This video came at the perfect time… I did well for two months and then suddenly it was my birthday. My birthday weekend turned into a birthday two weeks of eating like my old self…. so basically eating whatever I wanted. It’s been very hard to get back into it, but I’m holding on.
Hey Carla, because of your videos I've already lost 13 kg since August. You've said some key phrases like: "there is not always motivation just consistency" and "there will be a time you don't have to loose weight any more". I really like your videos and I'm more than grateful 🙏 THANK YOU! ❤ Greetings from Germany ♻️
I have only been able to successfully loose weight once in my life when I was 19 years old and I maintained until age 21. I’m now 27, turning 28 in November… I’ve two kids now, went through almost loosing my mom and sister in an accident and the death of my dad last year. 6 almost 7 years of gaining 90 pounds. Wow I’ve never admitted that. 90 pounds 😭. My wonderful body has brought forth my boys and I’m so thankful for that but I’m tired of being morbidly obese. I don’t want to self sabotage myself again. I want to be fit to be able to enjoy playing with my boys and being on this earth with them as long as I can. My sweet husband has never made me feel bad and always tells me I’m beautiful but I want to “actually” look good for him. Most importantly I want to be healthy and fit for me!!! 🙏
I found myself during this this week, I had went to work and was getting compliments on the weight-loss and then I came home and ate after 8pm. This is something I hadn’t been during . I knew what I was doing was not helping me. I am doing intermittent fasting and have been doing it since February or March. I feel like I have done this before to myself but I was usually stressed out at that time but I don’t understand why I got compliments and then I am sabotaging myself isn’t anybody else been through this all doing this to themselves?
The attention was still stressful, maybe. I also feel like getting attention make a me want to celebrate... Celebratory foods are usually not so supportive of our goals and eating those foods at a different time of day seems even more festive ... It's so crazy. I'm in there with you 🙄😊
I’ve had the same experience during my journey. It seems like the compliment would be motivating but instead it makes me uncomfortable. I’m realizing that I gained weight in the first place to stop getting attention and I need to stop myself from reacting negatively. My first step is recognizing that it’s happening.
In the past I used my weight and clothes to hide because of past abuse, so when I start getting attention when I started to release my weight, I chant to myself” I Am Safe”it really helps😊. Please notice I say release my weight not lose my weight, it make I difference to my mindset.
Yes, I go to the doctor and get praise for good blood pressure or weight loss etc and as soon as I leave I think “ I deserve a reward/treat and go right to Popeyes to eat something that raises my blood pressure and puts on weight. You are not alone.
It is interesting. It's like the attention or compliment made me aware of myself as existing through someone else's eyes... and that makes me feel foreign and then I eat to feel "familiar". Hahaha what is that!
🔄 Thank you for this video, Carla! Would love to see more like these. I feel like you're always here saying what I need to hear at the exact right time for me 😅 I'm on my first BS and have been catching this sabotage cycle this week after starting out really strong. Knew of the cycle before but hadn't heard it be framed this way before - that even the positive things are my triggers is mind-blowing!
This came up at a good time for me, as I have been noticing that I'm sabotaging myself lately. I lost 110 lbs and have been maintaining that for a bit over a year. While I am proud of this accomplishment, I do not want to be simply maintaining, I have 60 more lbs to lose to reach my goal of a normal BMI. I get a lot of feedback from friends telling me I look great, which I am not totally comfortable with because I do not feel it is objectively true, only true in a relative sense compared to how I used to look. These type of well meaning comments actually trigger my frustration and dissatisfaction. My goal has been health and longevity more than appearance, and I have improved my health very much, but I still have quite a bit of belly fat so I am concerned about that being bad for my organs. Yet I keep bouncing around in a 10 lb range just above 200 lbs, losing weight for a few consecutive days and then overeating in such a way as to negate my progress. I actually broke through that glass floor of 200 lbs last week and had thought I had finally broken the plateau, but then I blew it again. I think a major trigger for me is being uncomfortable with male attention/flirtation because it has been so unfamiliar to me for so long when I was over 300 lbs, and because I am still not comfortable with my body image so I don't really know what to do with such attention, not sure if I am ready for intimacy. I think my fear of intimacy and distrust of men based on some bad experiences in my past are definitely contributing to holding me back, and I am trying to get over that and keep working on myself for me. Thanks for your videos, for the inspiration and the aid in introspection.
