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I like that statement- "Never underestimate how judgemental your fellow person is." That is so true! A man can be the kindest, most compassionate, and competent person, but there will be those who will judge him on outward appearance alone.
yeah, it is amazing how many people never realise that they are actively damaging their careers by not considering what they are wearing to work and why. I mean, it is a low effort tweak. If you dress properly people will take you more seriously, at least you will not make people look down on you because of it. A career consists of a package of things, the easiest varbile you can affect is what you wear. People spend 4 years on sometimes pointless degrees, but they wont spend 1 day a year to shop decent clothing.
My decades of experience taught me it is inherently natural to base our initial opinion of someone by their appearance because animals do the same thing. Finding out what a person's character is has to be done through conversation and observations like how they react to situations, but appearance tells me a lot about their character right away.
You overestimating how much people judge and care an infinite amount. People are not judgmental at all. They feel about you about as much as Sagittarius A* the black hole at the center of the Milky Way galaxy cares. An alive human and a dead human have the same number of atoms and that is already far too much to bother to remember about anyone. People do not care at all. It is levels far beyond judging. Nothing anyone can do can impress or insult anyone. They were already going to treat you the way they did and you have no ability to impact their decision in anyway. They do not care. They are lying to themselves and to you. Some people are forgiving some people are not. They are not judging you. They're thinking about what someone else said to them maybe. They're trying to impress someone else maybe. They can't see you at all. You're meaningless to them. They're not actually thinking about you at all. If they cared about you enough to judge you for real, they would be treating you like a son perhaps. But not even then. Even that relationship is completely and utterly false.
1 wear closed lace shoes 2 wear charcoal suits for business, brown shoes allowed 3 wear black suits with black shoes only 4 trim your nose hairs 5 stay away from oversized logo shirts 6 find a signature fragrance/cologne 7 always dress up when youre outside/have a uniform 8 change up your appearance around people you know 9 try covering your skin to look more mature and professional
1, I usually wear shoes 2. I don't own a suit 3. I have no black shoes or suits 4. I do trim my nose hair 5. I stay away from all logo shirts 6. I do not use cologne 7. I dress down, not up 8. I don't change my appearance 9. I would prefer to have fur to cover my skin
I wear a black button-down with black slacks and brown shoes with white gum sole. I don't like the all black everything unless I'm going somewhere really formal.
I had a girlfriend whose dad was from England. Amazing guy! Taught me so much, bought me my first pair of real leather closed lace shoes that I still wear, great condition, as well as a proper leather belt I still have. Forever thankful for the connection we made and things he taught me 🤙
@@Cody___fossil for the belt. Honestly don’t go with a high end brand just make sure it’s proper leather and clean looking (no funky designs or wonky buckle) clean and crisp is the way to go 👍
@@jonyoung6405 he didnt... I grew up on them. Much of whats learned on a bike translates to a car or at least made it easier to understand... vehicle maintenance being one of the things it seems so few know about for themselves these days.
I remember back in 2004, when I was in the Army in basic training, my Drill Sergeant took a few soldiers aside and said, “If you dress professional, people will treat you professional.” I took that advice and ran with it. I really love these fashion tips. Thanks for the advice!👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
I agree 💯. I was a drill instructor 🇦🇺 for 7 years and went through the basic training myself many years before that. To this day, I still make my bed to military standard (hospital corners etc.), polish my shoes and press my shirts. I always get comments on my shoes and well pressed shirts. Discipline 🟰 Success. (was saying this many years before I ever heard of Jocko Willinck).
I'm British and my second proper job was in a call centre. My overall boss was an ex British arm captain in the guards...his comment to me. " Gary how can you sound professional on the phone when you look like a sack of shit with string round". He was so right, I now am always, always the best dressed man in the room
I was enlisted Air Force and always ironed my uniform shirt to within an inch of it's life. Some of the sergeants later mentioned I always stood out because my uniform was squared away. I have commissioned and still iron my uniform and follow grooming standards. It pays off!
I do remember that I went to an interview and I at first thought I was at the wrong place. People came in casual wear, some came in a shirt and t-shirt, I even saw the torn jeans style. I admit this wasn't for a suit and tie position but I came to the interview dressed up in a suit and tie. Looking very out of place. During the interview the very first question they asked was to thank me for taking the position seriously and was told out of the hundreds of people they interviewed I was the first to take care of my presentation and asked me why. I told them the first thing I learned from the military is that first impressions last and to dress to succeed. It did also surprise them that I actually came prepared with my own pen.
Interesting that you refer to "torn jeans style". I never thought of it as a style. I considered it more of a mental illness. It's mainly exhibited by women and teen girls. Conformity is a powerful force.
I am 58 years old, I spent a long time in the shipbuilding industry and offshore oil platforms, I was foreman of crews of shipfitters, pipefitters, welders combo, I rarely had to attend job interviews, in my trade you build your reputation with the skills, quality and mastery of your work that you get over time, once they know you everyone wants guys like you in the yards and platforms. Having said that, in this trade the last thing you need is to go to job interviews dressed in a suit with a tie, shiny shoes, shaved looking like a new born baby and with cologne all over you smelling like woman on her wedding day, that is bullshit and employers in this trade know that.
@@AngelGonzalez-pd4cn100%! This vid is so BS. If that's how shallow an employer is, avoid like the plague! And this was actually IT!? And actually, if someone was from a 'Low Status' background, they're MUCH more likely be by far to be the best person for the job, having got that far, from a 'Low Status' background, in the first place, statistically! ffs!
Most of this is spot on. The exception is fragrance. It's a gamble if it is a chemical that triggers allergies. Vanillin is the only safe bet but you will smell like a cupcake... You might be good with that. You do you. In office and formal settings, you should not have a distinct smell. It's not professional and is increasingly considered as offensive as it interferes with others getting work done. Personally, l actually inform those I work with of my allergy issues and request they keep it in mind. Our employe handbook also mentions that strong smells are not professional. If my eyes are watering when your egregiously lilac bottom opens that door, our meeting will be cancelled before you get across the room.
When I was still working, one of the guys I worked with was a smoker and used copious amounts of cologne to cover the stench of smoke in his clothes; I would nearly pass out when he walked by me. In several of my activities we are told "no scents!" In most things I do there is at least one or two people who are allergic to various smells and in a zendo scents are as distracting as loud breathing to others' zazen practice. I'm still searching for truly unscented aftershave lotion, deodorant, and bath soap.
The fantastic job I’ve been at for the past 18 years hired me while i was wearing boots covered in blood (some of it was mine). Didn’t have a resume either, I was recruited.
I came to terms with aging and the fur that runs in my family and I went and got laser hair removal for my ears. I was a little bit ashamed but it actually made the wife very happy when I told her about it.
@@rjo8500 I'm getting a package which includes unlimited sessions and they're spaced out three weeks apart. So far I've been to 6 and the hair has been growing more scarcely and slower. I think it's working. 🤷🏻♂️
@@rjo8500 I've seen progress in the form of hair thinning and sessions being spaced out. They tell me that it'll probably be a year for the hair to completely not grow again.
As a teenager, my wise old dad often reminded me, "You seldom get a second chance at a first impression." Now, at the age of 78, I frequently receive compliments on my style. Contrary to popular belief, you don't need to break the bank for a polished appearance. Take, for instance, my collection of three pairs of Brogues, steadfast companions for over four decades. Then there's my Burberry raincoat, a treasured find from a high-end charity shop on Bond Street, London, acquired two decades ago for a mere £150. Astonishingly, it still boasts a pristine condition, a testament to both quality craftsmanship and timeless style, The most important thing, keep your posture in check.
Its been a while since I watched your videos. Glad I found you again. You are so right, your dress is your uniform. When you are getting dressed, you are putting on that uniform that says I'm business. It also helps you get into the right frame of mind for what is coming during the day. BTW, I forgot about the "shorts" thing. Dress like a man, not a kid.
