and get you to join them than for them to join you.
I get it but I'm a construction worker who works 70 hours a week with no social life. I gain nothing by being the best dressed man on the scaffold, I'll be dirty in 15 minutes anyway. Plus, no homeless ever begs me for money.
I worked in radio for several years. I always dressed well. I didn’t always wear a tie but nothing less than a polo and dark jeans. It really made a difference on my attitude towards the listener
@@matthewsheek8306 as a non-native English speaker, the word ‘jeans’ confuses me here. Do you mean a specific type of jeans? Because jeans don’t seem formal in any way to me. I don’t know if I’m missing something culturally or linguistically. Please let me know
@ You’re right. Jeans are casual. I never wore jeans that were too faded or showed wear. Most stations I worked for had no dress code so I adopted a smart casual look
This is so true! I’m a professional opera singer and it took me years to get my suits tailored properly. It’s stupid, but once I did, I started to succeed more and got much better feedback in my auditions and competitions
I used to work with a contractor who was worth several million net. He dressed like a hobo. I asked him why one day and he told me that he wants to be perceived as a working man and not as an "empty suit." He doesn't want people to suck up to him or ask him for money or any of the other behavior that comes with dressing well. As you said, you present yourself in the way you want to be treated. He wanted to be left alone and treated like an average Joe rather than as a guy who owned 150+ rental units and built houses for wealthy buyers. There's something to be said about that. Even though I'm dead broke, I do dress well for professional reasons. I need people to assume I'm competent and intelligent, but when I'm out, I'm constantly barraged by homeless people asking for money. They'll walk past 15 other people to mark me. I've had some wait 20 minutes while I shop to hit me up on the way out of the store, or watch me pump gas just to hit me up walking back with my receipt. Sometimes, just like my first boss, I don't want that kind of attention.
@nwnelson66 i thought it was a new style he was speaking of and they somehow invented talking dresses, though that does mean they definitely made a fashion statement with them
‘Eloquently’ fits perfectly fine. (Although, I understand it’s tricky to see how). ‘Eloquent’ can mean expressive, meaningful, significant, indicative, graceful, sophisticated, intelligent, dignified (through distinguished). ‘Elegant’ can mean graceful (like ‘Eloquent’), sophisticated, intelligent, dignified (these three also like ‘Eloquent’). ‘Eloquent’ might fit even better as it focuses more on expression than ‘Elegant’ does. In this case, the women would be expressing themselves through their clothes, makeup, hairstyles, etc. at this event where the dress code isn’t strict, yet still more formal. Since ‘Eloquent’ and ‘Elegant’ are usually adjectives which modify the noun/pronoun, they don’t always have to refer to clothes or writing. (EXTRA) You know, it’s such idiosyncrasies as these that make language and learning new ones or improving my own very fun and interesting!
@@AndrewAutamore I see your point but it's a bit of a stretch. You could say the way the women were dressed clearly articulated the message they intended to convey and , as such, they were eloquently dressed, but that would require a specific set of circumstances such as trying to convey a political point or send a message about their position on a certain issue. I'm pretty sure he meant to say elegantly and under normal circumstances that would always be the more accurate word.
@@SoFloCo-ne4rk That’s fair. At least you’re not outright saying I’m wrong like other people did. My father and I both have taken numerous language courses and know a few others well enough to read (but not speak). I consulted with my father and we agree that the reason it can work is because this guy said it like a modifier (‘eloquently’ instead of just ‘eloquent’). If he had specifically said ‘eloquent’ instead of ‘elegant’, then he would be wrong; because those two words are completely different, but as a modifier, anything goes. I can agree that it seems like a stretch. Perhaps mostly because people associate these two words a certain way, but it is possible. One would probably just have to explain their word usage and the word definitions to convince people.
Well said! I used to travel on business extensively for many years before I retired. I always flew wearing a coat and tie and was amazed and appalled by how few fellow businessmen dressed. One of my greatest pet peeves was men carrying a backpack like they were going camping, occasionally wearing a sportcoat or even a suit! I cannot tell you how many times I received free upgrades and special treatment by the airlines just because I looked professional.Even now, working at home on an online business, I still dress nicely sitting at my desk. I feel I am always much more productive, dressed this way rather than wearing sweats or pajamas. Thank you again for an excellent presentation.
I just wanted to say, as a first-time viewer, I sincerely appreciate that the subtitles have the video times sprinkled in for reference. You're very concise in style, meaning, language, and mode. I'm having trouble articulateing what I want to say. You hold yourself well, a very formidable man.
1:36 Collar, tie sweater, suit jacket - I’ve wanted to dress this way, but fashionable friends have told me that a sweater over a button-down w/ tie is a no-go, and that a sweater under a suit jacket is off limits as well. I’m glad to see you break through that.
I'm a literal ,walking relic of the 1930's/1940's,lol. I wear a suit daily (coat with matching dress trousers w/ shirt and tie, as well as nice oxfords or low quarter desert style boots. and top it all off with a fine felt fedora. I care nothing about what people think of me.
@@andrewcarlson2178 Your head shape depends on the type/style of fedora. Best thing to do, is go to a place that specializes in hats/fedoras and talk to someone there. I had my own head measurements made and went by that. Anyone can wear a fedora. It just depends on which style looks good on you.
On the outside dressing well shows you care, you put effort and time into what you would wear for the people you would meet that day. This is something a lot of people do not understand, if you show up with whatever clothing you will make others understand you don't care about the venue or the people present. If you dress up nice they will know you care about them and in turn are likely to show their appreciation to you in one way or another. On the inside it helps making you feel confident, you know you look good so you feel good, you feel good so everything goes smoothly. You can even get some compliments every now and then and the best compliment is looking in a mirror and liking the way you look. I really do not know who was the first person to tell the huge lie of "Dont judge a book by its cover" when everything is based on appearance: your first impression, how likely people are to approach you, how likely they are to notice you, whether they will think you're serious or aloof is all based on appearance. "Looks can be deceiving" is a much more appropriate, people might not be what they present themselves as, but there's always a first impression guiding the first step to any interaction.
Some years ago I started watching this channel on rare occasions and learned good things which I also implemented in practice. One thing I cannot overcome: overheating. Seeing Antonio wear 3 layers, the first thing that comes into my mind is *freezing point*. That's the temp where I feel comfy in that outfit. Anything that has more than one layer for indoors is a death-by-heat stroke penalty to me.
Nailed it - also all the more maddening that women are allowed to dress stupidly lightly and still qualify as dressed up in a situation where a man who isn't wearing a full suit will be underdressed. I have found some stupidly lightweight cargo pants for hiking which are sold for being UV blocking and very little more, but look similar to normal weight pants, to wear in work where the dress code prohibits shorts - this is for hygiene reasons for anyone accessing the production floor, so female employees aren't allowed bare legs either, but other places I've worked in have no such reason and no problem with this double standard.
I love being the most stylish person in the room. I love that feeling that people are looking and thinking, "ooh, he looks nice. I should dress like that/ I wish my guy dressed like that"
Setting your closet up for the outfit ensemble as you've shown at the end of the video is excellent advice to follow. You get invited somewhere, you can walk into your closet and grab from top to bottom and your look is done. A suit is best set up with a selection of ties that work with the color and design chosen. If lost just look online for "casual look" or "semi formal" or "formal". I think a lot of the uncomfortableness in wearing a put together look is that we are afraid of ruining it during our outting. There goes our James Bond look. Relax into the clothes and that exhibits a level of confidence that being tense definitely shows as nervousness.
It’s intriguing how the struggle men face when dressing well continues to spark such meaningful conversations. In my video, ‘Why Men Don’t Dare to Dress Well: The Fear of Standing Out,’ I delved into the psychological barriers that hold men back, fear of judgment, shifting definitions of masculinity, and the dominance of casual culture. It’s remarkable to see how this discussion is expanding across platforms. Perhaps the growing interest shows that men are ready to reclaim elegance and confidence in their style. Let’s keep challenging these norms and inspiring others to step into their best selves! Great video!
Interesting. Hopefully this will help men also improve from the inside out; so more men in society will become confident, bold, responsible and being of service to others.
@AllureSecretary You make a lot of good points, if people just invested in quality products over status symbols they’d save money in the long run. I went through and lived that mistake, now I’m at the point where I want a few quality items over a closet full of junky clothes. Only downer is now I have to sell the junky stuff on Poshmark and see if anyone bites so I have some money for a good tailor.
@@raphaelklijn6358 Absolutely agree! True style goes beyond clothing, it’s a reflection of a man’s mindset and values. By embracing elegance and responsibility, they can redefine what it means to be of service to others and make a positive impact on those around them. Thank you for highlighting such an important perspective!
Great thoughts again. I remember starting out with dressing up 1 day a week when I went to a side-gig. Now I dress in my own style as often as possible, and whenever I don't, I get weird looks from those who know me. And I really related when you mentioned getting complimented on your 'suit' when wearing a sport coat haha. It's really all about your own style and what you need. Thanks for helping (young) men dress better; whether it'd be suits or casual ensembles.
not that you are looking for advice, but don't over buy one type of style. Choose one of different styles and you can figure out what works for you or is your favorite without buying a bunch of waste clothes
@Histoanmy I'm currently buying nice chinos and Slacks, a few blazers and sports coats. Along with about 4-5 nice pairs of leather dress shoes and loafers. Just need a few more colors of dress shirts and polo's, then a new belt or two them I should be set.
Lol. I'm in the opposite. I'm tired of wearing what others think that I should wear. Hoodies, Basic T-Shirts, and sweatpants all the way. And a pair of jeans for when I need to go to a public office - just enough to get pass by security
Ask any well developed man. They've all been there. When you are tired of looking and feeling like sh*t everywhere you go, you take something immediately within your control and make a small change for the better. Which is usually how you dress. Good for you. Usually when a young guy starts caring more about his appearance it's a sign of him maturing into an adult. Not assuming thats you or anything, though, just talking in general
I learned along time ago, When walking in a room full of suits the 1 random in the corner with blue jeans and a t shirt is most likely the leader and the individual you actually want to know.
@@sshreddderr9409 Which is perfect because the real MVP A) has limited time to talk to people and B) Can observe what people are like unfettered by social niceties
@ You despise people for the clothes they wear? Very sad and I would definitely not employ you. 9 times out of 10 the "smart casual" clothes I wear will be far more expensive than the garbage suits I see people wearing. Hell, my shoes are probably more expensive than anything you have in your closet sonny boy
People lack self respect. If you respect yourself you will dress well REGARDLESS of the circumstances. Forget about what others think of you, what do you think of yourself? Do you think well enough of yourself to take the time and spend the money to look like you respect yourself. If you don’t respect yourself then who will? The question is why do people lack self respect?
