The Lost American Dream | Our America with Lisa Ling | Full Episode | OWN
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- Опубликовано: 14 апр 2020
- In the wake of the Great Recession, America's middle class emerges as the face of the new poverty. Lisa Ling travels the country to meet those forced by the aftershocks of the economic crisis to downsize their lives and reassess the American Dream.
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Who’s watching this in 2024?.
I am❤this is sad
And a reminder of our current times sadly
Seems a bit hard to feel sorry for them in 2024 doesnt it?
This is why to pay the mortgage 100%. Paying for property tax and insurance is much cheaper than paying rent.
This was an amazing story. Not only do I want a follow up on them, I want to know where Lisa is. I've seen her stories before. She does great interviews and stories on real life.
They treated Bob like crap. Ridiculed the car, not grateful for his job efforts, left him at Christmas. Ungrateful family. Shame.
Spoiled kids you got it. At least you had a car you could have been walking and make your own dam lunch
@@Pamela-jh7sh She needs a part time after school Job.
Yes it made me feel so sorry for him. They acted as if its been going on a life time. Guess they've forgotten about all the years he worked his butt off for them .
Agree, very ungrateful family.
You guys don’t seem to understand, it’s Bob’s pride that’s causing the kids to be that way, He trying to hide the truth so he can pretend everything is fine, he raised the kids , the kids did not raise him.
I hope Bob is in a better place in 2024 🫶
Amen
Why? People like him caused this whole thing and now they whine about it. They did NOTHING when all was right in their world. The writing was on the wall decades ago when industry shipped production to China. The people could have stopped that but did nothing so too bad Stop crying.
I agree . Life's courses brought me to take control of my dream and family when that last paycheck came and gone I started my own lawn service and got free equipment fixed them up and worked them til I got new
Where's Lisa Ling.
I DONT KNOW WHY HE DIDNT GO GET INSURANCE LICENSE OR REAL ESTATE LICENSE AND SELL HOMES/
Who else would like to have a 2024 update on Bob❓
Honestly I'm worried about him. His story is a lot of people's story, and a big contributor to rates of self harm in this country.
I hope he is okay & his family stayed together
HOPEFULLY THEY ARE DOING BETTER NOW AND WIFE IS. HEALED !!
⚡️I hope All the families are doing well and their situations have improved. I pray that God will give each individual the strength and courage needed to face the difficulties and challenges they are going through. May He bless everyone with health, happiness and prosperity! ✨🙏🏽💖
For the kids in the first story, you have a mother and a father. You have a roof over your head and food in the fridge. You are driven to school, not in a car as fancy as others but it works. You were not abandoned or abused. You have a father that cares and fixes your lunch every day. What else do you want!???! I wish I had half of that when I was your age!
Fricking lil Karens in the making
The thing is they were rich before, and goes from rich to somewhat poor is harder to take esp if they still go to the same school. And looking at the previous lifestyle, nothing prepares them to face such situation
I love your reply and would love to paste it on the Refrigerator of this family where they could read it and maybe allow that message to sink in. However if you were raised in a Bubble, and that's all you are exposed to, than this Video shows the consequences.
@@Hugo411 Hugo411 Not been taught a sense of Gratitude.
I agree. I think they just moaned bc of the deep fall they had. It was a shock for them that's why they were so sad.
He’s a good Papa. I don’t care what his in-laws think, the neighbors think. This man is trying. He’s not giving up. THAT’S what a good father does.
i agree- the family got spoiled and they should be supportive of their father-he is a very good man. It starts with the wife. its not bobs fault
valeriesuelove You’re right. He is trying. He is a good person. He’s also trying his best as we all are to keep mentally positive as we know this world will beat us to death if we let it. His wife needs to be more supportive or get out there and find a job too! Complaining is not going to help the situation...
Aidan is the sweet, most loveliest boy ever.
He has a very good heart.
I wonder how they are doing now.
None of these fine people on her should feel degraded or useless.
You have alot of talents and a day will come that the tide will change.
Blessings and the very best to you all.
And I'm not normally for a Dad leaving. Bless his heart but after that hateful Holiday abandonment I woulda took my kitty cat and left the lot of em. Bah. I woulda took my skills and lived in a one bedroom hovel in Miami with my cat. They all just sucked!
He's a great father. If I told my parents I hate this car. Then their telling me to walk. Wife & kids are kinda ungrateful.
Yup
When the daughter said he hates his car that is very mean
CYnthia Bustamante Kids will only do and say what they KNOW they can get away with. I am not blaming him, but that why discipline is sooo important while raising kids and teaching them to be grateful. If my mom was in the car, and I said that, she would have made me walk the rest of the way. .....and I would've looked back at that moment many years later, and THANKED her for doing that. (lol) : )
if he was great he wouldnt be so poor
@@juanshaftpatel7488 point well taken (lol). (smile).
If my parents don’t want to invite my husband for the holidays I’m not going without him 😔 incredibly sad for Bob 😭
Good
It broke my heart that the kids make him drop them off in the back.
My father is 77 years old now & we grew up poor. Broken down cars, beat up shoes, no eating out... you get the picture. My dad struggled finding work, but he took what he could get. I was proud of him no matter what. I could have never made him feel worse by showing how embarrassed I was. That would have broken his heart. Times have changed very much 🥺
I look at an old pic of me, in my living room, as a kid. I can’t believe how poor & bare it looked! I never felt that poverty, when I lived it. We had each other (family) & we were happy. I can’t imagine treating one of my parents like Bob is treated! Family is love, a parent (& spouse) is not an atm, that is worthless, when they can’t dole out money !
It certainly has😞
It's not uncommon for kids that age to ask their parents to drop them off. Heavens forbid you you may ask for a kiss or a hug. Her attitude was quite disconcerting remarking about the car. Hey, he got you there. I had to walk.
