SEX RECESSION: The Dangers Of Modern Dating & Why NOBODY Is Having Sex Anymore | Emily Morse
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This provocative discussion with Emily Morse explores why 26% of adult Americans are NOT having sex, what people get wrong about the power dynamic of sex in the bedroom, myths around human sexuality and the truth about size and penetration that may surprise men and women.
Emily Morse is the sex expert and host of the wildly popular podcast, Sex with Emily. If talking about sex is super uncomfortable and embarrassing for you, or if you can’t talk about it enough, Emily is the go to sex therapist and sex educator of this generation. Removing the shame of sex and giving people the information they need to have consensual, healthy, fulfilling sexual experiences with themselves and others is what she does best.
We want you to prioritize having a healthy sex life, deeper intimacy, and stronger connections with others and yourself.
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Sexy Truths and Thoughts with Emily:
“There's a lot of things that are replacing our desire for connection and intimacy."
"For any kind of attraction to happen, somebody has to be leading and somebody has to be following."
“If we're talking about the reasons why there hasn't been as much sex happening is because we're not understanding that you need to create that dynamic to create attraction and arousal."
“Pornography without sex education is dangerous.”
“Most of the porn that you see is created by men for men under the male gaze.”
“We're also more open in our desire and arousal. Women find a lot of more things more attractive than men.”
“Foreplay is not a suggestion. It's actually a requirement.”
“Men I have found are way more obsessed with their penises than women are.”
“It makes sense that a lot of men aren't feeling great about their penises, and a lot of women aren't feeling great about their vaginas or their vulvas.”
“One of my missions is to make sex less about procreation, less about penis and vagina and penetration, but more about exploring and more about eroticism and touch.”
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Nowadays, the newest 'sexual gadget' technology is amazing. I bought this fake vagina that has adjustable resistance for maximum stimulation. And let's not forget all the eye candy on the internet. There is a perfect looking person to suit just about anyone no matter how nitpicky you are. And with virtual reality graphics become more and more real, this will make it the preferable choice to real sex. Nobody wants to deal with a nagging significant other who requires more attention than you're willing to offer.
sexbotAi, sextoyAi, sexdollAi
will ultimately destroy male and female partnership.
if the time comes that a bots are human like
both physically, mentally and conversationally
population will drop 99%.
bots will have the perfect lasting beauty.
Increase the quality of your cameras.
He actually contacted me "the impersonator"
Pt
Basically clickbait.
They're having two different conversations for the first half hour.
He's talking about single people not finding partners/sex, starting relationships, the dating market, and isolation.
She's talking about couples in long term relationships that have been married for years that stop having sex, and how to get turned on.
Tom gives in to talk about the topics she's talking about, but it never gets to talking about the topic of the title of the video, and we're left with another hour of waiting for the conversation to reach the topic, and it never does.
Thanks! I´m not watching the rest of the video.
Thank you, half hour in, they are talking past each other.
I'm only at 3:26 and leaving the video. She's pretty clueless.
Thanks freddy for the call out. Sick of this click bait shit.
Neither has children and both state they and their partner made a conscious decision to not have children so I can't take anything they say seriously regarding relationships. I mean what kind of person makes a conscious decision to go extinct?
Makes me Cringe when a so called "Professional" isn't even aware of what the concept of Hypergamy is... Didn't she ever tried to glasp what the men perspectives can be? This is sad, especially when your job is supposely to know about your subject, even more at a time where data is so much more accessible than ever before. Makes me think she's pulling all of what she says from a "me" place
I was shocked that she is familiar with evo psych yet hasn’t heard of hypergamy . I was thrown off by that
Tom was trying to approach from an evolutionary side and it just felt to me she was running on wishful thinking. The hypergamy part and the repeated men need to start experimenting sexually had me thrown…
She is the product of a woke education system. She looks at everything through a feminist lens, which denies basic biological traits in men and women (because such traits apparently offend). Men are seen primarily by women as resource providers. It was ever thus.
@@JohnODonovan1987 Fuck the Red pill, i am sticking with the Black pill.
So true, it seems that she just speaks about what she feels or other females friends have told her that is true about relationships. Not the kind of "scientist" i'd trust.
I’m old and married so happily out of the dating world for a long time and I have to say it was a nightmare 30 years ago for men. I think Women really have no understanding how much rejection men have to face out there. Compound that day after day, year after year. Now add in dating apps and if you are just an average guy - you simply have no chance. The filters the women set don’t even get you in front of them to swat your profile away like an annoying insect.
Because you are old that’s the reason why you don’t understand things are different men used to have power they don’t have it anymore nothing to put in the bargain that’s the isse
I remember 30 years ago too. When a woman said "I'm pregnant" POOF..the guy disappeared like a fading McFly Family Photo. Rejection while carrying something you both made, but being forced to take care of it alone and deal with all the embarrassment, poverty, challenges etc.. is probably the most devastating rejection I've witnessed. Compound that 18+ years. I'm not trying to argue "who has it worse" haha but I think women DO understand men getting rejection harshly, but I also think men don't understand that all men are not normal good guys. Women have to be harsh because of all the truly creepy scary men that do not take No for an answer, so it creates a situation where women must be nasty about it. I like your thoughtful comment so I had to add.
@@laurieclarkson9180 That is very true.
@@laurieclarkson9180 "Apples and oranges" but also an interesting point. The point could be made that; at least they were getting sex! hahaha. I have wondered if the behavior you are referencing is more typical of a certain small percent of men who by the grace of good looks; a fat wallet or a slick "game" are the ones who women typically seem to be interested in ie: "The bad boy" and thus his nature may be a poor representation of men in general. I was referencing what is a typical experience of a non-"player". Just put yourself into the mind of millions upon millions upon millions of men who day after day are rejected. Its harsh. Women can be very mean. Women simply don't get treated this way. If you are simply looking at the most base level of things, a woman can get sex any time she would like it - she simply needs to ask for it. If a non attractive women - lets say even morbidly overweight with bad skin, stringy hair and zero communication skills walks into a bar and announces she wants sex right now...some guy if not several will somehow find a way to meet her outside. guaranteed. Now, even an average guy, hell, even a good looking guy needs to WORK for it! He has to have game and even then he may be going home alone. This is why gay men have so much sex...women are taken out of the equation...two guys who want sex...easy...okay, sure. It can be transactional. With todays app based dating world, the bar is set so high for men that they simply don't fall into the parameters women are setting in app. They are getting connected to less than 1% of the men out there and thus are all dating/sleeping with the same handful of 6 foot or taller good looking guy who talks a good game and then wondering why "all the men out there are trash" Nope, these guys are just playing the game as it's set-up and getting lots of action. Anyway, it was interesting reading your response and good luck out there in the world. I'm going to go and do something not keyboard warrior-ish now.
@@Jedi_Mindtricked I was thinking...all humans tend to be hard on themselves and we take things personally that we shouldn't. When I reflect on people I've rejected, 90% of the time it wasn't even about them. It wasn't their appearance, their personality, their pick-up line, or any of that. Most of the time it was about things I was going through. I was in a relationship with someone else, just broke up with someone else and wasn't ready to date, was moving to a different state in 2 weeks, or just didn't want a relationship at all. Think of the times you rejected someone and the reasons. You may be attracted to women built like a supermodel. Would you want heavy girls always complaining "Men choose skinny big breasted women over me" it's kinda like girls that like bad boys..maybe you're choosing the wrong partners. You need find the women that stay away from bad guys and go for good guys. ya know?
This lady saying men need to be more emotional and tap into their feminine side is literally part of the problem. Her credibility kind of went out the window as soon as that was said.
Right. This woman seems to have no clue. Her only qualification seems to be that she likes talking about it. :-)
I concur
You save us from watching that. Real hero🙏
@ThePHiLsTeR please say it louder!! All these men doing pointless shit like "trying to run game" working out " isn't getting them anywhere because thier finances are below that of a women's. And you can't shame women into accepting less. Quiet as its kept women dont need sex like men and ok with being celibate or have a gang of female friends for eternity. Most of the elderly women in my neighborhood are like that and none of them wanted men- I thought it was crazy!
Men are not feminine, not even the ones who look feminine.
Men need to think deeper and be more intelligent. Compassionate and friendly. Forgetting their huge EGO.
Tom completely gets the death spiral. She is such a different place that she talks past the issue to the point of being clueless. Her solution is to have boys cry and be feminine to be able to even approach women. Civilization is collapsing. Top 3% of men connect - 97% do not and will deal with depression and loneliness, but yet it's the man's fault.
I honestly think that his audience is majority female. I mean this woman has never heard of hypergamy! Of course, his guest is going to revert to the usual man, bashing, albeit in a subtler of more attenuated form.
She even encouraged more homosexual relationships. Truly a lost 🐑
It’s woke nonsense that denies biological traits like women seeing men as resource providers while men look at (frankly) egg health via external attractiveness of a female. We add a layer of civility to it, but to deny basic biological traits is to play a game of “let’s pretend reality isn’t what it is”.
That’s crazy she’s horrible
@@kayc7442 😂
If you simply break down the title of this piece, you have already figured this problem out. We are now in a FINANCIAL recession, and we’re in a SEXUAL recession, as well. Just as in plane crashes, I’ve found that it is rarely only ONE THING that brings an airplane crashing into the ground, but SEVERAL LITTLE THINGS that suddenly culminates in disaster. Here’s my Top Ten short list:
1) Everyone is broke, and getting more broke every day. Unless you are among the super wealthy, I see no remedy to this problem anytime soon, in spite of what Janet Yellen says.
2) Most divorces are predicated on these two factors: MONEY and SEX. They are intertwined. Not knowing how you’re going to pay your rent is certainly no aphrodisiac.
3) Since women make their own money today, they feel less and less need to exchange sex for security.
4) The entire WOKE movement is blurring the lines between the sexes to the point that people don’t even know which BATHROOM to use. A perverse and twisted development, in my opinion.
5) People are having fewer and fewer children today, so even just sex solely for procreation is off the table.
6) The entire population of the US is rapidly aging, and when men age, unlike their female counterparts, their sex drive becomes less and less. God has a terribly unfair sense of humor.
7) With our reliance solely upon cell phones and computers, fewer people actually go out to meet new people anymore, preferring to “do their shopping,” online.
8) In countries like China and Japan, people are even buying exact silicone copies of humans to interact with. No complaining, and they never say, “No.”
9) Distractions like online porn, sex toys, even movies and video games, have rendered actual sex no longer necessary, even passe.
