35 Tips To Coming Out as LGBTQ+

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  • @PoweredByRainbows
    @PoweredByRainbows  Год назад +4

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    • @Mendips
      @Mendips 3 месяца назад

      it doesnt have the union jack

  • @lizleart
    @lizleart 4 года назад +610

    “And they weren’t cool enough to be invited anyway” probably one of my favorite quotes ever

  • @ryankrumenauer2806
    @ryankrumenauer2806 4 года назад +282

    Don’t show fear. The homophobes can smell fear.

  • @oleandertea4519
    @oleandertea4519 4 года назад +336

    I almost outed myself once when my brother was raging at some random game and shouted "THATS SO GAY" into the mic. My immediate response was just "Me too" and luckily I think he didnt hear.
    It would've been fine if he did hear, I know my family wouldn't care but I'm just not ready quite yet.

    • @Alchemy818.
      @Alchemy818. 4 года назад +55

      I have to hold myself back from making gay jokes lol. One time my dad said “can you keep a straight face” And I almost said “no I can’t do anything straight.”
      Another time we were talking about how people can change, and I really wanted to say “yeah, my mom used to smoke. I used to think I was straight. People can change a lot.”
      I swear that I’m going to out myself via accidentally making a gay joke lol

    • @LittleIcarus
      @LittleIcarus 4 года назад +21

      Me too. Like, I know I am very priviliged to live in a supportive family so why tf am I so scared to come out?

    • @natayeet3216
      @natayeet3216 3 года назад +12

      I accidently outed myself at recess to two of my friends. A few days later one of them almost outed me to the whole class. Istg I would've beat him.

    • @jazuzzle
      @jazuzzle 3 года назад +9

      @@Alchemy818. 😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣 i love gay jokes

    • @jazuzzle
      @jazuzzle 3 года назад +5

      not to be a hypocrite or anything

  • @quartzzzz8751
    @quartzzzz8751 4 года назад +885

    Wait, if the gays have "Yas queen" and "spill the tea" what do the straights have? Oh I forgot, they have rights

    • @drwholover69
      @drwholover69 4 года назад +34

      y e s

    • @13._.1
      @13._.1 3 года назад +22

      it’s to god damn true

    • @13._.1
      @13._.1 3 года назад +16

      @The Genderqueer Cringy Emo “but I can name 3 countries where I’d be likely to be executed, arrested, or murdered in the streets” I’m not laughing bc wtf it’s *TRUE* I guess Karen’s can’t control themselves from being Karen’s bc they were raised that way, if they can’t control that then it’s crazy how they still find it horrible that ppl are black or gay! It’s almost like saying “how dare u be born black” or “how dare u not be able to control ur crushes *JuSt LiKe I cOuLdNt*”

    • @person4031
      @person4031 3 года назад +11

      That’s smooth

    • @Checkmate___
      @Checkmate___ 3 года назад +35

      This hurt and was funny at the same time

  • @Tubi-zc5bb
    @Tubi-zc5bb 4 года назад +472

    I'm still a kid, but I know im gay. Obviously. they'll think that I don't know what I'm saying. I want to find a way to show them that i'm actually gay.
    Lil Update: I asked my parents what they think about kids being gay or lgbtq, and I showed them a picture of a kid at a pride parade. My dad said that they were being stupid and 'what were that kids' parents thinking?! You can't be born gay, he was influenced by the media! He doesn't even know yet and he made such a big decision at such a young age!' My mother agreed and was a bit suspicious on why I asked that. Im just gonna. stay quiet until I'm like 16 or 17, probably 18.

    • @jazington9028
      @jazington9028 4 года назад +56

      I'm going through something very similar to that.

    • @CrumpetCraig
      @CrumpetCraig 4 года назад +38

      Maybe get a boyfriend and kiss in front of your parents. I'm in a similar situation but I'm demi so it'll be harder for me to prove it.
      Ok nevermind that sounds kinda stupid, but the option is there.

    • @quackquackx
      @quackquackx 4 года назад +23

      maybe wait until you have a boyfriend, and then if they don’t believe you just show them that you have a boyfriend and maybe even kiss in front of them. you wouldn’t go dating and kissing a guy if you weren’t gay!

    • @kitkat_has_heart_attack3633
      @kitkat_has_heart_attack3633 4 года назад +38

      I’m going through this to. Let’s all not give up and when we’re 18 let’s all move to the desert and hang up pride flags everywhere

    • @13deidre
      @13deidre 4 года назад +19

      Tubi 2772 same I’m 11 and I’ve known i was bisexual since i was 9 so I’m pretty sure there just going to say that it’s just a phase or your not sure yet

  • @wafflekiwi7085
    @wafflekiwi7085 4 года назад +303

    If I could just be like:oH yEaH mY gIrLfRiEnD. That would be great

    • @PoweredByRainbows
      @PoweredByRainbows  4 года назад +110

      That’s the best feeling when I can just say to someone “This is my boyfriend’s jacket but it smells just like him so I wear it constantly”. Also I should have mentioned I steel jackets from boyfriends because I like cuddles too much to not do it lol.

    • @13._.1
      @13._.1 3 года назад +5

      @The Genderqueer Cringy Emo Nice name ♥️ 😂

    • @solacesal
      @solacesal 3 года назад +9

      @@PoweredByRainbows I mean like don’t we all???

    • @roxyraccoon9126
      @roxyraccoon9126 3 года назад +3

      @@PoweredByRainbows I would love to tell my mom how happy I am with my boyfriend! The only problem is that she still perceives him as another girl because he legally can't start his transition. Yes, being transgender is illegal in Hungary.

  • @ponyenjoyer
    @ponyenjoyer 4 года назад +84

    Last year on June 3rd I came out to my mom as bisexual. Turns out I'm lesbian so my goal was to come out again on June 3rd. She was talking about getting Pride merch so I said "Oh yeah, you know how I came out as bisexual last year? Turns out its just girls" it was so casual, she accepts me like she did a year ago, and I asked her for the date and told her my goal and it was June 4th she said it was close enough and we could pretend. I was so happy I wanted to cry. Especially since she already found out I'm non-bianary and got me a pop socket with non-bianary flag colors so now I have that and a rainbow pin. It makes me really happy to know even if I'm not out to everyone :)

    • @PoweredByRainbows
      @PoweredByRainbows  4 года назад +18

      Omg that’s amazing I’m so happy for you to have that level of support! You’re so lucky and I’m smiling ear to ear for you right now. Please go hug your mom for us and tell her how lucky you feel because you are. 🏳️‍🌈

    • @Professionalhaterlol
      @Professionalhaterlol 3 года назад +5

      Wait June fourth that's my sis b day

  • @roringuthundaaa7704
    @roringuthundaaa7704 4 года назад +221

    Day 2 of asking matt to make a discord server for lgbtq people🏳️‍🌈

    • @PoweredByRainbows
      @PoweredByRainbows  4 года назад +118

      We are working on something much, much bigger than that. I can’t tell you what yet but trust me, it’s amazing.

