WHY WOMEN DON'T RESPECT YOU ..
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A woman loves a leader not a bully and definitely not a passive-aggressive man.
Exactly
Nobody likes a bully or passive aggressive person. Men are not cut out for leadership!
This is the comment that needs to be read several times! There IS a difference!
That part.
#Facts
My grandmother Always said, the bind can't lead the blind! It's hard for me to follow my husband if he has no idea of where he's going,and I can't follow you if I can't trust you ! If you lie to me,and keep secrets,you've already lost my respect !
Hhhhhhmmmm... THIIIIIIIIIIIIIIISSS!
I'm dealing with that now. Please keep us in prayer.
Ya, but women gots to be willing to follow! Lots of women be like the Israelites enroute to the promised land, complaining about this and that and no leeks!
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I love this show
One thing I don't have respect for is a cheater and a liar
During the dating phase, i may give a guy a few chances . if he continues to NOT keep his word i’m blocking him before the disrespect starts. Men don’t understand that women begin to lose interest, he becomes unattractive and she starts to lose respect
EXACTLY!!
THIIIIIIIIIIIIIIS!
A few chances are too many. I cut this guy off the FIRST time he disrespected me. He kept trying hard to get me back, but I didn't give in. I'm one and done.
You both hit the mail on the head. Give me a reason to want to follow your lead. Don’t be mad when I don’t want to sink on the ship with you!
All a man has to do is stand on his word... The key word he said was INTEGRITY❤
Women need to feel protected, safe, and in our element when we assist. We want to be led by a strong leader, but he must have a plan and vision and know how to execute.
"A man is a man of his word; a woman is an oracle." Read between the lines! I've been saying that since I was 17 and now I'm 42. THANK YOU FOR TELLING THEM.❤
My former stupid self stayed with a man that didn’t pay any bills, smoked and play video games every night, and wouldn’t marry me for over ten years. So I started disrespecting him towards the end and eventually left him. Now I know how foolish I was for staying so long and being taken advantage of.
We were in the same boat
I'm glad you're out 💪🏾
We live & we learn from our mistakes, Sis. He doesn't sound like a man who is marriage-worthy. You dodged a bullet. Now you can put time & energy into improving yourself so that you will attract a respectable partner who will do right by you.
@@shespeaks702I was just gonna say the same thing. We allow them to use us, until we don't.
omg same boat girly and wasted 2yrs smh 🤦🏾♀️
Tysean is on it!! If she's complaining and trying to argue ... you tell her come here baby and ease her doubts... kindness and strength!!! And get on your shit!!!
Praying that men and women know and understand their roles in a marriage so that the partnership will work 🙏🏽
Amen!!
BE A LEADER BUT ALSO TRUST A WOMAN'S GUIDANCE AS YOUR HELPMATE
when he said she don’t respect you because you are not a man of your word. I felt that and it’s so true. Small things like babe. i’m gonna call you when i get there, let’s get lunch and never shows up or call.
Yeeeeeeeeeep!
There tends to be a lot of “a woman this”, and “a man that”. There are so many different kinds of women and men who all prefer different things. I think you all make things a little too tactical-like it’s a chore and is unnatural. I’ve always found that getting to know someone comes with ease, just being yourself and paying attention. If the person isn’t for you, walk away. If they are, bumps and bruisers are part of the experience. Just handle things with care and compromise.
All human beings have the same basic needs and concerns. Men and women are supposed to be a team. A guest in your show already spoke on this but in the Bible part of the curse was that enmity would be put between man and woman.
Doubt is a mental state that sometimes arises for one another in both parties, and is not always disrespect. It’s a human thing.
We have to stop the division-all the finger pointing and picking each other apart. It’s time for us to seethe beauty in our union.
Agree! We can't choose our family but we can choose our life partner, so choose wisely
The MEN!…Who Really Should LISTEN 2 This Podcast!… Wont Even Go Here!!!