Hey Antonio, I’ve been following your work for a very long time really appreciate your thoughts and guidance. You have a young accountant trying to make it big in corporate!
Dang man that is chill! I got some (Tom Ford) for my close friend because he is moving up in jobs/status and I was gobsmacked at the prices. But worth it for what it is for. Self investment.
I had a girlfriend who worked in the high-end perfume and make-up department of the top UK chain pharmacists. I had the full range of sampler colognes, aftershaves, eau-de-toilettes. My favourite was Davidoff's 'Cool Water'. That would be my 'signature' cologne, if I was ever in need of one.
I attend a language school abroad and the humidity is unbearable, but other students from various ages ask why I still wear long sleeve button ups in the summer. This video explains it well
I attend a language school abroad and the humidity is unbearable, but other students from various ages ask why I still wear long sleeve button ups in the summer. This video explains it well.
8:00 Yes, I have observed this phenomenon as well. I was raised in a comfortable middle-class background, and my physical appearance changed over time. As my success grew, I found myself in a different social environment. High-quality clothing, when genuine, often features subtle or minimal branding. Sometimes, the logo is barely visible or even hidden entirely, such as at the back of the collar. However, individuals from this social class, particularly women, have a keen eye for detail and can discern authenticity. Through touch, they can often already determine if the item is genuine - no logo needed.
Suit up! Leveling up your style will make you Legen... Wait for it.... Dary. 😁 Ive been using this man's advice for a few months now and it hasade a huge difference on a few small lynch pin details I didn't know were that important. Thank you and please keep up the good work.
When I went to work on Wall St my boss wanted, navy or charcoal suit, white shirt, blue, yellow or red tie, and black shoes (lace up’s. No Italian slippers). The amount you could deviate was determined by the amount of revenue you generated.
I agree that the smallest things will become the biggest criticism against you. Such an important point yet so ignored. The people who say they don’t want to be judged are sadly the ones being the most judgmental in life.
I realized years ago that no one walks into a house and consciously notices that there's no dust, but they will notice if it's dusty. The same goes with grooming. They may not even consciously realize it's been done when talking to you, but they'll definitely notice if it hasn't!!
I would like to hear your thoughts on the best ways to carry a cell phone. I don't like something banging around in my pockets but the belt holster doesn't look very good. Your ideas? Thanks
First impressions are everything, it is very hard to change someone's opinion of their first impression and I always believed in overdressing your role. I am in the engineering field and can say that they really need to offer a grooming and etiquette class in school, about 75% of engineers NEED IT!
There was a kid in my high school. His parents were school teachers. He wore a white shirt and tie to class in high school in the 1960s. He managed to earn only one B in high school, the rest As. Scholarship to Harvard. Now on the faculty decades later at UCLA Law. His looking "serious" did a lot for his success. I taught my high school graduate brother-in-law about dressing. When he became a contractor, I had him always keep available a Brroks Brother suit and dress shoes, even to the point of having it hanging in the construction trailer. Today, he is on the train returning from Washington, DC from some dinners. Your appearance counts.
Great advice DevilDog! Tech companies are known to be often pretty liberal with their dress codes. However,..large financial firms, investment companies, and banks ( especially those on the east coast and also here in Dallas) are still pretty conservative and require professional attire in the work place. Great rule of thumb is to gather "intelligence" on how execs dress at whatever company your trying for and within your own financial abilities,..allow their look to inspire yours during any interview process.
Great advice DevilDog! Tech companies are known to be often pretty liberal with their dress codes. However,..large financial firms, investment companies, and banks ( especially those on the east coast and also here in Dallas) are still pretty conservative and require professional attire in the work place. Great rule of thumb is to gather "intelligence" on how execs dress at whatever company your trying for and within your own financial abilities,..allow their look to inspire yours during any interview process.
How do the new dress shoe tennis shoes figure into the mix when it comes to this? As long as the color is correct, do they safely go with a sport coat and tie? The salesman assured me that they do but of course he was a salesman and he was in his 20s I'm in my 50s.
That last tip really hit home because it’s something I noticed a year or 2 back. Shorts look childish and long pants make you look far more mature and/or experienced.
Always great advice. Maybe do a show on EDC. For example, a stylish, small fixed blade knife vs the typical folding knife with a clip stuck in a pocket. A Browning Hi-Power, 1911, or CZ75 vs a Glock or other modern pistol. I also like the idea of an old S&W Model 10 or Colt Police Positive, or a S&W Model 19 or 66 with a 2.5 inch barrel. Add to that the holster: a lovely leather holster vs a practical but not very sightly lured holster.
@@Coinz8Nope. Nothing to do with him being an Ex Marine. Just like the look of classic and classy firearms combined with classic and classy clothing. 🤠
Antonio, you are so right on your points here. Especially on the interview points. I think of issues that you mention as having a cumulative effect. While some of the clothing errors may seem small, but they can all add up quickly and then throw in one poorly answered question and you're toast.
Agree with everything after after the job interview part,especially the grooming of excessive body hair eyebrows ear & naisil hair,I notice it on people so im sure women do too & i know they notice a nice clean polished pair of shoes as I've been complimented on mine numerous times. A good fragrance is very memorable without even being seen & draws people in!
This channel has changed my outlook on my whole wardrobe. Especially since I work at an offices the style is literally up my game. I got to send my message every seasons and I got complaints or phrases as to suppose to back then with shirts and tank top. Or, as my wife said, I went a full one 180. I went from men to yoga pants, facial hair with bids, and man bun with tank top toward long sleeve with cufflinks clean shaving trim beard jewelry and dress shoes (almost I wear dressy version of barefoot because it super comfortable af) even changing up my tie I started collecting watches as well that will go good with my anson belt or shoes and sometimes wearing a sport jacket. 10/10 every 7am when I come back I feel way to great. Even on my way out to work, someone who I haven't seen in years who is an opposite of me saw me leaving work with my bosses and couldn't believe his eyes who he was seeing. We spoke on the phone and he thinks I making mad money. When I'm not I'm just saving and investing on my next appearance or trips with the family. I love this Channel a lot that I even bought the cologne too. Also Justin treadeu not a rockstar..
truly high status people wear a suit with casual clothes.. so a suit with white trainers.. and their two top buttons undone.. they are casual with some offical clothes thrown on top :) I'm a firm believer in you making a connection with the interviwer.. if you can take the interviewer to a casual place.. if you can break the ice.. whilst at the same time looking like you have a lot of comittment to the thing you're interviewing for.. you will win! When I attend interview I get the job nearly 100% of the time.. I'm not good at everything.. but I am good at interviews! You can't attend an interview looking really rough.. all over.. but its a blend.. maybe you have a recent hair cut .. and a good jacket.. for example. But one or two casual items like shoes.. no problems. Last interview I went to I was wearing hiking boots.. jeans and a casual shirt.. I got the job. But you do have to understand the enviroment; are the people dressed down / casual? Then.. you in all liklihood dont have to dress like you're going to a dinner party in 2024.. just my experience.. the tech industry is a casual dress industry.. generally.. having said that if you are attending interview to a traditional consultancy firm, then yes.. that's a suited and booted appointment!
This is a good one. I wouldn't say it is about status (anyone can dress any style), but rather about dressing like a grown up man or todlers, sending the right message (to the inside and outside).