    • @roringuthundaaa7704
      @roringuthundaaa7704 4 года назад +25

      I'm looking forward to it!❤️🏳️‍🌈

    • @CrumpetCraig
      @CrumpetCraig 4 года назад +13

      @JG - 05CR - Northwood PS (1533) Super gay.

    • @nickpetrella6996
      @nickpetrella6996 4 года назад +12

      InfiniteCrumpet extremely gay

    • @CrumpetCraig
      @CrumpetCraig 4 года назад +9

      @JG - 05CR - Northwood PS (1533) Infinity gay + 1

  • @nickpetrella6996
    @nickpetrella6996 4 года назад +160

    I knew I was gay in first grade lol. I saw a guy on tv and said he was cute. My mom thought it was just a weird phase. A girl always felt unnatural to me and unhappy. I had a girlfriend and I hated it. Can’t wait to get my first boyfriend😊

    • @drwholover69
      @drwholover69 4 года назад +19

      I'm 9 and I've known I was a lesbian since last year when i was 8.
      (im a baby) ;\/;

    • @kissxingqiu
      @kissxingqiu 4 года назад +11

      Hello I'm a trans gay man :D

    • @kissxingqiu
      @kissxingqiu 4 года назад +6

      Also congrats!

    • @Sidralovescrows
      @Sidralovescrows 3 года назад +3

      @@drwholover69 I knew I was a lesbian in kindergarten, but didn’t quite know what it was

    • @mile3270
      @mile3270 3 года назад +2

      I knew i was lgbt since 3rd grade when I realized i had a crush on a girl

  • @lemonweirdo
    @lemonweirdo 4 года назад +145

    I’m pretty safe with school, my teacher is gay himself and no one has a problem with it. Didn’t come out to him yet but I’m planning to!

  • @thegamerunicorn697
    @thegamerunicorn697 4 года назад +342

    Yeah I think this will help because I'm trying to figure out how to come out as bi :)
    edit: the fact that I found out I was a lesbian makes this kinda embarrassing-

    • @sourlilacs
      @sourlilacs 4 года назад +4

      sameee

    • @sourlilacs
      @sourlilacs 4 года назад +8

      @@copperrose4376 i hope it goes well for u❤️❤️
      a good idea to come out on ur bday but i would suggest just in case- to do it at the end of the day

    • @josemanuelmurguia8970
      @josemanuelmurguia8970 4 года назад +8

      Lmao, I am gay but I don’t want to come out yet bc my dad is homophobic and my entire family is religious. :’) F

    • @silo7440
      @silo7440 4 года назад +13

      .. Heres a nice poem you can use
      Roses are red,
      This isn't a lie
      I mean it when I say
      I am BI
      (Love is love and if you are not supported, then the community would support you)

    • @uglyasswhiteboy5082
      @uglyasswhiteboy5082 4 года назад +6

      Same. I’m lucky there’s still a chance I could marry a guy and not be a disgrace to my entire Christian conservative family.

  • @taylornichibotsu6094
    @taylornichibotsu6094 4 года назад +164

    5:04
    Say it louder to my parents in the back, please!
    *I'm a genderfluid pansexual kid, i'm sure about it but when i tried to tell my mom that i'm a genderfluid she said ''no sweetie you're not, it's just a phase don't worry about it'' and this just made me feel like shit, I can't be myself, not even in my house and I don't feel safe here, my mom always says that pride parades are a waste of time and ''I just wouldn't like it if one of my children was gay or smt like that''
    Yeah i'm just a kid but i know what makes me feel comfortable, i just want to feel great... Well, my parents just don't understand that you don't need to be ''older'' to know about your sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. I just want her to know more about me, I tried to tell my dad and my brother about it but they said the same thing ''it's just a phase.''. Sometimes i feel wrong, trapped, it's like i don't belong here and they still say it's just a phase. I have a gf (obviously my parents don't know about her, i mean we have the same age but since i was born female my parents would say ''I can't believe you're a lesbian'' or smt like that) but i didn't tell her that i'm a genderfluid, i told her i was trans because i thought i was a trans man,, yeah i was wrong but i didn't knew what genderfluid was. Well, i just wanted to share the things that happen to me and tell to everyone who's going thru the same things that... YOU'RE NOT ALONE! Stay strong! You're valid

    • @bcblur1
      @bcblur1 4 года назад +13

      That's unfortunate to hear. I hope you find happiness among people who love and accept you ❤️

    • @mysteriousmerrow
      @mysteriousmerrow 4 года назад +7

      Find acceptance in the people around you and know that until your family accepts you for you, they ain't allowed at your party

    • @archiemachen1959
      @archiemachen1959 4 года назад +6

      I'm panromantic and demisexual but still in the pantry

    • @taylornichibotsu6094
      @taylornichibotsu6094 4 года назад +8

      @@archiemachen1959 Demisexual? Are you attracted to Demi Lovato?
      JSADUISAGHD SORRY I HAD TO-
      (forlegalreasonsthat'sajoke)

    • @archiemachen1959
      @archiemachen1959 4 года назад +2

      It is okay I am use to it

  • @MarchCloverHeHim
    @MarchCloverHeHim 4 года назад +88

    (4:04) I thought I was bi when I was 10 1/2, then a few weeks before my birthday my crush came out to me as non-binary. then it hit me. I knew I was pan. I'm surprised I didn't find out sooner. And now me and my crush are dating!
    - w -
    also, I plan on coming out to my parents as pan, Asexual, and Agender after I'm done with collage and I move out!! I'm going to come out with a cake and a pun with the frosting on top! in the order of: Panromantic, Asexual, Agender!
    Edit from 1 year later (not exactly, but still): I have found out that I am Omnisexual and I still don't know if I'm Asexual or Demisexual at this point- also I ended up coming out as Omni and Agender early- they don't use my pronouns (they/them) or preferred name-
    Edit: 4 years later, I'm trans (he/him) queer, and something on the Asexual spectrum, I'm not sure yet. I'm not dating the person in question anymore; haven't for a while. A lot of discovery and questioning has gone on, and I finally said "screw it" because I think I just needed to realize I'm not that intricate, and my sexuality is too confusing

    • @CrumpetCraig
      @CrumpetCraig 4 года назад +6

      What a great story! Good luck on coming out to your parents!

