Are you too sensitive? Should you change? | Marwa Azab | TEDxOakland
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- Опубликовано: 19 дек 2017
- In a culture that is fast-based, overwhelming and impersonal, sensitivity can be confused with weakness. Dr. Azab clears up this confusion and offers hope for the 20% who are highly sensitive and the remaining 80% who share the world with them. She takes you inside the mind of sensitive people by clarifying how their nervous systems might work differently than others. She also convincingly answers the following questions: does high sensitivity predispose sensitive people to psychological problems? Are there any positive qualities related to this trait? And how to make the most out of high sensitivity? Marwa Azab, Ph.D., is an adjunct professor of psychology and human development at California State University, Long Beach. She studied psychology for many years and completed a masters in counseling from Toronto, Canada and her Ph.D. in neuroscience from University of California, Irvine, where she taught in the biology department. She has given three TEDx talks, including “The Logical Vs. The Reflexive Brain: Only One Wins” & "5 Ways Negative People Can Harm Us" This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
Right when she said "be comfortable in your own skin" I started crying. Ive spent years thinking I was too sensitive. Ive had people tell me I need to not be so sensitive. it was engrained that it was a bad thing. Why do I want to cry when im having a casual conversation with someone when they're opening up to me? why do I feel so detached from so many people because I feel they will never understand me? why do I feel deeply hurt by little things people say? I hated it. I felt broken. im not broken, just an HSP :)
So true I have felt this all my life
As a guy I'm the same
omgosh, I know right!! well said. I have tried not to cry at times and most of the times i still end up crying anyway but i balance that out with alotttt of comediesss and God Almighty :D
SAME 😰😰😰
Its actually insane how everything you said I can relate to.
One has to appreciate how she did the whole speech in puns and poetry.
Yes. Sensitive people are sincere because they do things wholeheartedly.
Just found out my mum thinks I'm too sensitive. She's just one of many people who's said I was too sensitive. It's so mind breaking, it feels like your very person is too much and it made me sad and ashamed of who I am. I'm here to feel better
Celina Namalambo same here, I realized later no one is too sensitive, there’s nothing wrong with expecting kindness and respect. Don’t change.
I can relate so muchh....they make me feel ashamed of myself
I am here for the same reason. It really hurts your self esteem when such a significant aspect of who you are is constantly being attacked. I was always “too quiet, too soft, too sensitive, be stronger.” It sort of leaves you with the question of “Is being who I am enough?”
Me too.
@@KimFebriany never feel ashamed. Be proud
Being sensitive is like walking around without skin. You feel raw and vulnerable. But it can also be your greatest asset. This lady is a WONDERFUL speaker
I’m a highly sensitive person and feel so blessed being one. We can pick up certain energies, tones, feelings that others may not as they are not on the same ‘consciousness/vibratory’ level as us. I believe we are here to help others-it’s a skill being highly sensitive. We feel deeper and I know there is a reason for this trait. Just saying 😬
I agree with you! I am the same
Farah Mughal I as well. At times I literally have felt that vibration. Our hunches are rarely just a hunch. We also cannot understand why people are mean or hurtful and we rack our brains trying to understand why they just won't or can't be more empathetic because for us it comes naturally. We over-feel the pain of others which makes it easy for us to be the shoulder to cry on.
R Stavros, maybe this is the reason why us HSPs are here?! We are here to bring about a change. There’s always a reason for everything. We are not here by accident. 😊
In order to deal with toxic people and get my way in life, I’ve used this skill. I’m so sensitive and I trained myself to feel less when people say things. But I can still understand people so well, recognize things, and have hunched that are always right. Being sensitive is a blessing as long as you find a way to be less sensitive to people actions and words. Then you’ll be unstoppable, and be able to use your sensitive to enjoy everything you love in life without being hurt
But, I feel like my employer is exploiting this trait and demanding many activities that contradict the intuitive feelings I have. It's damaging and hurtful. I left my job in finance when it got to the point that we were no longer in the business of helping people, but in exploiting them for profit. And everywhere I went, I saw the same thing. I'm in insurance support, claims, and it's killing me. I don't have the capacity to both help victims of loss AND sell them products and services, all on a time limit.
I went to school to be a writer because I felt hat was my true calling. But, in America, it's not an easy path to follow and extremely time consuming to get it right. There aren't support mechanisms in place for this. And any content creator jobs posted require multitasking in a fast-paced environment where you now have 3 other responsibilities. WTF happened to having just one job?
