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  • @StoicTraining
    @StoicTraining  Месяц назад +154

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    • @abderrahim6423
      @abderrahim6423 Месяц назад

      I don't siscrib and don't share your vidéo because this musique who disturbs us and not let us to focus on the topic..
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    • @elvispresley8217
      @elvispresley8217 Месяц назад +1

      Great video

    • @KimCarter-pd5lk
      @KimCarter-pd5lk Месяц назад +2

      They hate me because my Angels irritate their demons.

    • @marie-lourdesjean-gilles7010
      @marie-lourdesjean-gilles7010 Месяц назад

      😀me too…

    • @mariaquiroz185
      @mariaquiroz185 Месяц назад

      TALK IN SPANISH PLEASE

  • @ShaneToler-z3y
    @ShaneToler-z3y Месяц назад +463

    People who talk behind your back are behind you for a reason.

  • @MarinaVaggas
    @MarinaVaggas Месяц назад +163

    I don’t really care if people hate me as long as I’m not hurting anyone, I will do whatever makes me happy and enjoy ❤

    • @xge555
      @xge555 Месяц назад

      Whoa.......that describes a psychopath or sociopath. But I know your happiness is working for you.

    • @tupakkaonhyvaa
      @tupakkaonhyvaa Месяц назад +2

      Same, I have just observed it to be the case, but I don't give a s***.

    • @deliaguajardo5073
      @deliaguajardo5073 26 дней назад +1

      We just need to stay away from that kind of people with no explanation! I realize at some point in my life ,that one more o less person in my life doesn't make any difference!

    • @OnlybyGrace-e57
      @OnlybyGrace-e57 23 дня назад +2

      @@xge555how is that a sociopath?

    • @cyphlone3306
      @cyphlone3306 14 дней назад

      How? Its just being stoic​@@xge555

  • @alicearcturus8610
    @alicearcturus8610 Месяц назад +545

    I'm 69. I never stopped dressing as a punk rocker gear head. I have always loved electronic music, loud. I'm not stupid. I live alone now and couldn't be happier about it. Wish I never married. I keep myself in shape and good health except for arthritis but I stand tall, not letting it pull me down. I stopped caring what people think and it is a good thing. On the back of my studded blue Jean jacket it says, "stay weird". People want you to do what they do. Boring and you get old fast. I feel better about myself now that I ever have. Needless to say I am a loner. I have my pets and they love me the way I am. My goal in life is kindness to everything. To bad that isn't appreciated more.

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад +46

      I am so glad to hear from you. To me, you are enjoying your life. Keep being you. Wishing you good health and all the best. ❤❤❤

    • @ElizzzaB
      @ElizzzaB Месяц назад +4

      It was a great time in your life. Many recall same even from different eras....if you get them reminiscing about it.

    • @dibzr8281
      @dibzr8281 Месяц назад +19

      Kindness IS appreciated, Alice. By those who count. I love to bake cakes for people and my jealous flatmate reckons that I bake cakes to "buy" into favour because no-one likes me. Yes, he said this. He's moving out. I poked the bear to make him give me his notice, and he did exactly what I wanted him to do.

    • @S.T.-mb6jk
      @S.T.-mb6jk Месяц назад +13

      just be the best of yourself and be happy

    • @ElizzzaB
      @ElizzzaB Месяц назад +2

      ​@@dibzr8281 Because that's what he does?

  • @sharonanderson6926
    @sharonanderson6926 Месяц назад +365

    Envy and Jealousy is number one

    • @WisdomWorldGuide
      @WisdomWorldGuide Месяц назад +20

      Exactly 💯

    • @scotnick59
      @scotnick59 Месяц назад +6

      I think so.

    • @WisdomWorldGuide
      @WisdomWorldGuide Месяц назад +1

      @@scotnick59 😊

    • @Trip-N-Stumbleweed1234
      @Trip-N-Stumbleweed1234 Месяц назад +2

      Nope I'm sorry But Self Pride especially it's just the beginning Its what Lucifer was condemned for everything else is also a problem but take a back seat to pride case and point: He Hates A Proud Look ❤️‍🔥 Much Love ✌️😎 L8R

    • @Queencreole504
      @Queencreole504 Месяц назад +3

      You must be pretty you get it

  • @Starlightndust
    @Starlightndust Месяц назад +262

    I've had this everywhere I go. Especially at work. I am down to earth, friendly, sociable, and empathic. I am puzzled. I get bullied by women all the time, people smear me, lies are told behind my back, and people try to bring me down. I have almost nothing compared to others, yet I am contented, but this issue hurts me. This issue affected my career, yet I am still hopeful. I work hard, and this probably is problematic to others. 😢

    • @faithwise4005
      @faithwise4005 Месяц назад +54

      It sounds like a lot of envy and jealousy that your dealing with, but don’t internalize this. You must be doing something right or you wouldn’t be a victim of getting bullied! Whatever you’re doing that is making them feel insecure or how ever they’re feeling, don’t change to make others feel comfortable. I experienced the same thing and I feel your pain. The more they bullied me, the more I kept being true to myself. I dress nice, I wear my headpieces and I don’t give a care what these women think! They got a very rude awakening when they realize persecuting me WAS NOT stopping me from being who I WANT TO BE!!! Don’t let anyone decide on who you should be! It’s none of their business, and you’ll be glad you did because you will be free from what others think. And those people who want to judge you instead of getting to know you first, you don’t need them .

    • @Seapriestess333
      @Seapriestess333 Месяц назад +30

      Same with me my dear!😢

    • @transcendentsacredcourage
      @transcendentsacredcourage Месяц назад

      ​@@faithwise4005a
      Top-notch advice! 🏆👑

    • @MariaMartinez-wg2lg
      @MariaMartinez-wg2lg Месяц назад +42

      Don’t worry, God is with you, even in church we find negative people!
      God bless 🙏.

