What my Chinese wife misses about China
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- Опубликовано: 21 авг 2024
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Sasha, I am a retired American doctor. I would encourage you to begin studying for the USMLE. You have a great opportunity to do this while raising your young child time wise, and most prep courses are on line.
Soon your child will be a little older, and by them you will have passed the USMLE, and can enter a residency as a reentry back into the practicing world.
There is great need for Chinese speaking medical doctors in California.
Yes! Do that!
Yes,,,,,, Toefl first....
It must be so hard to quantify what your wife has left behind at times. To come from a culture where family is held in such closeness and importance, and then go to a place where all she has is her husband and child. It must be such a jarring transition. She's surely an incredible woman, Winston. You're a very lucky man to have found someone that loves you enough to make such a sacrifice.
Not only has she given up her career and basically her family for him, now she gets to watch her beautiful kid grow up learning to hate her country and culture too! But Winston got his way, so that's good I guess. What a selfish a55hole her husband is.
Se left him recently. China is more important to her.
@@writenamehere0000 I'd love to believe that, but that sounds like a rumor instead of fact.
@@topherno Shut up 50 cent soldier
@@writenamehere0000 50 cent? Spreading lies
Winston you better look after this woman. She's giving up everything for you.
@CallaLily pretty much all the videos he made while he was on china were either positive or neutral about China, he self censored a lot, until he was no longer in danger of being disappeared by Chinese authorities.
@D k Dumbest comment I've seen today, thanks.
Wow comments here are dumb af probably never been in love truly.
@CallaLily Winston is a successful businessman who has run several companies that he started from scratch. He and Sasha were both divorced before they got married, and choosing spouse and child over friends and relatives should always come first. Plus she’ll still be able to visit family and friends and vice versa.
@CallaLily It's not "few more pennies tho", he has 1700 Patreons, which means a minimum of 2100$/month, most likely about 5000$/month just with Patreon.
Then he has the RUclips income, which for a big channel like this should be not less than 5k$/month, then he has a second channel, and his documentaries, and more donations.
Trust me, he makes quite a lot out of youtube, he probably makes about 15k/month or more.
She's adorable. She's so genuine. As an immigrant myself living in Canada I can relate a lot to her.
Not for long...the west will ruin her
I imagine it is hard to go from being a professional to being a mother, but it must be even worse when you don't have friends and family around to complain to.
@@ccvjd3909 some people don't like sitting on there ass.... I'm one of those people... If I'm not working and stay at home for long like in the beginning of the virus lock down I go stir crazy quick.
When the hell did society condition people to start seeing motherhood and housekeeping as the opposite of fulfilling work? Honestly, when people start to diminish the importance of creating and bringing up good and decent human beings we know we are headed towards a dark place as a culture.
@@ccvjd3909 That's kind of snide for someone who obviously doesn't have the perspective. Have you ever been a stay-at-home parent? I doubt they have a nanny, so she and Winston are doing the work themselves. Both my spouse and I agreed that going back to work was less exhausting and less stressful than the day-long process of being on call for a young baby/child, though ultimately less emotionally rewarding. Neither of us us sat on our asses all day long when our kids were young. That happened when we were at work at our desk jobs. And being a stay-at-home often felt very isolating, because all your interactions was with child. I personally think, given that she was told that she couldn't ever have children at all, having a child is quite a gift.
@@ccvjd3909 Yeah, that's long past. Didn't read the comment well enough for time context, did you? Kids are already grown, in college and/or working. Not only do you seem like a troll, you sound like one of those crazy, extremist child-free people that my child-free friends wish did not exist because people like you make things difficult for them. Or, perhaps you are bitter because you got stuck in a situation that you could not get out of, and perhaps you are the bad parent. You are projecting quite a lot here. The fact that you assumed right off the bat that I was the mother/wife when I didn't clarify this at all is telling, too (but just to clarify, I actually am). Did it occur to you that men could also be stay-at-home parents, and it's become far more common these days?
@@ccvjd3909 Um, the stay-at-home dads I knew also felt isolated, too. You have a very narrow and ignorant view of things.
"I didn't guess if you were woman or not, only women complain about things that no sane person would complain about. That is how I knew you were a woman" That's the very definition of guessing.
The story you once told about how you lost hope in finding love in your mid-thirties, only to find your gorgeous wife, still gives me hope.
Thanks mate, yeah don't give up! I thought it was impossible but I've never been happier
@@serpentza I'm glad for the most part you guys are settling in okay and you dont have to hold your opinions. Glad you 2 are safe
Its incredible isn't it
@@bs4427 I know you mean well, but this is a bad idea for the average men. We cannot afford to just sit around and wait for women to somehow gravitate to us. Keep approaching women. Keep taking calculated risks when you see someone you are interested in.
