BOUNDARIES YOU WILL NEED IN MARRIAGE | girl/guy friends, intimacy, in-laws, conflict
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- Опубликовано: 16 июл 2024
- Encouragement below It's never too early or late to learn boundaries that are healthy for marriage. We share some of our own boundaries but HIGHLY encourage you to reflect on what will be important to your and the person you are with to create a healthy relationship.
Speaking of reflecting on what we need to live a healthy life looks up to Jesus (haha), we can apply this to EVERY part of our life. If you haven't already check out the rest of our series on boundaries! We believe it will bless you and get you thinking. In a podcast I did with the boys (Prompt Us Podcast), Gabe mentioned how it's important that we become a PHD in our spouse. We need to study. To learn. To inquire to best understand how we can work together to create the best outcome. It's the same with every part of our lives. We HAVE TO CARE! We need to research and ask questions. Take things seriously. Rarely do things just happen because of "luck". Ever heard the quote "I am a great believer in luck! I find that the harder I work, the more lucky I get." Let's not just walk through life and let it happen to us. Let's take life seriously and go out and happen to it!
We love yall a ton,
Chad & Tori Masters
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10 pts to whoever likes this video. 100pts to whoever shares it. lol (but honestly thanks just for being here and watching!)
i liked this comment too😂
I liked it and shared it ( on discord ) 😂
hahah I wonder how many points that should be lol
You are always on another level hahah you and saint luke are gifts from God!
@@ToriAndChad bro ! Imma cry 😭🤣
The one's who get mad with you for having boundaries are the ones that benefited when you had none.
I just want to say thank you both so much for modeling what it is like to have a healthy relationship with Christ both individually and as a couple. Chad, you have shown so many of us young women what type of godly man we should be waiting for instead of trying to seek a worldly man on our own. Keep fighting for the Kingdom, we love you both!
Thanks so much for saying that, Jessica! That is super kind of you. We love and appreciate you!
Same with her, she’s such a good role model for what a Christian woman should look like
Yes! Please do the “how to date intentionally” video!! Also love you guys and all the wisdom in these series so much! Not in a relationship at all but definitely building my tool belt! Love how you said that we can take advice for other seasons of life and apply it even though we are not there yet!! Totally believe that!
Ohh this makes me more ready than afraid of marriage
awww that is so powerful!
That’s awesome! This is a solid video!
@@logantyndall989yes it is
I think it’s a great idea to live away from the families your first year. My husband and I didn’t do this and extended family members regularly bombarded us, invaded our privacy, meddled to the point where there’s now broken relationships with in laws. We were so young and didn’t know how to set boundaries or ask for space but we needed space to figure out married life. We started off rocky and after 6 years, we still fight about our extended families. It’s so important to set the tone in your first year. I only wish I could go back on time and move to a different city and express my needs better.
Yes! Please do a video on intentional dating please! I’m a newly wed, college student, and would very much appreciate ideas and y’all’s perspective!
yes yes yes
I love the words of encouragement in the description, y’all always brighten my day ☀️ Thank you!
THIS WAS GOOOOD!! thank you!
Tori and Chelsea externally processing for 5 hours describes me and my bff’s relationship to a tea ❤️ Such meaningful and blessed friendships! 🙏🏼
yea my family has always struggled with in-law boundaries. my grandparents forced my parents to live right next to them and let me tell you it has led to some very difficult moments. we’re going through a season right now due to it. please pray for my family! love you guys and God bless💗
Yeah We don't doubt that at all.. we will pray for you all... for healing for restoration and more!
❤️ praying for y’all!
Praying for you 🙏
I am so far from getting getting married anytime soon but these boundary videos are such a joy to watch and help me out so much! 💗
Oh my world! This one is incredible!!! Man, God bless you guys and continue to enlarge your ministry.
The lighting in this video is chefs kiss
Single follower over here but still really appreciating all this advice and guidance on relationships/marriage so thank you!x
So good!!!! Newlywed over here and I think these boundaries would really benefit us. ❤️❤️❤️ lots of love!
This is a really great video. My husband also loves his alone time. It hurt me at first, but now I love that tone too!! We both pursue our hobbies during that time. And we learned the in laws boundaries the hard way. Glad it’s all settled now, but it was hard in the moment. Y’all are awesome!!
What an encouraging description!! Live reading the descriptions to your videos always so good.
awww I'm just jacked that yall take the time to read them!
Congrats you guys for hitting 70k!!! I’m not sure if you’ll see this, but I’m so happy for you guys! Love you and God bless 🥰
Another 🔥 video! My main takeaway from this is communicate, communicate, communicate.
I don’t think I’ve ever seen a RUclips video with literally 0 dislikes.... I know why tho! we love you guys and you guys do such a good job at making your channel so positive! Always enjoy your videos!!!