There are many You Tubers who show unattainable weight loss perfection and then talk about how magically their lives have changed cause of weight loss. But what makes you different is that YOU COMPLETELY CHANGED AND IMPROVED YOUR LIFE, BECAUSE YOU TOOK THE PROPER ACTION AND PUT IN THE PROPER EFFORT. You used every tool in the tool box. It doesn’t happen magically just because you lose weight. You are a breath of fresh air in the weight loss community on social media. And your channel has profoundly helped in improving my mindset to lose weight and stick to it. Thank you for your efforts.
Hello beautiful! I have definitely found myself on that hamster wheel since 2010 when I initially started my journey of weight loss. I went through a different program. We’re on three different occasions I lost over 100 pounds and gained it all back due to self sabotage, I really appreciate the video today. Much needed. I rewound it a couple of times and what stood out to me was the section between 11 minutes through 14.50 minutes. I definitely will need to think through this and journal through this and I’m very grateful that you were able to share very specifically how to think about it in order to have a victory! You rock, Carla💃🏽💃🏽🔄🔄
Your words are spot on as they often are! For me I think my inability to lose the whole weight (70kg) was linked to the fact that I had put on that weight as a child and a teenager, I unconciously I didn't want to let go of something I had acquired at a young age because it would be proof that so much time had gone by. From 18 to this year (24) I maintained my weight without gaining more but without losing either. I think I held onto that weight like a child would hold onto his teddy bear, anyway that's how I interpret it. It's a very strange situation to be in. All these years I didn"t understand why I couldn't lose weight even though I had wanted to with all my heart for over a decade. I think I finally understood why and only became a fully grown adult this year.
Brilliant! So very true! Thank you for this ~ I have found this to be exactly how change effects me too ( whether with weight loss, jobs etc. ) Many of us may also have past traumas that come to the surface when stressed by change, or other triggers. I know that I have hidden from “attention” for several years now- after a horrible divorce ~ It’s scary to let yourself be seen & admired again by men…. I’ll remember your points from this video as I continue on my weight loss journey. Thank you!
Thanks, Carla! I've been trying to figure out what self-sabotage is, exactly, and why I do it, for a long time. You broke it down really clearly and I super appreciate that! Yes, more on this subject, please. I think it's really important to understand, for anyone trying to change.
This is so true, when you said we don't like to be the centre of attention, it makes me feel so uncomfortable! Bloody hate the questions 'what are you doing??' ' what's your secret??' Sometimes I then have that ugly inner voice popping up in my head saying things like ' you don't really deserve it' 'you don't look THAT good' and other nonsense.🔄
This is incredible. I’ve been dealing with this for so long without being able to verbalize why was i triggered when someone would compliment me, instead of being motivated to continue. Thank you so much for this insightful video. Pleas make more like those!!
Thank you for making this. After getting incredible results and then an injury. I turned to food after feeling sad and just depressed. But I can do other things to work out and am being respectful, gracious, kind, and loving of myself this round while unhitching from the comfort of food and breaking the binge cycle in the evenings.
♻️ Perfect timing, Carla. I have been struggling to keep going and finding myself craving a "good" binge evening on the couch. I haven't given in and luckily Gerard is in my head and getting me to continue on with my diet and walks😂! I would appreciate more videos on this topic if you have any more insights. Thank you for everything you do Carla.... aka my Brian(na) 😉.
Yes please can you do more videos on self sabotage, I've been on a weight loss get healthy journey since July 9th and I had went down from 323 to 277 and it just seemed like when I saw those numbers that I hadn't seen in almost 3 years that I started back binge eating again I guess cause it's how I've always comforted myself and when I stepped on the scales this morning I was at 289 😥I don't want to undo all my hard work, and having multiple sclerosis it's so imperative for me to get to a more healthy weight, everything you said in this video spoke to me
My mind is blown. This makes so much sense. Thanks for sharing I'm gonna save this and watch when I feel that discomfort coming on. Love these videos they are so helpful.
Great video! I was never really able to articulate why I always quit before I reached my goals. Once I started noticing results and other people saw results, I think I just decided that I would “settle” for that and I would compromise on my goals and just start eating whatever I wanted again. And then I would end up back where I started! I just had my third baby three months ago and I’m really to take the leap to reclaim my health. Your videos have been so helpful in helping stay conscious and mindful during the process!
