13 Things Only Highly Sensitive People Understand
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- Опубликовано: 11 июл 2024
- There are certain problems only highly sensitive people will understand. Due to a biological difference, life as a highly sensitive person or HSP can sometimes be challenging. HSP’s are more inclined than other people to process information on a deep level. All their senses are heightened and felt more deeply - which means they can become overloaded much quicker as well. HSPs often suffer from frequent emotional exhaustion.
Being emotionally sensitive has advantages, too, of course. Highly sensitive people are usually very self-aware and more perceptive and empathetic than most. They are passionate and creative, with a deep appreciation for all things beautiful.
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Hello, all you lovely HSP's. I really thought I was a lone wierdo, now I know you're all out there, it makes me feel better. I''ve just found this out aged 52! Thank you.
No Jane, you are not the only one! :-) And guess what kids-- It's ok to have only 2 or 3 friends and be a loner-- because in reality-- who has time nowadays to entertain and keep up with 20 friends? I sure don't.
Me too.
I am also a lone weirdo . glad to meet you
Me too! So happy to know there are people that are like me! 💔🤗🤗💖
I am 61 and just found this out
Here is something I seldom see mentioned in videos about HSPs: We have to dumb ourselves down to have any kind of conversation with many people. All of the wonderful things our curious, open and creative minds explore has to be kept secret or else we'll be labeled woo-woo. It sounds arrogant but sometimes I feel like a 3D person in a 2D world.
Spot on! Im not good at small talk and seldom find anyone who can relate.
Well said.
You can talk to me anytime. Js
Spot on 🙃 It’s a lonely feeling
Yes! I feel the same way! We are not arrogant. It's just a waste of energy trying to have a surface conversation with shallow people. And boring too. I have so many different interests and curious about everything. I thrive on learning about things and gaining knowledge. But I have no one to talk to at this level because so many people are shallow. Its hard to be like this and sometimes I wish I was like everyone else because I think it would be easier to navigate in the world. I wish I could find a friend like me to talk to.
How incredibly true this is. I never looked at it like this, but you worded this perfectly.
What a gift it is when one encounters another curious soul and the conversation is actually stimulating and enlivening!
The most challenging is often being misunderstood, and not being able to articulate well who I am.
@Sam Farnsworth beautifully spoken!, Sam...💞💖
same
I feel you 🥺😩. It’s so annoying
You owe no one an explanation of yourself. You're beautiful. Period. I can tell by your comment. ✌️💙
@@dirtysanchez941 l agree 100%
This is me with one exception. I've learned ,after 57 years, to not be a people pleaser. Saying "no" the first few times is really, really hard. And then you realize how liberating it is.
Another problem of being an HSP is that no one can ever understand why you feel the way you feel... they don't understand your overlove, overcare, overworry, anything... it's sad... because I just had nothing but love filled inside but they just can't understand... :(
Very true
Yeah!.. definitely... only HSP's understands...
SO very true!...its sad cuz were only trying to being loving and helpful..its just natural...
Or you could live without emotions and actually repair the extreme nervous system damage and actually be able to function in public and in private without being on constant freak-out mode. Sounds pretty nice right? As an OPEHSP (Over-poweredExtremelyHSP)(thanks molly) I can attest to the value of this information. Oh, but don’t judge, you’re an addict too, you just hooked on your own brains fight or flight and happiness chems and have found a way to “push the button” even when there’s nothing happening. At least I outsource my supply.
Anywho. Nobody sticks up for addicts because everyone’s hooked on something, they just are ashamed of it... at least users are intellectually honest about it instead of hiding it behind menagerie and facades. We’re the real hero’s, being real about what’s inside. But yeah, keep on hiding from the truth and drag me through the mud for making you look at reality.
Cause THAT’s brave...
Yeah but you know what there is 20%, at least, out of 7 billion people like us. You are not alone.
We are anyone's friend but our own worst enemy ..we are smarter than most but it actually makes life difficult..we tire easier because were not living the life we crave..we are lonely than most
@@Brian-yq9nv same here
@@Brian-yq9nv exactly im the same way . hang in there god loves you !
@@Brian-yq9nv wow that’s exactly how it feels to me too. I can look and sense pass their words and body language to read their aura and know they’re no good
I hate being told I’m “too sensitive”.
Shelly simply reply "I am very sensitive" not too sensitive. Change the negative into just a fact. It feels better. I have been correcting people for a while now.
True!
Me too, Shelly. All I can say is being sensitive, even "too sensitive" is a very good thing. This great attribute gives people compassion and empathy. Wanting to help make situations better. Now I see that being too sensitive is a very good thing!
@@deannapye9661 yes very sensitive as I like to call it is what makes us beautiful. Most people who use the term to criticize could never understand our heart and are jealous.
Dude, embrace it with confidence. I learned that i will never stop flinching at conversations so i just ingrained that to my normal set of gestures and now i am seen normal. Just different.
Anyone who encourages intellectual, emotional, artistic, or spiritual growth is worth keeping. Don’t let them go.
Stories by Emily TOTALLY AGREE!! You hit the nail on the head.
I totally agree with you... yet speaking for myself, letting them go is part of loving them as attachment leads to suffering... when love is given freely by both sides, then you got a lifelong sustainable love... which is why letting them go, if they got things to do for instance, is a crutial part of loving them and trusting them, which is also why finding love for a HSP like me might appear to be so hard for most people and me if I give too much importance to what other people think, yet as I trust myself it doesn't take long to realise that it is so worthy in the end. That I am convinced of as I write those lines...
Thank you for your comment which allowed me to express this out!
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Love ur comment....thanks
They always do though
Moi aussi., Thami
All my life people telling me about being too sensitive in a negative way. Now I feel proud to be one, especially that I'm not alone. Powe to all of us!
Exactly, it IS something to be proud of! Power to all of us!
Amen!!! I couldn't have said it better myself.😊👍❤
Highly sensitive people notice little things that others miss. A lot of little things, especially when it comes to other people. They notice when someone's tone of voice doesn't match their words. They notice when someone won't meet their eyes when answering a question.
So very true....
Yes I notice things like that. But i dont tell anyone anymore because others don't notice
Talking life you’re right.ℹ️💯✅✝️🙏🏿📖🗡👌🏿👍🏿☯️😎
Lol I'm like and as a Christian I'm able to see true Christians and people that just call themselves Christians, I'm able to spot all types of bad people when I see them. And it's like Jesus said. " No kind of fruit tree bears other kinds of fruit, a good person does good things and you see it in them once you meet them.
Not just people but things. The comment section excluded from the video itself, etc. Also other useless uploads upgrades etc. Meh.
