You are still young, I am 33 years living with my mum. I am also the first born daughter. If they hate, let them hate. I am living my life helping my mother because once I move out, my mother will be alone.
I’m back in my father’s house for a reset at 30 years of age. Married for 5years with 2kids. As a young mom that want to find fulfillment in motherhood, ‘wife hood’ and ‘me hood’, home is the place I run to when overwhelmed.
I am 24yrs old living in my mothers house ,studied mechanical engineering but no job yet but trying to hustle online.....not until my mum asked me yesterday "are you not afraid about your life",huoni unawaste time ...i just cried coz that is the least i could ever expect from my mother
I totally understand you and our parents don't know just how much their words cause a lot of pain. You're still very young at 24 and don't stress out too much because stress causes a lot of mental and even physical health problems. It is important to remind yourself that a job doesn't qualify your worth. You are already worthy as you are and you don't have to have all answers about life right now. Its okay to figure it out at your own pace.❤
@@eunicewachira621 there are no jobs. The jobs that are available, pay less than a living wage and you are most likely over qualified for it. The cost of living is on a steady rise. I was living with my father when I first graduated too. Until one day he got drunk and bared his mind about how much of a failure he thinks I am. Called me a liability and all sorts. That was when I summoned the courage to move on. It's been tough, but I do not regret going out on my own. I wish you success Eunice.
You are very young sweetie and being around family is a blessing.Achieve your dreams and when the time is right to leave everything will fall in place.In God's timing and plan.
Although i can't go back to my parents house due to toxicity and abuse , I am about to move to my grandma's, I am broke, psychologically exhausted and the more i am alone more i feel like i am at a risk of spiraling deeper into depression. This video has shown me that i am making thee right decision.
I'm also deep down a village girl from Molo and I'm tired of this hustling life in Nairobi. I can heavily relate to working in a corporate space and being looked down by all my superiors cause they 'manage' us. Nairobi culture is ghetto. I'm so ready to retire on my farm with my dogs and chickens and cows and just do me.
Imagine we are taught to leave independent village lives to be bossed around in the city just because a corporate job is seen as prestigious!! Being woken up by birds chirping, cows mooing and cocks crowing is unmatched. 🥰
I am 26 years old and was honestly having a quarter life crisis due to societal expectations.Thank you for making this video, reading the comments helped me feel better and not alone.
Girl, you are doing great. I am in my 30's and have no decent job, still living with patents too. Want to start a RUclips but I'm so scared. Your video is a motivation. Go shine queen.
Watching this and planning to go home after starting over so many times😂. First born, 27. I hoped to have built them a good house by then but life. I am finally making peace with progress being any good sign and not what social media shows.
Please can we talk about the pressure of building a house 😭...i'm currently editing my next video about the first born experience. We all need to be kinder, compassionate and forgiving to ourselves ❤
Congratulations, for you are among the few in our midst who get to truly live life as it should be driven not by societal dictates but on your terms wholesome thoughtful fulfilled life may your journey n quest be filled with joy and enlightenment
You're perfectly fine.. If every child builds a house who's gona live in our ancestral homes??ghosts??please dont leave your parents house,stay there..its beautiful &safe there
Well, you have an amazing voice and yes, you are NOT a failure. Actually, you are doing yourself good, keeping away from societal fit-ins. Keep inspiring The nderema part... I like
Merci pour le partage. Really reflects the situation most people are actually in. Anyway I am willing to edit for you coz I see your potentiel✨. Bon courage !
Interesting. The ideas articulated in your videos are quite interesting if not revolutionary. As a 34 year old family man who sometimes feels left behind, I understand you.
When I was 28 I was living with my mom although I was working I only moved out because I got married . So there is nothing wrong living with your parents.when the time is right you ll certainly move out
I am a 30yr old man with a neck beard! Live with mom coz the compound is too big for her and I'm the only child shes got so I decided to move from the city and work from home, plus the countryside is soo therapeutic... I careless about the naysayers really
Its always a good idea to customize one's life based on the specific circumstances in our surroundings ... Culture is just a guideline ... It's not set in stone. Am people adapting is part of the formation of culture ad time moves. We don't know what the culture will look like 100yrs from today ... Maybe you way will be THE way.