I must say that as a young man i just feel more comfortable in my skin if i dress smartly, and it boosts my confidence. While at first it may be a bit intimitading, it is very much worth it
So glad you made mention of the first point. There have been times were I have looked incredible and appropriate for the occasion but ended up feeling uncomfortable because everyone (specifically guys) simply decided to dress down. Developing an attitude of "I am dressing well for myself" is so important
Second hand suit, next stop is an alterations tailor, and you are all set, with a perfectly fitting suit for less than a pair of "popular brand" jeans.
This is a wonderful video. I am involved in an active dance scene in Sydney, and while the ladies always wear lovely flowing dresses, many of the men just wear jeans and a t-shirt.
Just go to the mall any given weekend and you’ll see the vast majority of men wearing hoodies, worn out shoes, pajamas, sloppy outfits in general. Thanks to this channel I paid much more interest to my wardrobe. I ditched bags of old clothes and replaced them with fitting clothes of modern and classic style, and 2 pairs of Thursday boots. Dressing well and smelling good will attract more attention and command more respect than you think. Thank you for everything you do for all of us, Antonio.
I dress up more than everyone here on my post, even just to walk around. I dont wear a suit but ill wear chinos, polos, nice sweaters, overcoats, loafers, Chelseas etc just bec i know we are judged by appearance and more importantly, i enjoy looking good. Sure i could go around in a tshirt and jeans and be fine but "if you dress good you feel good". I like expanding my wardrobe to have a great look for any occasion
Nice to hear❤. This year I’m going to do the same. Just bought some sweet suede brown Chelsea boots. My wife is from Europe and she always says why do people dress so relaxed here? I’m not sure what state you’re from but I’m in Fort Myers Florida and freaking people here wear flip-flops to dinner. Kind of sucks that the environment of everybody is so relaxed. Maybe it’s because it’s more of a vacation area. Sometimes I wish I’d move back to upstate New York.
I can relate to what your wife. Means im from italy travel to America quite often. And all kind of people look at the way i dress. The compliment i get@chalmerelkins8965
Most of my wardrobe is death metal shirts and jeans. I work in an industry where I can wear that, the people I hang out with are like that, and we're all happy. As long as clothes are clean, don't smell and fit reaosnably well that enough for me. Exceptions would be anything for the wife or kids. But suits? I have one for weddings and funerals. I've never been to a formal event outside that context. Was invited to one once but turned down the invite. It's a world that doesn't interest me. There's a delicious irony in judging people who don't dress up, and quite often those who don't dress up don't waste emotion caring about what anyone else wears.
Yep i totally agree. In fact i took a internship last year as an IT guy in a consultant company. I was proud to be underdressed 😂😂😂 Let them wear their stupid suits, i enjoy my casual nerd style. I have broader shoulders and a bigger bizeps then all of those suits 😂🎉
I'm the guy in the tie and vest flying internationally. While I've received wonderful compliments, after a career in sales, I certainly pick up some less friendly judgements. It can be divisive even. You can see it in people's faces, but the positive more than makes up and I like to think someone somewhere is thinking they'll wear a tie 'cause they saw the crazy guy from the livestock ranch in Uruguay dressed like an extra from Peaky Blinders. Be well, gents!
Antonio, great video as always. Please note, the zipper sweater you wear is very casual (originally made in the 1930s for athletes and for exercising). Even though today many men wear it with more formal wear, it looks off and takes their look down a few notches. It looks like they are going hiking but also going to a business meeting. Simple fix: stick with a sweater with buttons if you want something similar. Buttons are always more elegant and more formal than zippers. As a rule, think zippered sweaters go best with sneakers/boots, button sweaters go best with dress shoes. Details matter. All the best!
@@Pikawarps The problem is he is wearing a dressier sportcoat (fine texture and fine pattern) with a pocketsquare which is not at all a casual look. You cannot dress this look down with a zipper sweater and look congruent any more than you could with sweatpants and running sneakers since they are all too casual for so much polish. If he dropped the pocketsquare, put on a more casual sportcoat with a larger pattern and rougher texture, a zipper sweater would be far more congruent. In the real world, unless you are a famous rapper or maverick celebrity on the red carpet, all exerciseware like sweatpants, zipperware, and sneakers look best kept far away from fine jackets with pocket squares.
I’m probably the only guy at work who wears a proper suit and tie at the office everyday. Everyone else dresses business casual unless there’s a meeting with some important clientele, then the higher ups will wear a suit. But I’ve always gotten compliments from coworkers saying they love the way I dress. I tell them I hope one day others will join me!
Yeah. I don't care. I am not trying to do game with women anymore and i don't care about impressing other guys because well...usually guys aren't like that so i just dress comfortable. I am not the type that appears with shorts and sandals because i don't like those, i don't wear them even at home but dressing up too much is not for me.
@@Sebast_ian0 since I am even older, dressing well was a result of being conditioned to have confidence in yourself and take others seriously. The “i dont care, i wear what i want” logic I hear even from men in their 40’s and 50’s is actually a shy “i feel kinda awkward being dressed up and dont want to stick out”.
@@Rolando-SE Don't assume to know other people's motivation with such a blanket statement. I dress weird, I stick out everywhere and I certainly wear "nicer" attire for work (while hating it) but I still don't like wearing suits in my free time. I associate the look with the kind of people who generally wear it... which are mostly people I wouldn't trust as far as I could throw them. Encountered too many stereotypical cutthroat business types to have positive associations with suits (although I am by no means saying wearing a suit makes you like them at all). Anyways, people have different reasons for doing what they do. Don't be presumptuous.
@@MellonVegan but no one is talking about suits in your free time. where did you get that from? dressing well is confidence. dressing down is lack of confidence. thats undeniable. you see whether kids wearing the best street style or business men wearing suits properly or tradesmen wearing their gear correctly. those are the men I know take themselves seriously. my statement still stands. it’s usually the socially awkward, low self esteem guy that shows up dressed like he’s still a high school sophomore.
I first realized the importance of proud clothes from somewhere else, but I wanted to say. Lately Ive been wearing more button-ups, generally being a bit more formal, and I really feel like Im stumbling into a real representation of who I percieve myself as
It’s a good thing I don’t do that, then. See, cost has little to do with it. You can spend a lot of money on clothes and look terrible. What you have to learn is that dressing up and dressing well are two entirely different things.
It feels great to be able to put m best foot forward consistently. I'm glad I started listening to this channel several years ago. My confidence and attitude has changed tremendously. Thank you Antonio!
I just got back from a cruise down the Nile. I knew we would be visiting classic five star hotels, so packed a nice light three piece, Panama hat and a cane for good measure. It really felt great getting compliments on the way I was dressed.
Every time I see a men’s style video, they’re always wearing multiple layers, a shirt, and under jacket, a sports coat, and I can’t help but think how uncomfortably warm it looks like it would be, comes from living in South Texas, but it makes me fear that the attempt to look good is gonna come with the risk of a heat stroke!
I live in Britain where it's cold and I still wouldn't want to wear that many layers. I'm still out in my shirt in winter; I cannot imagine wearing 3+ layers all the time and indoors, uncomfortable, suffocating and WARM.
It's less than 10 degrees above freezing and I'm cycling to and from work every day wearing a raincoat over a thin cotton shirt and that's plenty warm enough, with gloves, until the temperatures hit double digits, at which point neither the gloves or coat will be needed. Once the summer hits and temperatures approach 'room temperature' I have to slow down the ride into work to minimise how much I overheat as soon as I sit in the still air in the office. No room for 'fashion' when one layer of light clothing is more than enough even outdoors 9-10 months a year.
When you develope proper style it can be tailored to your body-type, environment, local weather etc. You can always be comfortable but also look good. Practicality meets style pretty quickly, you still gotta learn how to dress first though before it gets there
living in south Texas, you'd croak wearing British autumn and spring fashion (what hes wearing) you'd need summer suits and fabrics adapted to your climate.
People compliment me where ever I go. Why is that? It's super duper easy. I wear a sports jacket with my jeans. I wear nice "office/walking" shoes and not sneakers. And a button shirt. Those three things make me look a million dollars more worth than the cap+Metallica T+sneaker-wearing dude next to me.
Amazing timing. I JUST got into a discussion yesterday with someone who believes it's acceptable in our mid forties to walk around in baggy jeans, sneakers, screen print t-shirts, and backwards baseball cap. I was trying to help him understand that we're no longer 20 year old without a career and mortgage, but instead are seasoned adults and should interact with the world as such.
I spent 40 years dressing in elegant suits. It was required for my work. I carried this into my personal life. I now dress casually. As for 'your image', if that is all that is important to you, it is a very shallow attitude. I now dress to my code, not what people expect of me. If you need to follow the crowd, you are simply insecure.
This is true, gents. When I was in school I always wore button-down collared shirts, nice pants and a belt, nice shoes, (NEVER sneakers), and carried a leather bag with my laptop and documents in it. One morning I was standing outside of my 9:00 A.M. classroom with my other classmates waiting for the current class to finish their exam and file out so we could walk in and take ours. After five minutes of standing around, the assistant professor walked out of the classroom, walked right up to me, and apologized that the exam was taking so long, and said that if I wanted, I could come in early and set up my laptop and the room for my students so I would be ready for them by the time they were able to come in. I smiled, and informed the professor that I was not the incoming professor, but just one of the students. She apologized and went back in. It may have been a small thing, but I felt proud to be mistaken for a professor, and not just a student.
Dressing well as a man is not an opportunity to judge. But remember that this is how you’re presenting yourself to the world. When you dress well, there are many non-verbal cues that are communicated. You respect yourself, you respect others, you demand respect. Men need to start looking dapper again. Bring back the 30’s, 40’s and 50’s style of dress. How many ladies do you know like or dislike a man in a suit? Ask them. Have I made my point yet?
Thats because suits represent wealth. How many ladies will turn around and disparage that same man for being poor and wasting their time, for lying about who they were? Men dressed for function even back in the 40's and 50's. You look back upon it with rose tinted glasses. The functionality that clothing provided isnt needed in modern times.
Always wanted to dress well for college, but don't have the courage for all the reasons you stated in you're video. All im gonna say is im glad I saw this video.
The most valuable tip I got from this video is the interchangeable wardrobe! Also valuable to hear was how important it is to build familiarity with a set of clothes.