Same here Dad worked in a steel plant, then became a janitor and owned his own cleaning company. He spoiled me with all the love in the world and was wonderful!
Ahh come on its very common for teen girls to feel embarrassed about everything.
I had a father who left my mother broke and struggling. I would have loved to have a father around, who cared enough to try and provide for us. That family should be grateful that he's as kind and caring as he is.
Spot on. These former privelidged kids should toughen up. Those kids should learn about the real world where industry is lost to chyna and get back to basics. Learning about thrift is hard after living the high? life, but getting readjusted to the situation is what has to happen. Sel-sufficiency is what some do.
Amen.
My dad lost his job in the crisis as well & has been working as a temp ever since. He’s even worked in a callcenter until he found a compatible job.
His commute is almost 4 hours everyday. He’s turning 60 this year.
No one can ever tell me anything about that man.
@@linmal2242 got myself a tomato garden & canned foods let alone metals..... not all young gens are privileged.
I relate to you so much I went through something similar too
I would LOVE a follow up video about "Where Are They Now?".
A husband’s loyalty to his wife is tested when he has everything. A wife’s loyalty is tested when her husband has nothing...
So not true. Mysoginistic BS.
So not true. Absolute BS.
💯
Dam, that’s deep.
So true!
Bob’s daughters need to go to the south side of Chicago and volunteer in a soup kitchen for a few days. Maybe then they will realize and appreciate how good they still have it. Perspective is everything.
Can you imagine them being moved to the projects? 😂 lucky they have rich granny and grandpa to pay half the rent on their very big non basic/modest house as the narrator called it. I think Bob seems a great guy but 6 figures and no savings that’s dumb! He works part time and gets food stamps and rent paid they should be able to manage on this and not have to go to food bank.
They'd figure out how to make a cheap meal!Pancakes for dinner, or rice with one egg thrown in for the whole fam. Find out how the rest of the world eats!
I agree Daniella. They seem a bit snooty. Getting out of the car saying how much they hate the car. What brats.
Exactly, Im living in a third world and I've seen worst what poverty and life has to offer. Why can't americans appreciate what they are having right now?
I pained when she said she hated the car. I understand life is different for a teenager, but having a working car is a blessing.
Unfortunately, the rich don't know how to be poor. They are not equipped mentally for the fall.
Most of them grew up poor. You don't know what you're talking about.
Rosa Denson Very well said!
80% of millionaires are self made and didnt grow up with wealth.
Too bad, this is what they voted for. Reap what you sowed!
my thoughts exactly...
Bob is doing his best . This is when the family need to let him know he is still the head of the family & he is still needed .show some love ❤️
Is Bob doing his best…Really?
@@wanderinggeri8477 HE COUKD D0ONBETTER, GET A JOB AT WALMART, GET HIS LICENSE AND DRIVE A VUS OR TRUCK. GET REAL ESTATE LIVWNSE SEKL HOMES,
@@wanderinggeri8477 yes really. he is doing his best and the family is together because they are all Good Christians. They know family values and the importance of family over material things.
Wasn't his fault.
What kind of spouse leaves her husband alone for the holidays because her parents have issues with him? I hope Bob is in a better place in 2020!
Marie Taylor Looked to me that Bob’s family was living in a very nice home compared to the average American. Her parents paid the rent. Those children could do some type of work as well as going to school. They probably could budget their food expense. Only one doing everything was Bob and he was the only one that looked normal weight. You can save a lot of money if you plan your meals correctly and you don’t add in lots of ready to eat food. Bob is a very devoted spouse and father.
she wants to leave bob, but shes too old and no one wants her
A_ DissidenT I think they’re referring to financial stability.
Marie Taylor yea I hope Bob himself is doing better but sadly since the pandemic there will be many more situations like this
You dont know their marital issues. My moms father died in 2005 and my dad didnt go up north with me, my mom, nd my brother because he was selfish. So sad. He was always jealous of my mothers family.
I hate it that the children are ashamed of their father. Such ungrateful kids. At least their father is living breathing within reach. How many children are missing fathers who are no longer among the living.
Well you know how it is when there is a bill on the table. Ungrateful brat.
@@redneckblackheart What's really sad is she's old enough to get a part time job. Even one day during the weekend would help, and she'd probably feel better about herself too. I could never sit back while my family suffered like that.
He is doing something that family is trash
Dederina . My thoughts exactly. The kids are crying for the past, not thinking how they can make things better. Both are old enough to help. But they’re just feeling sorry for what they have lost. I grew up in England after the WW2, we were seven kids in our family, I was four years old, when it ended, my father used to say to us ‘You’re alive! Think lucky’. Poor Bob. He shouldn’t be so hard on himself, just turn his kids into survival mode. ps. My Dad grew most of our food, all organic in those days. We had to paint the chicken house.😂. I could write a book. haha.
I wonder how much comes from Mommy, and Grandpa and Grandma...
I haven't seen my father in over ten years. I have no idea what's like to have a caring and dedicated father as Bob. His family doesn't deserve him
I didn't have a dad growing up. We tried having a relationship a few times but it didn't work.
My father don't ask for me and my kids
my dad didn't want kids .he tolerated us barely .. And only provided the bare necessities for us . and resented it . didn't ever feel wanted from the get go . at least he's there for his kids and they don't even appreciate it .. He says - see you later sweet heart
She says " ughhh i hate this car - slams the car door
Me also
Please try to mend things with your father. Do this for yourself so you never have to wonder if you didn’t try hard enough after he is gone. No one wants any form of regret of any kind. Just consider it.
April 23, 2024 here and the situation is even worse
Yep!
You want things to change for the better.?
Then STOP voteing Democrat..!!!
M.A.G.A. in 2024.
