Shocking Revelation: My Husband Confessed He's Transgender! | Am I The Only One
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- Опубликовано: 7 фев 2025
- Welcome back to "Am I the Only One," where I delve into life's toughest moments with honesty and vulnerability. In this episode, I embark on a deeply personal journey, sharing the story of my husband of 10 years revealing his transgender identity to me.
This is a topic laden with complexity and emotion, and I approach it with the utmost respect and sensitivity. My intention is not to speak for anyone else but to share my own experience and perception. Over the course of two years, I grappled with the profound implications of this revelation while attempting to salvage our marriage.
Divorce is never easy, especially when intertwined with such a significant life change. I candidly recount the challenges, the heartache, and the growth that accompanied this period of my life.
It's crucial to acknowledge that every individual's journey is unique, and my story is just one thread in the rich tapestry of human experience. My aim is to offer hope and encouragement to others who may find themselves facing similar circumstances, assuring them that they are not alone.
Join me as I open up about a chapter of my life marked by love, loss, and ultimately, resilience.
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== About Me ==
Hello! I'm Ashley, a travel enthusiast who loves to explore and share everything I learn along the way. I have traveled to over 70 countries and have made it my mission to dig into the culture, history, food, and language as much as I can. I not only want to share my passion for the world but also encourage my viewers to get out and experience it for themselves. I feel privileged to have the opportunity to inspire others to challenge their miss conceptions and step out of what makes them comfortable in hopes of trying or experience something new that may change their life forever.
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As a born again Christian woman, I didn't believe in divorce until I found out my husband of 25 years was bisexual and had been cheating with people our whole marriage. It has taken me over 10 years to not feel totally broken. It's taken almost 20 years to forgive him. I still have C-PTSD as he was a narcissist, and lately I realize I was lucky to come out alive. It does feel shameful to divorce, but the Lord does not want us to be unhappy and in those types of relationships. I am now married to a wonderful Christian man, and I now feel completely loved. There can still be a wonderful life after coming through something that totally shatters us to pieces. ❤
If your spouse is sleeping with other people, you can and should divorce, I believe that is biblical.
The same happened to me. Four children later, whom I had to primarily raise, time has helped.
I made horrible mistakes that cost me 25 years of my life. Those mistakes were made because I was over sheltered as a young person and I didn’t know any better.
Now I am married to a wonderful person who doesn’t “tell me “ I am loved, but shows me every day.
I still don’t trust 100%.
I was abandoned by my parents and my grandparents raised me from a point of trauma, and did the best they could. Sadly, it wasn’t the best for me….
❤thank you!
With God, all things are possible ❤️🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing, this is encouraging me to know that people come out to the other side, Happy and blessed.
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No, God doesnt want us to be abused and you were most certainly you were abused! God bless you.
I knew your ex growing up as kids together. My heart has been just raw for you knowing what you have gone through. I’m glad you’re finally opening up and sharing your story. ❤
Was he a boy or a girl when a child ?
Was he always a narcissist? It's plain as day in the videos.
You should be thinking about her ex. He had to go through a lot to get to where he is. This isn’t a choice.
@@itsinesantonio He was born male. Their old travel videos are available on their channel, The Way Away. You just need to scroll down. If you watch the videos, you will see a change in appearance. From short spiky hair and leather jacket to him allowing his hair to grow long and I mean really long (for a guy anyway) and wearing girly blouses.
@@TheSwissChalet This is what I'm wondering as well. His attitude in the Morocco/Istanbul videos especially when they were stranded at the airport due to their own dumb decisions is so entitled and rude. Same kind of attitude when they were walking through a market and they kept having people try to talk them and sell them things.
To me, the gaslighting is the worst. When you feel something is off but the other person keeps saying it's nothing. Makes you question yourself and your own sanity.
Thanks for this honest and at the same time very respectful video ❤
There may have been no intention on the part of the former spouse to gaslight. They sound like pretty unsure of what was happening themselves.
It's just an unfortunate situation all around. No doubt there was love on both sides, as she states, but flat out she didn't fall in love and marry another woman and that's an unreasonable expectation to ask her to continue the marriage.
Thank you for sharing your Story to hopefully help others. You are very Strong, Loving and Kind and I love your Mom’s energy, she is amazing. Blessings ❤️🙏
@@dazeyday5699 Exactly, especially as he didn’t feel he could continue in the form that the marriage was, why should he expect her to go along with something she didn’t want to. That’s not what she signed up for.
