How To STAY In Your Feminine Energy (even when you're triggered)
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In this video, I talk all about how to STAY in your feminine energy once you activate it. Staying in your feminine energy is the next step to transforming your relationships because let's be honest, its easy to be soft and feminine when everything is going well in life, but what about when things get a bit rocky? That's why in this video I will give you a literal masterclass on how you can remain soft, feminine, and vulnerable even when you get triggered (in dating and in life). Sub for more :)
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I want to pinpoint that not every man is capable of having healthy relationship with a woman, regardless how feminine, soft, self aware she is.
Agreed!
Yes true. He's unhealed and toxic. Avoid!
@@loranisabalorio996that’s not true, feminine women attract everyone
14:25 woman, you are SPITTIN! When we don’t trust ourselves, we put too much trust in other people and don’t let them fail. I needed this distinction.
As a psychologist I say she is right you’re pushing him away by not asking for help. Men don’t like nagging or complaining. Talking is fine!
Thanks for opening my eyes. I’ve finally understood how my brain works in the ‚danger mode’
i opened youtube feeling super upset, this was the first video that popped up. i needed this. thank you❤
Girll you are such an inspiration. I discovered you just few days back and binge watching all your videos. It’s so easy to understand and put on the work. Loving your content( subscribed immediately) please keep going !!!!🥰💖
I have learned soooo much about myself from this ONE video than any self help book, any therapist I've had, any self development course I've taken. This video is absolute GOLD ADVICE for those who need answers to help themselves and steps to follow. Going to re-watch to take detailed notes. Thank you thank you!! ❤
This is great content but I don‘t think this works with a guy who is not interested in a relationship
Of course not!
Yes! You are always here!! I been loving your courses and have much Love and appreciation for you girl. Thank you for looking out for us ladies out here 😘❤.
This was needed to be heard so much!! thankyou so much ❤
I am so glad I found you, your words have really hit me where I needed them right now, and I thank you so much for putting time and effort into helping other women realize who their true selves are.
Would love a video with the same concept applied to marriage/committed relationships
Feminine energy vs staying true to our boundaries while openly communicating is something I get confused by.
I agree. I am someone who has stayed quiet many times when I should have spoken up.
Staying quiet = no
Expressing how you feel = yes
Expressing how you feel by yelling, screaming & dysregulating yourself = no
Expressing how you feel by remaining emotionally regulated & calm = yes
The power is in your delivery and tone ❤️
@@VickitaTrivediAmen.
@@MeganDunlap-hl2nb I was kind of confused with this also but I think her point is that we must manage ourselves in tough moments and not making our emotions someone else’s responsibility or creating a situation where we are emotionally out of control and waiting for their reaction or response or change in behavior to ease it. We have to do that work within ourselves since the emotions are coming from our own past experiences and because we cannot control others
Love the self soothing tips !
This is one of my favorite videos on youtube. Thanks so much ❤
Wow, thank you!
Favorite video! So many Gems, bless you. Thank you.
Thank you for this video
Thank you so much for this video! its amazing!
Glad you liked it!♥️
Thank you for this
Excellent advice 💯
Kind of amazing advice!
Amazing video! Thank you!! 💐
Glad you liked it!
Dealing with a break up that keeps you in a good place for you and leave as a lady
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You are so welcome
Great video!
17:29 advice
I love this topic and needed to hear this today so first off, thank you so much! I have a question about this, what about when it comes to complaining to your man about outside things that have nothing to do with him or what I'd rather refer to as venting, lol. I've always been a very emotional person and I've struggled with a lot of things for a long time. I have a very strong need to talk to someone about my frustrations with life and other people in order to release all that negative energy and feel better. I'm also always willing to be that empathetic listening ear to my people as well. I have a very masucline man and he really has a small tolerance for my venting which makes me feel so hurt because im just looking for him to be there for me. Imo that's just what you do for the people you love. I like my man to be my best friend and he does too as he always calls me his best friend. I'm afraid of bottling up my very intense emotions I know that would be extremely unhealthy for me. I do struggle with emotional regulation and my whole life I have coped with that by venting to the people close to me. Thanks for your help and I think this would make a great video topic if you don't have one about this already. So grateful for you and your videos!❤
My biggest problem is because I’ve been in masculine mode for most of my life (almost 40), I’m also a taller woman and though pretty, never felt petite or feminine in that way, (had all brothers) trying to be more feminine just feels inauthentic and fake. It’s very hard for me and I don’t know what to do about that. My husband says he wants me to be more feminine yet does things (my sons too…one is a tween and younger one is autistic/adhd) or pushes me figuratively in ways that make it come out. I teach high school too, so I constantly deal with people being difficult around me. Life has made me have to be hard and I am really struggling with how to soften myself and not feel weak.