10) Add to this toxic mix the ever-present worry of catching a sexually transmitted disease, or worse still an unwanted pregnancy, and you have the blueprint for sexual Armageddon.
Well Said !
I've many times thought on these points but never listed them out like this. There are so many problems.
Exactly, by design!
@@fredclement5059 No, I would say there is unfortunately no one in control and these problems are the result of the technological development, basic needs being fulfilled and moral flabbiness.
Another Huge contributing factor (pun intended) is that most Americans (and many other countries following Western eating habits) are overweight and / or Obese…. Most people are physically less attractive to each other than when most people were thinner. Only a minority of Americans are fit & thin these days…. And as a general rule of thumb (there are occasional exceptions of course), a fit & slim person (male, female, queer, trans, etc) will be seen as more sexually attractive than a person who is overweight / obese.
It's always been like this. People just used to live in sexless marriages, now they live in sexless apartments alone. We just talk about it more.
Talk about hopes and dreams of sex - probably not about your emotions and feeling.
Genetic research has found from our DNA that only 1 in every 16 men of our ancestors procreated, while it's 1 in every 2 women. The alpha men have always had all the mating opportunities while the betas got nothing, just like in the animal kingdom.
Lol
I though sex was just for reproduction... now it's for something else 😅
@@adouloslabelh2957 it's always been for something else, as well as reproduction: bonding between lovers, groups, friends, power plays, status displays, fun, pleasure, money ... sex is for many things.
So as a Dutch person, we do have a more sober look at sex. The good and the bad. Basically we give our children more responsibilities around it. We tell them what it is, what can go wrong and how to prevent those things. And then we give them the freedom / responsibility to choose when and how they want to do it.
But please don't think that we've "Got it all figured out".
And still you don’t have sex lol
You are probably young to perceive it this way. You will grow up to be less naive, mark my words.
Didn't she keep saying "Dutch countries?" Did I hear that wrong. If she did, she's a moron. I'm not giving her credit for knowing about Dutch colonies.
The current generation has been telegraphed that relationships are toxic. So no one gives others referrals on dating partners, which were much more common prior. Blind dates, match making, etc. This significantly helps the social lubrication that gets more couples together. Singles have to look out for themselves, which works out for some, but the larger society is swimming against a current.
All true!
I'm so glad that I no longer need to date. 80% of people in the dating market that are like high mileage cars wanting a new car price. The amount of effort is no longer worth it. Gentlemen: focus on your health, money, community, and hobbies.
And go home to what and wake up next to who all of this supposed success seems good but if you share it with no one then what’s the point go to bed alone in a huge mansion must be one of the loneliest feelings on earth
@@victorrosales7565 buying a mansion while single would a dumb decision. you can always date and marry when you are established.
@@tudo.passa. so you’re only postponing yourself from being happy with a potential partner only if you have (x,y,z) in your life ? So what happens if you don’t get this “success” will you just die lonely?
@@tudo.passa. if your partner only wants to be with you because you seem to be established then when shit gets ugly she will leave you you’re only setting yourself up to find a gold digger and denying a genuine girl who likes you for you regardless of where you are at life I’ve read stories of successful men who’s spouses where with them since they where broke and without money and status it all depends on the girl you get waiting to be rich to have a relationship is very stupid and will leave you lonely anxious and depressed
@@victorrosales7565 most men will die alone. they do not have the drive to achieve goals.
Being a man from a western country (not Holland) I was taught by the school and my female peers that my sexuality is perverse, bestial immoral, and dangerous. Also that male genitals are gross and disgusting.
None of this came from my parents who taught me neither pride or shame in such matters.
It was the education system and women who vilified hetero men and their sexuality, unless you were very attractive, in which case your abilities and desires were celebrated.
So, from adolescence to adulthood, a man is taught that not only is he unattractive and therefore not desirable, but he is also immoral and disgusting and should be ashamed.
If you're sensitive and intelligent you'll notice these things and absorb them. Then you spend years as an incel getting ridiculed for your inability to have sex while also being reminded that your sexuality is abhorrent.
No wonder why men aren't having sex if this is the environment they inhabit.
Well if the sexual performance in corn are men preference well yes its disgusting to women. And just because some do it doesn't mean the majority of women like to perform such vile acts to please her bf.😒
@JezaLoki
I dont have sex because just to be blamed on "mental illness" as soon I told what was going on, I was abused for many years as a child and all know it just happens to poor girls but having sex against you will is not something you want even as an male, we live in a evil world where the victims get the blame instead of doing something about it
@@adouloslabelh2957 Who are women to judge porn or the way men like sex? i think women are weird. They are more bother than they are worth. They were created by God to be a helpmate suitable for their husband - to be his loyal companion and take away his loneliness. They are failing miserably.
@@dant3175 you're not alone my brother.
Just keep on improving yourself.
you dont get sex so youre a loser but because you want sex youre disgusting.. lol.. wtf.. ladies.. get your mind right..
20:45 Tom: "Are you familiar with hypergamy?" Emily "I don't think so". That's all you need to know. I like some of what she says, but she really should understand hypergamy. It's very core to what she does.
It’s like asking a doctor if they’ve ever heard of nutrition and food’s impact on our health, and they give you that confused look. Clueless.
honestly the ignorance from both sides on this discussion is crushing....
American generations before the most recent ones didn't talk about sex. Yet they had no problems dating, getting married, having lots of sex, or many, many children. I don't think it is "shame" that is causing a decline in sex. On the contrary, sex and genitals are in our faces and in our songs and in our pop culture EVERYWHERE. The MORE sexualized our culture has become the less sex we are having.
Online dating and social media give women access to top tier men at all times. No more need for average men until it’s time to settle down
Imagine being that simp. NEXT! 😂
Yep, us great failures of the great lie are screwed.
Wouldn't say top tier.... I would say both sexes have a "perfect" traits list they want and they wont settle for less and they coming to find the person they want doesn't even exist.
@@tone3560 yes but the statistics show that men are the ones not having sex and dating. Women can find a partner much easier than men. I don’t think the issue is men being too picky
This is also why average men are not picking up other dudes save files on the video game.
Physical intimacy could only pick up again if we decided to get rid of our smartphones en mass and start paying attention to each other again. A person engaging with a smartphone has walls around them. They aren't open. They don't notice you, or the cues...And yes, I'm a gen x er, and can remember what it's like. I feel like I'm surrounded by zombies now.
It was dying before that many childless women are not into men not sex all like that unless they have a baby by another man … women don’t express they feelings when childless too many flaws
@@jizzyb1572 perhaps have sex with men instead. Problem solved
I doubt it…….that will take so long to unlearn. The problem is with society that expectation to be performative and entertaining is the issue.
This comment. Yes. That’s the biggest issue with disconnect. Then add all the toxic solutions ppl reach for like psych meds (many of which cause severe sexual dysfunction) or street drugs / alcohol abuse etc and it’s just more and more barriers going up between us all. I’m glad we’re having these conversations though. Connection is necessary for survival and wellbeing.
@@bobbys9853very valid point here too. On every level.
Two dudes were talking and comparing their sexual experiences they had been having with their wives.
One complained that he only got sex once a week.
The other dude said, as he smiled ear to ear, that he only got sex once a year!
The first dude said:
“only once a year? Why are you so happy?”
While grinning, he says:
“TONIGHTS’ THE NIGHT!!!!”
😂😂😂😂😂
ask in halfyear time how happy he is
@@redwarf8118,
Lol😆
He needs to get some “on the side” (if they haven’t moved it!).
😏
What a depressing but realistic story
By the way, anyone ever consider how marriage is a CONTRACT of sorts? If the man stops paying the bills, stops the bacon, she considers it a broken contract, so men need to begin holding women to the same standards, regular affection. No wonder women have ZERO respect for men, no matter how mistreated the man is he comes back begging like a good doggie...meanwhile she moves on when she does not get her end of the deal held up by him.
I was expecting first answer being dating apps allow women to match with the top 10 percent of men an the rest get nothing but she instead rambles on and says stress and some other crap
I just cannot listen to that clap trap. What rubbish...
Maybe i'm weird but personally I'm glad this wasn't just another podcast about how the dating scene sucks and how men have it bad. We already know these things, actually learning the mechanics of how to have a successful sex life with your partner is interesting and useful.
No self respecting person uses dating apps.
@@fruitsarelife7073 Who can afford self respect in this economy?
@@theqaz1828but she completely over complicates things.
I think Tom touched upon the crux of the matter when he talked about two topics. The first topic was the concept of hypergamy in light of women climbing ever higher on the socioeconomic ladder. The statistics should be sobering. Women graduate in higher numbers than men and make on average more money than men between the ages of 21 and 29. Women now outnumber men in the U.S. college-educated labor force (Pew Research). As women climb ever higher on the socioeconomic ladder, it gets increasingly difficult for them to satisfy their inherent evolutionary mating strategy of finding a provider with a similar or higher socioeconomic status than themselves. They all compete for a tiny pool of, often non-monogamous, highly successful men.This trend is continuing in the same direction, and it is estimated that in 2030, two women will graduate for every one man. Men, as a result of not feeling like they can live up to this social media driven lifestyle standard in the globalized sexual marketplace, retreat back to porn and video games. The average height of adult men globally is approximately 5 feet 7 inches (170.2 cm). The average male income in the U.S. is $38,461. The average man does not drive a Ferrari and he does not have shredded six pack abs. Put bluntly, research shows that in the globalized online sexual marketplace, the average woman does not seem interested in the average man. Women get bombarded with attention, validation and solicitations all the time on the internet, and this gives them a false sense of their own market value. Men will sleep with them as soon as they allow a man to put his foot in the door (no pun intended), so they all falsely think that they can marry a top 4% man. The number of men reporting sexlessness has tripled since 2010. This coincides with the launch of Tinder and Instagram. Women reject men of average dating value because they can sleep wtih the so--called "Chads". The second topic he was right about was the concept of men becoming more feminine and being told to get in touch with their feminine side and their feelings. Women for some reason think that this is what they want from their men to feel more connected to them, but all evidence points to the opposite. The more feminine, soft, and outspoken a man gets about his feelings, the less attractive he will be to women. Women say one thing, but all their actions say something else. The men they are attracted to and want to sleep with are all masculine, assertive, disagreeable, competent, physically capable, tall, leaders. They are not nice, soft, open, caring etc. This is a paradox. Women are getting more masculine and men are getting more feminine. We're meeting in the middle and no one is having sex as a result. The polarity isn't there any more. This is an unforeseen result of contraception, women's sexual liberation and feminism. They didn't have these problems in the 1950's. They had other problems, of course, but not these.
