I’m 22 and everyone wants me to have a baby. I just broke the generational curse of teen pregnancy. I’m just happy to beat the statistics and honestly just not ready
@@coreyjeanne9342 I'm in Toronto. It is very illegal here but no one said anything and her mentality was that if he were happy at home he wouldnt be looking for anyone else. She was nuts.
It’s sad that he even had to be congratulated for this. Mothers do all the work and I haven’t seen one comment about them being strong mothers. Which they are. Why is it so rare for men to step up to plate 😒 this should be common play.
@Cyber Rant Nation bc they don't have strong male role models to teach them how to be good men. I think that's one of the reasons a two parent household is so important.
Likely bc they've had no real father figure. No one is rearing them. Whose going to hold them there and say 'you've gotta be accountable.'. It's a generational issue often. I'm not a church person but Memphis in this video is on the correct path, imo. **teen mom now 45
@Minnie Mouse For the teenage boy his parents will have to pay and for the criminal still file against him the mother can get government assistance and she can get his social security benefits as well back pay
What worried me was Latonya when she said they are there when you need them. Babies love you but they need you more than you need them. They aren’t able to give so young. I feel sorry for her and other girls who think a baby will fill the void they need for love or companionship.
rzum81 Clearly speaking to her childhood! Sounds like her Mother and Father are emotionally and physically absent! I hope she doesn’t get pregnant again..
I think they intentionally edited it that way... it doesn’t sound like she actually said that. And by the end of that episode when she’s given birth she seems much more level headed.
whewwww yes! shoutout to the guy focusing on the boys in an effort to avoid teen pregnancy! too many programs focus on the teen moms as if they conceived miraculously + without a boy or even worse MAN in the picture. we need more hims.
Already I see the focus being on these young girls who have experienced trauma instead of on the older MEN grooming them, impregnating them, and abandoning them. So sick of this narrative. The majority of teen pregnancies are fathered by men over 20. There's a whole other issue there we're not looking at.
Then you’re never gonna be ready. After 20 it’s not about age but maturity and selflessness that makes one ready to be a mom, not the other attributes! 🤷🏻♀️😏
Angie Doe: lol, maturity won’t pay the hospital bills. You need the finances and stable relationship to raise a child. If you don’t have both you’re screwed in my opinion
@@jessa4596 stupidity is spinning what I said to automatically mean that those who don’t have kids are selfish. So if I’d have said that mothers are nice people, it automatically meant that everyone else isn’t nice or are even bad people? 🤔 I just listed the precondition to be ready to be a mom. Maturity and selflessness. Didn’t say one word about others. 🙄
@@2l2q36 Even as a teen, myself and most people I've encountered would never have claimed that a baby is "there when you need them"🤨. I disagree that her comment was a normal or expected teenager comment about parenting. She is definetely emotionally immature for her age.
Cay K actually, sometimes babies give people joy, and happiness, even when everyone else is against you. I don’t think she meant it like the baby was gonna be there for her.
@@ambercooper4676 She didn't say bring joy, she literally said that the baby will be "there for HER". That's not even close to the same thing. She expects the baby to fill voids and be her emotional support, did you even watch the video and listen to how many how girls made similar comments? So many come from broken homes, so the thought of the baby as "someone that will love me forever" is all too common. Butt anyone who is a parent knows that while babies bring joy, they take a LOT out of you and bring responsibilities that these girls cant even fathom yet. A screaming infant isn't "there for you", especoally at 3 am when you haven't slept in days, you are there for the screaming infant. While babies do bring love and joy, having a baby shouldn't be about what the baby can give you, thats a recipe for disaster.
Why don’t the boys have to spend the night with fake babies as well? They both need the revelation. Also, I think a more effective approach would be paring youth with an actual teen mom to help them get a real experience!
Yesss!!!! I was thinking the same thing!!! And have the girls AND boys do the class! Have them " grocery" shop and buy baby clothes. THAT would be even more effective!
They do in our high school, but they didn't have this program when I was stupid and making decisions that led me to getting knocked up by a sociopath at 19. :)
Because the reality is that the boys can bounce. However, if the narrative changed and they did require the boys to do this exercise it may change the outcome in the future.
If your prevention fails, you aren't trying. I know so many babys born despite the pill. Just dont judge bevor you know all facts. And even then, just don't judge you have never lived a single day of anyone elses life.
Pastor Floyd is doing the work that needs to be done! Speaking to young men about their sexual choices and consequences is a wonderful step towards preventing teen pregnancies! BRAVO
There's a misconception that you can't get pregnant for a certain amount of time after giving birth. I can't imagine not just being pregnant that young, but having yet another kid when you weren't even ready for the first one!
I can't even imagine, I was a typical teenager loved sleeping in during the holidays, loved staying up late, I couldn't even imagine being responsible for someone else.
I had my daughter at 19, I never slept in late, I've been working since about 14, I graduated highschool, but I wanted children young. My husband and I were ready, I have zero regrets, being a mother is the best thing I have ever done and when I finish homeschooling her I'm going to become a birthing doula. We will be home owners in the next couple months, and currently live on our own. Never once have we been dependant on our parents. There are so many of us young mom's who PLANNED our children and are good mother's despite what society tells us🤷🏻♀️
You will never be ready for kids! Ask any parent and they will tell you the same thing. I had my first at 23 and second at 26. P.s. baby wipe warmers are a waste of money. Lol
@Jevonte Hodge ..that's not what I meant. I'm saying no matter how much you prepare for a baby (example: taking parenting classes, getting the nursery perfect, reading books) you will NEVER be ready. I am sure you are not a parent..
I do see a common thread with this. It doesn’t matter if you’re in your teens or twenties or thirties. Established in life or not established. Whatever situation you’re in nobody is really 100% ready to take care of another life.
Do what other developed nations do: teach them about protection, give them free contraception and teach them what healthy relationships look like. Don't just say 'don't do it'.
oyin ireland controversial but you are right. There’s long term, short term and emergency contraception. If she was affected by long term contraception she could have at least used the morning after pill which is most effective within 12hrs after the act but is efficacious 72 hrs after. She made smart choices after doing a stupid thing.
So glad my mother pounded the idea of getting an education and living my life to the fullest before having a baby into my head from when I was a child and through out my adolescence. I'm 29 years old, married and STILL don't feel ready for the responsibility of a baby.
My mom had me when she was 18. She told me over and over again, you do not want to be a teen mom, it’s hard. Even tho my dad was around, it was still hard because he went off to college. So she was raising me mostly by herself. She got her GED and married my dad and they’re still married, but that is so rare. I’m 28, married, and have a good job and honestly I’m scared to have a child. I don’t feel ready! So I know these teen moms are scared!!
With good support, these girls can achieve their goals. My cousin was 14 when she became a teen mother. She didn’t allow that to stop her from becoming a pharmacist. Her baby graduated from grad school and is doing great. A coworker had her only child at 14 and is a healthcare executive with her PhD and recently graduated with her JD. It might be harder but not impossible. See yourself leading your baby by example.
Those are the exceptions not the rule. Most teen moms won't see that success. And others don't want to inconvenience their lives to allow that, and they don't necessarily have to.
