My neighbor is 97 on may 2nd. She’s amazing living on her own, still drives and drives well! She washes her car weeds her garden lives alone but flys on her own to visit her daughter. “Unbelievable”
My grandmother was the same way! Her birthday was May 3rd 🙃 currently I’m the main caretaker of my husband’s grandparents (they live with us now) and it’s so vastly different. It really makes me wonder why some people strive to do all they can for as long as they can and others don’t.
My mom just turned 95, 2 years widowed, and recently got herself a cycling machine. Still drives❤, plays Bridge with her friends, and miraculously her mind is clear. Beautiful Story by Lisa. She is the quintessential journalist.
The converse is also true. Old age is easier when you're a good person, and you treat(ed) your friends/family/children well. My parents are toxic and we have always had a rocky relationship, and they don't have many friends because of their poor behavior. (My mom is the culprit and my dad is her enabler.) They're elderly and now very upset that I won't quit my job, sell my house, uproot my entire life, and move in with them to take care of them. Gee....maybe you shoulda treated me better. I will help them as much as I can from my home 450 miles away.
This should be viewed by every living person. We tend to turn a blind eye to the human needs of our aging loved ones as if their desires die at a certain age. I checked and learned that Ms. Ida passed away in 2021. She lived to see 106 years. ❤
I completely agree..everyone living human being should watch this..the “elderly”..which hopefully we each and every one of us eventually become..are still human! Living life and a persons desires doesn’t just change when we reach a mature age…and the older I get the more this matters! We need to stop overlooking and/or treating older folks as if they’re different or no longer desire a “normal” life. So many people are overlooked or discarded when they reach a certain “mature” age..what a shame..when these are the people we can learn the most from…we all want to LIVE..until we die..not just EXIST before we die. ❤
I’m 68, I am unable to retire. My family is mostly passed. 2 younger siblings are gone. My younger wife passed 3 months ago from a heart attack. She was only 51. Life is very unpredictable but you must keep going. Thank you Lisa Ling you’re the best.
Ted, I feel your pain. I am 69 and still need to work a few hrs a week. I can survive modestly because I have simplified my life. Old car, moved to have very low rent. I hope you can have some peace soon. ☮️
Hi, I’m 65 very very soon. I just am lost without my partner who died. It was love at first sight when he was 18 & I on my 17 birthday. I’m struggling to carry on, we were together almost 44 years 😢💛
@@florence1395hi friend. I am almost your age. My husband died, suddenly and unexpectedly, seven-years ago. And, he was fifteen years younger-than I. The first year can be really tough. For a while, for me anyhow, living each day was strange and difficult. Friends and family pushed me to go out and do things. I wanted a lot of alone time. Which is what I did. I was somewhat selfish. I did what gave me as much comfort as possible. That meant staying home and saying “no” to others who wanted to push me, before I was ready. It really was the entire first year, and life became recognisable again. Of course, I miss him terribly, and probably always will. But, the sadness won’t always be like it is now. It gets better, as in improved-better, not resolved-better. I promise. ❤
If I could have "liked" this 1,000 times, I would have. I've always loved Lisa Ling's shows, whatever she does, but this one was so poignant and heartfelt, and lovely. Even the painful stories were lovely.
My wonderful grandma got remarried at 93 years young and enjoyed that relationship until her death at 97 years, she had the privilege to be healthy both mentally and physically till the end of her life leaving me with such wonderful memories to carry until the end of mine.
As a new mother, its crazy to see the circle of life. Literally every single thing that is stressful to care for an elderly parent is the same for caring for a newborn. It takes "a toll physically, mentality and emotionally because you never have private time and are always on call." Perhaps too many of us forgot the sacrifices our parents made to see us through😔
So thoughtful and dear you are! It's hard to be old, too. Losing our balance, our words, our memories, our friends, our independence, our hair, and our ever loving minds! I hope that you will never forget that being a mother is the hardest job in the world and most honorable. I know it's cheesey and said before, but as you are now experiencing, you know it's true. I wish with all my heart and might that our American society supported and revered our mothers. Until then, may you be blessed a hundred fold and experience all the joy and goodness this world can offer-
@krmccarrell 💕🙏 praying for the same. I know God is using motherhood to open my eyes so I may acknowledge how much went into raising me. Now that my father is older (my mom passed), I'm trying to return the grace and care he gave me. It's not always easy but I try to remember. God bless you and thank you for your thoughtful comment.
Im sayin'!!! Im younger than her daughter but she definitely looks younger than me! She looks to be in her early 40s! My girl Ida has some GREAT genes, I agree w you ma'am! Smh she said she believes she can push her way to 108!! 😳 Thats just mind blowing to me!! 🤯♥️ I hope she makes it! Go! Ida Go!! ♥️😁👊
I have seen many people that have aged well. I am one. But I have known a few..for example....who were in their 50s and looked half their age.. except the one you mentioned is 60!
a lot of people including myself have observed that people with darker skin age the least. it's the melanin protection. i saw the mum's racing shoes and i thought to myself, they need more padding!
Beautiful documentary. Lisa's dad worked a modest job over a 35+ year career, made sacrifices to put food on the table and send his two daughters to college, and eventually pay off the house, despite being divorced. Fiercely independent. I salute ppl like him.
Women has always been the care takers, we need to have better health care solutions to care for seniors. Elders have experienced life and wisdom. Age is undervalued in America.