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A very raw, and honest interview. You're incredibly brave to be so open. I have a lifelong friend who was married for 20 years with 4 children, and his wife came out as lesbian. He showed the same bravery, empathy and honesty as yourself. Kudos to you
Your mum is absolutely fantastic at interviewing. You should have her on your channel in the future if you're interviewing other people.
She's so calming and easy to talk to. 👍
I thought this too :)
I agree.
Amazing respectability. I wish you well. Thank you for sharing.
She does seem like a lovely woman. But I can also see how she could have indiretly contributed to the naivety of this situation. Where are the boundaries with these people? They let the mainstream media determine their morality(?)...what is to be accepted and what is not?
I thought that too! She’s a natural.
As the father of a daughter the same age as Ash I take my hat off to her mother for getting through this interview. Few things are worse in life than seeing your little girl in pain.
Yes indeed, Ash's Mum handled it with such composure and grace. God bless all the wonderful Mums. I'd also like to say, though your comment was quite short, it conveyed so much. I think I can correctly surmise, that your daughter, like myself have truly been blessed with wonderful Fathers. It's sad that many aren't so fortunate.
🥇 I place this medal here to honour all the incredible Fathers and Mothers who are towers of strength, beacons of hope and harbours of Love and comfort for us when adversities come.
Ash, you are an inspiration, though your cross is soul crushingly heavy your love, integrity and loyalty remain. I pray you will soon heal fully and once again be filled with joy. Sending you Big snuggly 🧸 hugs.
May God bless and keep us all.
Much Love from Ireland ☘
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Thank you for sharing your story. My 31 year old daughter is about a year into this same journey, but still married so far. Ash, it helps me to hear your feelings and experience as the wife in this situation, as it is hard to hear or discuss with my own daughter. We are also trying to navigate the changes this has caused in our mother daughter relationship. It’s so complicated! You are brave to share this publicly and God’s going to use you. I know God is going to restore the years the locusts have eaten in your life. Thank you again.
Her spouse will become totally absorbed in their journey at the exclusion of everyone else’s needs and feelings. It’s my experience that the longer your daughter stays the worse her mental health will get.
Your voice deserves to be heard. Spouses, family, etc. often get overlooked in situations like these as the “main character’s” feelings tend to take up all the space.
Great point!
So many ppl just act like the loved ones should just be 'happy' their 'true self' us out now and they forget that the parents are losing their son in a way, etc. Especially when the person changes so much of who they were and is disconnected from the family now. It's so hard on everyone
Very good point
It's peak misogyny, a deep hatred and contempt for women, in which these MEN feel entitled to wasting the best years of our lives and then discarding us like trash when THEY are ready to announce to the world that they're perverts
Well said 👍🏻
I can’t imagine how hard it is to be this vulnerable but your story matters. Your feelings matter, just as much as your exe’s. Thank you for trusting us enough to share this with us ❤️
They matter more...she didn't do anything wrong. She's the victim not the perpetrator.
@@TheSwissChalet exactly!!
10000% Ash is an example of everything good and honorable.
We hear the other side way too often from the deceiver living a double life
@abigailh7715 You've made such an important point. The Husband's have been misleading in these,relationships . No one asks how the wives are coping or what they go through.
His feelings don’t matter. He betrayed his wife and waisted 10 years of her life
Oh Ashley, everytime you cry I also well up. I remember when you want through this and what a shock it was. I had a huge shock happen to me in my relationship at the same time as yours and I have always felt invested in your recovery as a result. It is hard to love the person who is the cause of so much pain but when they don't wish to cause that pain and they are going through their own pain, it's so complicated. You are an inspiration and so worthy of love. Your mum is great too and she so obviously loves you. Thanks for sharing and being so brave.
Your mom needs her own show.
You have my respect for making this video and taking your channel this direction.
Its very refreshing to see people approach difficult subjects with honesty and the intent to move forward from them as a better person. I hope you revisit this topic in the future when the subject isnt so sensitive around the world so you feel like you can give your full story with honesty. It hurt me to know that you're trying so hard to be honest, but still have to stop yourself.
That being said you're already being very brave and I couldn't be happier to know people are out there that have been through situations like yours and want to grow and become a better person from the situation rather than trying to bury it or pretend that it doesn't bother them or they don't feel hurt.
I think popularizing this type of straight, honest, painful self reflection would do wonders for our damaged human psyche. So thank you, Ash, for being willing to carry this banner for the millions who are still too hurt or afraid to do it for themselves.
