I just can’t win 😭
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- Опубликовано: 28 сен 2024
- In this video I share a story about a fan I met in an airport that made me rethink my own relationship with food. This video contains a lot of my opinions, and I admit I am not an expert or able to give advice what is the best choice for anyone's health, happiness and sanity. I acknowledge that everyone's relationships with food are effed up and that makes it so much hard to find your own balance. Healthy living is a struggle, healthy eating may be a myth, and defining what is healthy might just be impossible. I am still working on my own self improvement, but this conversation gave me the reality check that maybe I had lost site of the most important parts of these changes.
I have a horrible relationship with food. I have lost and gained weight my whole life, and have dieted for over 30 years. I have struggled with very severe binge eating disorder for the last 12 years, and I am finally starting group counselling tomorrow for the first time to try to get help. I am terrified it won’t get better. You aren’t alone. Please know you are helping people by sharing your story. ♥️♥️♥️♥️
I wish you the very best and good luck!:)
Same
I'd like if you share how it goes. I'm looking into something similar myself.
@@janejones7638 I will. ♥️
@@maikebaier8004 Thanks ♥️
If no one else has said this, getting a surgery/operation is NOT the easy way out. Having a surgery/operation is a valid path. It literally is so hard! IF that’s what you choose you have my full support. 💛💛💛💛
I just mentioned this! ❤️
I was looking for this comment!!! I had weight loss surgery 12 years ago and was judged so much by people saying it was the easy way…well it wasn’t! A different path but I still have to watch what I eat, still have to exercise, etc! Good luck Anna love you 💗
Agreed. I had mine 3 years ago. Life changing it is but easy it is not. ❤️
Hi, I was wondering about surgery, not for myself but for a loved one, and i was hoping for some more info from someone who actually went through it a while ago. The main concern is about eating supplements and the cost of that. I've heard they are a must since your body can't absorb as much with only the food, but I was hoping for a little input on how much more does one on average spend for them. And also, did you find any downsides of this surgery that maybe you would like to know about them prior to surgery?
If you find this questions too uncomfortable or intrusive, please disreagard it.
My daughter took this path five years agoand it literally changed her life. It was not the easy way out but it was the best way forward for her. :) No regrets.
I am now working with a team - a nutritionist, therapist and exercise coach. It’s not like biggest loser. It’s people helping me learn to have proper relationship with real whole food. The exercise coach has me walking in a therapy pool for now. It can be done. Please get a dr. I was scared too. Hiding didn’t help anything.
I concur, a team is invaluable! I've lost almost 80 lbs and couldn't have done it without learning nutrition and good therapy
Anna, I am a 70 year old woman, I have followed you for a few years, I care very deeply about you and if I can offer anything, let me just say stop worrying about results, concentrate on how you feel. You need to find a Dr if the first one doesn’t work out, find another one, drs are just people and I’m sure there is one out there for you. Be realistic, and make sure the dr is also realistic, different things work for different people, you are probably never going to be skinny, big deal, skinny isn’t all that, get a Dr, figure out your lymphedema with them, not online or on your own, and just be the best you can be. You deserve to be happy, we all do. And you will be, trust me , I’ve been through a few things
It’s not lymphedema it’s Lipedema
@@ElizabethPearch Yes, my friend has this. I always correct people when they call it lymphedema. They're different things.
Really insightful and realistic👍.
It’s so easy to be cruel when you don’t have to face the person being trolled. I’ve struggled with weight my whole life can relate to you so much. There are so many of us that support you. Please keep that in mind.
I completely agree. She's done more than enough for those who can relate to her. The struggle with food isn't an easy one. People can be cruel but it's her journey , and therefore they don't deserve to be apart of her journey.
@@keepitcuteorputitonmute yes ! You said it so well, thank you for saying this
Yes yes and yes bunch of cowards
@@dennykoncz2907 coward ? For not falling for the manipulation goin on ?
"Because it felt like something I could change and I don't know if it is" hits very close to home for me rn. Going through a divorce and hearing you talk so openly and vulnerable about your thoughts is refreshing. We'll get through this, you're a strong woman and you'll figure it out. Love you Anna!