The problem is everyone including this channel says ‘feminine’ has to wear a barbie dress and acquiesce to everything. That’s not actually feminine energy.
Feminine is an attitude, it allows solutions versus fighting problems, it becomes bigger than or flows around an opponent instead of smashing through them
Things like that. Hugs.
When you have anxiety this isn’t easy especially relationship anxiety
Vicki this was sooo helpful ❤ Just one question, when you are trying to be present with the emotions of the trigger and feel it in your body, I often can’t feel anything, all I am aware of are a bunch of harsh critical and fearful thoughts that I believe at that time. How do I get to that point of moving from the head to the body?
I’m so glad! So when you’re having these really loud thoughts in your head, do they trigger any sensation in your body? Usually a thought triggers a physiological sensation, so try to flip it. Instead of thinking about what sensations you get, think about what the thoughts bring up in your body. And remember, if you don’t experience any bodily sensation at all, it’s okay - but it’s a big sign your nervous system enters freeze mode
@@VickitaTrivedi that makes sooo much sense about the freeze mode, thanks! I think as a child I’ve learned to skip the bodily awareness and go straight into blaming/action thoughts: I should do this, I shouldn’t have done this etc. But in a split second before those thoughts comes up, right after the trigger, I feel a pang in my chest. I guess that’s where the wound is 🥲
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What about mamta energy?
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That prep before is very masculine honestly
I guess I’m in masculine mode because my armor is up and staying my distance because I feel disrespected. That’s all I ever knew how to do. I appreciate this video I’ll use these tips.
If you feel disrespected by Someone, the most “feminine” way of reacting is to leaveeee.. So it is good to stay your distance cause they don t respect you in the first place. Feminine is folosind your intuition and body, if your body is tensed around someone maybe it is for a good reason
Maybe you have good intuition!! Do not let a man disrespect you!!
Women need a hint of both. It’s okay to have both.
If you feel disrespected you probably were. Exit.
Happy you came yo this point of self-realization! I also always have my Armour up, but it's cuz I feel I can't trust ppl to be as caring as me. But I guess like this video said..I gotta learn to trust that I can be caring to myself and walk away if needed instead of trying to control situations.
Workkkk haha
Girl, I must say, you’re glowing!!!
You’re always polished and beautiful, but in this video you are even more gorgeous. I can feel your feminine energy from here ❤
Thank you so much!!! ❤️
I agree! You look gorgeous, tell us about your skin routine and what you eat x
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Yes and also ladies sometimes when you think he’s cheating or talking to someone else he actually is - and rather than keep healing yourself so you can not be a “nag”, leave :)
Just cheat back
@@loveself6396no I don't think that's the best idea because when that cycle of cheating starts it's gonna be a never-ending one and you'll wish u should've left earlier
EXACTLY! And that’s how I felt. Not being triggered anymore. I’m just leaving. I’m no fool.
If you’re in your feminine, you would leave. It’s not about being walked all over, it’s about getting up and going.
@@loveself6396that's ho behavior, but you're from the baby mama culture so understandable.
Do you realize that most of the things that you say are Biblical? 😅
The Bible is one of the oldest historical texts yet people search for life advice on tiktok etc lol 😅 my life got way better when I just started reading the Bible and doing what I learned!
Girl. Best video yet.
I’m a 4 year supposed trad wife who rages at her husband and stepson at least 2-4 times a month. I’m constantly reacting to random innocuous things they do as if they’re the end of the world and they hate me.
It’s something I’m ashamed of. My husband is constantly telling me to slow down, relax, take a moment and stop just raging. You have given the best advice.
Thank you. You may help save my marriage. 😮
Also my husband said “keep listening to her. 🎉”
The only thing that really stopped me from feeling angry straight away was asking “will this matter in 5 years?”
If the answer is no, then don’t get angry about it.
If the answer is yes, then RAGE
It allows you to have boundaries with your rage and rules with it. Rage is not an emotion that needs to be eliminated. It needs to be controlled and relative to the situation.