As an HSP, I'm usually very sensitive to my environment like I'd have a deep connection with everything. Thus I notice the beauty, unity, and integrity of the world surrounding me in each moment: raindrops, snowflakes, the sunset, the squirrel on the tree, the little bird singing in the garden, the smile of a child etc. and I see the unspoken meaning behind them, intuitively. For me this is the base of inspiration for writing, and since I've finally found the strength in myself to be able to live with it (including its downsides as well) I now consider it a blessing...
I totally relate. Writing and going into nature, gardening, all have been conduits for my ability to resolve the harshness of this world and my ability to find peace in the midst of chaos, beauty in the midst of ugly hate, and clarity in times of confusion. I can walk into nature and let streams, trees, even rocks give me short, yet profound messages that soothe my soul. I am truly blessed to see and hear through nature the underlying soul of the divine when I listen, see, and feel deeply within myself.
Gergely Marosvölgyi I love music and cannot understand how most other people does not have the same drive to find a spesific song they heard and like. I must find and own it. The same with a beautiful painting. I feel everything more intense than the next person, so I find that I am kind of isolated which I hate.
I absolutely love this comment so much!
I feel the same way🙏
You just described my essence. Reading comments like yours is like taking in a deep breath of fresh air. Thank you. ❤️
Yes, every single thing on this list applies to me. Growing up as an HSP was extremely challenging in my family. Early on I was labeled as thin skinned, weak, difficult, etc...It helps to know I'm not the only one. As I've gotten older I've come to appreciate my sensitive soul.
Yes I can relate to this. I was always different. They thougt i was weak. So glad theres more information out there now for those of us who r this way
No u are not the only one .I'm right there with u
How did you come to understand, deal and eventually appreciate it? My wife is having a very hard time with it and I feel helpless. She has seen therapist since she was 13 and has been on multiple medication without improvement. It’s so hard to watch her go through this.
@@lovelace8702 embrace it. The world needs more caring, tender hearts. 💕
@@deborahstrahan8670 make sure you take care of yourself. 💕
I can read peoples emotions as soon as I look in their eyes, it’s hard when there is hostility, I feel sick to my stomach and need fresh air quickly. Have to limit my environment and amount of time with certain people who aren’t loving, kind, or understanding. I’m happy when I’m alone. Creating is key, never stop. 🌞
I am happy when I'm alone too and my family does not understand it. I felt hurt by many people because my anti social behaviour was seen as rude. And people often made bad comments about me. As a result I don't want to be near people. I do get hostile when I am around people that have hurt me in the past. I never address people when they hurt me, I approach them years later. But I don't like it when others are hostile. Maybe those hostile people that you find hard to handle are highly sensitive too. Hope you have a great day. I know that being highly sensitive can be hard to deal with.
Im just like you, my bed is my friend I enjoy being by myself
Same
I also have a hard time with distracting background noise when I am in conversation with someone.
I also have a severe problem focusing due to background noise when I am in a conversation or trying to focus. Learning how to use new software with no training, in a retail environment for my job, has been excruciating and exhausting.
Me too.
Me, too.
Me too.I choose quiet quaint places to eat lunch with a friend.
Including background music like in this video.
To whoever reading this have a wonderful day and just know you are loved and appreciated. have a good day!❤❤😘
You too!🥰
Ty. You as well
Thank you and you too 💖
Thank You beautiful person. Have a wonderful day and may good fortune enter your life.
Thank you same to you, means a lot!
I can't be around toxic people without experiencing some anxiety.
Me too, I completely understand ya
I think thats with anyone who is toxic, whether your a HSP or not, life is too short to have these toxic people in your life. They will never change, thats how they survive by bringing people down.
Me too
Me too!
yesss🙌🙌i hate it🤦
I absolutely hate being an HSP. I take on everyone's emotions. I care too deeply and people comment on how understanding and compassionate i am yet no one really understands me. No one understands why I feel intense emotions and why I feel physical pain in my body when I see an injury on someone else. A lone wolf is what I am. I'm everyone's friend yet I feel friendless. Strangers come to me and tell me their problems.
Talking to people emotionally exhausts me. I just got off the phone with someone ... whose vibes and tone of voice alone made me choke up with tears. Feeling his sadness broke me down into tears. I always have to remind myself that these aren't my emotions. I like being alone. In total quiet. In solitude. No one understands why I value my alone time. Why i can't be around people all the time. So exhausting..
I need my alone time because only then I can recharge my batteries. Spending the whole day not interacting with anyone is soothing to my soul. I wish i didn't feel things so deeply. I can't save everyone and yet I keep trying to take everyone under my wing. I keep trying because its the only thing I know how... i cannot not help someone ...even though I burn myself out. Like a moth to a flame.
Time to start being kind to yourself. Take all the alone time you need and accept that that is okay. You are you, therefore you are okay. xx
@@janeridley4935
Thank you. 💜🤗
Much love and light to you beautiful soul. 🌼
Come to my channel, I am like you, I do martial art and I sing. I am pretty sure some of the songs or playlist I have put on could help you relief some of the emotional burden you are carrying day in and day out...
btw, I am not looking for support, I did this channel to support myself to start with, and then finding my love which in my heart I have found, yet only time can tell. Never the less, I can feel your pain, and I know I could help releiving some, as a true friend with a similar soul, could do. Hopefully.
Sincerely, and friendly
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Girl you are a like me♥️
But now I decided to be alone ♥️ so that I can avoid being a HSP.
What I do actually is that I listen to pop music because they make me feel alive
Especially Lana Del Ray
Billie Eilish
Sia
Labyrinth
And Halsey♥️😍
i feel peoples feelings and my parents think im depressed but im just feeling my depressed friends feelings
The only thing missing from this list is light sensitivity. I'm more sensitive to bright light than I am to loud noises, but I'm sensitive enough to that as well. Also, on my "hypersensitive" days (like when I don't get enough sleep) I get really touch sensitive... I'm fidgety because my clothes are touching me.
I am extremely sensitive to artificial light. For that reason i often wear sunglasses in the supermarket or at the dentist.
Same here -- lights, too-bright computer screens. I always have a hat w/me, sunglasses. And touch sensitivity -- yes.
I wear reading glasses that gets really dark in the light
Yes!!
I am both light sensitive and noise sensitive. This video is so good for people like us to see because we know that nothing is wrong with us. We are just different. And being different is just fine.
I always thought I was overly sensitive since childhood. I even tried to hide it because I often felt I was being taken advantage of. I have now recognized it as who I am and have learned how to control getting my feelings hurt. I would never change who I am, in fact I actually feel good about me. My love and compassion for all living things brings me great happiness. I really wish others were more sensitive.