Thank you so much for sharing with us. Much love to you. I have been in this cycle of depression and defeat. Please hang on. You are an incredible person and your posts brighten my day. Don’t give up, please. The world is better for you being in it!
I really appreciate all of your content and the fact that you are willing to freely share the ups and downs is so refreshing! Be kind to yourself, do your best to take care of yourself… I’ll be over here cheering you on!
My relationship with food is messed up as well. I feel like you are telling my story. Absolutely I am grateful for you sharing your feelings good or bad. I don’t feel so alone. 💝♥️🙋🏼♀️
Oh Anna if there is one thing I have learned in my life of 70 years is that religion and your relationship with God is personal. What works for someone else, may not necessarily work for you. As for depression, I’ve been on medication for many years. Does it keep me from crying, no. I (and you too) wouldn’t be human if you didn’t feel. I personally am so jealous of you. You are a beautiful person both inside and out. You are able to go and do sooooooo much that I never have nor will I ever be able to do. Count your blessings sweetheart. You are a winner in my book! I look so forward to your videos. Take care of yourself. Don’t let any of the haters get to you. You are special, very special!! Love you and wish you only the best. 💜
Well Said!!!
Yes ma'am!!
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My lifelong battle with food is filled with people who feel that they have a right to “advise” me about it. As a retired RN, I agree that you find a epidemiologist. And a GP. I personally prefer a DO, rather than an MD become they treat you where you are. And remember this: they work for you, so you can fire them and hire another. I wish so much that I could be there to hug and cry with you. You are loved - and you deserve it. ❤️🤗
I really appreciate your honesty and heart. You make a difference to me. Thank you!!
I too struggle with food. You are a an awesome role model. Stay strong, you can do it. Do what you need to do for you.
Thanks so much for sharing. It really does make a big difference to those struggling. You are not alone.
You are brave, being vunerable. I am 62 and been where you are. I finally love myself.
Hey Anna, I know you might not see this but I want you to know that you helped me through my eating disorder. I struggled with binge eating disorder and exercise bulimia for nearly 11 years. I was terrified to go into public because I thought everyone was judging me. I was afraid of fashion. I was afraid of shopping. I was generally afraid of most everything. Watching your videos helped me on my journey to loving myself. I am finally healed from my eating disorder and am wearing clothes that I love. I love bright funky colors and most of the time I look like an 80's workout video. Thank you for creating your channel all those years ago. You have been crucial to my recovery. Your value to so many people has no dollar limit. What you have given us is the stars. Thank you for being YOU.
Love this 💕
In case no one told you today - I’m proud of you
@@Sadbigbirddd thank you that means a lot to me 🙏
I feel you 100%. You are very brave for being so vulnerable with us. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, it is very helpful. I have been feeling mad at my body for so long but even more so for the past two years, and you’ve made me realize that I need to work on my relationship with eating before I can mend my relationship with my body. I think that intuitive eating can help me do that.
Love ya... keep on keepin on, you are on the right track. Saying it all out loud is a great step. 🥰
Thank you for opening up about the silent illness that so many people stigmatized over the years. I, personally have never suffered with this but I have a lot of friends and family who have. It's a horrible illness. YOUR. NOT. ALONE.
I think you’re amazing! You have really helped me in accepting myself and not beating myself up over how I look everyday. Once you just go get those tests it won’t be as scary because then you will know, then you will know the next steps. It’s more important how you feel energetically than how you look physically. You’re a beautiful person inside and out!❤️
Thank you for this video. I feel exactly how you feel. Now I know I'm not alone. ((hug))
Dear sweet Anna, I've said it before and I will say it again, your authenticity is beautiful and empowering. Thank so very much for being vulnerable. Your amazing human and you not walking on your journey alone. I'm here with you and so are others. **HUGS**
I'm sending you all the hugs and all the love, my friend. When I see you, I see resilience, strength, and a heckin' quick and creative mind. All those together make you a triple threat to any obstacle put in front of you. You deserve to be able to invest in yourself - L'Oréal, baby! You are ALWAYS worth it! ❤❤❤❤❤
God puts an empty spot in us that only He can fill…. Sounds like He’s tugging at your heart strings/awareness
There are thousands of us girls/women that are thinking the same things and having the same struggles as you. Thank you for putting it out there for all of us.