How dare you surf your parent's couch... like me. Why work yourself to the bone when you can live comfortably at home and help around and use the other time for intellectual among other pursuits?
Guurlll, love this for you! I too yearn for the farm life and I'm slowly saving up to transition out of corporate. My first act of resistance was to transfer from nairobi 2 yrs ago to work in gićagi, one of the best decisions I've made in my late 20s. Truly hoping life continues to align for you. Ps read the poem 'laughing heart' by Charles Bukowski Pps your ushago literally looks exactly like mine 🙆🏾♀️.
🥂to writing our own stories and thank you for the poem rec. I’m going to memorize it because it is iconic. Seems all our shags look the same. Imagine creating a Hallmark type of romantic movie featuring the Kenyan countryside. Phenomenal. 😂💃🏽
@@Jepisms it truly is iconic, it has been and continues to be my lifeline when the going gets tough. And yes to the movie! Better yet one for the queers where there's an actual happy ending 😂😭
Same age, still living in my parents house. I had hoped to move out by now, but I don't have a stable job yet. Good thing is my mom doesn't want me to move out. She already lost a daughter who was living abroad and that terrified her. I guess huku nitatoka kama nimeolewa. Majaliwa.
Humanity has progressed far more than any other species mainly through the wisdom of crowds. We are a social species and curate our wisdom through culture. Culture is the wisdom of crowds. There could be exceptions but generally that’s the rule. This wisdom is often captured in the beautiful phrase “I am because you are.”
I'm 27 with a four year old son. We moved back home to live with my mom. I work part-time and provide for the three of us. Living alone i couldn't afford the freedom and quality time. If you have the opportunity to live rent free.. Take it!
@@sherriekibugi in the eyes of society I am a failure but the goal of course is to not care about societal expectations and do what feels right individually 🥰
Unfortunately, some of us don't have a place to call home, or there is, but there is no peace at all. Something else: you might have a home, but the situation there is wanting, implying that returning there and being the last hope would break their hearts. Speaking on behalf of men, going back home is never the best idea, as long as you are healthy. Remember, there's an age when you will never associate yourself with family background because you, yourself, will have become the background; there will be no excuses, and you will live in guilt as a failure. For all men, keep the wheel rolling; don't look at the inheritance at all. Avoid comfort zones. Thank you
This kind of pressure for men to have everything figured out is the cause of the rising mental health issues and its worse because they have been taught not to seek help because it is seen as being weak. Men should be allowed to be failures because failure is part and parcel of life. Yes, a lot of people don't have a place to call home because they are not welcomed unless they have 'achieved' something and this mentality needs to change because it promotes the idea of "better a dead successful child than a 'useless' living child"
Problem also others when u get a good man you misuse them thinking you will get another one get money stay urself also ladies u can make ur home becoz we are going school same level en we work both genders same opportunities
The industry is there, talent is there, funding is the problem, a collective culture that doesn't embrace art (especially when you have to pay for it) is the problem
I really want to understand why parents give birth to children only to want them to be ‘gone‘ at a certain age. I think this is a form of cruelty normalized in societies. 💔
There is no justification whatsoever of being a dependent adult. This is the same logic that gay/trans people use, opposing and ideology yet it is the same reason why they exist. You are dependent because your parents are independent and while you can live in the same house with them you should strive to contribute rather than take....add more to what they have already established. if its a house build another, if its land buy more...expand the family wealth...there is no fault in living with your folk and actually that's how life is supposed to be but you need to be there as a contributor not a taker once you have fully developed physically. Remember the only reason you were not pushed to be a contributor in your early life is because your brain and body hadn't developed fully and you needed time to learn and be competent. But past 18-20 your are more than qualified to contribute One reality that most older youth dependent on their parents fail to admit is that they take more than they can give and deep down they are or will eventually be a burden to the family(even though no one can tell them straight to their face)...so as a person between the age of 20-35, always set a goal of being a contributor. stay with your parents and take good care of them and multiply their wealth.