I have never heard it put that way before, that "Age is undervalued in America". Well said. I would love to see Lisa do a documentary on that very fact. More people need to learn about and embrace the aging. They might learn alot !
The tenderness with which Lisa Ling approaches every subject has me hooked on this series. I can't believe I missed this series when it first premiered but I'm so grateful it's on RUclips.
I work at a Retirement community and Care Center. I'm a housekeeper. I have worked there 23 years. I'm now 65 and semi retired. I love being around these folks. They have all kinds of activities except speed dating...lol.
What a beautiful episode… I’m only 24 and tend to feel hopeless and helpless a lot but I’m learning now that I should have a positive attitude and learn to be happy with each day that I’m given. Ms Ida definitely gives me hope and helps me look at the future with hope
I have an elderly neighbor from Pakistan and he is the sweetest person ever. I help him with his yardwork and remind him to stay hydrated. Cherish your elders, the wisdom they possess and the stories they share are worth hearing. ❤ Ida and her daughter 🫶🏾
In Jan 2024 I lost my 93 yr old Dad, I had the pleasure of being with him his last couple of years. I wouldn't trade that time together with him for anything. I encourage everyone to help your older family whenever possible.
I am so sorry for your loss. When my 90 year old Dad passed 5 years ago, I was devastated. People think it’s a chore to care for them, but we had so much fun the last 3 years of his life while he stayed with me. People, don’t miss out on the experience if you can take care of a parent. It’s not drudgery. No one knows you like your family, and when roles change, you see yet another side of your loved one. We laughed every day for the 3 years he was here.
@@kathleenfurey2080 My mom and I chat and laugh on the phone every day. I'm moving out of state to be with her. I'm really looking forward to our time together.
My mom worked at a nursing home, it's definitely not a secret. These folks always get straight to the point I tell ya that. No matter if they start to lose their minds though, they still have dignity.
I had regarded my parents as SUPER BEINGS. I was unprepared to accept their twilight years. It all happened so fast and now they're gone. . I miss them both so much.
Me too. My dad was playing tennis and doing yard work till 85 and then the “decline by 1,000 cuts” started. Bad hip pain but due to a stupidly over radiated skin cancer on his ankle he couldn’t get a replacement. So that took him from cane to walker to then not being able to drive and then only being able to use walker to go about 100 feet. He died 6 weeks after a surgery to just shave down the bone to relieve some pain. No cancer no heart disease no high blood pressure. Nothing. But post op his cognitive level started dropping and his appetite then he got covid AGAIN then he got weaker and simply couldn’t swallow which I didn’t know is a super common end of life hastener. Unlike in soap operas- no one would give him a feeding tube. 86-tan independent playing tennis totally sharp and enjoying life. 7 yrs of incremental decline and it was all over. We called him “man of steel” as NOTHING stopped him. He was so strong and stubborn and determined. But Father Time catches up. My yoga /line dancing & ballet mom also till 85-just bit by bit lost confidence of balance and movement. She can still take a walk with not much problem. But the whirlwind that I knew my whole life is vanished to this much weaker , lost since my father died, no longer super human mom. It’s STUNNING. I got to live in blissful denial so long because they presented so vibrantly. But now I just mourn the loss so deeply. Even tho my mom is still alive- I feel like the last woman profiled crying “I miss my mom”. Even without Alzheimer’s or memory decline you miss the parent that made YOU feel safe and was all powerful in your eyes.
We have been given power, love, and a sound mind and for us that are believers forgiveness and atonement. God is with us, strengthening us, and will bring us home to eternity with Him. Hallelujah praise be to God almighty. 🙏🏼
My mom passed 9months ago. she had a lot of health issues and was disabled. She was only 63. I had to find an assisted living for her. It was so rough. She needed someone to always be near by in case of a medical emergency. Even if I lived with her, someone would need to be there when I went to work. Someone would need to be there when we were asleep (I am a very deep sleeper). Plus my mom realized she did want to feel independent and as if she had her own place. She didn’t want me to take care of her because I am still building my finances. I’m not in my 40s or 50s when people usually start taking care of their parents. I really miss her. I wish I could take care of her when she turned 80 or 90. That is such a privilege
In many other cultures the old are the most valued and still listened to as the head of a household. Their wisdom is honored and no thought of putting them in a retirement home is given.
I agree, however not in North America. I'm a private senior care giver in Canada helping seniors age in place. And more often than not their families have very little if any involvement in their parents lives or care. Many of my clients have removed their children from their wills and giving to charity instead. Their children will be in for a shock one day.
according to Lisa Ling's instagram, her father passed away November 2023 ❤ But this documentary was filmed in 2010 so they still got to enjoy another 13 years together. ❤
This documentary was filmed in 2012 and was aired on TV in February 2013. It couldn't have been filmed in 2010. At 4:50 they even mention a bill overdue and said the bill is from 2011 that's almost a year overdue.
I am 74 ,i have my own house ,i cut the grass ,i tend to the garden ,i drive to colorado and ski 50 days a season ,I swim every day in the summer and paddle once a week .You have to keep moving !!!
Most elderly do not live this kinda existence. One has to have adequate resources. Trust me as a nurse who's worked in multiple long time care facilities. Most of America's elderly live way below these standards.