I hate that cruel people that don’t even know you want to hurt you. People should keep their pie holes shut if they can’t say anything nice .
I am thankful that I found your channel!! I have always struggled with my weight!! Thank you for your words!!
Literally eating 2 cheese burgers as I’m watching this, at least they’re homemade 😭
Honestly i feel so proud of myself for starting to cook my own dinner instead of ordering takeout. I encourage y’all to try it, cooking can actually be so fun and cathartic.
You are so brave sharing this. I really feel for you and I totally agree with you on how our food relationships are messed up. You are a very strong woman. You really encourage me to get out of my comfort zone. Much love to you.
You are so cool and I like you so much. It is incredibly brave to share as openly as you do, and I feel so privileged to get to follow your journey, however many ups and downs it may have. You talked about reading the hateful comments and crying, but I hope you also read all the supportive comments and feel the love of your viewer community ❤️
Anna I just want to say I love you and your transparency! You have too much positivity and energy to stay down or hard on yourself! Draw from yourself… Girl I know you can do it and we will do it together!!
its almost as if there is more to weight loss than calories in and calories out like some people try to make us think it is.
thank you for your vulnerability.
its helping.
Sending warm hugs and love from Adelaide, Australia. Thank you for being real and sharing your story. I think you are beautiful, brave and courageous and maybe need to be a little bit kinder to yourself - you have dared to make a change in your life and that's awesome. Keep up the great work sunshine 🌼🦘🐨🦋💟
thank you for keeping it 10000 real. I been there myself. I've had WLS and I am STILL struggling... surgery is a great tool and it works great for some and not for others... ugggggh sorry you got creeped out at the air port glad you had a great chat with the gal that came up to you! That's awesome your friends now! I hope she reaches back out to you!!! ALL we can do is keep trying... one small change today does effect tomorrow. *hugs*
I've been going through this all of my life as well. I love you no matter what and I'm learning to accept and love myself as I am.
One of the things that I think about is a video of Lizzo saying to her audience "If you can love me, you can love yourself." I don't have to work on loving Lizzo or loving you. So, I know I can love myself!
I watch your videos about lipedema, having it myself along with ME, hEDS, and other comorbidities. (Any exertion makes the ME much worse, a hallmark of the illness, so I can't exercise, frustratingly.) Very much appreciate your sharing your vulnerability and strength, I truly feel having lipedema is traumatic. It's not your fault you have lipedema. Sending you so much love and support.
Anna, look at all you do. You promote positivity and self acceptance. You share yourself honestly with the world. You're human and face the same obstacles as a lot of us. You allow us to know we're not alone. I admire you and your honesty and spirit. I think you're a beautiful woman inside and out. You're not alone!! I wish I was there so I could give you a hug. ❤️💖💞💕
Love the honesty. Question. If your body needs surgery to help reflect your vision of the body you want, why is that bad, or creative? Every tool within us and external to us is a tool none the less. Everyday we learn a little more, grow and get to decide agin what works for us. Wishing you peace
Tremendous honesty and self-awareness….you are amazing and since I’m old enough to be your mom, I’m proud of you. ❤
I absolutely love watching your videos. I love how honest and real you are. I’ve also recently realized that my relationship with food if more fucked up than I originally thought. It’s really really hard to fix it and make changes long term. You’re an incredible person 💖
We are worthy!! Thank you for the reminder. I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️
I can relate, Anna. And I send you supportive, positive energy.
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Thank you so much for sharing. You are amazing, and weight doesn't make anyone a bad person. "Haters gonna hate."
Do what is best for you.
We have your back.