Nailed it
I am a woman, and you are wrong about one important detail: women do not like disagreeable men! They want men who can communicate and listen to their feelings and talk on dates. The whole me too movement was precisely a giant revolution of women speaking up about how they HATE disagreeable men. I know this is bad news for men with low IQ because they can not fathom how to be assertive and agreeable at the same time but that is exactly what women crave, and it is so rare the few guys who can do so get very very much female attention
With that attitude, women will continue to outpace you.
People do not feel secure in their jobs or life in general. There is so much anger and hate in society today.
Without a stable economic life it is hard to have a stable romantic life.
Very true. Most everyone is looking for security whether they will admit it or not. Resources are the first way to feel secure.
💯
I don't think masculinity and feminity are turned on/off like a convenient performance. Women can't just "let" the man be "masculine" in bed and then take his dick and put in her purse afterwards. The guest's input in this area isn't very insightful. Her idea of masculinity is off point when she said she's using "masculine energy" in this conversation, because she's speaking confidently and business-like. Those are rhetorical skills, not gender influnces. A man will see and explain things through a different lense, so will a woman, and that is the richness that males/females can add to a coversation together. Nowadays, the male view is seen as toxic, and men can't be themselves, and neither can women, because they are now being forced to "play a role." Masculine energy is valuable and needed. They'll miss it dearly after they have neutered men in American society
1000% agree
This.
Grow up.
It’s because girls are not present anymore. Its social medias fault. Bring back the 90s!
It is difficult to find capable and functional adults today. Too many addictions, baby moma drama, mental health issues, etc.
.When a potential partner is nothing but a liability, being single and sexless is not a loosing proposition
That's because the mental asylum broke out into society. It's like a contagious disease now, only the extremely impoverished farmers on the borders of society remain uninfected because they have no connection to the just-in-time economy.
What I find amazing is that it's so normalised now that people at work talk about it as if it's part of their personality. Like watching a soldier die slowly from a bullet and the medic gets there to remove it and the soldier says to him, 'Stop! You're killing me. The bullet and I are one.'
Definitely can’t be due to hypergamy and women holding out for dudes 3+ points higher than them (who only want to smash while pretending to possibly commit) while leaving 80% of men without a normal match and or not willing to drop -3 just to smash.
And apparently we need to just start fooling around with each other..? Huh? Tom was eluding to the transformation of how society has changed over the last century and how the gender rolls are flipping, it’s departing from a million years of evolution and not working for us. I don’t mean to disparage her but accelerating men’s feminisation is completely counter productive, you don’t get a high achieving and competent man that is attractive to woman by increasing their feminine traits just as the masculinisation of woman doesn’t create a more desirable woman. I know the idea of it is great in theory but we are observing it’s results right now, that’s the whole purpose for this conversation in the first place.
@@dylanking1895hahaha. Alpha bro
@@JohnODonovan1987 any legitimate grown up rebuttal?
@@dylanking1895 my response was as “legitimate” as your initial comment. #redpill
@@dylanking1895 women do like more feminine qualities. Gentle, caring, having empathy, showing emotion is legit all women talk about it
This is a lot of work this woman is telling men to do. Men in the past never used to have to work this hard for, honestly, for better women.
You got further than me then. I only managed 6 minutes and realised she doesn't have a clue what she's talking about.
Lazy a88 men. Working on self. Working on ur trauma. Have self respect. Good morals and being faithful is difficult? U have more issues then that. And u wonder why women don't want to funk u. Like wtf. Sickening u think someone wants to mate with u. How would u raise a child with that mindset. Teach them to be lazy with no ambitious or goals. O.e.......I love video games but u need to go out.
That’s because women had to be with a man, because they relied on them for financial support. A woman’s entire life revolved around being good enough to catch a man. Women don’t need men for that any more, so we aren’t forced to settle for whatever we can get.
There are no better women.
Males ruined good women. It’s a “alpha” channel teaching males to pump & dump. That creates anger in women & then BAM- a new onlyfans account is made.
Cause & effect.
Metoo changed a lot. Men are afraid of being seen as predatory or inappropriate.
They should be.
So stop acting like yall entitled to WAP
@@christinajackson3461we see who laughs in the end 😊
I blame my own mental health for my lack of relationships. Im not in a position to even seek out relationships, and if I did, Id be bottom of the pecking order because Im too anxious and self-judgmental to be myself(actually getting better at that in particular, but the damage is done and I still have other issues to work out) and I have a ton of other baggage. Nobody would want to spend time with me long term and I understand that. The issue is why am I so messed up? I think modern society has pandered to my weaknesses and allowed them to fester. I probably needed a role model that would now be described as having "toxic masculinity", a person to tell me to man up and be better and stronger, because I can be. I didn't have a savior to catch me before I fell too deep, even my parents didnt notice how messed up I was. It happened in secret, I hid it well out of shame, and I patched it up with the internet and social media, which of course only made things worse. I have to save myself, and until I accomplish that goal I wont even have friends let alone have relationships and intimacy or sex. Tag on all of the hatred aimed at my "kind", ie "straight, white, conservative, male, descendant of empire/colonialism" that is so common on the internet, the thing I fell onto to substitute real relationships, and you end up wondering what is actually worth fighting for if people think so lowly of me based on every definable aspect of who or what I am. I know its not literally true, social media is just a perversion of real life and shouldnt be taken to heart, but it still affects me. So alone I am and will continue to be until I remodel myself into a functional human being...which is not exactly an easy goal to achieve. I failed myself so much, but Ive not stopped trying.
I hear ya. As a kid in the 80s the 'all men bad' thing was just ramping up, but it was enough. It sounds insane, but I remember getting my first sexual harassment training in 5th grade! My own personal struggle is with social anxiety, which I also did not have any help for from parents. It makes it very difficult to make friends or connect with anyone, let alone a romantic partner. That led to generalized anxiety & depression. I was on SSRIs for almost a decade, and it completely killed any desire I had to try to form a relationship with the opposite sex (among other negative side-effects). For that and other reasons I decided it was in fact counter-productive for working on bettering my life and started getting off them about a year ago. It's not been fun, but I think this is the path forward for me.
I don't have any advice, just wanted to say "you're not alone." Lots of us dealing with similar problems, sadly. Good luck.
You appear to be a very sincere man and someone who would make a good husband. I do hope you find a worthy partner with whom to share your life's journey. Straight, white, conservative males are like gold dust. In life one has to be a warrior; onward and upward. Stay blessed ...
Your narrative is negative and full of judgments against yourself. I would be curious to know how much time you spend thinking about others so harshly and what you spend most of your time thinking in your brain. Perhaps you need to revisit your thought and start questioning them.
I'm on a similar path, struggling with self rejection and shame. I tend to hide and avoid people. Keep healing yourself, I actually feel encouraged because I can relate to your post. It'll be a slow process so keep taking care of yourself with patience and compassion. I wish you inner peace.
Regardless the position you are in right now, the most important thing is that you have decided to change. The action itself is worth the effort. Really try, really care, not only physically but also your personality and skills. Even if you think it's too late. Don't do it for you if you don't want to, but do it for the sake of doing it regardless anything. Be consistent and relentlessly determined. Don't try to do all the work in a weekend: try to do it always.
You are not the only one alone, and without knowing you, just because of what you wrote, and I am a human being just like you, I really wish you try to generate as much change as you can in your habits and thinking. If you try to improve, you are improving.
This felt like you two were trying to have different conversations. Everything was so scatter brained and rambly. Seemed like you were both missing each other.
Tom was trying to talk about the book and this boss b*tch can really only talk about herself and then opine that her feelings are applicable to humanity.
having sex affect a woman not only on a physical level. it creates emotional bond, and affect her on a soul level. you absorb other people's energy and intention through having sex and if this relationship or situationship does not lasts nor provide stability, the experience could traumatize her and affect her mood, health, her sleep, her career, her productivity.....and the woman realize maybe she can do life better without a man getting involved because then she is more in peace, she sleeps better, having more energy and more productive and actually probably makes more money than when she was dating or having sex with a man and getting hurt.... and that is why women are not having sex - for her own survival her own energy level and her own health and career... That is why women needs to have sex in a marriage to be happy, healthy, and thriving. women need to feel safe and trust first in order to really enjoy sex. when a woman gives her body she also gives her heart, her energy, her soul, her hope, ....men are different in this aspect.
lol. You couldnt be more wrong. As a man, I am tired of the soul ties I've had with western women. No longer interested in the act because Its causing too much spiritual warfare.
@@thisnameinvolved Ew, good luck, dude.
@@thisnameinvolved She is not wrong, she speaks on behalf of how many women experience and feel. As a man how can you deny a woman's experience. That's where you go wrong already....not listening, not understanding, dismissing , You do not live in our body's to even be so arrogant as to claim you know as you claim. At the same time it is sad that relationships in this unauthentic, materialistic, image and social media focused world, has become such a mess and divisive.
Apply that theory to promiscuous women. I wonder how healthy their soul is. Statistically, they are more likely to divorce.
@@thisnameinvolved research has shown that when a woman is having sex, her body releases oxytocin which is the same hormone a woman releases when delivering a baby, it helps her to bond with the baby and also with the man she has sex with. it is special and also could be intense. maybe not all women feel this way because they have becoming numb or purposely blocking her feelings. no women would want to have sex with a man unless she is attracted to him, likes him or love him, or feels a connection with him, (except that maybe in the case she does this as a business, either retail or wholesale). if a man wants free sex, there is always someone's feeling involved, no women would want to work as a volunteer prostitute. B.T.W. I am not western woman. I grew up and came from an Eastern culture. but human feelings are universal.
Honestly Tom, felt like I needed to turn this off at 22:57 when she tried to say hypergamy was not real. She says she is not looking for those things, yet clearly she has not married down, her partner owns a business, so clearly is at least on the same level as her.
She’s too old for that
24:25 from what I’ve heard so far, it’s been about what she needs, wants, etc. I don’t think her partner is allowed to lead in the relationship (unless she wants him to), because even went she’s trying to be feminine it’s on her own schedule. Passenger seat driving.
Yup
True 👍. Her reasoning about these issues is disturbing disgusting
You’re saying women shouldn’t enjoy submitting to her man willingly? It has to be by force and not will? Tf kind of slaves you take us for 💀
@@PlayshotKalo you completely don’t get the point. Your prejudiced thoughts prevent you from interpreting his message correctly.