🤗🖤 ⭐️🔄 🦧Thank you for this! I just realized as you were talking that my recent self sabotage episode came from my discomfort with the thought of someone not being pleased with me because I am losing weight and God forbid, becoming comfortable and just maybe happy in my own skin. I realized the discomfort from the attention was why I’ve self sabotaged in the past because of what Ger talked about in my first round of BodySlims. Also, because you talked about it further in Carla’s Corner and your other videos. That was huge for me and this is as well. The “who does she think she is” mindset apparently bothers me way more than I ever wanted to admit. This is great! Now I can get rid of letting this way of thinking impact my life. This is such a huge monkey 🦧off my back! I will have to keep tabs on this tendency. Wow! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! More of these would be great! ☺️
Thank you for such an insightful video Carla. I see myself in that vicious cycle and sitting in that discomfort rather than giving in to old habit patterns is sage advice. I'm glad to know I am not the only one who finds compliments on weight loss triggering. Along with triggering self sabotage the compliments also trigger my bitchy inner critic. I literally hear in my head "they're only saying you look good now because you looked so horrible before." I definitely have some more work to do. Thank you for providing such a great roadmap for self healing. 🔃🖤
Incredible timing. I just started my 3rd week. I wake up at 5:30/ 6:00 in the morning, but I don't get out of bed. I tell myself to get up and get on the recumbent bike since I can't walk because of a back issue. I never get up! I think tomorrow will be a new day. It's time for that real change. Thank you for this talk. It was great and eye-opening❤!
🔄this is such a great video! Self-sabotage is real and very annoying. I love your suggestion of just “sitting with it” - because you’re right, once you get into the thing you do when you self-sabotage (snacks after dark are my vice) - you get into a sort of an autopilot mode. Next thing you know - you’ve consumed massive amount of calories! I’m going to work on this. Love your content! ❤
I feel like all this boils down to making how you take care of yourself, what you prioritize to take care of your health needs to become part of your core belief system. Somethings we do or think or feel regardless of what the crowd around us is thinking, feeling, doing. That's integrity. So making the way we take care of ourselves a matter of integrity. And then not swerving from that belief system around health even when people around us encourage something different or the voice inside gets scared. But stand up for ourselves , at least internally. Maybe this isn't at all right but this video for my wheels turning in q good way. I needed this support today
It is interesting. It's like the attention or compliment made me aware of myself as existing through someone else's eyes... and that makes me feel foreign and then I eat to feel "familiar". Hahaha what is that!
Thank you for this! I'm down 20 lbs but have back slid the last 2 weeks. Not sure what triggered me but this has helped me understand how to get back on track. XO❤
Thank you so much! I have been struggling with exactly this, and haven’t been able to shake it! Your video helped me understand how to deal with this. I so so appreciate you! ❤️❤️❤️
Carla, this was so so helpful, thank you! Could you please do another video around self sabotage about the following question: how do you stop yourself from self sabotaging when the discomfort you feel (and that makes you overeat) is something that is recurring and not resolved? For example, let’s say you have made the effort to exercise and eat right but you constantly have financial worries that make you want to self soothe through food? You can sit with the discomfort but it constantly reoccurs because there are stressors in your life which make you want to reach for food. Your life is in a perpetual state of anxiety so even though you try to make positive healthy changes, stress makes you digress.
Great video! I would like to hear other reasons for self-sabotage.Sometimes, getting attention gives people confidence and the confidence turns into “ permission” to overeat , which sabotages and derails the progress . How to ignore the compliments and continue the actions ?