    • @irenemcwatt4443
      @irenemcwatt4443 Месяц назад +43

      I nearly lost my job on the back of a huge lie. A colleague started sending out anonymous letters to people in the department where I worked, giving the impression that I was behind them. The envelopes were handwritten but none of these people cared to check the handwriting - it wasn't mine - but I was bullied for it! The people to whom these letters were sent to were all medical doctors! Where was their intelligence? One of the female doctors even slapped me in the face!
      I kept silent, said nothing (the Lord had bid me so). They found out in the end, after engaging a detective, that I had nothing to do with this. This then shamed them! But, I behaved gracefully towards them, and they were surprised.

  • @sarahmauti3198
    @sarahmauti3198 Месяц назад +111

    Jealousy is a killer. It's all over, at work. At home. At church. OMG.
    THANK YOU FOR THIS.

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад +2

      I'm happy this video is valuable to you. Wish you all the best. ❤

    • @Rosemarysummers2
      @Rosemarysummers2 Месяц назад +4

      So true, heaven help us.

    • @mishka5706
      @mishka5706 Месяц назад +3

      @@sarahmauti3198 Jealousy is caused by misery and fear. Indifference is your best defense. Without your reaction it is powerless. Remember that!

    • @shapiro9640
      @shapiro9640 Месяц назад +5

      I know, even at church! 😮

    • @AgnesOdabi
      @AgnesOdabi 29 дней назад

      Inferiority and insecurity complaces can lead To Witschc rafing If Not Check ed. These Enviours and Jealous people will Always Attack both Spiritually and Physically If Not confronted. They can also use labours or send people To Monitor you, No Matter how far you stay from them. No Matter how rich they are, they want have the little you the lessprevileg is having. So it is better confronting them than running away from them. Thank you for your Words of wisdom. God Bless you in Jesus Christ Name Amen.

  • @davebarnes6672
    @davebarnes6672 Месяц назад +58

    In my 20’s and 30’s , I worked for people’s acceptance. Today in my mid 60’s ? I still treat people as I want to be treated but the need for their approval is simply gone for the most part.

  • @L-ln5fk
    @L-ln5fk 28 дней назад +17

    I've been there, gossip, rumours, different values, jealousy and envy, not fitting the norm and social expectations, uncoventional career, you name it. I was a scapegoat. But I am very resiliant, I continued walking my unique path and setting firm boundries to anyone who tried to cross them. When people who bullyed me discovered how persistant and strong i was, they started showing me respect and kindness. I live a peaceful life now, do what I like to do and don't care what others think about me anymore because I know I am a good person and deserve a decent, peaceful life. 😊

  • @cindybain6054
    @cindybain6054 Месяц назад +198

    Rumors are told of foolishness and believed by fools without merit.

  • @MotivationUP.22
    @MotivationUP.22 Месяц назад +96

    People’s perceptions can be influenced by many things, but staying true to yourself is key to happiness.

  • @cindybain6054
    @cindybain6054 Месяц назад +97

    People will believe a rumor rather than culling out truth .

    • @Seapriestess333
      @Seapriestess333 Месяц назад +1

      ❤❤❤

    • @BAsed_AFro
      @BAsed_AFro Месяц назад +3

      That's one of the big reasons as to why it's so important that we all be men/women of our word with everyone, always.

    • @transcendentsacredcourage
      @transcendentsacredcourage Месяц назад +4

      ​@@BAsed_AFro
      Easier said than done with how much of a sheep people generally are.

    • @BAsed_AFro
      @BAsed_AFro Месяц назад

      @@transcendentsacredcourage Oh, it's easy enough to do if one simply chooses to be that... although it's quite rare today for sure.
      In fact, it's so rare that most people today seem to just expect to be lied to, sadly.

    • @GO-cz7cl
      @GO-cz7cl Месяц назад +1

      100%

  • @kabirusaadu4627
    @kabirusaadu4627 Месяц назад +126

    1. Envy or jealousy
    2. Misunderstanding and ineffective communication
    3. Differences in fundamental values and beliefs
    4. The influence of Rumors and Gossips
    5. Personal Insecurities (feeling threatened even when no real threat exists)
    6. Lack of empathy and understanding
    7.Competition and Rivalry
    8. The influence of social expectation
    9. The lack of Recognitions

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад +9

      I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤

    • @AngealHewley0
      @AngealHewley0 Месяц назад +8

      For me it was an untimely facial reaction (#2) that caused someones resentment to grow excessively toward me. Im not the brightest tool in the kit as they say social skill wise.

    • @talisha5863
      @talisha5863 Месяц назад

      Thanks for the list👍🏽👏🏽🥰

    • @user-bo8nb2mi
      @user-bo8nb2mi Месяц назад +5

      If someone hates you because of your religion then it's their problem not yours.

    • @juliananyambura-zo2nc
      @juliananyambura-zo2nc 25 дней назад +2

      So deep

  • @carol-us4xn
    @carol-us4xn Месяц назад +80

    Im never in competition with anyone. Im ok with who i am . Thank you. 💯💐

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад +2

      ❤❤❤

    • @McD-j5r
      @McD-j5r Месяц назад

      You might be soon detested for it

    • @transcendentsacredcourage
      @transcendentsacredcourage Месяц назад +1

      ​@@McD-j5r
      Oh well. They wanted a monster, they got one.

    • @AnEmerald
      @AnEmerald Месяц назад

      ​@@McD-j5r could you say why someone would be given detest ( when you are not in competition ) .