Can't relate to this because as a firstborn daughter, i have always been a giver. In fact, all my accomplishments were for the sole purpose of making my parents and family proud. The problem is that contribution is only deemed worthy when its financial or quantitative and yet there are so many qualitative contributions that children make to their parents that's not counted. and of course this is because of the capitalist societies we have evolved to become. Its myopic to assume that people between 20-35 should be dependent when in a country like Kenya, its the demographic that is paralysed by policies that prevent them from starting anything especially when they don't come from financially privileged families.
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@@Jepisms Good for you for being a giver! However, as an influencer, it's important to understand that many of your audience members, who are in similar situations, may lean more towards taking than giving. Contribution isn't only valuable when it's quantitative, but the reality is that we rely on tangible resources to survive. Kindness and humility are admirable traits, but they don't put food on the table. Life can be boiled down to a simple cycle: seek, find, feed, and repeat. If you're not contributing to this cycle, you may not be seen as worthy. Furthermore, the common narrative among some Africans of attributing low status to a lack of privilege or poor governance is becoming less tenable. We've been an independent country for 61 years-three generations In The Modern World and post WW2 for God's sake. If you include the pre-colonial period, perhaps another 1000 more. We have had more than enough time to build formidable societies but we've failed. Privilege isn't given; it's earned, whether ethically or unethically. No civilization in the world has been gifted privilege-they've all earned it. Even the Israelites, God's chosen people, had to earn their place. Ironically, Africa has historically had some of the best conditions for thriving: great weather, relatively fewer instances of major wars, a wealth of resources and minerals, and favorable geography. The lack of privilege is a result of our own actions-or inactions. We lack good leaders because we choose bad leaders. Ultimately, we have only ourselves to blame. While I may have strayed from the main topic, my point remains: there's no justification for being a dependent adult. Let's all strive to take action. If you're over 20 and not contributing financially to your family, you're not aiding the survival of your lineage and are, instead, becoming a burden. The only adults exempted from this are pregnant women, mothers raising infants & preadolescent kids, and convalescents. Get out there and do something, lets all reject comfort.
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@@Jepisms From 2:02 - 2:20: It's not insanity; remember, we are an evolving species. We try various approaches to a problem and eventually choose the one that works best. While abandoning your family and starting a new life is not the ideal approach (and I fully agree with you on this), it's important to live closer to opportunities which are mostly found in urban areas and our parents being in the village doesn't help us much now does it? No one is trained solely to be an obedient worker. We go through school to gain as much knowledge and as many skills as possible, and then we are free to apply what we've learned wherever we choose-whether through employment or starting our own ventures. No one forces us into a particular path. Moreover, people often complain about the modern world and its issues, but I challenge you to point to a specific year or period in history you'd prefer to live in. You'll quickly realize that, while things may seem bad now, they've often been worse in the past. The best time to live is now. We just don't pay enough attention to history to understand how messed up things have always been. Modernity, technology, advanced medicine, access to a wide variety of resources, the lack of major wars, and the ability to travel anywhere anytime-all of these are possible because of education and so-called 'obedient workers'. Actually, these workers are the reason why we are here on RUclips sharing our thoughts and connecting with each other. Duty often requires sacrifice, and we are all called upon to serve in our own ways. While some may receive more than they deserve, we are gradually working to improve or evolve beyond the current capitalist model. At the moment, capitalism has been effective, especially for Kenya. We are ahead of our East African neighbors, despite lacking natural resources, thanks to capitalism and our hardworking people (Educated and Trained Obedient Workers). Any Kenyan youth who reads this understand that living in your parents house most likely means you are living in the village and that limits you from having access to a lot of opportunities. Plenty of opportunities are in urban areas, unless your work can be done remotely then you are free to live anywhere, but for the young ones lets not purpose to live under our parents roof, strive to relocate to urban areas, at first you won't be able to afford buying a house thus start off by renting ata kama ni single room and build on from there. Life is a burden by itself and to tackle it it requires a period of sacrifice and pain. its inevitable. You need to start from somewhere especially if you are not privileged and the more unprivileged you are the more you will have to suffer. But it's all for a good cause. Suffer in this decade, be smart enough and make gradual progress to ensure the next decade finds you in a better situation. But all of us resorting to staying with our parents in the village to avoid living like dogs, then we limit ourselves to progress and the African narrative continues.