Beautiful comment! ❤
Well put; and it made me Think, that this too is a Channel of breaking out of bounderies: that are stopping us from exploring life openly.
Not in the World of Geology but Psycology… from the outerworld to the inner World 🤔
I just want to hug you. You can see that this is a hurt that is still so deep. How does one even attempt to make it thru this. You should be proud of the strong person you have become. Tears are still ok with gaining strength. I commend you on how much grace and understanding you have given him/her. As with many viewers, I saw this unfolding on YT, and even as a viewer you just can’t believe this is happening. I can’t imagine the confusion and pain you were going thru. You are a loving, big hearted young woman. I wish you the best things in your future. And also, your mom is amazing. So glad you have a loving support system.
i can remember seeing the video where yourself and your husband basically explained the situation years back. it is great you have put this content out as there will be so many who can relate.
Ashley, your mother did a great service to you for guiding you through the right and good questions, etc., but YOU, Ashley, were and are SO SO BRAVE! Thank you for this vlog and for being open and vulnerable and kudos to you for getting through....and keep moving through.....God is good and has you in the palm of His hand! Teresa
Thank you Teresa. My mom knows me better then anyone so I do think she was the best person to film this with. I trust fully I am right where God wants me. :) -Ash
In 1978 I found out my now x husband wanted to be a woman 3 weeks after we married. I continued with the marriage not understanding what he was talking about. There was no internet back then and I had nobody I trusted to talk to. His mom was not approachable. He never transitioned, but we divorced 13 years later when he met a woman who thought she was a man while attending college. Years later I found out his whole family knew about him wanting to be a woman before we were married, but didnt feel I had the right to know. My husband and I did end up having 2 children. Our experience and feelings are similar so you are telling my story. I have been divorced 36 years and he has since passed away. I feel cheated beyond words. I never had the eternal marriage he promised me.
Stay strong, we may never understand, but we are worthy of peace in our lives.
You did not deserve that and I'm sorry that happened to you. I pray for you to be blessed in every way possible going forward.
This is wrong on so many levels. Thank god for the children. 💕 But that is beyond deceitful. (I transitioned as a child but even back then I knew if I made the choice I couldn’t reproduce) I couldn’t imagine lying and hurting someone under the institution of marriage. ❤
@@SarinaValentinaxo you transitioned as a child...yeah, sure you did.
Smh@@SarinaValentinaxo
but you stayed after finding out 3 weeks into the marriage....you cheated yourself
I commend you for your honesty. In these times of social media, I've found a real lack of genuine posts or videos that have reached out to me. I have also suffered loss like you and others; one of the best things I learned along the way was that it is okay to grieve the life you thought you would have. I'm sure as you've found the grief ebbs and flows and with time, we are able to process and cope differently. You are a kind and well intended person and it shows. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. Wishing you happiness, peace and health
As a Mom... I must commend your Mom for being SO calm and open herself... even though this has been unbelievably difficult on all of you. You are a brave lady... I hope you are still seeking counseling because for a very long time issues will rise that need to be honestly dealt with. I wish you love and happiness and one day all the dreams you dream will one day come true. Thank you for sharing. It was not easy.... nor will it ever be.
That was a very sweet comment….thank you from one mom to another❤️Thank you for your support of Ashley and kind words.🥰
One of my first dates with my now husband was to your wedding. I also saw his change just through your RUclips channel and just want to say you showed so much strength during that time. I pray for you always.
What is their original YT channel? 😊
@@carly10347 Way Away
@@carly10347thewayaway
Their original channel is titled:
The Way Away
Ashley! It’s me, Nathan, from Hollywood CG! Hey, I appreciate your raw and honest talk here. So heartfelt. I really hear you.
It hurts my heart to hear she held stuff in and didn’t reach out to family and friends while they were figuring out next steps during their marriage but I’m glad she got her family’s support and counseling afterwards. Wishing Ash finds her happy ending!