Literally changed my whole emotional state. Was so chill after I was told this
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I’m not going to judge but I would definitely ask myself how random or innocuous the things that set you off are…
Entirely so that you can be better submitted of course. But you may in fact find that these things are not random.
And then you have a whole other kettle of fish. When that day comes, resist the urge to yell at anyone but quietly work towards building a large bank account to leave.
@@namedrop721 they’re random and innocuous. Im very capable of introspection so im confident they’re ridiculous over reactions to things that can easily be handled calmly later. Most of the rages are rooted in feeling indignant when I have no business. I have no intention to leave my family. They’re not doing me wrong, I’m being ridiculous.
I think you’d be surprised how many women walk away, when they’re the problem.
Asking about somebody's intentions or why they are suddenly acting distant towards you is not armour trigerred by trauma, it's communication.
absolutely agreed, but I think it´s about what happens after communicating fails and we women fall into the good old spiraling, which then may result in double texting, calling and our mind going bonkers with all these potential scenarios.
I believe she means staying in your feminine energy also just means not catering to the guy but staying calm for our own sakes.
You are the only creator I’ve watched who has actually explained how to properly use our masculine energy in a relatable and easy to understand way. Wow literally wow. You are so helpful. You’re gonna change my life. Thank you thank you thank you
Can u make similar videos for married women ? It’s not always easy to just divorce n walk out. How to stay in feminine energy when they don’t listen and keep up with our emotional needs?
Literally same here! In fact I needed this video so damn much today.
I actually just dealt with this. I did pull my energy back from him. I stopped doing his laundry, took myself out for fun outings, bought myself gifts, pushed his messes into his areas where I didn't have to see them. I also told him what I needed and that I would leave if I didn't get that. He has seriously stepped up. Something unfortunate happened recently, and when I called him, he immediately began to take care of it.
I think the big thing to remember is this: there are places we can go if we really need to leave. College will always be there for us. Shelters. I was a sahw, but I was willing to do what needed to be done. Thankfully I didn't have to, but you can care for yourself in the meantime as you build up to leave. Hopefully you won't have to.
If you're in a dangerous situation, this will be different. Don't test anything if he has violent bones in his body. But if your situation is like mine, do things for yourself. Be selfish with your time and energy, and if he's worth anything, he will turn it around.
Yes!
Thank you very much for this video.
Kind of agree but when you say protecting is masculine I don’t agree. Have you ever heard of momma bear? There is nothing more ferocious than a mother protecting her young and that’s across all species - the need to protect the vulnerable is a biological female trait. Perhaps the way humans have come to express it over time may not be but that protective instinct is not just masculine…
We all have feminine and masculine. Sometimes we need to go into our masculine energy, but ideally not constantly.
That’s the bear going into her masculine mode to protect her cubs.
Fabulous idea about taking our masculine energy to plan and schedule our day, self care, etc! Definitely going to use this approach!
This is my favorite video on this topic so far. I especially love the last part about being intentional with when to use your masculine energy. As women, I believe that having structure and the 'know-how' of execution-skills that, in my case, come a lot from my engineering background-can help us build a life on our own terms. This includes creating stability, achieving financial freedom, and fostering a sense of calm and balance where we can express our best feminine energy.
Spoiler alert 🚨
This doesn’t work with narcissists so don’t waste your energy. 🙄
Vickita, I just want to say that you are truly the reason why I started to glow-up this year, your videos are always full of information that I feel like I can't get anywhere else. Thank you so much, you clearly want the best for us!
Dont listen to her! I wouldnt have found out he had a girlfriend if i wasnt so triggered. I told her and now we are both free!! Women have powerful intuition, use it!!!!
The end of the video touches on intuition 😊
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Remember in Titanic when Rose mother said, " Of course it's unfair we're women"
But Cal was willing to give her riches, love, kill another man and gave her a irreplaceable necklace 😭
this video is top tier omg
Hey Vicki! Thank you for this video as this is exactly what I am practicing at the moment. I resonate with the 70% feminine energy. That’s my target. but I run a business which usually takes 8h of my daily time. In my mind, business is masculine and so I have let myself embrace masculine energy during those hours. Basically my day looks like this:
- 2h morning routine (feminine)
-4h work (masculine)
- 2h lunch break + rewind (feminine)
- 4h work (masculine)
- 1h workout (masculine or feminine depends on the sport)
- rest of the day (feminine)
My question is: can you be feminine while working or not?