Sasa wewe unashtuka nini there nothing wrong with living with your parents social contruction modernity has made us belive vitu zingine ,your doing fine ushtuke
I wish I could go back home, I'm 29, and I lost my Mother, Aunt, and Father last year, and Its horrible, count your blessings and cherish your family!
Your welcome to our home any time
You are still young, I am 33 years living with my mum. I am also the first born daughter. If they hate, let them hate. I am living my life helping my mother because once I move out, my mother will be alone.
I’m in that phase where everyone is avoiding me because they are scared to tell me to leave outrightly 😂 but they do and say suspicious things.
Are we siblings… same same
And I’m happy,content and in peace.
About to be 33,yes I have been home.. recently lost mum.
@@adelinebitok9860 ❤❤
I love how young people aren't following "life scripts " we 40 plus " were accustomed to. More power to you young people.
37..living in my parents house.. Trust me you're good. Take your time.. Don't rush
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No shame at all you guys everything too expensive out here
8:33,.."The biggest marker of success as a parent is when your children want to come back home." So true
If they don't chase you, my dear do not leave. Even if they do, tell them to also go to their Parents house you are in yours.
😂😂It's crazy
Haha
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I’m back in my father’s house for a reset at 30 years of age.
Married for 5years with 2kids. As a young mom that want to find fulfillment in motherhood, ‘wife hood’ and ‘me hood’, home is the place I run to when overwhelmed.
I am 24yrs old living in my mothers house ,studied mechanical engineering but no job yet but trying to hustle online.....not until my mum asked me yesterday "are you not afraid about your life",huoni unawaste time ...i just cried coz that is the least i could ever expect from my mother
I totally understand you and our parents don't know just how much their words cause a lot of pain. You're still very young at 24 and don't stress out too much because stress causes a lot of mental and even physical health problems.
It is important to remind yourself that a job doesn't qualify your worth. You are already worthy as you are and you don't have to have all answers about life right now. Its okay to figure it out at your own pace.❤
Sorry about that my dear, stay strong, you will make it
@@Jepisms thenk you 🙏
@@antheaanderson7074 thenks dear
@@eunicewachira621 there are no jobs. The jobs that are available, pay less than a living wage and you are most likely over qualified for it. The cost of living is on a steady rise.
I was living with my father when I first graduated too. Until one day he got drunk and bared his mind about how much of a failure he thinks I am. Called me a liability and all sorts. That was when I summoned the courage to move on. It's been tough, but I do not regret going out on my own. I wish you success Eunice.
You are very young sweetie and being around family is a blessing.Achieve your dreams and when the time is right to leave everything will fall in place.In God's timing and plan.
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At least now I can feel better, I'm 39 years old, and having my own tiny house built in my parent's back yard, single with no dependents
Wow that sounds like a dream 🥰
True sounds like my dream life hope one day it will come true
Wooow I love how you articulate your words ❤❤❤❤ I'm 25 and i won't subscribe to any life script..i am the authors of my book which is my life..
Your voice can make you money actually. This is great. The voice over especially.
Thank you Jebet 😊
Yea, she has a nice voice
Although i can't go back to my parents house due to toxicity and abuse , I am about to move to my grandma's, I am broke, psychologically exhausted and the more i am alone more i feel like i am at a risk of spiraling deeper into depression. This video has shown me that i am making thee right decision.
Always remember that there are so many others who are going through the same. Don’t be too hard on yourself ♥️
I'm also deep down a village girl from Molo and I'm tired of this hustling life in Nairobi. I can heavily relate to working in a corporate space and being looked down by all my superiors cause they 'manage' us. Nairobi culture is ghetto. I'm so ready to retire on my farm with my dogs and chickens and cows and just do me.
Imagine we are taught to leave independent village lives to be bossed around in the city just because a corporate job is seen as prestigious!!
Being woken up by birds chirping, cows mooing and cocks crowing is unmatched. 🥰
That place looks like my home❤
There’s nothing wrong with living with your parents if you don’t have a job or business. The night you to the world, you are their responsibility.
Am 45 and your words are powerful you are way way ahead of most of us.thank you its spoken to me as a woman and mother
Thank you and I’m glad to know that the words that I write to heal myself have an impact on you as well ♥️
I am 26 years old and was honestly having a quarter life crisis due to societal expectations.Thank you for making this video, reading the comments helped me feel better and not alone.