@@christinecatt8039both parties haven’t done anything to improve the situation. It’s election year and they won’t even get together to debate, much less address the employment and housing situation. All they care about is making sure you believe you only have two options and guess what, based on your comment they have successfully engrained their agenda into your head.
@@christinecatt8039Poopy Pants and Putin in 2024.
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05/03/2024
I never resented my husband when he lost his job. It was out of his control. I got a part time job and we managed, he later got a job and it worked out. Bob's family is horrible. They were spoiled and now they're thankless. He deserves better. His family is selfish 😒
The daughter saying, "I hate this car", then walk or take the bus. You should feel blessed to have a car. Some don't have one! She looks like she has her own room, they had to downgrade well at least you still have a decent home. Seems like a bunch of ungrateful people in Bob's family.
These kids and his wife REALLY don't have a clue! They just want the lavish lifestyle they had!
Marie parker
Omg I felt the same way! Some kids walk or ride the bus! Their “modest” home is better than being out in the st. Count your blessings some people don’t have a roof over their heads
We never had a car and were the poorest in our neighborhood - never treated my dad like dad. Once I started working at 16 I gave him money to help with the rent. Paid my own college and now live in a “neighborhood “ but I taught my kids everything could go south anytime and family makes you happy not material stuff
Take the bus you entitled brat. How dare his daughter.
I know ! That really pissed me off. If that was me , I’d drive straight to the front and then beep once they started walking in and yell “ Mommy loves you !!!” 😆 embarrassing your kids is priceless. If they don’t like it , they can walk to school ! I’ve been driving beaters my whole life , so has my parents. I never cared.
Those kids are so spoiled and selfish ..white privilege at its best .
I don’t know why those in-laws are treating this dad so bad. Shame on them, he is doing everything possible.
Exactly. Seems the wife is a spoiled person. I would never leave my husband home alone for Christmas! Even if we didn't get along. I'd tell mom and dad to ...
They probably feel like he is not trying hard enough to find another job. My heart hurts for his family
It's not their responsibility to pay a 55-year old man's bills. Unless, they're billionaires, it's a real problem.
hi hippiechick, I don't think he is doing everything possible. He looks for good paying jobs, or jobs he wants, instead of a full time job. And as this was aired back in 2012, he was out of a job for 4 years! I know it was tough on him to loose his job and the strain it caused for himself and his family. Also, I don't know why his in-laws are treating him badly. I can guess though! Was there a follow up on this video, about Bob? Where is he now? I'd like to know, and hope he and his family are doing well.
Lmao
No he's not
My heart goes out to these folks, l remember the days when we barely made it. Thank God my husband and sons are all master electricians. We are blessed.
This is why even when times were good, we always lived below our means. We never bought new cars or took lavish vacations. I had an old flip phone when people I knew making less money than me were buying the latest and greatest new techy thing.
How is it possible that we are measuring a person's worth by how much their paycheck is? Bob seems like one of the best dads out there. Getting laid off can happen to anyone. This same situation happened to my own family when me and my brother were in our teens. We had to get out there and find whatever job was available and contribute to the family. We never blamed our dad for losing his job. We were proud of him and we felt it was our time to help out instead of just always depending on him. That's what a families are supposed to do, help each other in times of hardship. You only have one Dad in your life.
You and your brother were brought up right - it's the parents job to tell his / her kids something so they know what's up. In this story did they ask their oldest daughter to look for a job - no. Would this teen ask to go to work - no. So there you have it.
Very well said!
I feel so bad for Bob too! He's doing the best he can. They should be grateful!
I agree, I know my parents work so hard..my mum she can’t sit still for nothing..she works everyday and she barely takes a day off but when she does she’s always doing something at home even when the house is clean she will find the smallest thing to do and when there’s nothing else that’s when she will rest..my parents worked very hard to get to where we are now. We are not rich, but my siblings and I do chip in for board and groceries. Once you hit a certain age that’s when you need to find a job and contribute even if you’re still staying with your parents.
Sad but true. Society judges us by our jobs, bank account, whether we are married with children or not.
A man's value as father or husband shouldn't be predicated on his paycheck.
Well said!
This man needs his family's support as for the kids they need to appreciate his efforts.
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It is not! And agreed, should not! This is the problem with us Americans our version of poverty is still so rich. I saw her cooking with butter. They are well fed. Their “modest house” is a gorgeous home. If no one has a job why not live somewhere that is more affordable? Somewhere where there will be work, and the cost of living is low. Plenty of places in america. There are even towns giving away plots of land to get people to live there! We have done so many disservice with our corporate view of food and home. The wife said, “when does the good stuff come?” The good stuff happened... the good stuff was an idol... and maybe this is their time to realize what is the real good stuff! Love. Family... so sad to see so many squander so many good gifts.
These kids are spoiled. There are way worse off people. Be grateful for what you have, and NEVER be ashamed of your dad for doing the best he can!!!
I’d like a full update on this episode. Praying for everyone
It's outrageous that Bob's family deserts him on Christmas and treats him so badly. It's really selfish of them. Unfortunately, it doesn't look good for Bob because of his age. I hope things got better for him.
I hope he had a brain storm and re-branded himself for a self starting career online or elsewhere. Insurance industry means you have computer skills...how about free government sponsored re-training ? I did that at 45. I have recently lost my job, but the skills I learned within 5 years working in a truck and coach apprenticeship are still there. I also have all the tools I aquired and can transfer and adapts all of my new skills set to other work; (work I create myself by advertising for work or just advise online for others to use [you can get paid a sliding scale, depending on how many people click onto you for advice in your field(s)] Bob could, still tape into advising on insurance plans for people, today!!
--SELFISH WIFE AND CHILDREN, WERE'S THE LOVE OF FAMILY,.....................................