I needed to hear this! Lots of love on your journey! 🥰
You are 100% not alone in what you're feeling. If you haven't already, I would really recommend finding a therapist who can help you work through this. Before I started sorting out all of my feelings around food everything felt like a big jumble of negative emotion but it's possible to start pulling out all of the individual threads; the emotions might not completely disappear, but they will become easier to recognize and regulate.
I love you channel. You’re awesome. Feel your feelings and do what you need to do to be well, in whatever way you are able 💕
omg! I'm right here with you! I have Lipedema to! Your right!! Thank you for expressing how you feel!
Thank you for being real. Be kind to yourself and know that there is no one else like you in the world 😊
Yes you are a magnificent beautiful person and what you are feeling are real so don't stop being you you are a whole person so don't let those people and their awful words keep you down you are a beautiful person Love you and Thank you for sharing see you.
Here for you and sending ❤️ for your journey.
I felt every single word you said! You express what it is like for many in such an eloquent way, I can never get my point(s) across as well as you do. Too many people, including ourselves sometimes, still don't see/realize how complex it really is.
I can't remember when I first subscribed, it's been a while, you are one of the very few unique voices out there in the plus size community who stand out to me. Not for your activism for inclusivity, or body positivity, but for keeping it real! At the end of the day, no matter what number the scale says, you are a beautiful human being inside and out!
I think you are fantastic. I think it is darn hard to change learned behaviors towards food and I am glad you have these conversations with us. I believe there are body types that have a harder time with food relationships. I am one of those people. Keep working on you whatever you need to do I 100% support it.
Thanks for sharing, it is important that others hear the good and the bad. There are so many components involved in why our bodies lose or gain weight and we just need to do the best we can with what we've got. In December, I had a gastric bypass, which has helped me feel so much healthier and more energetic, but I know that I'll never weigh what I did in my twenties (I'm 53) because of things like Lipoedema and excess skin. It's a hard pill to swallow. You are doing great, I admire the insight you have into yourself; I was still dieting at your age. Take care xxx
Much love, Anna. I appreciate you and all you do. ❤️
Hang on baby!!!! You're supported, and 💕 loved!!!!
It breaks my heart that you are having such an emotional time. My life has gotten better since I discovered you. I'm less self conscious and strive to be more like you. 80lbs. or 300 lbs, you are still you which is pretty darn good. You're inspiring to all of us.
I really admire your vulnerability, sending all the good thoughts
Anna have you ever thought about starting an online support group to talk about these things? Just reading your comments, it seems like there would be some genuine interest. I am involved with one and I'd be happy to work with you to create one if people would get something out of it.
Is the one you’re already in accept new members?
@@wendydunn3964 No, it's specific to my bariatric surgeon's office.
It is always hope, Anna. Sending you hugs and love from California.
You will figure it out, I finally did. Don't lose your hope, keeping trying and never give up!
The more I got to know you through your videos, the more I started to love you as a person. You’re so kind, so open minded and just a very inspiring person in general. It doesn’t matter how many times you’ve made “bad choices”. You said you haven’t gained for the past two years and that’s amazing. It’s okay if you’re not losing weight as fast as you want to. You’re still here and that’s all that matters. I just wanted to let you know you’re not alone. You mean so much to people like that girl and me. I’m so thankful to you for sharing your journey publicly. Sorry this comment is incredibly long I’m sleep deprived haha…
Thank you for sharing….. I have tried my hardest to give my 19 and 16 year old a space to be honest with me with every experience they have. If it matters… I hear you and love you. You are where you are…. You are so amazing!!!! Recognizing your relationship with food is a beginning… explore the why Love!!! Life is a journey!!!! Nothing is perfect!!! 🙏🏼💜✌🏼
You are such a lovely soul. I wish we could sit and have a chat. I feel your pain. I know our words won’t magically fix anything but there are many of us who watch your content and are inspired by your confidence, your no BS attitude, your comedy etc. while it’s sad to see how many people struggle with these things I hope it makes you feel a little less alone. (Says the lady who avoided Doctors for months and months) I’m slowly making appointments but I also understand the fear and having to admit, this is where my choices led me, and I may not be able to reverse that. Hugs Anna!