I didn't know about open lacing versus closed lacing until now. I've always preferred closed lacing naturally. Now I wonder if most shoes in stores are designed with open lacing. I always thought those didn't fit me right, and there might be something unusual about my feet 😐
Today I have come across a few videos about "what others notice" and each one brings up your "signature scent" or lack there of. I'd like to pass on what I learned from my father: Keep your armpit hair to an absolute minimum. If you have BO it's because of the bacteria caused by moisture and the odor attaches to your hair. I keep my armpit hair short and use the most cost effective "deodorant"; a mixture of equal parts baking soda and corn starch. It works for me. Cheers
Low income people tend to buy clothing with oversized logos, especially luxury brands.. luxury brands in general, not just oversized logos. I developed the idea back when I was a Teenager, the only way I'll wear your big logo what ever is if you paid me. I buy quality name brand stuff but nothing with be logos or at least I can remove the logos. I just bought a new car a few days ago and it has the dealers logo sticker on the back plus a license plate frame with the dealers name. They did not pay me to advertise, didn't ever knock the price down. So I will pull that off soon, going to pull the sticker off now and will remove the plate frame when I get my new plates. I did this to a previous vehicle years ago and when I put the vehicle in the shop to be serviced, they mentioned I didn't have their dealer frame plate name on my vehicle and asked if they could put one on it. I asked, are you going to pay me to advertise, give free oil changes? They said no, I replied, than the answer is no.
You feel so much better if you make an effort to look good. Here in the UK, we used to get men wearing black trousers and shoes BUT, with white socks. Seriously, l used to stay away from them in case any girl who couldn't see my socks, thought l was also wearing white. The brown shoes with black suit is awful, would you wear that at a funeral, no. Brown shoes are fine with a navy blue suit - as long as the shoes are fairly dark.
If the secret is to just try having expensive things you're better off advising people to try being born whiter: It communicates functionally the same point that nobody is interested in anybody who is not already wealthy enough to provide for everyone else so that nobody has to do anything. I can come up with 1000 good ideas that would help anyone if they simply had 10 million dollars to buy a few simple advantages and comforts. This does not particularly help anyone who has much less money. What would you tell someone who has only $1000 to cover all of their life expenses at the age of 35. Who may temporarily be surviving on the good will of family but with uncertainty about how stable those relationships are and fear that they may collapse any given year so it does not actually feel like a plan at all to assume their resources are available for anything. I think starvation is improbable but I also think that stability is improbable and this is a situation many find themselves in. The fear that their life could suddenly increase in expenses quickly and you don't feel comfortable spending on long term goals. It's workable to spend $100/month on groceries or less and feel accomplished at budgeting and learning. Spending $50 on a single item of clothing when you aren't really certain if you have any transportation or qualifications for work is much more of a gamble. For some people, doors simply close. Real homelessness is unlikely but actually getting a job is harder than it looks.
ANTONIO! You made ONE GLARING MISTAKE, sir. One that could immediately brand you as not adequately educated or perhaps pinpoint you into a niche that may could disqualify you from the highest echelons. That is: "I could have RAN to my apartment..." This is an incorrect grammatical regionalism that will brand you and turn off some interviewers. Instead, you would have been better off saying "I COULD HAVE RUN to my apartment..." I know this nerdy, but it earnest advice. I hope you don't mind me nitpicking your wonderful video! ♥
Indeed, an entire region seems to dwell on this oddity of speech. Immediately, I lose respect for anyone! One of them was a former boss. It was continually annoying to hear him say that.
Has anyone got any good tips for a man whos hair doesn't grow more than an inch at the most, i permanently have a grade 1 fading to 2 so i struggle to look great with it, im afraid i look more like a well weathered knuckle head in posh clothing
I live and work in So FL and trust me, if you show up at certain events and you are NOT wearing shorts people dismiss you as someone completely out of touch.
When we talk about this kind of stuff, it's really about whether it's appearing that you're paying attention to details. Most interviewers aren't going to dock you because your shirt and tie patterns might be too close; rather it's that your shoes aren't shined, your belt mismatches your shoes, your clothes are ill-fitting or unpressed etc. Basic stuff anyone should know, and these are not esoteric items that are easily researched.
I knew a startup, if you came with a suit like that, they immediately knew you were a bad engineer, because that's what bad engineers do, they compensate with their look. And another thing, if you dont usually come with a suit, and suddenly you do, they start to worry you're looking for another job. It's very funny. It happened to me when i was in a BS project and they knew i was about to leave LOL.
I'm a BIG fan of your content and I love your energy. Have you ever considered opening a home-based virtual speaking business? I bet you could extend your influence even further.
I've just got to the part about non polished shoes. Hell yes. I'm English, I was interviewing a guy from a top British university...But he hadn't bothered to polish his shoes...I went to a school sooooo bad they knocked it down and changed it's name...less than 1/2% of my school year went to university...But they all knew about polished shoes!
I just found you and am very impressed by your presentation so shall watch more of your videos before commenting in depth, given my related experience in both the subject matter and being on camera. I do have a request I consider important for men, given my age now. People dress horribly nowadays especially Left-Wingers but my request is for a video on looking good/stylish for retired men whether 50 or 70. The reason is I see HORRIBLE outfits on these men whether they have a great pension or are struggling with today's insane prices for essentials. The very wealthy men usually don't need this so showing expensive items isn't the best use of your knowledge. If you take this on, I suggest the approach of what to wear for different circumstances. There are the public appearances we all have in common like concerts and dining out. For my interests I have a school reunion coming up with a grad class who were very successful when students and we've never lost our competitiveness. I try to look my best when out shopping, at the gym and in the warmer weather I play tennis, cycle and walk a lot for both fitness and social walking like the Car Shows I attend. Those shows and similar events are where I see men dressed in ways that make a professional style maker like you break down and cry!
Trouser cuffs should cover the laces, with a single break in the front crease and no break in the back crease - but try finding that in all today's off the peg drainpipes.
It's hard to find trousers which break correctly, but some shops have different leg lengths (eg, 29, 31 or 33 inches inside leg vs 28, 30 or 32 inches). Worth visiting different places.
the logo is the poster piece, but you style your wardrobe to make the logo look good, this is what separates classic from contemporary, the idea of contemporary is to make the logo (which can be obnoxious) look professional or fashionable despite its classic weaknesses.
If this guy thinks his buddy didn't get a job because of his shoes, he hasn't actually worked in the business world.Pretty much every white collar job I ever had, people were clueless as far as fashion. Especially as it got to be more technical and specialized. In fact someone that was super fashion conscious would likely be passed over as the department would feel like he didn't belong.
Remember, the person doing the interview is probably not in the department that the person will be working in, ie tech or business. The interviewer is from HR, or even a 3rd party company, and probably very likely to notice and be put off by things talked about in the video because THAT IS their specialty field. Sure, if EVERYONE has the same unkempt issues, then it's not an issue. But, if everything is equal, the person who got the little details of grooming and style correct has an advantage. Again, the person doing the interview has the specialty of interviewing people not whatever the business actually does.
@@alchemysticgoldmind4164 Yea that one's likely clueless as far as tech goes. I honestly have never met a techie that knew a thing about fashion. If there were a lineup of random unknown people, and I had to choose one to fix my computer, I would pick the guy with the worst fashion sense. Now if we're talking about sales, you might have a point, but for positions that require sitting in a cubicle unseen by outside customers, the unfashionable guy is more likely to be the better more valuable employee.
This thread is so wrong. This was an on campus MBA-only interview with Apple. The interviewers were almost certainly on the actual or an adjacent team (i.e. not 3rd party or rando HR people), and given they're hiring MBAs the interviewers themselves were almost certainly current or former business vs SWE types. Dress code will matter a lot less than e.g. consulting or IB recruitment, but it's not SWE level of bumminess
antonio! you were in japan??? omg! i would have loved to have a coffee with you my man! i've been living in japan for the past 15 years and been watching your videos for nearly 10!
Detail of a detail: I was in AF ROTC in high school. I usually did great on inspection, but they got me for my shoes one time because of my edges! I had to walk to school and the salt got on my edges. I bought edge dressing before the next inspection and passed with flying colors.
When I first started my corporate job in the mid 80's I was told to avoid wearing a black suit and to stick with gray or dark blue. The reasoning at that company was that black suites were informally reserved for those who were director level leaders. Also double breasted suites were verboten as were loafers or shoes with tassels and only white shirts and no facial hair.