Fun fact: You can only lead someone if they ALLOW you to lead them. Anything else is a dictatorship
and this is why I'm staying single with all these requirements and perfect situation it sounds like more hassle than its worth
I agree, people make sex more complicated than what it is.
But I will say for men we grow up with the wrong lessons about sex, women and attraction in general. The number 1 problem I have found is that men are sexually dishonest. Women are generally expected to be this way to a point but men should be more honest and forward
@kayc7442 to be honest it's not just with relationships that good advice in general I always say its best to be brutally honest all the way
@@kayc7442 I would never have a relationship with a woman who is not a virgin.
I do not fault young men for just opting out either. I cannot imagine the hoops that average men must go through to not only attract a woman but interest her and then do the right things to turn her on. I easily understand why guys are just stacking
Money and playing video games
You could try a different culture. Not all are vapid, materialistic, boss bitchey.
The pickier women get, the more they share the same guys, and the higher the number of men get left out. It's that simple.
Social media and feminism that's gone beyond equality as well as incomes and education levels above men has inflated the female sense of self-worth as it relates to equivalent level men. That's why so many women think they're 10s. Which I find hilarious because if they're "the prize" and they're all 10s, then they're all the consolation prize. 😅
Another problem is the men who are 7’s and 8’s are sleeping with women who are 4’s and 5’s. Now these women think they can get a higher value man which in reality isn’t quite true.
Adults need to watch the first 5 minutes of 101 Dalmatians and allow Pongo to teach them how to choose a mate.😂
Men are extremely picky. They go for the same type.
That is a high risk game as chances are any one given woman will not be the one who he commits to if anyone at all.
Makes for a lot of jaded disaffected women. I can see many running this pattern until they age out of the dating market entirely which is a recipe for misery. A growing class of childless, single and never married women in the future.
I think a big part of this issue comes down to social media burnout and consumption of porn. We're constantly bombarded by images of young, hot and enticing, perfect bodies on screens and reality just can't keep up. Our brains are becoming more and more conditioned to these superficial portrayals of reality and real relationships suffer because of it.
That's actually true. In my previous relationship, which was my first time ever too. I went ahead with the expectations that things should be different. There was a constant struggle between reality and what had been fed in my brain. There was constant Dissatisfaction with the person I was with. As a result I contributed a lot in making the relationship very bad
great comment
That for sure is a big reason but I would not see it as a problem. The pros outweigh the cons. Porn is a tool for sexual independence like women working for an employer instead of a husband is a way to get economic independence and other modern tools make it easier to keep a household for both sexes.
@@saloni2117 you wanted a good relationship, nothing is wrong with that. The problem are not your high expectations, the problem is the low quality that most relationships/people have.
Men watch porn , and then they are done…pizza, beer, porn..bed and no more bothering to meet a woman…. Porn is a big problem, especially for those addicted to it. But nobody wants to talk about….it’s one good thing this lady is addressing it a bit.
I highly appreciate Tom's knowledge on so many things. When she was making blanket statements that weren't entirely accurate, he immediately gave push back or corrected her. Otherwise, we would've ended up with inaccurate information.
She didnt like when he said hypergmy lol and she is dead wrong that men and women have equal desire for sex as we all know the males have way more higher drive than female
@@darrylsmith-cb8mz yeah i caught that to
She sounds like a newager, who are notorious for just making up stuff that makes them feel good, with little/no evidence to support it.
I haven't had sex or had a girlfriend at all in 5 years. Not for lack of trying, though. I've just always struggled socially and romantically.
Majority are like that.
I met my husband while he was a stressed out student making ends meet in one of the most expensive cities in NA. We dated for half a year, got engaged at Christmas, married the next August.
My partner isn't any of these ridiculous measurements you keep putting out, just a regular person that's kind to me and that I can laugh with and eat good food with.
Happiness and and hobbies can be attractive. Start enjoying your life, invest in things that make you happy and that you can talk about with people. At minimum you'll be able to make friends with similar interests. My husband is a hobbyist musician and it's fun to talk about. I admire his dedication to practice and learning more.
When we dated we split every bill. There were times he was stressed about money when I would pay the whole thing.
In one breath people say women aren't putting out because they have too much money, and they need to be submissive and docile (and stay home I guess?) and the next breath they're too expensive. I've never met a woman in my generation who expected to be paid for if she had her own job??? Dating is often half as expensive as it used to be lol. If dating is more expensive now than for my parents gen, it's because of inflation and stagnating wages. Too bad I couldn't woo my lover with a ¢50 root beet float at the local diner!
Stagnating wages requires collective action through unions and petitioning government to put a reign on the unchecked profits of mega corporations and billionaires. People are blaming women for every ill and sin of neoliberalism lmao.
One thing I'll say is we need to do a better job of raising the wages of blue collar & service jobs and making them more attractive. People don't feel society respects the work they do, and it leads to some of these feelings of stress, alienation, loneliness, and insecurity.
When I was ill and stressed, we didn't have much sex. Once I started recovering, it snapped back. Do we really have to dig deep to see how a pandemic, record high housing costs, stagnating wages and a political culture of fear mongering would be detrimental to our sex lives??? Lol
Never even once said anybody to me as a young boy to suppress my emotions, and I grew up in Germany in the 80s. Quite the opposite. But you'd still do it as a means to survive. Young kids instinctively protect themselves this way against predators. And who are these predators and bullies anyway? Mainly other kids passing through the fear and pressure they inherit from the adult world. The moment, when "grown up people" stop giving each other hell out of fear and greed, that's the moment when kids will magically stop bulling each other!
As a young girl. I supressed my emotions just as much. It's natural for humans not to show tender emotions. It still confuses me that people think only boys r told not to cry
Precisely. I've been hearing this spiel about "men being taught to repress their emotions" for at least 20+ years, but the exact opposite is true; young boys/men are constantly being told to be more feminine and in touch with their emotions, and that there is nothing wrong with showing them. They've been told this to excess! I'll acknowledge that there exist environments where men are taught to repress emotions, such as certain rough, working class families. But in any major city, this is _not_ the issue, but rather the opposite is: never being taught to develop thicker skin and to stop being emotionally incontinent.
That's an excellent comment!
Oh us young whipper snappers are gettin it… I think there’s a lack of meaningful relationships. We don’t celebrate the traditional family.
Also, don’t touch yourself often… retention; if we’re talking about sacred energy. It’s not that hard to get kitty or throw a bone… build great relationships n it’s enjoyable… if you’re addicted to P- always remember it feels way better irl and with the internet, you can find someone you sync with. Real people are not insta… be patient
Danger of modern dating: no kids mentality for too long
I’ve also never met a “slow cooker” lol 😂
Can’t be too like Dutch countries… they also have massive levels of prostitution and ht…
There's another huge elephant in the room that is really difficult to talk about because it hurts women deeply. Men are primarily attracted to younger women, and as women age, they get less sexually attractive. Men continue to be attracted to younger women their whole life. As men age, their preference in women don't change. A 65 year old man is just as attracted to 19 year old women as he was when he himself was 19. Most men are not attracted to 45 year old women. The decline in sexual attractiveness is quite dramatic for women from the age of about 35-40. Most men find women between the ages of 18 and 22 the most attractive, and it goes down from there. Other factors that lower a woman's attractiveness as a partner is a high body count, promiscuous past, a party lifestyle, a lot of life experience (travel, people etc.), emotional scars, jadedness, a sense of entitlement, inflated ego etc. etc. As a woman age and go through different men, she lowers her sexual market value, and she lowers her chances of finding a long-term partner willing to invest in her and commit to her. There are few things more powerful than an attractive 18-19 year old woman. She has inherently comparable sexual market value as high as a male Hollywood movie star or a super fit Bugatti driving billionaire. Men will do almost anything to get in her pants. Men don't have this inherent sexual value. We have to earn it through competence and hard work. Women's sexual market value goes down, while men's market value in many cases continue to rise into their 30's and 40's if they continue to climb the ranks and work on themselves. Women can slow their decline, but it will happen. In most cases a man will pick a 100% broke 19 year old waitress with no life experience, no accomplishments, no socioeconomic power, sub-average intelligence and little to no education over a 35 year old millionaire female intelligent CEO or lawyer with lots of experience and traits like assertiveness, aggression, competitiveness, disagreeableness and so forth. For men, youth, femininity and beauty trumps all other considerations. As a 40 year old woman, it's very difficult to find a partner. If they do, he's most likely in his late 50's or 60's. The same can be said for an unaccomplished 19-20 year old broke male. It is very difficult for him to land a long term relationship with a woman. Social media and dating apps have exacerbated these problems.
Finally someone with a grip on reality!
Superb comment. Exactly outlining the total dichotomy of male-vs-female SMV (sexual market value).
A very solid no to many generalizations.
Society is so unequal and unwell in so many ways that it is interfering with the most basic of human functions. It all starts with financial inequality. This financial inequality also causes health, educational, social/career inequality. This leads to a situation where less and less men and women are in a position to have a healthy relationship with each other. Social media predicts the path that society will take outside on the streets in real life away from the screen. We can see that our future is bad. Only the most powerful in society can change the direction of society, but they choose instead to enrich themselves by further dividing us. Eat the rich, or something, or go back to sleep, it doesn't really matter anyway because with all the alien revelations going on now it's basically a 99.99% chance its a simulation. (It used to be 51% chance).
Sex (for me) is about intimacy and connection, but I see around me this teaching of kids in school about sex and NO mention of love, intimacy, connection, relationships, dating, marriage, etc. Or, what is there is very selfish - ie. how to tell my partner what I like in bed. We're removing the intimacy from sex. Yet, for an unattractive man sex is just a hassle (finding a girl, getting her interested, not having her hate him due to him being white or toxic or male or whatever, etc), and they're giving up. As a friend said to me: masturbation is the best relationship and longest relationship I've ever had.
This has been going on in our culture since the Late 80's, 90's, and 2000's. Women have rightfully openly complained in the media about the toxicity of men. But women do not have that same energy communicating what they do want from men. So there are generations of boys growing up believing they don't know how to be a man, but don't want to be a toxic man. So they fear being any level of aggressive, and the most dominant women exaggerate their position and exclaim male aggression as 100% all toxic. So boys grow into men repressing their aggression as a form of allyship toward women. Then get rejected by women when trying to date because they aren't aggressive enough. They get played off as being lame for asking for consent, being kind and trying to ask what the woman wants. In these role reversals women become a toxic experience for men because they don't want to openly express their sexual desires to men, and reject guys for not being manly enough despite also complaining that being manly is toxic. So these guys are getting rejected over, and over, and over, take major blows to their self-worth every time. And they just grow addicted to porn, and confide in other guys that resent women because all they seem to do is complain about what they don't want, but and then reject guys for not being the way they are saying they don't want guys to be.Women avoid expressing what they do want, and blame men for every disappointing aspect of their experience.