Wow, this came at the right time! Today I was looking for comfort, just a little worried about work this week. I ate to comfort all day. Such a great point that it’s not physically painful or anything!? Tomorrow is a new day. 🔄 ❤
Thank you so much for this video! You were so talking to me! I've had a crappy day with my food. Thank God there is a new day tomorrow! I never realized this cycle. It makes so much sense when you talk it out. ❤
Been there, done that over my 3 decades of weight loss cycles. Once i started focusing on the mental game i find the struggle w/ this & the soothing stress w/ food items spells are getting better. Fix our HEADS... body will follow. One day at a time... PROGRESS not perfection w/ any behavioral repairs.❤🙏💜🤗
All I can say is wow! Thank you so much for bringing this to light. I don't know how many times I have ended up sabotaging myself. I would love more videos on this topic. 🔄
Hello Carla, your advice has come at the right time for me. I have put on 1 stone over the past 4 months as reduced exercise due to surgery, change of job to full time & family caring commitments. I feel miserable & the dark nights are drawing in. I know I need to change my work life balance to suit me, get fit & feel positive again. Thank you for being there for us all on our journey 🤗🩷
You have ushered me thru the very thing that keeps stuck year after year. I get down and then start getting compliments and then bounce right back up. Thank you so much for this info. I trust you more than any therapist as you’ve walked the walk😊
Awesome! I plan to listen to this video a few more times. I would be interested in more videos about the psychological aspects of weight loss. Thank you!❤❤❤
Thank you for explaining this. We just moved to a new city and I wondered why I’ve been going back to poor habits lately. I am uncomfortable and I am seeking comfort through the old ways. This video was so very helpful! Thank you, thank you, thank you. 🌀
Omg I needed this! I sabotaged myself recently eating 27000 kilojoules over my weekly budget when on holiday And have gained 4 kilos in the last 2 weeks Insane I know but it’s true 😢
Great video Carla! Thank you! I have been making big changes in what I eat and was surprised that I stayed away from ice cream for about three weeks! I think because I am eating food that is better for me, I am not craving ice cream all the time! Yay!!!
Everything is hitting the nail on the head sooo much with this! Absolutely resonating with me today. I believe I truly needed to hear this. Thank you Carla!!❤❤
We also sabotage ourselves in our relationships ~ for many of the same reasons as with sabotaging ourselves during weight loss : If you grew up in a dysfunctional/toxic family, being drawn to toxic/unhealthy romantic relationships often happens because they are familiar to us: they mimic the unhealthy family life we came to know when growing up. Thank you, Carla, for presenting this important subject ~
🔁 Great video! I'm 10 months into a weight loss journey, down 54 pounds. I've been spinning on the self sabotage cycle for the last couple of months. I still have a long way to go. This is so helpful and insightful. Your journey and your growth is very inspiring!
This video came at the perfect time… I did well for two months and then suddenly it was my birthday. My birthday weekend turned into a birthday two weeks of eating like my old self…. so basically eating whatever I wanted. It’s been very hard to get back into it, but I’m holding on.
🔁 I have vowed to not self sabotage this time. I’m committed to being uncomfortable. What an awesome video!
Hey Carla, because of your videos I've already lost 13 kg since August. You've said some key phrases like: "there is not always motivation just consistency" and "there will be a time you don't have to loose weight any more".
I really like your videos and I'm more than grateful 🙏
THANK YOU! ❤
Greetings from Germany
♻️
I have only been able to successfully loose weight once in my life when I was 19 years old and I maintained until age 21. I’m now 27, turning 28 in November… I’ve two kids now, went through almost loosing my mom and sister in an accident and the death of my dad last year. 6 almost 7 years of gaining 90 pounds. Wow I’ve never admitted that. 90 pounds 😭. My wonderful body has brought forth my boys and I’m so thankful for that but I’m tired of being morbidly obese. I don’t want to self sabotage myself again. I want to be fit to be able to enjoy playing with my boys and being on this earth with them as long as I can. My sweet husband has never made me feel bad and always tells me I’m beautiful but I want to “actually” look good for him. Most importantly I want to be healthy and fit for me!!! 🙏
I found myself during this this week, I had went to work and was getting compliments on the weight-loss and then I came home and ate after 8pm. This is something I hadn’t been during . I knew what I was doing was not helping me. I am doing intermittent fasting and have been doing it since February or March. I feel like I have done this before to myself but I was usually stressed out at that time but I don’t understand why I got compliments and then I am sabotaging myself isn’t anybody else been through this all doing this to themselves?
The attention was still stressful, maybe. I also feel like getting attention make a me want to celebrate... Celebratory foods are usually not so supportive of our goals and eating those foods at a different time of day seems even more festive ... It's so crazy. I'm in there with you 🙄😊
I’ve had the same experience during my journey. It seems like the compliment would be motivating but instead it makes me uncomfortable. I’m realizing that I gained weight in the first place to stop getting attention and I need to stop myself from reacting negatively. My first step is recognizing that it’s happening.