We need time alone to recharge batteries
It's hard for me to get alone time since my parents house is small and i share the same room with my sister. They're kinda loud too. So yeah you can imagine how it goes.
@@milka_butterfly I'm so sorry to know. I can relate to you.
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I need that too but at this point in my life I wish I had someone to lay with.
Absolutely! I need more time than most and always have.
Being a highly sensitive person is why I believe I became Vegan. I saw the horrific abuse, torture and murder of innocent, harmless, peaceful beings and it torturerd me. I felt part of their anguish and realized what I had been doing all my life., contributing to the needless torment. I believe that most humans are NOT highly sensitive and that's why we have the cruelty in our world. Blessings to all the HSP.
You've said it all. That's what l felt as a child when first l saw my dad beheading a chicken for it to be cooked.
I’m an HSP and carnivore
That's so true iv also realized this
Touch is really important to me. I either don’t want you to touch me at all, and avoid it, or, I can’t get enough of it, and feel lonely. It completely depends on the person.
Sensitive people are generally more emotionally intelligent as they have a higher level of consciousness about their own feelings and emotions as well as an empathy about the feelings and emotions of others. Some people call this 'people pleasing' and it can be an accurate description, however for those with a vision, a goal, or a greater purpose for their life to be the best they can be then they can easily steer themselves away from people pleasing to achievements oriented for themselves as they have a greater purpose that guides them in a different direction. I feel i am one of them. Good luck everyone :-)
In an esoteric context, it is also helpful/quite useful, to use your 'third eye' to perceive and even protect yourself from being over-stimulated by all the things you can feel. Only then can you trust yourself to also set personal parameters and learn when you must also say ' No' for self-preservation. Help, care, empathize, feel, but also ground yourself.
@@jgoldberg3647 That is another great way to look at it.With experience and a great purpose to pull you through the challenges of life we can develop that '3rd eye.' My focus on life is to achieve my daily, weekly, yearly goals etc and to do it with the least obstruction in that pathway of success, so if it means i have to 'please' people on the way or not to respond negatively to someone on the road cutting you up etc then the greater purpose of achieving my goals pulls me through any situation as i can understand why 'others' behave the way they do and i show empathy by reacting as positively as i can. I agree we sometimes have to say 'no' to protect ourselves and the skill is knowing when. Good luck and thanks for your reply :-)
Wow.....so very true....
U r ture
Wow! I get it. When I was young I’d see a kid alone in the playground I was drawn to them. I sob and feel physically sick when I see a dead animal anywhere - even just reading about cruelty will do it. I walk into a room and immediately feel whatever is going on with people. I can’t stand crowds because of it. I pick it up over the phone too! The yelling thing is bad and I never understood the time pressure thing until now. Thx so much
I don't appreciate having to feel everyone elses energy.
Your an empath than
@@nuambawi9872 I remember reading about that. It can be exhausting.
La Verne Warren I completely agree.
Amen!!
Its aweful I prayed that god would take it away
I thought I must be weird and unsociable. All the points are me and big crowds drain the life out of me.
Maureen Van Dyk it’s cuz all their bad energy gets on and in u it sucks
Right like Disneyland is not the happiest place on eath 😂
Went twice,
When i was 7 and when i was 21 & both times i had a panic attack.
I didnt even last the full three days when the 2nd time. I was done within like 5hrs of being there.
@@Beingsprout waait 3 days? You're in Disneyland 3 days?? (sorry I don't know I would appreciate it if someone explained it)
Oh I can totally relate!!
Who else??
Me too! 🤗💖🤗💖🤗💖
Me, too! Finally, at 63, I found something that explains "me"!
I am so much and empath. I've been told I am very observant, open to helping others, cannot stand loud noises, too many people around me, I feel others vibes, even when they tell me they are fine or not annoyed, bothered etc.,
Often times others say... oh you're just too sensitive.
I always feel other peole's vibes. Often times know what's going to happen before it does.
I can spot phonies and disingenuous people immediately.
Same and it's annoying to see people promote them.
@@clomyst : It is, but, it makes life tough. Luckily for me, my youngest daughter is also a HST. So, I have someone to relate to.
I actually never knew there was a name for this other than an Empath.
Empaths and HSPs are close relatives, but they are not one and the same. Being an HSP means you are a superempath.
I've just learned in the last 5 years that I'm an empath by those who understand and by my own thirst for knowledge and understanding and just reading and learning more and being an empath can even get co-mingled in psychiatrists mind as borderline personality disorder. I dont look at it as a disorder though it's a gift and a curse.
I am a HSP. I believe it enables me to thrive in my career as a psychologist! Every single point is soooo true & it totally describes me. It's been hard to find people who love & accept you the way you are without subtely looking down on you. I value the few people who have respected me, being who I truly am
This rather sums me up and more. It’s imperative that we protect ourselves from negative and angry people since we are so sensitive. I can’t stand to feel that energy. Take time to recharge also.
I've never seen/heard such an accurate description about me.
Normally, I wouldn't write anything concerning my personal feelings in a public forum. Having said that, HSP seems to an area of life that resonates with me. These " qualities " are a great blessing and a curse at the same time.
I still can't shake off my father's death over 17 years ago. I seem to hang unto things and feelings waaayy past their point of usefulness. We weep but we must live on.
Correct me if I am wrong, if those of you that fit this HSP personality:
1) Your parents was/were great caring people. They give/ gave you a solid foundation on how you should love and love other people.
2) You rely/relied on their strength/ weaknesses in most facets of your life when growing up.
3) Everything you know/ knew and believe in life involve/ involved heavily dependent on what they say or do.
4) As a HSP person, we value friendship and fellowship with others and often get betrayed and hurt in life's journey.
The sleeping and resting/ recharged is very poignant to me.
Dennis T. Your first 3 traits are the complete opposite from my experience. I have struggled all my life to escape the scars and be a successful person. But I do have #4 in common with you. The combination of my not learning how to have loving relationships and my HSP has resulted in spending most of my life alone.
@Victoria Sorry to hear about that. I had the best parents anyone would want. Supportive and caring. Reminds of The Walton's mini- series.
Also I am STARTLED EASY and I am highly sensitive to the wheater atmosphire
I think you covered everything. Good job! How do you know me so well? My dad is an extrovert who loves to entertain at his house and be the center of attention. He would always chastise me for being too sensitive and antisocial because I hated that our house was the hangout for everybody and I would hide in the garage or go to the park to be alone. For years I thought there was something wrong with me because I'm so different from most guys. I cry over sad movies, etc. or when somebody else cries, I love art, opera, museums, the library and anything of beauty and I notice and obsess over things others seem oblivious to. Also, because I'm black and male, I was/am expected to like rap and sports, both of which I hate! One day I was lamenting to my friend about how I couldn't connect with other guys because I'm so different and I hated myself for it and she told me that my sensitivity was my super power and the reason she liked me so much was because of all the things that my father despised in me. She was a woman I had great respect and admiration for and hearing her describe my quirks and oddities as a unique almost divine power that allowed me to understand appreciate things that others don't gave me a new perspective. So to all my fellow HSPs, let's use our powers for good!