Nice tips thanks for your work! I have to disagree on the perfumes though, many people are alergic or sensitive to synthetical fragrances and perfumes! I believe most people put WAYYYY to much on and you can smell them from 3 rooms far, to me it's an automatic turn off! I'd say stick to natural essential oils and fragrances free perfumes in moderation!
no where did he say you should spray 100 sprays. A simple 3 sprays of a quality cologne is enough. Also theres no such thing as "fragrance free perfume"
@@isobel64you are right, there is no fragrances free perfumes, wrong choice of words! But as i said, there is great essential oils formulas with no frafrances or perfumes added! Works great is way more subtle and smell better than synthetic perfumes! I know most people might not be as sensitive as i am on this point but i can assure you if you put on 3 spray (even of a quality cologne) and sit at the table next to mine at a restaurant, i'll have the waiter to assign me another place! I don't want to put any judgement against anybody's choices, if you love perfumes good for you but as this channel is also about learning to be at our best in society i thing it's important to be aware that a good number of people are in fact really sensitive to synthetic perfumes and fragrances! Well now you know!🤷♂️
@omelindai many more of us are sensitive to people who smell foul and disgusting with terrible hygiene. Also anyone who is sensitive to anything would know NOT to use essential oils especially without a carrier oil so thats just bunk. Good Day
I work in the trades and I can tell you that when somebody shows up on a jobsite wearing gear that is not mandatory to their position, they are heavily judged by the crew. A project manager wearing a suit, dress shoes, with safety vest and hardhat. Like "go get back behind your desk." Let the foreman convey progress. Or do a job walk once the crew has wrapped for the day
LOL! So you think your friend made a mistake by going to an Apple interview wearing unpolished open-laced shoes? Apple! A company whose founder was famous for not wearing shoes in the office and wearing black turtle necks, jeans, and dad sneakers in product launches? Have you ever watched an Apple product launch? Do you think that anyone there is fashion-conscious? If anything, being dressed to impress was the mistake. I know of people who have been ridiculed before for being too well-dressed at meetings in Paolo Alto.
I know there are a lot of men who live in the BIG city who wear suits a LOT. But the fact is the majority of the men in the country live in small cities/towns were the only time they wear a suit MIGHT be to church if then. For example, I have taken some of your advice and started dressing up I was alone sitting in line to be seated at one of the better restaurants in the small city where I live. I started paying attention to what the men were wearing out of the 75-100 men I seen coming and going only 2 tried to dress nice. ALL the others were wearing some sort of Camouflage hat/Jacket/pants/shirt with most times a big logo on the shirt with nothing fitted to their body type. This was ALL ages in fact the only one dressing even close to the level I was wearing, was this guy about 20yrs old on a date and both were dress very nice and looked good together. I've started noticing girls pointing me out to their man, wanting them to dress like I am while I'm at the grocery store, how I know that is what they are talking about is because they will point and say," see that's what I'm talking about", I've actually had some guys get jealous for her pointing me out. (I'm digressing) The point I'm trying to make is I don't use everything you suggest for my area. For example, I'm 60yrs old (I do look like I'm in my early 50's) in a small city in the south. What I do is (Fit is king) I layer my top EXAMPLE: I got like a black Tee shirt (of quality) and over that an open Burgandy red button up long sleeve shirt with only the 2nd to the bottom buttoned with the sleeves rolled up 1/4. A nice wristwatch with a matching chain bracelet on the other hand and a matching chain around my neck. Plus, a cheap titanium ring that matches. A nice pair of casual shoes or a pair of Sharkskin or snakeskin cowboy boots. ( I do need more shoes) Where I break away from your teaching is to bring it down to my environment to still fit in. I wear some dark stone washed 501's. (98% of the males wear blue jeans) Now pending on what the activity is I can change the pants and the shoes to fit the occasion. On a date Black 501's and cowboy boots. To the store stone wash and casual shoes, for semi-formal button the shirt up, roll the sleeves down and wear dress paints and dress shoes and change accessories to more formal. In my area you don't have to do a LOT to stand out from the herd but still be part of the herd. Just start taking note of just how badly the men in your area are dressed and just how little effort they are putting into their looks. Just remember guys, when dressing up you don't have to break any records, you just got to beat the guys around you to get her attention.
I was in the military for 26 years (officer and enlisted/NCO); worked as a government contractor/consultant for a few years after retirement. Wore suits/business attire for about 8 years of my time in the military and as a consultant afterwards. Now, I generally stick to jeans/dockers-style pants/cargo shorts (slacks occasionally) and a plain colored t-shirt/un-tucked button up shirt with leather loafers/deck shoes or black athletic/walking shoes-basically, I’m the “gray man”. I don’t want to be noticed.
This reminds me of when I had just graduated from college. I'm dating myself, but Mallory's Dress for Success was the bible for getting the job. It was a must. I'm sure some things have changed, but everything you are addressing got covered in that book. Good on you for passing all of this along.
I enjoy your videos; you have got to be yourself and know who you are. When I dress very conservatively, I look like my dad, (a career Marine Corps Officer) I have been a journalist, a salesman and now I am a working artist/art consultant. I incorporate some of my military style (Navy) in my wardrobe and then add the colorful pieces that are me. I like the canvas belts and wear them with either a USMC belt buckle (to honor my dad) or one of my Navy buckles, sometimes my old NROTC silver buckles. Then put it all together with a bright bow tie. Oh, and I am a recreational sailor, so my style is a bit sailboat preppy. I find that I pick up little bits from your videos that make my style better. Thank you.
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Be honest was that really Jing, or... say it aint so - you didn't use stock footage of asian guy XZY, RiiiiGHT? :) Good tips tho thx yo!
Do I get a case of Aquanet with the hair dryer?!
I like that statement- "Never underestimate how judgemental your fellow person is." That is so true! A man can be the kindest, most compassionate, and competent person, but there will be those who will judge him on outward appearance alone.
Because so many look for short cuts rather than get the information they need from the interview, meeting or other encounter.
yeah, it is amazing how many people never realise that they are actively damaging their careers by not considering what they are wearing to work and why. I mean, it is a low effort tweak. If you dress properly people will take you more seriously, at least you will not make people look down on you because of it. A career consists of a package of things, the easiest varbile you can affect is what you wear. People spend 4 years on sometimes pointless degrees, but they wont spend 1 day a year to shop decent clothing.
My decades of experience taught me it is inherently natural to base our initial opinion of someone by their appearance because animals do the same thing. Finding out what a person's character is has to be done through conversation and observations like how they react to situations, but appearance tells me a lot about their character right away.
So true.
You overestimating how much people judge and care an infinite amount.
People are not judgmental at all.
They feel about you about as much as Sagittarius A* the black hole at the center of the Milky Way galaxy cares.
An alive human and a dead human have the same number of atoms and that is already far too much to bother to remember about anyone.
People do not care at all. It is levels far beyond judging.
Nothing anyone can do can impress or insult anyone.
They were already going to treat you the way they did and you have no ability to impact their decision in anyway.
They do not care.
They are lying to themselves and to you.
Some people are forgiving some people are not.
They are not judging you. They're thinking about what someone else said to them maybe. They're trying to impress someone else maybe.
They can't see you at all. You're meaningless to them. They're not actually thinking about you at all.
If they cared about you enough to judge you for real, they would be treating you like a son perhaps. But not even then.
Even that relationship is completely and utterly false.
1 wear closed lace shoes
2 wear charcoal suits for business, brown shoes allowed
3 wear black suits with black shoes only
4 trim your nose hairs
5 stay away from oversized logo shirts
6 find a signature fragrance/cologne
7 always dress up when youre outside/have a uniform
8 change up your appearance around people you know
9 try covering your skin to look more mature and professional
Nose hair!
1, I usually wear shoes
2. I don't own a suit
3. I have no black shoes or suits
4. I do trim my nose hair
5. I stay away from all logo shirts
6. I do not use cologne
7. I dress down, not up
8. I don't change my appearance
9. I would prefer to have fur to cover my skin
#4 Actually…date a girl taller than yourself. 👍
I wear a black button-down with black slacks and brown shoes with white gum sole. I don't like the all black everything unless I'm going somewhere really formal.