I discovered your channel 2 days ago and already watched a few videos, and it's great work, I love how passionate and thorough you are 👍 Diving into concepts and history rather than simply telling "wear this with that", makes your advice easier to adapt a style to match ones personality I'm from a software company where people tend to dress down. Bought a few things to stop "dressing like a boy", and it completely changed how people looked at me when I walk around in the building, glad I found you !
I love dressing up in public for just causal reasons, like its friday so im wearing a tie today, just feeling good. My favorite part is 99% of people are like "Damn boy! Look at you! Good for you!!" Then 1% of the time a dude in a ratty ass muscle shirt and flip flops goes "ha! Who you trying to impress?" I'll say "this is just for me" That disturbs them so much. They're out here half naked trying to get compliments on their looks, and everyone is complimenting me who is fully dressed. It just destroys their ego, lol
Because it's uncomfortable, because it takes ages, because I could careless about someone else's opinion.
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We live in a warm climate, my husband refuses to wear suits and ties as a retiree. Funerals here are casual dress pants and a shirt. Suits are not selling in stores.
when i first started dressing well, i felt weird, thinking i was over dressed. then i realized everyone else was just underdressed. Im a chef, and there is no cooler feeling for me now when ive got my sleeves rolled up, wearing a tie and vest putting away stock. i feel like my grandfather probably did in the 40s and 50s. i love it
I visit my town shops every Saturday morning, I'll often see women in freshly pressed clothing, tidy hair and make-up, they've taken care of their appearance before leaving their house and my heart sinks to see they have a man at their side that looks like he spent the night sleeping in a barn.... unshaven, crumpled jeans, an a T shirt that is well beyond it's life span. I don't think these men first dated their partners looking so poorly presented and I wonder how men can let themselves go in such a way.
The guys in the old tshirts and jeans are doing far less harm to the environment than the brand new clothes that are thrown out after single digit numbers of uses that likely most of the women you're seeing are wearing. He's getting actual value out of his clothes rather than creating mountains of waste every year. Whether you still think the women are doing it right after adding this piece of information comes down to whether you think superficial looks are worth the undeniable environmental cost.
Living in the southern US, I find my main reason for dressing casually is that "dressing well" usually involves layering and that can get pretty hot fast. If I wear anything more that a T-shirt in the summer, I'll be sweating like crazy and, honestly, our winters don't usually require anything more than a 2nd layer.
At work, where we have a basic uniform of a black polo shirt on black work trousers. Usually worn with trainers and with a black baseball cap in summer and a black beanie in winter...I swapped the baseball cap for a fedora, the beanie for a faux fur hat and the trainers for boots...and found that people complimented my style with even the management approving the changes. Many now consider me the best dressed in the company.
Great channel! Great content. Great tips. Very informative. I have now pointed my 19-year-old son and my 14-year-old son to check out your videos and start learning some important man advice.Thank you. Very genuine vibe from you, Antonio.
Generally, I think most guys from my experience just don't really care about fashion. It's one of those things where women care about it but guys don't. And whenever I do find a guy who do care about it, they only care about it to appease women that they are trying to get or attract but it's not something that deep down they desire
You wear nice clothes to impress others. To look good. To make an IMPRESSion to others. To -impress. To press upon an idea. It is physiological manipulation. Pushing an idea. But actions are louder than words, at the end of the day.
Additionally, someone in great physical shape wearing plain clothes will always look better than someone not in shape, even in great clothes. And they actually give a darn about their health!
Great video. I noticed that very few guys at our church wear ties on Sunday anymore. I've made it a point to start wearing a tie again. Of course some guys say "You clean up well" but some give genuine compliments.
I like just simple shirts. I feel better and more confident when I wear them. No one in my circle wears shirts. Often I catch people looking at me from bottom to top. But I don't care. Let them watch, guys! Let them think whatever they want to think! Be the one!
@xCCflierx there are summer shirts from light material which feel very good in hot weather. And you can roll your sleeves that enables irresistible mode! 🔥
One thing I feel that impacts on the ability to dress well is the climate. I'm from South America, dressing in layers on tropical seasons weighs heavily on comfort and appropriate options are usually freakshlly expensive or of bad quality. So I think people favors more casual garbs of some good brands then style.
Athletes dress in clothing made to optimize their performance instead of for their own mindset. Even Sir Alex Ferguson, who's litigious about standardized clothing, says that standardized uniform is more for reinforcing the player's discipline and promoting team unity rather than "dressing for themselves." In fact by SAF's explanation, it's quite the opposite; you dress to eliminate the ego. Clothing serves a utility. For marketer-type professions, looking good is the utility. This does not necessarily apply to non-marketer-type professions. On the confidence promoting benefits, the studies actually show that the act of dressing well is simply a habituating ritual that reinforce discipline or other desired mindsets. The clothing itself doesn't necessarily cause the mindsets. Mr. Real Style is confusing correlation for causation.
@kylehackett162 I wouldn’t be against buying off the rack and going for a tailor for final adjustment. As long as you are getting a great quality construction and natural materials, you will enjoy wearing the tailored suit and stay comfortable. So be mindful of the materials and ask questions and ask the staff to explain you the differences in the construction of a suit jacket, it can have a huge difference on how you feel wearing it! 😄
My father and I bought our last three suits for $1000 between us, rather than one suit for that, by waiting for the once-a-year sale. They measured us, then used a real tailor for alterations, all for that price; if you have no way to share, plan your three suits so that they are quite different between them, for different purposes. Maybe drastically different weights, so you have a summer suit, winter suit, and the third one for whichever season you need/want.
"Best dressed" I mean, I think suits look awful. Ties look clownish. A dark button down shirt with contrasting flare designs looks the best to me, but I love music so band t-shirts are the most expressive. The idea of paying for expensive clothing that doesn't express anything about me, and feels awful to wear is crazy. I do not trust anyone I meet that is wearing a suit. If they have to fake things via how they dress, how real will they be when they interact with me? Like girls wearing way too much makeup. If this less-trustworthy demographic views me negatively for wearing a tshirt, or button down shirt then this just lowers my opinion of them further. It doesn't encourage me to dress like them.
Most of this advice might have been from Antonio himself but I saw a video a while back that said the fastest way to immediately dress better is to where your nicest clothes all the time. Doesn't mean wear a suit to a construction site but dress well all the time. Regardless of the occasion, if there is one or not, dress well. Then shift that into only buying nicer pieces, don't buy the pack of shirts buy a quality shirt. Then it's not something you have to work on or build a habit of doing, it's all you have all you do. It's how you shop because you shop deliberately. Learn what dressing well means. If for no other reason to wear clothes that fit, because it helps us function better. Pants that fit well feel like they want to work with you while you're doing your thing. If you see a trend you like, find the timeless version of it. Get a great pair of boots, they're easy to dress up and functional. Most people are wearing sneakers even in the winter it's sneakers, uggs, or clogs. Get a good pair of boots you can dress up or down. IMO boots elevate everything and you feel like you can walk through anything, because you can. There's some things you just don't have to pay attention too while out that other people do and you'll start to notice. I dress well, or try to but I don't worry about what I'm wearing. There's people who dressing well means expensive or looking a certain way so they worry about ruining their look. It's like being in New York in the winter and everyone has boots on but they're expensive so they're afraid to strut through snow or slush and create bottle necks. If something's expensive but you don't trust it when used as intended because it might get dirty or fall apart then why buy it? If it's pricey I expect part of the wearability to be that I can wear it regularly. That kind of wearability is versatile and really helps with downsizing a wardrobe. I think if you have to start somewhere with a style start with the shoes and go with boots, build it up from there.
This is why I went back to wearing jeans and shirts with no collars. It just looks cool and slick. Slim jeans made of stretchy denim are the absolute best.
@ That’s almost exactly what I’m dressing now. Slimmer profile, clothes that fit, for me means less material. It was more of a hassle finding Henleys, actually amazing how hard it was. Online it’s easy but in a store not so much. When you do find them, the options aren’t that much. There would also be more affordable quality options in general if so much material wasn’t wasted on cheap shirts with crappy decals.
I love wearing my dark brown trench coat and red turtle neck together, its got a nice class to them. Unfortunately, I live in a state that's hot nearly all year round, so I only wear it during the winter time.
Another reason why that is more specific to my country, the UK, is that most people would probably assume that if you dress well, you're more than likely upper class, and so, people will assume that you are arrogant and that you look down upon others simply because you're richer. Also, due to the popularity of the show, Peaky Blinders, others might assume that you're attempting to dress like a gangster, leading them to dismiss you out of hand. Lastly, due to the Boomers having it really easy due to the economic prosperity of their youth, things such as the desire to dress well were taken for granted and over time, culture shifted until we were no longer to care for someone's appearance, so long as they did their job well. In short, weve become far too utilitarian with how we dress.
the fact that we can dress as we want shows amazing progress of the society, it also makes it easier to stand out with your look those rare times you decide it's worth it, and this one should do when he feels like
My issues with dressing well are 1. Cost: it seems like I have to choose between half-baked discount outfits that arent priperly fitted, or paying extortionist rates for a single good outfit. I'm not broke, but I refuse to spend hundreds or even thousands on a single outfit 2. Knowledge: I don't really know what the "right" outfit is in many cases. I can decide if I like how it looks, but I know nothing of "style" in any formal sense. 3. Motivation: why do I care to dress properly when everyone around me dressed like trash and gets the same treatment? We don't reward proper behavior and are stunned to see improper behavior 4. Self-image: I don't like how I look, ever. So if I dress modestly and don't stand out, I can hide in a group. You can polish a turd, but it's still just a turd
I’m a cashier at McDonald’s and even I wear a three piece suit to work. Even on my off days when I’m playing my N64 all day long, I do so in style-by rocking a tuxedo. Get it together people.
: D ... I feel all my life I have made a point out of being clothed sloppy, while striving to perform exceptionally well in whatever I was doing, but none of the reasons you mentioned resonated with me. I have never thought about it, but I think dressing badly is a form of ego-protection. E.g.: It was really important to me to get all As' in my Master degree to not fall behind my father and older brother, so I studied very very hard for it ... but still I did the exam in and old T-shirt and Jeans, which is severely some would call it offensively under-dressed for the setting in that university. Well, I got my As ... all of them^^ ... and now I can say I got them despite having been dressed terribly, which is nice ... but more importantly, if I had failed, in my hearts of hearts I could pretend that I did not get them, because they were in the wrong for judging my clothing rather than my performance, and it would have had nothing to do with me not being good enough, despite giving 100%.^^ Anyway - I have never dressed well since then, but I do not feel that I had any disadvantage from not owning a suit - maybe because I am an Engineer a profession were good clothing is very uncommon anyway ...