Dark Feather You do you--to hell with what people think!
I am a highly sensitive person I have been all of my life ever sense I was a child very young
I think we were all born that way. Just some of us, 80% of the population, were teached not to be the hard way. Either by life, their journey, or even their family(most of the time I would say). As evolution is an infinite learning curve. That said, things can and will get better, I assure you!
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Hey you, being sensitive is better than insensitive,,,right. You are AWESOME.
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HSP's care about principals more than material things;because they care about feelings
Principles not principals
Very true
I agree with the former but not te latter. Feelings can be deceptive. I Personally don't care about material things caude there's so much more to this world than that.
Most HSP's actually have a high pain tolerance. They are designed to feel other's pains and exhaustions, so they can handle much more and intense pain than most people. If they have a low pain tolerance, it is not their's. They have to acknowledge where that feeling is coming from, then they will be back to their normal.
Overanalyzing the details I can relate to... HSP's also tend to have really busy minds.
They were talking about both low tolerance for PHYSICAL pain, as well as emotional, sorry you missed that point
Agreed and have trouble getting rid of negative energy that is a hard part to learn
@@cocothesea you are not to learn to "cope" with anything. We are called to use our gifts and talents to serve others, therefore, we analyze how we are drawn to helping others and do that or similar to serve others. Clue #1 - if you hate your job or are exhausted after a days work, this career is working against you and you need to change careers.
As far as a professional to help us learn about being an HSP, I have found none in America because they all are with the mindset of how to cope rather than explaining how you are, your tendencies and struggles, and what to do with your sensitivities. You wouldn't use a Honda to tow a semi trailer, you would find a truck designed to do it. Same with people; learn about your design so you can best use your gifts and talents. This mindset is absent in America. There is no single professional source to teach about HSP's.
@@SecularSpinach I am talking about physical as well as emotional. Sorry you can't find the couch in the living room or you could have seen a view other than your own.
Highly sensitive people can pick out a narcissist.
I know I did.
I can also immediately pick up on a psychopath or sociopath. It is extremely disturbing to me when this happens... and even more disturbing because no one else sees them... Yikes.
So true! I picked up on how toxic Trump was from the beginning. He impacted me so profoundly that I had to write a book about his various character traits in order to process my own emotional turmoil and to comprehend the full extent of his destructive personality.
Christine Light but that has hardly to do with sensitivity. Half of America and lots of people around the world felt and knew from the beginning that trump is a very sick person.
@Red Patriots Rise What is TDS?
Good one!! So true
What I miss on the list: so easily distracted all of the time, by sounds, by movement, by other things that need to be done, even by my own thoughts. Or is that just me?
I am also very intuitive and I can see right through someone who may not be telling me the truth about something ,it's like I subconsciously just start picking up the person's energy without even realizing it & then something they may say or do will get my attention
And you feel embarrassed and confused for doing so.
@@susantang287 NO I don't feel embarrassed at all ? Why would I feel embarrassed ? They should be the one feeling embarrassed for trying to lie about something in the 1st place ☺️
But then it becomes impossible to explain to others what you sensed, or even the fact you sensed it, so again you keep silent. But I do always trust my feeling and follow the inpute I sensed.
@@pawpardise Thank you for explaining this further. It was what I couldn't fully convey.
How refreshing to hear what I first thought made me good & kind, then thought made me weak & too vulnerable & ultimately made me bad at relationships, is in fact the blessing I felt it was since childhood... Yes, I feel deeper, good & bad... Yes, I am easily hurt & often... Yes, being highly sensitive has its pitfalls before you know what to call it & how to use it, but I wouldn't change me for all the security & comfort in the world! Xoxo
Any perfumed scent makes me miserable. I am greatly bothered by the scent of fabric softener sheets coming out of my neighbor’s dryer vent. I feel like I can’t breath and I don’t have asthma. The same with chemical smells. Spicy foods are a no no, as is garlic and raw onions. I’m a wreak in the dentist chair anticipating pain. I pick up on other people’s emotions at first sight. I am constantly reading body language although I don’t try to. It just happens. I could go on and on. I never heard of HSP’s until a few years ago when I read a book called “Highly Sensitive People.” The author escapes me at the moment. It sure helped me understand myself. I also feel joy and appreciate beauty to a heightened degree and have a very rich inner life, so it’s not all bad. In fact, sometimes it’s a gift.
I also read other peoples body language although i try to and sometimes i hate it.
I am all that and more, I hate people who are selfish, toxic and false...
Anindya Dutta Exactly .
We don't hate
Yep.
We just need our space.
I definitely don’t like being around them either. They always take and never give.
This describes me, highly empathatic, creates depression and anxiety. Makes life difficult. 😰
Yeah true
Absolutely. I agree with you. I have been diagnosed with major depression and anxiety. And I am definitely very sensitive. I am empathetic, I feel misunderstood, and I find it hard to be around a lot of people.
AH! FINALLY WE ARE RECOGNIZED for this GIFT!!! THANK YOU for this piece. I didn't even know this was acknowledged. I first saw it on TED TALKS on RUclips, a woman, Elena Hierdiercherkoff (sp?) of Entreprincess talks about being hyper sensitive and she IS an Entrepreneur & has a foundation for, YES! HSP's! *"The Gentle power of HSP's" (Pls watch it will change your life!) It was so CATHARTIC hearing someone explain the MYSTERY of my LIFE!!!
My mother always would say," stop being a drama queen," if I'd cry and feel devastated when I saw a person or pet being hurt or was hurting. I HURT TOO. "Stop DWELLING on things."
It felt so unnatural to try to qwell or push down my emotions for YEARS growing up. The rest of my family (very cold) didn't ALLOW it. My FATHER WAS an HSP. He felt deeply. Thank Heaven for that.
I married an HSP and these were some of the best years of my life. Seeing all of you responding, we ALL GET IT! It doesn't feel lonely anymore! Thank U for sharing. I am grateful for all this Hsp family!!! I am grateful for RUclips that recognizes the Universal connection. This "Brainy Dose" channel that brought this topic to light and us together to share.
Particularly during this pandemic, which feels like a preference to "shall the fittest survive", Do any of you feel that? I also believe there exists a world that doesn't support artists, creatives, HSPSml, and visionaries . We need to help, support and protect each other. The ARTISTS and SAVIORS of the UNIVERSE, HUMANITY and our ANIMALS on MOTHER EARTH, THEY NEED US!