  • @JeremiahSB
    @JeremiahSB Месяц назад +51

    Ignore keep moving for growth, arise without depending on others

  • @learnandInspire135
    @learnandInspire135 Месяц назад +15

    I was always wondering why some persons are hating me with out any reason. After watching this video, I got a clear idea.
    Thank you very much🙏🏻

    • @JEZER911
      @JEZER911 7 дней назад

      Like me , people laugh at me hate bully that's what I experience today But I'm alive

  • @tbunnyshy1
    @tbunnyshy1 Месяц назад +25

    When it is your own mother, it can take many years to figure everything out. I just want to stay calm and stay self differentiated. I wish I could change her heart. It’s no longer my business. It’s her choice to stay stuck.

    • @lg4lg479
      @lg4lg479 28 дней назад

      Many people have issues with their mother, and do not understand why

    • @deliaocampo4340
      @deliaocampo4340 22 дня назад

      The issues not the mother there something questionable about the attitude and character of a daughter she is my mother and I am the daughter 🇵🇭🇺🇸

  • @McD-j5r
    @McD-j5r Месяц назад +64

    Normally, those who hate know how dangerous gossiping is for another. This is why they do it.

    • @KirstenLambert-nt8iy
      @KirstenLambert-nt8iy Месяц назад +6

      Gossip and slander is considered murder. It means murdering someone's reputation. I'm working on my anger, not speaking I'll of someone. God help me

  • @buddhismmindfulnessen
    @buddhismmindfulnessen Месяц назад +18

    *People who talk behind your back are there for a reason-they’re already behind you*

    • @JacquelineBurch-bk3xr
      @JacquelineBurch-bk3xr Месяц назад +2

      That's one of the worst things that can happen to a person.Is for someone to get jealous of them.Trust me it's terrible

    • @zurientertainment8479
      @zurientertainment8479 6 дней назад

      I agree

  • @sbsman4998
    @sbsman4998 Месяц назад +13

    Amazes me how rare polite kindness is, yet the freest most beneficial virtue to give/receive ~~

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад +1

      I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤

    • @Lisa-ik3wt
      @Lisa-ik3wt Месяц назад +1

      Perhaps these unkind people are produced by rough handling and words.

    • @sbsman4998
      @sbsman4998 Месяц назад +2

      @@Lisa-ik3wt Good point Lisa ~~ easy to complain about others while ignoring how my actions may have encouraged their behavior toward me, being Autistic = difficult communication frank opinionated unyielding then seeking solitude wo notice or explanation, just disappear into my own little world but let me ask, is this punishment, shunning of "loved ones", a just punishment considering actions of really bad people: kill rob kidnap embezzle money from elderly or lie to defraud others, where is honest empathy here??

  • @BrokenBuzzer
    @BrokenBuzzer Месяц назад +37

    I hit the jackpot of people with a hostile bias towards me. There are no supports for me because all my close family has passed away recently.

    • @irenemcwatt4443
      @irenemcwatt4443 Месяц назад +2

      I had the same with my husband's family - I was never accepted by them. Someone said, 'you need to forgive them.' It took some time before I did, but after I did it got better.

    • @jackiedouglas4483
      @jackiedouglas4483 Месяц назад +2

      Same here. Crap people are horrid to orphans and the widowed.

    • @KimCarter-pd5lk
      @KimCarter-pd5lk Месяц назад +3

      Nothing wrong with turning your back slowly on each of them. Then make new friends.

    • @KimCarter-pd5lk
      @KimCarter-pd5lk Месяц назад +4

      Anyone seething negativity into your life is never worthy of being your friend

    • @NaomiMasiano
      @NaomiMasiano 17 дней назад

      Fuck hellworlds

  • @tucky2297
    @tucky2297 23 дня назад +5

    My brother passed on Nov 28. He passed years ago and on my mind. He was President of a Biker Gang and marched to the beat of his own drummer. Our dad was strict and raised us to deal with whatever came our way !!! We were stronger for it! To some who knew my brother ,said HE WAS A LEGEND! GOD REST HIS SOUL. The day he passed my Granddaughter was born. Today is Thanksgiving Nov 28 2024. I am thankful for both and chose to stay home with my thoughts.🥲 Happy Thanksgiving everyone. ❤

  • @MJ-qb5ph
    @MJ-qb5ph Месяц назад +15

    Your light shines in their darkness and they know you see right through their BS

    • @nancyzukel563
      @nancyzukel563 Месяц назад

      😅😅straight shooters never win da

    • @lila-w31
      @lila-w31 Месяц назад

      Just this!

  • @maren1679
    @maren1679 Месяц назад +61

    God will prepare a feast for us in front of our enemies. What lives in them hates what lives in us. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but principalities.. that secretly rule people. Be filled with the Holy Spirit and never stop being the light no matter who is watching and who notices. Thank God you are You! ❤

  • @annied9864
    @annied9864 Месяц назад +17

    I struggle with siblings that have these feelings towards me, the more I don’t get emotionally involved in the words spoken the easier it becomes

    • @KirstenLambert-nt8iy
      @KirstenLambert-nt8iy Месяц назад +4

      Distance yourself from them. I was raised in a toxic family. My mother was very narcissistic and my sisters and others were the flying monkeys, doing her bidding when I left the family. Mom has passed in 2016 and my sisters both still haven't changed. I broke ties with all.

    • @annied9864
      @annied9864 Месяц назад +2

      @@KirstenLambert-nt8iy exactly same playbook. God bless you 🙏🏻💛

    • @jomessenger5538
      @jomessenger5538 Месяц назад +1

      @@KirstenLambert-nt8iy Exactly my story as well.

    • @jomessenger5538
      @jomessenger5538 Месяц назад +1

      Me too. Distance is the only way, try not to respond to their accusations. Everything I say will be twisted.