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"Eloquent" describes the use of language, you meant the women were dressed "elegantly.' Just trying to help. Good vid, thanks, enjoyed it.
Why do women dress elogently and men will choose to dress down
Women dress well to show off there beauty and to give an heir of refinement
A well dressed man has to have accomplishments to make his attire meaningful, when a man is not accomplished he does not want to dress for a
part he does not have because people will think "he looks good, what does he do, who is he" whereas for a woman the thought will generally end at
"she looks good" with the possibility of "I wonder who shes with".
When rent costs 120% of your monthly salary, you do not have much of a choice. Hang out with nornal people not just your millionare/billionare friends.
@@RealMenRealStyle i just want to be comfortable. I dont care about anyone elses thought.
@@jasonu3741 that's a bit unfair on your part. I think the main reason is that women attract the attention of both men and other women, while men are basically invisible to both.
I started wearing suits or sport coats every time I went to my kids' performances, school band, chorus, drama etc. The first time I did it, some of my friends asked me why, and "Who died?" and so on. I said that these kids work hard, and I decided to dress up to show them I appreciated their hard work and was willing to make their performances special. We'll, the next performance, there were 3 of us in coats or suits, then 10, then about 25% and it kept growing. Soon, the women were upping their game as well. Before long, these performances started to become date night type events for the parents and we all started to really enjoy them more. Just put yourself out there. You'll start a trend.
What a lovely story. Be the change.
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What a story. Truly inspiring.
Love it 😎
And then everybody stood up and clapped.
I tried your dressing advice at university and people thought I was the professor 💀
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@All_the_arcs That means you can convince the bookstore people that you are the professor, and therefore can buy the "teacher's edition" of textbooks, which has all the answers to the textbook problems 😎
Same here, people from the next year never dared talking to me xDDD
Facts I do the same
if ur not wearing unlaundered sweats ur not suffering enough
I drive a truck in a dirty industry. I dress up for work. Everyone thinks I own the company or at least supervisor. I get crazy respect from regular Joe's to Top Dogs. People take a second look at company name on side of truck as they're impressed. I thought coworkers would dislike me. They actually like me more. They light up when they see me coming and these are hardcore dudes. Such a simple thing to take you, your company or the company you work for places. Not gonna mention the ladies I encounter everyday. (grin)
I was inspired by this channel a few years ago.
Side effect: I act more professional at work when dressed because I feel professional. Road rage, selfish driving and not getting along with coworkers has left the chat. Life changing.
@@GiveThanksAndPraise This is awesome! What clothing are you wearing, a pristine suit, something more casual but better than the other guys? How are you taking care of the dirt? I work in the trades so I can imagine it would be pretty hard to keep a suit clean. Thanks.
Are you going to work well dressed, then change to work clothes for driving the truck? 🤔💬
and yet at the end of day - you are a truck driver -easily replacable drone / npc - what kind of "respect " in your delisions you get ?
@@GeraldDelGiorno no changing
That's wonderful I wish more men understood this concept. Thank you for sharing.
I attended my high school senior class 50 year reunion in 2022. I didn't want to make the mistake I made at our 20 year reunion by showing up in a pair of khakis and a striped polo shirt while ALL the other men wore a suit .
I was a subscriber (still am) to your channel and too to heart your advice.
I walked into a men's clothing store, walked up to a salesman and simply said "help". He chuckled and asked how he could help and I explained about my upcoming class reunion. Smartest move I could have made!
Not only did he measure me for the jacket but the trousers, white shirt and vest as well. We topped this all off with a nice pair of black leather dress shoes. What really surprised me was how absolutely comfortable the suit was! One of the contributing factors was the white shirt. It was 100% cotton but with a special weave that breathed and I barely knew I was wearing it!
Anyway, at the reunion I was one of the few men wearing a suit but I felt quite at ease and received compliments from both men and women despite being about 40 pounds over weight- a byproduct of 3 heart attacks due to a blood clot from a shoulder surgery and 2 more due to physically overdoing it.
So, gents you don't have to be uncomfortable wearing a suit. Get it tailored to you.
Thanks for the great advice and keep up the good work!
Spending thousands on suit to impress bunch of strangers that you won't see for next 20 years is pointless.
You can get nice suits for $300-500
@ still not worth it to impress bunch of strangers that you'll not meet again.
@@pozytronowyedek1958 It can make you feel damn good. The point of a reunion is that they're not strangers - they live in your head and were a part of your life. If you have no affinity with that, why would you even be there?
I haven't worn anything tailored in years, often my dress clothes are thrift shop. I do wear it in the dressing room, though, to make sure it feels right.
Number 1 problem of neckwear is men don't understand neck size and getting a shirt that fits. I have a thick neck and own button extenders so I can properly wear ties and bowties properly.
The biggest epiphany I’ve had in terms of how I dress in my late 30’s and now 40, is that the purpose of wearing nice clothes is NOT to show off, or to impress others. But to influence their first impression of me. I want my appearance to INVITE someone to get to know me.
Great point and policy. I guess I follow the same bc I have a great collection of clothes. I still haven’t worn 70% of what I own. Maybe I’m buying too much and need to slow down n the buying?! Haha!
Oh, so with my clothes, it’s for myself first on what I like and not to impress others. Of course being appreciated for being nicely dressed is appreciated, but not why I dress up.
Yes you ARE wearing nice clothes to impress others. You want to make a good first IMPRESSion don't you? That's what you said. To press upon an idea to someone. You just can't admit it, can you?
@@somethingsomethingsomethingdar - I listen to what people say and do in meetings, in emails, and in response to feedback & requests.
OR you could be yourself and attract others like you with common interest and mindset to get to know you.
You sound insecure with your comment.
I think something overlooked on why men don't dress like before is the cost of decent nice looking clothes. Plus if you are working in construction for example why bother buying something you won't wear much? You go to work without it, you stay home and sleep without it. The only time to use it really is when you go out and that is also on the decline and I'm not spending half an hour getting ready to go grocery shopping I'm just going.
My dad worked in construction. He wore dark wash denim jeans (well faded, typically), redwing work boots, a thin cotton undershirt, and a button up shirt every day. When it was cold he wore an oxford button down, and when it was hot he wore a Cuban. Always with the breast pocket which frequently housed a pack of cigarettes, his reading glasses, his pencil, and approximately 53 cents in spare change.
He always kept a mid gray sport coat in the truck. It wasn’t a very formal coat. Patch pockets, big tan buttons, a rougher material, though not as rough as tweed.
He didn’t look like he was ready to go to cocktail hour at the plaza, but he was certainly very sharply dressed when he’d toss the gray jacket on for lunch with my mom or to go to a rotary meeting after work.
Thanks for pointing that out. I'd be more inclined to dress up (I enjoy dressing formal!) if it wasn't so expensive.
@@edgelessuser5 going from t shirt and sweat pants to, a tucked in button down shirt, jeans with a belt is not much of a cost or time difference. Dress like a farmer in the 1930's is a step up.
@@tylerbrown4483 that is an oddly specific amount of change in his pocket. But you can dress however you want (within workplace regulations) it's just most people I've seen in construction are in pretty standard work clothes
@@josephhutton7574 I know it doesn't necessarily have to be expensive but it is pretty hard to get something that looks good and fits you right without spending a pretty penny. Although it would also depend on the style you are going for I suppose
I love to see a well dressed man. I complimented a well dressed guy in the supermarket and he was so happy. Dressing well invites conversation. It's a good thing. ❤😊
Agree. At my office they always thought i was the boss since I was a young professional.
He will forever remember that compliment. As men, we barely get compliments in life.
@@aprilthompson5154 I work for a warehouse where there is no dress code, but I do have a business type attire I wear from time to time on the weekends. Yes, people look at you differently. But I don't care for it. Dress how you want.
Yeah men love getting compliments, may it be from a man or a woman. We hardly get any and when we do we remember it forever. I still remember all the compliments Ive ever gotten from strangers.
I remember one time I thought I looked disheveled. I just threw on a suit I had worn the night previously as I had attended a funeral to take my grandma to the airport. Apparently I still looked good as a woman complimented me for wearing cufflinks.
Years ago I started wearing my grandfathers wool coat. It looks sharp and its awesome. I was 32 and I had old adults stopping to open the door for me. They would stop and talk to me like I was "someone" I knew that moment the way you dress changes everything. My father always told me that but I had never experienced it till that moment.
I am 32 and been mistaken as the “man in charge” a few times based off what I was wearing and how I carry myself in general
Right on, right on! Perception is stronger than reality!
Wow u must be super important
Great experience. Same here.
@cellularrepublic1 do u think, "How I carry myself" is a product of how you feel about what you're wearing? I'm reminded of a family wedding where my 14 are old nephew was in a bit of a funk. I asked him what was up. He said he hated the peak lapel suit his mom bought for him. It was different from what all the other guys were wearing. I asked him if he had ever seen the show "Suits?" I told him that Harvey, The Boss; always wears peak lapel. I told him he looked like "The Boss" well, that was a turning point for him, and he had a new confidence. I even saw him dancing with the Bride's pretty younger cousin. The kid found a whole new level of confidence when he changed how he felt about himself in what he was wearing.
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I used to feel self-conscious when I dressed well. I'm so glad I got over it. I love wearing a jacket and it's a good feeling to get compliments and see the respect in people's eyes. I work from home but find when I dress like I'm going into an office, I feel better and work better. Great video!
@@paulrothbart244 Also the pockets that come with a jacket are handy.
At college (16-18) I wore a suit to the first Monday the first Monday of every month. To ensure I would always be comfortable in smart wear.
I do see so many people out now in their pajamas or pants falling down. I’m 53 and I appreciate all the advice I get here and I’ve made changes to my wardrobe. I feel a lot better when I’m looking my best.
It's crazy. I go to my kids school and half of the kids are wearing what we call lounge pants or basically pajama pants. When I went to school you didn't just wear jeans you wore Levis. Or another brand name jean. You got made fun of if you wore something like Sears tough skins corduroys. If you wanted to fit in you had to wear certain clothes. And have a certain look
Agree. There are 'yardwork clothes' and 'going out' clothes. Never mistake the two. I think the best thing we could do as 'adult men' is toss 90% of the t-shirts we wear. I'm horribly terrible at this. A plain pastel button up shirt or polo works in most casual outtings (IMO).
@@marklogsdon7437 Pastel? Your boyfriend force you to like those?
@@andrewcarlson2178 Yeah, I remember that era, too... and y'know what? It sucked. And people who obsessed about wearing the "right" brands were full of shit.
(I'm not trying to dunk on you, personally. But there were a lot of things wrong with the mentality of that era.)