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Girl same .... Still trying to remind myself to take it easy all the time...
You have earned a subscriber. I love you. And i don't say that lightly. You pulled the thoughts right out of my mind. ❤
Thank you ♥️🥰
I'm 24, first-born daughter, living in my mother's house! I'd love to move out but I'm learning to embrace this phase ❤
Sometimes I wish I had parents to go back to. Make the most out of it dear, some of us wish for that
🎯🎯a lot of people don’t think about how our parents are not here forever 😭
Girl, you are doing great. I am in my 30's and have no decent job, still living with patents too.
Want to start a RUclips but I'm so scared. Your video is a motivation.
Go shine queen.
Start that RUclips. Do it scared ♥️♥️
you're not a failure, I'm 67 and I am still living in my parents house.
My goodness. Why?
@@rachelwagema2285 Where am I supposed to go?
The fact that there alive at 67 means your company is meant to be there with them. It’s special. Wish you the best
Don't let people dictate your life for you.
I don’t let them that’s why I am sharing my experiences while asking questions that challenge the status quo
I think it takes courage to choose the life you desire. Society puts a lot of weight on us and we have a lot to unlearn. I admire people like you.
Thank you. It’s crazy how society celebrates when people are unhappy
You're not a failure @Jepisms🤗❤ Keep doing you and continue living your life unapologetically😍
@@dr.gladysngetich thank you 🥰
Beautiful countryside.I wish many people knew how peaceful it is to live in the countryside.
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Watching this and planning to go home after starting over so many times😂. First born, 27. I hoped to have built them a good house by then but life. I am finally making peace with progress being any good sign and not what social media shows.
Please can we talk about the pressure of building a house 😭...i'm currently editing my next video about the first born experience. We all need to be kinder, compassionate and forgiving to ourselves ❤
Congratulations, for you are among the few in our midst who get to truly live life as it should be driven not by societal dictates but on your terms wholesome thoughtful fulfilled life may your journey n quest be filled with joy and enlightenment
Thank you 🥰
Damn do you realize you are automatically a voice over artist!!🤔🤔🔥🔥
🥰🥰thank you
You're perfectly fine..
If every child builds a house who's gona live in our ancestral homes??ghosts??please dont leave your parents house,stay there..its beautiful &safe there
Thank you and you are right, we need to appreciate the homes that our parents have worked so hard to build. 🥰
Well, you have an amazing voice and yes, you are NOT a failure. Actually, you are doing yourself good, keeping away from societal fit-ins. Keep inspiring
The nderema part... I like
Thank you 😊
I love your accent and personality
Thank you Tabitha 🥰
Keep your head up it gets tuff on all of us nobodys perfect i understand how it is going threw the struggle ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Im just discovering your channel❤love it
Thank you and welcome here 🥂
Merci pour le partage. Really reflects the situation most people are actually in. Anyway I am willing to edit for you coz I see your potentiel✨. Bon courage !
Interesting. The ideas articulated in your videos are quite interesting if not revolutionary. As a 34 year old family man who sometimes feels left behind, I understand you.
Wow this is speaking to me, from Australia, see you soon kiambu ❤️
Found you in here too 🥹😭 Love that we are age mates too and I too live at home 🙈
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If you have supportive parents and they haven’t chased you consider yourself lucky . This world is tough . Move when you are ready
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When I was 28 I was living with my mom although I was working I only moved out because I got married . So there is nothing wrong living with your parents.when the time is right you ll certainly move out
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When I was your age, rents were $400/month for a room in a 4 bedroom house in Pacific Palisades or Malibu. Rent is just way way too high now.
Wow…that is difficult to visualize and to think that was just a few years ago 😳
At 27yrs your still young. Enjoy yur time in the village, so beautiful.
@@Lulu-po3kn thank you 😊
@6:03 ..... Immediately subscribed! You're the sage of our times!
Thank you Joseph 🥰
I am a 30yr old man with a neck beard! Live with mom coz the compound is too big for her and I'm the only child shes got so I decided to move from the city and work from home, plus the countryside is soo therapeutic... I careless about the naysayers really
I am turning 30 and still living under my parents roof.... Independence is overrated
Doing what at parents space please go out en try life at ur age u are supposed to stay by urself that is when u will get somebody
You got yourself a subscriber
Thank you 😊
The Birds are healthy and beautiful ❤
♥️merci
When the time is right, The Lord will make it happen. His timing is the Best.
