I had a terrible childhood too. Full of hatred, lies, manipulation, physical, emotional and mental abuse, a mother who neglected me and my two younger sisters when our now sadistic and narcissistic ex stepfather treated us very badly and a father who abandoned me when I was 16 just because we had an argument about his bad drinking habits etc, but I would NEVER treat other people the same way I was treated! No excuses for narcs bullying and sadistic behaviours! Narcissism is also partially genetic and they are oxygen thieves!
Narcissists are always in state of depression, not like clinical depression which can be cured, but a low background depression. Even when they laugh it’s a cruel release laugh. That’s why they bring you down. Early in the relationship they think you might be able to make them happy like you but as time goes on they realize you can’t so they then have to take you down.
I like how you describe this "low backround depression." They can't take it when the mask falls off, so they try to flip the script and switch places. (DARVO coming.) They've just earned a new hater in me. I hope they're happy with themselves
One word describes it all… EVIL You stay because you have compassion and empathy and you leave when you realize they will only destroy you and erase all of your boundaries Not another day or moment Will he take from me or will I give away 🎉
Yes the narc, wouldn't stop his word salad when I told him I was having chest pain and I ended up in hospital with a heart attack. But that was ok, cos he bought me toothpaste into hospital😂!?? After so much pain, nonsense I left. The delayed stress then came out as shingles. Brian sandford from Bournemouth/Poole avoid him like the plague. I know he was lying to 2 others, triangulating. On the day he got engaged to me his wife who was on morphine left, but he left a heartbreak letter which I saw and he told her he loved her very much!?? No she was the main carer of his disabled daughter Clair, so she was useful. I left, thank goodness.
THIS IS SPOT ON. I thought I was just seeing things . Now I know I am not clinically insane . This person actually hissed at me like a snake and began speaking in strange languages. I am not making this up .
Yes it’s a demon possession mine even told me once he saw a dark figure in his bedroom one night he woke his partner and she saw it too he told me when he was a teenager he went outside one night and say what looked like an eye watching him he grew up with an alcoholic father who never told him he loved him until the day he died I feel like that whole combination plus being molested by an older woman did this to him something definitely has him
My ex covert narcissistic partner was a carer for terminal patients and she would often use terminology to describe them that was truly evil. The first time I heard this I knew something was truly wrong. The mask she wore hid disgusting behaviour that I never thought she was capable of. Especially from someone working in that field.
What I could never understand is my narc partner would say or do something that would cot me to the core and then want to go out for dinner! WHAT KIND OF SICK MIND DOES THAT! (Sorry I yelled...)
I can totally relate to this, the narc did it a lot at the beginning, he would be downright cruel and I was in tears while he sat smiling and laughing, I remember him saying that I was crumbling before his very eyes. He would say it was all my fault, that I had grown selfish and set in my ways after having a break from men for 5 years, I actually started to believe him. Now I’m away from him a month today, I can clearly see all these things and more, what an evil entity he is. He came back from work one day saying he felt deflated, only to start an argument with me shouting back and suddenly he said ‘that feels better, I’m totally energised now’. I started recording him after that and have 140 of his rants, rages and threats. I made a statement to the Police and they have 90 of them, the rest was after I went to them, up until the day I moved out. He has been called in for a voluntary interview as there is a case for harassment towards me. I have to go back to do a video statement and give them the other recordings. On them is him barging into my bedroom without knocking just so he could mouth off. In the end I had to install a camera, once he knew he was being filmed, he stayed out. They are EVIL.
@@amazingjane2703 Thank you, I subscribe to NarcDaily already, I will look at Aaron. These channels are a godsend to me and I’m sure others, everything ties into what they say. I never knew about this until I found the channels, I just thought I had a bad one.
They laugh at the inappropriate moments. My wife laughed when I found out about her cheating. All the years spent with this person and dedicating everything to her, this is the respect she shows me.
My ex is the same...she told me she hopes she has hurt me after I found out about the cheating and then rubbed it in my face...showed absolutely zero remorse
My narc sister actually does an odd grimace with her hands clasped beneath her chin when she's done something awful. She rocks back and forth doing this laughing. I've watched her do it my whole life. Nothing makes her happier than destroying you.
The narcissists pleasure from your pain stems for suppressed trauma that they haven't faced and accepted.a friend of mine is full bitterness due to past hurt.
Reacting was my biggest problem would always stand up to them but getting no where,just frustrating me even more,now iv learned to not react and stay motionless,still hard especially when you're kids are involved, great video anoushka 🙏
The joy my mother received FROM decades of her making me feel that I absolutely am less of a man EQUAL to any man & leave my brother out of this... It's my problem she says. Just NOTher'$ way of building on her lies that BEGAN for me with my BIRTH.
A few weeks ago, he was in my place and he made me cry for minutes, and after i stopped he said "he is glad that he saw me cry beacause finally now i m not perfect anymore" this was the exact thing he said...i was shocked...that was the point that i ve decided to go no contact! 🤮🙌 (For the story: he made me cry for a phisycal act, what i don't know if he did it on purpose on me or not...)
Dearing the most critical times when my PTSD, which I got from horrific trauma I experienced in the military, was a bit more active, the narcissist seemed to use that as an opportunity to assume ascendancy over me. Your explanation is absolutely 100% spot on, Anoushka! 🙌
Mine absolutely tortured me everyday for over a year before she threw me away like a peace of trash. She loved watching my suffering. I knew her my whole life. Dated when i was 17, broke up with her because going to another school. I was very nice about it. Broke her heart she told me years later. So she planned to get me back. 20 years later i married her. An angel of light i thought, greatest person id ever known. For 4 years it was perfect. Except she always asked me for all my love, which i thought i was. Then something happened. I was able to start loving myself for first time. I was them able to give her all my love. It was a switch right then. She got me hooked and she became thd cruelest worst person ive ever known. I could write a book what i went through and still am. Shes trying to ruin my life and almost has. Im still in shock tear and a half later. Ill never be same again. She should be in prison fir what shes done
They are emotional rapists! The get off on our pain, frustration and disgust! It’s psychopathy and they need treatment. Not waiting anymore though bc he may never get help. God be with him. I’m out and moving on!