    • @sallycreitzman1953
      @sallycreitzman1953 21 день назад

      So true. Well done. It takes courage. I’ve done the same to the brother. Jealousy destroys everything. I’m more at peace without them xxx

  • @marlowe-lynnharris980
    @marlowe-lynnharris980 29 дней назад +7

    I have always suffered with people not liking me. It's mostly in my family, brother and sisters, the like. Even on the job everywhere. I always meditate and I really appreciate these videos. Thank you❤

    • @mirriamnakawala9903
      @mirriamnakawala9903 22 дня назад

      I go through a lot of hate and dislike actually a lot of singing to confuse me I have gone through a lot. Narcissistic abuse has been the most harm.

    • @JEZER911
      @JEZER911 7 дней назад

      Same here

  • @SipiweMashingaidze
    @SipiweMashingaidze Месяц назад +31

    I'm not responsible for other people's thoughts and feelings about me.

    • @Mitch-s3j
      @Mitch-s3j 8 часов назад

      But you pay for it just the same

  • @DailyInsights-official
    @DailyInsights-official Месяц назад +18

    I find the idea about social expectations leading to resentment so powerful. (20:57). It’s true that stepping away from societal norms can sometimes create negative feelings in others-especially when we challenge what they’ve always believed to be 'right.' This video is a beautiful reminder to stay authentic, even when others might not understand or support our choices. Living for ourselves, not for others’ expectations, is what brings true fulfillment.

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад

      Thank you for this insightful reflection. Living authentically, true to our own values, often challenges the expectations others hold. Yet, as the Stoics remind us, the pursuit of inner peace and integrity is far more rewarding than bending to societal pressures. May we continue to choose the path of authenticity, regardless of others' perceptions. Stay steadfast.

  • @RosaAnderson-ps1sy
    @RosaAnderson-ps1sy Месяц назад +16

    It might be best to not care so much about other people’s opinions given the variables in circumstances. Ignore toxic people.

  • @judydikshit6841
    @judydikshit6841 Месяц назад +18

    Excellent video I'm facing this and they are wilfully destroying my property because I live alone. I dont interfere with anyone because i have more than enough to take care of and really dont have the time to pry into others affairs and gossip. I am 70 years old and dont like to indulge in nonsense. Cannot figure out their envy, jealousy and low mentality and how to save my property. Only God can do a miracle and save the situation.

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад +2

      I'm so sorry you're dealing with this situation-it’s truly disheartening when others let jealousy and negativity drive their actions. Your resilience and focus on what matters most to you at 70 is admirable. You’re not alone, and I hope things turn around for the better soon. Stay strong!

    • @nancyzukel563
      @nancyzukel563 Месяц назад

      😢😢😢police Civil suit fight dearheart

    • @sallycreitzman1953
      @sallycreitzman1953 21 день назад

      God is not responsible for what is happening. You’re putting a lot of onus on God. It’s your path. It’s your sacred contract you came into this life with to learn lessons for your own Souls personal growth. I feel for you and it’s awful. Stay strong and go to the authorities cuz they are criminals destroying your property. Sending love and hugs. Stay strong. You wouldn’t have given yourself this horrible lesson if you couldn’t handle it. I know it sounds far out but it’s so true. Keep safe

  • @mishka5706
    @mishka5706 Месяц назад +72

    People don’t like me because I am a straight talker and I am succesful. I don’t let people to project their stupidity on me. It is nothing to understand about people who are incompetent and insecure. I consider them “my fans club. “

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад +7

      They don't know what they don't know, they like to say what they want. How you treat them will be how people better than you treat you. Just let it go

    • @Sandy-du4ev
      @Sandy-du4ev Месяц назад +8

      Are you certain it is because you are a straight talker! Perhaps responding with a bit more tact would help

    • @ElizzzaB
      @ElizzzaB Месяц назад +5

      I try to educate others but they want to stay with the wrong information.

    • @ElizzzaB
      @ElizzzaB Месяц назад +3

      ​@Sandy-du4ev it doesn't matter....some just want to be right.....even when they are misinformed.

    • @mishka5706
      @mishka5706 Месяц назад +6

      @@Sandy-du4ev l am honest and direct in my speech or actions and do not offend. I don’t beat around the bush or try to hide my true feelings or intentions. I speak my mind and share my opinions openly and transparently. Direct communication builds trust I do not fear judgment. I know people don’t like me but they trust me and that’s enough for me.

  • @chamarilekamge2301
    @chamarilekamge2301 24 дня назад +3

    I’m from Sri Lanka 🇱🇰… a South Asian paradise in the Indian ocean..
    The topic u are talking here is very important to me… misunderstanding and negative emotions are the greatest enemy of the humanity…understood. Thank you dear 🙏

  • @lmcwill0502
    @lmcwill0502 Месяц назад +7

    I'm still on my journey , I always love to be enlightened by Stoic wisdom. Lord knows I have been learning this my whole life.

    • @Sandy-du4ev
      @Sandy-du4ev Месяц назад +1

      So too we all continue to learn! That is how we grow into the people we wish to be!

  • @KrishnaKumar-nq3sw
    @KrishnaKumar-nq3sw Месяц назад +3

    I needed it most, at my age of 82 years of trials

  • @mariakeaton9380
    @mariakeaton9380 Месяц назад +16

    When I use to work for a particular company I could not understand why this woman was jealous of me. She was married to some high policeman, lived in amazing house in a posh town. They each had a car. I was living in a council flat and did not own a car,traved by public transport
    They had about 3 holidays a year and I had none. They hated me because I sent my daughter to private school ,not because I was rich,it allowed me to work fulltime as it had an after school facility. Now Thank you for explaining this to me and another thing I learned is to keep my mouth shut about my life. What people don't know, they can't criticize. Thank you for the info 🎉

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад +1

      I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤

  • @Alma-ej5kz
    @Alma-ej5kz Месяц назад +30

    It's very important, to get friends who are better than you. It's a painful lesson, I have learned in my life. But, when your bar is high, it's very difficult to get friends at your level, hence, you have to constantly lower your standards.