Speaking if "sensitivity"; DO you know they say an animal's (mammals, in particular, dogs, cats (felines), cows, pigs, and more) sensory is so acutely developed to sound, vision, movement, and even their emotions, are 10x what we feel! Imagine, THEIR sensitivity.
Sensing when they are going to be euthanized. Dogs (they howl and howl, it's gut wrenching.) I've worked in shelters for the past few years, trying to pass laws for no kill. All because we (man) can't afford to find room in a shelter for an innocent little creature that did nothing to deserve it. How about when we slaughter a cow? Yes, I did a documentary on cows (which are highly emotional animals, and how they cry as they're taken to be killed.) It hurts everytime I think about that documentary.)
And even if you don't feel what I ("this" Hsp) feel(s), please remember, it's an innocent pure soul, with probably a bigger heart than any of us.
It's so EASY; "JUST BE KIND", NOT cruel.
It doesn't cost a thing, and it doesn't take more time or effort. KARMA will take care of ALL. LOVE can SAVE US. PROTECT what's valuable, our Beasts, our Children, All of YOU! And OUR Universe will radiate in harmony once again. I wish YOU LOVE! 💖✨🌠🌈🐋🦋
I can’t be around any negative confrontations..it makes me crazy! I absolutely am hsp, I’m so passionate about both beautiful things and have major trouble with the negative things such as child/animal abuse etc!
Yes to all of them. I used to think I was such a weirdo for being like this but nowadays I understand myself more and think it's okay to be the way that I am. My hubby and at least one of my kids are also hsp.
You just described me to a T. It's exhausting being so sensitive!😦
I hate being told, "YOU'RE TOO SENSITIVE." i am sensitive to: itchy clothes, wool is torture, soapy or sticky skin, greasy feel like sunscreen, two people taking over top of each other, being interrupted when I'm speaking, repetitive sounds like someone clicking their pen, volume low on TV or radio so that I can't make it out but can't ignore it, high pitched screechy voices, flashing lights, fluorescent lights when they are flickering for days before they burn out, smells like perfume, hand sanitizer, scented anything, cat litter, silverware scrapping on plates, being physically near strangers, touching strangers, being on airplanes is torture, theater seating, concerts, can't watch movies, TV, especially News, with scenes of people suffering, sad with queasy stomach for hours after being with someone who is upset, having regrets for years for things i said or did that hurt people's feelings, or even wondering if i hurt their feelings
Yeah, Carla, many of the traits your talking about are frequently labeled "OCD"-Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, by the DSM V Manual that is used for diagnosis. The problem with this diagnosis is that Psychiatrists typically see these features as "abnormal", even pathological, so they attempt to suppress these behaviors with medication. Pathologizing HSPs only intensifies our need to avert socialization with others who are critical or unresponsive to our needs. Finding support people in your life with people who are less critical and also HSPs who can relate to your needs can help you feel more normal. Also, I would encourage you to forgive yourself for things you've done in the past. This was also a biggie for me. SO IMPORTANT. Cognitively re-messaging to yourself things like: "I am not to blame.... I release the past and heal my present.... I don't need to punish myself any longer....I deserve healing.... I deserve peace... I AM OK." Speak these types of messages to yourself as you take long deep breaths and take these truths into the cells of your body. Hope this is helpful. Blessings and peace.
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Carla Densmore The list in the video is almost 100 percent me!!! I also share many of your sensitivities whether mental, emotional physical. I wouldn’t call myself OCD but my mother was very much OCD and I am to an extent. One thing that seems missing on the list is sensitivity to cold and heat. In summer I am always the first one to feel overheated and in fall/winter I beat everyone else at being too cold!
You are overstimulated. The key is to find ways to calm that down. One good way is by quieting your mind and having a self care routine. One of my favorite movies is Man of Steel. Superman. He was also highly sensitive but his mother taught him to slow everything down and to control how he took in what stimulated him. You can take control of how you react to these things. Not always by avoiding. But finding ways to embrace then as well. It's all a process but possible to hone this trait.
Carla, thank you for this list. I would also add other people humming or whistling while I am thinking and working. I seriously dislike texting and e-mails because I can't see the expressions on people's faces or hear the intonation of their voices and so feel i'm missing information. Zoom meetings are torture: the flickering screen, distorted sound, keeping track of five people on the screen at once make it impossible to make meaningful connection with any one person.
.Being sensitive to other's feelings, like you said, can hurt but it is the better part of empathy. I found, as a pastor, being sensitive and having empathy meant that I had to have courage. When someone in my church was hurt or angry with me, I had to get in the car and go see them, apologize where appropriate, and work things out. Often times then I would learn about ( and feel!) the pain in their lives that was driving the anger and hurt.
I used to be a HSP. I made a conscious decision to get a thick skin, talk back,
be myself for myself. I knew deep down that I would never make it in this world unless I made an effort to change.
I tried being hard to protect myself but that exhausted me, I couldn't keep it up. I let my guard down and straight away someone had a go at me, I was blaming myself for not making a stand. It's as if something is written in my DNA that said, sorry you can't do that.
I basically have done the same, I had a Japanese Buddhist friend who got me talking!, a Total stranger who was at Superstore, just came up to me and said, " Would you like to have a cup of my Japanese Matcha Tea?" I automatically said No Thanks, Sorry!, Later again in Superstore, he seeks me out and said to me " Please have a Japanese Tea Ceremony with me!" so we sat down at the table in Superstore and they were good enough to give us each a cup of Hot water, and then he put the powder Matcha in our cups and stirring well, then he said just a second, before we drink, I have to chant Buddha's name 10 time's, after , he said was that 10? I do the same thing now because I go into a trance when I chant Buddha's name!, especially when I am drinking Japanese Matcha Tea!, I found Buddhism has got me out of my shell, it really feels a lot better now, even on the bus I try striking up conversations, which doesn't always work out, because it seems like a good many peoples have Hsp........ but you need help!, I had been talking to a Psychiatrist for Year's for my emotional problems, but mostly the only answer they have are handfuls and handfuls of pill's which really ruined me, Albert Einstein said that the only religion that is feasible to save mankind!, is Buddhism, it has made me very happy!, or maybe I just found a incredible person to take time out to share his thoughts!, I must also add!, it just may be who is representing the religion, because, I was was on the bus and was excited to see a Buddhist priest who wouldn't talk to me on the Bus, he didn't even smile!, so what I recommend is just get books on Buddhism first, don't go to a Temple until you feel like you are ready
You really cannot change being a HSP. only shape it in a way that is healthy and mature from not allowing offense and hurt to drive you into insanity. But If you did kill that part of you, it's more like you are broken, not changed which is not healthy in the least because a HSP broken forced to be a non-HSP is only a direct path to narcissism unlike one who isn't which is dangerous. What really happens with a broken HSP who died to themselves in a negative way to fit in with the norm is, they shifted it to themselves. A non HSP do not do that they are just who they are. However, a HSP shifting their emotions to themselves to be like everyone do not be like everyone else because they can't be anyone but themselves.
