No 1 Covert Narcissist Tactic They Use On YOU!
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They lie about things they don't even need to lie about. Its crazy.
Yes! and I just don’t get it.
Sure do I wrote exactly the same thing tjhey are pathological liars
Truth
@@donnawaters4700 yes
its all about control.
My ex was a covert, fragile narcissist. Once you really see what they are you'll never unsee it. Quite sad that they live their lives in this miserable pattern. Their "Karmic" lives you could say.
Mine used her insecuritys as a means to control. She used my empathy as a means to surrender things that made her feel uneasy until she'd feel more confident and could trust me. Little did I know I should have been the one with the trust issue.
@@pepe_da_prawn Hard lessons for those of us with too much Empathy, hope you are doing better being free from her toxicity.
@@chrisfromcanada2818 it's a hard lesson for sure. But I refuse to let it beat me, she's the one with issues. It's terribly sad to think that she will live a life of unhappiness and loneliness to think that these people get satisfaction from destroying people's lives. They can only be described as evil and demonic a harsh reality and a reflection on the times we live in.
I sadly wen t back to her but you’re right. I never looked at her the same and she was much worse than the first time. I think part of me came back only to catch her and I did. I needed validation instead if questioning
@@aleas799 A lot of us "go back' and get sucked in again. I myself did several times before i saw the light. Wasn't easy but i don't regret it either. I learned a lot about myself through the whole process.
They suffered in childhood...if you have a narc parent..then you suffer in your childhood too 😔 .
They couldn't control what happened to them, but I deeply dislike their cruelty.
There's no excuse to be hurtful to another human being.
They should NEVER be guardians of animals 🐾 🙏
I know one that is ONLY kind to animals lol
Narc/ hubby was not kind with animals 😢
He hates animals and was very abusive with our pets.( our kids pets as well as mine) we had a male husky as well as two rag doll cats. Had them when they were babies of 4-weeks of age and our pets ( including our husky lived with us 15-16 years. Narc/hubby brought home Covid the first time it came out and besides giving it to our kids, unfortunately our cats ended up with Covid and both had passed, our male cat died first and his sister cat the following day 😢😢 Narc/ hubby was always abusive with our pets by scaring them, kicking them and not giving them means of Doctor visits or shots needed,etc.( he controlled our money) our husky ended up ill as he started to have health issues and ended up with some kind of cancer later on in life. He was barely standing, eating and was in pain 😢 we had to put him down and this was so hard on me as well as my kids, we had no choice. Narc/hubby was also cruel with him as well and neglected all his needs and always said, he never wanted animals and would not contribute anything to their needs! Let’s just say that he was very nasty all the years of our pets lives/ very bad!! Before our pets had passed Narc/hubby had said to me, the dog would go first and the cats second and third was me!! I know to always take this information and keep it in my mind and thoughts as this was a direct threat and he did what he said, I stay away from him as much as I can ( hard because we live under the same roof but separated, I stay majority in my locked door bedroom.)
He has in the past slashing vehicles tires of the one I was driving and I lost control and fortunate to be here today!! Much worse has been done to me and I’m scared the day we are done in marriage legally!! As we can always get a stay away court order, etc. But that still doesn’t protect me in the real world!? I cannot live like I am of 29+years of a Monster Narcissist Demon !!
Why do Narcissist take and destroy and steal and lie!? Some go beyond this and feel they are God and after giving everything to their lives ( as we are good people!?) they still are not satisfied!? They want to break you mentally, emotionally, psychologically, physically, etc. And want you with nothing or a life!! This doesn’t make sense to me!! He’s not done yet
Some are kind to animals ironically but hate people. I know one that was nice to cats and family and so called friends but awful to people who could be potential partners
I will no longer allow narcissists to ruin my life. As an empath I was an easy target, got exploited and my guard was down. Thanks to you Anoushka, I’m back, better and stronger than ever👊🏼💪🏼 She will not win.
Good
Same ❤ Stay strong and have strong boundaries and self love
This is the sneakiest and scariest narcissist. They can't be trusted.
Lies, secrets, omission and distant. Projective identification. All narcs are an absence. Character trait aquisition.
@@ericjackson-nq4hp hey glad to see your moving along!
@@ericjackson-nq4hp Glad you are doing much better
@@ericjackson-nq4hp I always wondered how you were doing . It's great your coming out of the fog.