In the past I used my weight and clothes to hide because of past abuse, so when I start getting attention when I started to release my weight, I chant to myself” I Am Safe”it really helps😊. Please notice I say release my weight not lose my weight, it make I difference to my mindset.
Yes, I go to the doctor and get praise for good blood pressure or weight loss etc and as soon as I leave I think “ I deserve a reward/treat and go right to Popeyes to eat something that raises my blood pressure and puts on weight. You are not alone.
It is interesting. It's like the attention or compliment made me aware of myself as existing through someone else's eyes... and that makes me feel foreign and then I eat to feel "familiar". Hahaha what is that!
Yes! I have broken this cycle over two years ago in my sixties- I never thought I could, but I have and I am off the wheel
🔄 Thank you for this video, Carla! Would love to see more like these. I feel like you're always here saying what I need to hear at the exact right time for me 😅
I'm on my first BS and have been catching this sabotage cycle this week after starting out really strong. Knew of the cycle before but hadn't heard it be framed this way before - that even the positive things are my triggers is mind-blowing!
This came up at a good time for me, as I have been noticing that I'm sabotaging myself lately. I lost 110 lbs and have been maintaining that for a bit over a year. While I am proud of this accomplishment, I do not want to be simply maintaining, I have 60 more lbs to lose to reach my goal of a normal BMI. I get a lot of feedback from friends telling me I look great, which I am not totally comfortable with because I do not feel it is objectively true, only true in a relative sense compared to how I used to look. These type of well meaning comments actually trigger my frustration and dissatisfaction. My goal has been health and longevity more than appearance, and I have improved my health very much, but I still have quite a bit of belly fat so I am concerned about that being bad for my organs. Yet I keep bouncing around in a 10 lb range just above 200 lbs, losing weight for a few consecutive days and then overeating in such a way as to negate my progress. I actually broke through that glass floor of 200 lbs last week and had thought I had finally broken the plateau, but then I blew it again. I think a major trigger for me is being uncomfortable with male attention/flirtation because it has been so unfamiliar to me for so long when I was over 300 lbs, and because I am still not comfortable with my body image so I don't really know what to do with such attention, not sure if I am ready for intimacy. I think my fear of intimacy and distrust of men based on some bad experiences in my past are definitely contributing to holding me back, and I am trying to get over that and keep working on myself for me. Thanks for your videos, for the inspiration and the aid in introspection.
There are many You Tubers who show unattainable weight loss perfection and then talk about how magically their lives have changed cause of weight loss. But what makes you different is that YOU COMPLETELY CHANGED AND IMPROVED YOUR LIFE, BECAUSE YOU TOOK THE PROPER ACTION AND PUT IN THE PROPER EFFORT. You used every tool in the tool box. It doesn’t happen magically just because you lose weight. You are a breath of fresh air in the weight loss community on social media. And your channel has profoundly helped in improving my mindset to lose weight and stick to it.
Thank you for your efforts.
Hello beautiful! I have definitely found myself on that hamster wheel since 2010 when I initially started my journey of weight loss. I went through a different program. We’re on three different occasions I lost over 100 pounds and gained it all back due to self sabotage, I really appreciate the video today. Much needed. I rewound it a couple of times and what stood out to me was the section between 11 minutes through 14.50 minutes. I definitely will need to think through this and journal through this and I’m very grateful that you were able to share very specifically how to think about it in order to have a victory! You rock, Carla💃🏽💃🏽🔄🔄
Loved this! You have such a gift Carla for voicing these things and explaining in way that really breaks through. I so appreciate you. ❤️
Your words are spot on as they often are! For me I think my inability to lose the whole weight (70kg) was linked to the fact that I had put on that weight as a child and a teenager, I unconciously I didn't want to let go of something I had acquired at a young age because it would be proof that so much time had gone by. From 18 to this year (24) I maintained my weight without gaining more but without losing either. I think I held onto that weight like a child would hold onto his teddy bear, anyway that's how I interpret it. It's a very strange situation to be in. All these years I didn"t understand why I couldn't lose weight even though I had wanted to with all my heart for over a decade. I think I finally understood why and only became a fully grown adult this year.
Wow, congratulations! I'm only an internet stranger, but that is such a huge step and I'm really proud of you. You go girl!