When God reminded me that @5 yo HE told me my mum CAN NOT BE TRUSTED... I used a childhood truth to ask her why she cant do anything to treat me with respect that my slightly older brother has always received? Bc im just so different she could never see me as an equal! SheSatan wasn't looking into my face or eyes & when my Sadistically Catholic mother smirked with satisfaction i turned even further for her to see that i could see. Her head snapped away but the Smirk was still seen on her old wrinkled non God loving face. Its been 14 months & my Sigma Super Empath SUPER Nova is coming soon. Shes 86 now & 86'd from being in control over me!
Back in the day they found the way to "tap-in" to a laboratory rat's pleasure center in their brain. Didn't matter what type it was whether it was sexual, societal, or for survival such as in eating all pleasures went thru this centralized junction area. They then hardwired their feeder bars which gave them a food pellet for each tap into stimulating the pleasure area for each tap. The rats stayed there feverishly tapping away not eating, drinking, or sleeping until they cardiac arrested.
In the vintage Sandra Bullock "Love Potion Number 9" movie the Lab Monkey's pleasure area was stimulated chemically instead of electrically achieving the EXACT same results.
I feel like they happen to be at the lower end of the matrix energetically bc of the huge fragmentation they experience. It's almost like they need the lower energy to keep existing.
I just watched this & it really struck a nerve. I'm literally being destroyed from the inside out due to the constant pain & emotional turmoil that he causes me daily. He won't leave yet he won't/can't change. I mean it's hurts for anyone when they're being lied to, cheated on, & deceived. So imagine having to go through this all day everyday with no end in sight. It's soul crushing & is affecting me in ways you wouldn't even believe. Im working getting myself in a position where I can get out of this once & for all but after being a stay at home parent since 2011 finding a job is challenging to say the least. I have begged him to leave me but no I guess that would be too easy. He wouldn't get to see the damage he's causing daily if he did that.
Stop giving a reaction. Start seeing a doctor and prove your sanity too. Prepare to be discarded and him take the kids. Use that time to rebuild and let the kids see this narc they will suffer no matter what at least this way they will learn the truth,,respect you they won't respect you for staying they will be minions of. The narc. Use the time as a break and to rebuild but document everything. Good luck. Don't tell the narc what you're doing. Lie lie lie about everything. It's war and this is how you win.
They smirk or they tell you that your wrong like you deserve it their never on your side if your sick they will attack you I had a fever with a Kidd infection he stayed home from work. He supposed to drive me to the hospital or doctor, but what he really was doing was he stayed home to do something horribly malicious to me and make sure I was late for my appointment late because he followed me around the house got me so upset. I was crying 2 inches from my face screaming at me acting like a bratty child I had to threaten to call the police they are sick ,sick people
Yes yes and yes! And I, myself have just recently shut off all personal emotion to him (the narc)...We have been in this battle for about 7 years now, oh my gosh i already left this guy like over 50 times (you would think Id learn)...but now he is worse than ever with his attempted manipulations on me, he now has turned volatile since I won't give in, he knows I know...he's been throwing things, tantrums, at one point yesterday, they told me to get out and live on the street. Honestly, I'm so scared and alienated...this is one of the biggest reasons I regret not having my own money again and a support system already in place. The family has been done with me being with him. They already "rescued" me so I have no one but me..I'm atleast secretly listening to these videos with my headphones while they're sleeping so I can do some things without an added blow up, I may need to sneak my things out and leave soon...I just have to stay strong...its just that sometimes, I dont want to wake knowing I'm alone with this creature...this is helping so much to see all of you strong people, real people sharing the truth of these painful individuals, ty sooo much
It’s been almost 2 years, and the only reason I’m still around it’s for the kids. Using the justice system and her allegations to alienate me from them. Sometimes I just feel like giving up and move on.
I don't know your situation, but I hope that if you are together with this woman that you separate yourself from her but still maintain a relationship with your children (as she will continue to be abusive towards you). If you are already separated, just do all you can to continue having a relationship with your children. Pray that things work out in your favor 🙏🏾
I got setup many times, but I never took the bait. It was like watching a play with all of their flying monkeys as the actors. This happened time and time again. I would walk into a situation that was scripted just to see my reaction, but he never got one, because I was onto his game. He would up the ante the next time it happened again, didn't take the bait. I had the triangulation constantly, but didn't take the bait. I got out at the first opportunity and when I got tired of the game. Then NO CONTACT. Bye bye.
As IF you asked for it. (You didn't!) They make a MOUNTAIN OUT OF A MOEHILL (especially in a REACTIVE ABUSE setup) and SCREAM IT from the mountaintops how you supposedly "deserved it" with an evil grin. Run, don't walk!
When I told her to kick rocks that was important for her to know if I cried and I figured it out she did not know what that felt like crying she knew algitor tears seen that though 😢 😭
Agreed! The psychological industry decided that there was enough money being made by saying that "I'm okay and you're okay" nonsense to the world. I'm not buying it anymore!