But also everything is right as it is. Sometimes we need to appreciate where we are instead of waiting for ‘better’ elsewhere.
The best thing I have seen on the internet in a while.
♥️♥️thank you
Its always a good idea to customize one's life based on the specific circumstances in our surroundings ...
Culture is just a guideline ... It's not set in stone. Am people adapting is part of the formation of culture ad time moves.
We don't know what the culture will look like 100yrs from today ... Maybe you way will be THE way.
Well put 💯
How dare you surf your parent's couch... like me. Why work yourself to the bone when you can live comfortably at home and help around and use the other time for intellectual among other pursuits?
IKR…😂. I don’t know about them but being in survival mode unnecessarily is not my cup of tea
I want to be like you but my toxic mxm...😂😂😂😂😂she will burn me out before i burn out!
😂😂i don’t want to laugh but you put it in a funny way.
Guurlll, love this for you! I too yearn for the farm life and I'm slowly saving up to transition out of corporate. My first act of resistance was to transfer from nairobi 2 yrs ago to work in gićagi, one of the best decisions I've made in my late 20s. Truly hoping life continues to align for you. Ps read the poem 'laughing heart' by Charles Bukowski
Pps your ushago literally looks exactly like mine 🙆🏾♀️.
🥂to writing our own stories and thank you for the poem rec. I’m going to memorize it because it is iconic.
Seems all our shags look the same. Imagine creating a Hallmark type of romantic movie featuring the Kenyan countryside. Phenomenal. 😂💃🏽
@@Jepisms it truly is iconic, it has been and continues to be my lifeline when the going gets tough.
And yes to the movie! Better yet one for the queers where there's an actual happy ending 😂😭
You speak French so beautifully! Great video❤️ New sub😊
Thank you 😊
She has a great voice.
Same age, still living in my parents house. I had hoped to move out by now, but I don't have a stable job yet. Good thing is my mom doesn't want me to move out. She already lost a daughter who was living abroad and that terrified her. I guess huku nitatoka kama nimeolewa. Majaliwa.
Enjoyed every bit of this ❤❤❤❤
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I love being at my parents home. I love taking care of them.
There is no life at home without kids.
This is very true. It’s very lonely for them when everyone is gone 😭
There is wisdom in crowds.
Not really...lots of crowds are very misleading actually
Humanity has progressed far more than any other species mainly through the wisdom of crowds. We are a social species and curate our wisdom through culture. Culture is the wisdom of crowds. There could be exceptions but generally that’s the rule. This wisdom is often captured in the beautiful phrase “I am because you are.”
I'm 27 with a four year old son. We moved back home to live with my mom. I work part-time and provide for the three of us. Living alone i couldn't afford the freedom and quality time.
If you have the opportunity to live rent free.. Take it!
The kittens r so cute🥹🥹
Your voice❤and the story
Saluuuuuuuuuuute!!!! Excellency, your eloquence!😅
Heyy love
I dont think that makes you a failure..everyone has their own time
@@sherriekibugi in the eyes of society I am a failure but the goal of course is to not care about societal expectations and do what feels right individually 🥰
Subscribed instantly❤️
♥️♥️you’re welcome here
33yrs man here... With a different story close to yours Si kuja nikutaftie nyumba...Tutafute nyumba tuanze maisha pamoja... Uko wapi
😂😂niko sawa nyumbani, thanks
@@Jepisms 😂😂😂😂poa
Almost 26 with 2kids living in my parents house
In this economy it is a must 💃🏽
I'm enjoying this surprisingly
Why surprisingly? 😃
Ton français est très bien. Keep going you it sounds really nice 😊
Merci! 🥰
Literally I’m you right now. Exact position and similar age.