    • @MarchCloverHeHim
      @MarchCloverHeHim 4 года назад +4

      @JG - 05CR - Northwood PS (1533) I remember hearing about this! I forgot which one but someone was stealing the uno cards and Asexual was trying to stop them!

    • @MarchCloverHeHim
      @MarchCloverHeHim 4 года назад +3

      @JG - 05CR - Northwood PS (1533) yeah, 'cause I knew it was one of the a's

    • @natysart4189
      @natysart4189 4 года назад +4

      I love you user pic

    • @lilylovely2478
      @lilylovely2478 4 года назад +2

      AHHHH like dream come true gurl/boii just like that’s awesome!

  • @jaxondrawss
    @jaxondrawss 4 года назад +26

    if i ever told my parents how they feel, they would ask me "why do you want to know this?" then ill have to tell them-

  • @annoyedkaren6726
    @annoyedkaren6726 4 года назад +45

    To the one person that disliked...
    ...we need to FroCkiNg talk

    • @lisa101561
      @lisa101561 4 года назад +5

      May i *grips chancla* ASSIST you???

    • @Nobody-im2jh
      @Nobody-im2jh 3 года назад +5

      Ribbit. (Sorry, I just thought of frogs with the o)

    • @lightrayy
      @lightrayy 3 года назад

      It’s up to 33

  • @Elack_80
    @Elack_80 4 года назад +76

    I'm going to turn 13 in august and I have already came out to my parents three times, but they still think I'm too young or things like that but I'm tired of hiding who I am, so I asked my best friend to give a trans flag for my birthday and I don't care about what my parents say because they had a whole month to think about it since the third time I came out to them.

    • @natysart4189
      @natysart4189 4 года назад +15

      Youre so brave i hope evrything goes better you have all my support♥♡

    • @Jax16401
      @Jax16401 4 года назад +3

      CatGamer80 you have my support too :)

    • @confusedstrangedot2811
      @confusedstrangedot2811 3 года назад +2

      I give you my support :D

    • @budomk9299
      @budomk9299 3 года назад +3

      You have a lot more bravery than me. I hope you succeed

    • @newyearsday7304
      @newyearsday7304 3 года назад +1

      I know someone who's part of the LGBTQ+ community, I wish I were confident enough to come out to my parents.
      I intend on coming out to maybe a few close friends, but I'm moving soon... I don't know anymore.

  • @addim.3223
    @addim.3223 4 года назад +43

    I tried to come out but my dad said I was to young and and then I asked him when I could be 'old enough' and he said 20, so yeah

    • @mysteriousmerrow
      @mysteriousmerrow 4 года назад +14

      Find a good time to tell him again and say something along the lines of what you said last time and if he says again "You're too young" just tell him "Would I be too young to know I'm straight?"

    • @drwholover69
      @drwholover69 4 года назад

      im nine ;-;

    • @turnip8749
      @turnip8749 4 года назад +1

      Mermaid Drawz my friend actually did that and her parents pulled the ‘biology’ card on her

    • @mysteriousmerrow
      @mysteriousmerrow 4 года назад +1

      Hi I’m a dog Do you know what exactly they said to her?

    • @sussybaka2750
      @sussybaka2750 3 года назад +1

      All you gotta do is say I know more about myself than you do (insert mom or dad here)

  • @emily100.
    @emily100. 3 года назад +20

    As a 13 year old who has been questioning bisexuality for a year and a half this video was really helpful. I have already told my friends and classmates but I haven’t said a word to my family. Tysm for your channel it has helped me so much

    • @colemitchell6074
      @colemitchell6074 2 года назад

      That the sme with me but I am gay

    • @colemitchell6074
      @colemitchell6074 2 года назад

      Same sorry

    • @dougfoster445
      @dougfoster445 Год назад

      That’s cool! Just u are really young so don’t commit urself to a sexuality or even gender: allow urself to be a kid! I’m gay and 40. I knew I was gay when I was 5. But now days being lgb is a social status to some so just keep that in mind!

  • @xoduispurger5206
    @xoduispurger5206 4 года назад +22

    god i still remember coming out to my friends and family i was so scared. my mom thought at the time i was only coming out as bi because i just broke up with my ex, but i told her that i felt like this long time. took her little getting use to and most of friends just had questions

  • @Litteralydeleteyourself
    @Litteralydeleteyourself 4 года назад +68

    Heh let’s pretend that I’m actually gonna come out and not hide in the closet forever 😭

    • @avathequeenofhugs
      @avathequeenofhugs 3 года назад +5

      You just perfectly described me

    • @Idiot5nat
      @Idiot5nat 2 года назад +1

      @@avathequeenofhugs same

    • @Ashiscool0720
      @Ashiscool0720 9 месяцев назад

      I'm just gonna make someone do it for me...

  • @alsy6813
    @alsy6813 3 года назад +7

    I came out to mom without any preparation. I just -- told her, being stupidly happy and excited, that I am a boy. She called it unnatural, when I made her tell me her opinion. She also said that she was not surprised. For a few months, we didn't talk about it.
    I expected her to react differently, because -- well, she did always use the correct pronouns of my trans friend, after I explained her the science of being a trans. Because she called me a boy before.
    I still remember a dialogue we had, that cannot be translated into English with all the details. We discussed how I'd probably rather merry my female cousin than have a husband, and in Russian the word "marry" is different depending on whether you talk about getting a wife or a husband. She said it as if my sister was a husband; then, she corrected herself, "you'll get a wife. (pause.) Because you're a boy."
    It was obvious, in a sense, for both me and her. Still, when I came out to her, she called it unnatural and asked me to not talk about it.
    Months after, I brought it up again. I was talking about my friend and his experiences coming out to his parents as trans. I explained how they felt, and he felt... obviously, the conversation went to the topic of our family and my coming out. I explained my position. Told her I understand that it may be sudden and strange for her, but it is not for me. She said, it was and is. She needed time to process it, before and back then, too. She said, she hoped I would change my mind.She also said that it didn't matter what she thought, and that her opinion wouldn't change the fact that she loved me.
    I asked her if she would change her mind. "Maybe," she answered. "Perhaps, with time."
    Now I live alone in another city (renting a flat with my cousin, ha-ha), study in the university and only talk with my mother by phone. We don't talk about it. I use male pronouns (in Russian, it's impossible to talk without stating your gender, a constant reminder of who you are) when I talk with her.
    Sometimes, she repeats after me, and her voice sounds thoughtful and uncertain at times. It seems to happen more and more often.
    Perhaps, with time she'll get there. We'll get there.