Me too. Lucky will be the guy who is in her future ❤
I'm a long term follower and watched all your videos from thewayaway and you did an absolutely amazing job at explaining everything here kudos to you! Your mum did an amazing job as an interviewer and would love to see her appear more on your channel!! Best of Luck Ash you deserve happiness!! X ☘️
Ash you’ve come a long way but it’s painfully clear that you’re not fully healed. Completely understandable. As someone else mentioned, I do hope you eventually circle back and address this topic when you truly are healed (take your time). You don’t owe any of us anything so that remains your prerogative. I do feel that your experience could truly be so helpful for others going through this extremely difficult subject matter. When you refer to your ex spouse as “this person” and are very hesitant to discuss the things that would really help, it’s obvious you’re not ready. Let me be clear, I’m not talking about revealing salacious details. Your pain is so raw. Your instinct to be protective is hindering your ability to tell YOUR story. It’s okay to be honest without being vindictive or revengeful. I think it’s crystal clear that you don’t want to inflict harm. Unfortunately YOU are the one being harmed by not telling YOUR TRUTH. I can only imagine that this set of circumstances would (by its very nature) include issues with betrayal, trust, self esteem, anxiety, depression, anger, sadness, shame. I’m sure that there are painful issues on BOTH sides. I’m sure your ex, in telling and living his truth, has had to dispense with being overprotective of you. While painful for you, wouldn’t you agree…understandable? You also must dispense with being overprotective to tell and live YOUR TRUTH. Some things in life are just sensitive and painful. Your truth is important. I look forward to seeing you fully healed and standing in your unvarnished truth. ❤
Also, upon re-reading your comment don't you feel she fully describes those feelings of trust issues, anxiety, depression, betrayal etc that you are calling for in this video? I think she does an excellent job. You-tube audience is not her therapist. What more could you really ask of her?
I hope this video was cathartic for her to make, and she goes back to making her joyful travel videos if that's what she really loves and enjoys in the future, without feeling that she now has a "ministry" to keep delving into this for the online public. But that's not my decision, that is hers alone,
gross, you're not a therapist and you're comment is wildly inappropriate
Happened to me also 30 years ago. He wanted to leave and live his life but wanted me to keep it secret until he could save enough to get his own place. But I found out he was going to drag bars dressing up on the days he was out of town working. That was my you need to get out moment. He has tried to make my life miserable since. My question still is what did I actually do to him to deserve this treatment. It has been a sad 30 years. I am still heartbroken . I would say dont keep their secret you dont have to demonize them but by speaking your truth you are living your truth. What they did happened to us. Just like they say they have the right to be who they want be and want to be understood and respected we also have that right.
❤❤❤ you are brave and damn right!
They are men, everything always has to be about them. They are selfish. I'm so sorry you had to be put through this and then made to feel like your feelings don't matter. They do matter. Just not to him because he only cares about himself ❤
You handled a heartbreaking situation so maturely! As your mother said with so much grace! An inspiration!
You are a very kind person, and I am glad you've developed fair boundaries for your heart.
Ash, thank you for sharing. I actually discovered you through your previous channel with your husband and didn’t suspect anything. You handled everything with such grace and class.
same here...i found them when doing research on an european vacation some years back...and started watch them from that point on.....ive noticed some stuff but didnt make anything of it. i think it was the european river cruise when they were in germany i was like....ok is he wearing womens leggings lol. my spouse was like...hes wearing womens sunglasses and wearing a womans coat....and theres was a shot of him sitting with his legs crossed and we looked at each other like......i wonder does Ash knows. Tough situation to deal with indeed.
@@pariah7917yes his attire threw me off. The leggings and short short shorts.. the attention to his hair..
@pariah7917 what is their old channels name?
@dreamday8 was a great channel...lots of great content of them traveling...crazy u can see as he metamorph as time went on. Crazy
@@pariah7917I didn't see the vids of their European vacation. I think it was their NZ or Australian trip which gave me strange vibes - the women's blouses and shorty shorts. I only knew Ash after her "I'm getting divorced" vid and had to backtrack.
Thanks for sharing your story
No such thing
I want to commend you for how you presented this. My daughter and I are both part of the LGBTQ family. We have both had family turn us away and it was horribly painful because we are just trying to live our authentic self and truth and deserve unconditional love. That said, SO DO YOU! And I am so sorry for the pain that it has caused you. Your pain IS VALID! I can not just see the love you had and still have for your x, I can feel it. I can only imagine the turmoil she felt having to hurt someone they loved so much to be true to themselves. I really didn't expect to watch all of the video after stumbling across it but I watched every second. I think that you having to not share your story to protect them speaks so much to your loyalty and how much your love for them is. That said, you also deserve to speak your truth and the impact it has had on you. I feel terrible that you did not have a support system (even if it was by choice) even being able to live my truth with my spouce and being through all I have, if something as big as or unexpected happened to my spouse it would absalutely be devastating. You didn't just up and leave or treat them cruely and by all rights you could have . I'm so very sorry and I do believe there is still a beautiful future for you. I so wish everyone could be as respectful and just all out .....im struggling to find the right words. Not hateful. It's OK that you couldn't stay you deserve to live your truth just as much and im so glad you followed your heart and didn't settle and stay miserable. There absalutely no way they didn't know how hard you tried and how much u did and do care. Your mom said it best... when she said people should be empathetic towards the person changing. The other person absalutely deserves the same...maybe even a bit more..Blessings hun.