I agree. I'm 74 and spent the last 6 weeks visiting each of my three children. They welcomed me, they nourished my body and soul. I don't ever want to burden them. Their lives are already more of a burden than mine ever was. They are good people. I am very fortunate. But I'd rather not live with any of them. I will most likely have to though, because none of us are financially able to consider other options. We are all hard workers, even my disabled son works hard, but life is a financial struggle. However, we do have love and for that I'm deeply grateful.
Sometimes, older ppl are stuck w well meaning ppl but ppl who believe they know best. If you aren't at least a PhD in geriatrics, be assured you aren't even close to knowing what's best. Some ppl are control freaks, have hidden agendas, or are lazy and looking out for their own welfare. Never assume responsibility over someone's life wo asking what they want and doing your best to help them get it, just as you should at any other time in life.
Ida brought me to tears... of joy... for HER, for her family...I am grateful for the hopeful example she embodies and shares with us. Very touching documentary.
They had a good father. Good parents raise good children, I'm sure he deserved every care he received from his daughters. I read he died, but they all had about 13 more years together, after this video was made.
Love Ms. Ida....I aspire to be just like her when I'm her age. What a Fantastic ATTITUDE!!!! TOO MANY PEOPLE SLEEP ON THE GLORIUS EFFECTS OF EXCERCISE & HAVING A PASSION
I watch these type of videos for many reasons but one is to help me stay consistent in my health habits body, mind, and spirit. I do my best, God does the rest. He holds my lot.
I’m 69 and live alone. I have two sisters close in age. We try to help each other when we can. I’ll never be able to rely on my daughter for help. I do sometimes worry about dying alone.
Hello! Mis Ling. I have two daughter myself , the Relationship you and your Sibling have with yall father! Is really Amazing and joyful. I pray me and my daugthers will have a Amazing Relationship one day , My Daughters are still young , But have other influences in a life. Im a Black father Who dealt with challengers trying to be apart of my kids life. 😢 i have lots of Respect for you and your sister for the way you guys care , Support and respect your father.
I told my kids I absolutely don't mind going into a nursing home. I know it's not great in those places, but I want them to be able to live their lives and not worry about me all the time. As long as they come see me once in awhile I'll be fine.
Lisa L is so kind & considerate towards her Father he must deserve by his actions during her lifetime. The family members shown are displaying the same.
Lisa, this is a very beautiful pice of work that you have done for seniors and their families. Through helping your father, you have helped all of us. You are a joy. Thank you from the bottom of my heart 💗💗💗
One of the best videos out in these RUclips streets!!! Life through the lens of seniors....enjoyed the various life experiences! Salute to all these elders who allowed Lisa and the crew to film. This video was done in 2010-2011 but still varied today and always. Thanks Lisa btw your father has a great sense of humor.
@@maddscientist3170 oh stop . Thats not true at all . Stop spreading lies . I lived here for a long time and people live longer here because of the weather and climate. Lots of people retire here everyday .
In Sue’s situation, it would be helpful to have an in home caretaker to help her daughter. That person could come in 5 days a week to help dress, bathe, and feed, change bedding, etc., giving her daughter the mornings off. Insurance or Medicare may provide assistance like this.
Wow. Helen doesn't ask for "anything MORE THAN" happiness, good health, and good times - to enjoy whatever time she has left, and doing all the things she wants to do.
My dad just remarried, my mother passed 3 years ago, he is 88!! His new wife is 78. They LOVE to travel!!! When talking to him about a new wife he said “there is still fire in the furnace, but a bit of snow on the roof” 😂
I appreciate this! My parents are deceased now but this is reality. My mother started a grease fire in the kitchen and lived by herself. We talked about options but it was too late and she passed away from lack of medical care. It’s hard when you have a senior who still in their right mind but not making the best or healthy decisions. It’s so so hard.
Oh my friend, we know alllll about “best” and “healthy.” At some point we decide before we die-and that reality is very, very real-when are we gonna be able to eat what we want and do what we want when we want? It’s now time to just be and do what we please. You see, we *are* making our *own* “best decisions.” They’re just not *your* choices. We’re more in touch with our finiteness than you understand. And we don’t need to ask permission or apologize to anyone for our choices or our existence.
What's even harder for us seniors is people thinking they know best our medical needs but dont go to dr apts with us so they can here our annual tests results. I am 67 and on no meds. Age doesnt require meds
Some older people are happier to die in their own homes, even though they are practically killing themselves because they can’t look after themselves. I can understand that.
@@reneemac111absolutely 100%. Of course if dementia is advancing then different, my father managed with carers going in for 15mins twice daily. Took his meds for week all in one day didn’t bother me didn’t kill him.
This is such informative information as I’m 72 and constantly challenging myself to hopefully keep my mind sharp and my body moving. I love seeing Ida at 97 being so happy and self-sufficient. Isn’t that what all of us want for ourselves and our parents.
This is an excellent depiction of the many stages of aging for the senior & their family. Several points hit home. Thank you Lisa & God Bless your father & family.
I just love seeing Ms. Ida's personality and it's such a blessing to watch her reach her goal running! She reminds me so much of my Grandma Miller that I miss so much in heaven. God bless you and your family 😇🙏🏾.
I agree...would have been nice to see single seniors that have roommates due to finances, couples who don't marry to avoid lower SSI, and other situations caused by financial restrictions. How are those seniors navigating their lives, I wonder.