His family is atrocious! Here's an idea! All the teen children get part time jobs and chip in. Mom gets a job online from home that's flexible with her cancer treatment schedule. Save on electricity by not putting up xmas lights. Have the kids refill their water bottles at the drinking fountain and take reusable bags for lunch. Rent a house without a finished basement, that's cheaper. There's a lot of money being spent that's totally unnecessary! And the kids keeping up appearances? F-that! They can catch a bus to a local public school to save on gas and get over it. I know that's harsh...but families should work together and support one another. Why is this all on Bob???
Kids are just kids. This, unfortunately is a good lesson for them. They will be stronger people..... but if my kids, after everything the family has been through, said “I hate this car” ... I would have stopped the car, got out, and she would have been given a fierce pep talk !
Truth Hurts: I totally agree. I grew up poor and started working part time at age 14. My mom has pancreatic cancer and she worked full time as a secretary until she could retire, despite going for chemo every other week. My dad was a lot like Bob in that after he was laid off he never let his pride interfere with him doing jobs others might find beneath them in order to support our family (night custodian, pumping gas, golf caddy, handyman, etc). I’m super grateful for the family I was blessed to have, despite our financial difficulties. I really hope his kids feel the same way.
Bob's family is the worst. That is not downsizing. They have a huge house, every one has their own bedroom, they have a car, the dad makes them lunches, and they still complain and are ungrateful. My family lived 8 people in a 2 bedroom apartment with 1 bathroom and we kids pitched in by working after school.
Big difference... Y'all had a grateful attitude and worked as a team. That's family !
They are the epitome of ungrateful. Vile, entitled and cold.
Bob should dump his wife and find a woman and family who will appreciate his contribution to the family. He is helping and doing for the family. He’s not responsible for the change in economy or end to his position.
Well now he's depressed, TOO. GOOD JOB, GUYS!!!!
@@longislandartist No, if reads these comments, he can see that he doesn't need to view himself through their eyes as a failure. He should read all these comments and see that everyone is on his side and that he has worth as a human being apart from producing money for them.
My family went through this in the 80s. Dad lost his job making good money. And we moved into poverty but we managed it fine. We kids worked and helped. It worked out fine
Us too.
If you're not a strong family at your best, you're not ready for the strain of the worst
Honestly, this is not even the worst. Be grateful.
Bob was very brave to do that interview. I pray for him and his family.
I applaud him.
Pray for all of US. We are headed to the 1930’s Great Depression
The female forklift worker ..this took place in 2012 I think....shame on her she should have owned a home and she admitted to blowing her money......easy she should have at least $100.000.00 in savings or 401K and money in a home that if she had to sell it even she could have made money from that....she is not totally screwed it said that she had had a union job...with most of those jobs at 55 or 60 you can start to collect ur pension.....
I wondered what happened to them. Did the wife survive. What happened to Bob. I could never do this interview it would be too hard,
What good is praying going to do. Exactly nothing.
I've noticed that people who never had to struggle don't handle financial,job and or health declines well. The coping skills haven't been developed. Poorer people seem always in survival mode and plan multiple ways to combat hardships . The upper middle-class and higher keep looking for their cheese refusing to believe it is gone. If their self worth is tied to their social standing or "image" they refuse to save themselves early on by ditching The "status symbols, expensive homes, materials and debt." Humility and common sense seems harder to attain the wealthier one becomes.
Very true. Poor people don't have to adjust to being poor. It is the middle class to upper middle class that can't adjust because they always had money.
Very true. Poor people are also generally more happy, more generous and more helpful to others, their families and friends. I worked with immigrant farmworkers for years and I have never met more generous, giving, appreciative people.
Linda Curry I agree 💯💯💯
This is true. And notice the suicide rate is higher for these people as well.
I swear you said a mouth full.
WoW! The lady in Everett Washington sure spent her life and money like it was never going to end! But, she's making it work. Better late than never when you are learning a valuable lesson.. praying for us poor people. ❤
90,000k as a forklift operator. She was spoiled too. That’s an insane salary for that. About triple the industry average. She has little to complain about.
Barb and Tink are truly amazing inspiring souls… love and light ❤
Once the paycheck was gone they treated him so bad. I am a bit upset this isn’t talked about more. Family is family. Money or no money. That’s sad.
It shows his wife's true colors. If not for her cancer I'm sure she would have deserted him and the kids and run off with another man.
Pretty sure the wife s parents egg it on and the children are being brainwashed into thinking Dad is not good enough....that s f up!
monica aguilera How can you treat someone so bad when they have been there for you and have reached this point through no fault of his.
@@paulettemorgan9959 I agree tho
At least he is trying to work. His wife should be more understanding.
Shame on Bob's family.
Shame on them.
Bob is doing a great job.
Oh and Hey kids....
Don't like the car? walk.
Walk.
Yes!
Exactly
Damn straight!
They should be so lucky to even have a roof over their head. Better teach them early not to be so materialistic. I had a job in school and if I wanted something I paid for it.
@@zsam8095 that's right!
the older folks are such an inspiration and in touch with reality
Most people are happy to have that modest home and don't complain
“It’s called the American Dream because you have to be asleep to believe it.”
George Carlin
I like this comment!
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Word!
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I wish Georgie Carlin was alive now. 😢
Some people just don't know what struggling looks like if you have food to eat and shelter you are fine. I feel bad for Bob because his family is blaming him for unfortunate events instead of eating humble pie. You do what you have to do until you can do better. Privilege is something else.
I don't feel bad for him at all. He's soon going to be single and divorced and holy crap is he going to start loving life again.
yup i agree. and why the wife dont work to help her husband? sorry theres no excuse not to work or do something in a side.
