What to Prepare for After Coming Out

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  • Опубликовано: 4 ноя 2024

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  • @PoweredByRainbows
    @PoweredByRainbows  Год назад

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  • @leytpdipooperman8733
    @leytpdipooperman8733 4 года назад +159

    “When u come out u feel more sexually active”
    Well I’m asexual but I think it’s real to me too because if u multiply 0 it’s still 0.

    • @leytpdipooperman8733
      @leytpdipooperman8733 4 года назад +4

      Astrie_Weirdo_Chan U don’t have to come out, u can choose the right moment.

    • @justaroacethings1701
      @justaroacethings1701 4 года назад +11

      Yeah I'm not out either

    • @novaplayz8820
      @novaplayz8820 3 года назад +9

      I'm still questioning, but I'm pretty sure I'm Asexual and Aromantic. I'm scared because LGTBQ+ is rarely brought up in my family, unless someone brings up my gay uncle. I haven't really pushed past asking which side of the family I'm related to him or not (my family is big. I have cousins, aunts, uncle's, etc that I haven't met in all my almost-fourteen years of life) so I dont know how everyone else feels about it.

    • @bigbassfox4268
      @bigbassfox4268 3 года назад +2

      I'm a pan romantic ace, but still in the closet, because my dad isn't very accepting.

    • @noahtherandomsatanist6423
      @noahtherandomsatanist6423 3 года назад +1

      -0???

  • @single4everpersonokay425
    @single4everpersonokay425 4 года назад +98

    I'm planning to come out to my mom on being a Lesbian, I'm preparing myself with this video and it's a huge help thank you^^

    • @mo0nflowersart
      @mo0nflowersart 3 года назад +3

      Hopefully you came out!!! It's really stressful at first, but after coming out, you feel wonderful.

    • @dancurry1623
      @dancurry1623 2 года назад +4

      I know it’s a year old, but good luck ❤️

    • @lightrayy
      @lightrayy 2 года назад +3

      Did you come out ? If you did , how did it go and if not , good luck when you do

  • @alexnagy6027
    @alexnagy6027 4 года назад +75

    i am a 14 year old pansexual. I told my mom about it and she said, that its only because of the hormones. But after she said that either way she accepts me. These videos helped me a lot! Thank you!!! (also im sorry if the grammar is bad but i am from Hungary)

    • @Eztia-312
      @Eztia-312 4 года назад +7

      Panna Nagy I’m happy for you!! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 Happy. Pride month ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 and about you’re mom maybe she needs more time to deal with it. Keep reminding her that your sexuality hasn’t changed since the last you told her and this isn’t some kind of phase or too much hormones all over the place (since you’re a teenager)

    • @petraszucs8703
      @petraszucs8703 3 года назад +9

      Also from Hungary. Came out to my mom at 15 as panromantic. She was understanding but said the same thing. She needed time to process it so things eventually become better(after 2 years). Now she is supporting me and I am currently starting a GSA club in my high school. You need to know that I am really happy for you. Although she might think it is a phase things will get better. Let it sit for some time and bring it up again. Be brave and be who you want to be. Love from a hungarian fellow. Tudom a helyzet itthon nem igazán jó, de reménykedem benne, hogy egyszer itt is az lehetek aki szeretnék és itt is szerethetek azt akit szeretnék és neked is ugyanezt kívánom. Tudd, hogy segítséget mindig kaphatsz és sosem vagy egyedül.

    • @icel8828
      @icel8828 3 года назад +4

      Your English is good

    • @somebodylikesbacon1960
      @somebodylikesbacon1960 3 года назад +9

      "Because hormones" is used to invalidate teens for anything, but it'll sure be fun to say because hormones to a transphobe when they ask how a trans woman is more like a cis woman than a cis man.

    • @imkingnoobuwu4326
      @imkingnoobuwu4326 3 года назад

      You know what they say
      HORMONES RULE THE WORLD

  • @craftterry9596
    @craftterry9596 4 года назад +55

    Woah, I just realised
    1. This video came out two years ago, and people are still commenting on it
    2. The creator is still acknowledging them, which is super cool-
    Anyway I've been thinking about coming out to one or two of my friends as trans but im worried they won't accept me, mostly because I remember once a couple years ago telling my friend I might be trans and hearing her respond like "no you arent" basically saying "you can't be trans, you don't seem trans to me"

    • @PoweredByRainbows
      @PoweredByRainbows  4 года назад +17

      Of course I would acknowledge you because you're a valid person and you deserve that. Also, this video updated here might help you more: ruclips.net/video/WlaaUGbw8mM/видео.html

    • @thatoneartsykid6949
      @thatoneartsykid6949 2 года назад

      Ik! Pbr are so great and I love this channel!