Just fell in love with your content. Newest subscriber. On a light note, I an 'he' though😊
Unfortunately, some of us don't have a place to call home, or there is, but there is no peace at all. Something else: you might have a home, but the situation there is wanting, implying that returning there and being the last hope would break their hearts. Speaking on behalf of men, going back home is never the best idea, as long as you are healthy. Remember, there's an age when you will never associate yourself with family background because you, yourself, will have become the background; there will be no excuses, and you will live in guilt as a failure. For all men, keep the wheel rolling; don't look at the inheritance at all. Avoid comfort zones. Thank you
This kind of pressure for men to have everything figured out is the cause of the rising mental health issues and its worse because they have been taught not to seek help because it is seen as being weak.
Men should be allowed to be failures because failure is part and parcel of life.
Yes, a lot of people don't have a place to call home because they are not welcomed unless they have 'achieved' something and this mentality needs to change because it promotes the idea of "better a dead successful child than a 'useless' living child"
Problem also others when u get a good man you misuse them thinking you will get another one get money stay urself also ladies u can make ur home becoz we are going school same level en we work both genders same opportunities
why the need to center men in all conversations 😫
New to the channel, from Kenya Kericho
Welcome here 😊
You're so eloquent. And the fact that you speak in soundbites is 🤌. Subscribed!
Thank you Tracey 🥰
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I like everything about this video. This looks like Keiyo home
Thank you. It certainly is and it’s great that our cultures can shine through without explanation 🥰
That voice is your wealth please do something and count on us
Thank you
Great narration
Thank you 😊
The intro 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥subscribed direct
♥️♥️thank you and welcome here
The part of the video where you spoke French was funny. I am French speaking but I speak English.
Uko tu sawa mami❤
Ahsante 🥰
new subscriber❤
You’re welcome ♥️♥️
Always do you ,the rest are noises😊
Absolutely 😊
we seriously need to think of how we can establish a serious theatre industry in Kenya,,,,,,,,,
The industry is there, talent is there, funding is the problem, a collective culture that doesn't embrace art (especially when you have to pay for it) is the problem
We are sailing in the same boat
31 still living with my mum with no job
Get a whole course on parenting and get a permit 😂😂... you're funny girl
Love that am thinking of going back to kiambu my home and start rearing dacks nairobi is not that good
Im 26 no degree no child and living at home with my mother, she complains about me a alot , so i guess it's time to move out
I really want to understand why parents give birth to children only to want them to be ‘gone‘ at a certain age. I think this is a form of cruelty normalized in societies. 💔
@@Jepisms Twenty first century I guess
Wow your voice is gorgeous
Thank you 🥰
Nice & green.
Thank you for watching
There is no justification whatsoever of being a dependent adult. This is the same logic that gay/trans people use, opposing and ideology yet it is the same reason why they exist. You are dependent because your parents are independent and while you can live in the same house with them you should strive to contribute rather than take....add more to what they have already established. if its a house build another, if its land buy more...expand the family wealth...there is no fault in living with your folk and actually that's how life is supposed to be but you need to be there as a contributor not a taker once you have fully developed physically. Remember the only reason you were not pushed to be a contributor in your early life is because your brain and body hadn't developed fully and you needed time to learn and be competent. But past 18-20 your are more than qualified to contribute
One reality that most older youth dependent on their parents fail to admit is that they take more than they can give and deep down they are or will eventually be a burden to the family(even though no one can tell them straight to their face)...so as a person between the age of 20-35, always set a goal of being a contributor. stay with your parents and take good care of them and multiply their wealth.
Can't relate to this because as a firstborn daughter, i have always been a giver. In fact, all my accomplishments were for the sole purpose of making my parents and family proud.
The problem is that contribution is only deemed worthy when its financial or quantitative and yet there are so many qualitative contributions that children make to their parents that's not counted. and of course this is because of the capitalist societies we have evolved to become.
Its myopic to assume that people between 20-35 should be dependent when in a country like Kenya, its the demographic that is paralysed by policies that prevent them from starting anything especially when they don't come from financially privileged families.
@@Jepisms
Good for you for being a giver! However, as an influencer, it's important to understand that many of your audience members, who are in similar situations, may lean more towards taking than giving.
Contribution isn't only valuable when it's quantitative, but the reality is that we rely on tangible resources to survive. Kindness and humility are admirable traits, but they don't put food on the table. Life can be boiled down to a simple cycle: seek, find, feed, and repeat. If you're not contributing to this cycle, you may not be seen as worthy.