  • @euniceibeh2873
    @euniceibeh2873 Месяц назад +26

    Absolutely, twisted rumors and gossips! Some people are just good at this!

  • @DeborahOgden-i8q
    @DeborahOgden-i8q Месяц назад +9

    Yes yes yes ! Misunderstood everyone think they know you so well

  • @MG-ot2yr
    @MG-ot2yr Месяц назад +11

    I've found that if someone doesn't like me its usually because of my high levels of self confidence and self esteem...probably comes off as full of myself, and I guess that's true in a sense, I produce it myself....I'm self validated being very introverted, but certainly don't think I'm better than anyone else, I just don't need their validation to define me.

  • @IPTB-g6r
    @IPTB-g6r Месяц назад +112

    We illuminate the darkness in them!

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад +5

      Wish you all the best !

    • @abderrahim6423
      @abderrahim6423 Месяц назад +7

      No..in the contrary, we make them seeing their darkness..!!!!

    • @DesiannToussaint
      @DesiannToussaint Месяц назад +1

      That is it

    • @Mitch-s3j
      @Mitch-s3j 8 часов назад

      I'll put my foot in your darkness

  • @sheetal26012000
    @sheetal26012000 Месяц назад +10

    Highly relatable content! Experiencing this currently. I think the best solution is just to leave such people and follow your path alone. And I have dared to choose that path, regardless of what 'people' may think! You just spoke my thoughts and put a stamp on my decision. Thank you 🙏

  • @WordsChangePeople
    @WordsChangePeople Месяц назад +2

    This video really makes you think about human nature and how we react to others' opinions. The Stoic approach to handling resentment, envy, and hate is so refreshing - instead of focusing on why people hate us, we’re reminded to focus on our own actions, thoughts, and responses. The idea that we can’t control others, but we can control how we let their opinions affect us, is a powerful lesson. It’s also a great reminder to be mindful of our own behavior and attitudes, as sometimes we can unknowingly contribute to negative feelings in others. Thanks for sharing these Stoic insights - they’re incredibly practical and helpful for personal growth! 🙏

  • @barbarabrown9269
    @barbarabrown9269 Месяц назад +15

    Truth - no one is ever happy for your successes. That’s fact, will never change. They may act like they are rising above something, but the truth is, they seethe in hate and resentment when they see your long term marriage and they can’t even get a date, they see your paid off good car, they are having to bum rides, they see your large land holdings when they can’t even afford to rent an apartment. No matter how hard you worked, no matter how lucky or blessed you are perceived, You will be resented and vilified. It’s human nature.

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад +1

      Thank you for sharing such an honest perspective. It’s true that others may feel resentment over what they perceive as our good fortune. But as the Stoics remind us, we can’t control others’ reactions-only our own response. Staying grounded in our own values and achievements brings the kind of inner peace that no outside opinion can shake. Wishing you strength and serenity on your journey.

    • @HollyFayHolverson777
      @HollyFayHolverson777 Месяц назад +2

      One thing my mom reiterated while growing up was, if you really want to make your haters angry, make sure that you do well at whatever you choose to be and do. She was right

    • @Kotaro1326
      @Kotaro1326 3 дня назад

      @barbarabrown9269
      What’s worse is the older single person who’s genuinely happy living and enjoying the single life.
      Not only his friends and relatives but the whole community and society would be talking smack about him/her. Of course many of them would veil their criticisms but deep down it’s always like this as they say to themselves, “Why is he so happy living the single life? That’s not how life is suppose to be. He’s suppose to be single and miserable or be married, have kids, and be miserable like the rest of us.”
      Of course, if you’re married and happy more power to you and good for you.

  • @justice8563
    @justice8563 Месяц назад +23

    I believe you cause I literally lived it. So weird, the nicer I was the worst I was treated. The ex, his family, friends and even my own family were awful to me. The jealousy and control was disturbing. They tortured me for years and so many just stood back and watched it, including the ex. The scars they caused will never heal.

    • @KirstenLambert-nt8iy
      @KirstenLambert-nt8iy Месяц назад

      In my case, my ex's family treated me better than my ex and my own family.

    • @nancyzukel563
      @nancyzukel563 Месяц назад +1

      😢😢yes they will dearheart..l identify with uoyr story..walk away..walk tall,love God, stay busy

    • @rosemullen-r5w
      @rosemullen-r5w 27 дней назад

      Let it go

    • @JEZER911
      @JEZER911 7 дней назад

      Correct

  • @groveavenue
    @groveavenue Месяц назад +10

    I am 71 and retired in South Asia. During my working life I worked for about a decade in a small QUANGO in London. Third parties stirred up strife among the junior of whom I was one and the place was rife with feuding and verbal fights. It was a study in the negative side of psychology :)

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад +1

      Thank you for your feedback! I’m glad you enjoyed the content. 💪🏼💙. It's sad because If they still seek recognition from others, they will quarrel for the rest of their lives. You can send this video to them, if they understand, it will be so happy.

    • @Sandy-du4ev
      @Sandy-du4ev Месяц назад +1

      Xenophobia runs rampant

  • @Madameflavor
    @Madameflavor Месяц назад +14

    envy ppl hurt me many times! From losing jobs, and friends, to losing pets because they wanted to see me sad and unhappy, 😔Since i met those people i went thru Hell last 8 years for nothing, for their Envy and Jealousy problems ...they were punished by God, but I was hurting constantly, but found Jesus Thank you God!