I used to cry when someone raised their voice at me. But years ago I decided that I’m going to raise my voice right back. So woe to them who raises their voice at me because they’re going to get it back triple! It’s bad enough that I cry for happy when listening to or watching the aesthetic or beauty or cry for sorrow in hearing about acts of violence. But no one raises their voice to me anymore.
As an HSP, I discovered I was not only sensitive but almost allergic to caffeine! Beware, drink decaf-
Being a HSP is exhausting. I feel as though I’m processing all these sights, sounds, scents and stimuli that others don’t even notice.
For instance, when talking to a colleague in the office, I am overhearing a telephone call, the air conditioner clicking on, smelling his aftershave or her perfume, noticing what clothes they have on, all at the same time as listening to the colleague. Can’t tune things out. It’s exhausting!
I can relate to what your experience! I feel like I am "short circuiting." It causes so much anxiety.
I'm so sensitive that I perceive life in trees during the winter I feel people's emotions as I walk thru an airport the list goes on. Ì am a published author and professional painter and I live with and care for my 86 year old mother
I’m a senior citizen now, and bought HSP books over 17 years ago. My husband read them as a favor to me and it helped him understand...though in the end we parted because my son started having a lot of problems and had no one else to help him...16 years later (now), I’m still caring for him because of complex PTSD, Chronic Fatigue, and much more...But being an HSP, it’s so draining and I never get to take a break. Be careful to those HSPs who are also caregivers. I’m in burnout right now and trying to deal with this world, myself, my son, my husband now, 4 pets. I spend a lot of time on my iPad, listening to music, crying whenever it happens and letting it. All my life my sister called me Black Sheep, Bad Seed, and later betrayed me financially. I trust people. Last thing she ever said to me was that she was sick of my illnesses. I asked if she was referring to my anxiety and depression...apparently so! I will never talk to her again, and it doesn’t bother me...a weight has been lifted at last. I realized what she did was bullying. It’s an awful thing, feeling left out, invisible, weird, different, but now I don’t care what anyone thinks of me. I’m a generous person, empathic, creative, intelligent, can spot fake people easily, love nature...and yes I also get angry easily when people hide things from me, lie to me, etc. Being sensitive can be awesome and devastating too. I’m so happy to see people talking about this now. Have your family and friends read some books on HSPs. It’s so helpful for everyone. Take care of yourself and try to live a life for yourself as well as others. It’s harder than anyone knows, but please try. Still struggling with that one 💫💫💫🥰
I just wanted to say that you're a beautiful person, Patricia. And shame on your sister!
I can understand what you have gone through. It often happens to me. They are not good enough to understand you just think like that. Don't even try to explain it's not gonna work😕
@@DutchObserver she sounds lik a narcissist doesn't she? Ummm hmmmmmm
Patricia Bedding Do you have O negative blood type? HSP after do and have theses Characteristics
I was in same position as most of us & I started reading about Narcissistic ppl, Emotional Intelligence, How to Control Emotions..... I check out some readings in " Quora" as well as in "Medium Digest".......Believe it or not---it takes a bit of time (some years)but it really works......Today I am in control of myself with full confidence....but most of all I have learnt to trust Nobody whosoever except Myself & my Intuition!!!!!
I've just had to step out of my house for a brake from the kids so I could just feel calm again, they aren't doing anything wrong it's just with so much going on I need some space sometimes. Listening to this let's me know I make the right choices for my sensitivity 😊 learning to take time out is so important as a mummy x
Omg I had no idea that this was a thing! And I have every single one of those traits!
My whole life my sister said “oh God, your TOO sensitive!”
Same here
Too relatable
Your sensitively is beautiful.
Am too particular and analytical, music takes mi out of this world especially soul music during those stressed out times !!!
I see am not the only one !😍
I did not know this was a thing! I am so happy to hear there are others like me!!!If I am not super careful I take on other peoples stuff super easy, physical as well as emotional, if I come across an accident I feel everything they are feeling. If I run over an animal I feel its pain even as it’s dying. It can be so overwhelming. That’s why I’m going through my 2nd round of cancer & have been in chronic fatigue. Taking on too much of other people’s stuff. Thanks for explaining it!
Unfortunately, I am also among HSP people. I can not tolerate to live in a messy or dirty place. I am sensitive to the people who comes to my house and puts the stuff in different place. This kinda kills me.
You have to practice putting your "shield" up to protect yourself.
faith holland exactly right. Visualise a cloak or cape or even a load of spikes keeping people at bay. It’s remarkably effective.
@@traceyrichardson9550 no kidding, thus the comment. I long ago learned the art of shielding, and teach it to those who need it.
How?
My shield is always up can’t tolerate people whom are toxic, manipulating self centred ingrates.
Everything you said I experience all of them but my problem is saying no to people because they now use it to take advantage of me.
Me too!!!
Don: you need to learn the power of the positive NO! I was the same as you, a people pleaser, until one day it dawned on me these people think no more highly of you when you bend over backward to accommodate them. Saying NO to someone with an explanation as to why NO needs to be the answer sometimes it even has the effect of making THEM more cognizant of what is going on in YOUR life and the need for you to have priorities over your activities -- like getting through YOUR life! Try it, you might like the result.
Simran lal Thank you so much I will start doing it but sometimes is the people I love always asking for a favor from me and it hard for me to turn them down now on I will learn to say no
I had the same issue. But I finally realized it's time to take up for myself. And learn how to say no. Once you've had enough of it you will learn how to say no
Me too
Yes, I’m definitely a highly sensitive person. I can relate to the entire list.
Looking through the comments makes me feel good that I am not the only HSP on this planet. I do wander though if women are more prone to be HSP then man 🤔... Thank you for upload!
Good question! Speaking for myself being a man who thinks women will save the world. I beleive it is and the reason it is is because we live in a world that has been controlled by men for so long. YET' I would bet the situation is not the same in countries led by a woman such as New Zeland or Finland for example!
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Hey you, being sensitive is better than insensitive,,,right. You are AWESOME.
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Women won’t “save the world.” They are just normal people, stop treating them differently
@@Aromatic-ring you don't get it. You should think about the bigger picture instead of using selective hearing To try To invalidate my comment. You look like anyone who dont want To learn.