  • @-blotches-3365
    @-blotches-3365 4 года назад +25

    I just wanted to say that this channel has been really comforting to me. I'm bisexual but I'm struggling to come out because whenever I mention the fact that I'm attracted to boys and girls, my parents are always like "it's fine if that's how you turn out, but you won't be sure until you're older". And even though I understand where they're coming from with that statement, it's kinda tricky to know when they're going to take it seriously because I'm already 15 and I had my first crush on a girl 4 years ago (although obviously I didn't tell them that at the time). It's a bit frustrating because even though they're not opposed to the idea of me being LGBTQ, they don't seem to think it's relevant yet. So yeah, I just don't know when to start using the term bisexual with them, cause I want that word to be the official "this is who I am, it's not a phase".

  • @icel8828
    @icel8828 3 года назад +20

    Ironically. When I came out I felt like I should’ve waited longer

  • @kaycee5796
    @kaycee5796 4 года назад +32

    this tip video helped me prepare for coming out to my friends! thank’s for making it!!!

  • @mo0nflowersart
    @mo0nflowersart 3 года назад +12

    I am 17 years old, and lesbian, and came out around two years ago. I feel great, although I wish I came out sooner, like when I was 14. I am so happy I came out, and encourage anyone to come out. Thank you for making this video!! It really helped me a lot!

  • @quartzzzz8751
    @quartzzzz8751 5 лет назад +16

    Oh thanks! Im planing to come out to my grandma! Thanks a lot! :3

    • @PoweredByRainbows
      @PoweredByRainbows  5 лет назад +7

      Gacha_girl 129875 No problem! Glad this video can help you!

  • @AngxlGxre
    @AngxlGxre 4 года назад +24

    I’m Planning To come out to my dad that I’m Bisexual and Bigender when it’s my 12 birthday. I already made a coming out drawing for him. Ima be explaining everything I know learned from your videos and others who taught me more about the LGBTQ community. I knew there was more but never knew how much. My dad loves and accepts the community, just that I don’t know how he will react. ( also my birthday is October 5th, so wish me luck 😭😅☺️❤️)

    • @PoweredByRainbows
      @PoweredByRainbows  4 года назад +11

      Awe of course we wish you the best of rainbow luck! Please come back and tell us how it goes because, if it goes well, I love to hear those stories. If it doesn't go well, we're always, always, always here for you!

    • @AngxlGxre
      @AngxlGxre 4 года назад +12

      @@PoweredByRainbows I came out to my dad Yesterday since I didn’t want to wait and he accepted me! He explain to me he’s only mad if I don’t sleep, shower etc. he accepted my sexuality and Gender identity! ^^

    • @-blotches-3365
      @-blotches-3365 4 года назад +8

      @@AngxlGxre that's wonderful! Congratulations 🎉

    • @Simplifried
      @Simplifried 3 года назад +7

      @@AngxlGxre
      ah yes, the worst crime:
      insomnia

  • @DragonFury-mg9pp
    @DragonFury-mg9pp 3 года назад +9

    So when I’m anxious I start rambling and going on tangents so when I came out to my mom she immediately knew that something wasn’t right and then I told her
    I’m bi

  • @theaterkiduwu4974
    @theaterkiduwu4974 4 года назад +17

    I just came out! I’m 10, and I knew I didn’t like guys when I was like 7

    • @thecaregiver5067
      @thecaregiver5067 3 года назад +3

      Omg I'm so happy for you! I'm 16 and I came out to my friends and it really feels great!😁

    • @ElainesMakingVids
      @ElainesMakingVids 3 года назад +1

      I’m kind of your age but i just tested the waters and i think i will come out after 1 month of high school

    • @lara-ch5qc
      @lara-ch5qc 3 года назад +4

      Good for you! You're very lucky to have figured out your sexuality at a young age!