People say sensitive people are always wrong. I'm told I'm wrong so I stop thinking - I stop commenting - I stop reacting. Then I'm told I'm too quiet. I'm told I'm too quiet so I disappear completely. People say we should grow thicker skin. But we're always going to have an elastic heart. This TED Talk made me realise that I don't have a "disease". I don't need to get rid of my sensitivity or hypersensitivity. My problem is not that I'm too sensitive. My problem is that I don't listen first or more carefully. Thank you !
Who’s even feeling like crying while listen to this? ☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼
My heart beats stronger while watching this 😞
Meeee
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I did cry. right when she said "be comfortable in your own skin". Ive spent years thinking I was too sensitive. why do I want to cry when im having a casual conversation with someone when they're opening up to me? why do I feel so detached from so many people because I feel they will never understand, why do I feel hurt by little things people say? I hated it. I felt broken. im not broken, just an HSP
Lol me
I don't think anyone has any idea how happy and validated I feel watching this. I learned about hypersensitive personality from my therapist, and did some reading on it, but I never felt like anyone really understood it or was in the same boat. Low and behold, Dr. Azab is one of my professors this semester, and she told us that she did TED talks, and this comes up on my timeline. I am so happy I could actually cry! I am so glad I have a chance to learn from Dr. Azab and to be able to address having my sensory processing sensitivity more openly.
JJ Rose being sensitive is not a good thing let alone hypersensitive because manipulation and people taking advantage of your sensitivity. Its fine to be sensitive but you need thicker skin and a backbone if you dont wanna get hurt often and people cant always be around for you so having a thick skin and a backbone will help you alot, tough love would be a nice thing kinda like a surtent father.
Hey Jjrose I hope ur doing good this year. I apologize for the stranger above me who unfortunately is not comfortable with themselves that so much so that they projected their insecurity onto you in a passive aggressive manner knowing you would pick up on it. I thought about you and wish I could be where you are at. I have called many therapists and psychologists to speak to and they have left me on voicemail many times. I hope I get help soon because sometimes it’s overwhelming to pick up on the smallest details or mistake a simple gesture for being mad or angry.
This makes me feel proud of being sensitive person.
Women are just too soft 😂
Yes!
@@woyaochinidedoufu2753 🤨
@@woyaochinidedoufu2753 Being soft is a strength 💪
@@mitaandtrishabhowmik1894 Nope
I’m a highly sensitive person and I always felt like I was different but couldn’t put a finger on what it was though. When I learned what SPS is , it all made so much more sense. I used to be mislabeled as shy, quiet, drama queen, thin skinned, and many more. When, little did they know, I’m actually an extrovert who is very confident and can speak up very well. I seem thin skinned because I am very empathetic and can’t stand to see someone, even if I don’t know them, get hurt or feel sadness. Once, my friend called me a hippie because I said the school had an anxious aura one day. When really, I could just feel all of the anxious feelings from the people around me. When you understand yourself, it is so much easier to deal with situations like this. Because you can tell yourself that you aren’t weird, you are special.
Yes! You get it!
Being sensitive makes u overthink some situation which makes it harder..
Thank you so much Marwa, you are an angel. As an HSP that grew up in a narcissist family I almost took my life away, I was the "scapegoat" and always told I was too sensitive. Now as I grew older, I can shine my light upon this world to hopefully make it better.
That is great
I always thought why am I like this? Why I'm not like my friends? They don't care about other people's opinion, they don't get hurt by their words, they are normal. At a point, I started to think that maybe I'm not normal. I feel sad even if I saw a stranger struggling or getting scolded or anything. I'm full of emotions. I always help others and support them but when it's time to support myself I'm unable to do it. I feel so demotivated. I cry over small things and I feel like there is nobody who understands me. And today I found out that I'm normal, just a HSP. I don't know should I do something about it or accept it because I feel like this world isn't a good place for a HSP....
Your article and ted talk made ME go on a journey of self discovery. Thank you so much. I'm watching this again because I'm so touched. May Allah reward you abundantly, Ameen xx
Mayah SAME ♥️
I am glad I found this video
Its cathartic to be told, after 28 years of hearing "why do you take everything to heart?", that you have the potential to be wonderful. I feel like I had been bogged down, suffocating for years trying to emulate people who seem to steer through life seemlessly, but in vain.