A man must make his own luck. It's our job.
@@serpentza Winston! Plase, which is the music in the end of the video? Absolutely dope! Hope your family is doing well!
Your wife's English has definitely improved after moving to the US as well! Very impressive!
I wonder what it fells like for her being surrounded by so much diversity when she has been with mostly Chinese all her life.
She has had a lot of changes in a short time. My heart goes out to her. Once the country opens up I hope she can find people she connects with.
My wife is also from Guangdong and her sentiments are very similar. Food being the number one, while convenience is the other not far behind. Since I am Chinese and speak Mandarin (but not Cantonese), it is an interesting dynamic in the home life.
这个博主每个视频都黑中国，就为了赚钱，可悲，没了人性了已经
Hey, man. If you and your wife still live away from China all these years later, what do you think now? What do you still miss & what have you changed your mind about? I'm curious to hear!
Later as your daughter gets older and starts school, Sasha may want to look into taking the USMLE exams. My wife is a FMG from China and while she never quite received a good enough score to get licensed, she did pursue medical research and is now an associate professor at a university. Through work and ties with her old medical school classmates in China she has been able to enjoy a life in the US without a sense of isolation in a new country. She has also made some great new friends in the US Chinese community.
Yes. There is now time to better her english to business level. Then go pass equivalencies... Babies are a serious job :)
Good suggestion. Another route is becoming a pharmacist. Almost a third of docs with an overseas degree don’t pass the various step exams of the USMLE on the first try, and it can be worthwhile to get a pharmacist degree instead.
Harry Smith That’s mighty presumptive of you. I won’t get into any argument because I don’t know the family except through videos, but I have a Chinese trained cardiologist in my neighborhood who seems to be doing quite well. There’s no shortage of FMGs who get licensed in the US. I personally know doctors from China, Turkey and India. I’ve not really been so impressed with US doctors lately. I’m from a family of doctors so I think I know a bit about it.
Good advice
What is FMG?
Her English has definitely improved!
Omg your daughter is adorable. Enjoy life Sasha there's no shame in putting a hold on your life to raise a family. It's important! Very important
@beth gold You sound like a blue haired raging, foaming out the mouth feminist.
@@andremccormick2680 a d you're a fool!
@@lauraarcher6996 spoken like a true feminist lol
You don't even know what feminist means judging by your response. And no I am not a feminist . Can you explain what is wrong with being a housewife and mother if that is what a woman wants to be?!!
@@lauraarcher6996 What? I was totally supporting her as a housewife. Go back and read my response closely and put your thinking cap on lol
It's very telling about the quality of driving in China that Sasha considers California drivers friendly 😂. A visiting cousin of mine was also taken aback when I complained about aggressive, inept driving in the Bay Area.
My wife is from Jakarta, Indonesia. It's a hot fucking mess there... same reaction from her when she got here, wow. so organized and respectful... ha. (edit - I'm in LA)
Yes born and raised in California, when I moved out of the state it took me a while to realize I was driving like an A-hole. By and large people are more curtious and friendly out of California, so its not surprising.
Born and raised in CA, specifically Bay Area. The traffic habits have gotten so much more aggressive and unfriendly even compared to my early years in the 80s. So Cal wasn't even all that bad, from what I remember with visiting family there. But I've visited other places in the US, and driven, and it's often congested urban areas that have similar traffic patterns and habits. Even less congested places that have started to get more traffic start affecting people of the region. My brother moved to another state, where traffic was comparatively mild, and he said people were selfish asshole drivers no matter where you go.
But the one time I visited China, decades ago, I was actually rather frightened by the way people were driving, and how people reacted. I'm surprised we didn't see more accidents.
@@mynvision I live in northern Virginia now, and the caliber of driving in the DC metro area is appalling and probably worse than anything I saw in California. There's definitely a lot of aggression and pent-up frustration, probably because the region also has the nation's worst traffic.
@@Brainwashed101 I have a friend who has to commute to DC for her job (she lives in VA), and she says that it's often the most stressful part of her day, dealing with the traffic. She came out here to CA for her job several times, both in my area and in So Cal, and mentioned that it wasn't as bad as compared to what she's had to deal with regularly. Yikes.
She's an Angel, Happy for you! Hope she becomes a doctor in the US. it can be done and will make her happy!
Unfortunately the U.S. does not accept the qualifications from many other countries for GP's. She COULD be on the fast track to be a Nurse though, which still makes far more money than any GP would in China.
@@hubertcumberdale2651 Nurse Practitioner or Physicians Assistant
Dr. qualification in the US is stringent, even for US medical school graduates. Nevertheless, I did see many Indian doctors who were able to pass the examine and practised in America.