  • @erin6439
    @erin6439 4 года назад +17

    XD I just came out to my sister as pan and she didn’t question it at all I love her too much lol she didn’t ask: “are you sure?” Or “isn’t that just Bi?” Or “oh, it might just be a phase.”
    She was super supported and she just knew that she shouldn’t tell any one but she is gonna help me with my parents

  • @jazington9028
    @jazington9028 4 года назад +35

    I came out to a small group of people at my school and idk who told other people but now my whole school knows that I'm gay.

    • @alaxiii0
      @alaxiii0 4 года назад +2

      Do they know you as a good person or someone weird?

    • @jazington9028
      @jazington9028 4 года назад +2

      Half and half

    • @mostlymo5103
      @mostlymo5103 4 года назад +2

      I did this too. My problem is the next time i go to school and if I get bullied for being gay I won’t have anybody to talk to. So I’m gonna tell my mom this summer

    • @River132
      @River132 2 года назад

      I'm very lucky, there a lot of LGBTQ+ kids in my school and most everyone supports except some homophobes.

  • @Koolaidstain
    @Koolaidstain 4 года назад +59

    Thx this is really helpful im trying to come out as omnisexual and it’s gonna be hard because a lot of people don’t know what that is and it’s kinda simple it’s just pansexual but your not gender blind lol

    • @MystFox1314
      @MystFox1314 4 года назад +6

      Thanks for explaining what it is

    • @leolion3323
      @leolion3323 4 года назад +12

      Omnisexuality is not very well known which is a bit sad but to be expected I guess, though I gotta say- it’s flag is one of my absolute favourites!
      I identified as omniromantic for a while but it just wasn’t right for me and that’s okay.
      I’m still questioning and boy oh boy it’s all very confusing. 😅
      Oh gosh sorry, I didn’t mean to go off on a little tangent like that

    • @archiemachen1959
      @archiemachen1959 4 года назад +3

      I'm panromantic and demisexual

    • @sam-uu8zp
      @sam-uu8zp 4 года назад +3

      Im pretty sure I'm omnisexual. I even tried my best to dress my royale high character (roblox) as the omnisexual flag

  • @charlieemily7319
    @charlieemily7319 3 года назад +14

    I just got an ad explaining pronouns and how to respect them! :D and it wasn’t stereotypical!! We’re making progress :)

  • @nettik3208
    @nettik3208 4 года назад +16

    This series has been helped me understand that even as a bisexual, I don't love men and women the same way, thanks

  • @annoyedkaren6726
    @annoyedkaren6726 4 года назад +33

    WHEN I DIDNT KNOW THAT ELLEN WAS A LESBIAN-

  • @vanissaberg5824
    @vanissaberg5824 3 года назад +6

    Your advice is greatly appreciated. I can see how this also applies to those of us who came out as atheist/non-religious to fundamentalist family and community. We're also ostracized and get disowned and threatened with homelessness when faced with family rejection. Some religious countries will even kill those who come out so it is actually dangerous to do so. I can empathize with how scary it can be to come out of any closet that is your identity.

  • @Xeven_Emerge
    @Xeven_Emerge 3 года назад +8

    when i was 8 i was lesbian without knowing and when i was 9 i found out and i told my friend and she was ok with it and the next day i said it becuase 1 of my class mates was shiping me with someone and i said: "i dont like boys" and he told the whole class room and i was really scared that everyone wont bee ok with it but, the whole class was ok with it. so if people hate ignore them and try too look at the bright side of life :)) and, happy pride month!

  • @Ava-vu2dx
    @Ava-vu2dx 4 года назад +11

    Thank you so much for posting this! It will really help me since I'm possibly coming out to my family this month! I'm so happy I found this channel! :)

    • @PoweredByRainbows
      @PoweredByRainbows  4 года назад +2

      You are so welcome! We have weekly episodes all year round. Also before you come out maybe check out our episode on what to prepare for after coming out too so you know what to expect after you tell them. ruclips.net/video/xReASV9W2Hw/видео.html

    • @Ava-vu2dx
      @Ava-vu2dx 4 года назад +1

      @@PoweredByRainbows Okay! Thanks so much again!

  • @Other_ace
    @Other_ace 4 года назад +14

    I'm thinking of showing my friend around lgbtq... *REALLY* hope she's accepting so I can come out and talk openly about my sexuality

  • @derpy_cosplays1758
    @derpy_cosplays1758 3 года назад +14

    I am trying to come out as demigirl and pansexual, this is very helpful to me, the only thing I'm worried about my twin, but I'm sure my family will be OK :)

  • @iyadraws
    @iyadraws 4 года назад +15

    Hello, I am from Turkey (15) and I recently decided to come out to my mom. I always try to test the waters and been doing the same for years and YEARS but just can't decide whether it is acceptable for her or not. She says she does not mind LGBTQ+ folks but she is supportive of being "normal". When I asked what normal meant she obviously replied with men being with women and women being with men. I know her thoughts on gay people, she is fine with it. Kinda. But when it comes to women of LGBTQ+ I have no idea. I have been bi ever since I entered middle school. I have seen people like me and some came out openly when middle school was ending and I was like- wow, the thing I am has a name for it? I never knew lmao. My mother and I went through a lot together. I try to be as supportive as possible of her but I think she may not be. A few years ago when we talked about this topic she said she would send me to therapy to try to "fix" me but then again it was a few years ago. I will try to teach her the labels in our community and would act according to her recent reaction. I think it is kinda safe to come out to her but this gamble is too much for me to take. I don't know what to do... Is this a good idea? because I am really tired of keeping thing from her.