Sensitivity is a strength but it takes another people with at least a moderate level of empathy to appreciate that. And the world is increasingly getting rid of empathy. Maybe HSPs are part of the slaughter.
This was wonderful. Also explains why sometimes I just want to run way into nature, alone, and feel like that would make me feel better. Its just my brain asking me to let itself recharge without judgement.
Nature a d pets help me
Amazing TED talk - I realised a lot of things about myself watching this. I've been told from a very young age that I'm too sensitive and I need to toughen up or grow a thicker skin but I just can't. Almost every part of Jenna's story resonated with me and brought tears to my eyes. I'm taking my first steps on my journey to me today because of you. Thank you for an enlightening and very eloquent talk! I'm proud to be an HSP and INFJ.
Wahoooo, INFP-A and HSP here!! Ha 🍀🍀🍀
Same i'm an HSP INFJ
Me2
Me too 🤍💗✨
Thank you Marwa. You have no idea how much blame i got over my sensitivity since my son got married. In any circumstances , as soon as they feel the don’t want me near , this matter of sensitivity got dragged on the middle and blamed me for it. Recently , my granddaughter who is 6 , has shown whatever a girl at this age would show when she wants something or, when she got upset ( crying) , they have put that on me that because i am sensitive and has shown my sensitivity when my son
was cruel to me , thus my granddaughter has learned that from me. Further more, they have
decided not to let me get close to their children because i am a bad influenced for them. I have shared your speech with my son who is highly educated in medical field , so is his wife ! To listen and see who is a high sensitive person ! I draw and paint and i love it. I am a kind and truly empathetic person. But, recently i have lost all my self esteem because of destructive criticism by my son and indirectly by his wife ! I am an educated registered nurse who i just got retired this year. Thank you and God bless you
I had actually come to RUclips trying to find videos on how to be less sensitive and then I come across this.
this is the best ted talk iv ever watched in my life.
touched me in so many places and feelings.
thank you very much for passing the knowledge to other people :)
I have also been told my entire life that I'm too sensitive. I've been an annoyance to my family and friends. I feel that this life/world has no use or want of HSP.
Find people that are similar in your community and it will help you be part of a support group where you can develop friendships with people who care and are just like you. Don't give up because you are beautiful on the inside. Our brain tells us that. It's a gift. Learn how to find your inner peace and balance. It took me a while and now I see others who are just like me. It makes for a beautiful world.
That‘s a shame, but those ppl around you are clearly the ones missing out! I hope some of her pieces of advice help you to find value and pride in how you are, because that‘s how or who you‘re meant to be!
I feel same
I used to think and feel the same, but now I’m making my peace with it. The issue is not HSP and it isn’t the planet, but the world we create as humans. I’m starting to connect more and more with nature and learning from the primal source makes me feel like I belong here and as a HSP I just feel deeply the issues of human society.
I really think we are as we are so we can help others identify what is wrong with this world that we create, so we can change it and evolve to a more empathetic way of leaving and treating the planet and each other. So don’t give up, ppl! We need as much as HSP we can to shake society toxic structures.
@@alannaamorim3247 Thank you for your reply. It's been a year since I posted that. A year ago I was diagnosed with a scary, rare, incurable disease called scleroderma.
This past year has been the most trying time of my life, so far. I've come a long way. I've learned to embrace my emotions and just go with it. There have been many situations where I've had no choice but to go with it. I've grown.
You're so right about connecting with nature and our surroundings and people.
Wish I wasn't so emotional. I feel like I understand you but no matter how hard I try to emulate I cannot 😞
The same 😥
The same 😓
"Gandalf Stormcrow" awesome name. Also, be your emotional self. Observe, study, get to know and explore your rich self. We are universes, cosmos, and we carry many truths, gems that are of great value, to yourself AND the world you live in. Chin up, faith, be gentle with yourself, be patient and hug yourself, let yourself cry, just be. I believe our only one true, indisputable responsibility is that we are not to hurt others intentionally, since we can't always control how our actions impact others. But do no harm and take no sh**. 🍀
@@m.rosariomartinez9492 Wow - well said!!