@@stevec9669 those Indians often studied at U.S. medical schools that's why.
It is easier to get a license as a nature path doctor, certification is a lot less stringent and many people vastly desire a natural medicine practioner over a cut, stitch and perscribe Dr.
I about died laughing when she said LA drivers are so friendly and nice. It’s so much open space.
Being a housewife may not be glamorous, but it is no less important.
@Forsworn Well now that woman have entered the work force in such numbers jobs that a person (normally a man) could work 40 years ago and support an entire family and buy a decent house is now barely enough to support yourself.
So the mother is now forced to work in many scenarios. No one thinks about that, adding 100's of millions of more people to the workforce (just in the U.S.) instead of them taking care of their children which is a full time job. It floods the job market and lowers wages for everyone.
@You Care Too Much pity Sasha. 中共用了将近一个世纪的时间來教育提升妇女地位，直到今天中国妇女才能在世界抬头，Sasha也应该为自己的成就感到自豪。因为嫁给了一个不知所谓的男人，被迫离开家人祖国，现今在国外被当成“装饰品”。要说愛情伟大还是遇人不淑，再看看罷。
@@JoshDragRace0688 this reckless pursuit of corporate growth is just enriching the few elite at the top.
Communism is not the answer. We need more fredom.
It has its pros and cons. Now a days housing is so expensive that being a house wife is seldom an option.
@please share it I wonder if she can be a doctor in the USA.
Maybe baby, baby and baby is more accurate. Sasha's English is lot better and she is less shy
I was going to say the same. Her English is great
Yeah wow, her fluency and confidence are great!
Agreed
Nice video and location. I think I’ve been to were you filmed this video. Did you film it at 3099 Ingraham St, San Diego, CA 92109 United States? I’m from Los Angeles and I’m a big fan of the channel, I appreciate your videos, and hope you and your family do well!
@Ultima MIc well I referred to her past videos, she appears lot more confident on camera and her English has improved. The rest was a joke
Nice to see Sasha back in front of a camera, I miss her.
she misses seeing children kidnapped and her friends vanishing while their organs turn up in someone else.
yes it is nice to have her do videos.
Its hard. I am Vietnamese and i married my wife from Vietnam. She misses everything your wife mentioned here. It makes me feel like i am not giving her the total happiness. And 6 years later, we are in the process of divorce. When a woman doesn't love you much, she will leave you eventually. I didn't want to divorce but her expectations were different from reality.
That sucks ass
Women don't love men. Period. They love what we can provide and how we make them feel.
Wow that's extraordinary what you said about the woman not having realistic expectations. You can explain as much as you want but they can't hear what you're saying
It's almost as if they are delusional.
I'm vietnamese born and raised in los angeles. There's no way I would marry a female from vietnam cuz I'm american n she not. Plus I don't want her fam to be bugging me for $ I don't got. There's some older vietnamese dudes I work with that did that. They regret it. Vietnamese don't got enough booty for me anyway. Lol
So sorry about your situation friend
Wow your wife is both georgeous and intelligent. Your family is so beautiful! :)
Her English gotten super good!
Her English has gotten super good. * ;)
@@anarki777 lol lowkey even though I'm American her English is prob better than mine x.x
Her English is amazing
There is good and bad everywhere. We must remember that.
It is nice to see her perspective.
Rrright, everything's Black and White only, right? The "bad" people are spontaneously bad, they woke up one morning, and they thought "hmmm, i think i wanna become a bad guy, without any reason at all, or just to confuse everyone."
Yes
@Ultima MIc You are fine with your oppionions on China IN CHINA.
But its not fine if you spread it.
Its in same in US and other places, If you spread hate.
Just that they dont think hating China is hate.
@Ultima MIc and i mean you can spread oppions in China, but not unhealthy oppions.
Happy to know Winston and you have made US your home. I do watch Winston’s reports in awe. He‘s an honest man. Of course you miss the place where you grew up…one thing, in time you would appreciate the overall goodness and cleanliness and the precious tranqulity which you couldn‘t find in many other countries. Hope that you would continue to pursue your medical career and your life will become more interesting. Good luck to you both.
From someone who fled Shanghai as a little child in 1948, we tried living in different countries but US was the best choice for our education…now we will certainly die here in the US without regrets. Thanks to the wisdom and good choices of our parents.
What an amazing woman you found! May you both have many happy and fulfilling years together!
Awesome to see your family get outside! Your daughter is so cute. God bless your family! Mark
Your little girl is absolutely adorable, getting cuter by the day. I know what I miss about SerpentZA in China, his awesome village crawls, spilling coffee on himself biking over bad roads.