  • @mobikato2512
    @mobikato2512 Месяц назад +8

    This video exactly tells how haters,envy and jealousy people does.But the irony is people easily believes the gossips spread by haters. Am blessed atleat am not in those idiots list.Hope through your video you continue to spread wisdoms all over the world. Thank you 🙏 this video resonate me a lot😊

  • @laurakyplain2413
    @laurakyplain2413 Месяц назад +13

    ‘Don’t hate because I’m beautiful’

  • @helennorris6437
    @helennorris6437 Месяц назад +4

    It eased my mind and helped me to feel better about myself as to why I used to get this type of resentments without any fault mine . I am 73 years old but very confident of myself in everything I do and outspoken with frankness. 😊😊😊😊😊

  • @TheModernStoicg
    @TheModernStoicg Месяц назад +15

    Understanding that others’ negative feelings often stem from their own insecurities and struggles, rather than anything we’ve done, is empowering. Stoic philosophy reminds us to focus on what we can control our actions, thoughts, and responses and let go of what we can’t. By doing so, we maintain our inner peace and don’t let others' negativity disturb our journey toward personal growth

  • @JustChill_1031
    @JustChill_1031 Месяц назад +74

    I honestly don't care if people don't like me...

    • @marinadamini586
      @marinadamini586 Месяц назад +7

      @@JustChill_1031 agree Don't live your life to what others except. Be happy within yourself...😊

    • @KirstenLambert-nt8iy
      @KirstenLambert-nt8iy Месяц назад +5

      @@JustChill_1031 I agree

    • @ElectricSwordFish-i4k
      @ElectricSwordFish-i4k Месяц назад +5

      An issue is when the people who don't like you are in positions of power, they are intelligent, and their lack of like fuels malicious behavior.

    • @JustChill_1031
      @JustChill_1031 Месяц назад +2

      @@ElectricSwordFish-i4k Sounds like grandiose narcissism to me.

    • @BEABE4242
      @BEABE4242 Месяц назад

      @@ElectricSwordFish-i4kabsolutely right!

  • @DF-dd5nf
    @DF-dd5nf Месяц назад +9

    Exactly, I fully agree with your video. It is 100% truth. Thanks for educating the public.

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад

      I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤

  • @elizabethhynd9643
    @elizabethhynd9643 Месяц назад +5

    These are painful realities and hard to resolve especially the spiraling into hostility

  • @MrWarriorsMom
    @MrWarriorsMom Месяц назад +4

    My sister has always hated me, or resented me. I believe she is jealous. I tried for years to understand her but I finally gave up and feel relieved.

  • @RethaWells-y8q
    @RethaWells-y8q Месяц назад +16

    hello, and I just thank God for giving me another blessed day to be here amen amen amen thank u Lord 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад +1

      Thank you for your feedback! I’m glad you enjoyed the content. 💪🏼💙. God bless you !

  • @richncomfort4612
    @richncomfort4612 Месяц назад +3

    Thanks for these thoughts that highlight why people may seem to dislike you for no reason.

  • @Carolyn-bl2pn
    @Carolyn-bl2pn Месяц назад +5

    I’m 76 years old and was having a lot of problems in my marriage. I didn’t know what to do and began to worry. Time passed and I continued to pray for guidance from God. Well one night as I lay in bed an oversized angel came to me radiant as ever and said my name a couple of times to fully get my attention and said, “Carolyn, you are blessed.” He repeated it two times and left. No, I saw no wings, but he was brilliant.

  • @Alma-ej5kz
    @Alma-ej5kz Месяц назад +48

    Once you contradict people, they will naturally resent you. It doesn't matter how nice or helpful you are. At the end of the day, if you still contradict them, they will still resent you. Human beings are weak.

    • @truerosie
      @truerosie Месяц назад +2

      Some people are mature enough to relate with people who don't agree with them on everything.

    • @JTT126
      @JTT126 Месяц назад +1

      It's sad, one time I shared disagreement with an older sister I had respected. She took it as criticism and now she talks behind my back and even shared information that I told her in privacy which I never thought she would. Twisting my words and trying to ruin my image among our other siblings. And thinking that I don't know she says she loves me and showers me praise. Pretty scary

    • @JEZER911
      @JEZER911 7 дней назад

      Exactly agree

    • @JEZER911
      @JEZER911 7 дней назад

      ​@@JTT126same to me

  • @irek4656
    @irek4656 Месяц назад +5

    Tnx for sharing. I'm 56, a mum of 6 live children, almost all adults now, a teacher at school, working for 31 years now. My family of origin has rejected me from the start. I was very good at school, my brother envied me on that. I was not very good at maths and always a bit on the chubby side because of my genetics, always straightforward in persuit of truth, which is why my violent, too confudent, narc dad has rejected me recently when I spoke my feelings. My mum prefers my rich brother, who is childless businessman, married to a lazy gold-digger and pays my mum's bills. My husband is a political fanatic on the right, he accuses me of being on the left, which I' m not, I just want to be righteous to all, seeing things from all diff. perspectives. Fighting depression as a consequence, unhappy marriage. I' m obviously a 'macho' woman, which my husband of 31 years accused me of. Well, it is what it is. Bless you all.

  • @Barbara-x9o
    @Barbara-x9o Месяц назад +3

    Me too I feel more important when I find out they are envy and jealous of me

  • @JamesBrown-xs7ox
    @JamesBrown-xs7ox Месяц назад +8

    THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU GOD BLESS YOU GOD BLESS YOU GOD BLESS YOU AMEN AMEN AMEN

  • @StoicRealms
    @StoicRealms Месяц назад +21

    "Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants."
    - Epictetus

  • @Classicquotes_us
    @Classicquotes_us 9 дней назад +3

    Thanks for share ( 12:52 ). Envy and Jealousy is number one ❤❤❤.

  • @khalilismyname
    @khalilismyname Месяц назад +4

    Been my problem all my life, but it’s what me who I am today.
    I would never change it about me or allow it to change me. Yes it down to jealousy and envy and nothing I cant do about it except smile and keep moving forward in life.