@@jellybeans9283 Actually, recent stats (2018) have found that most teenage mothers have caught up to their peers in terms of career and education by the age of 30. Their children tend to experience long term side-effects from growing up in a stressful situation however. If you're someone who grew up in poverty, you'll be more likely to remain in poverty regardless of how old you are when you have children (being a teen mom of course makes this more likely), but if you grew up in a financially stable household and you have good social support (ie. a village to help raise your child) you'll probably be fine. in my opinion, the teen mothers who do end up succumbing to mental health issues like anxiety, depression and drug addiction are the ones with bad parents who kicked them out on to the street instead of supporting them so that they could finish high school and go to college.
@@Ilikefrogs.. YES X1000. I wish this comment could be pinned. Having a child regardless of age does not hinder success, education, or financial stability whatsoever. I had a few friends who got pregnant in high school. The one who had supportive parents owns her home and is a nurse. The one who had parents kick her out and also they lived in poverty.. well unfortunately it's living paycheck to paycheck driving around a hoopty for her. I think it's a case by case basis for every person
Perhaps society's strong negative judgement towards teen moms has something to do with so many not succeeding financially. Self fulfilling prophecy folks! Instead of attacking a sexually mature woman (girl) over her "mistake" of getting pregnant it would be nice for an extended village to surround her and her new sweet little human with support and love!!!!
Wow this man is taking care of his gf, their two sons, his gf’s sister, and a child that Isn’t even his. Props to him ! I know that couldn’t have been easily and was very draining to him.
Tom Slak The problem is you can say that all day long and you’re not wrong, but it doesn’t mean they’re not sneaking around still doing it. You gotta be realistic and get these kids access to protection.
No if YOU AS A WOMAN aren’t going to care about your own body then keep your legs closed to these dudes. Boys can’t get pregnant. It is up to the girls to protect themselves. They make female condoms and bc. No excuses ladies. Your body, uterus and health belongs to you. This is why all these girls getting pregnant, y’all teaching them to trust men who only want a damn nut. Start educating these girls on SELF protection 🤦🏼♀️
Brianna said “I really did not want to get pregnant again.” YES! Yes you did because you did not make a point to get on birth control which meant you were trying to get pregnant and you got pregnant! That’s how people take responsibility for themselves
No.1 reason of deterioration of American society is the sexualization of children, especially young girls. Kids are too eager to grow up in every sense because the culture and the media doesn’t shame it, and in fact glamorizes it. 🙁
But if that's true, teen pregnancy rates would be sky rocketing, no? But they aren't. They were higher before and girls were having babies even younger
Girls being married at the age of 13 was normal not that long ago. Even now certain states allow underage marriage with the consent of a parent. Preaching abstinence has been proven to contribute to the downfall of certain aspects of society.
Why are girls sexually maturing at age 8, 9, 10? Too many hormones in meat & milk. Vegan girls start periods around 16. Something to think about. No sexual maturity no sexual urges to fight.
I’m 24 and considered too old to have kids in my culture. My partner and I want to wait until I’m at least 28 and he’s at least 31 to have kids. His mom and my mom were both teen parents. We broke the cycle and are going to consciously and responsibly educate our kids when they are entering those teenage years about being safe and how to use birth control and condoms to prevent pregnancy and STD’s. There are so many resources available now to prevent pregnancy. We should not take those for granted.
No you're not too young you're the right age because the risks are much lower and you'll have enough energy to chase after the baby when he/she becomes a toddler have all your kids well before you hit 40
Instead of preaching for abstinence, they should give them condoms and birth control pills. Them they would stop having children when still being teens. Less people depending on the government for social assistance.
Not bc pills, implants. Teens aren't reliable about BC pills. BC pills need taken same time daily, antibiotics can interfere with BC pills, overweight girls have less effectiveness from BC pills! Implants and condoms used together= nearly 100% prevention
Government officials get more government assistance than anyone. One government official pay is way more than 100,000 welfare recipients. Btw, welfare was started for poor white folks
To all teen moms (and responsible teen dads) watching this video: Do NOT allow the put downs and bad predictions influence YOUR outcome in YOUR life. Instead, use that negativity to light that fire in you to prove it all wrong. Even if at times you feel as though your life is over--trust me, it's not. RISE ABOVE. Your child(ren) is/are your motivation to improve your situation in life. Be constantly resourceful. Make a plan. Adjust your plan frequently and as needed. Keep fighting and moving forward. Yes, your education and dreams may be harder now to accomplish, but you can still obtain what you want in life while being as good a parent as you can be. I wish someone had had ONE good comment or word of encouragement for me--but as this documentary illustrates--the vast majority of influential adults around a teen parent will only offer prejudiced and negative commentary. I was a teen mom at age 15 and at age 18. I lived through abject poverty even bouncing from homeless shelter to homeless shelter for a year in my early 20's. I never lost hope I would one day be able to go to med school to be a doctor which was a lifelong dream. In any way I could, I was always working toward it whether getting a GED, taking college night classes after work, working 2 jobs and selling Avon on the weekends--- anything I had to do to always be responsible for my children's livelihood and the attainment of my goals. It took me until I turned 42 to graduate from residency as a physician. Not one of my 3 children ever became parents in their teens. In their 30's and late 20's now without children. All of them responsible, productive citizens. And I now earn a very comfortable living and it gives me great joy to help them in any way possible. You can do it-- don't let anyone or anything tell you differently. They harder life pushes you down, the harder you push back! Sending you all prayers and love.
Thank you for sharing you testimony. I wholeheartedly agree with you, as I too , was a teen mom at 17. I graduated high school pregnant and went straight to college. Yes, it’s hard (er), but like you said, my children are my motivation. I’m now a mother of 2 (with the same father, we are now married) and earning my masters degree at one of the best universities in the country. And I have lived experience that aids in my abilities to grasp concepts and be of service to others. I commend you for continuing to follow your dreams❤️❤️❤️ it’s not easy but it is possible. Never give up on yourself and your children. To much is given, much is required. God Bless.
Ma’am, I want to thank you for this so much from the bottom of my heart. I’m tearing up just reading this... I had my daughter at 18 and I’m starting college in January (I’m 19 now) God bless you😭❤️
My mother was 17 when she had her first.. I was determined to not have a baby young. I’m 29 now and doing good for myself no baby’s and so happy about it
And this is why I had the talk with my teenage daughter early on and continue to have it and made it clear I will not be angry if she needs to be on BC. And my son who just turned 12 will also be taught and reminded about contraception and the consequences that can come from not using it.
Yep 100% I’m going to be a single parent never thought that would happen. I’m 26 he’s 30 we were in a long term relationship and yet I’m going to be a single parent. It can happen to anyone at any age.
I had the robot baby in high school while on the soccer team and I was ZOMBIE TIRED for my games and practice. I’m 25 years old now and still not ready for that kind of crying yet 🥴
I always wondered that as well . I wonder why the girls who obviously see they can not give this child half of what they can even give themselves at the moment. Choose to take on this huge responsibility and financial responsibility as well . Especially when even their own parents can't make ends meet and can't help . It's like why do that to yourself Especially when the father doesn't stick around . I guess they feel they just have to stick with it
I think it’s neglect. A lot of the deprived kids feel like the baby will give them the love and attention that they crave and didn’t get because their parents worked so much and could watch over them. The issue is a baby is needy and needs love and attention from the parent not the other way around.
@@freya5703In my opinion, the ones that keep the baby do the right thing. They are selfless and actually want to be there for their child. The girl that gives her baby up for adoption to me seems cold and not willing to take on the responsibility. She seems selfish to me, putting her needs and wishes before his child's. She never considered how the adoption would negatively impact her son. The other girls are much more admirable, because they just don't give up their child to some strangers. They are actually taking responsibility and trying to do the best they can.