    • @mirlo5109
      @mirlo5109 4 года назад +6

      You should probably find a way to check if her views on therapy have changed, because if they haven't it might be better to wait a few years until you're a legal adult, or until she changes her mind. Your safety is top priority. Do you know if she is aware of how ineffective and damaging conversion therapy can be?
      If you do decide to come out, as advised in the video, be sure to have a backup plan.
      As a fellow closeted individual, I wish you the best of luck in whatever path you decide to choose. Stay strong, and remember you're amazing just the way you are!

    • @eyebrows0408
      @eyebrows0408 2 года назад +2

      I relate to your story so much. I don't think I'll be able to come out to my mother anytime soon, but I'll wait until I get a bit older so I can live independently of my parent's judgement

    • @iyadraws
      @iyadraws 2 года назад

      @@mirlo5109 hello friend! Sorry I wasn't able to respond back for a while but i am doing well and my mother is actually very excepting of me. Took a while to get there but I did manage to tell her that I was a part of the lgbtq+ (didn't give much details lol) Ty for your kind message

    • @iyadraws
      @iyadraws 2 года назад +2

      @@eyebrows0408 that's definitely the smartest thing to do. I am 17 rn and even though my mom knows I am queer she doesn't know exactly where I stand rn. With families it can be sticky. The feeling of wanting to come out but can't is such a stressing thing and I know how good it feels to do so even if the person in front of you doesn't except you. Keep pushing for a few more years and you will be safe and sound buddy (◕‿◕✿)

    • @eyebrows0408
      @eyebrows0408 2 года назад

      @@iyadraws thank you youre so nice (always trust a kakyoin pfp)
      I wish you a lot of joy and support ~~

  • @humanposer6433
    @humanposer6433 4 года назад +10

    I was just sitting here watching assuming you had over a million subs, jeez you really deserve more veiws for this great vid.

  • @theslimeybois4696
    @theslimeybois4696 4 года назад +257

    Henlo noice person, havs noice life! ✌️

    • @KaiLally9009
      @KaiLally9009 4 года назад +12

      *no u*

    • @kazuhaluvr6151
      @kazuhaluvr6151 4 года назад +7

      𝘯𝘰 𝘶

    • @derpeepee
      @derpeepee 4 года назад +15

      Hi, I meant to like your comment but I accidentally disliked it so now I feel like I owe an apology. I'm very sorry.

    • @rottmnt.enthusiast
      @rottmnt.enthusiast 4 года назад +6

      *uno reverse card*

    • @mint_chan2474
      @mint_chan2474 4 года назад +5

      🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

  • @roberthrenko5466
    @roberthrenko5466 4 года назад +55

    3 dislikes: Donald trump, Mike pence and jk Rowling

    • @toocooltododrugspencil1691
      @toocooltododrugspencil1691 4 года назад +3

      Also other people too

    • @moondemonwolfix8633
      @moondemonwolfix8633 3 года назад +2

      They seem to have friends! 😳

    • @derekellis4170
      @derekellis4170 3 года назад +2

      The 17 others are the Daily Wire and Young America Foundation

    • @g.lucchio5660
      @g.lucchio5660 3 года назад +1

      And probably Jair Bolsonaro too

    • @derekellis4170
      @derekellis4170 3 года назад

      @@LeathurRokk If thats true I feel bad for them. With people who hate their communities but forced to put on a smile and speak out against themselves. Doesn't sound fun.

  • @jackthecat4266
    @jackthecat4266 4 года назад +13

    Thanks man! This is going to be very helpful when I come out as lesbian to my parents!

  • @ben_dover97
    @ben_dover97 3 года назад +1

    I'm so happy.
    i leaned in and had a gentle conversation with my aunt and i asked her
    what her opinion on the lgbtqa community was and she said she wasn't against us or supported us so taking that as a neutral response i flat out told her i was bisexual.
    she told me that she loved me and she had to call me to make sure it wasn't a prank by my older sister.
    that was the first time i actually talked to her in years so that makes me very happy knowing that she still loves me for me.
    and she respected me not wanting my dad to know.
    i deleted the entire text conversation so no one in my household can read the conversation we had.

  • @zoojahfan19
    @zoojahfan19 3 года назад +3

    Thank you!!! I am coming out of the closet today after church! Hopefully my parents are supportive and loving!!

    • @PoweredByRainbows
      @PoweredByRainbows  3 года назад

      You're welcome. We wish you the BEST of luck. But just in case they aren't supportive, please know you have our whole community here to support you and you're not alone.
      In case they have a religious debate for you, check out this episode where we prove being gay is not a sin in any major religion of the world: ruclips.net/video/UgrnvR3kgv4/видео.html&ab_channel=PoweredByRainbows
      In case they are homophobic or transphobic in other ways, check out this episode to learn how to deal with that hatred: ruclips.net/video/rG0oKDspVpY/видео.html&ab_channel=PoweredByRainbows
      And if you're coming out as trans or non-binary, learn that your gender is completely valid according to science so you can be ready for a scientific debate if you need here: ruclips.net/video/uLcIbjgnGlQ/видео.html&ab_channel=PoweredByRainbows

    • @zoojahfan19
      @zoojahfan19 3 года назад

      @@PoweredByRainbows :)

  • @user-ex4ih1us3u
    @user-ex4ih1us3u 4 года назад +16

    Love your videos! I've been out as a lesbian for over 4 years now but I was wondering if you could do a video about safe ways to meet potential partners?

  • @nikkipatterson8944
    @nikkipatterson8944 5 месяцев назад +1

    I have given it some thought. Even though I have discovered I am a lesbian, and my husband might be gay, I don't have to pursue a different relationship if I don't want to. I can still stay married. It doesn't make either of us completely unhappy. What's right for me, may not be right for someone else, but that's okay. I am a lot happier knowing the truth about myself!