So how on earth do they qualify for senior living, must be the ritziest place on earth. Helen didn’t have a marriage when she was young, she likely was an executive for big Pharma and was smart enough not to swallow any poison. She has basically only lived to meet her own needs. Poor lady has no grandkids.
4.23.2024 Ms. Ida gives me so much joy and happiness. I know she mentioned that she will still be here at 108 years old. This recording took place about 10 years ago. I'd love an update if she's still with us 🙏🏾
My neighbor is 97 on may 2nd. She’s amazing living on her own, still drives and drives well! She washes her car weeds her garden lives alone but flys on her own to visit her daughter. “Unbelievable”
THIS IS WHAT PEOPLE SHOULD STRIVE TO DO IF THEY CAN. MY MOM & MOM-IN-LAW WHERE THE SAME WAY.
Very uncommon.
My grandmother was the same way! Her birthday was May 3rd 🙃 currently I’m the main caretaker of my husband’s grandparents (they live with us now) and it’s so vastly different. It really makes me wonder why some people strive to do all they can for as long as they can and others don’t.
Wow..what a blessed life!
She is blessed 🙏God loves her 🙌
My mom just turned 95, 2 years widowed, and recently got herself a cycling machine. Still drives❤, plays Bridge with her friends, and miraculously her mind is clear. Beautiful Story by Lisa. She is the quintessential journalist.
I hope to be like that one day. 😊
Hey if you can spell quintessential you can tell you and your Mom are both interested in all things.. Xx
Old age is so much easier if you are genuinely loved.
That’s not always the case.
Life-in-general is so much easier if you are genuinely loved.
And, that is Rare today.
@@tennysoneffie6943 Yes, I know.
The converse is also true.
Old age is easier when you're a good person, and you treat(ed) your friends/family/children well.
My parents are toxic and we have always had a rocky relationship, and they don't have many friends because of their poor behavior. (My mom is the culprit and my dad is her enabler.)
They're elderly and now very upset that I won't quit my job, sell my house, uproot my entire life, and move in with them to take care of them.
Gee....maybe you shoulda treated me better. I will help them as much as I can from my home 450 miles away.
Lisa Ling is a national treasure!
♥️♥️♥️
I can't believe her father is 75. He looks like he's in his 50s.
@@B_Bodziak I've noticed Asian folks age quite gracefully. Plus a large percentage of them stay lean which contributes to this factor.
@@B_Bodziak this was filmed in 2011...he passed away in the Fall of 2023...
That she IS!!
This should be viewed by every living person. We tend to turn a blind eye to the human needs of our aging loved ones as if their desires die at a certain age. I checked and learned that Ms. Ida passed away in 2021. She lived to see 106 years. ❤
Incredible. She said she’d love to be 108 so that’s close. And she looked amazing
Wow, that's amazing! Thanks for updating us on Ida
I completely agree..everyone living human being should watch this..the “elderly”..which hopefully we each and every one of us eventually become..are still human! Living life and a persons desires doesn’t just change when we reach a mature age…and the older I get the more this matters! We need to stop overlooking and/or treating older folks as if they’re different or no longer desire a “normal” life. So many people are overlooked or discarded when they reach a certain “mature” age..what a shame..when these are the people we can learn the most from…we all want to LIVE..until we die..not just EXIST before we die. ❤
Wow! Just as she predicted! Good for her! ❤
God bless her 🙌 Thanks for the info!
I am 68 and caring for my family, cooking, shopping, cleaning and spending special time with my husband will keep me going to 100...I hope.
I’m 68, I am unable to retire. My family is mostly passed. 2 younger siblings are gone. My younger wife passed 3 months ago from a heart attack. She was only 51. Life is very unpredictable but you must keep going. Thank you Lisa Ling you’re the best.
Ted, I feel your pain. I am 69 and still need to work a few hrs a week. I can survive modestly because I have simplified my life. Old car, moved to have very low rent. I hope you can have some peace soon. ☮️
agree, yes it is...
I'm 66 - the biggest gift I can give my kids is to always remain open to new experiences, and emotionally flexible. I dearly hope I can achieve it.
❤❤❤❤
You will!😊
Hi, I’m 65 very very soon. I just am lost without my partner who died. It was love at first sight when he was 18 & I on my 17 birthday. I’m struggling to carry on, we were together almost 44 years 😢💛
@@florence1395❤❤❤❤❤ 😢
@@florence1395hi friend.
I am almost your age.
My husband died, suddenly and unexpectedly, seven-years ago.
And, he was fifteen years younger-than I.
The first year can be really tough.
For a while, for me anyhow, living each day was strange and difficult.
Friends and family pushed me to go out and do things. I wanted a lot of alone time.
Which is what I did.
I was somewhat selfish.
I did what gave me as much comfort as possible.
That meant staying home and saying “no” to others who wanted to push me, before I was ready.
It really was the entire first year, and life became recognisable again.
Of course, I miss him terribly, and probably always will.
But, the sadness won’t always be like it is now.
It gets better, as in improved-better, not resolved-better.
I promise. ❤
If I could have "liked" this 1,000 times, I would have. I've always loved Lisa Ling's shows, whatever she does, but this one was so poignant and heartfelt, and lovely. Even the painful stories were lovely.
My wonderful grandma got remarried at 93 years young and enjoyed that relationship until her death at 97 years, she had the privilege to be healthy both mentally and physically till the end of her life leaving me with such wonderful memories to carry until the end of mine.