I wish there was someone here in India to give such a wise advice to us, but thank God for youtube and you guys! I live in a Joint Family, and I have seen my parents more than often sacrifice their needs and personal space because of not having established boundaries with my grandparents, and guess what, I have been asked to do the same so many times! Does not mean I don't enjoy being with them, honestly I cannot imagine my life without them😂
Exactly... It is tough when family is involved but that doesn't mean that we don't love them and want them around... Every family dynamic is different and it's definitely important to figure out what is healthy for your mental health, romantic relationship as well as your family goals!
THANK YOU! I'm not married yet, but this video helped me think about how I'm setting good boundaries for myself and my future family now!
I just want to say thank you for your videos! You guys are such a great example of what pursuing God in marriage looks like. It has been really helpful for me to learn from that & I'm sure for others as well. 😊
you guys always put out solid content, but special praise for this one! 👏🏼👏🏼
Thank you for talking about this guys! I'm VERY single lol.
But I've realized that emotional intimacy with friends can be a problem.
That being said, we put our identity into our friend groups. Sometimes I feel like we forget to set boundaries in friendships! Thank you for addressing this.
Wooooooo!!!!! Freaking looooove this. Boundaries are so important. I believe with all my being NOT having them is the worst idea
Yeeey!! So excited for this topic! 💛
We hope it blesses you!
I have loved all videos from your boundaries series, it’s been so helpful in my life 🙏🏻 trying to learn how to communicate my boundaries and needs have been hard work but I know it = good communication ❤️
hard work but so so so important! You got this Kirsty! Thanks for always encouraging us so much!
Some of these were hard to hear but I LOVE it that you guys were telling the truth 💛
Love your guys pt of view on marriage! Keep these vids coming
Love you both so much!! Thank you for implanting so much wisdom❤🙏🏻😍🤗💖
We love you and thank you!!!
Thank you for this! Gosh I'm running out of words to say how grateful I feel to see all that you're contributing towards!
To resolve these emotional turbulences and live in a state of emotional equnimity is the delight of the spiritual personality in us. You've managed to always keep that candle of spiritual well being well lit. Thank you for just being so human and sharing the wonderment of being so simple and valuable.
You two are a treasure.. ❤
Aww you're too kind as always... I also have no idea what equnimity means hahah!
@@ToriAndChad It means the calmness you dwell in during difficult times. Something like equilibrium/balance that we all wish to stay along!
You're too sweet to ask me the meaning. I shall try to keep my words simpler.. am sorry.
Awesome message in the description!! Thanks Chad💪🏻 will watch the video when I get home tonight.
Thanks a lot Shaughn the man! hahah Let us know what you think of the video!
@@ToriAndChad I really enjoyed this video a lot! Key take away for me, start living like a married man now in singleness. 2ndly the raise your voice part hits hard, that's how i grew up, so really need to be supper attentive to keep my tone down. Tone of voice accounts to 38% of communication! scary thought. Thanks for the video you guys, really appreciate your hard work, it doesnt go unnoticed!
Thank you for always posting such helpful and encouraging content guys!
We are thankful that we get to do this!!!
Wisdom is so important 🙇🏽♀️ Give us more wisdom Holy Spirit 🙏🏾
Your guys are wonderful. Just pure love 😍 thanks I actually learned something today.
Just every video sooo precious!! It's a real treasure to find such meaningful videos with quality message! Just some of my fav highlights and comments
- Communication of how we are feeling about certain stuff might be awkward in the beginning and does require quite the humility but the fruit of it is PRICELESS!!
- I also really appreciated what you said about not everyone liking to figure things out right at the moment but to just let the other talk with patience and let them pour it out to a same gender friend if desired
- and just not having a close or best friend if the opposite gender is extremely important and not at all strange but shows real dedication and true contentment in having the attention and heart of one guy/girl and it's totally healthy!!
- also "serving with sex" is so succinct but dead on!!
- loved the priority aspect too - 1. God the Father, 2. Marriage, 3. Kids, 4. Ministry, 5. School/work, etc...
- something that is actually kinda new is to not put pressure on my wife to be to be EVERYTHING to me or to expect me to be everything to her, but that's so eye-opening!!
So many other things but we love your advices especially in this vid and please do keep them coming!!
Aww thanks a lot, David! That means so much!! Love these comments you are awesome! It makes us feel so special to see these amazing notes!
Sorry for the long one 🙈 but thank you so much for taking time and reaching out to all of us!! ☺️
We need "babezzz" merch hahah ❤️
You both are so close to 70K wuho❤️❤️❤️🎉🎉🎉🎉
Oh dang! I don't know if you know but we actually did design some for our previous launch but it didn't make the final cut!