A leader who is confident, not intimidated with a woman who wants to help him be the best he can be. I did everything I could to be a safe place. I enrolled him in school so we could take classes and improve together but he didn’t follow through, then started messing around with someone else and could have graduated with me but instead felt intimidated and left with someone else
The :"I enrolled him in school so that we could take classes and improve together" is a clue.
Great topic Ryan and Tysean! Thanks for sharing. Although, I’ll add that “people” in general, like to be incentivized… not just women. I’d even go so far to say that men (more than women) love being incentivized.
Ryan, I am a 50-year-old woman. I will be 51 in May 2024. I am responding to the comment when you said women just want to be mad no we don’t want to just be mad we want to be heard and our feelings to be respected when we are communicating that something is bothering us. We want man to take our thoughts seriously. If men do this there will be less problems in a relationship. It’s almost like as a woman we have to get upset and get mad and throw tantrumin order for MAN to take a simple thing that we are expressing seriously
I have direction, I need a leader that has direction too. I can’t stand a man that waist time or don’t know what the hell he is doing or where he is going. You can’t lead me and don’t know what the mission is.
Hhhhhhmmmm... THIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIISSS! A man who doesn't know what he wants or where he's going but expects you to follow his lead because you're a man. But where are you leading us to?
Exactly, I’m not lost lol also I Mac single mom and you need to know here you leading me Ms my child. I’m not letting “No Man” lead me and my daughter into devastation because of his damn ego.
I love how accurate the reasons were. Thank you guys for what you're doing and not being biased and taking into account what can actually make a woman disrespect a man vs. bashing a woman/man like most of the relationship channels that are out right now. A man not keeping his words, his toxic behaviors towards me, being a yes man, always looking to me for all of the answers, and a man who can't accomplish or finish what he started really hits home for me. It made me feel like I couldn't trust his judgement and that I had to be the leader throughout most of the relationship. Men sometimes thinks the reason is because she's cheating and that isn't the case all of the time. Its often about what smaller things that have gone unnoticed or she's tried to communicate it to her man and nothing has changed.
THIIIIIIIIIIIISSSSSS!
I was In a relationship just like that-no follow through. He has not to this date, received the proper certification. He is retired and have been working on this for 7 years! I was going to have his business set up with connections I had in finance as well as an established, credible customer base. However, he chose to pursue other women at 63 years of age. In two years, he’s lost money, wild sex and assaulted by scandalous, but beautiful, very young women. (They found out he really didn’t have any money.) Has he learned any lessons? ABSOLUTELY NOT! Well, I’ve moved on and found someone else far more worthy of my time and that appreciates my efforts.
GREAT PODCAST! Plan to join this week! Keep up the good work!! The younger you learn these hard lessons, the better you’ll be. You will not learn at 65 years of age-by then, it’s a wrap.
This was the best version of Ryan I have seen so far. What a come back in emotional balance my brother. Now I must show this to my 18 year old sons.
SHOW IDEAS FOR NO GUEST EPISODES
1. A discussion about exactly what type of woman and relationship each of you desire:
•Age, race/ethnicity, personality
•Do you still think women shouldn’t work?
2. Discuss your childhoods past relationships
•Hoe did your childhood affect your views and relationships?
•How long was your longest relationship?
•Do you have any regrets?
•Are there any past women that you’d like another chance with?
3. A breakdown of each show and all the guests.
•Which guests did you like the most?
•Which guest or message resonated most deeply with you?
•Did any guest change your way of thinking?
•Did you strongly disagree with any of the guests stances?
**BONUS (GUEST EPISODES)
Some shows with no professionals-everyday women and men of every type sharing life, dating and marriage experiences.(podcasters, RUclipsrs, working class people)
All great ideas. Just snapshot this💪🏾💪🏾
@nenajay3174 Great suggestions
YYYEEEESSSSS find out what the streets have to say!
Yes invite different people from different cultures . And absolutely can not tolerate a passive aggressive man he is indecisive overly insecure not very inclined to be honest with himself unauthentic and definitely not a yes man more manipulative and a bully selfish proud and useless you can not build with this personality .