Amazing message. We are all just living the life we have, Anna, that includes you! Be brave. One step at a time...things will fall into place. At 60, w/a similar body as yours...I absolutely understand. Keep moving forward. Much love to you sweetheart. LUCRETIA
You are so brave sharing your story. I think you are helping people.
Anna, this video is so moving. I relate to every word. I’m struggling too with acceptance about my weight. And that it might not change. I’m in that same spot of not seeing the results and feeling very frustrated. I hear you and I see you! I think you’re amazing and brave just the way you are. Hugs!! ❤️❤️
I also have had the same problems about I try every day but get down thank you for being real for us to see you are just like us.
So many of us love you and care about you! Whatever you have to do to be happy, we are here for it! 😍🥰😘
I think everyone who’s even been on a weight loss journey knows how hard your body will fight to hold onto that weight which makes it seem almost impossible sometimes when you know you’re doing everything “right” but not seeing any changes
Indeed, and it only makes it that much worse when medical professionals cling to their biases and turn a deaf ear to all of your pleadings that you've done everything, they just go ahead and believe that we are lying which, if one's weight is a result of childhood trauma, just re-traumatizes.
Anna, this is meant to be a supportive post. Get professional help. When a person has serious trauma it seems impossible to overcome alone. I know from experience. I admire your honesty and vulnerability, but RUclips is not the answer. Find someone you are comfortable with, which admittedly can be difficult. There is help out there. You deserve it.
I’m sorry you feel this way. It would be so hard constantly being In the public eye. You inspire me every time I watch your videos in a million ways. You remind me that my body is beautiful and that it’s the clothes problem not my body. You inspire me to wear what makes me happy and you help me with your self esteem and to be myself. You definitely need to look after you. You are worth it
The lipedema experience is soul crushing, no ifs and or buts. If you're not going through it I don't know that you can understand but it's just exhausting emotionally and physically. You touched my heart Anna, you always do. Take care of you. I'm scheduled for panniculectomy in July and it's unfair to have to consider surgical options but I own that it's my journey. Best wishes to you. XOXO
Beautiful face
I can relate to this so hard, for reasons.
You are not alone. Everyone has a story. You have helped me feel comfortable in my own body no matter the number on the scale. You’ll find your way. Sending virtual hugs 🤗
No Hunny your body isn’t just like this. I have BED. I’ve gained some back after sleeve surgery too but it’s starting to come off. I have to track my food. It’s science. Please see a bariatric specialist. It doesn’t mean you need surgery but there are other ways they can help you. If anything referring you to a nutritionist specializing in bariatric that can give you a meal plan. Even one with pre made meals if that makes it easier for you. You got this, you can do it!
Any growth you have attained even though painful is still moving you forward. Please don’t give up on whatever goals you have. Sometimes it’s not goal that is the issue but rather the timeline we impose upon ourselves to get there. Good luck dear!
You don't have to figure this out on your own sweetie. It's okay tp be afraid just don't let it overtake you. Push through and go see the Dr if need be. It won't be as bad as you think. I believe in you.
Hi Anna, I never comment on RUclips. I admire your pizazz with your clothing and makeup. This video has hit home to me. I joined a weight program and have been struggling. I’m trying to stick too 1200 calories. I have gained 12lbs. In 2 years 20 additional lbs. I have PCOS I have a lot of pain due to feet and upper and lower back issues. I broke down yesterday. It is so frustrating and disappointing. I totally understand your frustrations. Many blessings and strength to you.