@beth gold Actually those village crawls were some of his early videos. He's covered "rich" china also. The last apartment he had was a very posh area near the KK100, MetroMix Mall and Hong Kong border area. Plus he covered the Top Tier cities in his special documentary "Stay Awesome China" which are as affluent as any large western city.
I always wondered what it wa like to have a little girl
She’s so smart and sweet. I really love her. I would love to see her more, if she would want to. She has a very relaxing voice and to point out the obvious, she’s very nice to look at.
Yes Winston gets really pretty women indeed.
Smart person can easily adapt to new environment. Winston is smart! She is not. She is not dumb for sure but not very smart nor very pretty. She is good looking but nothing special for me. But most importantly she is not a positive person. It kills any marriage.
smart ? Her husbond is making a living on uploading hate videos about China and Chinese !!
English has improved SO MUCH!
"In here I have 3 or 4 friends maximum....." More than I do
I'll be your friend :)
@@vesalius5451 aww that's so sweet
Yep, same. 3 or 4 real friends and the rest are acquaintances and coworkers.
This makes me want to ask my Chinese grandparents what they miss about living in China
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My wife is from Hong Kong and we live in Toronto, and she constantly makes comparisons.
She misses the shopping complexes as they always change things up and keep things interesting. She finds here, its stagnant and typically the same year round when they theme the malla for holidays and festivals.
The food of course, the variety of ethnic Chinese cuisines specifically. You can find them here too if you know where to look, which I don't really.
Our transit system is relatively old, the company is about 100 years old and our subway is somewhere in the 60 range. Hong Kong's transit is barely 30 years old and constantly being renewed. Easier access and cheaper then ours, and probably more efficient.
@Mark Carson
Oh I knew plenty of places mostly downtown, but they weren't up to my wife's specs. We moved out to Scarborough and are finding new places. But she constantly complains "why don't you know about this place?"
@Ultima MIc
Before she came here, I told her to prepare for cold. To which she replied "oh I like cold"...little did she know what I meant. While conversely our summers can be pretty hot and humid.
Alain Deul same :
Your wife is speaking from the heart. That kind of longing for her home will not ease.... It will only intensify.
Agreed
Its normal for anyone to miss aspects of where they were born and raised. Its normal to miss family overses. I know i do but as time goes on you develop those same feelings for your new home and the family you've created as well. So i disagree when you say it wont ease.
You don't know that , and can't know this because everybody is different and adapt differently
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@@jmarch_503 I’m afraid I need to disagree with you.
It certainly can be ascertained from a persons words and actions.
I brought a Chinese lady to Honolulu, Hawaii in 2009. At first it was great, then after about 3 to 4 years she became more critical of me and demanding more high end items. She always had to have the best cellphone, top Lexus car, expensive clothes. Most of my salary was going toward our home. Her attitude became extremely negative and nothing seemed to make her happy. I tried my best, but in the end we separated and are now divorced. I ran into her several years ago. She looked much older and tired. She complained how expensive everything was and how it was difficult working two jobs and no social life. Thank God I had sense to have her sign a prenup. I'm retired enjoying my life with a great girlfriend who treats me 10x better than my x. I wish the best for my x, but I believe she'll never find what she is looking for.
Buy ingredients at 99 Ranch. You can get real Chinese food in Irvine and The San Gabriel Valley.
I recommend Szechuan Garden in the city of Artesia. (I know Artesia is not in The SGV).
I can't say I honestly know what authentic Chinese food tastes like being as I've never been, but I feel like the best bet would be Sam Woo Seafood Restaurant adjacent to the 99 Ranch off Culver in Irvine. Other popular places are the places in Diamond Jamboree. Would be interesting to know what Sasha thinks.
@J Smith C'mon man that's not very productive. We're fortunate to have relatively strict food safety standards and enforcement, but that doesn't mean you can't miss the authentic cuisine of a culture less privileged (and or apathetic).
Still not the same as China
99 Ranch Market is great. Wish we had it where I live now.
@J Smith and lets then hope you dont use additives that are not acceptable to alot of other places here we say you should sweep your own door before before that of others i think you have one about glass houses that works as well
You're blessed with a beautiful wife !!
She also has a beautiful mind.
He is super lucky. He worked hard to achieve what he got.
More like She's blessed with a white man
@@stephen-gi9uz Well arent they close to the same age?
BurnHeartGames Meh, I don't think he's lucky. Being married to a non white women who actively work against her own ppl is a huge red flag.
No woman should describe herself as being "Just A Housewife", being a housewife and mother is a full time job, and an important one !!!
Except you don't get paid and are completely dependent on your partner. If you split up you would be well behind financially.