@@jayb.8460 doesn't sound really good I am afraid
I had a girlfriend whose dad was from England. Amazing guy! Taught me so much, bought me my first pair of real leather closed lace shoes that I still wear, great condition, as well as a proper leather belt I still have. Forever thankful for the connection we made and things he taught me 🤙
No one knows how to dress as well as an English gentleman!🙂
What brand was the belt? I'm looking into a pair
@@Cody___fossil for the belt. Honestly don’t go with a high end brand just make sure it’s proper leather and clean looking (no funky designs or wonky buckle) clean and crisp is the way to go 👍
If he taught you to ride a British motorcycle, then job well done.
@@jonyoung6405 he didnt... I grew up on them. Much of whats learned on a bike translates to a car or at least made it easier to understand... vehicle maintenance being one of the things it seems so few know about for themselves these days.
I remember back in 2004, when I was in the Army in basic training, my Drill Sergeant took a few soldiers aside and said, “If you dress professional, people will treat you professional.” I took that advice and ran with it. I really love these fashion tips. Thanks for the advice!👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
I agree 💯.
I was a drill instructor 🇦🇺 for 7 years and went through the basic training myself many years before that.
To this day, I still make my bed to military standard (hospital corners etc.), polish my shoes and press my shirts. I always get comments on my shoes and well pressed shirts.
Discipline 🟰 Success. (was saying this many years before I ever heard of Jocko Willinck).
I'm British and my second proper job was in a call centre. My overall boss was an ex British arm captain in the guards...his comment to me. " Gary how can you sound professional on the phone when you look like a sack of shit with string round". He was so right, I now am always, always the best dressed man in the room
Gawd bless Murica 🤓🖕
No joke, if you go to an Asian SPA dressed like a pro you will get waaay better treatment than if you go in shorts, t shirts and tennis shoes.
I was enlisted Air Force and always ironed my uniform shirt to within an inch of it's life. Some of the sergeants later mentioned I always stood out because my uniform was squared away. I have commissioned and still iron my uniform and follow grooming standards. It pays off!
I do remember that I went to an interview and I at first thought I was at the wrong place. People came in casual wear, some came in a shirt and t-shirt, I even saw the torn jeans style. I admit this wasn't for a suit and tie position but I came to the interview dressed up in a suit and tie. Looking very out of place. During the interview the very first question they asked was to thank me for taking the position seriously and was told out of the hundreds of people they interviewed I was the first to take care of my presentation and asked me why. I told them the first thing I learned from the military is that first impressions last and to dress to succeed. It did also surprise them that I actually came prepared with my own pen.
Interesting that you refer to "torn jeans style". I never thought of it as a style. I considered it more of a mental illness. It's mainly exhibited by women and teen girls. Conformity is a powerful force.
Did they give you a participation award?
Did you get the job?
I am 58 years old, I spent a long time in the shipbuilding industry and offshore oil platforms, I was foreman of crews of shipfitters, pipefitters, welders combo, I rarely had to attend job interviews, in my trade you build your reputation with the skills, quality and mastery of your work that you get over time, once they know you everyone wants guys like you in the yards and platforms. Having said that, in this trade the last thing you need is to go to job interviews dressed in a suit with a tie, shiny shoes, shaved looking like a new born baby and with cologne all over you smelling like woman on her wedding day, that is bullshit and employers in this trade know that.
@@AngelGonzalez-pd4cn100%! This vid is so BS. If that's how shallow an employer is, avoid like the plague! And this was actually IT!? And actually, if someone was from a 'Low Status' background, they're MUCH more likely be by far to be the best person for the job, having got that far, from a 'Low Status' background, in the first place, statistically! ffs!
Most of this is spot on.
The exception is fragrance. It's a gamble if it is a chemical that triggers allergies. Vanillin is the only safe bet but you will smell like a cupcake... You might be good with that. You do you.
In office and formal settings, you should not have a distinct smell. It's not professional and is increasingly considered as offensive as it interferes with others getting work done.
Personally, l actually inform those I work with of my allergy issues and request they keep it in mind. Our employe handbook also mentions that strong smells are not professional.
If my eyes are watering when your egregiously lilac bottom opens that door, our meeting will be cancelled before you get across the room.
When I was still working, one of the guys I worked with was a smoker and used copious amounts of cologne to cover the stench of smoke in his clothes; I would nearly pass out when he walked by me. In several of my activities we are told "no scents!" In most things I do there is at least one or two people who are allergic to various smells and in a zendo scents are as distracting as loud breathing to others' zazen practice. I'm still searching for truly unscented aftershave lotion, deodorant, and bath soap.
"The status comes from within". Great statement.
Always polish your shoes!!!
The fantastic job I’ve been at for the past 18 years hired me while i was wearing boots covered in blood (some of it was mine). Didn’t have a resume either, I was recruited.
I came to terms with aging and the fur that runs in my family and I went and got laser hair removal for my ears. I was a little bit ashamed but it actually made the wife very happy when I told her about it.
How long does that last?
@@rjo8500 I'm getting a package which includes unlimited sessions and they're spaced out three weeks apart. So far I've been to 6 and the hair has been growing more scarcely and slower. I think it's working. 🤷🏻♂️
@@rjo8500 I've seen progress in the form of hair thinning and sessions being spaced out. They tell me that it'll probably be a year for the hair to completely not grow again.
As a teenager, my wise old dad often reminded me, "You seldom get a second chance at a first impression." Now, at the age of 78, I frequently receive compliments on my style. Contrary to popular belief, you don't need to break the bank for a polished appearance. Take, for instance, my collection of three pairs of Brogues, steadfast companions for over four decades. Then there's my Burberry raincoat, a treasured find from a high-end charity shop on Bond Street, London, acquired two decades ago for a mere £150. Astonishingly, it still boasts a pristine condition, a testament to both quality craftsmanship and timeless style, The most important thing, keep your posture in check.
Its been a while since I watched your videos. Glad I found you again. You are so right, your dress is your uniform. When you are getting dressed, you are putting on that uniform that says I'm business. It also helps you get into the right frame of mind for what is coming during the day. BTW, I forgot about the "shorts" thing. Dress like a man, not a kid.
Hey Antonio, I’ve been following your work for a very long time really appreciate your thoughts and guidance. You have a young accountant trying to make it big in corporate!
You make a good point about neglecting nose & ear hairs. It DOES make you look oblivious. and in most situations, it is not a good look.
My wife is a rep for Tom Ford so I am lucky enough to have a ton of their cologne!
Dang man that is chill! I got some (Tom Ford) for my close friend because he is moving up in jobs/status and I was gobsmacked at the prices. But worth it for what it is for. Self investment.
@@HadrianGuardiola Prices are insane! lol But so worth it.
I had a girlfriend who worked in the high-end perfume and make-up department of the top UK chain pharmacists. I had the full range of sampler colognes, aftershaves, eau-de-toilettes. My favourite was Davidoff's 'Cool Water'. That would be my 'signature' cologne, if I was ever in need of one.
I attend a language school abroad and the humidity is unbearable, but other students from various ages ask why I still wear long sleeve button ups in the summer. This video explains it well
I attend a language school abroad and the humidity is unbearable, but other students from various ages ask why I still wear long sleeve button ups in the summer. This video explains it well.
What language are you studying?
@@RedPandas3111 Japanese
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Yes, I have observed this phenomenon as well. I was raised in a comfortable middle-class background, and my physical appearance changed over time. As my success grew, I found myself in a different social environment. High-quality clothing, when genuine, often features subtle or minimal branding. Sometimes, the logo is barely visible or even hidden entirely, such as at the back of the collar. However, individuals from this social class, particularly women, have a keen eye for detail and can discern authenticity. Through touch, they can often already determine if the item is genuine - no logo needed.