Very insightful! I will have to think on this today and going forward.
I so relate to not wanting to "shed" the memory of whatever those feelings are attached to.
Thank you so much I tend to sabotage. Not this time. I am learning to love myself.
Brilliant! So very true! Thank you for this ~ I have found this to be exactly how change effects me too ( whether with weight loss, jobs etc. ) Many of us may also have past traumas that come to the surface when stressed by change, or other triggers. I know that I have hidden from “attention” for several years now- after a horrible divorce ~ It’s scary to let yourself be seen & admired again by men…. I’ll remember your points from this video as I continue on my weight loss journey. Thank you!
Thanks, Carla! I've been trying to figure out what self-sabotage is, exactly, and why I do it, for a long time. You broke it down really clearly and I super appreciate that! Yes, more on this subject, please. I think it's really important to understand, for anyone trying to change.
Thank you so much for the feedback xx
This is so true, when you said we don't like to be the centre of attention, it makes me feel so uncomfortable! Bloody hate the questions 'what are you doing??' ' what's your secret??'
Sometimes I then have that ugly inner voice popping up in my head saying things like ' you don't really deserve it' 'you don't look THAT good' and other nonsense.🔄
Carla, you are singing my song! Thank you so much for these videos. I'm learning new things about myself watching your videos. ❤
This is incredible. I’ve been dealing with this for so long without being able to verbalize why was i triggered when someone would compliment me, instead of being motivated to continue. Thank you so much for this insightful video. Pleas make more like those!!
Thank you for making this. After getting incredible results and then an injury. I turned to food after feeling sad and just depressed. But I can do other things to work out and am being respectful, gracious, kind, and loving of myself this round while unhitching from the comfort of food and breaking the binge cycle in the evenings.
♻️ Perfect timing, Carla. I have been struggling to keep going and finding myself craving a "good" binge evening on the couch. I haven't given in and luckily Gerard is in my head and getting me to continue on with my diet and walks😂! I would appreciate more videos on this topic if you have any more insights. Thank you for everything you do Carla.... aka my Brian(na) 😉.
I'm on my first BS cycle and hearing this has helped me. I think I will listen to it a few more times to let it sink in. Thank you ⬆
Yes please can you do more videos on self sabotage, I've been on a weight loss get healthy journey since July 9th and I had went down from 323 to 277 and it just seemed like when I saw those numbers that I hadn't seen in almost 3 years that I started back binge eating again I guess cause it's how I've always comforted myself and when I stepped on the scales this morning I was at 289 😥I don't want to undo all my hard work, and having multiple sclerosis it's so imperative for me to get to a more healthy weight, everything you said in this video spoke to me
I would love to hear more about this topic please. I've struggled my whole life, even after hitting my goals.
My mind is blown. This makes so much sense. Thanks for sharing I'm gonna save this and watch when I feel that discomfort coming on. Love these videos they are so helpful.
Great video! I was never really able to articulate why I always quit before I reached my goals. Once I started noticing results and other people saw results, I think I just decided that I would “settle” for that and I would compromise on my goals and just start eating whatever I wanted again. And then I would end up back where I started!
I just had my third baby three months ago and I’m really to take the leap to reclaim my health. Your videos have been so helpful in helping stay conscious and mindful during the process!
🤗🖤 ⭐️🔄 🦧Thank you for this! I just realized as you were talking that my recent self sabotage episode came from my discomfort with the thought of someone not being pleased with me because I am losing weight and God forbid, becoming comfortable and just maybe happy in my own skin.
I realized the discomfort from the attention was why I’ve self sabotaged in the past because of what Ger talked about in my first round of BodySlims. Also, because you talked about it further in Carla’s Corner and your other videos. That was huge for me and this is as well. The “who does she think she is” mindset apparently bothers me way more than I ever wanted to admit. This is great! Now I can get rid of letting this way of thinking impact my life. This is such a huge monkey 🦧off my back! I will have to keep tabs on this tendency. Wow! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! More of these would be great! ☺️
Thank you for such an insightful video Carla. I see myself in that vicious cycle and sitting in that discomfort rather than giving in to old habit patterns is sage advice. I'm glad to know I am not the only one who finds compliments on weight loss triggering. Along with triggering self sabotage the compliments also trigger my bitchy inner critic. I literally hear in my head "they're only saying you look good now because you looked so horrible before." I definitely have some more work to do. Thank you for providing such a great roadmap for self healing. 🔃🖤
Incredible timing. I just started my 3rd week. I wake up at 5:30/ 6:00 in the morning, but I don't get out of bed. I tell myself to get up and get on the recumbent bike since I can't walk because of a back issue. I never get up! I think tomorrow will be a new day. It's time for that real change. Thank you for this talk. It was great and eye-opening❤!