Women ALWAYS AVOID the topic of WHAT THEY WANT IN DATING & SEXUALLY. How they would prefer men be toward them. Which is why their are countless RUclips channels hosted by men trying to teach men how to approach women, and what women want. Which is crazy! Women are masters at explaining what they don't want, yet there are maybe on 3 channels with women teaching men how to approach women, and what women want. Women need to step up and teach guys how to behave toward them in an authentic way that honors womens FULL SPECTRUM OF DESIRES. Not some culturally correct regurgitation of passive femininity from the 1940's. Men are literally dependant on women to communicate their actual needs, desires, and boundaries. Otherwise, men are going to collectively grow more and more passive and escape to the metaverse to create new forms of virtual porn, games, dolls, and toys to satisfy their fantasies in a passive safe environment. Women have so much power, and are so very needed, but they don't seem to want to be accountable for it. As far as heterosexual male & female relations all we have is Man & Woman. Men keep fucking this up, we need women to step up to the plate in full authenticity and lead us all to a new form of intimacy where women lead in regard to their own intimacy needs, and sexual desires.
that's exactly what i am planning to do, men are going to collectively grow more and more passive and escape to the metaverse to create new forms of virtual porn, games, dolls, and toys to satisfy their fantasies in a passive safe environment. It's not to say i won't date real women. But if shit goes south i am going to my Plan B for the Virtual Experience and my Fantasies. i am a incel and i never had sex and i am 24. and it isn't as easy as just blaming men or incel for the problem.
Women do not and never will feel burning desire as Rich Cooper puts it for the vast majority of men. They never will admit that because they know that saying that to a man's face one time too many will not end well for them. So they lie to and deceive men they are not attracted to and feel repelled by. The dirty secret is any one woman deems the vast majority of men she encounters in person to be beneath her.
To all the men watching this video and reading this comment who are upset and bitter about the dating scene and how men are struggling in this modem western society, i hear you. Your concerns and frustrations are valid and it sucks we don't have more chance to express our feelings the way women do on this stuff.
I'm 38 single guy whose never been in a relationship and probably never will be, so I'm absolutely one of you.
However, this wasn't a dating podcast interview, it was about healthy sexuality (usually for couples) and it was a really high quality discussion I personally found super interesting. I think we can appreciate what this is and not badmouth it because it's not about dating or how bad things are for guys in the dating world.
Seriously, try being open and honest with ANY friend. I'd extremely difficult sharing inner feelings. I've only done it once several years over the internet. It's a whole level of exchange. This has shown me that I only want a partner capable of honesty. Will I find such a man? I'm not holding my breath! What happened? He is a bull freak scared of his own shadow. Do I loathe all men now, as you seemingly categorize all females the same?
Okay, it wasn’t about dating - buuut - it was about sex and to first get sex you have to date.
@@keithahlstrom176 I think the video was mislabled by Tom and that's where the confusion is
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1 you are projecting. 2 her information was mostly terrible and inaccurate. 3 this was not an interview - this was a feminist lecture.
The biggest predictor for womens decrease in sexual desire for a person is length of time in relationship with that person.
Making love is a beautiful act. However, a lot of hard work needs to be put in to find the right person you can mingle with.
Not if it is the right person...it comes naturally.
I don't have the energy to even look. I'll stick with porn.
@@margprincess… Great point! Didn’t think about it in that way.
Yes
You have said it well.
I thought it was gonna be about why is no one having sex anymore (hence the title), it was about how to have sex when you already have a partner (so no longer need to date, so the word "dating" has nothing to do in the title).
Most of us here cannot get a date to save our lives.
The fact that the woman never heard about "hypergamy" is a sign that she is disconnected from the real world, or maybe just too old.
The closest thing I got to intimacy with a woman in the last 10 years is a hug.
Dude, that's not possible. You mean to tell me you ain't had sex in 10 years??? What have you been doing this whole time to struggle with dealing with a woman
It's such a double standard that men have to always be masculine but women can bring out their femininity when they feel like it. And women forget that men generally don't like masculine women!
Who said men always have to be masculine? Be as feminine as you want to be. For example, my husband is extremely masculine. He is in the special forces, runs Ironmans and no one would mess with him. At the same time he is such a nurturing care giver for our kids. He sings them to sleep at night, helps with homework, plays dolls with our daughter. He is the most amazing human I have ever known because he can do anything. Don’t be afraid to be feminine when you can. Women love a nurturing caregiver who is also tough as nails.
@@freckles2773 Multiple studies show women (including feminists) overwhelmingly prefer men with masculine traits.
@@jzen1455 of course we do but not all the time. Trust me, give a big strong masculine man a baby or puppy that he is sweet with and women will come running. You don’t have to be masculine all the time.
@@jzen1455yes but there is a time and place for caring and nurturing behavior. Being tough all the time can be too much. Especially when you are a father.
@@freckles2773 That's nice, but he could only be feminine in front of you after he married you and fathered your children. If he starts crying too much or getting too emotional in front of you, you will most likely lose some attraction for him. My main point is that he had to be masculine at all times to attract you, not just when you brought it out of him. Men aren't allowed to play that game like women are.
We need a whole episode on just what she says at 1:19:00 😅
That needs to be unpacked.
She skipped right by how to solve the hardest part.
How to get them to fix their own thoughts, let shit go and be at peace without needing to get revenge or “get even”. And around and around we go .
To have sex unpack the hardest part! Gotcha.
Must be in the book
I don't think it's about "them fixing their thoughts", it's about solving relationship problems. Which can usually be done with honest communication. If the man does something that angers or hurts the woman, she needs it sorted out before she can open up (both emotionally and sexually) to him again. Many men don't understand it. They think sex fixes problems, but it doesn't, conversations do.
@@feralshojotrue, but then agakn women don't open up thst easy either, so yeah, so much for "understanding".
@@strayvion808 When the emotion is still strong, many women would rather be left alone, but once things have cooled down, when the man shows interest to talk about the problem, I'd think there are very few women who would not appreciate it.
It's not about that women want to date up, everybody wants to date up. Is just that they can and easily while men have a very hard time to get anything. That's the whole root of the problem, .. is that things don't add up and it will eventually lead to a lonely society (including women). There is only one chance, .. people have to know the facts especially women. The sooner they get it the better, or maybe it's too late already.
When I was dating I managed the household, earned money, made sure my bf’s parents got gifts on there birthdays, I managed the money and helped him pay off there debt. Now I have no desire to be with a man. No sex since early 2020 and no desire to have it with a guy either. I earn more when I’m not with a man. I look after myself more when I’m single. All because all the energy I was putting into a black hole before I can put into myself. Relationships are great for some people. I’ve not met a man that can be great with me. I know they exist - I just don’t think I’m lucky enough to find him. Oh well - early retirement and good male and female friendships are amazing…I’m happy.
Preach sister! ❤💯💯💯
Same. I’ve just come to terms that if I want a man I will have to take care of him. I know that sounds weird but when I talk to men it’s always I just want to yolo. I don’t want to push myself to hard because life is short. I’m under the impression that we can both work really hard on something together and make a life for ourselves but I’m not sure if I’m finding people who agree to that.
Its sad that she focuses so much only on just sex. Another real issue is not "just" sex, i would sugest a missing link is the de-feeling of sex. The talking of how mentally the act of sex affects an individual. That is not taught. Pleasure and intamacy are only two aspects of sex. There are major factors that happen mentality.
And Porn is definitely a huge factor in how Sex is being killed in real life.
1. There is NO intamacy or any bonding in porn
2. Watching porn... why need a real person
3. Completely unrealistic- real woman do not look OR act OR want ANY of the acts done in porn. Or to be treated as such (Clarification as "less than", an "object", always "on" always "wanting a man" always "in heat" etc)...Porn is NOT real SEX
4. Porn causes men to view women as objects... why would a real woman want to be an object
5. Porn releases the same chemicals as cocaine in the brain, and is just as highly addictive.
I theorize that might be why the Japanese youth see physical relations as repulsive now. They have had a very open Porn industry for many years. "Sex workers" is an open industry, as is the Porn industry.
This also needs to be brought into the conversation.
To men sex is a stress reliever. Many many sexless marriages out there. So now the married man is dealing with all the B.S. of a woman in his life without any sexual release. I am sure alot of married men are still watching corn as their only sexual outlet. Of course he can get a divorce and get graped in family court. And then going on dates with entitled high mileage women that are used up and have nothing good to offer a man.
Glad someone here has pointed out the major problems surrounding Japanese Pop Culture with how rampant misogyny and sexism has gotten with Anime, Manga, and Video Games. There's even "fanservice" where a lot of female characters in Japanese fiction are always in lewd and sexual situations just to get people to watch or read to the point where you can't even watch or read it for the actual plot. It's ridiculous.
As a man I can assure that many women do have pornified sex WITH intimacy. The sex we witness in lorn is often sans intimacy…but not always. But make no mistake: they are in fact having sex.
I disagree on point 3. I’ve been with women that wanted some pretty extreme things done to them
. They are still “real women” in my book - they just have different
Kinks
@@brianmeen2158 AGREED
Sex is spiritual It's a man and a woman come together to be one spirit it's the bond that keeps you together. It's not something you do with just anyone
Can we have this conversation without the religious connotations? 😄
I've had sex with one man all my life (first as a girlfriend and then as a wife.) It's not that special.
Exactly and that bond has a purpose to stay together for the child survival sake.
@@demonicaxeman7264 umm, you can have them without religious connotations.
But we will have them with religious connotations.
@@poppyorangeflower You need to experiment lady ;)
After ten seconds of listening to this lady, i have to interrupt.
"People aren't having sex" is an inaccurate statement.
Its men who mostly are going sexless.
Women are the gatekeepers of sex...nobody is getting married may be a better way to speak about both sexes.
Seems to me a whole lotta gay people are having sex.
Its more the straight men who are not in the 1% of HVM who aren't getting any.
The real problem is feminism and unrealistic female expectations of men, in most instances.