It only glorifies it if you already wanted to do it. I saw teen mom when I was a teenager and only wanted to avoid having children more. Maybe some teens are naive enough to think getting pregnant will make them famous. There's prob someone delusional enough to believe that lol
I'm multiracial and there are many white women who admitted to having abortions and/or taking Plan B in my family. Black and Latinx people tend to be Evangelical (or Catholic) and abortion is a big "No" in those communities. Additionally, those religious views preach abstinence which isn't realistic. So they don't even broach the topic of contraception.
Plan B isn't abortion, and it's a great option on the market today. Just don't make it your go-to method of birth control - it is truly as the name implies, a 'Plan B.'
@@SurrealisticSlumbers I agree that Plan B is an option. However, many young women who live in religious conservative households aren't even aware of it.
I’m a black atheist it’s rare I think us blacks and browns need to leave Christianity behind. It was just create to keep black people under control during slavery anyway
@Al Person I guess you missed Ephesians 6:5, 1 Timothy 6:1, Titus2:9, 1 Peter 2:18, and Colossians 3:22. Yes, the slave masters used the Bible to justify and keep slaves. How do you not know this? Additionally, Atheism is not a Eurocentric concept. While the first concept was recorded in Greece in the 5th century, Atheists simply reject all deities. How exactly is that Eurocentric? In fact, most Atheists live in China (about 200 million). I guess cherry picking from the Bible and being deliberately obtuse is still rampant in Christian churches, but ok. 🙄
Abstinence only doesn’t work. Health care is terrible and inequitable. Poverty is rampant and makes you vulnerable to all sorts of hardships. There I answered your question.
Jevonte Hodge You obviously know nothing about the cycle of poverty. These teenagers did not choose to be brought up in poverty, surrounded by systematic and societal ills. As much as Americans like to think people can do it on their own, those people are the exception to the rule. People in poverty need help to climb the rungs of a caste system, and they definitely don’t get it from a society like the US that constantly punishes the poor and under privileged. Read any journal articles on the subject. The proof is in the pudding. All societies that help each other (Higher taxes, more government help) have better societal, health and education standards. I live in Canada and we aren’t perfect here but damn, living here is a dream compared to the US.
I was 19 and married when I had my oldest and my youngest followed 2.5 years later. They are now both teenagers and its tough. I was a single mom long before my divorce. I couldn't imagine being any younger. I was 11 when my sister was born. That was amazing birth control lol
I thank God my kids decided to wait. These grown behind men getting these girls pregnant, would be underneath some dirt. These girls have no clue what serious life decisions they have made. I had to grow up fast when I had to help raise my siblings when my mom became addicted to crack. So grateful my kids have grown up and are living their lives before bringing a life into this world. Lord knows I’m not trying to raise a baby right now😩...I’m burnout.
my mother had 5 kids by 24 and was a single teenage parent. she whipped into us to be careful. as a result neither me nor my brothers have children. i'm 27, married and have a stable job in education. as much as i would love kids, me and my husband just aren't ready. we're waiting. i've currently got a contraceptive implant and we still use condoms to be extra safe. we've agreed that in 3 years we will have another serious talk about children and if we're not ready then, then we won't have kids for another year or so.
I have the perfect solution. Have these teens in at-risk schools do community service at a day care. Ive been a preschool teacher for 4 years and it really put me off from having kids. Once they realize all the work that goes into taking care of a baby and then when they realize it gets even more difficult when they turn 2. They will really think twice. Plus itll be great to have extra helpers in the classroom, especially since teens have more energy to run around with and bond with the kids.
Even though this comment is three years old it’s interesting. In high school I had a friend named Lizbeth. She was one of the oldest of five. I believe she is the 2nd or 3rd oldest. She usually took care of her younger siblings since at the time they were pre-elementary school age. She would always tell me about how awful it would be sometimes and other stuff. She still wanted kids.
I was a young mum 19 and I had 2 girls unfortunately their father was abusive to me. he got 6 years for GBH and false imprisonment. I still have PTSD from this 20 years later but I grew up quickly moved away and raised two caring, independent young women. I was also a blind mum and am proud of raising good people. I now have 3 grandchildren and my daughter is also a young mum with 1 year old twins and a 2 year old and no she isn’t a scrounger and will return to work as soon as they attend nursery. Their father also works hard full time and they are an amazing little family. I’m glad I had my girls when I did before my sight deteriorated and other health conditions presented. Please don’t judge young parents as many do an amazing job and work extremely hard.
😆😆 Latonya said " i can still do everything I wanna do. Who's gonna stop me?" Ummmmm do you know how much of ur time caring for a baby takes up if u do it properly?? Good luck sis, ur gonna need it. Wish u all the best
Why the HELL didn’t the mom of the two girls get her younger daughter on birth control. The instant she knew the older daughter was pregnant not once, but twice, it should have been done. 9/10 times I blame the parents. She’s a kind woman and I feel for her, but what a massive mistake.
Pastor Floyd is really doing God's work. Preaching abstinence does not work. Teens need guidance that is realistic. Focusing on boys and men is very admirable too. It always falls on the backs of girls/women.
The US is really a third world country. In third world countries teenage girls are forced to marry. If given a choice these girls would have preferred to study. But in the US, with all the freedom, these girls get pregnant. And the vicious cycle will repeat itself in the next generation.
Yes. Teenage pregnancy makes a wealthy country third world, even though there are literally countries with girls who hardly even know what a pad or tampon is. Great logic. 🙄
Where is the accountability of the parents? Who lets their child decide about birth control. Why is no one making the boys accountable? No one makes a baby by themselves. A boy or man can just decide to bail on their baby but the mother has to always be there...
Scared of an abortion but not afraid of carrying a baby 9 months then pushing a volleyball out of your body & raising the baby forever! I would've been livid had my daughter become pregnant AFTER it was too late for an abortion.
Kat Ferguson that and they didn’t want to take birth control because they didn’t want to get fat but what did they think baby weight was gonna do to them?
Am I the only one who has noticed the absence of the fathers of the teen mothers. There is a bigger story to be told from just that alone. And it’s not a good story.
The netherlands also has a medical approach where children must go to an appointment once they reach a certain age; at that appointment they are congratulated and informed about what puberty is and how it will change their bodies and feelings.
Poor people still have the option or abortion and adoption. So idk why alot of them don't take the route and just keep the baby especially when all the odds are against them
I think this young girl made a great decision. I have never heard any one talk about the mental health part of being a to young parent. The frontal lobe has not developed. I would love to also put the spot light on the BOYS and giving them the responsibility also.
Some of these teen girls: I didn't want to get on birth control because it makes you fat... Reality: They get pregnant and become obese. Sound judgment🤦♀️
*Latonya is gorgeous!! I hope that girl still pushes herself to be won and what she wants to be!! Sadly, there are so many men that run but being a single mom.... it's not impossible!! Struggles happen, but anyone can get through it!!*
I think the question should be, “Why are there so many teenagers PARENTING?” There are other options besides parenting!! I’m in awe of these young girls who get pregnant and think nothing of having and keeping the baby!!! And in this day and age many young girls have several children with several different fathers!! Smh!! I placed my child for adoption right after I turned 16. It was the hardest decision ever but I knew I couldn’t provide for her and I definitely wasn’t ready to be a Mom. So often adoption is shunned, and people claim “they could never give their child away”, but it’s the most selfless act you can do to put your baby’s best interest ahead of your own (imo). My daughter is now 31 and was raised by 2 wonderful parents who were ready for a baby and were able to give her so many amazing opportunities that I wouldn’t have been able to. I shudder to think what I would have put her through if I would have kept her.