Everyone deserves respect.
This has been golden for not just me but many men. I have been working my ass off and asked myself "why tf im going so hard?" then this dropped. Man, this is a gem you have to legit digest. Thank you for everything yall do. I watch most videos, and it's so much game that i have to rewatch. Bless yall
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It's important to distinguish between assertion and arrogance
Excellent topic!! I see our marriage in pieces of it. You did a real good job talking about the subject! Loved it! Proud to see young black men speak up about this and other issues. Takes real maturity and growth in this day and age. Keep up the good work guys!
You Guy's are Dropping some Powerful GEMS Here. Things I Tell my Grandson to help him this Life is Serious Business and if the men listening to you will take Seriously what you are saying they will be Amazing Men moving forward.
There are enough real estate podcasts. You guys have hit a sweet spot and are bringing in some quality content and advisors. Keep up the good work. #iseeyoublackmen
Why do you keep saying "manage"? Women are not projects and procedures or in preschool.
I find it hard to show respect when I'm disrespected.
What I have learn about myself, I have an absolute disgust and distain for a weak man. Even when i try to hide it, it still comes out i how i respond, my tone, even how i look. Im learning go be more patient and show compassion understanding men have feelings and failings too. But if he is weak and stays in that weakness i cant give him the most basic respect. Ive even been told by a coworker that i look disgusted when dealing when the manger who is a man.
i disrespected my ex so bad! long story short he didn’t work for a year we had just moved in together and bills was starting to pile up, i tried to get a second job just to keep up while he sat home everyday “ looking for a job” but eventually after about 6 months i left i couldn’t take it anymore sad part is i still wanted to be with him just didn’t wanna take on all the responsibilities how i was and now we’ve been separated for some months now and it’s like he never came to understand why i lost respect for him and still don’t!
Passive aggressiveness in men comes off cowardly.
Boys you are talking like grown MEN now I'm very proud of y'all 👏💯
If a man wants to be respected, stop picking the fruit that’s in the ground. Climb the ladder leaning in the tree and pick the fruit from the top.
Just became a member. I sent this to my husband and bought the masculine man book you recommended. This live was 100% me. Only critique I have is for the communication one, I wish yall had touched on men who refuse to communicate and shut down. Sent this video to my hubby and will give him the book. Hopefully he will change
I love you my brothers. I’ve seen the growth and emotional maturity skyrocket with time. More wins ahead🔥🔥🔥
Preciate you Nana! LOVE
I just happened on this page and I must say I love what you young men are saying and doing. I'm a 66 year old woman, I can attest you're spreading truth. You're helping your brothers out there, if only they'll listen. Stay blessed!
YOU GUYS ARE EXCELLENT AND A GREAT HELP TO MEN AND WOMEN WHO WANT TO HEAR AND BETTER THEMSELVES! KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK #homeworkdone
Great topic and discussion! A great leader, provider, and protector is exactly what women want and need. Thanks for this discussion.
I loved this. I grew so much respect for this podcast after this 😂 You better tell ‘em with love and wisdom!
If he don't respect himself, why should I respect him ?!
I’m guilty of most of these in my last relationship. 😂😂😂😂
When he kept saying he was gonna get in shape.
This podcast is sooooooooo good! Like you two are really informed and are dropping gems for men! I really hope the ladies and men are taking heed to what y’all are saying
This has to be the best episode of the show so far. I am actually in a place where I needed this episode particularly the concept of purpose and you guys not just define but explained its functionality. Thank you so much for this episode fellas and there is no doubt that God is working on and through you guys. We all can see the growth through the episodes.
I’m just 20 minutes in and everything they’re saying is spot on 👌🏾 thanks for deeply understanding us!
Not gonna lie.. When I first started watching I felt you guys were a little immature, but the mature words spoken tonight changed my mind.. RESPECT 👑. Appreciate you guys.
It’s disappointing that this type of belief and this narrative continues to rear its ugly head even after all the guests come and give such amazing wisdom and context. It’s just immature. It makes some of us not trust and respect the platform. C’mon guys this is disappointing.