Suit up! Leveling up your style will make you Legen... Wait for it.... Dary. 😁
Ive been using this man's advice for a few months now and it hasade a huge difference on a few small lynch pin details I didn't know were that important.
Thank you and please keep up the good work.
Antonio, you are always right on point with your videos and guidance. Thank you, from guy who lives in your old hometown.
When I went to work on Wall St my boss wanted, navy or charcoal suit, white shirt, blue, yellow or red tie, and black shoes (lace up’s. No Italian slippers). The amount you could deviate was determined by the amount of revenue you generated.
I agree that the smallest things will become the biggest criticism against you. Such an important point yet so ignored. The people who say they don’t want to be judged are sadly the ones being the most judgmental in life.
I realized years ago that no one walks into a house and consciously notices that there's no dust, but they will notice if it's dusty.
The same goes with grooming. They may not even consciously realize it's been done when talking to you, but they'll definitely notice if it hasn't!!
thats a damn good analogy
Great video never to old to learn grooming n dress code👍
Agreed! You're never too old to learn a new thing.
I would like to hear your thoughts on the best ways to carry a cell phone. I don't like something banging around in my pockets but the belt holster doesn't look very good. Your ideas? Thanks
Always appreciate these videos. You helped me upgrade my wardrobe.
Great to hear! Thanks for taking my advice. 😁
First impressions are everything, it is very hard to change someone's opinion of their first impression and I always believed in overdressing your role. I am in the engineering field and can say that they really need to offer a grooming and etiquette class in school, about 75% of engineers NEED IT!
This is the information most men out there need.
There was a kid in my high school. His parents were school teachers. He wore a white shirt and tie to class in high school in the 1960s. He managed to earn only one B in high school, the rest As. Scholarship to Harvard. Now on the faculty decades later at UCLA Law. His looking "serious" did a lot for his success. I taught my high school graduate brother-in-law about dressing. When he became a contractor, I had him always keep available a Brroks Brother suit and dress shoes, even to the point of having it hanging in the construction trailer. Today, he is on the train returning from Washington, DC from some dinners. Your appearance counts.
Great advice DevilDog!
Tech companies are known to be often pretty liberal with their dress codes.
However,..large financial firms, investment companies, and banks ( especially those on the east coast and also here in Dallas) are still pretty conservative and require professional attire in the work place.
Great rule of thumb is to gather "intelligence" on how execs dress at whatever company your trying for and within your own financial abilities,..allow their look to inspire yours during any interview process.
Great advice DevilDog!
Tech companies are known to be often pretty liberal with their dress codes.
However,..large financial firms, investment companies, and banks ( especially those on the east coast and also here in Dallas) are still pretty conservative and require professional attire in the work place.
Great rule of thumb is to gather "intelligence" on how execs dress at whatever company your trying for and within your own financial abilities,..allow their look to inspire yours during any interview process.
The morning before my first day of work at a new office, I sat in a café outside my "new" office to check out the office dress code.
Great video! Great advice! Guys in general do not seem to pay enough attention to their shoes. Nor do they pay enough attention to their nose.
How do the new dress shoe tennis shoes figure into the mix when it comes to this? As long as the color is correct, do they safely go with a sport coat and tie? The salesman assured me that they do but of course he was a salesman and he was in his 20s I'm in my 50s.
That last tip really hit home because it’s something I noticed a year or 2 back. Shorts look childish and long pants make you look far more mature and/or experienced.
My huge respect to you Sir. Thanks for sharing these vital tips.
Always great advice.
Maybe do a show on EDC. For example, a stylish, small fixed blade knife vs the typical folding knife with a clip stuck in a pocket.
A Browning Hi-Power, 1911, or CZ75 vs a Glock or other modern pistol.
I also like the idea of an old S&W Model 10 or Colt Police Positive, or a S&W Model 19 or 66 with a 2.5 inch barrel.
Add to that the holster: a lovely leather holster vs a practical but not very sightly lured holster.
Let me guess, you saw that he was a retired Marine and thought it was a good idea comment this. Go to a gun channel, this isnt the channel for that.
@@Coinz8Nope. Nothing to do with him being an Ex Marine. Just like the look of classic and classy firearms combined with classic and classy clothing. 🤠
Antonio, you are so right on your points here. Especially on the interview points. I think of issues that you mention as having a cumulative effect. While some of the clothing errors may seem small, but they can all add up quickly and then throw in one poorly answered question and you're toast.
Good point about not wearing shorts in a hot climate, also that is a great looking sports coat !
Agree with everything after after the job interview part,especially the grooming of excessive body hair eyebrows ear & naisil hair,I notice it on people so im sure women do too & i know they notice a nice clean polished pair of shoes as I've been complimented on mine numerous times.
A good fragrance is very memorable without even being seen & draws people in!
oh really....is that what how your man got you????
This channel has changed my outlook on my whole wardrobe. Especially since I work at an offices the style is literally up my game. I got to send my message every seasons and I got complaints or phrases as to suppose to back then with shirts and tank top. Or, as my wife said, I went a full one 180. I went from men to yoga pants, facial hair with bids, and man bun with tank top toward long sleeve with cufflinks clean shaving trim beard jewelry and dress shoes (almost I wear dressy version of barefoot because it super comfortable af) even changing up my tie I started collecting watches as well that will go good with my anson belt or shoes and sometimes wearing a sport jacket. 10/10 every 7am when I come back I feel way to great. Even on my way out to work, someone who I haven't seen in years who is an opposite of me saw me leaving work with my bosses and couldn't believe his eyes who he was seeing. We spoke on the phone and he thinks I making mad money. When I'm not I'm just saving and investing on my next appearance or trips with the family. I love this Channel a lot that I even bought the cologne too. Also Justin treadeu not a rockstar..
truly high status people wear a suit with casual clothes.. so a suit with white trainers.. and their two top buttons undone.. they are casual with some offical clothes thrown on top :) I'm a firm believer in you making a connection with the interviwer.. if you can take the interviewer to a casual place.. if you can break the ice.. whilst at the same time looking like you have a lot of comittment to the thing you're interviewing for.. you will win! When I attend interview I get the job nearly 100% of the time.. I'm not good at everything.. but I am good at interviews! You can't attend an interview looking really rough.. all over.. but its a blend.. maybe you have a recent hair cut .. and a good jacket.. for example. But one or two casual items like shoes.. no problems.
Last interview I went to I was wearing hiking boots.. jeans and a casual shirt.. I got the job. But you do have to understand the enviroment; are the people dressed down / casual? Then.. you in all liklihood dont have to dress like you're going to a dinner party in 2024.. just my experience.. the tech industry is a casual dress industry.. generally.. having said that if you are attending interview to a traditional consultancy firm, then yes.. that's a suited and booted appointment!
I wear that same blazer with a black mock turtle neck. The jacket is Oscar De La Renta and gets lots of compliments.
Taking note of these tips! Love the content that you make. Much love from Singapore Antonio!
Best wishies from France. I have learn a lot about american clothings thancks to this vidéo....
And yes, I agree 100 % with its content.
Semper Fi brother...thats where you got that NCO "eye"...one thing I have to say is my brown shoes only come out at the pub or blue jean Fridays.
Just wanted to say that turtleneck + blazer is 🔥
1980s.
I only wear Brut aftershave. If it was good enough for Henry Cooper, Barry Sheene and Kevin Keegan, then it's good enough for me!
This is a good one.
I wouldn't say it is about status (anyone can dress any style), but rather about dressing like a grown up man or todlers, sending the right message (to the inside and outside).
Thank you for your service to the USA.
Bless you lad.
I can say this cause I'm old lol
What was the difference between the open and closed lace shoes?
I didn't know about open lacing versus closed lacing until now. I've always preferred closed lacing naturally. Now I wonder if most shoes in stores are designed with open lacing. I always thought those didn't fit me right, and there might be something unusual about my feet 😐
Ring on middle finger looks goofball in my opinion.