He actually came after me morning after morning, trapped me and continued for hours, demanding that I look at him and telling me I coudn't go to the bathroom, he said "I scare the piss out of you!" with triumph, beating me up if I dared to go to bed at 1 am, slapping anything I dared to have in my hands like coupons or the paper, while he was raging, poking and shoving me as he walked by me, it was a constant, constant assault. The sexual degradation was horrible. I tried to numb myself with alcohol. When one day he took my phone, keys, and phone from me and blocked my way to the door, I ran for my life. Yes, he enjoyed this, that's why it accelerated, and it nearly broke me. I am free now, healthy and living a good life. If you think you are living with someone like this - RUN NOW. If I hadn't, I would have been dead by his hand or mine.
Can you please do a video on a female narcissistic sociopath? Don't see it talked about anywhere near enough. These predators are deadly. She was my childhood sweetheart, dropdead gorgeous with the biggest most brightest blue eyes and the most warm, infectious smile. I was crazy in love with her. Worshipped the ground she walked on. Lied to me, faked a pregnancy and a miscarriage to dig her claws in and trap me. Was nearly a good 10 year ago now. I was only 16 at the time so I didn't have a clue, didn't know no better. She broke my heart in pieces. I thought she was special. I thought she was genuine. She was so sweet and down to earth at first. Thought what we had was pure and genuine love. I've never known no pain like it. She discarded me like trash for a guy she told me for so long not to worry about. They're still together now.
Went through nearly this exact thing but with some much worse things incorporated. The best thing you can do is forget all about her and everything that happened but take the lessons forward with you in life and learn the skills to recognize these people before they become enmeshed in your life. Remember that you can't help, change or cure these people and they are doomed in their looping cyclical behavioural patterns. The juice is also never worth the squeeze, and modern society is manufacturing entire generations of narcissistic women.
I wish I could write here my experience with you, but it is too much. Luckly I have found another job and relationship, I even moved to another country and have a lovely relationship. Anoushka, by you I do know now more about narcissists, they are everywhere but I do know now how to handle them. I want to thank you. :)
It took me 13 years to be fully confident that this is exactly what he’s been doing to me all these years! I discovered narcissism back in 2021, but I still kept going back because of the attachment and trauma bond. It wasn’t until recently that I realized he was purposely doing things to hurt me and break me down. I had to tell myself that no way someone who loves me would continue doing things they know bring out certain insecurities and then tell me that’s something I need to get over. I am now going over so many things and realize this has been emotional, mental and psychological abuse!!! It angers me sooo much! But the only thing that helps me is having minimum contact with him ( we share a 7 year old) and that helps me keep my power. The last convo I had with him I told him it makes him feel powerful to see me hurt and at my lowest . But when he sees me healing and getting back to myself, he hates that and comes back to destroy me. I told him he may break me down, but my strength is too powerful and he will never completely destroy me. I know he doesn’t care and he doesn’t understand love on the same level as I do, but I needed to say that. I’ve always tried to maintain some sort of coparent relationship because I felt it was the right thing to do. Until recently I realized I have to take my power back and do what’s best for ME. So unless it’s an emergency and he must absolutely contact me, I am no longer available. I realized I don’t want to be friends with someone like that, even if we do share a child. He tries so hard to come off as this nice, caring and Godly man, but I see right thru it. I’m so disappointed in myself for continuing to go back to him all these years. It never lasts and I can truly say he doesn’t love me at all. There’s so much power in silence and limited contact (if you have a young child) I have peace. ❤️🙏🏽
I've experienced people deriving enjoyment from pushing my buttons to get me to lose my temper my whole life in order to give the impression that I was the unstable one. Even after leaving and going back intermittently over the last 30 years and going back for Christmas or other occasions this very same treatment continued. I thought maybe it was simply a normal thing for brothers to do when I was growing up but when it continued into adulthood I realized these men have issues. The fact my own Mother allowed this to go on without intervening is quite disturbing in itself. I've finally just removed these toxic people from my life once and for all and I suggest anyone that deals with this type of behavior just stop talking to them at all. I also had a friend of about 30 years as well who loved to get into arguments frequently and would constantly repeat the same nonsense time and time again just to get a rise out of me. It really was like he was feeding off that negative energy. I finally cut ties and now live in peace from all this aggravation. I don't know if you'd call them Narcs but they certainly display many of the qualities. Each and every one of them seem to be very kind to others so it's a bit strange to be targeted by them in this manner.
I met a guy lately who I fell in love with as he was confident, attractive etc. When I finally got my chance to be one on one with him , he turned out viscious and hateful. He criticized me constantly (later even admitted he exaggerated on purpose), picked up arguments, never gave me clear answers if he would like to be with me (saying he cant put up with me as I'm annoying). Im really attracted to him physically and he is smart and funny, but this hateful, aggressive side is scary so I decided to stop trying:( I stopped making contact with him. I ve been single a long time , got excited about him, but its going nowhere. He himself told me all he can offer is pain and misery, he has some self awareness what he is doing and knows he lacks empathy.
My husband gets a burst of energy and revamped cockyness when I can't hide the feelings of being tormented. His hums, sings, makes obnoxious exhales and says the most cruel digs at my chronic illness. It's a constant Rollercoaster of torment and I can't get off the ride.
Yes...infact they get energies from frustrating others and their definition of power is destroying others such as their confidence...!!!but our source of energy based on encouraging others...to improve and kindness...couse of that i am not in the right place in my country...!!!
Later in the relationship you can feel the depression and you find yourself being pulled down and it becomes the norm... Because we have sympathy we want to help them... They will then flip it and be incredibly mean to you and lash out for no good reason... Its a rollercoaster of emotions... and all you want is to be happy together but that wont be happening anytime soon or too often.
My ex is sadistic! After I left, I was looking through pet cam video footage and saw horrible images of him sexually abusing children and animals! He was recording it all to watch later by projecting the images on the walls, plants, etc, as I sat watching tv not knowing any of this. Don Barnes is sick in the head and twisted as hell
Some Narcissists are just born this way. It's in their genetic makeup. Anoushka keeps going on about some kind of childhood trauma, but it is not always the case.