Lool you’re pretty judgmental of them while you did the same thing but instead gave your baby away?? They should be judging you if anything smh the audacity 🤦♀️
Good for you knowing that your baby would have a better life than what you could provide. Don't let anyone tell you different. You did what you had to do and gave both of you a better shot at the future.
Elena Hickman yeah but at the same time why act like she’s on some morally higher ground than moms who decided to keep their baby that’s a tough decision as well and they should be proud of it
I was pregnant at 19 and became a mom at 20. I want all young women to understand that these young guys do not want to be fathers and you will most likely have to do things alone. They will get to live their lives and you will be forced to grow up and trade your youth to care for your child. It’s very hard and can take a toll on your mental health. You may be in love but it’s not always forever and babies change relationships. I’m glad that I was able to get my ged and I now have my bachelors degree, and soon will be working on my masters degree. If you’re already a mom I’m telling you it’s possible to get ahead but trust me the road it takes to get there will be rough. I wish all of you the best and if you even need someone to ask advice I’m here to provide non judgmental advice.
I’m 22 and everyone wants me to have a baby. I just broke the generational curse of teen pregnancy. I’m just happy to beat the statistics and honestly just not ready
I am happy for you and good for you, become the woman you want to be❤️
andrea dombe Thank you so much 😇
Good for you!
Like I tell my kids take your time get your life together and enjoy your teens and twenties
YESSSSSS!!!!
Too many of these teenage girls have "boyfriends" in their 20s. LEAVE LITTLE GIRLS ALONE.
I couldn’t imagine being 30 messing with a 16 year old boy. I don’t see how men/predators can do it. It grosses me out to the core.
The girls dumb too though 🤷🏽♀️
I went to school with a 16 year old girl whose boyfriend was 28 married and had 1 child. It was sick
@@coreyjeanne9342 I'm in Toronto. It is very illegal here but no one said anything and her mentality was that if he were happy at home he wouldnt be looking for anyone else. She was nuts.
Totally agree. It's wrong!
To the teen dad taking care of his children and his girl and his girl’s sister and her baby! You are a good dad!
Yes and even when times are hard keep going! You guys are doing awesome!
Until he split! I guess he got tired of having responsibilities.
I think it's great that the dad is taking care of his responsibilities. I was 27 and married, my ex-husband didn't even contribute!
It’s sad that he even had to be congratulated for this. Mothers do all the work and I haven’t seen one comment about them being strong mothers. Which they are. Why is it so rare for men to step up to plate 😒 this should be common play.
@Cyber Rant Nation bc they don't have strong male role models to teach them how to be good men. I think that's one of the reasons a two parent household is so important.
I would love to see a documentary on the teenage boys perspective. Why they don’t feel responsible and walk away. Why aren’t they held accountable?
Likely bc they've had no real father figure. No one is rearing them. Whose going to hold them there and say 'you've gotta be accountable.'. It's a generational issue often.
I'm not a church person but Memphis in this video is on the correct path, imo.
**teen mom now 45
Yes !
I can’t believe there still isn’t a male contraception pill or something. The girls hold all the cards.
Because the single mom isn't held accountable! How many kind of birth control they have and they still get pregnant just to live off the system.
@@gregoryfuzi4745birth control is not 100 percent. Both parents need to be held accountable stop putting it all on one and not the other
Ok why aren't the parents of these teen girls pressing charges for these older men getting them pregnant? Plus filing child support
@Minnie Mouse For the teenage boy his parents will have to pay and for the criminal still file against him the mother can get government assistance and she can get his social security benefits as well back pay
@maimai So very sad, but true
maimai these are not men but boys mentality
Sometimes they are drug dealers that the mom/dad can get money or drugs from
Andrea Ledet the Latino family structure doesn’t do it like that. Family is family
What worried me was Latonya when she said they are there when you need them. Babies love you but they need you more than you need them. They aren’t able to give so young. I feel sorry for her and other girls who think a baby will fill the void they need for love or companionship.
rzum81 Clearly speaking to her childhood! Sounds like her Mother and Father are emotionally and physically absent! I hope she doesn’t get pregnant again..
Mo Butter she did
I think that’s why a lot of women have babies when they aren’t ready their lonely.
Babies don’t always love you. Sometimes those babies grow up to hate you
I think they intentionally edited it that way... it doesn’t sound like she actually said that. And by the end of that episode when she’s given birth she seems much more level headed.
That young man who is working and taking care of his family is amazing. I hope he is still a stand up guy!
Yea that’s HIS responsibility. It does take two..
All of the young women who are going to school/working and taking care of their children are amazing
whewwww yes! shoutout to the guy focusing on the boys in an effort to avoid teen pregnancy! too many programs focus on the teen moms as if they conceived miraculously + without a boy or even worse MAN in the picture. we need more hims.
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Yep. Because child support cases ( unpaid) leads to all kinds of incarcerations.
YES that part made me sooo happy to see.
Already I see the focus being on these young girls who have experienced trauma instead of on the older MEN grooming them, impregnating them, and abandoning them. So sick of this narrative.
The majority of teen pregnancies are fathered by men over 20. There's a whole other issue there we're not looking at.
Statutory rape is the word you’re looking for.
I love Lisa Ling’s reporting. She’s the best!
JP K So empathetic and kind❤️❤️
Same!
These girls are 14 and their boyfriends are 20? That is what’s wrong.
also the girls are dumb
The girls stupid too🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Nazia Jahan right
Kids are dumb, these girls are kids.
They think they’re grown
I’m in my 30s AND married, with degrees and an established career. I still don’t feel ready for children. Watching this gave me anxiety! 😳😳😳
same
Then you’re never gonna be ready. After 20 it’s not about age but maturity and selflessness that makes one ready to be a mom, not the other attributes! 🤷🏻♀️😏
Angie Doe: lol, maturity won’t pay the hospital bills. You need the finances and stable relationship to raise a child. If you don’t have both you’re screwed in my opinion
@@angiedoe597 not having children doesnt make a person selfish. What kind of stupidity is that?
@@jessa4596 stupidity is spinning what I said to automatically mean that those who don’t have kids are selfish. So if I’d have said that mothers are nice people, it automatically meant that everyone else isn’t nice or are even bad people? 🤔 I just listed the precondition to be ready to be a mom. Maturity and selflessness. Didn’t say one word about others. 🙄
The baby is going to be there when you need them? Girl... that baby isn’t there to serve you. Rude awakening ahead.
No surprise how very misguided her words were.
She’s a kid what did you expect her too say?
@@2l2q36 Even as a teen, myself and most people I've encountered would never have claimed that a baby is "there when you need them"🤨. I disagree that her comment was a normal or expected teenager comment about parenting. She is definetely emotionally immature for her age.
Cay K actually, sometimes babies give people joy, and happiness, even when everyone else is against you. I don’t think she meant it like the baby was gonna be there for her.