Monticelle Scates it’s so sad. How many relationships were damaged and will be during this. Very sad. We matter outside what material we bring to the table or lack there of.
@@samezidrovibes Men should be the new house-husbands, let women work while we stay home raising kids. They are more social anyhow, guys prefer a cave. I'll never take heat from a boss just so I can take heat from a wife for not taking ENOUGH heat from my boss.
This makes me angery, i wish i had a father like bob, hes trying, why dont the teenagers get a part time job, bob you are a great man.🤧🙏🏼🙏🏼
Because the part time jobs are being taken by the unemployed adults.
Or the wife!
Lord this is reality. I pray this world gets better.
If my husband is not welcome in my parent's home, then no one is going there for Christmas.
Then your rent wouldn't get paid. You'd have to make sure your kids know that's wrong.
Dita Me
So someone should allow disrespect towards their spouse, all because they’re PAYING THE RENT??
I wish I would....😒😒
I thought the parents just ignored him.
His wife and kids are the ones disrespecting him.
A family should be together for christmas. All or none.
dee jo Exactly!
What is wrong with these people blaming poor Bob for this robbery. Is he an ATM? So what they only loved him when he was making 6 figures? No wonder our world is so messed up. From the macro level down to the micro level, there is no sympathy
The Truth Will Set You Free ♥️
Exactly! He is a good man, give him a break smh
Sympathy? Oh god, no. Haha, except now homelessness is the new normal. Maybe people will be nicer once half the country is on cardboard with their dog, but don't hold your breath.
Bob, i hear you. I feel you
I agree 100%, for American people being poor is something to be ashamed of, no money, no worth.
I volunteer once a month at a foodbank that has served as many as 150 families a week. Anyone who makes fun of those who are struggling are horrible people - they just need to wait - their time will come. Because pain and sorrow hits us all at one time or another.
Poor Bob. I hope things have improved for him. ❤
His daughter is ungrateful, entitled and selfish, and his wife seems like the tree that she fell from. Seems like he’s doing everything possible to recover. Yet, instead of pulling together as a team, all they do is complain. They hate their life compared to what it used to be, but still have much more than many other Americans. When you have this type of family, nothing is ever good enough. He probably ran out of money so quickly because he didn’t manage money wisely and overspent trying to keep his ungrateful family happy, and keep up with the Jones.
Walladah Muhammad That ungrateful family spent this man into bankruptcy far more than the lay-off ever did. He needs to cut them loose.
Walladah Muhammad you’re right! No one was grateful for anything. Just feeling sorry for themselves. They’re still living in a decent nice home. Over eating and bad diet is not helping. The girls can work now. The wife can encourage and pray for her husband. He’s doing his best. Most of all they should be thankful. It can get worse. No house, no car, he can get sick etc.
They shouldn't have lived in that fancy neighborhood. 6 figure income... should have been saving most of it and living in a modest home in the area. There are more reasonable areas in the NW suburbs than Lake Frikin Bluff
If my kid would told me ,'' I hate this car". I woulda told her, '' you can walk for all I give a damn''. Bob's family is all jacked up. He has an employee mindset that's why their suffering. His wife is a complainer and their kids are weak as hell. If I see my parents hurting financially i'm gonna become entrepreneurial. I would wash cars, cut lawns, cut hair, sell things online. These kids are entitled weak crybabies . Only the strong survive that maxim is stronger today than ever in human history !
Lil Lion so true. This is what happens when you raise a family on material things instead of instilling values.
I know so many children out here and mothers out here that would kill for a father/partner like Bob. The ungratefulness of his family hurts my heart.
Positive thoughts create positive realities.
I can't say this enough folks, but when times are good, live as far beneath your means as you can and squirrel some money away, for times won't always be good.
And stop keeping up with the Jones's, because they're a misstep away from the cliff just like you are.
Bingo
It's not that easy, when you have a culture that is specifically tailored for the Middle Class.
All you have to do is compare the amount of Roads we have. Versus Bike Trails or Passenger Train lines.
Saving Money is just a 3-6 month patch. In a long-term Economic issue.
A fallacy of "Personal Responsibility."
When everyone else won't hold their end of the bargain.
The older couple is truly an inspiring story wow
This poor man. He should drive his children to the front of the school, and refuse to carry such a heavy burden of shame. He provided for his family and the 2009 meltdown wasn't his fault.
I agree but what annoys me is his family's attitude. He stated that this has put a strain on his marriage, his in-laws don't speak to him and his kids are ashamed of the car he drives. Don't they all see that he's doing the best he can under the circumstances? When he was making a telephone number salary, he was the perfect father and provider but once he lost that high-paying job, he is huge failure. Trashy ungrateful family.
his kids and wife are the worst...when they were eating high on the hog they wasnt complaining how 4 years hes down they are turning aganist him smh..I am all about my paper and loyality but this is just wrong smh
He is such a good man, how could he marry that so called wife, and let her raise those kids to be such lowlives, shame on them to make this man feel so small! Unforgivable and disgusting behavior
Long Live the Septinsular Republic I couldn’t agree with you more, I am so sad for him.
I agree that poor poor man Bob what a family man this is bad news needs to keep praying ✝
This is a teachable moment. This is why saving is important. Don’t buy a giant house you can’t afford and fill it with stuff you don’t need. He was making great money, the family should have lived cheaper and bought a house they could pay off, a car that was cheaper, save for an emergency. Instead you created spoilt entitled kids and a selfish wife.
I CAN'T clap ENOUGH! NOTHING but TRUTH.👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Yes! 1,000%
Wasteful Hussy very hard for many to save living pay check to pay check. Many citizens cannot save for even a $400 emergency. The system is and has been a failure.
@Kai Wong Exactly, they needed him to play the part.
Yes, be frugal! There is no other way!!!