🔄this is such a great video! Self-sabotage is real and very annoying. I love your suggestion of just “sitting with it” - because you’re right, once you get into the thing you do when you self-sabotage (snacks after dark are my vice) - you get into a sort of an autopilot mode. Next thing you know - you’ve consumed massive amount of calories! I’m going to work on this. Love your content! ❤
Thank you so much for this. Self sabotage is my downfall and the way you explained it really has really helped me. 🔁
I feel like all this boils down to making how you take care of yourself, what you prioritize to take care of your health needs to become part of your core belief system. Somethings we do or think or feel regardless of what the crowd around us is thinking, feeling, doing. That's integrity. So making the way we take care of ourselves a matter of integrity. And then not swerving from that belief system around health even when people around us encourage something different or the voice inside gets scared. But stand up for ourselves , at least internally.
Maybe this isn't at all right but this video for my wheels turning in q good way. I needed this support today
It is interesting. It's like the attention or compliment made me aware of myself as existing through someone else's eyes... and that makes me feel foreign and then I eat to feel "familiar". Hahaha what is that!
Love your ideas. Thanks! 🔄
Thank you Carla, this was really helpful! x
Most helpful video about weight loss ever, thank you!
Thank you for this! I'm down 20 lbs but have back slid the last 2 weeks. Not sure what triggered me but this has helped me understand how to get back on track. XO❤
one of my favorite videos
so helpful
I can't express enough how much I love this video. Thank you so much
Wow this is so true!!! I had that happen with drugs and now my weight. No one has ever explained it this way!! Thank you
Thank you so much! I have been struggling with exactly this, and haven’t been able to shake it! Your video helped me understand how to deal with this. I so so appreciate you! ❤️❤️❤️
Very insightful as always Carla!
Thank you 🙏🏼 for this beautiful video that helps me a lot 🥰
More like this, please, Carla. Really helpful.
Thank you for another needed and insightful message!!
Amazing and very perfect video for the subject. Thank you! 🙏🏾
Carla, this was so so helpful, thank you! Could you please do another video around self sabotage about the following question: how do you stop yourself from self sabotaging when the discomfort you feel (and that makes you overeat) is something that is recurring and not resolved? For example, let’s say you have made the effort to exercise and eat right but you constantly have financial worries that make you want to self soothe through food? You can sit with the discomfort but it constantly reoccurs because there are stressors in your life which make you want to reach for food. Your life is in a perpetual state of anxiety so even though you try to make positive healthy changes, stress makes you digress.
P. S. The problem could also be a bad relationship or a sick child or anything that really wears on your mental health and resolve.
Brilliantly explained, i love, these videos ❤
Loved this, and would love to hear more!
Great video! I would like to hear other reasons for self-sabotage.Sometimes, getting attention gives people confidence and the confidence turns into “ permission” to overeat , which sabotages and derails the progress . How to ignore the compliments and continue the actions ?
Thank you!
Very helpful! Thank you for explaining it so beautifully
🔄 Carla, brilliant video. Thank you!!!😊❤❤❤
Great advice....it's definitely something I do.
Wow, this came at the right time! Today I was looking for comfort, just a little worried about work this week. I ate to comfort all day. Such a great point that it’s not physically painful or anything!? Tomorrow is a new day. 🔄 ❤
I’m so glad this helped Jennifer xxx
Brilliant! Staying one step ahead of the predictable sabotaging thoughts really helps ⬆️
I appreciate this topic, thank you for your time and effort.