As I understand it, the best evidence suggests a genetic tendency but it still requires childhood trauma. It doesn’t require physical or sexual abuse. Emotional neglect or dysfunction from a narcissistic or emotionally absent mother figure is sufficient. Or being idealised as a golden child who can do no wrong.
@@fainitesbarley2245 Thank you for your reply, however, my brother is a very toxic narcissist, yet he comes from very kind, loving parents. He was definately born like it and got worse as he got older.
Absolutely truth. Of course the smart doctors ask the patient narcissist how it all began and of course the narcissist blames everyone but themselves and the good doctor thinks he found the answer but in reality just made another victim 😂
i have 5 of them 2 above me 2 next to me and 1 under me and everyone is believing their lies and standing behind them thnx to them the only band between me and my sons that i had true face chat is gone i cant believe that there are sick people like that in the world that enjoy it to ruining your life cause of their own mistakes
😂OMG，that’s why he said as long as emotional doesn’t betray him, he is fine with if physically with others…and I figured out, that why he starts to give me slient treatment
Dear Anoushka.. You have just described, what I’m going through NOW! I’m in a triangulation, that he started! The pain is extreme … and excruciating 😢😢 He’s also brought in Enabler’s from outside.: BECAUSE he is UNABLE to get Close EMOTIONALLY to connect. To really LOVE… He’s told me, Our life is on his Terms.. He’s in for a Surprise,, as when I’m sorted for my future career.. I will Not stay… He’s being Cruel / Vindictive AND evil, ….. everyone in my circle is suffering.. We all Shocked and devastated by the Pain, I’ve been given! You have described my situation 💯… Happy Christmas! And Thank YOU 🙏🏻👼🏻🌲🎄🌸
My mother narc used to be initiating situations to make me sutter, get hurt, keep provoking after my stroke to bring on another one ... the more suffered the happier she was and laughed with joy watching me blood pouring down my face .. The worst thing is that she was teaching this to my son since he was a little boy. Now, him over 50, is his granny´s copy. My mother used him as a tool to torture me, twisted my son´s mind to make him her copy,
I am pretty sure my narcissistic ex drugged and tortured me. She had been abusing me for years but at the time i was co-dependent and trauma bonded. I remember eating with her and waking up with burns on my knuckles.
I was in a meeting about something i put 100 hrs into . As i tried to ask questions the two woman in meeting told me to be quite. I sat there and literally said nothing more. Why should i ever put energy again into something that helps others who are rude to me. I cried on the way home.
Ladies and gentlemen, any time you have to do research on a person to understand their behavior, run for the hills🏃♀️
Well said 👏
Yes I can see it. It is absolute torture! It's like I'm dealing with Satan himself. I have walked away but the pain is unbearable 💔
Exactly. It stings for a while become the best version of yourself and do not contact them look what they done to you
I am with you, sorry for this terrible experience.
You are spot on legion we are many
No heart 🥺🙏 period
You have dealt with the devil, but you won! Amen!
I had a terrible childhood too. Full of hatred, lies, manipulation, physical, emotional and mental abuse, a mother who neglected me and my two younger sisters when our now sadistic and narcissistic ex stepfather treated us very badly and a father who abandoned me when I was 16 just because we had an argument about his bad drinking habits etc, but I would NEVER treat other people the same way I was treated! No excuses for narcs bullying and sadistic behaviours! Narcissism is also partially genetic and they are oxygen thieves!
Just because someone has human dna that does not mean they are human, the ones sold their soul to evil is not on of us.
This is my whole family or origin. It’s sick to want a person to hurt this bad. It’s as if they are enjoying torturing as a hobby.
Narcissists are always in state of depression, not like clinical depression which can be cured, but a low background depression. Even when they laugh it’s a cruel release laugh. That’s why they bring you down. Early in the relationship they think you might be able to make them happy like you but as time goes on they realize you can’t so they then have to take you down.
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I like how you describe this "low backround depression." They can't take it when the mask falls off, so they try to flip the script and switch places. (DARVO coming.) They've just earned a new hater in me. I hope they're happy with themselves
These people should be required to walk around with a dog tag
One word describes it all…
EVIL
You stay because you have compassion and empathy and you leave when you realize they will only destroy you and erase all of your boundaries
Not another day or moment
Will he take from me or will I give away 🎉
I’m an Empath married to a narc the pain that he endures on me is absolutely excruciating 😢
Then leave duh, your fault for staying
Yes the narc, wouldn't stop his word salad when I told him I was having chest pain and I ended up in hospital with a heart attack. But that was ok, cos he bought me toothpaste into hospital😂!?? After so much pain, nonsense I left. The delayed stress then came out as shingles. Brian sandford from Bournemouth/Poole avoid him like the plague. I know he was lying to 2 others, triangulating. On the day he got engaged to me his wife who was on morphine left, but he left a heartbreak letter which I saw and he told her he loved her very much!?? No she was the main carer of his disabled daughter Clair, so she was useful. I left, thank goodness.
@@apeshitphilosophy5221 Sometimes leaving results in homelessness DUH!!
It is truly a sickness that the sadistic narcissist has. Deep down in their evil driven mind they are fragmented and disconnected in their psyche.
This is so true! Their emotions just turn on and off in a second, this is so unhealthy and they hurt all people around them!
That's because they are demon possessed and the demons give them relief, energy, and Glee from hurting another person
THIS IS SPOT ON. I thought I was just seeing things . Now I know I am not clinically insane . This person actually hissed at me like a snake and began speaking in strange languages. I am not making this up .