It could happen to any one of us tomorrow...be kind
Bless this man. He's a man to be admired because he is an honest man.
When Bob said he felt like the value of himself was going down when he was unable to continue to providing the same life for his family - that was so sad.
shame on kids and wife really. that's the time family stands together yet they act their ATM machine just broke and cannot live with a broken machine.
Bob, keep fighting, learn new skills on line, upgrade your resume, go on the interview, when decline ask them for tips to do better on your next interview, don’t give up and family don’t give up on your husband,father.
Who's watching this in 2020 where things are worse than ever & during a pandemic? I pray for everybody struggling right now. 🙏📿🕯️
Me.
It's 24 August 2020.
The pendemic CoronaVirus19 is here and may stay till 2022.
It's like the Spanish Flu in 1918-1920. Followed by the Great Depression till 1929.
@ummi yep history repeating itself. There's always been trouble in this old world and will continue to be. The more we live plain and simple the better off we'll be.
🙏🏻Lord please help Bob and his family. Please help all of us in this COVID19 pandemic.🙏🏻
(He is a great, hard-working DAD!!!)
@@justanotheralmaroad1923
The older I get, I realised it @ 50yo.
Husband and I are downsizing our 147m2 unit to a probable 70-90m2 unit soon. We'll have to wait a while. Now's not a good time to sell. Buyers are hard to get.
all they did was kick the can down the road in 2008 well we caught up to the can on the road and ts gong to be so much this time
When privileged people are forced to live the life a lot of us in the US live. Hits a little different doesn't it?
The 1%life.
I would love to hear that Bob is OK and doing better. That is my hope. Bless us all out there just trying to survive🙏🏻❤️
My heart is literally breaking for BOB! How can his family be so disgusting to him. ALSO their daughter is 16 she can get a DAMN JOB!
I feel for Bob. Do you think he's reaping what he sowed, with his family?
What do you mean - reaping what he saw? He seems to be a great guy. And they seem to be treating him as less than
Sowed*
She can buy her own car! See how much she can afford
Or his wife???
Madison, you’re 16. If you hate the car so much you can go out and get a part time job and save money to buy your own car.
When keeping up with the Joneses goes wrong.
Or take the bus or walk.
She can walk
This is hardship for them? My parents lived through the depression. I worked for a year and saved for a car when I was 17. Never expected my parents to pay for anything. Get used to it.
It isn't going to get any better.
she has to understand that there are people who cannot even afford cars..she should be thankful she even has transportation
@@amydong2586 Four years I had no car as a single mom with 2 boys. Used my bike with a trailer or the bus.
Let’s see what the Kids accomplish in their lives.
Bob is a great dad and done everything he could.
Those kids are going to be a bunch of losers
Lisa seems to be such a sweet caring journalist, you can see the emotion in her eyes when they hurt. she does too. such integrity
Moral of the story: Do not live beyond your means, and always save for a rainy day.
And props for that Dad. Shame on that mother and children.
He Bob wasn't living beyond his means!
People always sit in the judgement seat until something bad happens to them.
Shame on his in-laws. Not inviting him to Xmas? That's absolutely cruel.
Let me tell ya you’re only one misfortune away from this and I don’t criticize it because I’ve experienced a little of it and it sucks
U must BE white! YOUr perspective in it BEing that simple IS special. I worked and saved ALL MY LIFE with that exact plan in mind
Man. I’m sorry Bob, I don’t think you deserve this treatment.
None of us deserve bad treatment...no matter what!
The United States Congress and State governments need to enforce the age discrimination laws they choose
to ignore. It is against the law to discriminate against older people but it happens frequently. Most older people who get laid off, whether in personal or in-mass layoffs, have difficulty getting another job because, if they are over 40, they're considered old by today's employers' and corporations' standards. Loss of homes, unemployment benefits that run out, and homelessness follows. Even worse, older people are forced to take early Social Security at age 62 instead of waiting until 66. When they have no choice but to take early monthly SS checks, they lose at least 25% of SS income for as long as they live. Women, living on SS, are probably the highest numbers living in poverty in the USA. For many decades, businesses have been disloyal when they discriminated against competent, loyal employees in favor of employing younger, less costly and skilled workers. This scenario continues against older workers today. I pray our government will help the elderly who became poor due to being shut out of decent employment opportunities and suffer this terrible loss of SS benefits they were entitled to previously.
I wonder how Bob and his family are doing now, eight years later? I hope things are better. If he had a Gofundme right now, I’d donate to it.
However, I do wonder how Bob was when he had all of that money. Was he as empathetic as we are about his situation? Was he kind to the poor or did he turn his nose up and treat them like rodents? Makes you wonder doesn't it?🤔
His kids hate his car but they don't mind riding in it lol. Brats.
walking to school would be great cardio for them and fasting is a great way to lose those extra pounds!!!!!!
His kids are old enough to get a part time job !! They’re at least in high school and last I checked all high school kids can go and find a job !!
Just simply amazing stories Lisa Ling. Im dying to know how all these people are doing today. Im sure many others are also.
I started to make my own lunches when I was 12. Breakfast by myself earlier. These kids need to learn how to do things themselves.
Yes. And say "thanks for a ride" instead of "I hate this car."
America has been declining for years now. The gap between the rich and the poor began getting wider. COVID wasn’t what caused this mess. It was the straw that broke the camels back.
So true, yes indeed
Rebecca Philantrope 💯
This was 2012, Covid wasn’t even heard of!! This is when the banks turned things upside down and inside out! And the rich bankers still got their bonuses!
We have never had a lot but have always been grateful for what we have. Life is so much more than big houses and lots of money.