  • @Person-th6rv
    @Person-th6rv 3 года назад +21

    My parents response to me coming out was basically 'no'.
    "Only Trans people can be Bisexual its genetically proven" I don't even know how they got that
    "You'll regret saying that, all your friends will leave" Actually my best friend and I became better friends
    "You can't be Bi, you like boys!" I don't think they understood what bisexual means
    "Its the hormones and the video games!" Sure
    Anyway my new plan is when/if I get a girlfriend they can either realize how misinformed they are or they can suck it. Either way they promised they'll love me so in the end I don't care.
    But its also why I love educational RUclips channels like this so I don't fall into the same traps my parents did and be miserable forever

    • @PoweredByRainbows
      @PoweredByRainbows  3 года назад +9

      Yeah your parents are horribly ill informed. Sounds like they can use our videos more than you. But I’m glad we can be here to support you and show you how valid you are.

    • @Person-th6rv
      @Person-th6rv 3 года назад

      @@PoweredByRainbows :)

  • @sourpickle505
    @sourpickle505 2 года назад +1

    Bless everyone so brave to come out.

  • @inigo8740
    @inigo8740 3 года назад +6

    Wow, these comments make me feel so old. I'm 18 and only figured myself out this year, I wish I had known earlier like the kids in these comments. I guess every kernel pops at it's time, but it may have been nicer to pop earlier.

  • @ezkayqed_
    @ezkayqed_ 2 года назад +1

    Yesterday I wrote a coming out letter (trans) and I slid it under my mums door while she was downstairs and then went to bed. I'm currently having over whelming anxiety as it is the day after and I'm in the living room, I'm dreading when my parents come downstairs and I have to talk to them about it. These videos are helping, so thank you.

  • @marissagrier1402
    @marissagrier1402 4 года назад +13

    I came out to my friends today at 13. But there is no way I'm telling my parents anytime soon

    • @PoweredByRainbows
      @PoweredByRainbows  4 года назад +5

      I hope your friend is accepting. And it's ok to wait to invite your parents to your celebration.

    • @marissagrier1402
      @marissagrier1402 4 года назад +6

      My friends were super accepting and the reason I felt comfortable was because one of them is bi and they are all super supportive. She actually came out to me first because she needed help and I was the most approachable to her

  • @KawaiiCat2
    @KawaiiCat2 4 года назад +8

    To all who is wondering. I came out to myself, no one else yet and yes these things still happened.....

  • @Simplifried
    @Simplifried 3 года назад +15

    I have a friend who is LGBTQ+ so I have a really good way to come out to my mom lol
    “hey mom, are you ok with me hanging out with [LGBTQ+ friend]?”
    (expected and highly likely response) “yeah that’s fine, why do you ask?”
    “oh, I just wanted to make sure it was ok with [LGBTQ+ friend] being LGBTQ+. y’know, just to make sure you aren’t a bad person”
    “ok then [my name]!”
    “oh and also I’m [my sexuality]”
    “cool”
    “wait *wut* “

  • @Notmelol.
    @Notmelol. 4 года назад +22

    When he said "it's like me saying me and my girlfriend are going out" my brain had a 😕😮😯😅 moment. I think I've been spending a bit too much time watching the gays that I almost forgot the straights existed😂

    • @Simplifried
      @Simplifried 3 года назад +1

      just one of the moments where it’s like:
      _oh yeah, right_

  • @elissadeannashorts
    @elissadeannashorts 2 года назад +3

    I was so far in the closet I was in denial about myself. I have moments when I think of something I would do and in my head I just go "how did I not know".

  • @hannahsparks4964
    @hannahsparks4964 4 года назад +9

    I’m almost 13 and I’m already out to 3 people. My family is not supportive of lgbtq+ community so I’m not out to them yet and won’t be for years. I’m greatful that I have the best friend that I do. I know if I ever get into a bad situation I can either go to his house if my parents would find out I’m bi and freak out. Or I can call his mom. She would understand on a personal level since she’s bi. My best friend is straight but he’s and ally. And so is his gf so she’s another person I’m out to. I’m friends with her. I’m pretty sure most of my friends would accept me, but I’m scared. And my family is so complicated because it has tons of conservative people (my parents, etc..), and liberal people. I’m liberal, but it’s difficult arguing with my parents about gay rights without them being suspicious. I’m pretty sure they’re not. But idk. I’m hanging out with a different friend tomorrow and I’m going to try to figure out if they are ok with people being not straigh. Although I’m pretty sure she is because the last time we hung out we were watching tik toks on her phone and there was one of guessing which of the three siblings is straight. And she was about to scroll but I was like, “wait I’m trying to figure it out”. And she also started trying to too. So I think if she was bothered by that she would have gotten mad and scrolled. But I’m going to try and drop more hints tomorrow. I’m going to dress like all of the bi stereotypes, and probably straight up ask her about her thoughts. I hope it goes well. If it does i might tell her.