Ah Ashley - at the 49 minute mark, I started losing it for you. My heart still hurts for you, and all you have gone through. It is understandable, the grief, the depression, the sadness after your life has forever changed. You are so brave to put this out there, and I know it is going to help some people. I've told you this before, but you are a beauitul ray of sunshine, and there is someone out there for you. Someone who will love and appreciate you for the wonderful person you are. He will be a very lucky person to share your life. Thank you for doing this interview. Your Mom was great! Sending you a big hug Ashley. - Coreen 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘
I'm 18 months post this happening to me. This has been so difficult to listen to but every feeling you had is absolutely what I felt (and still do). The guilt is gut wrenching. The loss of what you thought you had. Being blindsided by something you had no knowledge of. The betrayal that he'd had this knowledge in him since he was a child but married me without giving me the choice to go ahead with the marriage or not. In truth I'd probably have married him because I adored him (still do) and if his feelings had become so strong that he had go through with it then I would have been prepared and I would have taken that chance but lost. He wanted us to carry on as two women. He was telling me he was still the same person, the same heart but he couldn't accept that I had married the man and not another version of him. By us doing what he wanted then he was asking me to live a lie for the rest of my life while he satisfied his lifelong desire. I'll never get over it but I'm learning to accept it happened. What makes matters worse is that after he left (one week after his revelation) he hasn't gone through with it.
I watched you guys all through your travels. I think you both went into your marriage 100% committed but then your ex either changed or felt safe enough with you that he was able to allow a secret part (even to himself) to come out and be himself. I think it was hard on both of you. It doesn't mean you loved each other less or that your marriage wasn't meaningful. I wish love, peace and happiness for both of you!
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The fact that it was difficult for her ex does not change the fact that he is the deceitful one and she is the victim who dragged her into a matter in which she had no part. He used her as a cover for his lies until he came to a conclusion with himself about his life. sad.
@@Avigailish People who are in incredible pain and fear, as I’m sure he was during that time, often don’t WANT to see the truth that they know deep down but can’t admit. They hope it goes away. Until you’ve walked in their shoes, you cannot understand and can’t fairly judge.
@@Avigailishthis video is about HER story, not the ex. She specifically said she doesn't want to be seen as a victim in the video. She wants to give empathy and to be empathized with, as any human would, for a difficult and painful situation. Let's honor that.
Your brainwashed attitude regarding this topic is absolutely sickening to me
I was a follower back when everything happened. You are correct, you knew something was different and happening. You just couldn’t put your finger on it. I think your followers felt the same way. We knew something was different, but we didn’t know what. Your compassion and empathy is commendable. You have handled all of this with so much grace and should be proud of yourself. You’ve been extremely respectful of your previous spouse. I don’t think a lot of people could be as respectful. I hope you find true happiness and love. You deserve it. ❤
Thanks for sharing. I think the OG followers from the way away needed this closure too. What makes me the happiest is that to didnt walk away from God or your faith, in fact, it just brought you closer to our Father. And this is not something we see often in the current world. You're a great testimony!
Ashley, I tried calling your old phone number I had forever ago back from when we were in a community group together at Reality LA. I live in Seattle now and would love to get together. I have been praying for you and have been keeping up with your story. I’m so proud of the woman you are. Christ is doing amazing things in your life. I love seeing your joy and positivity even when the going gets tough. Choosing joy is not easy, but you do it well. 💕
Amen 🙏
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS! 💓💓💓💓
Ashley you're very respectful of your ex but in my opinion, he wasted your time by not telling you straight up his intentions. He deceived you for years and broke your beautiful heart. I can see you're still deeply hurt and wish you love and healing. You matter❤ And your mom is great!
It's yet another form of gaslighting misogyny and abuse against women who have to tip toe around the topic and "forgive" these psychopaths.
Yep, we're supposed to accept everyone, but do you not hold someone accountable for treating you as a place holder until they felt comfortable enough to come out? Hmm.