Yes it’s a demon possession mine even told me once he saw a dark figure in his bedroom one night he woke his partner and she saw it too he told me when he was a teenager he went outside one night and say what looked like an eye watching him he grew up with an alcoholic father who never told him he loved him until the day he died I feel like that whole combination plus being molested by an older woman did this to him something definitely has him
That’s not fair that they get relief from Satan but all we feel is pain and emptiness
My ex covert narcissistic partner was a carer for terminal patients and she would often use terminology to describe them that was truly evil. The first time I heard this I knew something was truly wrong. The mask she wore hid disgusting behaviour that I never thought she was capable of. Especially from someone working in that field.
What I could never understand is my narc partner would say or do something that would cot me to the core and then want to go out for dinner! WHAT KIND OF SICK MIND DOES THAT! (Sorry I yelled...)
My childhood was mostly bad but I still feel happy and positive. I don't understand how some people become narcs and some don't
It's also partially genetic.
They are born that way. Jealous and greedy selfishness. And they learn at a early age how to lie cheat and steal to get what they want.
That's why we have to go No contact when possible
My narc x enjoyed watching me suffer... and has ruined me mentally and emotionally..
I can totally relate to this, the narc did it a lot at the beginning, he would be downright cruel and I was in tears while he sat smiling and laughing, I remember him saying that I was crumbling before his very eyes. He would say it was all my fault, that I had grown selfish and set in my ways after having a break from men for 5 years, I actually started to believe him. Now I’m away from him a month today, I can clearly see all these things and more, what an evil entity he is. He came back from work one day saying he felt deflated, only to start an argument with me shouting back and suddenly he said ‘that feels better, I’m totally energised now’. I started recording him after that and have 140 of his rants, rages and threats. I made a statement to the Police and they have 90 of them, the rest was after I went to them, up until the day I moved out. He has been called in for a voluntary interview as there is a case for harassment towards me. I have to go back to do a video statement and give them the other recordings. On them is him barging into my bedroom without knocking just so he could mouth off. In the end I had to install a camera, once he knew he was being filmed, he stayed out. They are EVIL.
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So evil
@@amazingjane2703 Thank you, I subscribe to NarcDaily already, I will look at Aaron. These channels are a godsend to me and I’m sure others, everything ties into what they say. I never knew about this until I found the channels, I just thought I had a bad one.
I wish we could just expose them with their names to warn other women. There has to be a way.
NEVER NEVER NEVER ask a narcissist ‘WHY’….i
They laugh at the inappropriate moments. My wife laughed when I found out about her cheating. All the years spent with this person and dedicating everything to her, this is the respect she shows me.
I'm so sorry 😢😢😢 Try to remind yourself daily that you are a valuable and worthwhile person without her. Karma is coming for her !!!!!!!!!!!!!
My ex is the same...she told me she hopes she has hurt me after I found out about the cheating and then rubbed it in my face...showed absolutely zero remorse
All my current trauma aside , you have the best outfits
i had a couple exs that would smile and be "bouncy" when i was hurt. it was SICK
My narc sister actually does an odd grimace with her hands clasped beneath her chin when she's done something awful. She rocks back and forth doing this laughing. I've watched her do it my whole life. Nothing makes her happier than destroying you.
The narcissists pleasure from your pain stems for suppressed trauma that they haven't faced and accepted.a friend of mine is full bitterness due to past hurt.
Reacting was my biggest problem would always stand up to them but getting no where,just frustrating me even more,now iv learned to not react and stay motionless,still hard especially when you're kids are involved, great video anoushka 🙏
The joy my mother received FROM decades of her making me feel that I absolutely am less of a man EQUAL to any man & leave my brother out of this... It's my problem she says. Just NOTher'$ way of building on her lies that BEGAN for me with my BIRTH.
A few weeks ago, he was in my place and he made me cry for minutes, and after i stopped he said "he is glad that he saw me cry beacause finally now i m not perfect anymore" this was the exact thing he said...i was shocked...that was the point that i ve decided to go no contact! 🤮🙌
(For the story: he made me cry for a phisycal act, what i don't know if he did it on purpose on me or not...)
Of course he did it on purpose. Don't be naive.
Dearing the most critical times when my PTSD, which I got from horrific trauma I experienced in the military, was a bit more active, the narcissist seemed to use that as an opportunity to assume ascendancy over me. Your explanation is absolutely 100% spot on, Anoushka! 🙌
Whe can,t understand, how it possible. That they are so cruel... and have no empathie.
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Mine absolutely tortured me everyday for over a year before she threw me away like a peace of trash. She loved watching my suffering. I knew her my whole life. Dated when i was 17, broke up with her because going to another school. I was very nice about it. Broke her heart she told me years later. So she planned to get me back. 20 years later i married her. An angel of light i thought, greatest person id ever known. For 4 years it was perfect. Except she always asked me for all my love, which i thought i was. Then something happened. I was able to start loving myself for first time. I was them able to give her all my love. It was a switch right then. She got me hooked and she became thd cruelest worst person ive ever known. I could write a book what i went through and still am. Shes trying to ruin my life and almost has. Im still in shock tear and a half later. Ill never be same again. She should be in prison fir what shes done
They are energy vampires
Yup. My ex and his father used to smirk, smile and laugh when they inflicted pain, fear, betrayal, invalidation, etc on myself and even our children
They are emotional rapists!
The get off on our pain, frustration and disgust!
It’s psychopathy and they need treatment.
Not waiting anymore though bc he may never get help.
God be with him.
I’m out and moving on!
They know everything there doing. Very poor human beings!
THIS is the BEST explanation I've ever heard!!!!
finally i understood why the guy i met put me through such nightmare
It hurts so bad and then they wonder why I'm so sad because they're mad
I remember he used to keep Saying I Don't Care whenever I raised i brows on how he treated us Cold and full of Misery
When God reminded me that @5 yo HE told me my mum CAN NOT BE TRUSTED...