🔄 thank you, this couldn’t have come at a better time for me ❤
Thank you so much. Very enlightening
🚴♂️This is one of my favorite video formats that you produce!!Thank You! 🙏
Great video and perspective on this topic, Carla, tfs, Laura ❤❤❤
Thank you for this video! Really needed to hear this. Would love to hear more. This makes so much sense in my life right now. 🔄
Thank you so much for this video! You were so talking to me! I've had a crappy day with my food. Thank God there is a new day tomorrow! I never realized this cycle. It makes so much sense when you talk it out. ❤
🔄 so much wisdom in what you say ❤
Been there, done that over my 3 decades of weight loss cycles. Once i started focusing on the mental game i find the struggle w/ this & the soothing stress w/ food items spells are getting better. Fix our HEADS... body will follow. One day at a time... PROGRESS not perfection w/ any behavioral repairs.❤🙏💜🤗
All I can say is wow! Thank you so much for bringing this to light. I don't know how many times I have ended up sabotaging myself. I would love more videos on this topic. 🔄
Hello Carla, your advice has come at the right time for me. I have put on 1 stone over the past 4 months as reduced exercise due to surgery, change of job to full time & family caring commitments. I feel miserable & the dark nights are drawing in. I know I need to change my work life balance to suit me, get fit & feel positive again. Thank you for being there for us all on our journey 🤗🩷
🔄I have gone back soooo many times! I have never really thought about the circumstances around my actions. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom 🥰
You have ushered me thru the very thing that keeps stuck year after year. I get down and then start getting compliments and then bounce right back up. Thank you so much for this info. I trust you more than any therapist as you’ve walked the walk😊
Thank you so much for posting this! I think I have some real thinking to do about myself...
Awesome! I plan to listen to this video a few more times. I would be interested in more videos about the psychological aspects of weight loss. Thank you!❤❤❤
I loved this video, thank you for making it. It was helpful, and more on this topic would be good. Thank you again.
This is so powerful 👏👏👏
I needed to hear this. Thank you!
I'm gonna go for my hour walk I was putting off.
Thank you thank you thank you
I ask my self this all the time
Great video Carla ♻️
Thanks!
This is so helpful, thank you Carla! Love your channel and everything you do. Big hugs from Austin, Texas.💗🔄
🔄 always a pleasure to listen too. I watch and rematch your videos to help keep me focused in my new weightloss journey
Thank you for explaining this. We just moved to a new city and I wondered why I’ve been going back to poor habits lately. I am uncomfortable and I am seeking comfort through the old ways. This video was so very helpful! Thank you, thank you, thank you. 🌀
Omg I needed this!
I sabotaged myself recently eating 27000 kilojoules over my weekly budget when on holiday
And have gained 4 kilos in the last 2 weeks
Insane I know but it’s true 😢
Great video Carla! Thank you! I have been making big changes in what I eat and was surprised that I stayed away from ice cream for about three weeks! I think because I am eating food that is better for me, I am not craving ice cream all the time! Yay!!!
New subscriber. You're simply amazing!! Valuable content! 🚲
Hello, Carla, I just recently found your channel. Yes! Chinese five spice is great for broccoli! Thank you!
Everything is hitting the nail on the head sooo much with this! Absolutely resonating with me today. I believe I truly needed to hear this. Thank you Carla!!❤❤
It’s my pleasure Lisa xx
We also sabotage ourselves in our relationships ~ for many of the same reasons as with sabotaging ourselves during weight loss : If you grew up in a dysfunctional/toxic family, being drawn to toxic/unhealthy romantic relationships often happens because they are familiar to us: they mimic the unhealthy family life we came to know when growing up. Thank you, Carla, for presenting this important subject ~
🔁 Great video! I'm 10 months into a weight loss journey, down 54 pounds. I've been spinning on the self sabotage cycle for the last couple of months. I still have a long way to go. This is so helpful and insightful. Your journey and your growth is very inspiring!
Discussing this more would be great. Very interesting x
That is the perfect video for me❤
Great advice Carla 🔄
Please make more content on this!!
💫♻️ I would really like to hear more about sabotage from different perspectives. Great video 👌
🔄 🖤 well said Carla!
Great video ❤ 🏹
Amazing video
👠❤How is it your topics are always timely. 😂 Thank you Carla. Another valuable content video. Couldn't find recycle icon., so a red shoe 👠 it is😊
🔄 I am very guilty of this and get so frustrated with myself for sliding back into old habits
The story of my life❤❤
Good video.
Carla, thank you...... Omg
🔄I’ve been on this no so merry go round for ages.