Strategy and Lies are their number one and two tactics. 1. They figure you out, your likes,dislikes,morals, stance on most things. 2. They isolate you and gain your complete trust. 3. They decide on what they want from you, it's not just attention, time, money, breakup of your friendships, marriage, job, etc. 4. They set the plan on how to achieve it, yes covertly. 5. Once they have the plan they destroy the most precious things in life: your heart, trust, faith, reality, self esteem, etc. (while enjoying you come to them for support , when their the demon making all these horrible things happen to you in the background). 6. They flaunt their new women(supply) in front of you to further humiliate you, humble you, destroy you, then gaslight you about it, 7. They discard you, your broken, replaced multiple times by now, you are an empty shell and worthless to them. 8. The hoover that never ends because your broken...but your still theirs. So they will play with you on and off again to futher entertain themselves in your agony.
That’s exactly how they operate. And they manipulate, control, spy on you, hack your phone.. the lies are too much. They really are horrible people 😢
“They know they are hurting you. 👹 So you should know that you have to insist on your boundaries”🔪
So true the relationship is one big lie for the start. To the end of it.
We just don’t see it until it’s too late.
Until they pass away in my case
They lie, they blame us!
The most dangerous and unfortunatly unknown type of narcissist.
Every time I listen to you. My enxiety goes away. So easy to forget what the coverts are and what they did. I never knew where I stood... Everything was a lie.
I cannot even express how accurate you are
they believe their own lies, and convince themselves that its true. and when you call them out then you are discarded, so expose them
When you are in a low...they like it and feel good knowing...you hurt. Sad but..true.
So True.. and always mr Nice guy for other people! 🥵 Thank you!
….or ‘nice girl’ 👍🏼
This is probably your best video yet Anouska. It made reflect on their magical thinking, I have seen them have amazing days which they orchestrate but don’t seem to enjoy it until they get home and look on social media to get their supply how great the day was. They are not really there half the time they are living in a movie of their life..
Their control gets worse and worse like they are trying to squeeze the life out of you. Hope your doing better now buddy
I found out that my ex was a covert narcissist once I left him and suddenly everything Started to make sense. He was trying to read my mind all the time even when we were watching a movie he was watching me instead and trying to read my body language so as to spot any vulnerability or weakness. that’s crazy how he was obsessed with plans and can’t chill for a moment
Omg how awful...
That is strange. I could never understand why, when we watched a movie, I could "see" he was watching me
Awesome video! You just described a potentially dangerous person, that's what happened to me I was married to a covert for 12 years, I had no idea until the end, when her mask slipped, nothing made any sense to me, until I started to research and started connecting the dots
I have gone completely No Contact, blocking numbers and removing every item that reminded me of this girl. I deleted every photo, but I still think about her every day. I will not open the door to her again, but she has a continuous psychic attack. I have been subjected to an evil attempt to destroy me. I have no idea about why this curse comes into your life, but with the realization that everything was fake, the hard decisions become easier. Your strength is all you have to rely on in the end.
its exactly the same for me its hard to believe someone you loved could be like this to you
@@darren8272 You are mourning the loss of the person you thought they were. But, they were deceptive, and wanted to learn the best way to poison you. There is no explanation, but they hate you for being genuine. Eventually, you will go through every scenario in your head, and you will realize that you cannot stay anything to make the situation any better. Then you will stop wanting another chance to interact with them on any level. The attraction will turn into revulsion, and you will begin to smile at the opportunity you have to move forward. You will only regret not figuring it out sooner. Good Luck.
I always had the feeling that He was on his own planet.
I married to one but he left our home to move to his mother apartment crazy this man was like stone face really believe there bull
It’s so reassuring to see so many comments from people agreeing and also sharing experiences of discovering and leaving the narcissist. Have many of you found journaling a useful tool as part of your recovery?
Yes my 1st journaling was making a “yuk list” of all relationship crimes/abuse against me. I stopped at #15
When I re read that list many months later it served me well-as it allowed me to truly see the progress I had made in my healing-this was quite some time ago. But I highly suggest it :)
I have, especially when I start getting emotional about it or I need to remind myself what he did (when the cognitive dissonance tries to tell me to give him another chance). It helps to get the thoughts out and re-read it later on to see how far you've progressed in healing
Journaling, yes!
@@spiritgurl1111 thank you so much for sharing that advice, I’m sure it will be useful to many people 🫶
@@geminini3131 thank you for sharing your experience. Yes, I can imagine that being able to refer back to it in times when the Narcissistic is trying to draw you back in is a very useful tool 🫶
I have moved on. This only lasted a few days and then it was over. I give too much to people and have to stop doing that. I was just being supportive of this person. I actually brought it on myself. I have met and worked with some celebrities and they are just people. Because I have been so harassed and lied about for so many years by people who do not even know me, it bothered me that this person who had such a tragic childhood was going through this. I felt a need to help him. I no longer do. God can work in peoples' lives if they will seek Him, but these people cannot trust even God. It is very sad. Thank you so much for this video. It is very helpful.