99.9999% of women want the top 1 or 2% of men, and will NOT even talk to anyone else.
So this creates an imbalance where women have a ridiculous amount of options where as men have literally zero options, like on tinder where a very non attractive woman can have dozens of even 100s of matches instantly , while decent looking or even good looking men have none because they are not tall enough at 5"8 or dont have enough status as a construction worker and not a tech millionaire.
Then of course there is porn....which makes most men complacent and docile , so lets not blame women 100%..
These are the biggest problems, then you add maniacal leftist feminism ,which refers to anyone who isn't part of their hateful cult a "racist" or "patriarchal oppressor".....and bam, here we are , a sexless yet perverted society who believes in nothing anymore.
All of this division is really created by the political system, like EVERY other form of hatred and insanity that goes on between people now in this dying country...or rather, the entire dying western world.
Losing the hormones of wanting sex comes from too much stress, too much social media and too many high unrealistic expectations for partners, with Both Sexes and is becoming a Big Problem in Society.
We understand ourselves generally speaking, the absence of sex is a symptom of bigger and more complex panorama.
Wrong wrong wrong. I'll tell you exactly what it is. We as men don't feel like dealing with it. Getting laid is a full time job. You have to find the girl. She waits to see if she likes you and are worthy, 3-4 dates. That's spending money and time. I've dated tons of women, I've run the gauntlet. Then they start nagging you, dumping their feelings and emotions onto you. It's a total mind suck. If you eliminate this, you can focus on yourself and your own success.
I might add "survival" to the last sentence. The world just keeps getting crazier, and the last thing I need is someone ruining my ability to focus and try to navigate the storm. The wrong partner can put me on the street at the worst imaginable time. In fact, this is happening right now to one of my relatives.
My goodness. Man used to have a family, die for them. Go to war to protect them. Man nowadays are scared pussies hiding inside their homes afraid of having a woman because of the imaginary problems that may or may not happen. Wow! I’m shocked at our generations. This is so sad. We are doomed.
@@FraukeMfacts brother 🙏🏻
People are to broken to realize their personal needs and communicate it correctly.
Women know they are choosing the men that won't commit to them but its all about them having fun so they ignore that fact and waste years on these types. An average man won't do for her anymore so she will remain celibate until another man meets that standard. Other men that learn of this in most cases will not want these kind of women because they will never really want to move on in her heart and willl likley be dissatisfied and cheat on. her new less attractive partner.Its a hopeless situation and a lot of women are in this situation thanks to non serious dating apps.
Sitting here in Kyiv under russian missile attack and listening to this episode. You are doing a great job making these videos and trying to unravel different topics related to the world we live in. But some things sound pretty funny to me in my circumstances. All this stuff like "men's toxic masculinity", etc. If you want to know what is a proper way to do things just try to step 1 level down Maslow's pyramid and you'll get the answer. Nature/evolution is way smarter than us, so if you wonder whether masculinity is good or bad just to try reflect whether it helps or hinders 1 level down the pyramid, e.g. when your security need is not guaranteed. All these discussions might happen only when people think that their basic needs are granted forever. But that's not the case. Thus, in my humble opinion, when you talk about whether masculinity should be suppressed or not - that is incorrect formulation of the issue. You are trying to beat the nature. You as a society have just roughly several decades of this way of life when such basic need as security is mostly guaranteed. But nature/evolution has several billions of years under its belt. Trying to beat the nature looks like a suicidal action with delayed consequences. Hence, the right question I would ask myself if I were you is "how to utilize masculinity in these new circumstances when your basic needs are covered?" How to apply it to make world a better place. But not whether it's good or bad. If it was bad, we would not have survived to this day.
Brilliant. Agreed. We are healthiest when we live according to design; know thyself. Stay Safe, Friend - we need brilliant minds & voices like yours.
What pisses me the most is hypocrisy and double standards that are so prevalent on the west
Men are bad, men is a problem, teach men, punish men
Listen to women, protect women, women are innocent, help women, women don't have enough rights... but when it comes to protecting those rights, its all on men to deal with russia
To your point, agree with you, just want to note that, actually, nothing is good or bad unless we take religion into account
Question is what we are trying to achieve doing it one way or another, preferring one behaviour over another
Not only we have loneliness epidemic, there is huge birth rate decline on the west, which is an obvious sign the direction we are going isn't that good
In my opinion, we men are afraid of being criticised, just tell a man something like "are you against women?" or "this hurts women" and most men will shut up in embracement
This is why the discussion is so one-sided, we only hear about toxic masculinity and never about toxic femininity, which is as prevalent and as bad in its own ways
I think, we men, should speak up more about things we think are right
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This makes sense but I think we went too far at emasculating men and making women more masculine. So the only solution to our current system would be what this lady is saying. The only other way would be to dismantle our current system. If a man is not going to provide and protect I’m not going to allow him to lord over me. Whoever provides any version of provision and protection gets to make the decisions. Also men have become very reliant on a system. It actually makes you think more like a woman: cooperative and dependent. Now that our system is crumbling it’s making women become more masculine because we are single. I’m not sure why men are stuck in a feminine state. It could be the estrogenic food or the confusing sexual propaganda agenda but one thing is for sure: they are becoming more apathetic because they realize the system is broken. They don’t want to work. They don’t want to think about it. And I think women are like “fuck the system then, lets survive”. So that’s where you see the girl bosses and homesteaders etc. I’m sorry you’re in Kyiv with bombs overhead. It’s getting pretty bad here though. It’s not comparable but I’m not sure how long this “soft landing” is going to be or how long we can keep this up. Money is becoming more worthless everyday. Most eligible men won’t be able to provide for their families. That’s for sure. They can’t buy houses, they will struggle to buy food and there’s no retirement, healthcare is so unaffordable that Americans literally can’t sustain the system so the quality has gone down even if you can afford it. I have some reasources that I’m willing to share with a man but the interest and respect has to go both ways. Men think I’m average and not worth the trouble. However, economically and intellectually I’m worth the trouble but again that’s not what men look for in a woman and so be it. I can’t afford to be feminine. I have to work 😂.
Breathing differently is not going to fix the sex recession between male and female.. a real conversation needs to be had around what women need in order to feel aroused in long term relationships..no one’s having an honest conversation about how the status quo has changed. The conversation should cover the male responsibility in educating himself on why things have changed and its impact on intimacy dynamics between men and women in relationships. Stop blaming it on feminism..there’s a start…and lead us WHERE! And WHY???..stop trying to control everything ..we don’t need to be led..there..there’s another hint
Absolutely 💯
You are absolutely clueless and hopeless. Feminism “is”exactly the reason why things stopped working. It makes women, men and children unhappy in the end. You say stop controlling and leading us, that’s just your feminist indoctrination speaking. Women have an innate desire to follow a strong leader. It’s this discrepancy between your feminist programming and your biological instinctual needs, that lead women to self destruct themselves and their families.
If y’all don’t know then men won’t know.
In 2021 we were locked in our houses and social distancing …..
this is literally the biggest "it" rn
Having Sex And Making Love. Is There A Fundamental Difference That Most Are Unable To See?
Well, yes there is. And I will now explain that said fundamental difference to you.
So, sex is of course all about 'wanting'. Sex is all about 'demand'. Whereas making love is all about 'giving'.
And as such, sex is of course a wholly 'selfish' act. With the act of making love on the other hand, an entirely 'unselfish' one.
Now, in order to 'merely have sex' there is no need for love to be present. But, in order to be able to truly make love. Love must of course be there first.
I mean, when two individuals do make love. As both are 'giving freely' to one another. Both are necessarily receiving, without either of them having to resort to ever wanting anything.
The wanting, the demand, the selfishness, is absent in the act of making love
Now. As 'sex is wanting' it then becomes very important to understand exactly what wanting is.
So, here goes.
Wanting is in fact a form of 'VIOLENCE'.
Hence the term 'Wanton Acts Of Violence'.
I mean, the next time your hear someone uttering the words "I want", I can almost guarantee that those words will be accompanied by some type of force. By either the threat of, or a clear act of violence.
Now, this also explains precisely why this currently 'sex obsessed' and so relatively 'loveless' world. This world of 'wanting'. This world of 'demand'. Is also a 'terribly violent' world.
Just look at a rapist for instance. A rapist 'wants' to have sex with his victim. He 'demands' to have sex with her. And, as there is 'no love' between them. The sexual act that does occur will most certainly be a 'terribly violent' one.
Now again. Just look at those who are now going crazy about their right to have 'sex' with whomever they 'want' to. And to have with that the right to dispose of any 'unwanted children' that are conceived as a direct result of those sexual (loveless) encounters.
Again, in an attempt to satisfy their 'wants', their 'selfish demands'. They have inevitably began to resort to 'wanton' acts of 'gratuitous violence'.
They are burning and destroying everything in their path in an effort to get exactly what they want.
And again what do they want? They want the ability to go around engaging in the sexual act without 'love' ever needing to be present. Along with the ability to easily dispose of any of those unwanted side effects (read children) that are conceived as a direct result of all of that loveless sexual behaviour.
Finally. Just so that you know that what I have written above is the truth. Simply ask some other individual that you know to explain to you exactly what love is? As I can almost guarantee that they will not know the answer.
With the answer to the above question being as follows -
To be seen to truly love another, you have to be seen to give to them 'endlessly', without ever wanting (wishing for) anything in return. Without making any demands of them of any sort.
As love does not demand.
With the perfect example of true love being the mother who provides endlessly for the needs of her child. Without ever making any demands of her child of any sort.
That is what it means to truly love another.
Best wishes.
Andrew.
As a working class guy who doesnt earn much money women are not the least bit interested in someone like me. I gave up on that sex thing years ago. I'll stick to going fishing. 😂
While she's going on her tangent Tom waits till she takes a breath and hits her w "have you ever heard of hypergamy?!" Lmfao.
Red pill alpha bro
20:50 for those who want to skip the rambling.
Sex is wanting. And all wanting is born out of discontent/unhappiness. Unlike making love which born out if giving. Hence exactly why when two lovers do make love, because both are giving freely to one another. Neither of them are having to want for anything. The demand is absent. Best wishes.
Yes, sex needs to be connected to love.
I'm 66 my number is 2. I've always been the stable, reliable, responsible guy. Nothing dangerous or passion invoking about that. Haven't had sex since 1988. I was 50 before I made 100K. You have to live a life that a woman wants to be part of. For a large part of the population that means mainstream striving and entertainment interests, and not just keeping up with the Joneses, but surpassing them, because no woman wants average. Between work, lifting, an hour plus of cardio 6 days a week and fishing, I virtually never cross paths with women.