Ash, can really feel your heartbreak. You’re such a sweet kind soul, grieving & working through it with integrity & high regards for your spouse. Generously sharing such a painful & difficult experience with us. I don’t know how I would react to this traumatic situation. You have a big loving heart & I hope you heal & find your person x
One of the most difficult things I found to come to terms with was just how unfair it was that even though I did nothing wrong. I still had to bare the heartache of losing someone I loved. It just felt so unjust to have to go through that having not done anything wrong. I think that's what I empathised with and what resonated with you and your story. And kind of compelled me to comment. Even though the details were different, it's still that feeling of how unfair life & love can be. To see you come through and still face it with grace and dignity is very inspiring & I hope important for someone else to see. Super brave video that ash. Thank you for you and mum sharing. Time heals all. And it never hurts as much as the first time.
I started watching you when you did the Melbourne videos because that's where I am. I did think at that time there was something not quite right going on but couldn't put my finger on it. I've got to say you are an incredibly strong woman to have been gone through that experience and come out the other side. I know it is not as clear cut as that. There are always times when it hits you again and again. But I must say all strength to you, to come through not bitter, certainly bruised and battered. Now regaining the trust in people is the challenge. You need to go through it so you can truly move on. I must say too, all respect to your Mum, for having the strength to take you through this video and help you along the way. Stay strong Ash. 😍😍🦘🦘
I have so much respect for you Ash, your experience was clearly very painful and difficult. Thank you for sharing :)
Great interview Ash! The law of attraction states we should focus on what we want not what we don't. It might be easier to move on from your marriage is you ask yourself "What if they changed back and wanted me back? Could I take them back or even trust them again?" If the answer is no then you can let it go permanently and focus on the next love of your life as there are plenty of fish in the sea. There are no guarantees in life and as much as we want something to last forever that is not always the case. People change. Be willing to accept that and your next partner may just be the love of your life without you expecting it. The future is wide open :)
Oh Ashley I just think you are the brightest soul. ❤ you are loved! You have inspired me to live more fully - whether that means being more vulnerable in relationships or traveling to new places❤
Oh Ash, was a hard watch seeing you being being vulnerable instead of your usual cheerful bubbly self 🧡
You are so lucky to have a mum who listens, who doesn’t judge, who doesn’t have an emotional collapse that offers really good constructive gui😢dance and brings clarity to this really complicated situation. It’s hard for mums to not take sides but no one is the bad guy here and you need your mum to be impartial. Lucky you. I wish I had a best friend like your mum.
I miss that person. I hope they are doing well. Thank you to you and your mom for sharing! 🫶
Thank you Ash, you did a great job addressing your situation. I found you very respectful to your ex. And the format with your mom asking you questions was fantastic. Kudos to your mom, she did a great job, 💕
Ashley, thank you for loving him at the time the best way you knew how to.
Thank you for loving yourself enough to do what was right for you.
Thank you for sharing on this sensitive topic. Thank you for being a resource for people who may be going through similar things and don't have a support system.
Your Mummy did such a great job talking through this video with you. So grounded. Well done Mum!!!
I agree and thank you for affirming her. She gave it all she had and ultimately had to make hard choices. She is an overcomer!
Hey Ashley! Thank you for sharing.
Your desicion to take this road with your channel is amazing. I know you will be successful with it and in the process, you will help so many people. God is definitely using you right now. I can't wait to see your future videos.
I only spotted your main channel when you posted your divorce video. And I really enjoyed your videos when you lived in Washington.
And yes, your mum is awesome interviewer! 😊
Thank you for speaking from your heart
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I certainly understand some of the emotions you went through Ash, although my circumstances were very different. Wishing you all the very best, you deserve happiness
You and your mum did this video beautifully. Thank you so much for telling your story ash . So pleased you have found someone and hope all the best for your future together ❤❤
Ash, I could not imagine the incredible stress that you would endure during this phase of your life. To me it seems like you have survived this with dignity and a caring heart and much stronger. I wish you much happiness going forward and as always, all the best!
You did a great job telling and sharing such a personal experience! Happy you're on the other side of this. Wishing you peace always.
You handled your situation with grace Ash and your mum is clearly a great support too
I do love and adore her…she is a treasure😀
Oh Ash, you are a lovely woman and I love how you have chosen to be respectful & walk into the light. Your mom was brilliant too.
Thank you for sharing. I can't imagine how you navigated that. But clearly you are stronger than you think and quite an amazing person.