Anyway, that's just my two-cents'-worth. All the best, my friend.
I'm 45yo. Got my first pair of baggy heavy cotton sweatpants. I feel great in them
After more than a decade in Europe I felt I was always ‘lower dressed’. Then retiring to the U.S. I got sick and tired of people walking up to me with their problems in a store because I looked like the store manager. When I’m just trying to shop myself.
You know, Antonio, I've been following you since the beginning. I always wondered how a RUclipsr like you could stay relevant after a certain time, because the facts start to get repetitive. What I've learned is the repetition simply drives down the importance of the facts. You've made these points before in numerous videos, and it's the repetition that caused me to make the change; not 5-10 videos that only stated these facts once or twice. You're doing a great job, and I'm glad you're still here!
Was thinking the same - why not re-focus on the core instead of jumping the shark.
Appreciate this - I do believe repetition gets a bad wrap, when sometime we don't need new ideas/hacks.....we just need to focus on the 20% that yields the 80% and get back to mastering the fundamentals. So again - thank you @NickRosaci !
@@RealMenRealStyle just like the way repetition improved my style, it improved your channel. My new significant other loves how I dress. We went to a Christmas party, her in a dress, I in grey trousers and blue sports jacket. Some people commented on how overdressed we were, and she whispered in my ear "don't care, you look amazing."
Not just repetition, but saying things slightly differently. Sometimes just different phrasing makes something more personal and sinks home. While we're touching on psychology, I like how he addressed the herd mentality and that we are products of our environment
@@RealMenRealStyle maybe make a video on what happened to hats?
I have started dressing better and it has helped majorly with my terrible social anxiety, and I have OCD which is a dreadful anxiety disorder, I use to absolutely hate any attention but now I actually like it and getting so many compliments feels wonderful. I have no regrets about it.
That's courage. Thanks for sharing.
As a guy who’s a VP in a $200M/yr company; every employee that will ever be seen by a client get the same advisory from me; Never judge a book by its cover, and I mean don’t judge our clients - they pay our bills. And always know you will be judged the moment you are seen. Never, ever look more casual than our clients.
The vast majority of our team understands how appearances matter. And this point was made clear in a summit meeting several of us attended where the best dressed and well,spoken were invited to an after meeting dinner with platinum tier clients. The rest of the attendees, got the consolation prize of the buffet dinner and a shuttle ride back to the hotel.
Always, always, dress for the occasion and be the best dressed, and well spoken in the room. It commands respect.
I wonder what is the field of the companyyou work for, unfortunatelly less and less require formal clothing. I wish there was a way to search for work possitions where this is possible, even more to wear a suit and tie, but I think the only ones left out there are high rank managers or congressmen.
I guess it definitely depends on the field you're in. I did field work but at the end of the day i worked for giant tech companies.
😂 my company did provide 3 suits in around $6-8k range after some people had made a comment on what i was wearing but I never wore them and sadly don't fit anymore.
When your job is to physically fix problems, whether IT work or swapping out giant mechanical pieces no one cares what you look like. I have a few pictures of me and some what famous wealthy men because they loved the fact that I showed up to a Chicago building in a tank top, swimming trunks and flip flops.
When people get to extreme levels of wealth they honestly don't give a crap about anything other than the fact you know what you're doing.
The only people who care about dress codes are middle management or people who think they're rich but still live paycheck to paycheck
The only people I know who still wear the expensive monkey suits are lawyers and consultants because they NEED to look expensive
Sorry it's very early here, I may have rambled. Forget what I said, for 90% of all people what the man above me said is technically the best advice you can get
Love this!
so true the monkey suits don't really matter in lots of professions. Skills and knowledge are way more important than how someone is dressed
I appreciate the way you spoke in this video. It never felt like you were punching down or villainizing anyone. Rather, your tone and the way you crafted the dialog seemed to have the intent to motivate and uplift.
I work in an office. There's no dress code, the manager just doesn't like men wearing shorts and of course sandals. Initially I was going pretty casually dressed, t-shorts, jeans, sport shoes...but at some point I was there for a couple of years, I had to train new employees etc, I had money, I began dressing bette. Nothing fancy just a polo instead of t-shirts in the summer, an oxford shirt, still mostly jeans, some better leather sneakers, or boots in the winter...and I get jokes about me overdressing, like I'm behaving like a CEO. I mean, society wants us to not dress well. But I also get compliments from people that visit my office and get my help. I prefer it being dressed a bit better. I feel better, work better. Still nothing too formal. Btw, the change came when I started watching your videos, for what it matters.
I get that a lot as well. Thankfully, I stopped giving a shit what people felt like and started focussing on what made me feel good. Between going full bald and dressing up, My confidence levels are definitely doing better and I don't feel mediocre anymore. I was born into this world and I will do everything in my power to own it! I feel you, and I know you feel good! ❤
Same here, simply wearing a casual sport shirt/button down with dark jeans got me labeled as “fancy and dressed up” at work. 😂
I get that sometimes. If your outfit shows any structure, suddenly you're overdressed 😆
You're definitely not behaving like our CEO. Jeans and t-shirts all the way.
Coworkers will neg you because they feel insecure. They know that a client will walk in, pass 4-5 bums/janitors/interns, and then stop in your office and see someone that means business. They know there will be comparisons and it's easier for them to try and get you to join them than for them to join you.
I get it but I'm a construction worker who works 70 hours a week with no social life. I gain nothing by being the best dressed man on the scaffold, I'll be dirty in 15 minutes anyway.
Plus, no homeless ever begs me for money.
These type of videos are aimed at white collar workers or for when you're going to an event.
Im in a similar situation.
I work on a farm. I need working closes not fancy one.
These videos are for gents or those who want to be ones.
Designer and gardener here. Same situation.
I worked in radio for several years. I always dressed well. I didn’t always wear a tie but nothing less than a polo and dark jeans. It really made a difference on my attitude towards the listener
@@matthewsheek8306 as a non-native English speaker, the word ‘jeans’ confuses me here. Do you mean a specific type of jeans? Because jeans don’t seem formal in any way to me. I don’t know if I’m missing something culturally or linguistically.
Please let me know
@ You’re right. Jeans are casual. I never wore jeans that were too faded or showed wear. Most stations I worked for had no dress code so I adopted a smart casual look
@@matthewsheek8306 Ah, thank you
This is so true! I’m a professional opera singer and it took me years to get my suits tailored properly. It’s stupid, but once I did, I started to succeed more and got much better feedback in my auditions and competitions
You've hit the nail on the head when you equate comfort with proper fit.
I used to work with a contractor who was worth several million net. He dressed like a hobo. I asked him why one day and he told me that he wants to be perceived as a working man and not as an "empty suit." He doesn't want people to suck up to him or ask him for money or any of the other behavior that comes with dressing well. As you said, you present yourself in the way you want to be treated. He wanted to be left alone and treated like an average Joe rather than as a guy who owned 150+ rental units and built houses for wealthy buyers. There's something to be said about that. Even though I'm dead broke, I do dress well for professional reasons. I need people to assume I'm competent and intelligent, but when I'm out, I'm constantly barraged by homeless people asking for money. They'll walk past 15 other people to mark me. I've had some wait 20 minutes while I shop to hit me up on the way out of the store, or watch me pump gas just to hit me up walking back with my receipt. Sometimes, just like my first boss, I don't want that kind of attention.
@@molassescricket6663 Did you not read what you responded to? Most rich adults do NOT want other people to know they are rich. It makes them targets.
Well, did you give monies to the homeless? In Texas, we call that "All hat and no cattle". Give the peasants a bit of that pie Mr. Money bags
@@arturotorres6437 sorry for your situation. Keep working at it, perhaps one day you won’t begrudge people who are successful.
At 0:18 the women should be dressed "elegantly" not "eloquently"
@nwnelson66 i thought it was a new style he was speaking of and they somehow invented talking dresses, though that does mean they definitely made a fashion statement with them
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‘Eloquently’ fits perfectly fine. (Although, I understand it’s tricky to see how).
‘Eloquent’ can mean expressive, meaningful, significant, indicative, graceful, sophisticated, intelligent, dignified (through distinguished).
‘Elegant’ can mean graceful (like ‘Eloquent’), sophisticated, intelligent, dignified (these three also like ‘Eloquent’).
‘Eloquent’ might fit even better as it focuses more on expression than ‘Elegant’ does.
In this case, the women would be expressing themselves through their clothes, makeup, hairstyles, etc. at this event where the dress code isn’t strict, yet still more formal.
Since ‘Eloquent’ and ‘Elegant’ are usually adjectives which modify the noun/pronoun, they don’t always have to refer to clothes or writing.
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You know, it’s such idiosyncrasies as these that make language and learning new ones or improving my own very fun and interesting!
@@AndrewAutamore I see your point but it's a bit of a stretch. You could say the way the women were dressed clearly articulated the message they intended to convey and , as such, they were eloquently dressed, but that would require a specific set of circumstances such as trying to convey a political point or send a message about their position on a certain issue. I'm pretty sure he meant to say elegantly and under normal circumstances that would always be the more accurate word.
@@SoFloCo-ne4rk That’s fair. At least you’re not outright saying I’m wrong like other people did.
My father and I both have taken numerous language courses and know a few others well enough to read (but not speak).
I consulted with my father and we agree that the reason it can work is because this guy said it like a modifier (‘eloquently’ instead of just ‘eloquent’).
If he had specifically said ‘eloquent’ instead of ‘elegant’, then he would be wrong; because those two words are completely different, but as a modifier, anything goes.
I can agree that it seems like a stretch. Perhaps mostly because people associate these two words a certain way, but it is possible.
One would probably just have to explain their word usage and the word definitions to convince people.
Well said! I used to travel on business extensively for many years before I retired. I always flew wearing a coat and tie and was amazed and appalled by how few fellow businessmen dressed. One of my greatest pet peeves was men carrying a backpack like they were going camping, occasionally wearing a sportcoat or even a suit! I cannot tell you how many times I received free upgrades and special treatment by the airlines just because I looked professional.Even now, working at home on an online business, I still dress nicely sitting at my desk. I feel I am always much more productive, dressed this way rather than wearing sweats or pajamas. Thank you again for an excellent presentation.
backpack are convenient and practical, beats suitcase everytime unless you carry a pen and sheet of paper
I just wanted to say, as a first-time viewer, I sincerely appreciate that the subtitles have the video times sprinkled in for reference. You're very concise in style, meaning, language, and mode. I'm having trouble articulateing what I want to say. You hold yourself well, a very formidable man.