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"You have to live a life that a woman wants to be part of." = 100% this, but also you have to find a women that you want to be part of yr life.
I see a LOT of awful couples in my job, mostly made so by domineering, toxic women.
If you are in the gym the garden tools are showing their camel toe and butt crack trying to get your attention. But yes I know what you mean. You have peace.
I’ll be 41 in a few months. I’ve got such low self-esteem and I’m physically unhealthy problem out of shape, I barely make ends meet, and I don’t really do anything for fun that often at all. All my friends are married and have disappeared. I honestly can’t see enough time required to take the steps to be with someone. I don’t know, maybe if a miracle happened. But it’s hard to get out of your own lifestyle and into a new one. Oh, and I have no game and have no idea how to talk to women. I’m the guy that is instantly friendzoned. So I am almost certain that God wants me to just be single and with no sex life. Ultimately I will have to be okay with however the rest of life goes. It’s just hard to form goals because none of them happen quickly. To put effort and not see any immediate changes is a huge factor that I’m not ok with and I need to get over that so life can improve.
Scott, get your sht together, if you want sex, go get it. If you really deeply don't, then don't complain, you are being successful at not having sex. Its not rocket science, just go for it.
If you are that lazy, you don’t work out, you don’t care about your health, you can’t make your ends meet, then you really lost your masculinity.
You need to be driven, consistent and self disciplined.
Yes it takes time and effort but that’s what makes you so proud and confident afterwards. That you were strong enough to overcome it. That means you are a leader in your own life and to yourself. Only if you can lead yourself is when you can lead your wife and family.
So don’t even look for women. Lead yourself.
@@fruitsarelife7073 beautiful answer!
@@fruitsarelife7073💯 brother
You're describing symptoms of low testosterone.
Most intelligent guys have concluded it really is not worth the effort to find a depreciating asset that generally ends up a contingent liability.
So have women. Men age too.
@@CosmicCat23 Aging favors men more, if we look at what evolutive psychology suggests at least. Men as we get older, if we are not total failures and circumstances allow it, we'll gain some more status and some more money and most (not all) women like that, we men like good looking women, we don't care about their status or financial success. So in terms of finding a partner, it gets easier for men as we get older and more successful and harder for women as they grow old.
@@sergi3629 it’s not 1950 lol. We have money too. That’s the real reason why many men are pissed. Wealth was used to get women, now we can get our own. I can assure you, old men do NOT look better as they age. It’s doesn’t favor them, it just didn’t matter as much at one time.
@@CosmicCat23 What I mention "evolutive psychology" is a pretty serious set of studies that study why we select the partners that we select, and it really doesn't matter that is not 1950, your reptilian bran is actually in the year 10.000 before Christ, where you need a partner that protected and provided for you while you were pregnant, that's why most women, not even knowing why, prefer taller and strong guys to "feel protected", protected from what exactly? Well, exactly. I do not want kids, yet I prefer women with features that suggest fertility, why? Because of my reptilian brain, not my rational part even if it understands the current cultural structure. I think it's pretty obvious that our brains do not evolve at the same rate as our culture does.
And I really don't understand how this is not obvious, there are just too many old rich guys looking dating young women and young women looking for high status guys on Tinder.
@@CosmicCat23 lol. Women like that usually approach the beta energy. It's true, men can still have kids at age 50 where women can't . We were created equal,but with different purposes. Women now days are leaving that purpose and choosing their own . Women think they can act like men and not have consequences.. it's dumb
I'm allege that bezos' wife said he worked too much and Costner's wife said he always wanted me home...
These women have went mad!
Sexist
You can never be everything that she wants all at once all the time. That's a fantasy.
@@BoostedPastime
Listen at 1:13:50
They are truly delusional.
She actually went into a less-than-intellectual-trance...you have to watch it, they levitate above reality...feminists.
I'm surprised Tom took 5 mins of that ish w/out doing a, "The Office," stare into the camera.
@@thehypocriticalcynic9182 I believe that I missed the point that you were trying to make however I didn't fully understand what she said except where she said that women require foreplay and feeling safe which I agree with. She did sort of ramble on there for a moment and I agree that a slow build up of arousal is really good advice.
The thing that always interested me is that you are taught how to reproduce scientifically but you are never actually taught how to have sex in the pleasure able sense. It makes sense why that is not taught in school to children however I believe that it creates some serious problems later on down the line. I think that all adults should understand how to have good meaningful sex. Just jamming your body parts together is not that interesting and the woman will almost certainly hate that. You sort of have to figure out how to have good sex on your own and it is a hell of a journey.
@@BoostedPastime
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Tap the numbers in my response..
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Watch her mentally walk through a door, void of original-thought...and slip into the dogma-realm.
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Now imagine her bumping into her favorite celebrity, or her bff's bf, or bully's crush...in a cold; dirty, "fore-play-less, broom-closet (the game is older than me).
(If you don't understand juice-box manipulation...ya gotta ask my gee [lmk you're not fighting comprehension]).
It's not really worth the drama. There are certainly shitty dudes out there too, but the fact that I could bag nearly every girl that I work with (some are married) really changes my perspective. I think the happier you can be alone, the more powerful you will be. If a woman wants to come along for the ride and is loyal, maybe consider it. But I think if they have had many partners in their life they are not really capable of loyalty. Damaged goods. Sorry.
Most of the time unless they had a life change.
Statistics show the same for men. More past partners means less loyalty across the board.
Why are you guys acting like men are loyal virgins from heaven.🤣You guys are worse and brought this culture into existence 🤣🤣🤣
26 percent of men will soon be 60 percent. Every guy friend I have that is not married or under 5'8 is single and has been sexless for a while. Thankfully we got realistic looking robots that will soon replace women in bed. No more drama after that.
The more she talks, the more I'm convinced that women should never be taken seriously when it comes to massive societal concerns.
Says the anime avatar. You're what, a "professor" of League of Legends?
never trust or care what a woman says - it only matters what she does.
Your opinion holds no weight. Blah
@@loveself6396 Just wanted to say how proud I am of you and your transition. 🏳🌈
@@loveself6396 To you.
She ignored his question about hypergamy and made it about her and intimacy after a couple gets together. The issue is that men and women aren't even getting together because of hyper-hypergamy!
Exactly, women want it all but that’s not how the world works…
Hypergamy is actually closer to the traditional housewife than a career women. Either you finanacially take care of her or you are happy with 50/50y
You have to chose one.
Dancing is feminine energy. If a woman gets into it, she's alone, but powering up. You see this if you play in a band.
Because porn is so prevalent these days, I believe that most of us, have at least taken a peek. What I’ve noticed is that beyond all the filth and degradation, there is some actual erotica out there, like massage videos, or couples who actually love each other deeply posting their own videos, and wanting to share their love with the rest of the world, as an example of, hey, this is how it’s done. They are really putting themselves out there, but I totally respect it:) More power to them:)
That’s why dudes are buying sex dolls lol
So she’s right men can’t get sex but in return women can’t get married. When women realize that they are facing the bigger problem and understand that THEY are the ones that need to change, perhaps there will be some hope to get back to normal. Until then, our future looks bleak
There are many men who are not even capable of emotionally providing for a good woman.
So modern men are far from perfect.
They are just as promiscuous and toxic. And being angry at women is not what makes you a good man.
I think women are not getting married because of the ease and abundance of hoe’s with the reach of social media platforms. Why would you get married? Marriage is getting harder and harder with today’s generation’s challenges and mentality.
Easy to blame it on just one sex, but both sexes are probably the problem! and society.
Women dont have to change, they're not the ones PMS-ing about not having sex. Maybe men need up their money and quit b1tching
😂😂 women to change?! 😂😂
Juice ain’t worth the squeeze … Men have to meet a certain threshold for a women to have sex with them , and in todays society that threshold is pretty high… I’m 31 just over 6’3 athletic built never had problems being intimate with women and always had to do the bare minimum to get laid. On the contrary all my male friends which are great dudes but aren’t super tall / built , or millionaires , just get tossed around by women who waste their times on dinner dates and hearing them vent about problems , all to possibly get a peck on the lips/ hug and be friend zoned to get more attention later on. … what guy would want continue in that cycle ?
I'm 46. I have been in the dating game for a little while now and the number 1 reason that I am choosing to simply stay single is because of unrealistic expectations and the very stunning reality that very few women work on the damaged parts of their souls from past relationships that do not have a damn thing to do with me. I love sex and sharing my body with women, but the emotional and monetary costs anymore are just not worth it. My heart yearns for companionship but I am really struggling here on what to do.
Become Jehovahs Witness, more women who wants marriage, & children. Theres more women than men in organization
A-fuxking-men dude. Spot on. I just said the same thing. Our time is too precious to get nagged, babysit and spend money.
Truth.
Companionship is the goal really. I think we complicate the issues though with expectations. There are basic expectations that should be met but it shouldn't fully be about the material things.
I don't believe companionship with a woman as a guy is really possible. There are too many differences between men and women, so as for me, I choose self-love over women. I've been going 5 years without companionship with a woman and will do till the day I die.
You're taking advice from two people who don't even want children. This stuff is laughable!
I'm 35 and haven't had sex since 2020. I don't really care to have it again.
Well yes, that is the thing with sex as opposed to making love. Sex tends to leave one feeling empty and used. Not fulfilled as when making love. Best wishes.
@@NowisEvollovetion I don't care about either one, lol.
I am woman, 38 and haven't had sex in years.
@@demonicaxeman7264 You don't care about LOVE? Wow! What a truly terrible life you must lead. Best wishes.
@@NowisEvollovetion I haven't needed love in the last 5 years and my life is going pretty good. I have money, shelter, and a warm bed. That is better than love.
This lady reminds me of the type of women I go out of my way to avoid.
Some of these comments are absolutely astounding. You have to be able to listen to other viewpoints and be able to learn from them. Emily is very smart and has some great ideas perspectives and you’d be silly to not try to incorporate them into your life simply because you think you know enough.
Why do so many people who don’t have children have a strong desire to teach children about sex?
I do not care for this interview one bit. I feel she completely misses the main problems in the lack of sex they mention up top. Especially for men.
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Not all women want to be lead, some of us find it to be a massive turn off. Sexually or otherwise.