  • @arid8968
    @arid8968 3 года назад +7

    I really need this because my mum knows I'm lesbian/pansexual and so does my step dad and my grandma (from my step dads side) but my dad doesn't know yet and no one but my sister and one cousin know that I'm nonbinary and I need help on coming out, but mostly as nonbinary so thank you!

  • @randomperson4358
    @randomperson4358 3 года назад +9

    This video is helping give me confidence to come out as bisexual and non-binary to my mom, (my bff and brother already know) but I'm still nervous, but I have been planning this for a while, so, here goes nothing! 😓 😊

  • @CanadaSlasherX
    @CanadaSlasherX 2 года назад +5

    "you're gonna be dating a lot more" yeah, no I didn't get more dates when I came out as bi, just people saying "so you're gay"

  • @3N3NAmI
    @3N3NAmI 3 года назад +6

    I'm coming out as agender and I am scared but kinda confident because of this video.

    • @PoweredByRainbows
      @PoweredByRainbows  3 года назад +2

      No matter what, please know we support you and we’ll always be here for you. Much love ❤️ and rainbows 🏳️‍🌈, Professor Pride

  • @GustavoGomes-nn5np
    @GustavoGomes-nn5np 2 года назад +3

    Excited for coming out, i've been planning to come out 10th of may

    • @PoweredByRainbows
      @PoweredByRainbows  2 года назад +2

      Good luck and let us know how it goes. Much love ❤️ and rainbows 🏳️‍🌈, Professor Pride

  • @nettik3208
    @nettik3208 4 года назад +10

    I'm 10, but I think I'm gonna come out at 11-12 my parents sometimes say bad things about my sisters lgbt friends but I think it's a joke but they seem pretty supportive otherwise

    • @lover5888
      @lover5888 4 года назад +4

      Awh same.. I am 10 too and i also think I will come out around 11-12. i am nervous though.. i already know my family is homophobic because our religion is against it... no, i am not Christian and Christianity isn't against lgbtq+ so...:( I might come out right before I go into a plane and leave to university. I'm not sure... i might be I the closet foreve.r. If you ever need help I could try and help :) and maybe we could be friends? 😅

    • @nettik3208
      @nettik3208 4 года назад +3

      @@lover5888 Sure! Nothing wrong with being lesbian, gay, bi, trans or anything! You should watch their vid on "is gay a sin" It's rlly helpful! Have a good day and remember that you are loved

    • @lover5888
      @lover5888 4 года назад +3

      @@nettik3208 I did watch it and thank you! ♡

    • @nettik3208
      @nettik3208 4 года назад +2

      @@lover5888 No problem! ♡

    • @uhmmaya
      @uhmmaya 4 года назад +2

      I’m 10 (11 in October) and I’ve been bisexual for about two and a half years now. My sisters,brothers, and cousins know but I’m too nervous to tell my step parents. I have a “girlfriend?” You could say. I think I’ll come out when I’m 11, 12, or 13. I’m nervous because my step dad is Nigerian and in Nigeria gay marriage isn’t legal yet...

  • @ben_dover97
    @ben_dover97 3 года назад +1

    I'm not out yet to everyone but I'm getting closer everyday.
    a couple minutes ago i told my aunt give it time and i can tell my mom and my sisters.
    i will most likely leave my church out of it but once and if my dad ever knows i can call myself truly out of the closet.

  • @samanthagibson5791
    @samanthagibson5791 2 года назад +3

    I actually came out in my 20s and I dont regret coming out sooner as I couldn't. I didnt know what I was till my 20s as I'm ace, and I didnt know that was a thing till then. Before that I mentally labelled myself weird, but didnt say anything. I told a gay co-worker first, as I assumed he'd be accepting (he was). But then I told my sister when she came home from Uni. I knew she was the first family member I wanted to know, and I wanted to tell her in person, so when she next came home I told her. So I dont have that regret, but I do regret it took me that long to know what I am. So now I tell everyone I work with to do my small part to raise awareness. This has led me to now be the first co-worker my closeted NB co-worker has come out to. I'm trying to be supportive, but any tips. I'm not NB, and I don't know anyone else who is, I want to support them as best I can

  • @moonhead538
    @moonhead538 8 месяцев назад

    I came out when I was 24. I didn't even know I was gay, but i personally don't feel any regret not realizing that sooner. I feel like it was all perfect timing for me. Everything happens for a reason.