@@ambercooper4676 She didn't say bring joy, she literally said that the baby will be "there for HER". That's not even close to the same thing. She expects the baby to fill voids and be her emotional support, did you even watch the video and listen to how many how girls made similar comments? So many come from broken homes, so the thought of the baby as "someone that will love me forever" is all too common. Butt anyone who is a parent knows that while babies bring joy, they take a LOT out of you and bring responsibilities that these girls cant even fathom yet. A screaming infant isn't "there for you", especoally at 3 am when you haven't slept in days, you are there for the screaming infant. While babies do bring love and joy, having a baby shouldn't be about what the baby can give you, thats a recipe for disaster.
Why don’t the boys have to spend the night with fake babies as well? They both need the revelation. Also, I think a more effective approach would be paring youth with an actual teen mom to help them get a real experience!
Yesss!!!! I was thinking the same thing!!! And have the girls AND boys do the class! Have them " grocery" shop and buy baby clothes. THAT would be even more effective!
@Olga Williams....the boys should have to do it, too. Girls don't get pregnant by themselves! Start making them BOTH accountable for their actions!
Stacey Stroh they do when my kids went to school.
They do in our high school, but they didn't have this program when I was stupid and making decisions that led me to getting knocked up by a sociopath at 19. :)
Because the reality is that the boys can bounce. However, if the narrative changed and they did require the boys to do this exercise it may change the outcome in the future.
"We weren't trying to get pregnant, it just happened".
If you aren't PREVENTING, you are literally TRYING people! 👌🏻
I’ve had to say that very statement to too many of the young girls I’ve seen as patients. 😔
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If your prevention fails, you aren't trying. I know so many babys born despite the pill.
Just dont judge bevor you know all facts. And even then, just don't judge you have never lived a single day of anyone elses life.
meinenNamen sagichnet can you read?
@@maezin1386 no not at all. I am answering by guessing what could have been said.
Pastor Floyd is doing the work that needs to be done! Speaking to young men about their sexual choices and consequences is a wonderful step towards preventing teen pregnancies! BRAVO
Having a first baby at 14 might be a genuine mistake. But it's difficult for me to understand getting pregnant right away with the second child.
There's a misconception that you can't get pregnant for a certain amount of time after giving birth. I can't imagine not just being pregnant that young, but having yet another kid when you weren't even ready for the first one!
The point is: They did not LEARN the first time!
@@sarcasticallyrearrangedThank you! It never cross my mind that misconception can be one factor. Eye opener for sure.
They didn’t learn the first time
pure idiocy.
this needs to be shown in all the middle schools and high schools of america
I can't even imagine, I was a typical teenager loved sleeping in during the holidays, loved staying up late, I couldn't even imagine being responsible for someone else.
I had my daughter at 19, I never slept in late, I've been working since about 14, I graduated highschool, but I wanted children young. My husband and I were ready, I have zero regrets, being a mother is the best thing I have ever done and when I finish homeschooling her I'm going to become a birthing doula. We will be home owners in the next couple months, and currently live on our own. Never once have we been dependant on our parents. There are so many of us young mom's who PLANNED our children and are good mother's despite what society tells us🤷🏻♀️
@@corablah9809At 18 we are adults and can marry and have children. No one looks down on a young MARRIED mother of age.
Bruh. I’m 27 and due with my first in two weeks. Married and established and I’m still scared shitless. I can’t imagine going through this as a kid. 😳
Jevonte Hodge gosh thank you :) how sweet!
Jevonte Hodge: who cares lol. Why so mean? Ewww...
You will never be ready for kids! Ask any parent and they will tell you the same thing. I had my first at 23 and second at 26. P.s. baby wipe warmers are a waste of money. Lol
@Jevonte Hodge ..that's not what I meant. I'm saying no matter how much you prepare for a baby (example: taking parenting classes, getting the nursery perfect, reading books) you will NEVER be ready. I am sure you are not a parent..
I do see a common thread with this. It doesn’t matter if you’re in your teens or twenties or thirties. Established in life or not established. Whatever situation you’re in nobody is really 100% ready to take care of another life.
Do what other developed nations do: teach them about protection, give them free contraception and teach them what healthy relationships look like. Don't just say 'don't do it'.
Silke Absolutely.
Religion is the reason
Mel Yep. Gotta love that fundamentalism.
@@Mel-oe3dw
I think it does matter, it still happens and forbid the young get stoned to death for family dishonor.
I agree
Sophie is incredibly intelligent. I respect that she tried raise her baby but understood that she couldn’t be what the parents could be for him.
She ain't that intelligent if she got pregnant at 16
@@oyinireland1561 oyin annoying
@@zinazina6367 9
It was the right decision for her and her baby
oyin ireland controversial but you are right. There’s long term, short term and emergency contraception. If she was affected by long term contraception she could have at least used the morning after pill which is most effective within 12hrs after the act but is efficacious 72 hrs after. She made smart choices after doing a stupid thing.
So glad my mother pounded the idea of getting an education and living my life to the fullest before having a baby into my head from when I was a child and through out my adolescence. I'm 29 years old, married and STILL don't feel ready for the responsibility of a baby.
Same here!
You will never feel ready!
Im not ready for baby🍼 sorry
Soooo have a child doesn't make you fat? These children's parents really let these kids down.
I've seen so many teen moms say that same thing. How is having a child better than a few pounds?
The irony is she still got fat
Lol getting fat is the least of their problems. Having babies is expensive and takes a lot out of you. Rewarding yes but not super easy.
rzum81 she said initially she didn’t want to go on birth control because it makes you fat hence the irony
I know . 🤦♀️
teen dads doing every thing for there young family are the best!
We need a “where are they now!”
Its here!! Check the upload
You know you're a mumbly teenager when they have to give you subtitles.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂
At least he’s shouldering the responsibility
I was a teenage dad. Had to do whatever it took to provide for my daughter.
She's the best thing that could ever have happened in my life.
My mom had me when she was 18. She told me over and over again, you do not want to be a teen mom, it’s hard. Even tho my dad was around, it was still hard because he went off to college. So she was raising me mostly by herself. She got her GED and married my dad and they’re still married, but that is so rare.
I’m 28, married, and have a good job and honestly I’m scared to have a child. I don’t feel ready! So I know these teen moms are scared!!
With good support, these girls can achieve their goals. My cousin was 14 when she became a teen mother. She didn’t allow that to stop her from becoming a pharmacist. Her baby graduated from grad school and is doing great. A coworker had her only child at 14 and is a healthcare executive with her PhD and recently graduated with her JD. It might be harder but not impossible. See yourself leading your baby by example.
A handful of cases here and there. Those who have resources and help. Either way.......14 years old?? Not physically nor mentally healthy!!
Those are the exceptions not the rule. Most teen moms won't see that success. And others don't want to inconvenience their lives to allow that, and they don't necessarily have to.
@@jellybeans9283 Actually, recent stats (2018) have found that most teenage mothers have caught up to their peers in terms of career and education by the age of 30. Their children tend to experience long term side-effects from growing up in a stressful situation however.
If you're someone who grew up in poverty, you'll be more likely to remain in poverty regardless of how old you are when you have children (being a teen mom of course makes this more likely), but if you grew up in a financially stable household and you have good social support (ie. a village to help raise your child) you'll probably be fine.
in my opinion, the teen mothers who do end up succumbing to mental health issues like anxiety, depression and drug addiction are the ones with bad parents who kicked them out on to the street instead of supporting them so that they could finish high school and go to college.