I used a childhood truth to ask her why she cant do anything to treat me with respect that my slightly older brother has always received? Bc im just so different she could never see me as an equal!
SheSatan wasn't looking into my face or eyes & when my Sadistically Catholic mother smirked with satisfaction i turned even further for her to see that i could see. Her head snapped away but the Smirk was still seen on her old wrinkled non God loving face. Its been 14 months & my Sigma Super Empath SUPER Nova is coming soon. Shes 86 now & 86'd from being in control over me!
Yes trauma bonding is the worst stay strong. I grey rocked mine he disliked it . Well he did same to me , they hate when you take back control .
Back in the day they found the way to "tap-in" to a laboratory rat's pleasure center in their brain. Didn't matter what type it was whether it was sexual, societal, or for survival such as in eating all pleasures went thru this centralized junction area. They then hardwired their feeder bars which gave them a food pellet for each tap into stimulating the pleasure area for each tap. The rats stayed there feverishly tapping away not eating, drinking, or sleeping until they cardiac arrested.
In the vintage Sandra Bullock "Love Potion Number 9" movie the Lab Monkey's pleasure area was stimulated chemically instead of electrically achieving the EXACT same results.
You just by the end of it realise that you can't win and you feel so drained that you just give up
I feel like they happen to be at the lower end of the matrix energetically bc of the huge fragmentation they experience. It's almost like they need the lower energy to keep existing.
It’s pure hell with my narcissistic mom 😩
They’re supposed to love you of all people right? Well, it’s pure hate i get from her!!
I just cut ties…….
That was explained very well. I have a hard time trying to explain this stuff to people who do not understand.
I just watched this & it really struck a nerve. I'm literally being destroyed from the inside out due to the constant pain & emotional turmoil that he causes me daily. He won't leave yet he won't/can't change. I mean it's hurts for anyone when they're being lied to, cheated on, & deceived. So imagine having to go through this all day everyday with no end in sight. It's soul crushing & is affecting me in ways you wouldn't even believe. Im working getting myself in a position where I can get out of this once & for all but after being a stay at home parent since 2011 finding a job is challenging to say the least. I have begged him to leave me but no I guess that would be too easy. He wouldn't get to see the damage he's causing daily if he did that.
Stop giving a reaction. Start seeing a doctor and prove your sanity too. Prepare to be discarded and him take the kids. Use that time to rebuild and let the kids see this narc they will suffer no matter what at least this way they will learn the truth,,respect you they won't respect you for staying they will be minions of. The narc. Use the time as a break and to rebuild but document everything. Good luck. Don't tell the narc what you're doing. Lie lie lie about everything. It's war and this is how you win.
Yes yes yes. Awful times. I'm now getting how abusive she was. Bloody sick people. I did tell her in my last email to not use ppl. She didn't like it.
That thought that someone else just existing and acting on their free will causing someone else pain is psychotic.
They smirk or they tell you that your wrong like you deserve it their never on your side if your sick they will attack you I had a fever with a Kidd infection he stayed home from work. He supposed to drive me to the hospital or doctor, but what he really was doing was he stayed home to do something horribly malicious to me and make sure I was late for my appointment late because he followed me around the house got me so upset. I was crying 2 inches from my face screaming at me acting like a bratty child I had to threaten to call the police they are sick ,sick people
Yes yes and yes! And I, myself have just recently shut off all personal emotion to him (the narc)...We have been in this battle for about 7 years now, oh my gosh i already left this guy like over 50 times (you would think Id learn)...but now he is worse than ever with his attempted manipulations on me, he now has turned volatile since I won't give in, he knows I know...he's been throwing things, tantrums, at one point yesterday, they told me to get out and live on the street. Honestly, I'm so scared and alienated...this is one of the biggest reasons I regret not having my own money again and a support system already in place. The family has been done with me being with him. They already "rescued" me so I have no one but me..I'm atleast secretly listening to these videos with my headphones while they're sleeping so I can do some things without an added blow up, I may need to sneak my things out and leave soon...I just have to stay strong...its just that sometimes, I dont want to wake knowing I'm alone with this creature...this is helping so much to see all of you strong people, real people sharing the truth of these painful individuals, ty sooo much
I'm going through this too!!! How are you doing
I was sleeping and I woke up to her spitting on me and screaming. Been gone while. Cannot believe I fell for her
I love it as they always dodge the consequences, temporarily.
What comes around goes around..
It’s been almost 2 years, and the only reason I’m still around it’s for the kids. Using the justice system and her allegations to alienate me from them. Sometimes I just feel like giving up and move on.
I don't know your situation, but I hope that if you are together with this woman that you separate yourself from her but still maintain a relationship with your children (as she will continue to be abusive towards you). If you are already separated, just do all you can to continue having a relationship with your children. Pray that things work out in your favor 🙏🏾
@@crencottrell7849 it's a trap some use it to keep you chained. I'd loved my kids to death and always will. but i wont let her dictate no more.
good explanation, they project what they have, they can't project what they don't have
My childhood was like that. no love and only negativity. Bu I'm not a narcissist. There must be more to it.
Watch Sam Vaknin.
@fainitesbarley2245 Do you know Dr Vankin is himself a diagnosed narcissist?
Currently getting trolled by both abusers and friends. Thanks for providing your insight
OMG 😱 you definitely nailed it at this video, this is one of the best video to describe the Narcisist behavior 👍🙏
THANKS , YOU COULD NOT HAVE MADE IT ANY CLEARER !!!!!!!!!!