@@daorkykid Nonsense, you are entitled by law to a certain percentage of your partners wages and even if you split up you are entitled to a 50%/50% cut for the duration of the marriage and on top of that half a 50%/50% cut on his/her pension ... The days where a woman had no equal rights is long gone !!!
@Ryan Alex don't get technical !!!
Housewife in the nostalgic sense is really a feature of only the last 80 years of world history (a small sliver). Most people worked in agriculture before that time, and women did a lot of income producing work on the farm, etc. Woman raised more children too and did other things without the use of time saving devices (unless you were in the top 3-5% of economic class.
I am not the only one who noticed, wow her English got amazing! Great job Sasha!
I wish there was a "double like" button on the video! It was great to see something totally different (from contemporary issues) being discussed. Makes a refreshing change. Thanks a lot.
I agree. Maybe, he can interview other Chinese people who now live in America, and ask them the same question he asked his wife. I would love to hear what they have to say.
I agree.. and maybe they can also make videos about their life in the U.S. Maybe travel all around the country and film it?
Lol, the thought of SoCal Drivers being called "considerate" and "nice" really makes me wonder how truly terrible the driving in Guangdong might be.
You have no idea, I drove in China for 12 years and it was one of the most frustrating things I have ever done. Road rules in China seem to be only suggestions and nobody follows them unless their are a 100 cameras. It's insane.
@@nathanboeger978 it's the same in Beijing. The only area that has proper traffic flows, seems to be around Tianamen.
In most big cities in China driving is terrible. I think in Guangzhou it is one of the worst.
Haven't you heard the saying about how Asians are bad drivers... It is the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Chinese are the worst, I wouldn't trust a Chinese person with a bike let alone a car.
@@livedandletdie It's not a saying per se, it's a stereotype. You're just plain racist. Same as if I wouldn't trust white people to get martial arts, anime or chopsticks right.
Glad to have both of you here in California. My wife made the transition 44 years ago from Korea. I tried to make it easy for her; I wasn't always successful, but she is now a voting, contributing American citizen. I watched Laowhy86's video about his escape, and I'm sorry that Red China treated you so shamefully after all the good things you said on your videos. Good luck to you, especially to your children.
Being in this country has helped sasha's English a lot.
I have met educated intellectual women that have been depressed because when they have a young child and stuck at home they are not in the office having intellectual conversations with their work colleagues.
You've gotta give up something for your kids, both mom and dad have to do that
Yes indeed.
My wife is Japanese, she is the same way. Hates being housewife, but she is a brutal one.
@beth gold better we know level of wumao like you!
I think possibly that many folks who work in offices wish they were having intellectual conversations at work, too.
You've got an "awesome" family there Winston, a lovely wife and a beautiful daughter, I wish a happy, healthy future for you all.
I came here from Germany 🇩🇪 long time ago and never regret moving to the 🇺🇸 USA.
Things have of course changed lately but overall it's good living. PS your English has improved 💯 %
Do you miss anything about Germany?
@@burnheartgames9875 Be honest with you I do not miss my Socialistic life from 🇩🇪 Germany. America 🇺🇸 is the Best country to live in. Huge difference!
When did you move?
@@godisgood789 Interesting. I have an American friends who lives in Germany and he loves it there...
@@godisgood789 How old were you when you moved here and why? What has been your overall experience with healthcare?
The wholesomeness of this video should win awards
That was awesome and bittersweet.
Please make your wife feel at home and entertain her a bit with short trips every now and then 😊
sasha is so sweet!! i enjoy hearing her perspective.
New supricribed here- I like how candid you are about your work and keep up the good work!
To your beautiful wife - I feel her lonelyness and defeated...leaving behind everything to start a new life it's a no easy task. It will get better I promised; America is a diverse country and the sky is the limit. As long as you both love and respect each other...You will love it here.
Being a housewife isn't disappointing. It's a very important contribution to society.
She is happy ! That I can tell but yeah ! Missing family and friends happens especially in any kind of Asian people !
TGIF WInston! My wife gets homesick as well for her country. Stay Awesome
The video is truly inspiring, just like the woman's honesty. My three years in Yantai, China were truly transformative.
Thank you sasha (i hope I understood the name right?) for accepting what your man does. And thank you for supporting him.
I appreciate the sacrifices you make (and i bet i don't even know the extend in which they go).
Whenever this channel "talks bad about China" i think it's very important to notice that it's actually coming from a place of love for the powerless and helpless. For the weak and poor people out there. For the people with no voice and those who are not allowed to speak up without enormous loss and pain.
I thank you both very much. It's people like you who make this world a better place. No matter what others are saying. Keep up standing for the weak.