A wonderful Grandma.
As a new mother, its crazy to see the circle of life. Literally every single thing that is stressful to care for an elderly parent is the same for caring for a newborn. It takes "a toll physically, mentality and emotionally because you never have private time and are always on call." Perhaps too many of us forgot the sacrifices our parents made to see us through😔
Bless your heart. ❤
Exactly we forget what they did for us all those years!!
So thoughtful and dear you are! It's hard to be old, too. Losing our balance, our words, our memories, our friends, our independence, our hair, and our ever loving minds! I hope that you will never forget that being a mother is the hardest job in the world and most honorable. I know it's cheesey and said before, but as you are now experiencing, you know it's true. I wish with all my heart and might that our American society supported and revered our mothers. Until then, may you be blessed a hundred fold and experience all the joy and goodness this world can offer-
@krmccarrell 💕🙏 praying for the same. I know God is using motherhood to open my eyes so I may acknowledge how much went into raising me. Now that my father is older (my mom passed), I'm trying to return the grace and care he gave me. It's not always easy but I try to remember. God bless you and thank you for your thoughtful comment.
@@JayG88 🙏😇
WOW, Ida and her family have amazing genes... Her 60 year old daughter doesn't look a day over 29!! Long live Ida! Wonderful.
Ikr!!!
Im sayin'!!! Im younger than her daughter but she definitely looks younger than me! She looks to be in her early 40s! My girl Ida has some GREAT genes, I agree w you ma'am! Smh she said she believes she can push her way to 108!! 😳 Thats just mind blowing to me!! 🤯♥️ I hope she makes it! Go! Ida Go!! ♥️😁👊
I have seen many people that have aged well. I am one. But I have known a few..for example....who were in their 50s and looked half their age.. except the one you mentioned is 60!
a lot of people including myself have observed that people with darker skin age the least. it's the melanin protection.
i saw the mum's racing shoes and i thought to myself, they need more padding!
@@lowkeyconvert8971 🤣
Beautiful documentary. Lisa's dad worked a modest job over a 35+ year career, made sacrifices to put food on the table and send his two daughters to college, and eventually pay off the house, despite being divorced. Fiercely independent. I salute ppl like him.
You have a well worded posting, and then you screw it up with the ppl. Spell the damn word people.
@@mikefromflorida8357you sound miserable. Lord 🙄
Women has always been the care takers, we need to have better health care solutions to care for seniors. Elders have experienced life and wisdom. Age is undervalued in America.
I have never heard it put that way before, that "Age is undervalued in America". Well said. I would love to see Lisa do a documentary on that very fact. More people need to learn about and embrace the aging. They might learn alot !
TOTALLY........the U.S. is the worse place for seniors
The tenderness with which Lisa Ling approaches every subject has me hooked on this series. I can't believe I missed this series when it first premiered but I'm so grateful it's on RUclips.
Iv’e always liked Lisa. Such a gentle loving spirit the Lord has given her.
I work at a Retirement community and Care Center. I'm a housekeeper. I have worked there 23 years. I'm now 65 and semi retired. I love being around these folks. They have all kinds of activities except speed dating...lol.
What a beautiful episode… I’m only 24 and tend to feel hopeless and helpless a lot but I’m learning now that I should have a positive attitude and learn to be happy with each day that I’m given. Ms Ida definitely gives me hope and helps me look at the future with hope
I SHOULD BE SO BLESSED❤❤❤❤
I have an elderly neighbor from Pakistan and he is the sweetest person ever. I help him with his yardwork and remind him to stay hydrated. Cherish your elders, the wisdom they possess and the stories they share are worth hearing. ❤
Ida and her daughter 🫶🏾
They are, but who's got time to listen?
@@jeph33
There is always time if you prioritize to make time available.
...nevertheless I know it is difficult 🎉
Hmmm … wonder if the roles were reversed, he’d do the same for you?
@@jeph33nobody has time, you’ll understand this when you get older.
This is life, we can’t always be there for everyone.
Absolutely❤
In Jan 2024 I lost my 93 yr old Dad, I had the pleasure of being with him his last couple of years. I wouldn't trade that time together with him for anything. I encourage everyone to help your older family whenever possible.
I am so sorry for your loss. When my 90 year old Dad passed 5 years ago, I was devastated. People think it’s a chore to care for them, but we had so much fun the last 3 years of his life while he stayed with me.
People, don’t miss out on the experience if you can take care of a parent. It’s not drudgery. No one knows you like your family, and when roles change, you see yet another side of your loved one. We laughed every day for the 3 years he was here.
Thank you youre great
@@kathleenfurey2080 My mom and I chat and laugh on the phone every day. I'm moving out of state to be with her. I'm really looking forward to our time together.
May God bless these people taking care of their aging parents!!!!!!!!
My mom worked at a nursing home, it's definitely not a secret. These folks always get straight to the point I tell ya that. No matter if they start to lose their minds though, they still have dignity.
Yes...at the age now....when beating around the bush is over. Time is valuable.
I love how honest Lisa's dad is! He's awesome!
I appreciate Lisa showing "her own America "....❤
Right, definitely not ours. Didn't see one homeless senior in the whole video
I appreciate Lisa Ling and her sister humbling themselves.
Very real.
Well done. Thank you.
I had regarded my parents as SUPER BEINGS.
I was unprepared to accept their twilight years. It all happened so fast and now they're gone.