Furthermore, the common narrative among some Africans of attributing low status to a lack of privilege or poor governance is becoming less tenable. We've been an independent country for 61 years-three generations In The Modern World and post WW2 for God's sake. If you include the pre-colonial period, perhaps another 1000 more. We have had more than enough time to build formidable societies but we've failed. Privilege isn't given; it's earned, whether ethically or unethically. No civilization in the world has been gifted privilege-they've all earned it. Even the Israelites, God's chosen people, had to earn their place.
Ironically, Africa has historically had some of the best conditions for thriving: great weather, relatively fewer instances of major wars, a wealth of resources and minerals, and favorable geography. The lack of privilege is a result of our own actions-or inactions. We lack good leaders because we choose bad leaders. Ultimately, we have only ourselves to blame.
While I may have strayed from the main topic, my point remains: there's no justification for being a dependent adult. Let's all strive to take action. If you're over 20 and not contributing financially to your family, you're not aiding the survival of your lineage and are, instead, becoming a burden. The only adults exempted from this are pregnant women, mothers raising infants & preadolescent kids, and convalescents. Get out there and do something, lets all reject comfort.
@@Jepisms
From 2:02 - 2:20:
It's not insanity; remember, we are an evolving species. We try various approaches to a problem and eventually choose the one that works best. While abandoning your family and starting a new life is not the ideal approach (and I fully agree with you on this), it's important to live closer to opportunities which are mostly found in urban areas and our parents being in the village doesn't help us much now does it?
No one is trained solely to be an obedient worker. We go through school to gain as much knowledge and as many skills as possible, and then we are free to apply what we've learned wherever we choose-whether through employment or starting our own ventures. No one forces us into a particular path.
Moreover, people often complain about the modern world and its issues, but I challenge you to point to a specific year or period in history you'd prefer to live in. You'll quickly realize that, while things may seem bad now, they've often been worse in the past. The best time to live is now. We just don't pay enough attention to history to understand how messed up things have always been.
Modernity, technology, advanced medicine, access to a wide variety of resources, the lack of major wars, and the ability to travel anywhere anytime-all of these are possible because of education and so-called 'obedient workers'. Actually, these workers are the reason why we are here on RUclips sharing our thoughts and connecting with each other. Duty often requires sacrifice, and we are all called upon to serve in our own ways. While some may receive more than they deserve, we are gradually working to improve or evolve beyond the current capitalist model. At the moment, capitalism has been effective, especially for Kenya. We are ahead of our East African neighbors, despite lacking natural resources, thanks to capitalism and our hardworking people (Educated and Trained Obedient Workers).
Any Kenyan youth who reads this understand that living in your parents house most likely means you are living in the village and that limits you from having access to a lot of opportunities. Plenty of opportunities are in urban areas, unless your work can be done remotely then you are free to live anywhere, but for the young ones lets not purpose to live under our parents roof, strive to relocate to urban areas, at first you won't be able to afford buying a house thus start off by renting ata kama ni single room and build on from there. Life is a burden by itself and to tackle it it requires a period of sacrifice and pain. its inevitable. You need to start from somewhere especially if you are not privileged and the more unprivileged you are the more you will have to suffer. But it's all for a good cause. Suffer in this decade, be smart enough and make gradual progress to ensure the next decade finds you in a better situation. But all of us resorting to staying with our parents in the village to avoid living like dogs, then we limit ourselves to progress and the African narrative continues.
Your voice can be used for narrations ❤
Your voice!
Don't bother about it am 26 and i feel like am still a baby
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Totally agree, parenting should be taught, I will make sure to teach my daughter. This cycle of going blindly into situations should stop with us
your voice damn ❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥❤🔥
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Sasa wewe unashtuka nini there nothing wrong with living with your parents social contruction modernity has made us belive vitu zingine ,your doing fine ushtuke
its an observation not a shock. I'm a firstborn nothing surprises me.
Hey! Jai repensé à toi et ta chaîne récemment. J’aime bien tes vidéos. Portes toi bien and enjoy life!
Bonjour Moe, merci bcp. 🥰
sweet tigoni sweet home
I should visit Tigoni sometime since it has the same vibe as my village