This channel is only possible because of BOTH of you. Both your decisions and sacrifices made this possible.
Thank you
So you're in trouble with the weak
@@mm-hmm4921 ?
What happened to "Welcome to another video"???
"wideo"
@@COBARHORSE1 The doc has upped her game, those days are in the rear view mirror.
Felkom tu anodeeeee vi-di-ou
Sometimes we miss the hustle and bustle of day to day life, I can understand that totally, I'm use to a city or town environment myself, but had to move to the country side and the adapting side is tricky when your use to busy environments,job links ect. Nice video man 👌
She's even more beautiful than a few years back when you first shared her face in her debut video. Winston, you lucky son of a gun. I wish you and your fam the best. What a beautiful family. :)
I appreciate her honesty too.
Mr. Winston, I hope your wife is doing OK. (Seems like it from this vid). It can be quite overwhelming and jarring to live in a foreign (western) country, especially coming form an Asian country (SE asia more specifically). My wife was going through the same thing when she moved here from Jakarta. To add taking care of our little baby on top of that, as is what you two are going through. Missing the strong family ties is very difficult also. All the best for you and your wife and the courage to put your private life online like this!
I get an overall sense of her preference towards being in the US! Friends and food can be adapted over time, environments can’t be replicated! Good luck to you and your family!
What a strange answer; I would say the exact opposite. Family/Friends/Food cannot be adapted over time because it's really place specific; environment, you can get used to and adapt yourself to.
@@marcadenexus of course it’s strange, I’m not you! And they’re not us!
2:29 a mother and her baby. So precious, so beautiful.
@2:40 She has a beautiful understanding and grasp of what all are lives truly are, and that’s change. We all must except this if we are to move forward and grow!!
She will notice the smell if she ever returns to S China. It's a combination of the humidity, the food/cooking, general pollution/filth and the drains. So comparatively speaking I think she will miss the "fresh air" of the US.
Totally agree. From health standpoint, US is a whole lot better on air quality, hygiene, pollution, sanitation, environment.... More importantly there's much less spitting, throwing trash on the ground here.
@@ivegas1000 *New York.
yes. it's part of the experience.
i mean the "humidity, the food/cooking, general pollution/filth and the drains".
I wonder what its like to live in a big city with pollution all the time.
I only have very few friends too Hu, and I'm from here LOL
Same here, just a very few close friends. I think that is how life changes as you get older.
@Say less Really sorry to hear that. What exactly is going on there? Where are you from originally?
@@kalenal1841 I don't think it's an aging issue at all. My mother had very close friends until the day she died at 76. I blame social media and shorter and shorter attention spans. Few take the time or make the effort to cultivate those deep friendships anymore. It's just awful. We sure can see what everyone eats for dinner or how they paint their eyebrows on but deep, shared discussions about personal experiences? Largely gone. It's an emotional desert out there now.
Exactly
me 2, but i am more like Sacha's sex friend
My Wife lives far from her original home, She was really missing the family also so now her MOther and her siblings do a skype call every other Friday night like clockwork and it has made a big difference, she doesn't miss them any more! and she is much happier in the long run!!!
You have a wonderful wife. She left her country to come and join you in LA. So sweet of her. left her whole family behind.
Wow, that was unexpectedly "real". "What do I miss about China? Everything!" I hope you will get opportunities to visit friends and family there often. I know it's expensive and covid is a temporary block. But I hope you can find a way to keep that connection.
Also, I hope Sasha can find interesting work in the US. "Baby, husband, baby..." Parenthood is the most important thing in life, imo. But still, we need more. I get the feeling Sasha is the kind of person who could make it in so many walks of life.
All the best to the three of you!
NO chance their going back together! See previous videos regarding Winston's "wanted" status is China....hope its safe for your wife to go back!!!
@@EastboundandUp Exactly what I was going to say! Not gonna happen.
@@EastboundandUp If she goes back they will probably hold her ransom
@@OwenPrescott 100 percent agree
The heck! Sasha is getting really really good at english! I am going to show this video to my wife...preparing her for the life in France in 4 years :p
WINSTON BEEN WATCHING FOR YEARS, YOUR WIFE IS BEAUTIFUL, INTELLIGENT, ARTICULATED, AND SHE OBVIOUSLY LOVES YOU! PLEASE TAKE GOOD CARE OF HER! REALLY LOVE YOU GUYS AS A FAMILY! WISHING YOU THE BEST! BIG FAN, FIRST TIME COMMENTING! YOU GUYS ARE AMAZING!!!!! YOUR BABY IS SO BEAUTIFUL! GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!