  • @afellowweeb5152
    @afellowweeb5152 3 года назад +8

    This video has really helped me come to terms with my sexual orientation. I’ve finally accepted myself as Panromantic and Greysexual(when you rarely feel sexual attraction)! This has really helped with tips for later! I’m REALLY not ready to come out and I’m a little afraid of what the out come might be, because my step brothers like to make fun of the LGBTQ community and some people on my dads side of the family laughs with them. Plus, my step dad on my moms side just thinks it’s ridiculous. I just need to build up the courage to tell the people that I think will support me. And another thank you to this video for the immense help it has given me. ❤️🏳️‍🌈

  • @existingstillforgotten709
    @existingstillforgotten709 4 года назад +18

    Could you guys do a video about LGBTQ+ support groups countries outside of America( I think that is where you are based)? It’s hard to find that information for other countries, and you seem like you have reliable sources.
    This was a great video, and have a lovely day.

    • @CrumpetCraig
      @CrumpetCraig 4 года назад

      @Aeon Mason And the UK.

    • @warriorsclaws1943
      @warriorsclaws1943 4 года назад +4

      Minty Pie Love Ikr! In turkey we have no parades nor pride month. Parents dont tell their children about sexualities until the kid is an adult etc with makes me even more worried about coming out

  • @sourlilacs
    @sourlilacs 4 года назад +6

    amazing video
    and ill take that dr seuss quote for my coming out🏳️‍🌈🥰
    thank you so much for helping the lgbtq+ community and validating the members still inside the closet❤️💖

  • @AngstyRat
    @AngstyRat 4 года назад +10

    My sexuality: Asexual, homoromantic (I like girls and femme/androgynous NBs)
    My gender: I use she/her and they/them pronouns!

  • @iexist_thatsit
    @iexist_thatsit 2 года назад +4

    "They weren't cool enough to be invited anyway". One of the best quotes ever, I love itt.

  • @allieb.1006
    @allieb.1006 4 года назад +8

    This video was amazing! You have inspired me to try and start my own GSA club at my school! I haven’t proposed the idea to my school yet, but I hope I can start it! Your videos are helping me to find major/key things I would need to think about and talk over. Thanks again! 🏳️‍🌈❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

  • @KaiLally9009
    @KaiLally9009 4 года назад +3

    All your videos have all been uploaded right when I needed them thanks :)

  • @allium_fox404
    @allium_fox404 4 года назад +6

    I am another step closer to coming out to my parents because my friend sent me to this channel. 💖💜💙 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

  • @lightrayy
    @lightrayy 3 года назад +1

    I love the phrase invited to your party

  • @Jshdhfjfsrjjdjksj
    @Jshdhfjfsrjjdjksj 4 года назад +2

    # 30 made me feel good :) cuz i had a bad experience coming out to my parents (ftm) but after *almost 7 months,* they are starting to turn around...slowly. we're getting there.

  • @debmaddox3809
    @debmaddox3809 3 года назад +2

    Okay, I came out to my siblings and three friends... all very supportive. Thank you so much! :)
    Kind of a coincidence too, uh my sister was coming out to me as bisexual, and she was with a female once, nobody knew AT ALL, well, I am so happy she accepts me and LGBTQ!! Later, I came out to my other sister, she's Asexual, or straight she said, she accepts me shes just still younger and doesnt understand as much.. but, she likes the pro nouns "she, her". Thanks for all the help, you have helped me so much.

  • @onessadavis76
    @onessadavis76 3 года назад +2

    I'm literally crying I really need this

  • @9767Music
    @9767Music 3 года назад +1

    This: "testing the water" thing seems to be really helpful.

  • @N0tMune
    @N0tMune 4 года назад +10

    My moms current boyfriend uses the word gay as an insult, so I'm scared that if I come out to my mom, who has all ready said that she will support me before I even knew I was pan, she will tell her boyfriend. What should I do?
    Edit: I'm going to try to come out to my mom tomorrow and I'm kinda scared... wish me luck, I hope it goes well...

    • @hallemoji4094
      @hallemoji4094 4 года назад +1

      How’d it go?

    • @LemTheDemon
      @LemTheDemon 3 года назад

      I wonder how it went..?

    • @N0tMune
      @N0tMune 3 года назад

      @@LemTheDemon Not badly? I mean, my mom wont use my perfered pronouns, but she let me cut my hair and dress how I want to, so its a start?

  • @idk_what_im_doing_with_my_8406
    @idk_what_im_doing_with_my_8406 4 года назад +3

    I am now seeing you everywhere on my recommend and I don't have a problem with it!

  • @kai-yc2io
    @kai-yc2io 4 года назад +14

    As a closeted pansexual wanting-to-be trans male, I clicked faster than gay lightning when I saw this in my recommended

    • @archiemachen1959
      @archiemachen1959 4 года назад +4

      I'm a closeted panromantic and demisexual 11 year old
      I need help

    • @lisa101561
      @lisa101561 4 года назад +2

      Im a closeted pansextual reeeee

    • @StomachAcid
      @StomachAcid 3 года назад

      @@archiemachen1959 What do those words mean?

    • @settingsun5582
      @settingsun5582 3 года назад

      @Stomach Acid Panromantic means you like people romantically based on their personality, and I am pretty sure demisexual means you have to know someone for a good amount of time to have sexual relations with them. Hope to have helped!

  • @Planetary_Alignment
    @Planetary_Alignment 4 года назад +7

    I’m a little young but I know that I’m trans/non-binary. My sister is also pretty open about her sexuality so I’m able to ask her any questions that I have(she’s 23 btw). She told me that if I come out to my mom, she might try to “guilt” me out of it. And I already know that she’s not very accepting of trans people.
    Edit: A few months before I knew I was trans, my mom yelled at me because I didn’t want to wear a shirt that she bought for me. It was really feminine, and she knows that I don’t like clothes like that so now I’m really scared to come out to her.😣

    • @PoweredByRainbows
      @PoweredByRainbows  4 года назад +3

      If your mom is going to be transphobic then don’t come out to her. Don’t invite people to your party unless they will celebrate with you. At least until you have a safe place to stay away from your mom. Tell other people that will accept you and love you the same like it seems your sister is for you.

    • @Planetary_Alignment
      @Planetary_Alignment 4 года назад +2

      Powered By Rainbows Thanks for the advice! Im lucky enough to many supportive people around me, but I want my parents to support me too. Thankfully my sister can help me when I do come out to them and I’m very thankful for that. Thank you so much for giving me more confidence in myself. Your videos have helped a lot.😁🏳️‍🌈

  • @Kybalion868
    @Kybalion868 2 месяца назад +1

    So, I've been in the closet for 37 years, and I don't know how, but I've managed to get along with people who are homophobes. I know it doesn't make sense, but it is what it is. Lately, I feel like I have to come out for this reason: I cannot be friends with these people anymore. I'm thinking about doing it publicly on social media. I have anxiety thinking about it, but I believe I need to do it for my sake, even if it’s the scariest thing I can imagine. Thank you for the video.