Anna, you are a wonderful person and I believe in you! You are not giving up and it's shows how strong you are! Regarding nasty comments, I think any bad word or offensive comment that person throwing at you is not about you it's about them. I believe that we are like a water well - those with nasty thoughts have a dirty water in their well and they are trying to splash this dirt to the other people. And they are not happy about the condition of their well. That's why they want other people be unhappy too. Your well is crystal clear and nobody can change it :)
Babe, you got this! Change is HARD! Especially weight loss. You are a strong, beautiful, kind woman. You are great just the way you are, but if YOU want change Im confident you will find the way to do it. Its ok to be down. Its ok to be up! I know so many people are WITH you 100% BOTH ways. Be kind to yourself EVERY day. Start small, mentally. Every day, look in the mirror and tell yourself at least ONE thing you LOVE about yourself. Inside or out. Its ok to love your flaws too. ❤️❤️ Keep fighting. We love you
I find the mentality that each day is a new beginning helps me cope with grief and other things really well. Accepting that today may be a bad day, but tomorrow will be better made a world of difference for my line of thinking about things. Sometimes we overthink and over complicate things and lose sight of what is important and what matters.
Anna, I wish I could give you a big hug and tell you how fabulous you are.
Sweet Ana...you are such a joy.
Thank you so much for being truth to yourself and to us. I feel connected to you in some way. Thank you I appreciate you.
I've never seen nasty comments on your channel here on RUclips - everybody seems to be very loving and kind.
Its so hard. Its so so hard when you are trying and nothings working!! And people tell me ‘you must still be over eating’. NO. Lipodema effects this and other things do as well. You are doing your best. I feel this same way and it was helpful to hear you say these things 💕
Thank you for sharing your truth. I appreciate your vulnerability.
Anna,you are beautiful inside and out, weight is just a number... keep loving yourself and showing your beauty and confidence! I really love watching you!
I saw a video of yours on Megan Anne's channel and I was just curious how you were doing and I just wanna say, whatever you do, do it to make you happy. I really do hope you keep trying but whatever it is you do I hope you're just happy. Not for anyone else, just you. As for losing weight, sometimes just focusing on making yourself strong leads to a natural weight loss. Seeing it from different angles or working on build one or two small habits and slowly that becomes many small habits and then it's a lifestyle. Small steps, and seeing yourself meet those smaller goals really fights self doubt. Whatever you do, live well.
Oh sweetie, I’m so sorry that you’re struggling. As long as you’re trying it will come. I know it’s a goofy statement but it’s really true. You are so lovely and kind. God bless you and help you on your journey. But just remember you are not on your own. Love and hugs.
You keep your head up and everything will work out for the best
You are absolutely beautiful and a world changer.
I have been clinically depressed for 20 years. People come and go from your life for a season or reason. Value every moment we always are loving and learning.
Oh I wish I could hug you! I know these feelings all too well and they can be so isolating. I felt like my body was against me for so long and therapy and moving it regardless of changes was the best thing (for me personally!) sending you love
So sorry about your loss. Losing a grandparent is hard. I just wanted to say that I admire you so much. I’ve seen some of your videos and recently subscribed. You are such a beautiful person inside and out. I love how confident you are and the style you have. I know sometimes it’s hard with lifestyle, I’ve been struggling myself my whole life. Stay strong and know that a lot of people love you and support you ❤️
Anna as a person who has dieted for 50 years and successfully not lost any weight I had a gastric sleeve done in 2013 mainly because they wouldn’t replace my hip I wish I had had it done earlier all I can say is it’s a help it allows you to eat less and the weight comes off when you weigh over 300 pounds dieting it’s just not successful at least it wasn’t for me but I praise the gastric sleeve every day and not to say that I’m thin but I’m thinner so think seriously about it♥️
You are beautiful and brave. Thank you for sharing your journey honestly.
Always look within....you were born with all the love and power you ever needed to shine in this lifetime! Believe in you!!🤩❤️💙💜💚💛🌺🤩
Anna, your vulnerability, self awareness, and humility is breathtaking and beautiful. You will get there - it's impossible for a person who is as open and hardworking as you to not. Give yourself time and space, you are right where you are meant to be, teaching and encouraging all of us as you go forth. I know I'm just a random on the internet but I carry your heart in my heart. xx
Your a beautiful person ❤️ that's what made me subscribe to your channel we all have problems with foods I agree so your not alone sweetheart 😊 ❤️ just keep being you