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I miss them both so much.
Me too. My dad was playing tennis and doing yard work till 85 and then the “decline by 1,000 cuts” started. Bad hip pain but due to a stupidly over radiated skin cancer on his ankle he couldn’t get a replacement. So that took him from cane to walker to then not being able to drive and then only being able to use walker to go about 100 feet. He died 6 weeks after a surgery to just shave down the bone to relieve some pain. No cancer no heart disease no high blood pressure. Nothing. But post op his cognitive level started dropping and his appetite then he got covid AGAIN then he got weaker and simply couldn’t swallow which I didn’t know is a super common end of life hastener. Unlike in soap operas- no one would give him a feeding tube. 86-tan independent playing tennis totally sharp and enjoying life. 7 yrs of incremental decline and it was all over. We called him “man of steel” as NOTHING stopped him. He was so strong and stubborn and determined. But Father Time catches up. My yoga /line dancing & ballet mom also till 85-just bit by bit lost confidence of balance and movement. She can still take a walk with not much problem. But the whirlwind that I knew my whole life is vanished to this much weaker , lost since my father died, no longer super human mom. It’s STUNNING. I got to live in blissful denial so long because they presented so vibrantly. But now I just mourn the loss so deeply. Even tho my mom is still alive- I feel like the last woman profiled crying “I miss my mom”. Even without Alzheimer’s or memory decline you miss the parent that made YOU feel safe and was all powerful in your eyes.
My heart aches for us.
Our parents aging and dying is unbearable.
Sending love and comfort, Katie
After I saw Miss Ida, I said a little prayer. I hope the lord blesses me with the mind, body, and spirit to live just as boldly as Miss Ida.
We have been given power, love, and a sound mind and for us that are believers forgiveness and atonement. God is with us, strengthening us, and will bring us home to eternity with Him. Hallelujah praise be to God almighty. 🙏🏼
Also, keep that body moving, always. It's working for Ida.
What a blessing Ida is. A truly amazing woman.
This documentary is our future reality. Ms. Ieda is blessed to have raised such a beautiful loving daughter who is very much apart of her life 🥰🙏🏽
❤❤love her be blessed
My mom passed 9months ago. she had a lot of health issues and was disabled. She was only 63. I had to find an assisted living for her. It was so rough. She needed someone to always be near by in case of a medical emergency. Even if I lived with her, someone would need to be there when I went to work. Someone would need to be there when we were asleep (I am a very deep sleeper). Plus my mom realized she did want to feel independent and as if she had her own place. She didn’t want me to take care of her because I am still building my finances. I’m not in my 40s or 50s when people usually start taking care of their parents. I really miss her. I wish I could take care of her when she turned 80 or 90. That is such a privilege
In many other cultures the old are the most valued and still listened to as the head of a household. Their wisdom is honored and no thought of putting them in a retirement home is given.
I agree, however not in North America. I'm a private senior care giver in Canada helping seniors age in place. And more often than not their families have very little if any involvement in their parents lives or care. Many of my clients have removed their children from their wills and giving to charity instead. Their children will be in for a shock one day.
according to Lisa Ling's instagram, her father passed away November 2023 ❤
But this documentary was filmed in 2010 so they still got to enjoy another 13 years together. ❤
4.23.2024
Thanks for sharing this, I was wondering
wow, so if he was 75 in this doco. he lived to be 88.
Wow, he lived to 88!
🙏🏽
This documentary was filmed in 2012 and was aired on TV in February 2013.
It couldn't have been filmed in 2010. At 4:50 they even mention a bill overdue and said the bill is from 2011 that's almost a year overdue.
This was wonderful! Lisa Ling is such a compassionate woman.
I am 74 ,i have my own house ,i cut the grass ,i tend to the garden ,i drive to colorado and ski 50 days a season ,I swim every day in the summer and paddle once a week .You have to keep moving !!!
Most elderly do not live this kinda existence. One has to have adequate resources. Trust me as a nurse who's worked in multiple long time care facilities. Most of America's elderly live way below these standards.
Very true.
Sad but true.
Unfortunately
I agree. I'm 74 and spent the last 6 weeks visiting each of my three children. They welcomed me, they nourished my body and soul. I don't ever want to burden them. Their lives are already more of a burden than mine ever was. They are good people. I am very fortunate. But I'd rather not live with any of them. I will most likely have to though, because none of us are financially able to consider other options.
We are all hard workers, even my disabled son works hard, but life is a financial struggle.
However, we do have love and for that I'm deeply grateful.
I was also a nurse,but retired, looking after both my brother's and I'm also a pensioner
Congratz Lisa you deserve an award for this documentary👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Thank you! I remember when we had to have our father give up his car keys. It was devastating. For all of us
Yes, just had to do this a few months ago. Very hard.
Ida and her daughter are just adorable they both look younger than their age!
I was 100 percent sure your father wouldnt like to live there, some people are just happy by themselves in their own routine
He died.
I can imagine hating a place like that because I’m so introverted
Sometimes, older ppl are stuck w well meaning ppl but ppl who believe they know best. If you aren't at least a PhD in geriatrics, be assured you aren't even close to knowing what's best. Some ppl are control freaks, have hidden agendas, or are lazy and looking out for their own welfare.
Never assume responsibility over someone's life wo asking what they want and doing your best to help them get it, just as you should at any other time in life.