  • @JezzabelleFILMS
    @JezzabelleFILMS 4 года назад +15

    This was truly insightful. Thank you so much. ♥️🏳️‍🌈♥️

  • @Axos_Abode
    @Axos_Abode 3 года назад +3

    If being LGBTQ+ was a choice, why would I not just choose to be straight and cis so I wouldn't face discrimination?

  • @Key_1111
    @Key_1111 Год назад

    The amount of support you got is absolutely amazing!! 💜💜

  • @taejkm
    @taejkm 2 года назад +2

    Im planning to come out as gay very soon cant wait and ill let you guys know how it goes!!!!

  • @ehehe7745
    @ehehe7745 4 года назад +1

    Thanks for this video! I feel a lot more comfortable about coming out as pansexual. I've tested the waters, and I know that my family supports the community.

  • @Veilexes
    @Veilexes 4 года назад +5

    I came out 3 years ago to my mom as lesbian or bisexual. She told to be straight from then on (I agreed bc agreeing doesn't change who i love). My mom, til this day, is mad at me for it.

    • @PoweredByRainbows
      @PoweredByRainbows  4 года назад +1

      I’m so sorry but you’re right, that doesn’t change who you love so someday she’ll have to accept you or accept the fact that she’s not invited to your wedding. So hopefully one day she’ll come around. Until then, you’re loved by so many here in the lgbtq and you’ll always be accepted here. Hugs 🤗

  • @humanbobb175
    @humanbobb175 4 года назад +4

    Thank you im going to come out to my friend today and you have helped so much
    Edit: It went really well! Thank you!!

    • @StomachAcid
      @StomachAcid 3 года назад +1

      Awesome!!!!!! Also, I really like your profile picture.

  • @casseroleee
    @casseroleee 3 года назад +1

    I’ve known since I was 11 just like many other people. At that time I had explored the internet and educated myself about how I didn’t have to find a prince someday. Many times before I have tried to come out but the same: “you’re too young” or “give men a change” speech has started. I’d be lying if I said I’m not scared to come out one day but this video is helping me warm up to the idea of doing it soon. Sure, things might not work out but I will always support myself. 😊

  • @Swifly_Norman
    @Swifly_Norman 3 года назад +3

    I going to come out to these boys that I’m non binary who aren’t exactly my friends but hang out close to my friends (at high school 🏫.)
    I’ve told one of them though a friend (who knows and is a closeted bi at school but no longer at home) messaging him. I get my friend to ask him questions like, “are your friends transphobic?” which according to him is no. And “what the best way for (my soon to be dead name) can tell them without being dramatic?” Which he doesn’t know how because he’s cis straight.
    All the boys know I’m bisexual (sometimes with the things I say they think I’m a lesbian but that’s only because I’m bi that liked way more girls than guys) and have nothing really against that. They say “that’s gay,” sometimes but they do have an openly gay friend.
    I might come out to the nicer ones first though, because it’s mentally exhausting pretending to be cis girl and make sure I don’t accidentally out myself.

  • @b3nnefits
    @b3nnefits 3 года назад +3

    I realised I was gay at 11 and came out to my older sisters at 12 knowing they would support me, one of my sisters kindly asked questions and my other sister is a big ally of the LGBTQIA+ community, she does a lot of research and corrects me with some things since I’m still a baby gay.

  • @janez6077
    @janez6077 3 года назад +2

    I feel like the most common reaction is disbelief. Usually, when you finally figure everything out, you’re young. They’ll think it’s just a phase. They don’t understand.

  • @NatFloofer
    @NatFloofer 2 года назад +1

    This was so useful to me! I've already came out to my friends and a cousin, and I'm hoping to break it to my parents sometime next year!

  • @acedracona8863
    @acedracona8863 4 года назад +6

    When he said that your label might change, I was just like "Very much truth" as my label has changed about 10 times in the last year

  • @Michelle7-n4k
    @Michelle7-n4k 6 месяцев назад

    I just came out as a lesbian yesterday to my best friend and my children. The most terrifying moments of my life to date. Full blown cold sweats panic. And almost not being able to speak. Only for them all to say, “ Aaawww man that’s it?” My friend said from the way I was acting she thought I may have offed someone. She said I had her truly frightened. 😅 I on the other hand was so relieved I burst out into tears. It was such a heavy burden lifted up off of my soul. What a relief.❤🎉

  • @sussybaka2750
    @sussybaka2750 3 года назад +3

    Honestly having a trans bro has made me feel better about myself being in lgbtq+

  • @naturewarrior5548
    @naturewarrior5548 4 года назад +3

    I have a tip on coming out (though this may or may not work because I just thought of it): Come our on April Fool’s Day so that if your family seems to not be accepting you can abort mission with saying April Fool’s. However plan out how you are going to display emotion as part of the “prank” and learn to control them just in case (you don’t wanna show fear after saying April Fool’s because then they may realize you’re not joking, especially if who you are telling is intelligent with body language and god forbid psychology)

  • @simply.n0.0ne18
    @simply.n0.0ne18 4 года назад +4

    Thanks for that great Video and a lot of love from Germany 😉

    • @PoweredByRainbows
      @PoweredByRainbows  3 года назад

      Thank you for being here and love right back to Germany! Much love ❤️ and rainbows 🏳️‍🌈, Professor Pride

  • @gerard.ways.husband
    @gerard.ways.husband 3 года назад +3

    I am an 11 year old bisexual and I'm really confused about when and if I should come out to my dad. He doesn't seem homophobic, but he has also implied that he thinks kids who identify as an LGBTQIA+ identity are just trying to get attention, and kids cant really fall in love or have orientations and stuff like that. Also, I said I don't think he's homophobic, but for some reason he seems like the kind of person who would think bisexuals dont exist or are just confused or something. Its weird, he's never said anything to make me think he believes that, it just seems like he would for some reason. I'm scared to come out to my father, but he's my so I feel obliged too, and I KNOW that if I told my mom (who I know would be accepting of me), she would tell my dad anyway. I don't want to cause tension in my own house by being outwardly bi, and I know it wouldn't be my fault, but it still wouldn't happen if I never came out. I mean, I kind of came out to my 5 year old brother by saying "hey Alex, I'm bisexual." and then walking away. I dont think he even knew what bisexual was. I dont think that counted hehe. Anyway, any advice to coming out to my parents?