I want to know where to get his black jumper and that blazer.
Today I have come across a few videos about "what others notice" and each one brings up your "signature scent" or lack there of. I'd like to pass on what I learned from my father: Keep your armpit hair to an absolute minimum. If you have BO it's because of the bacteria caused by moisture and the odor attaches to your hair. I keep my armpit hair short and use the most cost effective "deodorant"; a mixture of equal parts baking soda and corn starch. It works for me.
Cheers
What should I wear with a flannel
Low income people tend to buy clothing with oversized logos, especially luxury brands.. luxury brands in general, not just oversized logos. I developed the idea back when I was a Teenager, the only way I'll wear your big logo what ever is if you paid me. I buy quality name brand stuff but nothing with be logos or at least I can remove the logos. I just bought a new car a few days ago and it has the dealers logo sticker on the back plus a license plate frame with the dealers name. They did not pay me to advertise, didn't ever knock the price down. So I will pull that off soon, going to pull the sticker off now and will remove the plate frame when I get my new plates. I did this to a previous vehicle years ago and when I put the vehicle in the shop to be serviced, they mentioned I didn't have their dealer frame plate name on my vehicle and asked if they could put one on it. I asked, are you going to pay me to advertise, give free oil changes? They said no, I replied, than the answer is no.
You feel so much better if you make an effort to look good. Here in the UK, we used to get men wearing black trousers and shoes BUT, with white socks. Seriously, l used to stay away from them in case any girl who couldn't see my socks, thought l was also wearing white. The brown shoes with black suit is awful, would you wear that at a funeral, no. Brown shoes are fine with a navy blue suit - as long as the shoes are fairly dark.
Get your clothes tailored to fit you perfectly. It’s what celebrities do and part of the reason they look absolutely stunning.
If the secret is to just try having expensive things you're better off advising people to try being born whiter:
It communicates functionally the same point that nobody is interested in anybody who is not already wealthy enough to provide for everyone else so that nobody has to do anything.
I can come up with 1000 good ideas that would help anyone if they simply had 10 million dollars to buy a few simple advantages and comforts.
This does not particularly help anyone who has much less money.
What would you tell someone who has only $1000 to cover all of their life expenses at the age of 35. Who may temporarily be surviving on the good will of family but with uncertainty about how stable those relationships are and fear that they may collapse any given year so it does not actually feel like a plan at all to assume their resources are available for anything.
I think starvation is improbable but I also think that stability is improbable and this is a situation many find themselves in.
The fear that their life could suddenly increase in expenses quickly and you don't feel comfortable spending on long term goals.
It's workable to spend $100/month on groceries or less and feel accomplished at budgeting and learning.
Spending $50 on a single item of clothing when you aren't really certain if you have any transportation or qualifications for work is much more of a gamble.
For some people, doors simply close.
Real homelessness is unlikely but actually getting a job is harder than it looks.
ANTONIO! You made ONE GLARING MISTAKE, sir. One that could immediately brand you as not adequately educated or perhaps pinpoint you into a niche that may could disqualify you from the highest echelons. That is: "I could have RAN to my apartment..." This is an incorrect grammatical regionalism that will brand you and turn off some interviewers. Instead, you would have been better off saying "I COULD HAVE RUN to my apartment..." I know this nerdy, but it earnest advice. I hope you don't mind me nitpicking your wonderful video! ♥
I presume that Antonio is using American English, not British English.
@@clivearmitage Oh no, this is feature of those who copy the mistakes of others here in the US.
@clivearmitage it's incorrect in American English too.
Indeed, an entire region seems to dwell on this oddity of speech. Immediately, I lose respect for anyone! One of them was a former boss. It was continually annoying to hear him say that.
1:59 when he finally gets to the first point
I like most of this guys stuff but this video has the BS dialed up to 11! Trim your nose hairs, the rest of this marketing.
Thank you for your service
Has anyone got any good tips for a man whos hair doesn't grow more than an inch at the most, i permanently have a grade 1 fading to 2 so i struggle to look great with it, im afraid i look more like a well weathered knuckle head in posh clothing
I live and work in So FL and trust me, if you show up at certain events and you are NOT wearing shorts people dismiss you as someone completely out of touch.
About to go to trailer for Xmas party, got any good ideas?
When we talk about this kind of stuff, it's really about whether it's appearing that you're paying attention to details. Most interviewers aren't going to dock you because your shirt and tie patterns might be too close; rather it's that your shoes aren't shined, your belt mismatches your shoes, your clothes are ill-fitting or unpressed etc. Basic stuff anyone should know, and these are not esoteric items that are easily researched.
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I knew a startup, if you came with a suit like that, they immediately knew you were a bad engineer, because that's what bad engineers do, they compensate with their look.
And another thing, if you dont usually come with a suit, and suddenly you do, they start to worry you're looking for another job. It's very funny. It happened to me when i was in a BS project and they knew i was about to leave LOL.
As an engineer you're supposed to be a self-hating neurotic.
I'm a BIG fan of your content and I love your energy. Have you ever considered opening a home-based virtual speaking business? I bet you could extend your influence even further.
I've just got to the part about non polished shoes. Hell yes. I'm English, I was interviewing a guy from a top British university...But he hadn't bothered to polish his shoes...I went to a school sooooo bad they knocked it down and changed it's name...less than 1/2% of my school year went to university...But they all knew about polished shoes!
I just found you and am very impressed by your presentation so shall watch more of your videos before commenting in depth, given my related experience in both the subject matter and being on camera. I do have a request I consider important for men, given my age now. People dress horribly nowadays especially Left-Wingers but my request is for a video on looking good/stylish for retired men whether 50 or 70. The reason is I see HORRIBLE outfits on these men whether they have a great pension or are struggling with today's insane prices for essentials. The very wealthy men usually don't need this so showing expensive items isn't the best use of your knowledge. If you take this on, I suggest the approach of what to wear for different circumstances. There are the public appearances we all have in common like concerts and dining out. For my interests I have a school reunion coming up with a grad class who were very successful when students and we've never lost our competitiveness. I try to look my best when out shopping, at the gym and in the warmer weather I play tennis, cycle and walk a lot for both fitness and social walking like the Car Shows I attend. Those shows and similar events are where I see men dressed in ways that make a professional style maker like you break down and cry!
Trouser cuffs should cover the laces, with a single break in the front crease and no break in the back crease - but try finding that in all today's off the peg drainpipes.
It's hard to find trousers which break correctly, but some shops have different leg lengths (eg, 29, 31 or 33 inches inside leg vs 28, 30 or 32 inches). Worth visiting different places.
the logo is the poster piece, but you style your wardrobe to make the logo look good, this is what separates classic from contemporary, the idea of contemporary is to make the logo (which can be obnoxious) look professional or fashionable despite its classic weaknesses.
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If this guy thinks his buddy didn't get a job because of his shoes, he hasn't actually worked in the business world.Pretty much every white collar job I ever had, people were clueless as far as fashion. Especially as it got to be more technical and specialized. In fact someone that was super fashion conscious would likely be passed over as the department would feel like he didn't belong.
Yeah I see business men with open laced shoes and a suit way more than anyone with closed laced.
Remember, the person doing the interview is probably not in the department that the person will be working in, ie tech or business. The interviewer is from HR, or even a 3rd party company, and probably very likely to notice and be put off by things talked about in the video because THAT IS their specialty field. Sure, if EVERYONE has the same unkempt issues, then it's not an issue. But, if everything is equal, the person who got the little details of grooming and style correct has an advantage. Again, the person doing the interview has the specialty of interviewing people not whatever the business actually does.
That's not fashion as much AS Grooming...polished shoes say something about you
@@alchemysticgoldmind4164 Yea that one's likely clueless as far as tech goes. I honestly have never met a techie that knew a thing about fashion. If there were a lineup of random unknown people, and I had to choose one to fix my computer, I would pick the guy with the worst fashion sense. Now if we're talking about sales, you might have a point, but for positions that require sitting in a cubicle unseen by outside customers, the unfashionable guy is more likely to be the better more valuable employee.