This was a result of the financial collapse of 2008, many people including myself lost good jobs which never came back. I was unemployed for 2 years (thankfully I had savings) and I wasn't able to get a job based on my experience so I had no choice but to work for minimum wage at Target. I continued applying for better jobs until I got one which paid a lot more than Target. I still live as if I was making minimum wage and I save/invest 50% of my income. I'm still working but if I had got laid off due to the Coronavirus epidemic I would have been fine.
In “Merica”, (I hate that) “1 in 6 people do not know if they will eat today”. When I lost my career I took the year to look for work. I also was on a team that started a free health clinic, volunteered at the food pantry, and prayed... a lot. At the end of that year in my mid fifty’s I took a minimum wage no benefits job working at a plastics plant in the automotive industry. After 20+ years in healthcare this was my new career path. I’ve now been working full time with benefits for the past 7 years. Life has changed, my wife has been with me every step of the way. I keep in mind that just like before nothing in life is guaranteed. Live within your means, stay out of debt, save what you can, and count your blessings.
So true
George Meyer j
George Meyer j
And btw. Can’t these 4 kids get a part time job at one of those fancy country clubs??
I REALLY ADMIRE THIS OLD COUPLE IN THE FARM. THEY STICK TOGETHER THRU THICK AND THIN. GOD BLESS THEM BOTH😇
very adaptable ppl. they had some homesteading skills before the fall-out though it looks like. very neat ppl...I like their lifestyle.
They are an upgrade family. When he had it all they didn't have a problem. The Little man feels the pain. I think he wants his family to be together. They should appreciate Bob making lunch. There are children who are worse off than them. As long as you keep blaming and not appreciating the blessing you have right now. God will keep you in the struggled
Amina Siffoi or drop you to have a real struggle, they’re living in a nice house and going to the same school. Oh they would feel a worse struggle if I were their parents.
The wfe wonders when the good times are coming... She doesn't realize they have had it. They had experiences that people who are in their economic situation will never have. Even though their life has changed they have family that have them living much better then those without. The father doesn't directly control the job market. The family as a team could create a job or jobs to help.
Amen😳😳😳
Amina Siffoi- Amen sister!!
verrryyy verry true
Let me just say, apart from my heart going out to all of these families that are struggling I absolutely adore Lisa Lynn and the work that she does
Ling.
I remember watching this before, I wonder how they did during the pandemic and now, I hated how Bob was treated
Poor guy 😥. He seems like a great dad and husband. His family doesn't appreciate him. They should be grateful. I have seen men that have a lot of money and still don't do for their families as much as this guy does.
Agree.
10:00 Bob, from the Netherlands, in EU, there's someone very proud of you, for the time and these little sweet things you do for your kids. You HAVE a place in heaven. your 'worth' as a father and a husband doesn't even go down a bit in my eyes. You are a wonderful person, even without that ton of cash you could haul with an 'executive' job. Being a janitor, though being sadly underpaid, is an important job. What people would do if no one would tidy up and take the trash out?? we live in a sad world of ungratitude.... I pray for you!!!
Bob’s wife should be a little kind ...he’s trying his best
Common, she got cancer, its not like life is easy on her too
it is such a shame that she is mortally ill, I feel so very sorry for her
Another thing that makes American lives difficult is that "High Living Standard" idea...Americans are so used to living it which makes them uncompromising even if the situation really calls for them to adjust the way they should live when life demands they have to.
8 minutes in and the ungratefulness of his family makes me sick. They have ZERO idea what suffering is.
It's because it's tough being young too; even kids are competitive and cruel. Sad fact in America, so try God / Jesus.
I know that's why my kids are out at 18.
yup, spoiled and entirely self-focused, oh wo is me
i hope the inlaws have an evil death!
Welcome to the USA that’s why marriage is down
What wife and children leave their DAD alone on Christmas? That’s just poor character, not economics.
@söder bröder - STFU - you really showed your ignorance with such a remark.
@@nunya2954 I just checked out his channel. Bashing Trump is all he does. Unfortunately there's a lot of them out there.
söder bröder I’m Trump supporters. I’m working classes, I work since I was 16, legal immigrant and not depend on government assistance because I have social security to work. Don’t judge people life style because no one know their fortune up or down.
@@divinefeather1 - He/she is apparently comprehension handicapped, this video has nothing to do with Trump. Thus his original comment is ignornant.
In laws are vilifying the father
Bob's case just goes to show you that his wife wasn't with him for love; she was with him for his $$$.
EXACTLY my thoughts!!! So ungrateful. She just kicks him to the curb and ostracizes him from the family. NOT A GOOD WIFE!!
THE WIFE IS FIGHTING CANCER!
@@DominiqueSaltH2OWife Thank You, I worried for a second.
Facts: they have a roof over their head, food on the table and 2 parent home. They are crying for missed wealth....nothing more.
yes
This is what is truly SAD! They are lucky to have grandparent's to help sustain them! Placing the burden on the husband it totally UNFAIR! If it were possible, those teenager's should be working part-time jobs after school, rather then being upset with dad, because he was FIRED from his job and there was NOTHING he could do about it!
Parent's had better start interacting with their children REALITY BASED! Informing them how our government SCREWED us with NAFTA, and other devastating policies AGAINST everyday working Americans! These thoughtless kids better realize, the jobs that their parents had decades ago, they won't even realize, they will probably still be living at home with their Parents!
Parent's STOP SPOILING your Children, let them face reality with you, and what they can expect when they become young adults, wanting to SPREAD their wings!
Did I see a roast and mashed potatoes hey it's a car
Troll on Doll Chops
Did she say 1200 a mth.smh
My family and I went through something similar when I was in Highschool. At the time I was selfish and didn’t understand and I’m ashamed on how I acted. Looking back Im SO grateful that my parents did everything they could and we still had food in the table. I was and still am so blessed and in debt to them 🙏🏼
Bob's case was savage. Material things & keeping up an image means nothing.