xx
yes love you can definitely stay in your feminine by planning out the schedule and having a core belief system that everything is working out in your favor so that you don't end up in a fight or flight situation and when you working it doesn't seem like a burden but rather as an embodiment of your highest self. you already have what you want so you are just in the process of bringing it into reality. One more tip i'd love to include is to start accepting the fears which you feel within and tell yourself positive affirmations, imagining yourself as a feminine being who's using her mind and the work needed aka masculinity to bring her goals into reality. love you xx
This video was on time. Thank you! ✨
I adore your videos. I’m
Learning so much. I wonder if you could do a video on how to handle in a feminine way your man who stares/ ogles at women when your out with them. I don’t want to react and give my power away, but I would like to get my point across. I just preheat to not notice or put my head down as it physically makes me feel
Like shrinking away so I automatically slump . My guts churn and my heart sinks and I d love to stop that and for it to wash off me. Thank you and thanks for all you do xxx
I was looking for answers about this problem. But the one who takes me out of my feminine energy is my own father. I try to be a good kid and discipline my attitude and mindset but lately my dad has been just getting on my nerves with him constantly putting me down, and treating me like I'm not his daughter. He is a weak, feminine man, and he disrespects me and my family, which always makes me want to shout at him to get his attention or bring clarity to his mistreatment towards us. I can't do it anymore, I will not react to him or let his actions affect me.
Yes well that's different. A father just like a husband should protect his daughter spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically and even financially. He should not be making you feel unsafe and to show your respect towards him so you wont dishonor him you might have to place deeper boundaries with him by removing him out of your life. This is how you can honor him by not holding anything unforgiveness towards him and having deeper boundaries with him since he does not respect you. Now if you have to stay in the same house as him, try keep as much boundaries with him as possible until its time for you to leave and move out on your own.
@@jesssoreal Thank you for taking the time to reply to me. I do have to live with him for now, so I will do as you say. I'll keep my distance and if he happens to start something I'll just not give him the time of my day and focus my energy elsewhere.
I’m really sorry to hear about your situation. My father was the exact same and the worst years of my life were living with him. He was an alcoholic who would always tell me how no one would ever love me. This did so much damage as I grew up and I ended up in an abusive relationship with someone just like him because I was desperate to escape home. I don’t know what age you are but my advice to you would be to leave home as soon as you can so you can begin the healing process. Find support nearby like Women’s Aid if that’s available to you and explain the emotional abuse and how you are not safe at home. If your dad has a drinking problem Al-Anon is a great place for families to get support , that was the start of my healing journey then I got into a refuge at Women’s Aid and I stayed there for a year and a half before getting my own place. My dad is no longer here, he took his own life a couple of years ago but I’m still in therapy trying to undo all the damage he caused. But I’m so much happier and I don’t experience daily panic attacks anymore. I come home and it’s my sweet little cat waiting for me 😊 I worked so hard to get here and it’s been worth it to feel safe in my own home, I never thought that was possible. I really hope and pray for the same for you, never give up and remember he hates himself not you ❤ xxx
@@mcchilde2282 Amen and anytime. I understand what its like to come from abusive parent(s). I truly pray your father heals and learns how to treat you better and God bless you on your continued journey to thriving in your femininity.
Also if I can just give one major tip that has helped me heal from my trauma with my father is journaling and processing these emotions and coming to a understanding and letting them go. If you can you should start journaling and run to your journal every time to release your emotions and come to a understand with acceptance so you wont hold any resentment or anger towards your father and of course still place those healthy boundaries to guard your soul, your heart and to keep you safe from him emotionally wounding you.
So good! Our armor is a defense mechanism that we created as a little girl to keep us safe. Its okay that we did that but its time to level up and tap into our power!
Im the older sister. Thank you for being a sound voice while im figuring life out ❤
I needed this video so badly rn
The first 5min of this video... It explains a lot! I'm actually blown away by how I've never realised this, or why nobody explained it to me. Damn. Let me just finish watching
I wonder, is setting strict boundaries for your children (when they don’t listen) masculine energy? If you don’t do this I have to put you in your room for example? Especially with my boy of 7 it gets so tiring and frustrating sometimes because it takes so much of my energy
Omg the baby pic of you dressed as a princess in the intro is precious 😆😆😆 Periodt!