    • @junkoenoshima2756
      @junkoenoshima2756 3 года назад

      12 year old here I recommend you casually mention it to your mom so she can tell your dad trust me it's less scary that way

    • @gerard.ways.husband
      @gerard.ways.husband 3 года назад +1

      @@junkoenoshima2756 Thanks. I think thats what i'll do when I'm ready. I might wait a while to test the waters with my dad a bit more though. I've been trying to convince him that kids can have their own sexualitites and gender identities outside of straight and cisgender and i'm not too young to know i'm bi

  • @vanitoes
    @vanitoes 4 года назад +33

    hehehehe… i wish (;ω;)

  • @kaycee5796
    @kaycee5796 4 года назад +5

    these tips were helpful thanks for making them !

  • @ky23.01
    @ky23.01 4 года назад +5

    My dad walked into my room while I was watching this and I wasn’t wearing earbuds and I’m not ready to come out yet bc I’m not 100% sure I’m bi yet (but i think I’m just scared ppl won’t accept me) and he thankfully didn’t see or hear the video

  • @AJFlo-gi8vx
    @AJFlo-gi8vx 4 года назад +10

    I came out during my salutatorian speech it was rough.

    • @kijones8883
      @kijones8883 4 года назад +7

      That is a very brave way

  • @themagicalmess4742
    @themagicalmess4742 3 года назад +5

    I think it's important that people should know that someone could come out as one sexuality\gender identity and then realize it is incorrect. Like, someone could first come out as bisexual, and then realize they are gay later on. It doesn't mean that we are deciding and it is a choice, it means that they haven't realized their identity yet.

  • @itz_cloudzyskye
    @itz_cloudzyskye 2 года назад

    "You are perfect in any way being you true self, and you deserve to be accepted woth open arms, care and love."
    Thank you!!! That means a lot and is very nice of you. I believe everyone deserves to be accepted for who they are. 😊

  • @thewrongalice7221
    @thewrongalice7221 4 года назад +9

    So he said 10% of my home town. I think most of that 10% is in class. Most of my class is LGBTQ+. You know how they say one person in every friend group is LGBTQ+? My friend group (about 8 people) has one person who isn't LGBTQ+. She's a dope ally though.

  • @DarkHillsHound
    @DarkHillsHound Год назад +1

    I just started coming out this year at 31, I've spent the last 20 years hiding it. One of my aunts, my sister, and a lot of my first cousins know so far. My dad and uncles are gonna be a bit tougher.

  • @somebody31415
    @somebody31415 3 года назад

    Everything about your channel is amazing! You help me with my own personal growth

  • @razberrypi
    @razberrypi 11 месяцев назад +1

    As a bisexual, I can confirm we will always be stand 'bi' you.

  • @jacquelineduarte
    @jacquelineduarte 3 года назад +3

    I texted my sister and told her I'm asexual just a text and she said "you be you" and my sister in law just asked me "what's all the stuff you're posting on Facebook do you identify as asexual?" and I was like "yeah" and she was like "what is that? I know a few about it but I don't understand much of it" so I explained it to her and she kind of got it my brother already knew about asexuality so he told my sister in law more about it I haven't told my parents my dad is anti lgbtq my mum had a gay cousin that died from aids she's more open to it so she'll be cool with it.

  • @mad_6519
    @mad_6519 3 года назад +3

    "- and she seems like such a nice woman"
    aged like milk

  • @overdramaticpan
    @overdramaticpan 2 года назад

    I'm currently questioning and this (albeit indirectly) is helping me reach a conclusion. Thanks!

  • @Thvyunderstorm
    @Thvyunderstorm Год назад +1

    I am wearing a flag in a video game and one friend of me who i luckily didn't know well was super transphobic and homophobic. After i told him that i'll not be friend with him anymore he said something like "Good, because i don't want to be friend with a gay guy" . I'm not even gay but thats show's how little they know about the ppl they are harassing.

  • @River132
    @River132 2 года назад +1

    I feel very lucky because at my school we have a safespace club for lgbtq+ and Allie’s and I have many lgbtq+ classmates. I’m planning on coming out to my parents soon.

  • @vanessafaith32
    @vanessafaith32 4 года назад +2

    I'm 14 now, and originally the only thing I knew was straight. I just assumed I was straight, and since I was attracted to guys it made sense. This past year I've realized that I'm attracted to more than just guys, and now I'm a closeted bisexual. I don't feel safe coming out in my home because my parents are very homophobic, but I am celebrating pride from the sidelines!

  • @moon.liixght6772
    @moon.liixght6772 4 года назад +15

    🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

  • @smokesignals3953
    @smokesignals3953 4 года назад +4

    This was really amazing thank you so so much

    • @natysart4189
      @natysart4189 4 года назад

      I love your user picture its really beutiful ♥♥♥♡♡♡

  • @_TheHorrorFanatic
    @_TheHorrorFanatic 3 года назад +3

    13 and Asexual and Aromantic 🖤🤍💜 💚🤍🖤 Don't let anyone stop you or tell you who to be 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

  • @imbored6135
    @imbored6135 2 года назад

    When he said "if you're 11" I was just so shocked because I am 11 and I keep on thinking I have no place in this community because so many people tell me I'm confused, but I can't help who i like and i keep hoping I'll grow out of it, but listening to this video was just so comforting and I'm so shocked but also happy, thank you so much!

    • @PoweredByRainbows
      @PoweredByRainbows  2 года назад +1

      Of course you have a place in our community. You will ALWAYS be accepted by our show, our friends, and the LGBTQ community. Much love and rainbows, Professor Pride.

  • @thehiddencreator9019
    @thehiddencreator9019 3 года назад +1

    My friend was inviting people to my party. He didn't realize it wasn't okay at the time, and he apologized. I didn't really mind because I had invited everyone to my party a few months ago. He said he wouldn't tell anyone without permission again.

  • @acedracona8863
    @acedracona8863 4 года назад +1

    who dared to dislike this beautiful video