I feel so validated after watching this because I've felt this way (highly empathetic and sensitive, oftentimes to what I considered a "fault") my whole life. Thank you
M2
:( yeah same
I too like going walking on cloudy , rainy days. My favorite is cloudy days because sometimes the sun is just too much. Winter is my favorite season although every season is beautiful. I love admiring nature and all the details of it.
the worst reaponse to telling someone you feel like you might be a highly sensitive "well i think everyone is a bit sensitive actually"
I FREAKING LOVE YOU FOR THIS
I am a sensitive male, I used to refuse it. Since I don’t want to express my sensitivity over anything, I want what people called man up. I pretended not to care, being aggressive when somebody stir me up. But recently, I am kind of accepting this trait, even though still a long way to go, but thanks ted and this wonderful woman, I get closer to acknowledge myslef.
I am a highly sensitive person , I get hurt easily for days because of negative situations or feedback .I suffer from depression , anxiety ,sadness and Inosomia. I can't breathe at night because of negative people .
I have the worst siblings and the most thing that ruins my day is that I live in another country, when I call my mom most of the times she ignores my call although she is online .When she does that I start crying secretly and go through depression.
I wish I could be stronger and not let those people set nd back.
I wish I can isolate myself from their negative energy .
U should read books.
Books must become ur best friends.
Look into working with psychedelics to break through and reconnect with. It worked wonders for me. Bless
Dont worry friend you are a very brave person.Cry the negetive energy out and let nature be your mother..it will always sooth you and never ignore you.
I am 58 years old and have felt this way all my life. for me it is frightening a sensory overload. try connecting with things that don't hurt you but bring you joy and help you heal. everyone has something going on. they just mask it better. I found walking in nature meeting individuallying with friends. no groups. music and books that build me up and don't break me down. writing lists of things I like and have gratitude for. focusing on my own self care. as over the decades I have left myself last in taking care of me. hope this helps a little.
@@michaelshortall9179 Thank you so much for your kindness and sincere advice , I will do that definitely, I decided to put myself first and detach myself from those who simply don't care .
This blew my mind. Thank you for helping me to understand myself on a whole new level and teaching me about HSPs and self-actualization!
You welcome dear! Congrats!
I am that sensitive that I cried during the video.. Thanks for reading us. One of the best 12 minutes in my life.
Thank you for this, I came here because one of my friends has just discovered that she is a highly sensitive person. This video helped me support her the best I can and I am so grateful to this video for this.
This is one of the best ted talks♥️ she is amazing♥️
Women are just too soft, hahaha!
Name it, talk about it, describe it. Then rewrap it. Wonderful talk.
For me personally that was one of the most understandable input I got about HSP so far. The mentioning of al the examples off how a HSP might feel in serctain situations really resonated with me and made me feel much less akward and much less alone. Thank you very much!!
Yes, we lack examples of daily life situations! I'm desperate for those. It helps so much to understand. Might be a project to work on
Thank you sister for your lecture. It can be very exhausting at times to be an HSP, but listening to the part when you said, 'own it and never be ashamed of it'. It made me feel almost proud of being an HSP, and want to use it to shine my takents/skill altogether myself and others.
Dear Dr. Azab, I thank you so much from the bottom of my heart that you took part in TED and made this speech. I was searching for a long time why I am like this, putting on myself different 'diagnosis' and letting people also to do that with me. Your thoughts, examples were like a list of my experiences. Thank you so much again for you work and indirect help.
This is so relatable! I felt the same way when I found out how I was also sensitive and her example story had a lot of things I experiene! It makes me happy to realize I'm not the only one out there like this! :D
Finally, I found myself today! I will not ask myself many curious and sometimes intimidating questions. Thank you so much Dr Azab, this must be a life-changing Tedtalk for many like me. God bless your sensitive heart!!:)
Thank you so so much. This really made me feel better about my sensitivity.
This helped so much in my own self-discovery.
I felt she was was talking about so many of us. Great TED talk
I m the person that you described. I have discovered the existence of this notion lately and I was really delighted that I was not the only one on earth struggling with my self and with the whole world. Thank you a lot dear for this enlightenment.
Thank you Dr
Azab!
Absolutely beautiful. Thanks for putting this forward so eloquently!
Straight from the opening statement I knew I clicked the right video. Watching the rain as this plays. So wonderful in its own way ~
Thank you so much, Marwa. I recognize myself in this story and it is good to know I am not alone.
Your illustration was excellent. Also you brought out the good in us, the HSPs. Thank you.