  • @mariankeller5852
    @mariankeller5852 Месяц назад +3

    Texting and social media exacerbate these misunderstandings

  • @EchoChamber-s3r
    @EchoChamber-s3r 26 дней назад +1

    Stoic philosophy truly helps us reflect on how we are perceived and why. This video highlights a critical truth: understanding ourselves and our interactions can lead to personal growth and healthier relationships. Instead of focusing on external hate, let’s use these lessons to cultivate self-awareness and rise above negativity. Grateful for this thoughtful content-it's a reminder to align our actions with our values and let our character speak for itself. Thank you for sharing this wisdom!

  • @suzanaboaventura4049
    @suzanaboaventura4049 Месяц назад +5

    Peacefully and thank you so much for all your time and support I like it so much

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад

      I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤

  • @StoicPhilosophy_HubX
    @StoicPhilosophy_HubX 12 дней назад +1

    Wow, this video is truly eye-opening and thought-provoking! The way you break down the reasons behind why people might secretly harbor negative feelings towards us is incredibly insightful. It’s a powerful reminder of how envy, misunderstandings, and even personal insecurities can shape human interactions in ways we often don’t realize.
    I particularly appreciate the emphasis on Stoic philosophy-focusing on what’s within our control and approaching these situations with understanding and compassion resonates deeply. Thank you for shedding light on these complex social dynamics and offering practical wisdom to navigate them. Looking forward to more content like this!

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  11 дней назад

      Thank you so much, I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤

  • @kaliforniaman
    @kaliforniaman Месяц назад +5

    When watching this video, it reminded me when my whole family blamed me for Covid-19 during Thanksgiving & Christmas in 2020…the entire family including uncle’s, aunts and cousins had a whole zoom meeting gossiping about me and spreading lies trying to assassinate my character…they even tried to blame me when my grandmother passed away a year later… at first I was hurt, confused and in beyond disbelief on why they will say all these things that aren’t true…but now I know it was simply pure jealousy & envy that entire family had the whole time since I was a kid growing up 😂😢🤦‍♂️

  • @catdaddymeow
    @catdaddymeow Месяц назад +1

    I’m no longer bothered by being hated or disliked. I’m 56, I only treasure my own life and the limited time ahead for the rest of my life.

  • @DT-ironCross
    @DT-ironCross Месяц назад +4

    Let me save time in your life .
    1. Envy and Jealousy
    2. Misunderstanding and ineffective Communication
    3. Differences in Fundamental Values and Beliefs
    4. The influence of rumors and gossip
    5. Personal insecurities and projection
    6. Lack of Empathy and Understanding
    7. Competition or Rivalry
    8. The influence of Social Expectations
    9. The Lack of Recognition

  • @jonWahl-x9l
    @jonWahl-x9l 23 дня назад

    Yes, people can be this way the nicer you are too them. It took work, but the lies an smears no longer affect my personal outlook and confidence. And only giving attention to the people who value me has helped.

  • @redbulla28
    @redbulla28 Месяц назад +14

    Be diplomatic, kind, clear goal setting & communication, act more like a grown up adult who accepts everyone as they are. Calm and humility goes a long way for yourself and others who work alongside you. ❤ Listen more than speak usually helps.

  • @RoseMugeni-hw9jf
    @RoseMugeni-hw9jf 20 дней назад

    The stoicism philosophy was actually the missing link in my life journey. I'm being empowered. Peaceful mind.🙏

  • @jeannetgando1198
    @jeannetgando1198 Месяц назад +20

    Envy and jealousy is one of them

  • @karzansaleh7081
    @karzansaleh7081 6 часов назад

    Fully clear!!!every single obvious ,, so don’t need to deal with it anyway,, people complaining about this toxic environment,, thank you everyone to anyone whom listening to this,,

  • @noemibala7281
    @noemibala7281 Месяц назад +5

    Thank you so much for these facts in our lives especially at work and how to handle it personally and professionally.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад +1

      I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤

  • @florencemashaire4433
    @florencemashaire4433 21 день назад

    I since learnt that these negative thoughts and feelings take me nowhere. But rather live my life the way I have come this far without following outside interferences that take you nowhere. Thank you.

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  3 дня назад

      Thank you so much, I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤

  • @McD-j5r
    @McD-j5r Месяц назад +5

    I am sure that when there is resentment and negative feelings you can be perfect in your communication and it won’t solve the misunderstanding because the cause is subjective.

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад

      I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤

  • @verribarry
    @verribarry Месяц назад +2

    People don't secretly dislike me...they don't hide it at all .

  • @Otterom
    @Otterom Месяц назад +3

    I am 63 yrs old never gave people reasons to hate me and never really cared if anyone did anyways

  • @sallycreitzman1953
    @sallycreitzman1953 21 день назад

    All my life I’ve had this. I’ve been a quivering wreck as I’m a sensitive empath, but now at 75 years old I’ve learned to navigate n understand the haters. Never ASSume anything for it makes an ass out of both of us. Have a word with someone who is trying to bring you down. Confront them with strength yet be gentle. This can turn things around. Gossip n rumours hurt like hell and the believers hurt more cuz they should know you better than that but stand strong n hold a mirror up to them that you will not stand for these evil behaviours. I’ve also found that it’s a strong possibility that they hate you because they see a trait in you that is also in them and they can’t cope with theirs. That is built with my spiritual knowledge for which I’m truly grateful I walked the spiritual path albeit painful and revealing. When it gets too much I often give myself a break by isolating and reflecting when I’ve got spiritual indigestion. There will always be jealous envious nasty people….just learn to navigate your way round it all n be so very kind to yourself. Remember. It’s their stuff not yours. Love and hugs to all 🥰🦋❤️🌈💐xx

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  5 дней назад

      Thank you so much, I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤

  • @leannehicks4374
    @leannehicks4374 Месяц назад +4

    We fight the powers and principalities of the air. We must take authority over them

  • @GodListening
    @GodListening Месяц назад +1

    "Every second of this video felt valuable and well-spent!