Yeah I just got away from one. Again 🙄
Sorry to read that you have experienced a narcissist in your life more than once but wanted to say well done for getting away. It goes to show that knowledge is key in these situations as without this sort of information the narcissist could take so much from us.
It’s time to ask yourself why you are choosing these people.
How can someone they knew they were dying, act this way til the end!! Found out after his death he had a brain tumor 😯 and internal bleeding and still he acted so mean to me!!!!
My narc was like a chameleon. She could change herself to suit the circumstances and people she was with.
Despite having had a previous bad experience with a narcissist and swearing that I would never get fooled again it took me over 3 years to work out what she was. Her acting skills deserved an Oscar.
They are highly toxic, evil people. They lie, cheat, manipulate and deceive, and they do all these things while keeping a completely straight face.
They cannot read a room.
I’m a sigma empath and I know who’s for me and who’s against me with strong intuition I know who’s lieing at all times
People don't understand our intuition. It's awesome how we are almost always right😁
This was my mother, and now my middle brother. I knew what happened, as I took the abuse to save him. He has turned out to be an expert liar! He is sneaky, and does cause harm. He steals, cheats, lies, and thinks everybody owes him. No one outside the family would understand
how he is. He can be stone faced then laugh when he’s called out. He sends others to do his dirty work. I know how his game is, and able to outsmart and call him out. Thank you for helping me!
I can relate. In my situation, my mom taught my sister. She did a good job...that's for sure. I'm No Contact with both of them now and have been for years. It just became so toxic. I had no choice but self-preservation. Take care of yourself and be careful. Peace and safety to you...
Told someone that s/he might have NPD and it wasn't taken very well
💯 SPOT ON
Thanks for this video.. it will drive a person crazy
My ex narc travels for work and bet she's a different person in every place. I'm fascinated now that I'm over the tic tac toe game. In the end, for protection, I told myself that she is just a study.
Light blue faded away......clear (sky) now 💅
How do you get past them?
When somebody suddenly dies in your life it obviously leaves you devastated and without closure. There will be questions and maybe things that you wish you could have said. But you can't, they've gone. Overtime you come to terms with the loss and eventually the trauma dissipates. You don't forget but you find peace.
Going no contact, if possible, with this mindset I found helped getting past the narcissist that was in my life.
It's called demonic possession.
Thanks!
You’re are welcome!
1 billion percent true
They are so deceptive, I am so glad I found pod casts like these and became aware of this type of human early on.
It's strange how even after all this time, I still think about the narc.
I have gone delete no contact, determined never to want anything to do with this fake ever again.
Thank you Anoushka.
Their excuses and lies aren't even logical, they don't make sense but because they draw you in to love them, you ignore this and try to understand their lies. It's only when you escape the situation and look back over it that you notice these minor details and warning signs. They are in fact very intelligent which is terrifying.
They act like victims, number one.
He literly told me, when asked "why me?" in response to the same qquestion from him, his two.amswers were, "I just looked in your eyes and i saw you! Weeks after we had become involved btw, and then years later the same.convo came up and his answer was "You're everything I've ever wanted and still want!"
Excellent excellent presentation. Thank you Anoushka 🌹
Another accurate video describing my experience with the narcissists in my life.
Omg this is my adult child. Your videos have really helped me. Thank you
Hi Anoushka, I hope that you are doing, "Really Well"....🙂 Another extremely well presented video, concise, to the point and you make it real....thank you.. 🙏
The narcissist I dated was closeted gay, I found out about it after 5 months of dating. At that time I was still trauma bonded and took me 3 weeks before I walked away... when i found out about him being gay, he still lied about it, but eventually i saw that he become extremely ashamed around me. And he panicked that i would expose him and started the smear campaign on me. I never really told anyone about him being gay, i never wanted to use his vulnerability against him, but you're right, they never want to be vulnerable. They are just broken and sad individuals. My ex was abandoned as a child by both his mother and father. Very very lost soul, poor thing. But if I could just say, no matter how much pity we feel for them, never be with them because they are suffering so much and they spill everything to you to make you suffer with them. Misery loves company! They are jealous if you are happy and confident... they want you to be miserable and in pain. You need to serve them until all your energy is sucked out or until you can't take it anymore and plan suicide. Then they have attained what they need, at your lowest point, they dump you and move on to the next victim and you will see(if you're still alive) how happy they are with the next. But its not long before their new partner goes through the same thing you did...