  • @whisperspirit5875
    @whisperspirit5875 2 года назад

    Was watching the video and decided to share my experiences with coming out in relation to the points you mentioned (I'm Bisexual and Genderfluid)
    1. Wishing you came out sooner
    I came out to my family as soon as i knew both times and was accepted immediately (my oldest sister had already come out as Trans and Asexual)
    2. Dating rollercoaster
    I still haven't dated anyone
    3. Lots more sexual jokes
    I didn't really start making more sex jokes but I did make more jokes about my gender (especially when I'm
    Bi-gender)
    4. More desire
    I haven't had sex
    5. Things become normal
    It hasn't been even a year since I came out (either as Bi or Genderfluid) so I can't say much about this

  • @noel4907
    @noel4907 3 года назад +2

    I actually did make a lot of jokes with my friends about my sexuality and gender BEFORE I officialy came out. More so with my sexuality than my gender. My friends knew I was not a heterosexual before I came out. Sadly, I have not had a lot of chances to make more of these jokes yet.

  • @theblisspanda
    @theblisspanda 5 месяцев назад

    I definitely hear u on wishing to come out sooner i especially regret pushing the lgbtq+ community away for so long i could have used their help instead of becoming my dad definitely regret feeling and being blind willfully hate is a choice not ur feelings ❤

  • @Mangothewolfbat-bf9pt
    @Mangothewolfbat-bf9pt 11 месяцев назад

    I'm coming out to my mom next month as nonbinary this helped some thank you

  • @rebeccapanella5862
    @rebeccapanella5862 3 года назад +2

    When coming out to extended family is having a partner necessary? Thank you for the information

  • @cloudyskies9591
    @cloudyskies9591 2 года назад +1

    So I had to come out to my mom cause see was looking through my phone and gonna see my insta anyways she told me Im probably confused and she still loves me and asked if I was a boy-. It was just not fun I regret it so much but at the moment I couldn't stop it it had to happen it just had to cause it would have happened anyways.

  • @paulmiller6647
    @paulmiller6647 2 года назад

    Great video

  • @bradbowlamma3039
    @bradbowlamma3039 2 года назад +2

    you mentioned alot of people wait till their 20's to come out... I'm in my 30's and I'm not out to my family (homophobic preachers) I did manage to come to a few select friends and crews... but it's only when I'm sure they'd be cool with it... lots of homophobia in my country

  • @LooganStuffs
    @LooganStuffs 2 года назад +2

    Im scared to come out bc my parents think lgbtq is just fake and a stupid trend

  • @trishbidweptomshkodeosterh3885
    @trishbidweptomshkodeosterh3885 2 года назад

    I wasn't prepared for so much acceptance from my friends. I was prepared for non acceptance from the side of my family I grew up with. But my dad and his side mostly accept me. My mom was a very judgemental Christian lady. My real dad told me he'd rather have a trans kid than a dead kid. We have a cousin that committed suicide because of non acceptance of being gay. Lgbtq folk run strong in my fam.

  • @charleskesling4477
    @charleskesling4477 2 года назад

    I came out to my mom as a trans woman and she's been forcing me to live with her ever since even if I leave she'll stop at nothing to find me . I know I will be able to transition in the future when I'm in my 50s but that would leave me much time to find love

  • @wyattsomething9780
    @wyattsomething9780 2 года назад

    Fellow aces watching this ( 5:47 ) ya I don’t want to be straight ether

  • @inksans4254
    @inksans4254 3 года назад +3

    *is a demisexual, demiromantic, trans dude*
    this is interesting

  • @barrianic4
    @barrianic4 11 месяцев назад

    i wish you a merry christmas unless you are transphobic or homophobic

  • @genderfluidtiktok6527
    @genderfluidtiktok6527 2 года назад

    I’m so excited, I’m planning on coming out within the next 3 weeks, I’ve. Ought a Genderflux flag

  • @storm_9310
    @storm_9310 3 года назад +2

    Oh Jesus that shirt didn't age well at all 😅