This was even hard to watch as an audience over the years!! Love watching you grow. I hope you’ve found peace beautiful spirit. I am sure this was not easy for you to express.
Thank you for sharing such personal experience of hardship and how you've overcome it and grown and blossomed despite the adversity. I've followed your story. You're so amazing! Your mother is, as well. I wish you only love and happiness from now on.
You are a far, far better person than I am or ever could be.
I could echo that,of myself.
Me too. I can't say what I really want to say. This is heartbreaking to watch.
I really feel for you. I've been going through this myself for the last 4yrs. I've been married 18yrs. Still dealing with this.
Respect Ash. You are dignified honest and loving. Grace.
such a tough time in your life not wanting a divorce etc. but so so glad you are coming out the other end so much stronger and getting happier day by day. You needed to stick up for yourself and stick to your boundaries and beliefs and you did so.
Your mom is a terrific interviewer!
I love that you had this conversation with your mom ! A great example for all!
You met the challenge and prevailed. What a strong, loving woman you are and you will always rise up and thrive. What an awesome Mom you have.
Your mum is so kind and beautiful. Take care of her❤
Thanks for sharing such a difficult experience in such a kind way. True grace under pressure. Wishing you the best going forward ❤
I appreciated that you shared your story and still made space for the experience of your ex. It’s complex and you navigated it with grace.
I can tell this was very difficult for you but bravo for being so strong and sharing this with everyone ❤
You're stronger than you know or give yourself credit for, it's hard to tell yourself that sometimes, gosh I find it hard to tell myself that sometimes, but to put this out shows an enormous level of vulnerability, acceptance, courage, and strength. I can't really say much else, it's not my place to say or to speculate, but keep your head high and be proud of yourself. God bless you.
I came across your video...remember Ephesians 6:12
12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities (Satanic Agendas), against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
What an absolute blessing for such an amazing Mom. I am so glad that you’re at a place where you can share your truth. You continue to shine even through your pain and grief. I’m excited to see what God has in store for you in the future. Thank you for sharing and God Bless you!❤️✨❤️✨💫💫💫
Thanks for sharing. I’ve watched your videos for many years. This was a shock even to me as a viewer. I love your new content and channel. You are so inspiring!
So sorry that happened to you and your vulnerability to shed light on such a hard time. Your mother is amazing! You never know what’s going on behind the scenes in someone’s life but being real and vulnerable is refreshing and therapeutic! Stay strong your amazing❤
Ash you are so brave. And how lucky you are to have such a supportive family. Not just because of what you struggled with. But giving you strength because you are loved no matter what.
The hardest thing is to remain loving. Your soul is so kind, so compassionate. I wish you all the love and happiness and trust this will unfold for you in your future. So brave, so courageous, so caring. Your humanity shines through Ash.
You should be so proud of where you have been and where you are now. You are a very sensitive person, and it's clear how badly this experience has affected you. It is wonderful that you have an amazing mum to support you, and I hope you find love again one day. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤
Your mom was superb in this interview like she has had some experience doing this as councilor and it is good to get it all out.
My heart goes out to you. You can love someone, but have to decide if staying together is loving them or setting them free. It's such a hard situation to go through. 😭
Your parents raise a wonderful God loving woman. You will find love again. When you are ready and open to it. Your Mother is awesome
Thank you for seeing her the way we do. She is who you see in the videos.
@@sandyw9226 thank you for being there for her, your a great mom. 💛🙏✝️
I feel for you so much. What a difficult prediciment for you both! I definitely have empathy for both sides.
GOD thank you for this woman that has endured the worst pain and you have kept her light shining bright. I pray that when the time is right you bring the right person in her life that loves unconditionally and know how to love her the way that she should be treated. I just saw this video and then went to the other channel and saw Her video and you are being so respectful when you could have been bitter and mean. I will continue to watch your traveling adventures as I think that will help you so much with this chapter in your life.
Glad you have been able to come through this Ashley.
Hope she's getting professional help.. she's been hurting a LONG time
@@carlalayne3942 we all do
Be proud of yourself. You are very kind and caring. You went through a very hard situation but came out of it stronger than ever. Keep being you girl.❤❤🙏🌹👸🏼
I just started watching & loving your channel when this started. But I enjoy watching your channel as well. I love your mom! You’re lucky to have her!! Hang in there! Stay strong! Continue growing on your own & you’ll know when you’re ready to trust & love 100% again.