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад

      Thank you very much, your comment is my motivation to make more valuable videos.

  • @MercyWilson-ju3qq
    @MercyWilson-ju3qq Месяц назад +4

    You have made my day for listening to you. Thanks.

  • @babesbaba1166
    @babesbaba1166 12 дней назад +1

    That’s why I have less friends now ! Most people just get so upset by other people’s success

  • @NancyQave
    @NancyQave Месяц назад +3

    May your wise lessons continue help us all who are listening I am greatful for your advises they are healthy bless u

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад

      I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤

  • @MargaretJosePollayil
    @MargaretJosePollayil Месяц назад +1

    Thank you for helping me to understand more profoundly about hatred.

  • @DayTwo-w8n
    @DayTwo-w8n Месяц назад +4

    Peacefulness. This is an excellent video. Thank you for posting.

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад +1

      For me, you are a winner, my friend! ❤

  • @MeeraKarysingh
    @MeeraKarysingh 20 дней назад

    We need to be positive at all time
    We need to be kind all all time

  • @wyattcwhite6933
    @wyattcwhite6933 Месяц назад +2

    Peacefulness. Thank you for this today. Wyatt

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад +1

      For me, you are a winner, my friend! ❤

  • @TheBuddhasVoice-g8g
    @TheBuddhasVoice-g8g 28 дней назад

    I love how every video feels like a peaceful meditation session. The content is both calming and deeply insightful.

  • @WANDABARGEMAN-j3i
    @WANDABARGEMAN-j3i Месяц назад +3

    AT THE END OF THE DAY
    WHOSE PROBLEM IS THAT???
    STAND IN YOUR TRUTHS AND "KEEP ON MOVING ON!!!
    NO ONE CAN CONTROL ANOTHER PERSON'S DOWN FALLS!!!
    STAY FOCUSED ON YOUR CHARACTER AND INTEGRITY!!!

  • @leonidaburch2000
    @leonidaburch2000 Месяц назад +1

    Thank you so much
    Envy and Jealousy is right some people hate for Nothing

  • @4everjesusbride
    @4everjesusbride Месяц назад +2

    Gosh! We nearly sound like twins. Or, we have a lot in common. Trauma to my skull and neck wouldn't allow for any head gear. LoL. No one, except the ones, under my rooftop have anything to do with me since I'm mostly bed bound. However, my sweet lil Shih tzu named Chloe hasn't left. So, I might be doing something right. Some of my best conversations and talks are between Chloe and I. I feel like a huge load is lifted off my shoulders being an introvert even though I am easy going Cajun chic. Chloe is highly intelligent and knows exactly what I'm saying much more so than any ex. Keep on being you and showing kindness towards others. There are a few nice folks out and about. But, it is getting sparse. Rock on!🎸

  • @TimothyDore-p2e
    @TimothyDore-p2e 3 дня назад

    The lesson I have come to recognize and work on at 50 years old is listening completely. Yes we listen but often will express our opinion during the conversation. What I found even more revealing is to completely listen until the person is done talking. Many times even if I disagree I may see them differently but not judgemental as I have taken in everything they had expressed not a interrupted version.

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  2 дня назад

      Thank you so much, I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤

  • @GodivaRedway
    @GodivaRedway Месяц назад +4

    I love your video I learn a lot from it and I am going to listen it more times. Thank you.

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад

      Thank you so much. Wish you all the best!

  • @ajibadebukola-b1l
    @ajibadebukola-b1l Месяц назад +1

    I hv lant from this teaching it has really affected my bizs but the school will come up again ,I feel at peace now after the teaching thank you.

  • @SkhumbuzoMthuli
    @SkhumbuzoMthuli Месяц назад +14

    Stoic I'm not a successful nor business man just little hustling here and there but i make sure to take good care of myself since there's no shoulder to cry on, my only problem is the hatred i get all of a sudden as if while I'm sleeping someone out there is on the mission spreading rumours about me and when i wake up the following day non of them recognise me though i made piece with it but I'm still taking heat left, right and centre i got use to it but I won't lie it hurts as hell stoic i heard your advice, your wisdom always encourages me especially as a lone wolf but i gotta question for you. What if you being kind, sweet, helpful and so understanding but get hatred, negativity and disgusting rumours that drags your name in the mood and those you call friends and family use and turn on you no matter how good you are to everyone. What do you do when face these challenges?.

    • @StoicTraining
      @StoicTraining  Месяц назад +3

      Do you know about Jesus? He was innocent, doing good deeds but was nailed to the cross because of the jealousy of those around him. We cannot be as beautiful as Jesus, so it is natural that there are people who hate and want to bring us down. If you want others to realize that they are in a dark room, become a light to illuminate them, then they will realize. Wish you all the best !

    • @robertbachelor6993
      @robertbachelor6993 Месяц назад

      Say fuck,em

    • @mishka5706
      @mishka5706 Месяц назад +3

      They are nothing but bullies. Indifference is your best defense. They are powerless if you don’t react. Walk away far as u can even if u have to relocate. You can’t change people. You can only control your actions and your mind which is very powerful. Remember that!

    • @sallycreitzman1953
      @sallycreitzman1953 21 день назад

      Because they are ignorant idiots. Not worth your oxygen. Keep smiling

  • @stevoplex
    @stevoplex 2 дня назад

    I'm new to Stoicism and this channel, but I find it so refreshing, grounded, down to Earth. Furthermore, it meshes well with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (No logical or doctrinal conflict). And also quite consistent with the principles of AA. (Much of which is based on Carl Jung). And I can comfortably fit lots of Nietzhe in there without too much inconsistency. Amazing. I'm kinda smart and kinda mental simultaneously. So I struggle. But lately, Stoicism has my full attention to expand my boundaries of my potential wisdom in a way that reading every work by Franz Kafka failed to deliver.