What did you find disspointing
I loved the change of pace with just you two. For this particular topic, I purposed to just listen and take in, and not make any value judgements (I think I did ok 😅). Good work!
LEADER! I appreciated this to a high degree! Absolute truth! Thank you!!
Men get emotional let’s stop acting like they don’t. Sounds like when gotta go along to get along to protect a man’s ego aka emotions
Came across this channel on my feed and im glad I clicked on it. You guys are dropping gems in here.
Let’s gooo bro. Please hit that subscribe
@@HardlyInitiated already did, blessings fellas
Thank you gentlemen for healthy conversations. Watching you guys and your guest has truly helped me look at areas in my life and aspire to NOT be one of the people that gets talked about on the show and change behaviors that I see creeping out. Thank you! Thank you!
Thank you, guys, for initiating the conversation to become better individuals.
Not doing everything in your power to provide for your wife and children will cause massive loss of respect
Putting down a comment to commemorate that this is the episode that made me a subbie. Very insightful conversation from young men at that. Very impressive and it gives me hope.👏🏾👍🏾👌🏾🥉
The Trust issue is the Foundation of it all. Young people have a hard time understanding that part.
I was very impressed with both of you. Your delivery was excellent! You have given men and women food for thought. I hope that we would both learn to love and respect each other. Thank you both for such an inspirational, educational and informative message. May your Podcast grow from strength to strength. God bless you.
Masculinity and manhood is so much greater than earnings.
You guys are so on point!
I disrespected my ex, probably initially, when he kept saying he was going to work out and didn’t for years and kept complaining about money but wouldn’t get another job or change jobs. I’m sure there was more but after those types of “not keeping his word” I didn’t much care what he was doing.
Leader but one that knows their worth, and value and is confident enough to lead. I can't submit or follow a man who cannot lead himself much less me. But if he can get around great man with strength for mentorship.
Thank y’all so much
Great episode guys, keep ‘em coming ✊🏽
Great episode!!! You all gave great examples. I love this podcast! Keep it coming.
Thanks Fellas! Iron Sharpening💪🏿
Always appreciate Sterling!!🙏🏾🔥
I definitely needed to hear this conversation. It definitely opened my eyes to a number of things about myself. Thank you!!!
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I find it hard to show respect when I am disrespected.
When you and a man that you love , look at you and call you stupid, keep lying to you is disrespectful.
I learned a few things. Thank you
SHARED EVERYWHERE!!❤❤❤❤❤👍👍👍👍👍
I know I’m late but this is so spot on , and is biggest issue it’s hard to respect a person who can’t lead.
Great show..Love the positivity & info. 💯
You guys were on point with this podcast. In my opinion, I love this one the best.
Authentic, organic
Loving the advice and info 🤟
Leader with Excellence
Ya'll spitting facts!! I have done that before.
Would love to see more one on one episodes. Enjoyed it!😊
All that was missing was a "Welcome to hardly initiated where real men TALK REAL SHIT!!" since we on a throwback vibe
That’s a BIG fact! You a Day 1 if you know that.
I just gotta say that I love you all. You guys are doing an amazing job when I tell you I love to watch your show I am a female truck driver and this is what I watch all day long while I’m doing my routes as y’all show, thank you, thank you thank you thank you you you guys need to start some kind of youth program where you all are mentoring them. So they can learn so much from you guys. Oh my God I really really appreciate you all.
The uber story is wow! Me at my big age didn't even realize how big that small broken promise was. Just wow...
Y'ALL WAS ON ONE ON THIS 🎉🎉🎉🎉
@Hardlyinitiated. Dope show!!! I just subscribed.
I respect both these guys but i have a new level of respect for Tashaun as of today. He has amazing insight into us women ❤
Yes, this is the podcast I can totally agree with and send my full appreciation for. I wish my very willful ex would have truly heard this. Maybe then we would have had a chance. Thank you for this installment of initiation. From Trinidad and Tobago 🇹🇹
Thanks!