I rarely input comments but I must say, your wife is very pretty & she is genuine, sweet & humble. So are you. As for the little one, she is super adorable. Wishing you the best & happy new year 🎈🎊🎆
you are a lucky man Winston. Cheers to you and the family.
Your wife is one of the most gorgeous woman in the world 😀 I like her so much . Every time I see her I feel she is scarifying so much to be with you, Winston. She could be having nice life in China, for love ,she chose you. Cherish her and treat her like a queen always ,please
Happy your family is adjusting to life in CA. Baby is adorable.
Seems like she could be very good friends with my wife . So sweet and genuine . Best of wishes 🐍 take good care of her please !
I was really hoping for a "Welcome to another video" as an introduction throwback! Interesting video though!
Raising your children to be fine adults is the most important job you could ever have.
I agree but a mother needs her own identity rather than just being 'Winston's wife' or 'Tinkerbell's Mum'. If Sasha could work a few hours or join a club, take up a hobby so that once home she has something different to talk about now and then and can meet new people and find more friends.
Yes when it comes to having kids you have to start thinking about them more than yourself.
Gosh, I can relate to her in many ways. I gave up my home and nation to follow my husband to a new country, more similar to his country than my own, and sometimes I just miss my family and friends, and having a community My life is very small now, I am a wife and mother, and a foreigner.
There is a real effect for people moving to live in a foreign land. I have seen it here many times in Australia by people who come here from Europe and Asia. After a year or two, they really miss all of the good things about the homeland and want to pack up go back. It is normal. Some do go back. After about a month they feel the full effect of why they left in the first place and are miserable again. At that point, they want to come back to Australia (or wherever) but after this second time they are happy to stay forever.
I can tell you 100% if I move out of UK I won't miss anything (lol)
@@OwenPrescott Ha! It doesn't really matter where you go, at the new location you will see things that make you think 'Yuk! That's an ancient method. I can't believe they still do it that way' You will remember some things nostalgically, whether it is the smell of fish & chips or deep-fried shrew.
Friends and family are tougher. At one level you want to be back in their company, but quickly you will find that you have moved onto a wider world view, while they have not. The novelty of reunion will wear off fast.
There are many places in the world I have truly enjoyed the visit (China is one) but there are very few locations that tell me it would be nice to live there permanently. (China is not on the list)
She didn't say much about China besides the food, just about her old life, family, friends.
@@asalikus I was hoping she'd say something about the country and society itself.
Because there are implications about one of its' citizens saying anything negative.
I don't see anything wrong with Sasha saying the positive things she mentions - as Winston has said there are some wonderful things in China - as well as the negatives which people seem to take greater notice of. The video was a good snapshot of how Chinese would see long term living outside of China.There is no faking that longing for extended family and the food of home - and this applies to anyone from a foreign country, including many westerners when we go and live in China, or Russia, or Africa.
@@asiatravel2010 I'm sure she wouldn't have been at risk for mentioning positive things about China, since that's the topic of the video essentially. However, she pretty much just mentioned things about her personal life, not China at all (again, besides the food).
You don’t really miss the place, you miss the people you leave behind.
@@bkgksan9798 All i'm saying is I expected more about the country because of the title. Not her personal life.
Iv never heard someone say California driving is nice! Hahaha!
coz u never drive in china before it’s like animal driving a car
Considering the average driver in China has much less experience than those in the US (car culture is a relatively new phenomenon for most Chinese, maybe 30 years or much less), whereas most in the US started driving at relatively younger ages--I can say generally speaking it's more pleasant driving in the US, people are more law abiding and courteous. In China I've seen plenty of drivers (many are newly minted 新駕駛執照） who are inexperienced, aggressive and not observing traffic rules. That's from someone who's been driving for more than 40 years.
You want to see professional & courteous drivers, go to Europe.
You both are super lucky. She's gorgeous 😊
It’s tough for the both of you but esp. for Sasha. Strange new land, old friends and family half a world away, Best of luck to you both-everything will turn out just fine.
I totally understand you. They make fake haggis here and fake blood sausage here in USA. They don't know how to make butteries or oatcakes here vs in Scotland. I do miss my bakeries and fish and chip shops. I also miss the real City shopping and being able to use public transportation easily. I live in Florida and you have to walk a mile or more just to find a bus stop, and.trains here, oh no, no trains. We have trams for free but you have to be in a tourist area, like Ybor City or Anna Maria Island. Video Skype and such can help maintain family and friend relationships. Thank you for sharing Serpentza!