@@Aromatic-ring and I bet you liked your own comment cause it has no value
Im only just starting to explore hsp, ive never really heard much about it till now and it honestly explains so much. I always thought thats just how everyone felt or processed their environment and it wasn’t until moving away for uni that i’ve really noticed thats not the case. Im an only child, so moving to uni is the first real time ive been around people my own age all the time and while i thought that would make me feel less alone it actually did the opposite and i was so confused that i could’ve gone on for so long not understanding or recognising that. Im glad to find that there might be a reason after all and that there are other people who think and feel the same way 💙
I was able to identify with everything that was talked about with a highly sensitive person . All my life and even as a child I was always made fun of of or put down from feeling this way from my parents to my friends . I have always thought there was something wrong with me
Me as well. You talk to one person and they put you down for being too giving and forgiving.
So you make an effort to not be such a pushover.
Then the next person calls you a hardnose. So you make efforts to be more understanding and it goes like that until i just cant care what ppl think for a while. Then i get into trouble over that! Smh!
I sometimes feel like i just cant be around people.
It makes US feel lonely...because other people are much more indifferent........
I am definitely one of these. Life has been a struggle. I am better now at age 56 but only since I have stopped working. Now I can pace myself as I need it. I have been having heaps of anxiety if that's part of being an hsp? But also I feel intense love for animals and humans and angreat deal of empathy. I think hsps are wonderful human beings, the problem lies in the unnatural and harsh outside world that most people are hardened to but we are not. I believe we should not try to fit in but create a life for ourselves that fits in with our uniqueness. Bless you all.
All spot on. I’d add that not only loud, but also quiet noises are problematic. I can’t focus if the person next to me has a ticking watch on. Ticking clocks, squeeking fans, any repetitive noise grates on my nerves.
The book I was talking about is called, “The Highly Sensitive Person’s Survival Guide” “ Essential Skills for Living Well in an Overstimulating World.” by Ted Zeff PH.D.
@Sue Hamblin my therapist has me reading “The Highly Sensitive Person”!
I have this book, it’s A MUST read for any HSP aka as Empath’s
Also try “The Empath Survival Guide” by Judith Orloff, M.D.
my therapist has me reading "rusty bedsprings" by i.p. freely.
Other than covering sensitivity - do that book help us pointing best proffession for such people?
Yesterday I ate a sandwich with chocolate sprinkles, as we do here in the Netherlands. Sadly, I can't eat chocate because of my sensitivity for cocoa and coffee. But I thought, let's just try it again! The first half of the day way pure euforia and amazing, the second half of the day my heart was going too fast and I couldn't rest. The next day I felt terrible, so tired and I had to really pull myself together since I'm a single mom. These are things most people don't have to consider, that can ruin even a couple of days when you're ultra sensitive. Right now I have a strange rash behind both my ears, have never had that before 🤔 but hey, life's not one bit boring!
This video is so Right On!! Sensitivity to noise and headlights, time pressures, constant over-stimulation from social environments, emotional fatigue -- I check almost all the boxes! And the sometimes crippling empathy, creativity, emotional and touch sensitivity that go with it as well. Add to it, a world that fails to understand. I've often wondered whether I have a gift or a curse.
Now that explains why most of the people I talk about with this topic cannot understand me at all. Thank you for sharing this video! Now I know that I am one of the HSP. I am grateful that I am a HSP because I can help those around me by just sensing their feelings.
Little Learner It is a sign of intelligence that you can sense their feelings. I learned that decades ago in therapy.
Too many people around me, and my tongue ties...
Yeah same
being an HSP made me able to know the good and bad letsk people to me faster than the others. I am very grateful.
What is lesk or whatever that word is ?
I start to feel overwhelmed and agitated when I get interrupted to often when I’m trying to do something/get work done. Or even when I don’t have anything specific to do. It gets me off track. Creativity goes out the window.
Yeah well it makes total sense with me, I can relate and also it goes hand to hand with my solutions to deal with them. Like concieving a martial art for myself as yet again, most people are not like me, same solutions as other people don't apply to me either. Luckily enough I had the right professional help along the way to get me going in the right path. Talking about myself, finding the right professionals is the key. It doesn't resolves the loneliness as you can imagine from what comes next, being a single father who sacrificed his love life for his kid, I ended up living or feeling alone all the time. Now that my daughter is old enough and her mother is back on her two feet and can take some of the pressure off, I can now think about my love life. Yet again, it is a long process.... Never the less, watching that video, and thinking about the solutions I have come up for myself throughout my life, it gives me good indication that I am on the right path and that I might have or will eventualy find the right woman for me. Given I can take care of myself without the help of anyone now. There are still tougher times where I can feel the loneliness, but saying that it is often late in the day when it happens, so maybe I should just go to bed a little earlier when it happens? :)
Anyhow, thank you for sharing this video and feel free to come by my channel. I do peaceful martial arts in the morning and I sing at different times of the day.
Have a nice day!
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I can relate
Guy Belanger Jr you’re right. I’m a INFJ empath. Career martial artist, since May 27, 1991 when you walk the path (Tao ☯️) you start to know and feel just what you said. (I’ve done the child rearing thing myself and loneliness comes with the territory ) it’s something that you cannot explain to anyone who is not on your level.ℹ️💯✅❤️✝️🙏🏿📖🗡👌🏿👍🏿☯️😎
@@jonathanbaker7854 Yeah I am 40 years old and I have always been passionate with Martial arts. And I have never been as alone as when I really dove in head first in my martial art. On the other hand, I have never felt as whole and fullfiled, even with the period s of loneliness. Thanks to the last psychologist I have seen. She made me realise everything I had written was a new way of living and she was thrilled by it and didn't know why I wasn't going in head first (said in her words, but that is what she meant hehe)... Now I am getting ready everyday a little more for my wife to be.☼ ♥ ♫ ♪ :)
Hey! Thanks for your comment Jonathan!
Peace out and remember, love yourself first! :)
Yes!!!
I would add that others dont readily accept us or include us because of our 'difficultness'. If thats a word.
As i got older , i have used that to my advantage to weed out the insincere people in my life or the ones who like
to take advantage.
Kicknk68 Sandra Sandra Good for you! Don’t be sucked into one-way friendships!
Mostly because i dont waste time on smalltalk. A lot of people cant relate so they dont try.
For me the opposite, true I do feel some don't feel comfortable with me, but I also notice the friends that love me and love me because of how sensitive I am.
I am HSP. 😰 Every single thing on this list applies
Sorry you will overcome.
@@cliffordmaboi2298 hope so 🙄
@@subhrapaul9420 welcome
Do not cry. I am happy you are out there and you are like me. Peace 🤗💖🤗💖🤗💖
@@adrianaboga8361 ❤️😊
I fully agree with all of these 13 explanations of being “Oversensitive” it can make life very difficult to live.