A family united in gratitude is what matters most.
I love these families God help them
Why is the Wife and her family blaming the Dad. He lost his job , he wasn’t fired and he’s trying his best to do what he can. So the wife loves him when he can provide and when he can’t, then turns her back on him. This guy loves his children and I hope the children realize how lucky they are to have a father like him , who would do anything to support his children. BTW why doesn’t the wife work , and his teenage kids should work too.
his wife was in a 5 year battle with cancer. hard times either bring us closer together or drive people apart.
Typical Eve character, they want the whole materialistic world.
Yep I said the same when he was strong horse they ride on his bk
That really got up my nose also. It seems as though their love has a dollar value and it can be bought. You can take the trash out of the trailer but they remain trailer trash!
Amen not talking to him how negative stuck up spoiled little b**** that's all that is
That so called crappy car is a whole lot better than most people have. Spoiled spoiled kids. They don't know how the average people live.
Bobs kids weren’t spoiled just the daughter. The youngest was crying and the oldest said he will be grateful
What an awful attitude to allow this selfish daughter to have - "I hate this car" as she gets out. She sounds like her Mom. It's all about Kylie Jenner and the lifestyle.
I finally got a new (to me car) after driving my other one for 20+ years. I got it cheap on a neighborhood listserv, when the daughter of the seller (a college student) needed a better car. I will take that car gladly, due to low mileage and cheap maintenance and big enough space to be able to live out of the car (if ever necessary). Yes, I always assume paychecks will stop and so I buy my cars with the thought in mind, can I sleep in it with my dog and have space to my essentials. Growing up as poor as I did, I never assume there is money to buy groceries.
Ikr! I don't even have a car because I can't afford the car insurance, gas and maitenance. Me and my 2 girls have to walk almost everywhere we go. So yeah I'd be as happy as a lark to own a vehicle.
They are the average people. They just can't come to terms with it.
Many people lived further then their means we don't need everything we see 😢
This is why you try to save for hard times , because years ago I went to work and the factory was padlocked “it was a Tuesday” a real eye opener.
Wish they could do a follow-up on these families! Would love to hear how their journeys have continued, including how these experiences have shaped these kids who are now young adults.
I wish they'd do a follow-up so I could see how my boy Bob is doing. Really rooting for that guy. His wife and in-laws could be living under a bridge for all I care.
I really want to know if Bob is okay. This was shot in 2012. I wonder if he is OK. Hope so.
I almost cried for Bob spending Christmas alone, a wonderful father doing the best he can just to be unappreciated and made to feel guilty for things he can’t control. 🤦🏾♀️
When my family hit hard times I walked my butt to a fastfood restaurant for an after school job. I helped my family growing up now retired and having raised my own family when times get tough i work in fast food. Pride goes before a fall
Ungrateful wife and children. There are homeless families living on the streets. Bob is trying. Barb and Tink are amazing.
is sad to see even the kids dot give the father the respect.not cool
I feel for him but the key is to always live below your means. They did not have to live in the first neighborhood. The job incentivised it but it wasnt mandatory. He created spoiled kids and a spoiled wife by thinking that his whole self worth as a man was to have money and throw it at his family. Had he lived modestly despite his paycheck and saved the excess that he was wasting hed be in a better situation.
But you can see the pain in his eyes and it is absolutely heartbreaking. I hope it gets better for him.
@@shayslay3416 Always spend less then you bring in. Save and invest the rest. Its finance and accounting 101. If you don't plan for emergencies your gonna be very very sorry.
I felt so bad for Bob! So sad
Exactly, it’s not his fault that his position was axed and the economy crashed. When he moved from NJ he didn’t think he would end up in the position, they were living a dream that turned nightmare. He immediately tried to find a good job, but the job market is terrible. His wife and her parents blame him for something that’s out of his control?? FOH
This documentary is more than a decade old. There is a much bigger one coming.
LMAO! I was wondering why this was released right now... maybe it's a preview to the big one!
Oh, we all know.
This right here. I don't think people realize that what we're about to enter will be worse than the Great Depression. My husband and I have been saving money like crazy. We're good at saving anyway, but we've ramped it up! We're living off of $200 per week! No splurges and we're making food and freezing it.
@@sbkpilot1 Eerily enough, its relevant now when people are screaming to open up and buy American but most things are still not made in the USA.
Andrey Che O.K. but this isn’t a decade old, it says that it’s from 2012. Not that 8 years vs. 10 years is much of a difference but if you want to persuade people to change their minds and be better you have to be 100% accurate or else they’ll think the real things you’re saying are also not true.
I feel for Bob. He is really trying. Some people would have given up or think they are too good for certain jobs, etc.
He really needs his family to support him. And quite frankly....kids can work, too. I had to when I was 15.
I can relate to these people I lost everything back in 1984 due to very low oil prices and when you live in a state where you have a oil based economy it can be devastating. I had to move 600 mi away and live in a travel trailer with my wife and two children. We had a comfortable home in South Louisiana and moved to Tennessee and worked the automotive boom. It was so depressing but it taught me to prepare and to save and not to waste money. I feel so sorry for these people.
It wasn’t the husband’s fault that he was laid off. Why is the family taking it out on him?? So not fair.
No there is a lot of unfair going around.
Exactly!!! It could happen to anybody and why were they not saving? For something like this listen nothing in life is guaranteed but death just saying
And now 2020 we in the middle of a "pandemic" smh
because no matter how liberal america looks on the outside, they are still conservative on the inside and one of the ways this shows up is in gender roles: women expect their husbands to always be strong and never fail. the women feel ashamed and resentful if their husbands can't "be a man".
Felicia George Because in the economic crisis it turned out that no one had ever saved. Everyone was leasing cars and had homes and mortgages that were way to expensive