"There is no better journey, that is difficult, as painful; but as Rewarding* and as Sweet* as the journey to SELF-DISCOVERY" -Marwa Azab I feel strongly that being a HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) can be misunderstood often, but nonetheless, are blessed with receiving so much INSIGHT beyond surface of contentions. The GIFT* outweighs by far...all superficiality; as well, generalized assumption. It's a distinction* really to be cherished and attentively nurtured. {Some people will dismiss what they can't relate to or understand.}
This was the best talk I've seen on this subject. Thank you
Oh my god I almost cried..thank you
You almost cried because you’re a big baby😆
This is the most beautiful talk I have come across. I love it.
Thank you! ❤️🙏💐
Thank you for this talk
For the first time I don't feel like I'm broken somehow....as if maybe I'm not completely alone. Thank you for this. Her description of an HSP was as if she had followed me around for a week and then written her speech. I can even smell blood, virus in the air and bacteria. I have extra cones in my eyes so I literally see more colors than most people. I never really realized what was going on and why I would get overwhelmed.
Women are just way too soft 🤣
@@woyaochinidedoufu2753 I'm just wondering why you would ever post a cruel comment like this to anyone. Perhaps I am very strong and you are uncompassionate and cruel. Judge not lest ye be judged. For by what manner ye judge you shall also be judged.
@@standinginthegap7118 Don't worry, my female relatives are the same. They often get emotional over the littlest things. Fortunately for them, I've taken it upon myself to teach and help them get over their emotional instabilities. So far, thanks to my persistence, my female relatives seem to be making improvements. I've already tested my methods with success on my mother, so I know I will also eventually cure my female relatives of their emotional weaknesses. I appreciate the bible quote and I will use it as inspiration for my quest on fixing my female relatives and future women I form relations with
So well done! I thanked you in my.being many times during your talk! Love and connection!!! 🥰✨🌈👁🕊🙌🏼🧝♀️
I OWE YOU FOREVER ❤️ MARWA AZAB
only god knows how i'm struggling with life ; insofar i did believe that i'll NEVER cope/survive in this world and i don't know why i can't be like a normal person & just right now i knew ((WHY)) , yet;this is the good part...the hard part starts when i try to adapt to this world as a sensitive person.
Thank you so much. I had a very traumatic experience in childhood, and though I love my parents, they hurt me deeply in many ways. I’ve gone from being an athlete, college graduate, military member, pharmacy tech, etc. to drinking alcohol, smoking, stagnating in general. Your video (and other HSP videos that has put a name to what I’ve always been but was put down for by virtually all family members and people who can’t understand what I experience) is beyond cathartic/therapeutic. I don’t feel so alone now and I’m hoping I’ll be able to quit drinking so much to drown the pain I feel and trying to run away from who I really am, plus being misunderstood and the toxic relationships I’ve acquired in my life from caring so much about those who don’t get me and don’t care despite what I’ve done for them. So again, thank you.
This was so beautiful! 💖 I have recently learned that I am one of the 20% and it explains so much about my life, my behaviors, and the feeling I have had forever of being so misunderstood by others. Thank you for sharing about the sensory processing sensitivity also!
Very interesting talk. Putting a name on it, HSP, and understanding it helps a lot. Thank you for this presentation.
This TED talk is profound! Highly recommended for all.
I watched this 3 months ago and ever since it’s been a journey, I had a spiritual awakening because of this video
Love this talk, it’s been maybe two years, since i heard about hight sensitivity person. I’m a ICU nurse, and hightly sensitive, whitch can sometimes make my Life difficult. A lot of people tell me that i have to grow a thicker skin, but i don’t want to, It’s what make me a good nurse and a good person. Because i can sense much quicker some détails who can prevent criticals situations. But yes sometimes a can get a slap in my face, not littrely, because it’s how i am. It’s not easy everything day, but i think it’s a gift that should be cherish more, and maybe the world would be a better place. Love this positive message that she promote.
Thank you Dr. Marwa, I definitely need relaxation & meditation & yes zikr helps tremendously.
This cleared up a lot.
Wow. This was very helpful! Thank you!
great speech Dr.Marwa❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for this...
This was amazing. I am so grateful for finding this.
First of alllllll, the way you talked was fenomenal...was very interesting and easy to follow every word you said. Second, I thank you so much for introducing me to my self so perfectly ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much
Thank you Myriam for this lovely lecture. I hate how people put down sensitive people like it's some kind of character flaw.
You can't lie for yourself. When you hide your emotions or don't know how to process them you have a high risk at receiving depression, eating disorder, anxiety, you must know how to express these negative emotions, you can start writing in a diary or try art or music.
yeah that's very true
Amazing.... thank u so much for such a valuable video
5.58 to 7.00...completely see this in myself. Thank you for delivering such a heart rending talk. Reduced me to tears.