1:36 Collar, tie sweater, suit jacket - I’ve wanted to dress this way, but fashionable friends have told me that a sweater over a button-down w/ tie is a no-go, and that a sweater under a suit jacket is off limits as well. I’m glad to see you break through that.
Its quite common, it depends on the sweater
I'm a literal ,walking relic of the 1930's/1940's,lol. I wear a suit daily (coat with matching dress trousers w/ shirt and tie, as well as nice oxfords or low quarter desert style boots. and top it all off with a fine felt fedora. I care nothing about what people think of me.
Bring back the cape or mantlet
I seriously wish I could make a fedora work for me. It just doesn't look right on my head
@@andrewcarlson2178 Your head shape depends on the type/style of fedora. Best thing to do, is go to a place that specializes in hats/fedoras and talk to someone there. I had my own head measurements made and went by that. Anyone can wear a fedora. It just depends on which style looks good on you.
You wean nice stuff to make a statement, that IS caring what other people think of you.
A walking relic.😂
On the outside dressing well shows you care, you put effort and time into what you would wear for the people you would meet that day. This is something a lot of people do not understand, if you show up with whatever clothing you will make others understand you don't care about the venue or the people present. If you dress up nice they will know you care about them and in turn are likely to show their appreciation to you in one way or another.
On the inside it helps making you feel confident, you know you look good so you feel good, you feel good so everything goes smoothly. You can even get some compliments every now and then and the best compliment is looking in a mirror and liking the way you look.
I really do not know who was the first person to tell the huge lie of "Dont judge a book by its cover" when everything is based on appearance: your first impression, how likely people are to approach you, how likely they are to notice you, whether they will think you're serious or aloof is all based on appearance. "Looks can be deceiving" is a much more appropriate, people might not be what they present themselves as, but there's always a first impression guiding the first step to any interaction.
Some years ago I started watching this channel on rare occasions and learned good things which I also implemented in practice.
One thing I cannot overcome: overheating.
Seeing Antonio wear 3 layers, the first thing that comes into my mind is *freezing point*. That's the temp where I feel comfy in that outfit.
Anything that has more than one layer for indoors is a death-by-heat stroke penalty to me.
Nailed it - also all the more maddening that women are allowed to dress stupidly lightly and still qualify as dressed up in a situation where a man who isn't wearing a full suit will be underdressed.
I have found some stupidly lightweight cargo pants for hiking which are sold for being UV blocking and very little more, but look similar to normal weight pants, to wear in work where the dress code prohibits shorts - this is for hygiene reasons for anyone accessing the production floor, so female employees aren't allowed bare legs either, but other places I've worked in have no such reason and no problem with this double standard.
I love being the most stylish person in the room. I love that feeling that people are looking and thinking, "ooh, he looks nice. I should dress like that/ I wish my guy dressed like that"
Setting your closet up for the outfit ensemble as you've shown at the end of the video is excellent advice to follow. You get invited somewhere, you can walk into your closet and grab from top to bottom and your look is done. A suit is best set up with a selection of ties that work with the color and design chosen. If lost just look online for "casual look" or "semi formal" or "formal". I think a lot of the uncomfortableness in wearing a put together look is that we are afraid of ruining it during our outting. There goes our James Bond look. Relax into the clothes and that exhibits a level of confidence that being tense definitely shows as nervousness.
It’s intriguing how the struggle men face when dressing well continues to spark such meaningful conversations. In my video, ‘Why Men Don’t Dare to Dress Well: The Fear of Standing Out,’ I delved into the psychological barriers that hold men back, fear of judgment, shifting definitions of masculinity, and the dominance of casual culture.
It’s remarkable to see how this discussion is expanding across platforms. Perhaps the growing interest shows that men are ready to reclaim elegance and confidence in their style. Let’s keep challenging these norms and inspiring others to step into their best selves! Great video!
Interesting. Hopefully this will help men also improve from the inside out; so more men in society will become confident, bold, responsible and being of service to others.
@AllureSecretary You make a lot of good points, if people just invested in quality products over status symbols they’d save money in the long run. I went through and lived that mistake, now I’m at the point where I want a few quality items over a closet full of junky clothes. Only downer is now I have to sell the junky stuff on Poshmark and see if anyone bites so I have some money for a good tailor.
@@raphaelklijn6358 Absolutely agree! True style goes beyond clothing, it’s a reflection of a man’s mindset and values. By embracing elegance and responsibility, they can redefine what it means to be of service to others and make a positive impact on those around them. Thank you for highlighting such an important perspective!
Great thoughts again.
I remember starting out with dressing up 1 day a week when I went to a side-gig. Now I dress in my own style as often as possible, and whenever I don't, I get weird looks from those who know me. And I really related when you mentioned getting complimented on your 'suit' when wearing a sport coat haha.
It's really all about your own style and what you need. Thanks for helping (young) men dress better; whether it'd be suits or casual ensembles.
I'm currently building up my wardrobe. Got tired of dressing like a teenager.
not that you are looking for advice, but don't over buy one type of style. Choose one of different styles and you can figure out what works for you or is your favorite without buying a bunch of waste clothes
@Histoanmy I'm currently buying nice chinos and Slacks, a few blazers and sports coats. Along with about 4-5 nice pairs of leather dress shoes and loafers. Just need a few more colors of dress shirts and polo's, then a new belt or two them I should be set.
Lol. I'm in the opposite. I'm tired of wearing what others think that I should wear. Hoodies, Basic T-Shirts, and sweatpants all the way. And a pair of jeans for when I need to go to a public office - just enough to get pass by security
Ask any well developed man. They've all been there. When you are tired of looking and feeling like sh*t everywhere you go, you take something immediately within your control and make a small change for the better. Which is usually how you dress. Good for you.
Usually when a young guy starts caring more about his appearance it's a sign of him maturing into an adult. Not assuming thats you or anything, though, just talking in general
Same
I learned along time ago, When walking in a room full of suits the 1 random in the corner with blue jeans and a t shirt is most likely the leader and the individual you actually want to know.
Correct
sure, but most people who attend will still want to talk to the guy who looks the most important. its a subconscious thing.
I despise people who think it's okay to dress like trash just because they're rich or "important."
@@sshreddderr9409 Which is perfect because the real MVP A) has limited time to talk to people and B) Can observe what people are like unfettered by social niceties
@ You despise people for the clothes they wear? Very sad and I would definitely not employ you. 9 times out of 10 the "smart casual" clothes I wear will be far more expensive than the garbage suits I see people wearing. Hell, my shoes are probably more expensive than anything you have in your closet sonny boy
People lack self respect. If you respect yourself you will dress well REGARDLESS of the circumstances. Forget about what others think of you, what do you think of yourself? Do you think well enough of yourself to take the time and spend the money to look like you respect yourself. If you don’t respect yourself then who will? The question is why do people lack self respect?
I must say that as a young man i just feel more comfortable in my skin if i dress smartly, and it boosts my confidence. While at first it may be a bit intimitading, it is very much worth it
Absolutely. It's nice jeans and pullover shirts all the way. Doesn't get smarter than that.
So glad you made mention of the first point. There have been times were I have looked incredible and appropriate for the occasion but ended up feeling uncomfortable because everyone (specifically guys) simply decided to dress down. Developing an attitude of "I am dressing well for myself" is so important
I love dressing well, even for a simple outing, but the cost of finding suits that fit me properly, outweighs that desire
??? Suits are meant to be tailored lmao
Thriftinggg, lifesaver bro
Second hand suit, next stop is an alterations tailor, and you are all set, with a perfectly fitting suit for less than a pair of "popular brand" jeans.
Thanks!
This is a wonderful video. I am involved in an active dance scene in Sydney, and while the ladies always wear lovely flowing dresses, many of the men just wear jeans and a t-shirt.
Just go to the mall any given weekend and you’ll see the vast majority of men wearing hoodies, worn out shoes, pajamas, sloppy outfits in general.
Thanks to this channel I paid much more interest to my wardrobe. I ditched bags of old clothes and replaced them with fitting clothes of modern and classic style, and 2 pairs of Thursday boots.
Dressing well and smelling good will attract more attention and command more respect than you think.
Thank you for everything you do for all of us, Antonio.
I dress up more than everyone here on my post, even just to walk around. I dont wear a suit but ill wear chinos, polos, nice sweaters, overcoats, loafers, Chelseas etc just bec i know we are judged by appearance and more importantly, i enjoy looking good. Sure i could go around in a tshirt and jeans and be fine but "if you dress good you feel good". I like expanding my wardrobe to have a great look for any occasion
Nice to hear❤. This year I’m going to do the same. Just bought some sweet suede brown Chelsea boots. My wife is from Europe and she always says why do people dress so relaxed here? I’m not sure what state you’re from but I’m in Fort Myers Florida and freaking people here wear flip-flops to dinner. Kind of sucks that the environment of everybody is so relaxed. Maybe it’s because it’s more of a vacation area. Sometimes I wish I’d move back to upstate New York.
@chalmerelkins8965 im from Indiana, we don't really wear flip flops alot lol but mostly relaxed wear unless you're from a certain "class" of people.
I can relate to what your wife. Means im from italy travel to America quite often. And all kind of people look at the way i dress. The compliment i get@chalmerelkins8965
Most of my wardrobe is death metal shirts and jeans. I work in an industry where I can wear that, the people I hang out with are like that, and we're all happy. As long as clothes are clean, don't smell and fit reaosnably well that enough for me. Exceptions would be anything for the wife or kids. But suits? I have one for weddings and funerals. I've never been to a formal event outside that context. Was invited to one once but turned down the invite. It's a world that doesn't interest me.
There's a delicious irony in judging people who don't dress up, and quite often those who don't dress up don't waste emotion caring about what anyone else wears.
Yep i totally agree.
In fact i took a internship last year as an IT guy in a consultant company.
I was proud to be underdressed 😂😂😂
Let them wear their stupid suits, i enjoy my casual nerd style.
I have broader shoulders and a bigger bizeps then all of those suits 😂🎉
I'm the guy in the tie and vest flying internationally.
While I've received wonderful compliments, after a career in sales, I certainly pick up some less friendly judgements.
It can be divisive even.
You can see it in people's faces, but the positive more than makes up and I like to think someone somewhere is thinking they'll wear a tie 'cause they saw the crazy guy from the livestock ranch in Uruguay dressed like an extra from Peaky Blinders.
Be well, gents!
I'm learning from you since 2009! Your advice changed my life for the better. Much better
As Frank Sinatra advised, "if a jacket and tie is optional, take the option."
Good video. You hit on a few things that took me a while to get over before starting to dress well - namely fear, money and comfort.