@@Ilikefrogs.. YES X1000. I wish this comment could be pinned. Having a child regardless of age does not hinder success, education, or financial stability whatsoever. I had a few friends who got pregnant in high school. The one who had supportive parents owns her home and is a nurse. The one who had parents kick her out and also they lived in poverty.. well unfortunately it's living paycheck to paycheck driving around a hoopty for her. I think it's a case by case basis for every person
Perhaps society's strong negative judgement towards teen moms has something to do with so many not succeeding financially. Self fulfilling prophecy folks! Instead of attacking a sexually mature woman (girl) over her "mistake" of getting pregnant it would be nice for an extended village to surround her and her new sweet little human with support and love!!!!
My mom was a teen mom. I broke the cycle. I’m in my 40’s and still haven’t had a child.
Don't. I'm 76 and love my child free life. Married 53 years. I had my tubes tied at 25. Life is perfect with the 2 of us
Sophie is so mature... really impressed with how she's handled adopting out her son.
I agree with you 100%
Wow this man is taking care of his gf, their two sons, his gf’s sister, and a child that Isn’t even his. Props to him ! I know that couldn’t have been easily and was very draining to him.
If he’s not going to use a condom and care about your safety, call off the relationship!!! Period👌🏼👌🏼🤷🏽♀️
Tom Slak The problem is you can say that all day long and you’re not wrong, but it doesn’t mean they’re not sneaking around still doing it. You gotta be realistic and get these kids access to protection.
Yes and this takes some communication really
No if YOU AS A WOMAN aren’t going to care about your own body then keep your legs closed to these dudes. Boys can’t get pregnant. It is up to the girls to protect themselves. They make female condoms and bc. No excuses ladies. Your body, uterus and health belongs to you. This is why all these girls getting pregnant, y’all teaching them to trust men who only want a damn nut. Start educating these girls on SELF protection 🤦🏼♀️
They're not thinking about responsibility. They're thinking with their hormones only.
Or else you'll miss that period.
"We can't even take care of fake babies" and "zombie tired " this girl is cracking me up😂
Right 😂😂 I laughed too
As a mum of nearly 10 year old daughter this is one of my biggest fears! I hope I prepare her right and give her the right information.
Bless that teacher for caring for the babies to allow the mommy’s to do their work.
All these littles girls lives ruined over boys who gave them a little affection, two pumps and a quiver, and not even a high school education.
They've learnt the hard way 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
“two pumps and a quiver” 🤣
Having a baby young doesn’t ruin your life, it changes your life’s path
Teens shouldn’t be dating
Love Muffin: I agree
Brianna said “I really did not want to get pregnant again.”
YES! Yes you did because you did not make a point to get on birth control which meant you were trying to get pregnant and you got pregnant!
That’s how people take responsibility for themselves
It’s like MTV‘a Teen Mom without all the therapy and money
And drama
No.1 reason of deterioration of American society is the sexualization of children, especially young girls. Kids are too eager to grow up in every sense because the culture and the media doesn’t shame it, and in fact glamorizes it. 🙁
But if that's true, teen pregnancy rates would be sky rocketing, no? But they aren't. They were higher before and girls were having babies even younger
Girls being married at the age of 13 was normal not that long ago. Even now certain states allow underage marriage with the consent of a parent. Preaching abstinence has been proven to contribute to the downfall of certain aspects of society.
Why are girls sexually maturing at age 8, 9, 10? Too many hormones in meat & milk. Vegan girls start periods around 16. Something to think about. No sexual maturity no sexual urges to fight.
Say it again!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Wrong.
I'm proud of these girls for taking care of their kids. They are doing well.
I’m 24 and considered too old to have kids in my culture. My partner and I want to wait until I’m at least 28 and he’s at least 31 to have kids. His mom and my mom were both teen parents. We broke the cycle and are going to consciously and responsibly educate our kids when they are entering those teenage years about being safe and how to use birth control and condoms to prevent pregnancy and STD’s. There are so many resources available now to prevent pregnancy. We should not take those for granted.
Which culture is that?
I’m 24 with a degree, married and pregnant with my first planned baby and I still feel too young 😅
I’m 22 and married! So excited for you guys!!
You are but you are blessed may GOD 😁on you and your new family..
No you're not too young you're the right age because the risks are much lower and you'll have enough energy to chase after the baby when he/she becomes a toddler have all your kids well before you hit 40
Go on girl !!!!! Bless you and your family
Girl, you or on track, enjoy every min they grow fast..
Instead of preaching for abstinence, they should give them condoms and birth control pills. Them they would stop having children when still being teens. Less people depending on the government for social assistance.
Not bc pills, implants. Teens aren't reliable about BC pills. BC pills need taken same time daily, antibiotics can interfere with BC pills, overweight girls have less effectiveness from BC pills! Implants and condoms used together= nearly 100% prevention
Government officials get more government assistance than anyone. One government official pay is way more than 100,000 welfare recipients. Btw, welfare was started for poor white folks
In Australia, we don't preach abstinence in schools. We educate teenagers about their options.
Copper coil all the way
To all teen moms (and responsible teen dads) watching this video: Do NOT allow the put downs and bad predictions influence YOUR outcome in YOUR life. Instead, use that negativity to light that fire in you to prove it all wrong. Even if at times you feel as though your life is over--trust me, it's not. RISE ABOVE. Your child(ren) is/are your motivation to improve your situation in life. Be constantly resourceful. Make a plan. Adjust your plan frequently and as needed. Keep fighting and moving forward. Yes, your education and dreams may be harder now to accomplish, but you can still obtain what you want in life while being as good a parent as you can be. I wish someone had had ONE good comment or word of encouragement for me--but as this documentary illustrates--the vast majority of influential adults around a teen parent will only offer prejudiced and negative commentary. I was a teen mom at age 15 and at age 18. I lived through abject poverty even bouncing from homeless shelter to homeless shelter for a year in my early 20's. I never lost hope I would one day be able to go to med school to be a doctor which was a lifelong dream. In any way I could, I was always working toward it whether getting a GED, taking college night classes after work, working 2 jobs and selling Avon on the weekends--- anything I had to do to always be responsible for my children's livelihood and the attainment of my goals. It took me until I turned 42 to graduate from residency as a physician. Not one of my 3 children ever became parents in their teens. In their 30's and late 20's now without children. All of them responsible, productive citizens. And I now earn a very comfortable living and it gives me great joy to help them in any way possible. You can do it-- don't let anyone or anything tell you differently. They harder life pushes you down, the harder you push back! Sending you all prayers and love.
💓 thank you 🙏🏼
Thank you for this beautiful comment. Wish I could like it 1000 times.
Thank you for sharing you testimony. I wholeheartedly agree with you, as I too , was a teen mom at 17. I graduated high school pregnant and went straight to college. Yes, it’s hard (er), but like you said, my children are my motivation. I’m now a mother of 2 (with the same father, we are now married) and earning my masters degree at one of the best universities in the country. And I have lived experience that aids in my abilities to grasp concepts and be of service to others. I commend you for continuing to follow your dreams❤️❤️❤️ it’s not easy but it is possible. Never give up on yourself and your children. To much is given, much is required. God Bless.
Ma’am, I want to thank you for this so much from the bottom of my heart. I’m tearing up just reading this... I had my daughter at 18 and I’m starting college in January (I’m 19 now) God bless you😭❤️
My mother was 17 when she had her first.. I was determined to not have a baby young. I’m 29 now and doing good for myself no baby’s and so happy about it
The boys are so lucky... they literally can run away and still finish high-school.