That's a popular meme dear, it's not her.
If I exited my feminine energy and got triggered and masculine you think I can fix it? He got distant out of nowhere and I couldn’t handle it
the thing is i always feel like im reaching more than him and i feel like when he don't reply fast or forget to reply or call it makes me think " oh im not a priority for him if he think im important he will communicate" ): although he loves me so much and when i confront him he apologizes and explains that he just had a rough day but still i cant stop feeling like that every time i feel " ignored " what to do😢
amazig video. really helpful. being a woman is a prvilege. no more struggling and stress, i can have it so easy and soft. thank you
I love this! Can we see a routine of this feminine energy life? I would love to see how it would be like moving through the day in that way
Omg this content is very informative❤
Agreed!
How do I schedule things in when I'm really bad at sticking to a schedule?
don't add too many things at once, but also, start telling yourself you ARE good at sticking to a schedule. Its all in the reframe :)
You look so good babe ❤ thanks for all your tips. Helping me glow ✨ and grow 🌿
Love the advice you shared! Thank you! 🙏🏽 ❤
this video came at the perfect time
That chest anxiety be real.
Straight uppppp
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Vickita, thanks for providing us with practical ways to improve our emotional intelligence while enhancing our feminine energy. Ladies, there are so many gems in this video! It’s worth saving and listening again and again!
excellent video. thank you for this
Hello pretty lady!!!!! Excellent video!!!!! Thanks' for sharing!!!!! xoxxoox
This is truly one of the most helpful videos I’ve seen on yt. It touches on so many points that I thought I couldn’t verbalize, followed by a solution. I feel seen and heard and now can move forward with a plan. There truly are so many gems in this video that I’ve saved it for future listening. Thank you!
Lots of great points!
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Minute 9 to 10 ❤
Love how she did the introduction ❤
Wow, so much wisdom, deep and meaningful advice.
Thank you love 💖
Glad it was helpful!
I understand the concept. What happens if a guy you are dating doesn’t follow through on what he says he will do or consistently does things to push your boundaries? I feel like keeping quiet about stuff like that is unhealthy.🤔
Staying with him is unhealthy
This vid would have changed my life course. Still can but damn, im a little late in the dating rodeo. Better late yhan never as they say tho!
Thank you!!
This is interesting, thank you 😊❤
The planning your softness ahead of time portion was so helpful! Thank you! 💋
Thank you for sharing your knowledge!
…by the way I love your lipstick, what shade is it? 🤩
I always thought that being in feminine energy is weak and less powerful, I don't see any feminine women treated properly... How can I overcome just belief
Geeze - one of the best videos ever - Home run
Another very insightful video, Vickita. Thank you!
I do have a question for work/life though. My masculine energy and feminine energy usually clash when I’m in “work mode” and either my man and I talk on the phone during the time I’m fully and already head deep in my masculine energy or he’s picking me up after a long stressful few days of working and being in my masculine energy. He notices the shift in my “tone” and say I sound controlling but I’m just like “well I’ve been stressed and I still am a little bit but I don’t really mean what I say in that way”. Is the problem my energy or his insecurities? Because I don’t inherently say anything wrong and he should know that my tone has nothing to do with him, I just can’t be my soft sweet feminine self when I am recovering from working and stress.
I think it would be super important for you to have this conversation with him (idk if you already have). But essentially you say exactly what you just wrote to me, say it in a soft, feminine way and make him understand that it’s just a process you go through and it never has anything to do with him. Hope that helps!
@@VickitaTrivediYou really are amazing 💜
I wish my mom had taught me these tips 20 years ago. I will do so if I have a daughter. Thank you ❤
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Girl, sending love and blessings your way, you’re amazing ❤❤❤❤
Sooo I just learned that my husband is in his feminine energy because he picks out his clothes the night before work and preps his breakfast … 😅
I get what you said but personally when I start to not give a thing about a man it’s generally means that I’m losing interest 😢
No matter how many videos I watch on feminine energy I stil don't get it. This video helped me clarify that it's important to 'regulate' emotions, so that's good. But how do you set boundaries or ask your partner w out being masculine
Good one😊
Your videos powerful,healing informative.You articulate so well. I love that you not only give realistic examples but solutions and steps to use . Thank you for the effort time & care you put in. Your authenticty in wanting to help us level up if felt and received. Thank you girly ❤