Your videos are always so informative sending you both lots of love 💖💖I respect how both of you are ready to understand eachother's boundaries
Absolutely love this video!!!!!! So helpful and insightful definitely watching this with my future husband!!!
Loved the video! Thank you very much for the effort you put in this. I thought it was fantastic! Thank you, thank you for constantly sharing your experience and viewpoint. I appreciate it!
So close to hit 70 k!! I'm so happy this channel is growing! 💛💛💛So excited for the future of this channel! ✨
Thanks a lot!!! can't believe how close we are! If we continue we may be able to hit 100k this year!
But honestly, even at this number we are shocked and thankful and happy!
@@ToriAndChad Finger crossed🤞
I was just thinking yesterday (as I rewatched the other boundaries videos) that we needed this one!!!! Soooo excited to watch!!!!!!
Awww you rewatched them?!?! we can't handle how sweet that is
@@ToriAndChad Oh yes!! Being in a season of dating I need all the boundaries encouragement. Reminding myself of boundaries has been so important and I have found your videos so helpful! I have also been sharing with friends in different seasons of relationship and we all love y’all!!!
Aww we love you!
who else not skipping the ad and love their videos so much helpful every video 😊
im not married nor in a relationship with a person but As a woman looking forward when it come to pass ,i found their opinion helpful .
i am amazed at how this video has SO much wisdom!!! praise God for His wisdom over your lives, wow❤️
This video was very helpful, thank you guys sm. I love y’all and your channel ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing with us this video ❤️ it’s so helpful :)
Right on time .... 🙏🏻📖☀️🥳 Thanks for making this video. These boundaries are so important! Jesus will help us to love each other better and establish these boundaries for the health and function of healthy marriage. Love it!
Why am I smiling like an idiot? 🤣
Thank you guys. 🥰😇
Thank you guys for this video! I really need to hear some of that! Sending all love from Brazil!
God bless you ❤️🇧🇷
Not me doing the intro with you guys 😂😂✌️🏾
You both are amazing! Thank you for posting great videos ❤️
Thanks for the love and supporting us, Cheyenne!
@@ToriAndChad always! Blessings!
Love this vid and love you guys! So much wisdom !!! Ahhhhh
This is so good. I learnt a lot from this, I'm gonna keep these for future use
Please make the "date ideas" video
Make that video about date ideas and intentionality !!
I was gonna like the video anyway, but when Tori read that text...immediate like! lol Amazingly thoughtful and wise content thanks!
I am so excited for marriage and to work on it🙌🏻♥️
Yayyyy!!! Hi, hi from Discord!!
Hi there! Thanks for your sweet message on discord!
thank you for this video!! i got married 8 months ago and really needed to hear this ❤️
WOOOO!!! CONGRATS!
@@ToriAndChad thank you!! my husband and I love watching your videos together!
Yesss, another great video!!!!
woooo! Hope it blesses you!!!
Give me all the advice videos from Tori and Chad! 😄😉 I love listening to your Bible based-wisdom and encouragement! 💛 Thank you for being willing to share with us what God is teaching you!
Awww yay! Thanks for always being with us, Lulia!!! That means a ton to us!!! We love you!
@@ToriAndChad 🤍🤍🤍
I just listened to today's podcast then came here :)) Love you guys!!
Awww thanks for taking in all the content!
We love you!
I am not even in a relationship lol but I enjoy watching your videos so much!!!!! watching Tori speak is like having a big sister talking!!
*videos suggestion* ..I don't know what average age your audience has but I would love if Tori could make more "girl talk" videos especially directed towards your younger audience, and maybe talk about stuff like insecurities, self-image, comparison, beauty standards (especially you being someone that worked with modeling/beauty industry) or just advice in general :) and chad could pitch in too from a guy's perspective :)) hope you take it into account!! much love :)
I would love if you could talk more about accountability partners in marriage!!!
You guys are so sweet I feel like I have a lot of work to do❤️🤍🖤
This was great. It sounds like a lot of work.
Love you guys!! 😍😍😍
We love you!!
Can already tell how awesome this one is gonna be! Love how honest and open you guys are 🥰 your advice is so encouraging!
Aww thanks a ton! We hope it encourages you!
Yes!! 🤩
We love you Angela!
@@ToriAndChad Aww love you too !! ❤
I love your advice videos because I'm a really nervous person about the future and I'm working on find peace in God having control of it. But while I work on it I like being prepare on some stuff I like that you are bible-based. Ps. Sorry por my english is not my first lenguage🙈. Love your videos!!
Your english was incredible! Thanks for the kind word!!!
Now that's some advice :
" We're friends of the opposite sex " 😯👏🏻
hahahahah
Congratulations 🎈🍾🎉🎊 on hitting 69.6k subscribers.
Please do a video about ideas for date night. Thank you so much for this video. I am learning so much especially because many of these things aren't talked about around christian circles. God bless you guys.