And still get to live their lives like nothing happened
It would have been nice to get an update on these ladies.
living in poverty likely with more kids.
@@user-vw7bx9ll8nwow that’s mean! I highly doubt that’s the case!!
And this is why I had the talk with my teenage daughter early on and continue to have it and made it clear I will not be angry if she needs to be on BC. And my son who just turned 12 will also be taught and reminded about contraception and the consequences that can come from not using it.
You can do everything right and still be a single parent. Single parenthood is difficult no matter what age you are.
Good point.
Right i was married to my kids dad. I never thought id end up a single mom.
Yep 100% I’m going to be a single parent never thought that would happen. I’m 26 he’s 30 we were in a long term relationship and yet I’m going to be a single parent. It can happen to anyone at any age.
I had the robot baby in high school while on the soccer team and I was ZOMBIE TIRED for my games and practice. I’m 25 years old now and still not ready for that kind of crying yet 🥴
You do not get the hormones with a robot. Don't rush it but with a real (wished for) baby you might feel different
@@meinennamensagichnetomg yes ! The hormones you get after birth is horrible . Makes you feel even more exhausted and just an overall mess
Interesting how the girls without the resources keep the baby but the girl with all the resources at their disposal gives it away.
That’s because they are smart enough to know that their child deserves a better life.
I always wondered that as well .
I wonder why the girls who obviously see they can not give this child half of what they can even give themselves at the moment.
Choose to take on this huge responsibility and financial responsibility as well .
Especially when even their own parents can't make ends meet and can't help .
It's like why do that to yourself Especially when the father doesn't stick around .
I guess they feel they just have to stick with it
I think it’s neglect. A lot of the deprived kids feel like the baby will give them the love and attention that they crave and didn’t get because their parents worked so much and could watch over them. The issue is a baby is needy and needs love and attention from the parent not the other way around.
@@freya5703In my opinion, the ones that keep the baby do the right thing. They are selfless and actually want to be there for their child. The girl that gives her baby up for adoption to me seems cold and not willing to take on the responsibility. She seems selfish to me, putting her needs and wishes before his child's. She never considered how the adoption would negatively impact her son. The other girls are much more admirable, because they just don't give up their child to some strangers. They are actually taking responsibility and trying to do the best they can.
dont help to have MTV shows like Teen Mom lowkey glorifying it
That's true. They idolize those on tv. 🙄
Very true
Not low-key, High-key!
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It only glorifies it if you already wanted to do it. I saw teen mom when I was a teenager and only wanted to avoid having children more. Maybe some teens are naive enough to think getting pregnant will make them famous. There's prob someone delusional enough to believe that lol
I'm multiracial and there are many white women who admitted to having abortions and/or taking Plan B in my family. Black and Latinx people tend to be Evangelical (or Catholic) and abortion is a big "No" in those communities. Additionally, those religious views preach abstinence which isn't realistic. So they don't even broach the topic of contraception.
Plan B isn't abortion, and it's a great option on the market today. Just don't make it your go-to method of birth control - it is truly as the name implies, a 'Plan B.'
@@SurrealisticSlumbers I agree that Plan B is an option. However, many young women who live in religious conservative households aren't even aware of it.
I’m a black atheist it’s rare I think us blacks and browns need to leave Christianity behind. It was just create to keep black people under control during slavery anyway
@@lyramarks622 I agree. I am agnostic, but am leaning more and more towards atheism.
@Al Person I guess you missed Ephesians 6:5, 1 Timothy 6:1, Titus2:9, 1 Peter 2:18, and Colossians 3:22. Yes, the slave masters used the Bible to justify and keep slaves. How do you not know this? Additionally, Atheism is not a Eurocentric concept. While the first concept was recorded in Greece in the 5th century, Atheists simply reject all deities. How exactly is that Eurocentric? In fact, most Atheists live in China (about 200 million). I guess cherry picking from the Bible and being deliberately obtuse is still rampant in Christian churches, but ok. 🙄
Abstinence only doesn’t work. Health care is terrible and inequitable. Poverty is rampant and makes you vulnerable to all sorts of hardships. There I answered your question.
Those girls chose poverty
Abstinence doesn’t work? Are you kidding?
Jevonte Hodge You obviously know nothing about the cycle of poverty. These teenagers did not choose to be brought up in poverty, surrounded by systematic and societal ills. As much as Americans like to think people can do it on their own, those people are the exception to the rule. People in poverty need help to climb the rungs of a caste system, and they definitely don’t get it from a society like the US that constantly punishes the poor and under privileged. Read any journal articles on the subject. The proof is in the pudding. All societies that help each other (Higher taxes, more government help) have better societal, health and education standards. I live in Canada and we aren’t perfect here but damn, living here is a dream compared to the US.
@Jevonte Hodge, a lot of them were already living in poverty. Taxes for financial support doesn’t do anything. They would have to get jobs anyway.
@Ashley Miller, I agree with you, but don’t act like all Americans think the way the people in these comments do.
I was 19 and married when I had my oldest and my youngest followed 2.5 years later. They are now both teenagers and its tough. I was a single mom long before my divorce. I couldn't imagine being any younger. I was 11 when my sister was born. That was amazing birth control lol
I thank God my kids decided to wait. These grown behind men getting these girls pregnant, would be underneath some dirt. These girls have no clue what serious life decisions they have made. I had to grow up fast when I had to help raise my siblings when my mom became addicted to crack. So grateful my kids have grown up and are living their lives before bringing a life into this world. Lord knows I’m not trying to raise a baby right now😩...I’m burnout.
"i didin't go on birth control cause it makes you fat" And pregnancy doesn't?!?!?!?
16 and two babies????😱😱😱😱😱
Kaykay. J I had a classmate in my junior year of high school (1990), she was 17 had twin boys, but also had a 4 year old daughter! I was shocked!
Laurie Holy moly, in my high school year (2020) I also knew a girl who was 17 with a 4 years old 😢
My friend's child just had a baby. He is 14, It's a "village" helping to raise the baby ❤ thank goodness for family
Octavio crying over the breakup … it’s sad how these are just basically kids raising kids.
I love Sophie's decision. Its also selfless of the adoptive parents. 👏 👏 👏 all around. ♡
I would love to know how everyone in this documentary is doing now.
my mother had 5 kids by 24 and was a single teenage parent. she whipped into us to be careful. as a result neither me nor my brothers have children. i'm 27, married and have a stable job in education. as much as i would love kids, me and my husband just aren't ready. we're waiting. i've currently got a contraceptive implant and we still use condoms to be extra safe. we've agreed that in 3 years we will have another serious talk about children and if we're not ready then, then we won't have kids for another year or so.
I have the perfect solution. Have these teens in at-risk schools do community service at a day care. Ive been a preschool teacher for 4 years and it really put me off from having kids.
Once they realize all the work that goes into taking care of a baby and then when they realize it gets even more difficult when they turn 2. They will really think twice.
Plus itll be great to have extra helpers in the classroom, especially since teens have more energy to run around with and bond with the kids.
Even though this comment is three years old it’s interesting. In high school I had a friend named Lizbeth. She was one of the oldest of five. I believe she is the 2nd or 3rd oldest. She usually took care of her younger siblings since at the time they were pre-elementary school age.