I got setup many times, but I never took the bait. It was like watching a play with all of their flying monkeys as the actors. This happened time and time again. I would walk into a situation that was scripted just to see my reaction, but he never got one, because I was onto his game. He would up the ante the next time it happened again, didn't take the bait. I had the triangulation constantly, but didn't take the bait. I got out at the first opportunity and when I got tired of the game. Then NO CONTACT. Bye bye.
As IF you asked for it. (You didn't!) They make a MOUNTAIN OUT OF A MOEHILL (especially in a REACTIVE ABUSE setup) and SCREAM IT from the mountaintops how you supposedly "deserved it" with an evil grin. Run, don't walk!
This is so true turn their emotions off and on. You are dead on, explaining it makes makes it crystal clear.
For those who are narcissists, their soul is filled with a narcissistic demon that need to be extracted in Jesus name! 🙏✝️
You're an incredible woman and I wish I had a life partner with You're intelligence and character 💯✨️
When I told her to kick rocks that was important for her to know if I cried and I figured it out she did not know what that felt like crying she knew algitor tears seen that though 😢 😭
Its Psycopathy 👹
Agreed! The psychological industry decided that there was enough money being made by saying that "I'm okay and you're okay" nonsense to the world. I'm not buying it anymore!
He actually came after me morning after morning, trapped me and continued for hours, demanding that I look at him and telling me I coudn't go to the bathroom, he said "I scare the piss out of you!" with triumph, beating me up if I dared to go to bed at 1 am, slapping anything I dared to have in my hands like coupons or the paper, while he was raging, poking and shoving me as he walked by me, it was a constant, constant assault. The sexual degradation was horrible. I tried to numb myself with alcohol. When one day he took my phone, keys, and phone from me and blocked my way to the door, I ran for my life. Yes, he enjoyed this, that's why it accelerated, and it nearly broke me. I am free now, healthy and living a good life. If you think you are living with someone like this - RUN NOW. If I hadn't, I would have been dead by his hand or mine.
Can you please do a video on a female narcissistic sociopath? Don't see it talked about anywhere near enough. These predators are deadly. She was my childhood sweetheart, dropdead gorgeous with the biggest most brightest blue eyes and the most warm, infectious smile. I was crazy in love with her. Worshipped the ground she walked on. Lied to me, faked a pregnancy and a miscarriage to dig her claws in and trap me. Was nearly a good 10 year ago now. I was only 16 at the time so I didn't have a clue, didn't know no better. She broke my heart in pieces. I thought she was special. I thought she was genuine. She was so sweet and down to earth at first. Thought what we had was pure and genuine love. I've never known no pain like it. She discarded me like trash for a guy she told me for so long not to worry about. They're still together now.
Went through nearly this exact thing but with some much worse things incorporated. The best thing you can do is forget all about her and everything that happened but take the lessons forward with you in life and learn the skills to recognize these people before they become enmeshed in your life. Remember that you can't help, change or cure these people and they are doomed in their looping cyclical behavioural patterns. The juice is also never worth the squeeze, and modern society is manufacturing entire generations of narcissistic women.
It applies equally to both sexes
They are pure evil
So sorry to hear that
The woman narcissist sociopath always gets a free pass.. we are expected to just go along just because that's how woman are.. it's all BS
I wish I could write here my experience with you, but it is too much. Luckly I have found another job and relationship, I even moved to another country and have a lovely relationship. Anoushka, by you I do know now more about narcissists, they are everywhere but I do know now how to handle them. I want to thank you. :)
@Anoushka, I know it's controversial and risky but PLEASE address the demonic connection at some point in some way.
It took me 13 years to be fully confident that this is exactly what he’s been doing to me all these years! I discovered narcissism back in 2021, but I still kept going back because of the attachment and trauma bond. It wasn’t until recently that I realized he was purposely doing things to hurt me and break me down. I had to tell myself that no way someone who loves me would continue doing things they know bring out certain insecurities and then tell me that’s something I need to get over. I am now going over so many things and realize this has been emotional, mental and psychological abuse!!! It angers me sooo much! But the only thing that helps me is having minimum contact with him ( we share a 7 year old) and that helps me keep my power. The last convo I had with him I told him it makes him feel powerful to see me hurt and at my lowest . But when he sees me healing and getting back to myself, he hates that and comes back to destroy me. I told him he may break me down, but my strength is too powerful and he will never completely destroy me. I know he doesn’t care and he doesn’t understand love on the same level as I do, but I needed to say that. I’ve always tried to maintain some sort of coparent relationship because I felt it was the right thing to do. Until recently I realized I have to take my power back and do what’s best for ME. So unless it’s an emergency and he must absolutely contact me, I am no longer available. I realized I don’t want to be friends with someone like that, even if we do share a child. He tries so hard to come off as this nice, caring and Godly man, but I see right thru it. I’m so disappointed in myself for continuing to go back to him all these years. It never lasts and I can truly say he doesn’t love me at all. There’s so much power in silence and limited contact (if you have a young child) I have peace. ❤️🙏🏽
I've experienced people deriving enjoyment from pushing my buttons to get me to lose my temper my whole life in order to give the impression that I was the unstable one. Even after leaving and going back intermittently over the last 30 years and going back for Christmas or other occasions this very same treatment continued. I thought maybe it was simply a normal thing for brothers to do when I was growing up but when it continued into adulthood I realized these men have issues. The fact my own Mother allowed this to go on without intervening is quite disturbing in itself. I've finally just removed these toxic people from my life once and for all and I suggest anyone that deals with this type of behavior just stop talking to them at all. I also had a friend of about 30 years as well who loved to get into arguments frequently and would constantly repeat the same nonsense time and time again just to get a rise out of me. It really was like he was feeding off that negative energy. I finally cut ties and now live in peace from all this aggravation. I don't know if you'd call them Narcs but they certainly display many of the qualities. Each and every one of them seem to be very kind to others so it's a bit strange to be targeted by them in this manner.