Them deep fried Mars bars though 👌👌 hard to beat real Scottish food, but at least you have more options in america
I like you used to live in china now live in Miami, I miss China dearly but I have to say I like the beach, the yacht life compensate 😂
and no buckfast
Hard to eat Mexican here in 🇺🇸 after living in Mexico, too (as an Anglo, not even a native). I try to appreciate it as just "food I like" & then cook at home with the most authentic Mexican grocery ingredients I can find in the way I learned "south of the border" (from novio's mom!)... Some times it gets closer than others! 😋 🌯
There are some damn good foosh and chip shops here in Fl! Pop’s fish market is my love. (In Deerfield beach)
Time spent with your child is time well spent. Being a parent is the most difficult but also the most rewarding job we humans have. Nannies and daycare workers can never replace a mother, a lot of problems in modern Western society can be traced to children not getting the love and nurturing that they need.
My wife is currently taking a leave of absence from her job in the US while we hang out in Singapore for a year or so. She does a lot of working out right now!
"Bloom where you are planted, my dear'! Being a doctor is a very noble profession, but being a mother to that beautiful child and a wife to a man that adores you is greater than any professional accomplishment! Count your blessings, name them one by one. GOD has put you where HE wants you to serve HIS purpose.
We call it homesick.
We call it Saudade
More like being a fresh parent tbh.
Yeah, but that expression may be ambiguous for someone actually moving to another country (as opposed to just visiting). After spending some time in China, she may get "homesick" (with "home" being in the U.S.). "Homesick" implies that "home" is clearly defined.
@@cdsisf Better description.
We know gosh and home sick is when you feel sick missing home she is just missing home.
My wife it simply: Baishan is her home; but she loves it here.
Suddenly I am feeling very sad. You are a very lucky man. You have a beautiful family.
My wish 4 her is that she is able to bring at least one true friend here. Having 3 or 4 friends is not unusual in the US. I think she misses her, like what we call besties;) from home
I dont want to discourage her, but i believe she will/can not stay in US for long. First couple years in new country are always exciting, but the reality will soon kick in. She is really attached with her family and friends in China. It would be different if she moved to US in her young age or she had a shitty life in the past. It will be very very difficult to adapt in a new country without her family and friends. But may be she will have some luck meeting with new people who are facing similiar situation like hers such as migrants from China, mom,etc.
Maybe some of here family and friends can escape China and live in the US.
@@georgeinjapan6583 Why would anyone want to move to US, she will realise she made a big mistake I'm surprised she doesn't know that this guy is pure anti-china propaganda.
@@arewealone9969 A lot of people would love to live in the US (although I admit not so many from G-20 countries + NZ - Russia - China). She can decide herself. He loves China just not the cult worship of the CCP. A lot more Chinese would like to live in the US than the other way around (probably by a factor of 100).
@DK KK You should see Alhambra.
@DK KK Lol ! In this case California. California also has Venice and Bagdad(sic) too.
I enjoy your videos. I like the way you present different perspectives even when it's not your own. I wonder if there was a way that your wife could continue her medical career here in the U.S.? Keep up the good work!
Sorry to hear that. R.I.P. your family.
Thanks Winston for sharing your wife's reflective thoughts. It was moving ; she 's supportive , but she does have aspirations.
come to Malaysia, we have a sizable Southern Chinese population here so we have pretty decent authentic Chinese food
And you have CCP propaganda on every corner.
@@SuperPrototipas So.. doesn't effect you. Unless you just get mad by looking at it..
I miss China too, and I'm not even Chinese! The Western world is boring compared with China -- likely not because it would ACTUALLY be more boring, but simply because China is different and more challenging for a Westerner, more exciting and odd.
I completely get that. For many years I felt the same way. But after almost 9 years, going back to China late last year changed my mind. It had lost it's appeal for me. I think many cities are exciting and appealing when you are newly experiencing them. But it's more important to live a comfortable lifestyle as well.
Agreed
nice to see your family and cute baby ! Thanks for doing this video
I moved to Japan for my wife. Everything gets turned around in a very pleasant way
If i answer the question，The first thing I must miss is Internet freedom in the United States! Once back in China, I will have to pay and learn how to use a VPN to climb over the Internet wall built by the CCP to get to RUclips!
Once people lose the pursuit of freedom of spirit, real Chinese cuisine, more friends ……everything is no longer meaningful!
I came to USA for freedom！
Chinese Chinese food is way better than American Chinese food... I also miss it:(
Hi Winston I have watched quite a few of your videos and in most, your wife does not say more that a few words but in this video ....wow did not know she was talkative ....well done for giving the time to express herself....take care
Loved the video. Beautiful wife and child. My wife of 33 years is from Thailand. We are living in Florida. My wife is able to talk to relatives back home just about everyday. She watches Thai soaps through RUclips, but has to make her own food cause most Thai restaurant food is not authentic. Life is good. Good luck to your beautiful family.