Oh Ashley 💔 I’ve followed along to your channels since you started. We were in Life Group together at RP and I had always sensed there was a truth he wasn’t sharing since meeting him. Wasn’t sure if you were in on that truth or it was something he never spoke of. It definitely didn’t surprise me when this news came out. I have prayed for you many times through the years since. It breaks my heart that you were going through this alone. How scary that must have been for you. Part of HIS plan for our lives when we experience hard things is to then be a support just as you are now doing. It builds within us great compassion, empathy and ability to help others. You have a lovely strong faith filled family who I can see have supported you well. You did nothing wrong. ❤ Keep healing.
Anyone who saw you together saw how you well you two gelled. You bounced off each other and laughed all the time ❤ It was a beautiful thing and I mourned the loss of that relationship for you 😢
P.S Good job mum ❤ I know this must have been heart wrenching seeing your beautiful girl relive this traumatic time in her life ❤❤
Ashley, you are a very brave and strong woman. Thank you for sharing your story!
Loved seeing Sandy on the channel, she made this very professional and I am sure it helped you to have her there. Love you both
That was a very moving discussion.
Your ability to be respectful towards your ex, whilst opening up about the effect their needs and 'choices' had, and still has, on you, having had everything ripped out from under you, is so impressive.
I hope that someone who needs to watch this finds their way here.
You are a hero Ashley, you are my hero. You are destined for amazing wonderful things in life, and you are a light to this world. ❤
Amen!! ❤
Ash, you have wisdom and maturity well beyond your physical years! Your Mom's comments throughout and especially at the end was VERY WELL verbalized, supportive, loving! I am praying for you, your family, your ex and his family. May God RICHLY BLESS you dear, sweet lady!
Thank you so much! Prayers are so so appriciated and ALWAYS welcome :)
Ash such an in depth and personal video. While I knew some of the details from watching your channels. Seeing how you were dealing with it over the years shows your inner strength to overcome a difficult situation. I think the most important thing you said is each situation is different because of the individual people involved.
Finally, your mother was an amazing moderator.
Thank you soxrox! You have been a part of this community for so long. Thank you for that!
Ash I feel more endeared to you than ever. The courage you have in discussing this..immeasurable. And what a rock star your mom is. She's a natural. Feel free to include her more in the future if she wants. God Bless. (HUG)
Sending love and best wishes Ashley! It’s a difficult and traumatic experience you went through. Thanks for sharing your story. By the way your mom is amazing ❤️ God bless you all.
I think the fact that you are trying to be respectful of your ex and her feelings etc is absolutely amazing. Not all people would respect that. I’ve never seen one of your videos so given this is the first one and it’s such a hard topic. I think it’s a testament of who you are and the respect you have for them as a person. ❤
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Thank you for sharing Ashley.
You're a saint. I would tell you to keep your head up but I know you're 10 steps ahead. Love ya mija!
I think you are going to be a huge help to other women going through the same thing. There really isn’t a community for this and I imagine many women going through it probably feel like they can’t talk about it. Thanks for being brave and being a voice for them. Your mom is so awesome for doing this with you. What a great mom!
This may not be well received, I’m not overly religious. I do not agree with being super religious. I believe in having some of the rules that religion brings to the table are amazing for society and the fact that morals are really important. Both are victims, because of religion, he probably felt he couldn’t be honest and say he felt like he was supposed to be a she and as a result and just did what was expected, just the same as this young lady is now feeling like the prescribed, from a young age idea of how life should be, and it has a curveball… it’s not ok to be thrown this curveball after 10 years by any means and heart goes out to all parties. But for me buying into a religion can be really harmful as you are not allowed to think outside of a box
yep, agree
Dear, you are to be commended for the kindness and patience that you showed to your husband as he uncovered this central part of himself. I would have done the same thing as you, in getting divorced. I sense that you still have more crying and grieving to do; after all, this was not a small thing that happened to you. So please do yourself a favor and let those tears flow. God bless you as you move forward into the next chapter of your life. ❤
Well done! If there's one thing I've learned in life, bad behavior in a spouse is like rats or ants. If you see one, there are a hundred more you haven't seen. You have no choice but to separate yourself from that merry-go-round. May God continue to Bless you!
Thank you for sharing your story Ashley ❤ I’ve said it before but your ability to pick yourself up after going through something really difficult and looking for a way forward is really admirable 🥰
Thank you for being so open and sharing your story. It will help others going through something similar.