This made me happy to be sensitive
Happy to be a big softy?
Dear Dr. Azab, Thank You... Blessings to You... You have helped, immeasurably..
Thank you!
Thank you for sharing your and others experience of being a Highly Sensitive Person.
This definitely helps me to better understand myself and embrace who and how I am. Thank you so very much!
You welcome!
We're a magnificently complicated bunch us HSPs..... such a relief to hear it explained so clearly. Cheer!! To us all. Bless
Thank you for this. I noticed myself feeling better/a weight lifted during this talk. Thank you.
This was a very good watch. Very informative and well thought out.
Thank you
This is awesome, thank you Mam
This is me in a nutshell.... been trying to grow a thicker skin 😂
Stop doing that. This world needs us. Not more insensitive lunatics
Work with plant medicine instead .... embrace the love and reconnect with your true self, nature and the universe. It worked wonders for me. Xx
Well you can joke about stuff still. It’s the sensitive that kill that joking. Like chill, we’re not serious over here, it’s just fun and games.
@@ShaneFlett .... I'm not dure you're understanding what it is like for us highly sensitive. We can't "just chill" ..... I know for myself being hypervigilant is not something I can turn on and off.
@@and__lam1152 I agree. We are not broken, we are different. The only thing broken is the way society reacts to us. So this guy’s reaction is broken, not us.
I only started learning about HSP lately and surely embracing my newly discovered trait. This was awesome. Thanks, Doc!
Thank you so so much!
Wonderfully the confort of the wise words of yours!
This talk has enlighten my journey.
Are you a woman?
Every bit of what you described is correct in my case.
It's a real eye opener for me.
Thank you so much.
I'm now trying to limit my hyper sensitive nueron system.
i finally know what I am, I've been crying for all the video. Thank you
Thank You Ma'am
Phenomenal. Loved every bit of it ♥️
I am an extremely emotionally sensitive person. But, I feel that maybe if we can embrace it without feeling like we are defective then we can use our sensitivity in constructive ways. - I believe that the effect things have on our emotions has to do with what we tell ourselves about the meaning of them. In other words, we define the emotional impact things have on us by the meaning we choose to give them. Therefor, it's very important to NOT GIVE them any power to hurt us.
If something is hurting you then you must re-think the meaning of it. - I'll give you an example: If someone is mean or rude to me... instead of choosing to feel the pain from that, I will realize that their attitude comes from some previous bad experience and they're just taking it out on me (misplaced aggression.) Therefor, I'll choose to not take it personally and instead choose to have understanding and compassion for them. That doesn't mean I'll let them use me as a verbal punching bag. I will assertively stand up for my right to not be abused. But I will also not take the pain they're throwing my way. I will let it fly right passed me. And if I don't do that immediately then I will re-think it and store the memory with no pain... just understanding.
It may take a while to be able to do the above, and I'll admit I'm no expert but it's been helping me through a lot of emotional struggles that would have previously done emotional damage to me. - Hope this helps someone. Remember, you're not alone. There's a lot of sensitive people in this world.
Very eye opening video!
Amazing, thank you for this 🥰
I found myself recently, so many things about me got cleared. Still trying to find a balance. It is definitely rewarding. :)
Dr. Azab , I learned more about myself through this video! Great information and strategies
Thanks dear.
Thanks so amazing
I'm glad she spoke on this subject. I'm definitely in the 20%. I grew up in a family where men were expected to not cry or show emotion other than being tough or aggressive. I had a father who taught me how to fight and I carried that with me because I was bullied a through childhood. I never made fun of or picked on others. My idea of a man isn't conventional, especially America's version of it. When I cried, it was often because I was pissed off, not scared. I have four wonderful kids now. 3 boys and 1 girl and I always teach them that it's okay to cry if you need to. Especially for my boys. I don't want them being another statistic who ends up with anger issues or is emotionally disfunctional be abuse they bottled up their feelings.
Sensitive males are life afitming n wonderfull, never change
It’s nice to know that we’re not alone in this journey and there’re many people out there who really understand what we’ve been through. As an HSP i’ve been misunderstood my entire life, living with shame considering myself “weak” and “fault” because i feel too much. Sometimes i thought being like this is a curse, until recently i started to learn to actually be proud of my sensitivity and not be shameful to show it.
Great talk..thanks