Great video! Raised by 2 covert narcissistic parents, wouldn't recommend
We do see it though! Others in our same car, family, friends do not but we do. We have learned to do so efficiently. My Narc would tell me you're so manipulative and so good at it. Ha! Sure reactive abuse but I never said it. He passed 7 months ago..... I felt bad he was Ill but knew exactly what he was doing to me. Why, I did not know but now I realize he was just in so much pain !
Thank you Anushka I relate to everything you said.👍⭐
So much pain with this. But, I know you are completely correct. Thank you
I have so caught on to his bs
7:49 Thanks
Thanks Anoushka:)
I don't hurt, hurt people!!
But for how long can they hide from themselves 😅😂🤣
Until they die, in my case. Never admitted his truth, his illness, humiliated me until the end!!!
That's exactly my ex. Unfortunately we have a child. And he often said some threatening things and all I want to know is, how dangerous/ serious is it !?
Great video
Great video. Thank you. Again
Gave her everything she detached from me and everyone lived a double life ran off with a con man after 36 years
Thank you
that's the devil himself
Trauma bonding is horrible. Getting better after a year though.
Wow, you are so good. 😊👍
They use fake nice
My ex narc bf is trying to hoover me back but now I know better at first when I first got with him I didn't know he was a narcissist but looking at all his behavior over the years and looking at several people videos on it he is one and he probably don't even know .
It’s great that you have been able to access this information so that you are aware and armed so that you won’t be hoovered back!
Has anyone had visions while being w a covert narcissist? I never had visions till I met this narcissist.
My ex was a covert narc , she used to do so much for me , she never turned down sex 10 years , I got gaslighted but never de value , one day she just said I’ve had enough , end of relationship
Umm then she was probably not a narcissist and just had some traits? I don't think a npd could be with anyone romantically for so long and not devalue them, specially if you lived together, that's part of their branding basically, they'll always find a way to put you down no matter how good you are, they just will. But other kind of toxic people can gaslight too and leave relationships suddenly, not just narcs.
My recently ex gf was a chinese spy balloon. When I told her she was a liar she had no way to deny it. She said, "But I will never lie you." Errrr that's exactly what a liar would say. Went to her daughter's wedding. Her ex "narcy husband was there." I gf and I are dancing then she starts to stare at her ex who is also dancing. Staring. In that moment I was not present. I walked off. She says it's just that she's never seen him dance before. I dropped some test questions on her. "Are you still attracted to your ex," The reply was NO WAY ABSOLUTE NOT. Rinse and repeat that question as time goes by. It was a clear lie. Some time later, I asked if she was attracted to her best friend who is a diagnosed narcy. Here reply NO WAY ABSOLUTE NOT. Her lies were like those coming from a 5 year old. So easy to spot. Now you may think she is textbook codep, but not even close. She was the right arm of her bestie's narco behavior.
Yes 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Falling in love... , why not rising in love.... 🙄😎🤔😂❤️😁✌️
😢 Anouschka what did you say just there: covert narcissist ARE DARK EMPATHS; they can read your emotions...😮😢😮😢😮😢? Will you reply Anouschka? Thank you 🎉
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I don't believe him anymore
did you like thessaloniki? greetings
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Do they know they are doing this?
Yes
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So they are better!!
i left him and went no contact .. he tried to hoover me twice "every two months" and i didn't respond .. and he didn't try again but he still follows me on ig ? why is that??
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He have solution to all problems
👆👆👆W h a t s a a p him
I stopped my ex mucking my head up when l separated from her but this didn't stop her taking me through court turning me dangerous now lv lost my children where is the justice
Same thing happen to me Bruce. But I continue to pray to god and better my relationship with him. He will deliver is punishment to them 2Timothy 3:1-6. Take care of you.
I actually think this maybe an evolutionary adaptation. Is there any hope for these people?
Narcissistists third eye is creepy
Exactly how I describe my narcissistic ex. He always tells me he has this gift from God that he can read people’s mind
Mine was in Forensics and was an expert according to him reading people!
Women friends are worse
Like in what way. I met a women who I thought might be worth going out with , and than she just wanted To be friends like just hang out. I believe she had a boyfriend and I asked her that and she wouldn't answer. I don't believe in just being friends with women maybe my coworkers.
Wow I just picked up lie ...yes lie lie lie
Creepy
Reverse sycholigy
For time to heal
Example
Cry you wish they would spend more time with you
In the evil time called the discard
They will stay gone longer and longer
They are con artist that belong in prison
🙏🏽💯🙌
Thank you