Yup, that is so true about me. I have tried to explain it to people they just dont understand... A psychologist called me year"s ago an emtional sponge. That was it. Nothing else... Wow...
I had a big depression in my twenties. A psychiatrist said I quote - you are a Sensitive and they are very valuable people. Now, that's who you are. I work on it with subliminal affirmations on U-Tube and by knowing OUR lives purpose in this new age. Realize how important WE are for humanities collective consciousness .
Charity Graham Thats what we are. We even see the truth when people lie to us.
It can be referred to as being an empath by those who understand and even get co-mingled in psychiatrists mind as borderline personality disorder. I dont look at it as a disorder though it's a gift and a curse
Some people say when they read they listen to music, i use to look at them and say how for me is impossible even in my dreams is no way
I think that a lot of HSP are "old souls". Conversely, many "old souls" are HSP.
not really for me just bombarded in life at the young age
1) sometimes. 2) Sleepless, lately. 3) emotional exhaustion 4) bad reaction to violence, good reaction to beauty 5) social cues 6) now, yes. 7) you going too fast, man!
In listening to this, I might be a HSP. it would explain a lot.
Thank you so much for creating this fantastic video because it is so supportive to my entire life experience! Reading all the comments makes me realize I am not alone! Nothing is wrong with me! I am not a weirdo! I was told by my family from childhood that they have to "treat me with kid gloves" and that something was wrong with me. I am too sensitive. So I grew up thinking something was wrong with me and believing I was defective. It was only re-enforced when trying to fit in with "normal" people who don't see the world they way I do and can't relate to me. It's hard to overcome when you had it drilled into you from your family. Especially from your parents.
I cried at the part: "when someone raises their voice at you" lol
Yes so true
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When it comes to children I cry 😢
Do you dislike when someone prints in all caps to convey yelling. And if so is it the same, worse or not as bad. And I would like to apologise for any and all people who raised their voice or yelled at you ever, I am sorry you had to deal with that. I hope the rest of your days are filled with happiness ☮️ peace, joy & love.
It makes me an excellent Communications and Relationship Consultant! Seeing and hearing the subtleties within human voices and behaviors has me get to the truth faster, and then the solutions as well! It’s hard to turn it off when just being a friend. I have a handful of great ones, but not a huge amount. My hubby is one too, so it works in our household!
I'm in a Lonely People Group and I'm not able yo relate with the members there so well and when someone is sarcastic, disrespect, insensitive or simply blunt it pains me a lot. I have really hard time to process it, I physically feel the heartbreak and most of the time I cannot really get over it. Others seem to be OK and easily move on. I do not feel that my pain is so much caused by loneliness but by my sensitivity, so I'm once again the "different" one. It feels very comforting to me to finally have found my own "crowd" and to be able to understand and be understood better. Being the "weirdo " is a deeply painful feeling and is even more painful having no one to talk about it. Thank you for being there and making such a huge positive difference in my life 🙏💙🙏
You described me in this video perfectly! Every argument gets under my skin and I can remember every time I got told of by my parents, teachers, even kindergarden teachers! I can feel emotions through the screen so heavaly it is so overwhelming.
Sorry for the bad english
Really interesting, I'm prone to many things on the list (not all), though I wouldn't necessarily say it's because I'm highly sensitive (I'm sensitive, but equally I attribute a lot down to being quite introverted). One thing I find that helps me control it from a sense of overwhelm is practicing mindfulness and meditation
I am the same, most apply to me, I am more introverted than people I know. I find it hard to be in crowded places and need time to recharge my batteries after a day or night out. The overthinking is hardest, I take on the worlds problems and find it hard to stop analysing, it can be quite depressing
I have a challenge of making friends,nomatter how much l try to socialise with other people l get bored and end up alone.
I love this channel! And it’s not just occasional discomfort for me! I feel way too much from everyone! But I learn to navigate it now
I said yes to every comment he went through. Listening to lovely music not just brings tears but can make my heart ache. I detest loud noise. As a very small child I would burst into tears if my mother broke something she loved. She did her best by saying it’s only a thing, things don’t matter. Unfortunately they do to me. Beauty overwhelms me but I love it.
This is me 24/7
Is anyone exploring the Nexus of highly sensitive people and PTSD. One makes you much more likely to experience the other is my guess. Both demand quality sleep to function.
I am healing via somatic experiencing and mindful self compassion.
Hi Dan. I have been an HSP all my life. 11 years ago I emotionally crashed, and took a one year medical leave from my job. I received counselling for the first time in my life. After a few months, my therapist revealed that I was suffering from PTSD. It blew my mind! I thought only military or police experienced that sort of thing. She said that it stemmed back to my childhood. Further probing revealed a reoccurring common-thread pattern of behaviour that emerged in work-related scenarios and personal relationships. A few years ago, I wrote about it. Here is an excerpt that others might relate to...
“What surfaced through reflection
with wise counsel over time
was a life of self-denial
deeply rooted in my mind, and
embedded in my spirit
so much so, that I would find
myself acquiescing to
the wants of others over mine -
the root of which is not so bad -
A deep desire to please.
Add to that “non-assertiveness"
was likened to disease -
A target for the bully
to abuse, and prey upon,
and easily manipulate
to get just what they want.
My life was like a series of
accommodating others, while
laying aside my own desires -
swept under the covers.
A lack of self-respect
led to a long propensity...of
sacrificing hopes and dreams
and lost identity.”
I’m now 65 years of age. I’m retiring in two weeks time. My advice to young people with HSP is...
1. Respect and like yourself enough to stand up to anyone you vehemently oppose - even if it costs you your job.
2. Establish healthy boundaries with those who seek to control you - family, friends, and co-workers.
3. Be very aware of the tendency to deny yourself the simple pleasures of life. Travel. Explore. Discover. Enjoy!
4. Don’t be desperate to accept a job because you “need the work”. Go after a career you are drawn to - a job that appeals to you, and suits your personality. Learn contentment. Ambition is highly over-rated.
5. Listen, listen, LISTEN! Talk less, and focus on where others are at; but not to the exclusion of being open.
6. Cultivate and invest in the few friendships that are meaningful and mutual. Don’t waste time in mediocre acquaintances that drain you. Be real with those who are real to you.
Well, there you have it, from a “Highly Sensitive Senior” 😂
Anyone who is sensitive can relate at times it’s not easy being so sensitive even small harmless things can hurt you so badly, who else feels that way 👍👍👍👍💕💕💕💕
Gosh!!!, number 3 is absolutely right.. I always find myself feeling the pain of others
I have no idea how much relatable this video would be :p