Antonio, great video as always. Please note, the zipper sweater you wear is very casual (originally made in the 1930s for athletes and for exercising). Even though today many men wear it with more formal wear, it looks off and takes their look down a few notches. It looks like they are going hiking but also going to a business meeting. Simple fix: stick with a sweater with buttons if you want something similar. Buttons are always more elegant and more formal than zippers. As a rule, think zippered sweaters go best with sneakers/boots, button sweaters go best with dress shoes. Details matter. All the best!
The whole point he’s wearing the quarter zip is to dress down the sports jacket, it’s not an accident.
@@Pikawarps The problem is he is wearing a dressier sportcoat (fine texture and fine pattern) with a pocketsquare which is not at all a casual look. You cannot dress this look down with a zipper sweater and look congruent any more than you could with sweatpants and running sneakers since they are all too casual for so much polish. If he dropped the pocketsquare, put on a more casual sportcoat with a larger pattern and rougher texture, a zipper sweater would be far more congruent.
In the real world, unless you are a famous rapper or maverick celebrity on the red carpet, all exerciseware like sweatpants, zipperware, and sneakers look best kept far away from fine jackets with pocket squares.
@@Pikawarps I find the extra collar (3 in total now) distracts me too much from his face. I love the color though!
I’m probably the only guy at work who wears a proper suit and tie at the office everyday. Everyone else dresses business casual unless there’s a meeting with some important clientele, then the higher ups will wear a suit. But I’ve always gotten compliments from coworkers saying they love the way I dress. I tell them I hope one day others will join me!
Being a middle aged man I’ve learned wear whatever you want and don’t let anyone tell you differently.
Yeah. I don't care. I am not trying to do game with women anymore and i don't care about impressing other guys because well...usually guys aren't like that so i just dress comfortable.
I am not the type that appears with shorts and sandals because i don't like those, i don't wear them even at home but dressing up too much is not for me.
@FKA_Skull Exactly! And this is the reason i started wearing suits
@@Sebast_ian0 since I am even older, dressing well was a result of being conditioned to have confidence in yourself and take others seriously. The “i dont care, i wear what i want” logic I hear even from men in their 40’s and 50’s is actually a shy “i feel kinda awkward being dressed up and dont want to stick out”.
@@Rolando-SE Don't assume to know other people's motivation with such a blanket statement. I dress weird, I stick out everywhere and I certainly wear "nicer" attire for work (while hating it) but I still don't like wearing suits in my free time. I associate the look with the kind of people who generally wear it... which are mostly people I wouldn't trust as far as I could throw them. Encountered too many stereotypical cutthroat business types to have positive associations with suits (although I am by no means saying wearing a suit makes you like them at all).
Anyways, people have different reasons for doing what they do. Don't be presumptuous.
@@MellonVegan but no one is talking about suits in your free time. where did you get that from? dressing well is confidence. dressing down is lack of confidence. thats undeniable. you see whether kids wearing the best street style or business men wearing suits properly or tradesmen wearing their gear correctly. those are the men I know take themselves seriously. my statement still stands. it’s usually the socially awkward, low self esteem guy that shows up dressed like he’s still a high school sophomore.
I first realized the importance of proud clothes from somewhere else, but I wanted to say. Lately Ive been wearing more button-ups, generally being a bit more formal, and I really feel like Im stumbling into a real representation of who I percieve myself as
Always have the courage to be the best dressed man in the room. Period.
Amen!
Same here, no excuse to drop down to the lowest levels
Shelling out $100+ on a single day's worth of clothes doesn't make you a hero.
It’s a good thing I don’t do that, then. See, cost has little to do with it. You can spend a lot of money on clothes and look terrible. What you have to learn is that dressing up and dressing well are two entirely different things.
If you crave attention and validation from others, sure.
I confirm. I’m 22 and I discern that people respect and recognize me for properly dressing. Friends now call me “Fashion Guy”
Welcome to the club! 😎 I was known as the “tie guy” at one job where I was the only man that wore them.
@@lmlm_ Me, too - "The tie guy." I'd rather be known for that than "the idiot."
:18 The ladies were not eloquent (unless they were all giving high quality speeches). They may have been elegant.
You caught me!
It feels great to be able to put m best foot forward consistently. I'm glad I started listening to this channel several years ago. My confidence and attitude has changed tremendously. Thank you Antonio!
I just got back from a cruise down the Nile.
I knew we would be visiting classic five star hotels, so packed a nice light three piece, Panama hat and a cane for good measure.
It really felt great getting compliments on the way I was dressed.
Every time I see a men’s style video, they’re always wearing multiple layers, a shirt, and under jacket, a sports coat, and I can’t help but think how uncomfortably warm it looks like it would be, comes from living in South Texas, but it makes me fear that the attempt to look good is gonna come with the risk of a heat stroke!
It's pretentious BS for the most part. "alpha male" content for insecure dudes.
I live in Britain where it's cold and I still wouldn't want to wear that many layers. I'm still out in my shirt in winter; I cannot imagine wearing 3+ layers all the time and indoors, uncomfortable, suffocating and WARM.
It's less than 10 degrees above freezing and I'm cycling to and from work every day wearing a raincoat over a thin cotton shirt and that's plenty warm enough, with gloves, until the temperatures hit double digits, at which point neither the gloves or coat will be needed. Once the summer hits and temperatures approach 'room temperature' I have to slow down the ride into work to minimise how much I overheat as soon as I sit in the still air in the office. No room for 'fashion' when one layer of light clothing is more than enough even outdoors 9-10 months a year.
When you develope proper style it can be tailored to your body-type, environment, local weather etc. You can always be comfortable but also look good. Practicality meets style pretty quickly, you still gotta learn how to dress first though before it gets there
living in south Texas, you'd croak wearing British autumn and spring fashion (what hes wearing) you'd need summer suits and fabrics adapted to your climate.
People compliment me where ever I go. Why is that? It's super duper easy. I wear a sports jacket with my jeans. I wear nice "office/walking" shoes and not sneakers. And a button shirt. Those three things make me look a million dollars more worth than the cap+Metallica T+sneaker-wearing dude next to me.
Amazing timing. I JUST got into a discussion yesterday with someone who believes it's acceptable in our mid forties to walk around in baggy jeans, sneakers, screen print t-shirts, and backwards baseball cap.
I was trying to help him understand that we're no longer 20 year old without a career and mortgage, but instead are seasoned adults and should interact with the world as such.
I spent 40 years dressing in elegant suits. It was required for my work. I carried this into my personal life. I now dress casually.
As for 'your image', if that is all that is important to you, it is a very shallow attitude. I now dress to my code, not what people expect of me. If you need to follow the crowd, you are simply insecure.
If I see a man in a suit, I expect he'll try to boss me around and/or sell me something.
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says more about you than it does anyone else...
This is true, gents. When I was in school I always wore button-down collared shirts, nice pants and a belt, nice shoes, (NEVER sneakers), and carried a leather bag with my laptop and documents in it.
One morning I was standing outside of my 9:00 A.M. classroom with my other classmates waiting for the current class to finish their exam and file out so we could walk in and take ours. After five minutes of standing around, the assistant professor walked out of the classroom, walked right up to me, and apologized that the exam was taking so long, and said that if I wanted, I could come in early and set up my laptop and the room for my students so I would be ready for them by the time they were able to come in.
I smiled, and informed the professor that I was not the incoming professor, but just one of the students. She apologized and went back in. It may have been a small thing, but I felt proud to be mistaken for a professor, and not just a student.
Dressing well as a man is not an opportunity to judge. But remember that this is how you’re presenting yourself to the world. When you dress well, there are many non-verbal cues that are communicated. You respect yourself, you respect others, you demand respect. Men need to start looking dapper again. Bring back the 30’s, 40’s and 50’s style of dress. How many ladies do you know like or dislike a man in a suit? Ask them. Have I made my point yet?
Thats because suits represent wealth.
How many ladies will turn around and disparage that same man for being poor and wasting their time, for lying about who they were?
Men dressed for function even back in the 40's and 50's. You look back upon it with rose tinted glasses. The functionality that clothing provided isnt needed in modern times.
Always wanted to dress well for college, but don't have the courage for all the reasons you stated in you're video. All im gonna say is im glad I saw this video.
The most valuable tip I got from this video is the interchangeable wardrobe! Also valuable to hear was how important it is to build familiarity with a set of clothes.
I discovered your channel 2 days ago and already watched a few videos, and it's great work, I love how passionate and thorough you are 👍
Diving into concepts and history rather than simply telling "wear this with that", makes your advice easier to adapt a style to match ones personality
I'm from a software company where people tend to dress down. Bought a few things to stop "dressing like a boy", and it completely changed how people looked at me when I walk around in the building, glad I found you !
I love dressing up in public for just causal reasons, like its friday so im wearing a tie today, just feeling good.
My favorite part is 99% of people are like "Damn boy! Look at you! Good for you!!"
Then 1% of the time a dude in a ratty ass muscle shirt and flip flops goes "ha! Who you trying to impress?"
I'll say "this is just for me"
That disturbs them so much.
They're out here half naked trying to get compliments on their looks, and everyone is complimenting me who is fully dressed. It just destroys their ego, lol
Because it's uncomfortable, because it takes ages, because I could careless about someone else's opinion.
We live in a warm climate, my husband refuses to wear suits and ties as a retiree. Funerals here are casual dress pants and a shirt. Suits are not selling in stores.
Couldn't care less but publicly posts this. Right...
when i first started dressing well, i felt weird, thinking i was over dressed. then i realized everyone else was just underdressed. Im a chef, and there is no cooler feeling for me now when ive got my sleeves rolled up, wearing a tie and vest putting away stock. i feel like my grandfather probably did in the 40s and 50s. i love it
I visit my town shops every Saturday morning, I'll often see women in freshly pressed clothing, tidy hair and make-up, they've taken care of their appearance before leaving their house and my heart sinks to see they have a man at their side that looks like he spent the night sleeping in a barn.... unshaven, crumpled jeans, an a T shirt that is well beyond it's life span. I don't think these men first dated their partners looking so poorly presented and I wonder how men can let themselves go in such a way.
It's the same in cities too, unfortunately.
I see that especially at the lines of people concerts (especially rap ones) at venues I pass by
The guys in the old tshirts and jeans are doing far less harm to the environment than the brand new clothes that are thrown out after single digit numbers of uses that likely most of the women you're seeing are wearing. He's getting actual value out of his clothes rather than creating mountains of waste every year. Whether you still think the women are doing it right after adding this piece of information comes down to whether you think superficial looks are worth the undeniable environmental cost.