This thread is so wrong. This was an on campus MBA-only interview with Apple. The interviewers were almost certainly on the actual or an adjacent team (i.e. not 3rd party or rando HR people), and given they're hiring MBAs the interviewers themselves were almost certainly current or former business vs SWE types. Dress code will matter a lot less than e.g. consulting or IB recruitment, but it's not SWE level of bumminess
Stumbled on this video today and I completely agree with it. I don't get people who rely on giant logos to look good.
antonio! you were in japan??? omg! i would have loved to have a coffee with you my man! i've been living in japan for the past 15 years and been watching your videos for nearly 10!
Watashi wa Tokyo ni sunde ita.
Thank you for your service. USMA MBA 🇺🇲 You are spot on Brother! I will subscribe.
Detail of a detail: I was in AF ROTC in high school. I usually did great on inspection, but they got me for my shoes one time because of my edges! I had to walk to school and the salt got on my edges. I bought edge dressing before the next inspection and passed with flying colors.
ROTC.....LMAO...some things are better left unsaid buddy.....
@@DigitalCity-sj4es your judgment feels great, thanks, lol!
I love this video. It is very informative. I learned a lot! Thank you Antonio!
When I first started my corporate job in the mid 80's I was told to avoid wearing a black suit and to stick with gray or dark blue. The reasoning at that company was that black suites were informally reserved for those who were director level leaders. Also double breasted suites were verboten as were loafers or shoes with tassels and only white shirts and no facial hair.
Mistake number 7: wearing fucking tennis shoes with your prom suit
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That's what high-status men do
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Nice tips thanks for your work! I have to disagree on the perfumes though, many people are alergic or sensitive to synthetical fragrances and perfumes! I believe most people put WAYYYY to much on and you can smell them from 3 rooms far, to me it's an automatic turn off! I'd say stick to natural essential oils and fragrances free perfumes in moderation!
no where did he say you should spray 100 sprays. A simple 3 sprays of a quality cologne is enough. Also theres no such thing as "fragrance free perfume"
@@isobel64you are right, there is no fragrances free perfumes, wrong choice of words! But as i said, there is great essential oils formulas with no frafrances or perfumes added! Works great is way more subtle and smell better than synthetic perfumes! I know most people might not be as sensitive as i am on this point but i can assure you if you put on 3 spray (even of a quality cologne) and sit at the table next to mine at a restaurant, i'll have the waiter to assign me another place! I don't want to put any judgement against anybody's choices, if you love perfumes good for you but as this channel is also about learning to be at our best in society i thing it's important to be aware that a good number of people are in fact really sensitive to synthetic perfumes and fragrances! Well now you know!🤷♂️
@omelindai many more of us are sensitive to people who smell foul and disgusting with terrible hygiene. Also anyone who is sensitive to anything would know NOT to use essential oils especially without a carrier oil so thats just bunk. Good Day
Just found his vids and i totaly agree with what he is saying...... It;s all good points
Excellent quality.
Good content, great advice.
Amazing information brother 👏🏻
So what if you make 122k a year but you work in transportation? Any advice?
I work in the trades and I can tell you that when somebody shows up on a jobsite wearing gear that is not mandatory to their position, they are heavily judged by the crew. A project manager wearing a suit, dress shoes, with safety vest and hardhat. Like "go get back behind your desk." Let the foreman convey progress. Or do a job walk once the crew has wrapped for the day
Shorts absolutely practical in Hawaii. Basic attire.
Pants/trouser?
Relax your on vacation.
Brown or tan coloured shoes with a black suit is the most obvious mistake.
love the content you bring!!
LOL! So you think your friend made a mistake by going to an Apple interview wearing unpolished open-laced shoes? Apple! A company whose founder was famous for not wearing shoes in the office and wearing black turtle necks, jeans, and dad sneakers in product launches? Have you ever watched an Apple product launch? Do you think that anyone there is fashion-conscious? If anything, being dressed to impress was the mistake. I know of people who have been ridiculed before for being too well-dressed at meetings in Paolo Alto.
I know there are a lot of men who live in the BIG city who wear suits a LOT. But the fact is the majority of the men in the country live in small cities/towns were the only time they wear a suit MIGHT be to church if then. For example, I have taken some of your advice and started dressing up I was alone sitting in line to be seated at one of the better restaurants in the small city where I live. I started paying attention to what the men were wearing out of the 75-100 men I seen coming and going only 2 tried to dress nice. ALL the others were wearing some sort of Camouflage hat/Jacket/pants/shirt with most times a big logo on the shirt with nothing fitted to their body type. This was ALL ages in fact the only one dressing even close to the level I was wearing, was this guy about 20yrs old on a date and both were dress very nice and looked good together.
I've started noticing girls pointing me out to their man, wanting them to dress like I am while I'm at the grocery store, how I know that is what they are talking about is because they will point and say," see that's what I'm talking about", I've actually had some guys get jealous for her pointing me out. (I'm digressing)
The point I'm trying to make is I don't use everything you suggest for my area. For example, I'm 60yrs old (I do look like I'm in my early 50's) in a small city in the south. What I do is (Fit is king) I layer my top EXAMPLE: I got like a black Tee shirt (of quality) and over that an open Burgandy red button up long sleeve shirt with only the 2nd to the bottom buttoned with the sleeves rolled up 1/4. A nice wristwatch with a matching chain bracelet on the other hand and a matching chain around my neck. Plus, a cheap titanium ring that matches. A nice pair of casual shoes or a pair of Sharkskin or snakeskin cowboy boots. ( I do need more shoes) Where I break away from your teaching is to bring it down to my environment to still fit in. I wear some dark stone washed 501's. (98% of the males wear blue jeans) Now pending on what the activity is I can change the pants and the shoes to fit the occasion. On a date Black 501's and cowboy boots. To the store stone wash and casual shoes, for semi-formal button the shirt up, roll the sleeves down and wear dress paints and dress shoes and change accessories to more formal. In my area you don't have to do a LOT to stand out from the herd but still be part of the herd. Just start taking note of just how badly the men in your area are dressed and just how little effort they are putting into their looks. Just remember guys, when dressing up you don't have to break any records, you just got to beat the guys around you to get her attention.
Great video! Great tips!
I was an electrical engineer that designed electronics. Interview without a tie. Always get an offer higher than prior jobs.
7:22 Thank you!! I already bought the item, I shouldn't have to advertise for them without being paid either
Hey Paisano, Where can I get a Gnocchi shirt?
Can you do a video on hair styles and also what balding guys should do about their hair?
I was in the military for 26 years (officer and enlisted/NCO); worked as a government contractor/consultant for a few years after retirement. Wore suits/business attire for about 8 years of my time in the military and as a consultant afterwards. Now, I generally stick to jeans/dockers-style pants/cargo shorts (slacks occasionally) and a plain colored t-shirt/un-tucked button up shirt with leather loafers/deck shoes or black athletic/walking shoes-basically, I’m the “gray man”. I don’t want to be noticed.
This reminds me of when I had just graduated from college. I'm dating myself, but Mallory's Dress for Success was the bible for getting the job. It was a must. I'm sure some things have changed, but everything you are addressing got covered in that book. Good on you for passing all of this along.
I enjoy your videos; you have got to be yourself and know who you are. When I dress very conservatively, I look like my dad, (a career Marine Corps Officer) I have been a journalist, a salesman and now I am a working artist/art consultant. I incorporate some of my military style (Navy) in my wardrobe and then add the colorful pieces that are me. I like the canvas belts and wear them with either a USMC belt buckle (to honor my dad) or one of my Navy buckles, sometimes my old NROTC silver buckles. Then put it all together with a bright bow tie. Oh, and I am a recreational sailor, so my style is a bit sailboat preppy. I find that I pick up little bits from your videos that make my style better. Thank you.