That is true but they are going by the average woman. Most women(pretty much all) that I’ve dated wanted me to
Lead. Th
So you would find it a turn off if your man leads in bed? You would prefer him to be submissive in bed? No judgement
As a heterosexual woman, I can say I don’t mind men taking the lead in aspects of life. The problem is, it’s almost always abused. I’m not allowed to have an opinion, express creativity, enjoy becoming educated, without pushback. Every guy claims to be different, but in the end, they want leverage, not the lead.
No offense but if you are constantly dating the "same guy over and over," you might want to take ownership that it is you and who you're attracted to. I'm not saying what they are doing is right or wrong, but if this is a pattern, I'd look inward to make the change. I certainly know I would never look for leverage over my partner. Nobody deserves to be "less than" with someone who is supposed to be your equal.
@@kc8639 there are good guys out there, but there’s only so much time to get to know someone. I’m not into flings. Just like women, men hide their true selves. It’s not the “same guy over and over” but a constant battle of humans wanting to control another for feelings of security. Doesn’t work.
Well you just haven't been with the right one yet
A strong, educated, highly opinionated woman is often very masculine. Men don't want masculine.
Agreed, it doesn’t matter who the person is. With MOST people when you give them an inch, they will take a mile. They’ll see how far things can go. It’s the same reason why people complain about how horrible managers and higher-ups treat them. They treat you that way because of the power over your livelihood and well-being you have. You are more likely to have a guy take advantage of the power imbalance, than treat you with respect and humanity.
Women don't want to have sex with men without an emotional connection and sadly alot of men don't understand this. Stress destroys a woman's sex drive because we don't feel safe
Women go your own way, men go your own way and let the robots take over.
Consciousness in human avatars is already an AI hive mind, they have always been robots.
Lmfaoo 💯
Looks like this is happening
The discussion around male-female relationships is great. At 30 minutes, the discussion around sexual education was based in an ignorant perspective. For one, being very religious does not mean that you teach your children that sex is evil, and dirty, and that they are going to hell. For many, it means teaching your children that sex can be beautiful, joyous, and very fun! but that it is special, and God wants us to reserve it for our relationship with our spouse, at least from a biblical perspective. And, having lived in the Dutch countries for a few years, I can tell you that they do not have everything perfect, and let the hyper-sexualization of their children has had tremendous social and personal consequences.
I am 28, bisexual, and have never had sex, but have turned it down several times. Not interested in getting a female pregnant nor the act with a male. My biggest issue a lot of time is the money. Everyone I have ever done sexual stuff with, mostly kink and the such, have been with people out of state or out of the country. Some have been the greatest experiences of my life, but it is often way too costly. Kind of hard to have sex, or any kind of sexual activity, when often cannot afford to even get into the same room alone. Doing something local is almost harder as no car, no house, and low disposable income; whereas not having those things when traveling is generally more acceptable.
My other issue I have had is people being sexually illiterate, particularly males. There is a self perpetuating system where males aren't getting bedroom experience leading to them having bad bedroom experiences and then continuing to not be experienced. It is very obvious when you are with a male or female who has been with 10+ people compared to someone who has been with 0-2. I luckily have had good friends who have been able to teach me various kink, power dynamics, and other various bedroom skills and have been able to utilize it on multiple occasions. The issue with bedroom activity, at least casually, is a lot of it is like the job market right now. Where someone has no experience, every opening requires experience, leading to not getting any experience. The bedroom has basically become this same dynamic of needing to know how to be a good partner in the bedroom, but many people having not the slightest clue how to do it leading to no relationships, causing them to not be able to get experience to do it better in the future.
Luckily at this point I have been able to try nearly every kink imaginable and made some life long friends along the way, but this leads to the inverse issue. A lot of people are sexually illiterate, and females in particular are effected by this as even if they are getting a lot of bedroom experience, it is often bad bedroom experience with people with no experience. Does not matter if you have been able to do things sexually many times before if most the time you do it cannot make a connection with the person, heartbreak, and other similar things.
You need to focus on the money over sex
@@CalvinGroover Making more money doesn't always fix the issue. I know people making 6 figures that still have a money issue when it comes to dating, as they generally live in areas where the average person has a more costly standard.
It makes me a little sad that in your lengthly comment, not once did you mention love. Somewhere sex has taken a strange turn.
@@TacetTheTerror well if you don’t have a car, your own place or money for dates how will you ever get sex. Focus on fixing money before focusing on women
@@mariabeckwith3336 The video topic is about the lack of sex specifically, not of love. I have several guy friends I am close enough to that would use love to describe the relationship, would do anything for each other and genuinely unconditionally care for each other through everything, but there are issues with doing the same with females these days. The video focused on sexual heterosexual relationships, but one of the main issues that could cause lack of love from male to female can be in part the laws that are in place. Males gain almost purely downsides from marriage if the marriage was to fail. Too many males have seen what has happened to their father, friends, or cousins when they love a female and things don't work out. It is an extremely high risk activity with minimal benefit. I am more open to show genuine love and compassion to a guy as if things happen to not work out, there is almost no legal fallout that can occur compared to an opposite gender love based relationship. It is one of those societal things where the laws essentially shape the behavior.
Overcomplicating everything as with most other topics.
It is just about 1 thing in life "Necessity" and men do not need women anymore, and women do not need man anymore.
Women can earn money, gain power, pay somebody to repair things, or buy new ones.
Men can cook, can clean, can wash clothes.
And both do not want to put children in such a sick world and thankfully you do not get ostracized that much for staying single anymore.
Concerning sex you do not need a relationship, in fact, most married couples do have a horrible sex life. And masturbation might not be that intense therefore it is more relaxed, more often, it is when you want it, it is how you want it and without any bad consequences.
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Tom, as a single mom of a 17-year-old young man. I would love to hear more about your mother’s role in your sexual education. I consider myself pretty open with my son, and we talk about a lot. But it seems like your mother advice has profited you tremendously. I would love it if you could share some more information ❤ as always. Thank you for a great insight and great conversations.
My mother only gave me the religious kind of education about sex when I was young and it caused me to look to p*rn to figure out the rest. Turned out that P*rn provided a lot of information I was missing. This is part of the reason I despise religion.
Let me guess what you are telling him: Be nice, be gentle, don't touch a girl ever before asking permission, sex is not that important it's more important to find a good personality, yadayada, right?
In that case, stop talking to your boy about sex, because you are cockblocking him for the rest of his life. It's probably already too late, because you've probably done it for a while and brainwashed him into a nice guy who will never get girls until he's 40-45 and has some money to be considered rich enough that a woman who hit the wall will accept him as her simp.
Lol single mothers are trash
Your son's screwed unless he's born with that dawg in him or he's got money assets or superior social skills.
Good chance he spends his 20s pretty depressed maybe he'll be fine, but a strong chance your son can't find a girl lot of guys including myself are immature compared to the lady's and guys sexual hormones basically assault them for not getting girl leading to depression feeling lost and suicidal thoughts.
I'm not saying this is his outcome maybe he'll be that guy, but in modern society though not written young men in teens and 20s have a lot live up to and learn bc school teaches you nothing about life other that crap you can use on Jeopardy.
Same here. Damned Catholics!
If you listen to the guy and skip the old lady you are gold damn he’s good 😂😂😂😂
Women don't understand. Women have to understand that hypergmy at some point becomes destructive. When a woman reaches a level of success that most men cant reach they need to date down and not necessarily still try to date up. I had to teach this to my niece who was making a million dollars a year to accept the fact that she loved a man who made 50k a year and marry him rather than going after guys she didnt love and made 2 millions a year. Not all men feel the need to be the leader in the family to be a perfect man and a good father. Men are confident even if they aren't necessarily the leader in the family. The other way doesn't work for women and they need to learn this new world we live in.
There should be a technocratic social credit caste system for regulating sex, to prevent hypergamy.
So you want your niece to settle for average Joe blue-collar bus driver,? Hum interesting 🤔 get somebody else to do it 🙄
Um no. Women need to stop dating down. We’ve done it for far too long. Society needs women to date up. We’re not responsible for males not progressing
I like how she couldn’t mention the me too crap in her list of reasons right off the bat. Family court etc
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"I don't want to have sex anymore. I don't want to do it. I don't."
Yeah, I think this is a common theme now.
I love sex. More please.
We don't need each other for survival anymore. We don't really need each other for sexual pleasure anymore either. So nobody's willing to put up w other people's problems anymore. So we're not seeking relationships and we're not having sex. I haven't had sex in almost 4 years bc I don't want to deal w being in a relationship or dating or even just dealing w another person to have it 🤷 and I don't miss it 🤷
I'm in 3 y relationship but neither of us want it. I mean we want it but hot dirty and urgent like our next breath like in the beginning ....now we have a fraternal appreciation polite camaderie at best when we don't despite each other. Cause nagging isn't sexy for him and being trifling manchild isn't attractive to me but we both know that outside is worst so this is where we are.😅
Or deal with a woman that talks sex in the way she does... imagine that!! "your energy flow, your breath work, your power in the pelvic area, doing exercises alone in the bathroom clenching her P muscles, circular movements to get teh energy flowing, etc just to FU6K her man!!
I fully understand you about not wanting to be in a relationship ---->> the difference is I do have a few female friends I can call for two hour SEXXXXXX sessions. They don't have to go into the bathroom to get in the mood, if they come to my place they know there is a lot of F-ing happening... this woman is nuts.
Still, sometimes even those hours of dealing with women and what they love to talk about, is too much, specially the "cuddling" after orgasms when they want to hug and kiss etc... those days I also do porn.
@@adouloslabelh2957 all relationships come to this point when the chemistry wears off. The expectation that it would be like in the beginning forever is unrealistic. But hey… you are good friends! Appreciate that! Friendships are nurturing. It's the expectations we've been fooled into that are fucking us up.
Women still need men.
If these trends continue, the deficiency in men who do trades, police work, military, etc will also get worse and then you'll have to get your car or plumbing fixed and either pay far more than you can afford, or you will have to do the work yourself.
Women often fail to think critically about how dependent they are on men.
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Sure man, friendships are all that... but for that you (any man) don't have to put up with female nature permanently in your home... no?? you can be friends with her and she can live and talk to with her mom and other female friends. Because whatever admiration or looking up to, or sexual chemistry, is wayyy gone within two years... if "friendship" tis all that's left, that is why she has to go into the bathroom and "get in the mood"... better if she doesn't live with you and you call on her "friendship" when you want to F... The actual language people use for sex is also an issue, you "are having sex" but it is hotter if you "wanna Fk"