Awesome advice, kings
WOW..... You guys get it ...
Great topic. Ive learned a few stuff. So going forward ill know better😊
Dope segment ❤
I love a man that leads. Leader please 👏. If a man doesn't keep his word I lose interest and respect. We are all busy in today's world no excuses.
I like a man whose a good godly leader .. I struggle big time with a passive man who waits for the wife to lead, that’s not Gods intended design
This was excellent
Better late than never: The conversation pulled me in- Thank you GUYS
Can you please invite Pastor Dr. R.A. Vernon, from Cleveland Ohio (my pastor) he is an excellent teacher when it comes to relationships.
I appreciate this podcast. It's refreshing to see young men actually wanting to be a better person.
I'm married and it this podcast has helped me emensly.❤
Every human is dysfunctional. We are working toward health and choosing people whose dysfunction we can tolerate while managing our own.
Great talking points. I am of the mindset that no healthy woman will disrespect a man unless she is operating from her unhealthy self. Health can never produce disrespect. She will communicate her desires and decide to leave if what she wants isn’t happening, but disrespect is always a fruit of dysfunction. Even if that dysfunction is simply a lack of understanding or miscommunication.
I disagree. If a person doesn't do things honorably or isn't respectful, a normal human reaction from anyone would be that in return. A self-controlled person wouldn't perpetuate or retaliate. As you have said, they would simply walk away. But assuming dysfunction in the face of basic human interaction and fragility is worrisome at best.
I would also like to add that based on what you shared, you haven't really taken time to study women by listening to them well enough. That is something I tend to notice a lot from men who speak about how women should or can be. It is a slippery slope since you are not a woman. Safety is denoted by respect and honor. Disrespect isn't always voluntary as it shows up as a reflex when a man isn't that of a respectful or honorable leader. I think we should all work towards being better in that regard, as you mentioned, because we are all flawed and need to be tempered emotionally.
I would also like to add that based on what you shared, you haven't really taken time to study women by listening to them well enough. That is something I tend to notice a lot from men who speak about how women should or can be. It is a slippery slope since you are not a woman. Safety is denoted by respect and honor. Disrespect isn't always voluntary as it shows up as a reflex when a man isn't that of a respectful or honorable leader. I think we should all work towards being better in that regard, as you mentioned, because we are all flawed and need to be tempered emotionally.
@@nikhefe16 Everybody is dysfunctional is truth. The fact that you say the normal response to disrespect is disrespect proves that to be true. A healthy person would not operate that way, but also it is only a healthy person who could “not” retaliate. We are all people working through dysfunction to become healthy, any other belief is a form of self deception. The recognition of dysfunctional and unhealthy traits is what helps us to be truly healthy, but we are born into and trained in dysfunction. It shouldn’t be worrisome, it should be an acknowledgment of your humanity and need for improvement.
@@nikhefe16 My statement is based on the women I’ve studied. My mother, my married sister, my aunts, my grandmothers, even women I’ve dated are examples that prove what I stated. I dated a woman who we disagreed all the time, we misunderstood each other, I said I would do stuff that life prevented me from doing, but that woman is one of my dopest friends to this day because of instead of communicating solely from her feelings, she was willing to listen and Learn to communicate better with me. She NEVER disrespected me even when it was clear she was disappointed and wanted something other than what I was willing to give. Many women trap themselves in their emotions and refuse to see themselves as nothing other than two extremes, “right” or a “victim”. It’s not reality and that is why so many relationships are lost. Thankfully, I have women who are honest about themselves and their failures in relationships around me and also have men around me who at are legitimate leaders and who hold men and women accountable. I’m a man who studies for a living. That’s why anything that is led by extremism is problematic for me.
Can't follow after poor leadership or poor treatment. Especially if you already have kids, id rather follow and listen to myself than listen to a man who isnt fully together.
LEAD ON LEADERS!!!
Preach!!!
There's a lot of things that I didn't know were disrespect