She would always tell me about how awful it would be sometimes and other stuff. She still wanted kids.
When the mom referred to her grandchild as a problem I was really hoping she didn’t adopt him . Glad she chose open adoption with that couple
Need more Pastors like him! I hope the parents of the two boys make it for years to come. God bless all of them.
Where’s the follow up? I’d love to see where these girls are right now.
8 yrs later!
I’m 30 and the idea of bringing a child into this hopeless world right now feels almost like abuse.
I was a young mum 19 and I had 2 girls unfortunately their father was abusive to me. he got 6 years for GBH and false imprisonment. I still have PTSD from this 20 years later but I grew up quickly moved away and raised two caring, independent young women. I was also a blind mum and am proud of raising good people. I now have 3 grandchildren and my daughter is also a young mum with 1 year old twins and a 2 year old and no she isn’t a scrounger and will return to work as soon as they attend nursery. Their father also works hard full time and they are an amazing little family. I’m glad I had my girls when I did before my sight deteriorated and other health conditions presented. Please don’t judge young parents as many do an amazing job and work extremely hard.
I love that the teacher helps her with the baby
😆😆 Latonya said " i can still do everything I wanna do. Who's gonna stop me?" Ummmmm do you know how much of ur time caring for a baby takes up if u do it properly?? Good luck sis, ur gonna need it. Wish u all the best
Why the HELL didn’t the mom of the two girls get her younger daughter on birth control. The instant she knew the older daughter was pregnant not once, but twice, it should have been done. 9/10 times I blame the parents. She’s a kind woman and I feel for her, but what a massive mistake.
Pastor Floyd is really doing God's work. Preaching abstinence does not work. Teens need guidance that is realistic. Focusing on boys and men is very admirable too. It always falls on the backs of girls/women.
The US is really a third world country. In third world countries teenage girls are forced to marry. If given a choice these girls would have preferred to study. But in the US, with all the freedom, these girls get pregnant. And the vicious cycle will repeat itself in the next generation.
Absolutely!
Valid analogy
Which countries did u mention it ?!
Yes. Teenage pregnancy makes a wealthy country third world, even though there are literally countries with girls who hardly even know what a pad or tampon is. Great logic. 🙄
Where is the accountability of the parents? Who lets their child decide about birth control. Why is no one making the boys accountable? No one makes a baby by themselves. A boy or man can just decide to bail on their baby but the mother has to always be there...
Scared of an abortion but not afraid of carrying a baby 9 months then pushing a volleyball out of your body & raising the baby forever! I would've been livid had my daughter become pregnant AFTER it was too late for an abortion.
Right 🤦🏽♀️not thinking straight
Kat Ferguson that and they didn’t want to take birth control because they didn’t want to get fat but what did they think baby weight was gonna do to them?
AmandaWithLov3 she dumb
I think you need to respect her choice and she is paying for the consequences !
Isn't it her body her choice?
Am I the only one who has noticed the absence of the fathers of the teen mothers. There is a bigger story to be told from just that alone. And it’s not a good story.
All of them are powerful wonderful women! Sophie you made the most hurtful but most loving decision of all! And the teen dad, he is a real man!
The netherlands also has a medical approach where children must go to an appointment once they reach a certain age; at that appointment they are congratulated and informed about what puberty is and how it will change their bodies and feelings.
I believe it's wrong having too many children cuz you end up harming them not giving them the attention and affection they need .
I waited until 28 to have my first child. Single mom and it was still extremely hard! Thank God for my tribe. I can only imagine being a teen mom. 🙁
The white teen mom's situation is nothing like the brown and black teen moms. Growing up upper middle class and poverty makes a huge difference.
Because she gave the baby away im sure it would be harder if she kept it
Very interesting
Poor people still have the option or abortion and adoption.
So idk why alot of them don't take the route and just keep the baby especially when all the odds are against them
All of the kids in this episode, girls and boys, were all smart and thoughtful people. I wish them all the best.
I don’t understand how you can not learn from your first teen pregnancy, and end up having two kids by 16 👀
Parents need to reflect how we parent.. educate your kids and pay attention so they don’t have to go somewhere and fill that void
Great job to that pastor!!🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
Seeing that teacher hold the baby whilst helping her students, makes me proud to be a teacher - lets help these young moms achieve their dreams
Its not just teen boys. Plenty of grown boys in their 30s and up that are deadbeats
25:03 The way the Baby look at his birth mom before she leaves 😥😥❤
I think this young girl made a great decision. I have never heard any one talk about the mental health part of being a to young parent. The frontal lobe has not developed. I would love to also put the spot light on the BOYS and giving them the responsibility also.
THIS^^
The choices we make can delay our goals, but things can improve if you're patient enough to work through it.
I love this series and Lisa Ling
Some of these teen girls: I didn't want to get on birth control because it makes you fat...
Reality: They get pregnant and become obese.
Sound judgment🤦♀️
My mom went off the pill to 'get skinny' for her friend's wedding... Here I am, and she was not happy in a maternity dress as maid of honor.
They dumb
🤣🤣
They aren't the sharpest tools in the shed
Even so, what about a condom? No excuse
Lisa, you're awesome as always. There needs to be more programs focused on these issues for young people everywhere not just places with high stats.
*Latonya is gorgeous!! I hope that girl still pushes herself to be won and what she wants to be!! Sadly, there are so many men that run but being a single mom.... it's not impossible!! Struggles happen, but anyone can get through it!!*
I will never understand how a grandma can say I’m proud of her for giving him up
I think the question should be, “Why are there so many teenagers PARENTING?” There are other options besides parenting!! I’m in awe of these young girls who get pregnant and think nothing of having and keeping the baby!!! And in this day and age many young girls have several children with several different fathers!! Smh!! I placed my child for adoption right after I turned 16. It was the hardest decision ever but I knew I couldn’t provide for her and I definitely wasn’t ready to be a Mom. So often adoption is shunned, and people claim “they could never give their child away”, but it’s the most selfless act you can do to put your baby’s best interest ahead of your own (imo). My daughter is now 31 and was raised by 2 wonderful parents who were ready for a baby and were able to give her so many amazing opportunities that I wouldn’t have been able to. I shudder to think what I would have put her through if I would have kept her.
Lool you’re pretty judgmental of them while you did the same thing but instead gave your baby away?? They should be judging you if anything smh the audacity 🤦♀️
Good for you knowing that your baby would have a better life than what you could provide. Don't let anyone tell you different. You did what you had to do and gave both of you a better shot at the future.
@@peanutbutter4726 yeah so her daughter could have a better life
I’m adopted and thankful to my bio mother for making that decision. 😇
Elena Hickman yeah but at the same time why act like she’s on some morally higher ground than moms who decided to keep their baby that’s a tough decision as well and they should be proud of it
I was pregnant at 19 and became a mom at 20. I want all young women to understand that these young guys do not want to be fathers and you will most likely have to do things alone. They will get to live their lives and you will be forced to grow up and trade your youth to care for your child. It’s very hard and can take a toll on your mental health. You may be in love but it’s not always forever and babies change relationships. I’m glad that I was able to get my ged and I now have my bachelors degree, and soon will be working on my masters degree. If you’re already a mom I’m telling you it’s possible to get ahead but trust me the road it takes to get there will be rough. I wish all of you the best and if you even need someone to ask advice I’m here to provide non judgmental advice.