I met a guy lately who I fell in love with as he was confident, attractive etc. When I finally got my chance to be one on one with him , he turned out viscious and hateful. He criticized me constantly (later even admitted he exaggerated on purpose), picked up arguments, never gave me clear answers if he would like to be with me (saying he cant put up with me as I'm annoying). Im really attracted to him physically and he is smart and funny, but this hateful, aggressive side is scary so I decided to stop trying:( I stopped making contact with him. I ve been single a long time , got excited about him, but its going nowhere. He himself told me all he can offer is pain and misery, he has some self awareness what he is doing and knows he lacks empathy.
The content of this video was very helpful in understanding the sadistic tendencies of the narcissist. Thank you.
Thanks!
Even when my father was very sick. My ex.n was gone. Even until after the funeral... i could not understand, that he left my al alone. The...🤮
The best video on narc I've seen in a long time.
My husband gets a burst of energy and revamped cockyness when I can't hide the feelings of being tormented. His hums, sings, makes obnoxious exhales and says the most cruel digs at my chronic illness. It's a constant Rollercoaster of torment and I can't get off the ride.
Yes...infact they get energies from frustrating others and their definition of power is destroying others such as their confidence...!!!but our source of energy based on encouraging others...to improve and kindness...couse of that i am not in the right place in my country...!!!
Later in the relationship you can feel the depression and you find yourself being pulled down and it becomes the norm... Because we have sympathy we want to help them... They will then flip it and be incredibly mean to you and lash out for no good reason... Its a rollercoaster of emotions... and all you want is to be happy together but that wont be happening anytime soon or too often.
Absolutely i can totally relate to this....
My ex is sadistic! After I left, I was looking through pet cam video footage and saw horrible images of him sexually abusing children and animals! He was recording it all to watch later by projecting the images on the walls, plants, etc, as I sat watching tv not knowing any of this. Don Barnes is sick in the head and twisted as hell
My sister.
I’ve only just discovered your channel but I’m finding you’re videos really helpful. Thank you!
Richard grannon and Sam vaknin are also good at explaining our role in this which I think is more important to heal
so very on point…
U have this right
Some Narcissists are just born this way. It's in their genetic makeup.
Anoushka keeps going on about some kind of childhood trauma, but it is not always the case.
As I understand it, the best evidence suggests a genetic tendency but it still requires childhood trauma. It doesn’t require physical or sexual abuse. Emotional neglect or dysfunction from a narcissistic or emotionally absent mother figure is sufficient.
Or being idealised as a golden child who can do no wrong.
@@fainitesbarley2245 Thank you for your reply, however, my brother is a very toxic narcissist, yet he comes from very kind, loving parents.
He was definately born like it and got worse as he got older.
Absolutely truth. Of course the smart doctors ask the patient narcissist how it all began and of course the narcissist blames everyone but themselves and the good doctor thinks he found the answer but in reality just made another victim 😂
@@seankay8137Bingo..
i have 5 of them 2 above me 2 next to me and 1 under me and everyone is believing their lies and standing behind them thnx to them the only band between me and my sons that i had true face chat is gone i cant believe that there are sick people like that in the world that enjoy it to ruining your life cause of their own mistakes
At this point i am not sure if it is a narcissist, or a transient cosmic tress passer. ..I think we have a problem in this world.
And she used stories to male me jealous
She loved that. I then hid that emotion after a time.
Rotten to the core
😂OMG，that’s why he said as long as emotional doesn’t betray him, he is fine with if physically with others…and I figured out, that why he starts to give me slient treatment
Dear Anoushka..
You have just described, what I’m going through NOW!
I’m in a triangulation, that he started! The pain is extreme … and excruciating 😢😢
He’s also brought in Enabler’s from outside.: BECAUSE he is UNABLE to get Close EMOTIONALLY to connect.
To really LOVE…
He’s told me, Our life is on his Terms..
He’s in for a Surprise,, as when I’m sorted for my future career..
I will Not stay…
He’s being Cruel / Vindictive AND evil, ….. everyone in my circle is suffering..
We all Shocked and devastated by the Pain, I’ve been given!
You have described my situation 💯…
Happy Christmas! And Thank YOU 🙏🏻👼🏻🌲🎄🌸
Please STOP giving him power.
Glad you have others round you who can see them for what they are.
Thanks for these videos that you upload, they are very educating and helpful, keep up the good work 🙏❤️☮️
My mother narc used to be initiating situations to make me sutter, get hurt, keep provoking after my stroke to bring on another one ... the more suffered the happier she was and laughed with joy watching me blood pouring down my face .. The worst thing is that she was teaching this to my son since he was a little boy. Now, him over 50, is his granny´s copy. My mother used him as a tool to torture me, twisted my son´s mind to make him her copy,
Why did you not take control and set boundaries when he was a child?
Gosh.. gosh, GOSH, My God!
So much ends in divorce a lot of us Guys
don't worry about this stuff We just live
peaçful lives Pump iron if they drool?
if they don't big sh*t.
I am pretty sure my narcissistic ex drugged and tortured me. She had been abusing me for years but at the time i was co-dependent and trauma bonded. I remember eating with her and waking up with burns on my knuckles.
Wow this is great, very relevant to what I’m trying to figure out
It must be horrible being in there heads so empty b evil
I am new to this channel I enjoy every video
Why can't they mirror the love you show them lol
Thank you
I was in a meeting about something i put 100 hrs into . As i tried to ask questions the two woman in meeting told me to be quite. I sat there and literally said nothing more. Why should i ever put energy again into something that helps others who are rude to me. I cried on the way home.