I prefer dressing casual or at most with a button up shirt.
There is something about true humility that has greater value than merely looking exalted.
I don’t have to wear a suit everyday for work. So when I have to wear one I enjoy it. I like the way I look for the most part and my lady loves it
Living in the southern US, I find my main reason for dressing casually is that "dressing well" usually involves layering and that can get pretty hot fast. If I wear anything more that a T-shirt in the summer, I'll be sweating like crazy and, honestly, our winters don't usually require anything more than a 2nd layer.
Why? Because nice clothes aren't cheap and stop being nice if worn too much.
At work, where we have a basic uniform of a black polo shirt on black work trousers. Usually worn with trainers and with a black baseball cap in summer and a black beanie in winter...I swapped the baseball cap for a fedora, the beanie for a faux fur hat and the trainers for boots...and found that people complimented my style with even the management approving the changes. Many now consider me the best dressed in the company.
Great channel! Great content. Great tips. Very informative. I have now pointed my 19-year-old son and my 14-year-old son to check out your videos and start learning some important man advice.Thank you. Very genuine vibe from you, Antonio.
You're dressing for yourself - so right!
Generally, I think most guys from my experience just don't really care about fashion. It's one of those things where women care about it but guys don't. And whenever I do find a guy who do care about it, they only care about it to appease women that they are trying to get or attract but it's not something that deep down they desire
Knowing the difference between eloquently and elegantly would also help.
You wear nice clothes to impress others. To look good. To make an IMPRESSion to others. To -impress. To press upon an idea. It is physiological manipulation. Pushing an idea. But actions are louder than words, at the end of the day.
Additionally, someone in great physical shape wearing plain clothes will always look better than someone not in shape, even in great clothes. And they actually give a darn about their health!
Exactly. People in nice clothes try to hide something. I'm not going anywhere near them.
It's not clear if you approve, disapprove, or are just stating a fact.
@@aceyage So you are dressing extra bad to show ... what exactly?
Great video.
I noticed that very few guys at our church wear ties on Sunday anymore. I've made it a point to start wearing a tie again. Of course some guys say "You clean up well" but some give genuine compliments.
I like just simple shirts. I feel better and more confident when I wear them. No one in my circle wears shirts. Often I catch people looking at me from bottom to top. But I don't care. Let them watch, guys! Let them think whatever they want to think! Be the one!
I mean if it's hot outside I don't like to wear a shirt either 😂
@xCCflierx there are summer shirts from light material which feel very good in hot weather. And you can roll your sleeves that enables irresistible mode! 🔥
Locally I am “the bow tie guy” so thanks for the the bow tie nod!
And Fisk LOOKED like the boss. Great example
One thing I feel that impacts on the ability to dress well is the climate. I'm from South America, dressing in layers on tropical seasons weighs heavily on comfort and appropriate options are usually freakshlly expensive or of bad quality. So I think people favors more casual garbs of some good brands then style.
Athletes dress in clothing made to optimize their performance instead of for their own mindset. Even Sir Alex Ferguson, who's litigious about standardized clothing, says that standardized uniform is more for reinforcing the player's discipline and promoting team unity rather than "dressing for themselves." In fact by SAF's explanation, it's quite the opposite; you dress to eliminate the ego. Clothing serves a utility. For marketer-type professions, looking good is the utility. This does not necessarily apply to non-marketer-type professions.
On the confidence promoting benefits, the studies actually show that the act of dressing well is simply a habituating ritual that reinforce discipline or other desired mindsets. The clothing itself doesn't necessarily cause the mindsets. Mr. Real Style is confusing correlation for causation.
That's why I don't wear uniforms, like jeans and a hoodie! Dressing well is rebellion against the conformity of sloppiness.
The delivery in your vids is always on point I find myself so engaged
This is the year I finally buy a suit. I just have a bit of sticker shock in looking at prices for custom or made to measure options.
I bought a new $800 suit on eBay for less than $200, then spent $150 on tailoring.
Be creative. You can do it.
@kylehackett162 I wouldn’t be against buying off the rack and going for a tailor for final adjustment. As long as you are getting a great quality construction and natural materials, you will enjoy wearing the tailored suit and stay comfortable. So be mindful of the materials and ask questions and ask the staff to explain you the differences in the construction of a suit jacket, it can have a huge difference on how you feel wearing it! 😄
My father and I bought our last three suits for $1000 between us, rather than one suit for that, by waiting for the once-a-year sale. They measured us, then used a real tailor for alterations, all for that price; if you have no way to share, plan your three suits so that they are quite different between them, for different purposes. Maybe drastically different weights, so you have a summer suit, winter suit, and the third one for whichever season you need/want.
"Best dressed" I mean, I think suits look awful. Ties look clownish. A dark button down shirt with contrasting flare designs looks the best to me, but I love music so band t-shirts are the most expressive. The idea of paying for expensive clothing that doesn't express anything about me, and feels awful to wear is crazy. I do not trust anyone I meet that is wearing a suit. If they have to fake things via how they dress, how real will they be when they interact with me? Like girls wearing way too much makeup. If this less-trustworthy demographic views me negatively for wearing a tshirt, or button down shirt then this just lowers my opinion of them further. It doesn't encourage me to dress like them.
Most of this advice might have been from Antonio himself but I saw a video a while back that said the fastest way to immediately dress better is to where your nicest clothes all the time. Doesn't mean wear a suit to a construction site but dress well all the time. Regardless of the occasion, if there is one or not, dress well. Then shift that into only buying nicer pieces, don't buy the pack of shirts buy a quality shirt. Then it's not something you have to work on or build a habit of doing, it's all you have all you do. It's how you shop because you shop deliberately. Learn what dressing well means. If for no other reason to wear clothes that fit, because it helps us function better. Pants that fit well feel like they want to work with you while you're doing your thing. If you see a trend you like, find the timeless version of it.
Get a great pair of boots, they're easy to dress up and functional. Most people are wearing sneakers even in the winter it's sneakers, uggs, or clogs. Get a good pair of boots you can dress up or down. IMO boots elevate everything and you feel like you can walk through anything, because you can. There's some things you just don't have to pay attention too while out that other people do and you'll start to notice. I dress well, or try to but I don't worry about what I'm wearing. There's people who dressing well means expensive or looking a certain way so they worry about ruining their look. It's like being in New York in the winter and everyone has boots on but they're expensive so they're afraid to strut through snow or slush and create bottle necks. If something's expensive but you don't trust it when used as intended because it might get dirty or fall apart then why buy it? If it's pricey I expect part of the wearability to be that I can wear it regularly. That kind of wearability is versatile and really helps with downsizing a wardrobe. I think if you have to start somewhere with a style start with the shoes and go with boots, build it up from there.
This is why I went back to wearing jeans and shirts with no collars. It just looks cool and slick. Slim jeans made of stretchy denim are the absolute best.
@ That’s almost exactly what I’m dressing now. Slimmer profile, clothes that fit, for me means less material. It was more of a hassle finding Henleys, actually amazing how hard it was. Online it’s easy but in a store not so much. When you do find them, the options aren’t that much. There would also be more affordable quality options in general if so much material wasn’t wasted on cheap shirts with crappy decals.
I love wearing my dark brown trench coat and red turtle neck together, its got a nice class to them. Unfortunately, I live in a state that's hot nearly all year round, so I only wear it during the winter time.
Another reason why that is more specific to my country, the UK, is that most people would probably assume that if you dress well, you're more than likely upper class, and so, people will assume that you are arrogant and that you look down upon others simply because you're richer.
Also, due to the popularity of the show, Peaky Blinders, others might assume that you're attempting to dress like a gangster, leading them to dismiss you out of hand. Lastly, due to the Boomers having it really easy due to the economic prosperity of their youth, things such as the desire to dress well were taken for granted and over time, culture shifted until we were no longer to care for someone's appearance, so long as they did their job well. In short, weve become far too utilitarian with how we dress.
I work remotely so I barely am dressed at all for work. However, I want to start dressing well for the psychological boost it gives me. I just subbed.
I suspect the women were dressed elegantly, not eloquently.
You're right, I throw in the mistakes so you know I'm not a bot!
@@RealMenRealStyle Nice save
the fact that we can dress as we want shows amazing progress of the society, it also makes it easier to stand out with your look those rare times you decide it's worth it, and this one should do when he feels like
It’s sad to see so many men & ladies gave up on putting effort into looking presentable as they walk around in pj, sweats hoodies etc
I can't tell the difference between the homeless and most people anymore.
@@TimErwin the homeless are often dressed better. They aren't afraid to wear a sport coat.
@ so sad but 💯 true
When I was kid my dad wouldn’t allow me go dress in public way I see grown men dressed today
Very interesting. I never dress nice because I'm always working or in the garage. I'll start doing this and see what happens.
My issues with dressing well are
1. Cost: it seems like I have to choose between half-baked discount outfits that arent priperly fitted, or paying extortionist rates for a single good outfit. I'm not broke, but I refuse to spend hundreds or even thousands on a single outfit
2. Knowledge: I don't really know what the "right" outfit is in many cases. I can decide if I like how it looks, but I know nothing of "style" in any formal sense.
3. Motivation: why do I care to dress properly when everyone around me dressed like trash and gets the same treatment? We don't reward proper behavior and are stunned to see improper behavior
4. Self-image: I don't like how I look, ever. So if I dress modestly and don't stand out, I can hide in a group. You can polish a turd, but it's still just a turd
I’m a cashier at McDonald’s and even I wear a three piece suit to work. Even on my off days when I’m playing my N64 all day long, I do so in style-by rocking a tuxedo. Get it together people.
: D ... I feel all my life I have made a point out of being clothed sloppy, while striving to perform exceptionally well in whatever I was doing, but none of the reasons you mentioned resonated with me. I have never thought about it, but I think dressing badly is a form of ego-protection. E.g.: It was really important to me to get all As' in my Master degree to not fall behind my father and older brother, so I studied very very hard for it ... but still I did the exam in and old T-shirt and Jeans, which is severely some would call it offensively under-dressed for the setting in that university. Well, I got my As ... all of them^^ ... and now I can say I got them despite having been dressed terribly, which is nice ... but more importantly, if I had failed, in my hearts of hearts I could pretend that I did not get them, because they were in the wrong for judging my clothing rather than my performance, and it would have had nothing to do with me not being good enough, despite giving 100%.^^
Anyway - I have never dressed well since then, but I do not feel that I had any disadvantage from not owning a suit - maybe because I am an Engineer a profession were good clothing is very uncommon anyway ...