@@eileenwatt8283 They had about 12 years together, after this video.
Watching this now in Manila... and I'm in tears. Thinking of my dad who passed away 3 yrs ago.
So very sorry for your loss. Grief is an extension of love. Think happy thoughts and fond memories.
May you feel the comfort of your Daddy’s love. I’m deeply sorry for your loss. Katie
Ida brought me to tears... of joy... for HER, for her family...I am grateful for the hopeful example she embodies and shares with us. Very touching documentary.
Sue, if you EVER see this I admire you so much! 😊
Ida has not lost her beauty in her later years......She is beautiful and inspiring
Oh Lisa , just wanted you to know that someone from Europe is watching your documentaries! Thank you for your empathy ❤
this is one of my fav documentaries. Lisa your dad is hilarious.
Yeah he seems so nice,like his daughters. My heart goes out to them as it sounds like they lost him recently.
😂 l also thought he had a great sense of humour.
@@dorothywillms115 oh dear!! i forget these episodes are 10+ years old
Ida is an icon. Not all hero’s have capes.
As a 42-year-old with parents approaching 70 this is significant. Thank you. ❤
Just noticed the note about your Dad's passing. So sorry to hear! My condolences.
Lisa Ling's father is lucky to have such beautiful daughters. Wow
She [lisa} hasn't aged a bit and wow, her sister is gorgeous as well.
He’s lucky they are kind hearted.
@@katemiller7874 Yes, it's all part of what makes them so beautiful . Agreed
They had a good father.
Good parents raise good children, I'm sure he deserved every care he received from his daughters.
I read he died, but they all had about 13 more years together, after this video was made.
Bless that woman taking care of her mother. And Ida! Great stories we should all watch.
Love Ms. Ida....I aspire to be just like her when I'm her age. What a Fantastic ATTITUDE!!!! TOO MANY PEOPLE SLEEP ON THE GLORIUS EFFECTS OF EXCERCISE & HAVING A PASSION
I watch these type of videos for many reasons but one is to help me stay consistent in my health habits body, mind, and spirit. I do my best, God does the rest. He holds my lot.
These places cost so much money that I don't have so having someone to take care of me would be a problem sad but TRUE 😢
I’m 69 and live alone. I have two sisters close in age. We try to help each other when we can. I’ll never be able to rely on my daughter for help. I do sometimes worry about dying alone.
Hello! Mis Ling. I have two daughter myself , the Relationship you and your Sibling have with yall father! Is really Amazing and joyful.
I pray me and my daugthers will have a Amazing Relationship one day , My Daughters are still young , But have other influences in a life.
Im a Black father Who dealt with challengers trying to be apart of my kids life. 😢 i have lots of Respect for you and your sister for the way you guys care , Support and respect your father.
I told my kids I absolutely don't mind going into a nursing home. I know it's not great in those places, but I want them to be able to live their lives and not worry about me all the time. As long as they come see me once in awhile I'll be fine.
Lisa Ling, I love watching all your documentaries. You put in a lot of heart and soul in your work.
You are an incredible journalist, Ms. Lisa Ling
80 year old Jacob is a doll! I'm 63 and I could see myself dating him!
😊
Well, he's 93 now. This initially aired 13 years ago.
Ms. Ida is a ROCKSTAR!
I read the wonderful lady lived until 106 years old.
It was so nice for lisa to bring us into her family life and faces situations we all face. She is a lovely human being and superb journalist!!
In my state, these residences cost $8,000 to 10,000 per month now. Not affordable for the majority.
It's pathetic. Someone's getting rich!
This mother is incredible.
Well done Lisa, thank you. 🙏🏼
Lisa L is so kind & considerate towards her Father he must deserve by his actions during her lifetime.
The family members shown are displaying the same.
Lisa, this is a very beautiful pice of work that you have done for seniors and their families. Through helping your father, you have helped all of us. You are a joy. Thank you from the bottom of my heart 💗💗💗
Oh lord, I'm 73 I better get that exercise bike bicycle going today.
Me too! (I’m 74.)
I'm 54 but I need that bike like yesterday.
Lisa, I am sorry for your loss, but happy that your father understood the value of his friendships.
Use it or loose it. I’m also 73, but most people think I’m in my early 60s. My last boyfriend was 20 years younger.
Really goes to show how exercise keeps you looking and feeling young!
Yes you have to keep moving.
One of the best videos out in these RUclips streets!!! Life through the lens of seniors....enjoyed the various life experiences! Salute to all these elders who allowed Lisa and the crew to film. This video was done in 2010-2011 but still varied today and always. Thanks Lisa btw your father has a great sense of humor.
It was so great to find your channel. I am 67. Made me feel hopeful for the coming years of my life. Thank you!!!
I live in Florida seniors live longer here .❤ This is so beautiful to see and adorable 🥰
I can serve, no pb.
only the ones with money live longer
@@maddscientist3170 oh stop . Thats not true at all . Stop spreading lies .
I lived here for a long time and people live longer here because of the weather and climate. Lots of people retire here everyday .
@@maddscientist3170 Yes, not necessarily very wealthy, but enough to provide a home, food, clothing, and a bit left over to do something enjoyable.
Maybe, but I bet there’s a higher percentage of skin cancer.
97 breaking records! What an inspiration!