You mentioned that are are so many resources for couples and relationships, could you guys make a video on your favorite resources or the ones that have been most interesting/beneficial to you? Thanks!
Need to bring out the notebook for this one ...I know it's going to be a Banger !
Absolutely!
@@shaughnsmit2076 hey Shaughn The Man
hahahah let us know what you think!
So true!
@@ToriAndChad for sure !
Bro Chad, how active are you on signal ? I need some advice from you. Hopefully you could help out ?
Love u guys💕💕💕
What you guys said about close friends of the opposite sex 👏👏👏👏 YES!
Hi ! Could you make a video about sex in marriage and the boundaries there ? Because we often know what we shouldn't do befor marriage, but then in marriage there is nothing that's really said. About like certain positions, sex toys,... what's appropriate and what's not ? And a biblical perspective on that. Love you guys, your videos are amazing!! 💖
You cannot "keep that spark alive." That "in love" feeling is hormones and chemicals having a party in your brain...and that WILL run out. But when it runs out, hopefully you have a rock-solid commitment that is there to propel you forward. Daily attention to I Corinthians 13 (the love definition) and the instructions to husbands and wives in Ephesians 5 are what is needed. After the spark dies out, love is then a decision, a choice.
Boundaries create freedom. There is freedom in responsibility and responsibility in freedom.
Brilliant brilliant video!
Yes please do date ideas ☺👍
To EVERYONE :
Want to be more involved with the Mastersfam ? and you got 5bucks to spare ? Go join the Patreon Partay ! Go Go Go !!!
We the best Community ! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🕺💃
hahaha you are the best!
@@ToriAndChad helping out in anyway possible 🙂
Yess! Totally worth those 5 bucks!🙌🏼 You're getting so much more back from it🔥
worth every penny, great investment into community!! 🙌
@@vandaaltje y'all found it yayy
Hello you guys!! 💓💓💓
Hellloo Maya!!!
Can't wait to watch this after dinner :) loveeee the topic!
Enjoy dinnerrr!
@@ToriAndChad thaank youuu!! It'll be later than expected so I can start now 👀 imma be prepared for if I get married one day hahahaa
Oooh just like you said it's good to learn to practise now hahaa
Love what you're saying Chad 👏🏼 I'm the same in needing alone time and I'll be communicating this right away when I'm dating now hahaha
@@angelavanoosten1 same for me Angela! such little things to communicate but makes a humongous difference.
I'm here ! This is the best time of the day
STM in the house!! 🥳
Yep, 30 mins till work finishes 😂
@@keana._ ofcourse I'm here 😂 hi keeks
@@shaughnsmit2076 go home and watch this first !
@@keana._ in the comments!
Date Nights!!
Hey Chad and Tori! I know you guys take questions for your Q and A’s over Insta, but since I don’t have an account, I’d just like to send you a question to save answering until your next Q and A. If it is the Lord’s will to bless you with kids, what kinds of boundaries will you be setting up around your kids and your social media accounts? How much will you share about their lives and what they are doing? Also, how do you feel about people who post their kid’s lives on social media? Thanks a ton for being such a light to young adults and teenagers as well and for bringing such wisdom.
These are amazing questions! Would be fun to include them soon (as soon as we sort out how we feel about them haha) Thanks for messaging us, Jill!
I’m also an external processor Tori!!
Me 13 while whatching this....
Lol love you guys ❤️❤️❤️❤️
i love this but i wish i had good friends like you guys have mentioned :(
I'm here, I'm back in y'alls comment section 😍🤍 love you guys
I RECOGNIZE THAT NAME!!!!! WOOOOO!
@@ToriAndChad YAYYY!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Woooooo! So happy!
@@ToriAndChad so grateful for you both 💛💛
Oh hey there!😁😁😁
Hey thereeeee!
Much love to you! 💜 I know it is random but where did Chad get his “more Grace” shirt that was in the “Struggling with Jealousy” video : )
A boundary that I need (not married) is to have personal Jesus time and slow morning time.not saying me and my future husband can’t or shouldn’t study the Bible and pray together just that i need my own personal time with it too✨
"It was money 💰it was fire" these edits are killing me 🤣
Hey great video you guys! I discovered your channel a while back and I've been binging on your videos ever since. Since this video is about marriage and things related to it, I just wanted to ask you, what are your views on same sex marriage and gay sex ?
I'M A NEW MASTERS SUBSCRIBER 😍🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦
Yes please to date night!
Could you elaborate on your perspective on financial boundaries in marriage. So far I have heard two perspectives with the similarity of still having a joint account. The only difference between the two perspectives is: one only has a joint account & the other is a joint account but each individual still an account of their own to spend on what they please.
Bring the beard baacckkk