In Sue’s situation, it would be helpful to have an in home caretaker to help her daughter. That person could come in 5 days a week to help dress, bathe, and feed, change bedding, etc., giving her daughter the mornings off. Insurance or Medicare may provide assistance like this.
Also, are the other siblings at least helping out once or twice a month?
@@janeenharrison1953 They would already be helping if that were the case. Most of the time it falls on one person.
I didn’t even know I was old, until my husband died.we were the same age. When the paramedics carried him out. I was in shock.
Wow. Helen doesn't ask for "anything MORE THAN" happiness, good health, and good times - to enjoy whatever time she has left, and doing all the things she wants to do.
My dad just remarried, my mother passed 3 years ago, he is 88!! His new wife is 78. They LOVE to travel!!! When talking to him about a new wife he said “there is still fire in the furnace, but a bit of snow on the roof” 😂
😂 that's funny. So happy your dad has a loving companion.
My father inlaw used to say a variation on that. He would say just because there's snow on the roof doesn't mean there is no fire in the basement.
@@renjuli9299 I do too! ❤️
@@lynnjudd9036 lol, he talks in idioms 😊
I can’t have the thought of new man. I have to wash more clothes,dishes… I am afraid to lose my freedom. Maybe there is a good man around 😮
I appreciate this! My parents are deceased now but this is reality. My mother started a grease fire in the kitchen and lived by herself. We talked about options but it was too late and she passed away from lack of medical care. It’s hard when you have a senior who still in their right mind but not making the best or healthy decisions. It’s so so hard.
Oh my friend, we know alllll about “best” and “healthy.” At some point we decide before we die-and that reality is very, very real-when are we gonna be able to eat what we want and do what we want when we want? It’s now time to just be and do what we please. You see, we *are* making our *own* “best decisions.” They’re just not *your* choices. We’re more in touch with our finiteness than you understand.
And we don’t need to ask permission or apologize to anyone for our choices or our existence.
What's even harder for us seniors is people thinking they know best our medical needs but dont go to dr apts with us so they can here our annual tests results. I am 67 and on no meds. Age doesnt require meds
Some older people are happier to die in their own homes, even though they are practically killing themselves because they can’t look after themselves. I can understand that.
@@cannkotlarz621I agree very annoying.
@@reneemac111absolutely 100%. Of course if dementia is advancing then different, my father managed with carers going in for 15mins twice daily. Took his meds for week all in one day didn’t bother me didn’t kill him.
This is such informative information as I’m 72 and constantly challenging myself to hopefully keep my mind sharp and my body moving. I love seeing Ida at 97 being so happy and self-sufficient. Isn’t that what all of us want for ourselves and our parents.
I love this guy he doesn't pull any punches God Bless him
This is an excellent depiction of the many stages of aging for the senior & their family. Several points hit home. Thank you Lisa & God Bless your father & family.
Thats why Im with a younger man ! Its wonderful..He works hard and takes care of me 100% ..In every way❤
This made me happy and sad hopeful. I also cried. Everyone should watch this.
I love to watch anything that Lisa reports ,she so informative caring,respectful ,kind & wise.💐🙏🥰👏🏻
I just love seeing Ms. Ida's personality and it's such a blessing to watch her reach her goal running! She reminds me so much of my Grandma Miller that I miss so much in heaven. God bless you and your family 😇🙏🏾.
She hit the nail on the head with this one!! Great insight ❤❤❤
Her father is very handsome!
Ida’s story inspiring. I will copy paste her life goals to mine. Such a great coach daughter.
Juanita is so lucky to have such an amazing and dedicated daughter
Show the seniors that don’t have means, ability , &/or family, And the aides that care but are grossly underpaid.
I agree...would have been nice to see single seniors that have roommates due to finances, couples who don't marry to avoid lower SSI, and other situations caused by financial restrictions. How are those seniors navigating their lives, I wonder.
Taking care of ill parents is a humanitarian mission for anyone. Greetings wholeheartedly from Iraq
Lisa i love your dad.i understand him.maybe get him some help in the home.❤
True but he's refusing that so I hope she continues to convince him
Apparently he passed away last year....according her Instagram
Powerful episode! Thank you Lisa Ling for this documentary!
I’m 71, I appreciate this 💗
Ida should give all of us hope. That is why God gave us legs. To run and walk. I am so proud of her.
60 yo daughter is fire. Thanks!❤
Sue, you're an AMAZING AWESOME LOVING daughter. 💛
I love older people and this woman is incredible.
Helen and Jacob are so lovely together.
So how on earth do they qualify for senior living, must be the ritziest place on earth. Helen didn’t have a marriage when she was young, she likely was an executive for big Pharma and was smart enough not to swallow any poison. She has basically only lived to meet her own needs. Poor lady has no grandkids.
Beautiful couple perfect for each other. Happy for others
4.23.2024
Ms. Ida gives me so much joy and happiness. I know she mentioned that she will still be here at 108 years old. This recording took place about 10 years ago. I'd love an update if she's still with us 🙏🏾
She had passed at 106. Earlier comments said that...❤️
@@Sasa-pm7jc oh wow, amazing. She definitely lived 🙏🏾
4.25.24
Thank you. This is an eye opener.
I proud of you Lisa❤
Lisa's parents were very attractive, especially her mother, beautiful. Now we know where Lisa and her sister get their beautiful looks.
You were still very handsome Mr. Ling. RIP
Love this dad's attitude
I am 61 and Ida is amazing.